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Here's what I realized when I was in this situation for 2 yrs. There is simply no way to "negotiate" or persuade her attraction for you. She either wants to have sex with you or not. It was mentally and emotional torture, the guilt of wanting to have sex with every single woman, and the lack of intimacy in my marriage was literally hell. On the outside we were a happy ideal couple, but at home, she would clam up whenever i tried to initiate. Thankfully my ex finally ended my misery by ending the marriage. Only then did I realize the psychological damage that sexual rejection had on me. After about 6 months of celibacy, I met other women and I couldn't perform sexually. Thankfully therapy was essential in my healing and now I am happily dating, but I shall NEVER EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN.
What if I am a better verbal communicator than my wife already? I have always been very good at expressing myself verbally, and I have given hundreds of hours of time talking about feelings with her. What I found over the years is that while women like a man who can talk about his feelings, they are only interested insofar is knowing what he is thinking about, and not out of genuine care or concern about what the man is going through, if he is suffering or unhappy for example. In my experience, these conversations are about their feelings only. How a man feels doesn't really matter, only her feelings matter. What is often referred to as connecting, is really about the man making sure that the woman feels heard, validated and cared for. Whereas the opposite is not true. Meaning that these things are not reciprocated. Men generally do not finish these conversations feeling heard, validated and cared for.
Its evident by how little female comments there are that they dont care as long as their needs are met. Men leave these situations. No sex = no relationship or marriage
I think I'm on the same road as you are. I've been starving for 7 years and I've been married for 7 years. Absolute famine for the last 4 years. It's miserable to be married and sexless yet somehow my wife still expects me to show up as her husband. I'm trying my best to show up as little as possible nowadays.
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Here's what I realized when I was in this situation for 2 yrs. There is simply no way to "negotiate" or persuade her attraction for you. She either wants to have sex with you or not.
It was mentally and emotional torture, the guilt of wanting to have sex with every single woman, and the lack of intimacy in my marriage was literally hell. On the outside we were a happy ideal couple, but at home, she would clam up whenever i tried to initiate.
Thankfully my ex finally ended my misery by ending the marriage. Only then did I realize the psychological damage that sexual rejection had on me. After about 6 months of celibacy, I met other women and I couldn't perform sexually.
Thankfully therapy was essential in my healing and now I am happily dating, but I shall NEVER EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN.
That's your experience, it's not everyones.
This lecture is perfectly described
Thank you
What if I am a better verbal communicator than my wife already? I have always been very good at expressing myself verbally, and I have given hundreds of hours of time talking about feelings with her. What I found over the years is that while women like a man who can talk about his feelings, they are only interested insofar is knowing what he is thinking about, and not out of genuine care or concern about what the man is going through, if he is suffering or unhappy for example. In my experience, these conversations are about their feelings only. How a man feels doesn't really matter, only her feelings matter. What is often referred to as connecting, is really about the man making sure that the woman feels heard, validated and cared for. Whereas the opposite is not true. Meaning that these things are not reciprocated. Men generally do not finish these conversations feeling heard, validated and cared for.
Google Kruger Dunning effect.
Its evident by how little female comments there are that they dont care as long as their needs are met. Men leave these situations. No sex = no relationship or marriage
How many videos on women’s needs have you commented on? Not sure your logic works.
Helpful video. Thank you for sharing
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Just do not get married. Simple as that. My girl said the other day that would leave me with higher earnings after tax.... Boy do I not care.
Sounds like a plan.
A woman having empathy? LoL!
Thank you
I'v been starving to death for 34 years.
Yeah, but you are still alive, so no, you are not starving to death.
Get out
I think I'm on the same road as you are. I've been starving for 7 years and I've been married for 7 years. Absolute famine for the last 4 years. It's miserable to be married and sexless yet somehow my wife still expects me to show up as her husband. I'm trying my best to show up as little as possible nowadays.
Thank you
Thank you