Planting Seeds Of Happiness The Danish Way | Malene Rydahl | TEDxINSEADSingapore
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- čas přidán 19. 12. 2015
- This talk is about what you can learn from the Danes - among the happiest people in the world and planting seeds of happiness.
Author of the book “Heureux comme un Danois” (Happy as a Dane) and named one of the “24 women of 2012” according to the French magazine L’Express. She is part of the advisory committee for the Positive Economy Forum since 2012, an initiative lead by Jacques Attali under the sponsorship of the President of the French Republic. Watch her talk about what you can learn from the Danes - among the happiest people in the world!
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Came back from Denmark yesterday, it is absolutely fantastic, people are happy, talking to each other, no one is looking at the phones. I enjoyed it so much...
meanwhile denmark has high depression, high suicide rates and suffers from alcohol abuse.. are you sure you went to the right country?
Perkeren I guess it depeneds on what kind of outlook you have when you visit a country. If you go to a country hoping its a happy one you will be more likely to notice good things that affirm what you hoped to see. If you look for sad depressed people thats something you will notice 1st. Every country has good and bad so whatever you choose to see.
I didnt notice any of that, well they do drink a lot, but this is true for most of the countries i've visited. Suicide rate? Denmark is 105 country on the list with 9.1 per 100K suicides (south korea = 24) - so obviously you've got wrong stats.
Perkeren actually you are incorrect maybe it's a good idea to do a bit of research before you post? Actually doctors started prescribing high levels antidepressants mostly prescribed related to job stress or anxiety? Maybe it's because they are so efficient? As in Denmark they only work an average of 32 hours a week verses America's 47 hours (I used stats from gallop, most others sources had Americans working 50+ hours on average per week) Also part of the issue may be that Danes go to the doctor more because they have free universal health care, where as we Americans pay a lot to go the the doctor even with insurance. As far a suicide rate you are actually incorrect Denmark has a lower suicide rate than the USA. Denmark is at 9.3 deaths per 100,000 people, USA is at 10.3 per 100,000. So in short I'm not even sure what you are talking about? Not a single thing you said was correct.
@@beo191Going off the research, Denmark is one the best governed countries, possibly the best governed. Denmarks depression rate could be more of lifestyle or and an environmental problem rather than a political problem.
1. Trust
2. Freedom to be you
3. Finding purpose
Brilliant. Thank you 🙏
Wow even the pigs and dude in the. Norweigan beach pool are beaming wth Joy ! THE SEEDS OF HAPPINESS VIA SEEDS.FROM OTHER GENERATIONS ARE COMING TO FRUITION AND THE BABIES IN NORWAY ARE SAFE ANS SECURE TRUST FREETO BE YOU ,FINDING YOUR BEGGINERS MIND AFFECT ALL OF US .SOCIETY.
@@AnnHerbi you are most welcome
Thank you so much for the bullet points! ❤❤
@@afshah.7972 you are welcome
I have two daughters. My 15 year old daughter has for the past 10 years said she wants to be a doctor. I encourage her and tell her that she can be a doctor if she is willing to work hard for it. She gets good grades and she is very self disciplined. Gets up early every morning and gets to school on time without me having to nag her. She does her school work again without help. I do believe she has what it takes to reach her dreams. And as I tell her, if she discover along the way that her dreams have changed, that's alright too.
My 8 year old daughter doesn't know yet what her dreams are, only that she would like to work with animals. I tell her that she has all the time in the world to figure it out. What ever she chooses to do she will be great! She is a good student too.
She asked me once after big sister got a top grade if I was really proud of her. I told her that of course I was proud of her sister, but I was proud that she did her best and if she was a student that had a learning disability and got a much lower grade, I would be equally as proud as long as she did her best. It's not the grade, but the hard work I was proud of.
Love from Denmark
Eydna, your girls are very lucky to have a loving and supportive Mom. Along those lines, I've always thought it was most valuable for the world to raise kind kids with integrity and compassion- with respect for themselves and others. Beyond that, who cares if they are a doctor or a dishwasher? What a wonderful world we would have if more Moms were like you. :-)
The world needs more Moms like you Eydna! I see success in parenting as raising happy, kind, compassionate kids with integrity and respect for themselves and others ~ who cares if they're doctors or dishwashers. :-)
Simplicity at its most brilliant. Added to my playlist.
Marlene rhydal . You're a wonderful and beautiful soul . Your words are so simple yet teaches us so much . You're a great ambassador of not just for the Danish people but also for many Scandinavian countries . The rest of the world should now try and learn and adopt some valuable lessons from these happy Scandinavian countries and societies if we are to evolve into a humanitarian society . You're also a great and humane teacher and the world needs more people like you more so today . Hope you continue to impart and spread your humane wisdom and hope you will one day be awarded with a Nobel peace price for all your tireless efforts .
Thanks for this talk. It is awesome to know that there is a place where trust is the normal way to act.
Wow! What an amazing speech. This has really made me really happy. I've always wanted to be a writer and a gardener. Fiction and flowers are like my favorite things. I graduated as the salutatorian of my class and I could feel the tension and wonder on other people's faces when I told them I liked horticulture and I want to be a writer. This speech has really empowered me to strive for what I truly want and not be shaken by people who think I'm silly. Doing what you love is really one of the best ways to be happy!
Best of luck, darling. I believe in you! ;)
You already have the title of your book: "Fiction and Flowers." I'd read it
Hope you're staying true to yourself. Good luck and happiness from yet another dane. 😉👍🇩🇰❤️
I came here because I love Danish culture, style and history... I found this lecture one of the best I ever listen to.
Perfect Malene! Please do keep planting seeds of happiness around the world! Du er super!
Exactly, hun er dæleme bare super og fuldstændig spot on! :)
Waking up to a rainy morning, it is a blessing. The fresh air and the smell of earth elate souls:)
Becoming you is one of the hardest things to achieve....planting seeds waiting for germination is what makes purpose so worth while...thank you for this ted talk..reminding us that anything is possible..⭐
6 years a go and still magnific thank you Miss Dane !
Very glad I watched this
THIS WAS AN EYE OPENER :)
Very inspiring and aligns with my core beliefs. Thank you for the reminder!
I love this discourse. I know she means well. I am working on local council development. People are content with misery. Hopeless about their leaders' ability to make signicant changes. Yet, happy to vote for them to serve again. Our culture here is to be miserably happy.
I was in Denmark last week and it was fabulous. There's a lot to learn from the Danes.
Thank you, needed this today. ❤️
Know after I watched this video 😊 and based on details provided, danish people are amazing to let a freeway to human fall into there interested pattern of life this is a freedom country this is a great nation made by great people, what a great nation who understands that life is temporary and we must respect each other support each other and watching successful stories all over the place my respect and gratitude to all danish citizen keep it up mates 😊
Excellent talk and very profound reflection on how the Danish society functions with high level of trust and freedom of being you, unmasked.
I love this talk; thank you for sharing.
This speech is happiness radiated. Such a strong one!
Thank you very much for this great speech.
Beautiful. Thanks buddy. Happy circumstances produce happiness. Sure u r a happy person.
So often we choose to do what will keep a roof over our heads- because being homeless is not a path to happiness for most people. One of the problems with the culture I live in is not believing all persons involved in a project (company) have a great value and are necessary for the project to be accomplished, not wanting to pay them a "living wage"
We have something like this in rural India. (Particularly in the south). In small towns and villeges, we all work together and there is a strong sense of trust and community I don't see in the US. The air is fresh, the sky is blue, and the Earth is right beneath your feet. It's quite beautiful. I would recommend that if you have the time and resources, take a trip to rural India. Take a trip into the mountains of East India. You won't regret it.
Every country has a downside far from perfect. USA proud, why many flock here …we have beautiful geography and people,but it’s what we make of things!
@@techcontinuum7421 you feel attacked instead of take the invitation to find out. Have you been in India? Have you asked the commentor if they speak from experience as well? If you want to show yourself as trusting, then you can begin there perhaps.
It really feels like home.
My father’s youngest sister married a Danish poet. They were lovely people. Had 3 children. I have been in Denmark many times, and loved it.
amazing talk. i learned so much from this talk.
Bravo à vous Malene, vous êtes réellement inspirante et lumineuse !
Beautiful!
Actually she gave us a simple way to finding our own happiness but I assure it's an effective method, we need to be ourselves, we need to trust ourselves and others, for me she presented the solution to our problems perfectly.
Such an inspiring talk! Miss Denmark. Best wishes from Zürich.
great speech..........best part was the freedom to be u.............very few get the support for being what they want to be.......i hope people change their minds.....anyways keep inspiring...
I enjoyed this talk. thank you 💜🌸
Great message. Thanks
Watched the Tour de France in Denmark yesterday 🇩🇰 and the commentators commented how happy the big roadside crowds looked. A sea of cheerful faces and Danish flags. 🇩🇰
This talk genuinely made me feel so happy 😀
love this talk
Lovely piece!
Hi from Korea....GREAT..Hope Korea can be like that..some day..We will keep it up, for that..
young-joo Shin you should come visit dk then :-).
I am Argentinian, living in Copenhagen, and I feel is like a dream.
A wonderful presentation by a lovely lady.
shes spreading a lot of lies, sorry but thats not wonderwful
Thank to Melene for this video. Though, to be pioneer of this values is so hard in surrounding of mistrust and abusement
Live in peace with nature. Treat animals respectfully, carry spiders outside unsteady of hoovering them away, go for a walk in the forest every day, only speak kindly and look for the good in others, make your house/flat a home, every now and then invite someone in your home, grow some veggies in your garden or some herbs on your balcony, cook and eat together with friends, family or strangers, read the bible, listen and dance to music, get up early to watch the sunrise, go to church and pray - and you will be happy, no matter where you live.
It's not about living in Denmark or being a Danish person, it's about living in peace with yourself, other human beings, God and the nature and animals. ♡♡♡
To Tommy and Layla. Your comment was as beautiful as the Ted talk. So well put and full of keen observations and wHAtS more, all most if your suggestions cost nothing more than time. Thank u both 4 reiterating some of the practices I've come 2 understand as pivotal in living as one with ALL living beings. Peace and love.😍
@@robyndismon394 ♡ thank you ♡
I need to add something: Its not the plain reading of the bible, instead it's fellowship in talking with God, the created of this universe and allowing him to love you/me 😍
And I guess then everything falls into the right place :-)
I just believe that living in harmony with nature and animals makes One happy because it's God creation 😍
@@robyndismon394 Oh I am glad that you also live this way - it's the simple life ♡♡ And as you said, it costs nothing. If we had all the money of the whole world, it would bring us no happiness if we were not in peace with nature - that's what I believe at least.
I believe that living in harmony with nature and animals makes One happy because it's God creation and so it seems like a heavenly law to me that humans must treat nature and animals (and obviously those around them) with love 😍
I think you should leave god out, because most of denmark is completely atheist. We are one of the most atheist countries in the world! We believe and concentrate in you and me, not fairytales!!
Love your stuff kick on love it
Beautiful.
I feel this way about my son, I have noticed even intelligent, caring, gentle parents have ideas of what their children should be. What a waste of time! I would tell these parents to achieve their own goals and set their own intentions for themselves. It is not my responsibility to tell my son what area he should go into, he belongs where he is guided by his own mind.
Mary--very healthy attitude. Check out Gibran's "Your Children are not Your Children..." I'm tempted to quote the entire poem here. If someone requests it, I will.
@@jamesmcmurtry3958 you should!... its an education for those who dont know it.
Please do
Mary Nu THANK YOU FOR BEING A GREAT PARENT. THANK YOU❤️
Excellent~ spot on~ Bravo!! Thanks for sharing~
Wow, I can't imagine the person I would be today if I had been taught that my skills were of equal value as a child...I think I would probably have a lot less problems lol
Why "lol"???
Same I left school a broken person.
as an american i was taught the belief you can do anything you put your mind to. it has had me feeling inadequate for life for not doing anything difficult and superior
@@jamietodd9741 That's because in the USA we have systemic problems without systemic Solutions. Instead our society has been trained to blame the individual for systemic problems. Elites decided it was easier that way.
@@jamietodd9741 So why not put your mind to something and stop being inadequate. No pain no gain.
Excellent!
Amezing!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Vidéo très inspirante ! Cela vaut le coup de regarder.
Veronique Dy
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Great talk.
This is just brilliant. I've shared it on FB. I too, live by this philosophy.. :D
Wonderful! Be a part of a solution, but not a problem.
The goal for anyone should be to minimize suffering on themselves, each other and animals.
Super godt, hvor er du god til at forklare det.. En fornøjelse at se dig på youtube, en helt almideligt tirsdag aften, og syntes liiige jeg måtte se, hvad du fortalte... :) Hilsen fra en glad dansker.. :)
Planting seeds = creating value - Creating value for self and others, bringing our talents to bear in our immediate environment, having meaningful dialogues and contributing to our community. One Summer I worked as a cleaner in Denmark. It was one of the happiest times of my life. I often describe Denmark as my second favourite country. 'What is my favourite country ?' you may ask; as yet, I haven't decided ! Trust through friendship, peace through trust.
In a world of choices, humanism must win. It starts with winning over ourselves.
GREAT AND EXCELLENT 👍👏
Finding a purpose in life is actually helpful. You wake up every morning thinking about your goals and ways to be a better person.
Your comments inspired a thought in me relating to the mirror reference (15:25). As subtle as the difference between envy and jealousy, there seems a difference between the reflection we see in the mirror, and the reflection we try to cultivate for the world to see.
My observation tends to indicate happiness may be increasingly disturbed by a shift away from the emphasis on the mirror towards an emphasis on the selfie lens. The introduction of the second reflective element resulting in a circular referencing “anti-happiness infinity mirror” of sorts. For those captured between the two, any quest for happiness would seem futile. Efforts to change one will affect the perception of the perception of the other which will affect our perception of our reflection so we will necessarily seek to change what we portrayed in the first place… Thus, permanently transporting us around that infinite circular reference. The nature of physics tells me infinity can’t really exist, so there remains hope for those strong enough (and lucky enough) to escape that catch-22.
This is such a good presentation
not really, it completely misrepresents the country
@@beo191 well no, it's totally on point, do you even live in Denmark or are you just not trust worthy like the rest of the Danish population i trust and love my country 🇩🇰🇩🇰
She is such a great speaker. Loved this TED talk.
Beautiful Malene
I'm the product of one danish and one Norwegian parent, and I live in Arizona. Very hard to find hygge when it's 120°F.
Ms Heather Monroe well you are living in the wrong country, but manly you idea of hygge is wrong, it can be done in any weather or conditions.
excellent
To wake up to Malene.
Happiness is not a goal for most governments. It is imperative. Do it for yourself and expect the law of attraction to amplify joy in your life. Some people might enjoy Tame Iti's Tedtalk on Mana. It is marvellous.
Very Good video. very impressed.
Imagine if every single parent from all over the world started planting these 3 seeds in their children, what a safe, peaceful and wonderful world we would all live in!! Just wishful thinking here...
I feel like 1 & 2 are sooo huge in raising happy children - and I feel like they can be hard to carry out in the USA. I want to give my kids some more freedom, to trust them, and to trust my neighbors that we can all look out for each other's children.
powerful.
great
Yeah light the candels and u r happy.
Hygge... what is it .for me living in Denmark .most of my life but also having resided in the states and japan and traveled to many countries it is the place where you find a moment of peace. Where you sit and relax without thinking of choirs, time or worries. It is right now when i am writing this, it is in 5 min when i have taken my shower and sit and enjoy my cup of tea . It is when i read a book or take in a movie or when i put candles on the table tonight and have a nice dinner with a talk of how life is going with my son and daughterinlaw... hygge is what you make it to be. To be in the moment. To listen to the People that join you. To hear them speak to listen to their voice to feel them... that is hygge.. to take a blanket and curl up on the sofa... to go to the beach for a barbacue in good company.. to have a birthday party in the woods with family and friends... that is hygge... and never rush off to the next thing... the next person... the next spot... be in the moment. And enjoy where you are and with whom you are
Watching this, from the UK, and picturing our nation being this content... Might have helped if we could have aired this to our MPs and citizens before and during the Brexit debacle. I feel like we've lost our purpose a little
Trust? Once in Caracas Venezuela I needed to go to the bathroom. So I asked a guy beside me to guide my luggage. When I came back he was proud nothing missing. It IS possible to learn to trust people :-) (Finn/Denmrk)
Denmark ❤️🙌
Very true .... I like Denmarlk
Hygge
Nerida Baker-Dyson Hygge
take your anti depressants
Hejsa jeg er dansker
Isn't that Netherland?
Jingle Jungle nope it’s a danish word
YES !!!! Merci !!!
the reason they are happy is their government works for them and they do not have to live a life of worry
Mark YES
We can find reasons not to be kind to others but just striving to do good in adverse surroundings will make our life quality higher and maybe like half the people wont appreciate it but some will + its great way to meet people you actually want in your life.
Their government works for them? I think you lack basic understanding of economics.
Mark maybe their government isn’t as corrupt as ours
they are some of the most depressed people in the world, you are lying
look up the amount of anti depressants usage in denmark
Trust, Enthusiasm & Wellbeing 🇩🇰
in our society we enjoy today & Looking forward. Which in fact is a way of life. We recognize the ability to reach individual definition of success. In Denmark growth is not the goal. Our ideology is mainly freedom. Next year or next season is a positive path. Just try not to Take it for granted. We trust eachother by being “naive” or vulnerable individuals. If you cheat us you make a failure against us. I believe in everyone untill they show me the opposite manner in life. Tolerance. 🇩🇰
Whenever We celebrate our goals or achievements. Next year or decade We never Take for granted. In some countries it might be standard to calculate in growth. Just imagine if you lower your Expectations a little. 🇩🇰 Your effort remain the same High level. Then when you reach a level of success and not taking it for granted. That makes you pretty close to happiness when it occurs.
Loans without guarantee! Wow🤩😘
Trust whether the person is worthy of trust or not. I must choose to react right, plant seeds, though change takes time but no matter how long it takes it, the seeds will grow.
Omg 💯 Danish people are just so blissfully accepting
This sounds like Iowa! More pigs than people. Denmark is on my bucket list... And I'll be moving back to Iowa next year, my mini Denmark.
Hygge...life's so good♥
I don't normally post irrelevant comments but I can't help myself this time. During this whole video, I kept thinking to myself "paradise would be living in Denmark with this beautiful intelligent woman" lmao
I'm a Danish man and i think that Ms Rydahl expresses Danish values very spot on and she just radiates the soul of Danishness ... Such a woman is what we call "the song of Denmark" ... Indeed, she easily would fit as a stand-in for The Little Mermaid LOL
@@Flongowild Yes, I think most of all you can just tell she is genuinely happy with her life and radiates positive vibes. Might I say that I am a huge fan of the way your country does things. I haven't been yet, but everyone I know who had has remarked on how peaceful people seem to be there.
nice...for me this points to the power of , collective agreement over values. Living values in moral isolation is heroism, and therefore not a practical social solution. Creating some sort of moral collective support group, is.
I’m from denmark
Hi! This talk makes me wanna visit Denmark!
I want to go there to be Happy
A lot of people seem to be missing the message that it is up to the individual to spark change in their life.
In any democratic society, there exists the privilege to enact change within a system. I would argue that even when your life is threatened every day by being born into a society that does not value you - even then you have the ability to control your own actions and perspective. People from every culture like to blame the system that they are in because they want to be valued but they do not want to value others. Attitude is everything.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. __/\__
Loved this talk!
I wish I had been raised as a Danish...
Only now I'm looking for my seed. Better late than never, right? ;)
Greetings from Denmark, to you.. :)
integrity
it's what we do not what we think make difference.
How exactly does one plant the seeds? What does that really look like????
Build a wall without cement between the bricks. When someone pushes against this wall it will fall down. Now build the same wall with cement between the bricks. When someone pushes against this wall it won't fall down. It is the cement that holds the bricks together. Trust in interpersonal relations is like the cement that hold the bricks together. Trust holds the people together and therefor holds society together.
Garbagemen actually makes a good salary,about 80.000$ a year.
Oswald Mosley The are paid well,the same as a teacher/engineer.Strong union,bottleneck occupation.
Now Theres one of the points you have missed in what she said. The Money does not go to the goverment, but to the society. So in their eyes they make 80.000$ a year, in which the donate roughly 48-49% to the society. The goverment isnt the enemy in Denmark, like it is in many other parts of the World because corruption is as low as in can get (there are always bad seeds out there).Atleast this is my opinion :-)
Good said Michael :-)
its an important job .
I don't have a Clean-Up Engineer, I live outside of city boundaries, so it isn't included in my services--I'd have to hire a private company, and wouldn't THAT be a privilege! I am very thankful for those to do this work. With my husband and I doing it ourselves, recognition for the blessing of having help is keen in us. Everyone on earth who contributes to peace and order is doing something highly valuable, recycling being part of this particular thing.
Hygge Lifestyle!
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