Reshape Your Dating Standards! (To Attract a Relationship)
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What are your dating deal breakers?
If they cheated in their previous relationships ... No thank you! Sending best wishes from London 🙏🏽✨
Lies
No more narcissistic for me. No more emotional screwed up guys. I Just Can Not!
Same employer!
@@sheissunshine- Ditto from me!
You are so right about missing out due to excluding an entire race. I definitely preferred tall, black men. The darker, the better. But I ended up marrying a short man who is the whitest of white you’ll ever meet 😂😂😂 he didn’t even think I was interested because we were friendly coworkers and he knew my preferences which he obviously did not fit. I told him those were my PREFERENCES, not ABSOLUTES, and I thought he was cute, so let’s see where this goes. We’ve been together 14 years (12 married), and have 6 children.
It’s lowering my standards when I stay in a relationship with someone I am not compatible with. I definitely know myself and who I’m compatible with and who I’m not compatible with.
He's not saying lower your standards for non good men. It's being realistic about your standards, most women's standards are not based in wisdom. Most women have high standards that will keep them single.
I’m on my way to a fully paid Santa Barbara trip this weekend. Knowing I’m gonna look like his daughter.
Love this conversation MJ! I agree with you about dating men outside your race. I'm a recently divorced white woman at 65 after a long marriage. I'm pretty fit, lots of energy, good libido. I'm currently with a slightly younger latino who can match my energy. There's plenty of polarity, which is great if you know what I mean. There are cultural and socioeconomic differences that need to be navigated, but that could happen within your own race, too. Love the idea of going out with the man, not his race.
Absolutely! I am happy for you!
Be careful with this. Being a cougar has its pitfalls
MJ is in SA!!!! All my SA sisters lets gather here and welcome this man in town!!!! 🥰
MJ, I understand where you are coming from. My man is paralyzed, but he has a good job, I don't want for anything. He is kind, caring, compassionate, opens doors. Is a real gentleman in every sense of the word
That's highly different tho. He's actually a contributing partner (great for you!). A lot of these jokes ain't tho.
Totally agree with everything you say in this video! The one thing I can't settle on, is a man not showing up and stepping up! A man who knows what he wants & makes plans for us. I just want a man that undeniably wants me too. ❤😊
Not the bald-headed best friend?! Im dead.
If he has some skills like plumbing, mechanic, electrician, chef, yard work,etc and treats me well, it doesn't matter how much he makes because every skill is valuable
Indeed. Women don't want to do the dirty and gritty things.
MJ, I’m listening to your but I have overlooked money and these ppl end up resenting us. The money emasculates then anyway. Ima have to just start lying. Ima say I make 30k starting today
MJ, I've started asking men that I meet! Are married, single, divorced, living with someone, just getting out a relationship, GAY, HAVE GAY TENDENCY, like to get you azz locked, like to be on top or bottom!!!! He will fall in one of those categories!!!!!!
The “burnt edges manuscripts” threw me off 😭
I dated a short man once, and everything about him was short.
😂😂😂😂😂
I am open to dating a great man that is going to be HONEST, faithful, loyal, knows GOD looking for marriage... come on people are you here looking for love??? Too much loneliness in this WORLD of 8+billion
I love this.❤🔥
However, while your _sentiment is_ valid, the accuracy is not.
Out of 8BIL humans: half of that is male, half of _that_ are actual adults [>age 25], and roughly half of _that_ are of your desired sexuality...and roughly half of _that_ are single.
Now subtract homeless, insane, and imprisoned... You're only looking at roughly 250M available in your dating "pool" *GLOBALLY.*
*Edit: Also remember that most of the world's population is in China and India.*
Many folk stick only with their own kind (race, color, religion, etc.). The good news for Americans, though, is that we rank 3rd in the world's population; but that includes U.S. Territories, _and_ equates to only 25% of _each_ of the aforementioned countries; so about 13% of both.
Now...add _physical access_ due to geography, [dis]ability, issues with traveling including financial & paperwork [i.e.: passports]...your pool gets smaller still.
*That's not even taking into account religion, values, personality, number of children/dependents, lifestyle- including addictions, habits, kinks, etc.*
I, too, used to utilize that *"8BIL"* quote a lot. But, realistically, when you do the actual, true math (like MJ did here, with other groups and stats)...you'll see *just how small it **_actually_** is.*
*May we all **_not just meet, but also be happy with_** the love we seek, desire, and deserve.*
Best & Blessed Wishes.💖
MJ you hit the nail on the head with this one , I'm guilty of this myself i know realistically I'm not going to fine a rich man where i live. But as long as he's got a good job and has himself together with no babie momma issues ill be fine .
Hi
I just enjoy watching MJ, he's so cute and funny.
I love this grown as real chat
This video was so funny and so necessary!!! Def makes you think about things and evaluate what you’re asking for. This is one of the main reasons I always say I don’t have a type cuz I like who looks good to me and treats me well. My main thing that I look for is character and mindset and that’s where my issue lies. I feel like the mindset, character and values of people these days are very low. So not only are you dealing with low character but they broke and got small peen too? That’s what a lot of us are dealing with. 😩
I feel attacked😩 he made me happy but my focus was how financially stable he was not & my energy was too masculine… I drove him away 😔
What do you mean by not financially stable because depending on the definition you have, you may have dodged a bullet. Being with a person who is financially unstable is a rough and frustrating life. It can be worked out if you’re already in the relationship, but if you can see it before committing, it’s a red flag for me to run the other way.
I like the way you think!!! I am 68 and I have seen the many changes in the women of today. What is going on? My father taught me well when it comes to the man's money. He said that it is none of your business whats in a man's wallet but in your purse is. He also said that if the man is into you, you don't have to ask, he will give to you any way. That thought was very true.
I just discovered your channel and I love your energy. Genuine, honest and positive. Thank you for sharing yourself with us.❤
I genuinely love your content, so real, honest, and comical.
Have a credit score above 800 it’s not hard you just have to pay your bills on time. And pay credit cards off in full each month.
And no student loans 😅 if I didn’t have student loans, my credit would be beautiful.
If his situation were different, he might not want you!! Just saying!! Some people want you for what you can do for them. Or what they think you can do for them!! Something to think about!! Men pick women that are going to benefit them as well!
A lot of opportunists out here
And no one likes being used
I have standards set, it’s just a matter of meeting men and getting asked out and going out on dates.
“Put him in some platform shoes & you wear some flats”! -MJ 😅😂🤣😭 MJJJJJJJ😭😭
Thank you MJ you are truly speaking to my spirit I will change my approach for the qualities I look in dating because honestly my method ain’t working ❤
Never, lower your standards just be realistic.
Ask yourself.... What are your standards based in emotions and wisdom.
😂I love to hear you talk junk and educate at the same time ❤
I agree I lost my best friend because she was asking about my husband and what he doing for me I M muslim very well.taken care of by him ❤❤❤❤you ate so right
You should try the Dior lip oil. It is so wonderfully hydrating with very little color of any and gives your lips just that kissable glow that would looks so good on you. 😉
Love you MJ! Thanks for today’s LIVE! 💕
That was a testing for “Live” feed that what it states.
We need real talk like this! ❤❤
Im loving the way you talking 😅😅😂😂❤❤❤❤❤
Life is a mirror. So, are you in love with yourself? Do you like yourself? If not, then how do you expect to find someone like you.
Trustworthy, funny or witty, positive , intelligent, considerate, appreciates my creativity & love for animals, goal oriented ❤
I guess I gotta give the old men that harass me a chance. At this point I might as well date my damn self
Lol ❤bald headed girlfriends.... I love you!!😂
lol😂😂😂
I just got off a date with a man a lot shorter than me and I’m really holding myself accountable and refusing to let his height get in the way of all the things I like about him so far… I will remain hypergamous though because I’ll be damned if I make more than a man while existing in a patriarchal society
I’m dating a man who’s pretty short but babyyyy when I tell you that man is a hard worker. And he spoils me.
@@MarciaRain my husband is taller than me, but short overall. I preferred tall men (the guy I dated before my husband was 6’4), but I gave my husband a chance because I thought he was cute. We’ve been married 12 years. 6 kids 😅😂🥰
ok but why do I find the man at the bodega sexy lol... I luv u MJ lolll
I'm retired... It gets harder at this age, really does
Yes, it does, but concentrate on yourself because sometimes we bring problems on ourselves by accepting the wrong type of men in our lives. Good luck to you.
@@lavernsexton7009❤❤❤ well said
Oh my dearest MJ this particular topic is excellent to elaborate on. I love you so very much best friend 😊❤
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Mj you have literally saved my life with your videos!!
Thanks MJ, life is about choice and the consequences of your choices♥️
MJ you really broke it down❣️❣️❣️
I agree for all what you say
Re shaping our standarts BUTTT i disagree if we are not at all attracted to a guy but we love him as a bestie even tough they want us badly. Finding a balance
I’m not having any problems finding tall attractive men that are wealthy who have big package 📦 but I can tell you how they treat u is most important ❤❤
Agree MJ , love your talks, you are so wise and always have great advice ❤and you are hilarious to😂
That lip s rub did make a difference ♥️running to get me some! Lol
It feels amazing!!
♥
Yes don't be picky
Hey m just love ur channel
Questions
Tell me about the available men for 60 n older been single for 3yrs help philly
You have no idea the impact this mafe on my personal perspective. I was hesitant to date out of my ethnicity, culture, and never considered.f dating short men. Yet , love is the priority.. MJ you're transparent and real raw insight was received..😊
My husband is the exact opposite of all of my preferences. I thought he was cute though, so I decided to give him a try anyway. We’ve been married 12 years and have 6 children.
So good love your wisdom ❤️ and your so real and hilarious
*Hold 🆙, now... You got me over here **_tingling for "Tyrell"❣_* 🤩💯😍
Girl! I'm in the gym a lot. It does feel like I have to 'settle' in a sense to have a wider dating pool within my age group (30s). For real will date a fit grandpa, lol
Go say hit to Mr. Otis! 😂❤️
@@MJHarrisSpeaks😂😂😂 not Mr. Otis!!! 🤣
Don't "settle" the piss is dispersed throughout the pool
Is there any gentleman here from the Army???
Army men 🚩🚩🚩🚩
@@j-tenn226Why?
I remember them days! W the lights!
Love these keep it real convos when Auntie is cussin’ and setting us straight 🥰🤭❤️
MJ’s had enough! He’s cracking the whip now ladies 👏🏼
Love you, MJ! You are speaking the truth.
😂 you always make me laugh love your videos
I love your channel. May I request a video on how to keep a man, maintain a long, healthy, happy relationship? Thank you for all of the wonderful info you share regularly.
Help us M.J! You are so right. We needed to hear this. Love you boo❤😘
You are crazy 😂😂😂😂😂, love you , you are so funny 😂😂😂😂
People were ignoring the fact that Tabitha’s husband was a POLICE OFFICER! It’s great that Tab was successful enough so that her husband no longer had to work such a dangerous job.
Don't forget that we are Mortal
I love your honesty. Most people can’t handle straight shit talk
I cant eat happiness🤣
😂😂😂
God Bless you MJ!!! Thank you for your pearls!
Same to you!
The percentage section was hilarious😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Love you MJ.
Hi MJ, this is my first live!
If he can pay his own bills 💵 id be happy don’t ask me please 🎉
Yall see how that woman got short ugly Kevin Hart. She has to bow to kiss him and she appears to be happy.
#immarriagematerial defined by a person willing to work on the relationship period
I've learned to never judge a book by its cover alone
Omg your amazing I feel like your the male version of me
Hey ,I love your CZcams channel ,I have been looking for handsome men to date but it never reached anywhere so should I tried something else.
WOW! Hard truths! Thank you 😊
I love this ❤
Manhattan NY
Hi MJ. I'm 61yo my son said date younger...what's your best advice for us older ladies?
Date younger, Sis 🎉🫶
I'm dating younger and loving every minute of it.
Younger!!!
So true!
37-39min mark...😂😂
Love all of your content ❤ would love to see a video on how to act with a man who you’ve just met, haven’t quite exchanged numbers yet, but definitely can sense you are both feeling eachother. How do we take that to the next level, whilst staying in our feminine energies???
Much love from London UK ❤
What about habits such as smoking and drinking
Your on a real roll today
I feel You❤
Preach!
I JUST LOVE YOU
❤️❤️❤️❤️
That’s not right
I simply adore you! ❤
#Prince
Girlfriends always ask about your dude
Truths, loving you❤
Hi MJ. Love you
I agree 💯
You make me laugh I just love you MJ!!!!!!😂😂😂
Thank you beautiful soul 💚🧡🦋
I agree.
Why do I love you so much 😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤