How much Do Japanese Girls Cheat?
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Why ask people questions in Tokyo. Ask questions in fukuyama , Matsuyama or smaller cities. It bring the beautiful culture of Japan.
この動画を作った目的はなんなのでしょう？
Thank you Takashii San !! I made a mistake before >< so i correct it now hihi
So Going To A Brothel Is Not Crossing The Line But Not Letting Them Know Is ?
Ima check out this Tokyo guide takashii I appreciate the information
It would be interesting if you asked these questions to women outside of Tokyo in smaller cities or in the countryside.
My thoughts as well.
It's been suggested by several Japanese posters in other videos that this is very much a Tokyo thing.
Wouldn't get my hopes up honestly.
@@Chazzmatazz A lot of the negative parts of Japan are inflated in Tokyo compared to the rest of Japan
True
I think the reason this guy is the best interviewer is cause he's respectful and doesn't get in peoples faces and make them feel uncomfortable. Brilliant interview technique imo.
Yeah he's a breath of fresh air from the typical bullshit cringe you see on Tiktok and stuff nowadays
I love that classic school of journalism/reporting media before we got these modern adjective-laden monstrosities.
@@giannilyanicks1718lmfao why is that relevant to the original comment?
Yes, he's also very non judgamental. He may show surprise with some answers, but don't judge the interviewee for them.
@@gothxm people just spamming in every comment thread
When I was living in Japan, I’ve been told by many Japanese friends that Tokyo is the worst place in Japan for them. When I asked why, they said the stress and quality of life is the worst. Also they said Tokyo could be a very materialistic place compared with many other parts of Japan. I guess if we interview people in Los Angeles compared with interviewing people from Hawaii or Pennsylvania, the answers might vary greatly.
Good point.
We talking bout Japan not fucking America
Yeah I was in Aichi and it was extremely different. Nagoya had mostly gothic fashion but where I lived was like super refined or whatever you want to call it. All the girls dressed up always
@luvl1344 the same thing happens with political polling certain groups of people pretty much just don't answer polls.
@luvl1344 Are you trying to say that its a selection bias? As in, the kind of women that would answer this person's questions are the kind of women who would admit to cheating?
Translating Fuzoku(風俗) as prostitution is kinda wild. You gotta explain what kind of Fuzoku they are referring to. Like this girl at 3:00 is depicting the non-sexual situation, like eating & drinking with women at a nightclub/bar sort of situation. According to your definition, Hooters and strip clubs would also be prostitution.
Also I think you should interview women in other places under the sun too. I'm a Japanese women myself and these women who are roaming around in this part of Tokyo at night are a different kind of breed imo. It would be biased to, for instance, catch a bunch of young people roaming around Las Vegas, interview them, and conclude that Americans are unchaste and slovenly, wouldn't it😅
Thanks for explaining. It seemed very shocking and bizarre but makes sense now
Welcome to Westernization, aka killing the Japanese language and culture on purpose.
Fuuzoku only means customs, like in a certain area of the country and so.
But thanks to the foreign owners of Japan (Japan was sold to foreigners by "Meiji"), the language has been "reformed" (dumbed down and perverted) three times in huge ways... And one of the goals was to make good meaning words bad （八方美人）, bad words good （凄い）, attach meanings to words that have never been there （付き合う・彼氏彼女）etc. That is step 1 of destroying a nation - destroying their language.
yeah I'm sure nothing indecent ever goes on in that job. lol
@@zzBaBzz How is this the fault of the West? Japan is its own country, nobody in the West is telling you how to run things.
Thank you for the context. It makes far more sense when you explain it. I don't feel like we have a similar word in English for such a big catch-all as the term Fuzoku.
"Don't cheat on me, just go to a brothel. As long as you pay, it's fine." A COMPLETELY different society over there...
People don't pay for Love
@@elmalanmalan2175they pay for lust.
Japan has a history of prostitution, like the Oiran or even Geisha to some extent But that girl's opinion definitely dont reflect everyone's. Many do see it as cheating.
maybe she worked both sides from experience
It’s ok if you’re in a competition with your boss. 😂
Takashii single-handedly destroying everyone's illusions about Japan. :D
Thank God
me after watching all those wholesome romantic shoujo animes: So that was a fucking Lie
Not if you want to go to Japan to sleep with a lot of japanese girls.
i am just as hurt thought the culture is still familly oriented and shames such behaviors
yup but atleast we know the truth
It's hard for me to understand why someone would feel okay with cheating. Cheating goes against my values, and it's a reflection of their character. In my culture, people who cheat are looked down upon
Agreed.
Yeah I agree with you. But lets think: Isn't that their society has accepted that everyone is free to have a porn actor mindset? Like look at most p actors, they can have a partner and it's ok as long as there aren't feelings for their job partners. Is the same for these actors or is it different? Like I really wonder if its just that, normalized in a society (Overall Tokyo)
Understand that the world is massive. Your culture isn’t the only one on the planet, nor should you be expecting them to have the same values as your culture.
I respect you sir. Cheating is the enemy of true love relationships. Nowadays, only gentle high status families have true love relationships end with marriage.
This is wild. I think in the USA cheating with a prostitute would be considered one of the worst cheating you could do in a relationship
Same here in Australia
I agree 💯
Yeah, they seem to value the emotions more than the physical. But it is foreign to me to have one without the other. Interesting.
To explain a bit: the term used in the video for 'cheating' is '浮気' in Japanese. 浮気 means 'in love with another one', that's why some of them think prostitution is not 浮気 as it does not include emotional feeling to the prostitute. There is another term in Japanese that has similar meaning, which is '不倫'. 不倫 means 'having sex with another one', but Takashii did not use this word because 不倫 is a term that is only used on people who are married (which most of the interviewees are obviously unmarried). Therefore, there is no such exact word that can perfectly match the term 'cheating' in Japanese as in English.
Damn, Japanese cheating "culture", for lack of a better word, is so complex they even have two words for cheating.
Thanks for the clarification!
Yeah no that meaning of uwaki seems completely made up to me. Never heard that before.
Okay wait, sorry kinda unrelated, but maybe you can help me figure this out. When they were saying yes and no, were they saying "wake" "wakejanai"? What is the kanji for this?
Isn't 浮気 more meaning 'fleeting force' -the force of horniness and/or feeling of love that leads people to be infidel? That's how I have always thought about it
The level of nuanced insight into Japanese culture has been incredible. There is so much more that we non-Japanese folk will ever see or know. Thank you so much Takashi-san.
*N YAH DAT TAKASHII-DESU, **_WAKARIMASKA??_*
7:35 - As long as you pay, it's fine!
Recently, foreign men have been discriminated against by Japanese people.
It seems that all foreigners are discriminated against, but especially among ASEAN and South Asians who are short, poor, dark-skinned, and weak in sports, some commit suicide.
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don't go in japan for dating then. just seek an expatriate japanese girl living in in your country
As a Japanese man, it is very bizarre to me lol... My wife would cut my jewels off if I went to a brothel, whether emotional attachments were involved or not.
That being said, when I was in Tokyo in the early 2000s, I used to work as a host to help pay for college, and I remember more and more frequent were married women showing up for a "fun time" ... after being dropped off by their husband who went his own separate way to a next-door brothel. I was very confused by it, but I never said anything. After all, they were clearly opened with the arrangements. I also remember a few years ago, I was staying at a friend's home in Tokyo for a night. I accidentally overheard he and his wife talking. She handed him allowance money and said, "I'm tired. Go find a prostitute. I'm going to bed." as if it were a completely normal thing. Wow...
Overall, however, I still really don't think this is the norm. I've talked with quite a bit of people on this subject when I went to go visit my hometown in Ehime. They are people who I know closely, who are willing to give me honest answers. Whether man or woman, every single person I spoke with do not agree with the statements made in this video and in fact really hate how people in Tokyo and Kyoto view things this way. Thus, it is likely that majority of Japanese people in smaller cities or rural regions do not share the sentiments in this video.
Same thing goes for every country
The cities are the worst for sure.
@@sonbon9762I mean it's a city so of course there's many people in city areas.
Yeah it’s very strange. Like if your partner wants intimacy you literally are there for that reason lol
Also congrats on your English it’s really good 👍
A lot of times i feel social media is giving out the wrong messages....
@@cocaineminor4420worst? Depends for whom. I find them better, less conservative, people must be free.
I'm Japanese, but please don't take the opinions in this interview as general...
This interview is taking place in a nighttime entertainment district. This may sound discriminatory and rude, but I personally feel that many of the people who come to such places are vulgar.
At least no one I've ever met would approve of cheating! If a friend says it's OK to cheat, I question their sanity.
Of course, there may be some people who are okay with cheating, but it's probably not the norm.
I'm very shocked. Please don't apply this to all Japanese people. Honest people don't cheat.
Even if they did, it wouldn't be something they would say so brazenly. This is an act that I deeply regret and am ashamed of.
I believe this women only represent Tokyo and not the whole of japan
City areas usually have this kind of women
Not so surprising
But I'm not saying all though.
this makes more sense… I was so shocked by this video as an English person…
thanks for clarifying, i was kinda weirded out by the outlook of the people in this video lol
There are tons of housewives who cheat a lot. Japan on the surface level seems pretty great, but if you dig deeper you see the darkness in this society and the problems. And cheating is easily on the worst problems there. Don't try to find excuses or sugercoat it.
It's interesting to see how, in Japan, men and women seem to separate emotion and sex when it comes to relationships. In most other countries, the physical aspect of a relationship is what takes it from casual to serious, at least in theory. I would have liked it if Takashii had asked them if, once married to someone, their opinion of visiting a brothel changes, or if they still think it's ok, as long as their spouse lets them know.
I think it’s been like this for most of history in fact. Romance and romantic love are Western cultural constructs drawing on traditions of chivalric romance in the Middle Ages which were then heavily propagated amongst the emerging middle classes during industrialization. People only started getting into relationships solely out of love during the Victorian era it seems, when productivity afforded greater levels of wealth and leisure to do so. Beforehand the primary motive was survival and the bearing of many children to compensate for a high mortality rate. Other cultures have industrialized but in this regard the West is still ahead of the curve. Arranged marriages are still commonplace in India for instance, and it is customary for wealthy Chinese men to take mistresses.
I’d like Takeshii to have asked about brothels after marriage and in a few more detailed scenarios that I’ve heard of. One is during pregnancy… as it seems pretty culturally common in Japan for couples to not have sex during pregnancy… how do women feel about their husbands going to brothels then? What do women think about brothels in the scenario where they are no longer interested in sex at all (after children, after menopause or even just low sex drive from when young), but their partner is still interested in regularly having sex?
Because they don't have a history of love. It was always arranged marriages, aka sex with no emotion...
I have western mates who are married to japanese woman & these married japanese womens opinion is exactly the same regardless if married or just in a relationship, they are all cool with their men visiting hookers
Does not change for marriage
As a Japanese, I want to say that girls in Shibuya do not represent average girls in Japan.
I don't know can they live in india 💀💀?Bcz we have super conservative society. cheating is considered as sin
Hmm yeah I think that is a good point to consider as well, perhaps these girls only think the way they do because prostitutes is famous in that area
Though the terminology changes.
@@user-vi8vy8dx1o probably not? LOTS of women wouldn't survive living in India
I always find your channel really informative. I lived in Japan for almost a year and I know that during that time I only scratched the surface. Your channel is one of the ways I keep on learning.
This video was very surprising and also not. It was like the silent part I subconsciously knew being spoken aloud. If that makes sense 😅
One of the many reasons I divorced my ex husband (he was Japanese) is that he thought going to the brothel after work was not cheating, even after I told him from the start of our dating my beliefs. I no longer live in Japan, but their ideas on cheating is so incompatible with mine.
What I don't like is also that even if you manage to find a good guy, his work place might go for a night out with escorts or prostitutes, even in a professional setting. It's so normalised there. It's incredibly disrespectful for everyone involved, in my opinion. You don't respect your employees, their families, and the young women you treat as object of entertainment. When my husband has to work with Japanese companies, I'm always wary of the situation.
@@Raphannetrue I’ve heard a few stories of foreign expats with Japanese wives saying how they had to decline such offers from their Japanese colleagues or bosses lol
If you knew that about him from the start, why did u marry him?
Yes go back to the West and enjoy the divorce rates
@@jshawney3355apperantly reading is hard for you
The answer that made me laugh most.
"Who cheats more, men or women?"
"Women are better at hiding it."
She did not say yes or no. She seemed to mean, ~You won't know, if we do cheat~
It could be that men don’t put as much effort into hiding it 😂 not that I think either statement is true
Women naturally have more options than majority of men, that means more possible temptation. I see guys defending cheating and saying "men are only as loyal as their options" without realizing the average attractive woman has a ton of options.
@@letgo4331yup.
@@letgo4331 women only have options until they hit the expiration date. That is why you see powerful rich old men with like 20 of these useless beautiful women in their prime getting used of their bodies full potential.
It's hard to know statistics if they're hidden
I'm an American and this is the fifth video I've seen of yours and it's very interesting. Thank you for sharing this information and please thank your participants for sharing.
i do believe that in a relationship, contentment and respect is so important.
For sure!
I have been living in Japan for 8 years and my wife has a few friends like this. I gave up trying to understand things like "it's acceptable to go to a brothel" but "dinner with someone" isnt
Fr it’s crazy 🤦♂️
yeah. wtf is up with that logic. you can penetrate this woman all night long but you cant sit at a table with her. lol
lol that's just a good example of "culture shock". They're probably over there thinking the same "I just don't understand what's the big deal". Cultures are so interesting..
Yeah basically eating for them is more intimate than sex... Makes me see sushi in whole new way 🤔
'' but "dinner with someone" isnt''
Only if they hide it ahahaha
My Japanese husband has been cheated on by his Japanese ex-girlfriend. He said that he himself would never cheat on his partner, as he knows from his own experience how much it hurts the other person who is being cheated on.
fascinating take on a hot topic! keep up the great work!
great questions and directly! Japanese social patterns are complicated for me.
Non Japanese / foreigners / otaku weebs dreams of seriously dating and marrying a native Japanese person from Japan shattered like a shattered broken window on boulevard of broken dreams LOL. Takashii did a video last month when he asked Japanese men on cheating. I'm glad he asked both genders and see both sides' perspective on it. There are many other CZcams videos from other Japanese CZcamsrs on this same subject.
i'm married Japanese girl for 11 years... never cheated on mine, never been cheated....
@@NanatsukiBenioyou’ve never been cheated on as far as you know 😂
😂😂😂@@orangelightening
@@NanatsukiBenio 100% you've been cheated on buddy.
Not every1 cheats@@ronaldnixon8226
It’d be cool to hear what different generations think about this issue too.
Agree
Yes, let's hear from some older people on this subject.
They think the same. Japanese culture is very unchanged
It’s been this way for a long time. I would say even more so in the past when women were in the home more. It wasn’t uncommon for a man to just up and leave for a while or for good. It happened in the states too. The privacy laws in Japan still allow for you to disappear in a way. My in-laws couldn’t find a family member because they wished to remain anonymous.
Excellent interview.
I'm from Saudi Arabia This video gave me goosebumps and scared me with these responses , i did not know that Japanese people had this perception about dating .. if my wife / girlfriend would allow me to go to a Brothel as long as i had no emotional attachment to that prostitute then i'd think there's something wrong with our relationship and she might also be keen on seeing someone behind my back if she hadn't already had done it . I would not be able to live peacefully with myself at all , This is unbelievable and shocking to me although i know perhaps many Japanese would disagree with these interviewees it seems like this dating culture is spreading wide and beyond even those 3 girls .. the one girl who had a different opinion she kept on eyeing her friends and seemed hesitant to voice her opinion not be seen as a prude .
Thank you for this video Takashii chan .
gross culture. I am Finnish and here cheating is a huge deal, the woman would be out the door immediately. you're emotionally damaging her and also might give her a lifelong illness (genital herpes, chlamydia causes infertility, hiv). there's no excuse for this.
Its happening in western countries cheating is becoming the norm, count yourself lucky that you live in Arabia were adultery is punish by death stay strong and good luck.
@@augustodelerme7233 it's not punished by death but yeah more strict and people have religious vslues they adhere to not so much the rules of country really so Grateful for that
just a correction but “chan” is used to call children, someone you’re very close with or usually petite girls. Out of coursey you’d usually call someone with さん so takashi san.
Generally everyone is free to have whatever relationship they want, but the argument "I'd rather have him go to a brothel than fall in love with someone else" makes me deeply sad. Why should you even have to make that choice and accept one of the options?
Also like if you DO fall in love with someone else I imagine it's not something you choose. And often the current relationship was bad to start with. Going to a brothel is an actual CHOICE you can easily avoid
Pretty sure this mentality men & women have in Japan also shames men, acting as if they don't have any more brain cells than their penis o.o like bruh, any gender can avoid it, just be in a communicated open relationship if you want yknow
(Also treating prostitutes as if they're objects to be paid for and not actual people is so gross ugh)
culture maybe
The thing i think people are not understanding from this video is that culturally it seems that Japanese have a clear divide between love and sex. Which there is a distinction between love and lust. The difference between them and the west is that they accept this divide where the west doesn't. Them having brothels that mainly cater to lust probably has saved many more relationships than it has ruined. For example men will have higher sex drives younger where their partner might not want to do it 24/7, and the same goes for older women when their sex drive increases.
@@MrJamChin That's like saying the women cheating saves more relationships than it has ruined. At least Japan seems to have less double standards in that regard. No offense but realistically I can imagine a lot of women not being satisfied and that being a driving factor in the cheating
That is Japanese Culture. It is simply not that bad of thing here. Especially if your company boss takes you out for a good time, then that is completely acceptable. When you say you going on your yearly company trip, your wife will know that all your coworkers and boss will most likely visit a brothel as part of the package and culture.
At end of the day it really depends on the person.
but what’s your opinion of this dating/cheating culture in Japan?
its a little different but the ways they rationalize it make sense ...
Your interviews are from same area (my guess is centre of tokyo - Shibuya or Shinjuku) you should ask this question to folks in rural areas as well. This is forming a biased and one sided image of japan / japanese culture imo
Disgusting. But this happens in the whole world these days. Is not about the country, is a problem who infected the whole society.
The next time ask man or woman about girls paying for male prostitutes and if that's considered cheating and if (when talking to girls) they would do it or have ever considered doing it.
A western girl would not accept her man to go to a brothel. Japanese culture is odd for me. Very restrictive, and anything goes at the same time.
Interesting answers. Thank you for sharing.
One of the best interviews in Japan you made
Damn bro. Seeing people being so open and shameless about betraying their partner like that makes me sad.
Feel like it's pretty commun in that generation.
Being faithfull is a quality instead of being something basic, it's really sad...
At least people aren't all like this, but see more people like that than not, which is sad
The same as in the West, modern feminism and all that.
@@playmakersmusicthis isn't feminism to blame. Don't bring that incel garbage into it. Some people just suck.
@@MegaCynar No. is the feminism.
@@playmakersmusic if some dumb girl call themselves feminists they aren't, they are just man haters but hide behind "feminism"
I am Japanese and heres my thoughts. They hate cheating, but "since everyone around me thinks okay i dont want to be odd one out, so it will be fine" is what they think
Edit: for those who think why do they cheat, when they hate it? It's the same thing as, why do you tip when you hate it?
the odd one is not you bro, but them
I'd love Takashi to tackle that point of view! If conformity is important in the culture, I wonder how many people can think they can live differently
So they can't think for themselves? Sounds like a recipe for disaster
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 they are easily peer pressured. Like if society say this. They get pressured into doing that
@@cyduthank you for giving this info.
That girl that said she only says prostitution isn’t cheating because she doesn’t want to seem clingy proves that these poor women are conditioned to think this way
My thoughts of a Japanese woman being very loyal are crushed… but thank you now I know.
Dude he's interviewing 20 year old party chicks, they aren't exactly the best example.
You can see the gears in their heads working overtime thinking about the deeper side of the interviews. It's obvious that the cheating/prostitution thing is an issue. Great topic of choice Takashii.
Yeah, exactly they are hesitating thinking about how they truly feel
Yes the interview really mobilised their thoughts and they'll probably evolve their opinions by thinking more deeply on it.
It's actually obvious that it is not an issue until foreigners took an interest in it... I always find it funny how the west judge other cultures..
its not the we judge its more that we are shocked, i think my girlfriend would chop my dick off if i went to see a prostitute lol and rightfully so in my opinion, i think in western cultures feelings in a relationship are tied to sex and i couldnt truly love and respect my girlfriend if i would sleep with other women
@@yume7335 where are you from? genuinely curious
You should interview mixed couples (Japanese/foreign) and see if the foreigner has those worries or if they would be okay with paid services as long as there’s no emotions. It’d be interesting to see the difference in dynamics the 2 different upbringings might present
@@MrSteveH damn my wife is Japanese and I’m Filipino American, so that’s a bummer to hear, but I think my wife and I are on the same page and communicate very well so hopefully that won’t apply to us
@@MrSteveH very broad and inaccurate generalization. This only happens if you don't bother to care about the relationship. it's just like any other relationship
@@notapplicable5403 why would you believe a random generalization on the internet about your own relationship dawg
I don’t think Japanese girls would date loser white guys these days. They are too poor and not respected
@@MrSteveH most married couples in general get divorced
Great video and effort
This is super interesting to hear their perspectives
Life is complicated but sometimes very simple : if I want short term relationships, meeting girls, then I don't put myself in a couple status. Follow your own choices even if you come to regret later but don't hurt someone's feeling and more importantly don't make them waste their time and lose opportunities that might not present themselves again when you're having fun in the backstages.
I totally agree
The irony is women avoid single men but are highly attracted to men in relationships. So being honest can leave u being alone.
@@Kyoto_Ed While there is some truth to "Nobody wants a job that nobody has" I find the idea of women not liking single men ridiculous. How did people find their partners? Most were single at the same time.
do whatever you want
@@Kyoto_Edit's true that there are women that specifically kinda "Target" men that are taken and in serious relationships. But you're implying that most single women don't like single men is ridiculous and obviously far from reality.
I am literally stunned. Thanks so much for making videos like this it is extremely intriguing learning how much of a bubble I’m in and just how differently other cultures can think about things.
Try literature
@@kbtred51 why? Just explain that many Eastern women find emotional cheating separate from physical cheating. With the caveat that it doesn't mean they will be happy or ok with you sleeping with another woman.
Sometimes though if they don't want to put out or just want you to be happy they will be ok with you going to a prostitute for physical needs as long as you keep it discreet, don't get emotionally attached, and don't cause problems at home.
I'm not sure how literature is going to help you with this.
@@Calzaghe83He is just a troll
Lol
@@Calzaghe83 meaning....literature from a country often reflect the said country's view on things.
Ergo, one could know about other country's culture without having to visit it.
Just read some mangas of various genres. Shonen, seinen, shojo, shojo ai, josei, etc. Once could get a glimpse of how japanese folks view things in general.
"Its ok to have sex with someone else, as long as you pay" that really blows my mind to how diffrent our views are on these kind of things.
Society crumbles when God is taken out of the equation. They don't have any objective standards to base their morals on. It all becomes subjective without God.
@@Hboogie182 judging on how insane that statement is, i assume your American. Japan has higher standard of living, freedom, freespeach and basically everything compare to USA. Just because they are not Christians dont mean they are "bad people" or their country is non functional.
America is place for drugs, shootings porn and fanatics. Think about that before you pass judgement
@@Hboogie182Facts ❤
@@Hboogie182Which one? I have a few things to say on this, Japan has the highest life expectancy in the world, I think they’re doing just fine as a society, secondly religion can get people to do good things, but it can also get people to do bad things and most importantly it gets people to believe things with absolute certainty without evidence which goes completely against critical thinking, it takes critical thinking away from intelligent people.
@@ohyeahyeah8150 highest life expectancy? I think more like highest suicide rate and lowest birth rate. Religion gives people structure for morality. It is not religion itself that makes people do bad things, it is "sin" that causes pain and suffering. Sin is deadly and highly contagious. When one sin, it corrupts us and everyone around us including people who are innocent. Which is why the bible is important, so that the world can understand how sin works and providing the solution to sin. You say that people believe things without evidence but eye witness testimonies actually constitutes as evidence or else it wouldn't be used in the court of law. Yes the books and letters of the bible are written by eye witnesses, and each book/letters compliment each other.
Interesting topic...
I find it somewhat funny how having dinner with a girl can be seen as cheating but going to a prostitute is not. I would say that having sex forms a way stronger emotional bond than having dinner.
do you see any anime out there? they explicitely say "Sex is okay, but kiss"
Why is it funny? That's most likely the way the relationship you're in started to begin with... And usually asking somebody out for dinner is the way you start a relationship with a girl you're interested in. And the girl accepting a dinner is most likely interested in you. A prostitute is a professional, who will give you pleasure for a restricted timespan and for money. It's furthermore unlikely that the "bond" with the prostitute is mutual (cause you're probably her 10th custumer that day).
@@yume7335 While it was not said in this video, I've seen quite a lot of cases where even going to get lunch or dinner with your coworkers that happen to be female will count as cheating according to some girls. At least where I'm from having dinner with the other sex is very normal and does not mean you like the person, of course depending on the context. Also while the girl prostitute might not form an emotional bond the guy might. This possibility is even stronger if you are a regular for a certain prostitute. It's not even about the fact that the might form the bond, but that his girlfriend might even have the thought that it might happen. How does the girlfriend know if he's only seeing a certain prostitute everytime or a different one? Also, saying "I find it funny" does not always mean that you literally find it funny. It is also used to mean that you see something as being hypocrisy.
then why would a guy date a girl. they still had the option to go to prostitution place before they were with their gf. also why would any men leave his girlfriend with a girl that does that bruh 💀 but lets think about WHY he would go to a prostitution place in the first place, maybe the girl isnt doing her job? either way if the men picks a prostitution instead of his gf then its for the better because he didnt respect himself that much and the girl dodges a bullet. also what you say is like unique scenarios, its like saying "omg in western girls cheat on their husband with their dog, they shouldnt have a dog 😡" and if he is a regular he prob just likes the service a lot. @@CaptainSnuggleButt
@@Yytan325 what are you saying bro
I honestly think "going for dinner with a girl without telling me is cheating" is a weirder sentiment than "seeing a prostitute isn't cheating as long as you tell me."
Japan's culture is really weird
I guess the point here would be wether you are honest to your partner or not
Because if you go to have dinner and put enough effort to hide the fact that you went to dinner they see that as emotional cheating. Why wouldn't you tell your partner, hey I had dinner with so and so. Where as if you slept with a prostitute and all you wanted was to get off with no feelings attached and your partner knows about it that's less of a betrayal because you were more honest. If you see it from some peoples perspective it makes sense in a twisted way. I also do think hiding a dinner date is cheating, but I also think hiring a prostitute is cheating.
Yeh, what a bunch of mentally ill weirdos
Japanese people always seem to be ahead of the times. A failing society with sky high divorce rates. Japanese people can compartmentalize much better than the rest of the world. Emotionally cheating is way worse than physical cheating and Japanese seem to know that well in advance
Just found your channel Takashii. Good content. Thanks.
The more we all learn about each other’s cultures and ways of looking at the world, the more peaceful we will become. These videos help that mission.
I just dont get it. What is the point of being in a relationship if both of them are just gonna cheat? Is being in a relationship seen as prestigious?
Japanese people are just insane, harem animes now make sense
for women over there it kind of is, their families pressure them into a relationship, because if they hit late 20s or get to their 30s with no mate it is gonna be hard for the girls to get into a relationship since men prefer to get them young and healthy to get kids, dare i say way too many relations in jap dont love each other and it is all about the looks, men want kids to get the family name going and women want stability (they do care a lot about the man having a good job and being in a good position as women usually will stop working once they marry)
Being in a relationship is more than having sex.
@@GWT1m0thanks for stating the obvious.
seems like it aint obvious for the japanese women in this video@@bbbbbbb51
One of the most horrible things you can do to someone, is to be relationship with that person and not really care about that person...
I lived in Japan for a year and this video is very accurate about the dating culture. Actually my ex (Japanese) wanted to see me with another man lol I think it’s pretty common that sex and emotions are separate
00:00 🇯🇵 Japanese friends discussing cheating and visits to adult establishments, seeking clarity on whether it constitutes infidelity.
00:41 🥀 Unhappy in current relationship, struggling to endure it. Met at a club, initial interest faded quickly. Partner's persistence led to difficulty refusing a relationship.
01:23 🔄 Views on visiting adult establishments: belief that it's not necessarily infidelity, though reasons may vary.
02:03 🛡️ If partner wants to visit adult establishments, likely to result in separation. Personal stance: such behavior is unacceptable.
03:54 🌍 Foreign viewers express surprise at the acceptance of partners visiting adult establishments in Japan. Considered unique to Japanese culture.
04:33 📈 Discussion on whether Japanese women are more prone to infidelity. Opinion leans towards not being significantly different from men.
06:24 🗣️ Observing friends' infidelity experiences: some intervene, others refrain, depending on closeness of the relationship.
07:46 🗣️ Openness about desires for visits to adult establishments: seen as acceptable if communicated honestly within the relationship.
09:19 💬 Varied views on infidelity: some advocate stopping a friend, while others prioritize personal enjoyment in life.
10:31 📊 Discussion on male infidelity: perception that both genders are capable, with women potentially better at concealing it.
A comment that is qctually helpful? I didn't know these were still a thing...thanks!
I like how you put emojis with your time stamps, that’s cool
Thanks :D
@@christiandiegomusicSorry to break your heart but this is AI generated tool lol. Its called Herpa Ai or something , look it up u can summarise a video with one click. Alot of people on self help videos post these EXACT same format comments with the emojis which is a dead giveaway its not them doing any typing
Excellent comment.
I'm a man and I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends because I respected them and didn't want to hurt them. How can you be truly intimate with someone if you're cheating?
True bro its just that not every humans being are sensitive to these things
Sure, but those girlfriends cheated by whoring before marriage with you.
Please don't change. 🙏🏽
As a Men myself I would also never Cheat because Its Disgusting to even Think about that, this World is insane to normalize Cheating or Betraying .
@@sonbon9762 Right this whole World is too Perverted, Immoral and insane Just to Fix this Madness, this World needs a Hard Cleaning and Restart!.
It’s cool to see they can talk about their different opinions and stances even though they are friends and together, in the states if one girl said no they all would out of fear of shame or embarrassment
a tip on your interviews - ask for people that are on their own and not with friends. People tend to lie/respond to according to their friends next to them which then wouldn't reflect their true insight
I was shocked that they are just okay with their partner going to the brothel. Thanks for this eye opener Takashi. I really appreciate it bro and you are so good interviewing, very respectful, keep it up.
I think most of them aren't, just just a lesser evil than them having a second girlfriend/boyfriend to compete with potentionally risking to lose the relationship. One of them admitted that while she said it was "not cheating" she still didn't like it and didn't want to admit it because of a fear of seeming clingy = fear of being ditched. I think overall the dating culture in the big cities is very toxic for everyone and causes a lot of hurt on both parties, but Japan being Japan you don't really talk about negative feelings and try to blame yourself for being emotional about it in the first place.
A lot of girls said "yes It is cheating" with the head but "no its not cheating " with words
This generation is cooked 😢
Been cooked for a minute. Gonna die alone chief🫡
We're fucked bro 💀
Previous generation was totally oppressed and fucked in the head, leaving behind a ravaged world. I'll take cooked.
I thought it was only in my country and west world post modern culture but damn it's scary to see that the problem is worldwide. I think that shows something.
This is not a problem of this generation, it's japanese culture, watch the video better
Very interesting
Entertaining interviews and answers, a facet of Japanese culture I was not aware of, Japan culture is fascinating, and it is good to see a sense of humor.
How about asking do you believe in global warming ? then ask if so, how to divert the world from the dire consequences ? and what actions should be taken now and in the next 5 years to avert the high temperature damage expected ?
Omg I feel so bad for that poor girl who said she would seem clingy if she considered her boyfriend going to a prostitute to be cheating! That’s so sad. Takashi, sweep this girl off her feet and treat her right!!
😂😂😂
She's one of the cutest girls too!
“I can change her”
not more than any other western country@@rifqimujahid4907
Makes sense when that's how you're conditioned. I hope she finds someone decent out there.
The girls seem pretty open to the idea of their boyfriends having a physical relationship with other women as long as it doesn't involve an emotional relationship, as well. And they admit that they don't like this, but that they don't want to be seen as clingy. No mention about the risks of Mr. Boyfriend bringing home an STD, developing an emotional relationship with a girl he's cheating with, or of him getting the other girl pregnant. Also, the focus is solely on the actions of the guy -- while the girls are seemingly O.K. with the guys cutting loose, does that men that guys can expect their girls to also be as casual with their extra-curricular activities, too?
I was curious about the question you brought up at the end. I wish he asked that. Would have been interesting, and insightful to hear what they had to say.
this separation is pretty moronic. The more i learn about Japan, the more dumb their social rules seem
@@perspectivism2006 I don't think I'd be O.K. with that degree of casualness in a relationship. Kinda negates the whole point of being in a relationship in the first place.
Things like STDs and pregnancy wouldn't really be a thing at a brothel because the girls there would have to be tested constantly and you'd have to use a condom. Their job is to have sex and if it is a legal establishment there would be rules and procedures for these kinds of things.
That's part of why I think they'd be okay with their men going to brothels. It is probably seen as safer overall than going to some random woman. Other things you have to worry about less is getting into fights with the brothel girl since their boyfriend should be seen as just a client and the boyfriend would always have access as long as he has money. If he becomes upset that particular girl isn't there, then it becomes more emotional cheating which all of them pretty consistently say they are not for.
I was curious about that as well. He asked about women cheating, but not about women going to brothels. Sure, we can assume that that is less common, but that is an assumption as opposed to an answer.
Ok, this video convinced me to move to Japan.
As an American, this is a total culture shock, but as an alpha male, I see this as an absolute win.
Anyone who unironically thinks they are an alpha male are the weakest babies.
💀☠️☠️☠️
bro's an alpha male
Its wild how widespread this has become in Japan, its almost like its a tradition for them to cheat
Kinda is tho 😂
Also explains (in part) why nobody is having children anymore in Japan. You couldn't even be sure if the child is truly yours!
@@j5679 They must be good at using contraception.
it seems marital loyalty is a western concept, im kinda shocked, it doesnt really click with me.
Japanese men are handsome, have a good figure, and have beautiful skin. As the foreign woman said, she will try to go to the hotel right away. Japanese men seem to be attracted to them because they are very good at sex.
Syphilis is popping off in tokyo for a reason😬 ive always heard about this I was shocked when I first heard my Japanese friend casually talk about her friends hickey being from another man nonchalantly and i asked well what happens if he finds out and she said probably just get mad like What
2:47 I love how her two friends like huddle together putting distance from her lol :D
Takashi is all glued after the video 😂
I live in Europe and about half my friends have cheated. Maybe I should find better people to hang out with lol
you should. they’re scum.
Wtf 💀
😬
You better run before you become one of them..
dont think i could be friends with them anymore if I were you. integrity matters a lot to me.
I'd like you to ask women in Japan if they themselves are paying for sexual services, do they consider it as cheating. Most interviews I've seen revolves around men going to brothels and women being okay with it but there's also such a thing for women (host clubs, etc.). Also if they have a sex friend while in a relationship, do they consider that as cheating or not. I mean people in Japan tend to separate relationships and sex so I think it'll be interesting to hear more on this.
It would have been interesting as a follow up for women who answer that they don’t believe going to a prostitute to be cheating to ask what they think about men who agree with them but would be opposed to women doing the same or similar thing while in a relationship?
The answer is yes but it is in the city for single women with their own income. There are all sorts of arrangements and clubs. Comments are generally from Americans with no experience of anything else. I have seen an arrangement where the woman wants the experience of preparing a home meal for a man and lying in bed next to him. It need not be sexual or emotional, just fantasy. And then so many say they would damage families and relationships over maybe a $700 spend that allows for a $150k career.
If a woman want sex, she doesn’t need to pay… unless she’s ugly.
@@utubbbe lol, yup. If another D enter her or she kiss another man, its cheating.
Just leave. Dont bother.
@@utubbbe and std is ramping up in usa.
If one finds the one, then its fine. If not, mgtow is always an option.
If one wants to leave genetic footprint, one could go to sprem bank.
Inner peace is better than the hassle of 304.
I'm starting to understand that in earlier interviews like what I think was called "What doe Japanese people think about dating foreigners" some individuals were saying that Religion may be an issue in their relationship with a foreigner.. This is the reason why. Not because they wouldn't be able to adapt to rituals or whatever else for some reason. They don't want to be tied down to a single person for the rest of their lives in high stress situations. Maybe there's exception to my assumption, or maybe my assumption is off by a mile but I wish Japanese people and anyone looking for Love in Japan the best.
I thought the same.
I bet people from outside of Japan look down on Tokyo the same way we look down on London here.
This is really shocking but I'm not surprised. Been cheated on by a Japanese girl and only found out through her IG that she was dating another person. It hurts, but now that I watch this video, it seems like it's so normalised. Thanks for another wonderful video again Takashii-san!
I dont think cheating in Japan happens that much more than in lets say the US, but I think its considered normal compared to other places. I've also noticed that Japanese girls tend to basically not show they are in a relationship on their IG compared to like the US where it would at least be posted.
@@ha-yj4tc it's not celebrated or talked about openly in North America, but anecdotally speaking as a guy in this younger generation... I see it still happens a lot, from both sexes. I myself am of the belief that if one wants to sleep around they should just not get into a dedicated relationship in the first place. Can't break a promise if there wasn't one in the first place and nobody gets hurt.
@@Darkclowd this is a very grown-up and wise perspective on things.
Just casual dating.
@@sepp0If it's considered normal, of course it's gonna happen more. What are you on about? Trying to win a gold medal in mental gymnastics?
As a follow-up question -- if people having sex with prostitutes is quite normalised, does that mean that sex workers themselves are not stigmatised? Or is it that the social stigma ends up attached entirely to the prostitute while the person paying them isn't judged?
That would be a very interesting topic for a video.
Women are just given the short end of the stick
@Hello-hello-hello456 they also have male prostitutes, not sure how that’s true
Prostitution is legal in japan, but being a prostitute definitely lowers how people see you. Like any culture, japanese parents dont want their children going into prostitution. It's the same for japanese porn stars. I know multiple famous jav actresses who got disowned by their family.
@@Xynic48 Prostitution was outlawed in 1956 in Japan. Sure, it still goes on, usually with full knowledge by the police and government, but it isn't legal. They even routinely visit hostess and host clubs to make sure the workers aren't soliciting there, while knowing full well that the host/hostess will arrange to go on a "date" outside of that club, and then visit a love hotel with cash being exchanged outside of the initiating club. Similarly, "soap lands" are known to the police and are illegal, but use a loophole to still "service" their clients.
It's fascinating how different their culture is. It's really such an alien outlook to me (Australian), everyone here would regard visiting a brothel as cheating. It seems Japanese people put less emphasis on physical cheating and more on emotional. People in the west are more possessive in general, I wonder if that means they have better relationships, or worse. However I'd be curious to see these same questions asked of the men, as I always find men and women have very different outlooks on issues like this. Particularly they are always eager to think badly of the other as a group.
Say less, I am on my way to Japan now
The 2nd girl in the first interviewees who said she doesnt cheat and says the things we would expect as cheating is kind of rare in japan nowadays
Recently, foreign men have been discriminated against by Japanese people.
It seems that all foreigners are discriminated against, but especially among ASEAN and South Asians who are short, poor, dark-skinned, and weak in sports, some commit suicide.
@@user-yh7vc3so5s wtf
@@user-yh7vc3so5s as a foreign man, never been discriminated by Japanese... FALSE!
@@user-yh7vc3so5s Are they acting a fool?
After watching all these interviews about how casual Japanese people are with cheating, suddenly I realize why NTR is such a popular genre in the doujin scene.
Don't ask me how I know this I just know.
I see....You are men of culture as well
Let me Google what is NTR
I thought u were talking about actor Jr. NTR😅
Im surprised tbh. I expected not too many of them to be okay with brothels.
Some interesting answers here. Some of them seem pretty laid back about it.
I really feel like being honest is the top priority, anything else can be overlooked or forgiven bc your word about how you truly feel can be trusted. I appreciate the insight of this video because it reiterates the fact that theres no one clear cut way to perceive things or live life.
Damn this was very real, the last women stating "both cheat a lot, but women hide it better" is the best way to put it.
True and Its so Sad.
Just Subbed
5:34 the girl reasoningbis so sad for me, like, girl you are NOT clingy for wanting some boundaries in your Relationship 😔
I'm a guy, moved to Tokyo recently and I have high values for a monogamous relationship. This is kind of scary and makes me think twice getting into a relationship.
They don't want you anyway
get out while you still can
Don't be if you want a traditional Japanese lady in a family community for marriage. If you want westernised city salarywoman then it will be familiar dating.
I lived there 10 years it’s like any place in the world in that regard - pick a gf who has good character and you will be fine , but if you pick some club going gyaru(they might not use that term anymore) she will probably cheat. I actually found it easier to decipher the two when I lived there than here in the US.
Oh , and as an example you know those two women in the beginning of the video -!? The one on the left showing midriff , that’s a cheater . One on the right probably faithful.
Cheating: yep
Tattoos: absolutely not
You're still living in 2003. In 2023, Japanese girls have tattoos.
That girl really re-evaluating her friendship with the other girl in the first interview lmaoo
Love The Girl In The Black Leather Jacket!
I believe it is important to establish boundaries about sex. I’m not in favor of being in a sexual relationship with someone that is having sex with other people. This is a health issue for me because there are STD’s that can destroy a life.
I believe if this is communicated up front before engaging in a sexual relationship then everyone understands and has a choice. If someone then goes outside that agreement then it is cheating.
Exactly, I was thinking about this the entire time. STDs exist in Japan but I don’t know much about their sex education. Tbh, I can see some of these women”s mindsets but on the other hand If I were in their shoes I would demand the dude get tested every time which would encourage lying. It’s kind of a fantasy scenario that the boyfriend would be honest.
Innocent young idealism if only it were so! Some say forbidden fruit may be but I say this is the sweetest. Rules like these often have the opposite effect, as you see these things go without saying, a relationship is by default 'closed' infact it is the point of announcing you're in one and conversations such as these communicate nothing but your fears and insecurities or perhaps lack of social skill/emotional intelligence, rendering the conversation completely pointless. You must recognize if your partner is unsatisfied with you and for what reason, then make your decision to try to change something or move on(usually best to move on, a relationship based on sex is what brothels are for.
@@Heopful Open relationships exist (polygamy), and I think are fine if all parties involved are genuinely happy with this, but it is something you have to bring up early on, not just dump it on them later. As it's not for everyone and can be the opposite of what that person wants, save time communicate upfront.
I am not for this and I am very much of the opinion that I want a monogamous relationship and do have one. If you are not happy in your relationship and you know its a monogamous one going out and cheating is not acceptable in 99% of cases imo, regardless of societal pressure you should break it off and move to find a better partner.
What a disgusting opinion.
@@migo70 if the human race solves sexual health issues like STDs via advancement in medical tech, how much would your answer change? curious!
Could you do these types of questions but to foreigners residing in Japan? would be interesting to see their point or view or experiences regarding this topic, since they are currently living in the culture that houses it, could be a good outlook to see
Even takashi was surprised
I should say the girls are very understanding and honest.
I think there is a lot of nuance and deeper issues here than what we are able to see in these videos. It sounds like emotional cheating is harder to accept than sexual (which in some ways makes sense, but also depends on how you view sex).
It would be interesting to hear about married couples (especially with motherhood). Also would be interesting to hear from gays/lesbians.
It's cheating if he hides it, it's okay if he pays someone...sounds to me like they're saying it's okay as long as he comes back to me.
We also need to be careful about making general assumptions. While there may be a "cheating culture" in Japan, it doesn't mean all Japanese do it, nor is cheating unique to Japan.
That's true, but I think people are just fascinated by the WAY that Japanese people cheat
@@lilliancastillo8579mmm, yeah, perhaps you're right. The "it's okay/expected as long as..."
The problem is that women assume that men think and feel like they do, which they don't. Men have a much higher ability to engage sexually with different women without becoming emotionally involved, this has to do with brain chemicals such as Oxytocin and Vasopressin
Some context that might be worth considering in this topic :
> The Japanese word for “cheating” in the romantic sense is _not the same_ as English. “Uwaki”(浮気) literally means “fleeting feeling”, mainly about being fickle. It’s almost a neutral word with no inherent nuance of “deceiving or betrayal” like the English word “cheating”, which is inherently malicious. That might be why they don’t take it as seriously and joke about it being “fun” and encourage to others, more like “experimenting around”. Technically, it is possible to be “Uwaki” with the partner’s knowledge, making it closer to open relationship.
There are different words for “cheating” with heavier guilt/shame, but almost never used romantically. “Furin(不倫)”, specifically meaning “adultery” is not used casually and is even considered a crime.
> Prostitution in Japan, “Fuuzoku”(風俗), technically can’t include intercourse/penetration as it’s prohibited by law. So it’s more things like hj/bj. So depending on people’s definition, some may not consider it “having sexual relation” but just “receiving a service”, and lessens many issues regarding prostitution like loss of virginity, pregnancy and STD’s
Not making any moral judgements, but since people are wondering why Japan’s view on this is so different, such contexts on linguistics and culture may have a role on it.
Your comment is essential to understand what these people really meant.
The law doesn't matter. Prostitutes will still accept penetration. No one's there to enforce the law, except the prostitute and the client. Sure they're both going to follow rules when no one's watching, right?
As always , never judge as your default setting, understand context etc . Thank you for the explanation
@@hikikhun6668 Prostitutes don’t just happily accept penetration willy-nilly, it is a very strenuous act that potentially damages the body. Fuuzoku ultimately is a business and they can’t just let customers demand things that is beyond the agreement, especially if it may harm the worker. If you hire a private masseuse and demand her to do sexual services, what do you think gonna happen? Japan doesn’t fuck around with law, that’s why their porn continue being fully censored even though it has absolutely no purpose these days.
@@28pbtkh23he's also wrong lol :p technically right at some points mixed in with culturally wrong.
This is so unbelievably fascinating to me. I'd be intrerested to hear the same questions asked to men.
Well, for me being an American, Just knowing Japanese woman hold that kind of values is a real turn off. Loyalty to one's love should be absolute. The reason such Ideals still exist in the minds of Japanese woman is because they've always been treated like sexual possessions rather than Beautiful human beings of king & Queen partnership. While I think most of the Japanese woman I've seen are really beautiful. Their low sense of self worth & equality even in relationships is a turn off for real men. I want my Lady to never want to leave, not stay because she feels like property, and cultured to tolerate sharing her sex life with prostitutes. The respect you give should equal the respect your given, otherwise you're my pet not my partner.
Here's some advice for you beautiful Japanese ladies. True of most things in life, but especially in relationships, you don't achieve a higher standard by excepting less. If you're with me and another man touches you inappropriate, I expect him broken by you, or arrested by others. If you're my lady, your only shame is allowing yourself to be treated as less. I always hear of Japanese speaking of Honor while demonstrating very little to those who should matter most. If you're with me, understand that I hold you in honor above any other, so if you're worth the station given, HONOR ME!! Or represent the stereotype of sexual possession you've been cultured to for centuries, because if you don't hold yourself in higher expectations, nobody else will.
This is very informative, and I'm quite shocked at how lenient they are when it comes to cheating. Terrifying to me as someone who values monogamy
This is the entertainment district/Red light district.
Most Japanese people think the same way as you.
It's degrading and disgusting.
Thank you for following up with women’s perspective on cheating. It was really interesting when it was pointed out that Japan’s strict work culture could play a part in their desire (both men and women) to not have restrictive relationships and that the Japanese have a more distinct separation between physical and emotional cheating. I appreciate your thought provoking interviews. Keep up the great work!
In that case texting someone could also be considered cheating
ye but i found it insightful yet it was also a nonsequitur because prostitutes also have to work equally if not harder. something's gotta gv.
@@melancholicflaneur23 having sex is work?
@@jokerpilled2535 It is literally a billion dollar service.
@@kbtred51 so is kidnapping and sex trafficking
in America its way different, any sort of affection towards another person is usually considered cheating and would end the relationship right there. but thats the world so many different cultures and mindsets everywhere.
this is an eye opening info about japanese people... I should have changed citizen a long time ago.. hahahah
I'd be curious to know if/how much other cultural norms affect each other. In the case of the first girl, it sounds like another cultural norm there is influencing her decision making; the "honne/tatemae" concept. She could have just told the guy she's not into him, sparing them both. Instead, choosing to live the lie and let bad feelings and behaviours fester. Choosing not to tell the truth has only made him lonely and likely hurt, and her, a cheater. It's such a toxic mentality.
I feel like all these issues, (the cheating being ok if "you don't love them", affection not being publicly acceptable, work culture and honne/tatemae) all contribute to and exacerbate each other. Clearly people are craving physical affection, but it almost seems like you're not supposed to get it from someone you're close with, because then you would have to go through the awkward talk of telling your partner your true feelings and risk upsetting them, and you don't want to rock the boat (collectivism mentality+honne/tatemae). This definitely doesn't help the declining birthrates.