12 Traits that are DESTROYING your Elegance! | Do not jeopardise your Level Up!

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  • čas přidán 1. 02. 2022
  • Ladies, do you ever feel like there are certain personality traits that are holding you back from fully refining yourself to become a classy Woman of Elegance? Well, I have listed 12 Traits that are possibly jeopardising the level-up journey that you must avoid. Of course, none of us are perfect but it's advisable to try to dispel some of these traits that could risk-taking you back to square one.
    You have come so far ladies; DON'T give up! Make a concerted effort to refine your personality so you can become the BEST version of yourself. xo
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Komentáře • 255

  • @sedingwemaduo
    @sedingwemaduo Před 2 lety +557

    1. Gossiping (personal favorite)
    2. Watching TV/ Social Media
    3. Fashion Fads
    4. Dressing Shabbly
    5. Mean and Condenscending
    6. Using valguar and inappropriate words
    7. Lack of Punctuality
    8. Not Speaking coherently
    9. Inconsistent and untrustworthy
    10. Bad posture
    11. Disregarding etiquette
    12. Dirty and disorganized

  • @APTTMHYforever
    @APTTMHYforever Před 2 lety +204

    Speaking of fashion, proper bra and shapewear/correct undies for certain garments is a major key!! It’s definitely worth the investment

    • @ms.ednapost
      @ms.ednapost Před 2 lety +8

      Amen!!! That’s not talked about enough!!!

    • @aesinam
      @aesinam Před 2 lety

      @@ms.ednapost everyone I follow on CZcams talks about this so you're probably watching the wrong people.

    • @ms.ednapost
      @ms.ednapost Před 2 lety +4

      @@aesinam Or perhaps you aren’t watching enough of “everybody on CZcams.”

    • @MatipaKombe
      @MatipaKombe Před rokem

      Major major key!!

    • @celesteessel4500
      @celesteessel4500 Před rokem +3

      Im literally just realizing this at the age of 24 and im shocked at how much I dont know -
      Thank you for sharing

  • @jillgreene9225
    @jillgreene9225 Před 2 lety +74

    In the airport recently, a middle aged lady told her son "son don't bother that elegant lady" I smiled inside & out. I greatly appreciate your informative videos...I am leveling UP in more ways than a few & loving every moment❣
    Jill Georgette Missouri-USA

  • @GarmentofPraiseSewing
    @GarmentofPraiseSewing Před 2 lety +213

    Etiquette does matter. Unfortunately, listening to you I realized I lost a lot of etiquette. Only because being in the company of woman who constantly attacked me over the years in the workplace made me very defensive. I appreciate the delightful way you deliver your messages because it reminds me of what truly is important in spite of someone else’s negativity.

    • @kinyettabranner8419
      @kinyettabranner8419 Před 2 lety +11

      Yes a video on how to handle Catty women

    • @ZaBubbey
      @ZaBubbey Před 2 lety +1

      I feel the same way too

    • @SnippetsBB
      @SnippetsBB Před 2 lety +9

      Hi Regina - I agree and couldn't have said it better. Happened to me too over the years but I still kept the basics. Now I'm at an older age (retired) feel empowered to reclaim that elegance I was forced to defend so long ago.

    • @quantinajones2857
      @quantinajones2857 Před rokem +2

      Same here!! Keep YOUR standards 😉

    • @starrjohnson1327
      @starrjohnson1327 Před 7 měsíci

      I have a new (female) supervisor. She is the first female supervisor to encourage femininity! She is so refreshing to be around. I didn't think women like this still existed. She gets so much backlash from female colleagues. Many want to dress casual at work, curse and show up late. She does not tolerate that. More ladies are dressing feminine and smelling sweet at work. I love that😊.

  • @paradisemusiclibrary1756
    @paradisemusiclibrary1756 Před 2 lety +74

    “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work”
    Thomas A. Edison💡
    Never give up on yourself. I believe in you! 🙏❤

  • @limania4456
    @limania4456 Před 2 lety +196

    Being a guy, I think these principles can be applied to both sex. Well presented.

    • @stormy8092
      @stormy8092 Před rokem +2

      Absolutely. Good for you. A man cannot be too eloquent.

    • @gugumazibuko6275
      @gugumazibuko6275 Před 7 měsíci

      Well done for watching. I salute you!

  • @ososeesekie
    @ososeesekie Před 2 lety +10

    Who thinks etiquette is outdated? It’s classy and elegant and shows self respect and respect for others. Tanks for you talk

  • @curlsxx6986
    @curlsxx6986 Před 2 lety +41

    Thank you for reminding me of the grown classy woman I need to be.

  • @Laytopoe-For-Faith-Family-Food

    Vivienne, your words are graceful and full of wisdom! It adds depth to the wise! God bless you Abundantly 🙏.
    Thank you!

  • @angelenkopodi2148
    @angelenkopodi2148 Před 2 lety +28

    Vivian, thank you for your channel, you are such a God sent, I've been getting it wrong all my life, just a week of watching your topics, I have discovered who I am, what I want and where I'm going in life 🥂 🥂 Happy birthday to the new Me as a Woman of Elegance 🥰 🥰

  • @thandosdance1504
    @thandosdance1504 Před 2 lety +10

    Was about to comment about table manners coz us in Africa use our hands to eat so was about to ask whose culture is referred to as refined table manners. Am glad u gave that example.

  • @pamholbrook4516
    @pamholbrook4516 Před 2 lety +11

    I’ve been looking for etiquette videos that are not boring and monotone. Your videos so far, are the only videos that fit what I’ve been looking for. I’ve been interested in learning etiquette for years. I listen to videos in the morning on the way to work to be productive of my listening time. Im looking forward to watching or listening to all of your videos and hopefully I won’t forget to like them all. Thank you!

    • @bookbutterfly2408
      @bookbutterfly2408 Před 2 lety

      You might also like The Feminine Universe here on CZcams for the same reason

  • @reelmermaid8844
    @reelmermaid8844 Před 2 lety +17

    Vivian, your video is a breath of fresh air! Thank you for bringing back into focus the long lost arts of good manners, appropriate speech and other character traits that are required for one to be seen as high value and a person of class. Subscribed with delight. Cheers from Canada!

  • @lillianthomas9861
    @lillianthomas9861 Před 2 lety +35

    Thank you for this! I've always thought of etiquette as: overt manners for others that are around you. It is a way to love other people.

  • @GiaGRitter
    @GiaGRitter Před 2 lety +6

    I wish everybody knew this. 💁🏻‍♀️It feel so elementary, but I see these things done all the time!

  • @dorisaugust7200
    @dorisaugust7200 Před rokem +3

    Power packed content...
    If it's the vocabularies and phonetics I learn here alone, I'm fulfilled!

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 Před rokem +6

    As someone who studied fashion, I feel it’s necessary to learn it from the elegance and image consulting point of view. I avoid bad language, it appears classless. Looking shabby is terrible. I can never go out with dirty footwear or dirty clothes

  • @nymnym91
    @nymnym91 Před 2 lety +13

    I just found your channel, and I truly appreciate your content so much. I've come from a rather new money family and realized over time that I often came across as crass and have wasted so much time not being a more feminine, elegant woman when I was in my 20s. I'm really looking forward to utilizing all of the knowledge you're presenting here.

  • @karencollins2440
    @karencollins2440 Před 2 lety +11

    Absolutely spot on, Vivienne. Thank you for your lovely service to women, and to society as a whole.

  • @mrstoluajala1317
    @mrstoluajala1317 Před 2 lety +8

    Thank you so much for this. After listening to all these points I realized I have always lived my life around some of these points guess I have always built my life with God's word and this has resulted to excellence in me.

  • @annavalentova5046
    @annavalentova5046 Před 2 lety +15

    Dear Vivienne, your videos are such inspiring thank you for sharing them with us. It really encouraged me to keep learning to be better version of me instead of complaining what is not possible. I have lost part of my elegant behaviour but now I realize it is never too late to try again and get even more decent, polite and confident than before. You are true inspiration, thank you and I wish you a pleasant day! 🌹

  • @valangstatolbert6775
    @valangstatolbert6775 Před 2 lety +14

    You're priceless, VIVIAN. Thank you so very much for your expertise in assisting us with TIMELESS STYLE and BEAUTY.
    I just found this channel. GOD is re- enviting me, and after prayer and meditation, HE sent me here. Thank you.

    • @ThePwanjiru
      @ThePwanjiru Před 2 lety +2

      Wow. This is me too. God brought me to this channel today. I am in a season where I need to implement these traits for my next God given assignment

  • @Vegcrafttt
    @Vegcrafttt Před rokem +10

    Emotional processing is vital. Let's be careful not to encourage toxic positivity. If you are feeling negative feelings about someone who did something you didn't like and you want to discuss it with your husband or something then please do. Negative emotions exist. And always will. Please process those feelings.

    • @My_Secret_ArtSketchbook
      @My_Secret_ArtSketchbook Před rokem +3

      Sometimes it's wise not to mention to the husband.

    • @jenniferlynn3537
      @jenniferlynn3537 Před 11 měsíci +1

      I agree with the necessity of emotional processing, and commend those who can do so unassisted. For those who cannot - that is when a therapist should be sought.
      Don’t dump on your loved ones - you’ll only end up alienating them. While some will have you believe that therapy is self indulgent or capitulating to one’s weaknesses, I maintain it is accepting personal responsibility for oneself. Think of it as self-investment, as along the lines of personal development.
      Unfortunately many of us were raised in less than optimal environments - and became acclimated to unhealthy beliefs, negative thought patterns, and unproductive behaviors. It can be problematic understanding which traits are self-limiting - and equally difficult identifying which people in your life don’t have your best interest at heart.
      If you’re truly to become self reliant, consider therapy as part of that journey.

  • @Magpieme98
    @Magpieme98 Před 2 lety +3

    I think all these points were just spot on! Poor table manners is a pet peeve of mine and I’m so glad you covered it. Great video!

  • @writeousrhema
    @writeousrhema Před 2 lety +5

    Thanks! I will take heed. All mothers should teach and show their daughters etiquette

  • @monajones6748
    @monajones6748 Před 2 lety +10

    Your videos are so great. I appreciate your elegance and sophistication pointers as they are fantastic reminders.❤️

  • @TriniRoyQuiReyes
    @TriniRoyQuiReyes Před 2 lety +6

    This video speaks volumen. Reminds one that one don't need to stay away from whom God has called one to be. Thank You for sharing elegant sister. I can see things I need to change. - Qui 👑

  • @augustaluch7354
    @augustaluch7354 Před 2 lety +5

    Hello Vivian. The very first time I saw your video, I think that was "how to speak Elegantly", I was drawn to it and immediately I hit the "subscribe button". Thank you so much for this series of valuable content that you share.
    I hope you reply me.
    Like I said, from that very first time I took a decision that I will be an Elegant Lady, it takes a lot of unlearning and re-learning to get there, but I'm willing to work it out. But it looks as if my decision to become elegant made me short of friends, they treat me like I am a weirdo, try-hard or even a pretender(subtly telling me that I'm trying to mimick things not pertaining to my status).
    I understand that you shouldn't let people bring you down either verbally or through their body language especially when you are doing the right thing, but it's just so hard to be alone and not have someone you share things in common with. If I can get comforting words from you, I will appreciate it, thanks.❤️

    • @ibiminaabiye257
      @ibiminaabiye257 Před 2 lety +1

      Augusta, you're right on track with your decision to be an elegant lady. Forget your circle of friends and get one or two new friends who are on the same journey with you. Hope this helps.

    • @augustaluch7354
      @augustaluch7354 Před 2 lety +1

      @@ibiminaabiye257 thank you so much. It really does.

  • @kristensamsike8923
    @kristensamsike8923 Před 2 lety +2

    I am no elegant lady because I cannot be one. I am a man. But I did enjoy this video. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge Vivian. I sure will be recommending this video not just for my female friends but even male too!

  • @isabelmartin40
    @isabelmartin40 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank U, Vivian, may the art of elegance come back a little to this modern life😮

  • @tinamike3018
    @tinamike3018 Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much for pointing out areas i need to really work on at being the best version of me .

  • @1moniqueceleste
    @1moniqueceleste Před 2 lety +7

    This video blessed me. I am a work in progress and truly value this information. Thank you

  • @marycovey4960
    @marycovey4960 Před 2 lety +3

    These are very nice reminders and you present them beautifully. I truly enjoy taking part in your encouraging and insightful videos.

  • @Juliananaki100
    @Juliananaki100 Před 2 lety +1

    So much encouraged by your lectures. Thanks you.

  • @anketsp.4670
    @anketsp.4670 Před 2 lety +4

    I am following you from Ethiopia, thank you for the amazing presentation Vivian. We have a lot of good cultures, thank you for mentioning it on number 11.

  • @jayzmom09
    @jayzmom09 Před 2 lety +4

    You did a fantastic job with this video. Thank you

  • @naomi_cmfrancis
    @naomi_cmfrancis Před 2 lety +2

    Well articulated. Thank you Ma'am. I really appreciate your teachings.

  • @lydialal.l.f8382
    @lydialal.l.f8382 Před 2 lety +1

    This is very true, I agreed 100 percent. Thanks so very much 👍🎉

  • @victoryjackson7625
    @victoryjackson7625 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks so much Vivian for this educative video♥️

  • @Laqueen724
    @Laqueen724 Před 2 lety +2

    I've just discovered your channel today and I'm loving it,very educative.Thankyou.

  • @Lauren-db7hb
    @Lauren-db7hb Před 2 lety

    I absolutely agree. Thank you so much for these

  • @maysanroy
    @maysanroy Před rokem

    I can listen to you all the time....soothing to the soul ❤️ thank you!

  • @ThePwanjiru
    @ThePwanjiru Před 2 lety +2

    So glad God led me to this channel today... Timely for me, so helpful for my next assignment.. blessings to you Vivian

    • @enny8854
      @enny8854 Před 2 lety

      Thank you for this lesson ma. Please can you do a video on building vocabulary?

  • @simonecato-hall7811
    @simonecato-hall7811 Před 2 lety

    So happy I’ve found this channel. Thank you!

  • @jenp342
    @jenp342 Před rokem +2

    Thank You Vivian, for sharing these videos, I agree💯, and appreciate very much.🇨🇦

  • @meziefavour4531
    @meziefavour4531 Před 2 lety +1

    I love love love your elegance etiquette❤️

  • @thegosphel
    @thegosphel Před 2 lety

    Hello, I just found your channel a few days ago and I’ve been enjoying the videos. Thank you for sharing this type of content.

  • @natchasolutions8908
    @natchasolutions8908 Před 2 lety +7

    Great points. Woman of substance

  • @teenindustry
    @teenindustry Před 6 měsíci

    So glad you looked at the idea of following the etiquette of the culture you are in.

  • @AmarachiDuru
    @AmarachiDuru Před 2 lety +1

    This video is exceptional. Thank you so much.

  • @carrimattan1236
    @carrimattan1236 Před 7 měsíci

    This is one of the best of "Woman of elegance"

  • @onyinyecrownwell
    @onyinyecrownwell Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much Miss Vivian.❤️

  • @keziahdanjuma5361
    @keziahdanjuma5361 Před 2 lety

    Hello Vivian👋🏾Glad to have you back!
    I’ve missed having notifications from your channel 😅

  • @bronwenmabunda8103
    @bronwenmabunda8103 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for all your content, ive learnt so much.

  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071

    Watching this great video again! Thank you!

  • @namutebisylvia7066
    @namutebisylvia7066 Před 2 lety +7

    I dont regret subscribing to your channel, i learnt alot thanks 💪💪👏👏

  • @SKITSHOW
    @SKITSHOW Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you, Ms. Vivian, you're beautiful inside and out and a great communicator ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @xave2023
    @xave2023 Před 2 lety

    Thanks mum for this wonderful message 🙏❤️🇨🇲

  • @yvonnenick5374
    @yvonnenick5374 Před 2 lety

    Thanks so much , so happy I ran across this video

  •  Před rokem +1

    Hello Vivian 🌸
    Thank you for sharing this amazing videos. It have been helping me a lot. Blessings ❤

  • @wandjicarine1945
    @wandjicarine1945 Před 2 lety

    Wow....i enjoyed the video. Thanks for sharing these tips which will help me be a woman of elegance.

  • @ameryek.9607
    @ameryek.9607 Před 7 měsíci

    This is one of your best ones! Rock on! But I'm still working on having "a depthless intrigue".

  • @chachasweet443
    @chachasweet443 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing. It was worth my time

  • @tfclifestyle7369
    @tfclifestyle7369 Před 2 lety

    First video and I'm already hooked... love it

  • @AndreaChabanChristianLifeStyle

    Thank you very much for these inspiring videos ❤️

  • @luisamarto2010
    @luisamarto2010 Před rokem

    Thanks for the channel, Vivian!!

  • @AngeliqueTraveler
    @AngeliqueTraveler Před rokem

    I already adore you. What wonderful advice! I am inspired.

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 Před 2 lety +1

    these are great tips and are good for anyone, regardless of gender.

  • @kiannad418
    @kiannad418 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for the video I truly enjoy them all and you’re just stunning ❤️

  • @khadijah8269
    @khadijah8269 Před 2 lety

    I absolutely loved this video
    Thank you 😊💓💓💓💓

  • @makoabdo861
    @makoabdo861 Před 11 měsíci

    So enlightening ❤. Clearly you are passionate about women and elegance. Thank you

  • @MsRoss-xv3nx
    @MsRoss-xv3nx Před 2 lety +1

    Good Teaching! Preach!!

  • @latoyastarr5998
    @latoyastarr5998 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. This video is very helpful.

  • @gladysdpenha6241
    @gladysdpenha6241 Před 2 lety

    Awesome tips. Thank you and stay blessed.

  • @winfridahbanda5739
    @winfridahbanda5739 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for this. Your Channel helps me a lot🙏

  • @amnamir6676
    @amnamir6676 Před rokem

    Beautiful video ! 💯 gems of wisdom

  • @octaviahicks-braye9859
    @octaviahicks-braye9859 Před 2 lety +1

    Great points!

  • @clever4442
    @clever4442 Před 2 lety

    I've just discovered your channel and am enjoying everything

  • @stretchgrieme
    @stretchgrieme Před 2 lety

    Thank you! I just discovered your video and appreciate your advice very much!

  • @vds4252
    @vds4252 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks 😊 for this video , sometimes I'm not confident because English not my first language. Thanks to mentioning it.
    I also like your video about hygiene I a Learned alot with you🥰

  • @royalhighness6263
    @royalhighness6263 Před 2 lety +15

    I am Soooo grateful to have been connected to your channel. Divine timing is always perfect. However, hats of to you for coming out and teaching our ladies how to create a more elegant lifestyle . Everyone can benefit from this. Your channel is super important & genuine for us. Love all your tips and videos . Hope you're having a good day and I sincerely wish that your platform goes a long way and generates endless success 🙏😇💯 God bless

  • @gulsahgunes7732
    @gulsahgunes7732 Před rokem

    so useful, and crucial points to remember. Thank you for this amazing video🙏🌞🥰

  • @ruthwanjiru2318
    @ruthwanjiru2318 Před 2 lety

    We are grateful for your wisdom

  • @abisey943
    @abisey943 Před 2 lety

    Your channel has helped me alot,thank you.

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan Před 2 lety

    Such great advice. Thank u!!! Love your content.🤍

  • @yeshifeyisa5473
    @yeshifeyisa5473 Před 2 lety

    Thank you my Dear !I 'm not late to follow you .You are the most powerful change me every day. From Ethiopia

  • @MyFitgirlLifestyle
    @MyFitgirlLifestyle Před 2 lety

    Very lovely points indeed, although some would take a bit of work to implement, it is worth the try.

  • @kelechivivianodogwu1908

    Hello Vivian, I appreciate your video and I'm thankful I found your page.

  • @olivikakatti4111
    @olivikakatti4111 Před rokem +1

    I'm abit kind of tomboy but after watching your video's I feel like moving towards elegant way.💃💃🏃‍♀️

  • @lissam8988
    @lissam8988 Před rokem +1

    Back in the 40s and 50s, a young lady learned etiquette in school they took that away, and everything else went down.

  • @evefavourite3168
    @evefavourite3168 Před 2 lety

    Thanks a lot for these tips..God bless you!!!!

  • @mdk2338
    @mdk2338 Před 2 lety +5

    Hey Vivian...glad to watch you again with pretty true and practical principles. Thank you again. I agree and I am really working on all these. Love from India.

  • @amobikafilat9734
    @amobikafilat9734 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for this video, I appreciate it.

  • @christinme8375
    @christinme8375 Před 9 měsíci

    Love this ! You gave me some great ideas 💡
    Thank you
    You’re so beautiful and well spoken 😊

  • @leofarmqueen7951
    @leofarmqueen7951 Před 2 lety

    If I love you one more time, I love the way you teach our ladies

  • @paulcarlachapman628
    @paulcarlachapman628 Před 2 lety

    All your points are good, but I have a special distaste for gossip. Thank you for emphasizing it.

  • @trustingyah7659
    @trustingyah7659 Před rokem

    Thank You!

  • @ShoppingwithRina
    @ShoppingwithRina Před rokem

    so lovely points

  • @kathleenhatchell9083
    @kathleenhatchell9083 Před 2 lety

    Thank you 🥰

  • @martinanaris2261
    @martinanaris2261 Před 2 lety +1

    You are a star 🌟 Vivian.