Beth McCarthy - She Gets The Flowers (Official Music Video)
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- Beth McCarthy - She Gets The Flowers (Official Music Video)
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The original concept for this song was inspired by a video of Hannah Klein: bit.ly/3uRGpF1
After seeing this and having experienced those emotions myself, I posted my initial idea for 'She Gets The Flowers' onto TikTok. I honestly couldn't believe the amount of people who commented saying they could relate and really it was this that led to me finish writing the song and release it into the world. This song isn't really 'about' me, or Hannah, it's about anyone who didn't get the flowers and I wanted to echo that in the music video.
The stories told in this video are all real experiences from real people all over the world. I received over 200 emails with stories of heartbreak so this is just a handful of those. While there's a lot of pain in these stories, there's something truly magical in the fact that we can all share in it together and know that no one is alone.
I'm grateful to everyone who opened up to me and contributed their story to this video.
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tiktok: @bethmaymccarthy
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song by Beth McCarthy
produced by Michael Gray and Jason Odle
mastered by Kevin Tuffy
video produced by Dot and Diode
directed by Ben Dave and Beth McCarthy
edited by Rachael Woods
MUA Yasmin Felix-Lockett
featuring:
Beth McCarthy
Pippa Martin
Ellie Hunzinger
Danielle Capstick
Livy Potter
Daisy Blue Ella
Tammy Murray
Annie Donaghy
Brooke Shayler
lyrics:
She Gets The Flowers
Tell me what she has that I don’t
Why you were so fast to let go of us
‘Cause she’s all you wanted
When it was my heart you didn’t want it
Why wasn’t I cast in your show?
‘Cause I gave you everything
All my friends are saying it’s you it’s not me
Wish I could believe them
But she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect
A love i deserved yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses
And you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing
And just walk away
But she gets the flowers, right?
She gets the flowers
Tell me why I wasn’t enough
After all that I gave up for you
Was it too much to ask for just
A part of what I gave you back
Why was I so hard to love?
And you found your person
Oh there’s nothing worse than knowing she’s happy
The way I wanted to be
And she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect
A love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses
You got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing
And just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
She gets the flowers
oh
Do her eyes look better when they shine
Do her lips taste sweeter than mine
Does she look prettier when she cries?
Was I just too hard to handle?
Too emotionally unstable?
You don’t want me
And I can’t change your mind
She gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect
A love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses
And you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing
And just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right? - Hudba
bro, the “he abused me but now he has changed... FOR HER” hits me
😭🤧
No, he hasn't changed. It's the same asshole
He looks good playing with her daughter, but he chose not to know his son.
I would never wish it upon anyone, but it does make me wonder what was wrong with me that she got to be treated better. Never had to wake up with bruises and never walked away with physical and emotional scars. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you've healded or that you are on your road to. ♡♡♡♡
💯 he did. Then she hit her head, and died. She really did. Now he’s pining “The love of his life”. They were together a year. We were married for 16 years, together about 20. Been single a decade now. But at least I got our children out. I don’t know about karma, but it’s heartbreaking to hear so many of us let them do it. And that goes for both sexes. I love this song, don’t remember how I found it, but it’s on repeat on my Spotify playlist
“ she kept me a secret but tells everyone about her “ .. hits hard when it happens over and over-
I'm crying because of this😭
It's so unfair that there are so many of us here, living this exact thing
@@fifi6401 :/ im living like that too but it’s long distance instead .. just that our parents don’t know, her friends don’t know, mine do ..
I’m always people’s secret because majority are not strong enough to show their secrets to the world...expect to the gatekeeper, the holder of secrets
😢😢
“He abused me for 8 years, but changed for her” I felt that so hard.
You are so worth anything special and perfect because you are
I got called ugly and hit over and over, and she gets called beautiful and the hugs and kisses I wanted so much...
I instantly cried reading that..like wth
Im crying
That's just not faire!!!😡
“You were too depressed,” I never thought that would hurt so badly until he told me how could he love me if I couldn’t love myself. So, I loved myself and he didn’t love that either. It wasn’t me it was him, yet why couldn’t he choose me?
My husband and I were together for 21 years, married 14 of those years. He told me the exact same thing and now we've been separated for almost 2 weeks. Guess what...I found true love...in myself!!!
Mine told me I was never happy. Why would I be with him mistreating me?
I got told this too. He’s a narcissist, he just couldn’t feed off of you anymore. Don’t believe him. You are worth everything, you are worth life and love. I don’t know you, but I love you 💕
Your depression won't ruin your relationship with the right person. It's the person and if he wanted to he would help you. Be strong 🥺❤
Imagine being told they can't be with you because your too good because if they stayed they'd fall in love and wanna be with you forever
"They had the baby we couldn't have" breaks my heart the most.
I cried
that broke me
Devastating💔
I'm 20 weeks pregnant with his baby, she's now 8 weeks pregnant with his baby too. Knowing my baby will have a sibling they'll never know and a father that didn't want him, hurt me the most. We will be okay ❤
@@kathrynlake- oh my god, I'm so so sorry :(( Are you REALLY okay? It's easier to confess to a stranger you know. I wish you and your baby all the best honey ❤
I think the saddest part about this song is how so many people can relate to it
*women
@@taliyahs1918 I think people is a better word because it's not just women
@@sabrina8887 men cheat more than women do.
@Shelli Selby I know this darling. Dont need to state the obvious. But the way in which women suffer is much more universal than men.
@@taliyahs1918 the reason I put people is because I believe in my opinion at least that anyone, man or woman, can relate to this song because everyone has gone through heartaches before
To the girl who said she couldnt give him a baby, honey the universe knew. You're going to be a great mother some day💗
FRRRR
Yes, divine intervention. ✨️
Exactly just not with him
the fact that he abused her for 8 years then just left he like she was nothing just hurts so hard
Mine was a similar story. Abused for 7. He left me. Proposed to his new girl after 8 months. He "didn't believe in marriage."
@@torib.5949 I'm so sorry. But you're a strong person and you will be better than him in every way
To the blonde woman who got told that she is not pretty enough: You are absolutely gorgeous and beautiful.
Exactly. I thought wow she is so pretty and then this quote hit me like a train. I don’t know if people here are representibg themselves or others but telling someone they are not pretty enough is such a dick move
Honestly she is stunning, but that's on her for sticking around 8 years in an abusive relationship. He's a shitty person, but leaving is the best thing for her. Obviously she wasn't gonna leave him, here she is heartbroken over an abuser...
@@IDiggPattyMayonnaise Have you ever been with an abuser? They get in your head and make you feel like you aren't good enough for them and if you aren't good enough for them, then you aren't for anyone. At least that's what my ex husband told me. I was married to him for 6 years before I finally left.
That was my first thought when I saw her: "wow, she's gorgeous!"
@@IDiggPattyMayonnaise if you haven't ever been in a abusive relationship (bf/gf, mother/father etc,) don't fucking blame the victim.
“You were too depressed” hit me hard 😔
Frl that’s what my ex told me
she said i had a lot of issues
my husband said the same thing
my ex said I don't smile enough.
@@TheEvie1995 I'm sure the right person is going to make you smile, so its probably his fault that you didnt smile enough around him
I want to hug everyone who's been through something like this :((
I need a hug.
Would sure be nice
Am in the middle of break down alone crying my heart out wish I can get someone to just tell me it is going to be okay😢😢
@@judyjonathan1318Hey, it's going to be ok. Big hugs
The emotion in Beth's voice is stunning.
"Right" hits different
I love when singers sing heartfelt songs and u can see they really feel it, it makes the whole thing way more emotional
That one dislike is from the girl who gets the flowers
12 of em now
Nuh its from the asshole who abused her
fr though
You made me laugh out loud ,you are funny and yet being true
Right?! 😅😂
This came up on my recommended and I accidentally clicked on this. This was the best accident ever.
Samee
SAMEEEE
Me too!
Damn. Same!
Ditto!!
I am emotionally distraught by the ending of this song. It sounds like her voice is snapping off, piece by piece. This hit me so freaking hard that when I first heard this song, I ugly cried.
Omg. I've never heard a song more perfect than this. She got the flowers, the ring, the title "Beautiful " in his phone. Nevermind we were together for 22 yrs and have a 21 yr eold son together. He reads HER texts AND responds to them immediately. I get nothing. He says they haven't talked then I see in black and white on his phone "I love you baby", "meet at the same spot? I can't wait to see you baby" am then the kicker one night was "I wish I was going to bed next to you tonight but I can't do I'm sleeping alone" WHILE I'M LASTING NEXT TO HIM..... after 22 yrs od being by his side through hell and back. We broke up for 3 yrs and he was with her for 1½ then she booted him out to remarry the man she originally left for Jim. But they still carry on this fantasy life over text and secret meet ups. 2 days ago after he promised me that we were going to have the world together forever, blah blah blah. I found texts between them again. I'm so broken and so lost. He thinks he can tell me a bunch of excuses AGAIN but I can't do this anymore. I can't trust him and I know I'll have to live with Jim & Tina's bullshit forever. I can do that. I won't be 2nd to her in the man I have loved for 23 years heart. I won't be a fucking joke to him anymore. She can have the flowers.
Okay but how you managed to make a video with even more depth and emotion than the song itself is astounding. Some of the most poignant lyrics I’ve ever heard - Words that ring so much truth it’s destructively beautiful. This is fucking art. You’re a fucking artist.
She might have managed but the ending where it was so noticeable that she crying yet still continued to sing broke me
TRUE!!!!!
I’ll agree with this. 100%.
Thank you for so eloquently saying what so many of us are thinking & feeling!!
It flew off my ring finger and he neatly broke my fuck u finger how did I get hit up sling side the head at my browears
This video just randomly popped up on my account. I’m 9 months pregnant and he left for his ex that “I had nothing to worry about”. This song hit home for me.. He didn’t just choose her over me, he chose her over his daughter that isn’t even here yet.
Hugs
He just chose less responsibility, she could be anyone. He must be really immature. Your baby is lucky to have one good parent
He chose her over me and our baby boy.. a week ago. Being a parent and having the father leave like this is soul shattering. Sending you so much love and strength Maria! We can do this, our babies chose us for a reason 🌻💗
Sending so much love❤
Sending sooo much love and hugs 🤗❤
I hope their exes see this and regret how poorly they treated them !
To everyone who’s reading this:
You are perfect and totally enough the way you are. You are worthy of everything you dream for ❤️
These lyrics are masterfully written and preformed. It gives me the chills when someone else can express my emotions better than I ever could, and make it sound how it feels. Beautiful song, can’t wait to hear more from you!!
Same for me too.
❤
Power hugs to all woman around the world. If you read this, it is not an accident. You are loved. You are amazing. You are wonderfully made. Let's embrace each other and find rest. 💛
Thank you!!! And the same for you too!!! You are so amazing
Thank you ❤
❤️❤️❤️
Love you all
Thanks 💞🔥
This was heartbreakingly beautiful. I wish I could give all the people featured in the video a big hug, because I know the exact feeling.
Just saw you said the same thing 😂 so true though 🧡
*" Neither Friends nor enemies, just strangers with memories "*
just stumbled across this video - didn't intend to cry at 7:30am but here we are😩 as someone who has done a lot of healing herself, i can honestly say that the worst pain i've ever felt was during breakups. time heals, and it's amazing that these women were able to share their stories and be vulnerable. letting yourself feel the emotions is so needed and valid💕 my heart goes out to these women. i pray they find healing, recognize their worth, and love themselves whole heartedly
"he abused me but now he has changed... FOR HER" hit the most. i had to cry immediately
They don’t change
same.
It's extremely unlikely he changed
" You were too depressed " this thing hurts like hell
Same
My partner always ask why I look so depressed 😪 We don’t do things we used to do
Ikr :/
A better man just brings blankets and snacks, puts on your favorite movie. They exist I promise.
Same happened to me. Sometimes you don't know what's toxic until you break up. But im so happy we did and I have found the love of my life. Well be married next year :)
Survivor of domestic violence with 2 little boys with cerebral palsy as a result. Thankyou babes!!! I needed this!! 2yrs later after leaving, your songs helping me heal!, finally💕
Thankyou for writing a song I can cry too over n over xx
I'm proud of you honey
Sending lots of love and hugs
It's unbelievably insane how we hold on to people we love..
I hurt soo bad for soo long over someone who didn't deserve love.
But if that hadn't happened I wouldn't have found the love of my life
It always gets better. Promise.
He deleted every picture of us when we were still together. She commented hearts. She was “just a friend”. Now he’s hers.
same here 😭😭😢
same😭
Nobody owns nobody, wtf xd
@@ranarene5965 but the honesty is everything in relationship.
@@ranarene5965 if he shows new her off but didn't show op her off, that's fucked. All the 🚩🚩🚩
"You were too depressed."
Hit me hard. That actually hit me the hardest. How can you say that to a person, who might be depressed?!
Every single women doesn't desever ANY of this! He ABUSED her for EIGHT YEARS?! He had a baby with someone else. Made her believe it's her fault. That's just so sad.... How can you do that to her?
That video, THESE WOMEN, was freaking deep. Wow.... And even Beth McCarthy was crying. Everyone cried...
I have depressions, too. Is hard also for the partner. We have seperate three times. I have to fight so hard for that love.
I'm chronically ill with mental illness as well and he said I was too unstable and a nursing home case. The nursing home case one hurt the most 💔
When you told your ex that being called 'retarded' makes your urge to self harm worse, and his response is that you shouldn't do things that make him call you that then..
Then you read this comment.
If you’re reading this
Know that you are Beautiful, Wanted and most of all you’re Loved. It may not feel like it because someone hurt your heart and made you feel horrible. But the truth is it wasn’t you! It’s the person we love the most who hurts us. Just stay strong because something or someone amazing will come along and treat you right. You are beautiful strong and smart. Don’t give up on yourself We need you. Love yourself and thrive.
i'm truly sorry if you can relate to this song. you didn't deserve that. you deserve unconditional love, loyality, happiness, A WHOLE GARDEN, and a crown. YOU'RE A QUEEN!! 🙇🏿♀️ iloveyou 💓
"he got back with his ex who meant nothing"
"I wasn't enough"
"He used me"
Foc I felt that:(((
same...
Yeah...
I can relate.
You've managed to create a song that embodies the feeling that every woman has felt.
So true
I’m a guy sweetie and I’ve been used as well. This feeling isn’t reserved by females 😭
@@Thiccems69 I don’t think they were saying that...but the video is kind of towards women🤷🏽♀️
Not just every woman. People of all genders have most likely experienced this.
Ive been single all my life and still felt this song 😂😂😔
don’t worry, you’ll know he’s the one when he is willing to fight through every flaw you and he have and every bump in the road to be with you rather than giving up when things get difficult.
God! This video is so underrated! Beth's vocals from 2:26 to 2:56! OH MY GOD!!!! That part is gonna echo throughout the stadium if she ever performs! I hope she does!
"He never made us official". "I still want us to be friends". That hurts a lot
He told me “I’m not in love with you” “I need to focus on me” “I still want to be friends”. . And after 4 months ... Beth comes to remind me that with a song 💔😭
You'll find the only person that you need. It's gonna be ok, I promise. 🌹
( Sorry for all my fault, i'm french.)
Girl
Heard the same story 4 years ago
I still remember those words over text
But
You'll find someone that deserves you, in the end ❤
Trust the process
I know it hurts, dear but, it's not worth to suffer over someone who didn't choose you
My first ex was the same, my first ex was a crush I had for 4 years, when I finally confessed... After a month he confirmed that we were dating. After two months of dating, he tells me that he can't do this anymore and wants to end the bf and gf thing... He told me he dated me without having feelings for me, always compared me to his exes and never wanted to do anything with me, never wanted to go on call with me bc I was too embarrassing to be around. I gave him all of me and put my 1000% into the relationship. Justified his actions and always apologized even though I was the one hurt....after he broke up with me he told me he still wanted to be friends... After him, I had major trust issues and many insecurities. Like was I not enough? Was I boring to be around? Was I too ugly for him? What's wrong with me? Am I even lovable? And etc. But 2 years later I meet this man and he treats me well, loves me, reminds me every single day of how much I mean to him and how much he loves me, someone who was patient with me when I was going through shit and was super insecure, he reminds me that I was special and worthy, lastly... He makes me happy and feel loved. I couldn't be happier. So trust me, it'll get better, one day you'll meet someone who would love you for you even when you don't love you for you. You'll find them one day ☺️💓 it's worth the wait, but remember to love yourself too when others can't... Cause in the end of the day, you are your own supporter, friend and lover. So treat yourself, love yourself and be there for yourself so that when others can't... You'll know to be there for yourself.
Literally same 🥺
Same, the same fucking sentence + for me he told me "I left you bc I was scared to cheat on you, and it wasn't possible in my head to do that to you bc I have so much respect for you"
“She get the flowers…” The only flowers worth receiving are the ones you give yourself. Your self worth doesn’t depend on anyone else but yourself. Love yourself and as you go through stages of your life, remember to give yourself flowers.
Ya'll beautiful! All of you! And you are ENOUGH, for YOURSELF no matter if someone else sees it or not!! If you're an empathic I'm sure you felt the pain in their eyes. Sad but beautiful song. Love and hugs!
She lost him but found herself and that was everything.
I wish it was anywhere near that easy
the swifites are here, but seriously it's a really powerful sentiment. Ridding yourself of people you thought you couldn't live without and then proving yourself wrong is so empowering
Those horrible people who made us cry & then made excuses, we deserve better than them ! Let them be with anyone else I'm glad we aren't with them ! ❤️
The fact that it is very underrated is killing me... I listen to it a thousand times in a day... So sorry for those who hasn't find out this song yet n the nice feeling they will get after finding out 💚
Wish I could hug all these women 😞 what a powerful heartbreaking song.
Being cheated on is pretty much what I would define as the worst possible feeling in the world.
I'm in a long distance relationship for 6 years now, and we had planned our future together. His parents want him to marry now, and it won't be me.
I’m so very sorry.
@@bliviously5484 thank you so much, but it's my own fault for thinking something good could actually happen in this life. I should have known better idk.
@@zerozero7158 that’s not true. Good things do happen in this life, not a whole lot but they do. It will get easier. Think of it this way, it wasn’t your fault and in a sense you were “saved” from spending any more time or even marrying a person that doesn’t treat you right. Now you can focus on healing and eventually once you are ready meet someone who deserves you
I would get a cat/dog (depends on your preference). Unconditional Love each and every day.
@@claracatlady9844 thank you for your comment, I appreciate it very much. Believe it or not, but I did just that, I got a small puppy, but got screwed over. The puppy was much younger than the seller claimed and it had epileptical attacks. I had my Cookie (that's the name I gave her) for a little more than two weeks. Just enough to get used to her being around. Then on March 21st she died in my arms after we had spent almost all week at the vet. Today I've been thinking about her, it's sunny outside and she would have enjoyed the weather a lot. I know you are right, I'm aware that things do eventually get better. But yea, it's hard to see it at the moment.
When you've never been in a relationship but still feel the pain and emotions behind all these faces and lyrics❤️ it's a gem .
Yeah really. I hope I never have to relate to this song... It's so beautiful and tragic though I'm glad that the people who do actually have a song that makes em feel understood and not alone
I can relate to the " you were too depressed. " because my closest friend told me that before blocking me everywhere and leaving me.
The lyrics can apply to any scenario where I invested my time and energy in a situation and the end result is zero return despite my best efforts. Like an employee getting fired from his/her job after 15 years of dedication to the company and getting replaced by the bosses son who'll receive a higher salary, better perks and benefits.
I don’t even have words at how much this hit me.
To all women out there, you are perfect exactly how you are! A "man" who leaves you, who cheats on you, who abuses is not a man at all! You are better than them and I hope with all my heart you find a real man who will shower you with love and happiness xo
Yea but it never got better
The "you were too depressed" hurt my heart. How could someone be so cruel to stomp on someones heart like that. Hope all these ladies can be happy bc they deserve that just like we all do. We all deserve happiness. 💙
I just came across this comment. I have had my closest loves leave me for this reason. Thank you for being so kind🤍
❤
Yes, that was one of the reasons he told me. I can't live with someone like you, you are depressed,and it's contagious.
goosebumps here !!!!!!!!!!
I can relate to this song last year when my ex broke up with me in December. And the year before that 2019 he broke up with me again in December. So yeah I was so hurt and broken it took some time heal. But now I found God and I have a better relationship with him and I feel stronger and things happen for a reason I never believed that till now. I found real love God. 💘
[Verse 1]
Tell me what she has that I don't
Why you were so fast to let go of us?
'Cause she's all you wanted
When it was my heart you didn't want it
Why wasn't I cast in your show?
'Cause I gave you everything
And all my friends are saying it's you, it's not me
Wish I could believe them
[Chorus]
But she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses and you got to use this
Lеave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
But shе gets the flowers, right?
She gets the flowers
[Verse 2]
Tell me why I wasn't enough
After all that I gave up for you
Was it too much to ask?
For just a part of what I gave you back, oh-ooh-oh
Why was I so hard to love? (So hard to love)
And you found your person
Oh, there's nothing worse than knowing she's happy
The way I wanted to be
[Chorus]
And she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
Yes, she gets the flowers
[Bridge]
Oh, oh, oh
Do her eyes look better when they shine?
Do her lips taste sweeter than mine?
Does she look prettier when she cries?
Was I just too hard to handle?
Too emotionally unstable?
You don't want me
And I can't change your mind
[Chorus]
She gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
Every woman in this video can now go find the right guy or girl for them. You don’t want someone who’s going to be happier with someone else. But of course, it hurts in the moment.
The problem is a lot of us now have trust issues to the point where we don't believe there is a right person for us.
I always am afraid that my boyfriend would leave me, cause I'm too depressed. Not good enough. Not happy enough. Not enough energetic. But he makes sure to remind me that i am good enough for him. And even if he stops wanting me. It won't be me or my depression. It will be just our relationship that broke. Because we couldn't build it more. And that's ok.
I truly hope the best for you guys, stay a strong-loving couple! I was afraid of that too but he kept reminding that I am enough, I'm everything he wants. The same day I drew something for him, he told me he chose another girl over me... because of distance.... because "oh, you know, distance is what gets between us, you're going to be just fine. but i still want to be your friend!! :D" the pain, the endless crying, the nonstop breaking of mt heart, the emptiness is just... unbelievable infinite. i wish you not to experience this feeling, I've never cried harder before....
@@blackfeather7268 ♡
Hug u
I can never just listen to this once. Its always repeated 1,2,3 times. Says everything i couldn't & wish i still could.
this song reminds me of a post I tweeted where I was basically saying that I'm crying right now because my ex is telling me what he has planned for his new girl for valentines day and I got nothing when I was with him other than conversations that made me feel like shit
Beautiful soul, you were too much of a high value woman for him. It scares them and they project all their b.s onto us. She may get the flowers, youll get so much more for the right person. Let her have your leftovers. Trust me you'll find the one who will love you so so much 💓
Tell me what she has that I don't
Why you were so fast to let go of us?
'Cause she's all you wanted
When it was my heart you didn't want it
Why wasn't I cast in your show?
'Cause I gave you everything
And all my friends are saying it's you, it's not me
Wish I could believe them
But she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses and you got to use this
Lеave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
But shе gets the flowers, right?
She gets the flowers
Tell me why I wasn't enough
After all that I gave up for you
Was it too much to ask?
For just a part of what I gave you back, oh-ooh-oh
Why was I so hard to love? (So hard to love)
And you found your person
Oh, there's nothing worse than knowing she's happy
The way I wanted to be
And she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
Yes, she gets the flowers
Oh, oh, oh
Do her eyes look better when they shine?
Do her lips taste sweeter than mine?
Does she look prettier when she cries?
Was I just too hard to handle?
Too emotionally unstable?
You don't want me
And I can't change your mind
She gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
#IwantsingwithHER💗
This isn't the video I'd make maybe, but I feel deeply for someone, made mistakes understand why he picked leaving me with text support. I knew he deserved better, and I still couldn't step aside right. 😪 too much baggage for anyone to feel lasting happiness. How I thought he accepted me, how I hoped he d just say he wanted to be more than fwb. And his perfection has come along, gosh how can one be so glad for their ex and still feel like there is no reality where I'll find one who will be happy to be mine in public, want my soul in thier life, be ok with how much work I still need to put into myself and still respect and be proud he and I share our hearts .but yes I'm forcing myself to move on cause I'm not what he and his family needs. Just wish I didn't feel so small and needy. Want to be loved and not left alone in my own sick sad world. Feeling crazy, and lost , but I'm sure he doesn't want me as I'd like. So , l I breath and lift my defeated head and heart, as I say, go ahead. I'm tired too, waiting for my time, waiting for heart to get smart. I'm the problem that's why she gets it all. And I am left at square one again. And with out what I've come used to as my friend. At least he never lied to me , called me names to my face. He just let me know I'm not it, sorry but not. But why wit so long when he knew how I am.
Me over here, 12 years together, 10 years married bawling my eyes out... Good ones exist dammit, I promise ♥️
Maybe you were the one that got the flowers🙂. Sorry I don’t mean to make you feel bad. I’m happy you’re happy even though I don’t know you😊
🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@mariankushigbor9605 then no one doesn’t get flowers... or no one gets them. There’s always someone along the lines hurt... now I’m in an existential crisis. 😬
Yeah there are some good men. I was in an abusive marriage for a decade and now I'm engaged to a really really good man who I fully trust, we were friends for 6 years before we got together. He's a catch but his anxiety stopped him from getting close to people, he'd only had 2 serious girlfriends in his life and first one went away to college and they mutually ended it due to that, second one cheated on him and ran off with a guy who cheated on her really quickly. So I'm not taking anyone's flowers lol
@@mariankushigbor9605 I let a good guy in instead of chasing bad anymore.
" You are not enough " ... This line can shatter you sometimes so bad
A long time ago I would’ve said I relate to this song. But I can now say I get the flowers. I am happily married with a baby on the way. With a man I feel so proud to call the father of my child. A man who gets me more than flowers. Someone who makes me feel beautiful, safe and loved. I promise you will one day get the flowers. And the wait will be so very worth it.
I don't know who have to read this but to all the Girls out there who've been going through something always remember that you are worth it. You are pretty and you deserve the best things in life. Hang in there ❤️.
I just got out of a relationship that lasted for over a year and a half. He never spoke about me not even in front of his family nor friends. Always made me feel like I were lowkey competing with his friends for his time and affection. There were so many times when I had to overstep the borderline of my comfort zone just to make sure he's happy and be let known he's appreciated. There were so many restless, sleepless nights when I had to ask myself "Am I good enough?" and the answer was always the same "No." . It took me a while to understand I was more than enough and it was him who failed to meet me in the middle because his friends' comfort ment way much more than his parner's (a.k.a me). Baited me plenty of times he'll try to be a better version of himself even though the same issues, which came between us continued to reappear over and over again. No effort was made on his side. He was so afraid how his friends would react if they were to find this "lovey dovey" version of him. I know I did all I could to express my love and appreciation for this person. I now know I am enough. But it took me too long to realise it. Tonight the yt algorithms were on my side recommending this song for me. Thank you for creating this beautiful piece. It brought back sadness I didn't want to feel but I know I have to go through it if I want to move on. And I know I do. To all ladies out there, you're all strong, beautiful and WAY MORE than ENOUGH. Don't blame yourself for mistakes men try to portray on you.
You're absolutely right, can't agree more! We're always enough, and there'll always be people who recognise it.
He said “ I’ll take care of your heart “
And now I’m left broke empty blaming myself for trusting him
Don't believe your own thoughts
People who take their promises seriously make sure they actually deliver on their promises (which they keep reasonably limited) before they go off making more. Nowadays I just find it disrespectful when someone has barely executed their existing promises but they’re gonna flood you with more and more barrages of grand promises. It’s just to get what they want, after which it turns out to be a bait and switch of future faking. Maybe they should stop to work on delivering some of their promises before making new ones in such a reckless and cruel way to set the other person up for devastation later. I’m really, really sorry about what you went through. I personally have been on that same broken boat
Hey pretty don't blame yourself
It's not your fault that he's not a man enough to keep his words
I'm feeling the same thing. I found out yesterday the guy I thought was "mine" was saying that to other women too.
I know this is about something different but this makes me think of my mother leaving me and treating other girls the way I wanted to be treated
I am sorry your mother wasn't there the way you needed her to be. You deserve better.
That makes the song hurt more
My mom is mentally ill, I gave my life for her, she supported me sometimes... But to often I was the "dumb, bad, asshole child" often enough I wasn't good enough... Tried to redesign the world perfect for her... Until I wasn't strong enough any longer... She loves me but broke me the same way my father did.... At the age of 17 I talked to a helper at my school and he called somebody... I was taken out of my home... Now my bestfriend became her new daughter... They do everything we did, they are there for each other, but without the "your a bad child" - thing... They are happy, while I was in mental hospital.... I'm better now, but it was really hard. It's still hard... Because doesn't matter how your mother will treat you, you'll always love her and want to be good enough for her, but the sad truth is: you never will. But you can be enough for yourself, even if it sounds too hard. You can still be happy and become a better mother for your children... Someday you'll get the love you deserve, maybe not from your mother but in a different way.
Same ❤
@@joelinahasse1356 you will get the best and most lasting love from ourselves to ourselves. Everything is easier after that
I wish I found this when I was 20. Boyfriend left me after 4 years- said he wanted me to be happier. Turns out he was hooking up with my best friend at the time. They ran off together, got married & started a family.
I questioned my own worth if he chose her over me. It took a very long time to find the courage to love myself again as stupid as it sounds.
I’ve been in a happy relationship for nearly 6 years and he is everything he wasn’t for me. He is everything they weren’t. 💛 dont ever give up. True love exists and it won’t hurt you.
I'm just discovering her. The lyrics are powerful and speaks to the human experience of being rejected by someone you love.
i was waiting for a happy ending to this song but it doesn’t have one, so i wrote my own poem loosely inspired by this song !
(in no way am i trying to overshadow or disrespect the original lyrics/meaning, i was simply inspired by the lyrics and had my own ideas!)
this is called: “she gets the flowers; i’ll grow a garden”
“tell me what she has that i don’t
why were you so quick to let us go?
cause i’m not what you wanted
i lived hidden in your shadow
i gave you everything,
everything you wanted and more
now the choir won’t sing
and you’re slamming the door
now she gets the flowers,
and love letters sealed with a kiss
i see the posts you make about her,
you swung at me and never missed
i got excuses, made me feel useless
left me in the dust and walked away
i used to hold onto you but now i confess
i tried so hard but couldn’t make you stay
tell me why i wasn’t enough
do her eyes look better when they shine?
tell me, doesn’t she call your bluff?
do her lips taste sweeter than mine?
and she gets the flowers, so i’ll grow a garden
full of daisies and roses of my own
i’ll find a new place to put my heart in
i can’t rely on you, your colors have shown
now my garden is ready to bloom
i measured them as they grew
i think it’s safe to assume
my flowers are pretty too”
thoughts? :)
omg i love this
this is fckn beautifuuul
Love this beautiful ❤
It is beautiful written...
I didn't realise I needed to read this. Thank you 😭💖
The feeling of getting rejected when you have given your everything to them, hurts like hell. " She gets the flower, right" I could really feel the pain in the lines🍁🍁🍁🍁.
He left me after 21 years and started dating my best friend within a week of telling me he wanted a divorce, which he did 4 days after our anniversary. I had 4 kids with him, stayed at home to save on daycare costs, and scrambled for us to survive has he worked his tail off to get where he is now. And now that everything is easy, he's moving on. He won't try therapy for me, but as soon as she says something, he starts looking in to it. I'm only 40 and it was just starting to get really really good. Now I'm on my own.
How devastating for you. Truly heart breaking. I understand I have been married for 21 years and have four kids and its a shock when this happens. Your whole life is crumbling under your feet. You deserve a man who would fight for your marriage and at least go to therapy. Also how awful that your best friend went off with your husband , thats the worst betrayal. When you have stayed at home raising the kids and supported your husband in there job ,it makes it harder to know where to start. Im so sorry you are going through this. sending you a virtual hug.
the cracks in her voice towards the end GAVE ME GOOSEBUMPS
"I'm not in love with you" hits home and is the saddest. Cause it's no one faults then. Your chemicals just didn't mixed. And still it hurts the most
It’s ok dear it’ll be alright
It's his fault if he gets with someone he isn't in love with. Hw shouldnt have bc it's his fault she or he hurts now.
@@princesskitty187 So it's her fault if she gets with a guy she's not I love with?
@@princesskitty187 when does someone know they are in love?
@@carlincollins4987 yes
We were friends for three years before we started dating and we were together for two and a half years then he broke up with me. He was seeing someone for FIVE months before we broke up. There were rumours about it and people told me to my face that they saw him out with another girl. I brushed it off and believed he was just hanging out with a friend. I should've really listened to those around me.
I was so heartbroken at first, before that all dissolved into anger. I supported him and encouraged him and stood by him for so long since we were just friends even when others didn't believe in him. When he got where he wanted, he left me and just two days later I heard he had a new girlfriend. And he gave her all the credit, saying that she was there and supported him through it all. He called her the devoted and supportive girlfriend when I did that.
I heard they were getting married and I wish I could say I was happy for them, but I'm not. And maybe I never will and I felt horrible at first that I couldn't be happy for him, but I realized that I don't owe them that and it's okay if I don't.
I'm just gonna forget that he was a part of my life and erase all of it and work on me because I deserve it. I deserve to be happy and I shouldn't give others power over that. It's mine.
I know how it feels
Been there, done that. Same situation. Same feeling. I know what u feel. Everything that ur feeling right now are valid. Just let it be. Feel the hurt until u dont feel hurt anymore. Believe me one day u wont feel the same intense of pain and anger anymore. Take ur time to heal yourself. One day u will just wakeup and tell yourself that ur fine. Ur okay. And u now realised all the lessons that u got from ur past relationship. I hope you will hold on to that day. Sending u light and peace. 💛Its my first time to comment but i feel that u need to hear this. ❤️
@@Grace-diary Thanks for your kind words. I am working on myself now and I'm waiting for the day that comes when I don't feel the hurt as much anymore.
I'm glad you commented it means a lot to me. And I hope you are also faring better from what happened to you too. Sending you lots of light and peace to you too😊💛
@@kazehaya2849 I hope you're faring better now too. It's sad but a lot of us have gone through it. But things will get better💛
Im sending u lots of love 💜
I don’t even have a hard breakup and I can still relate to this song…
Such a beautiful and heartbreaking song at the same time... „She/he kept me a secret but tells everyone about her“ and „I wasn‘t enough“ hurts so much, I just made the exactly same experience…
It's never about you :( just know the choices people make are a reflection of them. You are so so worthy, and you are so beautiful. I promise you that it is not YOU. I've been there. I kept second guessing why he left, that it's because I was too hard to love, I was too broken, too needy, not enough. But I realised it was never me, I am fine and amazing being me. And you are fine and amazing being you, please. Believe and trust me on this. This song had me heart broken. It is beautiful. But remember you have a power, no one can be you. You are best the way you are.
I am literally going through something like this right now. Not even gonna pretend like I'm not ugly crying. CZcams knew I needed to see this song. Really sucks when you always feel like you're never good enough.
Same and I’d like to tell you it gets better, but it hasn’t for me.. here I am 38, married and got cheated on 3 days after our wedding day.. haven’t been intimate since and that’s been 2 years. Hopefully you find a man/woman whichever you prefer, that makes you realize why nothing else worked out. I lost my chance with the good guy bc I was too busy being faithful to the one who was unfaithful. No matter how much you want something to work, some times it just doesn’t and it sucks but let me tell you, nothing is worse than staying where you’re used, neglected and feel unloved, unworthy and just not good enough. I feel like half of me has died living this way and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I just walk around numb most of the time but then I hear songs like this and reality sets in that I’m not enough for him and never was. Good luck girlie, you’re beautiful and are so worthy of being loved and appreciated, just remember that.
Hold up! It's not you wasn't good enough..YOU WAS TOO GOOD FOR THEM! Great advice.. love yourself put your energy into yourself, don't waste it any on anyone! who doesn't give you at least 50% back! Also their are plenty of toys nowadays to keep you happier, then deadbeat soul crusher.. ❤
If I had to write one I’d say “he used my mental health disorder as a reason to break up with me and to put me down”.
He said I'd done nothing wrong, gave a long list of my virtues, followed by another long list of all the wonderful times we'd had together, things done, places visited etc. Obviously all that was not enough because he added that he might live to regret his decision, and walked out of my life forever. I have regretted his decision every day.
Although I've never been in a relationship but still it made me cry 😩💔
The fact that "she gets the flowers" breaks my heart in million pieces...
The girl who holds up the sign that says, "He Got Back With His EX Who 'Meant Nothing' " gets me every time. I've been there, and it was the worst hurt I ever felt.
Found out yesterday after 15 years of friendship and 6.5years of being together planning to grow old with each other have kids that he's still in love with his ex Your songs have been on repeat!
bestie why you gotta make us cry'
My heart broke a little bit 💔 to all the people out there who were treated like they weren't enough... You are enough! You are so much more than enough
God I felt this. "She means nothing" became "the rumors aren't true, we aren't having an affair" became "she's going through a rough time and I need to support her" became "we aren't working out, I'm just not happy" became "I'm moving in with her" became "she and I aren't sleeping together" became "she and I are getting married tomorrow."
And, while I found someone who actually treats me right and appreciates me for me, that sinking feeling of "is he going to leave me too?" still lingers in the very very very back of my mind because if I was worth leaving not even four years after making a lifelong commitment and having his child, what's to say it won't happen again?
This is heartbreaking. And beautifully perfect.
Men really make us doubt ourselves, our worth, worth to be loved and to be treated the way we deserve. Because they always choose the bitches and hurt the ones that love them truly, the ones that treat them right. 😔😔
I don't know why you think all of them do that
They weren’t all talking about men? And causing someone’s heartbreak isn’t exclusive to men? Like yk guys get used and hurt like that too right? Girls do it to 😭
He left me for someone who doesn't know him like I do...
Not all men are like this, and a lot of women have done their fair share of the same things. Even one of them in the video her card was about a woman. There are good people out there, don't let the rotten ones sour you.
Women too. It's a take forgranted thing & a "you can't have it" thing
How are you gonna say she was too depressed then leave her for her bestfriend? That's double betrayal! How do you think she feels now?? Smh.
People are the worst I tell ya!
All these stories broke my heart. This song is perfect❤.
Being selfless is probably the most beautiful thing i have ever seen.
Her voice is full of emotion... I love that...
I need a real hug so bad...
"was i too hard too handle.. too emotionally unstable.."
this hit me hard.. 😢
He made me feel like I wasn't me anymore. He said he couldn't feel the pressure of my depression even though he was the reason for my medication.
It's better that it's over.
The meaning, the vocals, the emotion. 😭😭😭
This song randomly came up and I'm so glad! It's scary how relatable this is. I'm sorry to everyone that feels this way. It does get better and your someone is out there! You will look back and not believe you even cared about that person!
The fact that my boyfriend still communicates with his ex who cheated on him twice and still sees her occasionally terrifies me. I don't want to lose him to someone who hurt him
Girl you gotta communicate with him. Tell him that’s making you uncomfortable and if he assumes you’re upset or controlling tell him you just don’t want to see him get hurt.
If that’s a boundary you prefer to not have crossed then you should communicate with him about it. Exes are exes for a reason.
I had a similar situation. My ex had to communicate with his ex wife because they have children together. I understand that. But when I confronted him about how I don't like how friendly he was with her. He assumed I was jealous. Nah I was not jealous of some woman who cheated on him 3 times and the last time was a secret affair with his own father! They divorced after that and she had two more kids with his dad! And he still considered her as like a good friend. BRO WTF?!? That is not okay. How someone can be such "good friends" with someone who did that to them, I will never understand.
If he can't respect your feelings and your boundaries then he needs to go. My ex literally dumped me because I couldn't get along with his two faced, drama causing ex wife. SMH! And at first I was heart broken, but then I realized how much stress I lost and I was so much happier. I know you don't want to lose him. I've been there. But if he wants to go back for a 3rd round of cheating. That's on him sis, but don't you let that man do it to you.
@@kenzieG12923 thank you!!
I guess I'm too much of a hothead because if I saw him doing that, I would dump his ass so fast it would make his head spin. The situation opens the door to potential cheating. Period.
I am so sorry for those that have experienced this pain. I've never been in a relationship but this had me in tears. Sending virtual hugs to all of you
We accept the love we think we deserve. Ladies, take your power back. YOU ARE THE PRIZE!!! Don’t forget it.
I love the emotion she put into this
To all the human beings feeling like they‘re not enough: YOU ARE ENOUGH! Just because someone is not able to recognize your inner beauty doesn‘t make you less lovable. You are loved and you are enough, even at your darkest days. The right people will always see your light, no matter how dark you feel ♥️
@Babbey Mae you‘re welcome, friend :) ♥️
Thank you 😢❤️
To the lady who's hurting... you are brave for being vulnerable💕