How to Let Go Even if You Believe You Can't (7 TIPS)
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- čas přidán 15. 01. 2023
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Letting go is extremely easy when we let it be easy, but also letting go is extremely hard if we believe letting go is hard.
Now in this video I want to show you the seven tips that have made letting go so much easier for me, even at times when I believed letting go was impossible.
First tip with this is to become aware of what attachment you have and how that's helping you to avoid feeling certain emotions.
So this is an interesting part of the process is a lot of times what we do is we may have an attachment, maybe that attachment is to a belief about ourselves, maybe it's to a person, maybe it's to someone in your past, maybe the attachment is to people thinking about you in a certain way or what other people think about you.
And what happens is these attachments we think are there because we need whatever that is. The belief is if I have that person, then I'll be enough, then I'll be happy.
If these people feel this way about me and they give me the validation or approval or whatever it is, then I will finally feel enough and I can feel safe. The challenge with this is that if that's the belief, then of course it's hard to let go.
It's hard to let go when you believe somebody else has your eternal happiness, when you believe someone else has a part of you that you need. And the thing that makes all the difference in the world is when you become aware that the attachment you have is simply a distraction from feeling certain emotions.
And they say that a lot of times these emotions are either a mix of fear, grief or anger. So at a certain level, there may be an avoidance of looking at anger. Let's think about this and the whole nice guy persona thing.
Some people, especially empathic people, may identify as being a nice guy or a people pleaser. Normally under a nice guy or a people pleaser, what's happening is there's this fake facade that's (indistinct) up, the facade is, I'm gonna be very nice, and this also gets back to manipulation.
I read this book recently and it talked about manipulation and it uses words to understand the deeper meaning of it. Now think of it like this, think of like a nice guy who was once a baby, who was given the nipple of the mom and that was the source of everything.
That was the source of comfort, the source of nurturing, the source of nutrients. And then at a certain point, the nipple went away or it wasn't around.
And what happens is in order for some people to get their needs met, what they do is is they
manipulate, manipulation, manipulate other people so that they can get the teat, they can get the nipple.
And what they're doing is they're going over to people and they're like, "Are you the nipple? Are you the nipple?" And then other people feel that needy energy and they're like, get away from me, find your source within yourself.
And that's why that journey is normally you must be the source of your own happiness and let go of the belief, the attachment that everyone else become the teat.
So it's kind of a metaphor there, it's kind of a funny metaphor. But nonetheless, that's what a lot of times people pleasers and nice guys manipulation, man-nipple-asian they want the nipple in everything and they're looking for the source outside of themselves.
So the attachment is the belief, the attachment is the awareness. And a lot of times the attachment is a distraction from feeling your own emotions.
So the key to this is to actually, and this is something I've been doing recently when it comes to looking at any attachment I have and honestly feeling the patterns in my body that come from childhood and allowing myself to feel it, to heal it.
Because as you bring awareness into presence, that allows the energy to leave your body from the childhood dynamics.
Because here's an interesting thing, and this is the second one that I wanna share with you when it comes to the tip to letting go.
It's understanding that there really is no outside, there really even when you look at the triggers in your life, your friend not calling you back, somebody else saying something to you that ticks you off, somebody else showing up late.
Whatever the trigger is in your life, you think that it has to do with them. You might think there's a story there. People always do this to me, people are always late. Whatever the story is, the story is a reflection of an energy signature of an energy.
And the key is realizing that that energy, the story is not true. And the story, whatever the trigger is, that's a messenger. - Zábava
the more you let go, the more you vibration naturally raises! ➡ whatsmyvibration.com/
aaron doughty i doing school cumalmitng asignment about vaction there can you tell me about sedona
When you said: ' are you the nipple? ' made me crack up laughing. but yeah: great video.
@@alldayalchemy-jenm. I believe so... 🤔
@@UniversalManifest 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊s❤
It's LANGUAGE not LENGUAGE.
I was homeless in Mexico couch surfing since coming back and after being clear on what I wanted, I let go of the stress and manifested the perfect house with everything I wanted for cheaper than I wanted 🤯🤯🤯🤯
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Nifty
wow
Congratulations! Getting a home after being displaced is such a big blessing! I've been in my place for a year and a half & am still overcome with gratitude for it all the time! So happy for you! 😁👏🏽💓
My challenge with letting go is accepting that they will also let me go. I’m hating the experience and the process but the outcome will be worth it. Healing is always worth it.
You deserve to have someone in your life who wants you in their life as much as you want them in yours:). Let them go… once the pain is processed you can make space for even greater energy ✨
Also in my experience once I completely let them go and accepted never seeing them again… they came back! But by then you’re so happy & have moved on you don’t even care 😂😂 Life’s a trip.
@@plantmama7442 lol that has happened before but thanks for the kind words 😂 and I’m a plant Mama too 😄
be like whore , think money, have 50 partners a day who cares ? 😂
Male nipple lastion 😂 I'm sure that's what I heard
Make a list of wrongs what this person did to u, read it in the morning, during the day, before bed. Everyday. Every day. Every day. Don’t drown in illusions, help yourself… I cried one month everyday, now feel better. Ex is not your entire life, it’s just some part of it. Hugs for everyone! Pain will pass, I promise. Help yourself, support yourself, cry as much as it feels. Respect yourself ❤
Thank you for this ❤️
I'll do that thank you ❤
So basically, I've been afraid of loosing someone and being attached to that fear of abandonment has kept me from letting go..when In reality, the person and situation is already gone. And obviously, I survived and didn't need it anyway. So knowing now that there's nothing to fear because it's already happened, means I can choose to accept it and let it go. Why fear a storm that's already passed over!! Thanks, I've binged your letting go videos several times over the last few years..and the sad part is, it's always because of the same avoidant person......
Just watched this video 3 days ago,I realised I was doing something wrong, I was letting go so that they come to me- Manipulation and I used to get overwhelmed when they don't act the way I thought it.
This video along with your other videos have been a big help,I set out to be the source of my own happiness and its going so verrrry well ,now I don't care wether he comes back or not ,am enough ,I can be a source of my own happiness 😊
I otally get where you are coming from....yes....letting go as a form of manipulating outcomes❤❤
You have NO IDEA how many people you are helping with this information!!! I’m going through codependency attachments. Going through divorce and it’s like I have lost my identity without him. I was super strong and independent before him, I cannot recognise myself after him. I need him to be happy all the time. Now he’s gone I feel like he’s taken my happiness with him 😢
Noooo!!!! Your happiness is up to you! You have to find it Deep within your innermost being. Its too many GOOD MEN IN THIS BIG WORLD....DON'T LET JUST THAT ONE HAVE THAT KINDA POWER OVER YOU....THE DEVIL IS LIER!!! YOU ARE A QUEEN! GOD CREATED YOU TO BE JUST THAT. NOW STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR CROWN BE HAPPY QUEEN!! READ SCRIPTURES, PRAY, PRAISE AND TRUST THAT GOD CAN AND SAY....GOD WILL GIVE ME BACK MY HAPPINESS WITHOUT HIM. BELIEVE IT AND CONTINUE TO SPEAK IT!!!
YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!!! Praying for you.
Emotional attachment is what I am attached too
I’m working on finding my own emotional fulfilment .. ❤
16:46 (Tip 5# Feel the Trigger) "...Until you feel it, you will continue to attract it. All the outer reality is, is a reflection of the inner emotional state..." Thankyou Aaron, so powerful, life changing 🙏🙏
I don’t get it
I believe he is saying that until you recognize the unhealthy feelings, traumas, experiences, or emotions that you have inside, why they are there, and actually feel them (shed light on them); you will not be able to heal them. A lot of times they are there and you do not know it and it comes on in many ways. When you become aware of why you are doing, feeling, believing, thinking, and living the way that you do because of bad past experiences, you will show up for yourself and become different by healing those places and others will be able to see this change on the outside. You do it so that you can live a better more peaceful loving life and give that to others rather than the bad that you had inside. It’s like, you feel sick. The doctor tells you that you have a disease but does not tell you what it is. How will you heal it if you don’t know what it is? They will have ask questions, run analysis, dive deep, discover when the symptoms occurred and where the disease ( came from) etc. in order to correctly provide a solution or cure. Idk… That’s what I think…
We need all the tips outlined like this
I wonder if you could make a video about that kind of attachment where you are attached NOT to what you want, but to what you don't want: negative relationships, negative outcomes, negative self-concepts, etc. You usually talk about letting go of our desire for things we want (health, money, love), but a lot of us neurotic people pleasers are actually attached to outcomes and situations we don't want. How do we let go of these attachments? I'd appreciate your insights about this very much. I love your energy and insights! Thank you!!
I figured out last week that Ive been avoiding sadness and grief for 35 years
Please God help me to always remember these 4 things when it comes to my friendship with him...
1) This is about HIM. HIS BEAHVIOR. This does not reflect in any way, whatsoever, on my own worth.
2) My self esteem needs boosting and healing; this is why the loss of him, leaves me so despaired.
3) I'm in the driver's seat. It's not just up to him to dictate how this is going to go!
4) I need to be with myself, invested in my self, present with me.
This is a great addition to my therapy sessions 😂
Thank you Aaron!
This was so powerful and spot on! Thank you.
I realized I kept attracting the same experiences to relieve the trauma cause there was painful memories unsolved and not processed pain. 💯❤️🔥✨
I love how he explains it because I crack up 😂 through my pain. It’s so true
Aaron being the best and getting me through all 2022! Thanks for your pearls of wisdom.
You always have the right words. Thank you for sharing this 💜
Cried and laughed during this video. So powerful and relevant, thank you
You dont know how much you have helped me... When ever i feel the fear i come and listen to your videos.. And then i can breath again. Thank you..
You are changing my life. Thanks deeply! I haven’t found another who’s words resonate and teach me as much as yours.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your authenticity is so inspiring. The vibes you give off are total guru. You have really got to be vibing at a frequency to bring this video into your awareness. Anyways, I think a lot and I'm getting closer to letting that idea go. Your video is awesome. :)
Found your channel only a week ago, after watching countless “breakup” channels (bc I was dumped) your way of thinking changed everything for me. Especially the analogy of her being just a cameo in my life, not the other way around.
I needed this today, thanks brother ✊
Your videos are absolutely mind blowing. Im only 3 videos in and all I got to say is that I am grateful for you. Things changed inside of me the 1st evening I listened to your videos. Thank you blonde Jesus 😆
Very deep on this one
I'm gonna listen to this twice.
People pleaser to .anger....to loss... to grief...to heart break 💔
This is another way of saying allowing change, sometimes we are in circumstances thats not healthy but still in fear of change.
Started to allow feelings be my guidance system and accept all spectrum of feelings.
Your videos are life changing ❤ thank you for being a source of knowledge and positivity 🎉 I admire your work and passion 🙏🏻 god bless you always
finding this channel has begun to change my life.
i moved to Seattle a month ago after years of feeling like i was stuck. shortly after moving i realized that no matter where i went, there i was. Sure i was better because of the change in environment but somewhere in my mind i had an unrealistic expectation that if i moved to the place i wanted to live in i would automatically align to the person i always wanted to be. And thats just not how it works, i quickly realized i was still the exact same person, and although i took one huge leap there is so much work to be done. i am excited and terrified at the same time but there is nothing scarier than staying the same as the person you don’t like being. i don’t want the past to continue interfering with my life. (another scary part is that i recognize all the people i attract are the exact same people/type of people)
to anybody that is feeling stuck i want you to know that you are one choice away from changing everything, believe me. take care!
and thank you aaron for helping us out, this video was a necessary 10 out of 10
Same, i attracts the same people event they looks physically too, how can i change that pattern, i don’t want to be hurt again and again!
I always come back to this video when I need it in my life. Thank you Aaron.
Great metaphor for manipulation, I’ve never heard that one before. “Feel it to heal it”, another great one. This video is full of gems 💎 one of your best…
Literally teared up at the near end of this video. What you do is so impactful Aaron. Definitely hope to work with you one day!
Same ✌️
Thank you Aaron for your profound message ❤️
I can't tell you how much you have helped me with my growth over the past few years! I have shared your podcasts with multiple people over the past 3 years. You are on the RIGHT path! Keep going!!
So grateful for this video ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for this video Aaron, your videos have helped me a lot through a really turbulent time in my life.
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️♂️💥☯️
This popped up at such a good time, thank you Aaron 🙏 ❤
A thank you Aaron. I have a lot of past trauma with the way my parents have treated me and I have been running away from it my whole life.
Some really extraordinary nuggets of wisdom here today. Thank you 🙏🏻
7 is when I lost my mom.. im 42 now going thru all the healing from my whole life.. I treated myself so horribly..things I've went thru, put myself thru, allowed myself to go thru I can write books..
I now see it all.. had a SA 7 weeks ago and been working on my heart, grief, guilt, pain ,all of it.. im doing meditations and letting myself feel all those pains.. crying like a baby and purging.. and I'm already feeling so much better.. honoponopono has been a game changer.. also doing guided meditations and all the visions (also seen my mom, was insane!) And yoga ... my life's changing for thr better soon quick!!. ❤
What you’ve written is so powerful. I hope you’re doing well now that it’s been a couple of months since your comment. Praying for healing and blessings to you.
I just learned about that practice recently and have been trying the guided meditations
I had those EXACT dreams all through my early childhood and occasionally now as an adult. Thank you for this video, it is extremely relatable.
Omg this video! Unbelievable, thank you! At the end, where he’s talking about not blaming and shooting the messenger, I realized I started doing this both when I decided to not complain anymore at all under any circumstances and when I learned everything in life is a lesson and the people who trigger you are your teachers. Something triggering happens, you immediately thank the universe for the lesson, and that stops all resistance and blaming and all the negativity that would normally ensue. Taking responsibility for ALL in your experience (ho’oponopono) is the key to everything, to true personal and spiritual growth. Thank Aaron for you time, knowledge and energy! God bless ✨
This channel is so high value. Thank you for breaking this information down 🙏🏻
He's one of the best on here :) Helped me so much...
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️♂️💥☯️
Been on the “feel it to heal it” pretty hardcore lately!!! Thanks for everything AARON!!!! I’m forever grateful & putting you the next full moon ceremony prayer/money candles, incense for intentions, all the good witch shit. Nothing evil lol lmao
Thanks for your inspiring story !
Thank you Aaron. Love your work x
We should always put ourselves first. Letting go is hard but once you realize you have those attachments and they're toxic as hell it gets easier. I was in a 25 year horrible marriage and kept telling myself it's love . But it was far from it. Narcissist don't really know how to love. I should know I had many of them in my life and cut them loose. Sadly one was even my stepdaughter who I raised since 1 years old.
All these tips and techniques are very helpful and appreciated. Mahalo..
For me just being dedicated to my Presence practice and working with the frequencies of the heart have been the silver bullet and I know because a situation came up where in the past I would held on for months and obsess forever lol.... I've been able to let it go with ease, stay in the present..stay in my heart and thereby stay in my power. This for me is what makes all other techniques work. Blessings Aaron and community
A question, I would appreciate your answer, we attract through the heart or through the mind
Been watching you since last week. Thank you for helping us ♥
I think that’s me too. Having ocd, adhd, & gad all anxiety based disorders. Growing up with a sick Mom as the youngest out of 4, but no guidance from my siblings or parents. I was essentially well I became the one who watched over our Mom, and so I realized during the last 3 years that being uncomfortable/fear is my lack of no control. I can’t control what I don’t know. I feel like ocd developed from thinking I would stop the sickness from my Mom, fighting parents, etc., completing my compulsions/impulsiveness. Despite not having a life with friends but instead being codependent with my mom and older sister who needed me. I didn’t understand codependency until 2022. I just didn’t get it until a therapist pointed it out.
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️♂️💥☯️
Wow, this was powerful!!! It made me think and reflect deeply. Still reflecting on it. So insightful! This could be a huge turning point for me now as a 50 something year old man. Whoa!!! Thank you Aaron! I am blown away right now.
44 here, been healing through 17 years in AA recovery. But the last couple of years, going much deeper after abusive relationships with personality disorder people. Looking much more deeply at these first 7 to 15 years and why I have so many subconscious patterns that I have kept creating so many problems in my life, when on the conscious level. I don’t want any of the crap this been happening in the past decade! However, old we get, deep change is still available. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
Never thought that I will watch this type of video. Yes, came here after a hard attachment and now trying to fix myself, get into that harmony and peace with myself❤ thank you for your videos, I find them healers❤
This is my favorite video by you. You’ve helped me a lot. Thank you
Wow this video was exactly what I needed for a long time,Thank you ❤
Thank you for being so helpful ❤ i get interesting visions and insights when I meditate. One night I got “a CZcamsr doesn’t always stay a CZcamsr forever”
I am not a CZcamsr, but you are Aaron. You can be a CZcamsr and someone that does live events, but it is probably time for that transition to move forward. If you want it, it’s yours.
This video helped me a lot thank you !
This video spoke tobme more than most others. I realize there are a lot of things from when i was a kid that im still allowing to affect my beliefs.
Feeling the emotion behind the story, that was the key for me
This video is absolutely amazing and will help me beyond belief! Can’t wait to do the meditation!! Thank you so much 🙏♥️
Thankyou for putting this in perspective. This video came to me at the right time.
You got me Aaron. Signed up for another 21 day challenge. Ready to move some of this stuff out
Thank you, Aaron. You're one of the best. You explain things in a simple, clear and understandable way. ❤
listening to you and Joseph Murphy is something I recommend everyone to do who wants to build a stronger mind
I just started my own YoutTube channel 1 month ago and I am trying to let go of the outcome and just enjoy the process of making videos !
This has been so helpful. I understand what I'm experiencing so much better now. THANK YOU!
Man, thank you do much. You're helping so much ❤
This video helped me immensely, and I can't thank you enough.
Thank you for saving my life brother
It's striking how helpful it is even for someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one, or someone who is about to die, in one's family for example. I have noticed twice some helpful advice, one is this video is the metaphor of the phone and the attachment aka the story we put on it. That is helpful to transpose the object of the metaphor onto the dead person's belongings and memories that are triggering the sadness, and intense feelings derived from them. So let the emotion come, do not oppose resistance, and I would add to this that once you've done this : let go of (not get rid of) the object that reminds you the dead one once and for all and you will be giving birth to something new within yourself.
Plutonic and maybe off topic comment but necessary to me and others I hope.
Aaron, thank you! You're helping me so much, I wish you the best❤
This was ur best video so far. Great reminders in here that r elemental
This video doesnt have as many views as it should. Its likely the most practical video Ive seen from you Aaron.
Thank you Aaron for this video!
Already sent it to a friend. Thank you🙏❤️ didnt know how to say she is manipulated. Many thanks 👍
I like how you break it all down 🤯
Thank you
I mentally new this
But you just helped me to push
Forward everything you said
I am feeling
Thank you again mate
For the clarity
Aaron I truly follow you, you’re genuinely a great mentor
Can you please make a video on dreams? Some times the stories doesn’t make sense to real life and nothing related to past traumas.
It would be great to Learn something about it
Im 54 years old. In therapy etc etc, Aaron ist the best, such a talent❤
Awesome!!!My favourite❤soooo helpful for empaths!Thank you!!!!!❤❤❤
Love the Trampoline in the back
This is kind of genius ❤ wishing you the best ❤
Such wise advice from a young man. Always spot on 🤓
I have that same driving dream at times when I'm not in control of my life. Actually had one last week after not having it for over a year
Woop Aaron in da house! Super smart video dude, thank you.
I really needed this, thank u aaron❤
Your good teacher there's no way I can pay you back by my side I just can say to you thank you 🙏 and GOD BLESS YOU 🙏 ❤❤GOD BLESS YOU
Just incredible amazing , thanks Aaron
Being a survivor of a narcissist ex husband, I healed enough to let go and put myself first. The hardest is letting go of my family, including my mother, and 3 of my four adult children who have been alienated by him. However, not having contact and not being retraumatised gives me peace.🥰
A narcissist always puts themselves first 🤣
How did you heal of letting go narcissist family? I’m trauma bond had ex narc too.
@@SA-px3ln becoming aware of the story attached belief and the labels. Then accept it.and move ahead.healinh isn't linear...it's a wave hv up days and down days..I've healed though not totally
@@apoorvat4245 pain abuse is story and they won’t stop abusing. How do I accept this? The story is they abusive and I can’t get them stop. So just keep taking it?
@@SA-px3ln change the label and belief.there will be a childhood inner child story tht would've attracted tht person to you..heal tht wound.. Aaron Doughty has an inner child meditation tht really works. Try out
I did this yesterday!! Niw i can finally find myself again and be at peace!!!
wow..especially the insights at the end
this is one of your best videos ....
This is so helpful! Thank you so very much ❤
This was the most helpful viewpoint,
I totally love your advices
Am letting go of my ex he hurt me so much and now it's that time I moveon peacefully
Same to u..
This is so based. Thank you🙏
Thank you so much Aaron.
Not getting attached to people is so hard.
Especially when we really like them.
I struggle with attachment too.
I try to make sense of it all the time.
You know what I found helpful, just giving up, on not getting attached.
I accepted that I am going to get attached to certain people. It's natural. The trick is to get attached to someone, who can be fully available for me.
They might be a kind and loving person but they might not be fully available for me. Choose who chooses you.
You cannot fully resolve all your traumas on your own.
Relational trauma is cured through relationships with others.
Others who chose you, who can be fully there for you.
Fear of abandonment can be fully resolved if you have a loving, caring, stable person in your circle.
This video was so deep.
Really therapeutic
Thank you Aaron!
Feel it to heal it!
Aaron can you do a video on processing the emotions. I find it so difficult to feel the emotions because it so painful. The rejection and hurt becomes so unbearable.
Love this❤️
Thank you for the video. This has helped me.
People don’t do things because they don’t want to.. the sooner I learned to accept that the less disappointed I got
To the point and at the right time 👍👍👍👍
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! ☯️😈💪👍🔥😆💥🕺🏻💪
It does feel that when we let these triggers go and emotions, grief our identity has gone, it feels like we are looking for ourselves.
When I had a nervous breakdown (it sucked at the time but it saved me from myself) when I came out of it and wanted to start going outside.. there was a loss of who I was. But it's true because I'm nowhere near being that same person.. although sometimes I do revert back out fear, that's why I watched this video lol
@@JesusLovesEVERYTHING ❤️