How to Build Self-Esteem - The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
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I would love to see you make a video about my favorite book of all time, which is Stephen Pressfield - The War of Art! :)
Love Life Will definitely keep that in mind! :)
Great representation of six pillars! I watched another guy who explained these 6 points in like 20 minutes & it was boring as hell. Thanks
***** Haha, thanks brother!
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1.Be present to the moment
2.Improve what you can, accept what you can't
3.Remove victim mentality, be responsible for your actions
4.Stay grounded, be assertive
5.Have a purpose
6.Grow in integrity
thx~
heres my note:
1. the practice of living consciously
2. improve what u can change and accept what you cant change, practice of self-acceptance
3. the practice of self-responsibility, medical condition is ur problem
4. 100% know what u dont like, 100% unapologetic, 100% authentic -> the practice of self-assertiveness.
5. entreprenuer always have higher self-esteem. they lives to conquer. because they live with a purpose. -> the practice of living purposely
6. the practice of personal integrity -> dont tell urself that u're worthless
politehnist
Great job, feel free to share your other notes guys
politehnist thanks for the summary!
This is really helpful.
politehnist agrre
one more, stay away from toxic people...
Very difficult
FRANCISCO HUIZAR yes
That includes work environment
The 6 pillars transform your relationships with toxic people. You don't attract their toxic ways of being. And you can be clear and conscious. I don't need to stay away from toxic people because they know that they need to treat me with respect.
only if you stay in a desert island can do this
Oh my god guys self-esteem is everything. Reaching a high self-esteem has allowed me to become such a positive, loving person. I love humanity. I treat everyone with upmost respect and adoration and usually people show me the same and when they don't I just let it wash over me. I used to be a really arrogant and nasty person and would try to injure others as much as I can but since I have really high self-esteem I gain absolutely nothing from harming others. Raising your self-esteem is all about being aware of your abilities and value, reminiscing on the challenges you've overcome and the inner resources you possess which have allowed you to do so and to stop hiding! Speak your truth unapologetically. Stop hiding who you are to avoid disapproval and criticism. Let go, let loose and be you and live fearless.
DreamBeatsBakery when i see something nasty or something not right, or have an opinion, can i just go ahead and say it on the spot? When someone ignores me, do i say "im talking to you, why are you ignoring me?" Not with rage but with inquiry. I usually find people doing that and other things I really hate, but I just want to expose what I see, is that right?
Amber Zhandt Of course, that's a big part of it. Asserting yourself. It means that your wants, views and opinions are important and therefore demand to be shared. If you avoid calling things out/speaking up you are hiding parts of yourself due to fear of confrontation, criticism or disapproval and that injures your self-esteem more severely than anything anyone could ever do to you. Summed up: "Never avoid doing or saying something for fear of disapproval or criticism from other people."
DreamBeatsBakery im tired of being too nice...people walk all over me.. i want your old personality
HOW THO TEACH ME HOW
DreamBeatsBakery “I love humanity”. Wow. That’s a frame of mind I’m quite sure I’ll never get to ..
“If my aim is to prove I am “enough,” the project goes on to infinity-because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.” - Nathaniel Branden. Really awesome quote from the book. Thank you for such a great video :)
I've 10 months clean . I'm in what we call recovery. This is all recovery! Cool. The first pillar of self esteem is the serenity prayer!
Im in recovery too, coming up on 1 year. Anyways, just wanted to say "hi" to a fellow recovering addict like myself:-) Stay pushin. #1Mo24
Kyle Medeiros Congratulations to all of you guys!
yeah keep pushin ^_^ we are bound to be successful in life.
I am 5 years one day at a time. keep on keepin on...
Kyle Medeiros Hi kyle Iam 7 months , thats exactly what I was thinking when I was watching the video on he seven habits of highly effective people.and how today I have all he traits of high self esteem , isnt it just wonderful
1. The practice of living consciously
2. The practice of self acceptance
3. The practice of self responsibility
4. The practice of self assertiveness
5. The practice of living purposefully
6. The practice of personal integrity
I just wanted to say thank you for all of you videos. Your channel deserves way more views and subscribers and i think you'll get to it soon. The one thing i love most about your videos is that they are extremely interactive, and they always keep your eyes on the screen, so I don't think Ill ever get bored learning something from your videos.
nick junior Awesome :))
+nick junior totally agree!
I would like to learn the animation. I want to do this for training and owning dogs. Please let me know how I can contact you.
CSquared it's a website he uses. It's a subscription service I don't think he's the actual person making the drawings i don't know the website
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Sharon Salzberg
I find self esteem a bit tricky.
People with lower moral values, non introspective and with out a strong critical judgement *have* high self esteem.
On the contrary people with higher moral threshold and strong critical judgement have lower self esteem.
So true.
Imho the first type of people you described is an example of ignorants who cant live conscious, rational and happy life - since they ignore the reality and give up reason for emotions, their "happiness" is very chaotic, random and -in most cases - temporary.
Branden in his essay "Mental Health versus Mysticism and Self Sacrifice" in Ayn Rand's "Virtue of Selfishness" explains how proper ethics influences one's way to achievment of happines and self-esteem (or rather: how proper ethics is essential to achieve them).
I don't imagine those people are readily happy for the success of others, though. Which would indicate a security in their own life and achievements. They are the type likely to gossip, snicker, backstab and such and no one who does that is operating from a sense of well-being or high self-esteem. However, the people with higher moral threshold, likely to exhibit healthy behaviors, are likely to be the targets of their jabs and schemes so may feel isolated, targeted or like something is indeed wrong with them. And we know that's not the case. However, either way, having a stance being passionate and consistent about it, it just one pillar. As we saw in the video, there are other pillars to take into account. The type with one pillar is certainly not as stable as someone who possesses three pillars or more, and are likely to be shaken up by life more frequently and largely depend on ego, which is not self-confidence. Ego is hope of others seeing you in the positive light you hope to be and self-confidence is seeing yourself in totality and wholeness of day and being loving to yourself while seeing areas where you can improve.
John Besa
John Besa omg yes that is so true
Wow, finally... Another normal person who doesn't drink. I get crap for this all the time like it's this weird trait to not drink. There are just no advantages to me.
Same here.
That and I got really demotivated when I heard you have to practice drinking bear if you don't like the taste of it.
Bleeeh.
Leto85 Yeah it's not worth it. I understand everyone is different but you waste money on something that isn't even good for you.
Amanda Mason Exactly! I've forgotten that one.
At the gym I often hear other guys complaining they've gain weight at the wrong places after the weekend.
Well, not for me.
Not for you either.
Have you tried every alcoholic beverage available? I am sure there will be a drink that you will like. If you haven't tried them all, how do you know you won't enjoy it? You are not a robot who must pass everything through a logic gate.
It's not the flavor. I've definitely tried tasty alcoholic beverages. I would just rather not be spending my money to put myself in a disoriented or tipsy/drunken state nor do I enjoy hangovers. I'm not dissing everyone who drinks, I don't care if people do. I just get shit for not drinking ALL the time.
I want to love this but it lost me on the 5th pillar... Why is it that we have to be entrepreneurs to live purposely? What is this passion for bashing those of us that keep the world running? Do nurses live without purpose? What about the person you buy your chai latte from in the morning? Is there no chance that they enjoy the smiles of the people they make drinks for a love their jobs?
Some of us are not cut out to be entrepreneurs, just like we are not cut out to be warriors... and the world is a better place for it. Be thankful next time your bin is emptied that there are people who are getting up and doing what needs to be done. I am certain that it is possible to do a "day job" and still live with purpose!
+Heather Hudson It's a good point, I think we need to find our purpose and be in alignment with that. For some, that might be to practice as a nurse, or as a clerk, or else.
That's a beautiful message. It's true sometimes it can come across as entrepreneurs have some sort of superiority complex which is self-esteem gone wrong. But I'm sure in this case the example of entrepreneurs was merely an example.
Even a nurse, who purposefully cares for a patient, willing to make a positive change in someone's life is practising purposefully. I think it's more to do with intentiality than the profession. It may be that for an entrepreneur they're fighting for their life so if they don't behave purposefully they'll get slaughtered (warrior example). Thus this is cultivated quicker.
But likewise a nurse who works hard at her art, doing things with the right intentions and not merely out of habit but with a purpose, the nurse is immediately providing and benefiting people in ways the entrepreneur may take years to.
+Heather Hudson Good point, but don't mix cause and effet. He took the example of entrepreneurs because statistically, a gooood portion of them is doing it because they follow "what they want to do" (some do it just in hope to get more money without any purpose). But that doesn't mean others can't do a "salary job" without purpose. Your nurse example is perfect. Same with hospital doctors, masseusse, pilot/steward, fisherman, IT tech, engineer, karate instructor and so on... ANYthing can be done with a purpose. And not only in jobs, but in everything in life.
Again, we are talking about jobs because it is easier to get "sucked in" a job (just for money to live) that has no purpose. That doesn't mean nobody can have a purpose at your job
Entrepreneurs have a free environnement that they can shape themselves, but if you can find something with a more structured environnement that has all you need, go for it! (in fact, it may be better for most of us)
+Heather Hudson I don't think he meant entrepreneurs in a physical sense. It is about living your life with a purpose. To do everything you do, because you love to do exactly what you are doing. Then it will shine through to your personality. You will be good at what you are doing, people will think that you are good, and you will be happy.
That is kind of, what a successful entrepreneur is doing. But you could be nurse too.
you're absolutely right but unfortunately we live in a juvenile culture where everyone wants to be the next richard Branson.
The journey to having Self Esteem begins the moment...'You Start to Love Yourself' and start to Accept and Appreciate yourself with whatever you have or whatever you have achieved. Being in this state ensures that you always have a positive view of life and anything in general and that is what makes a lot of difference. Let us bring to ourselves the world of Awareness and increase our SE quotient!
"Accept and Appreciate yourself!"
In turn your determination leads to defining your "true" self!
I should really mention the discrimination or disrespect you put on the regular 9 to 5 worker compared to the entrepreneur.the reason is you didn't right in the two examples , as you supposed the the entrepreneur is passionate but the regular worker is "indifferent" !? I understand you wanted to give an example of the importance of having a purpose but can't a regular worker have purpose ? Obviously that is a common stereotype that we shouldn't be conceived by.
I suspect it comes from a place where, in general, entrepreneurs are more motivated than 9 - 5 ers.
However, it should not be true, and people should not feel down if they don't have a businees.
The key takeaway is that you should be purposeful in your tasks, no matters of you are an entrepreneur or a 9-5er.
This was one of the few books that I had high expectations of - but could not get through because I found it really boring and complicated. Now I can catch the essence of it - in your great animated style - and start putting the teachings in practice immediately. Thanks for your great work. I love it.
I haven't seen one of your video's in a long time... I'm kind of disappointed to check your channel and see that you haven't made one in almost a year. Whatever you're doing now, I hope it it's making you happy.... thanks for having made all these video's... they've been awesome :) take care!
Thank you Nathaniel. Just watched 7 Habits and Self Esteem--just what I needed to be reminded of this morning. Your animations are great and your voice over is succinct and to the point--very wise. Thank you again!
You are so right- there is a good difference between your old and new videos! Well done for taking it on the chin (monotone criticism) and actually becoming better- shows that you don't just make self-development videos, you actually implement a lot of the ideas in real life.
Just Me Haha, it's been a continuing journey. You think you're sounding enthusiastic until you actually record and listen to yourself. :)
it looks to me like most of this video reverses cause and consequence. Most of those things come from high self esteem but to not "generate" self esteem out of nowhere.
still a well realized video!
I always come back to this video.... I need a reminder every now and then
I love this! Just what I needed to hear in my life right now. I'd love to make a version of this oriented towards women. Thank you!
Self esteem comes from practice, failing multiple times until you become good at something you desire to be good at, slowly but constantly changing your subconcious towards your goal, having the courage to get out of your comfortable daily routine and trying to do something that you fear doing at first, you didn't address that in this video
i like this :)
In other words: the courage to let go your past life, to live in the present and give your life his own way and goal/purpose.
great video
0:00 1st pillar: The practice of living consciously
0:52 2nd pillar: The practice of self-acceptance
2:02 3rd pillar: The practice of self-responsibility
3:08 4th pillar: The practice of self-assertiveness
4:30 5th pillar: The practice of living purposefully
5:06: 6th pillar: The practice of personal integrity
5:51: PRACTICE
I have to honestly say.. You're a great person for these types of videos. This is great content and you're helping so much people in the process, you deserve more praise than you're getting. You are saving many people SO much time. Thank you for this.
I watch this over and over again. Whenever I'm free or feeling down because of my insecurities and it really helps me a lot. I will keep watching it till I memorize it by heart and keep practicing it till it become natural. Thanks a lot! Namaste.
Wow. I hit every one of these for the most part of my life. In my case, standing up for those who can't stand for themselves, not drinking alcohol, having humility so that I could find areas where I can improve and looking within criticisms for good insights and throwing away the hurtful junk, always willing to improve. One guy I turned down, I remember distinctly, tried attacking my willingness to always improve. That made me a realize a true weakness in him and a strength in me that I didn't want to have destroyed. To have someone note this about me, without having me state it, showed it was impactful to others..and maybe a sore point for him in his life, maybe feeling like he could not match up with me. Whatever it was, it helped me to think more and gave me good practice to live consciously in the moment, being more aware of people, of intentions; theirs and mine and being thankful and in some moments, taking the time to express that thankfulness to God and my loved ones. I'm glad to know I'm not as terrible as people have wanted me to think for years. My self-esteem was probably born out of a consistent stream of naysayers who I eventually decided I didn't want to please and didn't agree with. And I sought out things I loved about myself. Not just externally but especially internally. The things I could control, like not bullying people, defending others, not gossiping, helping others in need, thinking of what strangers might go through and how we all put on a public face of happiness, so I don't go around randomly hurting others. It makes you feel better about yourself to think better of others and treat people the way that you'd like to be treated. Compassion is a great form of self-love; using yourself to understand and gain an appreciation and love for others.
How could he make 'always willing to improve' an insult against you. Good thing you turned him down gurl
Just found you. You take complex concepts, which are often difficult to practically apply, & turn them into simple, fun explanations. I will definitely be exploring the rest of your channel. Thanks!
EtherealLove Awesome! Thank you! :)
Very powerful Pillars to build & Live a Confident Life 👇👇👇👇
1. The Practice of Living Consciously - Always do things that help you to get closer to what you want to be or Get in your life.
2. Practice of Self-Acceptance: Improve what you can accept and what you can't
3. Practice of Self-Responsibility: Be Accountable For All decisions choices and actions
4. Practice Of Self Assertiveness: Know your boundaries (Not for potential but what you want to know for)
5. Practice of Your Personal Integrity
I've only recently discovered the 6th pillar's importance. I'm always working on keeping the promises I make to myself. It's too easy to fall into a pattern of letting yourself get off easy and skip that work out, etc. Thanks for the videos!
Should be a must film on all the schools!
Thank you for sharing your talent. These are concise and intuitive in the way they flow. I am recovering from a number of significant setbacks in life and your video's are great motivators. Please keep up the good work.
EXCELLENT work, I sent your link to my niece and nephew to assist them in their journey. My Buddhist practice helped me reinvent myself after a childhood of verbal abuse and I agree 1000% with how you have summarized and encouraged developing one's humanity.
Great video! Was just about the purchase the book then I found your video. Very informative, keep it up!
Rhyan Brah Awesome to hear that. Thanks! :)
I love that you say that the entrepreneur is the modern warrior, this is so true
F yes. Thank you for taking the time to create and share this. I was looking for videos to share with my young son. I want to build him up to allow him to live to his fullest potential and I've noticed his self esteem is starting to get in the way. I'm planning to show this to him tomorrow. Thank you Mr. Brandon, keep spreading the love!
I've read a lot of the books you have videos on and I love to watch them, so I can get a good reminder of the core values of the book. This is a book I haven't read and I am definitely going to buy it ASAP and buy one for a friend. Thanks for sharing!
Great channel, packed with valuable information. Really glad to have found it.
jaggo84 Awesome :)
Incredible work. This is by far the most efficient and down-to-earth self-improvement tutorial I have ever experienced. After I read the book, It was your video on Rich Dad, Poor Dad that lead me to your channel and your wealth of knowledge. I watched all of your videos then instantly subscribed. Now I'm looking forward to many more videos from you and your channel. I wish you the absolute best of luck with your channel and all aspects of your life.
***** Wow, thank you so much for all the kindness and positivity! :)
This is the perfect categorization of everything you could find on self esteem.....i always had a notion that self acceptance will affect my self improvement....wonderful job...
Phenomenal video and strong, solid advice! Thank you for taking the time to share your experience and wisdom with complete strangers.
What if your inner voice has been tainted due to trauma or emotional abuse? Do you have a video on healing your inner voice?
thats a good question. thats sth i ask my self 2. its hard to control your inner voice....
Check out John Bradshaw's work on healing shame. Brilliant and is exactly what you're referring to - healing the inner wounds.
Sam Tielemans im gonna check that out. thx man =)
hey! i know this is a year late but one thing that helped my voices be kinder is something called inner child. I'm crap at explaining it but if you look it up theres lots of videos explaining it :)
Samantha Steele go to Jesus the one who created you only he can heal you and love you and change you... hos grace is sufficient and his all you need in this life time and he'll bring good people in your life
You're amazing! This video helped me so much.
I wasn't sure about adding this book to my reading list, but after the review, this will definitely be the next book I'll be reading.
I am so so happy I just found your channel. A true gem! Subscribed and gonna watch them all today!!!
Appreciate the good things you do and respect yourself through your actions luv luv😚
Man. I really appreciate this video. like and subscribe with honor !
Will start my practises asap! Thank you. Great video. You can even hear the confidence in your voice.
I have been looking for this book for a long time. This videos awesome man!
Perfect
I have one question
What is the difference between practicing self assertiveness and personal integrity? Can you elaborate more on that?
Mohammad Bukhari Yeah, good question. In my example of drinking, the two are extremely intertwined.
In short, personal integrity has to do more with you, while self-assertiveness has to do more with how you interact with others.
So let's say someone decided he is going to stop drinking, but one day he is having a really hard time and on the way home, he picks up alcohol at the liquor store. He comes home and drinks it all. When he wakes up the next day, he is going to think he is worthless. He can't stick to things. He didn't practice his personal integrity, and now it's going to manifest itself through lack of self-esteem.
Now, let's say another guy doesn't have a problem not drinking on his own, or even when he is around his friends. However, if they are drinking and he is not, they are making him feel like he isn't "cool" or that he's a loser, and he is going along with it. A quality that could be admired, even by the very people who are making fun of it, is going to be made fun of and ridiculed because the person cannot assert himself.
I saw this all the time when I was in college. Yeah, there were people who did not drink even with their friends, but the problem was that most of them could not assert themselves around others in a way where they didn't have to be apologetic about something that is actually really respectable, admirable, and attractive.
I've been struggling with self-esteem since working with arrogant workmates who keeps on contradicting my ideas and opinion and acts as if they know better than I am... despite the fact that I have more work experience than them.
They are newly graduate and newly hired by the way. And they are crowd favorite already.
Thanks for the video, I do like how these are all animated. Visuals are great!
So many years i have been using CZcams. I never bothered to sign in, like, subscribe to any channel. BUT the efforts n awesomeness you are putting in your videos have compelled me to like ur video n subscribe to ur channel. THANK YOU and keep up the great job 😃
Hey man thanks for the videos keep it up!!
Anwar Darkazanli Thanks Anwar! :)
Your videos are amazing! Please keep them coming :)
Alexander Wahler Thanks!! :)
Very well demonstrated and well said. Thank you and I wish everyone who is watching this well. Take care
thank you sir
Great! Imagine if school kids got to watch this at the start of every semester.
i know you have a gf but you are a good person. thank you for these videos. i grew up homeless (actually homeless) and parentless, as feral as they come, and your videos save my life. although I went to Brown I don't know how do things like normal people. anyways thank you.
If you grew up homeless and alone, I believe you being here today is in itself big thing.
And I must dare to say to you, don't try to be normal. Its very similar to leaving your own comfortable house to live with your normal people under a single roof. think about it. You have to sacrifice lots of things, adjust to the needs of people and you just cant be you. Yes, initially it might seem fun, but soon the magic fades away.
In the same way, I highly suggest you to not try to waste time in 'fitting in'. Work on yourself all the time and make a purpose of your life that people would try to 'fit in' with you.
Wish you a great life ahead.
Kudos
Abhioxic.
Thank you Abhi Shah, I'm glad to hear that good advice. Very wise
I have a similar story 😊
Hey ! Thank you for your videos, I recently discovered them and I really think they have deeply impacted the way I experience life and interact with people :) This one especially really hit home ! Keep them coming please
Isa Nug Awesome to hear! Thank you! :)
This is great, I’m glad I came across this. Thank you for putting this together 👍🏻😊
my hair is thinning too, it took me a longg time to shave it. It effected my life and relationships.
I just shaved it, I cant change it and now I can just focus on improving myself
This philosophy is from the book not FM;s. He's just summarizing the book for our convience.
The Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Explained so beautifully. Excellent work.
this is the best video on CZcams, I'll watxh it every day and learn
you cant imagine how much you are inspiring and motivating by what you do,simplifying crucial facts.this is the nearest I cant get you and say,god bless you.
sorry for my english.I'm sure you're laughting at it but you know what I'm talking about :D
respect
Mahdiar Misagh Your English is perfect! Thank you for dropping me a comment :)
what do you do when you try hard to build self-esteem, study hard, exercise regularly, have a happy life, but have no friends at school and feel really bad about it and that tears apart your self-esteem
Usually when we feel bad it's because how our situation is internalized - if we don't have friends and internalize that as "I'm a loser and no one likes me," then we are going to be depressed. If we internalize the same situation in a different, self compassionate way, it might sound something like, "I don't have friends yet at school but I'm happy with the personal path I'm on. I want to keep reaching out, so how can I put myself in a position to meet like minded people?" The second one doesn't reflect on your worth but the first one is a direct assault on it. Just start paying attention to the messages you tell yourself and how you interpret situations and you can then challenge the negative ones.
Sam, thanks for sharing that way of analysing things! I thought the first interpretation was the only one available
Clorox Bleach me too buddy
practice loving yourself anyway
@@samtielemans I like the way you put it. In other words, stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Thanks for the visuals. It really helps to bring the message home and internally integrate it.
This is so good!! I'm currently looking into mindfulness & self esteem so glad i found this
Dude this channel is DOPE. Subbed!
Same 😏
The purpose of life
always had low selfesteem, went to a course, they actually taught me this and for 1 year my live changed, but I stopped doing what they told me and darkness came again.
Shit, this is like a physical exercise, once you stop doing it, you lose all the work.
What did they teach you ? Simplify it for me.
Exactly. Very good observation. When we have to change our current state, we have to look at the mind like a muscle. It becomes stronger through consistent exercise, but if you stop, it goes back to its natural state. For most of us we must maintain what growth we achieve. I think ultimately though when the mind creates and solidifies the new connections, over time and experience, they will be much harder to break. Much like the old strong connections that you're fighting against.
This is an awesome chanel. I love the reviews, and how each concept is presented as a story! Immediately subscribed. So glad I found this!
thankyou
Personal integrity and purposefully spending your time sounds like a luxury. Not many people can't afford that. E.g. if you depend on a paycheck you need to do what your boss wants despite considering it stupid. And you can't tell him or refuse, because it will make your paycheck less likely.
Your videos are great! Such a good idea and done well too 😀
Ella Jones Thanks Ella! :)
Hey, thanks for your videos. They are the best book summaries ever - "read" a book in seven minutes!
This video highlighted the importance of consistent effort and management in improving self-esteem. I am dedicated to taking proactive steps to care for and build my self-esteem over time.
thought you're gonna say "The 4th pillar is the pillar of not half-assing.."
Aye i see you around here all the time bro
sounds like you have never had low self esteem to me mate ?
monogramadikt this is a book recap dude.
in another video he said that he was suicidal when he was a kid. What helped him doesnt need to be helpfull for you. try to think about why and what made you feel this way and how you can change this. Doing something that makes you feel valuable and going into situations with a different mindset even if you feel this way has helped me lots cause you get a different reaction and you adjust. Good luckto you
Frankly, low self esteem SEEMS not to be problem for anyone these days tho!! :D
Many people have issues, just not everybody show it, rather try to solve it.
@@silkegehtyoutubegarnichtsa892 What? Which planet? Because I will show you like 8 billion people that have issues
I came across your channel and so happy that I did.
This channel is so helpful. Thanks for taking the time to make these videos.
My question is: often low self-esteem is a consequence of overthinking things. So if I want to improve I have to actively work on myself.. but as long as I work on myself I have to actively think about it causing me to overthink again. What am I supposed to do?
+Sandor D. I would keep a journal and record the frequent thoughts, then check them after let's say a week. Synthesize the main themes and categorize them as constructive or parasitic. We become what we think the whole day. Look for your purpose in life, clarify purpose, check the obstacles and fears. Plan carefully and practice the pruning of parasitic ideas.
+Sandor D. Overthinking may be a consequence of low self-esteem. See if your overthinking is connected with some emotions, e.g. worry, fear, etc. They could be released using EFT, Sedona Method, etc.
+Cris S +humanyoda
Thanks you guys.. I think that's a great idea. You see, I overthink in order not to forget (I have quite a low self esteem in certain things, that's totally true) but when I stop thinking / worrying too much I get all lazy and I don't accomplish my goals. I think that overthinking is related to discipline and not thinking much is getting all lazy (which isn't always bad). I really am trying to find a center between those two and I've done quite some progress.
+Sandor D. Good luck!
Xeno Thank you!
I never knew waking up late comes under low self esteem..
Anjali Sharma I think it doesn't. Everyone fails someday. The difference is what's your attitude and response to that behavior.
H Yeah true hahaha always thinks They're more productive or whatever. Shut up
I would say it does, this is because if you decided to wake up at a certain time and you didn't, you lose confidence in yourself to do what you set out to do, you trust yourself less.
The assumption I have made is that you woke up at a different time than expected because you used the subjective term "late"
But on a completely different note, waking up really gives you confidence and helps you have amazing days! if you want more info on that read the miracle morning :D
H No
A-men to that...!!!
this is really well done. simple yet so effective and worthy to learn. thank you
Great video man. Visual summary of book helps a lot to get the core principles. Have ordered the book. Appreciate your efforts. Keep going.
one question my friend: see, i consider myself very confident in my current state as authors like napoleon hill, dale carnegie, t. harv eker and many more improved my life over the last months. i became completely careless about the opinions of other people about me and got more energy as i started thinking positive about me and the people around me. Now would you still recommend this book to a person in a state of mind like mine? I know you can always learn from any book no matter how educated you think you are, just wanted to hear your opinion on this one :)
this book is useful for everyone. no one does all these six steps perfectly I. every situation , even the most confident people will slip up and go against their authentic self in certain situations.
+Brandon Lake yeah, totally!
wow... i just realized that we are exactly the same as for the 4th pillar, (im 15) and all my friends smoke(cigarettes and weed) and sometimes drink at parties, every time i just say no, and stand my ground, some of my friends just decided to go along with the others but i just told myself: how is this going to help me in any way? so i just say no and people actually respect you for that, its weird
Sky PacTV Yeah, exactly :))
your videos are very helpful thanks so much for taking the time out to create these !
cool, been looking for videos such as yours. thanks for posting.
Please do some economics lectures~ I find it more exciting listening to you than my professors. Lol hahahaha :))
angelique borbon Hahaha, I've been lucky with my professors. I've had some really good ones. But yes, it can get really dry if the teacher isn't teaching well :))
yes im only 15 so i dont have any economy teachers but i find your lectures VERY interesting and it makes me want to learn more
can you do The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
squirrel323 This is my favorite book! It has also been getting requested a lot.
So definitely expect it to be animated very soon. Since the book is super dense (pretty much no fluff in this one), I will most likely do it in two parts. The first part will have to do with what it means to be masculine, and the second part will go into detail with how that masculine personality treats and interacts with the feminine.
FightMediocrity i look forward to these videos,ive been passing around trying to get my friends to read this book but i keep getting the " i dont have time" excuse.i hope that your video will get them to wan to read it more.
squirrel323 Haha, yeah I know what that's like. I've basically learned that it is pointless to try to help "improve" anyone unless they are specifically looking for it themselves. I would see a friend of mine struggling, and I would think, "He could just read this one book, or listen to this one advice, and he could solve his problems." But that was in my naive days. :) Even today, some of my friends will tell me, "Why don't you talk to him and give him advice, you can help him." And I usually have to tell them that that's not how it works.
The reason I love my channel is because I don't have to try and change anyone. The people who are watching this are themselves trying to make the change. So it's more like, I'm trying to improve myself, and anyone who wants to join along, great. If not, I don't have to impose myself on anyone.
Your summary gave me a better understanding than reading the book itself did before - well done!
Thank you Sir. I jotted down all the points mentioned in your video and pondered over it. It helped me have a better understanding of building self-esteem. I could have learnt the same by reading the book in the next 2-3 days, but your video helped me save time and learn it all in 6 awesome minutes.
Watching this is the best investment of 6.5 minutes anyone can make. Excellent video and message
I find it depressing that the modern warrior is the entrepeneur. While men used to live free and travel the world with pride, the warrior now spends the majority of his time in front of a computer screen. Of course, in our world starting a business is the only way to achieve freedom from money, so it's a smart thing to do. But in many ways our modern world is is dull and stale.
For me it's clear on vídeo that Entrepreneur is the one that believe in something and want to start/build it. Not necessarily a business ...
+Henrique Dias Unless its a business, you'll have to work for somebody else.
+HolyShitGuitar Depends on what you call "business". If you are refering to being a freelance IT engineer, or selling crap made in Thailand over amazon, yes. But you can also learn a manual skill and become an artisan (just an example). What makes the "modern world a dull and stale" place is the transformation into a service world, as opposed to a *creation* world
Enidehalas Definitely. Despite all the benefits of our modern world, I would have rather been born in another time. Being an artisan feels more like "blacksmith" than "warrior" to me.
Well you could always try to become a professional MMA fighter, or a less extreme "ultra liberal" form of work, like a freelance helicopter pilot. But I agree, with our "we are better than everything" human pride, we gained a lot in our modern world, but don't even realise how much we lost/it costs us
You sir, absolutely deserve my subscription. Thank you for the video and keep doing them!
ForceJerry Haha, awesome! Thanks! :)
A wonderful encapsulation of the book. I'm confident that Dr. Branden would have approved. Thank you. Nathaniel Branden, RIP.
Charles Dahl Thanks :)
Do you need to pay the original author to make such video that explains the content of the book?
Ritesh Man Tamrakar I was just wondering the same thing. I believe you're allowed to cite quotes from the book (IE: In this video he cites the title of each practice) but notice how how uses his own life experiences and examples for the actual content. Any thoughts or additions FightMediocrity
I think it's Ok because he mentions the source of information and the original author. Besides, he does not just upload the scan of the book but cited the 6 main ideas, expressing with his own examples and experience.
Thank you Joey Janssen and ***** for sharing your thoughts. I also think it should be allowed as long as original writer makes more money than reviewer.
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Ritesh Man Tamrakar This can also be seen as promoting the book for the Author. If someone wants to understand these concepts with more depth, then they might purchase the book
frankthetank136 Yes, it could be good advertisement of a book. I agree.
Does this guy do a pod cast??
I wish right :D?
Thank-you Nathaniel. Everyone stands to benefit from your sage perspective.
I love it, especially the last part. thank you!