Feeling Incapable To Work Because Of Your Social Anxiety?
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- Social anxiety can make you feel like you’re incapable and this can be very depressing when it makes you feel like that when you’re at work. Here’s what to do: socialanxietyad...
In this video I show you why I believe that you’re perfectly capable of doing your job and what you should do to feel this way as well.
You see, if you got hired, you were able to convince human resource department that you’re the right one for that job. If they believe it then it must be true. After all, they’ve probably hired and fired many people before they hired you, so they know what they are looking for. And obviously, they have found it in you.
Just take one step at a time and learn something new every day. This kind of attitude will ensure that you make progress on a daily basis, which will ensure that at some point you won’t feel the anxiety anymore. You will become perfectly capable of doing that job.
If you enjoyed this video, you might also want to check out my blog on social anxiety disorder and get more tips on how to deal with your social phobia.
socialanxietyad...
People with social anxiety aren’t afraid of tasks, they’re afraid of social interactions.
Hence the term ”social anxiety”.
but when working you have to meet the standards of what your boss wants, through tasks. If you don't understand a task you let your coworkers and boss down.
Forest Sense That goes for people without social anxiety too.
It’s as relevant as telling us to be at work in time or to avoid drunk driving on the way there.
social anxiety is about people trying to bully you
Bro if u let's all the staff bully u even boss and manager bully do u still stay or quit?
It's the anxiety of worrying about what others think about how or when you do the tasks
i want a job farming in the nature, i think there is something wrong with the society we live in, not something wrong with us
Nikole Ribeiro I feel you😭
I too want to work in farm
That's what I am thinking too. And glad to know that I am not alone thinking about that.
Facts bro they all make it sound and seem sooooo easy life is horrible
I love you for saying this. Thanks
it's the colleagues, office settings and the culture that gave me anxiety..nt the job itself
Same..
Very true
Same
Offices are weird, I don't think I could work in one again
@@CurtisEbanks Same here Curtis. Just the thought of walking into an office gives me anxiety.
I was fired from a serving job two weeks after getting it because I 'wasn't getting it'. I struggle with severe anxiety and the restaurant had a huge menu I couldn't memorize properly. I felt like it was unfair but I never spoke out about it. Thanks for making this video, I thought I was the only one.
i hope u have found yourself a new job and are happy with it
Taylor Nicole I was fired 7 months ago from my first job as a nurse at a nursing home. I had severe anxiety while and after working there. I have a new job at a hospital and I’m still anxious about “not getting it.” You are not the only one going through this. Stay strong my friend
how's it going so far?
Taylor Nicole I’m so happy that someone understands. I’m a hostess and I’m not getting it );
It's best to find a job that best suits you so that you could easily build up to it, n get use to social interaction. Ex: stocking, bagging, cleaning
I still don’t understand why society tends to think all people have the same capacity(stress tolerance, amount of hours capable of continuous labor, weather we value life over work and how much).
It’s always the blame on the less capable that their effort isn’t enough compared to the majority.
Unless you’re mentally or physically ill, society treats us all the same. It lowers the self esteem of individuals so much because they always have to compare the outcome to others with higher capacity.
Because free market capitalism anarchy is a FAILURE!
@@theultimatereductionist7592 capitalist anarchy is kind of an oxymoron because capital=power and anarchy is against systems of power but yeah
This sounds like an entitled attitude. I feel for anyone who struggles with any mental (or physical for that matter) health issue, especially since I have had my fair share. But what I will say is this. There are jobs on the market. Any job will require a minimum amount of competence. If you are not competent enough for the job they will let you go. That sounds fair to me. If I managed to fluke a CEO position of a FTSE100 or Fortune500 company and couldn't keep up with the pace required for the job they would simply fire me. If you are socially anxious and the job requires you to not be socially anxious e.g. sales then you probably won't get the job or be fired shortly after. Its nothing personal but this entitled attitude reinforces a belief that society is at fault or big companies are conspiring against you. Most mental illnesses can be overcome or at least managed by putting in the work required. Take responsibility. Put in the work. You will be amazed what you can do with your life.
@@nazty121 I had anxiety idk why people don’t meditate it helped mind and also consciously forcing yourself into situation u are anxious about eventually it’ll became second nature
@@nazty121 you're the one who sounds entitled, prick.
I work a job right now and my anxiety is so bad i just clench my fist and cant remember anything, all i can focus on is what people are thinking about me, i get so paranoid there, and i've tried overcoming it by doing everything that makes me nervous, and it just makes it worse
I quit that job.
Pepe Savage yeah at a different place
Omg im so glad im not the only one ! Im completing a week today and i am so anxious. Ive done a lot of mistakes and i just feel so stupid and inadequate
@@dianac7746 how is going for you now. I would appreciate to here your feedback.
@@hunter7527 why did you quit
That’s it? People with anxiety aren’t ungrateful man, we just want to learn how to subdue anxiety during work hours. I quit my job in August due to anxiety because I kept vomiting and fainting throughout. Not once has it ever occurred to me that I wanna make money sitting down. I want to work, and challenge myself while keeping my anxiety at bay. Sorry, this wasn’t helpful at all.
Update?
How are you now? I can relate.
I can relate with vomiting. It makes me more anxious because I'm afraid to vomit in public. . . .
omg vomiting i hope you doing good now
He doesn't seem to understand what social anxiety even is 😂
I'm fucked up bad I'm 36 and can't live a normal life
Wow, I’ve been getting jobs and nailing the interviews all of that, and then quitting right after. Because of such bad anxiety. And this video is spot on for how I feel and what I’ve been dealing with. Thank you so much for making this video, you’re so kind and assuring.
Same
How are u now?
That's exactly I do. I feel nervous every day. After, I have been billed twice. I can handle with interviews but job is hard and I'm trying to heal myself and move on but it's hard. USA work culture is toxic. So much gossip and unprofessionilsm.
Working is not the main problem. The anxiety to me is the looking, hearing, talking of surround people ..... Not happy at all!
@@x_270rr_s3 I am upset/mad too, I feel like they wanna to know "that person" like them, hate them ...while i just wanna come to work to pay bill and go home!? PERIOD!
My anxiety actually causes me to make infinitely more mistakes than I would if no one was monitoring me. Sick of it.
Same, this is the biggest problem I have with social anxiety and you have to build up dealing with this through exposure therapy but it burns you out. It’s to the point if I’m around a person that makes me anxious enough, I get anxious even opening a door in front of them if they’re watching what I’m doing. Yet I’m a cashier and do things in front of people everyday. That’s how bad and crippling it could be.
It feels the worse when you feel like the spotlight is now completely on you. Opposed to where each crew member has a lil spot light. Shit, if a coworker was walking behind me- I’d be psyching myself out to the point I may affect my stride etc.
Once I can handle this shit even better, man how liberating it’ll be.
Its really hard, but I’m not gonna lie- there are amazing positives that are birthed from some of these negatives.
Make sure you figure those out- feel good about ourself. Then target all the bad, laze, inactivity and the reasons. And then push- all you can do. Especially if you’re completely alone
And that all being said, feel my most attractive, motivated, etc self since a long time. But the Sun still crushes me too, I’m just not lost. But- not being lost doesn’t give you the full benefit, like power from an Infinity stone.
Still gotta get that shit-
@@Jinjin_15dude i’m the same way, if i feel like people are looking my way i start stumbling and questioning how i walk, when i go to talk to someone i just start sweating and shaking a little bit its so hard to deal with. i feel so ugly and like everyone’s constantly judging me
Start you own business??
Whenever i get an interview i just dont want to go through it. 😐
Hell is other people.
I have pretty bad social anxiety but I work for a residential company as a project manager and talk with clients everyday. I remember when I first started I would get so nervous before work that I would throw up in my backyard before leaving every morning! I have come to realize that my anxiety was all from not fully being comfortable with my tasks and having to ask a million questions to other builders for help. After 3 months it got a LOT easier to understand and deal with. To people feeling like quiting a new job because you feel under qualified, news flash, EVERYONE FEELS UNDERQUALIFIED ENTERING A NEW JOB. don't stress, life's too short and there are a shortage of every job right now.
This comment actually helped me. Thank you ❤️
I'm happy it was a simple fix for you. I've had VERY easy jobs that I was very comfortable with completing, and my anxiety level was high. Because I still had to be around people to do it. SOCIAL anxiety
You get me. Thank you for this comment.
I'm literally about to be homeless because of my society anxiety
How are things now? Hope your ok.
I hope ur doing alright bud❤
I love this video! This is exactly what gives me anxiety about work. I feel bad about myself not knowing how to do everything at work even though I barely started working there last month. Employees make it look so easy and I just wish I could be like them. Thank you so much for this video
Cakefacexochi same
So happy to know im not alone❤️😓
Cakefacexochi exactly how I feel! I have had to quit my last two jobs bc of it after only a couple days!
We are on the same page ! Everyone says it will be okay and i will learn but it just doesnt feel like it to me
Thought i was the only one..
I've been unemployed and out of education for over a year now, not for lack of trying, and have this constant feeling that I'm running out of time. I'm on benefits which forces me to apply for hundreds of jobs to avoid getting sanctioned (I need the pressure as I have zero drive otherwise). I struggle to even accept an interview (when I actually get offered one) and have turned down plenty of opportunities because of my social anxiety. The interviews I forced myself to attend I have failed miserably due to my innate awkwardness and complete lack of social skills. I feel stuck, hopeless, worthless, can't even say I feel underappreciated because what's there to appreciate? I spend the days just rotting away in my bedroom. I'll try to overcome this but the prospects are looking bleak to me.
I feel the same way as you. Just finished my second masters degree in economics and everyone pressures me to get a job at my field. The thing is u struggle a lot with my anxiety and can't even apply for a job. My thoughts are focused just on how bad i will perform! I try to overcome my overthinking and seize the opportunity by not giving a fuck! Hopefully we' ll get where we want if we stop overthinking and undermining our ownselves.. ,
Story of my life
Going through this as well...people look at me as if im lazy and irresponsible..as a mom it hits harder coz i feel like im failing as provider
Shortly after I made this comment, I got a job through the jobcentre. It was advertised as a WFH, online job when I applied for it, but it turned out to be working in a small kitchen (can't say one role because it was everything; cooking, preparing, cleaning, serving, sometimes delivering if short on drivers, stocktaking, sometimes restocking from local stores if we ran out of something on the job, all that stuff). The interview was non-existent so I got the job.
It caused me so much social anxiety that my body eventually grew numb to it. It was not like I "overcame" my social anxiety, I just tuned my brain off to it, like a machine, so I could get on with the job. Barely spoke a word except to customers, which took everything in me to force. Inevitably depression filled the hole, I felt like I was wading through quicksand all the time while my colleagues were on dry ground, never felt competent. I couldn't bottle the stress up any longer so I quit after almost 11 months.
I've been unemployed for almost a year again, but I've been too afraid/ashamed to sign on. I bought a rope and keep it under my bed, for when the fear/apathy/malaise is greater than my body's instinct to stay alive. I came close recently, my head felt tight and was spinning, my eyes felt like blackholes, there was this low humming in my ears and a sunken empty feeling in my chest. I wanted to curl up and cry but couldn't. I saw my pathetic life for what it was, a life governed by fear and denial, I felt melancholy for the impermanence and meaninglessness of everything, how everyone I love will die and I didn't embrace the time they were alive, how life is just going in circles distracting ourselves from this awful truth, how I refused to change and pushed everyone away and threw away all my opportunities. The difference is that time I couldn't stop the thoughts, couldn't sleep it off or distract myself. It was like a continuation of all the times I shut them down, rolled into one. They gradually dissipated, but for a moment I thought "Why not end this misery?"
@@billjones642 hi bill, i am reading your comment and just wanted to say the cheesy thing everyone says, you’re not alone. i am only a stranger but i still love you and you deserve this world. i just quit a job i loved from constant panic attacks so i understand life fucking sucks. it seems pointless 70% of the time but i luckily have the part of me that misses how i used to be. find who you used to be and use it to bring yourself out little by little. if you need help reply! we can help each other
Yes I have that problem and no one believes me I have a faculty degree ...and my parents think that I am lazy...the life has become a nightmare to me.
I thought im the only one who feels incompetent, and terrified to go to work. Im trying to find a job now i havent been working for 4 years now. Im super terrified. And my confidence gone low
R u okay now?
what do you do when youre not working?
I've had a couple instances where I got the job, got to the parking lot on time for the first day, and then I get anxiety or a panic attack, and then leave. It's super crippling.
I can totally relate. Sorry to hear that.
I feel you
How are you doing now? Today was supposed to be a first day for me, but I didn't even get to the parking lot
@@tinaxvp hey. does it get better?
I just got into a new job a month ago
Its a very stressful environment....speedy decision making is key ...but so is being accountable..i feel its going too fast for me...i've been constantly forced into different tasks with little or no training ..although my colleagues are nice people i always end up doing mistakes.. i feel like i so guilty and stupid because i am a spow learner and have always been...going to work everyday is like going to war..anxiety is affecting my focus and overall performance..i am just too busy worrying whether i 'll screw up i am just struggling to learn things...
I am going through the exact same thing. I just started a job a month ago and from day 1 I had problems with my memory, trying to concentrate and think clear enough to get the job, while the rest of the people who started with are breezing right through. Everday I get further and further behind. This job you have to learn a lot and then do the job at a very fast pace with no errors. Daily I get talked to about errors I made. Or I have to get additional help just to do half of what the others are doing and they are all very fast, leaving me in the dust
@@bayyinahjefferson4558 how are you doing now?? I want to get a job but im afraid I’ll struggle to do my job properly 😪
Same problem ahe maza Abhishek bhawa..any solution
These past few months I've rejected many Job Interviews because I was scared with people not the Job itself. Its hard but im trying my best to overcome this anxiety.
Same
I didn't even apply for a job, because I'm anxious about the communication in the interviews and the job itself
Me too I'm scared to be honest.
I feel like this is the only place anyone will understand things like this because people would just look at you like you’re nuts when/ if you tell them something like this in real life. Making it even worse….
“It’s just an interview” “it shouldn’t cause you this much anxiety what’s wrong with you” “why can’t you just talk to people more” or the classical yelling like that’s going to help you improve.
thank you for this video man. returning to work later this week after being off work due to anxiety and depression. this video has really helped motivate me and prepare me for the return, much love
Kyle Quinn I hope all is well
I've just watched this video and I'm still so anxious about my new job,I no I can do it but feel petrified all the time and I don't even no why,it's ruining everything,I can't sleep,I just want to leave an run away from it but I no I can't do that,it's so tiring 😥
same
Hey, I wanted to ask, since it´s an entire year later, how are things?
@@pikminfanclub Hi, how time flys. Well I’m still at the same work place which is a positive ,but unfortunately I still suffer with anxiety,I think it’s something I’m going to have to live with,oh and thank you for asking ❤️
@@Suzy-yd2ko that´s great to hear! (still working part, not the anxiety) but I hope you can deal with your anxiety in some way shape or form! I am sure it´s not easy, especially in a work place related scenario...
Same here. I’m feeling that i’m in some kind of vacuum and without any exit. I even did not know what anxiety is previously, but now, i’m going to explode from the inside, and i do not even know what the solution from this situation is…
I have social anxiety and I will overcome it thank you for the motivation
SouthernNewJerseyMexican Hey, sorry for the late reply. I'm glad you've found the video helpful and good luck with overcoming your social anxiety! I hope you're already making progress.
Thank u so much for this video..Im actually having a tough time at my new job,I always feel that everyone is talking behind my back on how slow i am at work,every morning before I feel very stress just thinking of work..
I got my job a year ago and I’ve been struggling with anxiety there so much. In the beginning I thought it would go away in time and it’s just scary as it’s new. But now I still feel anxious whenever I even think about it. My coworker doesn’t understand it and keeps telling me I’m not fast enough, not working hard enough and being a perfectionist that only makes it harder. My friend started later and she’s allowed to do all sorts of things and she’s excellent at the job. Even though I’m proud of her, I’m also saddened by it. I constantly compare myself and that feeling of me not doing good enough only gets stronger when she’s also there. I feel guilty and insecure and I don’t know what to do
Update? How is it now?
I can relate to it. I am also facing this same situation and also get these same remarks from boss.
I am think that I am the most unlucky person that I am unable to catch up the work faster.even through I am was trying my level best to avoid for feeling it I am was experienced hand shaking (trembling). I am was totally shuttered...
@@yugneswarymoghanVirtual hugs my dear I know what you feel 😢
Absolutely no one will ever understand it. I’ve been treated bad in every job not due to my performance but because of my anxiety. People just can’t comprehend being nice to someone who has anxiety because it’s not neurotypical so you have to find a way to not expect it and deal anyway but this causes burnout and eroded your mental health over time and even trauma from the stress of being treated like this but absolutely no one will understand or treat you nicely when they find out you have anxiety atleast that’s been my experience. Especially in the work plave where they don’t care about you and probably don’t really even know what anxiety is ESPECIALLY social
If the job is bad, I’ll leave and find a new one.
I will never let myself be abused again.
Things will get better with my mental health if I continue to seek out the help I deserve.
It is ok to need help. You are not weak. To deal with what you are dealing with means that you are very strong.
I deserve to have a job that I can put up with, and I will get a job that I enjoy eventually. I will work towards that as a goal.
I am not alone in my feelings of depression, anxiety, inadequacy, and panic. We did not evolve to put up with this kind of stress, so it is totally normal that it is painful. Things will get better.
It’s not your fault you have ADHD, and it does not define you. You’ve already fought it all your life, now that you are getting help it will get all the better! Making friends will be attainable!
Things I have to remind/ convince myself of.
so what job u work in now
this is making me SO ANGRY. And I usually am very calm.
Titel: social anxiety
his tip: don't be anxious about a new task.
jdhilfhgwjagfekfkuwabfgkjbwjkgbjwl It's NOT very common. and it's not about doing a new thing and just being uncomfortable. It's doing something, even just printing something, and your brain goes into alarm mode and you have TO GET OUT or you'll pass out. This makes people with social anxiety look just "lazy" or "weak."
You clearly don't even got the basics.
Xena exactly. Tip: ...just like...don’t
I’m 19 and only did volunteering in a hospital and pharmacy. I tried putting myself out there but it’s too terrifying. I literally shake and sweat. I am scared people might yell at me or get mad at me. I will cry if anybody does. I also went thru one interview in 2019 and just gave up Bc they said no to me. Now I’m 19 and literally can’t put myself out there Bc I will breakdown and cry. This week I will try to plan on applying.
I am terrified of social interactions because I always feel like Ima mess up or I’m being judged.
Same girl 21 over here
Same here, boy 19 y.o
same here but im 20
The fact is, I'm always being super nice to people and think good for everyone but people every time get misunderstood and think otherwise. This happens 100% of the time. I also help people but instead of helping, many times I unintentionally mess up things.
Same here 🙏🏾
Same. People misunderstand me a lot even though I always try to be nice. And I have an interview tomorrow and I'm a nervous wreck. My anxiety is through the roof.
@@sma_nhlapo9825 Bro i beg you to be calm and feel "let go" thing in ur head. Don't let this anxiety have a control over you. Win over this situation. I wish you luck and God Bless You 💗
@@SAURABHGUPTA_DINOSAUR thank you that's really comforting. I'll try not to overthink and do my best tomorrow. ❤
@@sma_nhlapo9825 yes do you best. And ik everything's gonna be alright. Remember show world your true self, nobody's got nothing to do with you so dont just try to get into other ppls head whether what will they think. Just act like yourselves. Everything's gonna be okay and cool chill breathheeee relax
anxious asf, would rather die rn, I can't talk properly, have panic attacks just by breathing, wants to cry every 10 second
Him: you know...just like... don't
Understandable, have a nice day
Yes omg
Im 33 now never had a job longer than 3 month! my fear of work is profoundl! Not sure if i can Ever get a fulltime job ever anymore. But im not giving up!
I would like to hear updates from you. Thank you.
33 and never had a job longer than 3 months? Why?
I understand how you feel
I like to hear your story.
@@marigoldX Im not sure i want to share the story here i will just be attacked and laughed at! maybe lol
Currently feel this at the moment, social anxiety is at an all time high
Every job I get I have trouble with connecting with my coworkers. I'm socially awkward like hell and when I have to socialize with people i get super nervous. Maybe ppl can tell cuz ppl stay away from me which sucks. Really tired of this reaction. Wish I knew how to break out of this problem.
Thats me my whole working life, 30 now don't see an end to it in site...
I force myself to work but anxiety has just caused problem after problem in the work space for me and when they dont get it I just blow up with people. So people say the way to beating anxiety is putting yourself in the awkward situations but how is that the case when you try to do that and it brings up problems.
check out the Clark-Wells model of social anxiety! there are some videos of it here on youtube as well. social anxiety follows a cycle. putting yourself in stressful situations to try to “fix” the anxiety can actually put you in severe distress. I found that to be the case for me. I think most people who claim that’s the way to fix anxiety don’t actually have any evidence to back it up.
Baylie Smith Yes that is right but it will obviously affect people different and everyone will have there own ways of dealing with it either through avoidance or throwing yourself in at the deep end. I’ve always had anxiety and always had trouble in the work place but feel I made things worse for myself in the past starting to avoid people and situations now I’m paying the cost. I did not know however I had anxiety then only been diagnosed in my recent years. I think only option for me is self employment or an understanding employee which is rare. I feel like there’s a big brick wall in my way when it comes to work because of anxiety a large number of jobs are just a no go area.
But what about those of us that let the anxiety take over and actually quit...
Now I've shot myself in the foot (metaphysically), and can't find work.
Now what?
HM The Tsar of Russia let fear be a councilor
Did you get a job? Hope u have. If you haven’t check out if there r work from home freelance opportunities...alternately u can learn a new skill depending on ur area of interest...web designing, technical / creative Writing, hair styling, etc.
I did the same thing this year and I thought it would be no biggie; but nope, still haven't found a new job and it's been months.
Same!
@@sseasonsbro i did that over the past 5 years im 23 now and i regret everything :(
For me what helps is working part time so I have less exposure to the job and am not tempted to drink their coffee and have lunch there. I also earn relatively more then. I hate people. They bullied me too much in jobs and it will never change because I simply cannot jump into a "confidence suit". Been going to therapy and do you think my confidence improved? No. Sometimes I feel like drinking alcohol. I mean how can one get confidence in a bottle?
It's almost 3 years already and I still feel like I'm incapable doing my job 😅 and it does not help when I suspect that I might have dyscalculia, anxiety and depression, but then my job revolves around Math and socializing with people 🙃... Man it's hard to have psych evaluation in my country it's soo expensive 😭
Thanks me
It always happens to me that I get the job, go to work and I immediately want to quit. Right now I have a job that I enjoy doing, it's not hard at all, but somehow I just feel so anxious whenever I have to face a customer...
Every job I get people think I'm weird or dumb because of this. I can never comprehend simple tasks. I forget was exactly told to me ...I'm lost and ready to give up seems like it will never get better 😭 I truly just wanna be excited
marktbaby truskolaski I feel you, I’m the same right here, 22 years young, from uk 🇬🇧. I left my job after 6 years as I realised I was portraying someone else for years. then the self critical thoughts come in, your not the only one hit me up
It gets better especially in fast food. Get the experience, keep going at it for a couple months. Then quit after for the experience.
I wish I would've watched this video earlier, unfortunately I did quit my job after the second day of working there, I believe I had an anxiety attack, and I was so close to bursting out crying and running out the door screaming for my mommy, I'm not kidding I literally wanted to scream for my mother, fortunately for me I didn't do that but I was so close and after coming home I was so paranoid that that might happen again and that I might actually burst out crying, that would be so embarrassing, the stress was unbearable so I just had to quit, I just couldn't take it anymore. Ever since I've felt like a coward.
Fast forward to today, I need a job more than ever because I will soon need to pay for my education and I have to start saving money, I also want a job for many other reasons but at the same time I am scared of getting a job again because what if I get another anxiety attack? Why do I have to be so anxious around people? I hate this man.
You won't be the last person feeling that but even if you are scared walk the path cause it is better than not crossing it. It is okay to feel scared but crossing it slowly. you'll eventually get there. My advice is to do your job for one year even if everyone said you are not good enough cause in your next job you have learned the job and you know what to do, you are faster and have more confidence. Think of people as a pedestrian who passes by you or is with you for a short period of time you would still learn from them and your job. How to do your job and how to communicate with people. Remember it is all practice the more we do it the more we get used to it and you feel less scared. Think of the experience you would gain and how easier it would get after 5 years to the point that you might ask yourself why was I scared and why didn't I want to give it a try.
@@lydialydia1262 thank you for the advice and taking the time to write this, fortunately I have already dug myself out of that hole, I am currently working another job, I am so much better at social interactions now. I drive to work and get the job done like all adults do, I'm still studying because I don't wanna work in that job forever but so far I'm doing so much better and even helping out friends who are in the same situation I was in before. I just don't let my emotions take the better of me and I've realized that, shit happens, and well not everything will be a good experience, I really stopped worrying you know, whatever happens happens, I worried too much.
@@israelcrafts25 Oh not at all. I am so glad for you. this shows that you are very brave but you were being controlled by your fear well, you just took the biggest step so you will take others easier. That is the right attetuide. I wish you the best of luck.
@@lydialydia1262 thanks, and thank you for taking interest in my story, not a lot of people would've done that, I really appreciate you taking the time to read my comment and respond to it, hope the best for you too.
@@israelcrafts25 Oh thank you, darling, Not at all and I'm sure there are just too many comments to see yours. You seem very young, you are studying and you are working and you are independent so be proud of yourself and hold your head high you are not less than anyone else. trust me in 2 or 3 years' time you'll have a lot more experience and confidence you'll be a different person you seem to have just started to step into society and that is obviously scary and unknown in the beginning then you get used to it. Always take baby steps it works then you get bold at doing something so imagine yourself in 10 or 5 years' time. you know whatever we think of ourselves that would be the outcome if we think we can't do something that happens always think positive and see the brighter future and tell yourself good things will happen. there is no happiness without sadness and no sadness without happiness they always exist in our lives they are like the head and tails of a coin and we go through a lot of good and bad times during our life. life is too short to be worried about something so live your life as carefree as you can. your the one who thinks about what others think about you than others and then you get yourself paranoid. The funny thing is that they might be thinking about their work and what to do next.
Thank you for saying that, I really need it rn :,) Sometimes anxiety can mess u up real bad and makes you feel like you are not good enough or not fit in with your colleagues.
Your video doesn't help, the worse thing to say to someone who suffers from social anxiety is to tell them to continue to stay in an space or environment that they are clearly suffering from. 👎🏾
I like to work but just work ...i don't want to deal with rude and talkative person and something unnecessary things at the workplace ..Just work, trying to do good job --> say hi ---> get paid and go home ...
why people drag in a lot of things at the company ??? Sicko
None of this was helpful. It did not tackle with the crippling phobia of working.
Absolutely, this kind of pissed me off tbh.
Work is y we have anxiety we need freedom from all jobs immediately
Wtf are you even talking about friend? Freedom from all jobs? So what happens next day? Week? A year?
Man we do not fucking need it. You, sir, you need to take a breather, have some rest and don’t listen to any soul on this planet including my dumbass, listen to yourself. If you are exhausted, heal.
But don’t be stupid saying something absurd like that.
@@user-rw4zy6ho9x The person to whom you are responding makes a lot more sense than YOU do.
@@theultimatereductionist7592 this reply of mine is 1 year old. It does not make sense to me as well now haha
But we need work for society to function, unfortunately. How else are we going to get our basic needs met?
@@happygilmore5948 I dont think they meant to quit working in general, just rebuilding society altogether xDDD
This is what is happening to me right now. The deadline, having to interact with partinent, and simply the crowds are just so frustating and making me assume that workplace is never a friendly place for people with anxiety. Im always pretty close to quit but I never really make it because I got something to pay.
I got fired today because I got anxiety attack at my job.I was failing at communicating over the phone with customers. My boss was forcing me to make calls with loud speaker and I got very anxious. I had to make phone calls in front of him and he was monitoring me and I felt really uncomfortable.
He than told me that my communication skills suck and after 30 minutes he brought me a sheet of paper and fired me...
I'm so sorry. I totally understand dont give up.
I just got a job and it’s a labor job and although they said no experience needed I just feel like there’s going to be so many moments I don’t understand what’s happening or realizing I’m not capable of doing the labor I have to do. I’m so fuckin nervous I’m about to start and I wanna run out of the place so bad
I want to do a job....bt whenever i get such opportunity...i step back...and think that i cant do this....im afraid of talking to new people
me too im scared they will judge me and that i'll look stupid doing my job
By the grace of God, i've been able to excel in my positions all the up to management. I have no problem doing the work, where I severely suffer is my social anxiety and I've realized along the way I can master my job but if i lack building relationships along the way, i start running into the same problems...alienating myself, coming across as unfriendly and feeling unwelcomed/rejected even though i desperately want to connect. I just don't know how and feel awkward trying because most times I don't have much to say. Im in my head alot and my responses are usually very straight to the point. I realize the reactions I'm getting are a reflection of me...they're sort of mirroring back what I give to them. Its an ugly cycle I want out of but feel stuck. How do you change the core of who you are without feeling inauthentic and drained? Am i supposed to warn others that its "me not them" and to please don't take my aloofness or distance personal?
Maybe you could organise a team building trip and get to know everyone as a friend as opposed to a colleague.
Thank you. I start my first job on Friday. Everyone’s shocked because I’m like known for having social anxiety haha. I’m trying to think positively ☺️
@Grass Eater I went for a day and never went back heh 😅 it’s okay though I now have a job ☺️☺️
@Grass Eater omg when I left I never even called to let them know I wasn’t coming back... my family was so disappointed haha. I work from home with zero interaction. Anxiety isn’t better but I’m somewhat making things work I guess 😅😅 I could never even think about applying somewhere. I hope you’ll get there one day
@Grass Eater if you’re willing to add me on Snapchat I can tell you! I don’t think I should explain here. If you are comfortable with adding me it’s Mixedvibesss123 and my insta is elaine_dski
@@carlyelaine138 what is your job please so i can do the same.Thank you
@@kaiidoiso644 I was an usher at a theater. It didn’t workout thooo 🥺
I wish you could explain this to my boss. I have just walked out if 3 jobs due to anxiety/ no confidence. They all want you to be trained and ready within days
i have my first day tomorrow and i’m so scared. it’s a 10 hour shift and i have to do a ton of stuff but don’t know how to do anything or even where to go
and did you do it? are you still working?
Bvoio yes!! i’ve gotten a little bit more comfortable!
I'm having an interview today, and I'm actually hesitant to go. It's a grocery store with lots of employees and people buying from it. I remember going there one time to buy and I can literally see,that the employees is looking at me. And that made me question myself over and over again if there was something wrong with me.
How is it now?
@@xxmushisushixx1049 They canceled the interview and told me they already found someone 😢
Thank you i just started a job a week ago and ive been having anxiety and felt like quitting but this stopped me from thinking about quitting.
I have it and it’s the worse thing I haven’t work and when I try to apply or even think about the thought of working it scares me to the point of having deep depression and I just feel useless I hate this sometimes I think about why am I not normal or why do I have it I want to work but my fear doesn’t let me I keep running away or avoiding it… it scares me cuz I don’t know what to do in the future with this fear I feel like it has gotten worse 🥺😭 the only thing I do is cry and cry and keep calling myself useless I feel so disappointed of myself I see friends who their doing fine getting a house have a perfect job and I’m over here doing nothing because of my fear to work it really sucks😞😭😭😭
You described the way I feel perfectly. I understand completely especially when you direct the blame towards yourself. I know telling you things you can try won't really help much.
However, Maybe going school to learn new things and be around people. Getting used to a schedule. There is also less pressure because you are actively working to improve yourself. No pressure of messing up. you can put your energy into that instead of hating yourself. It could also have a job placement program.
I'm going to try this route.
I'm sure your are not incompetent and not the only one. I sympathize with your situation. I don't have anyone who can really understand the crippling fear I get.
My husband has a friend with a lawncare business. I go with him a couple of days here and there to mow yards to help with my esteem.
I hope you are able to find something small, no matter how insignificant it may feel to help restore some confidence in you. I really really do. ❤🙏 I pray you will have something good come your way to change your life in the way your want it to.
I am facing anxiety from job staffs. I am finding a job where no one should exist but may be there is no job like that. Because only humans operate the jobs. I worried about my clothings are good or not, my hairstyle is ok or not, my shoes are ok or not, am i behaving good or not, i can't see at someone's face properly.
I can relate to you brother. That's why I'm working online. But I'll have to work full time soon. So I'm trying to get the courage
after reading all the comments ive kinda motivated that why tf we are afraid of people they’re jst human like us
I want a job and to move out but i have severe anxiety and social anxiety with only an 8th grade education with no work experience at 21 years old, and im not even trying cause I believe it’s hopeless, but how am i gonna know if I don’t try
Exactly. So try. But in trying, be careful, speak positive and don’t be hard on yourself when you make errors. Beating up yourself can encourage more mistakes ( self-fulfilling prophecy)
Same here I'm also 21, a little job experience, no college degree, I've failed all of my attempts to get into college, I'm looking for a job now, it's been weeks, I still have hope 🙏
Worst video for social anxiety ever. I know I'm a very capable person. Every job I have done I got very good at and my superiors praised me. It's people and interacting with them that give me anxiety. Going through the motions of day in and day out doing the same shit is where I lose it.
i quit my first job last month because of my social anxiety and i think it caused me a trauma. i can't even go to a company and give them my resume
Same :(
Here’s a reminder for us all that we don’t have to learn everything all at once and neither are we expected to. Ask all the questions, regardless if you feel like they’re too dumb or if the people answering them are a bit too snarky, expecting you to “already know this.” It’s okay to forget parts of your training. It happens. And you’re bound to make mistakes, big and small. Cut yourself some slack.
I'll be working as a part time employee in the holidays and I'm extremely nervous because I never worked before. I'm not nervous because of the people I'm going to be working with or the things I do at my job, I'm nervous because of the amount of time the job asks me to spend working in
29 and have never held down a job, feel like a bum, a let down, a drain on society but I just cant handle it
what job u got
Same age and i feel the same. I just landed a new job and will start next week, but I’m already feeling useless like I won’t be able to do the job. I even have regrets about applying.
I hate being jobless yet when I get a job I feel so stupid I hate that I got the job and the cycle never ends.
I quit my previous job after 1 day, I regretted it immediately. And now here I am going into a new job, and one I have zero skills at. I’m going to give it my all this time, at least it’s what I’m telling myself now.
I am having social anxiety disorder and working in a bank which itself requires mutual interaction.The lack of interaction or inability to settle mutual gaze not only gives high pain in the right and left brain but gives me shocking waves through out the day.I have now decided to quit the job.
I need a job, I’m 17 with no job. My parents won’t kick me out but I feel terrible because I can’t help pay the bills, I feel like such a piece of shit. I’m just afraid I will mess something up.
I thought i was the only one who is facing those issues
This was VERY helpful. Thank you! The best advice I've heard so far.
ive been procrastinating a walk in interview for 2 weeks now. i know what it is, i know i want to start working. But i cant get myself to go, im so anxious about the interview, my muscles tighten and my throat chokes up. Ive had 3 jobs its nothing new to me. Ive spent hours writing down interview answers just to not go. i dont know what to do again this point i feel like an idiot. i know im gonna start working and get bored as shit and ask myself, “why tf did i wait so long for this?” its been months.
I want to do my dream job but due to my social anxiety I will never be able to do it
Thank you, I felt tady so incapable that I want to quite the job,
i've quit at least 5 jobs
Thank you for making this video. Im graduating next year and am so afraid to get a job and do things wrong. Lets say I didnt have the most pleasent internships one could have. Ill try my best not letting this stop me.
The best video on the internet for anxiety. Thank you so much!!
My job is causing me so much anxiety. My SA is pretty much always present but it’s multiplied x10 at my new job. I know I can do it and it’s not that I even dislike it. There’s several great things about it but I dislike dealing with the public and since it’s all so new to me it’s like I’m just very anxious from how new it is and the fact that I have to deal with clients almost every day. I don’t want my SA to rule my life but at the same time I wish I could just sit in my office and not have to deal with them 😓😅
this is exactly my situation aswell i feel terrible rn and i have work in a few hours ughhh
I just started yesterday a new job in a coffee shop,the first day they only taught me how to use the dishwasher and it was ok till i had to talk to the people to say that we were closing in 20 minutes and when i had to take their plates,it was hell,it was also hell with the collegues that were so nice but so extroverts,i was SO embarassed,i was feeling so much weird,the boss at the end said that i was good but i felt like a failure and tomorrow i have to work,and i'm feeling really bad.
For Most the person who are watching the answer of this problem from my point of view is what are you doing (i.e Job/Work) is not because you love it or passionate about it, you are doing it for you living(Money), and may be don't have any start up ideas or financial backup to start your own small business which make you independent, i can say you are a person who don't like typical 9-5 pm jobs you want more freedom, you are a person who complete the given task more perfectly if you have given free space to work, you are a learner you are creative personality, dreamer, isn't it am i wrong ?, you afraid to coordinate with boss, colleagues this all will take time to understand the environment, and if you are younger age and have time to learn then try to figure what makes you happy, start learning it, it will help you, and this will help you in earning also like photography, farming, music every field has opportunity.
Wow. You have explained my entire feelings and thoughts that I can't. I feel very uncomfortable in anything that involves being ordered around or monitored (fear). I feel like I can't be my authentic self in the workplace, I feel tensed and it can be really hard to concentrate on a single task. Every job that did before I have problems completing the task on time and my bosses and Co workers would make a mockery out of it or called me slow etc and here comes the fears of not wanting to do a 9-5. But to be honest I personally think it's exhausting working for people.
@@oldsoul_ash4811 Thanks, and I hope now you have some or little bit clear about what you want to do job/work/Hobbies which you like the most I mean of your interest,and I suggest if you opt for new courses and try to add on some more skills which gives you some.more confidence and knowledge of your favourite field or even if you are in present job which you not like the most,whatever is your decision if the circumstances allows you, I wish best for your future. Thanks for reply❤️❤️ 🙏
Sorry for my bad English hope you understand what I want to say.🙂
@@rajivkumar-mt3qo thank you and no I don't have a job and this is currently my situation now. I did Practical Nursing and got my certificate but I don't like it after working in the field it made me feel more anxious than any other job, plus I hate feeling bad for the sick helpless elderly people. I then didn't bother applying for those jobs and did other jobs like store clerk, etc. I've never been in a job more than a month and I feel really ashamed saying this.
@@rajivkumar-mt3qo However I am thinking of starting a small business and I am going to do it. I just hope it works out for me. Because I really want to work for myself since I feel more comfortable doing things on my own.
@@oldsoul_ash4811 Great go ahead 👍👍 Best of luck Dear🙏
Thank you for this 😢 I feel like such a loser no post secondary and no job for many years I hope I can change that I get such bad anxiety when I work
I always feel like people are plotting against me. It happened to me at a va job where the women there picked on me really badly.
I’m struggling man..
Hey man, you got this. It doesn’t matter what people think of you, just be you and do your part. You’ll realize nothing you’re worried about matters
I almost quit a training program that helps people with disabilities work in the community because I thought I wasn't suited for it and I know I should be grateful for it but I don't give my self enough credit because my anxiety is stopping me from being successful. :(
You're helping me so much man
God bless you
Could you please do a video on social talking and public speech? :)
I have worked at the same place 15 years. I am now having health problems. I think I could die from it. I might look fit but I am suffering from anxiety more in the last 3 years than ever before. I was good at my job but now a cant even focus properly. I can't sleep. I fall asleep early everyday but wake up too early. I don't think I even feel ok to quit and g t a new job at this point. I have been too erritated for my own family even. I don't fully understand anxiety but believe that's what I have right now. I don't know what my future holds but I've come too far to let it go.
its been more then 5 years i have been insulted and abused in public for no mistake from my side but given good cs now i am so phobic to give interview or join any job that they are going to fire me for no reason and i am able to learn work but due to that. anxiety of many time insulting in a row for no apparent reason i am so phobic now
I have been working since I was 16 and kept my jobs I am 25 now and had 2 jobs my first job lasted me 6 years then it closed down in that time my boss made my life hell harassments and beyond and my second job lasted me 3 years and I had to do everyone job for them and broke me even more so I quite and was without a job for 3 months now I got job nailed interview was happy when they said I can come in for training I have anxiety by the way so that night I cried none stop I was scared I am still scared been there 2 days and I feel like I was put in a box and I am trapped again I feel like I am being choked my mind reminds me even when I am not at work that I am still there I am scared to death at everybody and anything ... I feel no one understand how scared I am even though everyone is saying the bosses are very nice I keep thinking yea I heard that before I almost ran away just wanted disappear but I keep reminding myself I have a family they are too important for me to fail at a job I wish I could feel nothing think nothing and just flipping live even being in a dirty house if someone makes a mess when house I cleaned then I cry because it's messy
Jackie Carli this is exactly how i feel, i quit 2 jobs because idk what it is, im constantly reminded of my own duty or something, my mother left when i was young and most of my family i dont talk to, no matter where i go or what i do, work is always throbbing in my head, i just wish it would stop, or as you said, being able to think of nothing
i am having the same anxiety. i dont and cant go to work. i tend to escape and chicken out.
I don’t know if anyone relates I hope you do my problem is I had acne and society showed me if a guy doesn’t have clear skin girls won’t like him as a result you will be alone all my friends had clear skin I didn’t all my friends had girls like them I didn’t
Always felt less than
I had a job a month ago and there were guys with me who had no acne and were good looking and I would be so scared to look at girls because I would be like they are not looking at me they are looking at them therefore I would go to the toilet and look at my face my acne especially this would make me so insecure and this job was in front of loads of pretty girls so I just couldn’t do it no one looked at me as a result I thought I was ugly even though I am 6 foot 2 people say I have a nice body I go gym everyday have a nice haircut
I can’t get any job and school is a no go
Inshallah Allah leads me to victory
Replies would be appreciated and if you have struggled with this
I’ve never worked but I want to. I am terrified of being fired
Pushing through the anxiety going to court to work as an attorney. My heart is pounding just at the thought of what people will think of me. Wish me luck, I don't want to end up fkin poor and miserable. Just miserable haha.
Thank you so much for this video. just what I needed to watch. I want to apply for a job in stocking shelves and for some reason I just feel like i'm not the right person to do so....even though its something anyone can learn the tasks they do. I wanted apply early this morning but it's already evening. I think I have a bit of confidence now.
😭😭😭😭I quit my job within 2 days because of my anxiety ....now struggling with my own thoughts .....it's just killing me....feeling worthless
I can totally relate,, life updates, how are you now?
@@billieeilish323 😯oh ....nice to see your reply ...🤝
Now I am fine and better ...hoping to do something better in my life...🙂
How about u ....
@@srileka3683 , still struggling and finding what is my purpose in life, how old are you by the way?
@@billieeilish323 same here dude ...I too struggling with confusions ....but still staying with hope ....
20-25
Whats yours
Thank you. I needed this word.
3/29/2023
Rude and mean
People make me have
Social Anxiety.
I asked a cashier at a Wal-mart something And she
responded rude just
because she was on her cell phone.
If you have a job, stop waising
time on your cell phone and
Act professional and kind
with customers, not rude.
From::
Houston Texas
Sometimes I feel like such a bitch I always get nervous I can fight and box I love doing that and I kick ass but only because it puts me in a mindset where I have to, but in every other thing I struggle and get so nervous.
I even felt like I have not able to concentrate on my studies because I think that I have to join offc or corporate after succeed in that particular exam.....I don't know how to overcome it...I literally have face alot of being socialize
And it is somewhere affect my self confidence.
My level of anxiety actually cripples me just like my last job I can't controll the dread the palpitation and I cannot controll my eyes being watery like I'm shedding tears by just feeling the dread now it's been like 3 years and I still feel the same and much severe😢....I am now shaking like my heart is about to come out😅 when panicking
this is really true to me, thank you for this.
My anxiety is so bad I can’t even look up and breathe normally my eyes get sore and weak and I just can’t handle it anymore it made me put on weight from the stress I’m gonna get a less social job I think that’s the problem here
Also I hate life why is it so hard
this video hit the nail on the head for me, exactly what I needed Thank you!
This was just the few words I really needed to hear right now, thankyou 🙏 🌟