How social media makes us unsocial | Allison Graham | TEDxSMU
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- čas přidán 9. 11. 2014
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Social Media historian Allison Graham offers a witty and ironic view of a society that feels alone together despite the hundreds of virtual connections we have online. With a global population growing up via Facebook and Twitter and a perceptible shift in human interpersonal connections, the constant need for social self-validation permeates our daily existence. This talk shares the funny and revealing insights of a life lived online and how social media is used to connect and disconnect us.
A graduate of Southern Methodist University, Allison has worked all over the country and globe bringing the written word to life on the big screen.
Allison has worked for Artisan Entertainment, Universal Studios, Paramount Pictures, Warner Brothers, New Line Cinema, 20th Century Fox, Miramax and Dreamworks SKG as Assistant Director, Production Manager, and Producer working with such titans as Jerry Bruckheimer, Michael Bay, Timur Bekmamvetov and Tim Burton.
She was one of the key business strategists behind The Blair Witch Franchise marketing campaigns, leading the team responsible for revolutionizing the way the Internet and film marketing were viewed.
Allison enjoys cooking from scratch, bicycle rides on flat terrain, conga lines and diving boards.
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how many people want to stay away from social media so they are watching this like me?
Thank you all so much for watching and sharing! I appreciate all of the comments.
I am a high schooler who has deleted all my social media. I realized that my "friends" who would like and comment on my photos would never talk to me in real life. Whenever I came up to them they would always be on their phones, and, when they were not, they were complaining about how boring and sad their life is. The way that you are happy, in my opinion, is to maintain your own hobbies and have close friends whom you would trust with your life. When I was on social media, I realized that I had lost both of those aspects. I wouldn't focus on making myself happy. Instead, I would focus on seeing how I compared myself to others. I dont know how else to say this, but having that sort of aspect to life is stupid. There is nothing to be proud of when all you are doing is getting likes from fake friends. That doesn't make you happy, and it doesn't make others happy, either. I am optimistically hoping that, some day, these social media apps will die off so we can return to being like normal humans. Communicating. Working together. Making Friends. Things that used to seem so easy, but, now with social media as a distraction, have become much less so. Anxiety in high school is caused by social media, so the best thing you can do for yourself is get rid of it.
I deleted all my social media a week ago. My friend asked me: 'Why would you do that? How are you going to survive?
I HAD a close friend that would text me for hours everyday. Then I noticed that she avoided being in my physical presence even for a few minutes. I let her go
One of my regrets in life
When deleting my social media 2.5 years ago, I realised two things:
This is why I miss the 80's, and 90's before the internet, and social media became so mainstream. Most people back then had integrity, and respect for self, and each other. We also had no choice but to interact with each other. I still have a home phone with a built-in answering machine.
The fact is, socializing is a part of our nature, humans are supposed to communicate that’s a part of who we are. Although when we do socialize we find people who are toxic to us, but this will happen to everyone so you can’t just be alone because you have ran into a few toxic people. Running into these people will just teach you lessons and better you, try to stay positive about everything and don’t be negative about lessons you have learned.
Its crazy, the thing thats suppose to connect us makes us lose connection
I'am 21, i got into social media when I was 13. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Now that i'am aware of the situation, im saying goodbye to social media.
I liked the comment about people posting pics from parties that those viewing might not have been invited to. Worst for that is wedding pictures: they could so easily have uploaded them to a group for guests only, yet they post to their own wall- "Here's some snaps of our amazing wedding last week (useful if you weren't given permission to actually attend)". I imagine that causes some real sadness and feelings of exclusion because it's such an important event. It's either just so lazy to post them on your own wall, or, even worse, narcissistic. If people aren't close enough to invite to your wedding, why do you want them to see your photos?
I disconnected from social media over two months ago, which is not long at all, and am happier for it. Seeing people unable to toast a round of drinks, eat a meal or fussing over the perfect duckface selfie just for social media were among different reasons why I had enough. Other people find joy in social media that I can’t. Different strokes and all that.
I miss the late 90's early 00's, when we only had flip phones. Being able to reach someone at all times, or being to able to get help because you have a flat tire are great things. The other stuff? Most of it is unnecessary. Although I do like the live traffic maps.
I'm so glad this woman decided to give this talk. It's insane, I've been thinking this for the longest. I'm thinking about deleting all social media and just texting and calling again. It's too much for me.
I gave it all up. I realized how many times I felt the urge to check Instagram or Facebook. My friends didn't agree with my decision but oh well.
Many of us do not realize what we miss throughout our lives, for example, to enjoy more moments with our family and friends or school, if we do not give more time to be on the cell phone and we do not pay attention to people.
Thanks for the upload! Social media is so sad. I have learned it, have found myself addicted up to a point and you must put it away. It completely keeps us from engaging the real world. Looking around, breathing the air, being in the moment, etc. Wouldn't it be something to walk into a public space and actually see people talk to each other or be reading a book.
I've been Unplugged for years. Great speech! Bring Back Pay Phones.
Social media is not social. It’s just a traffic sharing network.