Here is the link to all my best resources: beacons.ai/narcabusecoach/ chapters 00:00 introduction 02:01 To Secure a Permanent source of supply 05:02 To Use You as A Vessel
I attended all the hospital appointments myself, one hospital visit that I had to stay overnight to be monitored, I had to drive there myself, and carry all my overnight bags myself, while he was there at the birth, i remember him shouting at me and being nasty, after our baby was born I was the only woman in the maternity unit with no visitors, as our baby grew into toddler & boyhood, he did nothing at all with our child, never took him to the park once, or outings on his own, it was as if he couldnt look after his own child. Break free from your narcissist ladies, believe me, it doesn't get any better.
I'm very sorry for what you've experienced. You mentioned having to carry all your bags & drive yourself to your own appointments. Ive lived many of those moments as a young boy watching my mother go thru moments like yours wit my two younger siblings father. I have no doubts that man has a cluster b type personality disorder. I remember wishing I was stronger and bigger watching my mom struggle carrying so many things everywhere we went and only helping what little I could usually carrying the lightest bag she had. While she had most. For what it's worth I need not even know you. To even witness you in any one of these moments I would have helped you I'm sure more then you would have expected in that moment. I let my heart guide me I attribute that to my mom. The part I didn't know growing up even in my early 30s is how Good hearts attract bad people. For me unfortunately 17 yr wild roller coaster ride with my narcissistic ex. She got me in many ways I admit. Some I'm still healing from a year and a half after my discard. The hardest thing is to not let them win the war and take your heart. I refuse! My heart is mine, it's what makes me.....me. I'm sry for blabbing on I really just wanted to let you know that being on the other side of the fence still, there is good out there. To adapt and overcome these miserable people. They truly love their karma and don't even know it. I hope your doing ok and healing the best way you can....take care.
thanks for sharing your story. i’m sure there’s more horrific moments you’ve experienced, keep your head up. i actually experienced something similar and has to deliver my baby with my mother. i thank God he wasn’t by my side and me and my toddler are moving and thriving. count your blessings God has been mercifully
I've never seen another human being describe what happened to me. Normal people just can't grasp the pain and isolation. I was the same with no visitors and I would have to watch the dad's come in and hug their wives and be so joyful. Mine finally showed up and stood at the end of the bed with his arms crossed like he was waiting for a bus. He left after a few minutes and a girl said "wow he looks thrilled" I was so humiliated. I think back to every moment that should have been special and could cry over how he managed to destroy anything good.
The first time I slept with him he couldn't stop asking if I was pregnant a week later. Said he'd be happy. 2 years later he was the happiest when I got a positive pregnancy test. 2 weeks later when I miscarried he told everyone I faked my pregnancy so I could be with him. He trashed me for having a miscarriage and was never there for me throughout my grieving stage, only told me to get over it. We have broken up after that because he claims he got someone else pregnant. When I cried he told me I was barren and he can't be with me. 6 months later, just last week, he emailed me "why couldn't you just sustain the pregnancy 💔". Narcissists are just so heartless. I hope that it doesn't make me a bad person for being thankful I had a miscarriage. I would never survive with a man like this.
@@jbrown2908 Thankyou. I have blocked him everywhere. He is so unpredictable, One day he is trashing me for my miscarriage, then the next day he is telling me how he was broken and depressed over it too. He is currently living overseas for school and it's a good thing, I only am dreading the day when he returns which is a few months away, because he keeps saying how he is going to come look for me.
Making me pregnant within few months while claiming he had been infertile was the first sign of coercive control. He had no other way to control me as I was independent within all the other areas of my life. It was his only way to make me vulnerable,dependent and isolated….
Omg.. same thing happened to me. He told me he was infertile.. he can’t have kids.. we are 6 months together. I told him last week that I might be.. well low and behold he has distant himself gradually. These people are sick
Danish, you are 100% correct. Once my son was born in 2020, my narcissistic wife started abusing me so much. The level of abuse increase multiple fold. I felt that she was trying reverse discard with me. She left me and our son and moved to another city 6 months ago. She has not paid a single dollar of child support until now. I am a PhD student and struggling to pay for child support with my stipend, getting debts and also emotionally drained. Fighting to take care of my son and also finish my PhD. Ironically, my wife says that she wants full custody. I will fight until my last breath to get full custody. I don’t want my son to go through the trauma with his narcissistic mother. Please keep me in your prayers
@@jbrown2908 She comes to my home every other weekend and stays through the weekend just to show the world that she has not abandoned the child. Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏🙏🙏
There’s a youtuber called HG Tudor. He’s a narc expert. He does consultations to help you deal with your narc. He’s had tremendous success. He also helps you with the court system & help you protect you child from becoming a narc too. 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️🩹 it’ll cost money, but you’ll save a fortune in the long run.
My husband did the same. I held on bc I was comepletely financially dependent on him then he left in October. It’s been the most unimaginable pain and confusion yet I’m also free from his anger and lies. He treated me like a piece of trash he just threw away and also hasn’t paid a cent of child support. He thinks that his new partner will play mommy with my son and he is crazy!! He also accused me of cheating upwards of 200 times. It was such a painful shock and stab in the back once I found out the truth about everything three months after he left! He acts like he did nothing wrong!!
It saddens me to hear about your story, you are such a brave dad, your child is lucky to have you, we will all keep you and your child in our prayers. Amen.
Beware this big time! These people don’t give a crap about their children, or their spouse. Even after one expresses the boundary clearly! This is because they are so dense they can’t figure out that a child has never trapped anyone in a situation for life. These are also the children they use to hurt you during the discard phase. Narcissists don’t want a partner, they want a pet they can have there to look at them in adoration whenever they come home, and provide them with whatever other uses for which they need the person. Wanting kids or not is an irreconcilable difference and it cannot be negotiated. That’s an immediate end of a relationship.
The first thing he said to me when we decided to follow through with the pregnancy was "Well, at least now you won't break up with me" Bet. I ended things with him less than two months after our son was born
My now ex wife is a narcissist and we have a almost 3 year old and I filed for divorce almost 6 months ago. This video is very helpful and I identified with most of what was said here. My ex wife now has 3 children but non of them live with her. She doesn't want to be a mom. Its really sad. I filed for divorce and left her and took my son because it was the best thing for my sons future and our happiness.
@J Brown my relationship felt like one long trick question. All answers and actions are wrong and the way I felt was also wrong as far as she was concerned. Been really happy and feeling hope and confidence again since separation
When we were engaged, we talked about all the things we were going to do in our happy family. We were religious and did not get live together or have sex until after marriage. As soon as we were married (and he "owned" me), he wanted me to wait on him like a mother, boss me around like a child, and do all the "babysitting" while he persuaded his hobbies (gym, band, etc.) We never went anywhere or did anything as a family. I was the one always taking the kids to the parks and the museums. I was trying to homeschool and run the house, while he came and went as he pleased. I think he thought the kids were "pets".
You’re absolutely right I got pregnant from with a narcissist and your statement of having to do it all by myself is so very true because that’s what happened to kids thank you Danish.
I had a difficulty pregnancy the baby wasn’t doing so well but he didn’t care, every now and then i would wake up to him raping me despite knowing my bad condition. The day i had the baby he wasn’t there but the hospital had to call him because i had lost the baby, he only came because he wanted to look good in front of the doctors as soon as they left he wanted to go, so i begged him not to leave me alone, he stayed but he was so angry and was yelling at me all night i thought he was going to kill me, I don’t even know how i got through that night but i did, maybe its wrong of me to say but sometimes I’m grateful that the child died because he would have used it to get to me. I didn’t know what i was dealing with, and only found out about narcissism after i had left him. It has been 8 years now, I’m still healing but its so much better and channel’s like these really do help, so thank you 🙏
Goodness! My ex persuaded me to have a baby. As soon as I was pregnant, he constantly found fault with me, not looking radiant etc. He was there at the birth but wasn't much support. When our daughter came home, he wasn't interested in her, didn't want to deal with the crying baby, didn't want to help with feeds and as for helping at night! As my daughter grew, his behaviour continued, he really wasn't interested, never went to a school play or parents' evening. When I divorced him, all of a sudden he wanted sole custody etc. I realise now that pregnancy was a trap.😢
Why no pill or injection for you..... Women should protect themselves, regardless man not wearing protection, he failed, what about you, you could of prevented it by, making it no possible
Drove myself to the hospital bleeding during second trimester miscarriage, the narcissist wanted to watch football and told me " let me know how it goes " .We are divorced now.
This video is spot on! They use the your desire for a family to manipulate you. I got pregnant as soon as we were married ( he rushed me into marriage) as soon as our daughter was born he treated me terribly & was after other women. After i left him he was sent to prison, when our daughter was 1, he made 10 false claims to the police that i was harming our child. The stress caused me to suffer a miscarriage. He said the baby i miscarried wasnt his and accused me of sleeping with someone else! He refused the divorce and blocked me from being able to sell my own home so that i could move close to my family. I had a 2 year court battle just to be legally free & he tried to get half of my house & savings. He now is trying to get access to our daughter. I already know he has been trying to put me in a negative light to others. Fortunately so far the courts have denied him access. His own mother, step-father & brothers have disowned him. You have to be SO strong to fight against theses people because they refuse to back down. They are always one step ahead. Ive learnt that you keep fighting & do not give in to them
The subjects you cover speak so loudly as you must have followed me my whole 38 years of marriage! When I got pregnant I was thrilled, he was so cruel. He actually asked me, “is this what we are going to talk about this for the next 9 mo?” He would not discuss this with me at all or unless absolutely necessary. I had so much outside support I was able to get through it. He would not accompany me in the delivery room. He insisted we would not have a girl and as fate would have it we had a boy. Then he insisted on naming him his name. I felt all alone for sure. My son and I have a beautiful relationship, in fact he was the one who made me see that my husband was a narcissist.
Thanks very much for this deep knowledge. We can't know what wrong is happening with us except feeling pain, grief, loneliness, sorrow in both cases having child or abortions because marriage with such person is a trap of a devil, very difficult to escape. Life. Is hell with such person.
Wow he made believe and did everything to get me pregnant but unfortunately had a miscarriage and he left me all alone to deal w the pain and hurt I can just imagine if I had a baby w him!!! God knows what he is doing!!!! I pray to be able to have a baby w a good man 🙏❤️
I survived ! I was trapped by a narcissist ex husband who didn't give a shit about me or the fact i had just had a heart attack and he listened to no one. Everything he is saying is true 🙏 im so THANKFUL I ESCAPED!!!!
I want you to do a video on the woman being the narcissist because literally no one has videos or explanations on why this happened to me. She literally USES me and then claims I’m using her when she literally has nothing to offer
Dear Danish My take, you really do know your stuff Sorry you had to suffer so much to gain clarity Thank you greatly & kindly for the liberating insight that, everything they do is only for their self glorification. Regards & best.... John Pocock
Danish, I love you. Bro, would you mind telling me how many narcissists have you had in your life? Your incredibly good understanding of narcissism speaks volumes. I am dying to know you personally. Watching your videos is worth the effort! You need to materialize your insights in a form of a book.
Yep coerced into pregnancy and left to navigate it without him. Prior to and for years I was adamant about marriage and financial stability. Hence coerced. After we fell out, his enabling mom advised his job is financial after the baby’s arrival. kept my medical appointments and all logistics solo. Yes I felt like cattle. I love my blessing that has nothing to do with him.
Wow this is so true. For years I wondered how he used me just to have a baby. And after years of coparenting trauma now I am living the nightmare of my child turned against me.
It's like you watched me for 12 months and then created this video based on my life experiences. My estranged wife alienated my new born from me after birth. Everything she did matches what you said in the video. Thank you very much for making this video. This explains so much. Now I finally understand that this is a THING.
My husband forced pregnancy on me. It's hard to even write and admit this. He would close my legs together to make sure I'd get pregnant. I've just had my 6th child. He was raping my 8byr old daughter last year and she came and told me. It's been 7 months, going through divorce, we were married 7 years. This video is telling the truth. I was trying to avoid pregnancy. And again he forced it on me. I love my babies so much and now I'm a single mom of 6.
My gf went 200% in devaluation mode once she got pregnant. She was pushy to be pregnant and always throwing tantrums if I told her to slow down. When I rebelled and found out she was lying about a lot of things she discarded me. She also used pregnancy to push more and more tasks onto me, and I am not talking about heavy lifting, I am talking about emptying the dish washer. But no matter what I did, she would complain. She discarded me 2 months before delivery and I am now fighting to even have the right to know when my son is born. I was used. She just wanted my genes. Her father is a narcissist and he used his children to obtain the admiration he needed, because he was such a loser, only his children could give him any sort of appreciation.
Here's my narcissist ex told me after I've told him multiple times I don't want to be pressured into having kids: "This is not pressure, what pressure is you telling me to interrupt our natural biology so you can gallivant about the planet on your short-sighted vengeance quest that leaves the next generation entirely in the hands of your adversary and aborts my genetic line, and scuffs out my life purpose. Nothing about it is incompatible with your career or whatever, you've bounced from one excuse to another. If you really loved me we'd be together and have a family." "men should be fathers. Women should be mothers. It's biology. You can do other things, but if you don't procreate, it's pointless. It's the ultimate expression of trust and commitment and you're insulting the beauty of it."
She constantly told me through 1.5 years that all she dreame of her entire life is a family, having a baby. She was 24, I was 37 at that time. She cted kind, normal, you know the typical narcissistic facade. So I didn't see any warning signs. We live in my house, then we moved to another city where her flat and university was. She had her last year in the university, she owns a flat, I have two houses, so there were no financial problems. The plan was that after she finishes university we move back to my city, she keeps her flat, I keep one of my houses, I'll sell the other one and together we'll buy a bigger house. From her flat and from my other house we'll have extra income so there will never be financial problems. So U ws in her city (completly isolated from my family, friends, basically I didn't know anyone there), the first couple of months was fine, e were happy(as I thought), then she got pregnant. In the first couple of weeks she seemed happy, we attended the needed hospital appointments together, etc. Then all of a sudden she told me that she's not sure that she wants to keep the baby? wtf? I thought she realized the responsility being a mother, she got scared, which is natural, she'll overcame this. Well, that was not the case. She told me things like she'll decide that she'll keep the baby or not, if she keeps him/her she will decide if I could see a baby or not, maybe she will abuse the baby physically, sexually. For that I replied very calmly that If you try this I will kill you and you won't have an easy death. Fortunately she realized I was dead serious. For the following weeks I went to brutal verbal and physical abuse. She teared of mey tshirt, she claed my face until it was bloody (then she asked me why there's blood in the flat everywhere, she was completly psychotic), she throwed punched in my face, I woke to that she was standing next to the bed with a knife in her hand. And she was pregnant. I don't wanted to hit back, i don't wanted to cause any injury to her and mostly the baby. I didn't had any option just to endure her abuse. After one of her attacks when she calmed down I asked her what if if I call the police for domestic violence? She calmly said in that case I will tell that you attacked me, I jst defended myself, no one will believe you, 'cause I'm a pregnant woman. She was 100% sure that there won't be any conseqences of her behavior. I told this let's not try this. She was completly delusional. By that time I was really affraid that what would happen if she gives birth to our child. In a legal way here in Hungary it took years for a father to gain custody for a child over the mother. She told me she would physically, sexially abuse the baby. How could I save my own child? It was devastating. I realized that I have to stay, endure all of her shit, her violance becuse as long as I am there there is a chance for me to protect my child if she gives birth. She trie basically everything to brake me phisically, mentally, etc bust she didn't succedd. I think she realized that there's no chance to turn me into her lave, so she opted for abortion. That day when she ent to to hospital for abortion. From the hospital she sent me a message to leave her flat, she don't ant to se me tehere anymore. Of course her words was not that kind. I left her flat, and I came back home. I left all of my stuff there. The next day, after the abortion she called me and asked me that have I ever thought about suicide? Because that's the thing I should have to do. In the back ground I heared her sister saying "OMG, what did you say to him?!!". I was shocked, but I dodn't responded aanything really. She yelle through the phone that how can I be so calm?! (I had no other option.) Later I realized she projected onto me her own thoughts, feelings. In my opinion -since there is no cure for NPD, therapy is useless- these creatures should be killed when they're infants. With a brain scan it's possible to detect them(due to the damaged, not existing brain parts).
I coparent with a narc. Please know they will be very covert in how they will try to twist the child’s mind against you. I could go on and on. Either way, you are in for the fight of your life. The longer you delay, the higher the certainty that they will suffer way beyond 18.
My ex did this to me, I’m sure of it. Love bombed me and once I was pregnant he turned into an evil narcissistic scum bag who didn’t and doesn’t care about anything or anyone but himself. I’m glad I have my son but wish I had ran away at conception.
Thank you for your channel. I just found out I'm pregnant last weekend to be honest, I know that normally it's a bad thing to do but I'm debating not even telling the father about my daughter. On a lighter note, I love your fat kitty in the background. He looks like a wise old man like yes, you listen to kitty. I no steer you wrong hooman.
What is it with the mother in laws! Especially mothers of narcissistic husbands. They are almost always horrible, evil women who are the biggest enablers and flying monkeys. I caught my husband cheating on me with his 1st cousin, his mother’s niece, it had been going on for years before I caught them. This was the last straw and I left him after 25 years. And his mother and his aunt (cousin’s mother) is behaving like he and his niece have done nothing wrong and I am the bad guy for leaving him! Of course I am being threatened to not tell anyone about what they did and how abusive he was for 25 years on top of that. They have to look like they are good people to all their friends and the rest of the family, both immediate and extended. Not even his and his cousin’s siblings know what they have done. The mothers are keeping it even from their own other children. Unbelievably toxic, the whole family. So glad I am out. I wish I had seen them all for what they were sooner and left years ago.
Oh Danish. This video enabled me to comprehend something that has puzzled me much of my life. Coming from a difficult childhood home, of course, I confided in my parish priest. I met him at age 12. For the next 6 years he kept pressuring me to have sex and get pregnant with his children. I was flattered as a child. But he never made plans to get a job or leave the priesthood. Eventually I reported him to the church and was a writer of the Sexual Abuse Policy worldwide. But why want me to get pregnant by him? Now, I understand that the plan was to have a lifelong supply. Call me a “slut” and alienate the children from me for said reason. He could then win more supply from parishioners for raising these children by the mother that abandoned them. This makes me sick to my stomach because, I know…I really know…why he was pressuring me so much. It had nothing to do with me, or my children but to give him a lifetime supply from many, many sources. Thank you…unfortunately…for making sense out of these 6 years of my life. I wish I didn’t understand. But, it’s better that I live in reality. Maybe my story will help someone else.♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️
I know this happens a lot in relationships with narcs...but has anyone else had the experience of becoming pregnant due to narc father/mother. I was raised by a narc from birth. At 13yo, I told my parents I would be leaving them as soon as I'd finished my main school exams at 16yo, cos I didn't want to live in their 'madhouse' any longer than necessary. There followed a series of 'incidents' over the next 2 years, which ended with me having a positive pregnancy test...on the first day of my exams! I know that narc parents actively encourage self-destructive behaviour in their children (I was the 'scapegoat' child). The pregnancy was not a result of incest...but I am certain that I was coerced into this...all of those 'incidents' and everything in the video after the birth falls into place. I'd already told them adamantly that I never wanted kids from the age of 9yo. My dad was caught telling my (4yo) son "I'm your dad!" repeatedly! This video basically explains my life at that time.
My daughter is at this moment experiencing this today!! It’s very hard he doesn’t care about the child or my daughter lives his life jumping woman to woman doesn’t even have a stable place to live uses woman to live off but my daughter and grand daughter have support from us if not this man would have destroyed her mentally and this man is a officer of the law the saddest part off all and his family support him knowing his actions are so wrong 😢
I had three children with a narcissist, I was so lonely, I had the first one without him there, I had the second one alone, I even had the first one with me and he was forced to pick him up, and he left, and told me to call him after I had my daughter, the first two were with me when I was forced to have an early emergency C-section because of stress, he had to pick them up
Word by word is true Danish. What if after delivery I realise about the trauma I was going through and the trauma what my new born will go through and I decide to leave/ divorce my narcissist husband, what will be his next course of action? Please help
My sister got pregnant to trap a guy. She told him she couldn't get pregnant. Had a very bad pregnancy bc she had no idea who she was pregnant by. Divorced after 2 years. The kid does not speak to my sister. She could care less. She destroyed the guys career too.
Sometimes that narcissist who wants to baby trap you is... your own mother!!! Mine admitted she hopes I would accidentally get knocked-up by some random guy at uni who (presumably would then run and leave me a single mother at 21), because I was vocal about not wanting kids. She figured this would be her chance at getting the grandkids she so desired. When I pointed out the obvious issues with her dream, she reassured me that I could easily make a baby now and worry about finding a father for it later. She also totally brushed off the fact that I was an immature (by her own design) 21 year old, without a job and no basic life skills or support system. She wanted to convince me to trap myself with a baby I never wanted so I would forever be a struggling single mother who was miserable and dependent on her for financial help. She even wanted to buy "me" a house so I would never leave our home town. Of course, that house would have been hers 200%... and she planned to retire there so I could take care of her in her old age. 😬🤮
Recently I got to know that my ex husband has a daughter via IVF. He got married just after a month of my divorce n it was his third marriage. I really want to understand that it's been 3+ yrs how they are together n have a kid? Is that he living a content life without out lies, betrayal n cheating?
My daughter has separated from hrr narc husband. He kept saying he didn't want a child. Yet when she had to stop using birth control for medical reasons, he wanted sex anyway and wouldn't use protection. When she ended up expecting, he told her in a nasty and sarcastic way, "Congratulations." He had very little to do with the baby after she was born. He lied and told her he let us know (they weren't speaking to us), but he didn't. Ee found out 3 weeks later... But now that she has declared independence and left him, he is fighting for full custody. He thinks he'll get custody and somehow cut her off!
I married and had a child with a narcissist. He was verbally financial legally and psychologically abusive. He has not provided for his child. I’m divorced since 2008. He doesn’t spend time with his child rarely has.he just wants to play daddy when it’s convenient for him.
After 28 years of imprisonment I escaped 2 months ago.During these years I suffered a lot.i have no words To express my pain.Thank God I can sleep peacefully now
Hi Danish. My son has nars girlfriend who claim she is pregnant 14 weeks. Than she claimed she did abortion. My son texted her to end up. She started to call and flow all blaiming to my son. We have been searching how to deal with this but haven't found. Any suggestions please. Thanks
My friend married a narcissist when he was told she was pregnant. Big surprise!!! She wasn't pregnant at all. 14 years later...he cannot get away from her. Sad...
My narcissist boyfriend lied to me that he is unable to have children, that he did the test on that. I believed him. Luckily I didn't got pregnant with him, because he lied to me. How sick is that?
And I also was on some pills at the time for some of my medical condition then, so I was not allowed to become pregnant. He didn't even care on that at all, just thinking of himself and his needs!! Take care, ladies, from such Evil things that exist on this planet!
3 girls in 36 months with a narcissist. He kept messing with my birth control and then demanding sex by increasing his psychological abuse and then saying it was happening because I wouldn’t give him enough sex. Once I was pregnant, the devaluation and abuse increased tenfold. I had post paternal depression something terrible after my first and worse after my second. He refused to help me at all and told me that if I acted irrationally or reported the depression, the children would be taken from me. He also told me horrific stories of abuse that he’d inflicted on his other children (real or not) to get me to refuse to leave or risk them being alone with him.
Women control the relationships and access to their bodies, men control who and when they can even so much as see the seed, they need to be around, easy
After 6months of dating my narc ex , he kept saying he wanted a baby . He wanted to get me pregnant, if I got a girl pregnant I would marry her . In my culture marriage comes first before children. He just kept going on and on calling me backwards. He was just selfish trying to get his own needs met he was desperate for children but not commiting to marriage.
All children are blessings, but think long and hard about whether or not your body and heart are ready for an incredibly lonely pregnancy. There will not be anyone caressing your hair, your baby bump, rubbing your swollen feet, helping you carry laundry, bending down to help you when you're huge and trying to get something from the floor. They suddenly become too busy to bathe the other children or things that are downright painful towards the end.The emotional abuse will ramp up as they enjoy treating you like dirt until you cry and then berating you for crying "over nothing." He will probably be more tired than you, have more aches and back pain than you, need more naps than you and complain about anything you do to comfort yourself like talking with a friend, running a fan at night, literally anything that makes the misery bearable will aggravate him. You will also be cut out of their sex life the moment you put on weight, except for when you pursue him....if you're lucky and he's feeling generous. Think long and hard on this decision. The promises to love you and care for you during pregnancy are complete lies- and of course it will be your fault they don't care for you because of some crime you committed against them. Your baby will have a steady stream of stress hormones the entire time, then he will reject the infant/toddler because he dislikes his or her temperament. The child may naturally reject being close to the narc as well, kids are smart.
Wow my sperm doner begged me to have his child planed it out to sleep with me while ovulating got me pregnant and then discarded me before the baby was born didn’t show up to the baby shower and never came to the hospital when I was in labor. Our son is 6 months he still never came back to see him and left me to do things alone.
Not only with children but also with pets the same way. Any animal becomes their animal and they are the expert on it and criticize you if you fed it “wrong.”
Currently 6 weeks pregnant and getting a pill- abortion. At first I wanted to just do it behind his back and act like it was a miscarriage because he is a narcissist and abusive and I am trying to get out of relationship safely so I have been treading lightly…. But I did the right thing and came to him to tell him, look we cannot have this baby, this was not planned and we are not married yet- his response is bashing me, discarding me and being emotionally absent and angry… he claims we are both pregnant lol, first of all its my body, when we did the due-I told him be careful, after he did the due “he stated don't worry we will be ok” …. Rape? I am lost for words, so after many times giving him another chance in the relationship from all the abuse and hurtful things he did…. He said if you get an abortion Imleaving…. Like talk about mental abuse. I'm numb, as a woman who loves Christ… this isn't easy for me, but this man is a demon!
Oh my gosh I’m going through this exact same story right now.. I’m 5.5 weeks pregnant and never believed in abortion but I feel like I have to because I can’t have permanent ties with him. He said he will leave and block me if I get an abortion, but last week when we had the conversation he said he would support whatever decision I made.
@@madelynrowe girl dont do it! Im 5 months pregnant now and literally God is pulling me through without that abusive piece of shit!!! I am so happy inside, just feeling my baby kick and move and be so healthy, this is a blessing from God! We can do it
This beyond true. My baby daddy is a narcissist and I felt alone my whole pregnancy even though he was there but really wasn’t. Made me feel like shit everyday and still does.
But Danish My Husband Have Four Kids With His First Wife I am His Second Wife But He Used To Not Want Me To Get Pregnant Saying My Third Kid Is Small And Excuses Like These Let's Make Career First And Now I Have Been In My City From 9 Months Came To Know He Had His Fourth Baby Again From His First Wife Then Why He Didn't Wanted To Create Baby With Me What's The Logic?
They are evil and they want to control and destroy other people. And this is his sick way of hurting you. Narcissists are not logical: they are EVIL and selfish.
I was 16 when I met the narc. He was dating one of my friends sister and I remember telling them both I had no desire to meet him because I knew what type of men my friend sister dated. After one month of them bagging I said ok I’ll meet him. Huge mistake because he mirrored all my hopes, dreams, wishes, desires, morals and values. 6 weeks into our relationship I was pregnant and that is when the breadcrumbing began. Being a 16 year old girl I thought I hit the jackpot. Wrong!!!! FYI be very careful when friends or family or even coworkers want you to meet someone. Because that means the person they want you to meet already has all the information about you to hook you in.
He has been forcing me to get pregnant for years even though we have a teenager he barely pays attention to. I was on birth control and then stopped to give my body a break. The emotional abuse is so much so I literally feels no connection with him but he still forces himself on me and tried to make me feel guilty by saying he is my husband. My first pregancy was so stressful and I really didn't want to have any more children. I bought tons of protection and he would refuse to use it and now I have a positive test. I blame myself for not being more stern about not allowing him to force me into intimacy and now I really feel trapped because I am about to be 40. What kind of person disregards their partners decision to not have a child. I should have gotten help about this toxic situation before it came to this. Now I just feel lost especially since I am the bread winner.😔
The Narc doesn't want to have a baby with me. He has already 2 children with his first wife. And I know very well that his first wife is his main supply.
I have my first child with a female narcissist that always calls me a narcissist for some reason anyway we got pregnant which made my first child her 3rd child she lost her other 2 biys to the system,my probation officer ended up putting me in jail for 6 months she brought my son up to see me once all the time i was in jail she found another guy who is also a narcissist having my son around him she started back up shooting up Meth. Without knowing this new supply not even a year she gets pregnant which she recently still early on pregnant as she has her supervised visits once a week for a hour with our son and has no relationship with her other 2 boys. I have yet yo understand why she wanted to make another child or why should would do so not even knowing her new supply not even a year or why he would want to het her pregnant.
I broke all communication with her an have her blocked anything we see from each other is on my son's pediatrician. She's currently pregnant with her 4th baby with baby daddy number 4 he also doesn't take care of his prior kids nor help his other 2 baby mothers out. Damn shame I tell you.
My narcissist constantly abused me in my first and second trimesters of pregnancy. He would shout at me, kick me out of the house and do all these horrible things. He didn’t say sorry once. I was the only one trying to make things work. But, obviously, since I got pregnant, his attitude got 100 times worse , so he just wouldn’t listen to anything I had to say. He finally left when I was 23 weeks pregnant and not I’m 28 weeks and I haven’t heard from him since. No idea what he’s up to. He doesn’t text, doesn’t help financially. He just doesn’t care. That’s tough.
2020, He come home drunk (alcoholic) And he force himself on me, when he finished He would lay on top of me and in me passed out for hours, like 12 hours 6, 15, and did this until i became pregnant 😢 most tramatic exp of my life, quickly after preg, days and weeks into preg, that's where he was and became physically abusive. He ❤ beating his child in side me. I left 3 months preg but after 13 months ( not knowing about trauma bond) i went back moved him in and nearly died in oct 2022. Sept 2022 He was arrested and now is in jail🙏
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I attended all the hospital appointments myself, one hospital visit that I had to stay overnight to be monitored, I had to drive there myself, and carry all my overnight bags myself, while he was there at the birth, i remember him shouting at me and being nasty, after our baby was born I was the only woman in the maternity unit with no visitors, as our baby grew into toddler & boyhood, he did nothing at all with our child, never took him to the park once, or outings on his own, it was as if he couldnt look after his own child. Break free from your narcissist ladies, believe me, it doesn't get any better.
I'm very sorry for what you've experienced. You mentioned having to carry all your bags & drive yourself to your own appointments. Ive lived many of those moments as a young boy watching my mother go thru moments like yours wit my two younger siblings father. I have no doubts that man has a cluster b type personality disorder. I remember wishing I was stronger and bigger watching my mom struggle carrying so many things everywhere we went and only helping what little I could usually carrying the lightest bag she had. While she had most. For what it's worth I need not even know you. To even witness you in any one of these moments I would have helped you I'm sure more then you would have expected in that moment. I let my heart guide me I attribute that to my mom. The part I didn't know growing up even in my early 30s is how Good hearts attract bad people. For me unfortunately 17 yr wild roller coaster ride with my narcissistic ex. She got me in many ways I admit. Some I'm still healing from a year and a half after my discard. The hardest thing is to not let them win the war and take your heart. I refuse! My heart is mine, it's what makes me.....me. I'm sry for blabbing on I really just wanted to let you know that being on the other side of the fence still, there is good out there. To adapt and overcome these miserable people. They truly love their karma and don't even know it. I hope your doing ok and healing the best way you can....take care.
Im so sad you also went through that. Im about to give birth and im scared what will he do now
Thank you Stella, sorry you and your son were being used. Your sharing may help someone before it's to late.
thanks for sharing your story. i’m sure there’s more horrific moments you’ve experienced, keep your head up. i actually experienced something similar and has to deliver my baby with my mother. i thank God he wasn’t by my side and me and my toddler are moving and thriving. count your blessings God has been mercifully
I've never seen another human being describe what happened to me. Normal people just can't grasp the pain and isolation. I was the same with no visitors and I would have to watch the dad's come in and hug their wives and be so joyful. Mine finally showed up and stood at the end of the bed with his arms crossed like he was waiting for a bus. He left after a few minutes and a girl said "wow he looks thrilled" I was so humiliated. I think back to every moment that should have been special and could cry over how he managed to destroy anything good.
The first time I slept with him he couldn't stop asking if I was pregnant a week later. Said he'd be happy. 2 years later he was the happiest when I got a positive pregnancy test. 2 weeks later when I miscarried he told everyone I faked my pregnancy so I could be with him. He trashed me for having a miscarriage and was never there for me throughout my grieving stage, only told me to get over it. We have broken up after that because he claims he got someone else pregnant. When I cried he told me I was barren and he can't be with me. 6 months later, just last week, he emailed me "why couldn't you just sustain the pregnancy 💔". Narcissists are just so heartless. I hope that it doesn't make me a bad person for being thankful I had a miscarriage. I would never survive with a man like this.
What a horrible man.
@@jbrown2908 Thankyou. I have blocked him everywhere. He is so unpredictable, One day he is trashing me for my miscarriage, then the next day he is telling me how he was broken and depressed over it too. He is currently living overseas for school and it's a good thing, I only am dreading the day when he returns which is a few months away, because he keeps saying how he is going to come look for me.
In no way are you a bad person. (Someone else is.)
Girl you dodged a bullet 😮
@@stephybobo1991 I did and I brought him to court for assault.
Making me pregnant within few months while claiming he had been infertile was the first sign of coercive control. He had no other way to control me as I was independent within all the other areas of my life. It was his only way to make me vulnerable,dependent and isolated….
Omg.. same thing happened to me. He told me he was infertile.. he can’t have kids.. we are 6 months together. I told him last week that I might be.. well low and behold he has distant himself gradually. These people are sick
@@cressiddabreo5683OMG😱it seems like another pattern of those psychos. Be careful hun❤️
Danish, you are 100% correct. Once my son was born in 2020, my narcissistic wife started abusing me so much. The level of abuse increase multiple fold. I felt that she was trying reverse discard with me. She left me and our son and moved to another city 6 months ago. She has not paid a single dollar of child support until now. I am a PhD student and struggling to pay for child support with my stipend, getting debts and also emotionally drained. Fighting to take care of my son and also finish my PhD. Ironically, my wife says that she wants full custody. I will fight until my last breath to get full custody. I don’t want my son to go through the trauma with his narcissistic mother. Please keep me in your prayers
@@jbrown2908 She comes to my home every other weekend and stays through the weekend just to show the world that she has not abandoned the child. Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏🙏🙏
There’s a youtuber called HG Tudor. He’s a narc expert. He does consultations to help you deal with your narc. He’s had tremendous success. He also helps you with the court system & help you protect you child from becoming a narc too. 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️🩹 it’ll cost money, but you’ll save a fortune in the long run.
My husband did the same. I held on bc I was comepletely financially dependent on him then he left in October. It’s been the most unimaginable pain and confusion yet I’m also free from his anger and lies. He treated me like a piece of trash he just threw away and also hasn’t paid a cent of child support. He thinks that his new partner will play mommy with my son and he is crazy!! He also accused me of cheating upwards of 200 times. It was such a painful shock and stab in the back once I found out the truth about everything three months after he left! He acts like he did nothing wrong!!
It saddens me to hear about your story, you are such a brave dad, your child is lucky to have you, we will all keep you and your child in our prayers. Amen.
@@rabbitmontana233 Thani you so much ❤️🙏🙏🙏
Beware this big time! These people don’t give a crap about their children, or their spouse. Even after one expresses the boundary clearly! This is because they are so dense they can’t figure out that a child has never trapped anyone in a situation for life.
These are also the children they use to hurt you during the discard phase.
Narcissists don’t want a partner, they want a pet they can have there to look at them in adoration whenever they come home, and provide them with whatever other uses for which they need the person. Wanting kids or not is an irreconcilable difference and it cannot be negotiated. That’s an immediate end of a relationship.
The first thing he said to me when we decided to follow through with the pregnancy was "Well, at least now you won't break up with me"
Bet. I ended things with him less than two months after our son was born
My now ex wife is a narcissist and we have a almost 3 year old and I filed for divorce almost 6 months ago. This video is very helpful and I identified with most of what was said here. My ex wife now has 3 children but non of them live with her. She doesn't want to be a mom. Its really sad. I filed for divorce and left her and took my son because it was the best thing for my sons future and our happiness.
@J Brown my relationship felt like one long trick question. All answers and actions are wrong and the way I felt was also wrong as far as she was concerned. Been really happy and feeling hope and confidence again since separation
When we were engaged, we talked about all the things we were going to do in our happy family. We were religious and did not get live together or have sex until after marriage. As soon as we were married (and he "owned" me), he wanted me to wait on him like a mother, boss me around like a child, and do all the "babysitting" while he persuaded his hobbies (gym, band, etc.) We never went anywhere or did anything as a family. I was the one always taking the kids to the parks and the museums. I was trying to homeschool and run the house, while he came and went as he pleased. I think he thought the kids were "pets".
Hope you got out and live your happy and free life now.. ❤
Did you divorce him?
He thought YOU were a pet as well. That’s the way they see people
Snap! Exactly the same here!
I had 2 children with a narcissistic person and this is so true. The isolation and loneliness got worse with the second child.
My pregnancy was a tool for asking more dowry."If your child want a father meet my financial demands" .
You’re absolutely right I got pregnant from with a narcissist and your statement of having to do it all by myself is so very true because that’s what happened to kids thank you Danish.
I had a difficulty pregnancy the baby wasn’t doing so well but he didn’t care, every now and then i would wake up to him raping me despite knowing my bad condition. The day i had the baby he wasn’t there but the hospital had to call him because i had lost the baby, he only came because he wanted to look good in front of the doctors as soon as they left he wanted to go, so i begged him not to leave me alone, he stayed but he was so angry and was yelling at me all night i thought he was going to kill me, I don’t even know how i got through that night but i did, maybe its wrong of me to say but sometimes I’m grateful that the child died because he would have used it to get to me. I didn’t know what i was dealing with, and only found out about narcissism after i had left him. It has been 8 years now, I’m still healing but its so much better and channel’s like these really do help, so thank you 🙏
this is insane how heartless they are~!
Goodness! My ex persuaded me to have a baby. As soon as I was pregnant, he constantly found fault with me, not looking radiant etc.
He was there at the birth but wasn't much support. When our daughter came home, he wasn't interested in her, didn't want to deal with the crying baby, didn't want to help with feeds and as for helping at night!
As my daughter grew, his behaviour continued, he really wasn't interested, never went to a school play or parents' evening.
When I divorced him, all of a sudden he wanted sole custody etc.
I realise now that pregnancy was a trap.😢
The ex narc continually refuses to wear condoms. When you get pregnant, he’ll blame you. A total nightmare.
Why no pill or injection for you..... Women should protect themselves, regardless man not wearing protection, he failed, what about you, you could of prevented it by, making it no possible
Drove myself to the hospital bleeding during second trimester miscarriage, the narcissist wanted to watch football and told me " let me know how it goes " .We are divorced now.
Glad you had the strength to leave. Hope you are happier. I know I am.
I just told my narcissistic boyfriend I am pregnant his response was okay
That’s the worst! Thanks for shedding the light!!! ❤
💯 per cent . Exactly to the point . Thank you
This video is spot on! They use the your desire for a family to manipulate you. I got pregnant as soon as we were married ( he rushed me into marriage) as soon as our daughter was born he treated me terribly & was after other women. After i left him he was sent to prison, when our daughter was 1, he made 10 false claims to the police that i was harming our child. The stress caused me to suffer a miscarriage. He said the baby i miscarried wasnt his and accused me of sleeping with someone else! He refused the divorce and blocked me from being able to sell my own home so that i could move close to my family. I had a 2 year court battle just to be legally free & he tried to get half of my house & savings. He now is trying to get access to our daughter. I already know he has been trying to put me in a negative light to others. Fortunately so far the courts have denied him access. His own mother, step-father & brothers have disowned him. You have to be SO strong to fight against theses people because they refuse to back down. They are always one step ahead. Ive learnt that you keep fighting & do not give in to them
The subjects you cover speak so loudly as you must have followed me my whole 38 years of marriage! When I got pregnant I was thrilled, he was so cruel. He actually asked me, “is this what we are going to talk about this for the next 9 mo?” He would not discuss this with me at all or unless absolutely necessary. I had so much outside support I was able to get through it. He would not accompany me in the delivery room. He insisted we would not have a girl and as fate would have it we had a boy. Then he insisted on naming him his name. I felt all alone for sure. My son and I have a beautiful relationship, in fact he was the one who made me see that my husband was a narcissist.
I should have paid closer attention when she said I have baby fever after two weeks of dating.
We all fuck up . lol I’m pregnant now and ignored the same damn sign 😂
Thanks very much for this deep knowledge. We can't know what wrong is happening with us except feeling pain, grief, loneliness, sorrow in both cases having child or abortions because marriage with such person is a trap of a devil, very difficult to escape. Life. Is hell with such person.
Children gives them power .......
Danish your cat is so cute and I feel calm when looking at your cat
Wow he made believe and did everything to get me pregnant but unfortunately had a miscarriage and he left me all alone to deal w the pain and hurt I can just imagine if I had a baby w him!!! God knows what he is doing!!!! I pray to be able to have a baby w a good man 🙏❤️
I survived ! I was trapped by a narcissist ex husband who didn't give a shit about me or the fact i had just had a heart attack and he listened to no one. Everything he is saying is true 🙏 im so THANKFUL I ESCAPED!!!!
I want you to do a video on the woman being the narcissist because literally no one has videos or explanations on why this happened to me. She literally USES me and then claims I’m using her when she literally has nothing to offer
Dear Danish
My take, you really do know your stuff
Sorry you had to suffer so much to gain clarity
Thank you greatly & kindly for the liberating insight that, everything they do is only for their self glorification.
Regards & best....
John Pocock
Danish, I love you. Bro, would you mind telling me how many narcissists have you had in your life? Your incredibly good understanding of narcissism speaks volumes. I am dying to know you personally. Watching your videos is worth the effort! You need to materialize your insights in
a form of a book.
I want to thank you for this video, from the bottom of my heart ❤
Yep coerced into pregnancy and left to navigate it without him. Prior to and for years I was adamant about marriage and financial stability. Hence coerced. After we fell out, his enabling mom advised his job is financial after the baby’s arrival. kept my medical appointments and all logistics solo. Yes I felt like cattle.
I love my blessing that has nothing to do with him.
Wow this is so true. For years I wondered how he used me just to have a baby. And after years of coparenting trauma now I am living the nightmare of my child turned against me.
This is so so true!!
It's like you watched me for 12 months and then created this video based on my life experiences. My estranged wife alienated my new born from me after birth. Everything she did matches what you said in the video. Thank you very much for making this video. This explains so much. Now I finally understand that this is a THING.
Boy Danish you're a goddamn prophet we love you man!😚😚😚
My husband forced pregnancy on me. It's hard to even write and admit this. He would close my legs together to make sure I'd get pregnant. I've just had my 6th child. He was raping my 8byr old daughter last year and she came and told me. It's been 7 months, going through divorce, we were married 7 years. This video is telling the truth. I was trying to avoid pregnancy. And again he forced it on me. I love my babies so much and now I'm a single mom of 6.
I hope he is behind bars for rape.
I am so sorry. :(
? After sex she would cross her legs! Is that odd?
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️🩹
I hope he is in prison
✝️💜 love your channel thank u
Perfectly said
Wish I left never told him I was pregnant. So much pain would have avoided. We did leave four years ago.
My gf went 200% in devaluation mode once she got pregnant. She was pushy to be pregnant and always throwing tantrums if I told her to slow down. When I rebelled and found out she was lying about a lot of things she discarded me. She also used pregnancy to push more and more tasks onto me, and I am not talking about heavy lifting, I am talking about emptying the dish washer. But no matter what I did, she would complain. She discarded me 2 months before delivery and I am now fighting to even have the right to know when my son is born. I was used. She just wanted my genes. Her father is a narcissist and he used his children to obtain the admiration he needed, because he was such a loser, only his children could give him any sort of appreciation.
Here's my narcissist ex told me after I've told him multiple times I don't want to be pressured into having kids:
"This is not pressure, what pressure is you telling me to interrupt our natural biology so you can gallivant about the planet on your short-sighted vengeance quest that leaves the next generation entirely in the hands of your adversary and aborts my genetic line, and scuffs out my life purpose. Nothing about it is incompatible with your career or whatever, you've bounced from one excuse to another. If you really loved me we'd be together and have a family."
"men should be fathers. Women should be mothers. It's biology. You can do other things, but if you don't procreate, it's pointless. It's the ultimate expression of trust and commitment and you're insulting the beauty of it."
Yes, the narcissist begged me to have a "baby" than beat me up & than sued me for child support along with his mother.
their mothers is completely different level of junk, same to them but more grandiose, sharks
She constantly told me through 1.5 years that all she dreame of her entire life is a family, having a baby. She was 24, I was 37 at that time. She cted kind, normal, you know the typical narcissistic facade. So I didn't see any warning signs. We live in my house, then we moved to another city where her flat and university was. She had her last year in the university, she owns a flat, I have two houses, so there were no financial problems. The plan was that after she finishes university we move back to my city, she keeps her flat, I keep one of my houses, I'll sell the other one and together we'll buy a bigger house. From her flat and from my other house we'll have extra income so there will never be financial problems.
So U ws in her city (completly isolated from my family, friends, basically I didn't know anyone there), the first couple of months was fine, e were happy(as I thought), then she got pregnant. In the first couple of weeks she seemed happy, we attended the needed hospital appointments together, etc. Then all of a sudden she told me that she's not sure that she wants to keep the baby? wtf? I thought she realized the responsility being a mother, she got scared, which is natural, she'll overcame this. Well, that was not the case. She told me things like she'll decide that she'll keep the baby or not, if she keeps him/her she will decide if I could see a baby or not, maybe she will abuse the baby physically, sexually. For that I replied very calmly that If you try this I will kill you and you won't have an easy death. Fortunately she realized I was dead serious. For the following weeks I went to brutal verbal and physical abuse. She teared of mey tshirt, she claed my face until it was bloody (then she asked me why there's blood in the flat everywhere, she was completly psychotic), she throwed punched in my face, I woke to that she was standing next to the bed with a knife in her hand. And she was pregnant. I don't wanted to hit back, i don't wanted to cause any injury to her and mostly the baby. I didn't had any option just to endure her abuse. After one of her attacks when she calmed down I asked her what if if I call the police for domestic violence? She calmly said in that case I will tell that you attacked me, I jst defended myself, no one will believe you, 'cause I'm a pregnant woman. She was 100% sure that there won't be any conseqences of her behavior. I told this let's not try this. She was completly delusional.
By that time I was really affraid that what would happen if she gives birth to our child. In a legal way here in Hungary it took years for a father to gain custody for a child over the mother. She told me she would physically, sexially abuse the baby. How could I save my own child? It was devastating. I realized that I have to stay, endure all of her shit, her violance becuse as long as I am there there is a chance for me to protect my child if she gives birth.
She trie basically everything to brake me phisically, mentally, etc bust she didn't succedd. I think she realized that there's no chance to turn me into her lave, so she opted for abortion. That day when she ent to to hospital for abortion. From the hospital she sent me a message to leave her flat, she don't ant to se me tehere anymore. Of course her words was not that kind. I left her flat, and I came back home. I left all of my stuff there. The next day, after the abortion she called me and asked me that have I ever thought about suicide? Because that's the thing I should have to do. In the back ground I heared her sister saying "OMG, what did you say to him?!!". I was shocked, but I dodn't responded aanything really. She yelle through the phone that how can I be so calm?! (I had no other option.) Later I realized she projected onto me her own thoughts, feelings.
In my opinion -since there is no cure for NPD, therapy is useless- these creatures should be killed when they're infants. With a brain scan it's possible to detect them(due to the damaged, not existing brain parts).
I coparent with a narc. Please know they will be very covert in how they will try to twist the child’s mind against you. I could go on and on. Either way, you are in for the fight of your life. The longer you delay, the higher the certainty that they will suffer way beyond 18.
You described my situation 'to a T'!
Yes, I have been locked in for twenty years. May God help my son. 🙌🏻
My ex did this to me, I’m sure of it.
Love bombed me and once I was pregnant he turned into an evil narcissistic scum bag who didn’t and doesn’t care about anything or anyone but himself. I’m glad I have my son but wish I had ran away at conception.
He tried this one to me (verbally) and other tactics though it didn’t worked since I listened to my gut feeling telling me not to trust him.
Thank you for your channel. I just found out I'm pregnant last weekend to be honest, I know that normally it's a bad thing to do but I'm debating not even telling the father about my daughter. On a lighter note, I love your fat kitty in the background. He looks like a wise old man like yes, you listen to kitty. I no steer you wrong hooman.
To this, I can only say Amen. That is precisely what it's like. And I have never heard anyone discuss it except for me.
Thanks
The first and second people to hold my daughter when she was born were her father and my mother in law. 😡
What is it with the mother in laws! Especially mothers of narcissistic husbands. They are almost always horrible, evil women who are the biggest enablers and flying monkeys. I caught my husband cheating on me with his 1st cousin, his mother’s niece, it had been going on for years before I caught them. This was the last straw and I left him after 25 years. And his mother and his aunt (cousin’s mother) is behaving like he and his niece have done nothing wrong and I am the bad guy for leaving him! Of course I am being threatened to not tell anyone about what they did and how abusive he was for 25 years on top of that. They have to look like they are good people to all their friends and the rest of the family, both immediate and extended. Not even his and his cousin’s siblings know what they have done. The mothers are keeping it even from their own other children. Unbelievably toxic, the whole family. So glad I am out. I wish I had seen them all for what they were sooner and left years ago.
Oh Danish. This video enabled me to comprehend something that has puzzled me much of my life.
Coming from a difficult childhood home, of course, I confided in my parish priest. I met him at age 12. For the next 6 years he kept pressuring me to have sex and get pregnant with his children. I was flattered as a child.
But he never made plans to get a job or leave the priesthood. Eventually I reported him to the church and was a writer of the Sexual Abuse Policy worldwide.
But why want me to get pregnant by him?
Now, I understand that the plan was to have a lifelong supply. Call me a “slut” and alienate the children from me for said reason. He could then win more supply from parishioners for raising these children by the mother that abandoned them.
This makes me sick to my stomach because, I know…I really know…why he was pressuring me so much. It had nothing to do with me, or my children but to give him a lifetime supply from many, many sources.
Thank you…unfortunately…for making sense out of these 6 years of my life. I wish I didn’t understand. But, it’s better that I live in reality.
Maybe my story will help someone else.♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️
What a horrible experience. I'm glad yoy survived this.
Thank you for sharing this terrible story. My heart goes out to you.
So true they dont give a damn about yo health you are a worker bee to them
I know this happens a lot in relationships with narcs...but has anyone else had the experience of becoming pregnant due to narc father/mother. I was raised by a narc from birth. At 13yo, I told my parents I would be leaving them as soon as I'd finished my main school exams at 16yo, cos I didn't want to live in their 'madhouse' any longer than necessary. There followed a series of 'incidents' over the next 2 years, which ended with me having a positive pregnancy test...on the first day of my exams! I know that narc parents actively encourage self-destructive behaviour in their children (I was the 'scapegoat' child). The pregnancy was not a result of incest...but I am certain that I was coerced into this...all of those 'incidents' and everything in the video after the birth falls into place. I'd already told them adamantly that I never wanted kids from the age of 9yo. My dad was caught telling my (4yo) son "I'm your dad!" repeatedly! This video basically explains my life at that time.
My daughter is at this moment experiencing this today!! It’s very hard he doesn’t care about the child or my daughter lives his life jumping woman to woman doesn’t even have a stable place to live uses woman to live off but my daughter and grand daughter have support from us if not this man would have destroyed her mentally and this man is a officer of the law the saddest part off all and his family support him knowing his actions are so wrong 😢
True words.
I had three children with a narcissist, I was so lonely, I had the first one without him there, I had the second one alone, I even had the first one with me and he was forced to pick him up, and he left, and told me to call him after I had my daughter, the first two were with me when I was forced to have an early emergency C-section because of stress, he had to pick them up
Word by word is true Danish.
What if after delivery I realise about the trauma I was going through and the trauma what my new born will go through and I decide to leave/ divorce my narcissist husband, what will be his next course of action?
Please help
Happened to me twice...The first time I was 13 and forced by my 14 year old boyfriend. He said he wanted to make sure no one else would ever want me.
That is SO sad. :(
They do that. Don't fall for it.
Danish, i ❤ your cat.
My sister got pregnant to trap a guy. She told him she couldn't get pregnant. Had a very bad pregnancy bc she had no idea who she was pregnant by. Divorced after 2 years. The kid does not speak to my sister. She could care less. She destroyed the guys career too.
Sometimes that narcissist who wants to baby trap you is... your own mother!!! Mine admitted she hopes I would accidentally get knocked-up by some random guy at uni who (presumably would then run and leave me a single mother at 21), because I was vocal about not wanting kids. She figured this would be her chance at getting the grandkids she so desired. When I pointed out the obvious issues with her dream, she reassured me that I could easily make a baby now and worry about finding a father for it later. She also totally brushed off the fact that I was an immature (by her own design) 21 year old, without a job and no basic life skills or support system.
She wanted to convince me to trap myself with a baby I never wanted so I would forever be a struggling single mother who was miserable and dependent on her for financial help. She even wanted to buy "me" a house so I would never leave our home town. Of course, that house would have been hers 200%... and she planned to retire there so I could take care of her in her old age. 😬🤮
Sooo true
100% true
Recently I got to know that my ex husband has a daughter via IVF.
He got married just after a month of my divorce n it was his third marriage. I really want to understand that it's been 3+ yrs how they are together n have a kid? Is that he living a content life without out lies, betrayal n cheating?
True
Accurate
My daughter has separated from hrr narc husband. He kept saying he didn't want a child. Yet when she had to stop using birth control for medical reasons, he wanted sex anyway and wouldn't use protection. When she ended up expecting, he told her in a nasty and sarcastic way, "Congratulations."
He had very little to do with the baby after she was born. He lied and told her he let us know (they weren't speaking to us), but he didn't. Ee found out 3 weeks later...
But now that she has declared independence and left him, he is fighting for full custody. He thinks he'll get custody and somehow cut her off!
I married and had a child with a narcissist. He was verbally financial legally and psychologically abusive. He has not provided for his child. I’m divorced since 2008. He doesn’t spend time with his child rarely has.he just wants to play daddy when it’s convenient for him.
Your cat tho 😊
It's scary
It indeed is
After 28 years of imprisonment I escaped 2 months ago.During these years I suffered a lot.i have no words
To express my pain.Thank God I can sleep peacefully now
Hi Danish. My son has nars girlfriend who claim she is pregnant 14 weeks. Than she claimed she did abortion. My son texted her to end up. She started to call and flow all blaiming to my son. We have been searching how to deal with this but haven't found. Any suggestions please.
Thanks
My friend married a narcissist when he was told she was pregnant. Big surprise!!! She wasn't pregnant at all.
14 years later...he cannot get away from her. Sad...
My narcissist boyfriend lied to me that he is unable to have children, that he did the test on that. I believed him. Luckily I didn't got pregnant with him, because he lied to me. How sick is that?
And I also was on some pills at the time for some of my medical condition then, so I was not allowed to become pregnant. He didn't even care on that at all, just thinking of himself and his needs!! Take care, ladies, from such Evil things that exist on this planet!
3 girls in 36 months with a narcissist. He kept messing with my birth control and then demanding sex by increasing his psychological abuse and then saying it was happening because I wouldn’t give him enough sex. Once I was pregnant, the devaluation and abuse increased tenfold. I had post paternal depression something terrible after my first and worse after my second. He refused to help me at all and told me that if I acted irrationally or reported the depression, the children would be taken from me. He also told me horrific stories of abuse that he’d inflicted on his other children (real or not) to get me to refuse to leave or risk them being alone with him.
Women control the relationships and access to their bodies, men control who and when they can even so much as see the seed, they need to be around, easy
Its her
After 6months of dating my narc ex , he kept saying he wanted a baby . He wanted to get me pregnant, if I got a girl pregnant I would marry her . In my culture marriage comes first before children. He just kept going on and on calling me backwards. He was just selfish trying to get his own needs met he was desperate for children but not commiting to marriage.
Now she claimed that she dint do abortion which affects our family mental health. She demanding money as well.
Any suggestions would help please.
All children are blessings, but think long and hard about whether or not your body and heart are ready for an incredibly lonely pregnancy. There will not be anyone caressing your hair, your baby bump, rubbing your swollen feet, helping you carry laundry, bending down to help you when you're huge and trying to get something from the floor. They suddenly become too busy to bathe the other children or things that are downright painful towards the end.The emotional abuse will ramp up as they enjoy treating you like dirt until you cry and then berating you for crying "over nothing." He will probably be more tired than you, have more aches and back pain than you, need more naps than you and complain about anything you do to comfort yourself like talking with a friend, running a fan at night, literally anything that makes the misery bearable will aggravate him. You will also be cut out of their sex life the moment you put on weight, except for when you pursue him....if you're lucky and he's feeling generous. Think long and hard on this decision. The promises to love you and care for you during pregnancy are complete lies- and of course it will be your fault they don't care for you because of some crime you committed against them. Your baby will have a steady stream of stress hormones the entire time, then he will reject the infant/toddler because he dislikes his or her temperament. The child may naturally reject being close to the narc as well, kids are smart.
Wow my sperm doner begged me to have his child planed it out to sleep with me while ovulating got me pregnant and then discarded me before the baby was born didn’t show up to the baby shower and never came to the hospital when I was in labor. Our son is 6 months he still never came back to see him and left me to do things alone.
The men narc will tell anybody you've used him for having his children🤯🙈
How do you understand it all?
Not only with children but also with pets the same way. Any animal becomes their animal and they are the expert on it and criticize you if you fed it “wrong.”
My narcissistic ex gf wanted me to get her pregnant to trap her primary source....so always use protection....
Currently 6 weeks pregnant and getting a pill- abortion. At first I wanted to just do it behind his back and act like it was a miscarriage because he is a narcissist and abusive and I am trying to get out of relationship safely so I have been treading lightly…. But I did the right thing and came to him to tell him, look we cannot have this baby, this was not planned and we are not married yet- his response is bashing me, discarding me and being emotionally absent and angry… he claims we are both pregnant lol, first of all its my body, when we did the due-I told him be careful, after he did the due “he stated don't worry we will be ok” …. Rape? I am lost for words, so after many times giving him another chance in the relationship from all the abuse and hurtful things he did…. He said if you get an abortion Imleaving…. Like talk about mental abuse. I'm numb, as a woman who loves Christ… this isn't easy for me, but this man is a demon!
Oh my gosh I’m going through this exact same story right now.. I’m 5.5 weeks pregnant and never believed in abortion but I feel like I have to because I can’t have permanent ties with him. He said he will leave and block me if I get an abortion, but last week when we had the conversation he said he would support whatever decision I made.
@@madelynrowe girl dont do it! Im 5 months pregnant now and literally God is pulling me through without that abusive piece of shit!!! I am so happy inside, just feeling my baby kick and move and be so healthy, this is a blessing from God! We can do it
@@REALLIFESUPERWOMAN thank you so much for this encouragement ❤️ This is what I needed to hear. God bless you and that beautiful baby you are growing.
@@madelynrowe you as well lovely 🥰 dont worry everything will work out!! That baby will change your life !!!
Yes I'm a narc pregnancy survivor
This beyond true. My baby daddy is a narcissist and I felt alone my whole pregnancy even though he was there but really wasn’t. Made me feel like shit everyday and still does.
But Danish My Husband Have Four Kids With His First Wife I am His Second Wife But He Used To Not Want Me To Get Pregnant Saying My Third Kid Is Small And Excuses Like These Let's Make Career First And Now I Have Been In My City From 9 Months Came To Know He Had His Fourth Baby Again From His First Wife Then Why He Didn't Wanted To Create Baby With Me What's The Logic?
They are evil and they want to control and destroy other people. And this is his sick way of hurting you. Narcissists are not logical: they are EVIL and selfish.
@@janedoe5229 you mean he did that on Purpose? 🙁😟🥺😩
maybe she was primary source of supply, narcs are very calculated, so there must be some reasons for that
Had escaped from my narcissist ex by avoiding pregnancy tactfully 😉
I was 16 when I met the narc. He was dating one of my friends sister and I remember telling them both I had no desire to meet him because I knew what type of men my friend sister dated. After one month of them bagging I said ok I’ll meet him. Huge mistake because he mirrored all my hopes, dreams, wishes, desires, morals and values. 6 weeks into our relationship I was pregnant and that is when the breadcrumbing began. Being a 16 year old girl I thought I hit the jackpot. Wrong!!!! FYI be very careful when friends or family or even coworkers want you to meet someone. Because that means the person they want you to meet already has all the information about you to hook you in.
He has been forcing me to get pregnant for years even though we have a teenager he barely pays attention to.
I was on birth control and then stopped to give my body a break. The emotional abuse is so much so I literally feels no connection with him but he still forces himself on me and tried to make me feel guilty by saying he is my husband.
My first pregancy was so stressful and I really didn't want to have any more children. I bought tons of protection and he would refuse to use it and now I have a positive test.
I blame myself for not being more stern about not allowing him to force me into intimacy and now I really feel trapped because I am about to be 40.
What kind of person disregards their partners decision to not have a child.
I should have gotten help about this toxic situation before it came to this.
Now I just feel lost especially since I am the bread winner.😔
The Narc doesn't want to have a baby with me. He has already 2 children with his first wife. And I know very well that his first wife is his main supply.
I am a survivor, my baby is now 10 months...
I have my first child with a female narcissist that always calls me a narcissist for some reason anyway we got pregnant which made my first child her 3rd child she lost her other 2 biys to the system,my probation officer ended up putting me in jail for 6 months she brought my son up to see me once all the time i was in jail she found another guy who is also a narcissist having my son around him she started back up shooting up Meth. Without knowing this new supply not even a year she gets pregnant which she recently still early on pregnant as she has her supervised visits once a week for a hour with our son and has no relationship with her other 2 boys. I have yet yo understand why she wanted to make another child or why should would do so not even knowing her new supply not even a year or why he would want to het her pregnant.
The women who trapped me with a fake pregnancy called me a narcissist too… hmmmm
I don't talk to her I have her blocked but the only time she reacts or see's anything is messaging his pediatrician.
I broke all communication with her an have her blocked anything we see from each other is on my son's pediatrician. She's currently pregnant with her 4th baby with baby daddy number 4 he also doesn't take care of his prior kids nor help his other 2 baby mothers out. Damn shame I tell you.
@@daryleverettjr.8881 damn she needs help .. it is a blessing for you to have custody good luck
My narcissist constantly abused me in my first and second trimesters of pregnancy. He would shout at me, kick me out of the house and do all these horrible things. He didn’t say sorry once. I was the only one trying to make things work. But, obviously, since I got pregnant, his attitude got 100 times worse , so he just wouldn’t listen to anything I had to say. He finally left when I was 23 weeks pregnant and not I’m 28 weeks and I haven’t heard from him since. No idea what he’s up to. He doesn’t text, doesn’t help financially. He just doesn’t care. That’s tough.
Ummm, not all narcissists are female. I am female and was married to one, while I was raised by one.
2020, He come home drunk (alcoholic) And he force himself on me, when he finished He would lay on top of me and in me passed out for hours, like 12 hours 6, 15, and did this until i became pregnant 😢 most tramatic exp of my life, quickly after preg, days and weeks into preg, that's where he was and became physically abusive. He ❤ beating his child in side me. I left 3 months preg but after 13 months ( not knowing about trauma bond) i went back moved him in and nearly died in oct 2022. Sept 2022 He was arrested and now is in jail🙏
I get all that but why does he want us to have a baby when we're just friends
Plan to be barefoot and pregnant..and it will get worse afterwards