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I attempted suicide when I was in my early teens. I literally begged my mom to stop abusing me. But she didn't. The pain made me suffer my entire life. I can feel you. It ruined my life completely. My father was okay but my mom was crazy n violent. We should stop treating mothers and fathers like God.
"We should stop treating mothers and fathers like God." could not have said better. my parents are worse than demons. i often think of ending my life because i am fed up of them. they keep telling me to kill myself. they are both physically and mentally abusive. they have beaten me so much as a child that my body used to become black and blue and bleed. i eventually started beating them in defense. i just have no feelings left for them. unfortunately because of covid my hostel has shut down and im living with these 2 abusers. even if i run away they will find me and get me back. i have no feelings left for them since they tried to kill me by strangling when i was in 7th class.
Let me add a few things thats not on this list. 1. Isolation: by not allowing friends to come over nor allowed to go out with friends. 2. Sleep Deprevation: Woken up at 3am or any hour to get yelled at. 3. Physical abuse: Beaten by any object thats near by leaving huge bruises or open wounds. 4. Financial control: Not allowed to work to make money or to have much money saved up or it has to be spent or else given up. 5. Bitch Training: Forced to comply to all sorts of commands and orders without question or punishment is initiated. 6. Unsure how to classify this one: Cursing and negative comments or harrassment until you are angry and then forced to repress it. "I can do and say anything i want to you but you're never allowed to be angry about it nor say anything." The constant harassment I guess thats part bitch training #5. Its like intentionally blowing up a balloon until its about to pop but not allowed too. I guess this last one is hard to describe.
Your story helped me out so much! I cried 2 times because you remind me of me! I'm 16 and I'm moving out illegally to get away from the abuse,and I am very safe now and very happy to be myself! Thanks.
I’m sure your husband is an amazing person but he didn’t save you my love, you saved yourself with your strong will and determination. You’re such a strong and beautiful person and I look up to you.
I love how you are trying to support her and empower her as a woman and I agree with you but trust me you don’t want to be in the situation she was in alone, the reason I still live with my abusive parents is that I don’t have money to live elsewhere but when I do I know that I will not be able to get back to them again if anything goes wrong after I move away who’s going to hel p me when I need help? No one. And I know ppl can be even crueler than my parents, if everyone around me is either cruel to me or doesn’t care enough then who should I seek help from? Either way without someone being there at the time I decide to move it’s going to be very difficult for me
My situation is just same, I'm 23 & still living with physically & emotionally abusive parents, my younger brother is like them, he feels that he is supposed to do these stuff, the best thing is that I AM STILL ALIVE✌🏻
Being born to an abusive narcissistic mother i always ask God why was i choosen to be born frm her , why was i choosen to suffer this much . Sometimes when my frndz in uni talks about there mother my heart literally breaks , i really wished if had a loyal mother . I am 24 now , still have to live with my abusive mother & sister bec i am not financially independent . My mother spit on my face , lock the kitchen, hide the food when she goes outside & when i am alone at home & my younger sister is just photocopy of mother , she always supports her bec mom buys her everything she asks & gives her money . As my dad is working abroad i don't have anyone else to help me out & she is one of the best manipulator i have ever seen in my entire life , she calls my dad & creates false stories abt me just to make gap between us . She used to always force me to go along with her to her sisters house & after reaching there she used to always abusive me infront of aunty & cousins, she just want to show them i was worthless , all of them used to laugh at me , one the way back home i was not able to take that anymore & got my very first panic attack but mom said i was overacting & she started laughing at me saying i am mad , but actually i was feeling stiffness around my throat & was not able to breathe anymore... As i knew she was always calling me to her home for insulting me , & the next time i refused to go with her and in return this was her reply. " i won't pay your semester fees if u won't come " i still said a big NO bec i didn't had more strength to undergo the insults she will put for me infront of her family . As she said , she kept her words , she didn't pay my fees & from uni i had to face the consequences. She always body shame me & calls me as " buffalo" , she used to say ' u looks like a lady who aborted . She speaks very bad abt me to neighbour's & whenever they see , they stares me as an alien . Recently some months before i gt selected from my uni for exchange program to Poland, it was my biggest ever dream, that i was trying for so long but she came in between, as always her manipulation on other ppl worked & i was not allowed to go .... She constantly says to me this " u r good for nothing" " u won't get a job , how long will you live , u will die before me , why are you living like this ? I still remember while i was in grade 5 , i got less marks for math & for that she hit my head on walls . And if i talk with my grandmother or relatives from dad's side, that day she won't allow me to sleep, constantly she will be shouting at me . She needs a puppet to dance along with her noncence & to praise her always.... Whenever me or dad talks each other , she starts fighting with me saying i was talking abt her to dad . She behaves like extremely psychotic person to me but outside to my relatives ( except dad's) to my friends, neighbour's everyone she behaves as the best , she don't even give a gap for anyone to doubt her . It's seems to be less but surviving each day with narcissistic people around is hard . My inner self is screaming to get out from here , i don't knw how long will I be able to go with this pain , don't know hw will i survive . She constantly tells my dad to get me off to marriage & then she says to me " the real suffering is just waiting for you, you will suffer after your marriage" There is not even a single day in my life i haven't slept without crying. Some people believe narcissistic people are the once who are illiterate but the real truth is this kind of ppl can be found anywhere around us irrespective of there status ,it doesn't mean someone with high education can't be an abuser . My mom was a teacher herself, who will be believe a person who taught many students can behaves in such a way , but they can . I wish no one this pain which i am suffering , no one should undergo this , if i become a mother one day , i will never ever do this to my child .
@@starlight570 hey! love you ! i am so proud of you sweetie! your family really made you so strong nothing can stop people like us! sending you hugs and love! 🤍 you matters and you are loved out there someone! Don't believe in god for once but do believe in universe and nature! The children of a abusive family are the ones who'll start a beautiful generation and make sure it will be beautiful always. Make sure never to loose hope 🤍✨ you have us, the love you're throwing in out will reach you out one day ♥️🥰
Hi Guys! Just wanna thank each and everyone that supported me. I am really lucky to be able to connect with such amazing people. You guys rock! Love you all so much :)
Love you so much akka I have same issue akkaa no difference at all.. even iam really fed up of my family just wanna walk away. .. after knowing your story. Im not only one who is facing like this I felt akkaa. ... Please pray for let me stand by my self.... Thank you so much. ... You're very near to my heart Love you
When I was watching your story, I was feeling like your story is mine and my mom and it's a mirror reflection of my story as similar to yours but only difference you had faced being a girl at home while I was just faced it being a boy along with my mom. Your words are really inspired me to survive myself and my mom then move forward..Few months back I brought my mother to my place from the hell completely post 35 years of her life with the culprit husband. Thank You Sister. Kindly requesting We Need your valuable inputs and support.
I'm 25, unemployed ,have zero money to my name, live with my mother and as I write this I have a black eye from her . My father is dead and what I would give to have him back. I think things would be better with him here. I've applied to over 100 jobs and internships and not even one interview call back. All I know is when I leave this house, I'll never come back.
hi, I just left my abusive mom, and i felt so alone so i just googled "abusive mom" and your video showed up. I can't imagine telling ppl my story but listening to yours really did help. thank u, because u really are helping ppl and I hope you know that. im currently homeless but I refuse to go back.
@@ItsDarkRightNow I am so sorry to hear this. You are an extremely strong person. Pls don't lose all hope. One day she'll get what she deserves. This monster. I hope you'll be safe and sound
I too was facing extreme verbal abuse by my mother and brother but I always stood up for myself nd gave them a befitting reply, after 6 long years of ups and downs finally my brother has changed his temperament and Mom is changing as well...... The one lesson I have learnt is that the more you tolerate the more you will suffer..... Just find out a solution no matter how extreme it is, fight back, ask someone to help you out, move out of your home, live in a hostel, run away with whatever you can carry but don't tolerate anyone's shit
There are a lot of girls who go through physical and mental abuse by guys , could be dad , bro , boyfriend, cousin or anybody. I can relate my situation with u in some way and v all are forced to be silent. I’m glad that you have displayed ur courage. The only solution is a mother has to teach a boy from the very tender age to respect a girl so that nobody faces these circumstances.
Well said, it is important that we teach lil ones (both boys and girls) from a very young age on how they should treat people with respect, love and care.
You know what!? You're not the only one who faces this situations 🙂 i am here too, You know i am so jealous of some of my friends and people who have good parents they can treat them really nicely yaar.. i really begged my father to love me a little bit coz he is soooo toxic, rude, abusive no words to explain him 🤷🏻♀️he used to do mental torture yar me and my mom used to cry so much when father was not at home 😭
I am 22 and from past 20-21 i'm facing same issues as you were. I am the only child of my parents now, their was girl child who died when she was in my mom's tummy. Can't say died actually but murdered by both my parents. My day starts with their screaming. I cant concentrate on my studies, my exams are coming and i am more worried about my mental health than my exams. I can relate to you but i can't feel ur pain. Chill, dont worry and make yourself strong which i have learned from life. I was beaten by both outsiders and insiders (parents). As i grew i started training my self to atleast defend myself. Mental, Physical tortures were common to me. As i completed my schooling, i told myself that i will never stay wd them even if they die. My parents acted like i was their property not a human being. Because they didn't knew how a parent does or means. They thought giving birth and rest is only thing. Sometimes i thought i wasn't their child. Now i will raise my standards, fight for every right whether mine or others. One thing i learnt from them is what a good parent should not do.🙂 One more thing guys, do exercise and perform yoga atleast 20 mins for 4-5 days a week. You need to strengthen your Mind, heart, soul and Body. Stay fit and keep growing 🙏
Stay strong more power to you. Your comment gave me strength And courage to live and fight for myself. I hope you are away from your abusive parents now. God bless you
My mom is psychologically and verbally abusive. Till now I did not even understand a lot of these stuff and I started realising all of this as the covid pandemic hit and I had to spend time constantly for more than a year with my family. And now they won't even let me go out with my friends, and if I go anyways....whenever I come back I face a lot of verbal abuse and I'm 25 this year.
Mine story is long but let me second wat ur saying dis line exactly reminds me of d day I returned to my brother in-laws house believe u me i didn't want to I went out to greet a neighbor and he asked me where am goin I said I was going to greet someone and he was complaining him and his w8fe are really controlling if I go out dey said I HV gone to be with an imaginary man DAT I don't even know such wicked pple
Yeah a lot of people are defending abusive parents. My pseudo-mother, a lady from neighborhood who voluntarily made us call her mother told us to not speak against my father and sometimes she said we deserve it. Today, she has grandchildren who are disrespectful and unkind towards her. I think both my parents and pseudo-mother are facing their karma.
that is because its their friends and their world. You need to form your own circle and get away from their world. On the outside they seem fine so people never realize how abusive they are. Convincing anyone in their world is futile and energy draining.
My dad lied about strangling me at the hotel family reunion with his own family members. He even got my grandmother into it. I called the police they sided with him. I tried to get a restraining order because he had money for a lawyer and my mother didn't I lost it. The man is evil he used his girlfriend as a false witness, and my sister against me. I forgiven him but I really can't be in his presence. I don't feel loved. He most likely made a smear campaign to make it seem I'm a bad person. All I wanted as a teen was to not be so sheltered and emotional support. Money and people can be used against you. This why it's important to have social capital and money.
Unfortunately in india the dialogues "parents do what they do is always in your best interest or parents toh bhagwan ka swaroop hai" are answer to all their wrongs. You will most likely not get support from your relatives, ask for support but don't be afraid to go alone. Make your voice heard, stand up, you might get hurt but don't be afraid. Only when you react against their abuse, defend yourself, you can put fear in their minds. Remember even Krishna helped his sister to marry Arjun against everyones wishes, including parents and bal ram Narasimha Swamy killed a demon father who tried to kill his son. Tell these facts to your parents when they say they have every right to do what they want. If you cannot support yourself and with no help, study hard and as soon as you get a job, leave.
@@Suni11 it's scary for me . I lost my job before Corona . Now got stuck inside my house with abusive father who give threats to mom ,me and my sister . My mom is not ready to come out of her comfrt zone and handle the situation differently . She prefer to suffer ,not allowing us to take any stand . Now abusive father is trying to take control of each of us daily ,cursing us to death daily .
@@anu7982 same my dad has super male ego issues and I am a boy he curses me and my sister but doesnt understand that he I literally creating rage inside us to leave him when we grow up
It’s almost same story with me. I am a man, much older but still faced this kind of abuse from my parents. My father used to be always mad and beat me ruthlessly for hours, since I was 4 years old or so. My mother never opposed him and was always trying to play safe. There was a day when I was so badly beaten in front of my relatives, that I went up the roof and thought of jumping on metal grill on ground floor that had spears pointing upwards. I was in 8th grade at the time. At this moment, I said to myself why should I suffer? It’s them who are doing this and nothing I should punish myself for? Why should I end my life? I am happy I didn’t jump that day! Today I have 2 kids, I am pretty well off and love my kids to death. Also, my parents get support from me. They behave as if all this abuse never took place, but yeah, I know what they were. Our relation is mostly to show the world but nothing more. Off late I have been having the thoughts that I am not their son! I am adopted maybe. Who does it to their own child? I am currently undergoing a lot of mental trauma because of them manipulating us. I love your courage at this age and I can’t even imagine how hard it must have been for you! The problem with abuse victims is that most often people don’t believe them. Like my parents are highly revered in the society as role model parents because we were well behaved kids. Actually we were scared to death kids, who would be severely punished sometimes for no fault of ours. Your story in inspiring, kudos to you for your courage and I hope things get better for you.
Thank you for sharing this , best wishes for you & your family. I can relate alot of this as i had similar situation like your childhood incident from my abusive mother. I would also like to add on that , keep your children away from them if u feel they are manipulative bec narcissistic people r really talented to make others fall into manipulation & they can influence others very fast than us , often they create a gap b/w us and the ppl whom we are close with so that they can easily get access everywhere.
Thanks for the video, i'm dealing with same situation since my birth, I'm 26 now and don't even have idea how to repair it. Thankfully I'm atleast financially free to stay away from my alcoholic Father with my mother and sister.
I am literally crying rn because I can relate with your every single word may be I am not suffering to that extent but every day is not less than struggle for me . You are an amazingly strong woman don’t loose this confidence ❤️
Your dads a sick man You are so strong Thank you for sharing!!!!! My dads been physically assaulting me and emotionally manipulating me my whole life. Oh babe when you teared up I instantly did too! Your beautiful!!!!!
Gurl you are literally a superhero, it takes courage to make up your mind to go against something you've been facing for years. Glad you took the initiative and in a better place now . You're an inspiration for many 🦋 "It rains hardest on people who deserve sunshine ☀️"
It takes enormous courage to share a vulnerable story with another person let alone post it on the internet. I salute your courage and wish you a future full of love, joy and happiness.
Hi Nitsy...It took me lot of time to compose and finally write this comment. You have come a long way. It makes me very happy today that we were good friends in college. I had lots of good and fun memories with you, some of which make me laugh even today. I really enjoyed your company in college. You never showed any of your pain and always smiled. I'm very happy today you are out of all the pain and have started a new life. You never gave up and stood up in hard times. All the best for your future and I pray God to give you strength and all the happiness in this world.
you are literally telling my life story. my mum use to tell me she gave birth to me so she can also kill me. my brother use to love watching me get beaten up by mum and then he began abusing me severely too. my life is ruined now, i can't stop worrying and being anxious all the time, i cry at anything and everything . my whole body and mind is traumatised.
I just face a physical violence just now and seeing this video . Which is giving motivation to me and also a mental support , I am facing this mental and physical problem from last 17 Years . I faced things like burning my skin , Always beating me for small small reasons , cutting my hair , controling what do I were , what to eat , to whom I should talk etc. I think a lot of time about suicide , but a can't do anything 😭😭😫😩😓😖😞
Mental or physical abuse is very common with us. I faced more mental than physical abuse for about 25 years till i left home. We are 3 bothers all married living outside home leaving parents there. We do talk and still there is mental trauma, not abuse now, but frustrating relationship we are all dealing with. One thing i would like to say who are there in that situation, just hang on, make your way out, do the best you can. All these mental scars everywhere makes you stronger from inside and teaches you some life lessons which you won't learn anywhere otherwise.
Parents are not god society should understand this Whenever I say I don't like my parents. People around me portrayed me as bad girl. Nobody knows what I have gone through with toxic parents 😓😓 even though I am single child to my parents still I can't come out of those bad experience. It's affecting me till today mentally
I have also survived abusive parents and family. So I can very well relate to this. Just know that you are a blessed soul and please don't neglect your bigger family coz of your smaller family. Our bigger family is our country. And there are lot many people who need your help and support. Please heal yourself and heal others. Stay strong and try to cultivate happiness within you. More power to you dear sis.
@@firstlast-rp6zn Yes. Feelings remain deep and intact and they will remain like that coz for parents, they develop very early during childhood I guess.
@@firstlast-rp6zn listen. I have also passed through this phase but I have realized that hatred kept in heart is not good. We should simply learn to forgive. I know I don't even know you so don't have any rights to advice you, still try to forgive them.
I went through the same as you and i have now not seen my parents for 30 years and it has been the best thing i did.i have happy and positive people around me and i am a whole lot more happy with myself after takeing many years to adjust and do everything ive wanted to do and not have anyone hold me back.you are doing the right thing to get out of that horrible position.you will know when people are genuine to you.if you can travel i recomend it to help find yourself.south east asia is amazeing for your soul.all the best and take care x
Just finished watching.! I love you so much! The hell you went through was horror, I felt inspired and sad at same time when you said suicide was not an option and harsh reality of society, don't know what to name it , little did I know was I'm the black sheep/scapegoat .I'm genuinely thankful to listening to you💙
Thank you so much for your story. I'm just now, at age 41, being able to admit out loud I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother. Like you, I often wondered why I was always the one being mistreated and not my younger sister and what I did to deserve it. You are braver than you know, and you are helping so many other women/girls with your story (self included). Keep speaking out and sharing YOUR truth--because we are listening ❤️❤️❤️
Even my mom and brother harassed me mentally,physically and emotionally and I hate them...still healing from the scars..I suffered for 30 years can understand ur pain been in same situations as u
A salute to u mam. I can really relate to ur story i am 24 now and still i am daily beaten up by my parents. What should i do? I know that i should take a stand but at the end of the day i feel like they are my parents they are the ones who have fed me when i was hungry and gave me a shelter. Please help me mam i don't know what to do 😖😢
Guilt often drives you to do something you will never do with your sane mind,do what you feel is right cos end of the day you are the one to stand for yourself!!!
dang your old enough leave them doesnt matter if u have to be in streets for few days u will get a job in any local shop but please leave them and file a case
hi, i honestly look up to you. I live w in an abusive family and everything you said hit me because im going through the exact same things and i dont know what to do. i wish i grow up to be like you, you're so strong and so free, you're amazing. more power to you, i hope i have the same courage as you do. lots of love xx
I had similar circumstances, I could totally relate with each and every word you said, and with each emotion. How I survived was only possible with the help of my bro and sis, it brought us closer thankfully. Your mother is having a Stockholm syndrome, but you are a brave brave person. I know you never come out of it completely, but you have to choose yourself over others, its your life after all. I cant cut off all relations, but I moved to a different country all by myself.
I just came randomly here and it was a bit shocking for me to know what you have gone through and I am so happy that you a living happily. I am raised very nicely in a nuclear family, was always taught to do whatever I liked but being respectful to every living being, i always felt blessed for being being raised so good but after one of my parent passed away during COVID I am now discovering the reality of this world. Not everyone deserves your time, love and respect even if they are your immediate family members. Thank you so much for talking about this it takes lot of courage 💯🙏
im only 13 and just yesterday my mother locked me out of my house with no shoes for 2 hours and i was so cold and when she let me back in she beat me with a metal thing with a hook and i literally went to sleep bleeding on my bedsheets and im so scared because i have to be alone in my house with her today
Report it to the police.walk to next police station or call children welfare and file a complaint. Maybe that will help. It didn't work for me.But if you are lucky you will be out of this situation. I grew up with a narcissistic parent that ruined my whole life.She manipulated me throughout my life. I never said a word against her till I was 20. That's when my father died.she made sure that he will not help me. Whenever he tried to make quality time with me my mother used to say she has to study, i was a good student at school. And say to me that he is aggressive and if we talk to each other there would be problems in the family. She isolated me from everyone. She had this thing that if I start work and, i should give all my finances to her and ask for money if I want anything. At some point she understood that I'm not gonna give her money after i graduate, she ruined my education by Gaslighting, manipulating, and physically and mentally assaulting me. When i confronted against her wrongdoings she made me look like a mad person infront of my sisters and neighborhood by saying bad things about me. She prepetrated violence over me. I endured all the pain and suffering to myself even though I didn't deserve any of these. I started to confront her only when i was 20. Eventhough i didn't really understood what's going on. But in the corner of my heart i always knew that this is not right. But i couldn't do anything about it. She didn't give me a chance to think and try to resolve it. Infact she made sure that I do not take any decisions on my own. She was eating my head 24*7. I waked to the police station when i was 21. But the police officers to complaint about the abuse i have been through. But she made it look like i did not like the marriage proposal she offered(which actually happened), that's why I go against her and she pledged there that she will not insist me on marriage again. And the case where closed.and they did not take my complaint as well.I was a shy kid that cannot speak in the crowd. One thing I wish I could have done is reported it to the police while I was still a minor and gone publicly while i was still a kid. The things I have learned from my abusive relationship with my mother is 1. Always believe your gut feelings 2. Act out before it's too late 3. Do not doubt yourself.( I often did this. She was always playing with my reality. Even at the extreme level of abuse we still have a soft corner for them because they are our parents.Remove that from your heart, say repeatedly yourself that they are not gonna change and they are Gaslighting us) 4.Do not fear about the consequences (often worried about the future and thought ican not be become anything without the shelter they gave. You are 100% never gonna make it yourself if you are with them, if you leave them you have at least 50% chance) 5. Only say truth no matter what the outcome is.(not to them,if you report it) 6. Socialize
Being able to remember the abuse vividly from YEARS ago is what gets me. Truly traumatizing. So sorry you had to go through this. I too was abused so I understand your pain:(
U know making distance is also so difficult u decide go out to live and ur by urself and in the big whole world u feel so lonely ,alone and left out . I tired that 2 times it was so so difficult
Thank you for sharing your story about family abuse to encourage those who are being abused to gather the courage to escape! Abuse is horrible no matter how you define it. But it's especially disgusting and troubling when abuse is hidden behind "traditional and/or religious norms" because of one's culture and the extreme patriarchal society that a girl/woman grew up in. Everyone deserves love, respect and protection including young girls and women! So happy you are free!! :)
I'm a teen and I am going through same condition not only the restriction and violence in home my father is also a alcohol addicted . I have to suffer all this stuff and still I'm hopeless! I don't know why me ... Why God did it
The thing that makes me sad whenever i tried to share my pain with anyone they would say maybe it is yr mistake and how can u say these things abt yr parents 🥺
I really can't stop my tears.. by seeing this cz I feel like I also seeing my past which I still struggling with don't know about future kiyaa hogaa but m afraid .. ryt now
I am almost 40 years old, and I can say from my experience although it may take years to realize that you have been a victim of abuse and toxicity by parents, and for Indian children it is not quick and easy to realize that because of the cultural and religious dialogues we are brought up on, but once you realize, PLEASE ENFORCE STRICT BOUNDARIES AND DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. Be a good human being, and please be smart at the same time. It is possible to be good and smart at the same time. Learn to say NO, show anger and courage at the same time! PLEASE BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND, AND GIFT YOURSELF THE TASTE OF FREEDOM AND INDEPENDENCE! Go liberate yourself!!!
I admire you so so much, you have no idea. You are an amazing, strong and brave woman and honestly you're an inspiration to me and a lot of women. I'm so proud of you. I truly truly mean it. And if you're able to share this story now it's thanks to YOUR strength and braveness. YOU'RE AMAZING. I'm glad you're better now. I love you so much ❤️.
Thank you for sharing your experience, I too faced the same childhood just like yours, still crying while commenting here, it something that people not gonna understand until faced by themselves, I too had abusive father and my mother also nevertheless couldn’t raise her voice, but I left that man and moved with my mother and sister in different city, but while u go back in your past these things makes you really think of what we had in our childhood, that terror, physically and mentally abused, i hate that man to the extreme, might be Karma is there and it will revert him back
Mam, I am 30 yrs old guy and a father of 4 month little baby girl , I am suffering from the same thing from my father , point of cleaning TV and calling you back by your father forced me to comment , I am beaten by my father from belts , thick water pipes etc, thick water pipe he has taken from hardware and put it inside his cupboard just to beat me for no reason whenever he gets any kind of tension from outside in his work , I am stucked between the dharma and karma and I feel like that if I will take any action against my father then it will be against my dharma but I am also ashamed of myself that I get beaten up at this age and still my wife supports me at this time also , today she is at her parental house and before I watched your video I got beaten up by my father with that water pipe just because I verified something from someone which he had already told me, so he beated me that pipe just because he thinks that I doubted him and that why did I verified with that person because my father thinks that he is above all and he knows everything , I am literally ashamed about myself mam and I don't want to suicide , I really want to......
Buddy i would recommend you to move out of your house along with your wife and daughter. They're your family they'll stand by you. And please take a legal action against your father as no violence should be taken from anyone even if they're your family members. Also, share your feelings with your wife
Please move out , leave your parents house otherwise dear it wont be you only who will be getting effected but your child your wife too Give them a safe place and have that for u too its hard ik to speak up to someone u have afraid all your life but take this step if not for you for your child ! You dont want same trauma for her
I have been mentally abused by my father all my life I completely know how it feels because he made me feel worthless my whole life but life goes on and you just have to come out strong and fight for yourself and be POSITIVE that life will be better ......
I hope things will keep getting better for you, Suni. Physical, psychological, and emotional abuse is never okay. Everyone in that toxic environment needs to get out of there as soon as possible. 18:07-18:37 I can relate to you on this as I was told this statement by my abusive mother myself. She obviously lied to me and my sister.
this was only possisble after u got married , but what about to those innocent girls who are just at their teens and have no clue to take even a step , i am suffering from this since past 19 years
Mother is the actual enemy of any girl I can relate with ur story but I ll never leave my dreams for my toxic parents. Each and every word u r saying is same what I am facing. My mother says she has given birth so she can kill me. My fault is that i do what my heart says but i have always been an excellent student never had any bad record never messed with anybody, still I faced this much. My mother is a real curse I feel. I know people will judge me but this is true
Hey Nitsy i am 21 years old... My father is also a very abusive man.... And he hit me today... My mom says it all my fault... I just cant do anything cause i am still not a graduate
Yo bro :) ... after watching till the last millisecond there was not a single moment I could distract away from your emotions. i wanted to say a lot to wish you find more courage and strength , and to tell that we are all here to support you but again I see you have fortified yourself to not look back with regret upon the past which indeed made you who you are today and in the end you are living a beautiful life. I am sure for those who can relate their situations in any certain-es these words you have spoken today are like a magical powder that could be combined to create a powerful spell to heal their thoughts. Dj says : If I can give you a character from my fav super heroes I would give you the Wonder Women:)
Well done Suni. Very sorry to hear of the tough times you went through. Happy to hear how you battled though and came out of the vicious cycle. You’re an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story
My story is same like u but no physical abuse it was mental abuse it's so hard to grow in a environment like this there is no one to support you understand you ur not allowed to question why is this happening i used to see my friends talk to there father like a normal way but now I'm 26 and still I am in so much fear to talk to him but thing's are slowly changing but not completely its intensity is lowered sometimes u dbout on yourself that why a ur facing this and still alive with this
I am 25 years old and I have also faced a lot of trouble in my upbringing because my mother always considered herself smarter than others. Because Due to his behavior, I was bullied since childhood, I did not have any friends in school or college, now people think that I am afraid of you. Since the age of 16, I have taken the right steps in life.
Thank god for your existence! You are such a great soul! This world runs thanks to smart and strong women like you and many of us who keep fighting against gender-based violance. You are perfect, such a great inspiration.
I ve faced bad to worse from my younger brother. .broken nose mental abuse physical abuse all even even my dad was beaten in old age age he age he is age he is no more..he tried to kidnap me and dragged me on road in dec 2021. .. I ll share later my story..the house unfortunately is in his name. .slap is a small word..my mom always supported his all things.aame my mother said u ll be killed abused etc...shamed I don't have money..to fight for case she ll not support me..only to support my mom is was quiet I only raised voice I faced hell..pls raise voice girls..do not compromise. If I was strong my mom was strong my dad was alive. I follow buddhism so much strong.nd I forgive people but never forget. Stop the person hand even 1 slap..if my mother was strong ve not hided my brother behaviour 10 yrs back my father was alive today..I had better life even her life was better..his son left run away from home new yr I raised voice ..on road I ve not cared it was enough for me. ..so seeing the facts coming on road he left says mummy kicked him out..she was almost in depression later in a month I took breath 10 yrs. . I was happy so happy..but I'm taking care of mom alone..she is recovering but he comes every weekend abuse her mental. .nd i shout on him hush him if he cross limits with my mother...I stopped crying from 3 yrs now..m strong. .I ve anger issue major. .I know I got depression too I ve all kind of fears..I hated guys to cum around me..still so m not married. .people saved me on 23 Rd Dec last yr my brother dragged me on road saying I'll teach u a lesson. .til gate gates cum I kept shouting leave...I kept kept praying inside...I kept was not strong phycally strong..but I msged my friend all people on road wer walking I still remember all faces..but people from far village of crossed our colony nd helped me..all used to hate that person afraid as they r dangerous people called .one was a lawer for me he is sent by God. My mother still said don't call police she was crying on downstairs unable to understand what my brother was doing...people said call the police my you mother said no...nd my brother disgraced me saying I don't marry I want property. ..I have bf ..I'm of this age..etc whatever he can so village people get confused. ..but he run away as saw the crowd my mother said police ll take advantage of a girl how u ll manage alone u don't ve support what people ll say no one ll marry u..so many things but my concern was my mother health..which she ll never understand. I was not weak I already decided I'll leave house..nd noo contact..I also can't waste my energy on this anymore.. But again after few days 31st he tried to abuse my mom...was making her crying video so I was loud nd almost completely on my road shouting. ..ant's in got support this time..same people cum nd some people tried time make nylon brother understand he did same disgrace me..this time people understood little he is abusive so threathen him too.. Nd his bag was packed as he has to go to party with his bad friends so he said something to my mom nd left..saying u kicked me out...it's was so happy frankly after 10 yrs I ve not breath. .. I was living in a jail ..but after a month I realised my mother got deep anxiety issue as she was too attached to brother she used to feel he is male etc....protectector as he abused her so much given fear to her..she was having attacks I dealt all alone took care got doc online etc whatever I can..but he comes every weekend ruins all..nd leave shw is recovering but slow..I ll leave the house as get into regular job can't leave her alone for even hr it's tough..I ll share all later..thank you so much for encouraging inspiration
Thank you for sharing your story. Your father was a sick man and your mother betrayed you. No one should use their helpless child as a punching bag. There is no accountability for child abuse, and many people suffer in silence. It's time to talk more about it. Also, this is so prevalent in Asian cultures (I'm Chinese) and our system of honoring the family keeps the abuse going, that needs to change.
I don't know whether I should comment this here... But... One day my father was really stressed out of work... So without any legitimate reason, he hit me and my sister with belt, I was so sad I couldn't express it, It felt like it was a dream and laughed it off... My mom was seeing it, but she did nothing. It is about last year, I guess my life is better now because my father stays somewhere else now.
Thank you so much for having the strength to make this video and to be truthful. Many stand by and look the other way and it is so healing to see you speak with such courage.
Hi Nitsy, i am not able to figure out from where to start writing, as i can relate with this kind of situation, living with a Narcissistic Gender biased family and there are hundreds of such incidents which took place during this whole period of violence. I can understand your pain your trauma but the good thing is that finally you came out of all this and now living a happy life. I don't think anybody in this world can digest women's happiness. This is just a mental entrapment that such gender biased people create around so that they can engulf women's right to live freely and rule over them. It is very much possible to crush such terrible mentality, to raise the voice and to teach them a life long lesson what they deserve. I support you, take care of your self and be happy always 🙂
My father and my brother is abusive as hell.. And currently I m going through severe depression because of them. If someone is going through the same situation ..please can we talk?
m 25+ have worked for a year and half still my dad shouts and yells at my face like a devil and still controls my life...and every single thing every single decision is taken by him.I dnt talk to people not even on fon as he interrogat es every single detail abt the person I talk to.I dnt go out..,m not allowed to go out ,not allowed to go work in different states or cites where I get jobs.no boyfriend allowed or male friends.wenever my dad is out of station for 2days a week I try to go out but my mom takes charge and informs my dad and doesnt allow.im just eating wat is provided and sleeping doing household chores.
I can't thank you enough for putting this. This is somewhat my story too and what you said about your brother. I am shell shocked to see my younger brother turning into my father. A splitting image. All I can think of is self preservation at this time. And if that means completely cutting them off from my life so be it.
Ma'am thank you so much for making this vedio . First time vedio dekhi apki aur bhut achi lagi mujhe nhi laga tha ki yeh mostly girls ke saath hota h mujhe laga bass mere hi father kharab h anyways same situation happened with me , bhut problem chl rhi h ghr me my father used to beat my mother and even mujhe bhi abusive h bhut literally bhuut zada depressed ho gai hu m ess ghr me rh ke sooch rhi thi khi bhagg jau ya suicide krlu but phr soochti hu mummy ka kya hoga eslie nhi gai but ab apki vedio dekh ke himat milli aur m ab complaint karwane jaa rhi hu police station . Apse insipre hoke m bhi L.L.B krne Jaa rhi hu .I am strong and I will fight for justice 🤞
This made me cry because it felt like you spoke about me i really want to leave this place, I'm just 19 and am so scared about everything, i can't meet my friends i can't talk to anyone it's just hard for me, i feel like giving up on life, it's scary to do anything. This made me cry so much
My dad was really abusive and my mother would just say us to bear it. In India, parents think they could do anything to their kids just because they gave birth. I studied hard and left the house. I literally hate them to the core of my heart. I have shared with my indian friends amd they say its normal, i think most indians dont know the difference between small general fights and abuse.
I am totally agree with you. I'm in exact situation as you were, the only difference is here older brother is abusive and mom wants me to tolerate him as she supports him. I'm still trapped with these demons. Looking a way out. I am studying , trying my best but don't know exactly how I'll get rid of them. I am afraid too. Older brother is so abusive and almost a killer type personality. Can I talk to you ? You may guide.
In my childhood I was bitten up by my father and My older brother.It ended When I took a stand against them.I was 22 when It stopped.But luckily We are a happy family now.But yes Sometimes We have to Treat the people even if it's your family the way They treat you.It is just a shameful that sometimes Our Moms are not helping Us even if once she was a daughter herself.😢😢😢😢
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I am 17 and I'm facing the same situation I needed help. Can someone out help me
@@sindhujar6262 report it to police station
@@sindhujar6262 yar..... 🥺🥺🥺
Love for u Ur story is v v relatable to me after my Mom's death
My father and only brother both become v toxic for me i suffered and still suffering
Hello i want to connect you. I need some help as i am also going through the same situation.
I attempted suicide when I was in my early teens. I literally begged my mom to stop abusing me. But she didn't. The pain made me suffer my entire life. I can feel you. It ruined my life completely. My father was okay but my mom was crazy n violent. We should stop treating mothers and fathers like God.
"We should stop treating mothers and fathers like God." could not have said better.
my parents are worse than demons. i often think of ending my life because i am fed up of them. they keep telling me to kill myself. they are both physically and mentally abusive. they have beaten me so much as a child that my body used to become black and blue and bleed. i eventually started beating them in defense. i just have no feelings left for them. unfortunately because of covid my hostel has shut down and im living with these 2 abusers. even if i run away they will find me and get me back. i have no feelings left for them since they tried to kill me by strangling when i was in 7th class.
I am sure parents are monsters
Stay strong 💕💕💕
@@firstlast-rp6zn omg are you okay ???
@@firstlast-rp6zn god bless you ❤️
Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child
Let me add a few things thats not on this list.
1. Isolation: by not allowing friends to come over nor allowed to go out with friends.
2. Sleep Deprevation: Woken up at 3am or any hour to get yelled at.
3. Physical abuse: Beaten by any object thats near by leaving huge bruises or open wounds.
4. Financial control: Not allowed to work to make money or to have much money saved up or it has to be spent or else given up.
5. Bitch Training: Forced to comply to all sorts of commands and orders without question or punishment is initiated.
6. Unsure how to classify this one: Cursing and negative comments or harrassment until you are angry and then forced to repress it. "I can do and say anything i want to you but you're never allowed to be angry about it nor say anything." The constant harassment I guess thats part bitch training #5. Its like intentionally blowing up a balloon until its about to pop but not allowed too. I guess this last one is hard to describe.
exactly
I'm going through exact same.
It's a psychological technique to provoke. It doesn't matter what it's called, it's abuse.
Thnq it helping me a lot 😭
Accurate.
Your story helped me out so much! I cried 2 times because you remind me of me! I'm 16 and I'm moving out illegally to get away from the abuse,and I am very safe now and very happy to be myself! Thanks.
I don’t know you but I’m very proud of you Aleese!
Hey but how I am 16 and I want to move out too but I can't I am stucked with my abusive toxic parents
@@juliedsouza747 mee too😭😭😭I wish I could have some mone talent to go to another city nd get out of this hell
@@HannahV554 please tell how you did it
How you did it ?? I also wanna go out of this hell
I’m sure your husband is an amazing person but he didn’t save you my love, you saved yourself with your strong will and determination. You’re such a strong and beautiful person and I look up to you.
I love how you are trying to support her and empower her as a woman and I agree with you but trust me you don’t want to be in the situation she was in alone, the reason I still live with my abusive parents is that I don’t have money to live elsewhere but when I do I know that I will not be able to get back to them again if anything goes wrong after I move away who’s going to hel p me when I need help? No one. And I know ppl can be even crueler than my parents, if everyone around me is either cruel to me or doesn’t care enough then who should I seek help from? Either way without someone being there at the time I decide to move it’s going to be very difficult for me
My situation is just same, I'm 23 & still living with physically & emotionally abusive parents, my younger brother is like them, he feels that he is supposed to do these stuff, the best thing is that I AM STILL ALIVE✌🏻
More power to you, they should be all thrown in jail and the key thrown away
Me too I’m 22 I want to move out but don’t have enough money rn
Being born to an abusive narcissistic mother i always ask God why was i choosen to be born frm her , why was i choosen to suffer this much . Sometimes when my frndz in uni talks about there mother my heart literally breaks , i really wished if had a loyal mother .
I am 24 now , still have to live with my abusive mother & sister bec i am not financially independent . My mother spit on my face , lock the kitchen, hide the food when she goes outside & when i am alone at home & my younger sister is just photocopy of mother , she always supports her bec mom buys her everything she asks & gives her money . As my dad is working abroad i don't have anyone else to help me out & she is one of the best manipulator i have ever seen in my entire life , she calls my dad & creates false stories abt me just to make gap between us . She used to always force me to go along with her to her sisters house & after reaching there she used to always abusive me infront of aunty & cousins, she just want to show them i was worthless , all of them used to laugh at me , one the way back home i was not able to take that anymore & got my very first panic attack but mom said i was overacting & she started laughing at me saying i am mad , but actually i was feeling stiffness around my throat & was not able to breathe anymore... As i knew she was always calling me to her home for insulting me , & the next time i refused to go with her and in return this was her reply. " i won't pay your semester fees if u won't come " i still said a big NO bec i didn't had more strength to undergo the insults she will put for me infront of her family . As she said , she kept her words , she didn't pay my fees & from uni i had to face the consequences.
She always body shame me & calls me as " buffalo" , she used to say ' u looks like a lady who aborted . She speaks very bad abt me to neighbour's & whenever they see , they stares me as an alien . Recently some months before i gt selected from my uni for exchange program to Poland, it was my biggest ever dream, that i was trying for so long but she came in between, as always her manipulation on other ppl worked & i was not allowed to go .... She constantly says to me this " u r good for nothing" " u won't get a job , how long will you live , u will die before me , why are you living like this ? I still remember while i was in grade 5 , i got less marks for math & for that she hit my head on walls . And if i talk with my grandmother or relatives from dad's side, that day she won't allow me to sleep, constantly she will be shouting at me . She needs a puppet to dance along with her noncence & to praise her always.... Whenever me or dad talks each other , she starts fighting with me saying i was talking abt her to dad . She behaves like extremely psychotic person to me but outside to my relatives ( except dad's) to my friends, neighbour's everyone she behaves as the best , she don't even give a gap for anyone to doubt her .
It's seems to be less but surviving each day with narcissistic people around is hard . My inner self is screaming to get out from here , i don't knw how long will I be able to go with this pain , don't know hw will i survive . She constantly tells my dad to get me off to marriage & then she says to me " the real suffering is just waiting for you, you will suffer after your marriage" There is not even a single day in my life i haven't slept without crying. Some people believe narcissistic people are the once who are illiterate but the real truth is this kind of ppl can be found anywhere around us irrespective of there status ,it doesn't mean someone with high education can't be an abuser . My mom was a teacher herself, who will be believe a person who taught many students can behaves in such a way , but they can .
I wish no one this pain which i am suffering , no one should undergo this , if i become a mother one day , i will never ever do this to my child .
I'm 22 and I'm hoping to move out soon , I'm looking for a new job so that I can leave soon
@@starlight570 hey! love you ! i am so proud of you sweetie! your family really made you so strong nothing can stop people like us! sending you hugs and love! 🤍 you matters and you are loved out there someone! Don't believe in god for once but do believe in universe and nature! The children of a abusive family are the ones who'll start a beautiful generation and make sure it will be beautiful always. Make sure never to loose hope 🤍✨ you have us, the love you're throwing in out will reach you out one day ♥️🥰
Hi Guys! Just wanna thank each and everyone that supported me. I am really lucky to be able to connect with such amazing people. You guys rock!
Love you all so much :)
Love you so much akka
I have same issue akkaa no difference at all.. even iam really fed up of my family just wanna walk away. .. after knowing your story. Im not only one who is facing like this I felt akkaa. ...
Please pray for let me stand by my self....
Thank you so much. ...
You're very near to my heart
Love you
Even my father is abusive. He is too controlling. He never let me live my life accordingly. I want to connect to you.
Thanks for sharing Your experiences.I also have been Gone through the things like this.
It felt like you spoke about my story ❤️ much love and strength to you. I am proud of you.
When I was watching your story, I was feeling like your story is mine and my mom and it's a mirror reflection of my story as similar to yours but only difference you had faced being a girl at home while I was just faced it being a boy along with my mom. Your words are really inspired me to survive myself and my mom then move forward..Few months back I brought my mother to my place from the hell completely post 35 years of her life with the culprit husband. Thank You Sister. Kindly requesting We Need your valuable inputs and support.
I'm 25, unemployed ,have zero money to my name, live with my mother and as I write this I have a black eye from her .
My father is dead and what I would give to have him back. I think things would be better with him here. I've applied to over 100 jobs and internships and not even one interview call back. All I know is when I leave this house, I'll never come back.
Same pinch
Same
Think about your mom 🥺🤞🏻 she loves you yat don't leave her alone.
Same here once I am employed.. I am leaving this house forever and never in my life gonna come back
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just found this after a long cry..
I really needed this... . It became extremely difficult to live in this covid situation.. Much power to you ❤
Glad it was helpful!
hi, I just left my abusive mom, and i felt so alone so i just googled "abusive mom" and your video showed up. I can't imagine telling ppl my story but listening to yours really did help. thank u, because u really are helping ppl and I hope you know that.
im currently homeless but I refuse to go back.
Where u from?
Now what is happening in ur life
@@rashisharma3434 I went back after a year on the streets. i just came back from the hospital after my mom severely beat me and tried to kill me. ;/
@@ItsDarkRightNow sad yr
@@ItsDarkRightNow I am so sorry to hear this. You are an extremely strong person. Pls don't lose all hope. One day she'll get what she deserves. This monster. I hope you'll be safe and sound
I too was facing extreme verbal abuse by my mother and brother but I always stood up for myself nd gave them a befitting reply, after 6 long years of ups and downs finally my brother has changed his temperament and Mom is changing as well...... The one lesson I have learnt is that the more you tolerate the more you will suffer..... Just find out a solution no matter how extreme it is, fight back, ask someone to help you out, move out of your home, live in a hostel, run away with whatever you can carry but don't tolerate anyone's shit
There are a lot of girls who go through physical and mental abuse by guys , could be dad , bro , boyfriend, cousin or anybody.
I can relate my situation with u in some way and v all are forced to be silent. I’m glad that you have displayed ur courage.
The only solution is a mother has to teach a boy from the very tender age to respect a girl so that nobody faces these circumstances.
Well said, it is important that we teach lil ones (both boys and girls) from a very young age on how they should treat people with respect, love and care.
Lavanya mother also do physical violence my mother does mentally physical and emotional abuse but mostly mentally
We need to also teach women to respect themselves and not accept abuse. Abuse should never be normalised.
@@misbasaiyed132 mothers are more abusive, plus they taunt so much.
You know what!? You're not the only one who faces this situations 🙂 i am here too,
You know i am so jealous of some of my friends and people who have good parents they can treat them really nicely yaar.. i really begged my father to love me a little bit coz he is soooo toxic, rude, abusive no words to explain him 🤷🏻♀️he used to do mental torture yar me and my mom used to cry so much when father was not at home 😭
You were a warrior and you are a warrior. All the best!!
I am 22 and from past 20-21 i'm facing same issues as you were. I am the only child of my parents now, their was girl child who died when she was in my mom's tummy. Can't say died actually but murdered by both my parents. My day starts with their screaming. I cant concentrate on my studies, my exams are coming and i am more worried about my mental health than my exams.
I can relate to you but i can't feel ur pain. Chill, dont worry and make yourself strong which i have learned from life. I was beaten by both outsiders and insiders (parents). As i grew i started training my self to atleast defend myself. Mental, Physical tortures were common to me. As i completed my schooling, i told myself that i will never stay wd them even if they die.
My parents acted like i was their property not a human being. Because they didn't knew how a parent does or means. They thought giving birth and rest is only thing. Sometimes i thought i wasn't their child.
Now i will raise my standards, fight for every right whether mine or others. One thing i learnt from them is what a good parent should not do.🙂
One more thing guys, do exercise and perform yoga atleast 20 mins for 4-5 days a week. You need to strengthen your Mind, heart, soul and Body. Stay fit and keep growing 🙏
Ur grandmother didn't say anything to your father regarding this
Stay strong more power to you. Your comment gave me strength And courage to live and fight for myself. I hope you are away from your abusive parents now. God bless you
@@yashdand7885 she died much before his marriage
@@khushijoshi7307 Thanks! Ya i am away but still a long way to go
U r 22 i think u should move out of that place. Because they will never change them self only u can change urself.
My mom is psychologically and verbally abusive. Till now I did not even understand a lot of these stuff and I started realising all of this as the covid pandemic hit and I had to spend time constantly for more than a year with my family. And now they won't even let me go out with my friends, and if I go anyways....whenever I come back I face a lot of verbal abuse and I'm 25 this year.
Hiii neerja, How are you?
Mine story is long but let me second wat ur saying dis line exactly reminds me of d day I returned to my brother in-laws house believe u me i didn't want to I went out to greet a neighbor and he asked me where am goin I said I was going to greet someone and he was complaining him and his w8fe are really controlling if I go out dey said I HV gone to be with an imaginary man DAT I don't even know such wicked pple
@@estellagodson7737 where are you from society only judge women they won't complain if there own son have affair and going to meet up
My abusive father did get away with "it", his actions were defended by a lot of people in our surrounding
how?
Yeah a lot of people are defending abusive parents. My pseudo-mother, a lady from neighborhood who voluntarily made us call her mother told us to not speak against my father and sometimes she said we deserve it. Today, she has grandchildren who are disrespectful and unkind towards her. I think both my parents and pseudo-mother are facing their karma.
@@vickyyyy3347 yes, adults and other family members always take the parents side, because parents are Gods in India. The child only suffers alone.
that is because its their friends and their world. You need to form your own circle and get away from their world. On the outside they seem fine so people never realize how abusive they are. Convincing anyone in their world is futile and energy draining.
My dad lied about strangling me at the hotel family reunion with his own family members. He even got my grandmother into it. I called the police they sided with him. I tried to get a restraining order because he had money for a lawyer and my mother didn't I lost it. The man is evil he used his girlfriend as a false witness, and my sister against me. I forgiven him but I really can't be in his presence. I don't feel loved. He most likely made a smear campaign to make it seem I'm a bad person. All I wanted as a teen was to not be so sheltered and emotional support.
Money and people can be used against you. This why it's important to have social capital and money.
Unfortunately in india the dialogues "parents do what they do is always in your best interest or parents toh bhagwan ka swaroop hai" are answer to all their wrongs.
You will most likely not get support from your relatives, ask for support but don't be afraid to go alone. Make your voice heard, stand up, you might get hurt but don't be afraid. Only when you react against their abuse, defend yourself, you can put fear in their minds.
Remember even Krishna helped his sister to marry Arjun against everyones wishes, including parents and bal ram
Narasimha Swamy killed a demon father who tried to kill his son. Tell these facts to your parents when they say they have every right to do what they want.
If you cannot support yourself and with no help, study hard and as soon as you get a job, leave.
It's Soo weird...the fact I'm 17 n I can completely relate to what ur saying...I'm scared n I have no way out of my situation
Hi Arthi, I know its scary. Be strong and I am sure you will resolve the issues. You will become a strong, independent woman :)
@@Suni11 it's scary for me . I lost my job before Corona . Now got stuck inside my house with abusive father who give threats to mom ,me and my sister . My mom is not ready to come out of her comfrt zone and handle the situation differently . She prefer to suffer ,not allowing us to take any stand . Now abusive father is trying to take control of each of us daily ,cursing us to death daily .
At least ur mother helped you to get out of the house
@@anu7982 same my dad has super male ego issues and I am a boy he curses me and my sister but doesnt understand that he I literally creating rage inside us to leave him when we grow up
I want some help and advice from you but I can't able to find your insta account... Plesee reply m
It’s almost same story with me. I am a man, much older but still faced this kind of abuse from my parents. My father used to be always mad and beat me ruthlessly for hours, since I was 4 years old or so. My mother never opposed him and was always trying to play safe. There was a day when I was so badly beaten in front of my relatives, that I went up the roof and thought of jumping on metal grill on ground floor that had spears pointing upwards. I was in 8th grade at the time. At this moment, I said to myself why should I suffer? It’s them who are doing this and nothing I should punish myself for? Why should I end my life? I am happy I didn’t jump that day! Today I have 2 kids, I am pretty well off and love my kids to death. Also, my parents get support from me. They behave as if all this abuse never took place, but yeah, I know what they were. Our relation is mostly to show the world but nothing more. Off late I have been having the thoughts that I am not their son! I am adopted maybe. Who does it to their own child? I am currently undergoing a lot of mental trauma because of them manipulating us.
I love your courage at this age and I can’t even imagine how hard it must have been for you! The problem with abuse victims is that most often people don’t believe them. Like my parents are highly revered in the society as role model parents because we were well behaved kids. Actually we were scared to death kids, who would be severely punished sometimes for no fault of ours.
Your story in inspiring, kudos to you for your courage and I hope things get better for you.
Thank you for sharing this , best wishes for you & your family. I can relate alot of this as i had similar situation like your childhood incident from my abusive mother. I would also like to add on that , keep your children away from them if u feel they are manipulative bec narcissistic people r really talented to make others fall into manipulation & they can influence others very fast than us , often they create a gap b/w us and the ppl whom we are close with so that they can easily get access everywhere.
I can also relate to this
Don't keep them close to your family. It might affect your kids mental health
Thanks for the video, i'm dealing with same situation since my birth, I'm 26 now and don't even have idea how to repair it. Thankfully I'm atleast financially free to stay away from my alcoholic Father with my mother and sister.
I am literally crying rn because I can relate with your every single word may be I am not suffering to that extent but every day is not less than struggle for me .
You are an amazingly strong woman don’t loose this confidence ❤️
Going through same situation and no way to get out of this.dad,younger bro mom no one is supportive...
I’m supportive babe :( you don’t know me but I’m here for you
Your dads a sick man
You are so strong
Thank you for sharing!!!!!
My dads been physically assaulting me and emotionally manipulating me my whole life.
Oh babe when you teared up I instantly did too!
Your beautiful!!!!!
Gurl you are literally a superhero, it takes courage to make up your mind to go against something you've been facing for years. Glad you took the initiative and in a better place now . You're an inspiration for many 🦋
"It rains hardest on people who deserve sunshine ☀️"
You are very very very strong dear. Just the fact that you decided to file a case and move out. Have the best of life ahead ❤️
I'm into tears. You are actually telling my story. Exactly what I'm going through and I don't know how to run away.
We really cannot run away either we can fight back or leave everything. Only we can run away if we really have good economic support.
It takes enormous courage to share a vulnerable story with another person let alone post it on the internet. I salute your courage and wish you a future full of love, joy and happiness.
If you were my friend and we lived in the same city I would give you a warm hug ! You deserve so much better. Sending love from England!
Hi Nitsy...It took me lot of time to compose and finally write this comment. You have come a long way. It makes me very happy today that we were good friends in college. I had lots of good and fun memories with you, some of which make me laugh even today. I really enjoyed your company in college. You never showed any of your pain and always smiled. I'm very happy today you are out of all the pain and have started a new life. You never gave up and stood up in hard times. All the best for your future and I pray God to give you strength and all the happiness in this world.
Hey Trupthi! I am happy to hear from you. Thanks for the support and for reminding me the good times :)
you are literally telling my life story. my mum use to tell me she gave birth to me so she can also kill me. my brother use to love watching me get beaten up by mum and then he began abusing me severely too. my life is ruined now, i can't stop worrying and being anxious all the time, i cry at anything and everything . my whole body and mind is traumatised.
I hope you get even with them
@@thiccredgyal3404 I hope so too, I'm trying
@@Paradox370 I can help you out
@@thiccredgyal3404 how
@@Paradox370Hi, I'm in the same situation. Can we talk? We together may get to some solution.
I just face a physical violence just now and seeing this video . Which is giving motivation to me and also a mental support , I am facing this mental and physical problem from last 17 Years .
I faced things like burning my skin ,
Always beating me for small small reasons , cutting my hair , controling what do I were , what to eat , to whom I should talk etc.
I think a lot of time about suicide , but a can't do anything 😭😭😫😩😓😖😞
Hiii
Can we be friends?
Oh God
Mental or physical abuse is very common with us. I faced more mental than physical abuse for about 25 years till i left home. We are 3 bothers all married living outside home leaving parents there. We do talk and still there is mental trauma, not abuse now, but frustrating relationship we are all dealing with.
One thing i would like to say who are there in that situation, just hang on, make your way out, do the best you can. All these mental scars everywhere makes you stronger from inside and teaches you some life lessons which you won't learn anywhere otherwise.
Parents are not god society should understand this
Whenever I say I don't like my parents. People around me portrayed me as bad girl. Nobody knows what I have gone through with toxic parents 😓😓 even though I am single child to my parents still I can't come out of those bad experience. It's affecting me till today mentally
I have also survived abusive parents and family. So I can very well relate to this. Just know that you are a blessed soul and please don't neglect your bigger family coz of your smaller family. Our bigger family is our country. And there are lot many people who need your help and support. Please heal yourself and heal others. Stay strong and try to cultivate happiness within you. More power to you dear sis.
do you have feelings for your parents?
@@firstlast-rp6zn Yes. Feelings remain deep and intact and they will remain like that coz for parents, they develop very early during childhood I guess.
@@meghanawagh7991 I no longer feel anything for them. I wish I too had a happy, supportive family..
@@firstlast-rp6zn listen. I have also passed through this phase but I have realized that hatred kept in heart is not good. We should simply learn to forgive. I know I don't even know you so don't have any rights to advice you, still try to forgive them.
How you survived di ...
I went through the same as you and i have now not seen my parents for 30 years and it has been the best thing i did.i have happy and positive people around me and i am a whole lot more happy with myself after takeing many years to adjust and do everything ive wanted to do and not have anyone hold me back.you are doing the right thing to get out of that horrible position.you will know when people are genuine to you.if you can travel i recomend it to help find yourself.south east asia is amazeing for your soul.all the best and take care x
Just finished watching.! I love you so much! The hell you went through was horror, I felt inspired and sad at same time when you said suicide was not an option and harsh reality of society, don't know what to name it , little did I know was I'm the black sheep/scapegoat .I'm genuinely thankful to listening to you💙
Thank you so much for your story. I'm just now, at age 41, being able to admit out loud I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother. Like you, I often wondered why I was always the one being mistreated and not my younger sister and what I did to deserve it. You are braver than you know, and you are helping so many other women/girls with your story (self included). Keep speaking out and sharing YOUR truth--because we are listening ❤️❤️❤️
Even my mom and brother harassed me mentally,physically and emotionally and I hate them...still healing from the scars..I suffered for 30 years can understand ur pain been in same situations as u
I m in same exact situation. Can we talk?
In Europe if a man hits us girls... we hit back!!! And then report them for rising hands on us!!😉Stay strong god bless!
A salute to u mam. I can really relate to ur story i am 24 now and still i am daily beaten up by my parents. What should i do? I know that i should take a stand but at the end of the day i feel like they are my parents they are the ones who have fed me when i was hungry and gave me a shelter. Please help me mam i don't know what to do 😖😢
Take a stick and hit them back brutally... trust me it will work...if you surrender to them they will keep doing that...
Guilt often drives you to do something you will never do with your sane mind,do what you feel is right cos end of the day you are the one to stand for yourself!!!
dang your old enough leave them doesnt matter if u have to be in streets for few days u will get a job in any local shop but please leave them and file a case
hi, i honestly look up to you. I live w in an abusive family and everything you said hit me because im going through the exact same things and i dont know what to do. i wish i grow up to be like you, you're so strong and so free, you're amazing. more power to you, i hope i have the same courage as you do. lots of love xx
I had similar circumstances, I could totally relate with each and every word you said, and with each emotion. How I survived was only possible with the help of my bro and sis, it brought us closer thankfully. Your mother is having a Stockholm syndrome, but you are a brave brave person. I know you never come out of it completely, but you have to choose yourself over others, its your life after all. I cant cut off all relations, but I moved to a different country all by myself.
I just came randomly here and it was a bit shocking for me to know what you have gone through and I am so happy that you a living happily.
I am raised very nicely in a nuclear family, was always taught to do whatever I liked but being respectful to every living being, i always felt blessed for being being raised so good but after one of my parent passed away during COVID I am now discovering the reality of this world. Not everyone deserves your time, love and respect even if they are your immediate family members.
Thank you so much for talking about this it takes lot of courage 💯🙏
im only 13 and just yesterday my mother locked me out of my house with no shoes for 2 hours and i was so cold and when she let me back in she beat me with a metal thing with a hook and i literally went to sleep bleeding on my bedsheets and im so scared because i have to be alone in my house with her today
i am so sorry for you. keep fighting and survive this abuse. one day you will definitely be free and safe.
You should go to police and do a case
Report it to the police.walk to next police station or call children welfare and file a complaint. Maybe that will help. It didn't work for me.But if you are lucky you will be out of this situation.
I grew up with a narcissistic parent that ruined my whole life.She manipulated me throughout my life.
I never said a word against her till I was 20. That's when my father died.she made sure that he will not help me. Whenever he tried to make quality time with me my mother used to say she has to study, i was a good student at school. And say to me that he is aggressive and if we talk to each other there would be problems in the family. She isolated me from everyone.
She had this thing that if I start work and, i should give all my finances to her and ask for money if I want anything.
At some point she understood that I'm not gonna give her money after i graduate, she ruined my education by Gaslighting, manipulating, and physically and mentally assaulting me.
When i confronted against her wrongdoings she made me look like a mad person infront of my sisters and neighborhood by saying bad things about me. She prepetrated violence over me.
I endured all the pain and suffering to myself even though I didn't deserve any of these.
I started to confront her only when i was 20. Eventhough i didn't really understood what's going on. But in the corner of my heart i always knew that this is not right. But i couldn't do anything about it. She didn't give me a chance to think and try to resolve it. Infact she made sure that I do not take any decisions on my own. She was eating my head 24*7.
I waked to the police station when i was 21. But the police officers to complaint about the abuse i have been through. But she made it look like i did not like the marriage proposal she offered(which actually happened), that's why I go against her and she pledged there that she will not insist me on marriage again. And the case where closed.and they did not take my complaint as well.I was a shy kid that cannot speak in the crowd.
One thing I wish I could have done is reported it to the police while I was still a minor and gone publicly while i was still a kid.
The things I have learned from my abusive relationship with my mother is
1. Always believe your gut feelings
2. Act out before it's too late
3. Do not doubt yourself.( I often did this. She was always playing with my reality. Even at the extreme level of abuse we still have a soft corner for them because they are our parents.Remove that from your heart, say repeatedly yourself that they are not gonna change and they are Gaslighting us)
4.Do not fear about the consequences (often worried about the future and thought ican not be become anything without the shelter they gave. You are 100% never gonna make it yourself if you are with them, if you leave them you have at least 50% chance)
5. Only say truth no matter what the outcome is.(not to them,if you report it)
6. Socialize
@@firstlast-rp6zn it never ends until you cut off that person from your life as long as you are around them it will keep getting worse
Being able to remember the abuse vividly from YEARS ago is what gets me. Truly traumatizing. So sorry you had to go through this. I too was abused so I understand your pain:(
I think it better make distance from them as soon as possible. Livingwith them is just like destroying your own mental health.
U know making distance is also so difficult u decide go out to live and ur by urself and in the big whole world u feel so lonely ,alone and left out . I tired that 2 times it was so so difficult
Thank you for sharing your story about family abuse to encourage those who are being abused to gather the courage to escape! Abuse is horrible no matter how you define it. But it's especially disgusting and troubling when abuse is hidden behind "traditional and/or religious norms" because of one's culture and the extreme patriarchal society that a girl/woman grew up in. Everyone deserves love, respect and protection including young girls and women! So happy you are free!! :)
Thr patriarchy becomes more dangerous when even the boy of the family starts getting abused.
If i didn't have financial issues i wouldn't be here still
i’m so sorry that sounds so traumatic :( i hope you healing goes well ❤️ i deal with verbal and physical abuse as well from my mother
I'm a teen and I am going through same condition not only the restriction and violence in home my father is also a alcohol addicted . I have to suffer all this stuff and still I'm hopeless!
I don't know why me ... Why God did it
Same!! Hi i don't know you but please try to get help. Trust me on this. I went to get help today.
My story is just as same as you! More power to you girl! Congratulations on leaving them behind!!! 💕💕
I’m proud of you... Be strong
The thing that makes me sad whenever i tried to share my pain with anyone they would say maybe it is yr mistake and how can u say these things abt yr parents 🥺
I really can't stop my tears.. by seeing this cz I feel like I also seeing my past which I still struggling with don't know about future kiyaa hogaa but m afraid .. ryt now
My dad is still abusive😭
Same
I am almost 40 years old, and I can say from my experience although it may take years to realize that you have been a victim of abuse and toxicity by parents, and for Indian children it is not quick and easy to realize that because of the cultural and religious dialogues we are brought up on, but once you realize, PLEASE ENFORCE STRICT BOUNDARIES AND DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. Be a good human being, and please be smart at the same time. It is possible to be good and smart at the same time. Learn to say NO, show anger and courage at the same time! PLEASE BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND, AND GIFT YOURSELF THE TASTE OF FREEDOM AND INDEPENDENCE! Go liberate yourself!!!
I admire you so so much, you have no idea. You are an amazing, strong and brave woman and honestly you're an inspiration to me and a lot of women. I'm so proud of you. I truly truly mean it. And if you're able to share this story now it's thanks to YOUR strength and braveness. YOU'RE AMAZING. I'm glad you're better now. I love you so much ❤️.
Thank you for sharing your experience, I too faced the same childhood just like yours, still crying while commenting here, it something that people not gonna understand until faced by themselves, I too had abusive father and my mother also nevertheless couldn’t raise her voice, but I left that man and moved with my mother and sister in different city, but while u go back in your past these things makes you really think of what we had in our childhood, that terror, physically and mentally abused, i hate that man to the extreme, might be Karma is there and it will revert him back
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What about parents who are abused by their child. No one talks about parents being tortured. I am facing abuse by my son. It's endless struggle
Mam, I am 30 yrs old guy and a father of 4 month little baby girl , I am suffering from the same thing from my father , point of cleaning TV and calling you back by your father forced me to comment , I am beaten by my father from belts , thick water pipes etc, thick water pipe he has taken from hardware and put it inside his cupboard just to beat me for no reason whenever he gets any kind of tension from outside in his work , I am stucked between the dharma and karma and I feel like that if I will take any action against my father then it will be against my dharma but I am also ashamed of myself that I get beaten up at this age and still my wife supports me at this time also , today she is at her parental house and before I watched your video I got beaten up by my father with that water pipe just because I verified something from someone which he had already told me, so he beated me that pipe just because he thinks that I doubted him and that why did I verified with that person because my father thinks that he is above all and he knows everything , I am literally ashamed about myself mam and I don't want to suicide , I really want to......
Buddy i would recommend you to move out of your house along with your wife and daughter. They're your family they'll stand by you. And please take a legal action against your father as no violence should be taken from anyone even if they're your family members. Also, share your feelings with your wife
Please move out , leave your parents house otherwise dear it wont be you only who will be getting effected but your child your wife too
Give them a safe place and have that for u too its hard ik to speak up to someone u have afraid all your life but take this step if not for you for your child ! You dont want same trauma for her
Thank you so much for uploading this video. U just saved my sinking boat.
I have been mentally abused by my father all my life I completely know how it feels because he made me feel worthless my whole life but life goes on and you just have to come out strong and fight for yourself and be POSITIVE that life will be better ......
I feel so sorry for you...but also I am so proud of you that how you have grew yourself into such a strong women ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I hope things will keep getting better for you, Suni. Physical, psychological, and emotional abuse is never okay. Everyone in that toxic environment needs to get out of there as soon as possible. 18:07-18:37 I can relate to you on this as I was told this statement by my abusive mother myself. She obviously lied to me and my sister.
this was only possisble after u got married , but what about to those innocent girls who are just at their teens and have no clue to take even a step , i am suffering from this since past 19 years
Mother is the actual enemy of any girl I can relate with ur story but I ll never leave my dreams for my toxic parents. Each and every word u r saying is same what I am facing. My mother says she has given birth so she can kill me. My fault is that i do what my heart says but i have always been an excellent student never had any bad record never messed with anybody, still I faced this much. My mother is a real curse I feel. I know people will judge me but this is true
I'm glad you finally decided to do the right thing. I wish other women have the strength to standup for themselves
Hey Nitsy i am 21 years old... My father is also a very abusive man.... And he hit me today... My mom says it all my fault... I just cant do anything cause i am still not a graduate
@@chetnachandravanshi6851 dont worry dear... I wish all ur problems go away... Stay safe dear
@Fardeen Hussain thanks for asking at this point i m doing okay... Trying to avoid all the problems and trying to handle everything safely...
how are you doing now? did u manage to move out
Yo bro :) ... after watching till the last millisecond there was not a single moment I could distract away from your emotions. i wanted to say a lot to wish you find more courage and strength , and to tell that we are all here to support you but again I see you have fortified yourself to not look back with regret upon the past which indeed made you who you are today and in the end you are living a beautiful life. I am sure for those who can relate their situations in any certain-es these words you have spoken today are like a magical powder that could be combined to create a powerful spell to heal their thoughts.
Dj says : If I can give you a character from my fav super heroes I would give you the Wonder Women:)
Thank you soo much for the support! it means a lot :)
Well done Suni. Very sorry to hear of the tough times you went through. Happy to hear how you battled though and came out of the vicious cycle. You’re an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story
You deserves all the happiness, it is very sad to hear all these things.. Stay strong like this always.. God bless you ❤️
I feel seen, thank you for putting this out there.
My story is same like u but no physical abuse it was mental abuse it's so hard to grow in a environment like this there is no one to support you understand you ur not allowed to question why is this happening i used to see my friends talk to there father like a normal way but now I'm 26 and still I am in so much fear to talk to him but thing's are slowly changing but not completely its intensity is lowered sometimes u dbout on yourself that why a ur facing this and still alive with this
I am 25 years old and I have also faced a lot of trouble in my upbringing because my mother always considered herself smarter than others. Because Due to his behavior, I was bullied since childhood, I did not have any friends in school or college, now people think that I am afraid of you. Since the age of 16, I have taken the right steps in life.
Thank god for your existence! You are such a great soul! This world runs thanks to smart and strong women like you and many of us who keep fighting against gender-based violance. You are perfect, such a great inspiration.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience 🥺. I am myself being abused by my mother emotionally and I hope to have my freedom one day. 🙏
I ve faced bad to worse from my younger brother. .broken nose mental abuse physical abuse all even even my dad was beaten in old age age he age he is age he is no more..he tried to kidnap me and dragged me on road in dec 2021. ..
I ll share later my story..the house unfortunately is in his name. .slap is a small word..my mom always supported his all things.aame my mother said u ll be killed abused etc...shamed I don't have money..to fight for case she ll not support me..only to support my mom is was quiet I only raised voice I faced hell..pls raise voice girls..do not compromise. If I was strong my mom was strong my dad was alive. I follow buddhism so much strong.nd I forgive people but never forget.
Stop the person hand even 1 slap..if my mother was strong ve not hided my brother behaviour 10 yrs back my father was alive today..I had better life even her life was better..his son left run away from home new yr I raised voice ..on road I ve not cared it was enough for me. ..so seeing the facts coming on road he left says mummy kicked him out..she was almost in depression later in a month I took breath 10 yrs. .
I was happy so happy..but I'm taking care of mom alone..she is recovering but he comes every weekend abuse her mental. .nd i shout on him hush him if he cross limits with my mother...I stopped crying from 3 yrs now..m strong. .I ve anger issue major. .I know I got depression too I ve all kind of fears..I hated guys to cum around me..still so m not married. .people saved me on 23 Rd Dec last yr my brother dragged me on road saying I'll teach u a lesson. .til gate gates cum I kept shouting leave...I kept kept praying inside...I kept was not strong phycally strong..but I msged my friend all people on road wer walking I still remember all faces..but people from far village of crossed our colony nd helped me..all used to hate that person afraid as they r dangerous people called .one was a lawer for me he is sent by God. My mother still said don't call police she was crying on downstairs unable to understand what my brother was doing...people said call the police my you mother said no...nd my brother disgraced me saying I don't marry I want property. ..I have bf ..I'm of this age..etc whatever he can so village people get confused. ..but he run away as saw the crowd my mother said police ll take advantage of a girl how u ll manage alone u don't ve support what people ll say no one ll marry u..so many things but my concern was my mother health..which she ll never understand. I was not weak I already decided I'll leave house..nd noo contact..I also can't waste my energy on this anymore..
But again after few days 31st he tried to abuse my mom...was making her crying video so I was loud nd almost completely on my road shouting. ..ant's in got support this time..same people cum nd some people tried time make nylon brother understand he did same disgrace me..this time people understood little he is abusive so threathen him too..
Nd his bag was packed as he has to go to party with his bad friends so he said something to my mom nd left..saying u kicked me out...it's was so happy frankly after 10 yrs I ve not breath. ..
I was living in a jail ..but after a month I realised my mother got deep anxiety issue as she was too attached to brother she used to feel he is male etc....protectector as he abused her so much given fear to her..she was having attacks I dealt all alone took care got doc online etc whatever I can..but he comes every weekend ruins all..nd leave shw is recovering but slow..I ll leave the house as get into regular job can't leave her alone for even hr it's tough..I ll share all later..thank you so much for encouraging inspiration
Thank you for sharing your story. Your father was a sick man and your mother betrayed you. No one should use their helpless child as a punching bag. There is no accountability for child abuse, and many people suffer in silence. It's time to talk more about it. Also, this is so prevalent in Asian cultures (I'm Chinese) and our system of honoring the family keeps the abuse going, that needs to change.
This happened in our society.
Dear the biggest mistake we can make is forgive these toxic people who prove us wrong again and again , never do that
Hope you find loads of happiness moving forward.. you are a brave girl. More power to you!
I don't know whether I should comment this here... But...
One day my father was really stressed out of work... So without any legitimate reason, he hit me and my sister with belt, I was so sad I couldn't express it, It felt like it was a dream and laughed it off... My mom was seeing it, but she did nothing.
It is about last year, I guess my life is better now because my father stays somewhere else now.
Thank you so much for having the strength to make this video and to be truthful. Many stand by and look the other way and it is so healing to see you speak with such courage.
Hi Nitsy, i am not able to figure out from where to start writing, as i can relate with this kind of situation, living with a Narcissistic
Gender biased family and there are hundreds of such incidents which took place during this whole period of violence. I can understand your pain your trauma but the good thing is that finally you came out of all this and now living a happy life. I don't think anybody in this world can digest women's happiness. This is just a mental entrapment that such gender biased people create around so that they can engulf women's right to live freely and rule over them. It is very much possible to crush such terrible mentality, to raise the voice and to teach them a life long lesson what they deserve. I support you, take care of your self and be happy always 🙂
My father and my brother is abusive as hell.. And currently I m going through severe depression because of them. If someone is going through the same situation ..please can we talk?
Hey, can we talk?
At least your mother was on your side, my mother was on my father's side, now I am disabled, they were never punished
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I'm so sorry for what happened with you. More power to you! I can really relate to you.
m 25+ have worked for a year and half still my dad shouts and yells at my face like a devil and still controls my life...and every single thing every single decision is taken by him.I dnt talk to people not even on fon as he interrogat es every single detail abt the person I talk to.I dnt go out..,m not allowed to go out ,not allowed to go work in different states or cites where I get jobs.no boyfriend allowed or male friends.wenever my dad is out of station for 2days a week I try to go out but my mom takes charge and informs my dad and doesnt allow.im just eating wat is provided and sleeping doing household chores.
Hi same situation how are u?
I can't thank you enough for putting this. This is somewhat my story too and what you said about your brother. I am shell shocked to see my younger brother turning into my father. A splitting image. All I can think of is self preservation at this time. And if that means completely cutting them off from my life so be it.
Even my parents are abusive so I will leave them.
i will leave them toooo
Even my dad bro
same i will also in sha allah
Same I will also leave them I have no respect for them no feeling nothing for them toxic minded specially my idiot devil mom 🥺🥺😡
Definitely I will leave them...I don't feel guilty about them bcoz how abusive they are
Went through same thing and one thing I can conclude is that some people don't deserve any woman in their lives
How anyone can hurt a child is beyond me. Generational evil. These people deserve jail
You inspire me and everything you said about every child being equal is 100%!
Ma'am thank you so much for making this vedio . First time vedio dekhi apki aur bhut achi lagi mujhe nhi laga tha ki yeh mostly girls ke saath hota h mujhe laga bass mere hi father kharab h anyways same situation happened with me , bhut problem chl rhi h ghr me my father used to beat my mother and even mujhe bhi abusive h bhut literally bhuut zada depressed ho gai hu m ess ghr me rh ke sooch rhi thi khi bhagg jau ya suicide krlu but phr soochti hu mummy ka kya hoga eslie nhi gai but ab apki vedio dekh ke himat milli aur m ab complaint karwane jaa rhi hu police station .
Apse insipre hoke m bhi L.L.B krne Jaa rhi hu .I am strong and I will fight for justice 🤞
This made me cry because it felt like you spoke about me i really want to leave this place, I'm just 19 and am so scared about everything, i can't meet my friends i can't talk to anyone it's just hard for me, i feel like giving up on life, it's scary to do anything. This made me cry so much
Same i am gonna turn 18 next year but i have planned out everything about my leave
Very true. Abusers feed on the fear of the victims!!! That's what my parents want to do on me.
My dad was really abusive and my mother would just say us to bear it. In India, parents think they could do anything to their kids just because they gave birth. I studied hard and left the house. I literally hate them to the core of my heart. I have shared with my indian friends amd they say its normal, i think most indians dont know the difference between small general fights and abuse.
I am totally agree with you. I'm in exact situation as you were, the only difference is here older brother is abusive and mom wants me to tolerate him as she supports him. I'm still trapped with these demons. Looking a way out. I am studying , trying my best but don't know exactly how I'll get rid of them. I am afraid too. Older brother is so abusive and almost a killer type personality.
Can I talk to you ? You may guide.
In my childhood I was bitten up by my father and My older brother.It ended When I took a stand against them.I was 22 when It stopped.But luckily We are a happy family now.But yes Sometimes We have to Treat the people even if it's your family the way They treat you.It is just a shameful that sometimes Our Moms are not helping Us even if once she was a daughter herself.😢😢😢😢