Here's the thing guys. We built this attachment up in our own minds. Thinking "this is the the one". But if it didn't work out, she wasn't the one. Focus on yourself and the Universe will bring you what you need.
There are loads of times things didn’t work out, but they still are the one. Sometimes we lose the best thing because of our own actions, simply saying ‘things ended so they aren’t the one’ can often deflect from accountability. Many a time changing and becoming better with self realisation attracts that ONE back. Something i disagree with him about is, there are people who are THAT special and not everyone else is like them. If YOU as an individual are like everyone else, then yes you’ll be able to be okay with anyone else and see that no one is that special. But if you yourself know you can’t just be with just anyone and a specific person, then you’ll understand not everyone else is like the person who meshed so well with you. Obv it’s his perspective but no, not mine.
And what if you had attachment issues that you’ve worked on since the breakup (issues that led to the breakup) what if you want a second chance to make things right?
Well muggins over here 🙋♀️ has this attachment to a toxic ex. Gaslight, manipulation, lying and the rest. All in one. And yet my heart cries for her touch. Its fucked up. I hate myself so much I'd rather end it all then see her with someone else, someone who treats her exactly how I did and yet will actually accept his efforts this time. Idk why she didn't accept my. First 3 month were great, then it all changed. 4 months of pure pain, horrible gut feelings, lack of reassurance, lack of sex.. and the rest. I just wanna be able to think clearly, just for.. 5 mins. But she's there. In my head none stop. It sucks 😪
...and if you love yourself, set yourself free. Do this for yourself. The other person already doesnt care about you. The key to freedom is in your own hand or literarly head 🙂
For me letting go just leaves me alone. I can be content alone, but I don't understand these people who can let go and find something. I have to be actively searching to find something.
@@A_Mystery_Mani think anyone, who finds someone, has to be searching for that someone, in some sort of way. Even if the other person finds you, you still have to want, to be with that person:) so i dont think there is anything wrong in searching for love, as long as you remember to love yourself as well
100% it's our ego that wants to stay attached because of what the relationship could be not what it is. It has a strong need for validation and acceptance which you have to give to yourself. Don't seek your worth in other people.
Absolutely. Realizing the other person isn’t as invested, attracted or interested as you can be devastating to your ego. Letting go of that person means accepting that you were rejected/abandoned by someone you highly valued and that can be such a blow to your confidence and self-esteem. I heard somewhere that the attachment is a reflection of an unmet need in your own life that you need to learn to address without relying on another person.
I think the best advice is mentally going back into the relationship and reviewing everything, you’ll see that yeah maybe they were nice and it was good when it was good but if you look honestly you’ll see fundamentally there was something really wrong
This is not a simple topic. My two cents is to not shame yourself if you are having a hard time letting go. Letting go can take a long time, but it will eventually happen. Use the process to learn about yourself.
You didn't know who they truly were. They sold you their mask, you painted a rose colored picture, then slowly but shurely, their mask was washed off and they harsh reality was thrown at your face, and you were left there, agonizing for months, years. Understand that they are not a 100% the villain of the story, you were not paying enough attention to the signs. Love them, but let them go. Love yourself, forgive the mistakes you made, learn from them, and love again, love better, don't let the pain forget how much love you are capable of giving.❤
Nah fuck that. Lying, manipuation, possibly cheating, etc. Doesn't make them innocent especially when you've given your all and actually kept through your promises when they didn't. Keeping a mask on shouldn't ever be forgiven.
@@myselfasevan ive been split up 5 weeks, hit the bottle, painkillers the anxiety of it all is making me wanna end everything, i just want them all to go away 💔
@marcprobert1444 I'm with you . I've been going though this the past couple days. It hurts so much . They are letting us go. When we are still love with them. The memories and moments hurt
One thing that I realized that could help you guys is that no matter how much you want to be with that person, they don’t want to be with you. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you?
Yes I let them all go with zero contact. At this point though I feel nothing anymore and don't even want to try with so much effort and no return. Literally just went out to a nice restaurant on my own on a Friday night with a good book and can give zero fucks. 40 and still single and never really loved in the romantic sense sadly. I have been in therapy which has helped immensely and have so much to be thankful for from amazing health, no bad habits, creativity, world travel, no debts, high paying salary in my dream career, loving parents and friends, and lots of hobbies from my artwork to reading to film to travel. I'll probably live and die this life alone, but at least ill do so without holding onto lost hope and loving myself.
How are things looking for you? It's nice to know humans go through similar things despite being so different lol, I'm not even an adult yet. I got broken up with my one-year relationship yesterday because he wanted to "work on himself" to become a better person and it's the day after. So recent that he hasn't even removed my @ from his bio yet. He keeps saying it's for the better, but I was willing to do everything i can to stay together with him. That's when I realized that might be why-- he never felt the need to chase me because i was always chasing him. I hope i can get over this dagger in my heart before summer ends and i have to start school again. WIshing the best for everyone else in this comment section too. It's gonna hurt so much the first few weeks but learn to learn yourself.
Only know you've been high when you're feeling low. Only hate the road when you're missing home Only know you love em when you let em go And you let em go 👌🏾
@@ItsAllGodAnyway are you safe and on your way to healthy now? If you ever need to talk I am here, if you need to pray I am here! God bless you on your journey, you got this!!!!!
@@mermaidlu5125 I know it in my head but my heart hurts. It’s my toxic sister and now she has my granddaughter giving me the silent treatment. I am heartbroken. Christian friends say I should be happy they aren’t in my life anymore
Be careful to not alienate yourself and call every little thing toxic. If you're making everyone walk on egg shells to conform to your definition of "not toxic" you might be the toxic one.
Yeah bro it’s tough. I think especially after conflating your spiritual journey with a relationship be it through concepts of “twin flame” or “soul mates” you get extra attached to this idea that you need them to fulfill your spiritual purpose when that is not the case
Exactly! I once heard someone ask a spiritual teacher if soulmates were real. He replied "God is your true soulmate". It's so true. People can come and go, but God will never leave you.
I went through a breakup a few months ago. We were together 7 years. I was extremely attached and codependent. Needless to say it was very difficult and emotionally jarring. BUT I’ve grown so much from it. I’ve regained my independence and realized I never want to feel that dependent on another person for my needs ever again. I feel much more secure in myself. And currently casually dating another person but decided to take a break since they admitted they were getting attached and I feel just fine because I know I will be ok without anyone else.
For me, it's just the fact that this person let me go for stupid reasons. I waited so long to try and find a good, loving, supportive partner... I'm 40 now and I don't know, the older I get, the more I am beginning to think true real love exists maybe only with parents (or even just yourself), other love is just a farce. If my ex thinks he can find someone prettier, kinder, etc. then so be it, I know my worth. And I know the special qualities I am able to share with someone and that's not something I take lightly, at least not anymore.
My heart goes out to you and what you went through. I know it’s not easy. Love is a bit of a farce. In my opinion, most humans aren’t evolved enough to truly love another. Most of us haven’t even accepted ourselves fully. That’s why we’re still bouncing around from person to person like apes.
@@myselfasevan A lot of people are judgemental these days, including those I sadly got close to. Even people I WASN'T able to get close to. They were not only SELFISH in their ways, but yeah, judge left and right. It's SADLY become the norm (not to mention POPULAR) to do that, and to be a bad person. People have become too much in my (non-humble) opinion. They judge as if they are more perfect than you or better than you. Arrogant!
I think the point is to grow into love through the creation of family which is passed on through parent-child. Romance and s3xual passion aside from this important part are essentially meaningless because it does not fulfill what’s it’s ultimate end is meant to be.
I needed this. Was broken up with 2 weeks ago, and have been virtually housebound since, feel like my body is shutting down from the pain. I can't stop thinking about this person, but I know I must let them go in order to be truly free, that there's no going back. I realise this person would never get back together with me anyway, so what's the point in fantasy, but I cling to it anyway. Looking forward to finally being free.
@@i2pjd6hRw5P Hi, It's been two months and a half since the breakup and just under a month since our last interaction. It's painful. I'm much, much better but still, I feel the ache in the chest when I think about him still, and I do get sad. For me, the saddest part is not even the breakup itself, because much of it was mutual (lack of compatibility and different expectations), but the fact that it was done with such care and mutual affection and we promised we'd stay friends, and we were, for a while, before contact faded out (on his end), and without a final goodbye he just stopped initiating any conversations. I'm still wondering whether to wish him happy birthday in a weeks' time or just leave it be... I still care for him so much as a person, and I hope he's doing well. But his indifference, when he was the one begging me to stay in his life as friend (though I wanted it, too), hurts. But I chose to forgive him and my feelings toward him are good and I wish him best. I tried reaching out twice, asking him if he still wanted to stay in touch and twice he confirmed he did, but then not a word from him. And I doubt I'll hear from him ever again, maybe a "Thank you" if I decide to send him the B-day wishes. Not sure I should, though. Oh my, you were only asking how I was doing and here am I pouring out a longer story. Sorry about that!
Did that for 7 (4 years is also a *very* long time!!), and let me tell you woman to woman, deciding the last time was going to be *the last*, was the best decision I’ve ever made. If I could go back and tell my younger self how much healthier, and freer I feel now, I’d do it in a heartbeat. Just make sure to stay strong when they reach back out (bc they will)!! Change your # if it’s easier, block on everything else, eyes forward love.
What’s helping me but it’s hard still. “ Life is an experience and people are experiences too, it’s only right to move on to allow yourself to experience someone new who will truly align with what you bring to yourself and to the table period” 🙏🏽
What your saying is so true. But 22 years together and I feel I wasted a good portion of my life. That he could act like we never existed. And litterly just break my heart.
You are so right on so many levels! The truth does hurt especially when you know that this person doesn't feel the same about you. Smh. Like I already knew this, but for some reason, the way you spoke just resonated with me more. You sounded very honest and gentle 😊 Thank you!
You hit on a lot of good key points in this video man. Letting go really is the best way as hard as that is to think about. People need to delete all the photos and any reminders after break up.
The way you talk is so soothing. Straight forward to listen to and cutting out all the bullshit. Thank you for your words. It has given me a great deal to think about. Admitting to everything and just accepting it for the now. Let the cry happen and then move forward. That’s where the healing starts. Thank you
I've been watching a lot of these kinds of videos lately. But this particular one hit home for me in such a clear and concise way and I'm very thankful I found it. Thank you for these words!
I’m going through the same emotion, I feel betrayed, and want to be the one to dump her. But at the end of the day, she was toxic. I feel sometimes getting her back would be the last thing that I want; but other times, it just feels like why couldn’t this work! It’s so frustrating when it takes a chunk of your energy, focus & time!
Thanks so much! Especially if the person is still married but separated. He was never emotionally available. Life is short, it's time and it's just a matter of time to feel better. Happiness can only be found inside yourself, not in other people.
This is very good advice. You have to decide 100 per cent it is not them and let them go, mourn. It can be hard to face the truth when the other person has constructed themself as a lie that they’ve presented as truth but once you see it, keep hold of that and don’t go back! You are worthy of being free and better will come once the blockage from that old energy is removed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤
I stumbled upon this video at a time when my world feels like it's falling apart. Going through this breakup has been one of the hardest experiences of my life. Each day is a battle, filled with overwhelming sadness, tears that seem endless, and nights where sleep is replaced by nightmares. I never imagined I'd be in this place, feeling this broken, but here I am, trying to navigate through the pain. This video has given me a glimmer of hope, a reminder that it's okay to let go, even when it feels like I'm losing a part of myself. Letting go of someone I once loved deeply is heart-wrenching, and the thought of moving forward seems impossible. But hearing these words, feeling the empathy and understanding behind them, brings a small measure of comfort. To anyone else who might be reading this and feeling the same way, know that you're not alone. We're all trying to heal, to find our way out of the darkness. Let's hold on to the promise that, in time, we will be okay. Thank you to the creator of this video for providing solace in such a raw and vulnerable moment.
Once I fell really badly for one guy. It was just a fling for him, but I fell head over heels. A total catastrophe for me. I went to school I thought of him, I went out with friends I thought of him, I ate I thought of him, etc. And all I could see was, that he didnt care anymore at all. I was realistic about that. I served myself the truth. I could count on: he is not interrested, he doesnt care, he will never call me again and probably hes onto the next one and there is nothing I can do. And that was it. I was free.
@@varuntripathi8712 Until your comment I didnt know that what I had experienced was a chadstruck 😂 I just wanted to paint a picture that there is way out- the truth taken in rather brutal way.
So true! I lost months thinking things will be fine again. What also helps is to think of the bad feelings you get, if a person wants something from you, whom you dismiss. Its sheer terror. But the center lies in what you said. Take her/his no for a no and stop thinking she or he is so unique! Thx🎉❤
Amen, sometimes we have to just let go and let God. Some relationships just aren’t meant to be, and we have to accept that and move on. There may be someone out there God has for us! We just have to wait on Him and let go of the old!
My ex didn't even bother to break up with me he just cut me off completely without any explanation. It wasn't a good relationship, but the way he ended it hurt because I didn't get closure. This video helps a little thank you
my bf of over a year (who i was living with) ghosted and disappeared, always remind yourself that disrespect and silence is all the closure/answer you need
I'm shocked cause my bestie just left me last night I'm in unbelievable pain I was sobbing then your video popped up I really needed to hear this thank you May Allah bless you❤
Bless you mate for this video. The energy emanating from you is type of pub therapy vibe that I needed after breaking up with someone I had been with for over 4 years. Time to keep my chin up and look ahead.
Powerful advice on detachment and moving on-it's often a painful yet liberating journey. Embracing the process and allowing oneself to feel the emotions fully can pave the way for new beginnings and personal growth. 🔑
Wow! I felt literally had knife stuck in my heart. Now I'm going strong. I hope he heals too cuz hes not bad person, we have both issues that needs to heal.❤❤❤❤
I feel this comment because I can say the same thing with me and my ex girlfriend. Despite the flaws, she wasn't a bad person. It just was the wrong time and I made great memories with the wrong person and I had to learn to live with that. That's how I gained my happiness and peace back
Watching this video amidst my heartbreak brings a sense of understanding and comfort. Every day feels like a struggle, filled with tears and sleepless nights haunted by nightmares. I never imagined I'd face such pain, but here I am, trying to find strength. Thank you for reminding me that it's okay to let go, even when it feels impossible
Imagine being a dude and crying way more than you feel you should… I’m extremely hurt and be up all night I haven’t slept in my bed since she left I just can’t look at her side of the bed and she’s not there. I rarely go outside anymore, and it’s summer smh. Bday coming up and I feel so lonely rn. Sorry for venting
This actually helped me letting her go and i can really see some clarity of the many benifits of just moving on although the pain u experience for it. Thanks so much!
Guided meditation for Letting Go:
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Here's the thing guys. We built this attachment up in our own minds. Thinking "this is the the one". But if it didn't work out, she wasn't the one. Focus on yourself and the Universe will bring you what you need.
Men date equal or above them, never below. My ex somehow thought I was below 😞. Oh well, that is all relative fortunately.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 it's not a competition
There are loads of times things didn’t work out, but they still are the one. Sometimes we lose the best thing because of our own actions, simply saying ‘things ended so they aren’t the one’ can often deflect from accountability. Many a time changing and becoming better with self realisation attracts that ONE back.
Something i disagree with him about is, there are people who are THAT special and not everyone else is like them. If YOU as an individual are like everyone else, then yes you’ll be able to be okay with anyone else and see that no one is that special. But if you yourself know you can’t just be with just anyone and a specific person, then you’ll understand not everyone else is like the person who meshed so well with you. Obv it’s his perspective but no, not mine.
And what if you had attachment issues that you’ve worked on since the breakup (issues that led to the breakup) what if you want a second chance to make things right?
Well muggins over here 🙋♀️ has this attachment to a toxic ex. Gaslight, manipulation, lying and the rest. All in one. And yet my heart cries for her touch. Its fucked up. I hate myself so much I'd rather end it all then see her with someone else, someone who treats her exactly how I did and yet will actually accept his efforts this time. Idk why she didn't accept my. First 3 month were great, then it all changed. 4 months of pure pain, horrible gut feelings, lack of reassurance, lack of sex.. and the rest. I just wanna be able to think clearly, just for.. 5 mins. But she's there. In my head none stop. It sucks 😪
"you can't let go of someone who is already gone."
or someone, who was never really there
This is the comment
Truth
Hurts like someone died, the grief is huge.
Live the grief once u feel the emotions, u gonna feel free
@@Jen53293when?
@chifaunsmiley6563 Every time you cry, it gonna hurt less and less
I refuse to let him go
"If you love somebody set them free"
If they come back , don’t take them back , no body wants them 😂😂😂😂
@@Sustainablewealth777 I needed this!!! lol thank you
@@Sustainablewealth777 what if they dont come back means theres soneone who wants them ?
...and if you love yourself, set yourself free. Do this for yourself. The other person already doesnt care about you. The key to freedom is in your own hand or literarly head 🙂
@@user-ik1xe9hs8l sometimes they are too proud to come back , so they suffer in silence
The inability to let go also stems from unresolved abandonment issues.
and this is where therapy comes into play. 🙌🏻
Therapy which provides the basis for more human connection down the road once you’ve got all your wounding contained. You can’t heal alone ❤️🩹
100%. The WORST breakups are when it's not really about the breakup or that person 💔
Ya I hv lots of issues n I want him n never let go
Letting go gave me the love of my life
Wow u give me hope
For me letting go just leaves me alone. I can be content alone, but I don't understand these people who can let go and find something. I have to be actively searching to find something.
@@A_Mystery_Mani think anyone, who finds someone, has to be searching for that someone, in some sort of way. Even if the other person finds you, you still have to want, to be with that person:) so i dont think there is anything wrong in searching for love, as long as you remember to love yourself as well
Awwwww!!
gross
100% it's our ego that wants to stay attached because of what the relationship could be not what it is. It has a strong need for validation and acceptance which you have to give to yourself. Don't seek your worth in other people.
Absolutely. Realizing the other person isn’t as invested, attracted or interested as you can be devastating to your ego. Letting go of that person means accepting that you were rejected/abandoned by someone you highly valued and that can be such a blow to your confidence and self-esteem. I heard somewhere that the attachment is a reflection of an unmet need in your own life that you need to learn to address without relying on another person.
Even if its your parents :(
This is the best explanation by far
@@pizzelle2 That's right; it's called 'Attachment Theory'.
I would say self esteem, not ego.
It’s so hard receiving mixed signals from them.
When that starts happening I show them my back- respect yourself and they will too
I’m glad I saw this comment because mixed signals is a no and that’s what I needed to hear to❤
That’s what happened to me. And then they wanted to play victim and act like they didn’t do anything.
Those mixed signals are a HUGE signal that they don’t want you.
@@ardenislandright.
I think the best advice is mentally going back into the relationship and reviewing everything, you’ll see that yeah maybe they were nice and it was good when it was good but if you look honestly you’ll see fundamentally there was something really wrong
But it's hard to put myself out there again, but I'll do what I have to do .
Tell 'em!
Agree!!! When you look back you realize that you are just missing the good memories and not thinking about the bad times that caused you to break up.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858Stay alone…aren’t you much happier single like most humans?
@@DBrown-vg1fiHumans aren’t designed to be single. Stay strong, folks. It’ll happen one day even if you don’t want it to right now
This is not a simple topic. My two cents is to not shame yourself if you are having a hard time letting go. Letting go can take a long time, but it will eventually happen. Use the process to learn about yourself.
Bien dicho.. well said
Bien dicho... well said
That is correct
This is so true
You didn't know who they truly were. They sold you their mask, you painted a rose colored picture, then slowly but shurely, their mask was washed off and they harsh reality was thrown at your face, and you were left there, agonizing for months, years. Understand that they are not a 100% the villain of the story, you were not paying enough attention to the signs.
Love them, but let them go. Love yourself, forgive the mistakes you made, learn from them, and love again, love better, don't let the pain forget how much love you are capable of giving.❤
Nah fuck that. Lying, manipuation, possibly cheating, etc. Doesn't make them innocent especially when you've given your all and actually kept through your promises when they didn't. Keeping a mask on shouldn't ever be forgiven.
Thank you this helps me a lot
Thank you so much for this ❤
Thank you ❤️
Goes for friendships too. Hardest thing ever.
"Attached for years..." That's me... Irregardless of all the hurt.
bro, its so hard.
I know brother.. i know. Stay strong.
Yes bro ...Stay strong
@@myselfasevan ive been split up 5 weeks, hit the bottle, painkillers the anxiety of it all is making me wanna end everything, i just want them all to go away 💔
@marcprobert1444 I'm with you . I've been going though this the past couple days. It hurts so much .
They are letting us go.
When we are still love with them.
The memories and moments hurt
@@mrovalle231 im going thro the no contact stage and its absolutely killing me
One thing that I realized that could help you guys is that no matter how much you want to be with that person, they don’t want to be with you. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you?
Truth. There’s no point, anything you thought was love was just infatuation. Never get it twisted
And forcing them to like,love, or be with us would be selfish. They would be very miserable and not happy.
I'm hurting so bad right now going through this. My heart is broken. 😢
Me too
❤🩹
@@eliteflow4kings ❤🩹
I’m going through the same thing. It really sucks
I swear
Yes I let them all go with zero contact. At this point though I feel nothing anymore and don't even want to try with so much effort and no return. Literally just went out to a nice restaurant on my own on a Friday night with a good book and can give zero fucks. 40 and still single and never really loved in the romantic sense sadly. I have been in therapy which has helped immensely and have so much to be thankful for from amazing health, no bad habits, creativity, world travel, no debts, high paying salary in my dream career, loving parents and friends, and lots of hobbies from my artwork to reading to film to travel. I'll probably live and die this life alone, but at least ill do so without holding onto lost hope and loving myself.
I’m immortal, I’ll live alone for all eternity 🔥
Sounds awesome that's why I been focusing on myself and my passions
My uncle said to me some time ago that you have to worry about yourself,very true words.
How are things looking for you? It's nice to know humans go through similar things despite being so different lol, I'm not even an adult yet. I got broken up with my one-year relationship yesterday because he wanted to "work on himself" to become a better person and it's the day after. So recent that he hasn't even removed my @ from his bio yet. He keeps saying it's for the better, but I was willing to do everything i can to stay together with him. That's when I realized that might be why-- he never felt the need to chase me because i was always chasing him. I hope i can get over this dagger in my heart before summer ends and i have to start school again. WIshing the best for everyone else in this comment section too. It's gonna hurt so much the first few weeks but learn to learn yourself.
Hold on you said high paying salary?….hey boo❤
Your love makes them special, without your love, they are just shadow
Only know you've been high when you're feeling low.
Only hate the road when you're missing home
Only know you love em when you let em go
And you let em go 👌🏾
I can hear your comment haha
It’s hard after 5 years, a waste of 5 years. But it’s also freeing to no longer be a slave to the abuse…
Better than 26 years 🙏🏻💛😘
@@ItsAllGodAnyway are you safe and on your way to healthy now? If you ever need to talk I am here, if you need to pray I am here! God bless you on your journey, you got this!!!!!
@@ItsAllGodAnywayholy shit, you wasted like 50% of your life then 😂
holy cow 5 years??!!
@@ridababar59 5 years isn’t too bad! Considering someone else lost 25! I should sit down and be quiet… lol
Let go of family and toxic friends too .
Yup
Hard to let go of a toxic person when they are family that you love so much
@@jennaletizia5430 what ? If family loves you they wouldn’t be toxic
@@mermaidlu5125 I know it in my head but my heart hurts. It’s my toxic sister and now she has my granddaughter giving me the silent treatment. I am heartbroken. Christian friends say I should be happy they aren’t in my life anymore
Be careful to not alienate yourself and call every little thing toxic. If you're making everyone walk on egg shells to conform to your definition of "not toxic" you might be the toxic one.
Yeah bro it’s tough. I think especially after conflating your spiritual journey with a relationship be it through concepts of “twin flame” or “soul mates” you get extra attached to this idea that you need them to fulfill your spiritual purpose when that is not the case
That’s a really good point!
Exactly!
I once heard someone ask a spiritual teacher if soulmates were real. He replied "God is your true soulmate". It's so true. People can come and go, but God will never leave you.
Yeah that’s BS tbh 😅
That's soo me
I went through a breakup a few months ago. We were together 7 years. I was extremely attached and codependent. Needless to say it was very difficult and emotionally jarring. BUT I’ve grown so much from it. I’ve regained my independence and realized I never want to feel that dependent on another person for my needs ever again. I feel much more secure in myself. And currently casually dating another person but decided to take a break since they admitted they were getting attached and I feel just fine because I know I will be ok without anyone else.
For me, it's just the fact that this person let me go for stupid reasons. I waited so long to try and find a good, loving, supportive partner... I'm 40 now and I don't know, the older I get, the more I am beginning to think true real love exists maybe only with parents (or even just yourself), other love is just a farce. If my ex thinks he can find someone prettier, kinder, etc. then so be it, I know my worth. And I know the special qualities I am able to share with someone and that's not something I take lightly, at least not anymore.
My heart goes out to you and what you went through. I know it’s not easy. Love is a bit of a farce. In my opinion, most humans aren’t evolved enough to truly love another. Most of us haven’t even accepted ourselves fully. That’s why we’re still bouncing around from person to person like apes.
@@myselfasevan A lot of people are judgemental these days, including those I sadly got close to. Even people I WASN'T able to get close to. They were not only SELFISH in their ways, but yeah, judge left and right. It's SADLY become the norm (not to mention POPULAR) to do that, and to be a bad person. People have become too much in my (non-humble) opinion. They judge as if they are more perfect than you or better than you. Arrogant!
I’m older than you and I completely understand and agree with what you are saying
I think the point is to grow into love through the creation of family which is passed on through parent-child. Romance and s3xual passion aside from this important part are essentially meaningless because it does not fulfill what’s it’s ultimate end is meant to be.
i am 27 and i think its over for me
Been single for almost 8 years now and it’s been a blessing. 🙏🦋
Being single gives you so much peace.
@@carribgirl007 amen 🙏 and much more… 🦋
@@infinitybless7132 so much more ❤️
I needed this. Was broken up with 2 weeks ago, and have been virtually housebound since, feel like my body is shutting down from the pain. I can't stop thinking about this person, but I know I must let them go in order to be truly free, that there's no going back. I realise this person would never get back together with me anyway, so what's the point in fantasy, but I cling to it anyway. Looking forward to finally being free.
You will get there. The first few weeks will be the hardest. It gets easier as time goes on.. keep letting it go.
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Be patient with yourself, give it a few months!
Hope you’re doing well now 🥺
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I am dead inside. I get attached so quickly and it’s takes forever to detach. I literally don’t even wanna be here anymore.
@@tylaj19 You have lots of love to give to someone that truly deserves it, you just haven't crossed paths with them yet. Hang in there.
I realise all you're saying is true but it doesn't make it any easier on the heart 😢
@@anastazjamalczyk7683 how are you feeling one month later?
@@i2pjd6hRw5P Hi, It's been two months and a half since the breakup and just under a month since our last interaction. It's painful. I'm much, much better but still, I feel the ache in the chest when I think about him still, and I do get sad. For me, the saddest part is not even the breakup itself, because much of it was mutual (lack of compatibility and different expectations), but the fact that it was done with such care and mutual affection and we promised we'd stay friends, and we were, for a while, before contact faded out (on his end), and without a final goodbye he just stopped initiating any conversations. I'm still wondering whether to wish him happy birthday in a weeks' time or just leave it be... I still care for him so much as a person, and I hope he's doing well. But his indifference, when he was the one begging me to stay in his life as friend (though I wanted it, too), hurts. But I chose to forgive him and my feelings toward him are good and I wish him best. I tried reaching out twice, asking him if he still wanted to stay in touch and twice he confirmed he did, but then not a word from him. And I doubt I'll hear from him ever again, maybe a "Thank you" if I decide to send him the B-day wishes. Not sure I should, though. Oh my, you were only asking how I was doing and here am I pouring out a longer story. Sorry about that!
no, it doesn't, and that sucks
Thank you ❤ just last night I realized after 4 years of “off and on” that I need to let go, he will never be with me.
Don’t look back. Keep walking. I wish you all the best
Did that for 7 (4 years is also a *very* long time!!), and let me tell you woman to woman, deciding the last time was going to be *the last*, was the best decision I’ve ever made. If I could go back and tell my younger self how much healthier, and freer I feel now, I’d do it in a heartbeat. Just make sure to stay strong when they reach back out (bc they will)!! Change your # if it’s easier, block on everything else, eyes forward love.
I have been crying through this video
That actually is a good thing.. let it all go
What’s helping me but it’s hard still. “ Life is an experience and people are experiences too, it’s only right to move on to allow yourself to experience someone new who will truly align with what you bring to yourself and to the table period” 🙏🏽
What your saying is so true. But 22 years together and I feel I wasted a good portion of my life. That he could act like we never existed. And litterly just break my heart.
Going thru the same thing..but 21 years.He just left me yesterday
@@carolsealey538 I'm so sorry
@@Rinesmyth thank you
This !
This is the best advice on breakups I’ve seen. Just feel the grief. Set yourself free.
You are so right on so many levels! The truth does hurt especially when you know that this person doesn't feel the same about you. Smh. Like I already knew this, but for some reason, the way you spoke just resonated with me more. You sounded very honest and gentle 😊 Thank you!
You hit on a lot of good key points in this video man. Letting go really is the best way as hard as that is to think about. People need to delete all the photos and any reminders after break up.
Man why’s this mad so underrated when he’s the only one who made me feel good about my breakup
Thank you Evan for this video and your advice. Very helpful and encouraging.
I asked for a sign , and your video popped up. So I know what to do . Painful but true . Much love to all out there going through this ❤
I sign for us to chat?
It hurts for sure. But every day gets better
i didnt understand this
Thank you! I needed this message so much! Your video popped up today! 🙏🏻 ❤ 🕊
The way you talk is so soothing. Straight forward to listen to and cutting out all the bullshit. Thank you for your words. It has given me a great deal to think about. Admitting to everything and just accepting it for the now. Let the cry happen and then move forward. That’s where the healing starts. Thank you
I've been watching a lot of these kinds of videos lately. But this particular one hit home for me in such a clear and concise way and I'm very thankful I found it. Thank you for these words!
Everytime i get myself into a depressive rutt over my current breakup I'm going to watch this video. Thank you.
I’m going through the same emotion, I feel betrayed, and want to be the one to dump her. But at the end of the day, she was toxic. I feel sometimes getting her back would be the last thing that I want; but other times, it just feels like why couldn’t this work!
It’s so frustrating when it takes a chunk of your energy, focus & time!
This was so well said and a great reminder and explanation. Thank you for this video. My algorithm did good!!
Thanks so much! Especially if the person is still married but separated. He was never emotionally available. Life is short, it's time and it's just a matter of time to feel better. Happiness can only be found inside yourself, not in other people.
This is very good advice. You have to decide 100 per cent it is not them and let them go, mourn. It can be hard to face the truth when the other person has constructed themself as a lie that they’ve presented as truth but once you see it, keep hold of that and don’t go back! You are worthy of being free and better will come once the blockage from that old energy is removed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤
You’re right but it still hurts to think about it.
Damn... Best advice I have seen so far from this topic. By far! Thanks man
I stumbled upon this video at a time when my world feels like it's falling apart. Going through this breakup has been one of the hardest experiences of my life. Each day is a battle, filled with overwhelming sadness, tears that seem endless, and nights where sleep is replaced by nightmares. I never imagined I'd be in this place, feeling this broken, but here I am, trying to navigate through the pain.
This video has given me a glimmer of hope, a reminder that it's okay to let go, even when it feels like I'm losing a part of myself. Letting go of someone I once loved deeply is heart-wrenching, and the thought of moving forward seems impossible. But hearing these words, feeling the empathy and understanding behind them, brings a small measure of comfort.
To anyone else who might be reading this and feeling the same way, know that you're not alone. We're all trying to heal, to find our way out of the darkness. Let's hold on to the promise that, in time, we will be okay. Thank you to the creator of this video for providing solace in such a raw and vulnerable moment.
this couldn’t have showed up in my recommended at a better time. thank you for making this video dawg. much love.
Thank you Evan. This healed a part of me.
This is the video I need to listen each day the moment I wake up before I do anything else.
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.
Once I fell really badly for one guy. It was just a fling for him, but I fell head over heels. A total catastrophe for me. I went to school I thought of him, I went out with friends I thought of him, I ate I thought of him, etc. And all I could see was, that he didnt care anymore at all. I was realistic about that.
I served myself the truth. I could count on: he is not interrested, he doesnt care, he will never call me again and probably hes onto the next one and there is nothing I can do. And that was it. I was free.
Too many words for chadstruck.
@@varuntripathi8712 Until your comment I didnt know that what I had experienced was a chadstruck 😂
I just wanted to paint a picture that there is way out- the truth taken in rather brutal way.
Little gem in my recommended, thank you for your wise words 🙏🏻
Love this, this is great advice, thank you!!!
Thank you for this, I'm letting go ,it's a slow pain but your right I've gotta do it 😢
I needed this. Thank you
The timing of this video … 👍🏾👍🏾thank you
Thank you for this confirmation I really needed to hear this message today. 🙏🏻
Just thank you. You are real. You give good advice my heart was so heavy until i watched this. So thank you i really appreciate that
Thank you ,This spoke loud & clear to me. I will take your advice ❤
man...i needed to hear this.Thank you
So true! I lost months thinking things will be fine again. What also helps is to think of the bad feelings you get, if a person wants something from you, whom you dismiss. Its sheer terror. But the center lies in what you said. Take her/his no for a no and stop thinking she or he is so unique! Thx🎉❤
Thanks for sharing this video. I really needed to hear this 🙏❤ God bless
I really needed to hear this right now, thank you!
Thank you for reminding me of everything i should have been telling myself.
Thank you... I just had a good cathartic release that was very much needed... you brought me to acceptance a lot quicker...
Amen, sometimes we have to just let go and let God. Some relationships just aren’t meant to be, and we have to accept that and move on. There may be someone out there God has for us! We just have to wait on Him and let go of the old!
My ex didn't even bother to break up with me he just cut me off completely without any explanation. It wasn't a good relationship, but the way he ended it hurt because I didn't get closure. This video helps a little thank you
He didn’t have the skills or maturity to tell you why- it sucks, but it’s another reason to let him go
This happened to me when I talked to this one female I was I to and she just ghosted me and I never heard from her again
This happened to me too. Worst kind of cesspool humans there is.
my bf of over a year (who i was living with) ghosted and disappeared, always remind yourself that disrespect and silence is all the closure/answer you need
Best stuff I heard on this topic, kudos to you
I'm shocked cause my bestie just left me last night I'm in unbelievable pain I was sobbing then your video popped up I really needed to hear this thank you May Allah bless you❤
Same but I pleaded w God jesus
I do believe this quote "Time heals all wounds"
You value that person 10x but but actually they are -x , give time everything will be ok 👍 good work bro love from 🇮🇳 india
I needed this grateful for you
Beautiful… I needed this
I resonate with this message. Thank you ❤
This is one of the best videos I have seen. Thank you….
Great advice...I needed it.
hey man i just want to say thank you this actually helps and i hope others will get helped with this too God bless
Bless you mate for this video. The energy emanating from you is type of pub therapy vibe that I needed after breaking up with someone I had been with for over 4 years. Time to keep my chin up and look ahead.
Thank you so much for this, I cried our loud. It’s so sad that I know that he knows I’m sad but he didn’t even feel anything 😭
I love this. Thank you.💜
Incredible. Thank you!
Powerful advice on detachment and moving on-it's often a painful yet liberating journey. Embracing the process and allowing oneself to feel the emotions fully can pave the way for new beginnings and personal growth. 🔑
Wow! I felt literally had knife stuck in my heart. Now I'm going strong. I hope he heals too cuz hes not bad person, we have both issues that needs to heal.❤❤❤❤
I feel this comment because I can say the same thing with me and my ex girlfriend. Despite the flaws, she wasn't a bad person. It just was the wrong time and I made great memories with the wrong person and I had to learn to live with that. That's how I gained my happiness and peace back
Thanks bro I appreciate the message
this is an excellent video i feel free and happy now thankyou evan
Very well stated, it's illusionary
I've been thinking about this person lately and now CZcams recommend me this video! DAMN the timing ia crazy
The timing that this video was recommended to me is impeccable.
wow yes and thank you. This helped me alot on this night.
Watching this video amidst my heartbreak brings a sense of understanding and comfort. Every day feels like a struggle, filled with tears and sleepless nights haunted by nightmares. I never imagined I'd face such pain, but here I am, trying to find strength. Thank you for reminding me that it's okay to let go, even when it feels impossible
Imagine being a dude and crying way more than you feel you should… I’m extremely hurt and be up all night I haven’t slept in my bed since she left I just can’t look at her side of the bed and she’s not there. I rarely go outside anymore, and it’s summer smh. Bday coming up and I feel so lonely rn. Sorry for venting
I needed this, thank you
This actually helped me letting her go and i can really see some clarity of the many benifits of just moving on although the pain u experience for it. Thanks so much!
Thank you so much for this. ❤
Needed this. Confirmed what I was kinda heading towards doing.
Really good video thank you!
Thank you so so much for this video 💜