is it a sin to marry the second wife without telling the first wife Dr Zakir Naik
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My husband asked me to marry him and in order to convince me to marry him he chose to swear on the Koran and say he will never leave me or marry again he did both after he slept with a women on a 4 day lads trip to Morroco he left me with a child of 5 to run off and marry her. He ignored my son for 4 years and refused to divorce me however ignored my existence ever since. How is it fair for a man not to tell his wife and in effect cheat? How is that treating your wife with kindness
What's your age
Sister I hope youre doing fine😭😭im soand sorry fpr you
May things get better for you
May that man suffer
Btw if yiur husband doesnt return fro I guess a period of 4 months yiu can dissolve the marriage.
@Javed Iqbal dude really??
You can take khula sis
Divorce
I think not telling your wife before marrying a second one is injustice
😭😭😭😭
@@Asifa472 what happened
@@thewitcher9839 my husband married a widow without my knowledge. And she carried her 2 children from.her first marriage. His family members are also responsible
@@Asifa472 ohh I can understand. Don't worry you will earn a reward in hereafter.
@@Asifa472 I read your comments and that your husband isn't providing for you. 😔 That's sad may God make it easy for you.
"If he cannot do JUSTICE, he CANNOT marry a second wife" arguably the most important part of this video. How many ignore this guidance and do it because it's their "right".
really a true thing,
I think he should marry for pure and legit reasons,not for lust
I agree. mine too married without letting me know and was having an affair for many years. she has divorced and has two kids from her first husband. I wonder if this is allowed a woman divorcing her husband and marrying mine
@@redwoanahmedHe can marry if he desires that's what Qur'an says don't put your ill opinion on Islam accept how it is... If Allah decided then who you are to question??? Not every men is pimping womanist bro...
@@fizaakashif4720If you really like your husband just think your husband is getting punished in jahannam for having zina do you fear him getting punished for this if you don't then i have nothing to tell you... Sahabas wives were also jealous and Prophets wives too but they afraid their husbands getting into hellfire and they agreed and did their duties towards husband...
@@KadershaN-ou2sj You sound like an rapist,who will marry marry whole world for lust,if your reason for multiple marriage is lust,the you really need to develop your character and it is not my opinion,lust for other women is not appreciated in islam
The verse is clearly says,marry 2,3 or 4 women,if you cant do justice,marry 1.
And if you marry out of lust,you can never do justice,so keep your dumb opinion to yourself
from my perspective, if a man wants to marry for the second time without even letting know her first wife, it seems like the guy is cheating with his first wife. its weird!
right
Its cheating...
Dont be a secret wife!!! Yep
Right
It may be your perspective but according to Islam it's not mandatory to inform or take permission of first wife. He will not be considered as a cheat either. We should try to understand the reasons behind it. Also, It was clearly mentioned that it's always better to have a single wife.
When your husband marry someone else, that's the most painful situation you will ever go through.. Indeed it is halal, and not haram.. But we women also have emotions and we are Humen as well... A women get broken into so many pieces that she even Don, t know where to start collecting her self back.. I pray no sister, daughter will go through this.
These are definetly emotions of modern muslim women that cannot handle what was common in the time of the prophet because you grew up thinking it as wrong and a betrayal.
@@robthebob4586 yes so 2nd wife in 2022 is weird back then it was
@@robthebob4586 think about what you just said. You sound like an intelligent person to be able to think that far, but let go of your confirmation bias and think a bit further. If the Quran is eternal, then it should apply to our time as well right? You may not but what's stopping another man from having disregard of the current norm and practicing this, justifying it with the religion? You see, human made laws are better than your human made religions because your books claim divine sources and can not be subject to change. While we can think about laws and take the current norms and emotions into consideration and change laws from time to time. Law isn't perfect, but at least as the scope of human consciousness grows, our laws can be changed and updated accordingly. Yes, you're right about this being the norm in the 6th century, but that's where the Quran belongs too. I could say a lot more but it won't make sense to you now while you're indoctrinated, so just think about what I said so far and tell yourself "I won't believe whatever the religion tells me as fact because of my bias, I'll accept what makes fucking sense" for once.
I'm sorry but you're just a part of a successful cult. I hope you break free, get well soon my friend.
@@sirdrawsalot741 A succesful cut that doesnt have any scientific errors and tells us to worship the Creator alone? N o, I don't care about bias this or that. speaking from a logical standpoint, Islam is the only religion consistent with real life. Especially all the predictions, some vHeery specific, that have come true and literally not one unjustifiable error. Some athiest might point something in it as an error which is a misunderstanding om their part and when told they claim we made it up on the spot and their ignorant view the right one. I also never understood what "indoctrinated" means to you. Humans follow other humans in our nature so of course we'd spread Islam. Your viewpoint doesn't matter, nor do your false morals that society put in you, I'd rather listen to God,the Creator of right and wrong and Your viewpoint is very different from mine because like most athiest, you never really take the time to understand the religion and the Quran but instead like to criticize based off your very limited soceity's standards.
@@sirdrawsalot741 You probably don't even know what indoctrinated means and use your limited moral viewpoint on everything.
The only purpose for more than wife was to help the widows and orphan girls in a societal culture where women have male guardianship, and needed this during time’s of war. If a man marries for selfish reasons or reason of lust then God swt will judge him. The whole argument that there are more women than men is also invalid, and untrue. Many societies have more women than men, and yoy would need to stratify the ratio based on marital age and religion. It has been proven that polygamy psychology affects women and children negatively (there’s been a lot of scientific evidence for this) and so it can only be done in certain situations (with the primary purpose of helping widows and orphans!) if you believe that there are sexual reasons or other reasons that men are allowed to do this then I’ll leave you to it because I know one day you will be shown the truth of what you used to do and believe. Men and women will be judged based on their intention for their actions. And twisting quranic words for individual rather than societal benefit will come to light and be judged for what it is. Believe what you want, you’ll be shown the truth of your intentions one day.
THANK YOU HABIBI! May Allah Bless you for speading his truth!!!
Finally I found a comment Agrees with me
Yes so true but they take two three or four
It’s crazy how they think
@@leylahassan4955 - what about greediness of women? Don't you women also marry men for noney?
A man needs no "purpose" to marry again. He can marry for something as simple as desire and the want for another woman. Stop putting restriction to polygyny that are not substantiated
@@QashMaz well I would think the sunnah and historical facts are substantial enough. Majority of scholars also agree that it was done out of necessity back then. Give me substantial evidence that the excuse of “desire” is okay. Anyways look I won’t change your narrow minded thinking in this matter. Believe what you want. You will be called for account for any injustice/self serving practicing of Islam you used to do in this life.
It is so sad that this devil tells people not to take their wives feeling it into consideration. When I reverted I heard nothing but horror stories from other reverts when marrying foreign Muslim men. I heard hundreds of horror stories. I wouldn’t never marry a foreigner
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!Polygamy marriages are corruption...
Destroying the frist marriages!.
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires! Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 157
Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama:
I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, "Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me."... Even Prophet Muhammed pbah didn't give permission to his daughters husband to take a second wife!
Welcome to Islam
then marry a Muslim man that follows and practises his religion and you wont have a horror story
dont marry a foreigner that goes after culture and calls it religion.
Dr naik, I don’t think it is just of a man marrying the second wife without informing the first wife because the verse of the Quran quoted by you above says a man can marry the maximum of four wives only if he can do justice and if he can’t he should stop at one, and for a man not informing his first wife of the second one he his bringing in is an act of injustice, thereby breaking the rules of the justices and truthfulness mentioned in the verse above stated by you sir, and such as as we all know will result to chaos in marriage and as result of that it’ll result to marriage instability..
So u are teaching him😂😂😂this is a scholar
Leave islam, chose humanity
@@worldwidereall9297 that doesn’t make him above others.. he’s a human being as well
INFORMING IS NOT ENOUGH, PERMISSION IS MANDATORY, OTHERWISE JUSTICE IS NOT POSSIBLE
@@mazenahmad8658 give me reference from islamic scriptures? No, permission is not required, you can ask any scholars about it
May allah protect us from hating a part of our religion.
@@idk-gq3lh how weak is you core belief is to fluster on something like this? Are you going to become a Christian n take partners with Allah? What will you say to Allah when you face him, are you going to abandon religion as a whole? Being a Muslim means to submit your self to Allah the all knowing so have trust and know that Allah known better then his creation. Also a women In islam has the right the write it as part of her marriage contract to prevent her husband from marrying annother wide so try not to be ignorant and have trust is the all-mighty Allah. May Allah strengthen your iman.
So many Muslims have left Islam because of polygamy marriages!!!
@@Hellfire... that's their fault not ours. Good riddance to bad rubbish
May Allah bless Muslims ummah with hellfire for oppressing women because of polygamy marriages
@@hhr7271 women getting jealous is a nature of human. if women could marry 4 husband their first husband would react worse than how women are reacting. the point is that many muslim men treat women as second class gender and doesn't value them as themselves forget that they are humans too. whatever.
Someone explain to me how it would be just or fair for the first wife??? If the man doesn’t tell the first wife about second marriage means he will likely have to lie about his whereabouts to spend time with other wife. What about spreading infection or std back to first wife?? Also if the second wife knows about first but first doesn’t know about second that’s not treating them equally or fairly.
It ain't fair , it never is ,never was , that's the reality , and because of all these unfairness (s) , I have left Religion at all completely
just stipulate he cant in ur marriage contract and he cant or it annuls the marriage that way you dont even have to worry abt it
@@atharalimaan8509 shaytan has misguided you. The religion is complete. Make repentance and seek advice from scholar with the confusion you have. May Allaah guide you.
@Nooobie boii if the role were reversed , suppose I am going to be your wife's second husband ,won't you feel jealousy???? Or happy?
@Nooobie boii yeah, that's the thing, you will accept everything what your Religion tells, suppose if it says to kill all gays , suppose if it says to kill all the non Muslim, even if it says to kill your parents , you will do it, without questioning or thinking, that's who you are , that's who you will always be .
Recently a case happened that when a woman (first wife) found out about her husbands second family, she got jealous and killed his second wife... Would not be better to be open from the beginning and take her consent? I think not discussing your intention with your
first wife means to humiliate her
Well these are rare cases. A wife killing the other wife is extremely rare. What is common is for the wife to be upset. But if the guy is able to handle the wives equally and provide for both of them without being biasd then this will work out. Just have to take care of a few adjustments.
Informing only not enough but taking permission is important
@@Ahadees172
Taking permission is not compulsory.
@@omarfarique6304 ask ur mother and sister..is it imp
@@Ahadees172 You only need Allah's permission. Don't be so emotional. Be logical. If you meet the requirements of Allah (SWT) then you have the permission of Allah. If you still disagree then you are disagreeing with Allah not me
I usually like your lectures, but, how is the man being just and kind to his wife if he goes behind her back and marries another? In islam, marriage is based on trust and truth, and Allah Orders men to live with their wife in kindness. How is the man being just and kind to his wife if he does not tell her makes her live a lie. How is that justice? There is no justice in this situation. May Allah guide us all.
Without the permission of first wife simply you can't marry bcoz she will get depressed and full of anxiety then and it is a sin logically if your wife is crying day and night bcoz of you so permission is mandatory
@@zaynkhan3431 I agree with you Zain. To all men and some women who think otherwise, In the Qur'an Allah commands to live with your spouse in happiness and companionship- marriage is the most exciting and purest pleasures of this world. And by not telling your first wife, your marriage will break and you'll be living a lie- now these are not good manners right - the prophet was always truthful and honest (sunnah).. Yes everyone out there.. Sunnah means the actions and character of prophet and is not only limited to having multiple wives. Thanks. Now,.. every woman will have anxiety and will not want to marry and complete half of their deen of we accept that not telling your wife is fine. Oh and if i may, Some 'to be' reverts are hesitant in accepting Islam due to the misrepresentation of polygny and the fact that they fear their husband will marry another (because apparently social media has limited Islam to polygny now) . So we are basically preventing people (women) from accepting Islam due to the fear around the misinterpretation of what we know about polygny. I think it's highly foolish to say that one can marry without letting the first wife know. This is a path to depression, lack of trust, belief and unfufilling duties ordained from Allah. And, Men, please don't tell me 'Well women should have patience'. Men should have patience and be content with a blessing that Allah has given them - a wife. "oh no but its our right" but its also the right of the wife to remain in a happy relationship with trust and security. The end of the day, the prophet pbuh showed humanity that living with only one wife especially in that time where polygny was so popular is an ideal way and part of sunnah. And let's get real, the reason prophet married more than 1 after the passing of Khadijah was due to protecting widows and orphans. Men now do it for the sake of selfish purposes. If someone wants to debate with me I'll be happy to create a teams link and we can debate /discuss /lecture or ask questions about it. Okay thank you everyone for visiting my comment.
@@arahh6594 are you Muslim sister I am very delighted to read your comment wallahi you have good knowledge of islam our prophet Muhammad saw married hazrat Khadija ra when our prophet was 25 and she was 40 but today if any Muslim marry a women older than him than it's a taboo people will criticize him today everyone is modifying Islam according to their comfort zone
@@arahh6594 a Muslim brother you mention about debate and all I need to join that what's the procedure
@@arahh6594 you are Muslim from which nation dear
I was starting to like islam; I informed myself and came to the conclusion, that most of those things, that some poeple say are oppressive (hijab/nikab) are totally not and those women can be proud for their confidence.
But this video changes everything. Is this the real islam? Then EVERY muslim women needs to be educaded about the nikah contract, that she can protect herself from this humiliation :(
@@loljk1991 What is wrong with you?
You write those insults under this video? And you wonder why there are doubts about Islam?
@@loljk1991
Somebody is talking about his personal opinion and your answer is:
"You need to get your mental health checked."
So you should learn how to communicate with other poeple in the right way.
@@selenamuller9012 I am sorry. I overreacted after listening to this televangelist opinions and your comment appeared was the first one I read after watching it. Got triggered. Deleting my previous comment.
@@loljk1991 thanks for the apologize :)
Have a nice day!
Islam is not the problem here, this guy has taken the verse out of context to satisfy lustful mens desires. The verse in question is talking about protecting orphans. I can tell you for a fact that most men are not marrying a second wife to help orphans so they are being sinful. If your interested watch Majd khalafs videos, she understands the Quran very well. Peace
It's called cheating. I don't think Islam allows that.
Remarrying hi cheating hai 💔
I find it so hard to comprehend that Allah would allow a husband to marry a second wife without the permission and knowledge of the first wife!!! A marriage is for life it is a commitment of two people to go through life together. Not only life but also the hereafter. How can you say that a husband can make such a grave decision without including his first wife whom he loves dearly????A sane and healthy person wouldn't want to hurt the feelings of a best friend let alone your wife????!!! I honestly think that this topic needs very urgent attention for the protection of the rights of women in Islam. Islam and Allah are most just. When I got married I never imagined that my husband would even think of wanting to marry anyone besides me! So I didn't have it written down. Allah says marry only ONE !!!! Men you can NOT be just between your wives so do not go into that. That's my sincere advice. May Allah guide us all and bring us love,comfort and ease. Strong faith and wisdom. May Allah bless us always in this life and the hereafter ameen
Salam.
Sis it if was left to the desires of men or women, this would never happen. Why would a man part with his hard earned money? He would rather sit on a couch and do nothing. But it has been expected of him to go out there, earn and then basically sacrifice it on the wife etc. And you know what, I as a man have no problem with that. I don't go around propagating some 'meninism' or mgtow or whatever. This is what my Lord commands, I hear and obey.
Similarly if it was left to the woman, she would never desire to have a co wife. The concept has been so mocked and demonized along with disney expectations of the personal prince the one and only that this is far from reality and human history. Throughout our history as humans this has taken place. It is only now that we see our desires objecting with the Shariah. I think we should stop to ponder on this point. If we accept Allah as our Creator, our desires in this temporary world don't matter as we are working towards akhirah. You would be surprised to know I know of some women who have actually searched for and arranged their husband's second marriage. Due to various reasons. A muslimah who understands the Deen would never have a problem with this. I once had a discussion with my sister on this and she went like I would rather he do the halal then the haram. Also I would be happy with a partner who can share my load and we could be best friends. I was honoured to hear this. Not as a man, but as a muslim knowing someone is willing to sacrifice some desire or arbitrary pleasure in submission to their Lord. Ofcourse this implies that the husband who decides to marry multiple wives knows the strict obligations that come with this and that if he can't then Allah forbids him from going forward with it. And I know this concept has been tarniahed in large part due to some men failing at it. But let's be honest, it is overblown. How many 2nd wives have we actually come across? Yep. All we know about it are mostly from internet cases or media or some other distant knowledge. It is like the hypocrisy of the haters of Islam criticising the concept of marrying early while simultaneously encouraging having 'safe' explicit relations in schools in the name of discovering oneself. That is why we see all these 14 15 year old teen moms. But no one criticises that. Goes to show they have a problem with the institution of marriage. Remember the hadith of satan being the happiest when a divorce or disagreement takes place in marriage (can't remember the exact thing).
A rather secular argument could also have been made by me, like for example how women are hypergamous, the concept of the alpha male, the coolage effect in men, how the desires of men and women are different yet complement, how the man desires women more than the women desires men leading to a man finding it hard to settle on only 1 even if you look at it from history, psychology, evolutionarily etc etc but as muslims we basically hear and obey. Honestly sis the phrase hear and obey has helped me alot in my highs and lows of life. We should really believe and not just say Allah knows best. Afterall we have decided to submit to the Creator and be an abd. Me and my desires really don't matter. Not in the least bit. Again I don't say this as a man or that I wanna marry a second wife lol I don't even have 1 but I make the case as a muslim. Me and my sis also discuss how if men decided to act as feminists and they could 'object' (astagfirullah) to things too like the man is the provider injunction I alluded to earlier. You see in the west now the collapse of all these secular fruits they have bore. Men doing their own way, simply deciding not to marry etc. And then I see on fb pages how 1 muslim women left islam because of a divorce. Is this what we have really come to? I fear for the future generation wallahi. May Allah protect the strangers and submitters, ameen.
@@GhulamMustafa11111 look the point is here, The Man wants to marry a second wife behind the first wife's back?
How is that PERMISSIBLE? like it goes against a lot of the logic already presented in islam
@@nlmlkadhsu1868 'behind the back' is rather loaded. It implies an OUGHT, that is the supposed 'obligation' to actually tell the first wife, which doesn't exist.
Don't get me wrong. I would encourage men to take the first wife's opinion into consideration, especially the times we live in with all the indoctrination and colonial mindsets (afterall only 20th century women seem to mind this, but again 99% of women will have only 1 opinion about it. I guess you can guess which one would that be ;)
So what purpose did this 'asking' really serve. But again I really don't know, I am a nobody with no formal knowledge of Islam. This is what I have heard and haven't found any ruling obligation the first wife's permission although I have come across scholars saying women can stipulate against it in their contract. I have mixed feelings on that too though. I mean can we make haram what has been made halal. Food for thought. Again I don't know :) but i can imagine that with the requirement of valeema ceremony being made and the potential distrubution of wealth to take place on death of the husband for example, I cannot imagine how someone can Islamically keep 'secret' wives, I mean imagine the problems arising of legacy etc being transferred at that time! Would make a funny mess. Naah I don't think that can be justified islamically. But again ima nobody. My feelings and opinions don't matter and I don't have the sufficient knowledge to be commenting on these issues. Rather overstepping, so I take my leave, Salam :)
These rules are not based on a god, but on the ideas of a very inventive and charismatic sect leader 1400 years ago. You cannot expect it to be good for women. In addition to four wives, sex slaves are also permissible. Jannah is an immature male fantasy too.
And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (AI-Baqarah, 2:216)
Wow this is kind of... Embarrassing. Allah said do justice... This isn't justice. Most weddings in Islam don't even have the girls read the contract
These kinda men do not care of justice it's how they think of having more than one wife. Imagine getting their ego kicked when their wife even mentions another man. & How can they accept a woman to not only share her husband but also tolerate other woman with his husband. These men r living in imaginary world.
That isn't true
Its ur problem why didn't u read it....
@@FKN993 i m not a fan of polygamy....but to inform u that our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had plenty wives including roman mistress gifted by Byzantine empire whom he married latter....now this is not about prophet Muhammad every other prophet like including ibrahim (pbuh) also had many wives....now tell me people say we should follow prophet as it is sunnah but we cannot follow him in keeping wives....now tell me what to do
@@mohammedjalali5941 Dude, I totally get ur point. Following out prophet's sunnah is the most noble thing a person can do
But
Let me tell u the difference
Do u think men do justice to every one of their wives n their kids equally without them feeling jealous or resentment towards each other or towards you ??? I have witnessed enough men who took more than one wife to know for a fact , that brother, that's not possible n also it's not happening. Their wives get neglected, they get prioritised over one other by that same men who used his right to marry multiple women on the name of Sunnah but when it comes to doing justice they fail miserably only to ruin lives of helpless women who have no way out only to suffer through the marriage for the sake of their kids or society.
N for the part of Sunnah of our prophets
Our prophet's took multiple wives for the sake of helping then and giving them shelter that's y most of them were either widows or alone who had no one to take care of them n in those times a woman very much needed a man beside her to protect her n also war between kingdoms were very comon leaving women n kids without husband's n father's, so by taking multiple wives they gave them the protection they needed n also our prophet's did pure justice to every single one of their wives & they were happy with him. That's how our Prophet's left the example of Sunnah to the men following on his paths.
Now
U tell me, comparing present times men n their desire to marry more than one women who afcourse should be prettier n younger than the previous one and for no apparent reason besides lust and other unholy desires, or getting bored etc ,seems like sunnah to you ???
If it does, then my brother, u r as delusional as a person can be & I feel sorry for u.
I recently learned of a girl who was married for 10 years. She can’t can’t have a baby, so the husband went behind her back and got married to a girl at his native country, had a child and kept that secret for 2 years (supposedly saying he got stuck during covid, no fly restrictions)! All because he wanted to become a daddy one day. This bastard lied all the way through with so much pretending.
I’m single, a few days ago there is someone come to propose me to become second wife, bcz he is not satisfied with his wife and couldn’t give him baby..
He really want have a kids that’s good actually but I just thinking there is so many singles man want to marry me too then why i have to choose him and being a stupid girl.. I can’t handle my jealousy and I don’t want suffering my whole life in marriage so I rejected him
I’m thinking about his 1st wife feeling too even though she give him permission to marry another girl , but i know as a women no one can handle it no one ready to be polygamy and share her husband to others
@@AinunHamzah absolutely
@@AinunHamzah Vallah so many women suffer, my father got married without telling my mother. She was pregnant, I think I was 8 years old, my mother stayed at home all day, only my father was happy... From then on my mother had to suffer and my brothers developed aggression problems and hatred towards my father. I also hate my father, but I can control my hate. He divorced after one year with the second wife... My parents are together, but my mother is still suffering... Vallah if I get married and he mentions a second wife, I will divorce him immediately and give back his money. Let him be happy with the second one.
Girls pls educate urself to end all this suffering and disrespect you and your mom has face is really terrible but do u want ur daughters to face all this? plss leave such religions and live a life as a normal respected humans and create better place for our daughters and next female generation . such things will never stop until u grls empower urself the true lord will never accept injustice on his daughters . religion is man made and written by man for their benefit all this verse of 72 hoor is a fantasy of immature man a god wont create a place where men can have sex with 72 virgins this is so stupid . our sexual desire last till the age of 60 and after we died there are no sexual desires try to understand . Ur life is percious respect ur lives .
@@Asifa472 my dear sister women often operate from emotions. If man wants to marry second third fourth then let him.
You have to understand the purpose of life which is clear in quran.
Allah says i have only created humans and jins to worship me. Thats it. This is our only purpose. Is to gain paradise.
If your husband marry another and it makes you suffer then that suffering is constantly added to your sawab if you deal with it in patience.
You have to realise a man is not same as woman or woman same as man.
You might feel hurt because you try to figure out why he needed another woman.
It was not because you are any less in his eyes us men we dont think with emotions.
Yes some men are womanisers but this rule is not for womaniser men who wish to have multiple wives so they can spend night with different women. No it is not.
It is only for neccessity.
Sometimes there are issues in life and this option is better than talaq.
If you look at non muslim women. They never get married. The men only use them and say goodbye.
Is it better to be like that or atleast be a wife and protect yourself from sinning?
Its simple divorce the man who dont give u respect and priority that he did not even tell u he is going to marry another u have right to divorce if u like let him know he dont deserve u
It's also mentioned in Islam that the best of men are the best to their families / wives. How can a man be the best if he's disregarding his wife's feelings and going behind her back. Trust is so important in a relationship.
But Where is Justice in not telling first wife
Since when is "knowing" everything a criteria for justice?
@Serpent Fiza Firstly your response is totally unrelated to my question.
Secondly your statement is false. There are tonnes of women who are actually open to the idea of polgyny. Lol.
Although women dislike it, this has been the norm throughout history. And there are tonnes of women today who would accept it.
But tell me something if the Prophet(saw) himself asked to marry you in a polygynous marriage, are you telling me you wouldn't?
Lastly, it is against the nature of man and against the deen of Islam for a woman to have more than one husband. So your question makes no sense.
Tell me what is Justice first. God decides Justice not humans like you
@@QashMaz ﷺ
@@QashMaz every women on earth hates and against polygyny. Find a polygamous men for ur daughter or sister.
This is the first time I ever hear this speaker say something so ridiculous. You MUST inform your first wife. She has the right to KNOW. This is a religion of knowledge and TRUTH. Keeping such a dark secret is from the shaitan and not from Allah who is the light and the truthful. Women have the right to know so she can have the option to terminate the marriage if she does not want to be part of a whole new lifestyle where additional children will be involved. May Allah protect us from the innovation of “ secret marriages” what a shameful way to start a marriage.
Actually it's second wife's right to know
@@thewitcher9839 So according to your logic , your first wife doesn’t have to know but your second one does? How is that ethical? EVERYONE needs to know. It’s an Islamic right to have access to truth in all matters of faith.
@@thewitcher9839 People often forget a marriage is a mutual contract not singular, that means she is rightfully entitled to terminate the marriage if she no longer wishes to be part of it. There is no compulsion in religion and certainly no compulsion in remain in a marriage.
As a Muslim man, I agree it seems very messed up to marry another wife without telling your current wife, and I personally would never do this, but it brings up a good point, this shouldn't really even be a question because this is something you would discuss before marriage, "I will only marry you if you agree to never marry another wife without my permission" it's not that hard to say this and islamically, if you as a bride neglected to say this your would be husband, then that is technically your fault, as a Muslim woman if you are a true Muslim woman, you should be aware that the Quran allows men to have multiple wives, so if you neglected to talk about this with your would be husband before marrying him, then you gave him a loophole to go behind your back and marry another wife.
Can you please not speak emotionally, and look at the religion of Allah. Where did you get all of this “information” from? Can you please give me the references?
( إِلَّا قِيلًا سَلَامًا سَلَامًا )
الواقعة (26) Al-Waaqia☝☝
Unfortunately many people keep focusing on part where he says man doesn’t need permission and he recommends that man asks. But the main point many women ignore like he says when making contract just make sure you include the clause that he can’t marry another wife or has to inform you. It’s your protection my sisters and I have been vocal about this to many of my cousins as many girls become victims of 2nd marriages in my country so educate yourselves about this topics to make sure you are protected. I am writing this in hopes that more women use this feature given by Allah to protect themselves as marriage contracts are important in Islam
These kinda men do not care of justice it's how they think of having more than one wife. Imagine getting their ego kicked when their wife even mentions another man. & How can they expect a woman to not only share her husband but also tolerate other woman with his husband. These men r living in imaginary world.
@@haqparast3132 Get lost.
@@FKN993 ok
So many gods have so many wifes why not you raise that kind of question on first on your side?
@@sid-sy9rn she's not talking about about any God or Goddess. She has a valid point . And ur point is just stupid...firstly try to understand her point. Get educate man!
@@fortunegirl3389 Ohhh valid point is that God & goddess with so many wifes but people not wow
If you marry second wife without telling your first wife or atleast tell the truth that you'll marry again. Is that justice to your first wife ?
Islam never Does injustice with anyone.
I am happy with my 1st wife... I love Allah who bless us forever here or heaven place and blessed with Islam.
Nope!
@@safa9729 no it doesnt, Islamically the wife can put it in the nikkah contract, if he goes against the contract she can ask for a divorce thus meaning it is wrong to not have her permission because before they got married they signed it and its a mutual agreement
@@ilovemangoes0 I did not have a marriage contract.. I did not know my rights. 😢 I am revert and I now I know I had to write it in the contract. I have been married for 3years
First of all, why would someone took a second wife SECRETLY ? If he do it behind her back it’s probably because he knows he shouldn’t do it, if he is a real man who is scared of Allah and not a human being he should tell the first wife. But doing secretly seems like he is trying to hide his bad behavior from other humans while Allah see everything. Be scared of Allah not human.
U are correcct 100%. If its good then they do not have to hide, this means there were evil intentions
Thank you zakir sir. You also personally 🤗 agree with the fact that the husband should inform first wife.. because nowadays husbands secretly marry another one 😑.
I think who are unmarried now ,they can aware , guyz tell them while nikah that you dont want your husband/ wife to marry another one without any specific/ logical / important reason .
They are your garments, and you are their garments” [al-Baqarah; 187]} Based on this verse How can a man hide her wife about his marriage to another woman
No if the wife put it in the nikkah contract meaning it is a mutual agreement and he goes against it she can ask for a divorce. And hiding your 2e wife is injustice to the 1e wife she has every right to know about her, even zakir said that
Men nowadays are covert narcissist!
@@ilovemangoes0 no he didn't say that
@@Hell...FireIsReal why? Polygamy makes them narcissist?
@@Hell...FireIsReal wow....with that email address, clearly, our sympathy to you 😮
But did justice given to the wife if she is not informed about it?...because it is mention that 'if he can't do justice then he should only marry one'
Trust me brother here man are Hungry for lust desires they nor really care about what Quran says they take what they like and leave what they don't like
If he doesnt tell her then his life will be full of drama and lies later on
One last - if its not compulsory to take permission of 1st wife while marry a 2nd women, then jo log maa baap ke permission ke bina shaadi karte hai fir wo log bhi galat nhi hai , jub maa baap ki permission valid hai to wife ki kyu nhi ? Don't u think its injustice?
A man should be upfront in my opinion about marrying multiple wives but does not need permission to marry another wife as ALLAH has made it permissible.
But a big but, he MUST be able to to fulfil the needs for multiple wives, financially, emotionally, physically, and must give enough quality time to all wives and all children so no one is neglected in any way.
How many men can do that ???????
The truth not many at all so then marry only 1
And who are you to decide whether not many can
@@carljohnson2194 are you out your mind?
( إِلَّا قِيلًا سَلَامًا سَلَامًا )
الواقعة (26) Al-Waaqia
He meant to say that just tell asking for permission is not compulsory.
Exactly, which doesn't make it a "lie". The man is a king and a king doesn't need permission from his wives.
Marrying a girl who lost her virginity before marriage is much more painful for the husband then this, but girls have no problem to sleep around & then get married to a good boy.
If I find my wife a virgin then I will be only with her but if she is a characterless non virgin then I will get
2nd wife, no matter however she feel...
Good..
Then divorce her and marry diff
Now l feel ashamed for being a Muslim women.😕we are human beings too Not a toy
Sister, women have been fooled in the name of Islam.
Yeah but since we are women we are too emotional and because of that our emotions and feelings dont matter
Good now leave this cult
@@pranjalchoudhury477 Ye log nahi chorengi dear inse door raho
कुरान मैं हिन्दुओ के बारे क्या लिखा है
1) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 5)
जब रमजान का महीना बीत जाये तो जो लोग अल्लाह को नही मानते (मुशरिक) वो जहा भी मिले उनका कत्ल करो, उन्हें पकड़ो और जब अगर उन्होने इस्लाम कबूल कर लिया यो उन्हें छोड़ दो
2) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा आयत 28) - मुशरिक (अल्लाह के सिवाय दूसरे ईश्वर को पूज्य मानने वाले दूसरे धर्म के लोग) तो बस अपवित्र ही है
3) (सूरा 9 अन-निसा :आयत 101) - दूसरे धर्म को मनाने वाले मुसलमानो के खुले शत्रु है
4)(सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 123) - जो दूसरे धर्म को मनाने वालो लोग तुम्हारे पास है उनके के साथ लडो
5)(सूरा 4 अन-निसा :आयत 56) - जिन लोगों ने कुरान की आयतों का इनकार किया है,उन्हें आग में झोंको। जब तब की उनकी खाल पक जाएँ ताकि उनकी यातना का मज़ा हम लेते रहे
6) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 23) - अल्लाह को मनाने वालो. अपने बाप और अपने भाइयों को अपने मित्र न बनाओ यदि उन्हें अल्लाह को मनाने वालो के मुक़ाबले दूसरे धर्म को मानने वाले लोग प्रिय हो। तुममें से जो कोई उन्हें अपना मित्र बनाएगा, तो ऐसे ही लोग अत्याचारी होंगे
7) (सूरा 5 अल-माइदा :आयत 57) - अल्लाह को मनाने वालो! तुमसे पहले जिनको किताब दी गई थी, जिन्होंने तुम्हारे धर्म को हँसी-खेल बना लिया है, उन्हें और इनकार करनेवालों को अपना मित्र न बनाओ
8) (सूरा 33 अल-अहजाब :आयत 61)- जहाँ कही विधर्मी पाए गए पकड़े जाएँगे और बुरी तरह जान से मारे जाएँगे
9) (सूरा 21 अल-अंबिया :आयत 98) - जो अल्लाह को छोड़कर दूसरे धर्म पर विश्वास करते है वो सब
जहन्नम के ईंधन है. तुम उनको मौत के घाट उतारो
10) (सूरा 32 अस-सजदा :आयत 22)- जो कुरान की आयतें नही मानते वो अपराधी है. तुम जाकर उन अपराधियो से बदला लो
12) (सूरा 8 अल-अनफाल :आयत 69) - काफिरों को मारकर जो लूट का माल महिलाओं( काफिरों की बहन बेटियां) सहित तुमने प्राप्त किया है, उसे वैध-पवित्र समझकर खाओ
13) (सूरा 41 फुस्सीलत :आयत 27) - अतः हम अवश्य ही उन लोगों को, जिन्होंने इस्लाम को स्वीकार करने से इनकार किया है, उन्हें कठोर यातना का मजा चखाएँगे,
14) (सूरा 41 फुस्सीलत :आयत 28) - अल्लाह को ना मनाने वाले विधर्मी लोगो को आग मै जला दो
15) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 111)- अल्लाह को मनाने वालो से उनके प्राण और उनके माल इसके बदले में खरीद लिए है कि उनके लिए जन्नत है. वे अल्लाह के मार्ग में लड़ते है, तो वे मारते भी है और मारे भी जाते है।
16) (सूरा 8 अल-अनफाल : आयत 65 )- ऐ अल्लाह को मानने वालो. सभी मुसलमान जिहाद करो. यदि 20 मुसलमान आदमी जमा होंगे तो वो 100 काफिर (अल्लाह को ना मानने वाले) के बराबर है. काफिर नासमझ है
17) (सूरा 5 अल-माइदा :आयत 51) - ऐ अल्लाह को मनाने वालो. तुम यहूदियों और ईसाइयों को अपना मित्र न बनाओ। वे तुम्हारे विरुद्ध परस्पर एक-दूसरे के मित्र है.जो कोई मुसलामन उनको अपना मित्र बनाएगा,वह उन्हीं लोगों में से होगा। निस्संदेह अल्लाह ऐसे मुसलानो को मार्ग नहीं दिखाता
18) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 29) -जो अल्लाह पर भरोसा नही रखते है और अल्लाह के रसूल को हराम ठहराते है ऐसे काफिर (दुसरे धर्म के लोग) लोगो से लडो और जहा पर भी वो सत्ता कर रहे है उनको सत्ता से बाहर निकालो. और जहा पर तुम राज कर रहे हो वहां पर काफिरो से जिज्या वसूल करो
19) (सूरा 4 अन-निसा :आयत 8) - अधर्मी (अल्लाह को ना मनाने वाले सब लोग) लोग चाहते है सभी मुसलमान अधर्मी बन जाये. कोई भी मुसलमान ऐसे अधर्मी लोगो को अपना मित्र ना बनाओ. जब तक कि वो अल्लाह को ना माने. और वो इस्लाम कबूल ने से मना कर देतो उन्हें कत्ल करो.
विधर्मी लोग कभी मुसलमान के ना मित्र होते ना सहायक
20) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 14) - उनसे (विधर्मी से) लड़ो। अल्लाह तुम्हारे हाथों से उन्हें यातना देगा और उन्हें अपमानित करेगा और उनके मुक़ाबले में वह तुम्हारी सहायता करेगा। और ईमानवाले लोगों के दिलों का दुखमोचन करेगा
21) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 14)- अल्लाह को ना मानने वाले काफिरो से लडो उन्हें अपमानित करो. इस कार्य मैं अल्लाह तुम्हारी मदत करेगा
22)(सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 37)- अल्लाह को ना मनाने वाले लोगो को अल्लाह रास्ता नही दिखाता
23) (सूरा 9 अत-तौबा :आयत 68) - अल्लाह को ना मानने पुरूष और स्त्रियां जहन्नम के आग मैं जलेगी. और जहन्नम मैं सदा ही रहेंगे
24) (सूरा 5 अल-माइदा :आयत 14) -ईसाई लोगो के बीच मैं शत्रुता और द्वेष की भावना भड़का दो. वो इस्लाम के शत्रु है
25) (सूरा 3 अल-ए-इमरान आयत 28) - अल्लाह को ना मानने वालो को अपना मित्र ना बनाओ. औऱ जो ऐसे लोगो को अपना मित्र बनायेगा वो उसका अल्लाह से कोई संबंध नही रहेगा
26) (सूरा 8 अल-अनफाल आयत 7) - अल्लाह को ना मानने वालों की जड़े काट दो
27) (सूरा 8 अल-अनफाल आयत 13) -जो कोई अल्लाह और कुरान का विरोध करने वालों को कठोर यातना दो
28) (सूरा 8 अल-अनफाल आयत 14) - अल्लाह को ना मनाने वालो को आग मैं झोंक दो. .
@@pranjalchoudhury477 - Hinduism is the most filthy cult on planet
Secret marriages is something that hurts everyone involved, yet it happens all the time. The choice to lie, to be deceitful is made by many while knowing a real muslim does not cheat, lie or hurt their wife.
The wounds we give ourselves are the ones that hurt the most.
Being there when he had nothing, being the women behind his success means nothing a cheater would throw would still throw his wife under the bus to entertain a hoe.
Most cheaters don’t wanna rock the boat for their kid/s sake so they lie, cheat to hide their secret marriage. They dont tell their wives their plan for second relationship not because they don’t want to hurt their wife but because most wives wouldn’t consent to being a option and would prefer to leave with their dignity.
Most men the thought of another marriage would not even enter their minds. How could they take responsibility of another women when they cant fulfil the needs of the one they have.
A lot of empathy and strength is required to do the right thing for everyone involved. Acting selfish, some people do make a sad/bad situation worse by opening a the door to a a third person. Instead of working together to strengthen the existing marriage .
A real man would not look for what is missing in his life but being grateful for his family and wouldn’t risk losing his family for a characterless person.
Being grateful for what we have is the key to value “normal” relationships with all its ups and downs.
Most men love their ego being stroke, taken care of financially, physically emotionally by todays women but when it comes to doing their part they most likely fail miserably. They soon feel restless/bored, physically unsatisfied, and suffocated by the relationship - not knowing they are actually addicted to the rush of a new relationship.
Marriage is not for everyone, especially not for the “players” a.k.a. “users” narcissistic among us. Though seemingly nice enough, they sorely lack the capacity for authentic love and intimacy. Hard as it might sound, sometimes these “pseudo nice guys/girls” often come across as spoilt old brats to me.
Marriage [and adulthood] requires a certain amount of maturity to wade through successfully. It is also important to understand that wanting new relationships is a pattern hard to break for the immature. Everything new becomes old.
One common reason that married men want more women. They feel old age creeping up, and as a result immaturely desire the thrill of an new relationship to feel like they are still in the game.
If you observe, these kinds usually end up finding younger, immature trash and awestruck/gold-digger kind of counterparts. These men are generally not looking for meaningful relationships, but instead, replacements/upgrades to cater to their ego driven desires.
Most men in today’s time have it ALL at home and still want MORE women but without the financial, emotional responsibility. If they realised how many men women ignore because they fear ALLAH even when their emotional, sexual , financial needs are not being met, these men may think twice.
The wife works during school time to contribute financially and cleans, takes care of the home, kids too. She is his biggest cheerleader, NEVER denies him sex, same freaky as he is, laughs with him like she's one of the homies, never nags him, always listens, and he STILL thinks grass is greener in the other side. A lot of these men don't complain about their wives because SHE is not the problem. They just like to boost their ego with attention from other women, so as soon as they meet someone desperate enough to settle for 2nd place She is probably less educated, less attractive and less accomplished than his wife, desperate for attention, validation or affection, so she settles for 2nd place with the intention to replace the first. They both win- he can prove "he still got it" and she gets some temporary affection, and the whole time they BOTH know, he will may never leave his wife.
Knowing a homewreaker will be considered merely a “mistress” under the law. She cannot be on his insurance or receive any social security benefits when she gets older she will stay until she has ruined everything.
Many men don’t understand how emotional women can be. Men prefer logic and no emotion. I think the men are flattered when another woman is attracted to them.
Men think that they can keep all women equally happy.
Children hate the entire situation and are traumatised by the thought parents may divorce or living with unhappy parents.
In-laws, extended families take up sides. Some take the side of the betrayer blaming the women for working, or being just a housewife, not satisfying or taking care of their men so he doesnt stray, blaming the wife for not looking youthful, insulting her for putting on weight after having children, grudging her of spending her husbands money, not being a sacrificing pious women to allow husband to make his haram relationship halal. Theres others who would be horrified and hurt that someone close to them can be so disloyal, deceitful to another human being.
My good islamic robloxian, thank you for that amazing essay 👌💯
@@nanabeans2949 WAIT WHY WERE MY PARENTS ON MY ACCOUNT WTF
@@baconinator1350 habibi idk
i cant put to words how much i love what you just wrote, thank you
But if the second wife widowed and she has no children from her first husband.
I respect him as he has taught me a lot about my religion, but sometimes he says the most ridiculous things. Why would a woman stay with you after you do something of the sort?
Because it is not haraam. Allah has allowed him to marry more than one.
@@QashMaz that doesn't explain why she would tolerate it lol. Touch some grass.
@@thepsychoticempress03 read my response again. Eat some grass
@@QashMaz cat ladies have a hard time digesting the truth.
Yeh okay but in this current day and age marrying ONE person is the norm and is generally what a woman expects when entering marriage with a man- it's an unspoken rule, there doesn't need to be a contract stating this in advance it is just the way it is now, especially in the Western world. Perhaps in the past it was different- in war torn lands where many men died and therefore there were more women than men and the extra women needed husbands too. So any guy now using this as an excuse or reason to get married twice or thrice without getting permission from his first wife is absolutely ridiculous!
Rant over :) have a fine day.
The norm doesn't change the truth. A man can marry again regardless of what social norms
Hijabi feminist spotted 😅
@@ebuqble33 masculinist itna rise pe hai to spotted to honge faminist
@𝖆 actually this is happening
Here is the comete verse with all the conditions for polygamy.
And if you fear that you may not be just to the orphans, then you may marry whom you please of the women, two, three, or four. But if you fear being unfair, then only one, or what your right hand possesses, for that will make it less likely that you act unfairly. 4:3
thank you so much sir.
SubhannahAllah he have to tell first wife in order to do justice he stay 2 day first wife and 2 days second wife SubhannahAllah
Nah man he can't marry a second wife with out first wife permission do want her to go crazy ... I swear I will be one of them .... No way I will accept it ... That will broke my heart in pieces
Your feelings do not change the truth. The truth is that he needs no permission from you to marry again
I'd do something awful
So deception is allowed in Islam. Yeah. That sounds about right 😈
In Islam, it is necessary to ask a woman's permission. Islam does not allow any deception.
No. It's not actually.
@@Cricketlover32841 no . U r wrong . A husband can marry to a second wife without the permission of the wife
Not even informing is important? That would create chaos in a marriage! Is that what Allah wanted his human beings to do ?
Indeed Allah knows the best, indeed without informing its like cheating your first wife.
wow amazing explanation
But i Don't understand why in this era
People need to marry multiple wives
At those times,
People married for socio economic reasons
People married multiple times
For social reasons and all
But at this era its not needed
We have the same proplem in our family can you please tell me where to write for this sheikh?
@@saradeen3984 i just wanna say like its the 21st century why do u need 2 wives u can Just divorce
And as for kids
Well do u think they will have good life under 2 moms?
Its not Islamic golden age Only those who can keep Both wives happy
Should do it
But now there are not people like this anymore
And he is dr.zakir nayik
U can go to his channel
And he has WhatsApp number
In his live videos he tells the number
And my advice
Well if u live in Saudi
Im sorry
But if u Don't
Like Leave ur dad/husband
U will find someone better
God knows what's in ur heart
But yes always respect the ex dad or hubby
Cauz u have a life
And remember
U have ur own brains and guts
Until u Don't help urslef
How do u expect God wil help u?
@@shahriarshourob442 omg you are so right, lam not living saud arabia lam from another muslim country.
And it's my father for all of his life he used to work in UAE, to get us a better life, our mother raised us in our country 4 kids on her own he used to come see us after every 5 years and he wouldn't stay long, anyways in 2012 he married a women in UAE, he got her pregnent and sent her back home but in a different city,
long story short, my mother found out about it when they had their 2 child from his own aunt, my mother wanted a divorce but he said he divorced the 2 wife along time ago but he lied,
recently me and my younger sibling wanted to come and study outside the country he took us to the city he's other wife lives and found out that he had 3 more other children😢
We begged him to tell our mother because she will be devastated he promised to take her to hajj and tell her that he never divorced he's 2 wife and they have 5 children,
ask for forgiveness that he lied.
it's been 2 years now and about 3 months ago he went back home l called him and told him to tell our mother now that you are with her he refused and l don't know what to do? Iam so close with my mother she is my best friend.
@@shahriarshourob442 i really don't know the channel of dr zakir nayik can send me link? Jazaka ALLAH.
@@saradeen3984 type “Dr Zakir Naik” and you’ll get his channel
Seriously you would say this honestly a decent loving husband would have consideration to his wife? This act of not telling her is not right why must the men be given these rights if they simply do not do things properly most times they do it this way they simply forget their first wife and not treat her fairly.
You are justifying so much for the man the woman has rights also.
Men expecting women to be okay with them marrying another woman. okay I understand it is allowed doesn’t mean you have to. And just imagine you love your wife or even if you have an ounce of love for her and SHE comes up to you saying she wants to marry another guy , how would you feel? Probably not happy or okay and definitely won’t allow her to do so and then hating her for the rest of your life
@@mohammadusama2001are you a Human? When someone says about his opinion you better counter with argument also. If you dont have an argument, then you better silent.😂
Yeah
Of course she can't marry 2 husband
But she can, ask divorce first
Then marry other man
Just imagine
And the other guy is your close friends too
@@ram47863 that’s what i’m talking about like if she comes up to him and asks for divorce because she wants to marry another man as he’s more attractive then would he be happy about it ? I am a practicing muslim alhamdulillah but i feel like most maolana don’t give full info. that’s why i said that
@@capedbaldy4778 its not the ssame.dont compare men rulings to women
The Quran says “do not take secret lovers” so if you marry a second without telling the first, you are taking a secret lover.
Then how can he stay with the second wife if the first wife doesn't know? And what if the first wife wants a divorce because he wants to nikkah with the second wife?
Huh what are u saying. How is lying and going behind your wife's back doing justice to her . And how on earth do you even get married secretly without lying about where u are or who you're with or whatever. Not being honest and concealing the second marriage will definitely lead to lies deceit and most probably divorce.
My husband never tell me for his second marriage ... 😭
May Allah heal your heart ❤
Divorce sis
A man can marry again, but a woman can asking for divorce too, it's never haram to ask divorce
So you're telling me he can marry someone else without informing the first wife and go meet her whenever he wants "secretly" and that wouldn't be considered cheating and injustice? Now that i think of it.. Damn
Think, in Islam, if somethings not explicitly forbidden then it’s halal. Doesn’t have to be, like, moral, some things just aren’t mentioned and are technically halal, but extremely wrong as it’s common sense. And obv they’ll be held accountable, marriage is to trust and comfort each other in Islam, if you can’t do have your partner trust you, do you think that Allah wouldnt be mad with you?!
By Telling lies to his first wife he does her injustice so he has to tell the first wife about marring another woman.
This in deen al-Islam and most are disagreeing with it, it seem like its because we are the dirty scum of this ummah who comes end of time.
They prefer zina over marriage that's the truth.
Most are not rejecting the ruling of second marriages. I for one am saying that I do not believe islam would allow lying to the first wife and keeping her in the dark especially since his children from a second wife are forbidden to the first wife and her own kids. Also, I haven't seen any daleel for it being ok for a man to not tell her he's taken another wife. I mean Rasool (SAW)'s wives knew who he was married to.
@@Tae96 i agree but there is ahkam rules why is this happening because the first wife wouldnt think wisely and destory everything because he got married to the second one. Like its not his right like shes also have rights. So alot of men end up being quite and not say a word or let the silent killer take over. The rasol saw was example yes he didn't lie nor he had to. And his wives knew better.
You will also reject it if your father marries another woman without telling your mother 🙄 Deen al-Islam! Huh😹 There are so many rules in Islam but lustful men only focuses on this one
I am revert muslim when I got married to my husband I did only know a little about islam.. I did not know there is a marriage contract.. how can I do? I can re-write a marriage contract?
Discuss with him. Be straight forward! Don’t worry many Muslims don’t know there is a contract thing.
Oh, I am sorry to hear that.
I agree to the first answer. In the end, poeple do things even if they are sins.
So in any way the best way is to talk to him. If you want, I would like to hear how it went.
@@phy674 why did you leave islam?
@@selenamuller9012 I am Muslim
@@selenamuller9012 I did not Left islam
the hint in this video is that daughter of the society and their fathers and brothers make sure u put the clause in nikah namah that no second wife.......people are all humans and they r afraid to put it that in todays time its not needed to have h second wife unless there is some serious problme for whivh another women is req and even then that justice shud be maintained ....like in the case of abraham where sarh cud not have child and she herself wanted children so he took another wife that even sarah wanted ......and even then sarah cud not tolerate 2nd wife ...even when she got him child with her permisoon ....how on earth do u expect a normal sane women to allow her husbnd for second wife.......
Just like how people expect normal men to do both chores and office work.
@Super Vageto in most muslim families its nit expected from men stfu
I knkw from experiemce
Ya sure . “ allah “ gave that permission . Or maybe these rules were made my men to suit their own interests
You're not a Muslim. Nobody cares what you think
ALLĀH.capitalize the letters
Once a man marry another woman will he be sinful for telling lie in order to keep the marriage secret?
Telling lie is a sin.
No it won't be as Zakir said bcz the cause is noble: to not hurt the 1st wife.
@@thewitcher9839 very contradictory. A lie is a lie
@@monicilunga9060 you are on something that isn't Islam
@@monicilunga9060 moreover, girls shouldn't mind their husbands calling them ugly then bcz lie is a lie
I feel like I have been murdered. He conned me.
i hope ur doing okay sister. you will get through this🥺 i know it’s painful but this is another test from allah. also if you are not happy with the marriage, you can absolutely leave. it’s his right to marry a second wife and it’s your right to leave!!
Oh shut up
@@Asifa472 sorry i just need clarification. your husband does not want to stay with you nor leave you?
@@Asifa472 sister your happiness matters first and foremost. are you happy right now? if not do you think that you can fix whatever problems are going on between you two? is he treating you equally to the second wife? if he’s not treating you equally and you’ve already discussed how you feel and you want to leave the marriage, you can do khula and consult with an islamic scholar in your area. allah knows best
@@islamafridi5055 You shut up
Recite ayatul kursi after the 5 fard prayers to attain jannah -> Source: al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr 7406
If the clause is mentioned in nikah namaa by wife that, husband shud not marry second time
But still if husband marries second time, inspite of being mentioned in nikah namaa for not to marry second time
What is the ruling in such case ?
Guys if that's the case. To those women that doesn't want their husband to have a second wife. Just put conditions on your marriage contract. Done! End of discussion.
Yes. Put the condition. If a man will want to marry, then he will marry. If not, then the man also has the right to not to marry. Simple!
@@Cricketlover32841 If the couple agreed on the condition of the man not having a second wife, then he can't marry another unless if he talks to her about it. If the wife still dislikes the idea, she can ask for a divorce and he can't lock her in the marriage.
If you are not taking permission from first wife how will that give justice to her??
Can't agree to this view👎🏻👎🏻
This is nothing do with your view or mine!
@@nuurgedi i just told my opinion. You have the freedom to agree or disagree to it.
@@mohamedfaris8557 sure, when it comes relgion you can not use opinion just ask tje schoolers!
@@nuurgedi Even the scholars can make mistakes. If cheating is considered wrong in islam what he said is purely cheating.
Anyways I'm not asking anyone to agree to my view, you can follow whatever you feel is the best.
I agree with you. Men should make it clear before they marry the first wife whether they want more.
Thank you 🙏
Mashallah nice
What if a man marries a second wife without telling her that he has married? So the second wife thinks that he is single. What is the ruling in islam about that?
let her know ,because when she finds out that you got another wife , you don't know the outcome , how bad the situation will be , what she will do, she might take her own life like I've seen 3 years ago ( a women found out the husband had another wife and got kids with her then she couldn't believe then she took her own life due to the stress and remember the Shaytan always working ,), she might try to kill you , She might ruin the family , she might loose the trust she had in you . She might leave you and raise kids that hate you for what you did to their mom , Some women might be good but u know the majority don't want u have a another wife , but Hope u got the point .
@@zaydali506 i'm a woman. I want to know what is the consequences in islam for a man who lied about his married status when he proposes a woman. A scholar said that the marriage was valid and the wife could ask for divorce because the man lied to her, so basically it is the wife who will be at disadvantage whether she divorces him or not, and the man doesnt get any punishment.
Secret marriages are haram in Islam
@@happycheers6947 In Islam, they will get 100 lashes as punishment. That's what happened in Muhammad p.b.u.h time.
@@happycheers6947 Men can't actually lose or suffer. Only women can suffer...
U need to develop deep understanding of this matter before answering this question... U have not answered it rightly what if u ll marry a second women without taking permission from first one?????? How she ll feel and ur kids..after listening this from third person... Just example...emotion and heart also matter in Islam.. U can't b at peace by doing so
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
Permission is not required to marry again
The only purpose for more than wife was to help the widows and orphan girls in a societal culture where women have male guardianship, and needed this during time’s of war. If a man marries for selfish reasons or reason of lust then God swt will judge him. The whole argument that there are more women than men is also invalid, and untrue. Many societies have more women than men, and yoy would need to stratify the ratio based on marital age and religion. It has been proven that polygamy psychology affects women and children negatively (there’s been a lot of scientific evidence for this) and so it can only be done in certain situations (with the primary purpose of helping widows and orphans!) if you believe that there are sexual reasons or other reasons that men are allowed to do this then I’ll leave you to it because I know one day you will be shown the truth of what you used to do and believe. Men and women will be judged based on their intention for their actions.
I am a non muslim and I think in one time one man is for one wife.
At least this video is little bit correct then some others in this topic.
NO WOMAN DREAMS OF EVER BECOMING A SECOND WIFE!!! THE BEST COMMENT I SEEN TODAY!!! NOW JUST ASK ANY WOMAN THAT QUESTION????
Insha Allah I will happily become a second wife ! I accept polygamy and I am very thankful to Allah swt that I am not like most of these women who are speaking against polygamy in the comment section.
Ahhh ok :) If that make you happy but I speak as a Christian and GOD IS THE ONE AGAINST POLOGAMY MY FRIEND! God says a marriage should be ONE MAN & ONE WOMAN ONLY!! Blessings and happiness to you !@@kdb9244
It will never be a justice if my man decides to marry a 2nd woman randomly.
You need to educate yourself more on the topic.
Will you accept the same if the girl was you daughter or sister
The truth remains the truth whether it's for your mother, sister or daughter
@@QashMaz Zakir Naik is not "truth"
the verse is the truth.
@@yusufhossain4910 Where did I insinuate that mate?
Man can marry in 2,3 and 4 only if he can do justice.
How can man pre-decide if he can do justice? Who gave power to men to do justice?
What if he do not do justice?
Justice is to treat his wife fairly. And God gave him that power to decide. Can you be fair between your children?
Simp
Ky Islam mardo ko loyalty nhi sikha ta, ky aurat ka hi farz hai ki wo loyal ho 💔 why there is not equality?
Dr sir, can you explain what does it mean - if he does justice then marry another and if he doesn’t do justice then stick on to one ?
Sir, if I say to my college going brother or son like this.. beta, take drugs if you don’t get addicted to it, and if you get addicted to it, don’t try drugs.
Sir, it is common sense, i have an iPhone 11pro which is my only phone and my old iPhone 6s is neatly packed and once a month I clean the dust off from it, turn it on just to ensure it is still working.. but my main phone is 11Pro. Can I say I’m doing justice to both my iPhones ? According to you, yes… I would say, May be yes.. coz it’s a gadget, but if we apply the same to living beings, it is insane coz we are hurting the soul of another woman. Better divorce the first wife if she commits adultery or something but just marrying another woman just because you are in a position of throwing money on her, then it’s sin.
I’m not convinced with your first statement itself, And I need not have to speak anything for the rest part of your answer .. I.e., need not have to tell the first wife..
You don't know what you're talking about. Justice means treating them fairly. If a man is certain he can be fair then go and marry. If he is unsure then he shouldn't
@@QashMaz if you are convinced with your own answer, you better do it and answer Allah once you see him.
@@vbkrjchannel6108 this isn't my answer. This is what the scholars say the word justice means in the Qur'an. It means to treat them fairly and to not lean to one while neglecting the other.
I just cant agree with this im sorry if i go to hell for this so be it... everything else in islam i agree but this is unjust a man should be honest with his wife not go behind her back.. how is that fair? That the second wife knows about his first wife but the first wife doesnt? Smh i just dnt believe Allah would allow this
It's literally in Qur'an as in a man doesn't need permission from his first wife. Going behind his wife's back is to not hurt her as nobody would want their husband to have a second wife.
However, Islam is the most merciful religion, you can put it in your contract to prevent your husband to marry again and anything else. A man can do it too.
I do feel you(I am a male) bcz I felt the same way when I learnt that a man needs to provide even if his wife is richer. 🥲
And dw you won't go to hell for not agreeing with it, but you will go in it if you change Islam by saying it's not a part of it.
@@thewitcher9839 its so hurtful and i would leave him for the next man i dont do sharing.. men should be in polygamous marriages with women who do wanna share theres plenty of them. The risk of stds is also on the rise especiallyy in america im defo not sharing i'd rather be single than share a man fr
If you cant do justice to your wife's then marry only one and that is good for you (even Allah mentiond and that is better ,suitable for you marriying one )
Can someone tell me where l can ask my question to the sheikh?
Reply me the link of his channel anyone please jazaka ALLAH💗
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There cannot be " less sin."A sin is a sin . We are encouraged to always have the best moral values. Was Nabi SAW not "AL Ameen" and "As Siddiq" The Truthful and Trust worthy?
And yet the Prophet(saw) kept things secret from some of his wives. He told some and not others.
Knowing everything is not a condition for morality
@qash maz who told you all this nonsense tharki masood?
@qash maz were you there at propeht time
@@QashMaz stop talking nonsense
@qash maz according to hadith nikah is my sunnat you should perform once in a life time
I don't agree with you on this . If a man is finding the need to marry another woman it clearly means he's not happy with the one he already has, then why put her through this misery and mental torture. He should clearly mention what he's feeling and that he's not happy with her and let her decide whether she wants to live with him knowing that he's gonna marry someone else or wants to leave, if he's that fair that is.
Don't justify a man's cheating and unfaithful behaviour plz and stop misguiding the generation, atleast we do not expect this from you.
Why u jealous of Muslim Men just all Religion is Fake & False go read it all Religions were corrupted and Mistakes but Islam is The only True Faith and The only way of life
Listen you silly person.
Allah knows human beings best not you.
If Allah has allowed a man who is capable of taking on multiple wives then what is your problem????
If you are a Muslim accept it ok.
There is no excuse
@@meggofextension7472 hahahahahhahaha good joke
@@islamafridi5055 the first word of the Quran is read.
You are meant to use your brain. And calling someone silly for looking into the matter is not right at all. Unfortunately blind people who don’t reason are not enlightened by the true Islam.
You are right Sister
How is this justice to the first wife. If he can not be just and true to the first wife by asking for a second wife, how is it even remotely possible to consider this just to the first wife
Not only tell, but should get the first wife's permission and consent.
In islam the husband can marry without the permission of the wife. It doesn't matter whether the wife obeys or disobeys his husband . And in islam its not mandatory for the husband to inform her . If she disobeys his husband for polygamy then she is doing a major sin .I advice u if u are a muslim sister don't speak against things which are proven from the Quran and sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. You are doing a major sin by speaking against islam .
I let my now husband signed an agreement he is not allowed to marry 2nd, 3rd 4th wife before I became revert and marries him both legally and Islamic way😅 I make it clear I wont marry him if he will do it✌️Although he said he won't do that since he was scared to do injustice😅😅,.I don't have anything against womem who can handle it but some people are not strong and doesn't want torture for the rest of their life..If your husband is not man enough to tell you then it's betrayal..Ill sin more if my husband did that to me so id rather leave to be honest✌️😉@@kdb9244
Without knowing about the other marriage of first wife,it is cheating with first wife.So,I didn’t agree with you in this matter.I love your lectures but without this.
It doesn't matter what you think. The facts are facts
@@QashMaz
You probably doing the same shit or thinking of doing aren't you 😂
@@kush833 if its halal then what's the issue?
@@QashMaz
Lying and deceving your wife is HARAM, would you like her to do that to you??? Allah sure don't accept that from both sides, where in quran it says that's halal?..
@@kush833 YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TELL HER AND IT IS NOT A SIN. This is the bottom line. Get that through your head.
Jazah Allah Khair Dr. Zakir
Deceiving someone and not giving them their rights is completely against Islam. If a husband does not tell his wife that he’s getting married again, not only is he a liar and deceiver but he’s also stopping her from exercising her right to divorce if she doesn’t want to be in a co wife marriage - that’s her god given choice and right
Anyone who thinks it’s ok for Muslim to deceive his wife like this is kidding himself and defying God
Prophet Muhammad (saw) didn't do any secret marriage,no any sahabi did secret marriage , no any quran verse telling you can marry secretly without telling first wife . Marry women as your choise doesn't mean you can marry secretly. ALLAH clearly saying doesn't like secret mistress in quran then keeping secret wife just like secret mistress.
If wife didn't know her husband is living with nother woman ,is it not cheating. Prophet Muhammad (saw) said to treat women kindly ,to be truthful. It's clearly injustice but people use ALLAH 's word to proof it is justice.
what the actual fuck?
Imams should not perform a wedding even if he getting paid (greediness) without asking the guy if he has been previously married or already has a wife. Imam needs to talk to his 1st wife to make sure she is aware.
@John Kramer ….what’s your comment? I don’t understand. Imam is not required to ask, is that what you are saying. How many lives are being ruined with sadness and becoming single mom after learning that your husband got married SECRETLY!
@John Kramer ….I am not saying an Iman should get a permission from his wife. I am saying that if I was to perform a marriage I’d follow the law of the land, asking him if this is his 1st or 2nd marriage (divorce or getting an extra wife). Most Imams don’t proceed a nikkah ceremony until the couple go through counseling. They won’t get any couple married like that because too many problems are happening after marriage. In Pakistan, they have imams get a signature by the 1st wife being aware of it. Too many scam marriages happen in Pakistan. It’s a scam when you do it secretly. What if your dad did this to your mom.
In Islam a man doesn't need to inform the first wife though
No he does not. This is not the Imams role.
You don't decide what imams need to do.
Some people will say that it's for help, but this world is full of human beings, why a married men ,remarry ? Agar ek bewa aurat hai to bewa mard bhi exist karte hai, agar ek divorcee aurat hai to ek divorce e mard bhi to hai ? Over all my point is that mujbur women hai to mujbur men bhi hai jo ki aapus me shaadi karsakte hai or inki shaadi acche se chalsakti hai .
Dear letting know about second marriage to first wife is compulsory but no taking permission but there's condition behind it of justice btwn them if he can, then only can go for it
I feel like polygamy is misogynistic.
I feel like a man doing chores and work is misandrical.
@@thewitcher9839 you’re so miserable. Did mommy ask you to fold your bedsheets and you threw a tantrum? Weirdo
@@aura3n if I throw a stick will you leave, creep?
@@aura3n that isn't even work. Oh so wont you have a problem if you are paying for everything and still be asked to do chores like cooking and cleaning?
@Super Vageto then dont do any chores no ones stopping you
You are a man and yiu cna sustain yourself literally nobidys stopping you,if yiur wifes telling you to then explaim yiurself and its yiur right to divorce her too
Mannm you sound salty asf I think you are frustrated bro
As Salam Alaykum. I’m Khadiijah No way let me die first inshAllah then Allah grant you a better wife I will be happy;) I did put the Clause :)
Is it justice and kindness if you keep your marriage in secret ? If the first wife finds out ?what you gonna do ? And if your first wife does not know about the second one and you have kids how are you going to introduce them to each other so they get to know their siblings ? And how are you going to explain where are you when you visit your second wife ?you have to lie all the time,sometimes it can get out of control and may use to it ,use to lying always without necessity. And in this situation not only you is involved ,but also your wives ,your kids ,even your parents and their parents etc.
The comment section tells me why prophet Muhammad pbuh said most of the Muslim will be ok hell too
People like you who agrees with cheating in the name of Islam tells me why Muhammad pbuh said most of the Muslim will be ok hell too
Where is the justice if he does not tell or ask his 1st wife
Allah says marry 2 or 3 or 4
So if you did not marry 2 initially justice has to be done to the 1st wife
Arrangement has to be made so that he can keep them both justifiably so the 1st wife has to be a part of the arrangement
i agree.
you are right
I Left islam
Exactly. Also, how is it equal treatment if the first wife doesn't know about the existence of the others and he lies to her, but the others know about her existence and he doesn't lie to them? That in itself is an injustice. All of them should be equally informed and he should be truthful to all of them.
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!Polygamy marriages are corruption...
Destroying the frist marriages!.
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires! Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 157
Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama:
I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, "Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me."... Even Prophet Muhammed pbah didn't give permission to his daughters husband to take a second wife!
If it's not in contract, the first wife can take khula
It's not allowed to take khula simply for this reason
@@waseemsyed0 a wife can take khula for any reason she pleases.
That's not true she should have a valid reason. Even when a husband wanted to give talaq he should have a valid reason as per Sharia
@@waseemsyed0 …you are wrong! Because of such men like you…woman distance themselves from Islam
@@majestic6303 because of men like me? What's wrong with you? Are you in ur senses? Distance themselves from Islam ? Allah knows the best. I have said according to Sharia. If you don't wana practice Islam then your destiny will be hell. It's People like you who don't have any knowledge yet they speak on sensitive issues and try to break families instead. If the advised person commits a sin because of acting according to that advice, then the adviser is his partner in the sin as the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “…and whoever calls to misguidance will have upon him the sin like the example of the sin of those who followed him without decreasing anything from their sins.” [Muslim] Allaah Says (what means): {That they may bear their own burdens [i.e. sins] in full on the Day of Resurrection and some of the burdens of those whom they misguide without [i.e. by lack of] knowledge. Unquestionably, evil is that which they bear.}[Quran 16:25]
People who are arguing here about that it is injustice with a woman that if her husband gets married to another woman but if your husband really loves you he'll won't get married to another woman
Not true. Are you saying the prophet pbuh didn't love his wives?
@@SamirSiraj8542 he loved all of them but he loved Bibi Aisha Radi Allahu anha more than his other wives apart from Hazrat khadija Radi Allahu anha all the other women he married were either widows or divorced and some of them were from different tribes and some of them were jews he SALLALAHU ALAIHI WASALLAM did these marriages for the sake of Islam and to become support to those women I'm not saying didn't loved his other wives but he loved Bibi Khadija And Bibi Aisha Radi Allahu anha the most
@@junaidinomani6821 but he pbuh did Justice to all. If we can then we will too. And he pbuh did love his wives
@@SamirSiraj8542 ok
Talk about taking a verse out of context. The verse is specifically talking about orphans. How many of these so called Muslims are marrying to help orphans. Every one I’ve seen marry a second wife does so to someone half their age and for lust. Disgusting. People need to learn the real meaning of Nikkah. Marrying a second wife without your first wife knowledge is cheating, lying, betrayal and complete injustice. May Allah SWT guide these selfish men.
Not all men marry behind backs so stop accusing all men. Moreover, you women are also selfish. You marry rich men and only for money.
@@Cricketlover32841spot on!!
Calm down people....do you know that less than 1% of Muslims practice polygamy?
And most of it is practiced in sub saharan Africa? And not only by Muslim but others as well? For example in Chad, Muslim practice polygamy less than non Muslims? It is in the culture/tradition than religion!
Strange thing is that nowadays women keep a blind eye on their men having string of girlfriends outside marriage but not an extra wife as allowed by their creator!