How to stop being a people pleaser forever

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  • čas přidán 29. 10. 2023
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    I hope you enjoyed today's video about learning how to stop seeking validation. Everyday, I want you to remember how valuable you are. You are worthy! You are enough! People's validation is just a plus. I love you!🌸
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Komentáře • 149

  • @HeyImLin
    @HeyImLin Před 8 měsíci +48

    "And now you bully yourself" Okay, that hit HARD

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +10

      🥺we really do be the worst to ourselves

  • @merrindouglas9624
    @merrindouglas9624 Před 8 měsíci +29

    I watched one of your other videos on Saturday and it inspired me to start making changes so thank you ❤️ I'm starting to realise that I spend far too much time focusing on the negative and create negative beliefs in my head and I need to actually put in the work to change that. So this morning I told myself I deserve good things, did some journalling and I've had such a nice day so far! I'm also a massive people pleaser and I need to stop so this video is really useful. Thank you so much Chelsea, you are amazing ❤️

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +6

      Aaaaw sweeetie I love that you’re coming to that realisation. It’s a delicious journey so don’t judge yourself for traits you had to learn to protect yourself. Remember to improve from a place of love🥹❤️. I love you!

  • @flojo8274
    @flojo8274 Před 8 měsíci +6

    I needed this im a recovering people pleaser too its a struggle 😅

  • @moniquengugi3914
    @moniquengugi3914 Před 8 měsíci +10

    i see a lot of influence from the book you recommended 'Breaking the Habit of Yourself' and that book was a life changer! it explains how powerful the mind is in influencing our personalities and self-concept. To change ourselves/lives we must change our thoughts.

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      Definitely changed my life honestly ❤️

  • @thehealtrix
    @thehealtrix Před 8 měsíci +14

    This is a whole free therapy session! I resonate so much with your struggles it’s crazy. Im defenitly applying these gems to my life… It’s time to be more conscious & positively change my perspective 🤍 I’m also happy to see your channel growing fast✨

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +2

      Aaww I’m so glad I could help🥹❤️wish you all the best in your growth!

  • @imanindaba
    @imanindaba Před 8 měsíci +4

    you being so honest is what we need, its going to be hard..you can't just jump into the action and it's going to feel uncomfortable. THIS IS MY NEW HOME

  • @massiemwikali1906
    @massiemwikali1906 Před 8 měsíci +9

    The part you said sometimes we need to be rude to just protect our boundaries hit hard..😅😅I have been fighting the guilt that came with me being utterly rude to someone who was narcissist who brought my heart to it's knees but low key I know I shouldn't be ..😮I feel sometimes they are still humans and should be classy always..well I believe I am classy af but if I have to be rude to keep a narcissist out of my life..I am doing it again..I am that bish coz am that bish😅😅 totally love your videos

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +5

      Unfortunately people mistake kindness for stupidity or lack of self respect. Sometimes you really do have to be rude to let people know you’re not to be played with❤️

  • @Pash60087
    @Pash60087 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Before I say anything,that hair ❤❤you stunning 😍. Am a recovering people pleaser to and lemme tell you that such a worse place to be

  • @puritywangari7523
    @puritywangari7523 Před 8 měsíci

    This is me...I needed this its so therapeutic thanks Chelsea💖

  • @jennythegymnast6150
    @jennythegymnast6150 Před 5 měsíci

    I love your channel! thanks for the advice ❦ 😊

  • @Calonpersonal
    @Calonpersonal Před 8 měsíci

    Every word is you've said is spot on for me! New subscriber ♥️

  • @cynthiaalwosi-fl1lz
    @cynthiaalwosi-fl1lz Před 8 měsíci

    Thiss what hv been looking for,, glad you talked about it gworl,, love you ♥️

  • @hepzibahrealtors
    @hepzibahrealtors Před 8 měsíci +7

    Girl the way i love you, you dont even know 💕every single word make sense, spot on 👌🌸🌸

  • @teefox4136
    @teefox4136 Před 8 měsíci +6

    Girllll... you’re so articulate ❤.

  • @_sidneytarus
    @_sidneytarus Před 8 měsíci

    This whole video was just amazing,I learnt so much❤

  • @imanindaba
    @imanindaba Před 8 měsíci +4

    WE ARE WORTHY ASF!

  • @vickyyct
    @vickyyct Před 8 měsíci +4

    I really needed this girl 😭, thank you ❤❤

  • @_linlin_
    @_linlin_ Před 8 měsíci +6

    Queen delivering on time as always. Would love to see what you have for an insecure people-pleaser that has the looks, smarts, and personality to be confident in herself but isn't.
    "The only person that is standing in your way is you" You are your own enemy and biggest bully. omg.

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +3

      Girl you just described me a year agoooooo😭

  • @banaelkolyapma3536
    @banaelkolyapma3536 Před 8 měsíci +5

    i feel really energetic and whole after watching this video

  • @mercy8649
    @mercy8649 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Asante kwa kunigombanisha❤😂😂😂
    ..This is MASSIVE 🎉🎉🎉

  • @jojochep4024
    @jojochep4024 Před 8 měsíci

    You vids are everything❤,I keep preaching your channel to my friends

  • @aibafofana2044
    @aibafofana2044 Před 8 měsíci

    Wauw thank you for this video, the way how you talked at the end of the vid really hits me. I know that I am the only person in my way and I have to do the inner work, but it kinda scares me. But I also know that I have a better life ahead of me, where my higherself is living in, with every freedom and manifestation. But in order to get there, I have to do the inner work. And you are shaking me in to doing it, moving forward. So thank you for that. Bless you and keep on doing the good work❤

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Baby a beautiful life awaits you! It’s on the other end of that fear❤️. You’re on the right track! Keep going!

  • @jacintanyawira3373
    @jacintanyawira3373 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Struggled with this but now trying so much to stop . Thanks to you for these videos ♥️♥️♥️ you're amazing

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Thank you so much !🥹❤️I’m glad I could help

  • @princesspeach37
    @princesspeach37 Před 8 měsíci +1

    you’re so beautiful and i appreciate your videos so much

  • @rynekiiru8455
    @rynekiiru8455 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Every girl needs to watch your content honestly..and you look stunning 😍 ❤

  • @user-vw6wy4uo5h
    @user-vw6wy4uo5h Před 8 měsíci

    this vid is so good i am gonna be coming back to this plus you look so beautiful i love you chelsea

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Love you right back! Thank you so much 🥹❤️

  • @haisesaski-mg6dq
    @haisesaski-mg6dq Před 8 měsíci +2

    Thank you sister, may God help us become the sweetest to ourselves and may He bless all of us who are struggling ❤

  • @imnotwhoithinkiam5018
    @imnotwhoithinkiam5018 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you so much 4 new video 😢❤❤❤

  • @Debbywachira
    @Debbywachira Před 8 měsíci +1

    i really love this video so much esp the content creation part that had me shouting 'tell them 😂i believe that i am loved that 🥰

  • @Kageni956
    @Kageni956 Před 8 měsíci

    Have learnt enough from this episode..Thanx Wambo❤

  • @user-vx8wp5so7o
    @user-vx8wp5so7o Před 8 měsíci

    Giiiirrrrl first time in your channel but I'm loving this❤

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      You’re welcome here🥹❤️we love you!

  • @nimfii
    @nimfii Před 8 měsíci +1

    AGHHHHHH I HAVE SCHOOL BUT IVE BEEN WAITINGGG!!!!!!! I have been rewatching the last vid just so excited for this to come out!!!!!! Will watch later thank you!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      Aaaaw love you babe🥹❤️

    • @nimfii
      @nimfii Před 8 měsíci

      @@ChelseaWambui ugh i love u more queen!! U r so loved and so appreciated!! This vid was TOO GOOD! Reminding myself to stay conscious of my thoughts every day!!🥹

  • @ashleyjayden4706
    @ashleyjayden4706 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank you ❤ I learnt alot today

  • @nantaleelizabeth2702
    @nantaleelizabeth2702 Před 8 měsíci

    Not me going into everyone’s CZcams in my family just to like this video again and again♥️♥️♥️

  • @iamkaywinter
    @iamkaywinter Před 8 měsíci

    The way I keep checking your channel 😂❤thanks for showing up!!!

  • @indieanne3932
    @indieanne3932 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Dear Chelsea, Thank you so much. You are like the older sister I’ve never had, and I wanted the video to go on forever and take it all in and listen to your voice. I am only 14 with such little self confidence and I’m a HUGE people pleaser, but I want to change. I’m so happy to be apart of this journey with you and everyone, I’m so excited to become the best version of myself 🩷❤️

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      Hey my love🥹❤️
      You’ve started your journey earlier than most people do! Congratulations for that! Remember to do it from a place of love and compassion especially because you’re still very young and your brain and body are still developing . Love you!

  • @user-ho1pf2zd7v
    @user-ho1pf2zd7v Před 8 měsíci +1

    gurlll i love youu

  • @sarahseleyian
    @sarahseleyian Před 8 měsíci +2

    Listening to you,I thought I was the same anxious and insecure girl I was a few years ago. I'm doing some of the shadow work already and I didn't realise it. Purr😂

  • @utilityfreight8379
    @utilityfreight8379 Před 8 měsíci +2

    ARE YOU TALKING TO ME. HOW DO YOU KNOW ME THIS MUCH AM CRYING .

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +2

      Because I know me baby! We are one consciousness 🥹❤️

  • @Linah_M2
    @Linah_M2 Před 8 měsíci

    So deep.🥺❤️

  • @cindyatuhaire
    @cindyatuhaire Před 8 měsíci +1

    Loveee it ❤

  • @joemuragu4587
    @joemuragu4587 Před 8 měsíci

    im here ju ya leila and i can say hii channel its just a big thing to me

  • @patriciakibor792
    @patriciakibor792 Před 8 měsíci

    I love you❤, thank you soo much

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      You’re welcome! I love you tooo🥹❤️

  • @Ikaanikki
    @Ikaanikki Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank you for the useful information 😊

  • @user-ho1pf2zd7v
    @user-ho1pf2zd7v Před 8 měsíci +1

    looking good as always

  • @queem5682
    @queem5682 Před 8 měsíci

    second of your video after subscribing.....i love this content fr fr

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Aaaw thank you so much for watching 🥹❤️love you!

  • @danielaccm7510
    @danielaccm7510 Před 8 měsíci +1

    queen

  • @Ikmanu
    @Ikmanu Před 8 měsíci

    Absolutely true

  • @ruthmusengya
    @ruthmusengya Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you ❤

  • @EccentricKE
    @EccentricKE Před 7 měsíci

    ❤❤❤

  • @user-rr7bi1de9g
    @user-rr7bi1de9g Před 8 měsíci

    Girl thanks for your message ive been harrased and recorded in my bathroom creepy 😡

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      You’re welcome babe❤️so sorry for that experience

    • @user-rr7bi1de9g
      @user-rr7bi1de9g Před 8 měsíci

      @@ChelseaWambui yes girl there's so much more but I wouldn't say more cause people git there own lives and stuff to do but I would certainly live to express myself with someone

  • @tevinkimani1
    @tevinkimani1 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Much love babes receive greetings from a true bro

  • @_nabwile25
    @_nabwile25 Před 8 měsíci

  • @aliahsofierce
    @aliahsofierce Před 8 měsíci

    a guy i used to date asked me how i felt about him n i told him that I loved him n cared about him then i asked him how he felt about me he tells me i dont know how i feel about myself n now what he said has been in my mind

  • @ruqayasrulez
    @ruqayasrulez Před 8 měsíci +1

    hi :) where can we find the the meditations u were talking abt? i cant find any, maybe im spelling the creator’s name wrong?

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Ooh get mine from Joe Dispenza’s website. But you can get free ones on youtube babe❤️

  • @therealteresia
    @therealteresia Před 8 měsíci

    Eckhart Tolle is a good place to begin from. He guides on consciousness so well.

  • @hollywoodsfavoriteitgirl
    @hollywoodsfavoriteitgirl Před 8 měsíci

    Marilyn ❤

  • @hollywoodsfavoriteitgirl
    @hollywoodsfavoriteitgirl Před 8 měsíci

    This wig please post❤

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      Got it from Unice 🥹❤️it’s on my Instagram feed

  • @reginahkagoro9665
    @reginahkagoro9665 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Road to 100k subs💃💃

  • @user-rx5ht6db7c
    @user-rx5ht6db7c Před 8 měsíci

    Know that Chelsea is that type of girl with no love for men at all but this is actually a good vid

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      What😭😭I mean, thank you
      But I do like men (maybe not love, you’re right lmaooo)

  • @jedidahjedidah5811
    @jedidahjedidah5811 Před 8 měsíci

    I loooove you.... You are younger than me and I like your motivation,,,, ikikuja Kenya please gift me one of your wigs....kindly sijawai vaa any

  • @StrawberryPeach707
    @StrawberryPeach707 Před 8 měsíci

    Does anyone know any shadow work resources? (free) ? Im gonna try to change my mind and the negative beliefs that I dont know about.

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      You could start by checking some shadow work questions on google. Also watch some TikToks that break it down better then you can move from there ❤️

  • @mitchyloise4413
    @mitchyloise4413 Před 8 měsíci

    Exxciittedd as per ussuaall

  • @darwinwatersone7111
    @darwinwatersone7111 Před 8 měsíci

    She look a looot like shenseea

  • @w4mbui
    @w4mbui Před 8 měsíci +1

    Big sister advice frr

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      Aaaww love you🥹❤️

    • @w4mbui
      @w4mbui Před 8 měsíci

      @@ChelseaWambui love you❤️

  • @Teeeeekkkk
    @Teeeeekkkk Před 8 měsíci

    From Leila's channel

  • @anitamumu4190
    @anitamumu4190 Před 8 měsíci

    The intro introed

  • @user-nn2gu7xw1t
    @user-nn2gu7xw1t Před 8 měsíci

    I can’t express the love I have for this girl 🥲
    You have,your are and will always be an inspiration
    I’m with you on getting your silver plug😘
    Love you ❤

  • @jlbeauty.reviews
    @jlbeauty.reviews Před 8 měsíci +2

    Needed this this morning. 💕 Thank you.

  • @user-uc8dg8zh7m
    @user-uc8dg8zh7m Před 8 měsíci

    This girl🥹🤎🤎🤎i just lpve everything about this video🫂

  • @annahjaya700
    @annahjaya700 Před 8 měsíci

    Not my sister reminding me “Chelsea ame-upload”
    Aah tunakupenda 🫶🏽🫶🏽❤❤

  • @eunicegitonga5140
    @eunicegitonga5140 Před 8 měsíci +3

    No one can convince me that I do not have a big sister😭❤‍🩹

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci

      No because, they can fight me if they dare say I’m not😭. I gotchu girl

    • @eunicegitonga5140
      @eunicegitonga5140 Před 8 měsíci

      @@ChelseaWambui Thanks mama, ily😿

  • @dorixyz
    @dorixyz Před 8 měsíci

    Omy my my gawd istg I needed this video and everything which was there in this ILYSM CHELSEA🫶🏻🫶🏻💗💗

    • @ChelseaWambui
      @ChelseaWambui  Před 8 měsíci +1

      Love you toooo🥹❤️

    • @dorixyz
      @dorixyz Před 8 měsíci

      @@ChelseaWambui cutieeeee😭💗

  • @Nakadio
    @Nakadio Před 8 měsíci

    It got into me 🥹🥹🥹🥹

  • @sheedorothee7854
    @sheedorothee7854 Před 8 měsíci +1

    ❤❤❤