NEVER Chase a MAN.... EVER
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If he's not CHASING you...he's not interested. 💞Find a Man who wants to Pursue you!!
Facts!!!
Big facts!!!!!!
ATTRACT don't chase. Attract, DON'T chase..attract, don't CHASE.
Yasss sis!
Come through!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You don't NEED a man...it the "COOCHIE" that needs the attention.
Hush the coochie😂
@@serenaacquah1774 😄😄😄
Right😂😂😅
Facts
😩😩🤣
i used to chase men that didn’t want me in my early 20’s and whew chile those days are OVER! it ain’t worth it 😂
Sis !!!!!!!!!
Honestly I was so stupid
@@laradara7175 babygirl I'm 37!!! Its about boundaries and walking away 1st time no 2nd chances. Trust yourself/ gut and bounce up outta that. But like I said in 37 and only learning that now. And about to go no contact. This man is 53, no job, no ambitions zero. But big big affluent me chasing him!!!! 🤯🤯🤯🤯
I use to do that in my teens boyyyyy it was sooooo embarrassing you couldn’t tell me nothing then 🤣 I wish somebody would have slapped me
Listen I’m 23 in my mind I was thinking he would realise my worth sooner or later, now I have no business convincing someone, if you can’t se my worth BE GONEE x respectfully
I learned to give my attention to people that give their attention to me
preach 🙌🏽
Period
That part
Yasss Lord....
Yes ma'am!
42:42 “there’s nothing ladylike about sitting on the sidelines of life waiting on a n***a to recognize you”. That one hit me in the chest!
Like a TON OF BRICKS!! I felt that one! And he gave the answer on how to get over it- Therapy!!
I needed to hear this 🙌🏼 💯
You are the most generous and empowering “dating coach” thank you for truth love you MJ
Girl!!! In real life! I need to pass him the collection plate!
Lol 😂 😂
I have a husband, , he doesn’t tolerate the silent treatment he gon get in my face and make me communicate. Marriage is hard ❤️🙏🏾💕
as he should, it means he cares
communication is very important, I think its a good thing 😊
@@katiawinikat1485 A
Lovely!! He cares!
@Free I agree
my ignore game strong af and my husband hatessss it.
Why MJ reminds me of that rich aunty that you hate that you love so much 😭😭😭
Hey Niece! 😘
😘😘😘Wassupp Auntieeeee
Because he always says the things that you don't WANT to hear, but NEED to! ❤
@@joifulady1921 period
Yes!!!
All the single ladies in the house💃🙌
I'm a mail lady in Houston. I love listening to you on my route. You have me laughing so hard I forget people are watching.
how do you become a mail lady? sounds like a fun job. i'm moving to houston. how can i get a job like that? what's the pay range?
He is so wise like a wise grandmother BUT he's knowledgeable like a guru, brilliant like a great therapist and funny, witty and creative and unique to himself! Wow! What a combination! I can't believe this is free!!!!!!
We have to stop believing everything they say
I can’t believe you turned on your camera from bed and went off for an hour, no editing, nothing. You are a genuine.
I loved it! Yes! 🙏💯✔✌
When I left my daughter's dad I made a promise that I Would NOT SEE HIM for a year (he put his hands on me I kept a picture of myself with bruises on the shelf where I could see it every day ) cuz I was terrified that I'd go back like a dumbass . He came and got our daughter every weekend from 2 hours away from my mamas if I was there I stayed in the bedroom there was. No hello, hi how ya doing nothing! And dang I cried a LOT that year but my ass got through it. I ended up not seeing him for almost 2 years when I was in a really good relationship. You are stronger than you think you are.and if you aren't strong well just lock yourself in a room Til you are.. like I did.
You came right on time! this is really what i needed!
Y’all i feel so embarrassed!!! i’m 21 years old and i caught myself chasing this 32 years old man!
He don’t want me!
He don’t want me!
He don’t want me!
He do not want me! i need to repeat this to myself because baby girl is out here looking like a clown!
the hardest part for me is that we work together 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️
Omg, it’s the same for me. Lol embarrassing asf!!!!! I’m 21 and the man I was dating, we are working together. I’m frustrated. Girl, do you need a friend because I need one? 😂😂😂😂
Stop showing him interest. Act cold when around him. No emotion, period. None at all. Keep it short and distant if you have to communicate with him. Men should always chase you.
Hopefully you never blessed him with the nookie! You have leverage because of your youth so fvck him .
@@serenadavis5858 Yesss girl i surely need somebody thats is going thru the same to talk about it! 😭😭😭😭😭add me on snapchat thyyaSabtos
@@serenadavis5858 Girl 😭😭😭😭 i swear just for you guys to know how bad it is! i want to quit, i didn’t even go to work today i said i wasn’t feeling okay! but i’m just trynna avoid the pain i feel when i see him😭😭😭😭
Thank you for saving this live...LOTS AND LOTS of gems dropped! Ladies take them notes! 😁
I’m just now seeing this and I’m taking serious notes
Your instincts are always on point. Ladies, please learn to trust it...
That part
“ you better put on a body shaper and stop playing” loooooooool stop yelling at me MJ
Resurrect your self esteem!
Actions speak louder than words. You can tell me over and over how you feel about me. But if you aren't SHOWING me how much I mean to you, then there's the door
I agree with trusting your instincts. Women are constantly doubting their own judgement of a situation, even if the proof is right in their faces! He tells you that she's "just a female friend" and yet you feel suspicious of her. THAT'S your intuition right there telling you what's going on, but still women will trust a man's words over their own intuition. That's ridiculous
No he is so right about delete, block and blackout period. I did that after my breakup and it was much needed. When you break up make sure you really break up.
I need to listen to this EVERY DAY
I just found your channel. I'm 60 yr old white woman and I love listening to you. You are definitely special 💕 thank you making me laugh so hard. Take good care looking forward baby!
About the intuition thing, I detected that a guy was hiding something, such as a girlfriend, kids, or possibly a wife. He was very careful about what he told me, but he was extremely secretive about the personal details of his own life. That was more of a red flag than anything he could've said, because that only shows me that he's are shady af.
I feel the same!!! I have No Desire to even talk to men!!! I'm done Dating!!! There's no Mentally stable men that are single here I live in a small town. I'm happy being alone!
I think I gave up too. At least for now.
I'm tired too. These men aren't into buying the cow, they just want the free milk we give up.
Cali and Sabrina.....👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
LOL LOL LOL
"y'all think it's ya heart talkin,
it's not ya heart talkin
it's just ya coochie talkin!"
🌞🌞😂😭😥
I needed every bit of that in the beginning! 😩 It’s so easy to get caught up trying to get a low-interest and NO interest guy to engage. It’s draining, and it’s a self-esteem blow. I never want to be the “chaser,” but I find myself trying to the attention of guys that are not interested anymore. Lol, It’s ridiculous. I know i have it going on. I don’t even want them like that; I just want a healthy, loving relationship. 😩😩🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I totally feel you! Sometimes it's just the thrill of the chase, LOL.... Even if you are the female , lol
I felt all of this🌸
@@juliawhite7152Like fr 💯
Life is too boring if you don't cuss, just saying 😂
"Any motha fucka that don't cuss l don't trust" ~ arsenio hall
@@cleftheart1969 My favorite cuss words are, "I don't give a f...k!" When I heard MJ, proclaim those words, I knew I found my home.
Omg just what I needed to hear as I just found out the guy I thought was single wasn’t! I’m sick of guys just wanting to get in my knickers
Same thing happen to me smh
I’m so mad sick of men
@@ceeceebrownn my instincts kick in today as something wasn’t quite right. His phone was off all morning and he always text me good morning and good night! So I text he’s so called ‘Ex’ and she said she was sitting on his bed and he was out getting breakfast! Omg we had a very long chat but it still hurts to be lied too
@@etamstclair364
How come you have his so called ex no lol 😆
I'm sorry this happened, know your worth and find a good man! It will happen! I am curious to know how you had his "ex" number? If you did research for it or he actually have it to you? If he did, he's got some nerve thinking you wouldn't find out! What a loser, be glad to be rid of him!
No seriously try me if you want too 🥴🥴🥴😂😂😂😂 my ex thought I been cheating on him because of how fast I moved on like boy I’m still the girl every guy wants 😌🥴🥴💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
I completely agree both people's lives need to be improved by being in one another's lives...you need to ADD onto my life not take away from it ☺️
This was some “REAL PILLOW TALK!”
I’ve been wanting to call my “bf” who just so happens to ignore me whenever he pleases but all day today I’ve been distracted watching your videos
Hunty Im clutching my pearls ... Why do you allow him to ignore you often? I ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY don't care to be ignored when it happens he will be made aware that it is unacceptable if it happens again I FALL ALL THE WAY BACK!!!!!!!
Thank you I been stupid and faithful to a married man and now he dogging me out. Sorry but thank you for giving me strength 💪 🙏
Sis, may the peace of God be with you.
Get him up off your spirit sis and flourish with the New Energy!😘
If he's married, run in the other direction. They're liars and time wasters. If he's cheating on his WIFE with you, what makes you think he won't do the same to you? Wise up. Get a man who is available to you. Don't settle for anything less!
Sweetee you are too pretty to be #2 or a side piece..you deserve to be number 1. If he cheats to be with you he will cheat on you...pick your head up and move on!! We have all been there...the trick is to leave from there..
R. C. Blakely ..Queenology
“YOu hUrt mY fEElinGs” I’m screaming STAWWPP it leave that man alone lmfaoooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"When the saints get back from church and I gotta go back to being holy".
THE REED 💅✨💄
I never understood a woman thirsting under a mans Instagram or social media etc like huh Uhuh
It boggles my mind
@@MJHarrisSpeaks I'll thirst after you bc I know I have no chance in hell! 😹😹😹 Kidding, no one likes a thirsty person, period!
I need to listen to this every day to get over my crush.
Your personality has me laughing on the floor every single time!! This is the positive energy we need to mimic! Love ya MJ! 👏🏼👏🏼✨✨💯
Speaking the truth! "You just need a piece of a man."👏👏
Someone is snoring next to you. I can hear him lmao 🤣😂
😂🤣😊🤣
I already knew it was going to be a good video with that intro
MJ you are so brutally honest. I love it. So I’m going to tell you my story I was in a relationship with this guy he practically begged me to not leave him after several attempts to leave him but as soon as I let my guard down he dumped me lol. He still leaves me comments with hearts and care but I think he is just in love with the attention he got from me. Either way I’m not going back. He hurt me and I can’t find happiness where I lost it
I almost passed out, when he said I just needed my wig split hehehe
Lol.😂
😂
Lol! Old school slang! 😅
MJ this post has WOKE EVERYBODY TF UP!! 👏👏👏 Nothing but TRUTH was given! I have always told my sons...people are either a LIABILITY or an ASSET in your life! If they are not contributing to your betterment then they must go.
I love this man and am grateful for the time he spends to give quality content. I can’t explain how many times your videos have helped me get out of my head during hard times and make better decisions. Thank you for existing.
Im dying..lmao....u silly asf
Lol I said the same thing 😅
I LOVE how you give us specific scripts (like the facetime call) so we have SPECIFIC scenarios that help us deal with these idiots sometimes! You hold us accountable for our actions but still make us laugh during that ❤️ thank you MJ
What a GEM-nastic encounter you are to my inner growth, Profess'a Harris! You dropped so many growth serums on this video. And to channel, your success and tribulations, in these non- monetized uploads is gracious and loving of you! We are here to serve one another. PEACE Fam.
This was EXCELLENT..... exceptional advice as usual young man!!! You are so much wiser than your thirty six years and so generous sharing your Pearls of Wisdom.... a blessing to all who listen and heed the words‼️❤️😇🙏🏾
Maxx was getting his man over there. He was catching all the ZZZ's
Hey MJ, I love watching you and love how you dress. You right I don't chase men either.
I have been listening to you all morning!!! You pretty much reinforce what I already know but I still love hearing it
🤣🤣 "You hurt my feelings"
If you have an older person calling you big bro or uncle that’s a good thing because that’s their way of allowing you to speak into their lives. 💕💕💕💕
I absolutely love you, and you gave what needed to be given....💫🖤
When he said “he don’t even follow you” 😭that hit harddd and made me feel so dumb
“HI MR JENKINS!” I’m dying! 🤣 I love you!!
Lmaooo got me on the floor 🤣😭🤧
Omg you got me 😂
"You hurt my feelings" lmao
It's a year later and I'm liking and listening!
I'm loving your VIBE MJ...you are everything......
Happy Easter MJ stay safe you’re bunch REALNESS I jus love it an your Honesty be on point YUPPPPP
keys words for me = importance of the level of self esteem and the value of love
thanks MJ
I love MJ😂😂😂 I could be down but his videos make me feel better!
This came up right on time!
MJ...YOU are the master! I don't even watch or listen to any other relationship coach any more. Thank-you for always keeping it real and fresh! You have inspired me & many others w your wisdom and talent. Be blessed always!!
Profess'a Harris is serving us the linear focus of how most men's minds work. I just hope that women love themself best (1st) so that what MJ says works for you. Beauty is boundless and different men desire different traits. No matter what... you must have honest confidence and know that your value of self attracts who and what you truly feel about yourself.
"U can't go wrong by being real." Wisdom speaking. Love u.
Oh God I felt you staring at me when you said desperation 😬😳😳😳😂
Wowwww this video came right on time
I was just talking about this yesterday I’m not chasing no guy sorry bye 👋🏼 🗣NEXT
Happy Easter MJ..... thanks for being so honest!
I absolutely agree ! Never chase a man. Good advice from a wise man. 🙂👍I'm not going to be playing chasing games. Hell no! You want it come and get it. Lol
Love your energy. God bless you🙏 I had an aha moment with one of your videos. Thank you😘
The way you say "you hurt my feelings" 😂😂😂♥️
You could make a funny song about it
So needed to hear this...I have a new guy flirting strong with me and he is a friend of a guy I messed with. But I had this new fragrance, hair smelling good, looking shiny, feeling good, and he is fine and all. Not trying to catch him, but I realized listening to this I realize I must trust myself more🤔. I started doubting the whole situation for no reason yet.
🥰🥰Happy Easter to all,and thanks for this amazing content MJ always been yourself 🥰👌😘🇨🇵
THE young ladies keep it right and tight cause that's their job,
If a man only wants me cause I'm shaped like Halle Berry then he doesn't want me.
And he will want every one who has a nice shape.
Thank you for telling like it is. I needed to hear this.
I wish you would or could have a Exclusive and private moment with my niece cause she does Exactly that. She in a relationship with a man ALL BY HERSELF. This man doesn't even like her for who she is but for what she has "money". She spends it on him and he SHITS ON HER. I feel so sorry for her cause she is one of them that will have a man around NO GOOD &ALL just to pretend they together in love. He don't and won't spend time with her. He always at work 365 days a year and when he not working he at his momma house. Would somebody please help this ole girl???
Ohhh God the way he tried to wake up Max 🤣😂😂😂😂 I’m dying
I hear you loud and clear. Mr. Professor. Love to listen to your good advice.
I really enjoyed this video😊
MJ u r the best friend any girl would love to have! Keep up the good job love😘😘
MJ ..I love who you are and the advice you give is always 💯 ..and I needed this message.
Me too boo
I needed to hear this for real!!
I walked away from a idiot who ghosted me and started ignoring me , but was stalking my IG stories through his friends instagram page LOL , after I throw him off my page I have never heard from him anymore & I really don’t care it’s just show me that he’s In his 40’s and is very immature.
MJ you’re super cool, I love your conversations!!!
It’s the beginning of the video for me!😂😂but yeah I love you videos❤️😘
I appreciate you MJ❤️
yes me too! MJ's advice is the best!
as always the best advice, love it...
You are so funny and raw! I bet you are so much fun to hang out with.❤🥰❤
Lawd!! Preach on it!! Watched this after my 3 services today! LOL
Trust your own judgment and resurrect your self esteem.
Unless it's established said guy means you well been showing it and yada yada.
Don't trust these men you barely know or just met them to do the right thing.
They are a stranger, in the beginning he only cares about his agenda. He is going to look out for his, and you need to look out for yours.
I loveee your whole life! I am so glad I found you, I am listening while at work and I am cracking upppp!
DAYUMMMMMMM MJ!! I just had to clutch my pearls in the first 5 seconds of this video!! 😜😜😜 I wasn't ready for this REAL, IN YOUR FACE, EASTER SUNDAY dialog but I am here for ALL of it!! I LOVE YOU BOO!! ❤❤❤
Thank you. I'm learning this. I was in a 4 year relationship and after while he showed his ass after all I've done for him. Took in his kid when her mother had an ACS case. Took care all his doc appts and make sure his health was in check. He lost 20lbs since being with me. We travel to Georgia every year. Chile I feel I lost myself and played myself when I should've know better. Oh boy I'm tearing up while writing this. At my age I should not be going thru this. its whole lot to to my story.
Don't beat yourself up for being a good person. You did what you did for him from a place of purity and love. The fact that he is unappreciative is his issue. Chalk it up to experience and move on. You're wiser now and will be more cautious next time, but keep your good heart. ❤
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@@joifulady1921 thank you
@@cherokeeazuri21 , you're most welcome, dear one. Life ain't always easy, but we live, learn and even manage to enjoy it over time. Be well...❤
I did the same I bent over backwards and every year during the nine years we been together I never felt he loved me as much as i loved him. I cant believe this we was just together 1 week ago. We have a 3 year old like my baby is stressed out. She cries because he's not in the home anymore
Love you!!! Just what I needed, so glad I discovered your channel
omg..i forgot about how on point you are...husbands/boyfriends require too much...work on self..compromise..trust..balance...commitment can be wonderful and a blessing.
in the meantime...self preservation.
MJ this video was hilarious as hell. You had me LMAO 🤣 I was cryin.