The Journalling Techniques that Changed My Life

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  • 9 Journalling Techniques that I've come across/up with over the past 12 years (using the double L spelling coz I'm Australian)
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  • @lotusfae
    @lotusfae Před 2 lety +3572

    "No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it." Something I've heard and known before, but really needed to hear again right now. Thank you for that!

    • @canmetan670
      @canmetan670 Před 2 lety +27

      "Negative visualization" technique from stoicism would disagree.

    • @candychip2557
      @candychip2557 Před 2 lety +55

      Idk I feel like this depends on the person. For me, rehearsing negative outcomes is a positive thing, it doesn't make me overly anxious but instead drags down my standards and takes off a lot of pressure, as well as lets me prepare for a bad future in case it might ever arrive. For example, for a long time I've been practicing myself with the idea that my older family members might pass away randomly at any time, so I should appreciate my time with them while I have it. Last year my grandma got a pretty serious mini-stroke and was taken to the hospital; we didn't know what was wrong with her at the time and it was scary, but unlike the rest of my family, I didn't freak out and was able to support them in a time of need. I even moved to my grandma's and kept an eye on her to make sure she was alright, and it didn't mess up my life or mental state. Of course, negative thinking is not for everyone, especially those prone to paralyzing anxiety, and everyone should let themselves grieve if the time calls for it. Just saying, rehearsing bad outcomes might work for some people

    • @Connibolognese
      @Connibolognese Před 2 lety +9

      @@candychip2557 Thank you, this was very helpful for me. 🙏

    • @sheridanhunter3297
      @sheridanhunter3297 Před 2 lety +22

      @@candychip2557 I have pretty bad anxiety, and I always used to assume the worst possible outcome would come true. My therapist had me write down a list of what I thought the bad outcome of a situation would be and the "evidence" I have to support that. Then she had me write down the positive outcome and "evidence" to support that as well. Based off of these two things, she then had me predict the likelihood of the negative outcome happening and if it were to happen how I would cope with the situation. It definitely makes me feel more prepared and realistic about day to day situations.

    • @calmontes651
      @calmontes651 Před 2 lety +10

      @@candychip2557 I agree that it depends on the person, I have been practicing worst case scenario since I was 10 when I didn’t know that was a thing, I’m now 46 and it still calms me down. I did it out of habit at the start of the pandemic and it shifted my mindset as soon as I finished writing it down.

  • @rafaelvecchi2874
    @rafaelvecchi2874 Před 2 lety +1307

    HOW TO JOURNAL - BY STRUTHLESS
    ## 1/9 - JOURNALING FOR CLARITY
    A "mind dump". Just writing every single thought as you have it.
    Two ways to do this:
    1. Sit down in one session and try write out every thought that you're having
    2. Keep a notebook with you and every time you have a new thought just jot it down (hard mode)
    (Example given: filling out a page from a simple notebook around 3 times a week)
    ## 2/9 - JOURNALING FOR BREAKING YOUR MINDSET
    For when you get too obsessed with one thing and can't think about other stuff
    Three exercises:
    1. Imagine 6 impossible things (write 6 bullet points) (from Lewis Carroll)
    (e.g.: A camel and his best friend skating over an exploding pigeon)
    2. How can I make someone else happy right now? (write 5-10 bullet points)
    Gets you out from the mindset of serving yourself
    (e.g.: Telling a friend you love them, sending them a weird meme)
    3. What's something in my immediate environment that I have never noticed? (write 5-10 bullet points)
    This question draws you to the present in case you're stuck in either the past or the future
    (e.g.: Never noticed the ship's square sail in the picture on the wall)
    ## 3/9 - JOURNALING FOR DAILY REFLECTIONS
    The most common type of journaling (5-10 bullet points for each question)
    1. What excited me?
    2. What drained me of energy?
    3. What did I learn?
    4. What are 10 things I'm grateful for?
    5. How did I push the needle forward?
    ## 4/9 - JOURNALING FOR HABITS & LIFESTYLE AUDIT
    For anybody who's in a phase in their life where they are going for big improvements.
    **A bit of a harsh method and exploits a false binary, but effective for an extra push**
    1. Divide a page into 3 columns
    - First column = "Actions"
    - Second column = "The worst version of myself"
    - Third column = "The best version of myself"
    2. At the end of your day, list every single thing you did that day in the "Actions" column (what you ate, who you hung out with, what work you did, ...)
    3. In the second and third columns, decide whether that thing gave you a point in the negative or positive column (e.g.: drank 10 beers = 1 point for negative column, yoga = 1 point for positive column)
    4. Then, add all the points and see which column got the highest score (that's the direction your life is moving toward)
    ## 5/9 - JOURNALING FOR WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN
    You've expected life to go a certain way, but sh*t happened.
    > “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
    ― William Shakespear, Hamlet
    Write around half a page for each question:
    1. What happened objectively?
    2. What did I make it mean?
    3. How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them?
    4. How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me? (from Tom Bilyeu)
    ## 6/9 - JOURNALING FOR ANXIETIES
    For when anxiety creeps in.
    Divide a page into three columns:
    - First column = "Fears"
    - Second column = "Fixes"
    - Third column = "The outcome that I would bet on"
    Example: Anxious about putting your art online
    1. Dissect your anxiety into its constituent fears into the first column
    (a = "I'm worried people will tell me it's bad"; b = "I'm worried no one's gonna look at it")
    2. On the "fixes" column, write a basic strategy to overcome those fears
    (a = "Turn off comments until I've posted 20 pieces"; b = "Post it on every platform I possibly can")
    3. To eliminate catastrophizing, write the probable outcome for each scenario you fear on the third column
    (a = "5% of people will call it bad"; b = "a few hundred people will see it in the 1st year")
    ## 7/9 - JOURNALING FOR YOUR TO DO LIST & DIRECTION
    1. Start with a scattered list of all your obligations and things you'd like to do (fill a page (2 columns) with bullet points)
    2. Auditing your list (gets you from a scattered full page of bullet points to a manageable number of tasks)
    1. What is non-negotiable? (usually less than a quarter of a page of bullet points)
    2. What is exciting? (usually less than half a page of bullet points)
    3. What on my list, if done, would make everything else easier? (by Tim Ferriss) (usually 1-3 things)
    4. What of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back? (by Tim Ferriss) (usually less than half a page of bullet points)
    5. What 20% of activities are producing 80% of the results? (Pareto Principle) (usually 20% of the first scattered list)
    ## 8/9 - JOURNALING FOR DECISION MAKING
    1. What is the decision/problem? (clearly define it in 1 or 2 sentences)
    > "A problem well-defined is a problem half solved" ― John Dewey
    2. What are the options? Are they mutually exclusive? (try to come up with around 10 options, unless the problem is explicitly binary)
    3. If I had to make this decision in 60 seconds, what would I choose? (put on a timer and choose an option in less than 60 seconds)
    4. Could I live with this outcome? (yes or no? + a few bullet points as to why)
    5. What would this look like if it were easy? (by Tim Ferriss) (write 1 paragraph / 5-10 bullet points)
    ## 9/9 - JOURNALING FOR DIRECTION IN LIFE
    Analogy: The more points you put in a graph, the clearer the curve's direction.
    In journaling: These points = asking yourself "what do you want?" (x axis as time)
    For each question: a whole page of bullet points, usually separated into categories like family, work, fitness, lifestyle, bucket list
    - What did I want 5 years ago?
    - What do I want now?
    - What do I think I'll want in 5 years time?
    There's also the cliché that is a cliché because it's important:
    - If I knew I couldn't fail, what would I do?

    • @Dieannuhh.
      @Dieannuhh. Před 2 lety +32

      Thank you!!!
      I love comments like these, so helpful. 😊

    • @LS-vq2or
      @LS-vq2or Před 2 lety +29

      Oh my god THANK YOU I had no energy to make those notes and then use the tips and needed the written resumee! life savior

    • @tonyastatler
      @tonyastatler Před 2 lety +9

      awesome! thank you for those very clear and organized notes!

    • @evaeggen6928
      @evaeggen6928 Před 2 lety +4

      Thank you for writing this doen, i love this !! He talks a bit fast one might say, but very important!!!

    • @MJ-vf1im
      @MJ-vf1im Před 2 lety +4

      You are awesome!!

  • @1m1a
    @1m1a Před 2 lety +582

    •••Journaling for clarity
    Sit down in one session and try to write out every thought that you're having
    Keep a notebook with you and every time you have a new thought just jot it down
    •••Journaling for breaking your mindset
    Imagine 6 impossible things
    How can I make someone else happy right now?
    What's something in my immediate environment that I have never noticed?
    •••Daily reflections
    What excited me?
    What drained me of energy?
    What did I learn?
    What are 10 things I'm grateful for?
    How did I push the needle forward?
    •••Journaling for habits and lifestyle audit
    Divide page into three columns
    --Actions
    --The worst version of myself
    --The best version of myself
    in first column put day's actions
    in other columns mark whether your good or bad self did those actions and add up
    •••Journaling for when bad things happen
    What happened objectively?
    What did I make it mean?
    How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them?
    How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me?
    •••Journaling for anxieties
    Divide page into three columns
    --Fears
    --Fixes
    --The outcome that I would bet on
    •••Journaling for To Do list and Direction
    a bullet point list of all my various obligations
    audit the list with:
    --What is non-negotiable?
    --What is exciting?
    --What on my list, if done, would make everything else easier?
    --What of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back?
    --What 20% of activities are producing 80% of the results?
    •••Journaling for decision making
    What are the options? Are they mutually exclusive?
    If I had to make this decision in 60 seconds, what would I choose?
    What would this look like if it were easy?
    •••Journaling for direction in life
    What did I want 5 years ago?
    What do I want now?
    What do I think I want in five years time?
    If I knew I couldn't fail what would I do?

  • @dabbyleemiller
    @dabbyleemiller Před 2 lety +408

    “No amount of rehearsing tragedy will make you ready for it” really spoke to me above all the other things that spoke to me, which is basically everything you said. Thank you so much for making this video.

    • @annjuurinen6553
      @annjuurinen6553 Před rokem +1

      I think he is a sage.

    • @jellyrcw12
      @jellyrcw12 Před rokem

      Wow that is so well said, thank you for sharing!!

    • @guitarsoundsaround
      @guitarsoundsaround Před 11 hodinami

      It’s an interesting quote, well said!
      I hardly journal anymore. It’s got many great aspects, this video was great. It really helps some people.
      I’d encourage everyone to do it but it’s just not for me anymore.

  • @nicolim3946
    @nicolim3946 Před 2 lety +3390

    2:40 journalling for clarity
    3:00 journalling for breaking your mindset
    3:48 journalling for daily reflections
    4:25 journalling for habits & lifestyle audit
    5:34 journalling for when bad things happen
    6:35 journalling for anxieties
    8:28 journalling for your to do list & direction
    9:03 journalling for decision making
    9:50 journalling for direction in life

  • @nikim6901
    @nikim6901 Před 2 lety +437

    "I'm a pretty anxious dude" *instinctively laughs nervously*
    (I've never related to anything so pure and true)

    • @top10africa65
      @top10africa65 Před 2 lety +1

      😂💔

    • @PsychoSk8r4bg
      @PsychoSk8r4bg Před 2 lety +3

      That part made me pause just to come to the comments baha! I had to comment on how hilariously human this comes across! Great video, and great content too!

  • @HellStitcher
    @HellStitcher Před 8 měsíci +157

    1. Journal for clarity 2:40
    2. Journal for breaking mindset 3:02
    3. Journal for daily reflections 3:48
    4. Journal for habits and lifestyle audit 4:26
    5. Journal for When Bad Things Happen 5:33
    6. Journal for Anxieties 6:34
    7. Journal for to-do list and direction 8:27
    8.Journal for decision making 9:03
    9. Journal for direction in life 9:49

  • @LisaGelhaus
    @LisaGelhaus Před rokem +282

    Woah! A 40 minute Keynote in 11 minutes. So many insights from such a charismatic person! I’m glad you brought your life around so you can help others.

  • @ronanhart5922
    @ronanhart5922 Před 2 lety +501

    My therapist has taught me to avoid saying stuff like "bad" or "good" because it makes the behavior/action feel moral or immoral. Instead, he says that behaviors are healthy and unhealthy. They're not bad or good, it's just that they may or may not be a healthy thing for me to do. So for those wanting to do #4 but it feels too harsh, maybe think of it instead as a healthy version of yourself (and healthy actions toward that person) and an unhealthy version of yourself (and unhealthy actions). I think for me I would feel too negative about myself if I put actions in the "worst" version of myself and might not want to continue journaling

    • @desiv3025
      @desiv3025 Před 2 lety +10

      omg thank u for sharing

    • @scriptkeeper8243
      @scriptkeeper8243 Před 2 lety +5

      This has got to be the worst advice I've ever heard. One person's good could be an absolute evil. You can't relativize existence like this and expect to make it very far.

    • @PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA
      @PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA Před 2 lety +15

      @@scriptkeeper8243 all “evil” is subjective as people aren’t designed to do good or bad, we’re designed to satisfy our emotional needs. Lions kill for food, yet no one ever refers to them as evil, because it’s understood why they do it. The people you consider evil, have emotional needs you simply do not understand

    • @oliviarose3513
      @oliviarose3513 Před 2 lety +4

      @@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA not all evil is subjective, everyone knows that some things are just not to be done because of how morally corrupt they are

    • @db7084
      @db7084 Před 2 lety +6

      @@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA Hmmm. So if someone wants to slice and dice me, I must cater to their emotional needs and let them? My emotional needs are to stay alive and in one piece. So whose emotional needs win? Your mindset is the reason society is in the state it is in, why criminals are more catered to than victims, why there are all these entitled idiots running around. There IS good and bad, moral and immoral. Helping a pensioner across a street is good. Stabbing that pensioner to death is bad. Any other argument is just lefty progressive bullshit that is causing untold harm to our society. Participation medals, 'not yet competent' instead of fail, excluded instead of expelled, individual's 'emotional needs' more important than the group's, minorities are more important than majorities etc. Stop drinking the koolaid and take a sip of reality and practicality instead.

  • @eh1452
    @eh1452 Před 2 lety +661

    How you talk about anxiety with calmness, normality and even humor makes me feel safe. I feel many things similar way as you do but sometimes don't feel seen, since the topics are hard to talk about. I try talking about them in a calm manner, although we anxious people know those feelings are brutal and ugly sometimes. But hearing this type of talk about it makes it just so much more tolerable. You go to the root of journalling, root of problems. You are a very brave person. That you for being! You made my day. I have to start journalling again.

    • @LlamaLaQuiff
      @LlamaLaQuiff Před 2 lety +12

      It gets easier to talk about the further down the process you are. You should also note that it's not always easy to talk about, even if it seems like it. Can't reach the finish line without running the race, you've got this

    • @erictran4384
      @erictran4384 Před 2 lety +12

      A Holocaust survivor once said something along the lines of: suffering ceases to be miserable the moment it finds a meaning. Therefore writing down the hardships you endure creates meaning.
      May your future hardships and journaling give you fire and freshness in your loins.

  • @lovewroteme
    @lovewroteme Před 2 lety +52

    My life spiraled down to rock bottom in 2009 - I was 18 as well. Journaling literally saved my life. And I've never stopped since.

  • @tiegz9770
    @tiegz9770 Před rokem +38

    Hearing that I'm not the only one who has anxiety fixations and catastrophizes unrealistic events helps me alot, thank you for your candidness ❤

  • @kalvinlyle
    @kalvinlyle Před 2 lety +199

    I journal every day, but it’s always a stream of conscious dump. It’s helpful for sure, but I’m excited to try something more structured :)

    • @sparklypoof
      @sparklypoof Před 2 lety +4

      same! these 9 ideas are going to be fun to explore!

  • @writerandartist
    @writerandartist Před 2 lety +318

    "A problem well stated is a problem half solved." Charles Kettering.
    I did a calligraphy of that quote once. It's useful in MANY situations. Love it!

    • @jfo3000
      @jfo3000 Před 2 lety +2

      That quote is so true, even with difficult technical problems.

  • @adgrimes1981
    @adgrimes1981 Před 2 lety +217

    This is absolutely hands down the best video about how to get started with your journaling practice that I’ve come across… Thank you!

  • @Sigma.Infinity
    @Sigma.Infinity Před rokem +190

    Two more journalling techniques I find useful: writing letters not to send and writing down daydreams as stories.
    (1) When you have unfinished emotional business with someone but can't express it to them directly (for whatever reason), write a letter to them that you don't intend to send. It can be someone you're angry with, or who has hurt you, maybe a bully, or someone who you love from afar. It could be someone who has died that you're grieving about, or anyone else that you wish to communicate with. For me, it's when I feel angry, or hurt, or trampled on by someone, especially in workplaces, that's when I do this mostly. Go at it and say to them exactly what you want to say, then store it away (or send it if you dare). Or, you can write to an imaginary counsellor and pour it all out to them. You can do it in email form (with a blank "To" field for safety!) and then stash it in your Drafts folder if you prefer.
    (2) Spontaneous daydreams are the mind's way of telling us what we want. Sometimes they paint that picture accurately, sometimes they exaggerate, and sometimes they paint the feeling we yearn for even though the practical details of the daydream are just a useful backdrop. Whatever the case, I find it amazing to write down these daydreams as though I am writing a story. Doing this can be cathartic and also a great help in finding out what you really want deep down. Often what we long for are not the practical details we imagine (that job, that relationship, that holiday, that whatever). Rather, it is the *feeling* we yearn for that we believe these things will give us: that feeling of freedom and adventure, that sense of belonging and love, that pride and sense of meaning that comes with our talents being recognized, the excitement of novelty, or of breaking out of our shell and running wild, expressing ourselves, or a sense of personal strength and empowerment, and so on.

    • @reynajelly
      @reynajelly Před rokem +4

      Sounds like amazing advices!

    • @panagiotaaltanopoulou5489
      @panagiotaaltanopoulou5489 Před rokem +2

      Thank you for this!

    • @carolinaardenghi2749
      @carolinaardenghi2749 Před rokem +2

      Sometimes I do the (2) but I feel so stupid reading it!

    • @pravashi_382
      @pravashi_382 Před rokem +2

      I've done the first one a lot myself,didn't think about the 2nd one,maybe because i love to "act it out" instead 😅,not exactly like the way of the daydream but eh i roleplay it with whatever i have and then, waste HOURS,i just saw a video about maladaptive daydreaming hehe😅.

    • @Sigma.Infinity
      @Sigma.Infinity Před rokem

      @@pravashi_382 Roleplaying the fantasies is a great idea. Haha! I think I'll try that.

  • @Mariah-wt3xm
    @Mariah-wt3xm Před 2 lety +412

    You are seriously so cool. I really resonate with all these “self improvement” type videos you put out there. I love that you share personal experiences. I’m grateful for this info you put out there because it really does help me. Thanks man!

  • @duckyluver12
    @duckyluver12 Před 2 lety +237

    I've been journaling since I learned how to write. I was a very anxious child and my grandpa (who also had anxiety) gave me a journal for my birthday and told me that writing every day would make my life better. I'm infinitely grateful to him for that.

    • @Zar2244
      @Zar2244 Před 2 lety +7

      That's lovely, smart grandpa

    • @monicab.9093
      @monicab.9093 Před 2 lety +2

      Do you still have all your journals?

    • @duckyluver12
      @duckyluver12 Před 2 lety +11

      @@monicab.9093 Yes! They've very interesting to go back and read.

    • @hajimesenpai7996
      @hajimesenpai7996 Před 2 lety +1

      this is a sweet story :3

  • @MA-bt8il
    @MA-bt8il Před rokem +85

    I really like you. Your raw honesty. Your humor. To survive the last few stupid chaotic years, I have begun to make junk journals out of the crap in my home. They have been sitting here, staring at me in all their creative loveliness, abandoned, forlorn, and empty. You inspired me to actually USE them. Your ideas are so simple, real, and helpful. You just made my day and validated the last 2 1/2 years of my crafting through the scams of 2020, et.al. with this simple video. I am sorry for your heartache. But I am blessed by you today, and I bless you back! :) Thank you!!!

  • @johnathantai
    @johnathantai Před rokem +15

    Hey man, I don't know if you'll ever see this. I'm 15 and I'm from Hong Kong, I just came across your channel yesterday and I think it's one of the best discoveries I've ever made. A lot of what you've done really resonated with me, I personally went on digital detox not too long ago, I just want to say thank you for taking your time to make these videos. Your philosophy really helped me a lot, and it finally feels like there's something sustainable I can do for my life. This video particularly helped me today, I was having a pretty bad day, or so I thought but your point on cognitive distortions knocked me out of that, after following your techniques it was like my mind was suddenly cleared again and I could make rational decisions. Honestly, I cannot express more gratitude, for the first time in 2 years I feel like I'm starting to gain control of my burnouts

  • @Nathiusca01
    @Nathiusca01 Před 2 lety +436

    Hi! I want to give a helpful tip that my therapist gave to me to add to my journaling. If you struggle with depression and fixate on your thoughts like I do... It is just to make a list for the next day of the essential and basic things that have to be done and check them as you accomplish them. For example for me are things like brush my teeth, brush my hair, take a bath, take my vitamins, clean my pets' dishes. It may sound stupid but I forget to do all of these and I found myself at night feeling more ashamed and guilty than when I woke up just cause I let my thoughts win. As the days go by and you see your lists with the items checked out you'll feel better and proud and later when you realise you find yourself doing those things with joy. Hope that helps ✌️

    • @zijing9548
      @zijing9548 Před 2 lety +8

      I've been doing this for about 2 years now, really helps

    • @Amani9800
      @Amani9800 Před 2 lety +4

      IM THE SAME WAY! I'm thankful 🙏 for you

    • @adelafaith9604
      @adelafaith9604 Před 2 lety +7

      Proud of you! This video has so much wonderful content. I started my journey out of overwhelm and disorder with marla cilley aka fly lady..worth looking her up. She starts with putting on shoes, taking things 15 mins at a time baby steps, cleaning your sink so it make you smile and making the bed. The day is pretty much conquered after that.
      Little by little, being gentle on yourself xx

    • @bonniedavis9076
      @bonniedavis9076 Před 2 lety

      I've gone from knowing & not doing to not knowing & feeling panicking cause it wasn't in my thoughts.

    • @Paulabird7
      @Paulabird7 Před rokem

      Yes, agree! I wash my hair, do my animal chores, do morning pages. Bare minimum but gets me moving and focusing forward.

  • @dianeo
    @dianeo Před 2 lety +69

    "No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it..." I need to remind myself this and shut my catastrophizing brain off.

  • @snxlxphant09
    @snxlxphant09 Před 2 lety +73

    I've wanted to journal for a while now and just didnt know where to start. I wrote out all of your points at the start of my journal as prompts to go back to when I get stuck. Having the structure already there, and not having to stress about it really helps. Thank you so much!!

  • @CB-zs7lj
    @CB-zs7lj Před rokem +16

    I stopped buying diy books long ago but I had to buy yours. No regrets! I'm hitting my 60's and have started having constant memory flashbacks (good and bad). They have been making me crazy. I still don't know why its starting now, but your book is so enlightening! You've made a difference and wonderful contribution to mankind. I just wanted to say thank you.

  • @whatwhale5888
    @whatwhale5888 Před 2 lety +97

    Its unreal how relatable this guy is. Honestly his advice helps more than anybody elses, simply because he gets it

  • @jayg789
    @jayg789 Před 2 lety +62

    As the daughter of an addictions councillor these are the exact things I wish everyone’s parents could teach them. Tools for a healthy lifestyle stem so much further than those to help you get college degrees, impress during job interviews and receive high pay checks

  • @ESaturday123
    @ESaturday123 Před rokem +43

    I like how this is a journaling method that incorporates CBT skills in a way that’s really digestible. CBT has helped me a lot and this seems like a really organized and simple way to implement these skills.

  • @jackielove00
    @jackielove00 Před rokem +43

    Wow! This was NOT what I expected, or what I've come to expect these days. It was LOADED with fantastic points, ideas, tips, fun, colourful and delivered some of the best bang for the buck I've seen in recent years. Loved the presenting style. Really happy I found this. Now going to force everyone I love to watch it and buy the book! Thank you so much.

  • @royetter1777
    @royetter1777 Před 2 lety +92

    Holy Crap! I just failed at a week-long "Journalling challenge" partially because I couldn't figure out what to write and couldn't motivate myself to even pick up the notebook. Thank You! Looking forward to the promised deep dive videos

    • @brefritzsching455
      @brefritzsching455 Před 2 lety +4

      As soon as you pick it up you will feel inspired! Just start writing about literally anything. Weather, your 5 senses is a great one, hobby literally anything and then it sparks your inspiration. I have tried to follow prompts before and I always end up spending an hour looking for prompts rather than just writing.
      You can also brain dump a bunch of things that you want to find out about yourself and explore and then go off that

    • @KirinChan1998
      @KirinChan1998 Před 2 lety

      you didn't fail! just starting is a wonderful thing!

    • @royetter1777
      @royetter1777 Před 2 lety +2

      @@KirinChan1998 Nope, I'm gonna own it. I wanted to journal, but I failed to do it. Having the right tools is a step forward, though.

  • @marina.artoflife
    @marina.artoflife Před 2 lety +46

    Omg, who are you?? I love when YT surprises me like this from time to time... Congratulations on getting out of that place 12 years ago. And when it comes to anxiety, you're just afraid of the power you have inside. Nothing else. Don't be afraid to do great things you were meant to do. Stay well, stay sane, keep inspiring.

    • @accenttraining4professiona864
      @accenttraining4professiona864 Před 2 lety

      That’s an interesting point- I also had this inkling that anxious thoughts are due to being afraid of my power inside. We are all power houses, but afraid to entertain change that may lead to a better life. That is probably something to work on with a therapist ?

  • @caitlynwatts1855
    @caitlynwatts1855 Před 2 lety +20

    Something I've really started to realise in the last few years is that most of the corny cliche stuff we learn and are told growing up really does hold so much weight. There's a reason you hear the same quotes and concepts through life and when you finally stop trying to reject those concepts and take them on board in the way you live things get so much easier.
    There is always so much to learn about ourselves and the world around us, once you open yourself up to seeing things from a different perspective it can be a bit overwhelming but it's also very freeing at the same time.
    Listening to those messages that keep arising will show you what things you subconsciously are already wanted to change, you know before you're aware of it and will see and hear things more frequently that resonate with you or your situation invoking a change within yourself.
    By no means is it easy but if a saying of some kind or similar advice keeps popping up it would be a good idea to pay a bit more attention to it and ask yourself why.

  • @jenniferfields10
    @jenniferfields10 Před rokem +31

    Hello, I'm a fellow writer and a chronic journaler as well. Love the video! You're going to change a lot of people's lives with this. AND you published a book?!? I am so proud of you! You should be super proud of you too!! If you don't have a mama to be proud of you, I will gladly be your beaming proud mama in Spirit. You rock!

  • @pritika5968
    @pritika5968 Před 2 lety +36

    I have adhd and tend to daydream a lot. I noticed this a year ago when i watched a video on maladaptive daydreaming and realised it was me. So I started journaling to start taking control of my life. Sometimes it makes me cry how hard it is to stop myself from escaping reality but I try to and apply all the practical stuff you teach in your vids as activities and they really help me a lot when I note down my thoughts. Thankyou so much. I know you won't read this textwall but I always wait for your next vid and it always makes my day man

    • @cardisea
      @cardisea Před 2 lety

      It's more like a text fence.

    • @pritika5968
      @pritika5968 Před 2 lety

      @@cardisea well yes but ykwim

    • @yaoipurpleheart
      @yaoipurpleheart Před 2 lety +3

      Do you remember the video you watched about maladaptive daydreaming

  • @Makebuildmodify
    @Makebuildmodify Před 2 lety +536

    Dude! I just pre-ordered the book! I don't care if the book is bad (I know it won't be). I bought it because I want to support another CZcamsr that is worth supporting; and I think that you and your team definitely are. I hope the book does well.

  • @aurbb2u
    @aurbb2u Před 10 měsíci +4

    This was hands down the best video I've ever seen about journaling towards mental clarity and growth without including trite basic prompts, but by using prompts that truly dive down into the heart of the issues. I am genuinely excited at the prospect of starting to dig in. Thank you, really, so much.

  • @tinyawka
    @tinyawka Před 2 lety +2

    Thoughts are born in my mind so fast and consistent that I can't journal them all. That's like trying to transcript everything that is being told in a classroom right after the class is over.

  • @fabulous50s
    @fabulous50s Před 2 lety +1152

    Wow! You have created an amazing channel that is so helpful and relevant to your generation. You give a disclaimer that you are not a qualified professional but I disagree…the exact life experience you have lived, and found a way to the other side, gives you way more credibility than a few years at Uni and a piece of paper to prove it. We’ve got it all the wrong way around, it’s people like you who are making the biggest difference in the world today. Bravo 👏

    • @leaannsavage2231
      @leaannsavage2231 Před 2 lety +26

      I'm 59 and it is also extremely relevant to me so it also crosses generational constructs. (I kind of dislike that word "constructs" by the way - it sounds so pretentious, but it was the best word I could think of at the time - I'm not generally a pretentious person 😉)
      I so agree with you that his contribution is SO valuable and his background is irrelevant to the value, but also the fodder for what made him who he is today. I LOVE stories where people overcome adversity. We are ALL struggling with different kinds of adversity (some just hide it better than others). Tribulation is guaranteed in life. How we deal with it is up to us.

    • @douglascampbell4993
      @douglascampbell4993 Před 2 lety +31

      Reminds me of a quote I come across once that I read and made me contemplate on for a while.. It goes;
      “The broken are saved by the broken..”
      And it just reminds me that people make it out the other side, and they are always the first to extend a hand when you need it, and you will too when you find someone needs it..

    • @nichobee
      @nichobee Před rokem +5

      I've definitely found people such as this more helpful for me than therapy

    • @GillianLarmond
      @GillianLarmond Před rokem +1

      Totally agree. Life experiences makes one an expert, not a piece of paper from someone who determines whether or not you are qualified

    • @Ailyloves
      @Ailyloves Před rokem

      You pointed out a good point! 👍🏻 Having a ton of life experiences and learning from them really helps in a sense that we get a better idea of what works and what doesn’t for us. And learning from experienced people helps as well, because they have concrete evidence.
      This isn’t to mock theoretical ideas or the like, because the way I see it, it sure has it’s place but at some point, we genuinely need to have someone who’s experienced in this kind of matter and take inspiration and knowledge from their side as well~ 💛

  • @dragondancer5150
    @dragondancer5150 Před 2 lety +44

    It's kind of funny but journaling got me through high school with severe, undiagnosed major depressive disorder back in the early 90s. I've always been a writer, and I discovered almost by accident the magic of actually just sitting down and word-vomiting into the pages of a notebook one day because I just couldn't take the maelstrom in my head any longer. I wound up dedicating that notebook, and at least two more after it, to just brain-dumping when I needed to. I'd never heard of journaling, and I had no idea that WTH WAS WRONG WITH ME!?!?! was actually something real and not just me being some kind of screwed-up weirdo. All this to say - JOURNALING IS MAGIC.
    Thank you again for these videos that you put out. I adore both your sense of humor and your courage to get raw with strangers on the internet. I can tell you that what you do is amazing, and helpful, and we don't know each other but I'm really proud of you for giving of yourself like this, and if we ever had the chance to meet one of these days, I'd love to chat over coffee or something. Anyway, pre-ordered your book some time back and can't wait for it to come out. TAKE CARE!

  • @tueur3369
    @tueur3369 Před 2 lety +1

    This dude has the "wise friend you can always count on and ask for good advices that is also fun to be with" vibe

  • @LoudNTechie
    @LoudNTechie Před 2 lety +1

    Came for the title, stayed for your tattoos, loved the content.

  • @TheMoochiecat
    @TheMoochiecat Před 2 lety +311

    "What did I make it mean?" The first time I heard this concept it absolutely blew my mind and it shows how much power we really have even though we think we are powerless. Thanks for your journaling tips! I'm having a very difficult time with a coworker and any tool I can use to help me through this is welcomed.

    • @BeckyValkyrie
      @BeckyValkyrie Před 2 lety +1

      Same here. That bit really resounded with me.

  • @madwilliamflint
    @madwilliamflint Před 2 lety +174

    Man I love your vids. Every time. It's insane. I wish you'd stop "apologizing" for not being an Expert. Who are the experts? Academicians who study the theory? Or the people who hit the road with this stuff in their life for real and improve the lives of people around them through their example?
    You haven't improved my life. That would be silly. But you've sure given me a bunch of tools and encouragement to do it my self.
    o7

    • @VimblesArt
      @VimblesArt Před 2 lety +31

      I don't think that him disclaiming that he's not an expert is a bad thing, if we're truly honest: nothing is for certain.
      He's just aware of the things he does and doesn't know and i find that very admirable. Especially considering that truly, mental health tips don't universally work for everyone.
      So basically: nobody is an expert and everyone needs to find their own path. He's just here to tell us what has worked for him

    • @madwilliamflint
      @madwilliamflint Před 2 lety +2

      @@VimblesArt I REALLY think he's selling himself short.

    • @riledmouse4677
      @riledmouse4677 Před 2 lety +3

      One of the smartest people I’ve ever worked with told me early in my career not trust anyone who calls themselves an expert, and it’s proven to be very solid advice.

    • @madwilliamflint
      @madwilliamflint Před 2 lety

      @@riledmouse4677 *nods* It's an easy one. You should have to tell someone you're an expert.

    • @jamesaritchie1
      @jamesaritchie1 Před 2 lety

      What you say sounds very, very logical, but it's pure, low IQ nonsense.

  • @B14NK
    @B14NK Před 11 měsíci +1

    I've rewatched this video so many times and I'm still catching new things

  • @dralbertpakin8895
    @dralbertpakin8895 Před 6 měsíci

    I started journaling . I had done for years but stopped. The best thing about journaling is that there is no wrong or right way to do so. IT's up to you and no one can judge you or it.

  • @waschell1
    @waschell1 Před 2 lety +16

    I'm a licensed counselor and always felt kind of lame telling people to journal like, "really?" lol because it sounded so simplistic but now I can share this vlog to show just how profound it can be! Thank you, you Rock!

  • @jakesheath8382
    @jakesheath8382 Před 2 lety +17

    Your videos on relatable self improvement have been a turning point in my life. I felt like I was stagnating at uni, my friends were all getting government jobs, my girlfriend graduated as a doctor and I felt like I couldn’t get my sh*t together. I was felt like a pathetic loser who wanted to make music all day.
    Since your videos I have started journalling, feel inspired by life again and I’m on a strong uni trajectory whilst balancing a music career.
    You are an absolute legend!
    Keen for the book!
    Stay awesome

  • @jazzyjamvs1125
    @jazzyjamvs1125 Před rokem +4

    i love this dude. you can tell how journalling really helps by his example.

  • @georginatrousas8040
    @georginatrousas8040 Před rokem +5

    You are my new favourite person! Finally, someone on CZcams who speaks factually and provides real and relatable struggles, and does it in such a wonderful, funny, serious and creative way. I'm so grateful for finding this channel

  • @Exhibit_my_Tidbit_of_Cheese

    Growing up I got diagnosed with bipolar type two. I ignored that illness for 3 years, granted I took my medicine, but I did emotionally accept it until recently this year. When you came out and said " I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder" it nearly brought me to tears. I was so happy that someone that I highly look up to has the disorder and can talk so freely about it. I can only name one famous person (Kanye west) who has the disorder, but I don't see him as a role model or as someone special to me. So, thank you, you are an amazing person and I look up to you.
    -Mckayla

  • @belifuna
    @belifuna Před 2 lety +16

    This is amazing! I usually do the brain dump method of journaling but sometimes don’t feel like doing that. It’s awesome to have different prompts to get the juices flowing.

  • @sbonfiglioli
    @sbonfiglioli Před 2 lety

    I am a lifelong procrastinator and I need this. I'm so tired of telling myself I'm going to be productive one day, only to end up doing nothing. My goal for 2020 is to journal every single day (even if it's only a few pages). I'm starting today. I'll see you in a year!

  • @KN510
    @KN510 Před 2 lety

    I tried a travel journal. “We did this, we went there, there, there, that…” I bored myself. I wasn’t capturing the surroundings, I wasn’t sharing the history, or why we even went there. It was just a description to a photo I probably took. Even my personal journals rambled the same. Now I ask myself questions. I brainstorm, I reflect and I keep pushing myself forward. Of course, I do add the boring stuff, so I can remember the memory!

  • @nayacmaynor
    @nayacmaynor Před 2 lety +4

    "Rehearsing tragedy" I felt that.

  • @JeffNixonComedy
    @JeffNixonComedy Před 2 lety +30

    My journals always devolve into doodles…doodles of a guy journaling, that is ;)

  • @hidden_trax
    @hidden_trax Před 2 lety +16

    I've slept on journalling, and I think it's time I wake up. Gave the first one a try, the mind dump, and it amazes me how easy it was to get rid off sudden thoughts. Also, that part I read in your book too, and that was an action I immediately took after reading it, wrote every single thought I had in my head into MS Word and BOOM, it became more of a quiet place than ever. Keep it up dude!

  • @GrubsAreTough
    @GrubsAreTough Před 6 měsíci +1

    My life has hit a point where it’s never been harder to think and function. This is going to help me start my journaling journey in hopes of better days. Thank you for this.

  • @beads2yarn
    @beads2yarn Před 2 lety +31

    That was so useful and enjoyable I watched it twice to make notes, then ordered your book. I am so looking forward to seeing it.. thank you for sharing 🙋🏻

  • @lorimcconnell9737
    @lorimcconnell9737 Před 2 lety +41

    Just preordered your book for my son - he’s going through a lot right now. Thank you so much for everything you’re doing and I’m so glad you were able to turn your life around - you are quite an inspiration! Keep up the great work!

    • @jojoco6737
      @jojoco6737 Před 2 lety +5

      I hope your son is doing better! You are a great Mom. Tell him to stay strong! Im praying for you Both. God Bless.

  • @thatghana
    @thatghana Před 2 měsíci

    Just started journaling, commenting for the CZcams algorithm gods. And this video is simply amazing.

  • @sketchypeoplepdx
    @sketchypeoplepdx Před 5 měsíci +1

    Keeping a journal is key to health! Thanks for these amazing tips! I haven't touched the bottle in nearly a decade and journaling has been such a great constant of a healthy mind-set.

  • @Jessica-df9js
    @Jessica-df9js Před 2 lety +9

    I took the first step today and spoke to a professional about my mental health. We were talking about journalling and I was really curious how to structure it for it to have the best effect. Timing on this video is excellent for me. Thank you. Love your work and pre-ordered your book :)

  • @RealJamieBarclay
    @RealJamieBarclay Před 2 lety +9

    Most people live the same day over and over again on repeat. Journaling allows you to break the bad cycle, improve your thoughts, and take back control of your life. Love from a small youtuber 💙

  • @Fillup82
    @Fillup82 Před 2 měsíci

    Your episode on the art of manliness talking about this is absolute gold. Highly recommended 👍🏻

  • @itswhatever477
    @itswhatever477 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Finally found someone who actually explains how to journal thank you for your time bro 🙏🙏

  • @rawkrXbabee
    @rawkrXbabee Před 2 lety +6

    You're literally the older brother I've always wanted. I get so happy every time I see a video of yours pop up on my feed :)

  • @spinsterpunk
    @spinsterpunk Před 2 lety +15

    Thanks for this @struthless I needed a non cottagecore clusterf***ks guide to journals

  • @ulalaFrugilega
    @ulalaFrugilega Před 2 lety

    A Beatles Quote! Lovely! Now I got "A Day in Life" in my head, and I’m glad!

  • @jveenem
    @jveenem Před rokem

    I've been journaling for over 50 years. I don't do it as focused as you, no set up questions. I just write whatever. I found when I was circling the drain I did it faster on paper. I got wacked out on paper what I was wacked out about in the first place. But when I was comeing to grips with something it seemed to help me do it. So it was both positive and negative. In general I'm glad I do it. Lately I do two sorts of journals one bullet journal where I just write down a word or two of what I've done with a word or so of how I feel about that, really sparse but I cover everything, even what I did in the bathroom or what I had to eat. And the other one is just me talking to myself or the world full out. The first is enourmously calming. When I feel I've done nothing I know better because I've got it all written down. And in the second I get everything figured out... tho it usually doesn’t change my behavior one bit. If you really know why you do something do you really think you'll change? Freud thought that... at first... by the end he knew better, there’s something in us not just unconscious but inacessible. We are just who we are. Oh, and my writing got better... but I don't have much use for that. Peace :-)

  • @stringbbeans
    @stringbbeans Před 2 lety +3

    I always find myself only journaling when bad things happen (to rant haha) so thank you for all the prompts! You provided so many, I'm excited to start journaling and reflecting again.

  • @sarahroberts8110
    @sarahroberts8110 Před 2 lety +18

    Never been compelled to comment on a video before, but wow. I’ve shared this with several people as well. First time a CZcams suggested video has been so completely and utterly bang on. Communicated so well, great suggestions that have never been explained in such a pragmatic way to me. Watched this twice yesterday, and have done several of the techniques you’ve suggested today. 🤯😊😎 I feel the best I have in ages. Thank you. 👏🤜👌

  • @luhan5123
    @luhan5123 Před rokem +2

    This video is so good and one has to have such balls to be honest with oneself to do it, I will definitely do this and I hope you're doing even better every time bcause you deserve it

  • @borbitol
    @borbitol Před rokem +1

    God, that's the best journaling guide on CZcams. Thank you so much for your fresh ideas.

  • @MindBodySoul_FIT
    @MindBodySoul_FIT Před 2 lety +7

    Wow, this is so insane. I had never considered anything about journaling to help my anxiety until yesterday. I was thinking of ways of how to write down my overwhelming thoughts. I just now sat down for my lunch break, and turned on CZcams. This was the very first video that came in my recommendations. Either something of greater power is watching over us, or our phones have started listening to our thoughts:) great video!!

  • @michellewhatsherface2749
    @michellewhatsherface2749 Před 2 lety +6

    I can finally write something in my several empty journals lying around. I get anxiety whenever I sit down and try to write something. I never know what I’d like to write down but this video gave me such a nice direction. I enjoyed it so much I just pre-ordered your book. I can’t wait to own a copy, I cherish every book I add to my library very much. Thank you for helping people with this and sharing your experiences. I’m glad you’re in a better place now. Bless you ♥️

  • @julias6971
    @julias6971 Před rokem +1

    The last question is really great. At one point I made a list in my notes app called “Things I would do if I couldn’t be stopped” and realised that, at varying degrees, I could do those things, and they weren’t as unattainable as my brain had me think.

  • @slingerfrancis4674
    @slingerfrancis4674 Před 2 lety

    this, like so many of your videos is absolute gold man. thank you!

  • @drranger4210
    @drranger4210 Před 2 lety +37

    I absolutely love love love this! I'm a therapist and have always given journal prompts because I know how anxiety-producing it can be to just sit before a blank page! I'm loving your categories and definitely plan to integrate that concept into my work.... is there a way to credit you?

  • @aysedemirci2092
    @aysedemirci2092 Před 2 lety +6

    Man it's been such a blessing to have access to this type of content. Thank you for offering tools that have such a positive impact, especially for people that are struggling with severe mental health issues and don't have the financial means to see a licensed therapist.
    I'm supposed to work on my thesis, but have been heavily struggling with getting my PTSD symptoms under control. Dissociating has been the only coping mechanism to help me get through the day, but I believe that trying some of these techniques will immensely help me to make my situation a whole lot more manageable.
    Again, I can't thank you enough!

  • @OmillioLondon
    @OmillioLondon Před 8 měsíci +1

    Amazing video! Right on time. Thank you!

  • @KA-vr4uu
    @KA-vr4uu Před 5 měsíci

    Excellent and clearly outlined. Thank you for this.

  • @ryancoomber5709
    @ryancoomber5709 Před 2 lety +10

    Struth. thank you for this. I really needed this today. I will start journaling with the help of your advice.
    I wish you the best

  • @michaelaback3674
    @michaelaback3674 Před 2 lety +14

    Another great video! I love the actionable advice (because "journal about it" is overwhelming in itself for me!) and your homour as always. Pre-ordered the book because it seems right up my alley :)

  • @isabellsnape8165
    @isabellsnape8165 Před rokem

    I just really love how candid you are.

  • @rachelparker6739
    @rachelparker6739 Před rokem

    i got into your videos recently and i really appreciate your content! i ordered your book and im really stoked to read it

  • @noniew0lf
    @noniew0lf Před 2 lety +9

    So excited for this, you’re incredible 🥰

  • @athertondrenth
    @athertondrenth Před rokem +3

    Loved this! Boy, you really nailed it! Journaling is such a lifesaver and you have definitely taken it to a whole new level of deep introspection!

  • @dannycage88
    @dannycage88 Před rokem

    Thank you for the insights and congrats on the book! 💯🙏🏽

  • @codedcarla
    @codedcarla Před rokem

    god im so thankful i found ur channel idk how i lived 19 yrs without it

  • @lilsun
    @lilsun Před 2 lety +9

    ahhh!! im so excited for your book! love your videos. you've totally made it possible for me to get out of funks and pursue my passions 🥺💗 i love you so so much and have a great day today! 💗

  • @TrevorDyck
    @TrevorDyck Před 2 lety +3

    What an absolute MOUNTAIN of gold insights you've shared here. Thank you. Also can't wait for the book.

  • @kathleenprescott6227
    @kathleenprescott6227 Před 2 lety

    Love this video I’m all in to your channel!

  • @overthemoo
    @overthemoo Před 2 lety +1

    I appreciate that you give a good amount of examples for the less familiar techniques. It’s a figurative push or nudge to get going, which is something I often need - even for the most basic assignments.

  • @55springflower
    @55springflower Před 2 lety +3

    This is amazing! Thank you for putting this into the world. I will be watching this multiple times.

  • @jaimetan
    @jaimetan Před 2 lety +4

    Loved these journal prompts, taking notes here! And CONGRATS on the book, how exciting!! 🙌❤️🙌

  • @normaldean
    @normaldean Před 2 lety

    Great video my dude! Absolutely love your energy

  • @macallisterbennett8115
    @macallisterbennett8115 Před rokem +1

    So good to see your channel thriving. I love your videos so much.

  • @carolg.5313
    @carolg.5313 Před 2 lety +6

    Love this channel and this video. Haven’t journaled in a while and I’m happy to have some new techniques! Thanks so much!!❤️😁

  • @sierrarobinson4447
    @sierrarobinson4447 Před 2 lety +3

    I ordered your book the first time you mentioned the presale months ago. I'm so excited to dig in!

  • @BigioBio
    @BigioBio Před rokem

    Kudos to you! Wishing you all the best!

  • @chantalt5912
    @chantalt5912 Před rokem

    Love your videos. Honest and real!!! Thank you!!