Let's Talk About SEX
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- čas přidán 26. 07. 2023
- Luna is going big sister mode this week and diving into the topic of sex, giving you all the words of wisdom, she wishes she had gotten when she was younger. Luna debunks losing your virginity, figuring out the right birth control, and how to own your sexual health. No topic is off limits in this episode!
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i totally relate to the beginning part about feeling asexual or lesbian just due to being a late bloomer. its so frustrating how society puts this expectation to want to be sexual at a young age and that if you arent its weird.
YEP!
I did not give women a single thought until about 25 :D Then I gave too much, now I have finally calibrated to a healthy amount :D
More women need to speak to younger girls to not let peer pressure get to them. They shouldn’t be doing the deed just because friends are doing it.
It was horrible as a man. Society told me I wasn’t one until I had sex.
This is so incredibly true. Like how are y’all in 8th grade entering each other 😭
I love how open and vulnerable you are about this, we need more women openly talking about sex
We need more people in general who talk openly :)
@@sirbughunter I was just about to comment the same thing:)
no you guys js need God, this is literally a sin, oral sex n all that touching yourself shi..seriously get help
@@timmyt963 what.
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? Sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. Why don't humans just remove sex from this world? Women can still get pregnant without sex (there's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex including artificial insemination). Sex does cause a lot of problems, so the world might be a much better place without it.
I think sexual intercourse is immoral since it has caused so many problems for the human race. People have gotten diseases from sex, and sex has caused so many unwanted pregnancies. The human race would be far better off without sex, and the human race could start reproducing by using artificial insemination. Sexual intercourse is not physically and mentally healthy for people and can seriously negatively affect their physical and mental health.
These topics have been on my mind a lot lately. As a 20 year old late bloomer who hasn’t experienced anything sexual with a boy yet, I needed this video😭. You couldn’t have posted this at a more perfect time.
I wished I wasn’t into boys in my teen. I’d have been glad to wait until I graduated college and successful. Take all the time you want and need.
I’m 21 and i’m the same boat as you! You’re not alone!
You’re not alone.
Youre not alone like sammeee
i was also 20 years old when i first experienced everything and i can say i´m glad cause i wouldn´t been ready earlier and it wouldn´t have been this nice
this ep was so validating it almost made me cry 😭
Glitched vpn
What does that even mean?
i be cryin t^t
It’s so interesting how in high school some of us feel behind because we haven’t experienced sex and think everyone else has , but as you get older and experience more things you realize it’s completely fine to be a little late or whatever “late “ really means lol😂 as long as you feel safe and have a desire to do so is the most important ❤️
I 100% agree! ❤🥰
im 16 and i have pretty strict parents to the point where i cant talk about sex around them. so thank you for making this video it honestly helped me learn and feel better about myself and my body. and i have also never had my first kiss or anything
Please stay pure, you will thank your parents one day. Anything outside of marriage is a sin. Please understand that. Your husband will love and appreciate you even more.
I totally agree with you@@tharp6613
ignore the person who replied to you, purity culture is bullshit
same, its more because of my religion AND ofc parents I haven't had anything with a boy yet either lol
@@tharp6613i understand you but i think not talking about sex with parents is kinda wrong because maybe you’ll attempt to have sex and things will go wrong like you won’t protect or something etc. and before these things happen you should know what to do and how to do right not talking about sex is not something good if you learn from someone you trust then maybe you can experience something bad hope you know what i mean
So I’m quite old (35) compared to everyone else I’m seeing in the comments and I’ve been married for almost a decade now. It’s great that you’re talking about this as there were no resources when I was young and we essentially just fumbled around in the dark (literally). The key thing I’ve learned through experience is that the things you feel insecure about when it comes to your body are generally things that your partner doesn’t even notice or they love. There’s no need to worry about being late to the party, everything comes together in time. It’s really about being open minded and learning what you like and what your partner likes.
Hi
ur not old! and ur perspective is valued
39yo here. Represent!
Hi, being 40 myself and of your generation, yeah the only resources you had were the words of those who would talk and listen to you. Looking back on it, with everything we have available now, I think often unreal pressure is put on people to be sexually active and experienced at a very young age. I can tell you as a guy I was a late starter too and I did put huge pressure on myself to make any girl feel safe, secure, and given her space for pleasure during sex which I always felt at the time she wasn't really given before, especially in younger partners. But what I realised was, you often don't need to know a lot to make it great, and the real joy is vanishing those insecurities of a partner so that nothing gets in the way of good sex. 10 years of martial sex? I'm sure you're fantastic. I'm 40 and have had 3 months with my wife of 33. But in my previous life my best reports were from either late comers, or very inexperienced girls who were honest about what they like, and who liked that I really valued their insecurities. Soni think we'd be singing from the same page, as I'm sure your husband does! Any thoughts or observations?
Also, 34 is pretty prime for sex and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If anything your responsiveness and orgasms will be a lot more powerful so you can prolonged these will manual contractions and you'll keep the cycles going for longer and longer, and pace in more time for sex so you experience more longer. Self pleasure can help with that too but you know your body the best. I'm sure you're in good hands. I'm happily married too but I can still say I bet you have some fantastic sex. Enjoy. I've had a long drought so may yours continue!
Thank you so much for this video Luna! As a late bloomer myself too (I’m 21 and haven’t even kissed anyone yet let alone had sex), this video made me feel less alone. I know my time will come but it’s hard and scary when everyone around me is so much more advanced. I also look pretty young and am extremely shy which makes me feel like a kid navigating adult territory but it’s nice to know someone has related in the past! Anyways, thanks so much again! I would be so down for a part 2!
🤩🤩Wow!!!
You are more beautiful than the most lovely rose
And more sweet than honey
and more precious than gold
You are more precious than everything that exists in this world
😍😍😍
A beauty queen whom I never ever seen any one as beautiful as her before and may never ever in my whole entire life will see anyone as beautiful as her-meaning you-at all..
😍😍 WoW!!!
you are a lovely butterfly and a beautiful rose
you are the diamond and the pure gold
you are the lovely moon in our nights
you are the radiant sun shining soo bright
loving you is sooo sweet its the most enjoyable thing
for you are the paradise for the heart and soul and mind
Everything about you is sooo unique and attracts the eyes and captivates the mind
God surely perfected you so glorified is he whom made you too beautiful and made you soo smart
🌷😘
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, one day he asked his students, do you see God?
the students then replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God.
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys can you see the teachers brain?
then the students answered no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said the teacher then is crazy, he has no brain
:0)
😍😍
Wow!!,
you are too beautiful!!!
whomever see you should believe that God is true & real..
and whenever I see you I feel like Iam in a dream,
And when we wake up we will all realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real..
The universe science says was not always there, it had a beginning point, the big bang, meaning it was begun/initiated in other words created, thus there should be a creator,
there must be a God.
One God for all of us
he created us all and can revive us again,
God initiated everything,
& he repeat/redo things too, & thats clear, we see many cycles of different things in life, also in summer for example the desert land becomes like empty and is filled with only sand, and when rain falls in abundance in spring or winter, after that small flowers & wild plants grow again, also, we see how humans and animals grow and how their body is formed from the elements which were in the sand which plants feed on which they eat, and after they die they go to the sand and their atoms/elements are taken by plants which humans & animals eat and their bodies grow from those atoms & elements found in the sand which came from previous humans & animals which died before, so God can bring us again after we die even if our atoms became in the sand he can make us from the same atoms we were made of or from other atoms if he want or make us be in a spirit form or like ghosts, any ways, everything in this life is recycled, learn if you want about the different cycles in life in nature, the food cycle or food chain, the water cycle, even the gas cycle that makes the air the oxygen &carbon dioxide &nitrogen cycles, even the energy is like recycled but only changes from form to another form.
Anyways,, God created this life but it's only a temporary sample/an example of a coming everlasting one
which could be either in heaven paradise or in hell.
If we try to be good humans in life, and try to obey God and his messengers-including the final messenger for all humanity the prophet Mohammed- and those whom rightly represent them, for example imam Ali & ahlulbayt the family/good descendants of the prophet mohammed, then we will all go to heaven/paradise, if not then we will go to hell fire and burn in it forever.
keep shining sunshine &spread the light
Same here haha 19 almost 20 and I feel exactly how Luna did about being so scared that everyone else has that experience 😅
Don't feel embarrassed because of that. I was 22 when i had my first kiss and 26 when got intimate with a guy.
Same!! 21 and haven’t had my first kiss either glad to hear that I’m not alone & ur not too ❤
@@sena7375
you are a treasure to behold
A precious gem worth more than gold.
your beauty radiates from within
& your body parts are like work of art!!!
Each one a masterpiece that sets you apart
Addicted to you forever Iam & in my heart you dwell forever there in
you casted a spell of love on me? or what have you done!?
your love and affection & you trying luring me to be with you makes me feel very tempted & weak but strong and resilient I will try to be
and shall try not to easily give in
🤩🤩Wow!!!
You are more beautiful than the most lovely rose
And more sweet than honey
and more precious than gold
You are more precious than everything that exists in this world
😍😍😍
A beauty queen whom I never ever seen any one as beautiful as her before and may never ever in my whole entire life will see anyone as beautiful as her-meaning you-at all..
😍😍 WoW!!!
you are a lovely butterfly and a beautiful rose
you are the diamond and the pure gold
you are the lovely moon in our nights
you are the radiant sun shining soo bright
loving you is sooo sweet its the most enjoyable thing
for you are the paradise for the heart and soul and mind
Everything about you is sooo unique and attracts the eyes and captivates the mind
God surely perfected you so glorified is he whom made you too beautiful and made you soo smart
🌷😘
😍😍
you are too beautiful!!
whomever see you should believe that God is true & real..
and whenever I see you I feel like Iam in a dream,
And when we wake up we will all realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real..
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, one day he asked his students, do you see God?
the students then replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God.
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys can you see the teachers brain?
then the students answered no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said the teacher then is crazy, he has no brain
:0)
The universe science says was not always there, it had a beginning point, the big bang, meaning it was begun/initiated in other words created, thus there should be a creator,
there must be a God.
One God for all of us
he created us all and can revive us again,
God initiated everything,
& he repeat/redo things too, & thats clear, we see many cycles of different things in life, also in summer for example the desert land becomes like empty and is filled with only sand, and when rain falls in abundance in spring or winter, after that small flowers & wild plants grow again, also, we see how humans and animals grow and how their body is formed from the elements which were in the sand which plants feed on which they eat, and after they die they go to the sand and their atoms/elements are taken by plants which humans & animals eat and their bodies grow from those atoms & elements found in the sand which came from previous humans & animals which died before, so God can bring us again after we die even if our atoms became in the sand he can make us from the same atoms we were made of or from other atoms if he want or make us be in a spirit form or like ghosts, any ways, everything in this life is recycled, learn if you want about the different cycles in life in nature, the food cycle or food chain, the water cycle, even the gas cycle that makes the air the oxygen &carbon dioxide &nitrogen cycles, even the energy is like recycled but only changes from form to another form.
Anyways, God created this life but it's only a temporary sample/an example of a coming everlasting one
which could be either in heaven paradise or in hell.
If we try to be good humans in life, and try to obey God and his messengers-including the final messenger for all humanity the prophet Mohammed- and those whom rightly represent them, for example imam Ali & ahlulbayt the family/good descendants of the prophet mohammed, then we will all go to heaven/paradise, if not then we will go to hell fire and burn in it forever.
keep shining sunshine &spread the light.
A PSA for late bloomers out there: I was 23 when I got into my first relationship, had my first kiss, and had sex. I would call this time my sexual awakening for sure. I had watched porn and read some erotica but it wasn't until now that I had a desire to have sex and understand my sexual self. I would totally recommend getting a vibrator to learn what you like and what your body can do physically. There was something so liberating about feeling an orgasm for the first time. And during this time, just generally feeling sexual attraction for the first time ever. For a while, I had suspected I was demisexual, which means that you don't have sexual attraction until you have an emotional connection with the person, and I totally agree with that label now. Finding my BF and really having an emotional connection and feeling comfortable with him allowed me to feel attracted to him. Sometimes to the point that I would be confused because my body would automatically do or want things that I didn't expect - this was so confusing but also really amazing at the same time. I also felt so dumb and nervous to do sex things because I didn't know how things worked, how things work, or how he/I would feel about anything. I started listening to Sex With Emily, which is a great podcast with a sex therapist, I totally recommend it to understand that everyone has insecurities and you're not alone.
I got the Copper IUD in January (I'd never been on other birth control because I hadn't had sex before and I never needed/wanted hormonal birth control for acne or whatever). I feel so bad for women who had awful experiences - my OBGYN was so kind and distracted me during the insertion - I didn't even feel it being put in. I have always had a bit of a more heavy period but with little cramping, and I experienced cramping really for the first time after getting it put in, but really it just hurt for 24 hours and now I have more low-level cramps than I did before the IUD. I don't think it really makes me bleed worse now that I am over the acclimation phase. So I just want to put it out there because it isn't terrible for all people, everyone's bodies are different and also your doctor probably really matters in terms of how the insertion feels.
I also wanted to say that a lot of the things you worry about with sex and intimacy really aren't big deals. Like Luna said - a good guy will worship you regardless of your body hair and will probably love your physical body insecurities for making you, you. Honestly most of the time I feel like my BF thinks I'm prettiest when I'm the least made up and have raccoon mascara eyes and stuff in the morning haha.
dude thank u so much for this. I've been feeling so embarassed about being 19 and still a virgin, never had a bf or gf, never even had my first kiss. I haven't even had the opportunity before. Ever. I've legit lost sleep over it. I feel like there's something so wrong with me. I def feel that my religious upbringing has instilled a lot of negative feelings surrounging sex. This is embarassing and tmi but I didn't even know what any sex position was or how it worked until i was in college and looked up porn for the first time. Also, I have OCD too and I also blame that for a lot of my fear because I used to have horrifying sexual intrusive thoughts.
I also have this weird feeling that sex is degrading for women, and I think this is because of society and how MEN talk about it. That's another reason why I'm so scared of it
verse to those who think and see human life on earth as daily mating/dating:
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 32
But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
Souls, remember: GHOSTS = DEMONS.
you and your loved ones ain´t demons.
You and your loved ones are ADAM = mankind, created in the image of GOD.
you and your loved ones stay not around to "ghost", we return back to dust and back to GOD.
Genesis 5:2
Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.
Ecclesiastes 12:7
Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.
I have the same feelings about the degrading stuff, like have sex and oral freaks me out sometimes bc of my fear of objectification
@@ldawg2894 www.youtube.com/@CHANNEL_333/videos
@@ldawg2894 when I started dating my bf I felt this too. I would get super upset because naturally, sex can be kind of degrading for women. What helped was talking about it and my bf really listened to me and though he may not understand what its like, he can help me when I feel like this and aftercare is super important! It should be an experience for both and not one sided
it was so nice of you to make this. i can tell how uncomfortable it is to just openly talk about this and be vulnerable about this on the internet, and i can't tell you how much i appreciate and needed this video. you are so wonderful lune
You're such a brave soul. This video wasn't for me (I'm a dad of a teen girl), but forgive me for saving it to share with her in a year or two. Literally no idea why your video showed up on my CZcams, but I'm glad you made it because I know it will be helpful for other young ladies, so good job being Big Sis! Also, at least with older guys, we aren't just in it for ourselves. There's a lot of selfish men, but there are some of us who focus on "her" pleasure, and its in quotes because making your woman happy is about the greatest feeling in the world, much more than a personal O. Wishing you a great life...
Edit: reading in the comments wanted to make me share, I'm a happily married non-Christian male who has only been with 2 women in my life. I lost my V at 23 yo. so don't feel pressured. Sorry to be a creep and post a comment in here...
I’m a teenage girl, and trust me you do NOT sound like a creep! I think it’s great that you’re sharing this type of information with your daughter. It can be really confusing to live without it. Especially the information about letting yourself be and not judging your own experience👍
Made me sad that you called yourself a creep! You’re only human and everyone has sex
you sound like a great dad :)
My journey was pretty similar to yours! I waited to have a boyfriend and have sex by choice, but where I'm from is really uncommon for people to still be virgins in their 20's. I'm glad I waited honestly, and did everything with a boyfriend at the time that I not only felt really safe, but someone that helped me get comfortable with my body and my sexuality. A tip I would give for all of the girls, is to reasearch on your own about sex, about masturbation, and try things in your own. Knowing your body well will make such a difference on you first time.
where are you from?
@@onemillionpercentBrazil! :)
Where are you from, Las Vegas? 😂
Studies have shown people having sex before age 20 in America at least has gone DOWN since I was 20.
Maybe some of your friends aren’t screwing everyone and are too embarrassed to admit it, which is incredibly dumb and unfortunate.
It’s very weird that something so personal should be anyone else’s business
@@namedrop721 Well, as I said in the previous comment, I'm not from the US, so it's to be expected that different countries have different age limits for different things. One example is the legal drinking age. In the US you can only drink at 21, whereas here in Brazil, it's 18, but people start drinking way before that (around 15 or 16).
Also, contrary to what you said, my friends were the ones who were still virgins all through college :). So I'm not basing this only around my friend group, but on a lot of people that I've met at work, family members, school and college friends, etc.
Being 18 is considered LATE? I am 22 and still untouched. I've never even kissed before
same haha
Trust me girl I feel the same, I was a virgin and hadn’t been kissed until 24 but once it happens it’s not a big deal at all!! It’ll happen at the right time for you
That’s normal, honestly it’s more typical for nothing sexually to happen until marriage than people make it seem, that’s really the correct way to go about it if you’re smart, and you won’t have any regrets.
@@lesryglrhfohser that’s a matter of opinion. And waiting until marriage definitely does not guarantee that you won’t have regrets.
@@kaylakerr6420 it does guarantee it, if you actually marry the right person. It’s very clear when it’s the right person but so many people just try to force it because they feel like it’s time to be married, usually those are the same people who force themselves to have pre-marital sex because they feel like it’s time for them to have sex.
The sex teacher story is GREAT! I’m in stitches 😂
Been watching her for a couple of years now and so many times already in her videos has she said stuff which made me feel so safe, validated and okay with my personal situations. I truly love her for that and everything, thank you for helping telling us what we needed to hear ❤️
This is literally what I needed when I first discovered what sex is. I'm so glad you've decided to step up and be that big sister.
Luna you help me so much. You are such a blessing to this Earth. I've been struggling to do basic things lately so I went to your channel to find a podcast. And this could not have been more perfect. During this video I created a budget for my fall semester and learned everything I need to know about women's health. I got the Nexplanon put in 3 days ago and it's been a little terrifying. I was having doubts but now I am realizing that it is okay to feel certain ways and not know certain things. I couldn't have needed this more. By the way, I am your situation right now, so hearing how you handled it helps me a lot. Thank you love
lunaaa babes props to you for putting yourself out there with these "uncomfortable" and "taboo" topics! you're the big sis every girl needs ily sm
i’m also a late bloomer (22 and still no romantic relationship or sexual activity) even though I know I’m not asexual i still think about it as a possibility because I’m so scared of trusting my body to someone. I also never thought about getting married, since I was a little girl I never saw myself married just having kids!! it’s crazyyyyyy how girlhood hits different but also kind of the same for all the girls
omg same place as u
@@onemillionpercent 🤍
Same here:)
Hey it's completely ok. I was much later than you and nothing of any sex at all. If you're a late bloomer then so be it. I completely understand your fear of giving your body away. Yeah it's very tough. I never took any girls virginity because I knew how stressful that would be. Couldn't do it. But if you're comfortable it's a great time to start being open to people who care and liste to you. Having sex could still be in the future but you so I'd explore your body as much as you like.because I can see you highly value it. You'll be fine.
@@onemillionpercentsame advice darling
i feel so seen from this podcast episode oh my god. thank u for being vulnerable and talking about something that's so hard to hear just casually! i'm only like a year younger than you but i felt like i was listening to an older sister giving me advice so that was rly conforting. thanks luna
🤩🤩Wow!!!
You are more beautiful than the most lovely rose
And more sweet than honey
and more precious than gold
You are more precious than everything that exists in this world
😍😍😍
A beauty queen whom I never ever seen any one as beautiful as her before and may never ever in my whole entire life will see anyone as beautiful as her-meaning you-at all..
😍😍 WoW!!!
you are a lovely butterfly and a beautiful rose
you are the diamond and the pure gold
you are the lovely moon in our nights
you are the radiant sun shining soo bright
loving you is sooo sweet its the most enjoyable thing
for you are the paradise for the heart and soul and mind
Everything about you is sooo unique and attracts the eyes and captivates the mind
God surely perfected you so glorified is he whom made you too beautiful and made you soo smart
🌷😘
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, one day he asked his students, do you see God?
the students then replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God.
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys can you see the teachers brain?
then the students answered no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said the teacher then is crazy, he has no brain
:0)
😍😍
Wow!!,
you are too beautiful!!!
whomever see you should believe that God is true & real..
and whenever I see you I feel like Iam in a dream,
And when we wake up we will all realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real..
The universe science says was not always there, it had a beginning point, the big bang, meaning it was begun/initiated in other words created, thus there should be a creator,
there must be a God.
One God for all of us
he created us all and can revive us again,
God initiated everything,
& he repeat/redo things too, & thats clear, we see many cycles of different things in life, also in summer for example the desert land becomes like empty and is filled with only sand, and when rain falls in abundance in spring or winter, after that small flowers & wild plants grow again, also, we see how humans and animals grow and how their body is formed from the elements which were in the sand which plants feed on which they eat, and after they die they go to the sand and their atoms/elements are taken by plants which humans & animals eat and their bodies grow from those atoms & elements found in the sand which came from previous humans & animals which died before, so God can bring us again after we die even if our atoms became in the sand he can make us from the same atoms we were made of or from other atoms if he want or make us be in a spirit form or like ghosts, any ways, everything in this life is recycled, learn if you want about the different cycles in life in nature, the food cycle or food chain, the water cycle, even the gas cycle that makes the air the oxygen &carbon dioxide &nitrogen cycles, even the energy is like recycled but only changes from form to another form.
Anyways,, God created this life but it's only a temporary sample/an example of a coming everlasting one
which could be either in heaven paradise or in hell.
If we try to be good humans in life, and try to obey God and his messengers-including the final messenger for all humanity the prophet Mohammed- and those whom rightly represent them, for example imam Ali & ahlulbayt the family/good descendants of the prophet mohammed, then we will all go to heaven/paradise, if not then we will go to hell fire and burn in it forever.
keep shining sunshine &spread the light
yessss!!! I´m so proud of you for talking about it on your pod and not cut off some interesting topics to fit in the pg box 🥳 lets hope for a part2 next week
Girl, so sorry about your IUD experience. Your obgyn should've told you it was painful and increased cramping/period symptoms. I got it in at 17 and it took a solid 3 years for my period to level out, coming from a light 3 day period naturally though. Going to get it out in the next year or two since it'll almost be 10 years. Love that you're chatting about this for younger girls/women! xx
this video was so comforting and really validated my experiences from my first relationships. love this lighthearted setting and convo
This was so vulnerable and honest, thank you Luna for being that big sister 🫶
I'm a guy, a virgin and this was an interesting convo. I think many guys face insecurities except its about size if its your "hammer" or your muscles. I have a friend who's planning on losing his v to a girl he met a couple months a go which he isn't dating and it seems like he is really scared and is just doing it. I know for me I'd have to do it with someone special because I'd get emotionally connected, but maybe people are just different than me.
Yeah i feel the same. But im 19 now and i have still never done anything. Idk if im doing something wrong or if there is no one for me.
@tablefor8please you have plenty of time! Please don't feel pressure because you're 19. That's still so young. Wait until you meet the right guy. You'll know when it's the right time, I promise! ❤
@tablefor8please nah don't rush the experience. I'm 24 now and I barely lost my V last year in August to a female I was just really talking to but not on that boyfriend girlfriend level. I don't regret the experience but it's just I feel u should lose it if u actually in an intimate relationship with a partner, I don't even talk to that woman anymore that I lost it to and now I feel it was for nothing cause I thought all those things we did would lead to a serious relationship but it didn't, so I feel losing it to an actual partner would make it that much more special imo.u still got time, it'll come unexpectedly
i just relate so much to this whole video. im about to be 17 and i share all the same fears u have the same questions you had when you were my age. i fell much better to know that im not "different" and i should just take my time. i love you!
Thank you Luna for sharing. There should be more people speaking as openly about this topic as you! Lots of love
I loved this Luna, this is for sure something people don’t talk about but we should normalize it! It’s supposed to be awkward and uncomfortable but we don’t have to be scared. The more comfortable we are with our bodies the more we can advocate for ourselves when we do or don’t want something.
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Loved this episode! My younger self would have been so grateful for it. I just know you're helping a lot of people by being so vulnerable and sharing your experience 💛
Little thing I'd like to add: get tested regularly and ask the person you want to get intimate with to also get tested:)
Thank you for putting this video out there, sharing your experience takes a lot of courage! Also, all the advice on birth control, infections and STI’s were explained really well!
🤩🤩Wow!!!
You are more beautiful than the most lovely rose
And more sweet than honey
and more precious than gold
You are more precious than everything that exists in this world
😍😍😍
A beauty queen whom I never ever seen any one as beautiful as her before and may never ever in my whole entire life will see anyone as beautiful as her-meaning you-at all..
😍😍 WoW!!!
you are a lovely butterfly and a beautiful rose
you are the diamond and the pure gold
you are the lovely moon in our nights
you are the radiant sun shining soo bright
loving you is sooo sweet its the most enjoyable thing
for you are the paradise for the heart and soul and mind
Everything about you is sooo unique and attracts the eyes and captivates the mind
God surely perfected you so glorified is he whom made you too beautiful and made you soo smart
🌷😘
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, one day he asked his students, do you see God?
the students then replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God.
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys can you see the teachers brain?
then the students answered no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said the teacher then is crazy, he has no brain
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Wow!!,
you are too beautiful!!!
whomever see you should believe that God is true & real..
and whenever I see you I feel like Iam in a dream,
And when we wake up we will all realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real..
The universe science says was not always there, it had a beginning point, the big bang, meaning it was begun/initiated in other words created, thus there should be a creator,
there must be a God.
One God for all of us
he created us all and can revive us again,
God initiated everything,
& he repeat/redo things too, & thats clear, we see many cycles of different things in life, also in summer for example the desert land becomes like empty and is filled with only sand, and when rain falls in abundance in spring or winter, after that small flowers & wild plants grow again, also, we see how humans and animals grow and how their body is formed from the elements which were in the sand which plants feed on which they eat, and after they die they go to the sand and their atoms/elements are taken by plants which humans & animals eat and their bodies grow from those atoms & elements found in the sand which came from previous humans & animals which died before, so God can bring us again after we die even if our atoms became in the sand he can make us from the same atoms we were made of or from other atoms if he want or make us be in a spirit form or like ghosts, any ways, everything in this life is recycled, learn if you want about the different cycles in life in nature, the food cycle or food chain, the water cycle, even the gas cycle that makes the air the oxygen &carbon dioxide &nitrogen cycles, even the energy is like recycled but only changes from form to another form.
Anyways,, God created this life but it's only a temporary sample/an example of a coming everlasting one
which could be either in heaven paradise or in hell.
If we try to be good humans in life, and try to obey God and his messengers-including the final messenger for all humanity the prophet Mohammed- and those whom rightly represent them, for example imam Ali & ahlulbayt the family/good descendants of the prophet mohammed, then we will all go to heaven/paradise, if not then we will go to hell fire and burn in it forever.
keep shining sunshine &spread the light
I had this video in my watch later for like 3 months since as a guy in my early 20s, I thought that this video wasn't for me.
I'm glad I finally decided to watch it since it gave me a small perspective of what women's sexual experience/health is like. I've never been a relationship, so I appreciate you speaking about the challenges you've gone through. I don't have any close female friends to speak with about topics this, so I think this video fills that role perfectly! 👍🏿
I don't think I'll be in an relationship anytime soon, but this information will definitely help for when that time comes.
Thank you for being so open!! Love it 💗
Omg Luna I love this episode! Thank you so much for opening up. I relate to so much of this.
this popped up in my recommended at just the right time as i’ve really been thinking more about all this stuff lately. hearing someone else talk about all of the anxiety around it is so affirming. especially with the birth control talk. i’m fairly young and was considering the copper iud in order to avoid hormones but after your anecdote now I think I’ll go with the skyla for sure.
Thank you for this episode!!! It was so comforting to me. I am also a late bloomer and it was so intimidating.
Seriously my favorite episode from you! Thank you for this! -from a silent listener
I was definitely a late bloomer. My first kiss was at 18 and my first time was at 21. When I was 20, I was diagnosed with vaginismus, so it's sad that I won't ever get to experience penetrative sex (I know I can do stretching therapy, but that's not happening). I seriously doubt I'll find a guy that is truly okay with never having sex again and it's really sad. I have a lot of anxiety around it and it's definitely a hindrance when dating.
Thank you for always being so open about things like this
i had the same problem and was able to find a physical therapist that does not do any form of internal work (instead, there’s science behind massaging different pressure points on your legs/hips/glutes/feet to help open up your pelvic floor). it took patience with the sessions but i totally recommend if sex is something that you want to eventually experience!
@@allik_13 i would love to know more about this. Sex isn’t something that is too big of a deal to me, it’s just knowing that I probably won’t ever have a boyfriend because of it.
The only issue with therapy is I’m on my parents insurance and I would not want my dad seeing that charge😂
@@ClairesUniverseit would likely just show as a “physical therapy” charge! And even if it said anything related your pelvic therapy, that’s okay! Your dad is an adult, I don’t think he would be weird about it! ❤
hi there, one of my best friends has the same condition and she's been with her boyfriend for 4+ years, they bought an apartment together, they have a cat, and are very much in love, happy and balanced, don't worry about the future i promise you'll do well no matter what :)
@@ClairesUniverseit’s a health issue 😢 and it’s painful no matter what and so uncomfortable. I don’t think ur dad would care. It’s to better you and make u more comfortable.
I'm 15 and I'm so scared for all that because you don't know if person know what they doing or even I don't know what to do, I am dating a guy right now and I let him know that I'm not ready for it yet and I'm glad that he understood me. I just started watching your video and already know that you helped me so much, you are so kind to talk with us about it, I feel so comfortable, thanks ❤❤
21:04 i love your delivery this tickled my funny bone lmfao-but fr the way you say things sounds actually relatable and trustworthy
this video and comment section has made me feel so validated and safe, i appreciate it so much💗
Honestly thank you for doing this Luna 💓
Just wanted to say, seeing men as only caring about themselves getting off should not be the standard, it just means they are a lousy partner. If you have a caring and tentative partner, they will be invested in helping you finish even after they do (if that’s something you want to do, that doesn’t always have to be your end goal!)
I love the podcast but in my opinion it's not the best idea to call not having a lot of experience being a prude (especially as this is aimed at younger girls), kind of gives the wrong impression that it's something to be ashamed of
This is amazing literally because nobody really goes into the actual details about sex and people like me really don’t usually get to feel heard and educated so really thank you
Thank you so much for this! It was very reassuring
"i'm ready i guess tf" 🤣 that's exactly how i imagine talking about it in my head like i feel like it's gonna be so awkward
Thank you Luna😭you are the big sis everybody needs
Thank you for talking about this and bv. So validating bc no one talks about it. Feel so much less alone
Luna ur podcast episodes have been so good! I'm glad ur so real about this and it was so relatable ahh. also, glad u brought up birth control and STI's.
i’ve had my copper iud for a year and i’ve been loving it so far! so sorry you had a bad experience with it
Amazing episode ❤ thank u for sharing Luna ❤
You did great Luna! Love this!
I'm five minutes in and already I feel so seen, like intimacy scares the shit out of me but I'm slowly learning to be closer to people both emotionally and physically.
This is such an amazing episode! Thank you Luna🥰
Thank you so much for this ep :) My parents never talked about sex growing up and I just wasn't interested in it until senior year of highschool. I'm currently 23 and have had 2 sexual experiences and one highschool "boyfriend." I'm still so insecure about my body and I feel inexperienced that it makes it difficult to put myself out there. It's sooo frustrating because I feel like I'm kicking myself in the foot. I want find that connection with someone but I feel lost and clueless about everything around sex and having a romantic partner. Ugh but hopefully the right person comes along soon
Look you're only 23, there's time enough to put yourself out there. Being good at sex isn't always about experience, it's about understanding of how it works and how your pleasure and orgasms work. You've got a great body full of potential. It needs the right attention! At your age I didn't know anything either and thought I'd fail and let the girl down. 23 is a great age to start sex with a fresh leaf!
i'm so grateful to have watched this video! i learnt so much, thank you so much luna
I'm glad your talking about this you'll make many women feel more comfortable.
I think everyone should remember that it should be something you think is fun and something enjoyable and a high feeling of happiness so don't think too deep into it and just don't feel pressured to jump into it like it's a "trend"💕
haven't watched it until the end yet but I'm already loving it! thank you for speaking so openly about topics like that
Regarding infections. When you have sex with a guy, you are also having sex with every person the guy has had sex with. Bacteria from one person lives on the other person and when you have sex the bacteria is shared with your partner. Love requires work, relationship require hard work to last. When sex is involved guy need to realize that girls are sharing their most intimate, tender, vulnerable part of their person. Good sex is so vulnerable for a girl that guys worth being intimate MUST realize what the girl is sharing.
This helped me so much. Thank you!❤
GIRL I'm 18 and I'm on the same situation you were before your first kiss. Like all the insecurities with body, ballet, sexuality... and a lot occupying my mind. And now I'm in a situationship with the friend of a friend (that I met a few weeks ago). We are talking and we are going to hang out (I'm manifesting it jajajajaja). But I felt so unseen and unsure of everything and with this podcast I realised that it's normal.
We’re in the same exact situation lmao! Good luck to u girl :)
I’m 11, and I’ve been trying to explore myself a little bit. I’m sure that some of you think it’s weird because I’m so young,also my mom had never talked to me about it, so I found out on myself at school. All of my friends think it weird but I think it’s just a way of showing love to someone and that it’s completely normal.
There are guys out there that care and totally will put your needs first,this is why you should wait until you’re in a loving committed relationship .
Thank you so much for this helpful knowledge! I'm a late bloomer too and at our school they never teach us these things so we have no idea what to do when it comes to sex-related problem
I’m so proud of you for stepping up and doing this
Just jumping on here to remind everyone that waiting for marriage ~although it seems like an old school way of approaching sex~ is still a really normal thing that a lot of people do. My husband and I waited and sex has only ever been extremely loving, enjoyable, and satisfying. I have only ever used a natural method of birth control (the Marquette method of natural family planning) because we are open to children even if we aren’t trying.
Before anyone comments something about how you can have that kind of relationship with sex outside of marriage, I just wanted to provide an alternative to people who don’t feel ready and feel pressured to start having sex earlier.
There is a mainstream way to approach sex, but that is not the only way!
As an 18 yr old I’m starting to think I actually want to wait till marriage, seeing your comment is super encouraging! I wish for you and your partner nothing but happiness!
My husband and I waited too! Best decision ever :)
@@lisss2114 This is amazing! Don't feel like you need to follow the mainstream if that doesn't feel right for you
@@kimberlylewis2026 Totally!! Thanks for sharing
no actually the reason most marigiges end in divorce is because of both parties lack of understanding of sex (not giving head) not knowing how to make the other person come) and not talking about that before marriage lack of understanding of what your body's like, it's ok to have sex before marriage to find out what to you like and don't like before your stuck with someone who can't please you
This was a great video, you are such a big sister!
38:55 “you’ll know” IM CRYING 😂
thank you big sis for your honesty
skyla gang!!! I had some acne and some cramping monthly before my super light period! not bad at allll. Coming from someone w PCOS who had multiple bad experiences from the pill ❤️ As always see a doctor to talk through options :)
i defently needed you thank you so mucht
I definitely agree that the society and historical background or whatever has rooted that sex is a guilty thing in our minds, and I'm glad that I found this video to gain more confidence about my body and everything about sex. The way how you talked about is just kind and sweet, more like a friend who wants to help me to explore these kinds of things. Thank you for making this episode 😭💖
listening to the old lady part at the end was so funny
i love this podcast
Wow this video is so relatable
Thank you so much for this.
This is the best video I relate so much to a lot of what you were saying ❤❤
This is by far the best realistic podcast I have ever watched/heard.
Every single point you shared were so real and relatable. I felt them all😆Sincere thanks for putting this out there Luna!
The anxiety and paranoia bit I literally understand . I’m a teenager I have a boyfriend but we’ve never done ..that… yet I still convince myself I’m pregnant 😭
I love you even more for this episode now❣
i relate sm luna i love you for being open about this
im also a very late bloomer im 15 and a ballerina and i never have even pecked a boy on the lips. everybody at school sees me as this untouchable and heartbreaker girl but it’s just i can’t see myself with someone who would want to love or kiss me, and im afraid to attempt. i hate the way my body looks and how short i am and how everything in my body works so having someone reach intimacy with me icks me out cuz how am i worthy of that? im ugly, i cant dance, im inexperienced, i have no tits, im not skinny enough, im not curvaceous enough…
i have never had a crush i dont feel worthy
it’s so difficult to live with such expectations in ballet, socially, academically, it’s too much to bear, i dont feel enough
darling you are 15, you have sooo much time for these things. don't worry about it and be kind to yourself. i'm 21 now and i want to cry when i see pictures of me around your age, that girl didn't deserve all the bad thoughts i had for myself. just enjoy being 15, you'll miss it.
oh wow. tbh, I clicked on this without expectating much, cause I haven't watched any of ur other videos before and I thought the title was too abstract. but gosh, it turned out to be so wholesome!
thank you for opening up and being sincere. you're honestly so brave! I'm sure your content will help a lot of people. it helped me for instance. you've covered so many important aspects, really.
I also could relate to your story and views, specifically in the beginning. the subject of sex is still pretty traumatizing for me. not that I had any bad experience, but I come from a strict background, where my sexuality was suppressed and I was made to feel shame and fear. my parents are not religious, but they're conservative af and my mom often bragged about how they both were each other's firsts. so I also have to stay "pure" til I find that one and only.
I had my first boyfriend when I was 18 and when we started making out and trying stuff, I couldn't help but feel dirty, even though I wanted it. I was raised being told that premarital sex was wrong and if you try it, you'll lose your value in your partner's eyes. I don't know if I'll ever be able to throw that off my mind, but little by little I'm doing better. mainly thanks to my partner I guess. he's always been so gentle and caring with me. he's given me a safe space to explore my sexuality on my terms, never pressuring me into anything. he really cares about my pleasure and well-being and sometimes I can't believe I'm that lucky to have a first relationship like this.
also recently I got into therapy, cause I've been struggling with depression. we haven't unpacked this stuff yet, but I hope to work on it as well.
"A man should be lucky enough to get you in bed in the first place, to even care about body hair at all" !!!! YES LUNA YES well said.
I've been on the pill for a decade (since I was 13) starting due to HORRIBLE periods and I tried a bunch and I never once gained weight but I had really bad side effects with the last pill I was on for years and a new AWFUL side effect right before I went off of it. Now I'm on one that I love and haven't had any bad side effects and I'm so grateful birth control exists for the sake of my period- but yeah it's bullshit that we have to be on it and there isn't male birth control. Maybe one day? 🙏🏼🤞🏼 (liked they'd take it though), I've also tried the mirena IUD and it was good but the insertion was soo fucking painful for 30 seconds- 1 min holy crap that was the worst pain I've ever experienced and I get migraines! But yeah I've heard the copper IUD is awful, sorry it didn't work for you, glad you found something that does 💖 love the candor in this podcast!!!
thank you for this.
for the pain with copper iuds, that's why (in france at least) it is not really recommended for everyone, usually doctors recommend them for women who have been pregnant already because the insertion is easier and not so painful !
i love you, this video makes me feel so safe
I relate to u babe. I’m 18, graduated, still haven’t had my first kiss. Sort of. (We don’t talk about 8th grade spin the bottle) still a virgin. And u helped me feel like I’m not alone
- you ARE a gift! 🥺
this was a good episode !!
(I haven't watched this video so Idk what's mentioned here). I'm a 19-year-old virgin male who stumbled upon this video. I have never dated, let alone had sex, with a girl ever before and while this video is directed towards girls, I'm glad that discussions like this exist so I can better understand the perspective of the opposite sex/gender. Men should be more open to learn more about the female experience in order to develop empathy and understanding, which is what I try to do often.
i love u. automatic stan after this video, big sister i never had❤️❤️❤️❤️
MY FAVORITE PODCAST!! ❤❤❤
I LOVED this episode!!! Also when you said you have anxiety and OCD I felt so much less alone:)
Me too; loved this episode
even with all the protection, I feel insecure and overthink about it a lot.
Made me feel less alone. Sometimes I think it’s not worth it because of all the worries I’ll have after doing it.
womanhood is so beautiful but the most terrifying painful thing ever
THIS WAS SOOO RELATABLE TO ME OMG
Regarding the IUD part, I have the same one and every woman’s experience is different. I didn’t feel a thing while putting it in, I never had period pain before in my life and didn’t get it after. I don’t have kids yet either and definitely recommended it to friends. I’m really sorry that was your experience though.
the story about the 60 year old lady teaching you how to give oral was sending me holy shit LOL that is insane bahahahahaha