Young Sisters Born Deaf Describe Cochlear Implant Activation, Hearing for the First Time
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On Mother's Day 2002, Dacy and Tim discovered that their first born, Callie, was born deaf. Dacy sang to Callie but found herself questioning how she could make the baby feel loved when Callie could not hear her. The first day that Callie had her cochlear implant activated, her eyes were "sparkly" with excitement and wonder. She was 12 months old. When Dacy and Tim had their second child, Lexie, they found out she also suffered from severe hearing loss. The Zacharias family verified their daughter's cochlear implant candidacy and activated her hearing implant without hesitation. In February 2005, Lexie was able to hear her parents' voices for the first time. Learn how the Zacharias family discovered sound with the help of Cochlear.
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Hearing has nothing to do with love. Even hearing babies understand love mainly through touch - being hugged, cuddled, stroked, etc. A deaf baby knows his or her parents' love in exactly the same way.
I am born deaf ....soon I am getting hearing aids ....I am so excited
Did you get them ? I know a few deaf people and just curious if this works ?
What was it like to get hearing aids?
Yayy how’s it going?
And imagine how well you’ll hear & the hearing aids look great compared 20 yrs ago! New ones look fairly visible!
I forecast that the aids will be limited in value and expensive. Good luck, the implants bypass the defects and restore to the normal hearing nerve.
I’m deaf and I got cochlear implants when I was around 7 years old.
Before I got the surgery, I used hearing aids but as my hearing got worse, they stopped helping so my parents looked for other alternatives. They had also been learning sign language at the time so they could communicate with me.
Then they found out about cochlear implants, and I want to mention that they did not force it on me. I’m extremely grateful for them as they help me navigate life easier and hear everything.
So they talked about this possibility with me, and I tell you, I wanted them without a doubt. I really wanted to hear so my parents decided to go through with the surgery. And after it, it’s been a blessing to have them because now I can talk with other people, listen in class, enjoy music, dance, and many other things.
I can see why this video would be controversial. From a person who has cochlear implants and this experience, I would say that the only thing I wish the mother had done was wait until she could ask her children if they wanted cochlear implants or not. She went through the surgery for both of them without knowing their opinions or thoughts once they got older. Maybe they wouldn’t have wanted them at all but since they already got them, they can’t do anything about it. So waiting until she got their opinions may have been a better choice.
Then I also agree with most people about it being a bit insensitive and offensive that she thought that her baby wouldn’t be able to feel her love without sound. There are many ways to express love than just hearing. Body language, acts of service, sign language, writing, etc. You can sign I love you instead of speaking it. You can read it. You can feel it. It doesn’t have to be through hearing.
Anyways, those are my opinions. I hope they were intriguing! 🤟
I'm hearing & I agree with you. More than just saying I love you & such,I'm sure,through what their family did,they would know love. Actions speak louder than words.
I am sorry, I understand what you are saying, but, it is evident from the video the girls are fine with it. I have become profoundly deaf and got bilateral cochlear and it is marvelous to hear up to normal clearly with no distortions as was with the aids. I hear insects walking. I work in cabinetry and can converse over the noise. I can see in this video the girls are thankful to hear everything with clarity.
I read your point is for them to learn sign language, which is a language, but also it is its own community. That would be fine if that is a choice. The girls have grown old enough they can still make that choice if it is their point of reference. It is better yet to have both worlds and be able to benefit from both.
that's whats been frustrating me about researching them even though im hearing, i havent been able to find someone who was born deaf and had a cochlear implant any older than 5 years old, i want to hear a mature perspective on the experience, and also an account of what hearing for the actual first time is like from someone who's at least old enough to voice their interpretation of it. i can completely understand why the deaf community would advocate for waiting until the child can make the choice.
Hello! Thank you so very much for commenting on our platform. We actually offer a blog called Hear & Now as a way for cochlear implant recipients to be able to share these types of experiences and opportunities with others. Here is a link and you will be able to find stories of adults who wrote about the perspective you are looking for there: bit.ly/3jXIcIt
@@bugglemagnum6213 I was always hearing and late in life became profoundly deaf. As you say, you would want to postpone a child to be able to hear. Give them their choice. I profoundly disagree. All the cochlear does is bypass where the deafness is occurring and restore to the same natural nerve to restore hearing to near normal as it has been for me. To cut off a child from hearing -- with the hearing, parents would be a travesty against the child and the opportunities to better learn, earlier better. It has proven its value in opening life experiences.
If later the child learns the desire for learning the deaf community, that is still their own option.
My 1 year old son is deaf and is one of he happiest babies ever, you don't need to hear to feel love, your kids weren't 'broken' there lives would still be as good if he couldn't hear. my son is perfect the way he is.
He is absolutely perfect!:)
Are you kidding? I can tell you one thing, he will grow up to know hat everyone is the same, you've just tried to bring down a year old boy.. does it make you feel good? he's PERFECT! shame your mum and dad can't say the same for you.. IDIOT
shut up you absolute idiot.. let's hope you never have a kid who is deaf. you're an absolute ridiculous fool.
I'd just like you to know, I'm 26 and deaf, my dad is 55 and deaf, my girlfriend is hearing and loves me and my son, she would also love us if we were hearing, people need to be more accepting , why should I make my son get a cochlear implant, I have a really good friend who had one and had an accident and it affected him terribly, when he's older he can decide for himself, but he will always be taught that hr is he exact same as everyone else, what about people who and are blind, what would you do to "fix" them? haven't you heard of you can't miss what you've never had? I've never been able to hear, and my life has been amazing, I've always worked, got a beautiful girlfriend and 3 amazing kids? I wouldn't change anything about my life..
so now you are saying I abuse my child? Why is it so hard for you to accept not every one is born the same? why do you think because you can hear your life is so much better ? my step grandad went deaf at very young age, then became blind at 40 year old, and when though he had his hearing and sight it hasn't made him any different from the person he was before, my best friend of 22 years became deaf at 4 year old after having meningitis, he started with hearing aids and decided he no longer wanted to use them, he spent the last 22 years deaf, has a fiancee a nice house and a brilliant job, I just don't understand why you are so judgemental about it, I are no longer going to going to reply, going to go to work, then come home and spend my night with my girlfriend and 3 kids, two who can hear and my profoundly deaf son. All 3 of my PERFECT children. I'm 26 years old and never come across anyone who has as much a problem with someone being deaf as you have. enjoy the rest of your day :)
I have a co worker who is deaf and she is the nicest woman you'll ever meet.
The mother didn't say that, she just expressed some insecurities she had about raising a hearing impaired child. I didn't hear anyone in the video say "it's impossible to express love without sound".
You are absolutely correct.
She literally said, "how am I gonna make this baby feel love when she can't hear me". @40seconds
@@charimarmartin459I made this comment like 4 years ago, I can't even see what comment I was replying to anymore. But if you were replying to me, that comment at 40 seconds is just her expressing insecurity about raising a hearing impaired child, she's not stating you 100% can't express love without sound, she communicating that she's cares about her child and is worried about knowing the best way to show it.
I'm happy they both are able to now hear with their implants and don't have to remember the surgery. They both speak amazingly well. This technology and the therapy they have been through is amazing
How well they speak... a testament to how well they work and their accuracy.
You don't need to hear to be happy, im hard of hearing and my boyfriend is deaf and we're never better
so are people who cant walk, still walking is nice to have. no one says its a bad life to live with with a disability but its nothing wrong it having it fixed. and saying to yourself its better to not hear is just the need of proving a point
@@DaxRaider Spot on
That’s true
pray for my niece,she wil be listen after choclear implant.gd
This is beautiful, absolutely beautiful. I don't know what it's like to be born deaf, but I do want to share that I know what it's like to have a hearing loss and to live with someone else who has one too. My mom has cochlear implants, specifically the Cochlear Nucleus with the Nucleus 5 processors. She got implants 8 (almost 9) years ago. She has had a hearing loss since the age of 2 which progressed further [she is 40, almost 41 now]. I have hearing aids due to a moderately-severe high frequency hearing loss, which may or may not progress. Our hearing losses are genetic. I love seeing people who have benefit from them
Do you and your mother sign? I would highly recommend learning if you don't. I know of other families that are deaf or hard of hearing and they have no communication barriers because they sign
We do sign some, we are wanting to learn more though. We do pretty well speaking with our family (I have a brother and my dad is at home with us), my dad signs but my brother doesn't. My mom hears amazingly well with her implants, considering, and I have been doing well with my hearing aids as well. Although, as I said, we are definitely wanting to learn more sign. I am also planning to take ASL as my foreign language in college.
I'm not against cochlear implant if it makes the kids happy but to say a mother can't express love without her child getting a cochlear implant is completely untrue and extremely offensive to deaf people
+Robert Nicholson (Bobby) I don't think she was saying that at all. It was her first baby and I'm sure she was confused about what to do. Unless you've been a first-time mother, it's hard to understand the fears one goes through feeling so inexperienced and inadequate.
+Judy G. Martin This isn't a documentary. This is a video made by a company that deals with deaf people all the time. This is just a ploy by the company to say you must buy a cochlear implant or your child won't feel loved by you
I realize it's not a documentary. I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree about the point the video is trying to make.
+Robert Nicholson (Bobby) not really if one girl has one the only would clearly get one thats whats is a given
Well she didn't exactly say that it wasn't possible. Maybe she just didn't know how she could and was desperate in the heat of the moment?
In terms of the controversy, there doesn't have to be one! Cochlear implants are an option for those that wish to pursue it. If people prefer to not use implants and learn ASL, that's acceptable too. What's not acceptable is criticism on both sides. Every person and situation is different and it's best to do what works for yourself rather than wasting time arguing and judging against the other side.
Absolutely correct. Spot on.
Its so sad that adults still think that they cant love a deaf child. They are still deaf if they take off their cochlear.
You are limiting what is not said. One factor is, the mother is totally only familiar with the hearing world. She is NOT limited or incapable to love the child. The cochlear has the benefit of restoring the loss of hearing only from the natural pathway. Cochlear bypasses the outer, middle, and first level of the inner ear (hair cells). Hearing is restored by accessing the same cochlear nerve to the brain where hearing is accomplished. The one limitation is the outer hair cells are still missing. My experience is, my hearing is close, very close to normal, only limited by the loss of some modulation from the missing cells. It is so great to hear the range of the normal environment and verbal interaction.
The difference is remarkable, prior to these cochlear implants I believe the only alternative was signing and speech therapy which is limited to the range of sound on the spectrum that a child or adult is able to hear. It seems as though some people don't have access to therapy even when it appears that the cochlear implants are best used in conjunction with speech and language therapy which limits the clarity of speech when they communicate.
I am also a deaf and last three months ago i god surgery of my ear for coclear implant now i can hear ❤😍
How is it working now ? Curious
May all good things come your way mom
I'm going to get a Cochlear implant Baha for my right ear... I can't hear very well in both ears due to ear infections since I was a kid... I had 2 reconstructive surgeries on my right ear but still can't hear very well... The doctor told me that I'm a perfect candidate for the Cochlear implant... I look forward to getting it when I get health insurance
They speak very well.
What beautiful twins.... best cochlear..
My son also cochlear imlant have done and he is 8 year old but he could not speak clearly we r giving therapy what to do next
Love this vídeo
I was like this I was born deaf and I had to get a surgery and I had that ball thing on my head and my mom wanted me to get another one on my other side
Hey Gracie its Ashlyn Collins
Listen to what is said rather than what you want to hear. She said she felt a sense of loss of how will she make this child feel loved when she can't hear her.
That is not the same as saying a mother can't express love without a cochlear implant. As Robert and hundreds of others took from this.
hearing is an enormous part of our lives that's a fact and NO, sign language is Not just as good. Try sign in the dark. Or try find someone who can actually sign. Few and far between. Hearing loss is significant, hard on parents and impacts lives. So finding solutions to restore hearing are important but I wish we had better solutions.
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I Luke what MED-EL dose for peaple cochlear implant i respect alot.
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They look so alike
Reading through the comments it seems that people who are part of a deaf community and advocates of deaf culture are angry about CI tech and angry at "normals", is that right? If so, is it more than just resentment at people not doing enough to accommodate you by, for example, learning sign? It sounds like there's an underlying fear of the deaf community losing numbers in the generations to come but I don't understand why the fear and anger are there.
I'm hearing & learning to sign.slow,but I'm trying. I feel CI is OK if one chooses but if not,hey,that's all good too. 👍 I do feel schools should incorporate sign language in their curriculum.
"How am I going to make this baby feel love when she can't hear me?" That is such a disgusting thing to say.
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It's an insulting and ignorant thing to say because of the entire Deaf Community. It implies that love can only be communicated orally/in and auditory fashion. and He is right, it's disgusting
Daniel Henry-Collins I'm sure that she never meant it in that way, I think she may have felt defeated and scared and a whole mix of emotions as a mother to her new baby (having never been in that situation), because maybe thats how her mother soothed her and she didn't think she would have gotten to experience it with hers.
Your an ass.... a hearing parent with no deafness in the family has NO idea their baby feels... It takes years of learning , education and intervention to realize that the deaf child will be find and loved.... the parent is also grieving the shock. If you are not deaf or CODA then as a new parent you have only fear... it takes time to learn and understand that being deaf is not something to be sad over.
Its not insulting.... if you are hearing and have no experience with deafness you have no idea of how full a deaf persons life is...the first thing I said was "wow she cant drive" ... I did not know deaf people drove and have full active lives... I had never had a deaf person in my life.... Parental shock and lack of information is not the same is being insulting.
Do they augment their communication with sign, when the girls aren't wearing their processors though? Nothing wrong with signing along with speaking too, you know. :P
Many doctors advise parents against getting a CI and using ASL it is a highly debated topic in the deaf community.
When are adults going to treat or talk to their children as their children as opposed to talking to them like they are their best friends. ? It's seems to be more of an American thing than anything else. Very happy for their children's ability to hear from this amazing advancement in technology..
Children are people. Why would they talk to them any differently? I saw a loving and respectful mother who values her children and models a respectful relationship.
I have a few friends who are deaf an very happy .not everyone can use the cochlear implant it dosnt site for all
beautiful girls :) do they sign too ?
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And this is precisely why we need to continue properly funding science and engineering research in Australia!!!
That's what parents do.
Of course the kids do the same to the parents.
sorry about your children
Your children would be EXACTLY in the same way as adorable and have a wonderful personality if they used sign language and didn't have the cochlear. I simply think it isn't fair to say that it just wouldn't be the same.....
Charimar Valentin agreed :)
+Charimar Valentin That's exactly what I've been thinking while watching this. The moment the mom said "What's the point anyway... How can I give her love when she can't even hear me?" Wow, that was a shocker...
being Deaf does not always have to be seen as a disability, and it is not the same as being blind. There is sign language and cued speech, and on top of that a whole culture of people who, when asked, would not accept any kind of hearing aid. It can be accepted and enjoyed, or alternatively a person can choose to hear, if they wish. It is their body and they can do whatever they feel matters whether you're sick of it or not.
It's not your choice, so don't even worry about it :) you're very ignorant to the possibilities and opportunities deaf people have. Not every deaf person wants to hear, some are proud of the way they were born. Leave it alone
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My name is Prescilla i am deaf cant hear i was born deaf black female short. It not smark good I don't learn my mom help me sometimes i dont have any boyfriend hearing never I can't have him no longer see me
Did they even consider sign language? Or cued speech?
It sounds like the mother felt like her daughters were broken and she needed to "fix" them. Being Deaf isn't a problem that always needs fixing. Let them learn about Deaf culture before slamming on a CI!
+TS777 you do know that is a cochlear implant ch right? so clealy its a video ABOUT how they are good
+TheComicBookAddict You do know that many Deaf families are against CIs right?
+TheComicBookAddict No, I am not diagnosed with mental retardation. I am simply pointing out that Deafness doesn't have to be fixed. Deaf culture is a beautiful culture, and these children were robbed of that. I wish hearing parents would at least take the time to learn from their child rather than say, "Oh no, this baby isn't like me, quick rush her to surgery so she can hear!"
+TS777 again you're missing the point this Channel and all videos are literally about Cochlear implants and putting them in a positive light so people will get them in the most basic way people that are deaf Are technically broken because when your born as normal as possible all of your senses work you have five fingers and five toes on each hand and each foot
+TheComicBookAddict I dare you to go up to a Deaf person, (maybe my friend's mom) and look her in the eye and tell her she needs to be "fixed". Are people broken if they wear glasses? Carry a rescue inhaler? Have diabetes? I wouldn't say so. When you tell someone they'r "broken" it sounds like you are saying they are less than you.
I have a listening disorder called Auditory Processing Disorder, which means, I hear fine; but the sounds get jumbled up and when the sounds reach my brain, it doesn't make sense. I use sign language in noisy places to keep my sounds straight. SL is a natural language. CIs will wipe out Deaf culture one day. I will morn the loss.
can poor kids afford to get these yet? is it covered by medicaid or medi-cal? or do only the rich deserve to grow up hearing?
Thank you for contacting us today! Unlike hearing aids, the cochlear implant is a prosthetic device and as such is routinely covered by insurance and Medicare. The first step is to go to a clinic to have a cochlear implant evaluation to determine if your hearing loss makes you an eligible candidate for a cochlear implant. To find a clinic close to you please visit our find a clinic at bit.ly/3MTYqhS. Hope this helps!
My only issue is that this video makes being deaf look like a problem, which it isn't. At all. It is beautiful to gain hearing, but it isn't such a loss to not have it either. This video definitely should've been done differently. My deaf boyfriend and me don't feel so strongly about thinking "how can I show love if they can't hear me?" He can't hear anything but he functions like a normal person. The only thing ONLY thing deaf people can't do is hear. That is all.
If you're reading this have an FANTASTIC day!
Being Deaf is not a bad thing. It can be a blessing in many ways. Sending my love to all those who don't need to 'hear' to feel the love.
I’m not against cochleae implants. I’m against it being given to babies. Same with ear piercings at infancy.
I'm uneasy about this video only because only day if I have a child and if they were born deaf I would wait until they make the the decision themselves if they want to go clear or not I was to learn their language I know every parent has their own choice and what they want to do with their child and that is fine but if someone is born a certain way you should already try and learn something new. everyone is different .
If you wait to let them decide that is a decision.. basically the CI does not work as well when you are older... if your child wants to be oral they must implant early.. You could wait and your child could say why did you keep this from me.... If you are not a parent of a deaf child or deaf yourself you really have no valid opinion.. You have no idea what its like.
Baileys IrishCream the window for effectively learning to listen and speak pretty much closes around age 6. After that, there is little chance for success.
Who are the trash people who would ever downvote this????
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yo Mother you learn sign language it beautiful.
Sounds to me like they made absolutely no effort to learn sign language to lean to communicate with their children, and instead forced surgery on them to make their KIDS change and learn to communicate the "normal" way. Im glad those girls are happy but I bet they would still be happy without the implants.
What use is sign language when 99% of the world does not understand it?
Its plenty of use to people who are willing to learn. There are entire deaf communities out there! Family members learn to sign, friends lean to sign. If it seems like an inconvenience to you, then by all means dont learn. But its a bit thickheaded and rude to assume that deaf people would all be better off with implants.
Becky Erickson becky becky becky... if you have a choice between a big cookie and a little cookie what are you going to take? the big one... why?because its more... being deaf is a limitation to your performance in life... if you can hear you can do more... if you can not you will do less... if you have the ability to gain more information about your world you are stupid not to take it... are people better off blind? there better off because they can not see? are people better off because they cant hear? is it good that you cant hear your baby laughter or see her smile? is the lack of any sense really a good thing? "But its a bit thickheaded and rude to assume that deaf people would all be better off with implants." its a fact that they are better off... they can now do thing they could not do before... You are the thickheaded one who is the figurative Brick Wall between scientific medical innovation and bettering of the human experience.
There are pockets of deaf people all over. People do understand them, being deaf isn't a bad thing at all. The deaf community has their own culture. I do feel they should have put an
Effort to learn sign language.
Jillian Cohen
"being deaf isn't a bad thing at all"
Why don't you go gouge your eyes out? What, you think there's something wrong with being blind? You people are insane.
I wouldn't even consider getting CI if I knew any deaf folks.
On other hand I'm not so sure I want to hear most of the folks I know...
Yup,I'm anti-social and very deaf:)
People act like deaf people are at a loss why is it that when a child is 5 hours old they have already failed something. For some reason people have it in their heads that you have to be what society see's as 'normal' when really as long as you are happy why does anything else like if you can hear or not matter. I don't see it as hearing loss but as deaf gain
So the message of this video is that being Deaf is a nightmare and a hearing parent couldn't possibly communicate love to their child unless their child could hear them? Boy that's some selfish b.s. How about you learn sign language, lady?!?! Worst parents ever.
Megan Fetterly not everyone knows sign language
Yes. I understand that. But there's this amazing thing you can do called "learning"
Dude I am almost fluent in ASL and want to know how long it took me 1 year if your child is born deaf you would be almost fluent by the time they were 1 or 1 and a half it's really not that difficult to learn how to communicate with your own child
Yes! Why don't people make the tiniest effort instead of surgically altering their children to make it easier for themselves? Sign Language is beautiful and being Deaf isn't a tragedy
because humans are the most selfish and lazy species alive
It seems like she was doing this for her more than for them. She didn’t want to go through the “struggle” of attending ASL classes because it probably didn’t fit into her busy schedule, she didn’t want the judgmental looks going her way when she signed with her kids, or having to spend all that money for accommodations. What a selfish woman. Hearing isn’t some miracle, you know. I never liked it, but I can’t ever turn it off.
The cc don't work for all deaf people ..people that don't have a disability should not tell us with one how are life can be better .ot aussume are life's are not as good as someone who is typplical. Just saying
I wouldn't have done what she did.
whats with the annoying bums in the audio?
This looks like a marketing campaign. Very humiliating to the perminantly deaf people. Something is wrong with the video. They may even be actress.
Stop, just stop. What is actually yogur problem. Most of the deaf and hearing impaired culture survive with this. The communicate through a beautiful language in hand motions and facial expressions. Stop relying on technology to fix everything in your life. You should be a good parent, but not being able to express love is giving up. Don’t give up.
By the way I think the cochlear implant is a great idea. However, this mother gave it to her daughters to make HER life easier, not theirs.
I actually find this disgusting and offence, so you're telling me because I can't hear I'm a lesser human being than you, and to not even give your child the choice to get the cochlear implant, smh truly offensive to the deaf community
teagan feldman She didn't say anything directly about you. Why take offense? Being the parent of a deaf child puts you through a roller coaster of emotions. This mother had every right to feel what she felt. I remember wondering how I would express my love to my daughter as well.