Why Foreign Women Struggle Dating In Japan
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A guy that goes to all that effort to learn his woman’s native language so that he can meet her parents is a keeper.
tell that to my ex
Agreed. I thought that was super sweet.
@@mydreammaltamt okay give me her number
I love how they were both so into each other from the get go. That level of commitment, that's true love there...
No.. this simple. A western women don't make good wives. Japanese men are about family and bringing a wholesome woman around the family is really important to them.
the first woman interviewed was hilarious.
"At least he wasted my time for two weeks and not two years" lmao
Well, it is kind of true.
Omgawd! Ikr?! That gave me a chuckle. Our gurl just keeping it real tho! 😭🤣🤣🤣
I'm more like she's brave for showcasing the girls. I'm all for that but Japan is a culture that is more conservative. However the equivalent to showing the girls would be showing more of her legs. Maybe that's part of the reason why she's not being taken seriously...? But I know it's mainly the disconnect between cultures and how men are intimidated of us.
She was qt
I'm wondering if it was because they found out she was Indian rather than European?
"When he came to America, he really wanted to meet my family, but they don't speak Japanese..." 😭😭😭 learning to speak your girlfriend's language to talk to her mom?? So wholesome I'm dying
I love him and I hope he has an amazing day
that's what we call a keeper and if you didn't notice she reciprocated she didn't get a tattoo thou she wants one she respects the relationship more
My son has been interested in Japanese culture since he was a child. (he’s 24 now) I wanted to gift him a trip to Japan but he doesn’t want to go, he worries that he might offend people without knowing it. We’re Native American Indigenous and in our culture our elders are very important to us. We are quiet and sometimes considered shy. I would really like for him to experience your country but I don’t know what kind of experience it would be for him.
Definitely go. I went with my daughter and cousin and we are from Canada and also Indigenous. Never had any issues and I’m sure there is an understanding that coming from foreign place it’s to be expected. As long as you’re respectful of others using common sense like not littering and not being overly loud etc it’s fine. But I can honestly say that people there are quite private but are also very kind and curious about you too. What I found interesting was the similarities I saw in our cultures. They pray and light up incense which reminds me of smudging and you can tie up prayers you write down on in a tree and it’s open to everyone. Your son will definitely enjoy the experience and beauty of it all. We left Japan with a great lasting impression. ❤
Japan is a safe, developed country. Travelling is important for personal development and he can see his elders when he gets back. He should definitely go. People who do not travel miss out on life and it creates problems long term culturally at a collective level, see here:
I think the fact that he is so conscious of offending someone, he is all the more unlikely to offend someone. I've been to Japan multiple times and unless you are super obnoxious, it's really difficult to offend anyone there. The closest I came to anger was trying to open a taxi door manually (they are automatic), the driver looked pretty annoyed. But if your son goes there and acts like a normal person he will get along just fine. Just like anywhere, 98% of the population isn't going to pay any attention to you most of the time.
@@moominsean my son is Native American Indigenous, and knows there is a way to be around the elders, and it can be easy to offend people if you don't know their ways.
I have lived with American indigenous family for more than two years in the U.S. I had blasting time with them and still in contact after 20 years ❤
Takashi’s journalism, camera, and English skills get noticeably better each video. Go Takashi!!!
character development
I’m jealous I wanna move to Japan but am very worried about learning Japanese
@@amarii9916 you definitely want to take the right steps for that. It’s very different there, good for the most part. And Japanese is tough. I am learning it now, the alphabet is the hardest 😂
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This was really interesting! But I think you'll probably get more clear answers around why Japanese guys don't seem to date foreign women by asking Japanese guys, not the women. All my foreign female friends in Japan always said they were interested in dating Japanese guys, but all of them consistently said that the dates never went anywhere.
I’m seriously wondering if they would answer truthfully
@@bUtLUtu I think Japanese in interviews are always very honest in their answers (seemingly/convincingly).
I guess I would feel uncomfortable if asked such a question on camera, and I'm a Westerner 😉
@@syesye9489 everyone would honestly
cauz foreign girls r not into japanese men
Thank you for posting both perspectives! This has been helpful and fascinating to see.
you find the most funny , interesting people for interviews ...
is so so simple but the feeling obtained and the informations are so authentic , natural , unique
There are two kinds of guys in my experience here in Japan. The kind that only wants sex and isn’t interested at all (or dates you only out of curiosity) and the kind that is too shy to even bring up the fact that they like you. It’s so frustrating 😭
there are two type of energy masculine and feminine masculine men are more straight forward because they do it more often chances are that if he i asking you he is asking other chicks too if you want him all for yourself ask the guys out it is what it i s
@@jyaten3191 Unfortunately here in Japan that doesn’t work as well. Men are often intimidated by women who are direct with their feelings and make the first move. Several of my friends have experienced this. It’s just a side effect of the culture here.
Morpheus: what if I told you... you can hit on the shy guy and get to know him... ?
@@zergilli9719 Please see my above comment. Many Japanese guys do not like this approach. It works overseas, but it does not always work in Japan in my experience. Everyone is different so of course it’s possible with some guys here. But I am referring specifically to my dating experience in Japan where the majority have not been receptive to an active approach.
I’m not asking for dating advice guys, I was sharing my experience so far because it lines up with the experience of the girls in the video.
@@MsAllykat23 fair enough. I lived in Japan, outside of Tokyo in Saitama for 1 year in 2009. And yes, the culture is vastely different. I can see what you're saying.
Just noticed the camera quality improved dramatically. Really makes you appreciate the cleanliness of Japanese streets.
Even without the better camera , there is no comparison. Cleanliness of Japanese streets cannot be compared even with most developed 1st world countries which look shabby.
It's cleaner even than in a computer openworld videogame 🤣
I lived in Japan. The streets maybe clean but there are a ton of Shabby buildings around. Mine you this is probably a nice area within the Yamanote-line.
Takasii's last interview was very impressive. All the interviews were great, I was personally impressed with her studying Japanese and Kanji. Very nice!
Please more videos of this subject! Soon I'm traveling to Japan for 4 years and I need to know
I wonder if these videos are Takashii’s way of getting relationship advice so he can date foreign women.
Hahaha 🤭🤭
Does someone want to give him the bad news?
(the bad news is that Asian men are one of the LOWEST %'s of men to be right swiped in the "west." (aka, foreign women))
naa he wouldnt want to get depressed.
You know too much😏
SHAME on you, Takashii!!!
The Indian girl is very articulate and I think what she said was quite accurate. Japanese me are a bit shy to begin with but then when they do date foreign women they do not take them seriously. But I will also add that the same applies foreign men who date Japanese girls. They are mostly there for hookups and do not take them that seriously.
Hmmm, it depends, but not as much though. I've seen many more foreign men in long term relationships with Japanese women than foreign women with Japanese men, including long distance relationships. It just seems like foreign men are more willing to either compromise or adjust to their Japanese partner's culture and personality. It's one of the main reasons why I think Japanese men don't really pursue foreign women, because they probably think she wouldn't adjust to Japanese culture. Another reason, I've seen in other videos of Japanese men being interviewed about this topic, is that the one's who had foreign girlfriends kept insisting on westernizing the Japanese guy's personality. For example, she wouldn't want to learn Japanese but expected her Japanese partner to use English all the time. Another, was that they didn't like their Japanese boyfriends hiding their emotions or not being straightforward.
I can tell you this for sure....japanese men sometimes get intimidated when they see caucasian/white dudes dating or married to japanese women (they often think they are NOT good enough).....so they simply shy away.....maybe eventually becoming hikkimori..... your last statement about hookups....my thoughts would be "why then pursue mixed relationships or even marriage (they want to become american citizens by marriage and/or have biracial kids who tend to have natural mixed looks.
bullshit. japanese women are more traditional so we dont treat them like that. of course there will always be hookups and all of that but japanese women tend to be more traditional unlike western women bring their woke sl4t culture to japan and then they wonder why they cant get a relionship.
@@brianc21324 exactly she is coping. western women bring their western woke values to japan and no man on planet earth likes a feminazi. this is why men are going overseas to date and marry a woman because western women have become crassy
That's just a stereotype. It's also pretty racist to say. It's not as real as you may think
Thank you TAKASHii!!! Your videos are awesome man, I always love watching your videos and I always watch them from start to finish. You have a great interviewer personality
As a foreign woman living in Tokyo I've had experienced dating both Japanese and foreign guys. My current boyfriend is a Japanese, and personally one thing that Japanese guys do differently is that they really are caring about their partner's well being and VERY attentive too. Just a tiny sneeze, and he will fussing over you non stop lol.
What's your ethnicity?
@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx a mix of Chinese and white
@@azabujuban-hito8085 ajjjj never got issues regarding the Chinese / Japanese hate to each other?
@@HermanWillems Personally? Never.
this is so sweet
I would say there is another huge issue behind this and it´s the ethnicity of the foreigner person. I have been in Japan already for 7 months and I realized that blonde and white-skin girls get way more attention than dark haired and dark-skin girls. There is some sort of idolization for this "kind" of foreigner. So that also adds up to the equation when we contemplate dating. Sometimes even if you receive some sort of attention from men, they do not go further into something serious and it can be very difficult sometimes to find an honest man when they tend to think you are "easy" just because you do not share the "Japanese social standards".
I hear that often in comment sections that if your not white with blonde hair 1. You will find a hard time getting dates and 2. People will think you're promiscuous. I've seen this on both genders and it's sad to see.
I've seen a lot of couples that met in Japan and were both foreign to it because they couldn't find dates with Japanese people so they met other foreigners.
Now you know how Mexicans and Asian guys feel in the US. In the US if you aren’t White or Black you will get the boot, woman will make back handed comments about Hispanics and Asian men as well. It was crazy seeing the opposite in Japan when I lived there
Asian American man here who dated a lot of woman of all races and nationality. Japanese guys seems to be more attracted to *blonde white girls* more due to the sexual value that they view white girls as being more saucier. That's how I saw it when I was a U.S. military guy based in Japan.
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However, looking at the percentage of international marriages in Japan by country, Chinese, Koreans, and Filipina make up the largest percentage, with Westerners making up only a few percent. So in reality, there are far more Asian-Japanese couples than Caucasian-Japanese couples.
@@user-qm7jw I didn't say they weren't ? When i said foreign what I meant was Foreign westerners are meeting and getting together with other foreign westerners while in Japan instead of meeting or dating locals.
The last interview gave really good insight into the question and it was very heartwarming to see Takashii and the interviewee connect through speaking Japanese 😄
I agree, Takashii, it demonstrates how important it is for foreigners to try to learn to speak Japanese.
I watched a lot of foreign language films in A LOT OF DIFFERENT LANGUAGES (using subtitles to understand) but what I found was each language has it's own "feeling" and "sounds" and those are as much a part of the communication between people as the actual meaning of words conveyed ! The saying that "80% of language is body-language" sort of illustrates some of this importance ie not just what is said but how it is said?
I found the last interview also very compelling and interesting. Also, her command of the language obviously helps. Even Takashii was a bit smitten.
@@richardkleinberger7031 すごい / Sugoooiii !
Yeah, her Japanese was amazing. I'd love to see more interviews with foreigners who speak fluent Japanese and learn what methods they used to learn Japanese.
this is actually cool , just the way the conversation is going actually , it's very friendly and nice , i can feel the respect , i like that
Doing gods work TAKASHI!
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Thank you too!
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I am a foreigner in Japan married with a Japanese guy. We have dated for around 1 year and half and then we got married. I came here for work as researcher and then met my husband. But he is someone that already lived abroad and he speaks Spanish and English besides Japanese. I think Japanese guys that spent some time abroad have more open mind. Also, I never tried to fit in Japanese culture, I was just myself and he accepted me. His family also accepted me and this is amazing. If someone lives in Japan and wants to know more about us on 22/01 we will be on the Japanese show “shinkosan irasshai” on ABC TV😊
Asian girls don't like black men
@@clarencegilkie7369 why did you say that on my comment?
@ I'm just speaking The truth
@ I'm just speaking the truth
@@clarencegilkie7369 but doesn’t make any sense
I really like this channel because I love learning about other cultures and peoples experiences abroad!
First few mins into the video, I just love the way the first girl talks!! She's so eloquent and puts her thoughts so nicely :D
It's funny, in the West we often stereotype Japanese people as being indirect communicators who make you read between the lines to figure out what they mean, but when it comes to dating unlike here in the West, the transition to being a couple is something that has to be explicitly communicated - you don't just drift into being in a relationship with someone as often happens here in Western countries. Goes to show the limitations of stereotypes like that.
I'm not sure that disproves it because it also means if that person doesn't communicate (as the first girl suggested) then the relationship remains undefined for a long time. In that case, the foreigner may believe it's more than it is while the Japanese person hasn't communicated anything so they believe it's still just casual.
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The first girl was very articulate gave a very good insight of her experience dating from a girl's perspective. Also she was gorgeous actually all the ladies are gorgeous
I love to see interviewing with different girls from different parts of the world. It is quite interesting to listen to these girls. They all speak with kindness and with respect. They are all very friendly and positive . Love you guys ❤❤❤
I will say one thing I noticed as a foreign guy living in Japan who works in education and used to go to things like language exchange events, I find in general there are way more girls interested in English and foreign cultures than men. From my experience, the students who are most interested and most active participants in my elementary English classes are girls, I also judged a high school English speech contest that had nearly 40 girl students and less than 5 guys who were participants, and found both language exchange events and language exchange apps had predominantly Japanese women users.
When I was in South Korea. I saw many foreign girls with korean men. I guess Korean men are more interested in foreign women than japanese men
Yup, the women are looking for an escape route out of Japan and the guys are doomed to a corporate job or taking over the family house/business so don't see any point in doing so!
@@jonahwhale9047 truly sad
The way the genders treat each other there is just so unnatural that a number of Japanese women don’t mind going outside the country. Simple as that
@@bmona7550 Looking at the statistics for domestic violence, rape, divorce etc the genders treat each other very well. The problem is more about how the corporations treat the people, both genders. What's "natural" where you come from in Texas or the US is not the same for other cultures?
I am married to a japanese man and I have to say it can be difficult sometimes 😁🤣 but I can be also difficult for him I guess - nevertheless we are together since over 10 years now and have a baby🎉😁
Glad to see someone like you here!
Well it can be difficult for all married couples but try to have good life-work balance personally, have high quality family time and finally keep telling the other, how much you value their values that make them them and how special that is to you. Then tell them how you try to live up to their values and are trying all the time to improve...
Then, the both of you: If you are raising a child how you share values to help your child grow to be a good person and happy in the world.
For practical matters: Try to be a part of wider extended family and share the work of raising children more!! It helps everyone so long as you ensure your child can be respectful to others.
What I've learnt from all these videos is that a key element to a person success in Japan, in any area of their life is actually learning the japanese language, you'll do much much better!
Takashii-san: may I say: you do an excellent job as an interviewer-you stimulate interesting, thoughtful and honest answers from people-both Japanese and foreigners!
I love this channel and how polite and elegant both you and the people being interviewed are
Great video! I especially liked the last interviewee. Always enjoy your videos. Thank you for making them!
Your content is superb! I have learned so much. Thank you .
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Takashii is a man of the people!! Please keep making videos! We are eager to learn! Learning = more interaction
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Your videos are so awesome and informative!
I enjoy your videos that i have seen. This was a different perspecrive of dating...very insightful and interesting. Thanks for your work!
We admire your improvement over time. We hope to see this channel get further recognition along the way.
Good videos and great interviewing. Many of us in the west are very curious about Japanese culture and it's interesting to see foreigners sharing their experiences there in Japan.
Thank you for this video. Great content & VERY relatable!
I agree that it is very difficult to date Japanese men as a foreign women in JP.
I am from the U.S. and have been in JP, (Okinawa),for over 6 yrs. In that 6 yrs, I have been on many dates, but only ONE of those with a Japanese man. All the other dates have been either half Japanese, half American or Filipino.
As an American woman very much attracted to Asian men, this has been frustrating for me. I don’t know if it is a language barrier issue, or if I come off as intimidating or unapproachable as an American. (I hope not)
So yeah, I think it is MUCH easier for foreign men to date Japanese women than the reverse. But I’m hoping it will get easier since I plan to remain in JP. Such a beautiful culture & people! :)
That was really good one my friend. I from Burma i always want to visit to Japan but till now it just a dream.
Dude your videos are always really good quality! I love your content and also your question you put are very informative! Also how respectful you are as an interviewer!!! Keep it on ‼️‼️
This is very interesting Takashii... it's informative and insightful about the genders in your country. Thanks for using subitiles where the conversation swithed to Kanji. You are going in like a studied academician into each of your interviews, in pro-mode 👍
I really enjoy watching you and your interviews. Thank you! I am learning...
Your channel is amazing!
Thank you so much for watching!
If you have your own opinion on this topic, please share it!
Yeah will share...
It could be worse; try being a man in your 20s or early 30s dating in China. Because of the 1 child policy and the country's preference for boys, there are some regions where there are over 3 men for 1 woman.
Your the man bro only thing I want to share is I want a Japanese woman man they are pretty
Please don't lie.
The percentage of international marriages, including those living abroad, has been more than twice that of Japanese men than Japanese women for more than 30 years.
I am tired of the trend by Japanese feminist groups, media, and other leftist groups to try to elevate the image of Japanese women and lower the image of Japanese men.
Can you stop making videos about dating/foreigners/men/women/half-xxx/envy about xxx❓❓ same repeative topics that attracts foreign sex criminals.
I think i am getting better at understanding Japanese becuase I can understand parts of the sentences without looking at the subtitles and that's exciting even if it's just a really small improvement. Really great content.
I lived in Japan in the 90s for several years and even dated a Japanese man. He wanted to get married eventually though and his family were very working class traditional and he was the oldest (and only) son so that meant I would have to look after his parents eventually (maybe even have them live with us). Although I loved his parents, it wasn't really the life I saw for myself. I dated another lovely man for a while but I eventually broke up with him when I came back to my country and he didn't speak English so I didn't feel that he knew me well enough to come with me. All the foreign men in Japan were only interested in partying/casual relationships or relationships with Japanese women (because let's just say they tolerate a lot more than foreign women do).
They dont tolerate more than foreign women at all
This was long ago and as you can see in this vid there's wonderful men in Japan as well.
Did you eventually marry? Do you still think of him and maybe how it would have been?
Of the videos of yours that I've watched - This one is my favorite 👍👍
These videos are very helpful, I’ve never been to Japan before, but I do want to visit & see what it’s like . The videos help me understand how people are in Japan so I can better prepare myself .
very articulate interviewees and varying ranges of experiences make this interview interesting
Takashi out here doing the work of the Gods.
👏 bravo good sir, bravo
You know what? It's truly unfortunate that many people can't find someone to grow old with whether they live in their own country or another, because we often can't understand why we're not good enough for someone we like. It gets very lonely out there and it's definitely unfair to many women and men from foreign countries who want to date someone outside their own. In this case, I personally believe that having an ideal type is a waste of time, because the ideal type is extremely rare and no one is perfect.
If I ever moved to Japan, the idea of not being able to get a boyfriend wouldn't have been a surprise. Quite frankly, I don't really fit the ideal type of many guys who I would find attractive. I probably would've had rotten luck, hence why I wasn't so sure if I wanted to learn to speak Japanese.
No one should have to feel like they aren't worthy of love anywhere in the world. I believe there is someone for everyone out there, even if you can't find that special someone right now.
I hope many foreign women who live in Japan can find their special person eventually. And it obviously doesn't have to be in just Tokyo.
Just know that you are loved and important to those who care for you, and it may not be the person you tried to date.
It's interesting, I've chosen to stay single for a few years now for that very reason. There is no perfect mate out there but you also see a lot of failed relationships and marriages. I personally don't think where I'm from I will find anyone interesting so I just don't waste the time. I think because we're all so connected now on a global scale that often ppl feel that they belong or feel like they belong to places that may be half way across the world. That's why I think traveling is really important for anyone's development and also you never know what you might discover
The reality is there isn't someone for everyone. We do more harm than good with fairy tale romance stories. Attraction is based on sexual selection. Love is based on attraction first, it's rare to find personality attractive first, especially for guys. Marriege is based on economics, love is a very new concept. People who have disability either mental of physical are fated to be alone, so are people who are deemed ugly. We pretend we are superior but human are stupid animals nothing more. And life is trully bullshit.
Natalie, you have written the wisest thoughts I've ever come across on the Internet!
I tip my hat off to you!
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Best wishes to you 👍👍
part of it is because as a society (especially towards women) we're told that we're perfect just the way we are and that we don't need to improve. That's why you meet so many lazy, fat, boring and entitled people.
Really our culture just infantilizes us and keeps us in the mind frame of teenagers
well I mean, if women stopped falling for the whole material competition thing, more relationships would flourish. It's not like it's the GUYS that are holding back the sex gates.
As it stands , many girls are being taught that men are evil rapists and are not worth your time if they can't cover all your expenses and then some.
They're also being taught that being a woman ... is bad ???? You have to be a male woman ! So they're trying to do male jobs, while male psychos are dressing up as women and taking THEIR jobs.
My god, you can't help but facepalm at this generation, they are a total fuckin mess.
Very informative and really good topic that can give an insight not just for Foreigner Girls itself but generally for "some" other Girls outlook in terms of relationship hehe
I LOVED these interview partners, such a great variety India, USA, Balkans/ Turkish, Italy... so different cultures :D love it
Hi Takashii really enjoyed your video of yours :)
now, as i have seen ur video really wanted to come to Japan
Living for a year in Japan with my girlfriend, we wondered the same thing.
The explanation we came up with was that many single foreigners are men. Working holiday visa or tech jobs for 30 years old engineers seem to be mostly done by men, and so there is simply just way more men than women living abroad.
When we came back to Paris, we also thought that we saw way more Japanese men going out with french women than Japanese girl with french men.
So if our theory is right, it's just that binational couples usually start in the girl's country.
As for now, I do have in my close friends two couples with a french man and a Japanese woman living in France (Paris and Nantes), but they all met in Tokyo, in Shimokitazawa 😉
Nah, there is plenty of teachers who are women. It s same in China reasons, are more superficial actually:
1. Men with yellow fever, easy girls.
2. Japanese men might be not as tall/attractive/sex is weird (not only japanese, but chinese as well), also attitude, so foreign women ask for much more than a D and when it s D it s gotta be goood. While foreign men can F whatever asian girl around, mostly it s abt sex and a bit relationship.
@@lsdstrawberry6260 I think what you said is part of it, but also what the original comment said I think is also part of it.
Also, I think cultures believing that men should be the approachers contributes to the skewdness as well. Typically, a traveller is often a bit more outgoing and willing to meet strangers and in a world where men are usually viewed as the person who asks out someone, it leads to a bunch of men going to places who are meeting strangers and are culturally allowed to ask girls out. Meanwhile, a girl traveling is more culturally expected to wait to be approached so I think they are less likely to ask people out and therefore likely to have less results
@@al1999 I personally don't care about that and I think mixed races can be a great thing. The main thing is having similarities when it matters and differences when it can be beneficial, but also remembering no one is perfect.
For me, what matters is a catholic woman who can handle my humor and conversations and has similarities in terms of what our family and finances would look like. I'm hispanic and European descent, but I'm open to dating any race if I like her and we meet the essential requirements of each.
There are way too many arrogant French men in Japan(Tokyo especially) that think they can get every Japanese girl.
you dont see more japanese men with french women in france than french men with japanese women
Im married to a Japanese Man who was born and raised in Japan. I met him here in the States years back. I know him for 10 years as friend and got married last year. My InLaws live on Japan.
I've always wondered about that. Great info
Your ending is always funny when you say "How was it that was interesting", great videos.
love your content videos so much 💙💙💙good to make people speak up about their experiences and struggles we need that a lot ♥️♥️
Honestly dating with Japanese men as a foreign girl might be difficult and often very slow, in my experience which i personally like because i have huge trust issues and I need months for even a normal friendship which is why I struggle dating with people in my own country but I’m very comfirtable with the slow process with Japanese men. But it’s hard to know how they really feel about you since they often aren’t very expresive when it comes to emotions. But all of it is something That’s for me very comfortable. But these are just my experience and not every Japanese is the same. Basically some are willing to be open to foreign relationship which as an international couple will need a lot of mutual learning and understanding and some just won’t bother. It’s still an experience and even though I’m with my Japanese man for 2 years it’s still a lot of learning.
do you think most japanese men want an "experience" with foreign woman rather than a serious relationship?
@Barthoven valid response. たしかに。
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@@seikothechildofGod They want it just like foreign people want to experience a Japanese person. Doesn’t apply for most.
@@ganndalf202 I see, alright then
One secret you need to learn about the asian language and it might be surprising it is more based on the feeling behind the words. In western culture words are more about ideas and thought processes.
Go Takashi!!! Thank you for the videos! I hope you have fun making them! :)
i really like your videos 💜 two little hypotheses with regards to the mixed couples of which the majority seems to be foreign man, japanese lady (just from what i understand from your videos, no personal experience):
* since it is more common and expected (at least in western culture) for the man to take the first step and japanese seem to be a little more reserved (maybe even more so with the language and culture barriere), maybe this is part of it?
* second idea: still very often men like to be taller than their partner (and the other way round). i think in general and average, asians are more petite, which might be an advantage in dating for asian ladies more than for asian men?
just my ideas, maybe they are random or just a little piece of puzzle..?
🙏🏻 thank you for your contents , arigato
I love your channel..Im learning japanese right now and everytime i fell like quiting your channel motivates me..
Looking forward to sharing many good opinions during our upcoming planned Japan Jazz Tour 2023 as we want to share life together through 50 stops in Japan with live jazz performances and so together we can tell the story while promoting the venues, the cities, the bloggers and bloggers and those that want to take part 🇨🇦❤️🇯🇵🎹🎄
Interesting interviews and perspective's!
Im amused with the insights. Nice video
Lowkey I hope I run into Takashii someday while roaming Tokyo 🤣 he’s one of the best casual honest interviewers on YT right now
Great video, Takashi; you should make a video interviewing people on how they got their jobs in Japan since almost everyone who watches your video all wanna one day live In japan
Tulip is a nice name. In Hebrew for example it's common to name after flowers, for example רקפת Rakefet could be Cycla (Wild Cyclamen persicum).
The last person you interviewed seemed the most intelligent and self-aware. Thanks for these interviews.
The lack of background music is a plus, I really like your videos, natural conversations are the best. Greetings from Chile, South America!
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Hey, Takashii. I've been watching your videos and I have one curiosity about Japan and Japanese culture: what preconceptions we foreigners have that aren't actually true about Japan? For example I always thought that working there would mean to sacrifice a lot of your personal life. Does that still apply in current times? Thank you for your videos and your eventual answer.
In general, for all your themed interviews, how do you find these people to interview? I think the content is great an interesting. Keep it up!
thanks for this learned a lot
It was an interesting video, the cultural barrier, the society, the thought differences can easily be seen. Anyway, its good to learn what's going on around the world.
This is a really good interview, enjoyed it and was very informative. I liked all the women that were interviewed and what they had to say. Would like to see a more in depth interview of Japan men dating foreign women. Also the type of women they like to date, are drawn to and why?
I just subscribed to your channel! Also find the comment section interesting.🙂🤔😏
Takashi you are really rocking in your vlogs and the gals are amazing to look at them when they speak Japanese like the last American lady…wow! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Finally seeing my favourite girl here in this channel. So much love tulip 🌷.
I loved this video. Nice and sincere girls.
The topic was very interesting and the interviews reach an ever-increasing quality.
This theme particularly struck me and my impression is that there are more Japanese women with foreign men instead of the other way around because perhaps some Japanese men are very shy or sometimes too rational and maybe sometimes they should rely more on the feelings and emotions they feel more than rationality.
However I think that the union between two different cultures brings enrichment and inner growth and conflicts can be overcome with love, clarity and honesty.
I look forward to the next video. A warm greeting from Italy. 🤗
The harsh reality is that a lot of Japanese men don't want to date foreign women because Japanese women are considered more beautiful, they already speak their language and they're less likely to have strong opinions or wanting to break free if the stereotypical Japanese housewife thing.
That being said, a lot of Japanese women actually like to embrace their femininity and a lot just want to be housewives.
Moreover, the Japanese men who do want to be with foreign women often times are just after the novelty of it, not necessarily because they love them. They just want to show off their blonde haired, tall foreign girlfriend.
More Japanese men should date foreign women.
I found it is challenging dating Japanese girls here for the same reason you mentioned. They are too shy and you never know what they really think.
@@VanillaCoke1956 It is also the case for Japanese girls here. They just want to have that experience not necessarily go the long distance.
Actually, you're wrong. According to 2016 statistics, 70% of all international marriages that year were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
When I was in Japan last month, I noticed a lot of Japanese women with foreign men, but not the vice versa. I didn’t think I’d plan to re-visit Japan next year.
its mostly the left over women the Japanese guys don't want or dont care about.
Immigration should be quickly banned. No need for anyone to come.
When you say foreign men, do you only mean white men? Or did you see a lot of black or brown men dating them too? Just curious.
@@gimi2395 i’d say white men for the most part, but I did witness other ethnicities with Japanese women as well.
It's wrong. According to 2016 statistics, 70% of all international marriages that year were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
I have been dating Japanese and Korean men for most of my dating life. I am in a long term relationship with my Japanese partner. I would say that, from many conversations with these men, there is an aesthetic. Even in these countries, lighter skin, high noses and big eyes are popular. I would also say that some men have the fantasy about what it is like to be with a foreigner but they wouldn’t be confident to take that girl home to their parents. They wouldn’t be confident to embark on marriage and kids because they might not be able or willing to make cultural concessions. I have been super lucky that my partner is interested in other cultures and is flexible and his parents are accepting - although they’re not super traditional. My partner has also had issues with dating Japanese women in terms of how they are less likely to communicate about issues they have in the relationship as he is quite an up-front person. I have noticed that Asian men who date foreigners have similar experiences and find dating foreigners in a way easier. So I do think that sexual preference, the ability to mix two cultures and family pressures all come in to play. I have had quite a lot of interesting experiences because I don’t date within my own culture, and would say that the biggest determinant of a second date is not only connection but the other persons interest and ability to foresee that there will be cultural differences and they’re confident to communicate through them.
That said, dating cross-culturally is super fun when two people are right for each other but there are more complications!
So you're saying have a fetish?! 🤣
@@d.auge21 what a Dumb response
I think your response is very insightful and thoughtful. Ignore the comment of the idiot dauge21
This is a very sensible topic
Your getting really good at interviewing people.
I literally watch your videos just cause of how clean the streets are and beautiful it is don't get me wrong the videos are good too but god damn Japan is beautiful
a very good conclusion here. Thank you.
I'm addicted to your videos.
This topic seems to be recurring in your videos Takashi, not to say it is not interesting, but can you interview more Japanese guys and try to dig deeper into their motives for not wanting to date foreign women? Also it also seems to me that there is a very strong stereotype around what type of women Japanese men are only interested in. Like usually they will say: blond, petite, big blue eyes etc. Yes, there are many foreign women who look like that but there's also many many more who don't.
Yeah I gotta do this with Japanese men next time!
I mean Asians usually go after white people they don’t like other ethnicities
They like who they like . Not every has to or wants to date other races.. if white girls n Japanese girls is what they like I can't blame them their beautiful but latina woman are also the most beautiful too me
@@angelgomez7081 That too, it must be hard for ethnicities other than white to date in some of the Asian countries.
The answer is in-group preference. Just is what it is bro. Most people date ppl that look like them.
Been really finding these videos interesting since discovering your channel. I definitely fully understand the feelings of the first girl you interviewed so its always nice to know I am not alone in having these feelings. Dating in Japan is hard! XD
I found this clip to be both interesting and very informative. Dating across cultures surely has its challenges, but I think it is worth it in the long run. Thank you for sharing it.
I'm very fascinated about learning about these mix relationship. The experiences shared are very inspiring. At least you found 1 girl with a Japanese guy.
I started loving Japan just after this work performance, though I’ve been a fan Of the Samurai history (especially the 47Ronin). I love your Culture and working on my Japanese Lol.
I've been wanting to move to Japan as an English teacher, but the salary holds me back. Your videos motivated me to say "f&%k it, let's do it!" Money comes and goes, but you only have a certain amount of time to live your dreams. I'd rather take a paycut while crossing off an item off my bucket list, than be miserable and bored in my 9-5
I did it and I highly recommend the experience! Working in Japan sucked, and stressed me out ngl. But after work hours I had the best time of my life just exploring the streets, the culture, and the language. It really opens up your world. I would do it again.
I've worked and lived in Japan for a few years and honestly, the work life sucks and I mean really bad. My first job was extremely bad, but my second job was actually okay but the pay was awful. I worked both in an Eikaiwa (an after school English conversation business) and as an ALT (Assistant Language Teacher) in public schools. For me I'd recommend working as an ALT. The pay isn't great but you get a lot of downtime, less stressful than an Eikaiwa, more holidays, the hours are better if you don't like leaving work late at night, and sometimes you get a personal car depending on your placement. Learn as much Japanese as you can though because it will definitely make things easier especially since they usually place you to work in countryside areas. It's fun though, depending on your job, and you'll either want to come back home or never want to go back to your home country.
@@brianc21324 go back to your country. Garbage
going to japan? to work? I have only heard other people's experiences but they all mostly say that work culture over there will take a toll on you
@@yourlocalhuman3526 not just to work. To experience life and culture
Great work. Thank you.
My whole school age, there have always been some girls in my class who have been crazy about Japanese and Korean men because of j and kpop. I know a couple of Japanese men who have Finnish women and live here in Finland.