3 types of intrusive thoughts and what to do about them
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- čas přidán 17. 05. 2024
- Have you had thoughts that just won't stop? They may be what is called an intrusive thought. I want you to feel comfortable knowing that you're not alone. Let's go through 3 common intrusive thoughts that anyone can have. Especially if you have OCD or anxiety.
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How do your intrusive thoughts present themselves? 🧠
HOCD .! And it’s killing me😭🙁
Nathan I want to confirm the 3 intrusive thoughts: Sexual, Violent and Junk. It blended a little for me.
I got a repeating sentence in head. It makes think I'm gonna die from it sometimes.
I have harm ocd thought and I honestly believe im a sociopath please make a video on that
As germs being everywhete
ocd really feels like a part of ur brain is actively trying to hinder u from enjoying ur life
I used to say Tom Hanks after every thing i said. everyone thought it was so funny. but coudnt help it and i was so scared inside
Legitimately, tho.
The reason why I freaked out so much about the intrusive thoughts is because I thought they eventually influence you to commit them. Because of how frequent they are.
Me too. They have me thinking I'm a monster.
SAME! I am so glad people here understand me so well... i think we're more alike than we think. i have been dealing with this problem ever since i was a kid (i'm 25 now), but it got more severe around the past 5 years or so ago. throughout this time I've learned that no matter how much they come in your head, they can't make you do anything. and they won't change your beliefs or your mindset. so it gives me more faith and hope.
Exactly. I've been struggling so much with this things because at some point, I simply couldn't distinguish what was or wasn't a intrusive thought, it look like they were consuming me bit by bit until I actually became a horrible person. I never told this to anybody because I had a fair share of horrible intrusive thoughts about me and other people... It's truly terrifying
@@kurdishpotato amen to that!! It definitely takes skill to understand your thoughts and not take them too literal. But we care so much about our loved ones and others we want to stay accountable about what we think.
@@diversidadecientifica5450 Are you seeking treatment for it!? Through NOCD?
Our brains are our worst enemy at times
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Thank you. I thought I was a horrible person, it’s nice to know that what I am experiencing isn’t something I invited and I am not alone. I don’t want to allow these thoughts to consume me.
You are definitely not alone!
Omg me too I had thoughts about obscene things I thought I was a terrible person. I'm so happy I'm not alone.
@@ecomtrainer9972 you’re not alone at all
Yes undoubtedly you aren't alone
You are not alone.
I didn't know I had OCD until like 2 weeks ago. Literally had it all my life and didn't even know the name. When I go back to when the intrusive thoughts became the darkest (I'm talking freaking r4pe, inc3st, p3do) and the most constant, I almost unalived myself because if you don't know OCD is a thing it just feels like you are thw worst person alive and you are beyond any reasonable explanation (I lived 3 years like this). Please be aware that these thoughts can be incredibly dark and it is not your fault, you are sick, not a bad person. You wouldn't blame a diabetic for not being able to produce insulin, so don't blame yourself. The fact that these thoughts cause you so much distress is a sign of your goodness ❤️
I got diagnosed with OCD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting OCD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
My intrusive thoughts have been so horrible lately I want to not exist anymore. Hearing others talk about it takes some pressure off.
You got this, just keep going!
hey maggie it will work out for you.I know its weird but the thoughts make you feel weird, buit they wont break you
Keep going Maggie. You are not alone. Mostly you are loved. ❤️
IVE BEEN HAVING THESE WEIRD THOUGHTS AND ITS NOT EVEN FUNNYYYY SO BASICALLY IM IN YEAR 10 AND THERES THIS RANDOM KID IN YEAR 7 THAT I DONT EVEN KNOW AND HES CUTE BUT NOT IN THAT WAY BUT MY BRAIN ALWAYS TELLS ME TO THINK ABOUT HIS FACE FOR NO REASON AND NOW IM QUESTIONING IF I NEED TO GO TO A MENATL FACILITY OR SOMETHING SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME
Same.. I’m so fking tired.
Can we take a moment to thank this legendary man for what he does. I seriously can't believe that these tips worked. I went to many therapist and none of them made a difference with me but you, you made everything that I wished for and thank you for that!
This really made my day! 💜
I agree. Thank you for this video.
Does anyone happen to know the name of the song that’s playing in this video?
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The song is called "Islands In The Stream", sung by Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton. The song was written by Barry Gibb of the BeeGees.
Thank you for this and all the work you do. You are taking the fear out of these mental health conditions and bringing straightforward understanding to the problem. Thank you once again!
Sometimes it feels as if I'm thinking such things intentionally. I would think "Oh you're not your mind so think whatever you want!" But then later on I find myself extremely guilty and feel like a terrible person. I even have nervous breakdowns. I don't know what to do.
I’ve been dealing with this for the past couple of months it honestly has made me feel depressed and anxious/anxiety that it has taken over my life. This video really does help me because it makes me feel like I’m not crazy or not as guilty. I felt like a horrible person and couldn’t understand why am I thinking the way that I am but this video has truly open my eyes and I just wanted to say thank you 🙏.
A popular guru has said "The human mind is incapable of subtraction. It can only do addition and multiplication of thought."
That feeling when you realize there's a thing called intrusive thoughts and that you've silently suffered with this shit for 20 years thinking it was normal 😅
Same. Looking back now I can believe I actually did so many silly things thinking they were keeping me safe.
This really helped man, I have intrusive thoughts a lot and it feels nice to know I'm not alone in intrusive thoughts.
Stay strong friend. Me too. I just saw a few of these videos and for the first time I truly don't care if these thoughts keep coming back. I wouldn't even say these thoughts have gone away for me, but I feel ok with them now.
Of course! You are never ever alone.
for everyone dealing with this you are *not* alone and *good* *luck* *God* *bless*
My intrusive thoughts are mainly s*xual and it makes me feel awful about me
I was having this type of terrible thoughts these 5 last days, feeling like a bad person and was anxious about it, I’m glad that I’m not alone and can share my thoughts with you people!
How are you doing I’m scared
There is something in the way you talk that makes me feel more normal 🧡
Thank you so much, Nathan!! You are a lifesaver. Struggling with “pure” OCD for 1.5 years now, and episodes of anxiety and certain temporary obsessions over my life, I didn’t get a formal diagnosis until this past December. Learning about OCD makes so much sense now! And the connection it has to previous or childhood stress and trauma. Your videos and your positive energy have made a difference in my life, as has therapy. You are doing God’s work. May you continue to be happy and blessed! We love you Nathan!
This is so kind. Thank you! I am glad I could help you.
I’m having the exact same ocd junk thoughts. They won’t stop. I finally found a video that put it the best into words what my problem is. Been on citalopram for 3 weeks. Nothing has changed. Overall two months of pure terror I’ve had.
I've been dealing with OCD tendencies and Scrupilosity for many years. These types of thoughts are just so draining and distorting. Thanks for the vid
Feeling better?
7:19 When I try to not care if they stick around forever I think, wow, what if they really do stick around forever, and then I feel grief at the possibility and it's harder to not feel that rise of anxiety with the intrusive thought
Hate it when some of my intrusive thoughts start with "I want" or "I'm" and they're very declarative, it's really terror inducing.
Or "Im going to../I will" Even when i know logically that i won't go that.. It's crazy..been struggling with OCD for about 5 months now..I hope you got better
'A thought is just a thought' This video and learning more about intrusive thoughts has helped me to deal with it better,I deal with intrusive thoughts and anxiety on a daily basis, it ain't easy but I believe that it's going to get better, Thank u for this video
Hi, i'm 50 yrs old. my crippling OCD has me constantly holding my breath, physically feeling these intrusive thoughts in my head, obsessing over every little thing i see... even words... therefore makes reading a task. i can't stare at anything more than a second. i can't absorb anything anyone says. it makes me not want to live because there is no quality. I'm self conscious and have no self esteem or confidence. nothing but guilt 24/7 and my heart races from the anxiety all day long..
i honestly thought i was the only one, and i'm just born with a shorted circuit. It wasn't until recently I've discovered its debilitating ocd..
Look, it even prevented me from reading and researching my conditions .. I'm fighting through it while typing this.. I'm so over it
thank you for doing this xo
My OCD level has recently reached to the point that I keep a deep breath until something positive pops up in my mind and that's definitely hurting! Tnx for your informative video! I'm struggling hard ! Wish me luck !
I wish you all the luck in the world 🧡
Wow bro you really helped me I’ve been struggling for about 5 years now and hearing this just flipped everything for the better
Thank you so much. I’ve been dealing with horrible thoughts for the past few days and It’s taken a toll on my mental health but after seeing everybody going through the same thing it has really made me feel so much better. It’s getting better day by day and I feel myself coming back : )
I seriously thought that I was becoming a crazy person. It's really nice to know that I'm just having thoughts and not creating fcats
Every so often I have intrusive thoughts and when they come they hit me so hard and I’m so glad I’m not alone. I love people and myself so when I think like this it makes me uneasy. They normally go away after a few days/weeks and I really believe doing nothing allows them to fade off!
THANK YOU! As a young person with many intrusive thoughts this is helpful, as I recently the gates of my mind fortress broken into, and attacked by these thoughts.
I don’t know how you don’t have millions of followers. You’re amazing and the humor is on point! Thank you so much for your work 👏🏻
Thank you very much for this video. This is very valuable to my life. It's a relief to know that these thoughts are just normal and it is when we make a big deal out it that it bothers us!
It blows my mind whenever I hear that example of the person who just notices the thought and goes "huh, that was weird..." and let's it go. To me that's like hearing someone had their foot run over by a car and went, "huh, that was odd..." and kept walking. It shows me how different I am and helps me want to seek help.
Didnt get the last part about driving and obsessing about it now 😂
I had no idea I had so many intrusive thoughts until you talked about the types. I've had a intrusive thought a couple of days ago and it emotionally drained me. I tried to find steps and ways to stop it, but just like you said, it kept coming back. I hope your method works and am going to try my best to welcome the thoughts instead of trying to push it away. Thank you!
I’m so glad I found your channel.
Your overall demeanor is so calming and it helps me feel like this mountain I’m climbing is simply a hike. Thank you!
Thank you so much, all of the thoughts I’ve been having have been just decimated my life and the things I do every day I’m so grateful that people like you are talented and helpful enough to make these informal if it weren’t for you I was going to probably have some type of crisis!
You and your videos are truly amazing, when i am panic mode i come back to your videos and it is the only thing that helped me so far ❤🙏
Your understanding of intrusive thoughts and how to treat them is commendable Nathan.
It feels so good knowing that I'm not alone! Thank you for such a wise and helpful video. ☺️
You offer the best OCD advice I've seen from anyone on CZcams hands down. Bravo.
It's so good to know that you aren't the only one. I didn't drive for years because I would have thoughts of crashing on purpose! But I've got a driving test booked soon Or what if I hurt someone. You really make sense in what you say I'm going to give it a try. 🙌🏻
You are right on. Everything you’re saying makes so much sense to me, because I am working on recovery even as we speak. Thanks for your contribution.
Thank you Nate! You have no idea how much this video helps.
Thanks Nathan. I've had pure O for 40 years and only just began with ERP therapy in the UK. I've found your videos very helpful. Keep up the good work. It seems like there is more understanding of pure O and OCD in general in the US. Mine has robbed me of so much over the years but I am now having some days where I feel happy in my own skin.
Wholesome and appreciative!!
I love you for this video ❤. Intrusive harm thoughts really, really scared me. Not creating a plan and inviting a thought just as a thought will help me. I have faith.
Thank you so much. This is literally helpful. I'm going to follow whatever you said and Thanks I loved it when you said " They are just thoughts ".
❤️❤️🙏
Thank you 😍
This actually works. Will see how it goes forward
Thank you so much! The thoughts are harmless and don’t mean anything.
Thank you for sharing this . I now don’t feel alone anymore knowing I was going through this .
I'm so glad!
Wow I came to search on CZcams for my problem and it hasn't disappointed as usual! I thought it was a CPTSD thing and it's probably related, and I knew I had other OCDs, but it never occurred to me that these thoughts are OCDs! And they're not just thoughts, they're feelings. I have a phobia of biology and I feel all sorts of unpleasant things, sharp things hurting me in my most vulnerable places! It doesn't feel like I can handle them anymore and it's definitely counterintuitive to invite them to stay, but I'm willing to try anything! Thank you
Tysm for making this video, ive experienced extreme trauma from last year, it has given me night terrors, and now recently intrusive thoughts that may have stemmed from this. I cant look at anything or anyone the same ever since my intrusive thoughts gotten worse, and its like true hell for me, maybe worse than the actual trauma itself. This video made me feel like an actual person again, i was so scared i was a person with no worth to walk on this earth like everyone else does, and I'm so happy that the intrusive thoughts i have are common amongst other people, it makes me feel not alone, and i really hope these strategies work, tysm for helping people like me who cant get personal therapists ♥️
I wish you the best in life ❤
Thank you for this. It gave me such a relief knowing I’m not alone. From now on I will treat my thoughts as my bestie lol. Coz the more I stop it the more it will keep coming back.
Love your videos, would love another about illness anxiety disorder if possible :) Seems to be where I have become stuck
I joined therapy and it helped my OCD tremendously but now it has morphed into relationship anxiety :( Your videos help me so much. I really want my relationship to work. Could you make a video on normal changes that happen as couples spend more and more time together and how these might not seem normal to a brain stuck on anxiety? Like my boyfriend was telling me about this idea and I yawned while hearing it and that made me question my interest in the idea, and then him, it is honestly hellish.
Thanks for sharing your experiences. Have you run into my relationship OCD video?
czcams.com/video/9NdKSEVDGO8/video.html
This may help!
Thank you Nate, this video really helped bring some comfort and hope for dealing with difficult thoughts. I never thought doing nothing would be the best approach to managing my intrusive thoughts lol. I have spent too much time in the past trying to understand thoughts rather than letting them be. This video helped me to see clearly that only the importance I place on intrusive thoughts gives them power. Thank you again, look forward to future content!
You've got it! I am so glad I could provide some help.
This has gotta be one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received ❤
Wow, thank you! I'm glad you think so.
Thank you so much Nathan! I have experienced all of these kind of thoughts and now you've explained them it makes so much sense. I have come to accept the fact that they happen to everybody and me having those thoughts do not necessarily mean anything.
Glad I could help!
Jayashree. Be careful what you feed your mind. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. One more tip is to sit on a chair without moving, be still and observe your breath for a few minutes. Stillness reduces thoughts and brings quick relief. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I feel way so much Thank you so much I was waiting desperately for somebody to do something
Love your videos, your advice has been extremely helpful for me, it made me realise how thoughts are and always will be just meaningless junk and nothing else. Love your videos. Keep up the good work Nathan!!!
Thank you, Matas! It bring me joy knowing that you enjoy the content.
I really want to give u a hug. Really really want you to be my therapist. Thanks for the videos, Nate!
Wow, thank you! Glad you like them.
I am really grateful that I met channel like this, now I am getting better and undestand what is going on. But I am still somehow dealing with it, like I should make myself sure, remind myself that I have OCD and doubt to keep calm...
Hey! First of all Thank you so much, you are literally saving my life, i am doing good... So kindly make a vid on Racing thoughts also if you can !! (I love you
Racing thoughts, yes! Great suggestion! 🤩
Great idea. I will add this to my list. I think the one closest related I have right now is my rumination video. czcams.com/video/7U9DGeT8OPw/video.html
Same.
Yep i would really appreciate one on racing thoughts too!
Please do one on racing thoughts caused from OCD 👍
Awesome video! Love the way you describe this so well.
This is a great video Nate! Your videos have helped me so much in my recovery process - they are incredible. It's almost like you can see inside my head! I could not be more grateful for all the work you've done for the OCD, anxiety, and mental health community. And I love the sense of humor you use with the sound effects and music in your videos - it really helps me to use a humorous approach with my OCD!
Thanks so much for the kind words! That means a lot!
Also, I think it's a really good point about feeling like some thoughts are different from the rest - like I can't just let these thoughts be because they're special for whatever reason - even though logically, I know they aren't! It's just OCD playing tricks on me.
Great video, for me the thougths have a lot of power when I am more fragile, If I am depressed or I have a lack of sleep.
Thank you so much for this video 🙏 ... This has helped me and I have started saying thank you to everything ... Previously I was only grateful for happy things ... I learned a true lesson of gratefulness today ... I feel so much better now 🙏🙏
Thanks for explaining my pain. I literally been trapped in this cycle. Since my surgery these thoughts want let me live. Thanks may God bless you!!! Keep teaching techniques I need it...
Just found this channel a few days ago and I just wanted to say thank you ❤️. I’m a senior in hs right now and recently experienced my biggest ocd flare up yet and your channel has been doing me good. Thank you thank you thank you
I'm a senior in HS this year, my ocd intrusive thoughts kicked in hard a couple of days ago. They're awful and I refuse to tell anyone about them. I honestly don't know what to do.
Great video bro, Your face is so calming, you channel and theme all are so calming. Much Appreciated for your videos
Thank you so much, ive been dealing with things like this awhile and this is helping me a bit! Thank you nate! ❤
Thank you SO MUCH. I have been suffering with this for so long. I was so scared at first because I did not understand why I was having these thoughts but then, somehow, I realized that this might be OCD. Thanks for all of your tips. I am getting so much better at accepting the thoughts rather than trying to push them away. The only thing I still have to work on is my checking compulsion. This usually comes when school starts. Thanks again. 😊😊😊
Thank you for sharing! I am so glad I could help.
Thank you so much I have intrusive thoughts that want to destroy my life ,I lost my mum I keep on blaming myself for her death,over not prayers,and when ever I see one I have this urge to tell he or she to be prayerful,this keep happening for 11 years, thank you for this content.
Recently diagnosed with rumination ocd. Also prolonged grief disorder. It's so debilitating 😢
Incredible video. Thank you!
I can’t tell u how good I felt after watching this video 😭.! God bless you my friend
Wow, thank you!
Since the pandemic, I keep thinking about literally EVERY SINGLE interaction, word, my every move that I had in that day, that week, that year! It got better after the pandemic ended, but they still happen. I‘m trying really hard to accept them and let them go, It‘s super annoying and makes my self worth go down but I really want to understand them and not worry so much about this anymore
I suspect that I developed some kind of anxiety or maybe even depression but idk if I‘m making this up… I used to have so many self harm and suicidal thoughts aswell, but gladly they went away
Thank you bro , ur explanation is amazing
You’re videos are very helpful thank you!
Without going into too much detail I’m currently dealing with some harmful intrusive thoughts that I’m scared of because if acted upon could possibly end up getting myself killed they started off small but they evolved into a lot more dangerous things and have been tempted to do dangerous stuff but like you said for a few days I just fight through the pain and continue with my day like the thought isn’t happening and I need to rewrite my brain to thinking that those thoughts are just thoughts I was recently diagnosed with ocd and it’s cause me to so many compulsions but they eventually got worse so in order for me to stop them completely I just have to simply,like you said,live life!
I’m 18 and have a really good memory. I have a very love hate relationship with my good memory. It really is a great thing. But such a curse at the same time. I was diagnosed with ocd intrusive thoughts 2 years ago. But I think I’ve had the ocd since elementary school. It drives me insane when unpleasant thoughts play in my mind over and over again. I’ve been super close to punching a wall a few times and have thrown things a few times. Almost everyone I know is so jealous of my good memory. They don’t realize the downside to it. I’ve tried literally everything to help with my intrusive thoughts. And some things have helped a little but not enough. So I went on ocd meds about a month ago and haven’t seen much improvement. But I really hope I’ll see some improvement soon
Feeling better?
Thank you I'm starting to realise I'm not alone 🙏
I love this video. Thank you so much. I needed this so much
Thank you. I got stuck in an obsessive thought-loop this morning and wasted a lot of time. Then I got mad at myself for having wasted all that time doing mental rituals and later physical rituals (compulsions).
What I was obsessing about was so stupid and so unrealistic, but I just couldn't shake the 0.00001% possibility that it could've happened.
I kept telling myself to just accept the anxiety, talk back to it and move on using the tips you've taught in previous videos, but I just thought that if I thought about it for a few more seconds then I could solve it and feel better. I knew that was a lie but I hoped this time would be different.
An hour and a half later...
So as much as I wanted to just move on with my day, I couldn't. I knew that eventually the anxiety would go away, but living with the anxiety in the meantime is just so uncomfortable!
I knew I was giving into OCD, but I just wanted to get rid of the anxiety. I knew that solving it would cause more anxious thoughts to come, but I just didn't care because "I needed to get rid of the anxiety". That's all I could think about. But compulsions led to new obsessions.
Here's what's so sinister about my OCD: I know it's OCD. I know the events I'm worried about didn't happen or won't happen. And I know that once I solve the obsession, I'll just have a new obsession about something else. And then my brain will immediately accept that the former obsession was complete nonsense. I knew that all along, but my brain was still struggling with the "what if?"
It's like I have two brains: My rational brain and then my OCD brain. My regular brain knows something isn't a risk or concern, but my OCD brain screams its concerns so loudly. And in order to move on, I have to appease the OCD brain.
But once I give in to the obsession, my brain will immediately acknowledge that the former obsession was asinine and not a real concern. I won't even worry about that former obsession anymore because now I'm obsessed with something new. And then I'll regret that I gave in to the former obsession and I'll beat myself up over it.
But at the same time, if I didn't give in to that obsession and perform the compulsion, then I'd still be experiencing anxiety about the former obsession.
So I have a choice: (1) Live with the anxiety of the current obsession or (2) Perform a compulsion and then immediately regret doing so because now my brain accepts that the former obsession was stupid, and then be obsessed with something new.
Rinse and repeat.
Here's a real example: I'm worried that I scratched my phone screen. I know it's stupid and I know it's unrealistic. I know I didn't do it. But I can't shake the feeling that maybe I did, because my fingernails are a little longer than I normally keep them. Or maybe I think I tapped my screen a little harder than I normally do, so now I'm worried that I cracked or scratched the screen.
I struggle with neurotic perfectionism: One of the ways this manifests is that I can't accept when I've done something to damage or alter something from its original or perceived-perfect state. Especially if that situation could've been easily avoided. If someone else damages it, I find it easier to accept. But not me.
So I try to move on and live with the anxiety. I try to get on with my day. But I just can't shake the feeling that there's a scratch on my phone screen. The anxiety builds. I can't focus on anything else. I know what will happen if I give in to the compulsion, but I hope that this time will be different.
We're all familiar with that lie, right?
So I give in and inspect my phone for scratches. I don't see any on the screen. Phew! I feel better, but now I'm worried that when I picked up my phone to look at the screen, my fingernails scratched the rear camera lens. And a scratched camera lens is way worse than a scratched screen!
My anxiety is through the roof!
My brain immediately accepts the reality that there was never a true fear or concern that my screen was scratched. My brain accepts that it was stupid all along. So I immediately regret giving in to that obsession.
And then I immediately start worrying about having potentially scratched the camera lens. And then I beat myself up over the possibility, because it could've been so easily avoided had I not checked my screen for scratches. Especially when I "knew" the screen obsession was my OCD and not a real fear.
So now the lens obsession is a new obsession. What do I do? Do I live with that anxiety or do I check the camera lens for scratches?
Rinse and repeat.
I could write books about all the ways OCD and anxiety manifest in my life.
Thank you for your channel. It has been really helpful.
And to all of you who are struggling with OCD and anxiety, my heart goes out to you. ❤️
Thank you for being so honest. This helps people with recovery!!
@@hollyflaxman633 You are so welcome! It was very liberating to explain all of that. I normally keep it as hidden as possible lol.
This is literally me rn.. im wasting my time getting anxious abt a thought which I know isn’t true. Like that event just can’t happen but my ocd is trying so bad to convince me that I might’ve done that horrible thing and I’m just pretending to have not done it uh..
On top of it, my ocd asks me, “look if someone gets to know what you’ve done, what will they say? Won’t they think of you as a psychopath?” Which increases the anxiety 10x times..
further my rational brain tells me accept the thought (just as how most people in vids say…) but then my ocd changes it’s side saying “if you haven’t done it at all, if you can’t imagine doing that at all, then why would you accept in the first place?” And that’s how it forces me to get into a debate w my minds and end up wasting me time. Uh, this is just to tiring … my ocd attaches such inappropriate irrational sexual meanings to every single thing and then I’ve to sit and figure out what were my honest intentions .. I feel like I’m out of the world lol .. like I’m someone who’s totally a crazy person n others will stay away from me if they ever get to know
@@sleepykid2079 hey man. I feel you dude. Its this constant thing that someting needs to be SOLVED! and unt it is not solved we cannot move on with life. Man i hate it so much i often cry thinking how my life is being wasted like this and how happy i would be if i didnt have this stupid disorder!!!! It is so hard to stay anxious without trying to engage and problem solve the thoughts because it keeps going. Hopefully we all find peace in life
You said when someone else do it, you will accept, but when you do it, you can't accept it.. It means you have compassion for others but you don't have compassion for yourself.. Please start with self compassion.. Research on it extensively please
Sorry for being a month late but, this video was great despite what some may think is a simplistic answer. Many do what we believe handles a mental issue, though sometimes ironically places us in the opposite direction. Sometimes the solution is simple, and you surely helped. Thanks Nathan!!
Great video man ! Very helpfull ! I am having intrusive thoughts for more than a month now and it feels pretty scary !
Glad it was helpful!
Omg thanks bro so helpful. Also cool frog photo
For what it's worth, the brain is powerful! So if it picks up on random perceptions you didn't realize, it may freak you out as if your brain is doing its own thinking without you (which it is). You can think of song lyrics, for example, from hearing a few words that match or a song comes to mind because you heard a snippet of a similar string of notes... And these kind of examples are more numerous than we tend to catch on to, given some of the blame for some thoughts or feelings that can occur unexpectedly.
This has made me smile and that for me is a very good thing!
This helped me so much, thank you ! 💕
I smiled bc of this. Been a while to smile without some form of comedy. Thank you sir
a loved one once called me characterless whom i trust more than myself then doing some silly things which really made me feel m a donkey they are just continously trying to test me if m actually good for them but it putted me in self doubts and i felt so scared of my ownself thnks alot man your video helped me alot i was having a right approch to fesolve this issue even before your video but u made me more confident 😊😊
I'm trying to work on not reacting but it's so concerning and scary when I don't because then my brain says I changed and like it now. It's so draining because these are awful things, I know I had them for years but it was never this bad and my days are spent struggling and no matter how much I try to do the work, no matter how many signs there are that it's OCD I still doubt myself because I struggle to believe I'm a good person.
Also you say don't label it but a lot of other Doctors say to name it and I get confused.
Your first sentence is very relatable for me. Thank you for saying this, because I thought I was alone in that department. When I don't react, I start to feel like I've changed "my"mind too, but let me tell you this...the universe is with you and loves you. When I'm struggling with it, I ask for signs. And they're signs are never them punishing me for it, they know I have intrusive thoughts, like c'mon now lol. Just...always know it's not your fault. These thoughts may stem from past trauma, or maybe they just happen. Either way, it isn't your fault, and the Universe (or God, whatever you prefer to say 🙂) already knows you're not a bad person. The fact that you're even CONCERNED and seeking HELP just shows you aren't. Whilst others let it take them over, and they actually start to ACT ON those thoughts, and can care less about getting help or getting better. Just remember that. You are loved, and you're NOT a bad person, okay? ❤
I’m commonly having these thoughts and almost always they are violent and mostly involve people I would never hurt and made me wonder if I myself were mentally I’ll but just knowing doing nothing helps makes me feel way better and not isolated
I’m the exact same man, been dealing with this for about 4 months now although the thoughts will change every so often about different things, but the thoughts of hurting people I love give me the most anxiety as it’s something I would never do, it makes me feel like the lowest person on earth, hope your doing good👍🏼
bro u saving lives, greetings from iran!
I keep getting these thoughts mostly at night sometime I would watch like a horror movie and then I would think that it would be me in that situation but it's awful to think about at night so I'm glad I saw this video cause you saved the day
Wow Keep up the content!! It’s really helpful. I’m getting so much more clarity on what I have and how to fix it.
Great to hear!
My WORST intrusive thoughts are from extreme traumatic events. I seriously don't want to remember those things.
Because they make me cry everytime I remember!!
Thank you very much, I am looking forward to just zoning into stuff again.