How To Flirt In a Bar or Club (Two Simple Steps)!
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In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and relationship expert, Aaron Marino, teaches you two simple steps to successfully flit in a bar or club.
Alpha's going to attempt to get you action- no fancy dance moves required! The first thing you need to understand is that the most attractive people are NOT the most successful in a bar or club getting dates, numbers, or actions. The ones who are successful are the ones who signal their availability through basic flirting techniques.
Success Boils Down to Four Things:
body language
confidence
courage
practice
How to Practice?
Starts with step one. Survey the scene by walking around the place. Make eye contact with whomever you can. Eye contact is simple AND the 1st & most basic component of flirting. Don't wear sunglasses in a club at night! Prowl around the room making contact with everyone! But don't linger.
Time is of the essence. Grab your boys and station yourself near the girl from whom you want attention- about 10 to 15 feet away. Stand at a slight angle so that with a simple turn of the head you have her in your line of sight. Gaze and wait. Be cool when she looks at you by maintaining eye contact and giving a little smirk. Open your posture and face her- wait. In the next 60 seconds, she will glance back at you. If she does, smile! If you get the glance back in 6-0 seconds, walk up and introduce yourself. Never lead with a physical compliment. Instead, be calm, cool, and collected. "Hey, I'm Aaron. What's your name?" If she doesn't glance back at you within that 60 second window, pack up and move on for your 2nd option. You can come back to your 1st choice later in the night.
Body Language Dos and Don'ts
Do smile and make eye contact
Don't mirror someone else's body language
Do touch her arm- the safest place to touch in a non-threatening way
Don't caress her face
Do lightly touch her waist
Don't stay too long- flirt meet then mingle then come back and flirt some more
Do keep it light and fun
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I took your advice, walked up to a girl in a bar. Introduced myself as Aaron. Realized my name is Josh. Started crying uncontrollably.
+Josh Latham Dude you are Hilarious !!
Fuck sake haha 😂
dude that was funny
+Josh Latham Did it work?
😂
"Potential future ex girlfriend" 😂
Andrew Piquette best part of the video 😂😂
xD
LOL!!! I hollered!!
Andrew Piquette that part killed me
such a successful guy but with so many exes...humm
What if she glances the second time around not to show signals of flirting but to get a good look at my face to tell the police?
He's probably joking man lol
that's why u can't keep her alive
+Towel M so true
Exit stage left, quickly!
Fucker IKR!!!!!
This is good advice. The key is to wait for multiple looks, multiple eye contacts. If you just cold-approach women all the time you will get rejected constantly and have your confidence destroyed. Wait for at least 2 or 3 obvious looks from her, and you will have LOTS more success. Also in clubs, girls will keep on dancing near you if they're interested. I rarely go to bars but Ive been to dozens and dozens of clubs and I know eye contact at least 2-3 usually means its game on!
That is good advice bro
Yes
Instructions not clear enough, I just said "Hi" and she called the police...
+CidGuerreiro1234 He's gotta wear pants for that to happen
😂😂😂
You are meant to do this in a bar not inside their room
Ph3nomen0N were you at a campus protest
@@eckard9597 I'd sooner wear a kilt, then!
>in the club
>see hot girl
>approach her
>she holds up her phone at me, then starts laughing to her friends
>think shes taking a picture of me
>walk out of club
>cry at home
>next day think
>"what if shes playing pokemon go"
Neil Jones hahahah
She has to choose you first or dont cold approach
😂😂😂😂
Playing Pokemon 😂 nah she was a dickhead she will get played one day 🤔
@brandish4952 that is a good point
omg, girls are more complicated than my chemistry exam
nope, just clubbing is pretty shit, girls behave picky and always seek friends approval, or if their friend is bored orc, pretty girl will just stay with her friend. If you are in a decent bar, you don´t even need to drink, just approach people and you will get somewhere
There is a lot of....Chemistry going on....get it?
+BiMiHi but it is too dissected
No, this guy is.
BiMiHi So if their friend is a bored orc i won't get laid? I've seen some really ugly people in bars but never any orcs.
"Don't caress or lick her face, not now anyway" - I KNEW I WAS DOING SOMETHING WRONG.
Johnny Tofalis That and the advice to touch the arm. My issue was moving to fast.
+Johnny Tofalis u were right
Step 1: Leave the house.
WHHAAAATTT
Mind. BLOWN.
Yes it's a prerequisite to leave the house & wear outrageous clothes to get noticed.
Lol..! Right 👍🏼
what if someone turns his house into a club?
That aged well
I used to work with this overweight guy who didn't make much money. He wasn't ugly and dressed well but was overall pretty average looking. But hot damn was he good with women. He was funny and charming and talked to a lot of people in the bar (both men and women) and moved around the place a lot. It was like he owned the place and that made him very attractive to women. He eventually got married to a great, beautiful girl. Social skills are really key. To this day, women still want him but he's married and turns them down which drives them even more crazy.
skoaner true, its not about look. Its about personality.
the great khorasan dude both are important, how are you gonna attract a girl looking like shit, you cant do that at a club or bar becuase girls like to go for the most attractive guys just like how guys go for the most attractive girls.if i wanted to get a girl with just my personality i would try it at the gym instead becuase then i would have an excuse why i was looking like shit.
skoaner that guy was alpha
You think that cus you're gay.
I have a friend who's just like that. He's fat and rather average looking, but he's so funny and charming that those two aspects really change nothing about his pussy game.
Whisper in her ear "this doesn't need to be a rape"
Lol
Aleksi Jarva 'don't turn this rape charge into a murder charge'
Aleksi Jarva 😂😂😂😂
Cant stop laughing omfg
Wtf
"potential future ex girlfriend " thats genius brother
I don’t know how to flirt so imma just stare at you until you marry me
Lol please just keep staring at me 😂😂😂😂😂😂 😂😂 😂
@@OVP422-_ wouldn’t mind doing that
@@Mutthalbaaz_____Official227 lol okay
I know who to flirt
1.Eye contact
2. Prowl around with friends.
3. Find some territory to position yourself. Be at a quarter angle, like diagonally, in body from everyone else so that your head and eyes can look around.
The body shows some interest so, an body averted shows little interest but, the eyes, biologically cannot be resisted.
4.Show some Confidence/Dominance.
Chest out. Maybe, speak from your diaphragm?
Gaze at potential mate and don't be afraid if she looks. Woman seem to have interests too and will look for potential and will repeat.
Lie in wait and for the next gaze within 60 sec.
(Because interest can be gauged within that window or be understood that it was a passing stare. You like what you look at a lot)
Walk over, greet and tell her your name and ask her ger own. Be calm. Don't be afraid of women. They aren't vicious grizzly bears. Only thing you fear is rejection and reject is a life long battle but a season to get used to.
Its okay. You'll find someone and the one rejected isn't what's in your best interest anyway.
You want a woman interested in you rather than choosing you relunctantly.
If willing, chit chat and talk about common things things like the weather, where you work, and etc until further interest comes up. Ky guess is if they like you and are *Comfortable*, they won't mind conversing and exchanging.
Flirting tips:
1Smile and a gaze.
2Touch her arm.
(Its a nonthreatening touch that shows comfort and very light intimacy)
3.Pull her close gently by the hip "because the music is too loud"
(That's sarcasm because hips are intimate. They control where your body goes so, I'd guess that its very intimate. Its an excuse to suggest you want to talk but also, 'i want to be close to you talk to you to talk more and, in other words, be more in your space: Intimacy.
4.Don't stay too long,
Bars aren't just for one on one, it's for drinking and social nonsense/ fun time after grueling weekday 9-5.
4b leave and mingle
(talk and enjoy time and chat with others; in other words, act like you have a life to live.)
To me, it shows that you are interested in her but that she isn't a deity to be worshipped with your all-consuming time and devotion; that you have a life outside of meeting her. She does, in fact have a life apart from you too. Please enjoy your life.
6. Come back with opportunity.
(She may not be God but she's still great to be around so come back from having a good time and talk to her. It shows priority; that you haven't forgotten about her. )
Coming back and starting up that conversation as if you never left is great. It shows that there's a friendship/she's *comfortable* around you and if you both are attracted to each other, its a great thing.
Mirroring with interested couples, to me, is unconscious? I say this because of Marriage. Marriage is, perhaps , a good one because I've seen a couple that seemed to share characteristics with each other. Like similar smiles and walks and etc.
Hope i elaborated well on this. For me, i like information and nuance doesn't come easy for me so explaining it help so im hoping it helps others.
Thank you
Thank you
Thx🎉😊
This video was helpful!
Thank you
Two simple steps:
-be rich
-flaunt richness
+Steven Tyler What an original excuse for not getting laid.
Not a single poor person has ever been laid right?
+Steven Tyler works 10/10 i promise
Or convince mom to buy BMW m3 to show that you are a businessman when the truth is you don't even have a job.Welcome to CA.
Steven Tyler yea you'll get gold diggers.
Good advice. My (now) wife said I really stood out because I was basically the only guy to approach her who didn't act like a clown or seemingly have some technique.
***** It's funny how many people are just looking for another genuine person. But everyone is so worried about not making the right impression they end up alienating people in the first few minutes putting on an act rather than just opening up to someone else.
I know that there are lots of dudes on CZcams giving dating tips for men and try to help everyone out as best as they could but Alpha is the man. Smooth, straight to the point, no bullshit and actually seems like he enjoys his life and hobby of helping single folks out there along with other topics. Keep it up bro.
That is a fact
What you doing watching this then ? Lol
Successful boils down to four things for men:
1. Be attractive
2. Don't be ugly
3. Be rich
4. Don't be broke
right lol
DrumWild you don't need to be good looking to be attractive, just need to dress nice and it doesn't cost that much to as well. Attractive will rule out ugly. Not being rich doesn't really matter and if you're broke idk why you're going out in expensive clubs, if you're broke you probably have better chances in public spaces and should also be focusing on your career at that moment, unless you're going for a one night stand
My income is only 450€ per month (im a student). Just barely enough for rent, food and gym. New clothes a couple times a year from cheap stores. I still have success.
Money is irrelevant if you have charisma.
pick a struggle, you cant be broke AND ugly.
@@Erowens98 Couldn't agree more.
"The sexy girls and their ugly friends too" 😂😂 just killed me with that one
Hell no
This man sure has an alpha male voice.
whoa, relax dude, I was just making a joke. where's your sense of humor?
***** That's your opinion. And a telling one at that.
+Thomas Brennan Oh shit got personal so quickly.
SavageArfad I believe the label you're looking for is alpha metrosexual
I had to pause at 4:40. What I'm sure you meant to say was that you approach the girl and say "HI!! WHAT IS YOUR NAME?!", at which point she will say "WHAT?! I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" Repeat this step a few times until you both give up. This is what I hate about trying to pick up women in clubs. The music makes conversation of any sort basically impossible. It's not so bad when you're talking to a friend cause you can just yell at them a few times but trying to pick up women is like playing a game of chinese whispers on an active battlefield.
+AliTheAllStar
Yeah club owners have really fucked that up I think :( I have a slight hearing problem so I pretty much don't stand a chance talking anyways lol.. but everyone seems to agree take the volume down to maybe two thirds and you could actually converse!! and then think about flirting.
Rick James I just think they should have separate rooms with different volumes. The music should be loud on the dance floor but there's no reason for it to be so loud in a lounge area.
+AliTheAllStar
That's right, and some good clubs have different rooms with quieter music or a balcony. Although only problem with the balcony is it's a smoke fest lol.
Rick James And cold as hell. lol
I just starting working at a night club 2 weeks ago and tonight I decided to search up some tips on handling the people and found this Channel....Dude your my Hero that's all I can say. Your the Man
Yes he is
I've already watched this video but after all this months on quarenting myself I really in need of this!
Every since youtube implemented the autoplay I just let Aaron talk endlessly whilst working out. Nothing boosts my morale more than your advise bro! :)
Working out boost my confidence
Great video Alpha! Another suggestion that you could also do for a video is how to hold, keep a conversation with someone at the club/bar :)
Yes it is a great video
Yo Alpha u crack me up, there is always some funny hook in your video! "Guess what some other dude has made a move on ur potential ex-girlfriend"!!!!!!
It’s so awesome that dennis from its always sunny can change forms! I knew it was him the second I shivered in fear when he laughed, good old dennis.
i love his personallity so much! keep it up!
Isn't it a bit creepy to stare at a girl for sixty seconds?No??
very.
+bangmeister2012 lol for real
Only if you get noticed staring for 60 seconds.
Chucky Peter if its 60sec then yeah.
Luke Carson i been to most clubs and i can tell you people dont remember that good when they are drunk,
This vid is gold
Only just found this video, I love it! Going to try these tips out! Thank you. Also I love the fact you live in Atlanta! My family is from there!
youre the best man, been watching since highschool
Walking around the club, checking out all females before you engage one ..."SHARKING"!
Yes u should
Always introduce yourself as Aaron.
Challenge accepted.
That is a good point
Brilliant job mate! It's most fortunate that I found your channel and unfortunate that I have not found it earlier.
For sure
Here in the western world, Brazil, his tips about flirtting would work fine.
I've just subscribed in your channel, you are good, I want to see all of your videos, but now I have to study to get a good job :D
This dude just womanized me, and I'm straight
Hell yeah he does
4:30... I was expecting for "my name is jeff"
LOLOL Laughed so hard at Aaron in this one. Thank you. Really brightened my day.
So am i
First time watching this guys videos and damn hes so real and honest. Kind of calms my nerves abit about going to club my first time.
Dude if a guy is wearing sun glasses in a club, it isn't to try and look good...
+Sam Canfield mostly its to hide drug use
@@ka3097 lmfao 🤣🤣
the way he look and his posture, alright hes coaching us the technique in gay bar
Another entertaining video. Love the comment about wearing shades in a club at night. Also loved the mental line he gave as well.
So do i
Youre awesome man, very funny and also realistic. thank you for your tips. Saludos from Costa Rica !
Hahaha, " someone has moved on and got ur future EX-Girlfriend" XD
WHOS HERE FROM ATOZYS VIDEO???
Meh
Meee
Me
I'm not a not a dude, but I enjoy your videos. Very intriguing Mr. Alpha
Muah!
Love it! Great stuff! Muffin Tops, classic!
if you guys are struggling with the bar scene, start out going to bars with dance lessons. most of the time you're forced into a couples scenario and you'll get to change partners so it can be like speed dating if you've got the right crowd.
I know how to dance 🕺
Step 1: Dance on dance floor. Step 2: Go up and dance with girl. Step 3: If she likes you take her by the waist and proceed to grind. Step 4: Make out with her. Step 5: Pull
Hahahahahaha this is too accurate
Haha that's pretty spot on
Accurate as fuck
Pull?!!! What is Pull?!!! I need to know pull!!!
Step 6 get rejected
I like the little blue flower. All kinds of subtext going on in my head. This in and of itself would be a good strategy in a bar. And dang, mister! You *prowl*! Props to your lovely missus
Alpha.m your super funny and you really help out a lot, keep it up bro!
Yes he is
First step : have a pretty face
Second step: have a lot of money
bam!
Kay H keep in mind that step one is not a 100% necessary
"Someone has just moved in on your potential ex girlfriend."- This one is dedicated to all of my friends
your videos are awesome and fun. Thanks!
I love your stuff, Thank you so much!!
this guys voice is hilarious lmfao
Okay, if you've introduced yourself and she has, then how do you start a smooth conversation??
loving your vids and advice Alpha. just aged 40 I've left it all too late.
I love this guy! So charismatic
You kinda remind me Barney from How i met your mother , in style/personality of course ..
Hey Arron, i just discovered, your videos on utube, and though, im not a man, i enjoyed watching you, your videos are informative and very fun, i liked seeing things from your perspective, ive learned some new things, and also thank you, for sharing your information, about the app drink advisor, its just what i was looking for, and it will be way usefull, i will share that one with my freinds and no doubt they will also like it, and thanks for your information, about the app for single people, i think you said its called your hot, i will be getting that one when i get my next smart phone, ive liked your videos and i subscribed so that i can veiw the information you gave out again, i like you arron, forget some of the haters on here, they are just so negative people, and they just dont get it, your doing a great service, for they guys you help, long may you continue, all the best to you, Arron, from Laura, Liverpool, England, UK. a watcher,
This is all well and good when you look the way you do. I look like I was in a fire that was put out with another fire. Personality only gets you so far. Love your videos though. You have great charisma and really do have an empowering way of speaking. I'm subbed and will stay that way. Merry Christmas :)
I just discovered this channel... show me your ways and I will learn
Hahaha the muffin top part I loled
Me: _smiles_
Her: I’m calling the cops
xD
🤣🤣🤣
Who gives a fly fuck
Great help man thanks alpha appreciate the content helped me alot
It will be help , when i go out and use his tips on this video
You have amazing videos mate!
"On your potential future ex-girlfriend" that line almost made me choke on my drink, hilarious.
Best pickup line, "Are you a english teacher? Because you need to teach me the word "no" I'm a sex offender" Works all the time.
I would not use that pick up line because it gets u slap in the face
wow youre smart, that totally wasnt a joke but thanks for replying to a 6 year old comment. Couldnt have realised the erorrs of my ways without you chief.@@TravisAndrews-lb1kk
Ohhhhh maaan u.made my day u simply reminde my clubbing journey. U made me.smile bro good on u.
i start to like this guy ! thank you for your video mate! :) god bless you!
Move on to number 2... At least he's counting his victims 😂
I'd rather play borderlands 2 naked by myself lmao
Broccoli can play video games. How does that work?
Do you also play TF2? I'll add you on steam.
Kenny Lay It works because : Steamed broccoli.
All right, I'm taking off before I shame myself further.
The Curious Noob no stay ill make soup.
Kenny Lay STEAMED BROCCOLI HAHAHAHAHA
Ugh .. Naked? Arent u scared something will crawl up your ass?
Some good tips actually. Thanks
I gotta be honest. Some of your videos make me smile!!
Hell yeah they do
Just laying here with my Double chin and improving my smiles.
You know what channel I came from.
He's knows what he talking about great advice my friend your helping alt people great advice be well
Thx man this video changed mi life!!!
He kinda looks like uncle Jessie from Full house!
Best pick up line "You make my dark knight rise!" bwahahahaha.
Nice ad at the end dude :D
Thanks for all the tips I will never do or try!
7:00 got me laughing so hard
It got my laughing too
I think I just found the real Barne Stinson. I fucking like it :P
Damn your perfect demographic advertising! I totally downloaded that app right away...
nice advice Aaron!
Who's here from Atozy???
bureurung ._. I am. And I already regret it lol
Ye
Me
Me
Me
All true, Im a fat guy and everyone at my regular bar considers me the biggest player there. I have never left alone, its all in the confidence.
***** Not a title I am ashamed of LMAO
+daggumnametaken whats the trick that gets them interested??
hdynation I just walk up to them, and then I talk to them. I do not go in looking to pick up a girl, I go in like I am making a friend, and it keeps me from overthinking it.
My own player friends have given me fuck tons of great advice. The thing they stress the most is to not go in looking to score, if you try, you fail. Focus on having fun and keep the women as a second priority. There is nothing that peaks a womans interest more than a man that seems fun and doesn't seem very interested.
Im not unattractive, though a bit out of style (look like a metalhead) and i have no trouble when i use their advice.
I call horseshit.
great video and good advice :)
Timeless advice!
Me: (watches this video before going to the club, and feeling confident) as soon as I walk in, immediately goes to a corner and drinks alone ☺
So do i on Saturdays
I think I'll have my doses of alpha m and rsdtyler separetly.
agreed
You're the man!!!
In Re to drinks..."What's that? What's in that?"...perfect ice breaker and conversation starter!
In the 60 seconds i waited, the girl approached me and then barfed on me :(
SavingPrivateDick if She approaches you then try to leave or exchange details after 2 drinks and move on id day, if she's not willing then she's not really worth it and probably is a cheap bitch.
That’s probably just her own way of indicating interest...
Barf porn???
@@jaychowdhury116 never heard of it? It's fucking sick.
@@kennethzenith504 It's usually from excessive throat-fucking after a few beers. I've seen my fair share in the BDSM circuit. It's not a pretty sight, nor for the sensitive stomach.
"You, Me, bedroom...BOOM" pickup line achieved
these videos are hilarious, I like watching them :D
Fantastic content!