Open -VS- Closed Adoption - Which one is best for your family?

Should we choose Open or Closed Adoption? What does that mean? Which one is better for us? If you are asking yourselves those same questions, grab your coffee and spend 20 minutes with me as I answer them all. I'll also share which one we chose and why!
There are different levels of OPEN ADOPTION. Which one fits you better?
CLOSED ADOPTION can sound amazing, but is it?
We have 3 fantastic children that God has blessed us with, all through Private Domestic Infant Adoption and we have learned a TON throughout our 13 + years of being parents & adoption advocates.
Hi! I'm Tami....mom to three incredible kids who each have their own beautiful adoption story. It's because of them that I am an Adoption Advocate - educating families, wiping tears (& crying with you), cheering you on, & walking with you through your own journey & beyond. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly. We'll talk about it all.
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[@anthonyandprecious8759]

What do they call them when they meet them?
Mom dad too or mr. Ms kinda stuff

[@amberlee635]

Mr. & Mrs. Compulsive Liars...

[@amberlee635]

And I mean the adopters not the real parents.

[@TamiMajtan]

Hi! Our kids call their birth parents by their first names. It has just been natural that way as they know us as mom and dad. We didn't tell them what to call them - we left it up to them and they all chose to refer to them by first name. Thank you for asking this great question! And thank you for watching! xoxo, T

[@amberlee635]

How about neither and and start putting emphasis on FAMILY PRESERVATION instead which is best for the child. Young single moms should get help from their families to raise their child who is also a grandchild, niece or nephew. Adoption is immoral, changing someone's bloodline identity is psychotic and should NOT be legal.
Girls today are constantly brainwashed and coerced that they should sign their babies over to adoption agencies who then SELL THEM to infertile couples and this is just wrong. All adoptees feel rejected due to being adopted and that is also wrong to do that to any child just so some damn barren women can be called a mom when she doesn't deserve to be and so adoption agencies can get rich.
Christian clergy is unforgivable to condone adoption and not look at how much it hurts a mother and her child.
Even teens can raise their kids, I know plenty of good teen moms whose parents have supported them and helped them do so.
And I've got to tell you lady, your question (which makes me as an adoptee want to vomit) "Which one is better for us?" is without a doubt the most selfish attitude I have ever seen, WHAT about the child you are going to adopt (buy). You obviously don't give a damn how he or she will feel. You know you infertile women/couples are the most neurotic, mooching, parasitic hookworms on earth and how DARE you expect a child to have to give up their bloodline family and identity for YOU, because you are abnormal and can't have kids.
And by the way God never intended for any of you to have someone's else's baby. That is just another big fat lie made up by adopters who own adoption agencie$$$$. If you actually read the bible you'd see the very first infertile woman Sarah forced her slave Hagar to have sex with her husband and give her her son. Later on when she did come pregnant she kicked the boy (Ishmel) and his mother our of her house. God never called Hagar a "birthmother" either" he acknowledged her AS HIS MOTHER because that is what she was. I am so sick and tired of you bitter infertile Christians twisting and changing the bible to condone you stealing other women's babies and the baby's identity from them.
Adoption is a sin that all of you will pay for someday, Christ will see to that because adoption, especially since so many are still forced and the mother's lied to and manipulated is NOT "doing unto others".
Only Guardianship or family preservation is the true moral way if a child is orphaned or their parents can't take of them for some reason.
Only other family blood family members are truly family and it is time to stop the lies and pain you con artist adopters have caused for over a century.

[@rony4776]

But in some situations the birth parent can't look after the child or don't want to so adoption is a way for that child to have a loving family but also be in touch with that birth parent (if an open adoption is chosen). Also i completely disagree with what you're saying about infertile women/ couples. Using the phrase "abnormal" suggests there is something wrong with not being able to have children but in reality, that is not at all the case. As for what you were saying about teen parents, I'm sure many can look after their child but some aren't in the position to care for a child- it all depends on the situation.

[@amberlee635]

@@rony4776 So you think infertility is normal lol? If it was no one would have kids lady, uh duh. Infertile women aren't normal in the head either, infertility makes women insane, it even says so in the bible. Are you going to agree that this nutcase Tami is normal when she sits there advocating breast feeding a baby she bought? Then you have a serious problem and you are crazy and sick too. And there are plenty of teen moms who are great moms, and all they need is familial support which infertile couples and the adoption industry do not want them to have for their own selfish reasons, NOT for the baby's sake. And no woman has a right not to care for her child either. She should be ripped apart for that, she has no right to avoid her responsibility and hurt her child like that but vultures like infertile couples and facilitators (who only care about the money they make selling the baby to infertiles) totally ignore that fact, again for their own selfish reasons.
Maybe you don't realize either that most adopters lie about keeping an adoption open just to get the mom to sign away her rights while they intend to close it a year or so after. Infertile couples are the biggest manipulators and liars on earth.
You don't realize either that closed adoption is one of the biggest forms of torture that can be inflicted on another human being and it should not be legal AT ALL.
As I said before for the best interest of the child only Guardianship should be legal-this keeps the child's blood identity in tact (which is mandatory for the psychological and emotional health for every human being on earth) and also keeps a child in reality, not forced to play house with egotistical couples who only care about being called mom and dad when the child KNOWS they aren't their mom and dad. I guess none of you get how much that screws kids up for life, how many problems it causes in a person, so much so it should be considered child abuse, because that's what it is.

[@anapingree]

My only opinion on adoption is I think closed adoption should not be a thing. I’m an adoptee and mine I’m assuming is closed and it absolutely sucks! It’s the one thing that would make me feel more like myself but of course the government and biological and adoptive parents get that choice. Semi open or one less then that should be the only two. Or at least let the child know their damn medical history because how am I supposed to know if I am predisposed to some deadly disease that could kill me in 5 years if I know absolutely nothing. I think that’s the only really big problem I have with closed adoption coming from being in a closed adoption myself. I applaud you for having an open adoption for your children. I think it’s really important in the long run of the children’s well-being to be able to have their questions answered if THEY choose.