5 Ways to Deal with Social Anxiety on Your Own
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- Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. You could say social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being negatively judged and evaluated by other people. It is a pervasive disorder and causes anxiety and fear in most all areas of a person's life. In this video, we share 5 self help tips on dealing with your social anxiety. For more severe cases of anxiety, please seek professional treatment.
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Psych2Go this really helps. Thank you! 😀
Psych2Go i will try these methods...
Good luck both!
Psych2Go me too... Hopefully it'll help..
Psych2Go you should make a video on trich
Anyone else here get scared just hearing the word "presentation" in school?
HazzJRTM Ramsey
me..
HazzJRTM Ramsey +
HazzJRTM Ramsey tbh
nope but good luck
HazzJRTM Ramsey I do! I watched this video BECAUSE of that word! 😭
Social anxiety has fucked me up so bad. I just want to be normal.
Me too I can't even make single eye contact with anyone. There never was a day that I feel normal
Moody Marie I know what you mean :s I can never look into someone's eyes and I always pause and stuff when talking to people. Anxiety has taken away all of my teen years so far :/ (I'm 16 now)
Das plain sad. We're just on the same boat so you're never alone. : ) People even say S.A is usually normal because I'm 13 and for that I shouldn't be too dramatic yet how the hell can thoughts be controlled?
Moody Marie Exactly, if people don't have these problems then they make assumptions as to how severe they may be. It's not 'normal' to have life stripped out of your control at that age, sorry to hear about that. Late 12 or early 13 is when mine started. Thankfully I'm finally beginning to see improvements on it so that should be one of my many problems out of the way :p I'd be happy to help you in any way I can, just know that it all gets better ^_^
I'm 21 and I thought I had been getting better, but I only seem to be getting worse. I don't know what to do anymore. How can people live like this?
The worst part about social anxiety is sometimes knowing you’re gonna be late for class, and then deciding to skip class entirely just by fear of stigmatization
I can relate, I even skipped the whole day once because I was scared of someone asking why I didnt meat for the first class.
Sadly I can't miss a class cuz it'll be put up and my parents can see it which would probably make a problem
Luckly I'm doing much better with going into class while being late now, it took a lot of time but now it's makes me medium anxious not super anxious
Literally! If I arrive at class and everyone is already in the classroom I will go hide in the toilets or go home. Even if I’m just one minute late
I can relate so fucking much to this
Wait im not alone😭
Social anxiety has been getting so hard on me that I get nervous even when talking to my family and friends
Saaame ong
I don’t talk to the rest of my family anymore. Just my mom.
At least you have friends 😅
For real like talking to uncles and aunts i get so much anxiety
Oh you have friends wow
"Control your thoughts" !!! WTF?! If i could control my bloody thoughts, I wouldn't have had a problem to begin with!
Yeah that doesn't make any sense.
They mean turn your anxious thoughts into more positive ones. I have social anxiety and I'm seeing a therapist. My therapist basically taught me that your negative over thinking of social situations will only make your anexity worse so try and turn your anxious thoughts into positive ones. For example, you fear saying hello so you think things like "Saying hello is embarrassing" but a more helpful thought could be telling yourself "saying hello is a friendly and kind thing to do". It will take ages to break your negative thoughts (trust me, I know) but once you get into the habit of thinking positively the social situation will become easier to face :)
Arash S wtf? That's why you need to learn to, you just defeated yourself
tttrrrruuuueeee
Arash S exactly how the hell is this helpful. if you truly have social anxiety then most if not all of these steps are near impossible.
Every day “I can’t hear you! Speak up!” They don’t understand! All these friggin extroverts think anxiety can just _switch_ off and it can’t!
twice twice fan then you don't have anxiety
true i told my ‘friend’ abt my anxiety and she just said to get over it and it’s easy to have a convo with someone. i tried to explain it to her but she just kept on saying it’s easy and to just not think about it. yikes.
As an experienced introvert, i say it can!!
@Sam same
I don’t like that Extroverts get this aura of not having anxiety. I’m a total extrovert with really really bad social anxiety.
when people laugh behind me i always feel like they laugh about me...even though they are not.
Same
Same
ugh omg same...
Sameeee I feel like I'm not welcomed at school
Same
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I'm scared of even saying "thank you" because I'm afraid of messing up my words...
ME TOO... it feels like the words get stuck in my throat... like, OUCH. and I for some reason CANNOT apologise to anyone. I NEED TO KNOW WHY.
I for one can mess up someone's name and I'm thinking that there going to remember it for life and I well just 🤐
Same
I only say thanks now because it's quicker and easier
@@Rindella omg sameee
I hate how i always overthink everything tho
Like in my head im like uhh should i say thank you to show my gratitude?!
But thats too scary
Maybe ill just say thanks?!
And when i do say it, it would come out rlly quiet!!
Normal ppl would say thank you loud and confident and just carry on with their day
And then there's me, worrying about how i portrayed myself and what they could have thought of me all day long
It's comforting to see that I'm not the only one that's suffers from social anxiety. You guys are all my friends now 😬
Ikr u just feel evryone relates to you here
Friends😃
There needs to be a school for social anxiety Omfg I would love that
Yay I found a friend ^W^
Yay friends 😀😆
i have bad social anxiety, but my best friend is the most extroverted and outgoing person ever, and basically the complete opposite of me. she always helps me through things and encourages me to try and talk to people. she doesn’t just say “get over it” or “it’s not that difficult” and she actually understands me. im really grateful for her:)
Your lucky. But nice!
keep her
She's a good friend!
Same!
But after that we went to different high schools. Everything's messed up again now.
If theres two words that we all hate its...
"Class Presentation"
EmDieLess yea
I really wanna disappear whenever I hear those words
Lol yeah
Group projects are equally terrifying
I feel like dying when I hear that 😩
I can't even pay for my stuff at the cash register its so awkward when they talk to me ahhh
Mac & Cheese same... talkative cashiers are one of my nightmares
): that makes me sad i am a very talketive person who loves to meet new people and i think i might have scared away people like you
Mac & Cheese It gets even worse when you pay by card and there are some problems with it... I never know what to do. I hate such a situations arrghh -.-
Mac & Cheese same
I have dropped my money on the ground when the cashier hands me back the money. That's how nervous I get.
haha I wish I didn't have social anxiety...
:(
same
J'ai Un Amoureux same
Same
J'ai Un Amoureux ikr? It sucks u.u
I have social anxiety and recently I’ve found a way of coping. I live with my family sense I’m still a teen, and my family is a pretty big one. I get anxious just by sitting in my living room! So my mom recommended taking a walk. I’ve been doing it daily since and it both calms my nerves and puts me in a better mood for the rest of the day. I go alone and only to the stop sign at the end of the street and back. But it helps me in ways I didn’t think possible. Thanks for reading!
Same i do that when I’m upset and it legit helps
@@mrdipsauce123 I take deep breaths
@@nandhanakrishnan.r4279yes that's very effective!
I should start doing this
“Speak louder, I can’t hear you.”
Bane my existence whence I finally speak
Dude, same. I'm already scared of what i said and i need to said it again like just kill me at this point
When it happens 3 times in a row😩
🤣🤣🤣 I feel you..
Going to any store is hell
Oh no! What do you think is the worst thing about it?
Lush is hell for me... I have to walk pass it and come back atleast three times to control my breathing.
If they have self checkout it's a bit better.....
cecilia caeiro walking to the store is hell, i mean what if people look at how i walk.....yes i have it that bad.
mrFalloutFan95 literally NOBODY CARES I have delt with social anxiety my whole life but i overcome it by believing that nobody care or will care about what i'm doing
Social anxiety is also known as The Spotlight Effect. A person with social anxiety is scared of being judge and thinks everyone is looking at them when in fact no one is looking at them. A person thinks they are always in the spotlight when it's not even true. Cognitive behavior therapy can help.
Yes, yes, yes!
I feel that so much! Even though i've never been diagnosed, I feel like a have social anxiety because I dread school because even though I know this is silly, but I feel like everyone is staring at me and they can see how nervous I am
Its funny cus Im really anxious when i meet peopl the first time but im very serious and i lool serious and tend not to bother ppl. So people thinm I'm stuck up or Conceited(ive been told) but im not just don't know how to approach a person. I fear being judged. Just last Sunday i had problems ordering my mint tea in starbucks i started stuttering
I'm not sure... I'd never go to a party, because I know I wouldn't be in the spotlight :D Everyone would ignore me, it's always been like that, everyone usually ignored me at school :( Only bullies didn't ignore me :P
Although in some situations I definitely experience the spotlight effect too. When I walk into a shop, I feel like everyone thinks my voice is weird when I say "good morning" :P and I'm worried everyone's angry at me for getting the money out of my wallet too slowly, lol. Or when I cough in quiet places I feel like everyone notices me. I know it's stupid, why would anyone think I'm weird for doing what everyone does sometimes. I think it's because in childhood I always tried not to make any noises, because mean kids would make fun of me no matter what I did.
I was scared of my parents, teachers and classmates. So now my heart beats faster and I get stomachaches whenever I go to the doctor or any office, where I have to talk to people. The worst thing is when my anxiety gets so bad in a very stressful situation (like interview), that breathing becomes so difficult, the other person can hear it in my voice.
yeah
My method for social anxiety:
*Run away*
I skip online classes cause i was late for it
@@aquah2080 me too😔😣
Mine is cry, then the teacher won’t push me to speak in front of the whole class 👍
@@nicoletta_777 Bruhh 💀
@@user-fb9cp6oi9q it works 🥱
My heart literally drops whenever i hear the word presentation
So true, I was daydreaming then when my teacher said presentation I just heard that and snapped back into reality and my heart dropped.
I turn bright red when I talk to small groups of people.
Even your profile pic is red
nigga saying truth
that as hapened to a girl once talking to me i just wanted to hug her she was adorable
Confused Potato I stutter and say "ERM" alot
saame
I hate it when I turn red :p ......but when I do turn red I think of strawberries :3
stupid people and bitter past experiences are the reasons why I have slight social anxiety
Same
Same. Trauma from past life disables me from functioning well that I can feel *all* eyes are on me- judging me why do I look so stupid and guilty and it's so fucking unbearable.
Kevin Navalta same it makes me miserable
me too but mine isn't slight, it's pretty bad..
I really hate going out cause people i walk past is looking at me in strange way or stare at me . :(
to be completely honest, this doesn’t really help? I mean, saying “control you thoughts!” for me, is like telling a depressed person to just be happy. It doesn’t work.
It scares me when everybody asked me "can we hear your thoughts or opinion?"
Social anxiety is the reason why I am shy and want to avoid people like the plague.
same here!
same :(
Well this year has probably been great for you then :)
@A Shitbag69 same lol
"Some people fear speaking in public"
Me
"Some people fear meeting new people"
Also me
"Some people fear going to parties or other social events"
Also me
saaame, also:
"sweating, blushing, feeling your heart race and thinking others will judge you"
all of the above ✔
Hey it's mady I know rightttt
+Hey it's mady Same here too.
Same.
Someone doesn't even get invited to any social event.
Well that can't possibly be me
How my anxiety is like sometimes:
I can do this...
I can do this...
I CANT DO THIS!!!!!!!!
srsly tho
😢I can relate
same
That’s so me I’m always like “okay this is the day I don’t care abt anything and I’m gonna overcome my anxiety” also me at school: 😶
My brain switches into a "social interaction mode" disabling the fear, saving it until I'm done. It feels kinda like taking a breath before being under water. I appreciate being able to preform social functions but I really dislike all the anxiety/fear that prevents me from being extroverted as is my nature. The avoidance and isolation suck, I miss having friends.
Who also absolutely hates the fact that teachers will take off numerous points off your average and work because you don't talk enough? I had a teacher that yelled at kids who didn't particpate, called them out, and told them that they must be too lazy to answer the question. I have my nerves set into motion everytime I enter that classroom. And everytime, a teacher calls on you, you say your best answer with all the courage you have and they flat out reject it. "No, thats wrong. Did you even read the story? I guess I'll have to test you more."
That was mostly me in any math class.
Omg yes
It sucks cos im actually quite smart but my social anxiety just lets me down
In parents meeting in school the teachers always say
"Your daughter is well behaved and gets the work done but shes too quite and needs to get involved and blah blah blah"
It annoys me!
Why cant they just tell me ways on how to improve it instead of just pointing out my Ls
Ofc i know im quiet, i know i dont socialise. So yh
And once my foreign language teacher roasted me. She said im going no where in life with that silence and i literally broke into tears.
I relate to the comment and replies so bad .-.
Pixel
we were doing a presentation in my one class, and at the end, when I was finished, the bell rang. The presentation was 32 slides long! 32! I tried so hard to try not to walk out that door and break down or have a panic attack. I was actually talking my loudest, but when I was walking out she called me to her desk and went, “No one probably found your presentation interesting because you couldn’t just speak up for 6 minutes.”..
I should have said something, but all I could feel was a stabbing pain of sadness. No one seems to understand how much confidence it took me to talk that loud, and yet you told me that, and should have gone “are you alright?” Instead.
The reason I’m under expectation in 5 classes
Having a relationship with someone when you have social anxiety is fucking hard. I cannot imagine how lucky those people who don't suffer anxiety. It's a living nightmare.
It's a challenge for sure... but maybe it comes with a blessing! The skills we develop to cope with it are skills that other people may not have, the empathy we develop for others too. It's all about perspective!
Omg I feel exactly the same way
@@Psych2go hey can make a video on when we might need meds and when not I need to know that at what peek level of anxiety are we prescribed meds pls
Yeah my boyfriend is like honey you okay
Me:yeah I'm fine
My bf:I don't believe you tell me what happened
Me:*started to cry* and tells him every
My bf: it's okay if the world makes it hard to live but the world can give many blessings at the end. That's why his the only one that can calm me down
Hi my fellow people who are also struggling with anxiety. I just want to tell you that you are loved and you deserve the world. So breathe 🌬💨 and treat your self. You deserve it. ;)
anyone else get anxious only when meet already known people?
i'm anxious when i'm meeting or talking to people who i know before ..what kind of anxiety is this ?
Me too with my family relatives lol
Omg I thought I was the only one who got bloody anxious around acquaintances while having no problem talking to strangers lol
I'm in my second year of uni and I still struggle with presentations or even speaking without messing up my words or mumbling constantly, my mind gets blank all the time in mid conversations, and to be anxious of what people think about me. When this happens I tell myself to deal with it, it's not worth having negative thoughts, all you need is a positive mindset. If people think you're weird then you're weird in your own unique way, laugh it off. Push yourself to talk to people 'cause that's the only way to improve conversation skills. As for presenting just go for it- get that grade or show your skills, in the workspace/future you're gonna have more presentations along the way. SO DEAL WITH IT & JUST KEEP SWIMMING!
This is so helpful!!!!! I struggle with these things too. i like your way of thinking.
lightenmysoul I tell myself similar things lol
is it that easy for u?
Don’t be talking you don’t know what it feels like you can’t just easily say that
This is what i tell myself but it never helps
Fear of public speaking
Fear of meeting new people
Fear of any social events.
What if i have all 3?
shyanna Victoria sameee
Fear of your own life
ikr 😂
@CarminaKalula i couldnt do it. Omfg 😭
@@Chilli834 🤷
I have social anxiety and when my teacher said that we could choose to present by doing a presentation or fact sheet, I chose presentation. I wanted to defy my anxiety and i started to reach a turning point. I think the best way to improve yourself is to defy your fears.
I do not have anxiety when i was younger but when i started grade 9,thats where my anxiety showed up because of the whole class that has been always watch all the things that i am doing. Every little things,everyday,their words keep repeating in my head
"Everything you want is on the other side of fear." Jack Confield
I don't know what you are going through right now, but I am myself a shy person with low self esteem who feels uncomfortable around people I am not familiar with. But for a long time (or actually still) it kept me from living my life. Yes of course, good books, music and movies are great, but living your whole life in your bedroom (at least for me) seems pointless, which led me into feeling depressed. So if you are struggling, seek help please. Because there is a awesome life with many beautiful people outside your bedroom and it's worth it.
I hope you will overcome your fears, feel hugged :)
Lo the jupiter moon
"Don't trust anyone who ever speaks in quotes" - Murdoc Niccals
Call Me Matura well so certainly you aren't trustworthy either hahahah:)
Lo the jupiter moon its true
my friends hate me bc i don't attend their weddings or parties and such
thinking that i dont care about them
meanwhile every time i get invited i have this internl fight and depression for a week at least. aaah i envy ppl who can do these normal stuff ! all i do is hate myself for being a huge disappointment to everyone
Lo the jupiter moon one of the worst things you can feel is the feeling of guilt. Whenever you turn down an opportunity, try to not feel guilty because it's not your fault you're going through this. Be patient with yourself and eventually things will work out :)
Lo the jupiter moon so sweet of you :(
the thing is, am not that close with my family, we dont sit around and talk with eachother and they dont grasp the concept of anxiety, my mom think am just weird or someone gave the "red eye" she gets disappointed everyday when i cant do what other kids do, and my father only makes me feel more guilty
i get that its unfamiliar condition to them i dont blame them for getting upset with me.
i tried to seek a professional help, i just couldn't for many reasons
its funny sometimes i feel like am not meant to be happy no matter how hard i try in the end it doesnt seem like i even did
Don't slouch. By slouching your activating a sort of defense mode in your body, this increases your Adrenalin so you can run away from the enemy. In summary, it activates a fight for a flight mode. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. It doesn't get rid of the anxiety completely, but it tells your body that there is no danger and it'll start to relax
wait is that really true? dude that's great thank you
samcat03 I'm going to try this. I actually slouch quite often. Hopefully it works :)
My goal for today is going into the shopping centre (something that absolutely terrifies me) and I’m going to try this out, so thank you for sharing your advice
This is actually good advice.
hmmm let me try this
Just watching this makes my heart beat so fast
It took me about two years of therapy to get rid (for the most part anyway) of social anxiety. I kept exposing myself to situations that kept me anxious, like small talk with neighbors in elevator and other small things. Now whenever there is a social situation that makes me anxious and I'd rather avoid I try to be excited about it and reframe it as a new challenge and an opportunity for more exposure.
is it really worked ?
You know how hard it is to stop social anxiety. I'm thinking negative thoughts all the time
We feel for you, but it is something we can manage and overcome if start changing our habits. Hopefully the tips in this video can help you cope! Believe in yourself, you can do this!
I can pretend to have a normal conversation with new people. I think of people I've met who are friendly and inviting that I felt somewhat comfortable around. I take a deep breath, smile and act like a very cheery person. Unfortunately it only works in the moment bc right after or in the middle of the conversation my thoughts take over.
I can relate :(
same i can pretend then BOOM the thouhts come nd i silence myself
I become scared to go to social events and I overthink every conversation I have even with people I hang out with a lot. I have become so scared of 1 on 1 interactions that its even weird with me and my mom sometimes. I prefer being alone because I always envision some awkward situation happening in my day no matter what.
WHY IS THIS ME
sometimes i cant even clean my throat in public when everyone is quiet
Same loo
Lol*
@@deadaccount2048 Sameeee
Ah, I already knew these methods... But there is still a difference between knowing things and applying them well ;_;
Oh I didn't see your answer !
Yeah, I know all this tips but thank you... I've done progresses but I still have a long way to go...
Thanks for the pieces of advice, that was really kind of you, "stranger I just met" ;-) !
Enola Lemonade Well we're both here, anxious platypus and anxious squirrel.
It's easier said than done
Lol how am i supposed to control my "harmful thoughts" when I don't even know what's causing me to be scared? Like I don't have any specific "they're gonna hate me, they think I'm lame" thoughts, it's just a general, wordless feeling of absolute terror.
This is understandable. Sometimes, our negative thoughts have no reasoning and so, we don't think we can change them. Maybe the first step is to accept this feeling of fear within you, not fight it but let it be... and then slowly shift your thinking into what makes you feel good and happy. Studies show that if you find 5 things every day to be grateful for, your brain starts to develop a habit of finding positives as opposed to focusing on negatives.
Yeh same, i have no specific reasons for my social anxiety, i just see social events, 1 on 1 meetings with strangers and public speaking as giant mountains that i have to climb and i dont want to climb it 😭
I've been skipping classes lately. I know this is not right but anxiety takes over me. I wish I were just a normal student.. i wish i had the guts to speak up in front of class.. i wish i could share my ideas without thinking that they're judging every word i utter.. it sucks.
Now i have like 5 missed assignments.. and tomorrow's Monday, I've made up my mind that imma skip classes tomorrow.. AGAIN..
This is exactly how I feel with class looming tomorrow
@@jlm123685 I am proud to say that I kinda overcame the fear to come to classes and speak up my thoughts in front of ppl. And I know that you can do it too! Though it's not that easy, you'll get through this! 😊
People say they miss the days before Covid 19 but I find it better because I don't have go to school and interact with people as much as I used to
same bro
Im so shy i hate my life
My little princess love ur life
I love u
Furiosa 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@uexplorer7297 Got asthma? Just breathe ❤
Exactly, like it’s even really annoying when most adults don’t understand it. They’re always telling me to speak up and stop being so shy. Like your literally adults you should at least try to understand don’t you know what S.A.D is?? God damn
Those tips can probably also help anxiety in general. By the way, thanks for the upload!
Your welcome, glad you can use them for anxiety in general as well!
Appreciate video content! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Mahorrla Execute Shy Method (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome exclusive product for beating social anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some decent things about it and my friend at last got amazing success with it.
Social anxiety is way more than shyness or being an introvert. I feel like a lot of people mistake social anxiety for being just that, but it’s classified as a disorder and debilitating for a solid reason. Me, personally, struggling with social anxiety, it creates such an intense feeling of panic, most of the time-these episodes result in panic or anxiety attacks. In school, hearing the word ‘pairing up’ or ‘group work/group project’ sets me into a panic attack, and it feels as though all air slowly left my body. It is horrible when every social situation or event creates you to have a melt down or go straight into flight/panic mode. And so many things such as, “you can do it” or “you got this, just try” is way easier to be said than to be done. Social anxiety and social phobia is so misconceived, and misunderstood.
I really enjoy the way this video is sought out, the visualization part really caught my attention, and I truly think this might work if I try it. Thank you for making this!!
I've had social anxiety for a long long time. I go through phases of keeping to myself and phases of trying to be brave and see people anyway. Currently in the latter phase and some tips I have are;
Be mindful of your environment and when you feel the anxious thoughts coming try to focus on what is around you.
If you can't think what to talk about then ask people questions, any questions you can think of about themselves. Then the focus is on them and also shows them you're interested in them as a person.
Shut down your unrealistic/illogical thoughts as they come up. You can do this by coming up with a counter argument that proves them wrong or you can simply tell them they're wrong and to f*ck off haha.
Try to plan things with people that are fun and light hearted and things where there is something to do so that you're busy and distracted from overthinking.
Meditate before you go out and see people and send yourself loving kindness.
Think about all the ways in which the interaction could go right and imagine it going that way.
Afterwards praise yourself for any little things that did go right when you were socialising and choose to focus on those things rather than anything which felt less positive about the interaction. Be proud of yourself for showing up.
I feel like when I go places with people I worry about everything, the way I walk, how fast I walk, how fast or slow I talk, this silence, are they ok with it? Literally everything and I don’t know how to stop
Bad thinking is just a habit, and habits can be changed. Wow, Thank you!
I can relate so much to this video and i can tell this is gonna help a lot of people with social anxiety. I used to have social anxiety but not anymore. The one thing i still have in common with my old self is i still LOVE staying home. Not because I'm scared of interactions or feeling anxious but I just love to spend some time alone.
Life Starter Pack I'm still really anxious bit I'll always love my home. It's where I feel safest and comfortable being
good blody joob mate you just outsmarted your self your prety great if you ask me
That's because you are an introvert 😊
Life Starter Pack your channel is great man!
Life Starter Pack I know the feeling. I have some anxiety, but it's not really bothersome. I enjoy lying around the house from time to time alone as it helps take my mind off certain things. I still spend time outside and am hoping to make a few new connections.
Eeeeesh I can't even put off my mask in group, social phobia it really sucks, No talking in class, No friends, fear of eating in cafeteria thinking all eyes are on you, feeling dizziness in public and feeling of fainting, I was diagnosed with this condition when I was 16 am now in university struggling with it. May everyone reading this become successful and be whoever you want to be.
I literally fear all social interactions! I can know ppl for years but not on close terms and still be anxious around them. It’s so exhausting😒! But your videos really help me and so many others! Thank you very Much🦋
I have anxiety most of the time. but now ive decided to try and work myself through it. because im tired. im tired of the same thing everyday happening to me. So whenever i feel my anxiety coming to me, i'd have to remind myself that im in control and not let my thoughts get the best of me. for those out there who are facing anxiety, remember, you have your own voice. Dont let your mind control you. You should be the one to control it. love u xx
thanks u
I don't have a voice in my head
Thank u
This video was all I needed. When I'm in a social situation without my mom i feel like the world is falling on me, it's a horrible feeling and I didn't wanna to feel like this, i want to be independent but this social anxiety don't let me and it's killing me everyday😫
Reading this comments makes me feel not alone, but also didn't want anyone to have this, it's sucks
Was it about being without her that scares you the most? It is a terrible feeling, but if you use that energy of hating it so much to keep you strong and work against it, then you can overcome this
Psych2Go i don't know, all i know is that I feel more safe with her. It's like when I'm at a party, if she goes to the bathroom or something i feel lost and that everybody is looking at me or when she asks me to go to the grocery by myself... but thank you so much for the tips!! I try a little bit more everyday to overcome this fear!
I feel you, Karen 😩
same and my sister but she went to the army:(
am here bc i feel scared to go back to university after 3 semesters of online studying. Just the thought of being surrounded by so many people again overwhelms me so much
I’m literally scared of all situations with human interaction if my mom isn’t there 🙄 or someone I’m comfortable with. I can’t even go in stores alone, I wish I can be normal and make eye contact aswell
To cope with my anxiety, i put earphones in when I'm in public and listen to calm music. If I'm really anxious (more than usual) I listen to some rain through SoundCloud. Then, once I'm back home, i feel more happier and comfortable when I'm alone and it's quiet because I don't feel as stressed as I would with my friends, I won't have to worry about judging and I could just be me without worrying 😊 this helps me, I hope it helps some of you too
I hate social anxiety so much.
It always tears me up 😭
Just started to experience social anxiety about 2 months ago. It ain't easy but glad to see there's plenty of help and others who can relate. Thank you!
I get social anxiety in certain situations and it's difficult to tell my friends, because I don't want to ruin their fun. Thank you for this video, I can always count on you guys!
I honestly didn't know that, what I was feeling was social anxiety, until I found this channel
steveislame same
True
the confronting ur anxiety is so true.. we get scared and try our best to avoid situations where our anxiety is triggered, but by stopping this and doing stuff that usually gives us anxiety helps big time. for example, yesterday i went to an ice cream place and ordered my own ice cream instead of telling someone else to do so, the way u feel after this is so amazing, is like a big accomplishment and it helps to overcome it little by little, so pls know that avoiding and hiding from stuff makes it way worse.
I’m meeting a friend I haven’t seen in ages and my heart is racing, I’m sweating, crying and overthinking. I really really don’t want to go but I feel like I have to so I don’t look like a weirdo :(. I just feel I’m going to be so akward
Just do it as much as you can, expose yourself to all the situations you fear as much as you can.
Life is a fucking joke, don't take it so seriously.
Practice having fun with ALL the circumstances in your life, you're welcome.
life a realy good joke if you ask me
A beautiful fucking joke.
Jonathan Meddis its pointless to get ur self exposure but wtill have negative feed back about it which makes u even more anxious for the nxt time..
Jonathan Meddis
That's probably the worst advice I've ever heard.
Life isn't a joke, so don't expect everyone to take life at leisure just because you have that luxury.
People should try, yes, but they won't always succeed.
And, really? You can't have "fun" with everything in your life. Not everything in life is about fun.
You sound like an optimistic person that refuses to see any hardship in life for what it is.
That Random Guyーさん
You can choose your own attitude toward life so yeah, you can totally find things to enjoy in pretty much everything.
But I understand that some people resonate more with a cynical and judgemental point of view, by all means do what works best for you
This video gave me anxiety
OH no! What about it made you anxious?
Psych2Go I am just easily prone to experiencing anxiety (especially social anxiety) even when it is simply talked about lol but I love your videos regardless!
Same
Imagine your school having 99% of the students extroverts- *Haha, hahaha!* Couldn’t be me! 😆 😦
I’ve been dealing with social anxiety recently and i always get thoughts in my head such as “all of your friends secretly hate you,” or “no one wants you around” and ever since I’ve been facing my anxiety I’ve become slowly but surely more social, but I still just try hanging out with my best friend at school because he’s the only person I feel comfortable around
I don't want to deal with it. I'd rather just stay home with my dog and my cat.
I hate presentations, I even have to take my glasses off so I can't see people watching me making a fool of myself during the presentation, social anxiety sucks!
Wow, I do the same thing
On the contrary, I put on my glasses that I don't usually wear to kinda mask my face. How sad.
LOL now i wish i had glasses 😅
@@eonshade6297 i hide behind my glasses, especially when i cry my glasses makes me look like i wasn't crying
I just don’t show up for them ha
Kind of ironic that I can do class presentations just fine and even get complimented on my ability to speak, but in literally any other social situation I'm a nervous mess. I always get this feeling that I'm somehow being rude when ordering something at a restaurant for example and wish I could just be in the background and have no one talk or look at me at social events in fear i'll say/do something stupid. Sports in school were my nightmare and I even went as far as to take gym class over the summer so I could complete my required graduation credit in advance and avoid another year of being teased. I do wish to change this learned behavior
I love how you explained the role of controlling one's thoughts to help fight social anxiety. Such great explanation. Thanks for sharing!
I hate social anxiety so freaking much
M M Meow me too
i get so much bullying because of how nervous and shy i am on school its kinda annoying . btw i drawn to keep my mind busy
I sucked at giving presentations in front of the class and everyone was always asking why are you so shy and nervous? And those stupid questions only made it worse. I'd rather they pretended they didn't notice :P
Teacher: You will be doing a presentation on animals!
Me: "UHHHHHHH I FORGOT IM SICK TOMORROW, *runs out the door*
This is really helpful! Controlled breathing typically helps me, as I use it to ground myself to the situation and place surrounding me. I get internally heated in my chest and face when I'm anxious, and breathing also helps with cooling off.
I have no friends
yay merrell me either
yay merrell sad to admit but same
But i do have online friends but im not sure if they count
Dont worry ur not alone;(
Honestly, sometimes it is better to not have any friends than having 50 fake ones. However, it isn't easy being lonely.
I honeslty rather have 1 person in my life than have friends
I tell my parents that i have really bad social anxiety and they yhink im messing around or something, they make me do things thst is out there and in front of a bunch of people and thst really messes me up.
I'm in a similar situation
My mum says I'm making things up (she didn't even believe it exists when I told her about it). She doesn't understand a bit because she's outgoing and I'm not :/
HELLO FREN I SEE TYLER ON UR PROFILE PIC
brianna ramirez same :(
Well, at some point you gotta get out there if you wanna get better.
Pandemic: “hey guess what, I wanna take a few of your friends away-“
Social Anxiety: “lost all your friends? don’t worry, I gotcha” * *brings online friends* *
My social anxiety had jumped over the roof when I was a child, it hit when asking a question, going to a populated area and presenting anything. Thanks for the video, it's becoming better
Not being ugly is the best way to get over your social anxiety
I'm crying right now, this helped me with my issue. Today there's this charming schoolmate who approached me and said he wanted to be *friends*. During this awfully long time conversation I haven't made a single eye contact, my heart raced too fast that I could faint because of this heaviness. The *why's* bugged my mind why he wanted to be friends with someone who looks stupid and dumb like me. Now i'd help myself get over this.
Moody Marie That would NEVER happen to me, you're so lucky
I'm Watermelonely how am i lucky? I don't deserve him, actually..
This type of thing really helps me in this type of situation, thank you. And reading the comments about other people's experience helps a lot too, my social anxiety is attacking again so I felt hugged haha
Anyone feel like breaking down crying when you say one sentence in front of people and feel like your now the most weirdest strangest literally the most vulnerable person in existence...
Yes, hi, hello, you just described me.
@@somethingunusual8456 wait fr?🥺 it's nice to know I'm not alone ❤️
Your talking about me too lol
I suffer from social anxiety and I'm always afraid of what people will think of me when I'm in public, I personally find helpful to try and imagine what would I think of a person in my situation and it helps me calm down because I wouldn't really judge them. I just wanted to share this method I use with other people, I hope it'll be useful
Dear Lord, this video is exactly what I need. Thanks!
Np! Glad it helps!
I’ve always had social anxiety and in high school I got enough of it and instead of choosing art class I took drama class... I was so scared but it was the best thing of my life! I loved it! It made me open up and I learned to take risks. I still do have social anxiety but now if I have to do a presentation I can relax and think that everything will be fine afterwards.
Social anxiety is so hard for me. I can’t even speak out loud in my classroom, even when I change periods of classes. And when me and my classroom are having school lunch and watch a movie. I couldn’t even eat, even when I’m at the restaurant or the mall that also has a restaurant. And when I’m in public, like I’m in a school, a store or a mall. I always feel like people are judging me. I also can’t talk to people. Social anxiety fucked me up.
I went to register for high school (first year) and I had to talk to high school kids idk for like what locker I want and my anxiety was so bad they gave me dirty looks and thought something was wrong with me. It also doesn't help my mom doesn't get it so she will tend to say you need to get over it and I'm like ohh if I could I would have already. H.S is going to be hell for me 😐.
How did your first year of high school go?
Would love an update on your first year! Was it as bad as you expected?
can't life just become a video game, then I would just speedrun all this shit?
Most of the time when I’m in class, I get anxious when the teacher calls on random people to read a paragraph, or even reread a question on our homework. There’s nothing wrong with the way I sound and I have good reading skills, so there really is nothing to be nervous about but it always gets the best of me when the time comes. I hope that I can apply these tips to real life situations when the time does come to read aloud. It’s weird because this type of anxiety just started my 2nd year at a new high school.
This is why I'm not comfortable facing people at my job at the deli, & also the reason CZcams is currently my only form of social media...
Has anyone ever mentioned how FUCKING CUTE AND ADORABLE these drawings are? And I mean this specific drawing style. There also other drawing styles on this channel which don't have this cuteness!
I struggle to get help at school because I’m always scared that my teachers and peers will judge me. This helped a lot! Especially the relaxing of the body, slow breathing, and the visualization.
I feel better already. Thanks Psych2go!
I'm an extrovert with intense social anxiety. I really enjoyed social events and get full battery from it. But have a social events means have the next two days worrying about how people will judge me. It's so confusing and frustating
i have never clicked a video faster