Why Narcissists Rage At You And What It Really Says About Who You Are.
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Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
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A narcissist hate and are very intimidated by empaths. An empath can see right through a narcissist's act. An empath, without even trying, shows the narcissist everything they aren't/lack. An empath attracts narcissist's like a moth to a flame. I've found the most effective way to deal with a narcissist is to go full door slam.
Yes, that is the only solution.
Unfortunately, that’s what I had to do to my family. Now I don’t have one but at least I’m happier.
You know me too 😢as a powerful empath I had an awful narc family all they would do was injure me 🙁
@@Powergirl838 same Cheryl. And it's funny cuz I adopted a G-D Mother and her name is Cheryl too hehe. We are Soul Family...and I'm your sister too. Love you and know you deserve only pure real non-abusive unconditional love. We all do. Stay Strong Cheryl..your angels and G-D and your soul family...we are with You💓😘🤗🙏🏼😇💪🏽✨💃✨💓💞🌈✨
FACT Jennifer
When they don’t get what they want.. they rage.
Affirmative! I've been through that many times.
@@JBSDIVERSIFIED ok
Very scary!!!
Yup all truth. It's still horrible 😟
@@JBSDIVERSIFIED oh do they ever...like a toddler on steroids!
They can’t stand you being happy so they do everything to destroy your positivity. Sick but true
Absolutely true. Very strange people who hate to see people happy
That’s what happen to me
Yeah I call them the happiness police... more like happiness gestopo
Oh my gosh! YES!
I said this to myself & then to some mutual fam thinking it was hyperbole, but hyperbole that sums up an issue, y’know ? It was a new-to me-observation but, I found my guitar broken the next day. My pwNPD had been absurdly set off by me peacefully figuring out songs on that guitar. She’d kept interrupting me every 4 minutes. I hadn’t lost my cool or even said anything: I was just enjoying my guitar. “Golly, it’s almost as if me having peace & calm offends her,” I though to myself. Next day, I come home to a broken guitar.
The narcissist hates everything about an empath because they can't be you
Toxic.Immature. Unstable. On point.
@11oyd77what are you talking about?
They have no inner joy...
They feel worthless because they are, in fact, worthless.
@Savagegent777 gold lol 👍😂💞
After 22 years of marriage, I've learned not to let him make me feel inferior, anymore. Now, I just pity him as a Narc. I'm just glad I'm not HIM!
Narcissist see everything as a competition but then they will look you dead in the eyes and tell you it’s not a competition 🤣😂🤣
I totally get it now…. 😳😳😳 Wow wow wow
@@NopeNotTodaySatanIt's very scary believe me😢
yes totally
Stay mad and stay gone--don’t care!!!
JustBeReal, my thoughts exactly!
💯✔
Love that phrase
Exactly how a person has to be. Don't care what they think. Who are they? "If GOD be on our side, who DARE be against us?"
They need someone to attach themselves to, or someone to attach to them.... like a LEECH, yet there is 0 emotional connection!
Yes, because they feed off you like a leech.
You are SO correct!! I have totally experienced this with mine. I’m so independent , not the narc!
A parasite they truly are...no doubt
Ive used the words parasite & leech prior to realizing that he was a narcissist until further educated myself with these videos. Now I see confirmation & Thank you for putting it in writing. It helps.
This so true
A life and soul sucking
Just attacked by my older narc sister. Last week she gave me 30 days to move out. I am a 70 year old Great-Grandmother, no car, poor health. She timed that just right.
She can be violent, and I threatened to call the police on her if she didn't get away from me. She flew into a rage! I got my door closed and locked, while that buffalo beat on it. I told she'll have to pay for her door if she breaks it. She went away to the kitchen. Lol
I may have a room, after I put in a prayer request at a church I love in the next town. It will be ok. Pray for me. 🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️💜
So sorry sweetie what you have endured at your age I pray that God open doors for you and that you be far from this person and that you have all of God's
I hope you're safe now. 🙏 ❤
HotSeat17 when your sister gets violent go to your room, close your bedroom door and call the police and don't tell your sister what you are doing because your sister will try to kill you if she finds out that you called the police to arrest and charge your sister for what your sister has done unto you so be also aware that Luke 21 says:
21 And he looked up, and saw the rich men casting their gifts into the treasury.
2 And he saw also a certain poor widow casting in thither two mites.
3 And he said, Of a truth I say unto you, that this poor widow hath cast in more than they all:
4 For all these have of their abundance cast in unto the offerings of God: but she of her penury hath cast in all the living that she had.
5 And as some spake of the temple, how it was adorned with goodly stones and gifts, he said,
6 As for these things which ye behold, the days will come, in the which there shall not be left one stone upon another, that shall not be thrown down.
7 And they asked him, saying, Master, but when shall these things be? and what sign will there be when these things shall come to pass?
8 And he said, Take heed that ye be not deceived: for many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and the time draweth near: go ye not therefore after them.
9 But when ye shall hear of wars and commotions, be not terrified: for these things must first come to pass; but the end is not by and by.
10 Then said he unto them, Nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom:
11 And great earthquakes shall be in divers places, and famines, and pestilences; and fearful sights and great signs shall there be from heaven.
12 But before all these, they shall lay their hands on you, and persecute you, delivering you up to the synagogues, and into prisons, being brought before kings and rulers for my name's sake.
13 And it shall turn to you for a testimony.
14 Settle it therefore in your hearts, not to meditate before what ye shall answer:
15 For I will give you a mouth and wisdom, which all your adversaries shall not be able to gainsay nor resist.
16 And ye shall be betrayed both by parents, and brethren, and kinsfolks, and friends; and some of you shall they cause to be put to death.
17 And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake.
18 But there shall not an hair of your head perish.
19 In your patience possess ye your souls.
20 And when ye shall see Jerusalem compassed with armies, then know that the desolation thereof is nigh.
21 Then let them which are in Judaea flee to the mountains; and let them which are in the midst of it depart out; and let not them that are in the countries enter thereinto.
22 For these be the days of vengeance, that all things which are written may be fulfilled.
23 But woe unto them that are with child, and to them that give suck, in those days! for there shall be great distress in the land, and wrath upon this people.
24 And they shall fall by the edge of the sword, and shall be led away captive into all nations: and Jerusalem shall be trodden down of the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles be fulfilled.
25 And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring;
26 Men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken.
27 And then shall they see the Son of man coming in a cloud with power and great glory.
28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.
29 And he spake to them a parable; Behold the fig tree, and all the trees;
30 When they now shoot forth, ye see and know of your own selves that summer is now nigh at hand.
31 So likewise ye, when ye see these things come to pass, know ye that the kingdom of God is nigh at hand.
32 Verily I say unto you, This generation shall not pass away, till all be fulfilled.
33 Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away.
34 And take heed to yourselves, lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfeiting, and drunkenness, and cares of this life, and so that day come upon you unawares.
35 For as a snare shall it come on all them that dwell on the face of the whole earth.
36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man.
37 And in the day time he was teaching in the temple; and at night he went out, and abode in the mount that is called the mount of Olives.
38 And all the people came early in the morning to him in the temple, for to hear him.
Luke 21
HotSeat17 your older sister shows that she is just like Judas Iscariot who betrayed Christ Jesus the only begotten Son of God for 30 pieces of silver.
HotSeat17 be aware that Narcissist hate it when you expose them, their hypocrisy and lies.
Fear not HotSeat17 because the living God, the Lord God of Israel shall rise up to your defense and deliver you from your older sister that persecutes you.
You ok❤?
I'm praying that things are better for you today. Blessings to you. 🙏
True story. My narc used to constantly poke fun at me for being predictable. From the food I ordered to the language I used. He would poke at the little things that made me who I was until I was so insecure I couldn't make the smallest of decisions without questioning myself. I never stopped being my authentic self and always eventually remembered my strength and got back up. He hated that. I'm fighting my way back and it's been tough. Having your life so intertwined with one of these individuals is so chaotic. I'm starting my life from scratch. But I'd rather scratch and claw my way out of the pit regardless of how long it takes than throw myself back in.
Your comment hits home with me. I went through the same ( 15 years with a live in partner. Plus from the past, my fathers narcissism growing up)- 2 years free and getting my self back more and more each day. Recovery is possible! Stay the course 👍👍
It can kill you ...run
I hope by this time you are doing well.❤ and don’t forget that gut instinct when starting a new relationship. I got right back into a narcissist web he’s not physical with me but has done some damage to my self esteem etc he can be verbally abusive. I’ve learned a few coping mechanisms to be ok I’m just kinda stuck I’m 63 and just retired so I can’t afford to be in my own. Sounds selfish I know but I’m dealing with it in order not to have any further damage
@@Mrgreenjeans578 I’m in the exact same situation. My husband is narcissistic and refuses to see how much he hurts me with his ridiculous need for validation all the time. He has about a 6 week cycle. Things are fine and I start to get comfortable and he gets in one of his “moods” or am not 100 percent in agreement about everything he thinks and he begins to escalate it into an argument and says triggering words that he knows will cause me to become angry. It’s like a game for him. It’s a game I wish I never had to play again. I hope you are able to find some peace in your home and I also hope the same for me. Being retired and feeling helpless is not something I thought I would be doing at 62 but here I am.
@@StarsHollow214 yes!!! About the cycle I’ve noticed that too. I kept waiting to see his action and behavior for Christmas but he didn’t explode 😳 I was kinda shocked. I did notice something though I decided since there were so many people to buy Christmas for this year I suggested we make each of our families a Saran wrap ball and he said he’d do one while I did the other that shocked me😳 but anyway we were at the table with a huge pile of little gifts and candies well he’d never made one so he was being really careful and was trying to be perfect it and little candies were falling on the floor etc and he was getting so upset and mad cussing every time they would start to fall etc I remained calm but every word was gd and I hate that word but I was watching him and I said honey it’s not a competition and he said really hateful what? And so I said it doesn’t have to be perfect and don’t even think about it just grab some stuff and place it and wrap. I know his dad was mean to him and I believe he caused some damage like he wasn’t good enough. I mean he was trying so hard to make that ball perfect!!! It was kinda sad. But I’m dealing with it and don’t let him make me crazy!! I hope you’re doing well
I experienced a narc rage once.
Fueled by liqor.
It was so insane.
I could sense I wasn't addressing a human being but an actual demon.
Its crazy.
They froth at the mouth
The only time my X Narc didn’t rage was when he was stoned on weed, which was the majority of the time.
Oh yeah it was insane, scared the shit out of me. It was over nothing, a stupid game of pool.
Yeah very scary because then you really find out they are demonic
@@suzannemitchell560 YES! I thought I married a mild mannered stoner but what I got looks like a narc whenever not high. It’s like he was self medicating whatever this sickness is...how stupid and naive of me.
@@romainecalm1108 So true right ?!?! Once during a very heated conversation, he RAN for his pipe bong to take a hit to calm himself down, it was rather comical. Blessings!!
No one will ever break me because I belong to the Lord!
Thank you for your hard work.
Amen, I feel the same. Darkness is always afraid of light.
C’mon now 🙏🏾 Amen. #keep it moving UP ⬆️
Amen to that
Amen God is great 🙏❤️
Amen. No weapon formed against us shall prosper! Isaiah 54:17
When the narcissist first yelled and screamed at me after I was kind and loving it bothered me but it came to me, don’t allow him to yell & scream at me. I stood my ground and made it clear, if this happens again I will have nothing to do with you. The insecurity is over the hill, and you constantly dealing with a child throwing temper tantrums. I always before my encounters with the narcissist. Standing your ground loving life and the things you enjoy, be who God crested you to be.
I warned my client you rage on me one more time and I'm leaving. So I walked off the assignment but why do I feel guilty I hate that 😞
This is such a powerful & truthful video. I grew up in a toxic & narcissistic environment, & I’m still surprised I survived. Even in the darkest most uncertain times, I just always felt I was spiritually unbreakable. Light WILL always overpower the darkness in the end.
Absolutely! Even the Bible says " light expels darkness."
Facts
The limit is the Hovering Helicopter mom who is stunned her KIDS are__ ordinary. Very..
AMEN AMEN AMEN Brother!!
🙏
They are sad, miserable, toxic, in competition with you, jealous, etc. Live my life not for them but for me
This life stance enrages them more than anything.
They have no life force and steal it from you... energy vampires!😒😄
Yes! I've always felt this competition.... everything is a competition... and jealousy... and it never stops...
@@d3402 they are immature ppl shows you how there mentality is always in competition
@@d3402 yep.. they HATE the truth!,👽:-\^_^O:-)
This was my daily life for 25 years, I filed for Divorce 4 months ago.
After having suicidal thoughts , then getting into therapy, and much prayer, I knew in my heart, it was time ....
I left once I got to the point of suicidal thoughts! I knew I didn’t deserve anything he did to me! I ran away and never looked back!
You did yourself a favour girl...go live your life to the fullest,turn to the Lord...He'll give you the answers to your questions...l'm still with mine..mainly cause of the kids,otherwise l'd left him ages ago...he's much older now,pot belly,the hate written all over his face...before l didn't even know what the word 'narcissist' meant...when l started reading about it,l thought to myself..."oh my goodness,that's him..they're writing about him..!my hubs is a narc...!!..and that l'm not alone...l thought l was going crazy at one time...but things changed when l started to change towards him..he sees l don't give a shit...tough luck...l just feel like a rock towards him... he got what he asked for...!
@@Jackgritty28 both helped. Staying in that cruel, hateful man's own world of denomic Hell would had made me a fool. I stayed for 30 years believing he would change, until it was clear he didn't think his character or behavior needed to change.
No amount of love, trying to give my all, forgiving, turning the other cheek, not engaging, ignoring, was going to change him.
Only God can do this.
God has so much better for you NO man is worth it!!
Congratulation for taking that first big step! Don't hurt yourself over a narc.
I remember feeling excited about a trip and expressed a happy expression in front of my kids. He said "I hate it when you do that". I never will forget that. It was the creepiest thing I've ever seen and felt. Miserable little creeps they are. They don't need to have children.
Trips bring out the worst in them. They don't feel like they are in control of the family and they are jealous that other family members are excited.
Ur joy makes them annoyed 2 bad so sad😂
My [STEP -GRANDCHILD] preferred me over her real Grandmother ...she told me in a drunken moment..."You're Nothing!" ....I raised the baby since the young parents were drug addicted...a year and a half....broke my heart....the woman left me and our two kids rt before this Christmas.....unreal ...and nightmarish.
@@laurabfromvt6197100% correct.
Reading that hensaid that to you literally brought a small tear to my eye. 😢
Light exposes darkness. Shine your light. You are never alone.❤️🙏🙌🏻
They are never happy so they don’t want nobody else to be happy sad people
They hate you when you won't do what they want. I actually had to say
during a pressing time, "what part of NO don't you understand?" The reaction
I got was pretty severe, calling me names, calling me rude, and a 2 day silent
treatment. I swear that I held my ground, and would not waver under pressure.
It's really weird when you don't even know what they want..😂
Drug addicts do this too as they have narracistic tendencies. Tons of that too in this sad world.
@@Portia620 alcoholics too. I think they can be the worst 🤷
I wished my husband would give me silent treatment. That would've brought me peace.
@@Portia620 my perspective: a narcissist is a CONTROL ADDICT. They have none of their own and want yours, because they are JEALOUS of you. A 5yr old that didn't learn pulling the pig tails on the girl they like wasn't the way. They all need turns as submissives at the hands of a real Dominant that can teach self control.
Jealousy of family pets was the most shocking thing I learned about the narcissists in my life
Growing up in the narcissistic family, checks all boxes. More successful I became, more rage I received and more “wrong” things I did and liked according to the narcissists.
I graduated college with full scholarship with perfect grades and my mother said “your college inferior and weak”. My vacations were “wrong”, my dates were “wrong”, my hobbies were “stupid”.
I am a doctor but somehow my parents always have to say how dumb I am.
Last straw for me was when parents said after my husband cheated and left me “you see? No one would ever love you!” Later they said “no one wants a sick wife” ( a have an autoimmune condition, but never missed a day of work, and work out daily). Later when my mother decided to play “silent games”, my dad would write me that “you mom is in the hospital, you should call her” and that was lie, she stayed in the hospital one night to get a shot. She left the next day and for the rest of the week he was telling me that she is “very sick in the hospital”. From friends and other family I found out she is home and fine. That was a moment I decided to go no contact. Enough was enough.
I’m glad you got away!
I’m proud of you for what you’ve become despite all of their abuse! I pray God will bless you with the desires of your heart!
Weirdly they probably take credit for how successful you’ve become
@larissacats390…..Now that you are away from these toxic people…..are you noticing any improvements in your autoimmune condition? These abusive types can be the actual cause of people getting serious illnesses, including cancer…..the stress that they put on our bodies and minds is real.
But many have reported spontaneous healing after leaving toxic relationships.
Wow😮I am sorry you had to live that.
"It oppresses them to know that you are secure in yourself.... You refuse to be inferior... are strong and independent... your gratefulness... contentness... [genuine laughter]... [you don't require outside validation] These are things they do not typically have."
Refuse inferior quality validation,oppress the narccisst,fool💥
@@Jackgritty28 Don't even jokingly call them a "fool" or else you're the real fool!
Yes they want you to come crawling to the crew or the tribe and begging for a chance to get in but after seeing how these people treat me and seeing how they probably treat each other why would I want in on that
Lots of truth here, Kevin! A narcissist gets mad when they can't control your emotions and feelings. :) That's just confirmation that you are healing from their toxic influence. :)
Amen!!!! I’ve experienced this first hand!!
Yes, they get mad but they are not content to poke at us they need to bring others on board. If they cannot control you they will engage others to help them control you. When we are not controlled by anyone they cannot stand this.
I wasn't allowed to have any emotions and feelings, if I'd cry id get called a baby,if I got mad he would say "do i need to get mad" and the last thing I ever wanted was him mad
@@Wh0sR4yy Yes, I experienced the same exact things, they would say when I would cry, "you are a big baby", after I was grown they would say; "you are too sensitive." I would say if you know that I am sensitive about rude remarks then why don't you stop? OF course they would go silent and never apologize. Its as though they actually believed and still do that they did nothing wrong in being rude.
@Pedro Ivan Sanchez It's called the generation gap,fool💥
Narcissists attack you because you refuse to be inferior!!! Thanks for highlighting it!!! That was a huge revelation and confirmation of what I always thought myself.
That's so great to hear from someone else. If you say this to another person about yourself, it typically comes across as arrogant, which it isn't. It's just true. People who provoke narcissists by their nature are strong and calm. They have a purpose and meaning, and they don't need to make any noise.
Thanks for sharing!
This is so true. Narcissists refute equality in relationships so when anyone pushes back on that, the narc will explode in an attempt to maintain the status quo ie keep you in the inferior position.
@@anonnymous4684 Yes. They have very low self-esteem. They need to control others no matter what. They refuse to discuss their points because they have no arguments and often are just wrong. That's why they make such noise so that the truth remains hidden.
And they might even accuse YOU for being a narcissist.
@@SatanenPerkele yes, I experience this from my wife on a daily basis 😢
@@stebarg Yep, they simply tell on themselves by accusing you for the very thing they are/do towards you. It's very twisted. But once you know how it works, their lies won't affect you/have any power over you. Stay strong!
The rage is terrifying for a child. The snarling, hissing and cussing and threats what they'll do to make you and your mum penniless if mum leaves.
In a romantic relationship, I was raged at for letting out a cheer when an own-country athlete was first over the finishing line in the Olympics or when my son's favourite footballer was instrumental in their team winning the world cup. I was snapped at for 'screaming down their ear'. My revovery coach translated that for me 'DON'T be happy around me about anything that doesn't make me centre of attention'.
Thank you for this. Narcissistic rage is horrible to have to receive especially since it comes from someone who you once trusted.
Stop now
The covert stays quiet but the anger is bubbling underneath they complain to everyone else about you and ignore you. All part of devaluing and isolating you, they are trying to send you nuts.
So true !!
True👍👍👍♥️♥️
Yup!
True 💯
There's a good term I heard for that about them call the "weaponized withholding." If you're around long enough like I was, you'll become infected with creeping self-doubt you never had (NOR EVER SHOULD HAVE HAD) and almost be a fraction of yourself at the worst times. But I'm on the No Contact Autobahn and never looking back. Life gets a lot better once you get these clowns out. (Yet ironically you can get tricked into becoming dependent on these people unknowingly.. they're master manipulators.. because they give you just enough of the good stuff before another problem arises until they stop even giving you that that often or in any near dose that you used to get during the idealization days.. this problem hit me outside of romance and I think about a friendship I finally had to just let go of)
When you mentioned a narcissist getting mad at your laughter, I could completely understand. The narcissist that I deal with right now got angry at me one morning simply because I was smiling. I wasn't even smiling at her.
Mine began angry bc I was laughing in my SLEEP!! 🤷♀️
YEs, mine was asking me one time why I am always happy and smiling. There is nothing to smile about. I think I wasn't even smiling, but it made me so insecure that I tried to look more serious. Isn't that stupid? I can't believe how much control he had.
@@zg6045 - YESS!!!! So stupid, juvenile & disgusting behavior.
I’m so sorry you had to experience that nonsense. They’re nut jobs. It’s absolutely mind boggling how delusional & sick these individuals are. Seriously, what a pathetic existence they have. As you can tell I AM SO SICK OF THESE DEMONS!!!
@@zg6045yeah like what’s it to them fkn weirdos
Amazing! My father, my mother, my sibling, each at various points of lives could not stand me being connected with the family or friends in any fun or positive way. They despised that so much and I was not aware of that right away. I sensed their strange behavior, but was not suspecting any foul play. Why would I? They were also part of that fun group or situation. But, then they did the cruelest thing - they cut me out of the group, demonized me and gave me silent treatment. They won because they were persistant in their evil deed. I still cannot understand how hurting someone can make anyone happy? How isolating someone could make anyone sleep soundly? But it does.
The things he just said about criticizing you about your choices is literally 1000% sooo true 😔😔
I wasn’t allowed to laugh or joke. He used to mock me constantly or abuse me until I cried. They are pure evil! They love causing pain and trouble. Your pain is there pleasure!
Thank you. Great video 🤗
I personally believe narcissists are possessed by demons.
The mocking is the defining characteristic of- well, perhaps the rage if you don’t do what they want or call them out -in public- haha!!!
I learned not to cry in front of him. Because l think he enjoyed it.
My ex couldn’t say enough hurtful things to me. He got his mistress pregnant and now she’s stuck with him.😅
Thank her because she's done you a huge favor. She doesn't know it yet , but she's his next victim and one day soon she'll regret the day she met him .
I would love to walk away 😪30 years mind control is hard to break. I will overcome with God.
Me too! But now at 72 and in a marriage with my second narcissistic husband for 36 yrs now is difficult to just leave. Our daughter and her family live on the same street as us. My son is close by also. My husband was just raging and ranting today. He looked so awful. I just stared at him. It has definitely taken a toll on me all of it but I am actually taking better care of myself physically and still do things with lady friends etc. But have not been going to our church since the COVID and decided I cannot sit there while my husband has been a crazy person all week and then Mr Holly Jolly In church that day. And Jesus I know understands. My husband is a charmer in our church or in public of course. I don’t know if our Pastor sees thru him or not. Probably not. I’m sure that my husband has probably said things about me to our pastor to cover himself. He is not nor ever been married. I guess I am really waiting for Jesus just to call me home maybe.
@@deborahcollins1100 so sorry Deborah. Find a way out. It's never too late. Mine was an usher at church, all the while cheating on me and addicted to porn. I'm free now, so happy I cry.
Yes ...you can by the Grace of God alone...Victory belongs to God above alone....call out to him he is waiting for you
I did 30 years of bondage and I mean from the beginning but it was too young to understand but God brought me out of it not unscathed mind you but I know what they look like a mile away 🙏🏾
Do a 3 day water fast and pray about it. This will help you leave and break the trauma bond. TRUST! God will deliver you ♥️
My Grandmother, from my dad's side was a narcissist. That was in the 20,s, 30, 40, .. until she died in the 60s . No one ever knew. My husband was a narcissist in the 80s, no one knew this either. I had no idea what was wrong with him. Now we know, Iam glad we know more about this today.
Just angry every day...
all day for no reason... can't see or feel a person who truly loves them. Don't try....you will sacrifice yourself before they ever acknowledge it.
They are really a sad group...when you think it through.
They’re a very sad group and they get zero sympathy from me
@@chachiolivares5664 I agree! We can never let our guard down because of sympathy. They will use us up and move on to the next target and screw over someone else’s life.
My daughter has this, but also abandonment issues. Part of why she only had bad memories. Very sad to watch her pain. Always a bully, but she is still in there. I know her better now, that her symptoms are text book. Not my fault. Is there therapy or meds for this? I only hear from the abused, like myself. Just wanna love her, but she always hated just me. Then the anger spread when her lovely meth addict mother in law got her hooked. Taught her how to take it dry to earn money. But she's lies about ...well everything. Gotta save her children before they remember too much. I called the police when my 4 year old grandson yelled at me that his Mom could hit him if she wants. Not a freakin'' chance. Love to all survivors and our abusers. Take care everyone.
I have compassion towards others. But at times it's difficult. Especially with receiving punishment as a kiddo. Now grown with TBI so life b more challenging 4 sure.
They called themselves "a family " and also they used to say they were a "a nice group" . I refused to sabotage the company with them, they staked me even the union was with them. I had to leave the country to be FREE from those stalkers. They look like adults, behave like children with tantrums and their faces with rage is like to see the demons. It is hard to go through this experience but there is lights at the end of the road. God bless you all.
They’re angry because they can’t do what you were doing
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I needed to hear this❤ thank you. I am naturally joyful. I’m considered a highly sensitive person as well. But I’ve been married to a narcissist for nine years. I have always been an independent person, taking care of myself and my family and spreading love understanding, and joy all around me. The last nine years have been hell. narcissists are abusers at heart. They don’t need to beat you, but they work very hard at cutting you down taking away your joy, making you feel small, making you feel unsafe and worthless. I wouldn’t give in now he has walked out. I am having to rebuild from nothing. In my 60s… I am the phoenix and I will rise!!!
Awesome!!!
You had the warden walk away from imprisoning you...great things shall come from this for it is Written..."Resist the devil and he shall FLEE from you!"....
Nice goin'!🏋
I've had a narcissist scream and rage at me and then I apologized to them for making them angry and then they said still screaming, "I'm not angry, you're angry. I don't get upset over these types of things. I'm just speaking at a loud volume because you don't seem to listen to me. This is really more for your benefit that I'm telling you all this stuff. I could care less either way."
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You just quoted MY narc. He actually denies screaming while he's foaming at the mouth screaming, and then accuse ME of screaming (my voice is not raised).
Bruh
Makes me laugh (now) when my father spews out a blood curdling "I'm NOT ANGRY"! Pathetic baby man.
Yep. I heard the same.
Literally turn your backs on them, and ignore them. It's funny how if you pay attention, the rage becomes more intense. They will try whatever, say whatever to get YOUR attention. If it's to much to handle, just put your ear buds in, turn on your music, & ignore that shit!!! They want you to react. The only way, is to NOT engage. They want to purposely make you upset & angry. STARVE THEM PEOPLE!!!!! You shine brighter when you maintain your poise.
Yes Tiffany!!! Right on!!! ❤
I like the way you think!
Yes, at work they talk loudly and say random things like they have tourettes or something. Then its like you find your little area and they find a way to go over there to watch you or they send someone else to watch you.
@@jazzy9282 Yes I observed that too- they have tourettes - they do not control entirely what they say - they are really mentally ill - one at my previous job - I had to quit or it would danger my health.
Had to pray daily and focus on raising the Children. If I had know in younger years that he was Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I would have left him and NEVER had Children with all that RAGE around. I can't get my young years back but I left (with God's help) in my 30s. Something kept telling me, I did NOTHING to provoke the RAGE so why show I FORCE myself to TOLERATE it my entire life. He never said he was sorry, NOT once, the parasite!
Love that "you refuse to be inferior"; found you by accident on a day that I needed inspiration. Thank you.
Yeah, thank God. God speaks to us also trough the internet, CZcams. He is awesome!!!
Same
Amen only heard now narrissists talking about me again and all I'm trying to do is live my life,but as sure as God il live my owe live without been controlled by anyone 🙏
I ended a friendship with a narcissist in December 2022. He threw a bunch of insults at me in an attempt to hurt me but none were working. This drive him into a rage and he spat at me "You're so weak" to which i replied "No. You're the weak one. You can't even stand up to a can of beer and tell it no.". He became completely irrational and unintelligible as he began to scream and threaten me. I knew i had hit a nerve with him but what made it even more difficult for him to deal with was that he KNEW he couldn't hurt me. That nothing he said would have an effect on me and that's told him that he had no power over me. Narcissists HATE knowing they hold no power.
Exactly. It's all about us regaining our "power". Which is just being ourselves really. make them feel small!
I always thought I lacked confidence and self esteem, but based on the narc rage from my brother, apparently I am doing fantastic.
Lol I like that.😊
People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. Mayo Clinic.
I can confirm. One I can't get rid of without quitting my job, thinks he's the only one who's important and the only one who knows anything. He gets mad when he's corrected. Oh well for him.
I am 42 years old and I’m finally breaking away from my mother and I know this may seem horrible to say but I’m Finally FREE.. Iam FREE and it’s amazing…
My narc accuses me of EVERYTHING she did and even makes up pure fiction......it's like she believes it. 1,400 blocked texts and counting. Definitely confirmation of her character.
When I was younger, some of the malignant narc abusers raged. Many victims rage back and thats a good thing as long as you realize you will always have to defend yourself against a jerk. Dump them asap. Dont underestimate them seriously harming, poisoning, or killing you. As I get older, I know narcs become more conniving, deceitful, criminal, thieving, sneaky, deadly and criminal habitually. Many of them hang out together and stay connected to continue to oppress and gang up on their victims, most often eith criminal or illegal intent. Get out of their crap pot. Move on and up with really decent better people. Better to be alone than be with creeps. Its more fun. Blessings and luck.
My music..my choice of movies..my ringtone... I refuse to get bullied anymore.
seriously,, I'm out of a 37 year marriage to a cheating narc, now my male roommates are doing it....gonna shut it all down right quick.
They bullied you because they're insecure , have lowself esteem , and wanna be like you etc...stay away these monsters and dangerous people !!!!!!!
It’s sooo scary when they rage. The rage about nothing always seems to happen when I’m trapped, Like riding alone with him in his car. Or at his house and he hides my car keys so I can’t drive away. So I walk away .. try to walk away 🥴and he would always follow me around swearing at me, calling me names. I’m always blown away by the nothingness he rages about . I finally broke up 3 months ago . Blocked his info on my phone. He has tried showing up at my house, but I don’t answer the door. I am amazed at how much better I feel since breaking off contact! My self esteem was in the toilet 🥴. Getting better day by day now 🙏
Now he is the one in the toilet... 🚽
Yep. Raging over my good memories and experiences.
DANGER DANGER DANGER. RUN! DO NOT CO HABITATE WITH THIS PERSON YOU ARE IN ENOUGH DANGER ALL READY JUST BEING IN A CAR OR BUILDING THAT YOU OWN IF HE HAS CONTROL OF THE SITUATION
Be really careful now. He could show you how he handles rejection, & things can get dangerous
Absolutely true. I lived it. Always asked why I was treated so badly and raged on. This is exactly why. My happiness angered the narc. I knew what was happening but not why.......now it all makes sense.
So true - for years I used to go on walks either my narcissistic friend, and I found that I had to keep quiet about anything good in my life if I wanted to keep her in a good mood
I have suffered with the 4 narcissists in immediate family. Then moved away to pick up narcissist friends and boyfriends. Once it's engrained it's so hard to find people who are not narcissists
That's been my problem too. There's narcissists everywhere in my life. I've even stopped dating bc every boyfriend was a narc . I haven't dated in 10 years now , but there's still narcs in my family . It's awful .. but I'm happy to be on my own without a narc ..
I can sooo relate! So many narcs in my family. None of them have a life, or atleast happy and contented one, that's why they want everyone around them to feel exactly the way they feel. Misery loves company. I have learned not to enable their behavior, ofcourse when I push back, their inner 2 yr old tantrum child comes out. It's so good to see it come out because it shows me and them that they do not have self control, nor are they mature. They expose themselves by losing control which allows them to see that its them, not ones around them. Having control of your emotions is like cryptonite to them.
You attract that
I'm a empath and I always attract damaged goods especially narcs🤔🤦🏽♀️and you're so right I'm not inferior to anyone period💯
Never felt safe with the dangerous batterer and wicked bully....
That describes them perfectly.....straight up wicked. I don’t know about your experience but it showed me how disturbed my narc “friend” was when he acted normal fine in group settings but was a WICKED bully when he isolated me by myself.
They’re severely insecure and scared individuals
Christine Haigh, I never felt safe in that toxic relationship, I left few times and this was my last. So many times I let my wall down and let him know my hurts in life and he would always find a time to throw those hurts back in my face like it was always my fault, he twisted my hurts around and said it was always my fault. I believe our past wasn’t a prison sentence, but a lesson learned. It’s been 3 months Final no contact, I’m healing and Always keeping the Faith , believing better days to come! Stay strong:)
As a survivor, my best advice is to push through the feeling of defeat. It's tough but your peace is worth fighting for
The independence thing is so true. Unfortunately I am 61 and 35 years into this, just getting ‘it’. Over this time he has gained almost as much control as he could, due to my trust in what I believed in and went along with for what I thought was going to be our future and our golden years. I thought the whole darn time that we were partners. He did his specialties and I did mine. Nope, mine are not worth anything and his are all that matter, for real. He provides, I am the caretaker. He owns, I receive handout benefits, he buys/pays, I selfishly take what he pays for. He leaves, I do all the things, he returns, I leave him alone so there is not fighting. Blah, blah, blah. Oh and he has the worst life ever, today I asked for him to do a simple household thing for his home too and you would have thought I asked for the universe.😮
Same! Mine doesn’t have pride for his home. His excuse is he doesn’t have time. How odd when I see all my neighbors, how they still have care for their homes seven after working all week long. I’m saving money to fix repairs in the house. If I could afford to pay for my bills. I w
I am 36 and been in this 18 years 😢
Nice message. Ya they can't stand it when your happy and laughing. They get so mad. Just dont understand it.
Grinches!! Can't stand when people are happy!
@ABUSE: FREEDOM AND HEALING IN CHRIST i refuse to be inferior
Nutter,nothing to understand
Virginia Wolfe That's so true, I was laughing with her and she was going absolutely mad at me over the phone, screaming and shouting. This was only because the TV in her room had broken lol
They are not happy until they burst your bubble, then there face is filled with delight
Unbelievably right on. I always have had a very upbeat gratefulness outlook on life. Being married to a narcissists for twenty years was a nightmare. He was wonderful during the dating period. As soon as we got married he started his yelling and screaming in my face. Surprisingly, or maybe not, we were christens. He was wonderful outside the home, at home he was a cruel, sullen, angry man. After many years of prayer, God made a way for me and I am now 5 years divorced. I had become a weak and fearful person under my ex husbands control. I now walk in the freedom that God intended for me.
House Devil.Street Angel.
Lots of people stay because of their vows. I took them seriously, but somehow it never quite occurred to me that he didn't. Six months ago I realized he knew exactly what he was doing, while he was doing it. It wasn't a mood disorder, and it's not even treatable unless they can admit to themselves the problem. The prognosis isn't great even if they can, though, and God doesn't intend for us to waste our lives in abusive situations. And suddenly, that was that. 😮❤
@@johntuohy1867
All Narcissists are nothing but a bunch of self righteous hypocrites that act like the Scribes and Pharisees that hated, persecuted and had Christ Jesus the only begotten Son of God and those that believe in Christ Jesus the only begotten Son of God put to death.
Be aware that all Narcissists will worship and serve the Man of sin, the son of perdition who will claim to be God.
Be aware that all Narcissists will support the Beast system under the Man of sin, the son of perdition who will murder all those that will not worship and serve the Man of sin, the son of perdition who will claim to be God.
Your story is exactly my story!! Wow exactly got married and then saw the real person. Screaming and yelling at his son who was 6 and helped him get custody of his son. Married 20 years and I couldn't take it anymore. After I had my son with him then he became so cruel towards all of us.
Divorced 5 years. Separated 5 before finally divorced 5. Courts drag everything out so much that I lost everything. My home, he stole the business and retirement. Thank you Lord that I did get full physical custody of my son. But came at a price of severe depression as the courts left me with nothing. He stole the business and never had to give me a dime. Not sure why the courts allowed that when I had full custody. I've been so lost for so long. I'm finally renewed in Christ. I've been a follower of Christ all my life. One downfall was I was never taught to put myself first but to put others first. Women need to be taught in Church boundaries.
My narc boyfriend was freaking out this morning like he usually does at some point in the day. Throwing my things and destroying my property so I went into the bathroom to hide like I always do. While I was in there I realized we needed more toilet paper so I saw it as a way to get out. I told him I was going to the store to get more. Luckily I was able to get out the door safely but the neighbors were concerned and asked if I was okay once I was outside. They can all hear him yell because we live in a duplex. Once I got to the store he called me. I picked up and said hello and asked if there was something he needed. He said " you know what I think it is, I think I hate you. I hate everything about you." And I did everything I could to hold back my tears in Walgreens. I quickly grabbed my items and checked out. Once I got in my car I knew it was okay to cry so I prepared myself and gathered all the spare fastfood napkins I could find to wipe my face but nothing came out. I couldn't cry. My throat hurt, it had that big lump in it like I was going to break down... But nothing... I've never felt everything and nothing all at the same time. It's a horrible feeling or lack of. Pray for me.
Heartbreaking
You are in an abusive relationship. Find what ever small amount of courage you can to physically escape. Once you
Do you will have yourself given back to yourself. Be strong because you deserve better
Get out and never ever look back this is full on abuse.
I just endured a narcissist rage, my bf got mad that I dared to speak up about his vile comments about a coworker, "she is stupid, like my ex wife" I commented that he stayed married for 25 years, then he e
defended himself. I said I understood and went upstairs. He finished the call with coworker, then came upstairs to rage against the machine that is me...I ended up crying in my car because I know he is a true narcissist. I am in grad school to be a Christian counselor and he knows I will soon leave for good because of my relationship with God. I am praying for you. Please pray for me. I may just live in my car to save money. ❤
That describes my life exactly. It helps to know someone else understands how it feels.
Very, very true. I heard a comment my narcissist neighbor said to someone...
She said,, "she is loony tunes, psycho! I mean, she was DANCING in the rain when trimming blackberries! In the rain! And she was singing, too!"
It was THE most telling, illuminating comment she could have made - that I was happy, doing my chores, and expressing my joy, in my world, and that meant, to her, that I'm crazy.
No, I'm just...well...happy.
Good for you!!!
Sweetie I’d be dancing in the rain with you…that feeling is simply beautiful! It’s true happiness that’s inside you and me that makes all things beautiful !
Lol!!
Yes!!
I Love Living This JoyFull Way!!
I Could Care Less AnyMore What People Think About my Happines
Shalom 🙏😊
She’s miserable
This being my mother makes it extra sickening. How can you hate your own child.
As my husbands narcissistic mother once said “I love Jackie (my sister in law), she has always tried to please me”. Narcissistic parents engulf/consume their children and see them as supply to obey and reflect them. A child never individuates. My husband uses our son as a pawn; it is disgusting and disturbing.
My mother hated me from the beginning. Very jealous of me, all my life.
It’s more common than you think. Siblings as well.
It is a devastating experience when your own mother hates you from the begining and is jealous of you .Just the person that should love you and be your confidant ! My mother is insanely jealous of me and wants everything I have for herself Thank you for these videos that show I am not alone . Thought I would go insane !!
Narcissistic mothers often hate their daughters.
This was really different! This is what I needed to hear. So much of what's out there talk so much about the narcissist and focuses on them, which they love, and when people talk about the kinds of people who end up interacting with narcissists they usually talk about what that person needs to do different or better. As I look back over my past I realize the reason that certain people hated me so much, tried to control me at all costs, was because I have a very strong inner light. Thank you. 🙏
This is the crux of the issue: Why are scapegoats chosen? Because they are all the things you reference here...strength, individuality, cheerful and grateful, able, honest, likable, being ok within oneself, have direction, etc, etc, with the most important issue being strength. Strength because they hate that in you, because they don't have it, but they need you to carry all the hatful baggage they throw at you, that they have and feel about themselves, to put it upon you and steal you for themselves, doing the switch, so they can punish you (punish what they loathe about themselves, but put themselves on a high perch because they cannot deal with their true selves), and remain at hand, not going away. Then they hate you all the more when the smear campaigns and the lies are swirling around about you, but you remain cheerful, because that's your disposition, and it's lies, anyway. So, if you are chosen, it's not because you are the weird or odd one, or the weak one, or to blame, it's because you are the strong one, but kindly, so they do not fear tresspassing on your life, and the better-minded one, which they need to tear down, but keep you in place for their own sickness attacks. So, hold your head up, recognise that they hate you, but need you to carry all their hatred toward themselves, and to use to gain attention from their lies and victim stories, then make your decision as to what's best for you, NOT for them. Sometimes you can't leave, like being a child, without rescources, or illness, but you can remain being yourself and learning to say a firm but polite "no" to these vicious narcs, leaving them less able to feed off of you, play with you to make themselves feel big and important...controlling you. Continue being you, because the less you are affected by them and the less control they have over you, the less supply you are. Stay higher, because you are. I just wish I'd known this decades ago. Live, be free to know you, and make your own choices. Leave them without your supply, without your precious life to destroy. Know who you are, but always know who they are.
It's true, I am the biggest and strongest of my family, physically by far
Yes!! The Holy Spirit inside me because it irritated his demons! 🙌🙌🙌
The Devil's Mules.
Sneak, seek and Destroy everything and anything that is loving and beautiful and balanced.
Did you know the devil?why did the devil have a mule,destroyed Thatcher,but she wasn't loving,and her beauty if any was debateable💥
@@Jackgritty28 The devil comes only to steal and kill and destroy; John 10:10
Genuine laughter and just being genuine. Enough said. They hate it all.
It's true.
I was depressed all day until hearing this message. Thank you!
this made me cry. he was so cruel to me. married 15yrs. you are a good teacher. GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Hugs!!!!
I’m currently in a 17 year marriage and my wife is a Narcissist. I had no idea what this word even meant, but his first video was a slap in the face that woke me up to my wife’s behavior. The name calling, the complaining, the verbal attacks and total disrespect made me feel alone and that the problem was with me. I would start questioning who I was, how I was raised, that my values were out dated. This video has been a blessing. I now understand what exactly I was up against. -Steve, Ohio
My Narc was standing in front of me. I literally watched his eyes turn from blue to jet black. I have never seen HATE like that before. He even said "I have nothing but hate and pity for you " WOW I now longer shrink away. I actually laughed. Wrong thing to do but I couldn't help it. Nervous laughter. Now I have the silent treatment. YES YES YES I enjoy it now. Kinda peaceful
Mine got remarried and move out of state! WIN. thank you God!! IM so thankful for that peace but he has left damage behind with our children.
Please leave him
I've seen the eyes 👀 turn black,.... also.
Then the rage can go on for hours.
My narcissist mother's eyes change too. I believe narcissists are possessed by demons. That's why they're so evil.
@@katherinegipple5393
I believe they're possessed by demons; that's why their eyes change.
So true the Narassist told me at first he admire my laughter and in the end he told me that he hated my laugh... They against happiness.
They are insane. They will praise you early on for the very thing they later try to devalue you for.
The remaining wounds within me desperately needed to hear exactly this. I looked for nothing and was found by this video. Thank you for your amazing words. They just made my day 🧡
Omg I needed this!! Just had a horrible argument yesterday with a narcissist because I reminded him to wash his hands as we came back into my apt. He said I can't dictate to him!!! Went from agitation to full rage, I had to kick him out because he was verbally and emotionally attacking me. I hate feeling disrespected in my own home.
Gross
We shouldn't have to ask them to wash their hands they should know this! Lol😂 but they dnt! So we end up looking like nags,because we have to give them play by plays..
They get mad lightning fast over the smallest things. I laugh.
It’s so sad and hurtful when the narcissist is your child! 😢
Even worser when the narc is your parent as our parents are supposed to make us feel safe and loved.
I always felt that my narcissistic parents' rage would come about when I was happy in life. On the day of my graduation from high school, when I was just happy and proud of my accomplishments, my narcissistic mom picked a fight. I also noticed that in the last few years - I've finally been making a life for myself that was fulfilling and happy - their wrath has appeared more and more frequently. It's gotten to the point where I can't even have any conversations with either of them because they always attempt to sabotage, destroy, etc. What you said about independence is also important. My narcissistic father, in an email to me, essentially exposed himself by stating that my independence was always a problem and that my independence warranted his neglect of me.
How on earth did you survive?
Mine would mock me for crying after he would hurt me.
The same thing happened to me years ago...usual argument about 'nothing'...him throwing his venom at me...and when l started crying,his remark was...cry,cry and keep crying you'll pee less...!!
Now, that s really low... 😳
It is very low, they don't care. They get off are hurting people.
I'm still with him,but l don't cry anymore...cause l don't feel anything for him...poor critter,he just doesn't see it...!..
@@mariabg6808 I know its not easy. I just could not let him hurt me anymore. I have a right to leave in peace.
It was beautiful to hear you mention the Lord in these dark and ugly days! Thank you for your help and encouragement...God bless you!
I just got severely abused through narcissistic rage, and then discarded and threatened with destruction of property and blackmail! Your video is the only thing that calmed me down and comforted me! So thank you so very much with all my heart! Your voice and intro music is so nice for helping us weather and get out of the narcissistic storm! I’m so grateful I found you and this content!
The LORD God our Father in heaven heard your cry and He shall avenge you so fear not.
Here is my testimony unto you:
I went no contact with the narcissist that sought to strangle me to death while bashing the back of my head on the corner of the wall in order to cause blunt force trauma to the back of my skull in order to kill me.
I had to flee to another city for three months before The LORD God our Father in heaven who in His wrath took care of the narcissist for me because it was The LORD God our Father in heaven that struck the narcissist dead in the street while the narcissist was walking from the motel they were staying alone at to one of their relative's houses in the morning on December 25th while I was living far away in another city with my family.
Hearing about the narcissist's death was the first news that I got that morning when I woke up that morning on December the 25th when my parents told me about the narcissist's death.
I knew it was The LORD God our Father in heaven that avenged me that day because Romans 12:19 says:
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Romans 12:19
Yes, I agree - the intro music made me stay and listen..
This is so very true. Narcissists are master manipulators and like to control everything, so when you don't allow them to it infuriates them. As a christian I feel as though what I"m stepping into is not as important as who I'm stepping WITH. I am currently in a situation where I had to move with a friend, I knew they were needy but when I moved in and the attacks started I quickly realized who I was dealing with. It's almost a daily thing where they're critical or trying to make me uncomfortable all because I won't do what they want me to do. Mind you I work, come home, mind my business-- but everything I do is under scrutiny. If it wasn't so pathetic it would be funny, if I get a call I can hear them walk back towards my room to eavesdrop if I go outside to talk on the phone they'll sit by the door, they leave the kitchen a mess. The issue I have is why do you expect me to be ok with something you wouldn't be ok with -- but that's your typical narcissist. I stay in prayer and ask God to put a protective hedge around me because make no mistake about it, narcissists have a demonic spirit.
That's so true
I’ve said it once before, but I have to yet again... “kill the with success, bury them with a smile” 😊
Great advice!
When I confronted my brother as an adult asking him why when I was a child I was put in a children's home when my mother had a stroke and he was married with a family and could have taken me with him he flew in such a rage that I thought he was going to have a stroke,veins were bulging on his forehead and the colour of his face was nearly purple.He had always been mean to me as far as I can remember,may be I was better off in the children's home where iI was not badly treated.
Your brother 's anger at you was really his guilt because he was faced with the truth about himself which he didn't want to own.
NARCISSISTIC people are basically very selfish and irresponsible...your asking him that question made him look at himself and see something about him he did not like or want to take responsibility for.
Sorry that happened to you....
KNOW YOU WERE AND ARE LOVED ALWAYS!! 💝
@@patricestar6510 Thank you for your kind words,yes he did not want to be faced with his pathological selfishness and believed everything was owed to him.
It's sad that your brother wasn't willing to take you into his home but it does sounds like you were better off in a children's home. It was his problem (and perhaps his wife's problem) that he wasn't willing to take care of you. If he flew into a rage, there's something going on with him, that is NOT your fault. He (and his wife) have issues that prevented them from embracing and caring for you, that is there problem, not yours. If he is mean to you, flew in a rage, then he is probably mean to others in his family, and you are best not being raising in his home. I hope you find happiness, security, people who care about you and wish you all the best in your life.
@@zhmw You are spot on ,his wife was a mean spirited woman as well, she did evrything to please him because this is how she controlled him,they deserved each other,and yes he needed a scapegoat so he also picked on one of his daughters when I was not around,I was not unhappy in the children's home we were well cared for, the nuns who looked after us were kind,we were lucky in that respect,the older children were made to look after the younger ones and we cared for one another,the orphanage was well run,I remainded there for three years and was never abused,so yes I was far better off there but I had a family who rejected me and that hurt terribly as a young girl.I am an old lady now and I have made my way in life and am not dissatisfied with what I have accomplished.
@yvette vernet ••• I am so sorry you had to grow up like that and suffer such great pain. You are a miracle for being here today and a beautiful woman who deserves everything & then some! Believe me. Even on the days you feel you’re undeserving, unworthy, bad... you’re none of those things. Keep on your path and enjoy your journey.
The true meaning to life- is to endure. YOU, my friend, are a strong woman that others should be looking towards for life lessons! Deep down, you know it bc you’re absolutely incredible! And you are WORTH IT!!✌🏼🥰♥️
At the age of 52 and being the scapegoat of the four children, and having a psychotically insane sick in the head, narcissistic, jealous mother, I can honestly say as harsh as this sounds I don’t really have any good feelings toward my mother and it’s taken me to the age of 52 years to learn to just walk away from her nonsense and her bullying and her disgusting despicable way she speaks to me about me and the things she has convinced other people to believe about me that are not true.
She actually slept with my husband. I divorced him. I always felt guilty that because she was older and had health problems it was my responsibility to take care of her. I guess that was left over from being the scapegoat.
Out of all the videos, I have watched you have given me more courage and hope than any other videos or information I’ve ran across on YT.
I married and divorced a narcissist, my so-called best friend was a narcissist.
Unfortunately, by the time I realized I’m an empath and what that means I had already been abused by a lot of people.
With all of that said, I have a good sense of humor, and I make people laugh and I’m kind hearted. I am happy to be an empath. I’ll go out of my way to help people, but I’ve finally wised up and I stay away from people who mistreat me because I don’t deserve that kind of life.
I just wish I would’ve learned much earlier in my life that not all people are going to change, or are capable of changing.
I always gave people the benefit of the doubt.
All that said, I know what I am, and I know what I’m not. I’m very comfortable being who I am but most of all I have learned that I don’t have to allow other people to mistreat me.
After watching some of your videos for the first time in my life, I have actually felt very optimistic about how to deal with narcissistic people that run across my path. Just hearing the way you speak about the narcissist has already empowered me. I have always been afraid of them and tiptoed around them but I’m already starting to feel some courage and I realize that I don’t have to put up with their BS!
I like your attitude, and it is already rubbing off on me!!😂💕
I related totally about narcissists hate to hear you laugh. He would always say my laughter irritated him and make fun of the way I laughed. I now make sure I laugh alot just because it irritates him 😂.
I will keep that close.
Attacking me because I'm strong !!!!
I am independent
I am strong
I dont need a connection to be worthy.
I am enough .
I refuse to be inferior.
❤️❤️❤️
Crazy, I'm a loner by choice. So when me & the narc got into it he was like THAT'S WHY NOBODY DEALS WITH YOU!!! UHHHH SOOOOOO LOL ( I CAN LAUGH NOW!)
In my case, my mother is the narcissist that I've now gone No Contact with. She once told me that she thought I have a laughing disorder because I'm able to laugh a lot! I ache and feel sorry for her, as she's older now-almost 80 and truly doesn't have many years left on this earth. But I remain strong in my conviction that I will no longer be a scapegoat for her. Please pray for us!
In the same situation. Stay strong.
A “laughing disorder”! I think I have one of those. 😉
This is very hard...I have a narcissistic mother as well....but my unconditional love for her makes it hard to pull away...she is older as well.
“I can’t stand that you’re laughing so YOU have a disorder.”
It's been quite a while since I posted this on here. I have to say that things have changed drastically between my mom and I since early last year...I went to see her with my husband and could see that she'd declined in her ability to manage living alone. I felt so much compassion for her, that I let all of my anger go towards her, and we began a healing journey that only could've happened because of God! Mom also had been suffering from pain and not feeling well for quite a while. Though my sister never stopped caring fory mom despite how difficult it could be for her at times, she'd tried to get both my brother and I, who'd gone no contact for over a year to reconcile with mom because she didn't want us to feel guilty if something happened to her while we were still angry. So we all took a vacation to Florida to try to work out some of our feelings about it, because for a long time, I was angry at my sister for expecting me to do that with mom being the way she could be. We had spoken to mom while in Florida for a few days and she was very ill. Once we got home, I went straight to her place and she was not eating, or taking her meds because she couldn't remember to. Long story short, she ended up in the hospital with sepsis from two kidney stones! She was very weak and ended up staying in the nursing home that she had to rehab in from the infection. Since her dementia had progressed, she was evaluated and found to not be fit to live alone. She fought that tooth and nail and didn't even remember being sick for a while. But her memories of that did come back to her, and though she hated it, she realized she needed to accept it. My siblings and I never wavered in being there with her as much as we could, though my brother lives 8-9 hours away. We all realized we had to take over her finances and clean out her home, which she was renting. That was tough because we knew how independent she'd been all her life. Then, in November of last year, she had a stroke while there and she's been wheelchair bound ever since. But to this day, my sister and I try to go once a week or sometimes a couple of weeks to go see her. Now that she's properly medicated, our relationship has healed! I just want everyone here to know that love really does conquer all and with God's help, healing- even miraculous healing can and does occur!! I give God ALL of the glory for that too! I know her days are numbered, but she still knows who we are and though she requires 24-hour care, she appreciates and cherishes our visits! So, despite all of the horrible things sh said and did over the years, our relationships with our mom has healed! My brother and I have learned so much about unconditional love and it's healing power! Stay strong everyone, and let our Lord lead your steps in your journeys with your mom's! Love & prayers for ALL of you! ❤️
Yes, absolutely. I was married to a raging narcissist who had to have total control.
Someone wrote that they shut down narcissists by saying " I never knew I had this much control/power over you" and I thought that was hilariously brilliant 😂
Very good 👍🏼
Yea he made fun of my looks even though he was way below me on that scale if we were to be honest. He made fun of my weight and clothes even though I was in good health and weight and dressed better than him. I helped him dress better and worried about his weight gain. He always tried to control me and tried to make me do what he wanted. He yelled at me a few times. He had a calm collected voice but he would get so angry and emotional. He laughed at me on our last day together bc there was no going forward and I saw and felt it. He was not fun. I brought that. He made me feel like I brought nothing to the table... but truth is I brought everything and he was always jealous how easy it was for me to be happy, myself and enjoy life. I didn’t need to create something to feel like he did.
I went through similarities he constantly berated me about my looks yet he was below me as well to be honest they way I dressed my education everything he respected at first he came to hate and the names he called were degrading and he wanted my independence cause it supported him but kept telling me i think im better then him. I couldnt figure out how i didnt see his true self but with no contacr now i just didnt want to see.
Usha, You must be very Glad to be free of that nightmare. Keep him far way away from you.
Yes they look stunned when they hear you laugh. Especially if your quiet 🤫😃😁 they think they're intimidating 😁😁😁
You are so spot on. Narcs are HATERS. I've learned to ignore the insults and put downs. I know who I am. They're also extremely jealous/envious.
The feeling weak part is very appreciated, because as a man I did feel weak trying to walk away and avoid the ignorance of their behavior but I'm glad you are actually making me see that its actually strength that I'm showing 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
This is spot on! Felt that my presence, independence and “being” just pissed him off to no end. Their venom is not about you - it’s about the vast putrid brimming inside them, and they simply can’t contain it. #BreakFree
They want you to bough down to them...agree with them...like what they like.....to have your own identity is not exceptible to them....just empty shallow bitter jealous envious hateful creature's....laughter is poison to there position....just bat shit crazy 🤷♀️🤦♀️
Well said!
Don't mention bats at this moment in time,fool❌🦇
I've found that even if you agree with them to keep the peace, they will DISAGREE with you anyway!!!
@@reesedaniel5835 exactly, they are hopless and helpless beyond anything we know. They are raging demons walking among us. The more they rage 😡 the more I enjoy myself 😊and the more I enjoy myself, the more they rage😂😂😂. To watch them do this, is wicked
This is the kindness thing ever said to me. I really needed the uplift as I have just been attacked by both my siblings at separate times after the death of my husband lately. They were scared of my husband so that helped me but now the full vengeance that they were holding back has been unleashed. I was a pastors wife many years and have many kind friends but my real family has caused me lots of suffering. I have wonderful sons who love me and I am thankful. I am the family scapegoat but now I have left their presence.
mhhunter,You deserve better 🙏
So get evidence and EXPOSE the abuse
Your experience with being the scapegoat in the family I can truly relate. I'm going through it right now. I've lost close ones to me and now I'm fair game, but I have God on my side, so bring it on demons, you can't win against him.
It's horrible to be attacked by your siblings. I'm so sorry. It is unbelievable that they can hate someone who has only tried to love them. Very sick minds. Stay away. Other people will assume you have done something bad to them because of their hatred. They don't know about these kind of people. They are truely sick in the head.
Good job and proud of you!!
Such a great video. They hate us bc we are what they will never be. It frightens Me that there are people walking this Earth with evil intentions towards others, who think nothing of attempting to destroy peoples lives.
I was with the ex 7 years. That mask slipped back in July I walked away no contact. He knew I was on to him he threatened me saying “ slate me at your peril “ he was terrified incase I exposed him to everyone I did, but he had already exposed himself. O know my worth he knows it that’s why he hated me and attacked my character. I got away from this evil toxic so called Man. 😀
Oh man the laughter thing 🤦♀️. Dude that’s so true.
Looking back I see where the ex narc in my life was annoyed with my laughter as well. He actually resorted to a passive aggressive insult because he couldn’t handle my joy and humor in that moment.
Joy is not intended to mock. No one laughs in the face of pity except those who are pitiful or maladjusted.
Sometimes laughter is a take away however, it should not be suppressed as many never learn how to. This will draw some daggers from your back...
Laughter perhaps is the gift of kings 🙏for the shrewd will scorn while neglecting it's reward.
Humour is a judgment passed down to the ears of all many hearing 😏
I forgot to put a coffee filter in the coffee machine when I made it. He pointed that out and I started to laugh - he looked at me like he wanted to murder me. 😂
@@TheMar0115 narcissistic rage can elevate into pathological levels of behavior.
But laughter should be contagious and soothing...
Yeah the narcissist I knew hated the attention I got during my graduation party and that narc said out loud in front of everyone in the party regarding me - “yeah he’s anti social and has no friends “ (of course it was a gaslighting lie!) that statement ruined the joy in the party (that narc said it because that narc hated the joyful attention I was getting )
The Truth about the LIE I believed... he insulted everything about me.... and deep inside 'I thought he was right' I thought I was inferior, ugly etc etc...because I knew I was indeed 'different' 'quirky - peculiar' I knew this since I was a child so having this very WISE person telling me this seemed 'dog-gone awoke'....... I was Wrong...I woke up from this amazing nightmare ..... at last.
Nevermore - I celebrate My Strangeness
So many of us had the test before the lesson...no idea what all we had jumped into and we survived 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️ we are not victims, we are the ones who remained strong and survived ☀️🥰
Keep healing y’all and stay true to who you are ❤️
Thank-you! And we will❤️
Thank you for this vid, I was feeling down after he insulted me none stop, screaming and silent treatment. I left, but he reeled me back in with niceness only to be a million times more of a jerk.