Diahann Carroll was BULLIED for being too CLASSY!

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  • @mimirose3009
    @mimirose3009 Před rokem +1027

    Child I got bullied for the same & now I flourish in any room. Articulate glamorous brown ladies isn't something you have to be ashamed of, it's gotten me far in corporate America lol

    • @coldcaseantruecrimemakeup8142
      @coldcaseantruecrimemakeup8142 Před rokem +41

      Me too

    • @damselinadress2069
      @damselinadress2069 Před rokem +86

      Me as well. Still happens. I am the way I was raised and I don't look down on anyone and won't allow people to put me down. It's just plain ignorance! Keep your head up!

    • @marieburroughs6640
      @marieburroughs6640 Před rokem +18

      Yes on all of this!

    • @mimirose3009
      @mimirose3009 Před rokem +15

      @@damselinadress2069 you too boo! Keep shining on them lol

    • @xkhalilthebossxx9986
      @xkhalilthebossxx9986 Před rokem +24

      She was glamour why not my mom was so glamours she'd let me play in her closet make up she taught me how to be a lady

  • @tips_and_tricks_for_life100

    She was bullied for having class. No turnoff. Class is priceless. Its not about being better than others, but being the best YOU that you can be. It doesn't put others down and should inspire others to have standards. However, it may show others exactly what they are not.

    • @britneyhouston-escajeda7246
      @britneyhouston-escajeda7246 Před rokem +8

      Agreed

    • @PatinaEdochie
      @PatinaEdochie Před rokem +8

      Right 💯👑 RIP Diahann Carroll 🙏🏽🕊️👼🏽🕯️💐💓

    • @tinytowz4471
      @tinytowz4471 Před rokem +27

      Please say it again for those of whom believe that there's only one way to be Black.

    • @ericporterfield1351
      @ericporterfield1351 Před rokem +3

      Very well said.

    • @tips_and_tricks_for_life100
      @tips_and_tricks_for_life100 Před rokem +22

      I'll share with you that even though I am white, I came from a working-class family. I always knew that I could rise from my situation and do something meaningful with my life. But working hard at school, setting standards for myself and refusing to partake in anything that hindered my progress set me apart from the others in my community. My sisters called me "a snob who thinks he's better than us", and one even called me Jesus every time I encouraged her to improve. "Yes, Jesus! Thank you, Jesus!" she would say, mockingly. But she never finished high school, got pregnant and married at 18. When I got my first drgree and was invited to do my master's drgree at Oxford, they asked me how I got to be so lucky. I have traveled the world and worked abroad for many years, and they have envied every moment. We cannot be accountable for the choices of others.

  • @lester2588
    @lester2588 Před rokem +426

    She was the boujie Auntie the girls need TODAY 🥰

  • @whatgiveslola
    @whatgiveslola Před rokem +523

    When I started dating in my late teens and early 20's, some African American guys would accuse me of "acting like a white girl." I was so hurt that I would cry when I returned home. I was just being myself. My parents, especially my mother raised and trained me to be a graceful, and elegant young lady.

    • @hotbreakers94569
      @hotbreakers94569 Před rokem

      You were probably dealing with hood Booger dudes (no class) thought, mentality or both. Count yourself lucky, they did not have class and they were acting too much like black men that the world stereotyped them to be now that's the gag

    • @kanmoore2793
      @kanmoore2793 Před rokem +1

      @ Shelia when someone say that ask do you mean entitled

    • @heaven8639
      @heaven8639 Před rokem +70

      Stop dating low class people!! Who don’t appreciate you!🤦🏻‍♀️💔💋💝💐

    • @Illustrated_Strength
      @Illustrated_Strength Před rokem +18

      Me, too my mother's side is the epitome of bourgeoisie (correct spelling) & placed myself in the hood bc I love my NYC...bad idea. However, white man have never been my preference like her.

    • @lisayourbeautifulenterpris2128
      @lisayourbeautifulenterpris2128 Před rokem +32

      Being Held the to Highest Standards. Class Elegance … & ..Speaking Eloquently isn’t a race. It’s a Great Upbringing.

  • @MzBrOdUs18
    @MzBrOdUs18 Před rokem +419

    Black women having class always triggers the majority for some strange reason. Though I wasn’t a diahann Carrol I was the very reserved, quiet, pretty type in school. Secretly I was very creative and down to earth but because I was an introvert not too many ppl knew. Being petite, and quiet but always put together I had my fair share of Girls trying to bully me. Though I was quiet I always stood up for my self when I had to out of defense. Even as an adult it’s the same ol same ol. Women at Jobs, neighbors..etc..there is always some woman trying to try me. Last year I had to file harassment charges for a neighbor who started harassing me when I didn’t want to befriend her. Though I was nice to the woman and friendly, she took it as an insult that I didn’t want to be friend her and started ringing my door bell all times of night, doing menacing things to get my attention n when that wouldn’t work she started making ridiculous complaints to the property manager that I was talking too loud, my heels were too loud coming up the steps, just nonsense. As soon as I filed the charges she cut all of it out. Classy and seemingly confident women tends to trigger the insecurity in others. Men included.

    • @MsObsidianReloaded
      @MsObsidianReloaded Před rokem +57

      @MzBrOdUs18...honeyyyy I know exactly what you are talking about. It's amazing how people assume we have to let them in our space (e.g. know your business, hang out with you, etc.).

    • @MzBrOdUs18
      @MzBrOdUs18 Před rokem +34

      @@MsObsidianReloaded exactly. Ppl are psychos. I would never go through these lengths just because a person didn’t want to be a friend. Hi n bye is fine w me. I don’t understand how ppl can be so entitled to someone else’s energy.

    • @MauriceRivers415
      @MauriceRivers415 Před rokem +40

      You ain't never lied, but especially among our Black community. It triggers people BIG TIME, and I don't know why. As soon as you let them know what time it is, though, the nonsense stops.

    • @MzBrOdUs18
      @MzBrOdUs18 Před rokem +56

      @@MauriceRivers415 that’s because class is associated with “whiteness” in the black community. Carrying yourself with a high sense of dignity, pride and value is not common there. To live in the black community, and not be confined by the mental restraints the environment places on most of the people is rare and it stands out . When You are optimistic, confident, and want better for yourself( the complete opposite of what you’ll find in most black communities, )You become an automatic target by a lot of the hopeless souls who will work overtime to break your spirit.

    • @ShesMongolianASMR
      @ShesMongolianASMR Před rokem +31

      When they have class, people get triggered. When they don’t have class, people still get triggered. It’s really unfair

  • @dnitagill7
    @dnitagill7 Před rokem +82

    Boujie is not the word to describe Diahann Carroll she was the epitome of Black Elegance!

  • @lita6313
    @lita6313 Před rokem +82

    Unfortunately,this type of bullying still happens today.

  • @robinlindberg6339
    @robinlindberg6339 Před rokem +124

    I remember being a young white girl, playing with Barbies. I used to watch that Diane Carol Show. I thought she was the prettiest. From then on, I had to have the black Barbie dolls before anybody else got a chance to pick. 😆🤦🏻‍♀️
    Black really is beautiful.😊
    Thank you Diana.
    RIP

  • @ImaniVersus
    @ImaniVersus Před rokem +13

    Society do not like people that are self assured. That’s just universal.

  • @mrttamara
    @mrttamara Před rokem +181

    Some women are just jealous. They are insecure with themselves and they feel that they must pull you down to their level. Unfortunately they push you to that level.

  • @michellelaclair
    @michellelaclair Před rokem +167

    I am a 65 year old (white)woman who decided that after seeing the TV series "Julia", that I wanted to become Julia when I grew up. I saw her as a role model. That was not the 1960's climate but she was so gracious, I could not stand it!!! I HAD to have what she had. I became a nurse because of Diahnn Carroll. All those mean people were just JEALOUS of her.

    • @MeMe-ht2hd
      @MeMe-ht2hd Před rokem +8

      This js a beautiful story! 😍

    • @lettiegrant9447
      @lettiegrant9447 Před rokem +2

      Exactly!👍

    • @jocelynpettis5268
      @jocelynpettis5268 Před rokem +2

      🥰🥰🥰

    • @lubazak636
      @lubazak636 Před rokem +10

      I became a nurse and I loved watching Diane’s nurse show as a kid. She didn’t look like me, as a white girl, but I was inspired by her beauty, class and grace.

    • @ghubbard7499
      @ghubbard7499 Před 4 měsíci

  • @shamara8888
    @shamara8888 Před rokem +13

    I want Kerry Washington to play her in a biopic

  • @keya3655
    @keya3655 Před rokem +257

    I love elegant women and I love her. I’ve experienced bullying as a child and as an adult for being boujie. I’ve been accused of wanting to be white. I have just always admired elegant black women and have modeled myself after them. She was truly a class act

    • @lavonnealexander6936
      @lavonnealexander6936 Před rokem +7

      Just keep being you !

    • @dineosibiya2123
      @dineosibiya2123 Před rokem +13

      Dear l understand, why do we associate anything good with race , l love ettique , bojeeu lifestyle, l dreamt of it and l am bojeeu, love me

    • @tanafaithrenay1111
      @tanafaithrenay1111 Před rokem +1

      Can totally relate!

    • @Badbaby72
      @Badbaby72 Před 11 měsíci

      I adore her classic style! Yes, I’ve experienced the same issue “you’re acting seditty” nonsense.

  • @beautenaturelle9989
    @beautenaturelle9989 Před rokem +16

    Sidney Poitier was beneath her. His black ass had some nerve trying to keep her as a side chick. Never care for him or his sub par acting.

  • @caitlinelizabeth7808
    @caitlinelizabeth7808 Před rokem +24

    She was a goddess among mortals…jealousy is a sickness! I am so glad she was brave enough to stay true to herself.

  • @nicolesherman8974
    @nicolesherman8974 Před rokem +287

    The doll! Seeing her and Patti LaBelle on A Different World >>. The blueprint for the Black boujie queens ❤️

    • @Britt4770
      @Britt4770 Před rokem +7

      Absolutely ❤️

    • @danavixen6274
      @danavixen6274 Před rokem +10

      Their chemistry was/is UNFORGETTABLE! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @donitabrown8100
      @donitabrown8100 Před rokem +13

      Oh I LOVED her and Patti on A Different World... her shade was the best on that show❤

    • @franjohnson6140
      @franjohnson6140 Před rokem +5

      Your favorite AKA/Jack and Jill mom Diane Carroll and Delta mom Patty Labelle

    • @thevenusian1314
      @thevenusian1314 Před rokem +8

      I low key wanted Whitley's mom to be my mom lol

  • @tamarascott120
    @tamarascott120 Před rokem +233

    This woman elevates and inspires exquisite class and softness by just watching her, it's naturally in her aura!

  • @TheHomegirlHealer
    @TheHomegirlHealer Před rokem +303

    Diahann is FOREVER THAT GIRL ok! She was breathtaking and the epitome of grace, class and opulence. She was the blueprint for bougie Black women and I’m grateful for her for walking so we could run. She let the world know that Black girls deserve glamour and luxury 🖤✨

  • @danavixen6274
    @danavixen6274 Před rokem +519

    Simply one of the MOST gorgeous and talented pioneers of ANYONE'S time... PERIOD! Rest in paradise Miss Diahann Carroll! 😔🙏🏾❤️🕊️

    • @KarineAlourde
      @KarineAlourde  Před rokem +49

      Yes!! She deserves to be up there with the Marilyn’s and Audrey Hepburns. Such an icon ❤️✨

    • @danavixen6274
      @danavixen6274 Před rokem +6

      @@KarineAlourde Absolutely! I COMPLETELY agree! 💯

    • @lydiapicano8806
      @lydiapicano8806 Před rokem +16

      She was so beautiful and elegant. Instead of emulating her they bullied her so nonsensical.

    • @danavixen6274
      @danavixen6274 Před rokem +18

      @@lydiapicano8806 It's called BLATANT jealousy! Miss Carroll EPITOMIZED classiness and elegance. I am glad Lynn Whitfield is continuing her legacy in her own right. So glad they were in Eve's Bayou together.

    • @roreymowatt384
      @roreymowatt384 Před rokem +4

      Yes

  • @Yologism
    @Yologism Před rokem +198

    Ladies continue developing yourself/ levelling up/ maintaining yourself. Ppl (all races/ ethnic groups even our own) are always trying to tell/ moderate how blck women should conduct themselves. Tell me where another race of women have been told not to be elegant? Excellent commentary as always

  • @rubychew6535
    @rubychew6535 Před rokem +105

    What a class act. She spoke so eloquently, and she had a smooth singing style.

  • @colbykamilah
    @colbykamilah Před rokem +28

    I’ve gotten bullied for being too reserved. People try to bring me down to their level, but I’ve always been a grounded person and don’t think I’m better than anyone. I guess as a Black woman, people think you aren’t supposed to be classy, reserved or elegant. They expect loud and unfiltered, and when you aren’t being that way, they don’t like it.

  • @spectraamunari9059
    @spectraamunari9059 Před rokem +60

    I cried when she passed away. She was such a beacon of beauty and class!

  • @preciousblackstone5051
    @preciousblackstone5051 Před rokem +15

    People don't like individualism. If you stand out from the crowd, you are a natural target to others. Just think back to your school days, everyone wanted to "fit in" so everyone did the same things and wore the same things, ect. I would say, most people are cowards and can not embrace their God given uniqueness so they comply to "fit in." But then there are those who just have to be themselves, i.e. Diahann Carroll and that rubs people the wrong way because it challenges them to be real and not just "fit in."

  • @wonderingmind8547
    @wonderingmind8547 Před rokem +166

    I would go to war over this woman.
    She is my absolute favorite actress! She was the greatest thing on Dynasty, that's why I can't get into the updated version. They don't have the "glow" women like Diahann had. Also, her in that Paris blues movie? She was absolutely darling!!

    • @KarineAlourde
      @KarineAlourde  Před rokem +20

      Yes the new dynasty is missing that essence. Thank you so much love ❤️

    • @sariahlace5944
      @sariahlace5944 Před rokem +5

      Well said
      💯💯👍👍

    • @mahoganybrown9366
      @mahoganybrown9366 Před rokem

      I wasn't allowed to watch the original as I was too young but would see the Dynasty commercials for the upcoming episodes as I was getting ready for bed. She was everything! My two felines are Alexis and Dominique and of course, Dominique is black lol
      I still need to see Paris Blues, I'm going to see if it's on CZcams!

    • @themostbeautifulisraw4561
      @themostbeautifulisraw4561 Před rokem

      I’ll go to war over her too, I love her so much and she is an absolute role model for me

  • @taylorcamille5493
    @taylorcamille5493 Před rokem +61

    There are times that I'm talked down to for speaking articulately really only by inner city black women and from what I've seen, their main issue is that they think I'm acting "white". They think I've sold out or that I want to be white when it's just that I carry myself differently from how they do. I like being elegant so I practice it in how I carry myself.

    • @overcomerbtbojesus
      @overcomerbtbojesus Před rokem +21

      I hate that! Why must people who are your own reject you just for being different! So stupid but people’s insecurities cause them to hate what they don’t understand

    • @lawfulbeneficiary1731
      @lawfulbeneficiary1731 Před 9 měsíci +2

      It makes you wonder why everything bad is glorified but when you’re decent it’s not the programming Is permeated in half the black community

  • @SuperBeachbum74
    @SuperBeachbum74 Před rokem +19

    As a white male growing up in a predominantly black area , there was a young girl I always admired . Her name was Tiffany ! She was multi racial and stunning to look at ! She had tremendous self confidence ! Never talked about race or racism , she was just herself ! I recall one instance that caught me and I loved about her ! She had friends of all races ! One day she was out and about with mostly white girlfriends that day ! A bunch of white guys came back looking admiringly at the girls ! She never wavered from her confidence holding her own with the white girls who were also very oretty! When black guys ridiculed her for letting herself be admired by the white guys ! Her attitude was , hey , you guys flirt with white girls , so why should I limit myself ! She didn’t try to be white but was confident in who she was ! No, I never dated her as I was engaged and far older but I admired her recognizing she didn’t have to be typecast and stereotyped ! She just wanted a good guy . She dated both black and white guys but wanted mr. Right ! When I changed jobs and met other people of different races, I always remembered her just being herself ! All young people need that self confidence and quit playing race games ! Just recognize we are all created by the true God and should stay true to His calling !

    • @gregedgar6012
      @gregedgar6012 Před 2 měsíci

      Race games? How can you be raised in a black neighborhood and not see that race is a huge problem if you're the one being being discriminated against for your race. I can't tell if this comment is patronizing, clueless or racist. Nonetheless, it's wrong.

    • @SuperBeachbum74
      @SuperBeachbum74 Před 2 měsíci

      @@gregedgar6012 it’s. Ot unless you make it one. Black people do the same things to whites as they complain about. Be real and stop using a crutch. Jim crows been long over except to white liberals who use blacks for own advantage. How many black people that opted for Biden know he gave eulogies for two kkk members calling them his mentors ?

  • @tallglasscocoa6105
    @tallglasscocoa6105 Před rokem +34

    When a black woman lives her life her way. She bougie. Was Mary Tyler Moore labeled as bougie. Both had tv roles that audiences never say before A single woman having a career and enjoying her life.

  • @leelee185
    @leelee185 Před rokem +12

    You can't look too good out here because you're going to attract all the professional haters and trust me there's lots of them out here. I used to work in a office and I would come to work looking nice and as soon as I enter the room all you see is people looking at me up and down, people rolling there eyes and people whispering under their breaths. Now all I did was walk in the room and people are this bothered by my presence alone, just because I look nice, and I have dealt with this my whole life and its childish, some woman really has serious issues.

    • @MauriceRivers415
      @MauriceRivers415 Před rokem +1

      It means your presence alone was enough to shake the jar, so use that to your advantage and conquer the world. You've got that undeniable "star quality".

  • @Genine369
    @Genine369 Před rokem +83

    Diahann Carroll is absolutely stunning. I never looked at her as being bougie, but someone you can admire. She was the type of person who set standards and lived by them. She lived in her "feminity."

  • @mimistar1427
    @mimistar1427 Před rokem +44

    I think the reason for the backlash towards 'boujie' people is that the stereotype often depicts them as indulgent, self-entitled, snobby, better than, demanding, superficial, materialistic and judgemental people based on class or status. It's the overt negative attributes of stereotypical wealthy people.
    Some wealthy people do have tender attributes like kindhearted, humility, thoughtfulness of others, genuine, and are not classit, but these aren't often publicised in connection to being rich or 'boujie'.

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 Před rokem +1

      Very good perspective!! I totally agree with your point!

  • @PropheticWhirlwind
    @PropheticWhirlwind Před rokem +32

    I feel relieved when I am around people like her. Sadly many in our community due to their low self esteem feel uncomfortable around classy and more calm people. When you are an introverted Black woman and not rough it can be hard socially.

  • @beamhigh207
    @beamhigh207 Před rokem +44

    You’re only intimidated by excellence if you feel you can’t be it and/or exude it. Unfortunately, most people don’t or have been made to believe they cannot be excellent, which can make them resistant to the mere sight of it. This issue is exacerbated if a collective group is having to consistently counter negative stereotypes to even be considered excellent.

  • @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736

    Good lord her face has always been perfectly symmetrical. And she actually got prettier as she aged! Rest in heaven, Angel.

  • @ELamy802
    @ELamy802 Před rokem +74

    Diane Caroll is the epitome of class and grace. She is also epitome of femininity before femininity was even a buzz word. And most importantly she was unapologetic about it. Definitely an icon especially for Black woman

  • @ericapierce6727
    @ericapierce6727 Před rokem +97

    I love Diahann Carroll. Bougie has become a bad word but it is really a high quality of life reflecting a person with high standards. I had the pleasure of meeting Ms. Carroll. She was not only beautiful inside and outside she was gracious and kind and oh so talented. I love her singing voice and she nailed it on Claudine. She never looked down on anybody and was fiercely proud of being black. She broke down so many barriers. If only she had married David Frost. He really loved her, valued her ad a person and supported her.

    • @ebillie1181
      @ebillie1181 Před rokem

      She loved the Black Panther!

    • @turquoisepurple7sky151
      @turquoisepurple7sky151 Před rokem +3

      @@ebillie1181 Yes! She loved everyone, but she also said she was not an activist. She felt it is more important to leave it to the people who are about that type of activism. Her activism was a quiet one. I read it in her book.

    • @ebillie1181
      @ebillie1181 Před rokem

      I meant Sidney

    • @MsAppassionata
      @MsAppassionata Před rokem

      @@ebillie1181 I was wondering who you were referring to.

  • @eddierosa250
    @eddierosa250 Před rokem +48

    Diahnn Carol is one of my idols. I adore this woman. I’ve had wished that most black women would have had her poise, elegance, eloquence, sophistication, grace & class. The backlash she received from the black community is unfortunately due to the crabs in a barrel syndrome that is infested and saturated in the black community

  • @SEJ3333
    @SEJ3333 Před rokem +10

    I came up in the 70's and we all knew who Diahann Carroll was and disdain for being bougie was at an all time high. Thankfully I, as a young black woman, found it refreshing to see a black woman with natural grace and elegance and strived throughout my own life to be the same, critics be damned. Currently our culture again seems to have disdain for natural grace and elegance and young women today - of all ethnicities - strive more to be over made up and what they consider "real" and "down to earth" just translates to just so much tackiness. Women should understand we can be sexy and full of grace simultaneously. Another black woman of the past who oozed sexiness and refinement was the singer Nancy Wilson! Stunning and sexy without being overtly so. These were great role models .

  • @lpgilber
    @lpgilber Před rokem +45

    Well her boujieness led her to getting a huge role on Dynasty and she nailed it! I think I was introduced to her via Dynasty because I was too young to know of her before then. But she's one classy lady! And can I say that the wedding dress from her first marriage was simple and classy. I think that dress along with Grace Kelly's wedding dress are my favorites.

  • @snow40741
    @snow40741 Před rokem +25

    It doesnt turn me off because being bougie is the modern phrase of having standards and carrying yourself with pride and dignity....I consider myself bougie and have no problem with it...everybody else seems to have the issue with it! I remember when she passed I purchased the newspaper as a momento to her!

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 Před rokem +21

    People seem so afraid to allow others to shine. Shine your own light and quit worrying about others. Let them shine in their own way. RIP Ms. Carroll. Thank you for your example of beauty, class and talent.

  • @kameronicole
    @kameronicole Před rokem +15

    If you've done nothing wrong and someone doesn't like you they don't have a problem with you they have a problem with themselves.

  • @MeMe-ht2hd
    @MeMe-ht2hd Před rokem +8

    It's always a Black man who isn't about what they say asking her to leave her man for him, only for him to not really care and just be about sex. They had a plan and he was a waste. She came out better staying with the Jewish ✡️ guy would have been a better guy to her.

  • @corelle8055
    @corelle8055 Před rokem +57

    She has amazing eyes. I watched her in Claudine and she was amazing, should've won an Oscar for that performance. She is elegance! I spent a year in Michigan with my grandparents while my mother and older brother were trying to move to the suburbs outside of Chicago. I was very lonely and I cried a lot. I think it's common in the black community, it's just that it wasn't really addressed as trauma.
    There was this tweet that I put on my wall in my office at work:
    'Being clean is not antiblack. Being healthy is not antiblack. Being well-read and educated is not antiblack. Being level-headed with self-restraint and impulse control is not antiblack. Being kind, polite or soft spoken is not antiblack. Being loved is not antiblack. Stop this.' Your video on Diahann just reminds me of this tweet. Haters just assume that you're better than them because of how you speak, education, etc. Just because they feel a certain way about it doesn't mean you have too. And Ms. Carroll is the proof of that.

  • @loirinlancaster3
    @loirinlancaster3 Před rokem +35

    Women in general who carry themselves extremely well with confidence and grace especially in a quiet storm are always gonna be hit with adversity. I myself had to go through this all my life and I continue to go through it so I know Diahann’s spirit all too well, we’ve had to hold our heads high and keep going as though we didn’t just walk through a fire but people are amazed that we still come out on top.

  • @kristensmith31
    @kristensmith31 Před rokem +30

    Many people don’t talk about this type of bullying and I honestly still experience it to this day. The portrayal has had an immense impact on how people treat real life women who are like Ms. Carroll. Society teaches that black women are not to take the time on themselves to articulate ourselves with grace and poise, in essence, feminine. There is something radical about a black woman taking the time to embrace herself and the finer things in life. I will say, as a person who has experienced this type of bullying, it gave me the opportunity to show other women how to show grace, set boundaries, and elevate their paradigm to see that we are all queens of our own territories. Therefore, there isn’t a need to be angry or upset about another woman resting in her feminine grace, there is room for us all. Also, we can all can learn from and appreciate one another. 💜👑💜

  • @AvecPoesie
    @AvecPoesie Před rokem +63

    The elegance with which she carried herself was unparalleled. Diahann will always be regarded in my eyes as the Supreme example of femininity, beauty and sophistication. I too have been mistreated for my elegance and boujie carriage of self. It triggers many, many people, even family members. I refuse however, to carry myself any other way. 🖤

  • @sweetcaramel4750
    @sweetcaramel4750 Před rokem +29

    Diahann Carroll is the true definition of Style Class and Grace and Natural Beauty

  • @karlatyson12
    @karlatyson12 Před rokem +24

    Hate is definitely a leaned characteristic , where I grew up because I wasn’t hunching on the neighborhood boys , and I dressed cute and didn’t do wild things , there was a group of girls who would always sing the OutKast song “roses “ whenever I would walk by , they hated me and I did nothing to them even in my adult life my own blood cousins don’t like me and I have never done anything to them

    • @MauriceRivers415
      @MauriceRivers415 Před rokem +9

      Well, a rose is still a rose. Too bad they remained weeds, while you moved on to achieve greatness.

    • @karlatyson12
      @karlatyson12 Před rokem +4

      @@MauriceRivers415 thank you , you are absolutely correct because all of them are still in the same place now that they were back then

  • @lyfeasmemecsit6203
    @lyfeasmemecsit6203 Před rokem +30

    I was always told I act white because I always presented myself well even as a child I was always very intelligent and articulate and even as a young adult in some spaces with my own black women I was looked at as more of a threat than someone who could be a true friend I've even had men that I've dated expect me to act what they deem as ghetto instead of acting as a lady should it's odd the way that we're looked at is if we're not human but more of a trope a stereotype a verb or a noun just sad

    • @themostbeautifulisraw4561
      @themostbeautifulisraw4561 Před rokem +11

      Sis I’m 36 and I’ve heard this all my life. But the gag is that all the people who called me that are still broke and struggling 😝🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @MsAppassionata
      @MsAppassionata Před rokem +1

      Stay away from those types. They are toxic.

    • @tiredoftheworld4834
      @tiredoftheworld4834 Před rokem

      I hate this so much… I’ve felt the same way… like many see us as a trope. Not an actual person/individual. But still, we rise.

  • @PrivyChairLady
    @PrivyChairLady Před rokem +7

    The thing about truly elegant women like Diahnn Carroll is folks refuse to believe that Black women can, are, and deserve to be elegant... just the way God made us!!!

  • @AlannaTaylor-Green
    @AlannaTaylor-Green Před rokem +14

    I have always been called a white girl or oreo because of my posture, speech and preppy taste too. No matter where I go, middle america, south america even the UK but i am just myself. My mother was always professional and well spoken so I thought it was normal. I was always kind of teased about it but i dont care anymore because i am genuinely being myself and my interest, poise and speech have gotten me very far in life. I think other ppl who tease are obviously insecure, small minded and not very cultured.

  • @rebeccaaugustine8628
    @rebeccaaugustine8628 Před rokem +30

    I remember the series, "Julia." I also remember how some critics of the time called Diahann Carroll -- unjustly -- an "Aunt Tom"! You are absolutely correct, Karine! She was simply a classy lady that others were jealous of!

  • @the_hannah_ohara
    @the_hannah_ohara Před rokem +8

    At school I was bullied alot for being I guess what some would say "reserved" I wasn't elegant or anything but I was definitely mature for my age and carried myself different and it bothered alot of people. I liked to read alot, I was obsessed with old Hollywood movies, fashion from the 1940s and 1950s, I still am I haven't changed. It took me till the age of thirty to understand why other women made my life hell. It's not even that they were jealous of me I think alot of it is just not understanding someone. So when others were going out getting drunk, smoking and obsessed with getting boyfriends at fifteen. I was drawing, painting, writing making things, watching films. It bothered them that I didn't care about the same things they cared about. It annoyed them that I just kept myself to myself. I would get stuff thrown at me, spat on and even had a girl pull my hair out at the root! I was called "stuck up"and "posh" I don't hold any hate for those people who did that to me, I send them love and wish them well. They did what they did because they couldn't figure me out, I didn't want to be like them.

  • @TessieDobey
    @TessieDobey Před rokem +27

    I love her! My dad introduced me to get and always told me "this is how a woman suppose to carry herself."

  • @creolebeau28
    @creolebeau28 Před rokem +16

    Don't insult her by calling her boujie , she was classy and articulate

  • @sensto
    @sensto Před rokem +13

    Elegant, confident women will always trigger people at any age. Even more so if they’re black.
    Maybe it’s the audacity to present as the best version of yourself without apology, in a world that automatically expects you to feel less than.
    Generally speaking though, women like Diahann Carroll have such an innate elegance that people either feel compelled to admire, consume and possess that beauty, or, they feel the need to envy and destroy it.
    Some women have the ability to enter a room and influence the energy and ambience of it without saying a word. Some who possess this are aware of it, and some aren’t.
    Either way, they affect people.
    A woman simply holding herself in high regard should never affect another negatively. If it does, that person needs to ask themselves ‘why?’, figure it out, and fix that trigger.
    Most children don’t have the maturity and introspection yet to do this, hence the whole ‘bully the pretty girl in the class/school’ scenario.
    What’s an adult’s excuse though?
    Ironically, most women like Ms Carroll are simply minding their business and being their authentic selves. That’s why they flourish. That’s why they stand out.
    Monica Belluci’s character in Malena is the perfect example of people not knowing how to behave around pure, innate feminine energy.

  • @milesclarke5493
    @milesclarke5493 Před rokem +16

    Diahann carroll was a such a lady! She is missed!!!

  • @mylinrobinson5151
    @mylinrobinson5151 Před rokem +24

    I relate to her story and getting bullied for being elegant and classy from women mostly. Her story resonates on many levels may she Rest In Peace.

  • @robinrobin9173
    @robinrobin9173 Před rokem +5

    From what it sounds like, they like to put/stereotype black women. Like how dare you be classy and sophisticated. Well we'll typecast cast you as a classy stuffy woman. As though we can't have class/sophistcation and be down to earth. 🙄

  • @dineshalove2902
    @dineshalove2902 Před rokem +24

    People need to understand that we were all created differently and I strongly believe that bullying someone for their style and their achievements etc comes as a result of envy. It’s easier for people to want to pull down someone instead of lift them up especially in the black community. This world would be so much more a better place if people realized that it’s not necessary to envy others but instead that they can simply focus on the strengths and gifts that God has given to them and develop those gifts.

  • @catraoinekelly2879
    @catraoinekelly2879 Před rokem +21

    The epitome of elegance and class

  • @BDNIGGAH420
    @BDNIGGAH420 Před rokem +6

    WHY IS IT ALWAYS AN ISSUE WHEN A BLACK WOMEN TAKES PRIDE IN HER APPREANCE?

  • @shawnlittle73
    @shawnlittle73 Před rokem +4

    She passed away on my Birthday!!
    Kerry Washington should portray Diahann Carroll

  • @tecac6833
    @tecac6833 Před rokem +11

    I cannot believe they jumped her! Pure Jealous😡

  • @kendrickjohnson7134
    @kendrickjohnson7134 Před 7 měsíci +5

    She was my neighbor for years.. We lived in the same buikding. She was always so pleasant and elagant even in her workout wear lol. Always the epitome of class and grace withg a no nonsense attitude...A true Icon....

  • @drb215
    @drb215 Před rokem +4

    The only reason these women are hated on is b/c people are jealous of them....they wish they had a tenth of the class they have!!! I WISH I could be like all of them, wrapped up into one!!!! Fierce. They always know how to keep their composure!!! They always go high; never go low!

  • @WhitePhoenixCrown
    @WhitePhoenixCrown Před rokem +21

    Claudine is my favorite movie and her Girl Boss character on Dynasty. Very underappreciated actress/singer.

  • @MrRickymoore
    @MrRickymoore Před rokem +17

    I don't have a problem with Boujie people. My problem is when you act like you're above people and that you're judgmental other than that no issues at all

    • @Welcometothenow
      @Welcometothenow Před rokem +1

      I agree.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Před rokem +1

      at what point do you decide which they are? as soon as you see them? or if you've interacted after awhile (more than once or twice)?

    • @MrRickymoore
      @MrRickymoore Před rokem +2

      @@marie-francoiset9402 once you interact with them I've met plenty boojie people and they are super nice and met others who weren't

  • @3RACHASUPREMACY
    @3RACHASUPREMACY Před rokem +18

    She's stunning

  • @Rodrasroom
    @Rodrasroom Před rokem +4

    Glamour is STILL not promoted for black women today! Let’s keep it going! Diahann is the precedent!

  • @rozsheehy6146
    @rozsheehy6146 Před rokem +7

    When I see a woman who's dressed really nicely, I think to myself, I wish I could look that way too. I don't get jealous at all, I feel good FOR them! They have actual class that seems born into them. And Diane Carroll had more class in her pinky finger than MOST! There's absolutely nothing wrong with caring how you look.
    And I don't think it's a black or white issue. It's ALL women. But I do realize that black women have to work harder to get where they actually belong. Which is WAY HIGHER! We should all be equal, even though we unfortunately are not.

  • @siskodefiant4275
    @siskodefiant4275 Před 9 měsíci +3

    All I know is I saw her interview with Johnny Carson and was blown away by her presence, class, elegance, and beauty. She lowered his guard with mere glances, subtlety and wordplay without relying on overt sexuality. Peak feminine energy and something that is missing in today's narcissistic, social media driven world.

  • @jpsoso8748
    @jpsoso8748 Před rokem +4

    I loved Diahann Carol. I loved her show "Julia" but found out later that most black Americans thought the show and character was unrealistic. I was shocked because my aunt was a registered nurse so the show was real to me. Unfortunately, many black people internalize the image that America presents to us instead defining our images ourselves.

  • @tsmith1691
    @tsmith1691 Před rokem +20

    I can relate I was taught as a child to be poised and carry myself in a certain way. I was bullied as a child for being "bougie" and I still go through it with the mistreatment and outcast to this day. It's been a very lonely and hurtful existence. I do not understand it; women can be so mean and some men can as well. All my life I had to fight 😪

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 Před rokem

      Yes very sad!! Just horrible!! Smh

    • @MsAppassionata
      @MsAppassionata Před rokem

      Morons like that bully you because they are brainwashed into believing that they are somehow less than white people. They think that being refined and articulate is the purview only of white folks. They obviously don’t know that in more ancient times other people would look up to us as being the gold standard. Continue to carry yourself like the queen you are and disregard the haters because they’re not going anywhere in life.

    • @RuthLessGemini
      @RuthLessGemini Před rokem +3

      They are intimidated and react childish!

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Před rokem +3

      find your people. Go where you are celebrated not tolerated and never look back!

    • @lawfulbeneficiary1731
      @lawfulbeneficiary1731 Před 9 měsíci

      Because society has become a sea of landfill if you’re black and you dress respectable and are a gentleman you’re trying to act white vice versa but it makes one realise why is everything bad associated with black people it’s like the same very people don’t even know what they’re saying the big problem is the black community lacks good role models so when they see decent people they automatically think they’re trying to act white it’s a backwards way of thinking and that’s why other cultures are thriving while we seem to be more divided and worse everything the media put on you is made to destroy you if you see that and you’re still yourself there’s nothing more they can do you won keep being true to you because believe me there’s a lot of classy individuals of all races you just need to go to different areas

  • @quioshathomas1069
    @quioshathomas1069 Před rokem +3

    People bully because they want you to dull your shine. Her God given gifts scared the weak minded people. Step your game up and learn something 👌I love her hmph😍🥰❣

  • @ajerman9978
    @ajerman9978 Před rokem +4

    My daughter is 8 years old very feminine great posture legs crossed poise n proper diction n I prayed to the gods when I was pregnant for her to be this way I promise u however my famil😂my acquaintances ppl always of our own color of course give her the blues call her white girl corny bougie all of that n the yt ppl are in awe of her I think if ur blk u are stereotyped to b sassy n strong n vulgar if my daughter was not blk she would be admired not ridiculed I think the same for Diane😔

  • @teal1010
    @teal1010 Před rokem +2

    I think Dianne Carroll was a beautiful classy lady!
    Pretty eloquent classy sophisticated bougie women have an "outer" beauty, but "inner" beauty is priceless!
    The only thing I dislike in ANY woman is "rudeness" and thinking other women are below them!
    A woman's social/ economic
    status can be better, but it doesn't "make" her better!

  • @christinathomas2888
    @christinathomas2888 Před rokem +4

    She's very beautiful and it was all about jealous my friend

  • @tay9sdaughter121
    @tay9sdaughter121 Před rokem +15

    Aww I wish you would have also highlighted her role on White Collar. She played a wealthy women and sung on one of the episodes. I love her elegance. People who bullied her were just jealous because they didn't have what she has.i can not stand people like that.

  • @heaven8639
    @heaven8639 Před rokem +3

    Women need to be who they are !! You may admire & respect classy elegant glamorous people/women . But there’s NO EXUSE 4 ABUSE !! We are to enjoy & celebrate our differences❣️🙏💐💝💋👏🏻

  • @NopeNotToday26
    @NopeNotToday26 Před rokem +7

    As a young black woman, I’ve always been called white lol. It made me feel bad growing up but now I just embrace it! It’s just me! I don’t act white because I don’t act culturally black.

  • @shydoggsdw3642
    @shydoggsdw3642 Před rokem +5

    Jealousy is your own insecurities once own it and do some self improvement! You'll never compare yourself to another female! We all are unique and have a story and need to help eachother and live

  • @patriciaroberts8694
    @patriciaroberts8694 Před rokem +3

    I ran into Diann at the Marriott World Centre in Orlando. Such a classy, gorgeous lady.

  • @summerreign044
    @summerreign044 Před rokem +3

    I experienced bulling in school for carrying myself like Diane Carroll growing up in the 80's and 90's in the "hood" it was very traumatic. I started changing my behavior to appease other people however, now as an adult I learned to be comfortable in my own skin as my authentic self and if someone didn't like it then it's their lost.

  • @lisaariottiart
    @lisaariottiart Před rokem +57

    Your channel is AMAZING - so well produced -- Im addicted to your content -- beautiful job and I love your commentary makes me feel like know these starlets personally. 😍 Diane is pristine!

    • @KarineAlourde
      @KarineAlourde  Před rokem +7

      Aww thank you so much! This is the type of compliments creators love to hear 🥺❤️

  • @tamirrad6572
    @tamirrad6572 Před rokem +15

    She was DEFINITELY a Beauty Icon and a Great Actress💐

  • @jadachoates11
    @jadachoates11 Před rokem +12

    I first saw Diahann Carroll in the movie The Five Heartbeats!!! Her beauty, her style, the way she spoke,her facial expressions were evvvvvverrryy in that movie!!!! Everytime I watch that movie I always say I pray have that same aura she had. It was a + + + when I found out Diahann & Dorothy Dandridge worked together in 'Carmen Jones' & 'Porgy & Bess'. Later i found out she worked with Sidney Poitier. Forever one of my sheros.

    • @AnonymousBlackGirl
      @AnonymousBlackGirl Před rokem

      That was my first time seeing her, too. I loved that she was an etiquette coach in the film. It was the first time I thought of elegance and class.

  • @sharonstroud8279
    @sharonstroud8279 Před rokem +15

    Phylicia Rashad was "SHADE" lighter than Diahann Carroll; the bullying and threats that Diahann Carroll suffered as a young girl, were that of JEALOUSY over her beauty, were men USED her, the WORST came from WOMEN, even when they KNEW she would not have ANY of their men, the women around her STILL feared and HATED her!! Beautiful women can never have TRUE friends.

  • @ImaginaryWear
    @ImaginaryWear Před rokem +3

    Gurllllllll… thank you thank youuuu… I fell in love with that woman when I first saw her star in Dynasty. She was the most gorgeous woman I ever dreamed about, other then Pam Grier, Iman & Beverly Johnson. Those were my poster women 🥰

  • @quioshathomas1069
    @quioshathomas1069 Před rokem +3

    These men and their sense of control and entitlement. 😡

  • @RANDY4410
    @RANDY4410 Před rokem +2

    I remember meeting Diahann Carroll in 1973 in Harlem they was between takes on Making the film Claudine on 145th st and Bradhurst avenue I was 17 I was coming down Sugar Hill with my brother and 3 friends and she was sitting right on the corner with James Earl Jones sitting in the actors seat, we just look at her and she said " how you boys doing" we acted shy we said hello to her she was so pretty with those beautiful eyes, James Earl Jones didn't say anything he just look at us, I will never forget that day.

  • @heaven8639
    @heaven8639 Před rokem +2

    I watch her first show as a child. She was a nurse & Single mom💐🥰💐

  • @Ms_Neffie
    @Ms_Neffie Před rokem +3

    I got introduced to her by mom. When I was a kid my mom would play the movie call Claudine constantly in our home. I’m 34 years old. Rip to a beautiful and legendary icon 🙂💕!

  • @tineshiabobbitt62
    @tineshiabobbitt62 Před rokem +3

    One of my favorite Actresses she reminds me of my grandmother poised. I am familiar with this treatment bullying is very traumatizing. May he rest in peace Queen.

  • @beautifulqueen4645
    @beautifulqueen4645 Před rokem +27

    I just love Diahanna Carroll she was such a iconic but, phenomenal woman she gorgeous, talented and a diva.

  • @aprilgrant1957
    @aprilgrant1957 Před rokem +13

    As a musical theater actor, whenever I am auditioning, I think, 'Because she did...I can.' ( Along with Miss. Ruby Dee and Miss. Cecily Tyson) I sing one of her signature songs, "A Sleeping Bee," as one of my audition pieces.

    • @overcomerbtbojesus
      @overcomerbtbojesus Před rokem +3

      Those you mentioned were wonderful! I have always loved cicely tyson

    • @aprilgrant1957
      @aprilgrant1957 Před rokem +3

      @@overcomerbtbojesus I was beyond thrilled when BOTH she and Rita Moreno were bestowed with Kennedy Center Honors on the same night!! (And both ladies were alive to receive it)

  • @tarikmehmedika2754
    @tarikmehmedika2754 Před rokem +14

    She is so incredible ! I am sorry for the issues she had, but still she picked her self up and made the best of her.
    And unfotunatily she is way too underrated !

  • @maryreilly5092
    @maryreilly5092 Před rokem +7

    One of the most beautiful women of all time! I adored her.

  • @locddenturedandblack5569

    Elegant and poised women don’t bother me. It’s the snooty self important attitude that triggers me. I used the word triggered because it’s ultimately a you problem when you care about how other people present themselves.