I kept hoping my father would 'see reason'. That was an emotional response, as I knew from experience he would not. He thought he had all the levers for me to bow down to his wants and the damage continued to accrue. So, I got a moving company to come pick up my stuff, and I left. To the day I did leave, he thought I was bluffing. You have to get to the point where you put the emotions aside, because they're standing in the way of reality.
Left a gaslighting husband. I tried for many years. Then just couldn't possibly take any more. I thought I was losing my mind. Truly. I had to leave to save myself. The peace of mind I later gained was priceless. Starting over with nothing was painful, but worth it. Several years later I met the love of my life. It all worked out for the best.
I have actually blocked family members on my phone for their toxic behaviors. I have also left a narcissist after 10 years of marriage. I recently left a toxic narcissist after 6 years of dating. My mother is a narcissist. I am trying to break the toxic cycles, but it is difficult since this is what I grew up with. I am in therapy and I am doing the hard work. When you have had enough you will leave. It gets dangerous at the end sometimes so please leave before you really get hurt.
I recently was on the receiving end of being gaslit by my brother. I have been ostracized by my family for 5 years. 2 years ago he at least admitted that it was happening. Two weeks ago he advised me that it was always all in my head. That I was basically nuts. That the family has always welcomed me with open arms. This…a couple of days after yet another family gathering of which I had no knowledge and to which I wasn’t invited. He even asserted that 3 of my siblings and my parents would be willing to sit in on my counseling sessions to let my counsellor know how off-base I’m being. He and I used to be close. This is very painful and breaks my heart.
Loved this segment ❤️ My mom allowed my step-dad to sexually abuse me. For years I held it in but 2017 I confronted her. She does not know how much damage she did to me.
Is not worth trying to get a person to accept their wrong doings. I know I’m not a perfect been and I take fault for the things I do wrong. I just cut someone from my life that was constantly gaslighting me, I didn’t even said good bye. Is not worth trying to get them to accept what they done.
I have slowly decreased contact with a gaslighting friend. I put up with it for several years and I just can't take it anymore. We still keep in touch by text but haven't seen each other in person for a long time. The check ins by text are very short and mostly consist of small talk.
Hard for me. My dad , my grandpa, my neighbour . And many people I don't know. They gaslighting me with make fake cough, fake throat cleaning. And now more days more loudly and yelling . I'm tired life
You've to be grounded to be able to tolerate gaslighting - i've given up on the money forms - most of the time my money is being controlled and is being used as a threat if i don't obey my parents - because i've a bad habit of overspending - but gaslighting me when they're broke and using my money is just a no go - and another gaslighting tactic is self pity. I've been putting up with my mum's self pity in public, so at times it can be embarassing when she puts up a show when shes in pain; but when shes at home shes okay. So when people see us in public, it looks as if she is a victim and i am the one who is to be blamed for not being able to help her. Sometimes i would want to breakdown in public because i don't know how to stand up for myself, for my beliefs, for my freedom. I continue to stay on in this family despite being gaslighted because of the self pity, the narcissism that goes along with it.
I kept hoping my father would 'see reason'. That was an emotional response, as I knew from experience he would not. He thought he had all the levers for me to bow down to his wants and the damage continued to accrue. So, I got a moving company to come pick up my stuff, and I left. To the day I did leave, he thought I was bluffing. You have to get to the point where you put the emotions aside, because they're standing in the way of reality.
Left a gaslighting husband. I tried for many years. Then just couldn't possibly take any more. I thought I was losing my mind. Truly. I had to leave to save myself.
The peace of mind I later gained was priceless. Starting over with nothing was painful, but worth it. Several years later I met the love of my life. It all worked out for the best.
I felt this: "You don't have to talk to people as much as they want to talk to you."
I have actually blocked family members on my phone for their toxic behaviors. I have also left a narcissist after 10 years of marriage. I recently left a toxic narcissist after 6 years of dating. My mother is a narcissist. I am trying to break the toxic cycles, but it is difficult since this is what I grew up with. I am in therapy and I am doing the hard work. When you have had enough you will leave. It gets dangerous at the end sometimes so please leave before you really get hurt.
Believe your own reality and accept that your gaslighter will never acknowledge your reality.
They probably don’t see reality
I recently was on the receiving end of being gaslit by my brother. I have been ostracized by my family for 5 years. 2 years ago he at least admitted that it was happening. Two weeks ago he advised me that it was always all in my head. That I was basically nuts. That the family has always welcomed me with open arms. This…a couple of days after yet another family gathering of which I had no knowledge and to which I wasn’t invited. He even asserted that 3 of my siblings and my parents would be willing to sit in on my counseling sessions to let my counsellor know how off-base I’m being. He and I used to be close. This is very painful and breaks my heart.
Loved this segment ❤️
My mom allowed my step-dad to sexually abuse me. For years I held it in but 2017 I confronted her. She does not know how much damage she did to me.
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Is not worth trying to get a person to accept their wrong doings. I know I’m not a perfect been and I take fault for the things I do wrong. I just cut someone from my life that was constantly gaslighting me, I didn’t even said good bye. Is not worth trying to get them to accept what they done.
I had to feel its enough to breakout one minute to the other...and its a very long road coming to this point & take action.
I have slowly decreased contact with a gaslighting friend. I put up with it for several years and I just can't take it anymore. We still keep in touch by text but haven't seen each other in person for a long time. The check ins by text are very short and mostly consist of small talk.
Hard for me. My dad , my grandpa, my neighbour . And many people I don't know. They gaslighting me with make fake cough, fake throat cleaning. And now more days more loudly and yelling . I'm tired life
You've to be grounded to be able to tolerate gaslighting - i've given up on the money forms - most of the time my money is being controlled and is being used as a threat if i don't obey my parents - because i've a bad habit of overspending - but gaslighting me when they're broke and using my money is just a no go - and another gaslighting tactic is self pity.
I've been putting up with my mum's self pity in public, so at times it can be embarassing when she puts up a show when shes in pain; but when shes at home shes okay. So when people see us in public, it looks as if she is a victim and i am the one who is to be blamed for not being able to help her.
Sometimes i would want to breakdown in public because i don't know how to stand up for myself, for my beliefs, for my freedom. I continue to stay on in this family despite being gaslighted because of the self pity, the narcissism that goes along with it.
Mind blowing!! Thank u soo much for sharing ❤
Been there, done that...
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Ryan looks like a Lord of the Rings character in this picture.