Why gender equality is not just about women | Caroline Strachan | TEDxFolkestone
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- Despite a massive focus on women in the workplace, progress towards a gender equal workplace is slow. What needs to change?
This talk calls for an equal focus on confidence, capability and childcare as the true drivers of change. It’s time to call out the current gender equality bandwagon and move on to a new, truly equal approach to work. www.womenatwork.org.uk Caroline has spent the majority of her career in the travel industry working for companies such as American Express, Cisco, Yahoo and AstraZeneca. Caroline co-founded consultancy Festive Road and has also volunteered as the Institute of Travel Management Chairman, Global Business Travel Association Europe President and has received a number of awards in recognition of her services to the industry.
Most recently these include IBM iX everywoman Entrepreneur of the Year 2018 and Business Travel News Top 25 most influential people 2018. In her spare time Caroline co-leads support network Women at Work, and delivers a number of industry education programmes. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I liked it: “Women don’t just become mothers - people become parents”
. Indeed, “dad confidence” and “dad guilt” also do exist.
Woman's primary purpose for being created in the first place was to produce children and be a helper for Man.
Even tech companies are behind on this they only have a woman's group no men's group if if you want what she wants bring it up
@Dangan!Leah Really? That sucks for you.
@@emp731 Utterly sexist remark
@@emp731 Looks like you had a nice talk about gender stuff with mother nature
This needs more views! She explains the problems of both sides and does without any bias. Absolutely love her speech!
She says nothing about the equality issues for men.
I agree
With her
Finally a person that knows what equality is. It’s being equal, not tipping the scales in the opposite direction
Equality is a pure myth! Find me 2 men that are equal. Now explain how you make different genders equal.
who gets to dictate and define what is "equal"? Oh yeah: governments and unelected officials....
Like it or not, she is spitting straight facts
one sided
I like how she doesn’t choose a side and looks at everything unbiased
@@Wisteriablight4408 I like it when she cooks and cleans
@UZUBAT she is lol
This makes so much sense. I look forward to seeing more discussion around addressing the needs of everyone in the workplace instead of being separated into different groups.
And such a huge part you played in the content and delivery. Thank you x
This woman hasn’t helped you, she gave you an end result. If you want to have a man, men want feminine women, women that are taking of them
This issue is extremely important, since the reality of things is like that, the value of women and men are mutual, and in the workplace they are both of vital importance.
We discuss this topic in class for this day
I am delighted that your class has decided to watch and review my TED talk, thank you. Great that you have started a meaningful discussion.
So obviously “ equality of outcome” in the workplace is not the way to go?
What a really fresh perspective on what could be a sensitive topic. I really enjoyed this talk. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Rob. Let's move on!
This talk touches on really important points of gender equality. It is crucial to say it out loud that as human beings we face the same struggles in life. But it is society that tells us how we should react and feel. As Caroline said there's no difference in women's and men's confidence, mum's and dad's guilt. As members of the society we should acknowledge the issue and move forward.
Remember that all of us who are not devine have limits as to what we can avoid reacting to. Parenting classes for young men too are a god send.
So important that this is on the agenda. I've seen the tension in action in some of my clients. and you're right; people become parents. Thought provoking and well delivered.
Tension in action. Like that statement!
I think it is very important that men and women have the same opportunities regardless of their different abilities and skills, it is difficult to achieve but it all depends on people changing their perspectives on the opposite gender
Lost for words Caroline. Dee and I watched this together and this definitely touched a raw nerve. You're raising so many important issues in this, equal parental leave is something I wish every company would consider. Kudos on an amazing, inspiring talk.
Thank you John. So great that you watch together as a couple. I'm hearing many more doing the same
yeah men are all over it when they're getting more rights - but when women want equality watch you all become lil bitches.
@@JamNMama1 1. What rights don't you have, little girl?
2. You keep CLAIMING you're equal, yet reality proves you wrong every day
Brilliant talk Caroline and one that I hope will be shared widely by company founders, board members, HR directors, L&D consultants, etc and used as an opportunity to discuss the situation with everyone (men and women together) in their own business.
Thanks Alison, let's hope so!
I agree when she talked about "women dont just become mothers but people become parents" and that she said the every society needs both points of view to have bigger progress
Itz for my english class
Entertaining, thought provoking and amusing. Also love them shoes x
haha thanks!
Applaudable talk!
Amazing talk
This is beautiful, thank you Caroline
Probably my favorite video on the topic right now. Thank you Caroline (and TEDx)!
Yes ! Exactly my view!
An excellent talk!
Love it, Caroline. Confidence, Childcare and Capability are essential for all of us. Your delivery is brilliant as ever. Thank you for taking the time to research and respect the importance of both men and women in our collective efforts toward gender equality.
Thank you!! The 3 Cs are so important
Childcare is essential for all of us? That's like stating playing golf on your employer's dime for a year+ is essential.
Why is it essential?
To the point loved it
I think it has several points in favor, since it thinks in an equality way and that brings benefits for both mens and womens.
Brilliant, impactful and timely talk... this is definitely something that should be discussed more!
Thank you!
Great talk, excellent and thought provoking content, beautifully delivered :-)
Thanks HH!
So, good! ❤
She is truly genius. Great personality.
I Think that This is a great video because we can find several points, in conclusion a woman can find the same oportunities as a men they have their diferent abilities that makes them diferent and unique
I love this speech is really eye opening
this video was very informative, and gave me a difference perspective on how not only do women have to deal with gender inequality, but so do men. it all goes back to the way society has brain washed us on how we should all live our lives.
There are two types of people in our world. People who are old fashioned and People with modern values. Some of the old fashion people pretend to be into gender equality because they want more than they already get. For example women who demand that the men be providers while not having to do anything for the man (because equality). Closet old fashioned people confuse the issue. Then you have people who think they are for equality but then still have some old fashioned values. Equality just means you do unto others as they do unto you. It is all about individuality rather then basing who someone is on gender.
very nice
I agree, truly agree by all of the statements and how we should move on on this focused women gender equality but I think we do need to take in to point the many countries that struggle with just being a woman simply because of the religion of that country. But if we're only thinking about modern society life, yes I agree with everything.
Glad to hear a balanced conversation!
All about the balance!
Lol, this is not a conversation, but i do think she makes sense
The part I most agree with is the parental leave. It is discriminating against men, and yet it is reinforcing gender stereotypes. It is so ingrained into people's mind that the mother is the primary caretaker of the children that we forget that there are men who want to be present in their children's life and mothers who want to share child raising with their husbands and don't want to fully give up their careers. In some countries mothers are expected to do 99% of the work of raising children and the men are supposed to work so much they barely see their family. One of the first steps to give parents more freedom of choice regardless of their gender would be allowing the same amount of paid parental leave for both parents, and make some of this paid parental leave mandatory so that companies can't pressure men into not taking the parental leave they have the right to take.
Women's don't just become Mother's, People become Parent's ....More powers to you Beautiful lady with a beautiful Heart and Mind🥰🥰
What are the three things confidence, opportunity and??
Men and women are different.
I don't know why some people struggle to understand that.
Bruised egos of feminists
This is such a good video and another point to add would be that often times women do not get promoted to higher positions because people think that they will not be able to be 100% reliable because they are a mom but if both men and women got the same paid time leave then there would not be that big of a bias against "working moms" which as she said shouldn't be a term necessarily when working dads isn't a term.
so in this current society, who is being forced to produce children? Such a horrible burden is this FREEDOM of CHOICE. We must force others who exercise a different life choice to PAY ....
This is what I needed. I needed someone to argue my point! I've been trying to tell the people that I know for so long and now I can show them this!
This is an amazing TedTalk...
thank you
@@carolinestrachan5906 you miss , just made my English speech possible . Thank you so much for that wide perspective. As a boy it’s really heart warming to see someone finally understand where we stand as a society now .
#1 They aren't required to register for the draft... Why, if they're equal?
This intrigues me and I appreciate it. I am a Auto Body Tech and everything in this talk is completely true. The women in the trades band wagon is seen as the easiest promotion gimmick and even I'm getting sick of it. Show off the skill, not the gender. Thank you for giving this Talk!
I love that line. Show off the skill not the gender. Thank you
so deny males their right to equal opportunity ....
The perspective that certain tasks can only be done better by men and women only need to change. The mindset that women are week also need to change.
It is of utmost importance what caroline mentions in this video, the point of view she has about male power in certain labor camps.
But we must bear in mind that there are people, not simply men, who are better at some things that another person could not handle.
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a truely intelligent person
This entire Ted talk could've just been the title and you could've ended it with a "thanks for coming to my Ted talk"
There's this social stigma that men are just confident in themselves and don't deal with that nagging self doubt because "oh men have it easy" let me just say, I am a man, and I recently bid on a job to move up in my company. Not even a big leap. It was literally to the next step, the first true full time position in the company ladder. And the entire 2 weeks it took for them to pick a person for that position. I was extremely stressed "oh I should have also put in for the afternoon shift because what if they don't pick me because they had one other person and then The afternoon shift gets a new hire to fill it." And "they won't pick me because I'm young and there's this female worker who probably also wants full time and is pretty good too"
I was beyond stressed and nervous and not at all confident in whether or not I'd be picked. But feminists would have you believe that I was completely cool headed and knew I was getting that position because I am a man.
I did get the position and even still I start to think every so often "did I get it because they wanted me? Or did I get it because I was the only in house bid on it?" And every day since I feel like I have to put in 200% because I am not confident.
I'm probably fine but, I lack self confidence and am constantly stressing.
Like this woman here said, confidence doesn't see gender.
That's not what the science says
It is important to understand that the word "equal" is misused in the
society in general. "Equal" does not mean "identical". Originally,
"equality" meant that women should have the same legal rights than man
has in the society, that is, women are equal in front of the law. These
days people are so confused, they think that "equal" means "identical".
These are two different words with two different meanings. Man and
woman are not IDENTICAL and they should be EQUAL in front of law.
Unfortunately, in modern society woman now have legal rights that men do
not have, so equality in front of law does not take place in modern
society. In the legal system men are now oppressed. Indeed, they are.
Another important thing, men and woman ARE NOT enemies nor are they
supposed to be enemies. They are supposed to fulfill each others lives
and form families (I do not say to form a marriage, but to form a
family, be careful there) and both are needed in order to rise healthy
sane kids. This does not take place anymore in our society. A healthy
society regenerates itself by giving birth to new babies, an unhealthy
society stops breeding. So, who is doing this to us?
Time to move on......Amen!
I'm a 25 girl, unmarried, and was very happy about this until I realized the down side. It's like living far from
your family - yes, you feel independent, unrestricted, and able to live for yourself.
But with age, you realize that living for yourself is entertaining, but not fulfilling.
You don't need to rush into marriage, and when you're married don't rush out of the marriage. But the journey of
life spent with another gives you something precious that can't be bought. That companionship, even if it ends
badly, is better than ending alone.
When I was younger, I looked at all the divorce out there and misery and hatred between exes, and I thought “I'm
not going to make some one miserable, I'm not going to spend my life with someone I hate” …well, that's like
saying “I'm not going to drive a car because of all the accidents.” Thats not the answer - the answer should be
to wear seatbelts, take precautions. My resolution SHOULD have been “I'm going to love my spouse, for whoever he
is, and I'm going to give him my best.” Instead, I chose to live for me, and that's who I got …just me.
Find someone to love, and give them your best. Like an ocean voyage, it may not last forever but at least you gave
it your best shot. And there may be many perils and storms, but atleast you survived them with someone. The
relationships that I've had were very special to me and I wish I had gotten married. Instead, I married my
“independence”.
The people that get divorced and hate each other, they didn't know how to love, they were selfish - it wasn't
“marriage” that created the misery, it was their unwillingness to love each other.
Love is willing to accommodate (not a reluctant willingness, but an eager willingness), even when you don't really
want to. Even when there's no gain from it. Even when the other person is annoying, or stinky, or exhausting.
And when you can love your spouse like that, chances are your spouse will, too. And yes, it's POSSIBLE that you
might love a person who doesn't, or can't, love their spouse …and that is sad. It really is. But I'd rather go to
the Olympics and fail, than never go at all.
Love is patient, love is kind.
Love does not envy, is not boastful and is not conceited.
Love is not rude or self-seeking.
I'm waiting for the right one. If you agree with what I said, then contact my whatsapp: +447901380061
I travel around the world, and my love won't be limited by district.
Never Ever Part As Lovers.
You are a beautiful person mam 😄
This looks like Enlightenment to me.
Good luck 👍
I agree with with her specially when she said she went to go have dinner with his colleague when she said that every society needs the point of view of all genders so they could have a bigger progress.
It's for my English class
Estoy de acuerdo perro
Being has a tendency to 'return' to clusters
='the nature of solidarity' -a desire for empathy -(Wave)-(yin)
and also,
Being has a tendency to 'exist' as individuals
='the nature of self-expension' -a desire for breed-(Particle)-(Yang)
Likewise, humans have two elements.
We must realize that we all have both left and right elements
=Solidarity and Self reliance
No one has only one element.
so 'Sum' derived from 'two poles' , (thesis, antithesis, synthesis)
To develop intellect and ethics by harmonizing the two,
It is good to realize it and balance it properly
But A few people polarized the crowd(political partisanship)
without balancing themselves.
And They stole only the sum, only the synthesis from the triangle composition.
Now We all have to get out of this deceptive situation.
This is not the time for us to hate each other.
We have to track down those who have been manipulating us.
CZcams speaks more about my reality than email
I, as a man, can only dream of a day when I have the same and equal reproductive and parental rights as a woman.
Nice.😇
“Reproductive” lmao...you already do, you can choose who and what to bust a nut in and be done with it.
That’s as far as it goes for you.
Hally Sheckleford
Not according to the state. The man is forced by the state to pay her for her choice for 18 years.
Hally Sheckleford
Her Body
Her Choice
Her Responsibility. Through to adulthood.
dream
women arent objects;men arent wallets
Love this video no bias towards either gender
I am wondering why this video have only this much of views. Every other tedx talks have millions of views. The idea she brought up in this video should be known by everyone.
Finally!! Gender inequality talk that takes into consideration men too
3:29
exactly is about women
Yes! Equality not equity!
According to the Duluth model, women and children cannot commit acts of violence in and of themselves, they only act violent in reaction to the violence of men. This is why the only solution, for the state, in any domestic dispute, is to remove the man from the home. For 3-5 years.
Women being paid less then men for working the same job. Men get sentenced to jail for defending themselves when a women is first to hit the man. There certainly is gender inequality for both sides just different aspects.
Except your first sentence is a false narrative. The $0.70 that women make to the dollar men makes is a myth.
@0doublwzero0 pretty sure it’s truw
@@thegreatunknown4428 Pwetty sure its not... Differences can be explained by 1. time in profession, 2. hours worked beyond full time, 3. negotiations in work contracts. etc. Not my first time in this rodeo...
And they said is not their problem
@@thegreatunknown4428 Nah, if women were payed less, why don't companies hire more women to save 23 cents lol 😂
Gender equality is not a thing, and will neve be. Men are women have equal rights but we are not the same.
Equality is good. More Brick layers,Carpet layers,Plumber,Roofers,Road Worker. How many are in this Industry.
OMG a rational talk on gender!
It's probably a bit much to hope that someone will look into the law courts next and see the disparities there!
She's talking about gender equality in the workplace among the top 1% of people
She doesn't talk about problems such as the suicide rate, life expectancy gap, victims of crime, homicide, workplace death, divorce court bias, education bias, army recruitment bias, fatherlessness, homelessness, domestic violence victims, alcoholism, disposability and much more other issues that disadvantage men more than anything else.
Move on guys, none of the real issues addressed in the video, gender equality is about women, will always be and always has, we don't matter, they do.
I’m not sure, whether you’d like to hear my opinion, but here we go.
I recall her saying that gender equality is a complex problem and therefore this means that there is a list of other questions and aspects of it, but she decided to talk about the basics.
It probably means, that she is aware that those problems you’ve listed are present, but decided to give us a new perspective)
I have always told everybody, that opinions (This video is her view is her opinion) are merely lenses through which you can look at the problem. The more different opinions (ways or perspectives) you have studied the better you will understand the problem.
Hope you’d consider my reply)
@@rosiekardash4014 Thank you Emily, yes exactly this.
What but why. Men have feelings to.
Thanks for bringing all these issues up. Women always claim to be about equality, but then they always ignore these issues just because they effect men... the women of society needs to grow up and start thinking of the team and not just the player.
@@rosiekardash4014 And she chose to talk about jobs instead of deaths, suicides, divorces, and domestic violence crime...
If I gave a dollar to my sister each time I disrespect her, she'd have U$0,65.
Women are paid less
Great - no men bashing. I've got 2 lovely sensitive sons and I worry about their future because of inequality and men bashing
Common sense is so seldom observed that at first blush it appears to be genius
When are we going to see equal.opportunities for men? What do we mean by equal opportunities? The usual interpretation is men and women having equal access to the opportunities that exist. But that is not all there is to it, is it? If we examine an opportunity two things are needed. One person to create the opportunity and another to take it on. We are all familiar with the demands for equality in the second part - quotas for women on boards, more female film directors, jobs for women, women's sports etc. When are we going to see equality in creating opportunities? When are we going to see women creating opportunities on the same scale as men do? Can you name an industry created and developed by women? Can you name an institution created and developed by women? Can you name a major company created and developed by women? Can you name a major technology created and developed by women? Can you name a sport created and developed by women? When are going to see equal opportunities being offered to men?
I don’t want gender equality I’m ok with men being in charge it’s a better deal for me
True feminists is pro men pro woman pro everyone
Lol
No, egalitarians are "pro everyone" or in favour of equality for everyone. Feminists only care about women's rights, usually at the expense of men's rights. The clue is in the name.
Boomers are getting smarter in politics
You make perfect points for both but they would come from your environment. And I agree what are you talking. But do you realise there are many countries around the world where eduction decide on gender even the birth.
Woman and man are not equal did you see ever that in Olympic games a woman appoint against A man as a challenges ? But a woman have power to give birth a child but a man didn't . Both are different qualities
Yes. Like almost all other animals on earth: one can give birth and the other can’t
When women gain the right to choose their own reproduction, will they extend that same right to men?
Does a man have the same and equal right to choose as a woman? At what point does any man have the right to choose to be a parent?
As it said So called “Gender Equality” is all an illusion their will never be such equality like that so stop deluding yourselves of so called “Gender Equality”
Gender equality means giving women more than men in anything they want.
That makes absolutely no sense
Not at all...u shoud have to read, make more study or put your concern and awareness indeed about gender equality.
women want gender equality plus men should treat them nicely, offer seats on train/buses, open the door for them. That is women's definition of gender equality.
Marcus Lex well not mine.
Sorry... I fell asleep some minutes after it started. What was the point of the speech?
Mike Hawk
I think both genders have a lot going against them.
The type of gender equality that the UN and the EU are advocating sounds like numerical equality. Do they really mean this? Forced equality will be a disaster. The people are very different. We need to encourage the difference between the people so that society can develop. Just look at Soviet socialism. Also, who and what decide equality. When are things equal? This is a puzzle even mathematics cannot solve theoretically.
Parental leave for women?????
*gasps in American*
Mmmmh….you wouldn’t really …like REALLY know if you haven’t experienced it first hand. No? Ok.
Well I mean who calls thier daughter david?
I call mine Naruto
@@iklavyagaming8843 nice👌
It’s like saying I can get pregnant and u can’t so it’s your fault that I got pregnant and now are unable to do some things.
I as a man wouldn’t mind being able to produce another human but rn it’s not scientifically possible so you can’t just take the top spot because you are capable of doing something a man can’t. So as a male I want to see the Daly the men have the same parental rights as a women.
Long paid paternity leaves are much needed for men.
However, men need to be very wary of feminists who are pro-paternity leaves. Whenever feminists present themselves as pro-men, their hidden agenda is to further women's cause. She has given sound reasoning in favour of paternity leaves and all of it is valid. But her real agenda is to make men take long paternity leaves so that maternity leaves can be shortened and women can go back to workplace earlier and grow her career.
Feminists would pose as if they care for men when they say they are with men wanting to be present father. But they are actually for it only because it would allow them to be an absent mother.
It's the same when they say we are pro-men and want to take pressue off men to be the provider. Looks 'oh so compassionate' towards men but what they really want is men not to strive as hard as they today so women can gradually gain more financial powers.
Interesting talk.
However, parenting is seen from the predominantly female perspective.
We talk about men having parental leave typically in the first years of the child’s life.
If men’s parental skills and interest kick’s in when the child have to get out in the world and explore and build skills, under parental guidance, how does the society of today make room for that?
Parenting is seen almost entirely through a female lens.
Men are stuck at work and we leave the socialisation to “professionals”. Typically female professionals.
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Pogi po ba ako? ;'(
hindi
I hate u!! ;'(
hindi (2)
@@fa9059 😭
Pak u
So if a girl hits a guy a guy can hit her back
Unfortuantely,the case is if man hits a woman to defend himself,everyone will side with the woman. If a woman hits a man to protect herself,people would side with the woman.
Welp. Welcome to Society.
It's not just women that are mothers that are expected to be super women. All women are expected to be super women.
what about men
“It’s not a female issue, it’s an every person issue.” Then say the only difference is when women have babies.
Presume to speak about a whole field of knowledge from your limited and personal anecdotal experiences.
Equality and feminism exists until you need to haul the fridge up the 7th floor and the elevator is broken.
"CHANGE MY MIND" 😘😘
Let’s start with the facts. There is no gender inequality.
Lastinline women are being paid less then men for working the same job. Men get sentenced to jail for defending themselves when a women is first to hit the man. There certainly is gender inequality for both sides just different aspects.
Lil Yes
That’s is what people want you to believe but it’s not true. You can’t look at salary because men in general work a lot more hours yearly than women do
How?
Τ. Ζ
Because the stats they use are based on total annual income not per hour. So if you work more you make more. That seems fair to me.
@@vanhelsing8776 yeah but its not always about the money
Sadly India still doesn't have Gender neutral law
How do you mean I would love to know
@@dasher12xd35 Oh did I mention the MANY funds for businesses run by women? + In education, you know the gender bias? yeah multiply it by a million
True. The Indian legal system is very anti-male.
Women choose to be mothers - her body, her choice. Does he get a say? If she says no and he says yes - no baby. If she says yes and he says no - baby is born. So no real choice for him. her body, her choice. Her choice, her responsibility!
What?
@@vladimirlenin9010 Femunism advocates for gender equality but denies men the reproductive rights that women have. A father gets none of the rights a mother gets - it is fairly obvious gender discrimination.
@@vladimirlenin9010 If its her choice, then the man should not have to pay child support.
@@nikhilpranav6915 i agree that the man and the woman get a choice in certain situations.
Men and women arent the same, even if a man has righta to have as many children as he can take care of he doesnt have a say in another being 's body, in this case a woman's body bc he wont suffer of childbirth edit: and all of the other complications of pregnancy, the same goes to women being cleaely less capable of doing hard tasks like being a construction worker
80-85% of the world's population will not make it to the rapture. Screaming and nashing of teeth. Continue on living the way you guys want. I would highly recommend all of you buying the candy bar payday. This way, you guys are ready for it.
I wish in this world there is a single gender either only men or only women
1000's of years of Civilization where MEN did the hard work and Women were the wives home carers..Now you want to tell me that we had been doing it wrong for ALL this time?
Nonsense, most of the history and prehistory women have worked to produce the food needed. It was only at the industrial revolution when the work and private life were separated and men meant to work and women often stayed home and did not directly work to earn the living. In agrarian life women worked just like men. Maybe they had different tasks, men were at the field and doing work at forests while women tended animals.
@@okaro6595 obviously men did most of the hard work throughout history..
@@emp731 they were the one who stopped women to the "hardwork" as they were the one who said thay "women are weak" so ofcourse they will die more than women when starts to accept help this will change
@@nishayong6884 Oh my..Is that your real name????DIKSHA lol
makka y seriously cmon man