How To Forgive
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- Social life couldn’t continue if we didn’t have some capacity for forgiveness. We need to flex our forgiveness muscles more regularly though - and the best way to do so is to remember how much we’ve needed others to forgive us in the past.
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“It can be so hard to forgive because - so often - we simply are in the right and the scale of the folly, thoughtlessness and meanness of others seems utterly beyond our own measure. But there are two inviolable ideas which should nevertheless, in the face of the grossest behaviour, be kept in mind to increase our chances of cutting others a little slack…”
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Forgiveness is not about them, forgiveness is for yourself. It is about letting go of anger and resentment that fester inside you.
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The last sentence...........that's it
That’s not forgiveness, that’s letting go.
That’s not forgiveness that’s letting go. I don’t want that. I want to be at peace with the other person and i want them to know what they did is something we can put under a bridge and move on together. It’s for the the both of us not just me.
@@Gregory-the-small I disagree. Forgiveness is truly not about the person that hurt you. It’s about you and you only. Allowing someone back into your life is called regaining their trust, not forgiveness. You can forgive people and not have them in your life.
It's really hard to forgive when the person who did you wrong was the person you've trusted most of your life with.
I hear you, does that include self. A genuine question, I wish you well 🙏
Lemme guess your dad left you
Nomadicwhale374 wow
I know it is hard!!
But, we should remember that if we want to be forgiven....that we must do it for another person who hurts us 🙏😊
Like ur mom n ur dad
"To forgive is to understand the origins of evil and cruelty."
Masquerola These origins exist in all of us... Similar to Augustines Belief of Original Sin.
Nah man the reason my friend isn't forgiving me is the fact he knows i was born autistic. He understands why i do it and he knows i'll do it again because of it.
Masquerola Beyond truth.
There are 7 billion people around us. Most people are leaving in cities with more than 100,000 population. Why someone should spend the time and effort to forgive someone and not just moving one with another. Making new relationships is much faster than rebuilding damage ones and also, to me, more exciting. It enhance the person's social capabilities, connections and interaction.
That's true, but forgiveness helps you learn and helps strengthen relationships deeper. I'd rather have one meaningful and deep relationship with someone (romantic or platonic) than 10 new relationships.
Forgiveness is an act of compassion. It's not done because the person deserves it, it's done because they need it.
Dude this is beautiful
I usually have no problem forgiving someone who apologizes and personally I have no problem realizing my own mistakes and apologizing for them if they've hurt someone. It's the bastards who don't own up to their mistakes, that I can't forgive.
me, a thousand times me, people dont tend to understand this
Or the ones who give a sarcastic apology
I hear you, but then are you not held hostage by the behaviour of others?
Simple, don't resent in first place. Don't give privilege to anything to disturb your inner peace. Rise awareness of how short life is and how precious every moment is.
I completely agree
Forgiveness makes you so much stronger and brave than those who hurt you and those who give in to hate and vengeance.
I wish they discussed more of what forgiveness actually is. Part of the reason find it so difficult is because forgiveness is a concept that is never really defined so a lot of people think that it is a turning a blind eye to a person's behaviors/habits and shrugging, "Nobodies perfect". The fact of it is, if a person is toxic to you, you can keep them out of your life and still forgive them.
The problem is that a person might be toxic to your for the exact reason that you try to keep them out of your life. And then it just becomes a vicious circle. Sometimes you need to confront the fear of being hurt in order to save both of you. Of course the devil lies in the details. So it might be different in every situation. But it happens very often that way I just detailed.
Agree. Could have been a much longer episode. And perhaps some things can not be forgiven and that is also OK
I can keep people out of my life and NOT forgive them, many do in fact.
Let's say there is a situation in which that person needs you. Helping them out despite what they've done to you is a sign of forgiveness. That doesn't mean condening their past actions, it means not punishing them in the present for their past mistakes.
Every School of Life video is like a mini-therapy session
Well hey there! IF YOU want to be a better person,if you're looking for confidence, advantage, social skills, whatever it is you want to improve on, I make videos on it. *Come to my channel.*
Life Starter Pack bollox
Life Starter Pack dude your channel is great!
@@GreatJobTy and dab
A much needed one...
To forgive is to understand the origins of evil and cruelty. And someday, we will need to be forgiven.
I'm working on forgiving A LOT of people. My parents in particular. I suppressed practically everything, but it still hurts to think about. It's time to move on.
Forgive them and move on.
I'm in the same process. Good luck.
Same here
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But how?
please school of life, could you guys do a video about how to forgive yourself? i think that forgiving a mistake or someone is not that hard, but forgive myself for any sort of error, forgiving me for making horrible choices, for my lack of experience with people... and mostly to stop torturing myself
Hello Danillo. You can be sure that we all share those problems. These two videos from this channel may help too:
1. Self Compassion
2. Overcoming Bad Inner Voices
I wish you all the best:-)
im crying, i thought nobody would actually read or reply to me, thank you so much!
You are very welcome:-) Under the " Overcoming Bad Inner Voices" video, I wrote a comment with a list of things that helped me. If you wish you can take a look at it. You may also like " The Book of Life" website. That's the brain of this channel. There they have an excellent article called " On Stress and Inner Voices". You can also subscribe to that website. They always have very helpful ideas! Have a nice evening:-)
Treat yourself the same way you would treat a friend. If a friend came to you with their troubles or problems, you would probably be kind to them, right? Treat yourself the same way. You deserve to be forgiven like anybody else.
All the more reason to treat yourself like one.
I used to think forgiving was allowing someone to trample over you. People want to be forgiven for their most heinous crimes even if their not aware of it, but for some ppl it's just expected, and I didn't like it. However. By not forgiving you trample over yourself and add to your own burdens. After a while, it gets heavy.
Not forgiving and continuing to hold a grudge is to allow the other person's actions to continue to affect you... it's to give those actions much more power over you. To forgive is to let go.
This video is very lop sided. one does not need to be angry to hold another accountable ie hold a grudge. There are pitfalls of bodies in Central and South America. To not vow enmity toward any one of the individuals that created the death pits is an act of immorality.
You are right. Heinous actions... if brought to justice... may even be forgiven. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Except with stealing a Mario kart victory on the final lap. There is no forgiveness.
But actually a great video!
The evils committed in Mario Kart, Mario Party and Monopoly can never be forgiven. :P
As with Uno.
Well said.
lol i never got an apology
me neither.
but it's strangely comforting (because it allows me to forgive them)
to realize
that the same ways they were so broken
that they acted that way in the first place
are the ways in which
they are so broken, they can't apologize either.
That's a LOT of brokenness.
I feel badly for their inability to grow 'even just that much'.
And it reminds me of how blessed (or fortunate) I am
as someone who isn't quite that broken.
James Apperson I'm sorry to hear that :-)
catfish69 you don't need an apology to forgive someone. ☺️ You don't even have to tell them that you forgave them. You just have to accept it in your heart and let go of it.
sometimes you don't get one , you just forgive them and move on
Jenny Ochoa When you do that, who are you forgiving for then? For yourself? Or for the other person?
I love your videos. They're like a warm hug.
Amrit Mehta I grately agree
Amrit Mehta that sounds about right.
:D
Tan Jin Yi hahaha agreed. Hence the need for school of life videos :D
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I was tossing, and turning last night, because of this. I can't bring myself to forgiving a family member...omg I woke up like 4 times, and couldn't sleep. Thank you, I know I have to deal with this. Perfect timing
*Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.* *-Buddha*
*Sometimes it seems hard to forgive, but we have to forgive to move on!*
*personal development videos sub goal 248/250*
Why forgive when you won’t get rewarded in the afterlife that doesn’t exist.
Thank you for the quote. You inspire me
Snookpike
for your own well-being!
Forgive and move on? Sure! Let's acquit the Nazis while we're at it too!
Today I tried to speak about forgiveness to someone who wasn’t ready to talk about it. What a terrible mistake, all I got was insult and resentment... Lesson learned.
Dude same. They told me I was victim blaming?
We may find it hard to forgive but to be able to forgive someone is the nicest feeling we could ever feel in our life. It makes us feel peaceful and harmonious. This video helps in showing us how to forgive people who caused us too much pain.
Not it doesn't
it is ok to forgive but not to forget because those are lifes lessons
That's fine, also because you have no control over forgetfulness. that's your memory and you remember the important thongs. Forgiveness is an attitude you have towards someone in you future encounters.
But at what point do we separate a person's upbringing to be the cause of calamity and the person's own personal agendas?
Where does responsibility for their own actions begin
Irenic Cryogenic exactly my point. Just because somebody's has had a certain background, you should forgive? That's convenient.
I think what they’re trying to say is that the reason doesn’t matter, make one up; forgiving is for you and not them.
forgiving may not always be moving on. sometimes to move on you need to say and do things for the effect of it, to express yourself, to explain to the other, to teach a lesson etc. the hard part is to do this outwardly while keeping the love and forgiveness intact on the inside. this method too is not without its dangers. others judge through what is apparent, the behavior, to make your intent apparent one also needs to be in touch with one's motives. so hard. all this work. it's always a process and most times we react as usual because the situation doesnt have the space or time for you to reflect. tied in a knot...
The responsibility for their own actions was always theirs...
Always forgive, but never forget. Learn from your mistakes and never forget.
Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.
This is helpful in a sitation when the other person has, on their own accord, acknowledged that that have disappointed you in some way and they regret it. It seems more pervasive now in our society that the general stance is "I don't have to apologize for anything, especially to you, etc....". It made for good drama on reality TV but not so much in real life. I think we have all heard the apology "I'm sorry you feel that way" where the inflicter is unable to understand that they have wronged you. When do we call someone out and when do we let it go? We've all probably experienced covert narcissism where the perpetrator believes since it wasn't their intention to hurt you, they are not accountable for hurting you. What is the best way to handle that situation. And can it be the overly-critical person that may be demanding too many apologies when they should be more accepting of peoples shortcomings or are they not shortcomings at all, hence the exhaustive criticism. So many questions.
Thank you for attempting to shed rational, humanistic, peaceful light on them School of Lifers. It's very helpful.
the lessons of school of Life should be adopted in the curriculum of our school education . who agrees?
this video is so soothing
his voice is shooting :)
Zahlen Punkten shooting who?
Zahlen Punkten yes I love "shooting" voices
Raees Ali same
@Amir Elam
eheheh LOL
my grammar is on the point :P
The best way to learn to forgive is to relinquish the burden of judging humanity for its flaws. You work with and through flaws to improve, but you don't have to apply a value to them. No one is perfect and a human experience is a learning experience which requires failure. Human failure is the process.
but so many of us become so resistant to change and learning, to improving and growing. we hide in privilege, cozy in our uncomfortable comfort zones because we are habitual and tolerant to it. forgiveness is one part of the communication we have with others when there is a clash and it should not be applied like a universal virtue. it is the unforgiveness, the anger, the rage that fuels revolutions apart from the love of something. i have to say that justice can exist beside forgiveness but it's a hard place to reach.
@@CassandraAveolii 👏 well fucking said!
Its easier for me to forgive others, but the harder thing is to forgive myself for all the lies and harm I have done to myself and people I love. Sometimes I feel trapped, and my self-hate prevents me from doing anything.
Real
I'm watching this video to learn to forgive myself.
I did this for someone for 5 years. seeing both, their up bringing and my own imperfections, forgiving over and over. He just took advantage of it...
Forgiveness is valuable when it is given, even if the person didn't apologize. it sets you free from negativity such as bitterness. it allows room for positive changes in your life.
this is a lesson I've learned as I get older. Everyone is a product of their environment. Therefore being a mature person means acknowledging that and working to understand why people have come to be the way they are, and forgiving them for it.
I've been angry my whole life and I blamed everyone else, from my mother abandoning me, my divorce, my father's suicide, backstabbed by friends and the list goes on and on...then I found humility and realized they weren't the problem, I was. I'm the worthless shite who didn't deserve parents, a family of my own, to be included into a circle of friends or have happiness of any kind. Once I accepted that I was the one who didn't belong I accepted myself, failures, flaws etc. and I was able to forgive everyone, even myself since I refuse to give in to any suicidal thoughts. I also have voices in my head (psychosis), they treat me like crap and tell horrible lies but at least they keep me company so I can forgive them. Problem is, nobody ever forgives me, even for things I didn't do. I try to be nice, friendly and positive but people just say I'm creepy and make them uncomfortable. That's all I have to say about that.
Not your fault. dont blame yourself like that. The events you cited can be really traumatic and harmful.
I hope nothing but the best for you and a very happy future! Never give up on yourself. Let time do its thing
I've always been a weird person, even as a child I've never been able to connect or interact with other humans unless they were social outcasts and weird themselves. There's a disconnection with reality, like I'm a ghost, as if the universe is telling me I shouldn't exist, then I realize it's just my voices fuckin' with me again. At least I have a sense of humour.
+HUMAN FELLA
Hello there. I am so sorry to hear all that... But you can be sure that it isn' your fault. Nobody who had been abandoned by a mother can end up being normal. We are all disturbed in one way or another. I am so sorry about the voices in your head. There is a TED Talk called " The voices inside my head" by Eleanor Longden. I am sure it would help. There is also a website from the " International Hearing Voices Network". They have a forum and they help each other a lot. Don't isolate yourself and look for help. You aren't responsible for anything that had been done to you. I wish you so well.
The voices in your head head are demons. They found open doors to come in through all the abuse, hurt and suffering. You have to command them to go and cast them out in Jesus name, that's the only solution. Give your life to Jesus, start searching, watching videos about salvation and deliverance, ask him to reveal himself to you. You will be perfectly new and healed in Jesus name.
The hardest thing is to forgive someone completely, you can understand that person and still not completely forgive it
this is so useful. ive been practicing, when annoyed at flaws in others, acknowledging the seeds of them in myself
I just felt like watching this video because of the voice. It makes my life feels whole for a minute or two, without the need of stressing things out of or into my world. Everything is at its place and I neither can change anything nor shall I.
"Don't try to take the speck out of your neighbours eye when you still have a plank in your own eye." - Jesus of Nazareth
What if you have a plank in your pants?
Sweet video.
Remember this..let go of ego...don't have expectations. Live within yourself. Don't let yourself affected in a bad way by something outside of you..
These kind of videos make me a better person
Within forgiveness lies freedom.
"We need to forgive because not right now not over this, but one day over something we might need to be forgiven."
Forgiveness for a person must be genuinely felt, otherwise you don't actually forgive them.
So true , i tried to forgive my ex but i am just incapable of feeling that i did. So i am accepting now that i will Always hate him and wish him the worse.
Every day, I think of how people have trampled upon me while I was a child and most of my teenage years. I was made fun of, insulted, abused and hated by people who pretended to love me. I have forgiven them but it still pains me because I kept shut about it, I let it sink into me without even saying anything. Now am 19 and I realize my mistake, I should not have been scared to speak out when I was hurting. Maybe that's what gave me anxiety and depression and made me a stutterer, am not sure but I've learned from my mistakes through the hard way and I will one day be the person I am meant to be. if anyone can reply to me, that will be great
Hi Don. I just read your reply after watching this video . I am sorry about all you've been through in your young life. Please know that I care. It's been 5 years since you posted your comment. I'm wondering how you're doing and I really, truly hope you reply. Hugs.❤
While I completely agree with this, the most important part of forgiving someone is being sure that other person is truly sorry and has really grasped the magnitude of the damage done. There's no point on forgiving someone if that person just keeps doing the same crap over and over again.
"There are difficult things about you too." That's deep🤔
how do you know when to upload/release the appropriate video at the exact right time. much needed. thank you!!!
Looking at the self and how each and every one of us have hurt someone at some point in our lives (no matter how "subtle" or slight it was) really helps with the forgiveness process. A great point to bring up! All of us are not perfect and so we should not expect perfection from others. We should, instead, let the hurts that we experience help us reflect back at ourselves/our own behavior to improve and aim to never be the same way onto others.
“Right now, you shouldn’t seek forgiveness - seek help, get it, turn into a better person - people will learn to forgive over time. Once you do something, you can never immediately ask for someone’s forgiveness. You have to prove to them that you deserve it. And this is your redemption now, you’ve got to work yourself out.”
-Some guy
I had no idea how much I needed this... Not to forgive others, but to forgive myself. When he listed all those bad things about me, I felt liberated, felt that I was allowed to be this way. And it has been the world over my shoulders for maybe years now. I've always found some error or weakness to feel very quilty about. Especially everything that has to do with children, because I know how easily they take things to heart and get traumatized. And I've done those mistakes because of my own traumas and insecurities, maybe passing on traumas to others. But I know that's how it generally goes. It's the standard to do wrong when you have been done wrong, without even thinking about it. To break out of that cycle, is being a hero. It's not a requirement; you lived regardless of your traumas, others will probably too. It's not that you shouldn't care or be sorry for the things that you've done wrong, but you don't have to mourn in it forever. Things used to be so black and white, and they haven't changed, but with more understanding, comes more pain, and you have to learn to cope with painful things and go on with your life. You have to accept that, even if you repeat all the mistakes that you hated when the adults from your youth did them, you are still good enough. But you can aim to do better.
Jesus I needed to hear this more than anything and I didn't even realise until after I watched it.
Holding onto anger is like having a weight chained to your ankle that holds you down. In order to grow in life and soar, we must forgive others, not for the sake of them, but for the sake of us. Wonderful video! Thanks for sharing and helping people to live full out!
YOU, yes you! Stop scrolling down to read comments and actually watch the video till the end ;)
Very good take, the quote " to forgive is to understand the origins of evil and cruelty"
Being able to understand why someone has committed wrong to you and understanding what made him that way, doesn't take away the pain that you suffered for many years, the wasted opportunities, lost relationships, and the damages it has caused.
I honestly don't think forgiveness is possible as long as the memories are still intact
Should do a video about sadists as well as other mental illnesses
Jay Edwards why not on phedophiles, they're people too. If they could just talk about their problem they could get help instead of a white van...
Jay Edwards I don't understand your lol you shouldn't laugh at those with a mental illness second being gay isn't a mental illness and I was suggesting stuff more like sadists and psychopaths because I myself am a sadist
There is reason behind every event. You are just saying but there is no need to point out. Let Alain do the work, you in my opinion or me is not capable yet.
Ruben Marques you're not hurting anyone being gay (even with their consent). You're constantly being frowned upon because of who you love. Loving someone regardless of their sexual orientation is not an illness.
Ruben Marques it's not who they are in this case, it's what they like.
When in our modern world, forgiveness is seen as weakness when it’s actually strength
I only watch these videos for the animation, It is too good.
I ate my roommates last burrito when he wasn’t looking. So, I cut off my pinky finger to offer him as a sign that I was truly remorseful for what I did to his Mexican dinner. It turns out eating that burrito ate me up inside more than I ate that damn burrito. He graciously accepted my digit and then threw it in the trash. It worked like a charm, we are still friends to this very day ❤❤❤
So how do i forgive someone who is a pathological liar ?
good question. forgive that person, but never trust that person
You can't! Cause Trump never apologizes.
Ramsés Amadeus lol
This video begins with the assumption that everyone is to be forgiven - regardless if they are contrite or not.
I disagree with that assumption because of Isaiah 57:15 and Psalm 51:17. See also
Luke 17: 3-4.
unless i'm missing something, the only verse that really relates there is the one from Luke which says “If your brother or sister[a] sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.” This doesn't mean that you should still trust them like if the sin is a lie, it just means that you should forgive them for it.
We all have duty to forgive, because one day we will need forgiveness from someone
What if you forgave a person multiple times yet they kept hurting you? One can only forgive so much before they close themselves off from another. Constant forgiveness can often become a recipe for unfair relationships.
Natasha Cook Not so easy if it's family.
RiceJars forgiveness doesn't mean continuing the relationship.
Forgiveness is an entirely internal process. You don't even need to tell the offending party that you have "forgiven" them if you don't want to. To forgive someone is to relieve yourself of the burden of carrying all these thoughts of anger, bitterness and resentment. That's a pretty heavy burden to carry. Once those feelings dissipate, and you realise that you no longer harbour any ill-feeling towards the other person, then you know that you have forgiven me.
@@TechReviewTom why wouldn’t you continue the relationship if you had truly forgiven them?
@@Achilles94627 truth. i realized this. i forgave my mother this year. i have said it several times before but didn't really mean it.
but now the time that i really do forgive her, i try not to announce it. but show it. actions speak louder than words
Forgiveness and resentments have always been a huge problem for me. I had so much anger and I'll will in my heart that it practically ruined my life. I went to treatment for an addiction problem and got in recovery and sober and saw a therapist and did the twelve steps. My therapist told me that resentments only hurt you not the other person. In the 12 steps it's all about letting go of character defects and bad behaviors and becoming a better person helping others. You have to write down and discuss with someone all your resentments and also your part in them if there is. Then you change what you need to and if necessary make amends. It's human for some people to retaliate or get revenge because you feel like it's justice but really it's just stooping to their level. Best thing to do is heal, protect yourself, and let karma do it's work. They'll get the wrath of other people or God. It's also good to try to understand why people are the way they are and do what they do (not condoning or justifying). It helps to have compassion then pray for them. If they change their ways that's great. That's what helps me let go of resentments and forgive others.
Thanks for Portuguese subtitles.
“Be quick to settle matters.”
The message here seems to be "Don't blame people for their actions, it's not their fault, they're not responsible for what they do, so forgive them!" Bit of a ridiculous statement.
I find myself enveloped completely by rage and hatred for someone close to me, and I am on the brink of losing it
Yeah, I do not forgive the evil people that hurt me. What they did was pure evil, and they knew exactly what they were doing. This video did not help me at all. I wish it did. But I have a list of names, and i'll look them in the eyes as their life drains away. Revenge is not sweet, it is bitter, and will leave me dead inside, and will hurt the ones I love the most. But there is true evil in the world, and only we who have had true evil afflicted upon us know what true evil is. We are the still barely living but dead inside. And as certain as death is, so is justice. A debt is owed.
preach the truth.
Perhaps you could be more specific as to what this evil was that was inflicted on you?
@Ryan McDaniels Well it might help in understanding why this person feels this way and what can be done about it.
Forgiveness Sunday is such a beautiful annual event.
what about:i forgive but don't forget,make any sense? i learned by my self to ice-skatting,i forgive the ice because i broke my ass so many times,but i don't forget it.
This. ^ what about this?
Forgiveness is an endless subject.
I wish one of those locations were in Texas.
Well said, SoL. Forgiveness and apology are a show of understanding, not weakness.
I learned to forgive by reading up on quotes by the Dalai Lama. He's full of love and I praise him because of it.
Forgive but never forget.
I absolutely love the channel but can we stop assuming that everyone is evil because of a need that wasn’t met.
Curtis McAllister - Just what I was thinking! I really like Jordan B. Peterson's talks on evil & I recommend if you haven't seen them.
Both this world and the next belong to the forgiving person. Therefore, forgiveness is considered the highest virtue.
Reading the comments; I'm rather disappointed in what I see. So many people are becoming venomous over the idea of forgiving those that wronged them, out of fear that the behaviour will repeat.
People make mistakes and, I find that, when people are constantly abandoned, unforgiven and reminded/held to said mistakes, they don't grow. They dig in their heels and marry their undesirable traits because that's all they're ever left with.
Forgiveness heals both parties and if this person meant anything to you at all, you should forgive and watch them grow.
One of the things I had to wrote in my book was that "forgiveness is soooo much more than just a choice" ... I consider it a blessing we give ourselves through thorough inner work over time ... and then hopefully our heart can oblige us with allowing the heart to fully engage its possibility.
I don't think my liver will ever forgive me.
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My ex cheated on me and I forgave her so I could be in peace with myself. "Forgiving isn't about letting the person off the hook it's about letting yourself off the hook."
I would say understanding is forgiving. The act helps the person who is finding this hard, helps them expand in goodness and grow. And ultimately to move on and let go. Then in life they can thrive. Blessings to all, I m not quite there yet!
i will never forgive anyone who hurt me
Same
"They were shaped by troubles" sums it up.
Thanks now I can forgive my mom for leaving me at birth with a note that says
*LOL GET REKT NOOB GG*
To me there is no excuse for bad behavior or being betrayed. It doesn’t matter how hard you had it or whatever happened to you. The only way you can really forgive is if the other person apologizes. How do you forgive on the basis of nothing? If the other person doesn’t apologize, the relationship changes and you accept the situation and modify how you interact within if you have to or want to
You're more or less implying that personality is all nurture and no nature. I don't think that's accurate. People can be flawed without having a historic reason which we can comprehend by moving ourselves into their shoes.
both nature and nurture can be deterministic, what is to be asked is whether there is free will involved or not. and how to communicate the mistake to the other so they can welcome being conscious of it and then choose to change or not. then ask if they are equipped enough to make the change in behavior. if not how can you help
This is about the best thing on youtube about forgiveness. I been trying to figure out a way to forgive my parents for the shitty abusive upbringing they gave me, but have found it so hard to do. Especially because it left me deeply scarred and suffering from various forms of mental illness. But I realise I can't keep shouldering this heavy weight of anger and hate I carry around with me. It's poisoning my life. I will try now to drop this now and forgive.
Dont force yourself to if it won't bring you peace
syrup anyone?
Aunt Jemima i like food
Aunt Jemima raised me
Aunt Jemima fuck yeah dude
Aunt Jemima make it extra thicc
It is just not about spreading positivity we need. We need to spread intelligence, honesty, and facts. Yes this will lead to utopian community ideally but right now this is what we need to solve our current ongoing problems in the world. School of life is already two steps above us. Learn to sense Alains objective.
I shall now comment "first" as i lack any quality joke.
You don't have to joke. Nobody is forcing you. But I forgive you.
I forgive you👉
Amen. This is grace & logic wrapped up together so quickly. I love it. Thanks 🙏
i will never forgive gabe newell for the lack of half life 3
Some things, some people, don't deserve forgivness.
Sorry, but things like infidelity cannot ever be forgiven. At least that's how I am.
Depending on severity of injury it can vary how long it takes. This week for my own subscribers I talked about forgiveness and kindness--and how it makes you better. In a nutshell forgiveness eventually sets you free--as the adage states. But what they don't tell you is it doesn't just happen the second you try it. And yes there are some things that may be unforgiveable. But the important thing--for you is that you try.
Would anybody like a cookie? 🍪
Katelyn Rose well, thanks you can have my pizza 🍕
Is that cookie gluten free?
Yes please
Or a dab?
I forgive just to find my inner peace not for them but i can never forgot the pain i felt cause of them and how they made me suffring i still have scars in my heart and soul
what a manipulative vid this is. hey, you are terrible. but don't worry, everyone is. first making you the victim of a "trauma", then you are reminded of bad things you did. and after that talk it up to give you a warm feeling. short term feeling good over the long term constant reminder of what you did wrong.
Lmao