Sex and the City - How Charlotte Was Wrong About Everything
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- The Take is now on Snapchat. This month in celebration of Halloween, we'll be releasing two episodes a week! Scan our snapcode or search The Take on Snapchat to subscribe to our show and never miss an episode! / 5879691185 | Sex and the City’s Charlotte York (Kristin Davis) is a hopeless, old-fashioned romantic. She unabashedly dreams of getting married, having children, and living out a classic ideal of romantic love. This beacon of optimism acts as a stand-in for viewers who can identify with her conventional desire for a perfect-looking fairy tale. But if we look closer, much of the series is devoted to disproving the various “love myths” that Charlotte believes in. Here’s our Take on how, by showing how Charlotte is wrong about everything to do with love-but still right to believe in it -Sex and the City guides us to a deeper understanding of what romance is really all about.
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I think this video has a bad, misleading title. It indicates that Charlotte was never right in any aspect of her life. I think a clarification of what Charlotte got wrong about love would be less damning towards her as a character. =|
Hi! can't see it in the Netherlands. Would love to see it here!!
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After Charlotte tells Miranda that she only has a 15% chance of having a baby and Miranda follows behind her to make sure she gets home safely is one of my all time favorite moments in the whole series
good friends, as they should
Mine too! ❤️
Same... :)
Miranda was so cool like that... they were still kind of mad at each other yet she still followed her home
@@MalloryNewcomb she was emotionally mature, and had the ability to see Charlotte needing support was bigger than their current disagreement! -Carrie would never have done that, she would have asked ”are you sure? And then lit her cigarette and be trotting off to some shoe sale”.-
@@soilgrasswaterair "Well 50% off Manolo Blahniks! That's worth more than mere friendship" (throws cigarette away).
For all her faults, Charlotte is, without a doubt, the character that grows the most during the show's run. Her entire arc with Harry, from their initial relationship to their marriage and the loss of their baby, all the way to their adoption of Lily is so well done and shows all her strengths and learnings.
Yes! She had to grow from her 1st marriage and realize what truly will make her happy. I loved her relationship with Harry! Now that was the perfect relationship
Agreed. Her relationship with Harry is my favourite story arc on the show.
Harry and Charlotte getting together was my favorite part of the show. I adore them. I always liked Charlotte.
@@knockknocklandshark9022 Carrie having not even a hint of character development throughout the show was completely in character for her, if that makes any sense
knock knock Landshark I agree about Carrie 😒 she is relatable in that we all met someone as fun yet selfish as her
Charlotte was always vastly underappreciated. She was honest, intelligent, loyal, and optimistic. Those are all wonderful qualities, but because she's a traditionally feminine character people thought lowly of her.
Its weird and makes no sense, but I always STRONGLY identified with both Charolette and Miranda. I know they seem like polar opposites but I feel like I fit somewhere in between them. Charlotte was the best idc what anyone says.
olivia martinez Same here girl! I related to Miranda being a career focused, cynical woman, but at the same time I relate to Charlotte’s desire to want to share something special with someone.
agree
@@westworlds also agreed.
@@westworlds Charolette and Miranda are foils of each other-which is why their character arcs paralleled so nicely
"I've Been Dating Since I Was 15. I'm Exhausted! Where Is He?"
I relate to this so much.
Preach!
The amount of times i said that back when i was like 18 hahaha. I'm such a Charlotte person (although i also identify with Miranda a bit), but i had, like her, to let go of my preconceptions of love. I met the love of my life when i was 19 and have been with him every since (i'm 26 years old). He's the opposite of the person i saw myself with but it works!
😭😭😭😤 they should stop doing this.
That line will always be iconic.
I love how she ended up finding love in a way that was totally unexpected. She was wrong, but she was right at the same time. And she was always my favorite.
how did it end for her?
not my opinion Charlotte and Harry ended up adopting a little girl from China and also ended up getting pregnant naturally a few years later. I feel like she was the happiest in her relationship when the movies came out
@The Psychedelic Underbelly Miranda started off good and funny and ended uncomfortably cynical. EVERYTHING was an issue. She became rude like every episode. The baby ruined her character
It was not believable that steve loved her🤷🏽♀️
he end up with a bald and fat guy.
not my opinion She is rich and married to an ugly men.
The older I get, the more I turn into a Miranda. Minus all the success
Lmao me too. It's okay girl! You don't have to be super sucessful just to be independent and opinionated
I felt that in my soul
Miranda was the most underrated of the 4.
I don't know what you class as success, but I hope you're not equating it to money/ career. Often when our careers are going well our personal life is a shit show. As long as you can go to bed most days and feel satisfied in what you've done, you're doing just fine. Miranda>>>>Carrie
I’m cryyyiiinng 😂😂. Same
Charlotte’s most moving moments:
Calling Carrie on her sh*t when she was having the affair with Big
Confronting Big / defending Carrie when he tried to chase down the limo after standing Carrie up at the wedding. That “NO!” is just the fiercest ever.
My favorite Charlotte moments are when she said the girls should be each others soul mates, when she showed up for Miranda after she thought M had had an abortion and when she went to Brady's birthday after her miscarriage.
Her smacking Big with the flowers was my fave scene from that movie.
@@thefriesofLockeLamora Charlotte is underrated! Sure she can be annoying and hypocritical but she shows a hella lot of growth, as does Samantha with Smith and Miranda with Steve ( although I always wished she'd gotten together with the hot doctor and broken racial stereotypes instead)! I think Carrie was meant to be static just and be a mirror showing the other characters' growth! While I love Samantha, I relate to Charlotte (the most) and Miranda after that. When Miranda talks about how 4 smart women could talk about nothing but men, I really felt that!! The scene where Charlotte says they're each other's soul mates is one of the best scenes.
@@archieniv I might be wrong but I think the black guy you are talking about is a lawyer, and the quote you said at the end was from Miranda.
Again I could be wrong on the first one in case you are talking about someone else I dont remember.
If it is Miranda's neighbor, he is a lawyer.
Haven't watched the show in years.
@@tagaway6173 I'm talking about the final guy she dates before getting back together with Steve. Wiki says the characters was called Dr. Robert Leeds and he was a successful sports medicine doctor....so that's why I recalled him being a hot doctor .
I know a girl who is Charlotte-type.
Girls like that are super optimistic, kind and care about their friends. We shouldn't blame them for wanting good-looking wealthy guy. They are pretty and good-looking by themselves, I think they have all rights to ask for it. I see myself only with a partner that as smart as I am. And I have never been shamed for it. People just think it's logical, that a smart girl prefers to date smart people. But why whenever pretty girls wanting to be with a pretty guy - everybody is so not here for it?
Absolutely ! I have always attracted guys who preferred me without any makeup and nice clothes on. Well, that's because I was always attracted myself to laid back guys who didn't care much about appearence and mundanity and preferred experiences over possessions. It may sound strange, but I've never been with a rich man and I wouldn't like to, because with money usually comes certain social obligations or values that I am utterly allergic to. I'm very happy living a simple life instead.
You attract who you are attracted to :)
I know! World hates the Charlottes; but why??
Pretty doesn’t sustain and isn’t enough to build a marriage on. Imo seeking a person to marry because of their looks is foolish.
I think you missed the point of the video. They weren't saying that Charlotte was wrong to have preferences. Just that she was so focused on the perfect idea of what a partner and marriage should be, she lost sight of actually finding a real connection with someone. She eventually let go of that rigid way of thinking and a met a loving partner that she really connected with. There is no shame in having ideals. But also know that life rarely works out the way you first envision. If you are too strict with your rules, you might miss out on some really great people.
TheSuperNats looks is not the only factor but still important. How are you going to love someone if you hate how their face looks?
I wouldn’t want someone to date me if they didn’t like my looks.
I hated when Carrie practically bullied her into giving her money for her poor life decisions when she was about to lose her apartment.
Right?!? So entitled. Nobody owes you your exorbitantly expensive apartment just bc they “have the money”. Same with the time she blamed her friend bc she lost her shoes at a party. Bring a bag for your expensive shoes or ask to place them somewhere safe.
Very entitled indeed. As time goes on and I re-watch SATC, I start to appreciate Charlotte more and more. And Carrie just works on my nerves. She is inconsistent. Wants a fantasy whirlwind romantic New York life,which in my opinion is unattainable and slightly a bit naive. She wants certain things but at the same time when she gets it, she is confused and frustrated that it didn't come with the pretty bow she expected it to come in. She lives in her brain more than in reality.
That had to be one of the worst episodes. You're in your late 30s, have less than 1,000 dollars in savings, the bank won't give you a loan, and you want your friend to loan you 30 grand, and guilt her into doing it???
I don't think that is the point of that episode,I mean, it's Carrie's fault becuase I think she can sell their shoes or sale clothing, but the part of Charlotte she could offer the money and she didn't do it, friends are for support other friends. Miranda and Samantha didn't doubt about it.
@GA I hear what you say and agree with you to a certain extent. In my opinion I feel that it wasn't fair to "money-shame" Charlotte when she didn't offer when Sam and Miranda offered money and then felt brazen enough to confront Charlotte about it and make her feel like a bad friend. Money is a sensitive topic for some people and I think Carrie should just have respected the fact that Charlotte didn't want to talk about it or even offer her money. Okay yes in the end Charlotte did give her her wedding ring from her first marriage to pawn off and make a down payment on her apartment. And it was an important lesson for Carrie. But Carrie basically bullied and "money-shamed" Charlotte for not offering money and for being rich. Money is not something one talks about lightly. A true friend would do what Charlotte - she schooled Carrie and Carrie realised that it's not fair for others to give her an easy way out. She even realised that she must handle her money better, which essentially led her to writing for Vogue and then getting her work published etc giving her more financial independence. It was an important episode in that light. Both friends essentially learnt from one another, but I do feel Carrie didn't have any tact on the matter.
I could always appreciate her optimism.
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Likewise, while the other girls were more jaded and cynical, I myself related more to Charlotte's eternal idealism and cheery attitude! 💗
Naive
I think Charlotte was good and I love her
"Park ave Pollyanna"
Last twist: after she adopted her first baby, she is finally so free and relaxed and relieved (of pressure) that she gets pregnant! Another example that when she stops trying to force anything, it comes to her naturally.
Or bebe chow steals it
Uh, no. That’s NOT how infertility works.
There are women in war-torn countries who get pregnant. Not exactly a relaxing situation, to put it mildly! So “relaxing had nothing to do with infertility.
And perpetuating that myth is very hurtful to people struggling with infertility.
@@tp7738 hi, I hope this doesn't come off as dismissive or disrespectful, but I think the person was making a paralel with charlotte as a whole - once she stopped looking for Mr. Right, she found someone who was perfect for her, and when she was in a happier, less stressed out mindspace she ended up getting pregnant. If I'm not mistaken, charlotte was never infertile, but it was really hard for her to get pregnant and keep the pregnancy, so it was simpler for her to get pregnant afterwards comparing to other woman who go through different struggles.
That until the second film where she became one of the worst characters of the movie.
@@tp7738 i mean.. yeah that can happen but its far from true that fertility and stress are not related. Stress has a real affect on your body and hormones.
Kristin Davis' portaryal of Charlotte is highly underrated. Mostly because her character is arguably the least edgy among the four main leads. She's often overlooked due to her being the most classically pretty yet vanilla character. It's hard to make someone so annoyingly naive and sometimes unrealistically optimistic still likable.
Which is ironic in many ways, because as "vanilla" as she was thought to be, there were times she actually put herself out there. Like with the artist painting her vagina, and when she had sex with an Hasidic Jewish artist.
She was an art curator and appreciated the arts, which is an industry full of fiery passion and appreciation for beautiful things. Deep down, she is so not Vanilla. She is more like a smooth tiramisu with chocolate choc chips to surprise and delight the palate. Hehe
Because being vanilla is the worst thing out there...not everyone is or can be edgy.
@@terzelrasmus-williams2530 well said with that analogy!
@@terzelrasmus-williams2530
That was awesome... and yes, I do think from time to time about the painting thing and how she was very traditional but she wasn’t a total prude. Great example
Also that was her body in the painting but nobody knew except her friends - and it was artistic. She worked at galleries & had an appreciation for art. So it makes sense for the character
I loved how she schooled Carrie about her cheating with Big.
Schooled Carrie and yet still secretly rooted for them to have a happy ending
Charlotte is a hypocrit. She cheated her husband with a gardener.
@@nemanjaras for some reason I'm kinda of willing to bet that ALL 4 main leading female characters from Sex and the City have also been "hypocrites" at some point or another during the show/movies
@@monabohamad2242 i'm willing to bet we all have been hypocrites at some point. knowing or unknowingly, we all make mistakes and that doesn't condemn us to a life of accepting when our friends repeat those same patterns... charlotte eventually being unfaithful doesn't exempt her wanting carrie to be better.
@@elismaria1612 what exactly do you mean by "Charlotte eventually being unfaithful doesn't exempt her wanting Carrie to be better"?
She has amazing hair.
She's truly stunning, and still is. I kind of get the feeling her personality just kind of glows through.
I personally think Charlotte was the most beautiful out of the four women. Her and Samantha were the most stunning.
Sometimes it's a little to shiny, but yeah!
I wish I had her hair
Her hair has been thinning for some time now. She's even hawking a shampoo for thinning hair.
Charlotte falling in love with Harry was my favorite story line on the show. I always liked Charlotte, she's such a princess type but there's something so sweet and earnest about her. She also helps balance the cynicism of the other 3.
Its so beautiful! Harry is not good looking yet he was a beautiful character. He treated her so great
Funnily enough, I also thought Charlotte was in some ways the bravest character, and most likely to take unexpected risks? I loved when she posed for that painter, it was so empowering and totally off-brand for her.
Yet, she upends her life for him, too
I would have titled this “How Charlotte Grew Over Time.”
How? She went to resort in Mexico and refused to eat anything because she thought it wouldn't be clean enough. She's remained classist, judgemental, etc.. Marrying Harry didn't change that, or her views on pretty much anything.
@@iarahelenameirelles3027 All the girls on the show are very elitist, but Charlotte in that aspect is gross.
@@iarahelenameirelles3027 I seriously just ignored BOTH those movies. The first one arguably had some good moments but it really did Charlotte dirty w/ her lack of plot/arc and her whole prejudice against Mexican food (Srsly? Where do they get off making her like that? I got that Charlotte liked fancier things but she never pegged me as someone who would look down on entire country's cuisine. They couldn't think of another reason for her to get sick and find out she got pregnant?). The entire second movie is trash all the way. I can't even begin to unpack how judgemental, classist, ignorant, mean and entitled that entire movie is.
@@iarahelenameirelles3027 your complete lack of not seeing the complexity in a character is outstanding.
Iara Helena Meirelles if you think the other girls are not judgements and flawed, you have a deluded way of seeing things my friend. Sounds like we have a biased, closed minded, shallow thinker here
“The worse the wedding, the better the marriage.”
We had an outdoor reception in a forested paradise. It rained the whole time. My dress was covered in mud. The catering team never showed up, so my guests all had to cook and share potluck style. Our wedding cupcake tower slipped, so we lost half the cupcakes.
It was still the best and I still love my husband. :-) Our marriage is actually a lot like our wedding: full of mishaps, but also full of fun and redemption.
Sounds both wonderful and frustrating at the same time lol 😂
Kinda reminded me of Lily and Marshall's wedding in How I Met Your Mother
lmao theres no way my guests would cook if the caterer didnt show up !!!
@@Sarah-ml4fv No one asked them too, everyone just decided to pitch in.
@@hamdialihassan1048 It was honestly not that bad. It was a funny "bad luck" wedding.
And cry, again.
A Samantha vídeo should be next, women enjoin their sexuality, but at the same time building a wall for the emotions. Please!!!!
Samantha enjoys sleeping around because she is lucky to always, with very few exceptions (maybe 2), sleep with guys who can satisfy her. In real life, you stumble upon a vast majority of guys who are terrible at sex and won't make any efforts unless you're their girlfriend. In real life, you do not want to spend years having countless sexual partners who won't give you any pleasure. In real life, you don't meet such hotties who will have sex with you after 1min of conversation. Samantha lives the ultimate porn fantasy for those reasons.
All of the four women in SATC are stereotypical but samantha goes one step further in my opinion.
PS) I adore this character nevertheless.
And Miranda too!!!
This!!!
@@chrissiem3958 that's true! But there's already a video about her 😍
@@sofitocyn100 Samantha is not a stereotype, is a satire. It's healthy if you don't buy that satire.
But deep down there's something more, it's a profound desire to be desired. And at the same time doing your own way, avoiding any chance of weakness or vulnerability.
I want to dress like Charlotte, work like Miranda, and have Samantha's attitude.
and none of carrie 🤣🤣
@@polinavekchina7862 I mean ... yeah pretty much lmao. I'll take her taste in shoes I guess.
@@KaylaNoelle1 Nah, while she has good taste in shoes aesthetically, they are murder on your feet if you're not used to stiletto heels
Sounds exhausting :)
Same
It really shows how good of an actress Kristen Davis is to make Charlotte so likable and endearing. I feel like with a less talented actress Charlotte could come off as extremely vapid and ignorant but Kristen 's portrayal of her makes her feel so real that you kinda can't help but root for her.
If you need someone else to "complete you" - you will NEVER be complete!
FUCKING THANK YOU!
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!
Exactly. Say it loud. Say it proud! Wishing more people understood this.
@@knmattioda We all play our part! Thanks, be well!
Charlotte: the heart
Miranda: the mind
Samantha: the body
Carrie: the soul
Charlotte acts as the mind requires (she always calculates her future)
Miranda cannot stand pretending - she acts as the soul wants
Samantha follows her body's wishes
Carrie trusts her heart blindly
Carrie: The Psycho
Z M I’m thinking in terms of their whole being not just one aspect of their personality. Charlotte to me is the heart of the friend group. She is optimistic and loving and offers a grand romantic voice to the group. Miranda thinks for herself but also tries to think for the others and help guide them through their troubles with logic and reason. Samantha is sexually free and influences the girls to embrace their bodies and sexuality. And Carrie holds them together despite their differences and has a unique bond with each girl.
Carrie: the ego
@@tatianagoncalves944
classic carrie hater
Charlotte's character arc is definitely the most intense. She does a whole 180 from episode 1 to the finale. Miranda's is a close second. I feel like Carrie never learned much and hurt a lot of people on the way. And Samantha.. well she's just always been Samantha😂
Samantha doesn’t need developement she’s perfect ;))
And let’s be honest isn’t Carrie a Charlotte at heart? She is also a hopeless romantic but with a much more toxic taste! 🤷🏾♀️
I struggle with tipping into my Charlotte side at times. Seeing that you can be a career woman and hopeless romantic is the kind of representation that I personaly need!
Yeah atleast Charlotte is upfront about it.
While she was very conventional and that rubbed me wrong at times, I did like Charlotte's ability to believe in love and to always believe in it. In the first movie, its tested in a very profound way when Big and Carrie marry. When Big leaves her at the altar, it is Charlotte who yells at him that "NO!" assertively because to Charlotte, this was Carrie's moment of love fulfilled and dashed. It's the brave love towards her friend that makes her feel bad that her infertility struggle is over and she is pregnant naturally when Carrie is still struggling after. When she's nine months and she bumps into Big accidentally at a restaurant and tells him off, that's so huge for her to do since she never really did it before because of the myths she believed during the show that her water breaks. Charlotte is stronger and even in the second movie, as she struggles with the reality of motherhood to the point where Carrie is just cold to her even after the events of the first movie, she can admit further that its okay to not be okay sometimes. Charlotte will always believe in love. That's hopeful.
I wanted to be just like her as a nine year old. But alas! Am a hodgepodge of her and Miranda in a world where it's her or no go☹️😭
@@availanila I am more of a Miranda, because Miranda is my favorite character these days. When I was younger, I thought I was more Carrie and Samantha. Then, when I grew up a bit more, I felt more like Samantha. Now, I am more Miranda, but I have that piece of Charlotte hope.
Have you considered “Girlfriends” character studies? Or “Living Single” character studies? Would love to see that.
We would LOVE to see it.
Oh YES
☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️
That would be awesome!!
Charlotte and Harry’s arc was one of the most touching moments of the show, and she was a powerful moral compass and unyieldingly loyal friend to the other women.
I know elements of SATC have dated, but at the time it was the only show to examine male/female relationships in the modern world as its main theme, through the eyes of women (yes, I know, rich white women).
How is she a moral compass? How is being classist, judgemental and a false moralist something moral?
@@iarahelenameirelles3027 and hypocritical as well. Sleeps with about 20 men (second most partners out of the four) in first three seasons and calls herself a hopeless romantic and judges Samantha for being open about her sexuality.
Actually Living Single did before SATC. LS 1993, SATC 1998.
As much as a don’t like Charlotte, she was right in calling out Carrie for having an affair with big.
And she was brave for doing that. Many people would have been too afraid to speak their minds, but she was firm with her values and she was caring for her friend as well.
I loved how the three of them had different reactions and I loved all of their reactions but Charlotte's really sticks with you
With Charlotte I always felt that the writers didn't know how to create this person, as if her attitude was the furthest of what they thought. She should have been the character I related to the most (I'm a romantic, longing for having a conventional family of my own), but whenever she opened her mouth, she would say the most ridiculous phrases. Her fixation on the marriage at all costs (the proposal to Trey!), her classism, her being constantly judgemental and shocked by Samantha (it's like every second episode she had to be reminded that yes, Sam likes to talk openly about her sex life and mostly one-night stands), while showing hypocrisy... all these things made me think she was a caricature of a certain type of a person more than a real character, and that is a pity.
Or, she was an aspect of something you identify with that is not necessarily appealing to you. If you check the comments, most people here agree with her.
The irony and hypocrisy of the character being that she judged Samantha for being open about sex, but herself was sleeping with a new man almost every episode. Till season three, Charlotte slept with about 20 men and yet she hypocritically talks about Samantha. I don't even call myself a "hopeless romantic" and I don't judge my friends who sleep with people like a bitch, yet I am a 22 year old, in a long term relationship and yet still waiting to break my virginity. Her hypocrisy is the most annoying thing about her character.
She is shallow (other than with Trey and Harry), she breaks up with great men for the stupidest of reasons, yet she judges Samantha for the way she talks about the men she is dating/having sex with.
As someone that mom's has both characteristics (good and bad) I can see why they did it, beign so focus on what society tells you to do can make you like that... a continuous search of perfection at all cost she recovers from some of that aspects but not all of them.
Agnieszka M but the clothes were beautiful
Anusha Dwivedi you probably shouldn’t think about your virginity as being something to “break”. Mad respect for waiting for the right person and all (I was also a virgin until 22) but it seems like you’re not approaching it in the best way if that’s how you’re viewing it. You are not changed as a person when you first have sex. It doesn’t even hurt if you do it properly (certainly didn’t fit me)
I'm so glad you've finally made this vid, because over the years Charlotte has become my fave character on satc. She's actually really resilient and strong but people have the tendancy to not notice it because she's a "girly girl".
I don't see the 3 women as part of one but as three different types of women. For me, the show tells the viewer it is okay to be independent, unattached or old-fashioned. I don't think one is better than the other. Saying Charlotte was wrong is suggesting Charlotte's outlook on love is wrong and I don't think there is a wrong perspective of dating or love as long as you don't hurt others.
It's been more than 16 years since that final episode and still, that moment where Charlotte and Harry see a picture of their baby and she says 'that's our baby'... I still well up with tears
"Men don't marry the up the butt girl"
😂😂😂😂 that line always got me along with the taxi abruptly stopping and the girls almost hitting the front of the car & telling her that that's how it'll feel.
One of my favorite moments is when Charlotte tells Carrie that she doesn't have to pay for her irresponsibility, no because your friends are in a better position they need to save you
She had a point: Carrie had a steady income, she should have been able to take care of herself
And she could have sold her shoes
@@sabrinac8453 I wonder if there is a market for that. You can definitely sell your jewellery on the internet, but the shoes?
@@loiracitr I'm sure she could have a found a way if she wanted to😂
But didn't she give Carrie her ring?
One reason why SATC is so powerful is that it shows how people with different perspectives and ideologies can still be friends, respect each other and learn from each other. Diversity is beautiful and there's nothing absolutely right or wrong. Everyone has the right to pursuit what they desire and there's no shame in that.
"I think having it all means to have someone special to share it all with." Charlotte York.
Never have words been truer!
When I first started watching SATC as a teenager, I used to hate Charlotte but as I grew older and wiser and reality kicked in, and I would binge watch SATC in different phases of my life, I started to see Charlotte with new eyes and grow to have tremendous respect for her. She knew exactly what she wanted, and even though not everything worked as she thought it would, she never stopped believing in her dream of having a special someone and a family. And it also made me realise there is actually nothing wrong with a woman wanting that. And that the ability to choose what kind of life you want for yourself is the premise of women empowerment. And that is what Charlotte embodies for me. And it is universal and timeless
I disagree with this statement. I don’t know why people make such a big fuss about finding a “special someone” ... it is relatively easy to find a really special person to share life events with... at least in my experience ... I really don’t get it.
@@MsSavyy I think this line was integral as the show evolved to show that the women chose each other as their soulmates, the special people they would share things with. I for one am the kind of person who doesn't feel any draw to the idea of a special someone, but to others, it is their life goal. And it was not easily achieved for Charlotte in the end.
@@orgoik That makes sense :) I think the word soulmate is integral for me, when you mentioned it I understood better the meaning of all above :)
👍Agree 100%. Female empowerment, feminism, whatever you want to call it IS about choice. Only the man-hating extremists think otherwise. Charlotte went after exactly what she wanted. With age and experience, her idealistic side was chipped at and formed and polished into her great relationship with Harry, and seemingly a better relationship with herself. She never hurt a fly and that, combined with not settling makes her strong. Being a sexist, judgmental, hypocritical b**ch wasn't the original goal of the feminist movement - living your life by your own choices, while trying to be respectful of others was.
@@npkrn6764 wow, very well said ! :)
Charlotte is my favorite! A very underrated but necessary character. Everyone cannot be jaded and downtrodden. Every group needs an optimist who believes that dreams can come true.. She kept it real with her friends and she realized her dreams as she grew as a person.
"Charlotte: Want Versus Need" would have been a more accurate title for this. I always love some good Charlotte feels, and this vid hit all of my top Charlotte moments. Also I just like to look at Kristin Davis especially in her SATC vintage looks because she's basically an anime character come to life. It's not fair that a single human being could be that beautiful.
There is a disconnect between Charlotte's lived reality and what she believes, but it is her holding on to the delusion that gives her her tenacity. How detrimental is delusion if it is needed to be tenacious in an unshakable way? How many successful people got there because they are disconnected from reality?
Truth. Studies about successful people show they are better able to visualize and believe in a version of reality in which they have and deserve what they want. Some interpretations of that study say those people are better able to lie to themselves, but that's not quite right- building skill and personality requires a willingness to assess yourself as you are as well.
That sword cuts both ways, How many people crashed and burned because they weren't connected to reality ?
I think the line of detrimental delusion is, when you feel like life loses worth without reaching your goal. One can have strong faith and reach for their dreams even when they seem unrealistic, but you shouldnt lay your complete future happiness on it. Believe equally as much in your ability to adapt to whatever life offers despite your vision of how it should be. That creates true resilience and gives you your best chances to reach whatever you wish for.
"Got there" where?
I would argue that it was when she finally let go of that illusion that she finally got what she wanted.
I'm here because my gay friends refer to me as the "Charlotte" of every friend group. lol
As a gay man, I want the husband, and children 😂. Rn in my life though , I’m very Samantha 😂
The Take on The Mentalist, please! How his childlike joy still shines through his tragic backstory, and how that's his true HEROISM! and how his moral ambiguity has very clear lines, and he does everything to bring down the truly horrible people and give a break to the kind-hearted mistakes of others... instead of blindly upholding a law.
Please!!
Oh, yes, please! Videos on "The Mentalist", my fav series EVER! :)
I think one thing that isn't talked about when doing this type of analysis is that some of us have crazy ideas about love because we were raised in extremely religious households that creates the Madonna/whore complex. That was the case for me.
which is why breaking such dichotomy is important and liberating for us!
Well said
I'd like to see a take on Girlfriends' Joan, who was that show's "Carrie" in the sense she was the main character but was more like Charlotte in terms of her view of marriage as the end all, be all. Mya could interesting too, as she came from a different background/social class and was already married and pregnant when the show started
Yes!! I was thinking they should do some takes on Girlfriends!! Please @thetake? I would love them to also analyze Toni and her relationship with her background and how it influenced her materialistic narcissistic nature/how she saw herself, or Lynn and how she flailed for a while and her identity stuff! I would love it
@@hyperfeminal Yea, it'd be great!
Girlfriend's Joan is the 90s Insecure Molly. Both are careerwomen who are desperate to have the correct Mr. Right. But I wholeheartedly agree, a take on each of the Girlfriends women is needed.
@@sylviamann5090 Or is Molly the 2010s Joan? Oop!😂
Yes, please do ALL girlfriends.
It’s been 20 years and I still love Charlotte’s outfit. So classy and timeless♥️
I really liked that it didn’t take her long to realize she loved Harry. There was no dragged out drama about their differences in background or appearances.
Charlotte was actually my favorite and the one I related to the most. And I don't think she is wrong. Misguided at times but it's what worked for her. Knowing what you want is empowering, even if what you want is more on the traditional side.
This title is a little backhanded. Charlotte was the absolute best character in the entire show. She grew and developed so much. She became such an amazing and beautiful woman. Yes, she was flawed. But all the women were in their own ways.
The Take is so incredibly clikc baty I almost did not click on this video since the title doesn´t seem to have anything to do with it.
fairychamber It’s sad that Miranda and Carrie and even Big have nice thumbnails with positive or neutral titles but Charlotte has an unflattering pic with a mean spirited title.
But isnt the title their whole point tho? That she was wrong on holding onto those conventional idea of how she should behave and to whom she should get married?
@@sofiarv8414 It's very one-sided though, because they state themselves in the video that she is also an inspiration due to her optimism and actual ability to grow. They could have easily titled it (as s.o said here in the comments) "Why Charlotte grew the most out of the quartet" or something along those lines. They focused solely on her faults with this thumbnail and title. Even Carrie got a balanced cover ("perfectly imperfect"), although she arguably deserved it the least.
@@sofiarv8414 Yes, but it’s a backhanded title, thumbnail, and video. It could have been done tastefully. And no, it’s not the conventional ideas, it’s an extreme version of conventional ideas that overlap her true self.
"Men don't marry up-the-butt-girl!" 😂😂😂
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Charlotte: the superego
Miranda: the ego
Samantha: the Id
Charlotte: the heart
Miranda: the mind
Samantha: the soul
OMG yes
What’s carrie? I do believe no matter how toxic her relationships are she should be included in this.
Carrie: the one profiting off all three.
Carrie: the psycho
I cried for Charlotte's character more than any other character. When she lost her baby, when she saw photo of her adopted child. She always knew what she wanted and did everything to follow her dream. She is amazing.
I always tear up in the scene where she and Trey realize they can't stay together. Neither of them was wrong, but Trey was a true gentleman to Charlotte throughout.
She was the only one i liked, carrie was the worst and i think her marriage to big sucks
Carrie would have been happier with Aiden. The writers messed up big time with that. You can tell the writers caved to the fans.
Harry was the only partner/love interest on that show I liked. He kept it real, he was kind and honest and funny, didn't dismiss Charlotte's friends but also knew when to point out when they were being ridiculous--basically everything to look for in a life partner.
@@leorising8074 i don’t think she would’ve been happier. she had a panic attack at the thought of marrying him and wouldn’t cut off the man she had an affair with when Aidan asked 🥲. she’s just as toxic as big, they honestly deserve each other.
(+ omg i’m a Leo rising too 🥰)
her style was the best fashion style, I liked everything from her hair to her clothes. I'm also deeply romantic, but when it comes to me I'm a cinic like miranda and samantha and I'm not superficial at all like charlotte. So maybe I'm like carrie? LOL I think we are all a bit of each one of the girls.
"sexless Madonna" sounds a bit weird for everyone who grew up in the 80s and 90s
So true! I still remember the shock when Madonna got pregnant and settled down a bit
@@MeliMelNYC Do you honestly think I would be that stupid?
@@MeliMelNYC I didnt know that. I never heard of that. Also, Madonna being so polemic makes sense.
My favourite episode was when Charlotte refused to lend Carrie money after the latter nearly found herself broke and homeless due to her shoe addiction. I was mad when Charlotte gave in though - it wasn't her job to sort out Carrie's finances.
Very true, but I think that was the essence of Charlotte's character. For all her conservative, prim values she always came through for her friends.
may I just say... Kristin Davis is simply gorgeous!
Charlotte was always a little inspiration to me, I loved her classy appearance, style, brown hair and sometimes she was hilarious as hell. Carrie was the girl who irritated me most of the time.
Charlotte was a character I hated at first but when I watched it again I really appreciated her story and her character. And when Carrie dedicates her book to Charlotte for her optimism on love always gets me teary eyed
But Charlotte is right. The choice to be able to be a housewife or a go-getter should be up to the individual woman, and not the rigid rule of a political ideology.
Yesss
Omg I'm so glad they're continuing with SATC characters! :D ❤️ can't wait for Sam, if they decide to do so :)
I hope they do :)
PLEASE do Samantha!
They did do Sam
@@9897mm I'm pretty sure they've only done Miranda and Carrie
@@9897mm and Big
Ehi, leave Charlotte alone! She is intelligent, gentle, and generous! When she found out she could not have babies I was literally heartbroken. I think she learned a lot of things, but she is just not the "Me! Me! Me! Everybody look at me!" type.
Exactly. Charlotte was an amazing character and a great friend. I don’t know when will the society stop judging women for what they want
You can still look at her character with some gender studies glasses, nothing wrong with that! And they didn’t put her down they simply broke down her traits to the viewer. If people did this more they wouldn’t land themselves in toxic relationships (not at all saying Charlotte is toxic, but saying it should be done by people in general when they meet new potential friends).
@Sabrina Kall and ultimately through that divorce, an amazing husband and two beautiful girls, a happy marriage, a gorgeous park Avenue apartment and her life dream. So she got what she wanted, just stumbled her way down the path.
OH MY GOD! I just realised.. you covered Char, Carrie and Miranda.. that's one left! Samantha! Im so excited! i wonder how you are going to cover her with cutting out all the dirty stuff :P
While i side more with miranda when it comes to relationships. I cant blame charlotte for wanting a normal picture perfect marriage. I never disliked her because she had a traditional approach to life. The only thing that annoyed me is that she always planned everything. I thought that she never really searched for love, she just wanted someone who could fulfill her expectations. I'm glad that she finally understood what was good for her.
I love Charlotte and how she is SO herself; she knows what she wants and goes for it, is never afraid of learning, never plays the victim, and is absolutely courageous to explore while not giving up on her values and morals. Also, some people might believe that she was not "truly independent" only because she wanted to find real love, but I actually find her absolutely independent and strong. She would always be signing up for stuff and activities to learn things or do different plans rather than always meeting in the same place.
I also very much like the arc they gave her during SATC, and she has become my favorite one so far (And I am a big fan of her love story with Harry! They were meant to be together, and she welcomed him with love and openness).
Rules rules rules. Expectations expectations expectations.
She get tangled in her mind.
Honestly she had one of the best arcs and personal transformations in tv ever.
I always thought Charlotte had a very underrated character arch.
I actually cried at the end watching this. As a lifelong dedicated SATC-er who watched and rewatched the show for 2 decades, I finally understood my obsession with it. I always told people I hated Charlotte but am really the most drawn to her story. I never understood my struggle with love is very similar to hers as I fight my own preconceptions of love and layers and layers of societal rules tightly bound upon it.
I get a sense that one of the reasons American society still has so much “Charlottes” is because certain social services are only accessible to high income families. I think the reason American women (understandably) are also looking for social status in a guy is because it is so challenging to fe keep working if daycare is very expensive, or knowing that if you’re sick someone will take care of you, because there are little to no social nets to rely on. It’s a theory i read about in a Nordic theory of everything, and it stuck with me.
She got the happiest story in the end I feel like
Love this narrator!! She has such a laid back tone❤️
Charlotte is one of the characters on television that I really connect to because of her optimism and wanting true love, for herself and for her friends. It what makes her outburst at Big at the "not-wedding" in the movie all the more significant and still iconic to this day for me. That guttural "NO! NO!" still gives me goosebumps to this day.
we're really going to need a golden girls characters breakdown
one of my favorite scene of Charlotte was when she was mad and jealous at her dog because the dog got pregnant on first try 😂
I so relate to her at that scene lol Infertility sucks
My favorite Charlotte moment is when Samantha is talking about how this guy's spunk tasted kinda funky and she just got up and left.
"and she's never coming back!"
I honestly couldn’t stand how Charlotte treated Trey - who was an actual a good man , with flaws - he didn’t cheat, loved and took care of her and tried. He left her money and a gorgeous home - even after she asked for the divorce. That’s terrible how that story ended.
Miranda is a whole mood
Who is your favourite?
Miranda and samantha share my first place!
I honestly love all the women but Charlotte is my favourite. I adore her.
Miranda. Samantha too though. But truthfully I love them all.
Gosh, probably Samantha. I love Charlottes optimism so much and Miranda is so smart and Carrie...idk
The episode where she becomes addicted to chocolate cake and even eats a little out of the trash...that ep really hit close to home XD
I love her optimistic attitude and she was very interesting all were.
I think we need to draw a distinction between Charlotte's yearning for marriage and a family, which are worthwhile goals, separate from her desire to keep up appearances, which is her downfall many times. However, that desire to show off a "perfect life" extends beyond romance for many people. Just think of the social media "influencers" who always try to make it seem like their life is perfect and/or unique. Think how many people are in debt up to their eyeballs to maintain that illusion of "the good life". Having a goal of marriage and family is not a bad thing, so long as you approach it realistically and do not make that all you are as a person.
I love Charlotte so much 🥺❤️
Absolute favorite character in the show.
She is literally me and I am her 😂
When I first watched SATC as a child in the early 2000s (sooo inappropriate), I thought Charlotte was the only sane one amongst her friends. Watching it now as an adult I literally burst out laughing every time she talks, especially in the earlier seasons. Poor thing, glad she grew up a little eventually.
Her character arch was very enjoyable.
She was a good character and the show knew what to do with her storyline.
I’ve always identified with Charlotte more than anyone else on the show. I just went through my first breakup with someone I thought was perfect for me, who turned out to be selfish, immature, and couldn’t take responsibility for himself let alone other people. I still love him and it’ll take me a while to completely move on, but watching this video helps.
Now THAT was useful and helpful for both men and women: finding love is about eliminating all the obstacles within us that keep us from it. And it applies to every other interaction in our lives, not just romance, from achieving our political ends to seeking enjoyment in others. Glorious, absolutely glorious.
Charlotte helped me a lot when everything seemed so hopeless. Thank you for making it much more clear why I love her!!
What perfect timing; I recently rewatched SATC. I really enjoyed your analysis of Charlotte. I’d love to see videos for the other women and their journeys throughout the series.
She is such an underrated character, especially her development and how she was able to find the right man for her after losing beliefs that didn't serve her or made her happy. If she didn't rush things with Trey, they MIGHT have been able to work out but she got caught up with her fantasies and ideals instead of sticking to the reality; and of course Trey's mom didn't help the situation at all and Trey could've tried harder
The 'If trey tried harder' is key here. He just wasn't interested in doing the work on the relationship, and in the end, he did not have the same views as Charlotte on having children. Those two things would have destroyed the relationship, no matter what Charlotte did.
Please do a video on Samantha Jones! Your Miranda vid was excellent, as was the one about how awful Carrie was
I've begged on like every video for this lol
Carrie was the worst
Her and big were both so toxic 🙄🤦🏾♀️
I fell like I’m a Charlotte even though I want to be a Miranda
Same
I was always more of a Miranda boy, but this take on Charlotte really made the character engaging. I might even go back and watch a few episodes of that show again. Thanks so much, friends!
Charlotte is like a representation of the arch of feminism in 2010s. Unlike our parent's generation (particularly the 80s), women can have it all and don't have to be hard, perhaps aggressive to succeed as career women. They can be feminine, wives and mothers/play that role at home if they choose and still have a successful career. Modern feminism is about choice. I really admire Charlotte.
I know a lot of people hate her but I think her character arc is the best in the show.
y'all are just so awesome!! I think this is my favorite episode! The insight into Charlotte's fairy tale beliefs, even give me new hope! Thank you, thank you!
I specifically hated how often it was mentioned in the show that a "golden Mastercard" was essential to Charlotte when it came to meeting men.
She was an upper class women. Of course she wanted to marty an upper class man. What is so wrong about wanting to marty the same level (which in her case was the rich because she is rich herself).
Agatha z Exactely!
It was American Express. They were much more exclusive. Why do you think the black American Express card exists?
@@ioanafilipescu2327 I agree.
I think every character was wrong about something in this series. But I would argue than none of them were wrong about everything they did or thought. I also find it very sad that Carrie and Charlotte are so hated on these days. They both had more idealistic views on love but at the end they found their own happiness, no matter what someone else may think about it. I'm happy for Samantha for "fucking like a man" if that is how she found her empowerment, but I could never relate or live such a life. Simply because that doesn't make me happy, and that's ok. It's okay to want family and husband and maybe more "traditional" lifestyle. On the other hand there is pragmatic Miranda, realistic, down to earth but sometimes too realistic to let go and be with a man she loves. She also overcomes that and finds her happiness. Point is none of them are perfect, but they are all women, just because you relate more to one doesn't make others worse.
Thank you! I also find all the hate carrie and charlotte get absurd. I love all of them. They're flawed, like humans are. When I was younger I related to carrie and charlotte the most, now it's Miranda and samantha. All of them made mistakes, but so did every single person ever. I've been watching this show for 10 years now. I watch it when I'm sad, when I'm happy, when I'm heartbroken, it's just my go to. None of these women deserve the hate at all. 💙
@@anjab-1769 completely agree dear😊 i think all of us if we can be objective enough about ourselves can find bits and pieces of us that match each of these characters. Sometimes we relate to their flaws and sometimes we relate to their qualities. I truly think they were good friends and a great portrayal of modern women because i recognise myself and my female friends in them. If many people looked at my life like a show on tv there would be undoubtedly many who would find me annoying and flawed but that's exactly the point. It's such a good series, and the fact it's so relevant even now shows the greatness of it's characters
Very true. Also nowadays we tend to hate everything that is considered "girly". Romantic mindsets, love story, everything that is deemed "for girls" or as "girly" behavior is really heavily criticized. That's not normal, like why does society hate women ?
@@shanouboubou exactly!!! You're so right. I think someone sold us this mindset that only if you behave like a "man" (not be emotional, sleep around, be primarily career focused) you are than "empowered". I put men in quotations because this is obviously not how most of the men behave but it is a certain representation of masculinity in media. Women who are more reserved, romantic, women who cry and want family are now described as weak and wrong for wanting something that is traditionally more feminine. It's almost like the only way for woman to be seen as powerful is for them to behave like a stereotypical man hmm? 🤔
@@user-zh8bc7jo6l and that’s why I loved a phrase from the latest little women adaptation said by Meg : not because my dreams are different than yours are less valid.
Everyone know loves Joes( women who are like little women Joe) but have almost no respect for Megs. I really see the sex and city girls as modern day Little Women
Miranda is Joe- a very career focused women who cared for independence but still found love.
Charlotte is Meg a romantic woman who’s main interest was being a family woman. Have kids and take care of her home
Carrie is Amy cares for romance a lot but wants a glamours life, unlike Charlotte she wants a wealthy man she can spend on her Manolo Blaniks
Samantha she is Joe but with alternate ending of not settling with a man.
So yes this series is little women but the girls instead of being sisters they are friends.
I found this channel earlier this year and loved binging all the videos that opened my mind to new ways of viewing my favorite characters as well as questioning various tropes. What I really want you to know is how much I appreciate the videos on female characters because it helps call me out on my own shit. Of course I see myself in so many female characters, like everyone else here does (the whole point of making them relatable). I really enjoy your videos like this because it helps me as a young woman to navigate my career, relationships, meaning of life, etc. ❤️
This is such a powerful storyline. Thank you, The Take, for the trip down memory lane. Still love the show and this character!
I honestly enjoy watching your videos. I've grown up around strong women and I love how watching them helps me be a better man through my actions and words. My Mother is actually Wonder Woman, my sisters are like Captain Marvel and Super Girl. Thanks for creating such great videos and I hope more and more people watch them. Charlotte was always my favourite and its eye opening watching this particular video because I've made a lot of the same mistakes as her. Lots of love x
Charlotte got married with a man who cherishes her, had a happy marriage with him and had a loving family. So no she was NOT WRONG. She got everything she wanted and lived happily ever after.
Nothing wrong with wanting the fairy tale. That’s what made her happy.
And in despite of how her friends viewed relationships and how they dated men, she was always herself and stuck true to her femininity and traditional views. In my opinion she was the ONLY WOKE ONE of the group.
Charlotte chose the life many women chose a generation or two earlier. For some of those women things worked out; but many later regretted their choices, or at least after 20 years decided they wanted more. (I see Charlotte as Betty Draper in the 1960s.)
If any character was going to have a 1970s-style “midlife crisis” in the reboot, Charlotte would have been the most likely candidate.
For some reason this essay seems, to me, to be THE MOST complete analsys of the channel... Congratulations AND thank you ♥