@@GeekPsychology FJs are all Fe users, as follows, which implies some level of concern for social harmony - the greater good . . . INFJ = Ni Fe ENFJ = Fe Ni ISFJ = Si Fe ESFJ = Fe Si FP are all Fi users, as follows, which implies some level of concern for inner harmony - the closer good . . . INFP = Fi Ne ENFP = Ne Fi ISFP = Fi Se ESFP = Se Fi Which is not to say they can't attend to both, naturally and comfortably, but that would require a good deal of maturity 😊
Extroverted feelers need to know where you are on a subject so they can bounce off that and judge how they feel. Kinda like a bat and sonar. So if you want to help them develop who they are; you actually need to share your views in detail. This is especially important for parents, bosses, partners or any kind of leaders. Sharing your thoughts and feelings is how we connect. If you want to be needed, you need to share who you are and relize that sometimes you are need to be a sounding board.
ENFJ's need to talk about your feelings because introspection on their own is a painful experience, and they're always imagining worst-case scenarios to the point they're afraid that if others knew what they were thinking it would scare them away. They would rather elevate what matters most to others and want what "their person" wants over themselves, to the point of self-detriment. Open, honest communication is absolutely necessary for a relationship with an ENFJ. Even if you don't want to in the moment, always tell them if you need a moment alone but that you'll discuss it as soon as you can and do so. Let them know your feelings and thoughts so they can ease their worst fears, and so they can form a clear plan for the future. Honesty and openness are key. - This is the voice of experience (happily married ~25 years).
Thank you for this video, Matt. I feel I have a better appreciation for the FJs in my life, especially the extraverted FJs. It's always interesting to me, to hear how we perceive and respond to scenarios so differently, and to find empathy and understanding across our preferences.
With my limited experience with Fe, I would say in most cases it just ends up being a stalemate. There is no big clash or anything, it just is what it is. My mother (ISFJ), on one hand, is always making friends and those "friends" always end up using her or stealing from her. My last supervisor (ENFJ), he was often overwhelming to talk to. I know it wasn't his intention, but his light just felt well beyond my pay grade.
I wonder how introverted thinking and introverted feeling would clash. They probably would never be on the same page. ISTP and INFP would be interesting since they have different observer functions too.
Good question. It becomes too much to put into 1 CZcams video. They don’t perform well usually when I actually dig into that much depth :( I’d love to tho. Maybe I’ll do it and see what happens ^^
I just started dating with a guy, who tells all the time about his feelings. I suppose he has to have Fe somewhere in the stack. I guess somewhere low, if he not necessairy sees my embarassment. This is so craaazy tiring for me.
Him talking to you about his emotions has nothing to do with the cognitive functions. Although, I will note that your reaction is exactly why most men prefer to stuff their emotions down. Because we know yall can't handle it, so why even bother? If you don't like it, then tell him that you don't like it. Communication is key. And if he decides to walk away after that, then let him go. He deserves to be seen and heard.
FJ : let's aim for the greater good / FP : let's aim for the closer good 😊
Interesting.
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FJs are all Fe users, as follows, which implies some level of concern for social harmony - the greater good . . .
INFJ = Ni Fe
ENFJ = Fe Ni
ISFJ = Si Fe
ESFJ = Fe Si
FP are all Fi users, as follows, which implies some level of concern for inner harmony - the closer good . . .
INFP = Fi Ne
ENFP = Ne Fi
ISFP = Fi Se
ESFP = Se Fi
Which is not to say they can't attend to both, naturally and comfortably, but that would require a good deal of maturity 😊
Extroverted feelers need to know where you are on a subject so they can bounce off that and judge how they feel. Kinda like a bat and sonar. So if you want to help them develop who they are; you actually need to share your views in detail. This is especially important for parents, bosses, partners or any kind of leaders. Sharing your thoughts and feelings is how we connect. If you want to be needed, you need to share who you are and relize that sometimes you are need to be a sounding board.
ENFJ's need to talk about your feelings because introspection on their own is a painful experience, and they're always imagining worst-case scenarios to the point they're afraid that if others knew what they were thinking it would scare them away. They would rather elevate what matters most to others and want what "their person" wants over themselves, to the point of self-detriment. Open, honest communication is absolutely necessary for a relationship with an ENFJ. Even if you don't want to in the moment, always tell them if you need a moment alone but that you'll discuss it as soon as you can and do so. Let them know your feelings and thoughts so they can ease their worst fears, and so they can form a clear plan for the future. Honesty and openness are key. - This is the voice of experience (happily married ~25 years).
you have done this spot on - excellent
Thank you for this video, Matt. I feel I have a better appreciation for the FJs in my life, especially the extraverted FJs. It's always interesting to me, to hear how we perceive and respond to scenarios so differently, and to find empathy and understanding across our preferences.
Thank you for the insight, much appreciated😀
You’re welcome ^^
needed this, thanks
With my limited experience with Fe, I would say in most cases it just ends up being a stalemate.
There is no big clash or anything, it just is what it is.
My mother (ISFJ), on one hand, is always making friends and those "friends" always end up using her or stealing from her.
My last supervisor (ENFJ), he was often overwhelming to talk to. I know it wasn't his intention, but his light just felt well beyond my pay grade.
I wonder how introverted thinking and introverted feeling would clash. They probably would never be on the same page. ISTP and INFP would be interesting since they have different observer functions too.
Good question.
It becomes too much to put into 1 CZcams video. They don’t perform well usually when I actually dig into that much depth :( I’d love to tho.
Maybe I’ll do it and see what happens ^^
this is an aspect i currently have. One of my best friends is ISFP so we have this ISFP ISTP friendship where Ti and Fi coexist
Ohh... I love my istp friend. She makes me see things through logic perspective and is empathetic towards me. I love her so much
Yeah they’re often strongly attracted to and intrigued by one another but are never on the same page. 99% of the time ends in disaster tbh.
It works as friends.
Thanks for making this video Matt.
Communicationships 🥰
My INFP.... sounds so sweet...
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Yes every one needs their own personal INFP. They make life better.
I just started dating with a guy, who tells all the time about his feelings. I suppose he has to have Fe somewhere in the stack. I guess somewhere low, if he not necessairy sees my embarassment. This is so craaazy tiring for me.
Did you talk to him about it?
Him talking to you about his emotions has nothing to do with the cognitive functions.
Although, I will note that your reaction is exactly why most men prefer to stuff their emotions down. Because we know yall can't handle it, so why even bother?
If you don't like it, then tell him that you don't like it. Communication is key.
And if he decides to walk away after that, then let him go. He deserves to be seen and heard.
great timing😂
Why’s that?