I found you last night while I was laying in bed crying over feeling unseen and unappreciated. I’m 25, childless, and have been dating a guy for 8 months who has a 6 year old little boy. Thank you for the amazing resource that you are 💞
Aww I'm so sorry! I hope things have gotten better. I started this whole thing after spending the night feeling the very same way - so I get it! Hang in there.
It is so hard! Seriously I had no idea the emotional turmoil this could bring on. The guilt, the resentment the guilt. Hating that your not the first... so many different emotions I wasn’t prepared for.
Finally, someone being honest about being a stepmom. I thought I knew what it was all about...yeah, no, I had no idea. Non-stepmoms love to tell me I'm dramatic or have no idea what I'm talking about, just because I am a stepmom and not a bio mom. Infuriating to say the least. Thankfully, I have a very easy-going relationship with everyone in our unit and we all support each other. But this is not for the faint of heart.
My steps are grown and I am the very last to know anything. And I truly believe that it’s because I “am” the step person. Even/especially in my husband’s eyes. If it were his children’s mother and they were still married, that situation would never be a thing.
Ur channel has completely saved my way of thinking and handling situations I feel that are out of my control and although it may be hard for you sometimes to keep this channel just know there are stepmoms out there like myself that appreciate your content
It's so reassuring to hear that others feel the same, like you I love my step daughter but don't love being the step mum to a child (with a Narc bio Mum and all the issues that come with it especially when she is mimicking those behaviours she is witnessing!) It's sometimes a case that I am sure so many bio and step parents can empathise with of I love you but don't really like you/your behaviour right now. People who tell you 'you knew what you were signing up for' have no clue lol as had I known I can't totally say I would still have taken the journey!
I think the best videos to watch, are the ones that are honest open, real and raw. Thank you so much for being real. Its healing to see the humanness in you.. Its like I'm not alone.
I honestly need more of this, rather than how to deal with it. I know how negative it can get if you only talk on your channel about the bad things, but your honesty is appreciated. Like you say it's hard to admit to the world I hate being a stepmom and I have to do it forever. I love my husband and many times I do it for him because he is awesome with me and my family, but very often when I have a problem with my stepdaughter or she is just annoying me I wonder, where is your mom and why do I have to deal with you right now? I did not always felt like that and this relationship has been deteriorating more than improving. I came to youtube trying to find some sympathy because is not easy to pretend and I feel alone with my feelings, and guilty!
Thank you for your honesty, I figured you had it all together after watching your videos. It makes me feel better knowing there will always be struggles. It won't be just me going through it.
I love your realness ii am a fulltime step mom ..Mon -friday .i love my stepkids my situation i feel like i do all the work she gets all the benefits ..me and my husband fight a lot because real Mom totally takes advantage of Dad. We do everything her nothing even financially.. she sees her kids 2 days a week and always manages to cause problems.its very painful when your the stepmom and you do all the work of Mom and whsn an emergency arises over kids your totally cut out of the equation .Because your not the real Mom ..
I absolutely love her # new bonus mom and this sh!t is hard,,, love them but I’m struggling real facts … I honestly feel like no matter what I do I’m wrong!!! Always feel like I’m swimming on the perimeter of there lives … 🤦🏽♀️ I’m taking the advice and trying to have empathy,, but damn I’m drowning over here…# needalife jacket😐
I am a step mother and I am always in the middle of everything but I need to understand what my role is in our blended family. I wanted to know if step family day can be celebrated or not. Before i bacame a step parent I was engaged to be married and this girl came from out of no where and takes my fiance away from me tries to get me fired from my job and became pregnant I was so devastated that I needed to go to a therapist. Years afterwards I got married to my fiance and became a step mother I have been with my husband for 22 years and married for 5 years. And I still need to know everthing about being a step mother and how I can help with my busband's son's education
Omg I’m so glad I found your channel. I can relate so much to you and have been a step lol for 4 years and it’s just now getting bad with the mother. So you keep me sane and help me understand:) keep them coming ❤
Jamie you are seriously my friend.. ‘In my head’ lol. You are so awesome and so relatable. Please keep up this authentic content, I truly appreciate it
Umm this is your best video! Your other post are also helpful BUT you were not holding back here and I loved it! You just said what sooooo many women say to themselves secretly....thank u.
What was it like dating your husband before you got married and had your daughter? I'm a kidless woman who just started dating a single dad. What are some tips on dating a guy with kids?
We have a video coming up on this but in the meantime I do have this blog post! www.jamiescrimgeour.com/the-poptart-diaries/16-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-dating-a-man-with-kids?rq=16%20things
I Think if we could met each other we could talk for years... I just send you my love and be always proud of you. I am wearing your shoes... I believe that only God and the other stepmothers recognize all our efforts
You spoke right to my heart in this video. May I ask, how do you deal with the resentment this all brings. I’m 14 years in, past many of the painful experiences, but left with the resentment this has built over the years - from everyone including my husband.
Love this ! Thank you for sharing I’m 28 my fiancé has 2 girls and sometimes I wonder if I’m doing the right thing the thought of it scares me sometimes . But seeing you made me feel really encouraged. Any advice for someone who isn’t a step mom yet but will be soon ?
I am exhausted and crying everyday. She completely ignores me (stepchild). I am thinking of ending the relationship, because of this. Is this a legit reason? I also don't have e credit card, but would love to join the community. Is there any other way to do the payment? Thank you
I found you last night while I was laying in bed crying over feeling unseen and unappreciated. I’m 25, childless, and have been dating a guy for 8 months who has a 6 year old little boy. Thank you for the amazing resource that you are 💞
Aww I'm so sorry! I hope things have gotten better. I started this whole thing after spending the night feeling the very same way - so I get it! Hang in there.
Girl your 25 think about your self put your self 1st
It is so hard! Seriously I had no idea the emotional turmoil this could bring on. The guilt, the resentment the guilt. Hating that your not the first... so many different emotions I wasn’t prepared for.
Agreed! I think that's what makes it so difficult.
"Its a shitshow" .............yea an honest and proper way of putting it. I did the step mom once.....
Finally, someone being honest about being a stepmom. I thought I knew what it was all about...yeah, no, I had no idea. Non-stepmoms love to tell me I'm dramatic or have no idea what I'm talking about, just because I am a stepmom and not a bio mom. Infuriating to say the least. Thankfully, I have a very easy-going relationship with everyone in our unit and we all support each other. But this is not for the faint of heart.
Yes, it's hard being raw and authentic because you don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings especially if you are a people pleaser.
My steps are grown and I am the very last to know anything. And I truly believe that it’s because I “am” the step person. Even/especially in my husband’s eyes.
If it were his children’s mother and they were still married, that situation would never be a thing.
Ur channel has completely saved my way of thinking and handling situations I feel that are out of my control and although it may be hard for you sometimes to keep this channel just know there are stepmoms out there like myself that appreciate your content
Omg finally I find someone who understands me and the situation of being stepmom. It's really hard !!!
So hard! But you're in the right place xx
Thank you for being so honest. It’s nice hearing that other people are having similar thoughts and feelings.
Thanks Emily!! Glad it resonated!
It's so reassuring to hear that others feel the same, like you I love my step daughter but don't love being the step mum to a child (with a Narc bio Mum and all the issues that come with it especially when she is mimicking those behaviours she is witnessing!) It's sometimes a case that I am sure so many bio and step parents can empathise with of I love you but don't really like you/your behaviour right now.
People who tell you 'you knew what you were signing up for' have no clue lol as had I known I can't totally say I would still have taken the journey!
I think the best videos to watch, are the ones that are honest open, real and raw. Thank you so much for being real. Its healing to see the humanness in you.. Its like I'm not alone.
I honestly need more of this, rather than how to deal with it. I know how negative it can get if you only talk on your channel about the bad things, but your honesty is appreciated. Like you say it's hard to admit to the world I hate being a stepmom and I have to do it forever. I love my husband and many times I do it for him because he is awesome with me and my family, but very often when I have a problem with my stepdaughter or she is just annoying me I wonder, where is your mom and why do I have to deal with you right now? I did not always felt like that and this relationship has been deteriorating more than improving. I came to youtube trying to find some sympathy because is not easy to pretend and I feel alone with my feelings, and guilty!
Omg thank you for this honesty! Makes me feel better about not liking being a step mom.
Thank you for your honesty, I figured you had it all together after watching your videos. It makes me feel better knowing there will always be struggles. It won't be just me going through it.
I love your realness ii am a fulltime step mom ..Mon -friday .i love my stepkids my situation i feel like i do all the work she gets all the benefits ..me and my husband fight a lot because real Mom totally takes advantage of Dad. We do everything her nothing even financially.. she sees her kids 2 days a week and always manages to cause problems.its very painful when your the stepmom and you do all the work of Mom and whsn an emergency arises over kids your totally cut out of the equation .Because your not the real Mom ..
I absolutely love her # new bonus mom and this sh!t is hard,,, love them but I’m struggling real facts … I honestly feel like no matter what I do I’m wrong!!! Always feel like I’m swimming on the perimeter of there lives … 🤦🏽♀️ I’m taking the advice and trying to have empathy,, but damn I’m drowning over here…# needalife jacket😐
Omg !!! Thankyou for this
I need to hear the 'real shit of this stepfamily life'
Love this and you! Don’t stop. You are one of my biggest helps! You have helped me so much!
Awww thanks I'm so glad it helps
I am a step mother and I am always in the middle of everything but I need to understand what my role is in our blended family. I wanted to know if step family day can be celebrated or not. Before i bacame a step parent I was engaged to be married and this girl came from out of no where and takes my fiance away from me tries to get me fired from my job and became pregnant I was so devastated that I needed to go to a therapist. Years afterwards I got married to my fiance and became a step mother I have been with my husband for 22 years and married for 5 years. And I still need to know everthing about being a step mother and how I can help with my busband's son's education
Great video! One of your best! I was nodding along as I watched!
Amen! It is so hard! Nice to know it's just not me feeling this way....thanks.
Best video you have made yet.
Omg I’m so glad I found your channel. I can relate so much to you and have been a step lol for 4 years and it’s just now getting bad with the mother. So you keep me sane and help me understand:) keep them coming ❤
This is your best video yet- honestly- you're open, honest and keeping it REAL! LOVE IT!! Go girl!
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Jamie you are seriously my friend.. ‘In my head’ lol. You are so awesome and so relatable. Please keep up this authentic content, I truly appreciate it
Amen sister! Way to be real and honest!! Really love all the videos I have watched of yours. It is hard being a step mom!!!!!
I love how blunt you are and real! It really is a shit show dont know what im doing i feel suffocated and like im going nuts thankyou for ur openness
Thabks for these I felt Im not alone with these battles..people dont understand even my husband
Umm this is your best video! Your other post are also helpful BUT you were not holding back here and I loved it! You just said what sooooo many women say to themselves secretly....thank u.
You are so raw and real and wonderful. I’m not even a stepmom, but your life advice is still poignant.
I really needed to hear this!!!! Thank you Jamie for keeping it real! 💕💕💕
I agree with you behind close doors 🚪 is a whole different story
What was it like dating your husband before you got married and had your daughter? I'm a kidless woman who just started dating a single dad. What are some tips on dating a guy with kids?
We have a video coming up on this but in the meantime I do have this blog post!
www.jamiescrimgeour.com/the-poptart-diaries/16-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-dating-a-man-with-kids?rq=16%20things
I Think if we could met each other we could talk for years... I just send you my love and be always proud of you. I am wearing your shoes... I believe that only God and the other stepmothers recognize all our efforts
GIRL. This is the story of my life.
I love you! , Thank you for the honesy i sympethay with you
Absolutely LOVED this video ! Thank you !!! I thought I was alone .
This is very reasuring😊😊
Well said!!! I stumbled upon your CZcams channel and found it VERY enlightening!
You spoke right to my heart in this video. May I ask, how do you deal with the resentment this all brings. I’m 14 years in, past many of the painful experiences, but left with the resentment this has built over the years - from everyone including my husband.
I needed to hear this. Thank you for being transparent!! Its good to know get confirmation that this is a on-going struggle lol But I am not alone
Thank you Jamie❤
Can you make a video on how you deal with one of your step kids not liking you?
coming in a few weeks! Just recording a bunch of new videos yesterday!
Love this ! Thank you for sharing I’m 28 my fiancé has 2 girls and sometimes I wonder if I’m doing the right thing the thought of it scares me sometimes . But seeing you made me feel really encouraged. Any advice for someone who isn’t a step mom yet but will be soon ?
Buckle up. I’ve been doing it for 7 years and it gets easier… but I still don’t like it.
I fucking love this
I am exhausted and crying everyday. She completely ignores me (stepchild). I am thinking of ending the relationship, because of this. Is this a legit reason? I also don't have e credit card, but would love to join the community. Is there any other way to do the payment?
Thank you