Autistic Boy Gets Safety Bed, His REACTION Will Shock You!

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  • čas přidán 24. 02. 2023
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  • @7Aheadfamily
    @7Aheadfamily  Před měsícem +1

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  • @lydiagibbs9106
    @lydiagibbs9106 Před 10 měsíci +181

    As a mom with an autistic son of 24 yrs, it seems probably that your son is uncomfortable with too much sensory input around him. Many people speaking, bright lights, the new smell of the bed, etc. Also, if he's accustomed to a routine, sudden changes also can affect him. A quiet, dim lit, peaceful bedtime routine might help. God bless your beautiful family. Love how the siblings help out.💓

    • @threeofcats5803
      @threeofcats5803 Před 10 měsíci +16

      I really hope they see this and consider really trying it. I don’t have an autistic child, but I am non neurotypical myself and have two nephews on the spectrum. I really think you’re right.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +33

      You are right. We didn’t realize it then, but I think the smell really made a difference.

    • @divaden47
      @divaden47 Před 10 měsíci +19

      Exactly what I thought. Too much going on!! Sensory overload.

    • @ronniek.6393
      @ronniek.6393 Před 10 měsíci +12

      Absolutely. Way too much.

    • @philisbramlett6890
      @philisbramlett6890 Před 10 měsíci +6

      ❤BEAUTIFUL ❤.
      The Most Involved Parenting and Family Routines Are So Important With Every Child .
      Consistency.
      Respect for Each Other's Privacy & Property .
      Respect for One Another .
      Loving Kindness .
      Light Hearted Voices .
      Lifting Your voices to express joy ,love ,peace and harmony is just like a song to children 🎼. God bless All of you .
      These children were chosen just for you to nurture .
      Each will contribute Wondrous & Miraculously to Our World by Being A Light For Others To Follow 🕯️.
      Be Proud . Encourage One Another . 💫.

  • @lollipop3171
    @lollipop3171 Před 10 měsíci +24

    I have 3 autistic grown up sons...the best way to help them cope is to have
    1. A quiet household
    2. Routine
    3. Dim lights at night all around the house
    3. Meditation misic playing
    5. Special diet ( no dairy and no gluten)
    6. Never shout at them or hit them...always ask for eye contact and explain to them gently using empathy and making them see how another would feel in regards to bad behaviour
    7. Let them be....if they have obsessions like lining up toys let them do it
    8. Ecourage them by praising them
    9. No closed in spaces ( they hate restriction it damages them)
    10. No sensory lights...they can trigger them...especially if they play computer games( should be time limited as it triggers something in their brains and makes them flip out
    My sons are now 19, 21 and 23...all at college and working part time!
    Why and how???
    Because they have to have their rigidity flexed so that they can cope in the real world...too many parents hear autism and think "limited!" And dont push to help the child adjust in social settings...
    Autism is a gift...find their gift and let them pursue their dreams ...
    Much love ❤

  • @eponymousIme
    @eponymousIme Před 10 měsíci +16

    Really sweet to see Ezra's siblings support him by showing enthusiasm for his new bed.

  • @Indigenoustaino
    @Indigenoustaino Před 10 měsíci +48

    God bless this whole family especially the siblings who help their parents and the parents for being a great example of what love between parents and their children should always be like. Blessings to this family!!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +2

      Wow! Thank you so much. I needed your kind words today -Holly

  • @lalaj5831
    @lalaj5831 Před 10 měsíci +27

    My daughter is autistic but much lower needs. I admire the pure love and strength of these parents and siblings.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +3

      Thank you so much! And thanks for sharing

  • @Lady_Lefty
    @Lady_Lefty Před 10 měsíci +16

    Honestly as an late diagnosed adult w/ an autism spectrum disorder… this bed is looking so comfy, and snuggly. Love this.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +3

      Right, thanks for watching and sharing. ❤️

  • @lesliebrickey8357
    @lesliebrickey8357 Před 10 měsíci +105

    It's so touching to see how the siblings help Ezra brush his teeth, make his bed for him, etc. What a sweet family!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +6

      They are really the best! Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @SayukiSuzukiMizuno
      @SayukiSuzukiMizuno Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@UnapologeticallyLexi they are not. They help. This is how it is with families with multiple children.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +8

      I don't think the small little acts of service that our older children do is toxic. They want to help and jump right in and start helping because they sincerely care for their younger siblings, not because we are demanding it from them, I hope that makes sense. We could easily expect too much of them, but we really don't. They have their own rooms and have their own lessons, interests. Mark does Piano, runs, and is a little chef, and Benson does parkour, twice a week and would play Minecraft on his Nintendo switch all day if we let him. He was some amazing creations in there and builds amazing lego creations. and Marie takes Piano lessons, and tap lessons ( i teach tap lessons from my garage for a little extra money) and we go on kid dates with them individually all the time, (monthly) the reason I share this is to help illustrate that they have their individual lives, too we don't treat them as if their purpose in life is to just take care of the younger ones. We don't have it ALL figured out, we still are learning, but we are getting some great parenting advice from youtube comments, (that last bit was meant to be sarcastic, but in all honesty someone pointed out a place on line where we could buy better Pajamas for the boys, and I am ordering some right now. 😄

    • @pam112061
      @pam112061 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamilyignore ignorant people. Families help other family members, it's what we do. Only people that are sad, lonely and pathetic don't know that. Unapologetically ignorant people like Lexi will never understand a loving family - they are broken beyond repair usually.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +3

      Hopefully no one is broken beyond repair. We should try to avoid being judgmental of others we barely know. Whether that is someone who makes CZcams videos or someone who made one comment on one. ❤️😊❤️

  • @Starvaze
    @Starvaze Před 10 měsíci +9

    Ok when Simon waved back. That was just adorable. He's learning fast. And I do hope, Ezra lives a healthy life too

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +3

      Thanks for watching and commenting, and we do too!!

  • @saintinlower48
    @saintinlower48 Před 11 měsíci +92

    I love when parents go the extra-extra mile for their kids who have individual needs. I did the same and do not regret it. It actually gives me happy memories as it will you.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      Thank you so much! ❤️ Yes. Having Ezra and Simon in our lives, though sometimes hard, is a tremendous blessing for everyone. 😊

    • @powerWithinUs4055
      @powerWithinUs4055 Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily Wonderful that you have done information sharing. To bring others in means more ideas and support.
      More can be done, we have to find new protocols. Not drugs. Slow things down without using medication. Exoskeleton, Visual Reality glasses, braces, weighted shoes, light signals.
      Autism should be addressed with visual cues. So should walking for mobility impaired people. Wear a belt, it sends a light impulse when we've over extended
      and a fall could result.
      Many of us have seen parents of special needs kids. Late life, the exhaustion shows. It’s hard hard work.
      So far, we’re waiting, we're talking to doctors, we’re talking to each other in support groups.
      Answers are to be found in information sharing, which is what you’re doing here.
      Simple solutions can be close at hand. British parents had tried everything. Their daughter was petrified of water. After trying everything, they got a lead for a Maine Coon cat. These gentle giant cats love water. Cat and daughter were besties from the start.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      That is so awesome! Thank you for sharing! Yes, we believe that we can all help one another as we share our successes and failures with parenting. 😊

  • @carolemuenzer5490
    @carolemuenzer5490 Před 10 měsíci +8

    I think this couple is incredible, working so hard together for their normal

  • @juliadoherty83
    @juliadoherty83 Před 11 měsíci +250

    One of my grandsons has autism and is mute. They diagnosed him via a blood sample and when they told my daughter he has genetic autism she laughed and asked if that was why they did the blood test, because if it was she could have told them it's genetic. One of her brothers also has it. Exactly the same. My daughter and grandson are learning sign language, much to the delight of one of their neighbours who's son is deaf. Good luck with everything. Best wishes from England.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +22

      I love that they are learning sign language. I really tried to get Ezra to do some signs. His brain just doesn’t work that way. And know quite a bit of sign language, and have some deaf friends. I think the world would be a better place if more people knew sign language. :-) thank you for sharing. I have a cousin and a nephew who are Autistic as well.-Holly

    • @ritchierich7757
      @ritchierich7757 Před 11 měsíci +1

      There is no such thing as a blood test. Someone bamboozled you guys

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +6

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +7

      Wow. That’s really cool. ❤️❤️❤️

    • @kristend344
      @kristend344 Před 11 měsíci +17

      Depending upon which geneticist you talk to, there are as many as 23 different genes that can cause/trigger autism.
      I agree with the researchers who think autism is a catch all for a host of related disorders. It can present so differently, and what helps one can be a disaster for another.

  • @dawn2465
    @dawn2465 Před 11 měsíci +165

    Hi. What an amazing bed. I would have loved one of these for our autistic son when he was a toddler. We had many a sleeple
    ss night because he would not stay in bed and we would be worried he would get up once we were asleep. A stair gate kept him in his room but I still worried about what he was getting up to in there. He was diagnosed at 2yrs old and was non verbal until around 4 when he was given more speech and language therapy because he started nursery and then school. He is now 24yrs old and has surpassed all the mile stones that when diagnosed was taken away from us. You all as a family are doing a wonderful job raising two boys with autism. Just keep doing what your doing and pass milestone after milestone as a loving family that you are. God bless you all. Xxxx

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +19

      Wow. This made me tear up. Thank you so much. ❤️ it is difficult to make unique divisions sometimes for Autistic kids cause their needs are so different sometimes. But we appreciate your kind words. How old is your son now? How is he doing?

    • @h0rriphic
      @h0rriphic Před 10 měsíci +8

      ⁠@@7Aheadfamilycomment says he’s 24…and implies he’s doing well

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +9

      Yeah. Sorry I missed that part. ☺️ Thank you for pointing that out! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @user-fd5lo8kp4b
      @user-fd5lo8kp4b Před 10 měsíci +6

      NOT a good job, but they CAN if they wake up & learn how to properly feed him! The bed may be awesome, but should have been set up outside for a week to get rid of toxic fumes! It's probably from china & if, again, you do your homework, things shipped from overseas are treated/sprayed with horrendous toxic chemicals to prevent mold/rat & other infestations.

    • @aprilmay1061
      @aprilmay1061 Před 10 měsíci +14

      @@7Aheadfamily I have an adult son on the spectrum. Your sons response is pretty normal and I instantly recognized his posture of trying to process what this new thing is in his room and what does it have to do with him. It does take awhile for them to get aquatinted to new things as you well know.
      I didn't know about safety beds when our son was younger and we could have benefitted from it as our son was and still is to some degree a wanderer.
      We lost our son one time when he was about 5 years old. I was using the bathroom and walked out and the door was open and he was gone. We had to call 911 and I'll never forget that frantic feeling. One of our neighbors found him in an open lot and me and/or my husband slept in the living room for a few years after that so we could catch him quicker if he walked out again. (We put bells and other noisy things on the door so we could hear if it was being opened.) I still do at times to this day even though he is a lot better at staying put. 😆😆
      You are awesome parents to very beautiful children. All of them Gods gifts to us. 🤗🤗

  • @debrafischer807
    @debrafischer807 Před 11 měsíci +33

    Our granddaughter is autistic and loves rocking and swinging. So when we moved and purchased new furniture, we took her shopping with us and got her her own rocking recliner. She doesn’t ever recline, but sits and rock a lot.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +5

      That is great. What a great way to have her stim in a safe way!

  • @dbw825
    @dbw825 Před 10 měsíci +14

    My son is 38 now. He weighed 1 lb 5 oz when he was born. He is autisic and was legally blind until he got fast growing cataracts about 10 yrs ago. He had them removed but they grew back. Now he is completely blind. Anyway, since before he could even walk, he loved to watch Jeopardy, Wheel of Fortune, and Price is Right. He also played with word flash cards. Anything with words was his "thing". He still loves these shows today and repeats some of the words..basically the only time he talks with a few exceptions. I guess he can remember what the hosts look like. 😊 It makes me so sad that he can't see anymore and is hard for me to deal with.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      I’m so sorry to hear your son has lost his eyesight. 😢 Sending sending prayers and hugs your way ❤️. Let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.

    • @triciac1019
      @triciac1019 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Oh I am so sorry.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @HelenBeeee
    @HelenBeeee Před 11 měsíci +26

    It is such a benefit for the whole family caring for the special needs of the younger boys. A really special family an example to show that new parents don’t need to be afraid if their children have special needs. 😊

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +5

      Thank you, yes, all the children are such a blessing. ❤️

  • @deidreshepherd3776
    @deidreshepherd3776 Před 10 měsíci +12

    I love how your children love and care for each other. Blessings to you all 😊

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      You are so kind, thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️

  • @junekelly9789
    @junekelly9789 Před 10 měsíci +12

    I can only imagine how exhausting this must be. You are awesome💙💙💙💙💙💙

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +2

      Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @lynngehringer1073
    @lynngehringer1073 Před 10 měsíci +8

    I couldn't do what you do! To have children that don't settle down and cry a lot it was hard for me to watch the Video. It surely is a real blessing to have a husband who is involved with the children. His love for them is evident and your children know it too!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +2

      Thank you so much! ❤️ Yeah. Adam is such a great dad for them! 😊

  • @gloriaeizquierdo3455
    @gloriaeizquierdo3455 Před 10 měsíci +10

    What wonderful parents, what a wonderful family. So sweet. God bless your happy, busy home. 🙏❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      You are so kind! Thanks for watching and commenting ❤️

  • @seattlegirl2077
    @seattlegirl2077 Před 11 měsíci +17

    It's a big change for a little guy. I love that some of the sibs were trying to help problem solve and give support.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Yes! Very true. It was a group effort! ❤️

  • @Rickettsia505
    @Rickettsia505 Před 11 měsíci +21

    I worked in a hospital that had patients with brain injuries. A few of them required beds like this for their own safety. They were great, allowing mobility and freedom of movement during a time when mobility was more advanced than judgement.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      Yes, we love ❤️ this bed. Thanks for watching and sharing. ❤️

  • @thisbushnell2012
    @thisbushnell2012 Před 11 měsíci +43

    Change is scary. 70+ years autistic, diagnosed at 17, they have learned so much in these decades. I learned, with little help, how to pass as neurotypical-ish. But the underlying fears never have changed, or lessened. I'm just more practiced at hiding them.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +4

      That makes sense. Thank you for sharing. I am sure you have much wisdom to share. Thank you.

    • @feralbigdog
      @feralbigdog Před 11 měsíci +6

      as an autistic myself, diagnosed in 2014, i agree, i hate change, it usually if not always is bad or scary, and God knows we have had a lot of change and i cant say its good(ill spare the details, i dont think anyone wants to read them), i would wonder if something soft and cuddly like a teddy bear would help him, it helps me.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      Change can be scary. ❤️ We have tried to give him stuffed bears before, he would mostly just throw them, but
      every once in a while he would hold them. ❤️ Thank you for the suggestion! 😊😊😊

    • @virginiamoss7045
      @virginiamoss7045 Před 11 měsíci +5

      Same here, but diagnosed at age 66, way too late to get help since I managed with great effort to imitate the neurotypical enough to get through life without total rejection. As I watch this I find all the commotion and focus on the new bed by all the family members with people coming and going and talking and shouting to be way overwhelming to me and, obviously, to the boy covering his ears and holding his head. And then to just force him, both mentally and physically, makes no sense at all. This should have been done way more quietly and drawn out over many days for a smoother transition. Big brother is a rare gem indeed!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      You are right. Ezra’s would thrive in a more calm and predictable environment. It’s pretty difficult to create the optimal environment for my two younger autistic children. But we can put more effort into it. Thank you for the reminder.

  • @BellBarker
    @BellBarker Před 10 měsíci +1

    The bed is wonderful. The parents are hero's, as are all parents with autistic children.

  • @yadayada752
    @yadayada752 Před 11 měsíci +26

    20 yrs ago I worked for CPS. I had a case where a child had severe autism. He would get up in the night & turn the stove on & do other dangerous things. His family had turned his bedroom into a fortress, nails windows shut & looking the door.
    I got the case because he had gotten out of the house & was found wandering the streets.
    So glad that they have developed these safety beds to protect children. Some people don't understand the problem with 24 hour supervision.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Thank you for sharing. It is a real problem and you’re right, most people don’t understand how serious it is.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Thank you so much for watching, commenting, and sharing. ❤️ We are also very grateful for safety beds. 😊

    • @blazefairchild465
      @blazefairchild465 Před 11 měsíci +2

      I would think if medical insurance pays for a care taker for various diagnosis, a night care taker should be available to families who have children who would be dangerous to themselves without supervision. Like a night nanny ,to sit with the kids at night ,they could listen to podcasts with ear buds or something.

    • @tinahamburg77
      @tinahamburg77 Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@blazefairchild465 Sometimes a "safe haven bed" where the child can't leave by themselves and they are trained to have certain times in there helps the child and the caretakers very much. The child knows it can relax there, the caretakers can sleep also in a separate room. With one ear open as parents with children do, but for themselves and without second thoughts. Helps significantly.
      You only need a nightwatch besides someone if there are conditions like f.ex. epilepsy, self-harm or something like uncontrollable bloodsugarlevels, if there's not another solution available. And it is nice to have peace of mind and not having another person in the household at all times. So props to safe bed developers!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Thank you! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  • @pvtbuddie
    @pvtbuddie Před 10 měsíci +6

    Simon was so nice, moving back into his own bed quietly. I hope you can get him a big bed soon!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +2

      I know! We need to get him a big bed. Maybe with PJ masks bedding!

  • @pegclose3082
    @pegclose3082 Před 10 měsíci +3

    oh boy oh boy... so many blessings to see... the kindness of the bigger children to the younger ones... wonderful mum n dad... Our Lord to bless you, guide you, to hold you tight.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      You are so kind, thank you so much, and right back at you. 😊

  • @linato1855
    @linato1855 Před 11 měsíci +35

    This is so like one of my grandsons when he was little. He’s supposed to be high functioning. Unfortunately at now 18 years old nothing has helped him with his violent outbursts. His father’s not much help and neither are his older brothers as by now have become resentful for all the restrictions placed on them because everything has been a trigger all these years. He’s now taller than my daughter and too strong for her to handle, especially when he yanks her hair off her head as she’s helping him in the bathroom. Wishing all the parents of autistic kids in the world, infinite patience and strength. ♥️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +5

      That sounds incredibly difficult. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes medicine can help calm the nerves and aggression, but it’s different for each person. Hope things can get better.

    • @linato1855
      @linato1855 Před 11 měsíci +5

      @@7Aheadfamily , he’s even been on medical marijuana with no difference. I could share some horrible stories but wouldn’t dare…😭

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +6

      I am so sorry to hear that. ❤️ our love goes out to you and your family.

    • @savannahsmiles1797
      @savannahsmiles1797 Před 11 měsíci +7

      @@linato1855 been a caregiver in group homes when kids age out and their parents just aren't able to handle them anymore. Many become violent, even on meds, and parents just aren't able to take getting beaten up. I get it...

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +1

      It sounds like you do get it. ❤️

  • @marjoriemclean7640
    @marjoriemclean7640 Před 11 měsíci +26

    Keep on keeping on! Your tenacity is admirable! Your outlook on life with 2 autistic children should be in a book, ,maybe in 5 or 10 years when your trials and errors have been practiced. You have blessed many viewers including this old lady! I am so happy to see your transparency dealing with your two, very special autistic children. To be so encouraging not only with the two boys struggling to understand their special world, but the hands on love, patience, acceptance, and eagerness of their older siblings is just righteous beauty! JUST SO VERY REFRESHING, I COMMEND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY!!

    • @marjoriemclean7640
      @marjoriemclean7640 Před 11 měsíci +2

      How often do you put your videos up? That would be such a blessing to me!! The old lady !!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      Thank you so much! ❤️ We really try! 😊

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      Wow! Thank you so much. You got me all teary-eyed. Thanks for your kind words. Do you know any people who have Autism?

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +4

      We have been posting every day lately. usually shorts, but about 2 long form every week. We'll do some educational videos of Autism with examples of our kids, and also add in some vlogs too. have you had a chance to take a look at the channel? We have about 300 videos already. (but our older ones are about how we went to all the National Parks in an RV) So they may not be relavant, but they are of our family and we always include our 2 Autistic kids in our travels. ❤️

  • @caroleellison8576
    @caroleellison8576 Před 10 měsíci +13

    Lovely parents. You deserve an award. 🎉

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      You are so kind. Thanks for watching and commenting. ❤️

    • @lucyllewellyn2850
      @lucyllewellyn2850 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Why would anyone need an award for being a parent u do it unconditional

    • @caroleellison8576
      @caroleellison8576 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@lucyllewellyn2850 quite agree, but how many unsung heroes are out there caring full time for handicapped children. I’ve spent most of my life nursing handicapped children who go on to becoming handicapped adults. One person I helped was a 90 year old lady who was still the carer for her 70 year old child who was totally autistic and sat in a pushchair all day nursing her doll. Love is unconditional but for some life is that bit harder and life means life.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      ❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Agreed, a positive comment can go along way in helping someone, especially on a rough day. ❤️. Thank you for your kindness ❤️

  • @babybirdhome
    @babybirdhome Před 11 měsíci +30

    I’m self-diagnosed autistic and 50 years old and this bed seems super cool to me. I didn’t even know such a thing existed, but I think I would love it even now! It’s hard to say from just the video, but I think he was most likely just overwhelmed by the whole thing - that’s a lot of change all at once and over the course of a day and he seemed like he might have already been spent and had no reserves left for it at the end of his day.
    I do love how supportive your whole family seems to be with your two autistic sons - that’s really amazing and I love your other kids for it. It’s a pretty big deal.
    For me, I was never non-verbal and my mom said I was pretty easy to raise, but having been me all my life, I do know that I’ve always struggled in various ways that I was just really good at masking (in part because my issues weren’t so severe as to make masking impossible). But I can say with certainty that once I’ve reached my limit, I have no options left and I need to be able to recover before I can deal effectively with anything else again. If I keep pushing myself past my end point, I’m going to wind up in either a meltdown condition which is extremely embarrassing and depressing to go through, or if I’m very “lucky”, I’ll wind up dealing with burnout, which will last much longer and is a lot harder to get through and come back out of, but it’s less visible to other people, and so it’s less embarrassing and less stressful in that way. I have to be very careful about managing my internal resources, which is where all the stereotypical autistic traits start coming into play - special interests, hyperfocus, stimming, sensory issues, sensitivity, etc. I need to be able to make use of all of those that I’m able to leverage in order to cut out all the things that are irritating me or stressing me out and recharge and recover so that I have something left to work with for dealing with the challenges a neurotypical world throws at me.
    I’m not sure how much this might help with Ezra given his age and being non-verbal compared to me, because every autistic person is different and experiences and handles things a bit differently, but it might have helped in this situation if you’d been able to prepare him for these changes more in advance and over a longer period of time. For me, things that stress me out are easier to deal with if I know to expect them, have some idea what to expect (the more details the better, to make sure that I understand what’s coming vs. being taken by surprise - while understanding that I may still be taken by surprise if I misunderstood something), because then I can start managing my resources in advance and have an easier time handling the changes when they actually come. But it’s probably also useful to let him know clearly if there are still some unknowns, so that he can prepare for those as well (like, “we don’t know exactly when it will come” or “we’re not sure how long it’ll take to set it up and get it ready”, or in this case maybe even “when it comes, it might have some unusual smells that will go away over a few days or a few weeks”). That way, even if the changes are still too much to handle, they at least won’t take him quite as much by surprise, and over time as he gets older, he’ll be able to learn better how to prepare himself in advance and be a bit less overwhelmed by things. Experience helps a lot, especially when you know how and where to apply that experience.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️ I think you hit the nail on the head. 😊 it did just take some time for him to get used to it, and that her preparation might have helped, although I don’t think he would’ve understood until it actually happened. But I think you’re exactly right in your perception of things. Thanks for watching and being here. We try and have a routine around bedtime and that does really help Ezra…

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
      czcams.com/video/veqihCXPiWQ/video.html

    • @catherinepalmer4596
      @catherinepalmer4596 Před 11 měsíci +1

      I’m 66 and think I may be autistic. Where do you get tested at my age?

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      ❤️❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Are you in the United States?

  • @mchobbit2951
    @mchobbit2951 Před 2 měsíci +1

    The way your older children help with your autistic children melts my heart. You clearly raised them well.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you for sharing. ❤️

    • @preppygurloffical
      @preppygurloffical Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily hello I’m new and plus I ahve sensory processing issues my biggest issue with it is my ears so yeah

    • @preppygurloffical
      @preppygurloffical Před 2 měsíci +1

      And I have bad grammar so yeah and I have a CZcams channel I like Learningblocks and Bluey

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 2 měsíci

      Our kids love Bluey too!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 2 měsíci

      Welcome!

  • @fiebigysgames4444
    @fiebigysgames4444 Před rokem +34

    I think this would benefit Ezra massively. I’m very exited for the whole family. Especially Ezra. I would totally sleep in that bed. You guys are awesome

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +1

      Thank you. :-) Yes, this will benefit the whole family for sure ❤️

    • @Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216
      @Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216 Před rokem +1

      I’d so sleep in a bed like that but one that’s like black or something since I like how the color looks on appliances only hard thing is my room is pretty little even with my sister and I being in that room so it’d have to be one like that but like a twin size or something but I love how the zipper part of it gives camping energy

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      @@Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216 so true! And we love camping as well!!! 😊 not sure if you saw that we visited and ranked all the national parks….

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      @@Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216 Every U.S. National Park We've been to Ranked (Contiguous States)
      czcams.com/video/UisUYvK_vfc/video.html

  • @amandanelhams6198
    @amandanelhams6198 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Seeing the way you put your sons pj's on took me back. My son who also has autism (20 now) used to smear his poop for years. He was doubly incontinent till 14 so this was always a massive issue for us. We used to put his onsies on backwards too but then he found out how to get them off. We had to buy special ones made especially to prevent him taking his pad off. But with special needs, comes special prices. So glad we don't have this issue anymore. Love your sons reaction to his bed. His excitement over such a big change is really nice to see.
    We also had a special bed and it gave us peace of mind knowing he was safe so I can totally empathise with you guys.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much for sharing. Because of this video we put up we found out about a company that makes sleep-wear for older kids that they can’t take off, I am so happy to find it. I was thinking that I would have to try my hand at sewing something big for him. Lol! You guys know so much more than us, since your child is older. We should be asking your advice on stuff. ❤️

  • @Zoobamafoo
    @Zoobamafoo Před 10 měsíci +8

    I'm 60 now, and never diagnosed, but I know I would definitely not like sleeping in something that blocked my ability to see out. Definitely not in a room with no light source, I insisted on a night light. My mom was very insensitive so she didn't understand. I think I'm more along the lines of empathic sensitivity, but from what I'm learning thanks to CZcams, I have some autistic traits as well. Then again, many of the same issues I have seem to apply to both, such as not handling change well among other things. I always knew I was different & couldn't handle as much as other people, but learned to mask & spent a lot of time alone to recuperate. Sensory overload causes me to seem "slow" to other people because I can't process when I'm overloaded. People are only now starting to understand that some of us just can't "toughen up." Sensory overload causes me to focus on anything to shut out what's going on around me, such as the floor, or looking out a window at a tree. There's so much more we need to learn. You're doing a great job with your children, don't get me wrong. I just wanted to maybe give you some ideas of the way thought processes can be so different. I know I wouldn't have done well in a large family, too much going on causes me to withdraw and try to block out what's going on around me because it's more stressful to me compared to what most people consider a normal day. The stress I'm talking about is also that fight or flight type of physical reaction, cortisol being the bodies natural adrenaline, to environment even though other people don't think there's a reason for someone to react with a fear response. Just being different is stressful, actually, so I resort to being alone where my body can calm down, because being around people requires masking. I hope this helps, I realize there's different levels of autism, and what I've experienced may not be what another experiences. I know textures were very important to me, some soothing, others not, such as clothing, blankets and pillows, just to name a few. Light was another. My mom couldn't understand why I couldn't go to sleep for the night when it was still daylight outside as it is in the summer, and needed blackout curtains, but didn't want my bedroom completely dark. May sound like a crazy thing to be sensitive about, but I'm pretty sure there's been some research done on the sun and daylights effect on sleep. I'll say again I can see you're doing your best to help those little ones, and that's a wonderful way to be! I wish my mom had tried as much instead of feeling like I was just wanting attention, or being picky. I don't think she realized how that affected my self esteem.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much for watching, commenting, and sharing. ❤️ We are sorrry to hear you had to go through that when you where young. ❤️

    • @rondaallen7211
      @rondaallen7211 Před 10 měsíci +3

      yup. reminds me of dog kennels.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Simon’s bed is actually made for a dog, and he loves it. He doesn’t like a regular bed. ❤️

  • @suzannemoreau9685
    @suzannemoreau9685 Před 11 měsíci +13

    A weighted blanket works good for our autistic grandson who does better nights now. It is well worth the cost

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +1

      Thank you for sharing! Yes, that’s one thing we still need to try.

    • @weedlebunz
      @weedlebunz Před 13 dny

      @@7AheadfamilyI have one! It's pink (my fav color!) and it helps me lots! It's 25 LBS. but I'm 26 so yea

  • @user-pj1kt9ry7q
    @user-pj1kt9ry7q Před 10 měsíci +1

    There are an amazing about of Orbs in the room. So many family members and love ones from Heaven came to help him.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you, yes, I believe we get a lot of help from the other side. 😊

  • @rebeccatoolan3744
    @rebeccatoolan3744 Před 10 měsíci +7

    I soooo love that bed! Ezra is very fortunate to have such a supportive family watching out for him.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @darlenelipuma7769
    @darlenelipuma7769 Před 11 měsíci +7

    I can't imagine how exhausting this would be day after day. But you do a fantastic job. God bless you all.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      Thank you so much! It's so nice to have help from the whole family. I am blessed to have a wonderful husband who is in the trenches with me and older kids who step up all the time. thank you for your kind words! -Holly

  • @Canuckmom128
    @Canuckmom128 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Amazing Parents. Loving, supportive siblings. I hope Ezra becomes comfortable with his new bed, soon. We all know that kids, in general, don’t like change, and usually more so with Special Needs kids. Beautiful family.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting. ❤️ yes, Ezra is enjoying the bed now…

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
      czcams.com/video/veqihCXPiWQ/video.html

  • @brendahennesseereger8609
    @brendahennesseereger8609 Před 8 měsíci +1

    My great granddaughter is 2 and autistic. My grandson and his wife bought Claire a tent bed. When she is ready for a nap she get her tablet and lays down. She finds the Disney channel, finds her favorite movie for the day, minimizes it to the corner and clicks on every icon on the tablet.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 8 měsíci

      That is so cute! Thank you for sharing

  • @melodiestevens-koo4385
    @melodiestevens-koo4385 Před 10 měsíci +3

    You have a very patient family. It must be hard for the other kids to have everything be about Ezra. I hope they have their time to be the center of the family attention. Prayers for you all.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +4

      Yes, you bring up a good point. We do have to spend more time with Ezra’ and Simon than with the other kids. But one thing we do that helps the situation, is planning kid nights. A kid night is when one child gets to go on a date with one parent. The child gets to pick what to do and they have the whole evening Together. We take turns having each child have their own kid night. :-) every month. This works out and helps the kids not feel ignored.

    • @melodiestevens-koo4385
      @melodiestevens-koo4385 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@7Aheadfamily What a great way for the others to have "their" time. Thank you for responding. I think every family could benefit from a kids night.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +2

      We’ve been doing “kid nights” ever since they were really small. And now that our older ones are teenagers they still want their kids might. I thought they’d feel too cool and our grow them but not yet!

  • @redhoneyhoney00
    @redhoneyhoney00 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I ❤️ the Support, Patience and ❤️ that your Family especially your kids, his siblings displayed on this video their actions showed how well their being raised…😊🙃

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Well, you are so kind. ❤️ Thank you for watching and commenting. You might also like a day in the life video…

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      A Day in the Life of Mild Autism and Severe Autism
      czcams.com/video/RykVSG2TNPY/video.html

  • @gaynorbrotchie2523
    @gaynorbrotchie2523 Před 7 měsíci +1

    GREAT PARENTS~!!! How wonderful that you parents have surrounded ALL your kids with love... so they are included in assisting their siblings with so much love and support.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 7 měsíci

      Thank you so much! These are kind words that we won't forget! ❤️

  • @LunaZane
    @LunaZane Před 10 měsíci +1

    My autistic son was non-verbal for many years. Turns out he also had Auditory Processing Disorder and our speech was difficult for him to decipher. Tv cartoons and music taught him to speak. Now we know short clear sentences work and he practices his speech with a computer and headsets repeating fun lines he likes from educational or cartoon clips.
    That said invest in nice noise canceling headsets so he can tone down the extreme sensory overload of a busy home when he needs. Music therapy helps with so many issues.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much for sharing! That is awesome that he is learning speech through cartoons. Yeah, hopefully soon Ezra will keep headphones on. Right now he just throws them.😜

  • @jane156
    @jane156 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Beautiful family and so loving! Bless them all.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @robertshrewsbury5067
    @robertshrewsbury5067 Před 11 měsíci +8

    Happened to notice a red popsicle. Some people are prone to reactions from red and blue dyes, chemicals, etc. I imagine it is something you are aware of. Like the teamwork of your family.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +2

      You are right! We had a friend with a little boy that had to take red die out of his diet and it made a big difference. Maybe we should try that

    • @loesjevervloet3769
      @loesjevervloet3769 Před 11 měsíci +3

      I saw that also, dyes are detrimental for these kids. I had to take all sugar and dies out of our diet for our son. This was 40 years ago, when dyes were a little less than they are today. Home cooked and organic. He lives with me today . He manages well , but at highly stressful times, he still loses it sometimes. My son is a meat eater. Meat and sticky rice.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +3

      Thank you for pointing this out. It’s something that I haven’t thought a lot about, but I’ll look into it

    • @suzannegaglie6146
      @suzannegaglie6146 Před 10 měsíci +4

      Red dye no. 40 and yellow dye are the worst

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Interesting. Thank you so much for the insight! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sandwichmaker98
    @sandwichmaker98 Před 8 měsíci +1

    LOVE the entire family support ❤ when we changed my sons bed, he had to spend a few days playing on it before he’d sleep on it. He’s since regressed again, now he only sleeps in his rocking recliner chair, sleeps well in it, but we just applied for a Cubby Bed (similar to this) due to new eloping abilities at night.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 8 měsíci

      Sounds like you know just what we are going through. ❤️ Thank you for watching and sharing your story. ❤️

    • @sandwichmaker98
      @sandwichmaker98 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily absolutely. Often feel alone….I’m happy to see these videos

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 8 měsíci

      So glad we can share them and develop this community ❤️.

  • @sarahbarton4100
    @sarahbarton4100 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Changing beds was hard for my son, so we used the new bed to read and play on until one night he fell asleep on it. A very surprised little chap the next day, and after a few weeks, he moved himself to it permanently.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 8 měsíci

      Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️😊❤️

  • @lornaduwn
    @lornaduwn Před 11 měsíci +10

    My mom is 88 years old and jokes about how she used to sleep in a cage. As a toddler she slept in a cast iron crib that had a hinged cover on it. I guess the new safety beds aren't that new of an idea after all.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +4

      True. This idea of keeping kids in a contained space is probably ancient. We’re trying to keep them safe.

    • @pamisley6311
      @pamisley6311 Před 10 měsíci +1

      ​@@7AheadfamilyI admit (at first) I was a little taken aback by the fact that the kids can't get out of the tents...Then my brain reminded me that I have NO idea what raising kids w autism is like so maybe I should just shut up & watch the video & maybe I'd learn something! 😂
      So I did and I did! 😅 Now I absolutely understand why. See? You didn't even have to tell me off, I told myself off LOL
      Jokes aside, all the best to you & your family! You guys are doing a great job! 🙂💛

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thanks for watching the video. The purpose of our videos is to help spread awareness of our unique normal raising Autistic kids. So thank you for taking the time to see what we shared in the movie. And you are so funny! ❤️

  • @mayday5716
    @mayday5716 Před rokem +14

    That´s awesome. Great job. You all are so working hard on this ❤

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting. 😊

  • @Avatar2win
    @Avatar2win Před 7 měsíci +1

    I slept in an indoor tent, ball pit, and bunk bed as a child and now a canopy bed. This makes me feel not alone in needing to sleep in tight spaces. Thank you

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 7 měsíci

      That’s great. I bet Ezra would love ❤️ a ball pit to sleep in

  • @kyhilltophome3153
    @kyhilltophome3153 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I was an LPN for 27 years. Much of my career was as an agency nurse in a large metropolitan area. I worked in over 100 different facilities. From time to time facilities would have residents suffering from Huntington's Chorea. At the best they would be in beds like this. At the worst they would line the floors with mattresses and the resident would roll around all over the mattresses. A couple of times I would have to give meds crawling around on the 'floor'. Their muscles would be so spastic they could not stay in a regular bed. Lots of interesting experiences in those years.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Wow! Thank you for your service as a nurse. ❤️ The world can’t have enough good nurses. Yes, these beds definitely have their place, and can be a lifesaver at times. Literally.

  • @Christian_Martinez_yt
    @Christian_Martinez_yt Před rokem +6

    The force is strong with this one

  • @lauravf3708
    @lauravf3708 Před 10 měsíci +7

    What a beautiful family! I would love a bed like Ezra’s! ❤

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much❤️. I know right. 😊

    • @gloriawelch3603
      @gloriawelch3603 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Check with your insurance. If your child is handicapped you might get it free. My daughter got one for her son. Otherwise cost would have been $5000. But the loud constant talking is not good for autistic children.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Yes! Very true! Some insurances will help pay for things like this, if you can prove that they are truly helpful. ❤️ thanks for mentioning that.

  • @BlessedtobeMimi
    @BlessedtobeMimi Před 10 měsíci +1

    I also have 5 kids and the youngest two (now 19 & 18) are autistic. So nice to see your family doing so well! Adorable family! God bless!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Wow, that’s crazy. 😊 Are you also in the United States?

    • @BlessedtobeMimi
      @BlessedtobeMimi Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily yes I am. Had a horrible school experience with the youngest.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      We’re sorry to hear that. ❤️ God bless you guys! ❤️😊❤️

  • @mlthewi1287
    @mlthewi1287 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thanks for a window into your world. Sending love and all kinds of good energies to your family!

  • @NicoleS0913
    @NicoleS0913 Před rokem +12

    Hi!!! New here. I just watched your rv tour and see you’re now in a house!!! Ezra is so cute!!! I love his name!!! And all the kids are so helpful it’s great!!! Idk a lot about autism but I do see that you’re Fantastic parents!!!💛

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +3

      Aww, that’s sweet, thank you. ❤️ So, glad you could join us.

  • @tamaraanderson7260
    @tamaraanderson7260 Před rokem +7

    I love Ezra’s new bed! I think it will be great for him.

  • @imus16
    @imus16 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Amazing brothers and parents. I understand your family very well. We have to be very patient with autistic boy or girl. GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY.

  • @eliseobrien7709
    @eliseobrien7709 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Love your positive comments to everyone, no matter what their comments and opinions are. Such positivity will flow through to your family.

  • @PrimaryChoristers
    @PrimaryChoristers Před rokem +9

    So excited for Ezra!

  • @lisamoag6548
    @lisamoag6548 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Those are like tents. Fun and safely cozy.

  • @ruthcornelsen8939
    @ruthcornelsen8939 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Ahh such patient supportive parents love you for this. Dont worry he will being so much joy to your life in the future.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you for this kind reply. I needed this today. ❤️

  • @justmepipi4844
    @justmepipi4844 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Mom Dad, you are doing an Amazing job with All your Children.
    You involve all the older children help with the figuring out what might help reach what your Sons trying to communicate. AMAZING JOB lots of Love , and understanding in this Family!!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much! Appreciate you watching and commenting ❤️. Much love. ❤️

    • @justmepipi4844
      @justmepipi4844 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily ❤️❤️❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      👍😊❤️❤️

  • @Bevliever
    @Bevliever Před 11 měsíci +4

    In Germany we have wooden safetybeds with doors in it in most cases. Habe never seen such „soft“ safetybeds before. 😉

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Wow, that sounds awesome! I would love to check one of those out. 😊 Are there a lot of air vents in those ones?

    • @Bevliever
      @Bevliever Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily I am a bit confused, because I wrote two comments (because the first one disappeared) and know the second one did also. I hope that is only a fault of my CZcams-App and you can see the comments. If not I will write a third one about the Kayserbetten-safetybeds.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Got this comment. 😊 Those look like incredible beds 😊. $17,000, those are expensive as well. 😊

  • @monaminchau4798
    @monaminchau4798 Před 11 měsíci +6

    Thanks for this clip. I had never heard of safety beds before (yup, living under a rock 😂). What a great concept!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @crankyoldwoman
      @crankyoldwoman Před 11 měsíci +1

      I've never heard of safety beds before either.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      I think it's more common now than ever, since more and more insurance companies are helping to pay for them

  • @tinapoucher7406
    @tinapoucher7406 Před 10 měsíci +1

    God Bless this family…such sweet parents & siblings!❤

  • @MinnowCreekGirl
    @MinnowCreekGirl Před 11 měsíci +2

    My dad was put in a bed like that while in the nursing home. Then the state came in and said those types of beds cause some to have anxiety and panic, which my dad had. Once he was in a regular bed he slept normal. I hope this works for your son.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Yes, it has been a huge blessing…

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
      czcams.com/video/veqihCXPiWQ/video.html

  • @ItsTulipsToca
    @ItsTulipsToca Před 11 měsíci +5

    I have recently started to look into autism- I think I might be autistic from all I’ve seen so far- this video reminds me of when I moved from my toddler bed to my ‘big girl bed’ i was about 4-6 and I cried the whole first night because it was a new bed with new bedding- and I wanted my old room back (we had also redone the whole bedroom) it was to much and I just cried. Now I’m in an entirely different room and when I first moved in here we did it slow and I kept the same bedding for a while. This is one of my many reasons that I think I could have autism ❤

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      That makes sense. New things and big changes can be really difficult. Thank you for sharing.

    • @ItsTulipsToca
      @ItsTulipsToca Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily of course! Thank you for helping me understand myself and little me a bit better ❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      And thanks for commenting too! We love hearing from people who watch the channel!

  • @littlejonathorn6860
    @littlejonathorn6860 Před rokem +5

    Nice job Holly and Adam & 7-Ahead Family!!!!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +1

      Thanks ❤️

    • @littlejonathorn6860
      @littlejonathorn6860 Před rokem +1

      @@7Aheadfamily Love Ezra’s new bed. Hope he enjoys it and makes an easy transition to his new bed.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +1

      It wasn’t quite easy. 😊 but he is now sleeping in it, so that is great. 😊

  • @annabees
    @annabees Před 10 měsíci +1

    awww now I'm missing my 4 siblings and when we were kids. Big families organized mess is something you need to experience to grasp 🥰

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      It really is! Well said. I am surprised at how many people are reacting negatively to our family, but I love it. The chaos of sweet little ones helping each other is what we are used to. ❤️

  • @eden_aumakua
    @eden_aumakua Před 10 měsíci +1

    My only comment is this: I don't know how you do it! Thank you for loving your babies so beautifully.

  • @SasquatchPJs
    @SasquatchPJs Před 10 měsíci +3

    I'm on the spectrum myself and I would say the smell was probably quite overwhelming at first. Having some time to let the chemically smell of new fabrics/plastics settle and having comforting smells of people he knows take over was probably a massive help. The way smells can instantly hit you and trigger memories/feelings can be tough even when you are kind of ready for them. Personally anything too perfumy or fake smelling (like air fresheners) makes me uncomfortable very quickly. Having something like clothes or a blanket/pillow that has not been washed too recently (not filthy but just used) would likely help with any new experiences in the future. Any sensation of home goes a long way.

    • @debracisneroshhp2827
      @debracisneroshhp2827 Před 10 měsíci +2

      @sasquatchpjs,
      My husband taught me that trick when taking our kitties to the vet__an white t-shirt he wore goes into the carrier beforehand and they feel less stressed. 🐾😺💖

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      That is a really good idea. Thank you

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Great idea

  • @123cocomunn
    @123cocomunn Před 11 měsíci +6

    You should keep a lock on the pantry and fridge/freezer so he cannot get what he wants whenever he wants. He has to ask for it.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      That's a really good idea. We should do that.

  • @amyt6254
    @amyt6254 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Transitions are so hard! You and your family do such a great job adapting and helping the boys! This big safety bed is such a good idea!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much!! Appreciate you watching and commenting ❤️

  • @deborahbaker1171
    @deborahbaker1171 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Much love! Ezra wants to take his time!all your children are wonderful! And so are you,mom and daddy!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you, yeah it just took a little bit. 😊

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
      czcams.com/video/veqihCXPiWQ/video.html

  • @kellybraun7048
    @kellybraun7048 Před 10 měsíci +4

    How does Ezra feel about pillow forts? That’s what the safety beds remind me of-I’d absolutely sleep in the new one… my cat might not like being unable to move in and out easily, though.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Ezra likes forts, he just takes them apart when given the chance but he enjoys them. ❤️

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      And that is very nice of you to let your cat sleep with you.

  • @story7640
    @story7640 Před rokem +6

    Lovely family ❤❤

  • @karlannespinks6475
    @karlannespinks6475 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You all are doing amazing. Keep up the marvelous work!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much! ❤️😊❤️😊❤️

  • @marilynmccormick3731
    @marilynmccormick3731 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I imagine some stressful nights mom & dad sorta wish they could crawl in that bed and zip it shut. Best wishes to your family.

  • @LG-xb9tg
    @LG-xb9tg Před rokem +7

    I'm so happy for you guys and for Ezra! Will Simon get a new bed too at some point?? My just about 3 year old got a new safety bed yesterday and slept in in for the first time tonight!!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      That is so awesome! What type of safety bed did you guys end up getting? We are hoping that Simon won’t need one, but we will see. 😊

    • @LG-xb9tg
      @LG-xb9tg Před rokem +1

      @@7Aheadfamily we ended up getting one called the safety sleeper by Abrams nation. It came be broken down and set up again with an air mattress if we travel.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      That is super nice! Yeah, this one definitely doesn’t work for travel. 😊

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      We will have to look into that as well. 😊

  • @christienelson1437
    @christienelson1437 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Some of the problem may also be the coloring. His old shelter hut was black in coloring and dark and cool in temperature. The new one is white which is good for claustrophobia. If the color can’t be change, maybe hang up dark curtains inside with Velcro to be removed if necessary. 🙏💕🙏💕🙏

  • @bealestcat
    @bealestcat Před 10 měsíci +1

    that is awesome. Didn't know this is available. I have an autistic granddaughter and we have found many surprises when we wake up. This would be very safe.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Yes! It’s been literally a life saver for our family. And Ezra loves his bed so much now. How old is your granddaughter?

    • @bealestcat
      @bealestcat Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily She is 10 but maturity age is about 4.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci +1

      I see. Though Ezra is 7, cognitively he is about 2.

    • @bealestcat
      @bealestcat Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@7Aheadfamily Autism is so horrible. I wish I knew what is she thinking and does she understand what we are saying. Hopefully someday we will understand about these sweet babies. She is always happy, though. At least, most of the time. I wish you well. Your family is so sweet to help with Ezra.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Autism can be hard. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rosemarymcgrory-eb2gd
    @rosemarymcgrory-eb2gd Před 11 měsíci +1

    My son is Autistic and has a special mattress.. that has an Alarm on it , coz he has fits as well sometimes .. but he used to jump on his bed and scared hims coz of the Motion Alarm on his Mattress.. it’s as amazing the things that are made to help sick children . I’m so happy this young boy has his special bed

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Wow, thank you for sharing. That alarm sounds awesome. I haven’t actually heard of that. Does it work well for your boy?

  • @kalegolas
    @kalegolas Před rokem +3

    It would probably take a week to me to, mostly because it would scare me to not be able to leave the bed by myself, but I understand that thats kind of the point with this beds and it seems good if it works.

  • @virginiaalderson4793
    @virginiaalderson4793 Před 11 měsíci +4

    My son is autistic and he struggles with change aswell.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 11 měsíci

      Yes, change can be difficult. It took a while but now Ezra loves his bed.

  • @cherylkatje8602
    @cherylkatje8602 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Awesome loving family. Hero parents. God bless.

  • @maureenlaneski2802
    @maureenlaneski2802 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I like how the whole family is involved ❤

  • @blakeexaviar9370
    @blakeexaviar9370 Před rokem +6

    I have autism and one thing that calms me down is small spaces. I'd love to sleep in a bed like Ezra's cause it's a small space. I'd be way to tall for that one though.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      That is interesting to hear, yeah, both Ezra and Simon seem to love small spaces as well. Do you just have a normal bed then? Thanks for sharing!❤️

    • @blakeexaviar9370
      @blakeexaviar9370 Před rokem +1

      @@7Aheadfamily I have a bunk bed now, but I used to have a safety bed. I enjoyed that bed cause it was a closed space. As I got older I learned the dangers of elopement, but I used to run a lot.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      @@blakeexaviar9370 Cool, glad you learned the dangers. 😊 Ezra’s not there yet, and when he goes, he does not come back. 😜 losing him at night would be extremely dangerous.

    • @blakeexaviar9370
      @blakeexaviar9370 Před rokem +1

      @@7Aheadfamily I believe one day him and Simon will understand. They're 3 and 7, but I'm 16, so I'm quite a few years older, so hopefully when they're my age they'll grow out of it, or they begin to understand. For now you're doing a great job keeping them safe and happy, so good job.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +1

      @@blakeexaviar9370 You’re are so kind ❤️ yes, we’re hoping they turn out as good as you. 😊

  • @thomasschoeck9080
    @thomasschoeck9080 Před rokem +3

    I can’t imagine sleeping in that bed. I’m not sure that he would be able to see anything in the room if he opens his eyes. That would probably be scary for him.
    I remember that I slept in something similar to a crib until I was around four years old (It was basically a toddler bed with sides so I wouldn’t roll out or possibly wander off during the night). I was not able to climb out of it at that age, but since I could at least see what was around me I didn’t really mind as long as I had a snack and something to drink before bed so I wouldn’t be hungry or thirsty. It’s possible that Simon and Ezra are better at climbing than I was so this may not be an option for them, but it may work for some kids who are not yet ready for a twin size bed. Bedtime stories helped me to sleep at that age even if I didn’t really understand them yet. I think it was probably the sound of the words (along with the nightly routine) that helped me to sleep.
    I have a friend who has two grandsons who are on the spectrum and the younger one started saying “Hi” and “Bye” around age three. I think he learned those words from watching Cocomelon. He also learned other basic words like “please”, “Thank You”, and “Excuse me”. Now three years later he is up to between fifty and a hundred words and sometimes uses some simple phrases and occasional sentences. I have been told that he just started first grade this Fall, but as far as I know he has not learned how to ask questions yet. He seems to understand more words than he is able to use. For example, as long ago as last year (or even the year before) he was already able to follow basic instructions like bringing someone an umbrella from a nearby room. One word of warning about Cocomelon (and similar shows) is that the episodes on Netflix and Hulu are too long and they could be too hypnotic and/or overwhelming when viewed in this format (as at least one or two critics/reviewers pointed out in various articles). Shows like this are probably best viewed selectively (in the interest of avoiding tantrums and/or meltdowns) in order to teach specific lessons (such as table manners or toilet training). This is probably best accomplished with short segments on CZcams (for example). The friend of mine referenced above is currently using Cocomelon very selectively to teach and reinforce lessons on table etiquette and toilet training with her younger grandson and a much younger granddaughter and she seems to be getting at least some results from this. The older grandson (in either second or third grade (I forget which)) is far enough along to no longer need shows like this (although he still struggles with sharing toys, taking turns and understanding irony, sarcasm and jokes).
    My own ability to ask questions developed around age four when I learned basic words for parts of the body like “hand”, “foot”, “arm”, “leg”, etc. Around age four-and-a-half I started pointing to parts of the body that I didn’t know the name of and started asking about what they were. In that fashion, I learned words like “Elbow”, “Knee”, “Ear”, and some other words. I eventually started asking about the names of other objects around me. I was a bit of a late bloomer when it came to verbal development (either due to premature birth or other reasons (I may be somewhere on the spectrum, but due to the limited testing available in the 1980s and 1990s it is not one hundred percent certain. There is a good chance of it, though, due to family history.)) and I remember pretty clearly that I was in second grade by the time that my teacher told me that my vocabulary was at least up to the two hundred word mark and that from there on I should be able to learn new words on my own and that seemed to be the case (for the most part). I still struggled with reading anything longer than short books for a long time, but by age thirteen or fourteen it came more easily and I was reading most non-fiction books as well as anyone else in the school. I still struggle with reading novels and other fiction even now (in my late 40s), but fortunately I don’t need to read them in my current line of work. I also tend to forget to make eye contact and modulate the volume of my voice (my voice is usually too loud) until I am reminded to do so but I hope I am improving in that area.
    In short, difficulties like the ones I mentioned above don’t go away but that may improve over time in some instances. Ezra may still learn to talk at some point but it is likely to take a long time. If he does eventually learn to speak, he may learn to say “No”, “pee-pee”, “poo-poo”, ”all done”, ”bath”,“potty” or even some “four-letter words” before he learns to say the words that you might want him to say instead. I think I learned to say my first “four-letter-word” shortly before I asked my first questions. I could be mistaken about this, but based on the observation about swear words living in a different (sub-cortical) area of the brain from other words (as referenced in the Netflix comedy series about the history of swearing) it makes some sense. I also read about this in the late 1990s in a college course about the biological basis of behavior. In addition, it is often mentioned by other people that I talk to who have traveled to other countries that they learn the “four-letter-words” before learning some of the more practical ones.
    I think this is about all that I can think of on these topics for now.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      Thank you so much for this insight. We are still learning what is best for our children. And thank you for sharing your story. We expect that someday Ezra won’t need this bed anymore. I wonder when that day will be and how old he’ll be. I guess time will tell. How old were you when you had a regular twin bed?

    • @thomasschoeck9080
      @thomasschoeck9080 Před rokem +1

      @@7Aheadfamily I don’t remember exactly but I think I was somewhere between four and five (probably around four-and-a-half).

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem

      Nice, well thanks for watching and keep in touch. 😊

  • @kalegolas
    @kalegolas Před 6 měsíci +1

    This reminds me about something that happend then I was a little kid, maybe around 5 years old. My family visited my cousins and I was of some reason very sad then I should sleep and I didnt stop crying and screaming. My parents lifted me from the bed and let me sleep between them instead (I still cryed tho). My cousins have cats and then this happend their female cat had just got kittens that she ofcourse never leaved alone normally. But then the cat mom heard my crying she actually walked from her sleeping kittens and jumped up to me and my parents and started to calm me down, she stayed close to my face the entier night and didnt went back to her kittens until I wake up the morning after.
    She simply noticed a crying young child and as the mother she was she wanted to take care of the child (me). 😍

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 6 měsíci

      Wow! That is the sweetest story! Thank you for sharing that!

  • @courtleewright
    @courtleewright Před 10 měsíci +2

    Love the new dog bed!

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thanks. The new one is actually made for children. ❤️😊❤️

  • @Young_r700
    @Young_r700 Před rokem +5

    His bed is so cool 😎

  • @allthingsjered
    @allthingsjered Před rokem +4

    Such an awesome bed!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @maggiepenny7003
    @maggiepenny7003 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I taught twins in a day care they both had different things that calmed them down sounds crazy but a closet is hard to break .One brother was very calm and love to both nap or go in the closet to play there was to much going on in the classroom We never shut the door but just a little open He slept great. Each of the twins were different in their learning skills John learned how to print simple words at age 5 His brother was happy to sit and turn cars in circles. Accept what they can do and be encouraging. Life is a journey and just love them . Be grateful for simple things when they are still young. I also found having pictures of each activity help them know where to go and it was less frustrating for both boys. Neither of the boys could talk. God bless your family you are all doing great. The help from the other children is done out of love good for them.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story! Those are some good ideas ❤️

  • @bik5916
    @bik5916 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You guys are inspiring. Truly 👍🏻

  • @ralph4720
    @ralph4720 Před rokem +8

    I'm happy for Ezra he needs a new Hideout!

  • @bellaluci9844
    @bellaluci9844 Před rokem +8

    Outstanding new big boy bed! I'm so excited for you all! I would sleep in that nice bed too! Does it come with warranty if the child damages the mesh? I enjoy your videos and I learn so much! Thanks for sharing your family.💓

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před rokem +2

      Thank you so much for your kind words. ❤️ The warranty info is pretty vague. Manufacture, defects are covered for five years, but it is not very clear if Ezra, where to break it if it would be covered. We would try. :-) At this point I don’t think he could break anything, but a few years from now that might change. :-) Hoping that he just enjoys the bed and is too intimidated by its size to try and break it. 😊 ❤️

  • @pamelakate560
    @pamelakate560 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I was not going to comment, but you asked if I would sleep in it. IN A HEARTBEAT!!! I am constantly attacked by gnats! And sometimes mosquitos come in through the ac and bite me! I am disabled and spend 23 hrs in bed - eating, sleeping, paying bills, and online things. Bugs especially love attacking when the pc is on. I think I will look into the cost of this bed. Thanks for sharing this video.

    • @7Aheadfamily
      @7Aheadfamily  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you for commenting. ❤️ we really appreciate your point of view. I am so sorry that you have to deal with nasty bug bites. I hope you can get some netting to help with the bugs.