How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

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  • @FightMediocrity
    @FightMediocrity  Před 9 lety +419

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    • @strengthxphilosophy
      @strengthxphilosophy Před 9 lety +4

      FightMediocrity This was awesome!

    • @FightMediocrity
      @FightMediocrity  Před 9 lety +2

      Strength And Philosophy Thank you! :)

    • @sarabrusa9449
      @sarabrusa9449 Před 9 lety +4

      FightMediocrity I have read a really good book on this subject its called "to love is to be happy with" by Nail Kaufman, if you didnt read it I really recommend it, I found it on the street and its the book that had the most impact on my life.

    • @serious_g
      @serious_g Před 9 lety

      Livi Tubo Post-communist country that uses russian products (detergents) =/= Russia. Trust me, countries like that do exist.

    • @serious_g
      @serious_g Před 9 lety +1

      Livi Tubo Russia is not the only former-USSR member. This guy is from Georgia, where Stalin is from.

  • @jorgextasy4028
    @jorgextasy4028 Před 3 lety +46

    instead of watching people’s heads get cut off every morning, watch videos of people who have less and can’t live in a stable home but are still happy. watching these will make you more grateful about everything you have in life

  • @lowcountrygirl7779
    @lowcountrygirl7779 Před 5 lety +31

    My dad had me reading these books at sixteen. I thank God for him. I used to think daddy was just evil for not allowing us to have cable and making me read and study incessantly. We're so blessed.
    Thanks for giving so much wisdom. God bless you!!!

  • @danthemovieman153
    @danthemovieman153 Před 3 lety +90

    “I’ve had many many problem in my life, most of which have never happened”

  • @adobotravels
    @adobotravels Před 3 lety +496

    Never complain. Don't tell your problems to people: eighty percent don't care; and the other twenty percent are glad you have them. - Lou Holtz

    • @lilivonshtup3808
      @lilivonshtup3808 Před 3 lety +4

      That 20% consists of Shrinks and Exes.

    • @xXJ4FARGAMERXx
      @xXJ4FARGAMERXx Před 3 lety +9

      Wait, so the people that care about your problems-- and by proxy, *You* --don't exist?

    • @littlesunshine9805
      @littlesunshine9805 Před 2 lety +12

      I actually care... I just like listening to people worries.

    • @Mutant_Mods
      @Mutant_Mods Před 2 lety

      Its the other way around 80% want you to die and 20% don’t care

    • @GMAMEC
      @GMAMEC Před 2 lety

      It sounds cruel, but this outlook is from a specific perspective. People (the general public) can be empathetic, but have their own problems. They are usually grateful that they don’t have your problems or figuring out how to avoid your problems.

  • @sarahna8698
    @sarahna8698 Před 6 lety +108

    The thing is I don’t worry about mundane stuff but about death and disaster. I’m terrified of harm befalling my family, it gives me terrible anxiety. So asking myself “what’s the worst that can happen?” only sends me into a state of panic

    • @colinevans8646
      @colinevans8646 Před 2 lety +3

      I am the same

    • @margking5482
      @margking5482 Před 2 lety +8

      Me too ! When he asked "what's the worst can happen" I instantly thought the worst thing can and is going to happen so doesn't help one bit.

    • @julieschmidtlaw
      @julieschmidtlaw Před 2 lety +2

      Yes same. I worry about my toddler putting things in his mouth and choking, getting hit by a car etc and I couldn’t handle the worst that could happen

    • @kattregn
      @kattregn Před 2 lety +2

      Yes me too, but how likely is that thing to happen? That’s the next thought.

    • @mo_c3612
      @mo_c3612 Před rokem

      @@kattregn Exactly. That was entirely his point, you don't just think what's the worst that can happen. You think what is the worst thing to happen and you retrack and think is that actually going to happen

  • @carmeladeguzman8737
    @carmeladeguzman8737 Před 7 lety +263

    This video just helped me to climb out of my anxiety and start doing things! Thanks for the good work!

    • @kingpeedorah
      @kingpeedorah Před 4 lety +7

      So you actually watch people's head getting cut off?

    • @icysports6805
      @icysports6805 Před 4 lety

      Fppd47 😂😳.....

    • @francisco1513
      @francisco1513 Před 4 lety +1

      Fppd47 which site do you utilize?

    • @seek2imagine423
      @seek2imagine423 Před 3 lety +2

      I feel better too! And no, I didn't. Watch people get their heads cut off, it's a medafore guys. Lol

    • @lillianp2856
      @lillianp2856 Před 3 lety

      I’m so happy for you!!!

  • @Michael_black777
    @Michael_black777 Před 5 lety +179

    when I worry I remember four things:
    1-My thoughts can't predict what's really going to happen, so just wait and see how things will turn out
    2-most of the time the thing you're worried about does not happen
    3-all problems are temporary, and all the things you worried about before are gone
    4-worrying does not change anything

    • @ehab5986
      @ehab5986 Před 3 lety +1

      Great

    • @cruzmontelongo9615
      @cruzmontelongo9615 Před 3 lety +3

      @@ehab5986 see my biggest fear of death I worry about it every still minute of the day but I can’t stop it and I’m the same way to yk

    • @babydas5927
      @babydas5927 Před 3 lety +4

      Bro, You don't know... how your comment just changed my mind!
      Thanks a million, nice comment in this entire comment section, really glad to find it, most needed it...Really, thanks most satisfying comment!

    • @Michael_black777
      @Michael_black777 Před 3 lety

      @@babydas5927 your welcome! I'm glad to hear that I made you feel better and I wish you a peaceful life :)

    • @cruzmontelongo9615
      @cruzmontelongo9615 Před 3 lety

      @Dijon Boil yeah but personally I’m religious and believe in a higher being and more than this but if that’s true I guess that’s true

  • @GrowthMindsetChannel
    @GrowthMindsetChannel Před 5 lety +36

    "Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little"."
    - Dale Carnegie

  • @twexchriv1556
    @twexchriv1556 Před 4 lety +141

    how can I continue watching this when everybody is talking about people's heads being but off 🚶

  • @anonymousanoonymous6869
    @anonymousanoonymous6869 Před 7 lety +24

    How to stop worrying. 1. Be grateful that you're still alive at the present

  • @RohitPant04
    @RohitPant04 Před 3 lety +13

    Some of my favourite quotes by Dale are:
    • It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
    • Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get
    • Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
    Lastly, my favourite & one of things i personally stand by -
    • Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.

  • @Mike-yr4iy
    @Mike-yr4iy Před 5 lety +126

    “Watch someone’s head get cut off” Comparing your fortunes to others misfortunes isn’t good.

    • @xXJ4FARGAMERXx
      @xXJ4FARGAMERXx Před 3 lety +2

      May i ask, why is that not good?

    • @hypebeast7199
      @hypebeast7199 Před 2 lety +3

      No, but you'll be grateful your head isn't chopped off

    • @MarkOates2
      @MarkOates2 Před 2 lety +3

      It's like, "oh I'm sorry your dad died today, but there's no reason to feel bad because there's probably someone who's dad *and* their mom died today!"
      It's dismissive of pain, which shouldn't be dismissed. Pain should be contemplated more appropriately, regardless of the severity, your station in life, or otherwise.

  • @dahay6
    @dahay6 Před 8 lety +175

    i wish this was a subject at schools. all stress in the world wouldn't exist anymore.

    • @MrFallout0o
      @MrFallout0o Před 8 lety

      word

    • @lutheran7674
      @lutheran7674 Před 8 lety

      great idea.

    • @amans8881
      @amans8881 Před 8 lety

      true :)

    • @airborne486
      @airborne486 Před 7 lety +2

      yes I believe a meditation class would be a good way to get it started

    • @estherlauterbach2189
      @estherlauterbach2189 Před 7 lety +2

      dahay6 I agree, but I think someone else should be the teacher. telling a kid to watch a person's head get chopped off every morning seems a bit harsh

  • @NickVarn
    @NickVarn Před 8 lety +79

    Dude you're pretty much the coolest for this video. I love this. Just truth vomit all over. Great job

    • @FightMediocrity
      @FightMediocrity  Před 8 lety +7

      Nicholas Varner Haha, thanks Nicholas!

    • @kundakalunga2154
      @kundakalunga2154 Před 8 lety +1

      +FightMediocrity enjoying n loving your videos.. awesome stuff

    • @StarLordGroupie
      @StarLordGroupie Před 8 lety +2

      +FightMediocrity I didn't really take you for the liberal MSNBC type. Guess these books are fiction to you and you read them instead of live them. If you lived them then you'd know open/unregulated borders have never worked out well for any nation-state in world history. Go back home if you don't like a US that focuses on its citizens first.

    • @SunnySJamil
      @SunnySJamil Před 8 lety +3

      +YourAnus MyPee What is your comment?? So out of place…

    • @MUHAMMADIMRAN-xu9qf
      @MUHAMMADIMRAN-xu9qf Před 6 lety

      great video

  • @oneyedjake4768
    @oneyedjake4768 Před 7 lety +4

    One small change in perspective can change everything.
    A few+ years ago when I was in college, there was this guy in one of my classes. He was a few years older than the rest of us and he would come to class happy and always seemed calm.
    After I got to know him I found out he was a decorated combat vet with not one but many tours under his belt. He told me once "stress is what you make it" he went on to explain that things happen in life that can not be controlled, it's how you deal with them that count...and to put things in perspective.
    He said "take being here at school....what a privilege. To be able to spend time here learning and working on ourselves. You get a bad grade, it's all fixable." It changed my whole perspective on school and my work load. I'll still think about this and use it today in life in general. Take stock in your life and be grateful for the good you have in it, don't focus on the bad.

  • @gingereee4440
    @gingereee4440 Před 7 lety +303

    If you watch a video of someone getting their heads chopped off everyday, this is going to start a whole set of issues and hidden trauma. Dumb suggestion and hope no one uses it.

    • @ameenaah12
      @ameenaah12 Před 3 lety +18

      Very true.. I watched crime documentaries every day all day for years. I recently stopped it because my anxiety and depression was getting out of control. My husband always suspected that me watching those shows that much can’t do me any good but I never listened to him. However, once I cut them out completely along with unfollowing negative people and all news channels on FB, I feel so much better

    • @vendita2
      @vendita2 Před 3 lety +4

      Same, all what he said was great except of this

    • @justinfernandez9876
      @justinfernandez9876 Před 3 lety +2

      @@ameenaah12 Damn I bet you could solve a hell of a crime now, my dad used to watch those shows when I was little and I used to find them really interesting but always felt a negative energy after watching and I would have nightmares

    • @bsfbestshortfilmsonyoutube
      @bsfbestshortfilmsonyoutube Před 3 lety

      also could get you in deep shit.. might be a snuff vid.

    • @kalihitino
      @kalihitino Před 3 lety +4

      Amazing how so many people missed the point.

  • @tmmiran
    @tmmiran Před 8 lety +149

    Man! Your channel rocks! Greetings from Brazil.

    • @FightMediocrity
      @FightMediocrity  Před 8 lety +7

      +Tiago Mota Miranda Thanks Tiago! Greetings from USA! :)

    • @s4fta00
      @s4fta00 Před 8 lety +3

      +Tiago Mota Miranda great to see people around here tuned into this kind of stuff. Spread good ideas, cause we need this shit!

    • @veronicadizon5031
      @veronicadizon5031 Před 8 lety

      +FightMediocrity All kindz a gainz yeaah

    • @lutheran7674
      @lutheran7674 Před 8 lety +1

      greetings from Brazil.

    • @williamchang2947
      @williamchang2947 Před 7 lety +4

      @Tiago M. Cara, no brasil tem um canal chamado "Seja Uma pessoa melhor", muito bom tambem

  • @afnaar7386
    @afnaar7386 Před 3 lety +23

    When I was going through my grief journey of having lost all my family members, I would watch holocaust movies. It was my own way of treating myself to not feel sorry for myself. Granted, grief is real, and it hurts on all levels, physical emotional mental and spiritual, but if you do not have a good support system, which I did not, then taking charge and empowering yourself with how you can help yourself is the most empowering thing you can do so that you can get on with life.

    • @ursulakoch6398
      @ursulakoch6398 Před 3 lety

      I'm so very sorry you losing your family. Grief is the worst of worst. 🤗

  • @jackmackenzie2303
    @jackmackenzie2303 Před rokem +3

    I think my biggest problem right now is that I feel I need to tell people all my problems and look for attention. I'm hoping I can learn to stop caring what I and other people think and have a solution to every problem. I also want to stop worrying about myself and my past. I found this video inspirational, thank you!

  • @ellafearless9700
    @ellafearless9700 Před 5 lety +8

    I’ll just imagine the worst conditions other people live in instead of watching heads getting chopped off and I think I’ll still appreciate my circumstances enough to not worry

  • @ArlineExcondeRaijmakers
    @ArlineExcondeRaijmakers Před 9 lety +41

    found your channel when i needed it most, i am feeling so down and depressed right now and watching your videos has helped me to look at the problem in a different light. I am grateful..

    • @FightMediocrity
      @FightMediocrity  Před 8 lety +6

      Arline Exconde Raijmakers I'm so happy to hear that! :)

    • @rupunzel12345
      @rupunzel12345 Před 8 lety

      Check out noah elkrief. he is great too

  • @AlbertoSalviaNovella
    @AlbertoSalviaNovella Před 7 lety +308

    Don't look at people's head took off: I nearly vomited, and it solved nothing.

    • @blackpearl2307
      @blackpearl2307 Před 5 lety +10

      Holy Fuck , dont Do that . I'm sorry u watched something like that :/

    • @evolve101
      @evolve101 Před 5 lety +18

      Stupid.. Now you got that image for life. I would never watch anything like it, because i remember stuff, and he put out an example, even if it was a bit strong, but it was his personal example. Not what the book says.. Read the book instead.

    • @tiffles3890
      @tiffles3890 Před 5 lety

      If you vomited, that is all the more reason for you to keep watching it.
      There was a time I deliberately forced myself to watch such videos. It made my guts harder, if you get what I mean.

    • @SauceWorld
      @SauceWorld Před 4 lety

      you gotta watch the ones with the dull knives where they struggle to cut, but eventually get it done

    • @mrstranger400
      @mrstranger400 Před 4 lety +1

      @@blackpearl2307 blasphemy

  • @AamirKhan-hc7vo
    @AamirKhan-hc7vo Před 4 lety +4

    Thank you so much, my life is really painful, I think about my future all the time, 24/7 my mind tells me that if my future is secured only then I will be happy

  • @mr.e7541
    @mr.e7541 Před 3 lety +5

    This is a great book. So much advice. That's why Dale Carnegie is my favorite self-improvement author. He makes every page count. He doesn't spend a hundred Pages telling you one idea.
    By the way this book is online for free. I would leave a length I don't want them taking it down

  • @RayleneMichelleStudio
    @RayleneMichelleStudio Před 8 lety +271

    I was meditating while listening to your video and when I got to the head being chopped off part I had to turn it off. I get what you're trying to say, and I get that you're highlighting an extreme situation in order to get viewers to associate pain with worry, but I've found that simply earth gazing can do this! I watch The Overview Effect (my favourite documentary) and it reminds me how insignificant and small my problems truly are in relation to the Universe we live in. I think that's better than watching someone's head being chopped off this early in the morning :) Keep up the great work with your videos, they're inspiring and I appreciate all the hard work and thought that go into creating them.

    • @kierenblake
      @kierenblake Před 8 lety +8

      I just watched the Overview Effect after reading this comment. And after watching it I've had this profound shift in perspective that I feel like I haven't felt before. We're essentially living on this floating paradise in this cosmic ocean of infinity. That fact itself is totally mind-blowing, and I just can't help but feel enlightened with this realisation. I've recently been interested in the thought that people can be resources towards helping yourself out in numerous different ways, and I'm thankful that I found this comment and used it as a resource into discovering the Overview Effect.

    • @amaarmarco530
      @amaarmarco530 Před 8 lety +2

      hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaha
      im with u

    • @airborne486
      @airborne486 Před 7 lety +1

      +Kieren hmm havent watched it yet as im at work, but I think I might

    • @kierenblake
      @kierenblake Před 7 lety +1

      airborne486 Yesss I definitely encourage you to check it out

    • @juliozz59
      @juliozz59 Před 7 lety +2

      Thank you for recommending such a beautiful documentary

  • @leondufeu2981
    @leondufeu2981 Před 8 lety +8

    this video literally changed my life

  • @deepenwadhwa4027
    @deepenwadhwa4027 Před 5 lety +2

    Carnegie is such a genius and your videos are the absolute best in this genre.

  • @cherrycain6425
    @cherrycain6425 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you so much for this video. I stress and worry all the time. I need to watch this a few times everyday. Everything you said made so much sense. This will definitely stay on my play list.

  • @BarbieTheWelder
    @BarbieTheWelder Před 7 lety +4

    I love these videos so much that I started sharing them with my 12 year old son! You quickly break down the books in a fun and powerful way that quickly captures our attention and makes it easy for us to learn. Thank you so very much for taking the time to create them and sharing your wisdom. With gratitude, BarbieTheWelder

  • @lgr1412
    @lgr1412 Před 8 lety +37

    I worry a lot. It's an awful habit. Now I'm worrying if I'm worrying way too much. Lolo

  • @thecrazyandthewild
    @thecrazyandthewild Před 3 lety +1

    WOW! I read the title and I thought "it seems like some self-help bs but what I can lose? Ten minutes? It's worth the risk for what it promises" and actually is really good! Thanks!

  • @Lucentlens
    @Lucentlens Před 2 lety

    Just discovered this channel. These aren't mere book summaries - they're full-on reimaginings & bolstering of the messages! Fantastic, life-enhancing stuff! 👍🏽👍🏽

  • @niasimone1740
    @niasimone1740 Před 7 lety +7

    I worry about things so much that my heart will start to beat so fast that I'll have to sit down and drop everything I'm doing. I hope this video will inspire me.

  • @Nooreazy
    @Nooreazy Před 7 lety +11

    In that book Dale goes around interviewing alot of people about how they stopped worrying. There was one man who was in a submarine and was caught by the enemy, the submarine was bombarded for 24 hours straight. The person being interviewed who was in that submarine promised himself that he would never worry again because when he was about to die he realized they really amounted to nothing. Fortunately he survived, one of my fav stories. Really good book, A+ on the video ! I just wanted a review and you did an amazing job!

  • @hassansohail8790
    @hassansohail8790 Před 5 lety

    Today I've completed reading this book and frankly it has made me a different person and I've learned the art to overcome worry and fatigue. Now I am living a happy and thankful life.

  • @Sinoha
    @Sinoha Před 7 lety

    I have only watched a couple of your videos, but I must say, this is a real eye opener! I have read serious college level books, and motivational stuff, but these videos really drive home the fact that I'm not doing what I want. More importantly, they show me how to go about getting them. Something I could never figure out for myself. Thank you very much!

  • @madslasher18
    @madslasher18 Před 8 lety +7

    Deep - can't believe this guy is 20 something . Amazing videos man . Thank you

  • @kingfazuul3430
    @kingfazuul3430 Před 8 lety +3

    Thanks man i really like your videos, I dont worry that much but After watching this video i dont have any reason to worry about anything

  • @MxolisiMashiloane
    @MxolisiMashiloane Před 7 lety +2

    Thank you man, this is really talking to me been worrying about shit, when my girlfriend is not answering my calls or responding my messages I freak out for no reason. Thank you I am now a changed man.

  • @kronhertz4956
    @kronhertz4956 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you. I needed this...My luck is been really down lately.
    I didn't achieve my degree (despite being in my final year) and as a result I dropped out of university after facing years of problems relating to my lecturers and the management which I had tolerated till the point of breakdown.
    My anxiety and skin problems has worsen and my medication + doctors visit increased; which means my medical bill is twice the amount.
    I've been given another chance at a different university to redo my course. I'm terrified that I will fuck it up and fail, despite never failing a single class at my previous university. I'm starting to be at peace with myself everyday now.

  • @poshko4144
    @poshko4144 Před 6 lety +6

    This is amazing stuff. You rock.

  • @YoAddicts
    @YoAddicts Před 8 lety +2

    Ha! I graduated from college, and I still spent most time worrying about useless shit that doesn't help. That is...till the deadline of my thesis draws near ofcourse. Your channel is great, and I'm all in to fight mediocrity. Thanks, pal

  • @pioneer3729
    @pioneer3729 Před 7 lety +1

    I started using CZcams in 2013. Its 2017. Im 17. And I feel the online journey from the last 4 yrs has finally resulted into this Life Changing Experience (Fight Mediocrity). This is probably the best channel known. This the Ultimate Hack that Internet is capable of giving you!!!

  • @irahyun1695
    @irahyun1695 Před 7 lety +1

    Thank you for this video. I start my day with meditation and calmly visualizing my head get chopped off. Now nothing bothers me.

  • @hey_itsmele
    @hey_itsmele Před 8 lety +7

    Just found your channel today. Love ur videos and your approach. This one made me laugh (at myself) a couple times.

  • @FRUIT4JAM
    @FRUIT4JAM Před 9 lety +5

    Another awesome vid. Good perspective!

  • @shhdhevsvsvshehehebhebe2031

    Thanks, it helped but still can't stop worrying can't sleep it's getting late I love how you help people all the time you are a really good person have a good life

  • @manishmishraji
    @manishmishraji Před 7 lety

    I have read more than a thousand books and this is my favorite by far. Its title makes a lot of people feel that they dont need to read it, but its basically how to think about life and other events. a title like that would make a lot more people read it.

  • @berryfairy68
    @berryfairy68 Před 7 lety +10

    I think realizing what you have and being grateful would suffice, don't think it's necessary to watch something so gruesome to grow in life.

  • @MustafaKulle
    @MustafaKulle Před 6 lety +11

    "Hey honey, what are you watching?"
    "Someone's head getting chopped off"

  • @rramosbroccetti
    @rramosbroccetti Před 5 lety

    This creator has a very valid process to better yourself. He’s probably very successful life wise... but is also shows how damaged he also is. I’m still very happy for him that he has the ability to be productive regardless of his childhood traumas. Good for you!

  • @Plum_s
    @Plum_s Před 7 lety +1

    Dude, I love your videos! I'm naturally a visual learner so the animation is great to watch as you explain this to us! Keep it up!

  • @5000dragonkill
    @5000dragonkill Před 7 lety +93

    Dude the watching video's where people get their heads chopped off went to far, you could have used a less extreem/nightmareish example!

  • @channelforpositivitylunder9385

    With the energy you spend worrying,
    you could be actionably doing incredible things
    :)

    • @steveclement259
      @steveclement259 Před 5 lety

      Hi, how come u stopped making videos ?

    • @killy374
      @killy374 Před 3 lety

      Like watching people's head get cut off.

  • @cloudlessvision4192
    @cloudlessvision4192 Před 6 lety +1

    If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present. Thanks you for this video🙌👌👌

  • @elvan12581
    @elvan12581 Před 6 lety +1

    Dude, listen... I love you man. You have no idea how much this is helping me and will help me. Wish I could buy you a beer and tell you this in person.
    I'm going to try and read those 2 books you mentioned too. Thanks brotha!
    May you have all the joy and happiness in life. Cheers!

  • @jenosanchez
    @jenosanchez Před 9 lety +6

    Great stuff by the way, your videos are motivating.

  • @dlc85007
    @dlc85007 Před 7 lety +17

    Thanks man, my problem is my wife of 6 years told me she was a virgin when we met, not that I cared or am 1 of those 'no sex before marriage' freaks. A week ago I found out she wasn't, I took it like she cheated on me, but at the end of the day that shit happened before she met me, her body in those terms is not what I care about its her and our marriage was very happy before I got that information

    • @yashbhatnagar7653
      @yashbhatnagar7653 Před 7 lety +3

      Hey, hope you dont mind me replying. I really think you should be asking yourself a couple of questions like has she been faithful to you in the past 6 years and also if she has been a great wife throughout and never shown to you that she was extremely unhappy with you. What i'm trying to say is that maybe when she met she did not want to lose you over a weak moment she might have had. Maybe she was unsure that how might react to her not being a virgin. I reckon you have ull right to be annoyed and upset about knowing it now but ask yourself that is he really worth losing your marriage over something that does not exist between the two of you now. Hope you don't mind my reply. Just hoping this might help a bit. Thanks

    • @dlc85007
      @dlc85007 Před 7 lety +1

      Yash 2.0 Hi mate, thanks for your reply, well its a long story Ill try to cut short, my wife never actually lied to me in the end, she was in highschool in Vietnam and her ex bf tried to have sex with her but she felt uncomfortable and told him to stop, the problem was she went home and told her cousin without enough detail to it that it wasnt even sex then few weeks ago her cousin looked surprised when I mentioned I was her 1st and spilled the beans in the wrong way without my wife there. My wife when eventually came clean told me 'look that wasnt even sex' and told me what happened, at 1st I thought she is just sugar coating the story to make me feel better, I even said that to her, but really I have to believe her. HOWEVER weather or not they had sex its irrelevant! We've known each other nearly 7 years and we lite up everyday when we see each other. Her cousin to be honest is abit jealous and wants my D

    • @yashbhatnagar7653
      @yashbhatnagar7653 Před 7 lety +7

      Rishabh Singh Sorry mate but i totally disagree with your comment. How can you say that truth, honesty are only masculine concepts. Anyone whether male or female can and will chat if they want to. it is an individual trait. In this scenario, their relationship is absolutely fine but just something from the past is troubling which can easily be avoided by some sensibility and allowing trust to crawl back slowly. Please don't confuse people by your toilet psychology! Makes no sense whatsoever

    • @annicka1181
      @annicka1181 Před 7 lety

      Poon Handler how she could/ would do this 😯???

  • @TriforceGreg
    @TriforceGreg Před 7 lety

    What you are doing is profound! You are making ideas normally inaccessible to the average person, available to almost everyone. This is the kind of knowledge that can create a new Renaissance for our civilization. AMAZING WORK!

  • @marcsangiuliano4273
    @marcsangiuliano4273 Před 6 lety

    Listened to this while working out at gym and busted out laughing a bunch of times.
    Your comparisons are priceless! Taught me a lot!

  • @IHACKER316
    @IHACKER316 Před 8 lety +6

    Holy shit - this is one of the best videos ever made

  • @MsReachforthestars
    @MsReachforthestars Před 8 lety +55

    Seriously...Watching someone having there head chopped off definitely not my idea of a positive start to the day!

  • @lowcountrygirl7779
    @lowcountrygirl7779 Před 5 lety

    It's Christmastime and I'm obsessing over the house, gifts, parties, clothes, menu plzns, decorations, time.... I SO NEEDED THIS. Because, at least for me, it's about why I'm blessed to be able to celebrate Christmas and living in a country in which I can do so. While Christ - followers around the world are being martyed for their faith and worshipping undergrround, I'm worrying about relatively insignificant things I'll get done anyway. I'm grateful that I can once again say, " Merry Christmas " without people looking at me like I said something totally not pc. Thanks and God bless!

  • @DarcyCardinal
    @DarcyCardinal Před 6 lety +1

    I'm currently listing through the audio version of this book... simply amazing and can be put to use right away.

  • @definitelynotcole
    @definitelynotcole Před 7 lety +4

    to be fair I don't worry at all and ended up loosing allot of ground in my education and life. i almost wish that I would have worried and cared far more than i did.

  • @AyeshaNoelle
    @AyeshaNoelle Před 7 lety +10

    This is my problem! Plus, negative people doubting me ☹️

  • @blazedits8267
    @blazedits8267 Před 6 lety

    Just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU for making me smile and start thinking in the right direction! THANK YOU!!!

  • @ZocNad
    @ZocNad Před 4 lety +2

    I loved and enjoyed this book. I have something to add from an a Genuine Connemara Marble Worry Stone my Irish cousin gave me:
    Why Worry?
    The are only 2 things to worry about: either your are well or you are sick, If you are well then there's nothing to worry about. If you are sick: there are 2 things to worry about: Either you will get well or you will die. If you get well then there's nothing to worry about. If you die there are 2 things to worry about: Either you go up or down. If you go up, then there's nothing to worry about. But if you go down you will be busy shaking hands with old friends you won't have time to worry.

  • @satyam8100
    @satyam8100 Před 8 lety +24

    okaaaaay
    any links to head chopping videos ?

  • @ajv7575
    @ajv7575 Před 7 lety +11

    While I agree and find inspiration with your concepts, it is easier said than done depending on your situation and phases in your life. A man who loves and lives with his wife and three+ kids and in-laws has much more to manage than a single guy with a girlfriend who has much more time to go to the gym and read a book a day. To the single guy, these sound like excuses until they live in the same shoes...

  • @Stovetopcookie
    @Stovetopcookie Před 4 lety +1

    In my 20s I used to worry a lot. Been getting better in my 30s. Thanks for the videos.

  • @bbyllma
    @bbyllma Před 7 lety

    Been watching a bunch of these. Wow! Loving them! They should play these for every high school kid and the world might fix itself.

  • @FBIRyan
    @FBIRyan Před 9 lety +14

    Never thought I'd hear someone recommend watching somebody's head get chopped off every morning. Props for giving the controversial advice.

    • @FightMediocrity
      @FightMediocrity  Před 9 lety +11

      FBIRyan Haha, yeah, I know a lot of people didn't like that.
      I remember a few months ago, I was trying to record a voiceover and I think I spilled some water. So I cleaned it up, went back in to record, and my battery was dead. I came out to look for a new battery and I was out of batteries. I was so pissed off I just started yelling.
      I got on my computer and they had just released the footage of the Jordanian pilot being burned alive. I started watching it and I couldn't believe how stupid I was. The only reason I'm not being burned alive or chopped up is purely out of luck. I wasn't born in certain place at an unfortunate time. That's it.
      I remember I put my microphone away and took the entire day off and went to the park. I just walked around and breathed fresh air. Probably the best day of my life. I had been getting good about not worrying, but that was a huge paradigm shift for me. I don't think I've really worried about anything after seeing the pilot's face right before the fire got to him.

    • @FBIRyan
      @FBIRyan Před 9 lety

      Iamlordeyayaya
      No, I don't.

    • @smashingpoop
      @smashingpoop Před 9 lety +7

      Just a dumb metaphor. Feeding your mind (on a daily basis) with images of gore and cruelty can simply not be good for you, he just happened to have it work for him in that moment, but that doesn't mean it is something that should be done under a normal circumstance.
      Appreciation for life should also not come from someone else's suffering in my opinion, so respectless.

    • @MrDrummergeorge
      @MrDrummergeorge Před 9 lety

      FBIRyan It's amazing what a demagogue can do huh?

    • @FBIRyan
      @FBIRyan Před 9 lety

      MrDrummergeorge
      It's amazing what anyone can do.

  • @jzk2020
    @jzk2020 Před 8 lety +23

    I dunno man, a billion dollar is a lot of currency.

    • @lalotz
      @lalotz Před 8 lety +5

      +C. Lincoln i could go with out legs and use 1million for fake legs. Then live rich.

    • @xXJ4FARGAMERXx
      @xXJ4FARGAMERXx Před 2 lety

      Laugh Out Loud!
      P.s. i didn't actually laugh i just made a smile and a tiny bit of sound but it's okay because i hardly laugh anyway...

  • @TurjoJamansClassRoom
    @TurjoJamansClassRoom Před 7 lety

    Anyone watching this in 2017 like me??? Whatever..... never thought in the way, in which u illustrated the idea of the price of our legs and get contented .... one of the most amazing youtube videos I have ever come across...

  • @VincentChiu
    @VincentChiu Před 2 lety

    Thanks for making this video friend. You've clearly benefited many people's lives

  • @teaoliver9712
    @teaoliver9712 Před 7 lety +65

    I'm sorry but the "problems" you stated are a cake walk to get over, most people who really struggle with worry have actual reasons. Also, watching someone head being cut off will not "cure" a worrier, in fact, it could very well intensify the problem.

    • @ClassicRock1973
      @ClassicRock1973 Před 5 lety +7

      WRONG! MOST things people worry about NEVER happen. This is proven fact, so go fuck yourself you moron !!! Just kidding ....... Actually, I'm not kidding

    • @francisco1513
      @francisco1513 Před 4 lety +1

      Alan Lloyd how to self fuck? WHY DONT U TEACH HER?

    • @xuxu3703
      @xuxu3703 Před 3 lety +1

      @@ClassicRock1973 I'm worrying about things that will NEVER happen but it's because it is an (unhealthy) coping mechanism. Some baaaad shit happened to me and now I'm overthinking everything I do or say. Advice in the vid is good, but it's not explored too deeply. Because if that if you don't already have the knowledge of how to cope in a healthier way *the vudei probably won't help* that much

  • @matthewporter9411
    @matthewporter9411 Před 9 lety +5

    All kinds of gainz!! That made me lol

  • @rickeyoftherhodes8983

    I saw a video in college of someone holding up another person's head victoriously to his friends. I will never forget that image, yet it didn't cure me of my anxiety or panic attacks, it temporarily made it worse, and I didn't want to deal with the world at all.

  • @rahelAG603
    @rahelAG603 Před 7 lety +1

    Oh MY God I learned I lot from this video today! Thank you! May God bless you with more wisdom and knowledge 🙏🏾

  • @jgreenspan
    @jgreenspan Před 6 lety +8

    "go to the gym with my girlfriend" ... Casually sneaking that in I see you

  • @runninginsept
    @runninginsept Před 7 lety +234

    I felt it got slightly too simplistic in this video. This is a 22yo's perspective. I'm in my late 30s and am a single parent. Every decision I make will impact another human being and potentially the rest of his life. If I'm not worrying about something, I'm in trouble.
    I think you need to inject a lot more perspective into your videos than just your own, dude. I appreciate the knowledge you're trying to spread, but it can seem like it's coming off just your world view. That's dangerous.

    • @wayburit5440
      @wayburit5440 Před 7 lety +19

      runninginsept its a review from a book of Dale Carnegie. In the Bible, not to worry was mentioned a lot so maybe there's something into that. Im a single parent but no what when I'm tempted am to worry, I always think about how God solved all my problems. Really! I rather be positive than focusing to worry. Worry can make you to a lot of trouble!!!

    • @runninginsept
      @runninginsept Před 7 lety +3

      Xo Ox Lol... Everybody's life is fucked up because of "own habits". Has absolutely zero bearing on this video's faults.

    • @israeldavis4771
      @israeldavis4771 Před 7 lety +11

      With much respect dont come to these videos looking for answers. When in reality as you said, everything being mentioned is just a point of view by some individual person. You could adopt the point of view or just grab what you need. We worry to much I've seen it first hand with my self. Have faith things will go well you have the answers

    • @willy0297
      @willy0297 Před 7 lety +5

      If possible, could you please explain a concrete example of how every decision you make will impact another human being? Does the human being stand for your child only (since you state you're a single parent) or other people as well (your neighbor, your co-worker)? How is not worrying could cause your trouble? Would appreciate if you could explain your own perspective as well.

    • @alcavila342
      @alcavila342 Před 7 lety +2

      runninginsept every decision every one makes and doesn't make will influence your and everyone else's kids..so it's not like it matters all thaaaat much..we are influence (and the lack of) :p

  • @spiralings
    @spiralings Před 7 lety

    I really like how passionate you get in the second half of this vid

  • @ognjenvranjes8188
    @ognjenvranjes8188 Před 7 lety +1

    this just changed my whole outlook on life! Thank you so much!

  • @theriffwriter2194
    @theriffwriter2194 Před 7 lety +3

    My problem has always been: I don't worry enough. I'm one of those people who could live under a bridge and still be happy as a pig in slop. Once I had children, I had to teach myself to worry. I guess it's all about balence. It also might be worth mentioning that people always say (not just friends, mind you) that I look like I'm about 19 years old and I'm 37. About three months ago a store clerk called the police on me because she thought I was trying to buy beer with a fake. I.D.

  • @thebrosischannel2188
    @thebrosischannel2188 Před 7 lety +4

    2:27 actually happens to me :(

  • @Bitachon
    @Bitachon Před 4 lety +1

    *This channel is under rated!* Thanks!

  • @KR-nv3ru
    @KR-nv3ru Před 5 lety

    Your best video yet, at least from all the ones I've watched already. Keep up the good work. ☺️👍

  • @JasonGoodrich
    @JasonGoodrich Před 7 lety +4

    Good God. Can't wait for this era of "I can be a motivational speaker (business guru, etc.) by rehashing others' ideas and adding my own 2 cents (or less)" is over.

  • @jamesbond2068
    @jamesbond2068 Před 7 lety +25

    damn im a billionaire didnt even know it

  • @ahmadrababah8641
    @ahmadrababah8641 Před 4 lety

    always be grateful and thankful for what you have.

  • @admortor
    @admortor Před 7 lety

    This video is impressive

  • @pxblo84
    @pxblo84 Před 7 lety +14

    I read the book before watching this video and I think the review is utter BS!
    The review only mentions poor examples of how and why HE thinks you should stop worrying and not what the author teaches us about the subject.
    This book is one of the best things that ever happened to me and the review does no justice to such a phenomenal piece of literature and research!
    Very disappointed!

    • @msmventures799
      @msmventures799 Před 3 lety

      Thanks for saying this!
      I’ve read his book How to Win Friends and Influence People
      He’s a great writer.

  • @TruthOverEverything
    @TruthOverEverything Před 9 lety +5

    This was an absolutely amazing video.
    From the head chopping concept to the 2 billion dollar arm/leg concept.
    I really appreciate the thought and effort you put into making this and thank you for all the other excellent videos you have made.

  • @grayorganization
    @grayorganization Před 7 lety

    This video is amazing!!! I love how you associated the value of my arms and legs. I love this.

  • @alexandriareynoso2264
    @alexandriareynoso2264 Před 7 lety +2

    The less I worry the more I accomplished. The more confident that I am, the better my day goes. Worry for not solve your problems. I say believe you will be okay.

  • @EskildFors
    @EskildFors Před 8 lety +4

    I would totally sell my legs for 1 billion dollars! Any takers? =D

  • @xxxsasukation3206
    @xxxsasukation3206 Před 7 lety +51

    Why to worry? You are a human surrounded by atoms, particules and cells.

  • @ben4wisdom
    @ben4wisdom Před 6 lety

    Great Video. Just finished reading Dale Carnegie's book. Changed my perspective about life and worry. Thanks mate.