Ex-Hasidic and estranged from his child
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- čas přidán 22. 11. 2023
- In my video tour of Bnei Brak, (see here • A Tour of Israel’s Ult... ) you met Eli Benedict who left the community but continues to be engaged with the Hasidic world. In this little bonus video, we talked about his personal life and the pain and difficulty he had endured when his place in the community dissolved.
Someone give this woman a cable TV show.
Please no, may she find success on YT.
Cable T.V forces people to sacrifice themselves for fame's sake.
I don't want another reality T.V about how terrible the Haredim are.
Judaism is pretty great, I just wish it had less rascism.
@@ariebrons7976came here to say the same thing.
Eli, I’m sorry for this pain. No child should be deprived of a loving parent. IYH he will seek you out when he’s old enough. The bond between parent and child is stronger than forced separation.
Eli seems like a loving father. I hope he can be reunited with his son one day ❤
That story was very bitter sweet, to use your words. He's such a charming young man. I'm glad he has a chance to be a father and I hope in the future he can be reunited with his oldest son. I very much enjoyed both videos. Thank you! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!
Thank you, Frieda. It's very interesting. And thanks to Eli for sharing his history. I hope one day he can see his son and have a relationship father-son. Stay all safe in these terrible days. ❤🕎
A heartbreak a son and father separated. As always, informative & heartfelt. Shkoyakh.
“Sour sweet.” 💔❤️
I know. So endearing…
Maybe Pearl could negotiate a truce for this caring father and his sons community ?
Thank you Frieda for sharing this. As others have said Thank you Ben for bravely sharing his story. For your viewers who believe there is a panacea in any culture or belief system, there is not. It seems that Ben has found happiness and that’s what’s important. Hopefully his older son will search out a relationship with his father some day.
Eli,your light shines bright, and I hope your first son searches for that light sooner than later.
Frieda, I absolutely love your interviews with Eli. He is so very interesting and I love listening to his stories! Thank you.
Me too. I love doing interviews with him!
@@FriedaVizelBrooklynthankyou for letting him speak!! So many interviewers interrupts and hurrys the interview to end quickly. You really allowed him to tell his story❤
@@mrsTraveller64 Eli is a great storyteller - he is so open, honest, his humanness pops off the screen! I'm so glad to have had him on multiple times.
🦋THANK YOU ELI FOR SHARING YOUR STORY
I AM SORRY HE CAN'T SEE HIS CHILD
Thank you for sharing this. Hopefully one day Eli can see his older son! So glad he found a true mate! Wonderful story!
Thank you for sharing Eli's story, Frieda. It is a story that many people have and will experience. Perhaps, when his son is older, he will seek out Eli. Regardless, Eli will hold his love for his son is his heart. What a kind and thoughtful man.
Refreshingly insightful and optimistic character. TY freida. Israel has wealth of untapped material for the general English speaking community. More please
I have a dream of living in Israel for a few months. Maybe then I could do more videos of all the untapped material you mention.
It is very interesting to learn about a different world.
Great interview.
Thanks for the very different stories
Very forthcoming
Thank you for letting Eli tell his story. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for you to listen to it!! ❤
Another great conversation Frieda! You have a gift talking with people and asking interesting questions. Thanks for this!
Thank you!!
Heartbreaking story...
That is why the Get must always be organized and agreed upon before the chuppah!
Oh, marriage! It’s a minefield in every community and we should count ourselves lucky if it all works out in the end. Humans are complex and then other humans want to influence us thus adding to the conundrum x
10000%
Oh my goodness this is so sad that he can't see his son x
I know.
I love his accent! He seems unlike the stereotype of Hasidic men, of course, he wouldn't be talking to you then .
His life seemed so sad. Even if he was allowed to see his son, it wouldn't be fun for him because his son wouldn't want to see him and will be afraid of him because of what he's being told about his own father.
It's nice to see him happy and with a nice family now.
Who knows, maybe his son will leave the community when he's an adult and want to start an adult relationship with him , if he's not told that someone else is his natural father now, which is sadly what will happen.
such a sad story
Oh I'm happy he remarried and has another child
🔆🌈🌲🌳THANK YOU, FRIEDA😊Very interesting ~ “Bonus in Bnei Brak: Eli Benedict talks about his life” 🦋🦋 May G-D continue to Protect you and your beloved Family and Everyone whom you love and cherish💜v🌲🌳🦚🌲🌲🌲🌲
Frieda, I am the mother of a boy close to Eli's age. He's so brave and kind. And you ask the most vital questions! How do you know to do this is amazing. Thank you!! how would I ever have met Eli, Pearl, Izzy, or known about the Hassidich boy in class, not knowing slavery existed, who cried when he heard the story of Harriet Taubman.
Tubman- not Taubman
Oh wow!!! Thank you thank you thank you. I LOVED talking to Gerry Albarelli and I’m touched you took that story with you. And everything else. It’s such a pleasure to share with listeners like you.
Your son will come back to you. Pray to Yahweh. Pray he finds wisdom, truth and the longing for his loving father and little brother. He will come back.
But one day, Eli, your son will look you up because I believe he would want to see his father. You will see him again one day I'm sure.
Nice video 👍 is he a Nazir?? I only ask because of the hair? Is he forming dreadlocks with the "peyots" in the back of his head?
ha ha, it's his trademark look. I don't think it has any relationship to Nazir-ness
😢So sad for that little boy not to know he has a warm, charming father. Boys need fathers desperately, we know today. There was no mention of a second marriage for the mother. Maybe she can provide some father figure for her son
she has her father and brothers
This guy is a real warm happy human being, even when he is describing his pain, at least from the outside he looks like it.
I know Eli, his parents and amazing sister. I know his ex wife too. I didnt think he had a kid with her but ok..... He comes from stolin family and im pretty sure they are pretty opened about this....im shocked they dont allow him to see the kid. Very strange
How sad😢 is there any hope that the son at age 18 can reach out to the father? or will he be so brainwashed about his "bad" father that he won't even want to reach out?
Hopefully the first will happen and they will build a relationship in adulthood. It has happened in many such cases, although not all. And of course a relationship built in adulthood is quite different...
Sad to think that where not laws allowing to se his child.
Why so much litter on the ground?
There was an event in the courtyard there that day. I think the kids just made a mess.
That is simply horrible.
Yes, very heartbreaking.
@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn I'm Israeli. I hear how chassidim can play tricks, etc and do what they can to prohibit him from seeing his own child. But, seriously, if he had a good attorney, with help from the authorities (i.e. police), he can have access to his son. This is just disgusting.
Eli makes a mistake in thinking that the religious court chose his wife over him for custody because the court favors the mother.
Basically his wife accused him of being irreligious, of lacking devotion. The religious court is always going to favor the religious parent over the irreligious parent.
I'm sure listening to the radio wasn't the only foundation for her accusations.
I suspect you're right.
Im surprised the rabbinical court let her get divorced and keep the child
It's a very common arrangement when the mother stays in the community.
You didn't have to go all the way OTD you could have become Modern Orthodox or something like me basically chasidish as far as eating & customs but modern when it comes things like radio,smart phones,computers,TV & movies & dance a to a drum of your own beat while keeping what it is actually halachically mandated & not taking on the chumra of the day!!
It's a pity that the bible doesn't say Thou shalt not litter.
The littering in many Hasidic neighborhoods is awful!
Thats horrible
Can someone please help me?
Watching this I get the impression that both Ms Vizel and Mr. Benedict are really attached to their respective children.
That is verry dificult to understand.
Let them (children) eat rocks! the saying goes.
In short that does not mean they eat actual rocks, rather means: can't someone else feed those disgusting children?
(see Umar ben Alkahtab and the hungry woman for the full story)
Also why would Hashem have such a set of creative punnishments for childless couples?
I can only conclude that healthy parents don't want children.
But this video seems to contradict a fundamental axiom of how the world works.
Eiter that or both Mr. Benedict, and M.S vizel are defective, like my mum.
Luckely there is a treatment for it, my mum gets treated for her defectiveness.
Wtf is wrong with you??
That’s a disgusting thing to say - what is wrong with you? You must have a miserable life.
So sad! It seems you Never understood Torah and it's mystical teachings at all. 😢
What a coward of a father. He took the easy way out for his first child. Complete shame.
Lashon hara ring a bell for you?
he didn't have a choice
No he didnt.. he cant fight, they have too much power and money. He'll lose no matter what
@@boathousejoed1126rechilut
Eli gets these comments every time he speaks about being estranged from his son. But the truth is, it's extremely difficult in the frum world to re-enter a child's life if you didn't fight for the relationship or get access right while leaving. It's so easy to judge, but so hard to understand the dynamics that make this so difficult.
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