Stop Negative Thoughts
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- Want to stop negative thoughts from getting to you?
When negative thoughts hit your brain, it's tempting to struggle with them and try to shove a more positive thought in there. Instead, it's better to seek help. Here are 11 practical strategies on how to stop negative thoughts from ruining you.
If you have a friend who struggles with negative thinking, share this video with them.
Content: Michelle Linette
Script Manager: Ariel Slack
Voice Actor: Scott Austin
Animator: Tiffany - / justplainrandom-draws
Project Manager - Erin Bogo
Producer - Psych2Go - Animation@psych2go.net
Feel free to share this video and help as many people as possible!
If you're experiencing negative thoughts, leave a comment on them below and let's help one another.
I'm not gonna lie I find it really hard to be positive. I find it rather impossible
You don't have to think positively if that's what you're not able to do. Sometimes, it's better to be self aware and acknowledge that times are tough and that it's okay to feel the way you do, but if you ever need it, the tips in this video are more like coping strategies.
_shenanigans _ the question is why you can't
For me I'm positive almost all time and relaxed
Can't you find your way for the unlimited happiness that you want to reach?
Thank you all
ZylerFlareMusic Im sorry mate I sincerely hope you get better, I hate bullies I've lost friends to them.
Psych2Go this channel is amazing keep up the work
I am afraid of being narsictic when tyring to be positive.
oh my gosh that is my EXACT problem and leads me to more negative thoughts
lazycupcake SAME!!
Sude Yoney agreed
there's a difference between being a narcisst and caring about your well being, being around negativity can bring you down and keep you in negativity, plus it's healthier to be positive than negative, positivity doesn't equal narcissism, but if that bothers people, are they even worth keeping around
Thank you ^ that makes a lot more sense
My mind is trying to kill me.
I just came from listening marigold to this video. Marigold by Aimyon, is that you what you're talking about? :D
Help yourself by stop think negatively. Watch funny and positive things
@Kitty Purr i know that everyone is different. But we have common things. it is life. You live in the world. Your have no choice to move forward. Positive thinking is good way to escape . If you want to do that. you have to practice. Watch video funny and positive and gradually it make you better
Everything will be okay, stay strong, there are many more like us
Same
'Find a trustful person'
Me: haha okay bye
I felt that...
Exactly!
sparkle z_z same here
I FELT THAT
I have no one 😞
I overthink. All the time. As cliche as it sounds, it is what keeps me up at night. It's sad that what I think are mostly negative things about myself and how I interact with people.
Sorry to hear that! Hopefully, you will find a way to let out those thoughts! And get solutions to your overthinking!
ughrowie Same, i cant even sleep properly because of the negative thoughts at night
ughrowie me too...
ughrowie omg same it's so hard to feel like the way people perceive me is good enough for me sometimes
I feel u
so in essence, fake it till you make it?
Raymond Tang Fake it till you BeCoMe it
Raymond Tang but that seems pointless since I've been faking the whole time :)
Not necessarily. I know that this video gave many tips, but they are just coping tips. The better approach is to face your demons and then go from there. Understand why you're feeling the way you do and then see if you can do something about it. If not, then in the time being, it doesn't hurt to have some coping strategies.
Psych2Go I really appreciate you taking the time to help me out. That is incredibly thoughtful, and I will take that with me
No worries. Good luck on everything!
1.) Notice your body language,relax your body
2.) Use affirmations
3.) Mindfulness - Give your thoughts names and let them go
4.) Know your triggers
5.) Distract yourself
6.) Find a trustful person
7.) Exercise
8.) Daily Journal
9.) Self talk using a mirror
10.) Be aware of misreading - don't draw conclusions
11.) Don't apply your perspective to someone else
if you're watching this and happened to scroll to my comment, it's ok, i feel you.
here is a smile that i painfully scraped from my soul
:)
have a good day.
I shall give u my smile from my ugly soul. :) Good day to you, too.
Thanks...! I need to stop hating myself
@@treycantu1097 dude why so desperate😅?
Thank you 😇
No gonna lie comments like these help me alot So thank you random person
"find a trusted person"
oops! that's where this train stops
💔
Parents 💗
That is a good example for "negative thoughts".
A therapist can be a trusted person.
Same
*stop negative thoughts*
Easier said than done
Every one tells me "just think about something thats good about you!" Well its hard to focus on the GOOD when all you know is the BAD
That's what its like for me.
@@diegobareno5820 same bro..same
I feel that
I celebrate every little victory.. did I take shower today?, did I get out of bed today? Did I eat something today? I constantly say to myself, look at me, I’m trying! I was so sick of everyone’s “advice”. I can’t tell you how many times I heard, “just snap out of it!” Ugh! I hope this doesn’t feel like this is what I’m doing to you. If nothing else, know you’re not alone
thats what its like for me
negative thoughts are tough. for me it feels like a dark pool and I have to get out. or swim to the low end where my happy thoughts are. sometimes it takes seconds other times it takes half an hour to an hour. or more. with breaks of good in between.
😢
LITERALLY
I know right
This video makes me think of the worst things it means the STUPID SHIT DOSENT HELP😡😢😭
I’m sad because I don’t know if there is a place for me in this world. I feel nostalgic for a past I was never apart of. I see my peers doing well and achieving happiness and I wonder why is it that I can’t seem to figure it out? On paper my life should be fine, and yet I’m always miserable I know how self indulgent it is to wallow in my own sadness and I’m aware I’m not the only one feeling this way despite me not ever coming across anyone like this ever which ironically makes me feel more guilty about my sense of anomie and isolation from the world around me.
It's gonna be okay don't compare yourself too your peers look great things are going to happen in your life and your going to be something that many people will look up too do not worry and stress your self out
I also have the same feeling.. Started comparing myself with others.. And then feeling sad and family problems,makes me feel so sad and when others get to do things I like and get successful, I think if I will have any place in this world? I'm so tired of living..
Ive done things i regret and now im gonna live with them forever.
A person saying hi to me in public is terrible because they dont know what i did.
I didnt do anything thats really bad but it floats in my head when someone is talking about me in a positive way.
I also have adhd and its hard to focus and avoid mistakes.
But yeah, when somebody is saying congratulations on something or i hope you have a great day it makes me mad and sad that they dont know what type of person i really am.
Im not a good person and if i told people they would disown me.
Ive considered suicide but i know my family would be upset and thats the only reason i havent done anything yet.
I also hate when people say the stereotypical thing like “It will get better” or “are you ok” because it reminds me of it.
I dont want to say what i did as im mainly a private person who keeps to themselves.
@@viece8426 It will haunt you until you "right" the wrong. Find a way to either apologize or if they don't know what you did then find a way to atone and make them whole. We can't run away from consequences, we have to face them to move on.
" Find a trustful person. It can be a friend...."
Me : Friend ? What is friend ? I haven't had one in 3 years
Legendary Pusheen l-/ too relatable. I'll be your fren
You play on pc? I'd love to play with you if you just want somebody to talk to man.
Legendary Pusheen l-/ I'm 14...and I didn't have a friend till this day :(
I haven't had a real friend till I was 20. I had no friends at all till I was 17. From 17 to 20 I had a lot of backstabbing friends who harmed me. Trust me, it's better to stay alone till the right person becomes your friend than to make tons of friends who're no use to you. I suggest that you should join groups of anything you're good at, like music group, art group, dance group, book club etc anything that'll make you feel familiar with other people. People with similar interests tend to become friends real quick. And if you don't have a hobby, develop one. I hope this helps you and you find a real friend very soon. XX
I haven't had friends for 8 years... Yes,8 crappy years.
well,but I have one best friend.
My negative thoughts honestly mainly came from my family. They would always crush me down when i had a new idea when i shared a dream with them. It destroyed my self-confidence and leaded me to be an overthinking person. It really stresses me out...
Same.
Kobaltblue reparent your self...school of life has a good vid about that!
Kobaltblue me 2
Same.
Same...
*If you are young and stressed out about life, REMEMBER:*
- Your time will come and time is on your side, don't rush things.
Do what you love and focus on gaining knowledge and experience.
You will figure it out as time passes, don't forget to enjoy life and be present with your dearest ones.
Thank you so much this made my day
you forgot the other 2 dashes
It didnt work
Lord Tony unfortunately I’m broke
my dearest ones? lol
Any negative and upset people watching this during the worst year of 2020
Yea while they force us to look like clowns with our slave masks?
Yep me , i can't stand peoples that constantly smiling all the time,they are annoying :(
I trust god"
Thoughts are only the results of emotions.
Thoughts are created as a result of physical feelings.
Ha ha
I've never clicked on a video faster. I really need this.
Chloe LastName are you ok?
Chloe LastName Same dude. I saw it in my suggested and had an incredible need to hear if this guy had good advice.
same here
Chloe LastName Ohmygosh I love your profile pic lol
Chloe LastName Me too.
We should stop thinking about other people so much.
I try to remember that life doesn't revolve completely around interaction with others
Not easy when they have a negative effect on you still.
Yeah
I try to stop thinking, but he is always on my mind ...
Yea but we should also stop thinking about ourselves so much
Thinking sucks
Me: *grinds teeth*
Him: Are you grinding your teeth?
Me: Are you watching me?
Good comment nrother🙂
I grind my teeth
@@inuraedirisinghe9559 I just bite my nails or my tounge or bite on my finger tips-
@@Isabel-sr8ep Okay, whoa I commented two months ago
@@inuraedirisinghe9559 I know sorry lol I just now realized That! had a brain fart and for a second I thought it said “2weeks ago” this is what happens to me when I don’t get enough sleep-
Joker: But ALL I HAVE ARE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Negativity is always on my mind! But thats who i am
『AinsweeMation』 read „breaking the habit of being yourself“
@@ainsdeepfried Sometimes in those dark days as you have I remember the poem of Kathleen Raine:
To write down all I contain at this moment
I would pour the desert through an hour-glass,
The sea through a water-clock,
Grain by grain and drop by drop
Let in the trackless, measureless, mutable seas and sands.
For earth's days and nights are breaking over me,
The tides and sands are running through me,
And I have only two hands and a heart to hold the desert and the sea.
What can I contain of it? It escapes and eludes me,
The tides wash me away,
The desert shifts under my feet.
I think I cannot pretend to hold the sea and the sand with only my hands and my heart, I cannot just think I am superior to my dificulties, fear and despair based only in my desire to feel better. To have my heart calmed I need to understand those are emotions, not the complete truth but just a fraction of it, even if they are not at the moment, there are people who cares for me, even if I'm alone, my pain gets calm when I get calm, even when sometimes I see the tragedy like a distant picture, doesn't mean I don't feel the weight of it but means I will try to do a smart piece of my time to feel myself better, and more calm, I cannot try to hold the world, by I can try to hold myself even if that is not enough.
Keep the hope my friend, better times will come. : )
this is not a joke right?
Thank you.
4:52 That running animation XD
xD
Ikr
Oh gosh
Barbara can you help
STEP STRP STEP
If you're reading this;
I wish you the best life ever! I know you can do this, fight this pain, and have a beautiful reward when you've overcome the pain and sadness. Please try not to overthink, that's one of the reasons why you're getting more sad and sad, if you are overthinking, then try to say to yourself: "I need to stop overthinking. I know i'm not such a bad person. What i'm saying is not true."
Because if you have a regret, try to let it go. It's VERY normal to make mistakes, even the masters themselves make mistakes. I believe in you guys! Don't let anxiety, depression or whatever mental illness you have take you over, it's YOUR body, not that from darkness. You can do it! I know you can, whoever is reading this, depression never stays if you fight hard enough! And I know you guys are fighting hard, but keep in mind, sadness, depression or anxiety NEVER stays. It's theoretically not possible.
I wish you all the best, good luck with fighting your own mental illness. If you need help, try commenting! I'll try to help you! Or ask your friend for help, make sure they're trustworthy, because some people aren't smart enough for what you're going through. Bye!
Better said than done.
Thank you
Thank you. Reading this made me cry, it was so beautiful...
Thank you 🙏
thx
Whenever I think negative, a strong, confident voice in my brain says,
"No. You are fine. Think about the many great things you are. People have said to you before that ur bootiful, smart, kind, good at art, talented and MANY more things. Don't you DARE say that's not true, and they're just being nice. You are all these things whether u like it or not. You are awesome and I love you bootiful hooman"
SAME☺️
I need that voice 😂😂
Why do I hate that voice though? Like I try pushing it away??
@@Dagnar3142 For permanent transformation reach a state of mind where nothing disturbs you. Your breath is directly related to your mind causing anxiety. For a relaxed life without anxiety sit on a chair, back and spine as erect as possible, hands on your lap with palms upwards, close your eyes and do nothing. Be as still as possible and observe your incoming--outgoing breath and body sensations for around 10-20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but slowly negative thoughts will reduce. The mind is slowly reprogrammed to relax. The good news is that simultaneously other ailments in the body are also healed with daily meditation. Do twice daily or as per your convenience. Practice not over-reacting to any daily real life situations. Avoid watching negative TV shows. Do the above meditation daily without any expectations and doubts and your life will transform. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shadowalpha8170 For permanent transformation reach a state of mind where nothing disturbs you. Your breath is directly related to your mind causing anxiety. For a relaxed life without anxiety sit on a chair, back and spine as erect as possible, hands on your lap with palms upwards, close your eyes and do nothing. Be as still as possible and observe your incoming--outgoing breath and body sensations for around 10-20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but slowly negative thoughts will reduce. The mind is slowly reprogrammed to relax. The good news is that simultaneously other ailments in the body are also healed with daily meditation. Do twice daily or as per your convenience. Practice not over-reacting to any daily real life situations. Avoid watching negative TV shows. Do the above meditation daily without any expectations and doubts and your life will transform. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Me: *tries to hug my best friend*
Best friend: ew go away
Random guy: *hug my best friend*
Best friend: *hug him*
I didn't slept for 3 days untill she told me that is because she don't know how to tell him to don't touch her but.
_It sounds like a lie to me_
Get away from the fake ass people you don't need them
That person may not be your friend man.
oh my god
Are u a girl? Just asking cause it depends for example ur a boy and ur best friend is a girl,Cause that's a different story
Fake? Maybe she’s more honest to you but more fake to the random dude. She’s just trying to be polite. Try not to overthink things too much.
I hate the fact that my family is one of the main factor to my negative thoughts. they're my family, they're the people I suppose to feel relaxed with. I don't think you'd suggest me to stay away from them (?). My world is a complete mess *sigh*
Tharith I know what you mean; what do you suggest?
Tharith my family was also the major cause of negativity in my life, if you're under 18 or you can't support yourself, a good thing to do is meditate, negativity is just energy, and energy can be changed, meditating can calm you down and help bring you out of negativity even when you're around negative people, it can take awhile to get used to it, but if you decide to keep up with it, you can get used to being around negative triggers and even if they bring you down, you can bring yourself up...or just find what makes you happy and when they bring you down, do those positive activites
Tharith you are not the only one
Tharith let's compare my family to yours let's mine takes drugs and has incest what does yours?
JK
Please don't feel like that. You have not chose your family. If they have mistakes or defects, is not your fault. Try self talk. Talk to yourself or if things get really bad get away from them. You don't have to feel bad for what others do. I had really bad negative thoughts before with my family and others until the day I realized that I have to accept my thoughts, because they are part of me. It's like trying to stoop doing poo because is gross. Is part of you and you will always do it.Never fight with your thoughts because you are going to lose big time. Just accept them and take them with love and compassion. Thoughts will never determinate who we really are as persons.
what if your parents trigger negative feelings/thoughts? (I'm a teen)
CleftIsACunt ignore them and also tell them u are tired of their negativity but don't expect too much change! 😕
@@69LOLIN it isn't that easy to ignore it or to stand up to your parents
@@ALAL-bu1pm practice untill you achive!
just try to understand and accept them and then try to change them into your positivity
get away from them. I'm an adult and i just learned not talking to them is the best ever. get a job and move out.
“All I have is negative thoughts”
Legend Arthur fleck
My biggest fear is losing my family. 😭😥
Bts_is_lifeu same it always makes me cry
Same. And losing my pets and having a negative future.......
I already did
I never had a family and am fine.
@@yes_its_edd191 Sorry to hear that you lost your family.
You're not conquering the negativity. You're electing to ignore it. It returns to you in your moments of rest and peace. Then you wake up the next day and lie to yourself in the mirror by saying "everything will be ok"
Yes, glad you highlight that. So these tips are more like coping strategies. As you highlighted, changes begin when you pay attention to yourself and directly confront the problems.
you can't conquer it when all you feel is negativity, is like being trapped in a dragon's cage and wanting to fight it, you need to get out before you can kill it. and getting out is better than getting conquered by negative
Michael Inniss well you cant always be positive and always be negative, if you were, then you wouldnt really be Human but think of it like this, there are people who are mostly positive and mostly negative and this is due to how your brain/subconscious is programmed, when you manage to deal with the negativity but it comes crawling back, it's about what you do with it, not the fact that it's there, negativity is energy and energy can change, you could chose to stay negative or try to deal with it to the best of your ability.
Yes. It's about practice and notice that a thought can never determinate who we are as persons.
Your problem is your mind. By brushing off self-hating thoughts for long enough it'll eventually happen automatically, tto the point you pretty much won't have them. This together with gradually stepping out of your comfort zone and accept a non-needy view on life are the only solutions.
It is very difficult for me to look at myself in the mirror for too long. How do you do it?
Can I ask what makes that difficult for you?
Psych2Go I just don't like the way I look.
What are some aspects you like about yourself other than your looks?
Psych2Go Well, I like that I can write very well. I like that I am kind toward others. I also like that I can play video games well.
Would this help? Look at a mirror. Get an expo marker and draw the aspects of yourself that you like, pointing to you.
I am so tired of this I can’t stop thinking my self into sick
i keep thinking about how much i miss my childhood and want to go back and how scary life is gonna be after highschool/ college. i also keep thinking about my parents and family deaths and how they are going to happen in the future and i can’t stop
Thinking about the future is scary for me too. I hope these negative thoughts don't hurt us too much.❤️
@@lordgrimixb Hopefully we can grow out of it but it seems like i’m never gonna stop thinking about it. I hope you have a good rest of your day whenever you read this 🙏🏽
Ya. As soon as I feel better, here comes the negativity. My best choice is to escape reality and to distract myself by talking to my friends at school. But I don't think they care too much of how I feel. I sometimes feel like I'm annoying them though Even if there not. Its hard staying positive for a long time.
If you feel that you can't share with them. Then don't. But try first. I know it's scary. And if it doesn't work out. They're not the friends for you.
@@ariban ur one brave soul😧
@@prabhaputhenkalam8942 I learnt the hard way! But it's worth it cuz you learn who's going to be there for real. And who you can return the sentiment to. It's not one sided at all.
@@ariban yeah I know. Ur one lucky person to have good friends like that😁
That's true. Whenever my days full of positivity, 3 days later it become very bad, especially because my anxiety of overthinking.
Happy Weekend everyone! Can you guys help share this video for those who are struggling with negative thoughts? Sometimes, just a change in thinking, giving someone hope, letting them know that they will be okay, can make a difference.
dank mcdankerson I'm deceased
Psych2Go, I can't think positive. I try and I try but nothing seems to help
@Leonard, sorry to hear that. Can you share the last time you were happy and what was different about that time vs now?
Psych2Go The last time I was truly happy, no anxiety, no worries, was when I took an overdose on my medication
This video sucks. I'm disappointed. All the tricks don't work at all and if you can complete them than you are not actually depressed.
My negative thoughts are going out of control these days. I’m constantly worried about not getting a job and not being able to support myself financially. I just graduated from university. I can’t even get a badly paid internship. My parents don’t understand mental health. My friends are in similar situations so I don’t want to add to their distress. I definitely don’t have money to see a counselor. These videos are my last savior. From time to time, I find some tips quite useful. But when reality just objectively sucks, it’s hopeless to not have negative thoughts.
Nothing is impossible.. Just fight it.
This is something I've worked on with a counselor. It's hard to stop focusing on the negative, or assuming other's feelings, but it really helps to practice thinking critically about stuff instead of jumping to conclusions.
Whenever I think negatively for so long, my head starts hurting and I can't seem to read anymore. 😔
Tell yourself things like: "I am beautiful"
*HAHAHAHA*...
You ever tried doing it? Lol
Psych2Go i think i understand what Mr. Anonymous its really hard to do that if you have been told your worthless by everyone even your family, I know this because my own family has always told me I'm pathetic and a waste of space and time so yeah its hard to be positive in a situation like that and I mean its not like they care my family knows I cut myself yet they still joke about it I literally have no one I dont have friends and my family doesn't help so yeah. Sorry for the rant 😟😥
Mr. Anonymous
Ikr
As an alternative, you *might* be able to do the exact opposite, which is just embrace your flaws and re-direct them in a way that works for you. You don't *have* to always tell yourself superficial and sugar-coated shit if you don't believe it. That is even worse than beating yourself up with negativity; at least when you're down on yourself, you're being honest. Isn't honesty the key to happiness after all?
Keeren Garcia, you are beautiful human being. Don't give-up. You can always find a friend - it can be a online one at first, but still a friend. It sucks to have a bad family, but you can leave them as soon as you become adult and start your own one - beautiful and loving one.
Him: It will all be okay
Me:No it won’t, the world is a terrible place how could I believe and tell myself such a large lie?
same No Name
“ All I know are negative thoughts”
- Joker
The problem with trying to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones is that it might be an avoidance of a real problem. And when reality comes back it will just be worse because you thought you could win with positive thinking while the truth was somewhere else.
Actually, I'm kinda afraid of this method because somehow it would mean losing some sort of critic mind and my true self. I know there should be a middle ground but hard to define which is my true middle ground.
It doesn't change everything around you. But it helps you to look at things or react to things differently. It may help you see it in a lens that might allow you to come up with a solution or at least understand the first step to take to handle ornchange it. It can also help with coping while going through it. It is important to address problems, but being more mentally positive instead of hampered with negativity can help kick you off.
😔 exactly
ikr
Nesterou I do agree. Basically, I also do feel that it might not be the fact that we're negative but perhaps self conscious. Usually the negative thoughts could come from either trauma or constantly at odds with your surroundings; people included. I feel afraid to sometimes even go to the store anymore, however we all can take a negative but change it into something alternate. I figured although I do like to have my own personal space, I am aware that there are safety in numbers. While I do prefer to go out and do things such as going to the store, I at times feel vulnerable, a negative thought so instead I ask if they could come with me. With negative thoughts such as trauma. Like for example, nowadays we have negative people; too many to be exact. Who will say anything to anyone to get them riled up or second guess who they are as a person. But the best thing to possibly fix Negative thoughts in general is to know your self worth and value. Trust me; practicing this eases the mind.😊
Accept that you’re not perfect no matter how you think, and feel they are your thoughts, and feelings and no one else’s. Your feelings and thoughts are valid no matter what.
If you want to permanently refrain negative thoughts try to reduce them with positive affirmations, heroic poses before a quiz or test. There’s many ways to neutralize negativity than completely getting rid of them.
Do things you truly love and enjoy it’s not a chore, and you’re not being told to do the chores. It can be making art, listening to music, writing, anything.
Thought is powerful
It really is. Sometimes you're stuck in a certain mind frame for so long.
I’m not depressed, but I’ve been thinking about things that scare me. When I here the word suicide I cant stop thinking about it and I go to far with it. I’m a scientist so sometimes things like logic and the human race scares me in the way we think act or even see the world. If you are thinking about ending your life anytime death is going to happen anyway so stay healthy and puts yourself to the max. People need to understand being non negative is easy when you actually try. And yes it could be hard for you. I have bad anxiety about science and that’s why I love it. Everyone and everything is going in the same direction like water. Water comes from different places. From the sky, evaporation, and still water. But it all leads the the same place. If the planet is about 70% water, where does the water go. Well that’s easy...together. So us as humans have to stay together. Even if we don’t know each other and speak differently (language grammar Etc.) we are all the same genetically . So if you have dark or anxious thoughts just talk about it us as people must help one another. Even if you have a bully. Just remember there weakness is society. So try to talk to them. Try to push yourself out there and just try. Because we, us are all “technical and physical” the same. Not mentally tho. Many people complain about there life and that’s ok. But there’s people out there for you and you may not even know it. Also the easiest way to get negative thoughts out of your head is just try. Yes try. The more you try and push yourself to do something the more happy you get. Trust me it works. When I was about 11 I was semi-depressed. I couldn’t eat. Sleep. Talk. Socialize. And even do what I love without crying. Then I went to school and was 10 times happier. Now I have more than 5000 plus friends (no joke) I stream with my friends and don’t care about my social media I care about the world around me and try to make it a happier place. If you read all of this congrats and hope your life it 10 times happier just like mine is.
that's right. From the moment we act our life changes
I like to watch anime because the characters development and their motivation make me motivated
That worked for a while for me
I’m hear because all the hate towards kpop is getting to me
I dont know how to motivate myself, I always start something to become better but always give up on it ive been trying to lose weight for so long
_shenanigans _ You can do it!
_shenanigans _ JUST DO IT.
Its hard man, but please, just keep trying for one more day. You got this bro!
something to remember, when things stall, get hard, or it feels like you fail, then good things are on the horizon, "apparent failure usual comes before success"
_shenanigans _ My guess would be to get firm, but compassionate people to help push you along. Let them know what your striving for and ask for encouragement. I wish you the best.
Can you guys share a personal struggle or story that you would like to open up about below and see how many of us relates? Don't know if this will help anyone, but sometimes all we is to know that there's someone out there going through something similarly so that we feel less alone.
Psych2Go well it would be nice if I could get advice on how to stop relapsing (self harm) without telling somebody? I need all the advice I can get. The reason I don't want to tell anybody though is because I can't deal with therapy, it stresses me out....
Daisy Tato i first have to ask a few questions to accurately give advice, you dont have to go in detail, just say like: friends, thoughts, or no idea
1. what is causing them?
2. what do you think when you are in those moments
3. what do you do other than self harm?
superstare I have really bad depression, just sadness and worthlessness or sometimes numbness, and probably cry...
I used to be obsessed with this girl to the point where It was bad for my health. She was the only thing on my mind and when i thought of her my body temp. would just keep spiking and I'd sometimes just crash and knock out. I eventually got rid of that heat by telling her how I feel. Turns out she isn't dating in highschool 😅.
Psych2Go i go in this terrible loop were I'm really sad and then I think " I'm so selfish for being sad " then I just get sadder and think about my own death. I deal with self harm all of the time, not only cutting but scratching, picking, biting pieces of my lip, when I'm really stressed out I will smash my head off of a wall or floor etc. It's like I will have flashes of sadness and thoughts of taking my own life. I have I diary that I write in and the first time I wrote in it was April 2015 but it feel like these dark thoughts almost like voices have been following me for the last few years. I always chicken out when I plan to take my own life, I'm scared of death but at the same time it would make my mind at peace. Nobody I know in real life has to deal with this, so I feel alone in this situation. Also people in my life that people would consider "friends" I don't, I just see them as people that I talk to, not people I will even talk to a year from now. It doesn't help that I have intense spurts of anger, sometimes I would hurt my animals because of that, then I feel horrible about it and hate myself more, this is actually something I have had since I was young. Sorry for rabbling :/
When your in a negative toxic household you can’t really do much, it’s like all this frustration is built in you. You cry alone, punching the floor knowing your hand hurts, but still continue to do so.
If you are reading this:
I know what you are going through.It's devastating.It's absolutely terrifing.But you are not alone.It will pass some time,YOU have to change!It's hard I know.I can say this and all of a sudden in some minutes I can start thinking negative all of a sudden.But it's not worth it.Why can't you live life like others?Because you can.Since you are reading this,it means you are perfectly fine.And don't be afraid of feeling like this.You will not go mad,it's just a temporary state.I'm currently facing anxiety but with time,I hope I'll comment to this saying it went away and I'm completly fine.What you think you become or you attract.I tend to think of the bad things,and all sorts of bad thoughts,but if you stop,by time your mind will get used with your new positive way of thinking and when you'll have a negative thought it won't have thr same importance.Thank you all for reading and remember.YOU CAN DO IT!AND YOU WILL DO THIS,BECAUSE LIFE IS AMAZING AND YOU HAVE TO LIVE!!
I think what works best for me is distracting myself, I went for a 3 day camping trip (we had a stationary trailer) with 2 of my best friends, no parents and I didn't have one bad thought the whole time. The only bad thing is that the thoughts all came back when I got home, and was probably worse for a few days, so distraction is only short term I guess
Maryam Tawfikq thanks for your concern and good advice, I feel much better since I commented though so I’m good now ^^
@Kay Rose distracting is usefull if you go to work on that thing that is causing you harm when you are rested (and that is what you can use distracting for )
Get with God he will take all negative thoughts away be grateful for what you have and always hope for the best blessings to you my friend
I went to California and i could only distract myself for a couple hours before my thoughts torment me again and i no longer have any desire to do anything
He should be a voice actor
He is a voice actor haha.
Psych2Go haha
The self talk one is so true! Once you do this everyday it really changes who you are for the better!
Thank you for this. I was just crying half an hour before. Cried a lot. I was calm after that and then I found this video. And listening to all this I felt good ❤️
*working on something* *sees psych2go video* I'm done working now. *watches*
Haha. Glad you're a big fan!
gbvenom Intense roblox developing xD
My biggest fear is rejection :(
G4NGSTERC4T愛 u a Scorpio?
@@russianroshane I'm Scorpio.
Rachel Kim I can be a Sagittarius or a Capricorn. I’m born on December 20th so I could be either depending on the year.
Any virgos?
But seriously, just think of rejection as a missed bullet. "Okay, I was rejected, guess it didn't work out. Good thing I'm out before it could've been messier down the road." And just look forward for something better or that better suits you or that'd work for you because they accept you.
@@priscillajimenez27 Yes ofcourse
all i have, are negative thoughts
Finally someone who actually understands what I feel! Thank you so much this really helped!
I really needed this.... I always have negative thoughts about myself and how others think of me... Im guessing I have social Anxiety too but I dont really know... I always put myself down and never congratulate myself if do the right thing and I always think of people who are better than me. I have a fear of people judging me and how people interpret me. I cant even go up to get something without someone with me because I have a fear of what people think of me. Sorry im just rambling now but I really want to get this out because I have been keeping it inside, I dont know what to do with it so why not just put it in the comments section of a video... Hopefully I didnt waste your time and hopefully everyone that reads this has a nice day...
write "you are good enough" on a piece of paper and stick it on the wall where you will see it everyday
I will try to do that! Thank you!
Echo Myers Maybe try multiple notes. Like "everything is going to be okay" or "I am awesome." And stick them all over the place. In your car or on the back of your phone. Over time these positive reinforcements will stick in your mind and then you'll realise that it's true.
I can relate to you so much and I want you to know that you're not alone. I know how that feels and I'm struggling with the same problems. I hope we both get through this
@Rayunna Think of it like this. I'm a person too. I need all same things as other people. Bullying myself is same as bullying someone else. It can't do any good. So tell yourself what you would to someone else. Be objective. It's ok to be a little self critical. But don't get sad or dissmotivated. Here'y best part. You control what you do and think. You have mind of your own. So when you objectivly tell yourself what you're doing wrong, use that information to change what you don't like! I had problem where I said to myself:,,Great, another thing that's wrong about me..." No! Worst thing I could do! Instead, say:,,Ok, I'm doing this wrong, but I'm awqre of it, which means I can do better! I can fix it!" And remember, you were born. That means you were ready for life. Never give up, as long as you're alive, there us hope.
That opening is so me...
Great video btw!
Thanks! Credit goes to Tiff and the team!
it's so hard to get rid of negative thoughts 😭
This video is actually one of the most helpful videos on how to help stop negative thinking quickly.
im not sure about others but my depression came with main negative thoughts and i felt empty but not sure when but about 1-2 months ago those thoughts just vanished and now i feel hollow instead of empty >_>
Dan Jimiez your comment reminded me of numb by linkin park you should listen to it
Hollow and empty are the same :P
I was since start of the year. I started to be more introvert since last year
Pretty much
Anxiety and deppression are almost the same and have same treatment weird 😅😅😅
My problem is I think so negative all the time I wanna change that
Me too
Me too
You're worth it. 💖
I think about death and I get scared but I need to know that it is just a thought and does not meen anything
Seriously, I think about everything very negatively it's actually pretty scary. I could sit here and type you a complete encyclopedia of things I think about everyday that drive me further and further into the hole of depression. I've seen therapist and have had this problem since I was 14 years old, I'm now 33 and still completely miserable.
"I forgive myself" - the most important one. In a world that constantly throws in your face that are so many people doing better (and in somehow you want to be excellent in some aspects too), it is crucial to forgive oneself for not getting what you initially wanted
"I forgive myself for past mistakes."
*hahahah. Awesome joke.*
I think It'll keep running in my head till i finally kill myself
@@smiley3239 well damn
Rein H So uh, you alive?
Isn't?
Rein H you still alive?
I have been bullied at school. Even though it's decades ago now, it has left marks on my soul and I have got some deep-rooted habits. I always react the same way when somebody tells me I have made a mistake at work. Call myself names and sometimes hit myself and I do become so embarrased over my mistakes. Nobody seems to care or wants to talk with me about it.
Hey, I really hope it gets better soon :(
❤️
when you hit yourself hit anywhere except the head because you could get brain damage and brain damage makes things worse
Not sure if you're still going through this but if you are I can relate. This may not sound good but try to take each one of those actions at a time. I started with the hitting as I hit myself on the head a lot I focused on the logic of it, really work to detach the emotion. "If I keep hitting my head i will bruise my brain and then i wont be able to think properly and my mistakes will only become worse. I would kill myself from permanently ruining myself to be even worse at my mistakes. So i need to stop this so I can be conscious enough to ensure i can at least not make mistakes." Viewing it logicially really made me see that and brought it down. So i started hitting my thigh. That eventually became stupid to me so i stopped that.
The rage was still there when i'd mess up so then i went to insulting myself, screaming or yelling at myself to the point i would make myself cry. I think having learned to stop the hitting, the verbal abuse was seen with more clarity and strength. If i could stop hitting then i could stop the words. So every time i cried I'd tell myself how sad i was, speak it out loud. Hear my voice speak how i didnt want to be worthless and youre being so mean to me, I'm not shit or pathetic. I attuned to the child in me, the core innocense that was being bullied. I would speak to the bully the very basic feelings they would make me feel when they hurt me. Since it was myself there was no one around to laugh or mock when i said "youre hurting me and I dont like you being mean to me." I heard myself, and I was able to listen to myself where people you cant know their thoughts wouldnt. I knew my own hurt and eventually I stopped screaming at myself also. Now I just lash out at objects briefly or if i am angry at how i messed up i just tell myself "do better. I know you are better than this. You are greater than this. I dont want you to fail." Or other statements like that. I acknowledge my anger but I try to lift myself up in it if that makes sense.
Sorry for the long post but if this can help you I hope it will.
Me too, me too.
I like this channel. But i don't think we should attempt to ignore negative thoughts or force positivity. I think its better to embrace negativity and use it to inspire productivity. Take your negativity and turn it into positivity. The most beautiful art and music comes from negative thoughts yet produces positive outcomes. If you think of your self as "worthless" or anything similar, embrace that and let it inspire you to change that, to better yourself and make you stronger. Kill your self doubts, by pushing yourself to achieve, thus building your self esteem. Everything has a balance, we have negative thoughts for a reason. If humans were constantly positive and content, what would we have achieved? What would we stand for? What would we fight for? Good luck to anyone stuck in a negative spiral, fight your way out of it! Find a balance.
Controversial Matters I believe that the universe desires balance, like you can't experience the positive without knowing the negative, but finding the right balance between the two is the problem
Very true. I agree, it is all about balance.
Thank you♥️💯
Awesome.
Are you having any negative thoughts?
All i have are negative thoughts...
Yup
"journal"
*_Remembering that I dropped my diary in middle of nowhere and then went home and then tomorrow my classmate start reads it indiscriminately and sent it to my teacher and got my diary book confiscated and get laughed in my school for the rest of my life..._*
*pulls out real gun* Peace was never an option.
this channel has probably one of the best ratio between output quality and regularity of uploads on CZcams.
Nigel! That means a lot! Glad to see someone's keeping tabs!
Is it my fault if my environment is so negative???
There's a difference of being happy and just forgetting that you're sad
Wow Thankyou so much!! ❤️🙏🏼 listening to this on my way home and thinking Of rewatching it and taking notes!
I think this is the best video on the subject of negativity. Thank you so much. It covers everything.
Everyone says I'm negative, even my parents. I can't help it, I just hate my life. My life isn't balanced.
me too :/
@@creatordaylight9651 me too
Why do you hate your life that much?
You're valued.
Fuck... me too
I actually could do that. But my problem is, that I know I won't mean it. This will let me probably think even more negative, because I lie to myself. I won't be able to take myself enough serious.
Nokori If you can't replace the negative thoughts with positive then try using a neutral. Like for me, I'm scared of being in social situations because I think it makes me feel horrible after and is extremely stressful. Now I firmly believed this (I am getting slowly better though) but my therapist, told me instead of telling myself "I won't feel bad after", tell myself " spending time with friends is more in line with my goals". See neutral. and I am motivated to spend time with others though i'm scared.
Peace Love Hoppyness Thank you for the answer. Thats a pretty good idea! I will try it :3
Nokori nope nope nope that won't happen you won't be lying to yourself it will help
JM C
You think so? Depression even blames me for positive thoughts. On the inside I always scream at myself and yell I should stop that and just shut my mouth. The negative me is so much stronger than the positive me. I imagined so many times how a me kills the other me. I know sounds crazy. Probably I am crazy. I'm sorry. Don't waste your time with me.
Nokori Everything you just said makes perfect sense (at least for me). I don't know what are your thoughts or anything but another tip is to remember" they are just thoughts. you don't have to believe them or do what they say. Thought does not equal true." It sounds kind of like you are already doing that a bit but don't beat yourself up so much (easier said the done, but still try :) ).
A great website is aniextybc.com. If you want to try to fight your depression, if you don't want to have to live like this for the rest of your life, they have a lot of great resources to help.
Sorry for all the unasked for advice...I just, idk, really want to help you.
Most of it was heckin relatable for me in the past.Fortunately, I came across a healer who guided me through it well.I kinda went through similar therapies & methods.I am probably much better now out of that hell that I had created in my head. @Psych2go , u r doing a gr8 job. I hope no one has to go through such things & recover well.
Exercise big yes. Friends you can trust? difficult when dealing with negative thoughts. Distraction techniques DO WORK. remember we all think differently as we are all unique.and can be there for each other in small and large ways
Him: Are you grinding your teeth?
Me: **is grinding teeth**
Bruh i read this before he said that and was grinding my teeth
@@dmitrijpaulauskas4426 same
This isn't very helpful. By telling me all the bad things that happen through worrying, I worry much more.
"Think happily"
Honestly, the amount of people who tell me "Exercise , speak to someone, think happily, write it down, talk to yourself positively" They don't work
Yeah, these are more like coping strategies. The real change is when you begin to look inwards.
Sophie J i worry about my perents too but distract yourself so dont think about. Your thoughts ok i hope you feel better
A negative thought is a reminder that you are not your thoughts
You are not your mind or thoughts but the awareness behind. you are the awareness creating the mind & viewing the mind as him or herself. The mind is just a tool to create but not to reaffirm who you are or to identify with it. You are always the present awareness using the mind to create In the present moment.
You can use the past and the future to create in the now. Because you will need the past as a working memory to remember certain things to complete tasks such as, speaking, walking, writing, etc. you also need the future to create new outcomes and change your present circumstances. The problem is using these tools in a negative way. Such as self-projecting in a negative scenario because the self is also connected with thoughts & emotions as a record of the past. If you have past trauma associated with certain situations you will start to prepare the body for a negative outcome everytime you associate the emotion that you are having with time.
This is the reminder.
This is the realization & chance to come back to your bodily senses such as hearing , touching and smelling. as you redirect your senses to the present moment you also start redirecting the mind-made self that is projecting you in a negative scenario into something meaningful in the present moment.
Conclusion: Use the mind as a tool for creativity and not to reaffirm yourself or to project yourself in a negative outcome. Rather, ignore all negative aspects of the mind and link your attention into the present moment or task at hand using the past and the future to create meaningful outcome instead of using it to create a negative outcome.
_ Noelkinz. Good luck and thanks for reading.
Thank you for this ❤️ Appreciate this content so much
Story of my life as a anti social, pessimistic, and semi-depressed 😐....its great I guess...
Same here, but we got to try for ourself,to live a happy life. ❤️ More power to you.
I don't wanna lie to myself by saying "im positive, lol", "im happy, lol" , "i forgive my past mistakes, lol", it makes me feel worse, and I can't just withdraw from my whole family just because they make me feel stupid, that would be an even dumber idea because I'm too young to even get my own apartment.
Yeah, thinking positive and deluding yourself with positive self taught is not the solution too. However, it's great to acknowledge that you have a problem and that change is necessary. Hope that helps!
Vanilla Voodoo Me too..,
Maybe remove the "lol" part; then you'd be lying significantly less.
Its been a lot easier being positive lately. Eversince I've started on my medication, getting help for my mental illnesses and focusing on my spiritual mental and physical health a lot more everything just seems a bit brighter and i find myself looking on the positive side more than the negative. Its a rough process but i can guarantee that these kind of practices really are worth the time and effort.
I haven't been in a situation this serious before but I also know that I think negatively about myself and sometimes to others and then you feel like you're in a deep hole. But there is a solution and that's to think of the worst possible solution REALISTICALLY, or just talk about it to your parents and watch some ted talks trust me it helped me A LOT.
Thank you so much for this video and for sharing your own problems. I’ve always struggled with negative thoughts, to the point where they grip me and I feel like I can’t escape. I developed IBS, from all this and to know you did to. Gives me a sense of relief that I’m not alone. I’m so grateful for this video ❤️
I have been stuck in negative thoughts for quite a while now. I was able to beat my old negative mindset years and years ago with forced positive thinking (whenever a negative or hateful thought entered my brain I replaced it with a positive one which felt stupid but eventually it worked on its own) and by writing lists of things to be thankful for and literally my whole life changed. It was insane. Years later I somehow stumbled back into this negative mindset again and it's terrible I can only see the negative things in my life, other peoples negative qualities even if they're great people my brain chooses to not focus on that and this makes me very hateful and cold towards everyone I meet because my brain is nonstop searching for reasons to hate people. When I was in therapy my therapist said that I have a good life and was surprised I honestly couldn't see that but I just can't see what's so good about it? And I recently lost a friend I had considered my best friend and honestly I should be like "good riddance" because it was mostly a very toxic friendship full of fighting, disagreements and belittling each other and others and I have other friends who are amazing and care about me a lot but I have a very hard time focusing on that instead I only feel anger and bitterness and disappointment about this one lost friendship.That is my whole life now - the negative things and people are in focus and anything good is like background noise I struggle to pay attention to at all. It sucks. But I am going to start by writing lists of things to be thankful for - like my actually GOOD friends - taking up new hobbies which will probably be hard as I struggle to find joy in anything, and plan my days better. I suggest everyone in the same position as myself tries the same thing. After all our brains can be re-programmed but it's a process just like training your muscles. Sorry for the vent.
Am I tired of negative thoughts...
*All I have are negative thoughts..*
This has been such an amazing help. Thank you for sharing
"Rewire through training"
That is honestly the cultish thing I've heard in a while.
elliot521 it sounds pretty messed up, but it's true that you can rewire your own brain, another way of putting it is your brain adapts but it can take time
Neural Plasticity is a better term
These thoughts are the same reason I dont wanna participate in school activities.
Same reason why I don't have any hobbys
Same reason why I don't socialize.
Same reason why I wanna be left alone.
Same reason I think to myself if I would've commited suicide months ago without my family.
SarahTheCutie This went from 0 to 100 real quick.
I understand this :-/
Thanks man that last tip really hit me hard I tend to overthink things too much.
I'm in the middle of a personal war against anger, fear, and narcissism. Right now it's in the middle of a stalemate. All started in 2018, when I got depression. Then on 2019, it had vanished, but the fiery rage still sits. And currently my happiness is struggling to keep them away.
You're going to be ok.
:) I really hope so
I hope so too :(
You helped me so much 😢 this is gonna help me sleep thx
Can you do a video about self harm?
Here is one experiment on me.
I've been suffering from severe anxiety and depression for the past 14 years.
i started meditating (along with a lot of other things) and my mental health had immensely improved. I can say I'm not anxious anymore.
I was so stressed that I would get physically sick almost everyday. I'd catch a cold, stomachache, nausea, muscle spasms etc.
Since I've been meditating, I have NOT been sick even a single time even though my fiancé and my buddies got sick a a few times.
If you truly want to improve here is what I've been doing and I will keep doing them before I die.
1. Meditating a few times a day
2. Reading self help books (power of now, new earth, books by Ryan holiday, Tolle, Dispenza, etc.
3. Exercise, Excercise and excersize
EVERY SINGLE DAY. (this one is the crucial one. If you skip this, forget it. You will be depressed for your entire life and you'll die depressed )
4. Journal (gratitude and thought journal ) you will be literally reprogramming your mind. It's not gonna be easy. Needs hard work. Especially, for the first few months.
5. Alcohol, cigarettes, and any kind of drugs, are really bad. Don't fool yourself, saying it calms you down. You need the full power of your anxious mind to fix your anxious mind.
6. Be patient and it's okay even if your subconscious kicks you back to previous depressed mindset. Even after a month, one day you may wanna kill yourself. Say it's gonna pass and restart your "routine".
7. IMO, social media is poison. Pause it at least for a while. And also cut your relationships with toxic people.
2 or 3 caring friends are enough.
Finally, BELIEVE you can heal yourself.
Good luck,
Amin
Thanks this made me feel better however if you are suffering from depression you can't really wish away with positive thoughts but thanks anyway
I welcome positivity in my life but it doesn’t welcome me 😆
felt this
Real shit😂💯
BRUHHHH 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Will you guys do a video on repressed memories? I understand it may be controversial but I think it would be a very good topic.
Honestly, something that's helped me immensely is breathing whenever I have a negative thought in my mind.
Breathing helps me relax and somehow clears my mind for a bit, then I need to do it repeatedly so that I can erase that thing off my mind...
Also when I can't stop thinking of something I try to distract myself with some mental game:
1: I make a list of every verb/adjective/noun I know for each letter of the alphabet, and I find it useful because then I can't stop trying to find a word and I end up forgetting the negative thought I had.
2: I count as many items I see while I'm walking in the street; road signs, traffic lights, people with clothing of various colors, shoes, sneakers or boots.
3: I make up a story in my mind, starting with a person who I find somewhere. Then as I walk I make up conversations or form fake connections with other people I see...
I hope some of this can help.
another thing is we do not take everything personally that it is quite difficult sometimes bc when you are vulnerable the outcome of smn says really hits twice or more..
We have to understand that what he said nothing to do with us, it's just his habit, his behavior and he behaves to anyone same way..
So try to not let anybody's behavior define you and anyway those who love you and understand would never say something to hurt you or exploit your situation..
Comfort yourself, be present and try to do things that makes you happy..
Surround yourself with positive people,let behind this that no longer serves you with no guilt..
Step by step.. Only us we can do this.