Responding to criticism of my “immodest” clothing

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  • čas přidán 1. 07. 2024
  • Responding to criticism of what I wear when I create CZcams videos in the insular Hasidic Jewish community.

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  • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
    @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +93

    I want to share with you here a sweet moment from Hasidic Williamsburg - an elderly man commenting on my wearing red. It's a bit of loving teasing.
    czcams.com/video/L5vrGtSAQzA/video.htmlsi=t_MbopBznPa-VVi_
    And to those who asked, here's again the link to the post with the Belgian model: friedavizel.com/2019/05/24/a-naked-playboy-model-in-hasidic-williamsburg/

    • @Zelde-M
      @Zelde-M Před 4 měsíci +5

      Love the first vid in the Red!!!

    • @raizellanda8190
      @raizellanda8190 Před 4 měsíci +14

      The kindness and caring that you experience in Wlliamsburg is what is called CHESED. Our father Avraham Avinu was known for this trait of Chesed. Anyone who is Jewish and therefore also a descendent of Avraham Avinu, hopefully

    • @raizellanda8190
      @raizellanda8190 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Rries this trait too.

    • @hershyd3862
      @hershyd3862 Před 4 měsíci +2

      ​@@Zelde-M ain't nobody like Mr tiv tov 😅

    • @michelleyanche1706
      @michelleyanche1706 Před 4 měsíci +5

      So sweet!

  • @JohnHarvey_UK
    @JohnHarvey_UK Před 4 měsíci +552

    The following quote by Flemming Rose comes to mind: "When I visit a mosque, I show my respect by taking off my shoes. I follow the customs, just as I do in a church, synagogue or other holy place. But if a believer demands that I, as a nonbeliever, observe his taboos in the public domain, he is not asking for my respect, but for my submission. And that is incompatible with a secular democracy."

    • @joyfairclough4686
      @joyfairclough4686 Před 4 měsíci +28

      Right; should we be expected to wear sleeves and long dresses in Brooklyn? The streets, the corner shops, are they holy places?

    • @happycrabknits9109
      @happycrabknits9109 Před 4 měsíci +16

      This is very well said and agree

    • @sunbeam8161
      @sunbeam8161 Před 4 měsíci +24

      This video, once again, shows what a beautiful person you are Frieda❣️You showed yourself very open, honest and vunerable❤You are such a soft-spoken, respektful and kind person. You have shown that over the years in your videos... and the people you deal with on a personal level experience your respectful attitude, your deep rooted knowledge of this way of life that you used to be a part of. I also sense a deep gratitude for your family and the way you were raised. The people you meet can feel all of these qualities, that are far above and beyond the (non-offensive, non- provocative) clothing that you wear. You have such a deep understanding of your roots and your identity now. People feel that, people respect that Frieda. Everyone wants to be liked /loved for who they really are - and I applaud you for the courage of showing your true colors - to the community and to everyone watching your videos🎉

    • @mountainair
      @mountainair Před 4 měsíci +8

      Well said- we eventually need to converge upon a set of customs and values that transcend culture and religion.

    • @kristinesharp6286
      @kristinesharp6286 Před 4 měsíci +24

      The sidewalk is not their place of worship. The sidewalk is not a holy place.

  • @lauranoble2256
    @lauranoble2256 Před 4 měsíci +312

    You do a wonderful job of treating the Hasidic community respectfully.

  • @hershyd3862
    @hershyd3862 Před 4 měsíci +232

    As a chassidic jew from williamsburg i can tell you that you are very respectful and mindful of not offending anyone in the community. The sights we see on an almost daily basis have no one batting an eye lash. You dress like a rebitzin in comparison.
    Ignore the critics and keep up your great work! We love your videos.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +39

      איך אפרישיעט זייער שטארק אייער קאמענט! א גרויסע דאנק

    • @David99356
      @David99356 Před 4 měsíci +9

      Isn’t there a Yiddish word for appreciate? 😂

    • @hershyd3862
      @hershyd3862 Před 4 měsíci +5

      איך בין מכיר טוב. Not yiddish but commonly used

    • @markdavid1208
      @markdavid1208 Před 4 měsíci

      @@David99356 אָפּשאַצן

    • @debbie9955
      @debbie9955 Před 4 měsíci

      @@David99356A dank

  • @mweiss505
    @mweiss505 Před 4 měsíci +191

    As a hasidic jew I can tell you, you are very respectful, to the hasidic community!!

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +23

      I appreciate it my friend.

    • @deborahknoll4880
      @deborahknoll4880 Před 4 měsíci +9

      I'll agree!

    • @extanegautham8950
      @extanegautham8950 Před 4 měsíci +8

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn i agree also!!! this is so much more interesting and informative than the midwestern gentile videos showing a fake insiders view....i love the Gottleib's episode!

    • @moshkhal2637
      @moshkhal2637 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Absolutely!!!! Extremely disrespectful!!

  • @debbiestarks4975
    @debbiestarks4975 Před 4 měsíci +145

    You are so far from disrespectful. Your videos never disrespect anyone. Keep sharing with us and try not to let the haters get to you.

  • @EvinMA
    @EvinMA Před 4 měsíci +180

    Oh my gosh Frieda! There is NO reason for you to explain. I totally learn SO much watching what you offer. Thank you for everything you share with us.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +28

      Thank you! For a long time I felt there was no reason to explain. I still feel that I shouldn't have to justify such a complicated and personal decision. But thought perhaps to those who won't judge, it will be illuminating.

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy Před 4 měsíci

      🌳🩵💙😊🩵💙💜❤🌳🌳🌲🌳FRIEDA ~ G-D LOVES YOU VERY MUCH🩵💙🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳💕💕💕💕💕@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn 🌈🌈🌈🔆🔆

    • @Jverburgh
      @Jverburgh Před 4 měsíci +4

      I believe that the only person who is allowed to judge is God, himself@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn .

    • @roxalavista4917
      @roxalavista4917 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Dear Frieda, I am a person with very little former knowledge of the Hasidic community and no exposure whatsoever. I have learned so much from you, and this includes developing a respect for the customs and culture of the community. I can only imagine the nuanced path you traveI as you work to educate your viewers. I appreciate your honesty. Though you are under no obligation whatsoever to provide any explanations, you have helped me to further my understanding, and I thank you and appreciate your work and wisdom.

  • @MsBoujeeGisele
    @MsBoujeeGisele Před 4 měsíci +55

    As a young black woman who happens to be Jewish. Freida Never argue with fools. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Love your work ❤

  • @ladyd8800
    @ladyd8800 Před 4 měsíci +127

    Hi Frieda! I'm an African American who knows nothing about the hasidic community and I have no idea how your videos popped up on my feed...I find you to be extremely respectful and professional during your videos..I've learned soon much about this rather insular religious group. I cannot even imagine how difficult it must have been leaving a lifestyle & culture you have known most of your life and commend your courage & strength Thank you! for sharing your wide breadth of knowledge and insight.. May God bless & keep you.. 🙏❤

    • @extanegautham8950
      @extanegautham8950 Před 4 měsíci +4

      May God bless and keep you , too, @lady8800 you tube is pretty clever!

    • @ladyd8800
      @ladyd8800 Před 3 měsíci +3

      @extanegautham8950 Yes it is,.

  • @PhilomenaSK
    @PhilomenaSK Před 4 měsíci +128

    My goodness, I’m so sorry you get those kinds or reactions Frieda! As someone who has also left a faith (not the Jewish faith but Islam) I find that you are INCREDIBLY respectful. Especially the first couple of years after I left my faith I really couldn’t muster up the strength to be respectful of that faith that had hurt me so much.
    The fact that you show us all facets of Hasidism with such enthusiasm and respect amazes me. I’ve never felt you were disrespectful at all.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +24

      Thank you so much! I appreciate that you can understand. ❤️

    • @jasminescloset2021
      @jasminescloset2021 Před 4 měsíci +13

      @philomenaSK I feel like its often the ppl in the religions that create issues as opposed to the religion itself. Those that discriminate against us often are far from perfect themselves and try to project their negativity on to others to hurt them. This is not a religious issue its a community issue withon the religion.

    • @PhilomenaSK
      @PhilomenaSK Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn❤

    • @PhilomenaSK
      @PhilomenaSK Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@jasminescloset2021I think it might be both, either way it’s so sad!

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy Před 4 měsíci

      🌳🩵💙😊🌈🔆😊@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn

  • @alexandersasson2107
    @alexandersasson2107 Před 4 měsíci +61

    Frieda, never compromise on your values just to please others.You have enlightened and educated the masses with your eye-opening and relevant vignettes on the Ultraorthodox Jewish community. Never complain, never explain. Much respect!

  • @AnaFernandez-jp5uh
    @AnaFernandez-jp5uh Před 4 měsíci +42

    Frieda, you are very polite and dress for who you are. You still dress more conservative than most westerners. You should be treated with the same respect and empathy that you provide. You have helped so many understand such a secret society.

  • @michelleyanche1706
    @michelleyanche1706 Před 4 měsíci +61

    So beautifully said. Your integrity and generous spirit shine so bright in this. You brought tears to my eyes.

    • @judithnicholais1492
      @judithnicholais1492 Před 3 měsíci +1

      That's it exactly -- you put into words what I struggled to do. Thank you

  • @kindnessmatters604
    @kindnessmatters604 Před 4 měsíci +93

    Another great video. I so appreciate your point of view and the gentle way you approach these subjects. Thank you, Frieda.

  • @michelemarie4128
    @michelemarie4128 Před 4 měsíci +69

    Don't let the trolls drag you down or make you second guess yourself. Haters gonna hate.

  • @szeevster5767
    @szeevster5767 Před 4 měsíci +39

    You struck a perfect balance here. And in your life. Well done, Frieda.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +5

      Thank you friend.

    • @szeevster5767
      @szeevster5767 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn - I will be joining you channel. Sorry that I haven’t until now.

  • @L83000
    @L83000 Před 4 měsíci +52

    Frieda you are a decent honorable woman who deserves to express yourself wearing whatever you want !

  • @jeannelynskey6946
    @jeannelynskey6946 Před 4 měsíci +61

    You are not disrespectful, you are sharing the culture that most people are not familiar with.

  • @michaelfulton3059
    @michaelfulton3059 Před 4 měsíci +62

    As someone who joined the Jewish community out of love and was raised in a very conservative Greek Orthodox Christian environment (and later left, like Frieda), I don’t think I could offer Orthodox Christianity the same level of respect that Frieda gives to Hassidism. When you look up respect in the dictionary, you see her face.
    Frieda has truly done these communities a service by humanizing them. Frieda, please continue what you’re doing. You’ve opened up a culture and a world to people who might have otherwise dismissed it as backward, awkward, and primitive, thanks to skewed docudramas like "Unorthodox."
    BTW, my girlfriend and I were in Crown Heights shopping for Judaica and baked goods last week. We wore modest street clothing (I didn’t take off my baseball cap because I didn’t have a kippah). No one said a word, shop owners were pleasant. The only flak I got was wearing an Astros cap in Yankee world. 😬

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +24

      Thanks for your comment and the laugh at the end. An Astros cap in NY is very disrespectful 😂

    • @michaelfulton3059
      @michaelfulton3059 Před 4 měsíci +8

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn when it comes to baseball, we are all of the same religion

    • @NancyCronk
      @NancyCronk Před 4 měsíci +1

  • @lruss5050
    @lruss5050 Před 4 měsíci +22

    You bend over backwards to be respectful! Keep up the great work!❤❤❤🇨🇦

  • @jasminescloset2021
    @jasminescloset2021 Před 4 měsíci +53

    Frieda i love your channel, as jews we get criticism from our own community and from outside our community and you just have to disregard any negativity because only Hashem has the right to judge us ❤ if the Torah had been written in 2024 it would be very different and ppl would still have problems with it and criticise us 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 Před 4 měsíci +3

      😂What makes you think if the Tora was written in 2024 it wld be very different? Some are still keeping the ancient laws perfectly happily and many who haven't are deciding to start doing so now and some non Jews are even converting to be Able to have the privilege of keeping those ancient laws!!

    • @junjunjamore7735
      @junjunjamore7735 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@Tali5899 how many people have you stoned for breaking the shabbath recently?

    • @NEMO-NEMO
      @NEMO-NEMO Před měsícem

      @@Tali5899don’t make the laws more important than the faith in Hashem.
      There are only 10 laws and those are the Commandments. Everything else is commentary.
      What ever God creates is good, He said it himself.
      He gave us the 10 Commandments, He felt 10 was good.
      Complicating a thing doesn’t make it better.
      I notice more and more people, each year, walking away from strict religious communities such as;
      Amish
      Catholic
      Hasidic
      Orthodoxy of any kind
      And even some Protestant communities.
      Needing to belong is one thing but most of the time groups manipulate members into submission.
      If there were no one wanting to speak to Ms. Freida then she would move on, but as you can see, Ms. Pearl has lots to say.

  • @Derf56
    @Derf56 Před 4 měsíci +32

    Frieda - I have learned so much from your videos and have always been impressed by how RESPECTFUL you are toward people you disagree with. Don’t stop being yourself!

  • @trooper190
    @trooper190 Před 4 měsíci +13

    YOU ARE NOT DISRESPECTFUL!!!! You are still tastefully dressed and modest.
    I think you're amazing in showing us and sharing the ways of the Hasidic community and helping to bring understanding to all of us and love for the Jewish people.
    As an Afro-American, Christian woman I say, " KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING!"

  • @Shelley-cj9sb
    @Shelley-cj9sb Před 4 měsíci +22

    Based on all of your videos I’ve watched, ‘Disrespectful’ might be the LAST word I’d use! Keep your head up and trust your instincts.

  • @lyndaalterio1027
    @lyndaalterio1027 Před 4 měsíci +34

    How are you disrespectful??? What kind of nonsense is that!! You are such a good person and have done nothing wrong, my dear Frieda! Don't let those rude people get to you - you look great and your videos are very, very tasteful! You are not disrespectful at all! You keep doing what you do, and you do such a great job. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @francearchambault4218
    @francearchambault4218 Před 4 měsíci +13

    Dear Frieda - you do a wonderful job opening up a window for non-Jewish people understand the values of orthodox Hasidic faith. Thank you. 🙏

  • @tamarfischer283
    @tamarfischer283 Před 4 měsíci +19

    Seeing your thumbnail, my first reaction was " she's not disrespectful. She knows EXACTLY how to dress so as to not offend while identifying as an irreligious person."
    I think a frum person seeing a lovely person like you with your refined upbringing on your face, it is somewhat upsetting to see you on the outside. And yes- we want you back.
    But you explained your position so well, and I think your love reflects and people can really relate to you and your position, and perhaps you can eventually show people how to understand people from the community who have no bad intentions, but who are not made for this environment and who may want to find another way to G-d.

  • @jennyhugo7531
    @jennyhugo7531 Před 4 měsíci +16

    Dearest Frieda, you have brought alive a culture few of us have seen and respect . Whilst in NY because of your channel, I asked my son in law to take me to Williamsburg for a bagel. My son in law, an American, was amazed. I could explain to him certain things he saw because of your channel. I’m from South Africa and going to Williamsburg was something on my bucket list. That would never have been without your channel. Btw the bagel at Williamsburg Bagel was everything I could imagine. The lox and cream cheese sublime. Please continue with the work you do. We so appreciate you and the kind, respectful way you inform us. 😊

    • @Faigyfeig
      @Faigyfeig Před 4 měsíci +2

      Love South Africa! I have the best memories from there.

  • @user-mc6jz9er8w
    @user-mc6jz9er8w Před 4 měsíci +14

    Once again, Frieda, your eloquence overwhelms me. Such a hard subject matter, for you, but handled exceptionally well and no, my dear Frieda, you are NOT disrespectful. Your ability to so clearly explain your position and your sincerity touch my heart so very much. Continue just as you are----no acts, no pretense. Just Frieda. xoxoxo

  • @martythomasg
    @martythomasg Před 4 měsíci +23

    Frieda thank you for sharing. I feel your insights may be helpful in many situations. I wish more people participated in introspection before they acted or spoke.

  • @shellygauvreau399
    @shellygauvreau399 Před 4 měsíci +29

    I live in Canada and am trying to think of a logical enough reason for me to come to NYC so that I can take one of your tours. You seem to have such a beautiful relationship with many many members of the community that you visit. You have obviously made a huge impact on others that you may have been unaware of but that silent impact is so much more authentic than the impact that is made by the biggest explosion. I love your story telling whether it be with Pearl or the shop keeper selling his wares to you.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Aww, thank you. Come down sometime. NYC is a wonderful place to visit, well worth it. I’m biased maybe.

    • @aggieglitter
      @aggieglitter Před 4 měsíci +2

      Lol I'm the same. When they have run out of the Eskal pickles here in Sydney which are kosher and from Israel I'm always thinking "if I just catch a flight to Brooklyn I bet they'll have some". You don't need a logical reason. If I was childless, and didn't have responsibilities, the pickles would be good enough reason for me to go .

  • @mlleEster
    @mlleEster Před 4 měsíci +16

    This warms my heart and my soul. Oh we all are in need of a Frieda in our life.

  • @pedinurse1
    @pedinurse1 Před 4 měsíci +24

    Frieda I accept you just the way you are. You are doing just fine. If anything I see you as being so respectful, good for you. I understand your heart. Keep up the great work😊

  • @chayastoll1046
    @chayastoll1046 Před 4 měsíci +19

    Dearest Frieda,
    You are not disrespectful in any way at all. You are a kind , sensitive and beautiful women . Please don't let the critizizers get to you. The Bal Shemtov says when you point a figure at someone look how many fingers are pointing back at you. They need to take a lesson from that.
    You are a respectful Yid in so many ways❤

  • @bkriszti
    @bkriszti Před 4 měsíci +14

    Frieda, you are the epitome of how to treat others with respect. I also witnessed this when we joined your tour. You have nothing to feel bad about! I wish more people would be like you❤

  • @melvinsmum2012
    @melvinsmum2012 Před 4 měsíci +9

    I've loved your videos. Im not Jewish, Im a 75yr old grandmother here in the UK.
    Ignore the critics, you are obviously a very sensitive kind soul, and if they cant see that, its their loss. Carry on just as you are. You're a lovely young woman - Id be proud if you were mine.

  • @savi6915
    @savi6915 Před 4 měsíci +13

    You are being yourself, you look very feminine, and modest. Love you, girl..❤

  • @laurameisenhelter9186
    @laurameisenhelter9186 Před 4 měsíci +11

    This is one of your best videos ever. Thank you for sharing your truth. Thank you for calling out true disrespect and teaching what real respect is. You are a gift, Frieda.

  • @valhenning1504
    @valhenning1504 Před 4 měsíci +14

    You know better than we do, what is respectful and what is not. Thank you so much for your videos and helping us learn about this community. Especially those of us who may never get to Brooklyn. I truly believe that if all people would learn about others there would be more understanding in this world. You do a wonderful job, Thank you so much.

  • @lawrencemielnicki5643
    @lawrencemielnicki5643 Před 4 měsíci +11

    After the Holocaust the Satmar Rebbe and other rebbes came to America because of the freedoms guaranteed by our Bill of Rights. Members of the community cannot honestly pick and choose which rights they like. Nobody is saying if you come into my Christian community you must remove your religious inspired clothing. Their rights to free expression are respected. If there’s a fear that your trousers and short sleeves are corrupting their men teach the men not to be corrupted.

  • @ZarcosGeneral
    @ZarcosGeneral Před 6 dny +1

    I appreciate your work a lot and your own way, as a Christian i keep coming back to your videos with honest interest on learning about the Hasidic Jewish community and how and why they live the way they do. Very interesting and insightful. We should all learn about others and their culture and religion in order to have more respect and understanding, i think. To agree or not is not the point, instead, the respect should follow or conduct towards others. Keep the great work, you have a lovely soul. Oh this is Brígida and i say hi from Portugal :)

  • @alnibodycare
    @alnibodycare Před 4 měsíci +16

    You are doing a a beautiful service educating folks about a community that is very much sheltered. Especially now with everything going on and the hatred towards Jews, this work is more important than ever; people must learn about the Jewish faith including all sects. I am lucky I have some exposure having grown up in New York, and not until I left did I realize how much less exposure the rest of the country has to Jewish heritage and traditions! I think you are very respectful. 💜

  • @simonewoodwell7354
    @simonewoodwell7354 Před 4 měsíci +22

    So sorry that you get these emails. Why do they watch? You are not disrespectful.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +5

      Some of them say they want to watch my videos but can’t because of my clothing.

    • @boathousejoed1126
      @boathousejoed1126 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Exactly! If the haters are on CZcams, they need to evaluate their own belief and practice.

    • @carolinecastiglione9075
      @carolinecastiglione9075 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Don't carry someone's cult luggage.

    • @_wesleyhome_
      @_wesleyhome_ Před 4 měsíci

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn if they're so heilige they're not watching videos to begin with. So I would take that claim with a pound of salt.

  • @beverlybrown4398
    @beverlybrown4398 Před 4 měsíci +16

    I’m sorry you have received such responses. I am so thankful that I found your channel. I’ve learned so much and I admire your ability to share your experiences in such a kind and positive way. Thank you.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +4

      It’s been a really meaningful experience for me and I’m glad you’re here to join me for it.

  • @LindsayLindow
    @LindsayLindow Před 4 měsíci +21

    You have every right to exist in that space, whether or not you conform to their expectations.
    I appreciate learning about the community and your insight is so valuable.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +12

      I felt strongly that Tim and Leslie who I interviewed in another episode have a right to dress as is normal for their culture when they LIVE there and so many people left comments tearing them down. Tim and Leslie are teachers and they found themselves terrified that their students will see the horrible comments and it’ll have negative consequences. So there’s a big cohort on CZcams that is very judge mental and not thinking twice about sharing their judgement.

    • @amym8479
      @amym8479 Před 4 měsíci +8

      As a non Jewish person, your videos have taught me so much about a religion I knew little about. I truly believe as you stated, understanding, kindness, and respect for one another (dress, lifestyle, beliefs, etc) is fundamental and will go along way to help us all live in peace. You are a wonderful teacher and I thank you for continuing to educate me. I love your chutzpah! (I looked up the spelling and hopefully got it right!)

  • @adelenehaberkorn4703
    @adelenehaberkorn4703 Před 4 měsíci +20

    You have such a way of speaking your heart. You bring tears to.my eyes. God bless and keep you. Thank you for your insight. Loved Pearls interviews. She to has a heart for God.

  • @Zelde-M
    @Zelde-M Před 4 měsíci +17

    Punkt! I applaud that your work comes from love, passion, insight, critical thinking & Integrity. The integrity to be genuine! Shkoyakh!

  • @DariaAmato-wz2xg
    @DariaAmato-wz2xg Před 4 měsíci +8

    From what I see, you always dress in a modern, respectful yet casual manner. Many years ago I was in my hometown, I was picking my grandmother up to take her to church. She was in her 80s, always wore dresses to church, a hat or chapel veil. It was bitter cold and she had put on a nice pair of slacks , loose fit around the leg, she asked me if I thought God would be mad at her for dressing this way in church. I told her He would be happier to have her there than frozen or sick in the hospital. She had a complementary turtle neck long sleeved sweater on, and her below the knee winter wool coat, and wool hat. You are doing your job, nurses were thrilled in the 1970s when we were allowed to wear pantsuit. We didn't have to worry about what people could see if we bent over, reached above our heads etc. Bless you.

  • @RScesium
    @RScesium Před 4 měsíci +13

    Respect is in the heart, not over the skin.

  • @annai157
    @annai157 Před 3 měsíci +7

    I'm a Christian woman in the Deep South and I'm really enjoying your content. Getting to know one another better, even through youtube, is one of the best ways to get rid of all sorts of prejudices. My late mother used to repeat the famous quote, "I don't like that man very well, I better get to know him better!" Your content is beautiful & helping us all know & understand each other better.

  • @Sharon181818
    @Sharon181818 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Dear Frieda- once again you educate and then allow yourself to be vulnerable on camera so that your viewers can understand your personal point of view. What a Kiddush HaShem those in the community perform when they accept you as you are now and show that they care for you as a person! I agree with you that education and discussion is key to understanding the differences that people have. If the Hasidic community cannot do this from within, then it needs you- who know both sides so well- to educate. Thank you again for the wonderful work you do.

  • @boropark12
    @boropark12 Před 3 měsíci +2

    A chutzpa!!! My wife once went to hear the shower blown, and when she got there She saw a sign that raid: "if you wear a shaitel DO NOT ENTER!!!" It's so disrespectful and disparaging to put other people who are not exactly on part with you down.
    We stand with you!!! ❤❤❤❤

    • @boropark12
      @boropark12 Před 3 měsíci

      😢

    • @boropark12
      @boropark12 Před 3 měsíci

      😍😍

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 3 měsíci

      What's happening here! You are replying to yourself with emojis 😂
      I like your outrage. Why should women from other shitas not be welcome in a bes medrish and made to feel like they are less than?

    • @boropark12
      @boropark12 Před 3 měsíci

      It brings attention to my comment...

  • @lakesq2056
    @lakesq2056 Před 4 měsíci +10

    you are such a brave, thoughtful, and articulate teacher of the importance of truth.

  • @kaynewling3455
    @kaynewling3455 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Frieda I have a great deal of respect and admiration for you. It takes courage to live thoughtfully and according to deeply held principles of kindness, curiosity, and good intentions. Your articulate, wise, and perceptive thoughts and videos I receive as a welcome gift. Thank you.

  • @MountainMitch
    @MountainMitch Před 3 měsíci +4

    Sending you good vibrations! Love the 'Am yisrael chai'

  • @pmfg875
    @pmfg875 Před 4 měsíci +12

    You are a beautiful person that is increasing understanding between various groups of people that don’t always share lived experiences. So of course there will be questions and I think the discussion is great.
    People can be true to themselves and their culture by speaking out about what respect means to them. Mainly I wear long skirts and long sleeves and I personally would try to be respectful by avoiding eye contact with religious guys and not hold out my hand when getting change in a shop to respect their boundaries if I’m in a location where there are a lot of people just living their lives and have made a mutual agreement to maintain a religious environment. Thank you

  • @kimberlyboudrie8894
    @kimberlyboudrie8894 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Frida, don’t let the haters drag you into their mud pits. You are being authentically you and true to your beliefs and conscience. I have learned so much and become more respectful of this faith BECAUSE of your insights and work. Keep doing what you do as many many of us look forward to your podcasts and CZcams episodes

  • @cynthiacrumlish4683
    @cynthiacrumlish4683 Před 4 měsíci +11

    You are courteous, kind, wise, respectful. I love your interactions with Pearl!

  • @stefaniesteinberg3789
    @stefaniesteinberg3789 Před 4 měsíci +12

    Your reflection was so interesting, I simply loved it…

  • @katecoletti4662
    @katecoletti4662 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Thank you for your candor. You are so lovingly honest when you approach difficult, personal subjects on your channel. I've been watching you for about a year now, and I have to say that I have so much respect for you, what you do, and the way you do it.

  • @Victorialmeyer
    @Victorialmeyer Před 4 měsíci +8

    Oh my! You are incredibly respectful! You have a beautiful heart and soul that glows! Your honest perspective and the way you tell your story builds bridges.

  • @nathanrosen
    @nathanrosen Před 4 měsíci +9

    In my opinion, you are educational , informative, well informed, and treat the community with sincere sensitivity. I enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work. Kol Hakavod!

  • @suzimilford7921
    @suzimilford7921 Před 4 měsíci +11

    This was such an interesting video.
    I feel you’ve always been very respectful with everything you do and say.
    People on the community wouldn’t communicate with you if they thought you are in anyway disrespectful.
    I acknowledge people will think differently and I praise you for making this video to recognise these people.
    But it feels to me like people are being picky and trying to go out of their way to find fault.
    You found kindness and love as you said in this video.
    Hold onto that and not the ‘keyboard worriers’ who only make themselves feel good by finding flaws in others.
    You warm my heart with every video, and I always look forward to seeing the next edition.
    You are doing an amazing job and in my eyes you pull it if perfectly.
    So much love and respect to you,
    From Suzi xxxx
    UK

  • @sarahgraves7860
    @sarahgraves7860 Před 4 měsíci +2

    This is an example of the very thoughtful and sensitive vlogs that bring so many to your channel.

  • @joycebaker3798
    @joycebaker3798 Před 3 měsíci +6

    Thank you for taking the time to speak openly about respect vs. imitation. You are right not to dress just like the Hasidic women. But to show respect by not violating the rules for outsiders. They are showing respect by explaining what is expected. I always explained to my children the expectations of behavior/dress for any place we went.

  • @Cosette2022
    @Cosette2022 Před 4 měsíci +6

    You honor this community, and give them great respect. I come here to learn and you’ve been a great teacher. Thank you ❤

  • @annabel5976
    @annabel5976 Před 4 měsíci +20

    I find your videos to be made with much respect and love for the community. 💙💯

  • @karengeary9526
    @karengeary9526 Před 4 měsíci +4

    You bring such joy, clarity and a marvelous perspective on life. Thank you for sharing. I have learned much applicable to my life!

  • @gaetane-dianeforget1252
    @gaetane-dianeforget1252 Před 4 měsíci +9

    You are awesome. Please continue to be yourself.
    You make is friendly and easy to appreciate and understand this community

  • @coribellanoche
    @coribellanoche Před 4 měsíci +4

    Once again, you have proven yourself to be beautifully articulate, remarkably sensitive and most of all soul-full in your reflection. Being an insider versus an outsider is seen in many aspects and dimensions in our society. You mentioned the experience of a nurse being identified by her uniform. I have recently retired as a neonatologist where people in the hospital identified me for who I was by my scrubs "uniform with a stethoscope around my neck." How very different it is now when I visit my former intensive care unit out of uniform. I appreciate your thoughtful candor and your emotion. Yes, I think we all code switch to a degree when the situation calls for it, not with maliciousness or pretensiousness rather, out of respect and dignity. Thank you again for a beautiful and meaningful video. Greetings from Rapid City, South Dakota. Kol Hakavod.

  • @tishleigh7026
    @tishleigh7026 Před 4 měsíci +7

    You are the most respectful person I have encountered on CZcams and in real life ! You are very very respectful ! It is so refreshing to see and listen to you and you are very modest !!!❤ I see you as a very intelligent kind and respectful woman with dignity and class .I would be so proud of you if you were my daughter or a daughter in law. It would wonderful if people were more like you Frieda .I am sure your dear son is very proud of what a wonderful woman, person and mother you are! Your son is a wonderful young respectful gentleman. I look at you as a very godly kind, modest and virtuous woman. ❤ I am so happy to see your kindness and CZcams videos.So glad you are on here !!! We love you Frieda !!!😊💖

  • @jagel5809
    @jagel5809 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I absolutely appreciate, admire, and respect you in every way. You are a very brave, articulate, and wonderful human. Keep doing you. You are great!

  • @RachG
    @RachG Před 4 měsíci +5

    Thank you for sharing this.
    You’re so right about the importance and freedom of being your authentic self, as much as possible. I’m so glad that you have been able to build relationships and be accepted and appreciated as YOU. How much more special and meaningful that is. I also like how you turned around people somewhat negative comments into a positive story of the goodness of people. ❤

  • @sarahbasse3211
    @sarahbasse3211 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I believe in honesty too!! And Frieda, you have more than a little chutzpah thank G.od. 😂 This is one of my favorite videos of yours so far. The deep impact of how we dress and what it means to us and our communities is something I’ve become more sensitive to over recent years. Your points really resonate with me! Thank you for everything you do, I can’t wait to see what’s coming next❤

  • @janecornell4890
    @janecornell4890 Před 4 měsíci +10

    I am so sorry that people can be so cruel. I enjoy your videos. You are kind and so caring, a lovely person to know. Your honesty and genuine love for what you do is outstanding. Keep on being you. I live near many Amish communities. If I were to buy something from them, I wouldn't dress immodestly. I would be respectful. But I do dress conservatively in general. We need more love, respect and understanding in this world. You are the kind of person I admire for your wisdom and loving way of being "you" ! Let those comments roll off you like water off a duck's back!🙂

  • @robertcoughlin4961
    @robertcoughlin4961 Před 4 měsíci +7

    You are so respectful! I am so impressed with the respect you give to the community and to all who you interview and encounter. You are a fine person. Keep up the good work. I appreciate the work you do more than words can say.

  • @joemoore9066
    @joemoore9066 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Personally, it would never ever enter my mind that you are disrespectful. Also, it seems that at least 1 person , in a store, said, " Don't mind how she is dressed, she is a good girl."
    Also, you do go into the stores. Would they let you enter if you were disrespectful? Your CZcams videos are not disrespectful, they are educational. I have said before, I had zero understanding of my heritage. It's you and your videos have encouraged me to embrace my Jewishness. Thank you for all you do, I appreciate your time making all your video's.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +3

      Joe getting to “know you” and watching you find your Jewish root has been a special gift in these comments sections.

  • @wendystephenson407
    @wendystephenson407 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Disgusting!!! If the “Trolls” are unhappy please don’t watch!!! I’m not of the Jewish faith but soo enjoy watching & listening to you!!! Thankyou from the UK💕💕💕

  • @articufixrubin3106
    @articufixrubin3106 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Your kindness and respect shine through in every word you speak. Clothing is a uniform of identity that allows you to express where you would like to belong. As an orthodox Jewish woman I was told by friends in Kiryas Joel that no one would ever think I was a part of the community - no matter what I wore. Love your channel ❤

  • @boropark12
    @boropark12 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Freida, do what you do!!!! We love you like you are!!!! ❤❤❤

  • @SignalHillHiker
    @SignalHillHiker Před 4 měsíci +9

    Fascinating, as always. I love how thoughtfully you speak and the elegant choice of words. You've definitely shown the beauty of the Hasidic community through your videos over the past couple of years. I understand you're just being your authentic self, and showing respect to the level that is expected and appreciated of outsiders. But it still reminds me a little of one of the things my grandmother used to complain about. She was a devout Roman Catholic, and always hated when the priest would face the congregation during mass as she thought that symbolized the priest was representing God to the people. She preferred the old style where the priest would face the altar, the same direction as the congregation, because she thought that symbolized the priest was representing the people before God. There's something similar there with your modern clothing, a sort of visual demonstration of the fact that you're not trying to portray yourself as a representative of the Hasidic community when you guide tours in the neighbourhood. You're there to work, and although you come from the community and have a wealth of insider knowledge, you're there as a representative of the outsiders in your tour group - and you go above and beyond to try to ensure they're able to respectfully visit and gain a small insight into what makes the community so interesting.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Yes very interesting analogy. And I can see why people like your grandma would have a problem with the “priest” not be “one of”, as in, my own being a step apart from the “congregation”. However, that distance gives me a kind of intellectual liberty that I wouldn’t otherwise have, so you win some and lose some.

  • @dloveofgod8269
    @dloveofgod8269 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Thank you Frieda. I started watching your videos a year ago & enjoy them as they are every informative and educational. I grew up in Brooklyn as a teen was very aware of Hasidic community though did not understand it until later in life having Jewish friends & family. I was raised Catholic & also wasib all girls classes when young. Clothing does speak volumes about the person. It's a shame that many don't have respect for others. I truly think the companies of bus tours are in error not informing those who visit as a 'tourist ' how to dress in being respectful to the community. Tourism obviously helps the community financially & there's the downside. I wish you well in your journey. May you stay safe & blessings to you and your wonderful son.

  • @joyciejd9673
    @joyciejd9673 Před 3 měsíci +3

    I love your channel and I appreciate your honesty and candor in all of your videos. You're a strong, sensitive and lovely young woman. Just be you.

  • @MsHannahFlower
    @MsHannahFlower Před 4 měsíci +4

    Freida, you are an absolute shining soul. I identify with you, coming from a Yeshivish family and figuring out my path and values. You have never once seemed disrespectful to me, in fact quite the opposite. You foster kindness and understanding in a thoughtful, gentle way. What a role model you are! Keep being you, and the fruits will continue to blossom.

  • @kathleentierney9496
    @kathleentierney9496 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I appreciate your very thoughtful explanation. And I’m grateful that YT put you in my path. I’ve learned a lot from your channel and always look forward to new videos. Keep doing what you’re doing and focus on the people with big, kind hearts and not the haters!!

  • @baxter513
    @baxter513 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Frieda I have learned so much from you and you are always respectful to the community you share with us. Your channel has taught me to understand the community and their beliefs. God bless you.

  • @lauriemandel676
    @lauriemandel676 Před 3 měsíci +2

    You are a pleasure to listen to and I really enjoy your respectful and insightful interviews. I am a frum Jewish woman and I am very proud of you as a person, woman, mother and your willingness to be honest and vunerable.

  • @elizaf.9040
    @elizaf.9040 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Love you. You are super kind, compassionate and respectful.

  • @osterreich100
    @osterreich100 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Frieda, you are kind, respectful, and beautiful..Your videos are always enlightening. I love watching your videos.

  • @peterdalyy3542
    @peterdalyy3542 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Dear frieda even though I live in a very closed hasdic sect ,I think as I have told you many times that your channel is fantastic, and you are a very open and honest person I love your videos my wife and I enjoy your content very much you most certainly are not disrespectful in anyway, keep up your good work koll tov

  • @agirly1503
    @agirly1503 Před 4 měsíci +5

    We appreciate you! Always 😊

  • @marsy1480
    @marsy1480 Před 14 dny

    Fascinating AND beautiful. Thank you for your insights. You are educating your viewers which, as a Jewish woman in the UK, raised observing a small portion of religious rules is completely enlightening. ❤

  • @RhonaDavis-lz3qp
    @RhonaDavis-lz3qp Před 4 měsíci +3

    I have never found you disrespectful
    You have never pulled anyone down. Keep up your good work.

  • @gretchenmiller3639
    @gretchenmiller3639 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I have thought everything you do is respectful. Your entire manner is kind and respectful. You should be proud of what you do.

  • @Slastukin67
    @Slastukin67 Před 4 měsíci +4

    That was such a beautiful video. I could feel the emotion. When I see you walk through the community, it is obvious that you are respectful and that you are accepted.
    As a non-Christian it would be disrespectful for me to wear a cross necklace for a decoration, as it would demean its significance to those of faith. Similarly, if you, as a non-Hasidic woman, were to wear the 'costume', I feel that would be more disrespectful of the faith and culture.
    I am learning so much from this channel, and if I am ever fortunate enough to visit your city, I will definitely take your tour! Thank you.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +1

      I think this is where I see it a lot as well. I think sometimes putting on another religions sacred clothing can border on cosplay and it’s better to think about the line carefully.

  • @theodorapriska9860
    @theodorapriska9860 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Frida, I have been watching you for several years now, and I absolutely adore you. Your kindness touches me deeply.

  • @catsun90805
    @catsun90805 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Omg you are the MOST respectful person posting videos like this! Which is why I started following your channel. All the best

  • @atphoenix2020
    @atphoenix2020 Před 4 měsíci +3

    You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for sharing❤❤

  • @pattidunkin870
    @pattidunkin870 Před 3 měsíci +2

    You are so gracious and humble.

  • @jasminescloset2021
    @jasminescloset2021 Před 4 měsíci +12

    sorry frieda had to add another comment, just to say THANK YOU to you❤ i did mention it previously under another video but it's in part because of your channel that I returned to Judaism because I started to see the beauty in our culture / religion. This is thanks to you and your channel, and im sure there are also other jews who have felt a feeling of joy and reconnected to judaism through your channel ❤Hashem always leads us where we need to be ☺️

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  Před 4 měsíci +6

      Thank you so much for sharing this, I am so moved. Much love on your journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @RebbeClips
      @RebbeClips Před 4 měsíci +3

      Frieda has a powerful soul that has the power to affect many.

    • @jasminescloset2021
      @jasminescloset2021 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@RebbeClips ☺️🙌🏽

    • @chasidance
      @chasidance Před 4 měsíci

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn And for that my dear you deserve a special gan eden. A gan eden for women in pants...