First Time Hearing Life by Sonata Arctica | Suicide Survivor Reacts
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Today I reacted to Life by Sonata Arctica from the Ninth Hour album. I think all of those who were requesting that I react to something a little less dark and heavy (while of course sticking to the mental health theme of the channel) will smile!
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Unfortunately Finns were 1st in suidicide statistics in Europe - now we are in the mid section.
Suicide mortality among young women under the age of 25 has even increased in ten years.
Suicide is a major cause of death in young people. In 2019, the proportion of suicides among young people aged 15-24 accounted for more than a third.
@@MustaLaatta a fellow finn here, am i also suicide survivor?
Sonata Arctica, nice! The singer and songwriter Tony Kakko is a friend of Tuomas of Nightwish, he has been there for Tuomas when he has gone through tough times. They have gone hiking together. I would say nature is very important to Finns. We have lots of forests
and 180 000 lakes and a couple of million saunas, many of them by a lake. When you go to a forest, or nature in general I guess, your blood pressure, stress level goes down. Sauna is also good for your health. I've heard there is a sauna boom in the US. A Finnish sauna manufacturer is just expanding it's production there.
Two baby swans hatched today near where I live, there are two more eggs in the nest. More to see tomorrow? You can go as close as 10 feet from the nest.
Helsinki Central Park which is more like a forest rather than man made park is a nice place to go to. It starts only a couple of miles from the city center. There is a fenced area for horses. There are usually about a dozen horses there. There are also small patches of land that lucky ones have rented from the city, where they can grow vegetables, berries, flowers...
If you were trying to sell me on moving there, you succeeded! The horses were the tipping point. When can I move in? HAHA
sure but without ponds and puddles, its way down :) (the number of lakes) - just kidding
As a long time huge fan of Sonata Arctica, I am glad you did the reaction on one of my most favourite songs. This song just lifted me up so many times I was down. The song is so well written, it is so deep in meaning. And I have had a chance to see them performed live so many times. Also if you ever get a chance, take a look at their songs like Replica or White Pearl Black Ocean, a bit older stuff than this one.
We need more happy metal like this out there :) sonata arctica are an amazing live band and are great story tellers. Loved your insight on the sonf
Now that's 2 ways to start my morning. Lots of positivity and listening to one of my favourite bands.
Loving the journey, Amanda
If people remember how to connect with nature and realize that they are part of it, our planet will be fine. That old tree in the video is at Lohja Finland, i have hugged that tree and drummed to ITS beat 💚
Thank you so much for your reaction! This song is a reason I'm here now. I actually had pretty much the exact same experience as you with being ready to commit suicide. I remember I had a playlist on Spotify playing that had just ended, and as Spotify does (or at least used to do), it started auto playing other songs. And this is the one that came on. It helped me realize that I DO have friends, that I DO have people who love me. One of the things I made myself believe was that if I had lost so much, why keep going? This song helped me realize, why should I kill myself? I was so sad because I lost so much, but if I took myself away from those who loved me, wouldn't that just put them in the same position I was? Life is indeed better alive. And you are correct, that is indeed the tree of life. Sonata Arctica is from Finland themselves. Thank you again for your reaction to this song! And everyone, go hug a loved one, tell them how important they are. ♥️
"Kiss While Your Lips Are Still Red"
@@Idefixu that's a really good one
It was a pleasure! Thanks for the support!
@@thehyperdragon same Hyper Dragon and made me a mega fan of these beautiful men from Kemi Finland.
Great! you're reacting to Sonata. I've been a fan of this band since I've heard My Land for the first time like 20 years ago. They have some really dark songs. The Caleb saga is a must with them. Also known as Stalker saga is about a boy who was abused by his father and grow up to be a really disturbed man and falls in love with a girl, they gor married but she leaves him so he starts to go after her. The songs are distributed in many albums and not in order. If you are interested: Caleb - 'Till Death's Done Us Apart - The End Of This Chapter - Don't Say a Word - Juliet - The Last of the Lambs. Of course they have a lot of uplifting songs. Tony Kakko, the singer, is a good friend with Tuomas from Nightwish. They usually take walks toghether and talk about a lot of things and you can see that many times, lyrics of both bands are about similar subjects even when they may sound really diferent from each other. Another good songs from this band may be Replica, about a man who comes back from the war with PTSD, Sing in Silence about a girl adicted to drugs, Paid in Full about someone with low self esteem because a recent break up and how he starts the healing process and starts loving himself again, As If The World Wasn't Ending about the pressure someone can feel to do everything right and how people judge him when he's wrong and the importance of having someone to support you during the bad times. I know this is not a music reaction channel, I just got carried away by the emotion of seeing a Sonata Arctica reaction and this are all songs about real problems in life with deep beautiful lyrics.
Those all tie into mental health!
Last Of The Lambs is part of the Caleb saga? I thought it was just the others.
@@corinna007 Yes it is. It's an alternative take from Juliet point of view. Some fans thinks it goes after the song Juliet, in some kind of afterlife/supernatural stuff. Others thinks it goes between TDDUA and The End Of This Chapter as it shows how much abusive and agresive Caleb becomes during their marriage. Tony confirmed this during an interview and it's also confirmed in the Talviyö page on the nuclear blast website.
@@MatiasJaruf good to know. I love that whole story; it's so dark but Tony did such an amazing job telling the story.
@@corinna007 It's an awesome story. I like when they put supernatural elements on their songs, but I don't think this story would benefit from it. Even with all the darkness it's a really grounded story. I always wanted they confirmed Shy as a part of the story too because I love that song and it makes sense. Shame it isn't.
This is the first time i hear this song, it is a great one.
Everyone needs happiness, it is great to both give and receive happiness.
I don’t remember who made this quote: ”No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted”, that is a quote i live by.
Great quote!
If You were born, You start to influence others. Even staying at home, not having social media, still You are having meaning to someone. Thanks for Your thoughtful reactions and all the best from Finland (city of Oulu), take care, stay healthy and safe 🤗 And, keep on exploring Finnish music 🤗
as i replyed to deadgirl superstar thank god your still hear .your such a gift to us all!!!
Aww, thanks love!
I too second "How's The Heart" for the near future.
Back to back the acoustic and full band version
@@tinoderyanto7668 I surely woulnd't complain a single bit, but let Amanda decide :)
I didn't know a thing about the band and had NO idea it would increase viewship!
@@MentalAmanda how's the heart is the song from Nightwish newest album, for acoustic version i suggest the one upload by planet rock channel. Welcome to symphonic metal genre :)
If you're doing Sonata Arctica, I honestly think you have to listen to their song The power of One, it too has some very strong lyrics
I love how much insight you share with every song! I've never heard this song before, but I think I like it even more that my first listen was with you and your commentary.
Seeing some folks suggesting "How's the Heart" by Nightwish and I agree! There's the lyric video for it and there's an acoustic version too, both are incredible.
Sonata Arctica are:
Tony singer/songwriter
Pasi bass and runs their social media
Tommy and co founder of Sonata Arctica drums and runs the webstore
Henkka keyboard/piano/keytar and vocals
Elias lead guitar
And to add to my last comment; JP Leppäluoto's other songs "Piilevää pimeää" ("Hidden dark") and "Kuoppa" ("Pit", as in a hole in the ground, or, in the context of the song, a grave) are about his own struggles with alcoholism and mental health. He's said that "Piilevää Pimeää" in particular is really personal for him, and you can hear it in the song. It's really emotional and beautiful.
I’m so proud of you Amanda
Hi Amanda! I’m new here and find you truly inspiring. I recommend Floor Jansen singing “Winner” on Beste Zangers. It was written by Tim Ackerman, who is sitting there as she performs it. It is about his brother in a wheelchair who has refused to give up. Tear jerker!
Just found your channel. Great reaction to a great song. You have a great channel. Sonata Arctica is such an uplifting band and they always make me feel better. I see them every time they come to Ohio. Keep being inspired and inspiring others.
Thank you for your reaction! It's so important for your mental health to have friends. For people who struggled with addiction and suicidal thoughts (like I did) it's essential. Therapy and a 12 step group was important for my recovery, of course, but still having a dear friend who always listened to me and gave me hope in the middle of my depressive and dark moments was so... I don't have words to describe how important that was for me. I learned from my friend that we should always be ready to ask from our loved ones: "How's the heart?". How are you REALLY doing? So that's why I'm recommending you your next reaction song: How's the heart by Nightwish, acoustic version: czcams.com/video/yYtkPpFYzOo/video.html
I'd be dead if not for the love and support of my bestie over the years!
That tree is indeed Oak of Paavola, Paavolan Tammi in finnish. Been there many times since I live quite near by it. How in the earth you did know that tree?
Actually stumbled across that during my time looking into Buddhism. It's on my bucket list to see.
@@MentalAmanda Kinda interesting Paavolan Tammi have some meaning even around of a world. Us locals, it is only a magnificent tree. Never thought it is a tree of a life.. Or anything else tbh. Ocf, it is one of the most beautiful trees in Finland. Have to say, I fell in love with that tree a first time I saw it.
Another great song to check out is "We Are The Others" by Delain, but before you do make sure you do a little research into Sophie Lancaster who the song was written for. A great positive message in the wake of a tragedy.
Seen them live three times, Sonata Arctica are an absolutely fantastic band. loads of albums, their music really tells stories... most famous one i think would be Full Moon, although Black Pearl White Oceans is well worth a listen to review.
Haven't listened to Sonata Arctica in a long time, but they have some great songs. This was beautiful. As long as we're enjoying uplifting music with positive mental health messages, I'd like to make a couple of recommendations:
Devin Townsend - "Spirits Will Collide" (czcams.com/video/AdHJurX0yVA/video.html)
Otep - "Perfectly Flawed" (czcams.com/video/2jy5hEClld8/video.html (excellent fan-made video that Otep gave her blessing to))
You're doing a lot to help those suffering with their mental well-being. Lots of love to you.
Thank you so much 💖
Hi mega Sonata Arctica fan. This song got me addicted to Sonata Arctica and the amazing Sir Tony Kakko. These beautiful men from Kemi Finland are so down to earth and humble. My friend Stevie has had a few beers with Tony the singer/songwriter.
The choice is always ours...great insight.
I DID walk away from everybody when I was around 25. best thing I ever did.....but the demons still lay within me. There still had to be a reckoning.
Absolutely!
Have you ever heard Winner by Floor Jansen on Beste Zangers 2019? It is a TV show where singers come together to celebrate each other's music. Each episode a singer is central and the others sing his or her songs or songs that have meaning to the central singer. Winner is about the brother of the central singer in a wheelchair and how the brother is still enjoying life. Floor Jansen makes him cry with her beautiful cover.
Apologies if this has been said before (the video is three years old after all, I still come back to it) but I've been thinking about that 'it is a dumb thing to say' line and I've come to believe it's more like an acknowledgement that he knows what he's saying will be seen as cheesy. Nothing wrong with that of course, cheese can be delicious and nutritious.
Another amazing Finnish band w/ ties to Nightwish. Check out Sonata Arctica song "I have a right"
So fun, Amanda! I joined you on the Pardon Our French zoom (Pascal, mais je suis une femme. ;) So very delighted by what you are doing. Bravo!
Salut! Je me souviens de toi! Merci d'avoir passer! Bienvenue!
Music has been a saving grace for me since childhood. I don't know where I would be without it. One song that has been really important to me is by another Finnish singer, JP Leppäluoto. It's called "World Lies Still". There's also a Finnish version called "Hiljaiset häät" (which means "Quiet wedding" or "Silent wedding"), and it's the only song that makes me cry almost every time, no matter which version. I think it's technically a love song, but for the last couple of years it has brought me a lot of comfort when anxiety and depression get me down. It would be nice to see a reaction, if you're okay with lyric videos or fan videos from concerts. 😅 And funnily enough, JP's first band was named Charon.
Sonata Arctica is my all time favorite band, and while Life is not really one of my favorites, I really like and appreciate the positive message of the song. Do you accept recommendations? if so, it'd be great if you can listen to Breathing and Caleb also by Sonata Arctica, and The Spirit Carries On, Wither and Far From Heaven by Dream Theater. Have a nice day, Amanda!
I like the two paintings behind you, the dark trees with the sun shining through. Very symbolic.
Thank you! Did those with my hubby at a wine and paint!
Welcome to Sonata Arctica world! You got to listen one of the few happy songs they have, most of them usually end up badly. ^^'
I like Life a lot, during the last European tour, it was the last song of the set list and it was great to finish the gig with celebrating life with everybody else in the venue.
first nightwish and now almost that sister band sonata arctica,damn i start liking you heavy :) thanx to great analyze and reaction and wonderful day there.
If you wanna react to one of the most emotional songs written, react to Offspring "Gone Away" (official video). If you know the backstory you'll never unterstand how Dexter was able to write and perform this song ever. Chills, anger, pain, tears. Pure emotions. 🙂
You said Dexter and I thought of the serial killer (look over my head in my videos!)
I've heard it many times, and I love the song. But somehow never translated the lyrics in my head and let them sink in. Thank you for pointing this out!
@@MentalAmanda Haha no. The singer of The Offspring is Dexter Holland. 😊
What a different reaction from the last song
The first video I watched with you was the Metallica song. That was a very rew open emotional reaction that was hard for me to watch. This one I loved what a beautiful smile. See if anyone else catches the part where you can see your really happy. What i saw was I really sweet smirk like you were enjoying it. You let us see some of your personality in this and its a little goofy. Loved it made me 😃
You should check out BTS’ song. They go in-depth with mental health issues and even has a campaign with the UN. I recommend songs like “Magic Shop”, “Blue and Grey”, “Epiphany”, “Answer: Love Myself”, and “So Far Away” and “The Last” by Agust D. There’s so much more songs but these songs are great to start with, they really touch the heart. And I’d recommend listening it with lyrics!
I have a song for you. Brother Firetribe "Big City Dream" is a song about following your passion, leaving the life behind that is not for you, leaving behind all those expectations that other people put on you, choosing to live your own life in your own terms.
Even a cactus might need some love... Just be careful!
Do I see a future IG post?
@@MentalAmanda Haha No, I seriously doubt that.
-But feel free to use it however you wish! :D
Nice that you liked my home town band!😊 but stilll Greetings from Finland (by Nightwish fan since 1998) ... And yes, we have to focus nowdays and tomorrow , not kill us because "yesterday"
Sonata Arctica....❤❤
Baby swans?! I'm in love already!
Sonata Arctica have song just for you... And it's name is "I have right"
And yes it is Oak of Paavola. I live maybe 5km away that tree and i'm don't ever see it live 😂
Go see it this week! For me!
Another great song guys!
Your music reading is really fantastic 👌, so I have 3 songs that you really must hear :
1 Kensington - Sorry (live op Pinkpop 2017)
2 Di-rect - Soldier on.
3 Epica - Kingdom of Heaven part 3 (stargazer reaction is with lyrics) 13:25 min. song.
That are songs with strong lyrics !!!!
Keep up your good work thanks 😊
This band is from finland your right more happy songs EPICA CRY OF THE MOON VIDEO can do some DORO all for metal thank you you fo good job love your captian american sheild and ghost rider very cool
I literally just turned around. I don't have a ghost rider so now I'm scared of what you're referring to! HAHA
@@MentalAmanda sorry your pitcher hanging on wall looks like him your shield is cool
you nailed it again! since i watched your reaction "the poet and the pendulum" i was impressed how you are able to listen to so many details! And your commends are so importend! Your generation realy needs to come back to nature and the things that makes them alive!!! So many bad influences, like you said; growing up as custumers and robots for the industrie...
"we are not alive, we ´re surviving every time": Aurora "home" from "all my demons greating me as a friend"
I have pretty strict restrictions for myself surrounding screen time, so I am not part of the crowd! I love nature and grass and trees and goats and baby ducks!
Nice reaction 👍👌
“Happy” songs seem to drag me down even more. Most all representations of Happiness in our society hinge on other people - a wife, a child, a friend. I need examples of happiness in isolation.
I totally get that! Try Dancing On My Own by Robyn, Thank You Next by Ariana Grande, Stronger by Britney Spears or Ridin' Solo by Jason Derulo 💗
@@MentalAmanda Thanks I’ll give them a listen! Only one I’ve heard of before is Britney Spears. There’s been some great metal covers of her songs 🤣
I agree..check " Hows the Heart " Really love that your doing all of this for mental health...too many so called professionals let us down...been through the dark times myself...found a wonderful guide to get out...glad your there to guide others..n.help people find that path again....
I did a skit a couple of months ago on what therapy felt like for me. You'll like get it. I was let down for over a decade and a half. So glad you found someone! I'm a message away if you ever need to talk!
@@MentalAmanda that's an amazingly comforting thought....and thankyou....Luckily I regained my strength and through a very open minded professional found my escape...I know I'll never return to that dark place again..I now fight for mental health for the elderly over here n its amazing how difficult it is...How services close ranks and stonewall you if you criticise or complain...but we need to continue the fight...you have my support and best wishes n I for one will always be here...Thanks n keep fighting..."make your mark"
Amanda I got a cactus 🌵 thorn in my eye when I was young so don’t ever hug 🤗 a cactus it’s quite prickly
Que ojazos. Aguante Sonata saludos desde Argentina
@Sonata Arctica Pasi let Tony know he helped this lady.
Oh! What a great reaction! You need to listen to Stratovarius - Hunting High And Low !!
Hey Amanda, I think I found YOUR song. Check out "Rivers" from EPICA. czcams.com/video/3rW7Vpep3II/video.html - It is beyond beautiful. You will love the music, the songwriting and of course the message. It is magic! If Floor Jansen is the goddess and valkyrie, Simone is definitely the siren. Goosies and tears.
Amanda I think you might even look like your mom even though I didn’t get too meet her in life
Falling in reverse - popular monster please
Finland will be part of your life now. Since you know a lot about Finland now it seems 💪💪💪
In fairness, I knew about the tree from years ago!
@@MentalAmanda Nice 👌
Amanda you look amazing 😻 even when you cry 😭 you are my type of girl 👧 and I think you’ll have some of your moms traits in you honey baby
Northern kings - Take on me
I'd really like to hear your perspective on this song: czcams.com/video/yht0WDdzGJM/video.html. It's called "Blessed Be", by a band named Spiritbox. They are Canadian, and fronted by a strong female singer. The video is quite something, as are the lyrics. There is a deeper meaning to the song more than just the video, and I believe it is something you will pick up on. Thanks!
Just reacted to it!
Hi not sure if you've already reacted too this 1 but 'James Arthur - Train Wreck' is an amazing 1 too react too💜
Amanda what song was it
That saved me? Breaking the Habit by Linkin Park
Blackbird by alterbridge live in Amsterdam plz plz plz
Hey if you want happy song do elan by nightwish and nemo if that helps stay strong your doing good thanks
Co-signed on Elan...the core message is "get out and live, and don't worry about what anyone else thinks".
I'd like to recommend "Alpenglow" by Nightwish for an upbeat song czcams.com/video/BheqVR4zr84/video.html It's my favorite. Elan's also really good. czcams.com/video/zPonioDYnoY/video.html
It's time por another positive band.
One with the more positives messages and lyrics. LOVEBITES
Check "RISING"
Failure or pride? The fear deep inside
Success doesn’t come with a few empty tries
Fortune and fame, seem easy to claim
But those who’ve succeeded defeated the pain
Why give up on a life that you love?
Play the game with no shame till the very end
RISE AGAIN - though you’re broken and scarred...
You can choose, not to lose, you can build it again!
DON’T LET GO - of what’s deep in your heart
You are free to fly, go and change your destiny!
Too late to change? The past will remain
But it’s up to you to decide on a name
Glory is not what miracles brought
The path you have taken will lead you the way
Why give up on a life that you love?
Play the game with no shame till the very end
LIVE AGAIN - with the vows in your heart
Even if you get lost in the darkest of nights
DON’T FORGET - that you’ve made it this far
Show your scars with pride and believe your history...
Sometimes we can’t see the light anywhere
Sometimes we don’t have our luck in the air
Almost like we’ve been left by ourselves
I’m alone, you’re alone, somewhere in the world
But open your arms, look up and you will see an endless blue sky
I believe, you believe, we will live out today
So it leads to tomorrow!
RISE AGAIN - though you’re broken and scarred
You can choose, not to lose, you can build it again
DON’T LET GO - of what’s deep in your heart
You are free to fly, rise above your fate!
LIVE AGAIN - with the vows in your heart
Even if you get lost in the darkest of nights
DON’T FORGET - that you’ve made it this far
You are free to fly, go and change your destiny!
ENJOY: czcams.com/video/Y_jrhzzcuRU/video.html
Hey did you get that link I sent you?
Where did you send it?
@@MentalAmanda it's right here please do a reaction to it. czcams.com/video/QfMiBkxkuMI/video.html
😘👍
Since your focus is mental health, I think this would be a good song for you to react to. Morgan Wade, The Night. czcams.com/video/MBvje6HlgXk/video.html
Far from their best song but they have a lot really cool stuff, especially in the earlier albums. Newer songs are... okay but not particularly exciting.
just look out for dog poo!
It's true we all face death one day.. Bt life doesn't stop there. Death is a check point, do you have the the ticket of life.
Trre of life is no tree of this world - but Jesus- That's why Adam and Eve were not allowed to eat from it when they fell to sin: to rebellion against life.
Connecting back to God, back to life, is the greatest quest of our life. To find that we are valuable. Valuable enough that God himself gave his life for us on the cross. Yeah, Jesus is also called Immanuel - God among us.
What if God was one of us? ... says one song. Yeah, wouldn't it be great?
Indeed - it's great indeed that's what Jesus is, still is. And he is just one prayer away from your heart, if you don't know him.
He's missing you, wants to be with us.
If you don't feel the need now, no urge - never mind. He'll there in your momnet of need. Just test him. CZcams has many witness stories of people from all walks of life, all religious and cultural backgrounds pretty much, telling Jesus helped in tehor hour of need. Just make the call - the phone number of God is Jesus.
I'm an athiest (left religion years ago) but I respect anyone and what they want to believe in 💖 I know I'm valuable. And I hope that if there is a God he is happy with the way I treat his creations and the life I live to serve.
@@MentalAmanda You have a good aim and intention. That is respectable. God is never against us doing real good to other people. He would like us to be perfect about it. It would be a good idea if we did good :) Just we're more like kids hugging a cat so hard it feels it needs to scratch its way to freedom. Then we cry and hate the cat - here add a sad smiley.
Yet he also knows we fall far short of that. at best our good deeds are still like a white shirt smudger dirt brown-grey, even pitch black at spots. So he doesn't demand the absolute from us - but instead gives us the pure white shirt, if we accept. Like parents who care for their kids.
You don't need a church to know that God lives: ycks in how many times we hop a house around on one leg and whivh directiomet other people's company and opinions help us not to get selfish and think we have all the answers ourself :) That's were the other church members are good.
Plus God loves family kind or relationship, not religious practices. He doesn't get ki
But God can prove himself to you on his own. After all, he' life itself - not some old dudw oon the cloud edge :)
Yet he cares about us deeply, so he doesn't want to leave us guessing. Like I think you wouldn't leave your kids guessing if you love them or not, but would lift them in your arms to hug them. You wouln¨t leave them hanging, to show you respect all habbits of child treatment in all the families
Yeah, not all the religions are the same. For God athesim is a religion too - he calls it witchcraft, Because in witchcraft people think they can manipulate the world to their liking - they try to coax the spirits agreeing on their own plans.
Well, God is life, so would life become, if life would agree to change based on the moods of us people? Some people would drop dead suddenly because another hated them, and wisjed them dead. Chaos that's in our heads, would unleash. Well, in media it's partly true: think od ´f all the monsters we have conjured in books and on screen.
Well, there are truely sinister things happening in this world. Like you know from school years already how mean kids can be in that age -let alone when the same hard heads get political power. The beating in the alley changes to nissile brandishing. This is also seen as religion by God. Or our worship of lust, or money --- so selfishness.
Sorry, tough topics ... but they are all in the mix. which is why a mere diplomacy that everyone can believe how they want just won't cut it. We need to have police, just to protect ourselves from some of the religious practices - sad smiley here.
The point of this is, it really needs to be the love that cares. If parents would always leave the kids to live how they choose, that would be neglecting - not love.