Totally agree. I accidentally annoyed a narcissist friend of my wife and the reaction was a thing to behold. From that onwards my approach is to avoid them at all costs. Forget about trying to even the score, I don’t have the energy. I love the advice here - act as if they no longer exist
@@garystroud1629 I wasted a lot of energy back in the day trying to even the score. They never give up. Their whole self image depends on it. The only way to win is to not play. - War Games (1983).
They are annoyed by reality and are frustrated by minor things that wouldn't bother normals1) waiting for a person or food.2) negative thoughts about themselves if not surrounded or distracted by others. They feel empty and have difficulty connecting with people. Their life is their karma. Let them be alone. Even if you can't go no contact - disconnect. Observe don't absorb.
I’ve never felt so unseen, insignificant, ignored or not important in a relationship to the point that I think I’m the narcissist because I have reacted so much and the fact that a week ago he was telling me he loved me had a row, told me he didn’t want me anymore as I’m high maintenance blamed me for the split blocked me and walked away this is the 6th time in 3 and a half years with several discards, several other women countless lies, gaslighting yet I’m the one who is the problem !! He’s blocked again no contact good days bad days but I won’t let him in again
yes with the option to unblock you, you are a sitting duck. block him YOURSELF. ad don't unblock. delete. do you understand.. .I am going through the same thing with a guy but I've only wasted sixteen months!!!! a year ago I called him out and told him e was a narcissist and needed therapy. of course at one point where he was desperate for me, he agreed to go, but six months later and he hasn't been to a single session.... he reframes every time he's walked away as my fault also. He has basically said I should just put up with him as he is.. but I remind him that at times his behavior is INTOLERABLE AND PUTTING UP WIT IT IS NOT FAIR TO ME.
Try, and I know this is hard, but try to reject him from your life and mind. What has he shown you? Look at the behaviour and not his words. How can he do this to you. You are worth more and this behaviour is not acceptable for you. Each day remind yourself of how important you are and that you deserve more. It sounds like he doesnt know what he wants and what he is offering you is NOT enough. Look after yourself 😊
@Living life 11 I know it’s so hard every time we split or be discards me he’s on dating websites the next day I just can’t understand that it’s not something I couldn’t do that , I feel for you and no contact is the inky way to move on as hard as that can be
It is so hard. I blocked her on every media but caught myself still reading old text messages. NO MORE. All contacts deleted now. Stronger every day and laughing my ass off to get this incredible life lesson so late in life. You have to give your brain time. Patience is the essence of success.
Every person who has been victimised by a narcissist needs to continue to watch this woman she keeps it simple yet so effective in explaining and elaborating the truth about narcissists ( truth being the one aspect they abhor )
Two years ,...total shut off ! IT WORKS 🎉🥳🥳 Worked through the regret , the soul searching , the rebuilding , and now finally I have my own reality and truth back ! You will learn to move on , there will still be bumps and hurdles along the way , but you will be a stronger and better version of YOU ! 💪🙏❤️
Look on CZcams it so much to learn how to heal also Google it for information. Try joining an support group that you feel comfortable in. Counseling too. Going out with friends treat yourself maybe an vacation. Get an massage. Don't just say there find ways to love yourself and God. Pray🙏🙏🙏🙏
No contact means no contact completely. I had a friend (narc) that took advantage of a low point in my life. I had to go no contact. 6 weeks later he started with the text messages, email and phone calls saying he was worried about me, etc. I wrongly figured if I just returned his email saying everything is fine, I'm busy in life, he would stop his barrage. I say wrongly figured because the text messages, emails and phone calls increased 10 fold! If you go no contact, you stay no contact!
No no, do not be worried as you're giving energy to the situation. You needed to report this person, you did that anything else that happens going forward can be used as evidence against them. Also at some point he needs to face the consequences of his actions and this is one way forward. You did the right thing. Stand strong in this decision. Try to dissolve the worry into strength and gratitude and do not give this situation any more power. You got this 💗⭐
It does hurt but you have to feel the pain to heal I felt I wasted time too 3 and a half years but I learned a lot about myself and I needed to deal with my trauma it’s just highlighted it I won’t let anyone else toxic in my life
It's the process, I know it's painful but you are purging at the moment, which is what needs to be done. You are on the right track. Move through it. Journal it. It will get easier as you get stronger ⭐💗
These people are insane they will drain your energy making you looking like the crazy one they will denied everything and move on to the next victim why do these vile people exist.
I deleted all de mails, communication and all pictures. This giving much peace in mind. The other trick is put in mind that that person was not the real person . With this technique peace in mind is growing quick.
Going no contact annoys everybody, not just narcissists. It’s a terrible strategy if it is not judiciously kept for only the diagnosable, truly disordered person. We are very quick these days to call just about anyone a narcissist. And in most cases, going no contact with people who are significant, but not actually narcissistic personality disorder is very damaging in the cruelest way. I hope people will consider carefully before they just start generally shutting people out. Most relationships can overcome disagreements and issues. Extreme narcissists do need to be kept at a distance for our well being but it is not a decision to be taken lightly.
It doesn’t matter who it annoys, the victim’s mental health is more important. You know what really annoys everyone, a suicide. No contact is the only tool that works. In some cases, it can be the difference between life and death.
U r so very right No contact is literally no contact Yes when we r talking n thinking about them we give them the power to hurt u. No contact is not even thinking about them that is true no contact.
😍😘😘😘 Babe😚😚😚 Narcissists have a fragile ego. It's really easy to bruce them. Acting like they don't exist anymore will hurt them more than a physical injury. It's like turning the tables around. Narcissists function on the validation you give to their existence.
This is the best resource for dealing with narcissistic abuse on the internet. Thank you for what you do, it’s a public service that literally saves lives. You’re nothing short of a godsend.
Excellent video, you're right, theres an energetic connection. The energetic pull... I used to be able to feel him, his emotions, practically knew his thoughts. It was destroying me, when he valued me, it was amazing to feel all the good. Had to detach and did cord cutting meditation, it helped me amazingly well. Still think about him, but we aren't attached like we were, cannot feel him at all anymore, its like hes dead. Theres a disconnection to our past. It was an important step in going no contact. Highly recommend it.
Careful. I chose to poke that bear. I got a restraining order in the process. I take accountability for my actions and personally regret nothing. Imo she deserved it and will hopefully think twice before doing theses things to others moving forward.
Me too , I wasn't going to let him get away with what he did etc because I know I would go insane myself without any closure or retribution at all and I would regret it if I didn't do anything at all
I'm rather enjoying completely ignoring the narc that has targeted me. It takes practice. Not even a glance in her direction. It's incredible the desperate measures she rolls out anxiously awaiting a response - any tiny response at all! I know if I did give that response, she would immediately twist it into a threat, so overwhelming is her desire to crush me. Her manipulation with police failed and she is utterly furious! LOL!
Live w my narc., love the no contact idea. Don’t want to be in his presence. Thoughts of him are angry upset thoughts try not to think of him. Ignore as much as possible
I’m having a hard time not thinking about him and dream dreaming about him. I don’t wanna think about him but I can’t stop. It’s already been four months no contact.
No contact started out as a form of ritualistic magic (I'm led to believe) the idea being that the vampire cannot live outside of the consciousness of others As it has no consciousness of itself. According to legend a person of ill repute would be shunned in this way until they left a community. Just putting it out there.
you let that destruction happen.think about it. now you can life the rest of your life, like them, but without the cruelty, focussing on your own happiness and doing good in the world. yes it sucked, but now you've set YOURSELF FREE!!!!!
No Contact. Best technic. Next:- find a new interest and get busy. Helped me a lot. Then one day I was enthusiastically shopping for my super foods and planning menus... suddenly my ex Narc: appeared in my thoughts...took me a while to figure out who he was, till I suddenly realised it was him, then immediately erased the thought from my mind. They say:- that we are energetically connected, if he's thinking of me, he may pop in my head.
Thanks Anoushka you've got me crying but this is my truth right now. It's very hard to cut the cord with some people but I will take time. The person I live with I use the grey rock method because he's the father of my children but i've closed off my emotions and feelings to him! There's a person also that ghosted me and I've seen a quote that reflects this person I dealt with in the past. Once the ghost leaves your life.... Leave the Ghost alone!!!. There are times I think of this person and wonder if he is thinking of me which validates what you've said Anoushka this harsh truth! 😊💖♎😇🧘♀️💫⭐⚖️✌️💞☯️🙏.
I want NOTHING else to do with her .This month will make 1 year since I left her. Ran into her only once since then and ignored her. When ever I do think of her it's not because I want to be with her, It's because I can't believe how evil she actually was and I want her to get that evil given back to her. Just how does she know if I think of her and how do I stop her from knowing because I DEFFINETLEY don't want her thinking I want her back! Until I stop thinking about her what can I do to stop her from knowing?
This is so true. We don’t want the bitches back it’s just you can’t believe how evil they have been I keep replaying it. To try and understand it all ❤️👍🙃
I know how you feel for me it was 6 years I’m only angry because I ignored the red flags I now fully understand having genuine feelings for her. Walking away has been hard for years I’m now in a position where she’s no longer has control or any source of supply from me
@@dwaynemcinnes5914 so true Buddy it hurts we were just a play thing. To be dumped when they had done with us. It takes some time to process. We have a daughter Who is with me and she hardly hears from her mum. Think she has a new toy now. Can only hope karma catches up with her 👍🙃
Very sad but why are you saying 'bitches' when alot or most narcissists are men? Mine was a definition of narcissist and did unimaginable things to me etc so stop the stereotypes and misogyny
I want to thank you soooo much for helping me absolutely AMAZING I listen to you all the time what a beautiful lady you are doing sooo much for me and everyone else sending you and your family love and light and many blessings 😘😘👍👍👍👍👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗🤗💜❤💜❤💜❤💜❤💜❤💜🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Really think about this! Do you want to be the needy victim dragging your cross of abuse around, complaining to everyone how they hurt you, trying to get them back--or get back at them? You are NOT that pathetic victim any longer.
WHEREVER YOUR GEMINI OR VIRGO IS IN YOUR CHART, HAS REACHED OUT TO US. DOWN ON US EARTH SIGNS. DRILLING IN HARD GROUND. Mercury in you speaks out to help YOU, THEN HELP US.
It’s a negative spiritual experience. But use it as a lesson to know that you are DIFFERENT. You’re one of the good people in this world. There is nothing wrong with you… you’re just a decent loving being with genuine love and compassion. Unfortunately narcissists are attracted to positive character traits.
Dion Tillman here yes,great, advice,but all I have to do is pick up my guitar, every single time, I wish they would just stop,I have too much patience I given chance after and after,
Omg how many times can you say this!!! I love it here but i dont come to watch an outfit change but every word spoken is the same as the prev 6 videoes on how and why to move on. ❤ This can be said about any relationship that is not workin g out. Moving forward and pretending they dont exist is probably a healthy exercise for all exes if you dont have children together.
What about "Shaudenfruede" to feel pleasure with seeing or imagining narcissists receiving Karma a form of breaking contact? Because you are still thinking about them.
I made the mistake of sending them a birthday card. I shouldn't have. But it's been silent from my ex for 6 months anyway. This is so bloody hard. I have taken all her contacts from my phone now.
They got you with the reverse hoover. I advise you block and delete. But I’m sure they’ll contact you from another phone number or social media. They gonna wait until your birthday or the holidays and hit you up. 🤦🏾♂️ They’re so predictable.
It's okay to send it because they can see what they lost : your kindness, regard and thought and did things for her unlike other men, they never would have done things for her like you did etc
I disagree for several reasons. One is: They are part of my history as a professional musician. I can not deny the past in wich we achieved something together; for different reasons, I totally get that, but still. Although I´m disheartened by what happened and what they´re responsible for I also am proud of my former work. I cut ties to them, went no contact, and evade them by simply having nothing to do anymore with the scene I worked in for decades. I don´t visit concerts of that kind anymore wich I did regularly since I was 10 years old. That´s quite a change for me. But I feel to pretend that I wouldn´t know them at all would be a form of special treatment they as well recognize. I have to deal with the harm they inflicted on me. That isn´t possible in simply supressing thoughts about that. I have to deal with it to heal.
In my Zen practice, we learn the art of "sitting with". Anoushka expresses the principle in a different context, without elaborating upon what is actually being done. Thoughts are just thoughts...signals passing through our brain and nervous system. If you didn't have thoughts, then you'd be dead. Thoughts are as natural as the air we breathe. What is unnatural is engaging those thoughts as though they are real physical entities. The thought of your significant other isn't your actual significant other. The thought and the actual converge when we engage such thoughts as though it is real. Sitting with is simply the act of allowing the thoughts to pass through - come and go - on it's own accord. As though you are dispassionately watching a movie about your thoughts at the cinema. The movie of your mind. For my part, I like to think of sitting with as my mind being by home. Thoughts come to visit. I offer them a chair and a cup of tea. Make them feel welcome. But I'm going to retire to my room - just close the door as you leave. When I treat my thoughts this way, they are always hospitable guests, respectful and harmless. I hope this helps...
@Bye I'm in the process of recovering from that. I've restored my physical health after being hospitalized twice under dramatic and life threatening circumstances wich, nearly too late, gave me the lecture that I have to let go my long persuited dreams. To have recovered my health is a key factor to feel good about myself again. More important is my loving family but it would have been too much to ask for helping me fighting the depressions during those events and after them. Thirdly I'm financially better of than I ever was in my former profession in a new profession I really like and enjoy. These factors contribute to the fact that I'm getting increasingly better. But I still have from time to time bad flashbacks, depressive thoughts, and nightmares. And, yes: I miss conducting, rehearsing, writing music, perform, teach music individually and so on. But it doesn't work, nearly killed me, and killed quite a few collegues and role models I've had. Their stories perfectly match up with mine: It's always the narcissists. Really! If all goes well I have some decades ahead to enjoy. But these things will always be a scar on my soul. Keep your head up, all the best for you!
@@BillRWare I had to take my time to read your comment thoroughly. You made quite an effort wich seems deeply honest and thoughtful to me. Thank you very much! I wouldn't call it meditation in my case when I sit and let my thoughts flow (but maybe it is, I'm not educated in that field whatsoever). As kind of common knowledge, picked up somewhere somehow, the concept you described seems familiar to me - and very convincing. Yes, I think this is the best way to deal with it: To watch at those thoughts as neurological functions, chemical reactions. I guess that is a way of the brain to unlearn patterns and memories. Quite an interesting thought you brought up! Thank you very much, yes, it helps!
You have helped me have a better understanding of what I’m trying to navigate through right now and for the last 12 years! I would love to join the Journaling group. How do I do that? I’m not seeing it in the comments. TY!
I really want to ask you this. My ex narcissist cheated on me with his two exes and kept other women as backup. He literally told me that he has sex addiction and also I was nagging too much so he cheated on me. I know it is all BS but I know he has sex addiction for sure. I was so idiot and forgave him after that . Rifht after that, he proposed me and we fought so much even after. One day, we argued so much and I left him . Right after he met another new women from tinder. I blocked his numbers and all other contacts. He emailed me begging now. Do you think this behavior is only thing to do with his sex addiction or is this narccist behaviors??? I m so confused.
I'm forced to stay with him because his mother has our daughter after he assaulted me and we both went to jail. I have him blocked on all social media. But I live with him still. I HAVE to.
@@skullykittie9889 it’s the trauma bond…. The best advice is to get you a healthy routine in your life. Exercise, yoga, meditation, prayer etc. But keep it secret from the narcissist and flying monkeys. DO IT FOR YOU 🙏🏽❤️
@Bryant Oden I try but leaving the house without approved company doesn't happen. I can't even have a garden without him ruining it for me so no quiet place here. His family surrounds the place we live in as well. I have no peace.
@Bryant Oden like I can post a video of him and his mom talking about how him and his sister put me as blind on the income tax forms for a decade behind my back and that's why he wouldn't let me get a license. Which, funny enough, the dbag before him wouldn't let me get a license and he told me that was abusive and he would help me get a license. La
Do you have proof they know you are thinking about them? I doubt it. The only thing worse than a narcissist is a CZcamsr trying to capitalize on peoples pain and suffering.
No contact is really the only tool the victim has…and it is a powerful weapon. Even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Just slash their tires and move on. Only 3 though. Insurance will cover 4.
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Totally agree. I accidentally annoyed a narcissist friend of my wife and the reaction was a thing to behold. From that onwards my approach is to avoid them at all costs. Forget about trying to even the score, I don’t have the energy.
I love the advice here - act as if they no longer exist
@@garystroud1629 I wasted a lot of energy back in the day trying to even the score. They never give up. Their whole self image depends on it. The only way to win is to not play. - War Games (1983).
Never again will I allow someone to make me feel SECONDARY or less than I really am ! ❤🙏🙏
They are annoyed by reality and are frustrated by minor things that wouldn't bother normals1) waiting for a person or food.2) negative thoughts about themselves if not surrounded or distracted by others. They feel empty and have difficulty connecting with people. Their life is their karma. Let them be alone. Even if you can't go no contact - disconnect. Observe don't absorb.
I’ve never felt so unseen, insignificant, ignored or not important in a relationship to the point that I think I’m the narcissist because I have reacted so much and the fact that a week ago he was telling me he loved me had a row, told me he didn’t want me anymore as I’m high maintenance blamed me for the split blocked me and walked away this is the 6th time in 3 and a half years with several discards, several other women countless lies, gaslighting yet I’m the one who is the problem !! He’s blocked again no contact good days bad days but I won’t let him in again
yes with the option to unblock you, you are a sitting duck. block him YOURSELF. ad don't unblock. delete. do you understand.. .I am going through the same thing with a guy but I've only wasted sixteen months!!!! a year ago I called him out and told him e was a narcissist and needed therapy. of course at one point where he was desperate for me, he agreed to go, but six months later and he hasn't been to a single session.... he reframes every time he's walked away as my fault also. He has basically said I should just put up with him as he is.. but I remind him that at times his behavior is INTOLERABLE AND PUTTING UP WIT IT IS NOT FAIR TO ME.
Try, and I know this is hard, but try to reject him from your life and mind. What has he shown you? Look at the behaviour and not his words. How can he do this to you. You are worth more and this behaviour is not acceptable for you. Each day remind yourself of how important you are and that you deserve more. It sounds like he doesnt know what he wants and what he is offering you is NOT enough. Look after yourself 😊
@Living life 11 I know it’s so hard every time we split or be discards me he’s on dating websites the next day I just can’t understand that it’s not something I couldn’t do that , I feel for you and no contact is the inky way to move on as hard as that can be
It is so hard. I blocked her on every media but caught myself still reading old text messages. NO MORE. All contacts deleted now. Stronger every day and laughing my ass off to get this incredible life lesson so late in life. You have to give your brain time. Patience is the essence of success.
Therapy does not work for narcissist!
Every person who has been victimised by a narcissist needs to continue to watch this woman she keeps it simple yet so effective in explaining and elaborating the truth about narcissists ( truth being the one aspect they abhor )
Two years ,...total shut off ! IT WORKS 🎉🥳🥳 Worked through the regret , the soul searching , the rebuilding , and now finally I have my own reality and truth back ! You will learn to move on , there will still be bumps and hurdles along the way , but you will be a stronger and better version of YOU ! 💪🙏❤️
Can you make a video on how to heal from PTSD after narcissistic abuse
How do you get over this whan u been Abuse tgsn u meet up with a man who a narssers any man dose this to me going to be very sorry whst thay did
Look on CZcams it so much to learn how to heal also Google it for information. Try joining an support group that you feel comfortable in. Counseling too. Going out with friends treat yourself maybe an vacation. Get an massage. Don't just say there find ways to love yourself and God. Pray🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for the suggestion.... yes I can, no worries
Their biggest fear was ALWAYS that one day you would wake up and realise you are ACTUALLY FREE !!
No contact means no contact completely. I had a friend (narc) that took advantage of a low point in my life. I had to go no contact. 6 weeks later he started with the text messages, email and phone calls saying he was worried about me, etc. I wrongly figured if I just returned his email saying everything is fine, I'm busy in life, he would stop his barrage. I say wrongly figured because the text messages, emails and phone calls increased 10 fold! If you go no contact, you stay no contact!
Yes, they will seize on the smallest morsel of response. They are desperately pathetic.
I ve reported my narcissist to police. Now I'm extremely worried that its going to backfire me.
Fear is their tool, stand strong. Be untouchable 😊
No no, do not be worried as you're giving energy to the situation. You needed to report this person, you did that anything else that happens going forward can be used as evidence against them. Also at some point he needs to face the consequences of his actions and this is one way forward. You did the right thing. Stand strong in this decision. Try to dissolve the worry into strength and gratitude and do not give this situation any more power. You got this 💗⭐
I suspect that was aimed time in coming? It took courage. It's your way of fighting back and not taking all the crap they dish out! Well done!!
*a long time
Buy a taser
The more present and mindful I am... the more it hurts
re: the time that they stole from me! I have anger and tears!
But, look at the time you still have. You figured it out. You broke free. You beat them. You won. I am proud for you.
felt that time be mreaingfur for you in terms of what you missed and lost, and then the time isn't wasted because you have the lesson
It does hurt but you have to feel the pain to heal I felt I wasted time too 3 and a half years but I learned a lot about myself and I needed to deal with my trauma it’s just highlighted it I won’t let anyone else toxic in my life
It's the process, I know it's painful but you are purging at the moment, which is what needs to be done. You are on the right track. Move through it. Journal it. It will get easier as you get stronger ⭐💗
@@anoushkamarcin thank you ma’am. Truth.
These people are insane they will drain your energy making you looking like the crazy one they will denied everything and move on to the next victim why do these vile people exist.
I deleted all de mails, communication and all pictures. This giving much peace in mind. The other trick is put in mind that that person was not the real person . With this technique peace in mind is growing quick.
Going no contact annoys everybody, not just narcissists.
It’s a terrible strategy if it is not judiciously kept for only the diagnosable, truly disordered person.
We are very quick these days to call just about anyone a narcissist.
And in most cases, going no contact with people who are significant, but not actually narcissistic personality disorder is very damaging in the cruelest way.
I hope people will consider carefully before they just start generally shutting people out.
Most relationships can overcome disagreements and issues.
Extreme narcissists do need to be kept at a distance for our well being but it is not a decision to be taken lightly.
I certainly took my non contact decision very seriously. Best decision ever
It doesn’t matter who it annoys, the victim’s mental health is more important. You know what really annoys everyone, a suicide. No contact is the only tool that works. In some cases, it can be the difference between life and death.
U r so very right
No contact is literally no contact
Yes when we r talking n thinking about them we give them the power to hurt u. No contact is not even thinking about them that is true no contact.
😍😘😘😘 Babe😚😚😚
Narcissists have a fragile ego. It's really easy to bruce them.
Acting like they don't exist anymore will hurt them more than a physical injury. It's like turning the tables around. Narcissists function on the validation you give to their existence.
No contact kills them because it makes them feel irrelevant and dead to the world!!💯
So true , the thoughts need to be stopped , just need to remind oneself.
This is the best resource for dealing with narcissistic abuse on the internet. Thank you for what you do, it’s a public service that literally saves lives. You’re nothing short of a godsend.
"Literally like they're dead" . Precisely
Excellent video, you're right, theres an energetic connection. The energetic pull... I used to be able to feel him, his emotions, practically knew his thoughts. It was destroying me, when he valued me, it was amazing to feel all the good. Had to detach and did cord cutting meditation, it helped me amazingly well. Still think about him, but we aren't attached like we were, cannot feel him at all anymore, its like hes dead. Theres a disconnection to our past. It was an important step in going no contact. Highly recommend it.
Careful. I chose to poke that bear. I got a restraining order in the process. I take accountability for my actions and personally regret nothing. Imo she deserved it and will hopefully think twice before doing theses things to others moving forward.
Me too , I wasn't going to let him get away with what he did etc because I know I would go insane myself without any closure or retribution at all and I would regret it if I didn't do anything at all
I'm rather enjoying completely ignoring the narc that has targeted me. It takes practice. Not even a glance in her direction. It's incredible the desperate measures she rolls out anxiously awaiting a response - any tiny response at all! I know if I did give that response, she would immediately twist it into a threat, so overwhelming is her desire to crush me. Her manipulation with police failed and she is utterly furious! LOL!
Live w my narc., love the no contact idea. Don’t want to be in his presence. Thoughts of him are angry upset thoughts try not to think of him. Ignore as much as possible
I’m having a hard time not thinking about him and dream dreaming about him. I don’t wanna think about him but I can’t stop. It’s already been four months no contact.
No contact started out as a form of ritualistic magic (I'm led to believe) the idea being that the vampire cannot live outside of the consciousness of others As it has no consciousness of itself. According to legend a person of ill repute would be shunned in this way until they left a community. Just putting it out there.
1. Set boundaries and stick to them.
2. Stand up for yourself when they start devaluing you.
3. Cut the cord.
THIS IS VERY TRUE! WORDS CARRY POWER & ENERGY ETC! 💯
After 28 years and all the destruction he left how do you let go 😢
No contact!
you let that destruction happen.think about it. now you can life the rest of your life, like them, but without the cruelty, focussing on your own happiness and doing good in the world. yes it sucked, but now you've set YOURSELF FREE!!!!!
Get revenge if possible , if you think you'll regret it, then obviously not but if it's possible
No Contact. Best technic. Next:- find a new interest and get busy. Helped me a lot. Then one day I was enthusiastically shopping for my super foods and planning menus... suddenly my ex Narc: appeared in my thoughts...took me a while to figure out who he was, till I suddenly realised it was him, then immediately erased the thought from my mind. They say:- that we are energetically connected, if he's thinking of me, he may pop in my head.
Thank You Anoushka. Great Comments from You and Very Poignant ! Have a Glorious Lovely Day !
Thank you for your advice ❤
Thanks Anoushka you've got me crying but this is my truth right now. It's very hard to cut the cord with some people but I will take time. The person I live with I use the grey rock method because he's the father of my children but i've closed off my emotions and feelings to him! There's a person also that ghosted me and I've seen a quote that reflects this person I dealt with in the past. Once the ghost leaves your life.... Leave the Ghost alone!!!. There are times I think of this person and wonder if he is thinking of me which validates what you've said Anoushka this harsh truth! 😊💖♎😇🧘♀️💫⭐⚖️✌️💞☯️🙏.
i like this and i agree and after a hoover i asked her if she could feel me i believe in the energy thing.
Going Zero Contact .Makes Him Go Bananas Rumor Has It He Wants Me Back To Bad HAA CANT TOUCH THIS...
I want NOTHING else to do with her .This month will make 1 year since I left her. Ran into her only once since then and ignored her. When ever I do think of her it's not because I want to be with her, It's because I can't believe how evil she actually was and I want her to get that evil given back to her. Just how does she know if I think of her and how do I stop her from knowing because I DEFFINETLEY don't want her thinking I want her back! Until I stop thinking about her what can I do to stop her from knowing?
This is so true. We don’t want the bitches back it’s just you can’t believe how evil they have been I keep replaying it. To try and understand it all ❤️👍🙃
I know how you feel for me it was 6 years I’m only angry because I ignored the red flags I now fully understand having genuine feelings for her.
Walking away has been hard for years I’m now in a position where she’s no longer has control or any source of supply from me
@@chasradcliffe1045 i fcukin hear that brother. They kill us. And knowing that we meant actually nothing to them BUT supply. Hurts like hell
@@dwaynemcinnes5914 so true Buddy it hurts we were just a play thing. To be dumped when they had done with us. It takes some time to process. We have a daughter Who is with me and she hardly hears from her mum. Think she has a new toy now. Can only hope karma catches up with her 👍🙃
Very sad but why are you saying 'bitches' when alot or most narcissists are men? Mine was a definition of narcissist and did unimaginable things to me etc so stop the stereotypes and misogyny
Dion Tillman here Hello there, I have even had curses put on me,
You help me so much, thank you!
Anoushka. Thank you so much. God bless you❤💫
I want to thank you soooo much for helping me absolutely AMAZING I listen to you all the time what a beautiful lady you are doing sooo much for me and everyone else sending you and your family love and light and many blessings 😘😘👍👍👍👍👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗🤗💜❤💜❤💜❤💜❤💜❤💜🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for your lovey comment, I am so happy to know that the work is helping you ⭐💗
Wow this video was so informative, your so right thinking about them is still a way of giving them time and energy
I needed to hear this today. This hit home so much. Thank you.
We have to be smart yessssss
MONSTROUS is the word for what they do
Really think about this! Do you want to be the needy victim dragging your cross of abuse around, complaining to everyone how they hurt you, trying to get them back--or get back at them?
You are NOT that pathetic victim any longer.
WHEREVER YOUR GEMINI OR VIRGO IS IN YOUR CHART, HAS REACHED OUT TO US. DOWN ON US EARTH SIGNS. DRILLING IN HARD GROUND. Mercury in you speaks out to help YOU, THEN HELP US.
Thank u 4 this message I needed it
❤Thank you❤I really needed to hear this today.
This video has really helped me.. Thank you so much 👍
There bad bad people narcissists
It’s a negative spiritual experience. But use it as a lesson to know that you are DIFFERENT. You’re one of the good people in this world. There is nothing wrong with you… you’re just a decent loving being with genuine love and compassion. Unfortunately narcissists are attracted to positive character traits.
Thanks for speaking what is so true. Does a target / victim ever fall in love again ?
If I've learned not to be bothered in any way by the narc, am I too a narc?
Dion Tillman here yes,great, advice,but all I have to do is pick up my guitar, every single time, I wish they would just stop,I have too much patience I given chance after and after,
This is the best explanation of no contact Ive heard. Thank you. 💫🙏🏽💫
I'm struggling atm 😢😢😢
Me too Janie. Good and bad days❤️👍🙃
Omg how many times can you say this!!! I love it here but i dont come to watch an outfit change but every word spoken is the same as the prev 6 videoes on how and why to move on. ❤
This can be said about any relationship that is not workin g out. Moving forward and pretending they dont exist is probably a healthy exercise for all exes if you dont have children together.
What about "Shaudenfruede" to feel pleasure with seeing or imagining narcissists receiving Karma a form of breaking contact? Because you are still thinking about them.
I made the mistake of sending them a birthday card. I shouldn't have. But it's been silent from my ex for 6 months anyway. This is so bloody hard. I have taken all her contacts from my phone now.
They got you with the reverse hoover. I advise you block and delete. But I’m sure they’ll contact you from another phone number or social media. They gonna wait until your birthday or the holidays and hit you up. 🤦🏾♂️ They’re so predictable.
It's okay to send it because they can see what they lost : your kindness, regard and thought and did things for her unlike other men, they never would have done things for her like you did etc
Great video, very informative Thanks
The pleasure Narc give which normal peoble are not capable of offering is what makes us victims suffer.
💪... Week 24, 7hoovers, karma @ work 🤡🎈...
Trying to play gitare and naming all songs narco names, 🎸🎼🎶🎵😁😁 ✔️😂😆😆😆
Brilliant
I disagree for several reasons. One is: They are part of my history as a professional musician. I can not deny the past in wich we achieved something together; for different reasons, I totally get that, but still. Although I´m disheartened by what happened and what they´re responsible for I also am proud of my former work.
I cut ties to them, went no contact, and evade them by simply having nothing to do anymore with the scene I worked in for decades. I don´t visit concerts of that kind anymore wich I did regularly since I was 10 years old. That´s quite a change for me. But I feel to pretend that I wouldn´t know them at all would be a form of special treatment they as well recognize.
I have to deal with the harm they inflicted on me. That isn´t possible in simply supressing thoughts about that. I have to deal with it to heal.
In my Zen practice, we learn the art of "sitting with". Anoushka expresses the principle in a different context, without elaborating upon what is actually being done.
Thoughts are just thoughts...signals passing through our brain and nervous system. If you didn't have thoughts, then you'd be dead.
Thoughts are as natural as the air we breathe. What is unnatural is engaging those thoughts as though they are real physical entities.
The thought of your significant other isn't your actual significant other. The thought and the actual converge when we engage such thoughts as though it is real.
Sitting with is simply the act of allowing the thoughts to pass through - come and go - on it's own accord. As though you are dispassionately watching a movie about your thoughts at the cinema. The movie of your mind.
For my part, I like to think of sitting with as my mind being by home. Thoughts come to visit. I offer them a chair and a cup of tea. Make them feel welcome. But I'm going to retire to my room - just close the door as you leave.
When I treat my thoughts this way, they are always hospitable guests, respectful and harmless. I hope this helps...
@Bye I'm in the process of recovering from that. I've restored my physical health after being hospitalized twice under dramatic and life threatening circumstances wich, nearly too late, gave me the lecture that I have to let go my long persuited dreams. To have recovered my health is a key factor to feel good about myself again. More important is my loving family but it would have been too much to ask for helping me fighting the depressions during those events and after them. Thirdly I'm financially better of than I ever was in my former profession in a new profession I really like and enjoy.
These factors contribute to the fact that I'm getting increasingly better. But I still have from time to time bad flashbacks, depressive thoughts, and nightmares.
And, yes: I miss conducting, rehearsing, writing music, perform, teach music individually and so on. But it doesn't work, nearly killed me, and killed quite a few collegues and role models I've had. Their stories perfectly match up with mine: It's always the narcissists. Really!
If all goes well I have some decades ahead to enjoy. But these things will always be a scar on my soul.
Keep your head up, all the best for you!
@@BillRWare I had to take my time to read your comment thoroughly. You made quite an effort wich seems deeply honest and thoughtful to me. Thank you very much!
I wouldn't call it meditation in my case when I sit and let my thoughts flow (but maybe it is, I'm not educated in that field whatsoever). As kind of common knowledge, picked up somewhere somehow, the concept you described seems familiar to me - and very convincing.
Yes, I think this is the best way to deal with it: To watch at those thoughts as neurological functions, chemical reactions. I guess that is a way of the brain to unlearn patterns and memories.
Quite an interesting thought you brought up! Thank you very much, yes, it helps!
You have helped me have a better understanding of what I’m trying to navigate through right now and for the last 12 years! I would love to join the Journaling group. How do I do that? I’m not seeing it in the comments. TY!
I block & now I might be looked at as bitter…our daughter just turned 1 smh
I never had so many messages from „profiles“ I don’t know from instagram or someone trying to be friends with me 😒 just „no“
Detach for your own sanity!
Beautiful message.
Thank God
or just accept it, be like ok, fine, what ever.
How to energetically disconnect?
no contact will just get them more excited, it doesnt work. predator is a predator. it is what it is.
Im not convinced that just because you had a passing thought of thie narc, that they were thinking of me.. your mind fancy not mine
First!!!
4months 2hoovers 🎉😂
I really want to ask you this. My ex narcissist cheated on me with his two exes and kept other women as backup. He literally told me that he has sex addiction and also I was nagging too much so he cheated on me. I know it is all BS but I know he has sex addiction for sure. I was so idiot and forgave him after that . Rifht after that, he proposed me and we fought so much even after. One day, we argued so much and I left him . Right after he met another new women from tinder. I blocked his numbers and all other contacts. He emailed me begging now. Do you think this behavior is only thing to do with his sex addiction or is this narccist behaviors??? I m so confused.
Narcissistic plus a bit evil . Please have more self esteem work on it and love for yourself . If he cheated, then never take him back
When are the lives?
Tuesday's at 9pm BST on this channel 🎉
Can anyone tell me when the lives are because I am in a desperate situation with a narcissist and his likewise mother.
I'm forced to stay with him because his mother has our daughter after he assaulted me and we both went to jail. I have him blocked on all social media. But I live with him still. I HAVE to.
Omg I actually do feel him think about me but I thought it was my esp. I'm kind of gifted.
@@skullykittie9889 it’s the trauma bond…. The best advice is to get you a healthy routine in your life. Exercise, yoga, meditation, prayer etc. But keep it secret from the narcissist and flying monkeys. DO IT FOR YOU 🙏🏽❤️
@Bryant Oden I try but leaving the house without approved company doesn't happen. I can't even have a garden without him ruining it for me so no quiet place here. His family surrounds the place we live in as well. I have no peace.
@Bryant Oden like I can post a video of him and his mom talking about how him and his sister put me as blind on the income tax forms for a decade behind my back and that's why he wouldn't let me get a license. Which, funny enough, the dbag before him wouldn't let me get a license and he told me that was abusive and he would help me get a license. La
Get to the point 😴
Do you have proof they know you are thinking about them? I doubt it. The only thing worse than a narcissist is a CZcamsr trying to capitalize on peoples pain and suffering.
They are telling others to do what they are struggling to do as well