Jada Pinkett Smith on Will, Love, Confidence & Self-Love - “I Wish I Knew This Love Lesson Sooner!”
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If you've ever accepted blame that wasn’t yours, sacrificed yourself for the “greater good”, or felt like the cards were stacked against you, this episode of Women of Impact featuring the ONE and ONLY Jada Pinkett Smith is for you!
Jada is here sharing the MANY frikin’ HARD lessons she learned along her journey to help you GET BACK UP when life knocks you down. From “The Entanglement”, to “The Slap”, to “The Eyeroll that MADE Him Do It”, Jada has taken hit after hit but she has more love, confidence, and self-acceptance than EVER before.
And today we’re going deep to talk about the adversities she has faced and why she’s actually GRATEFUL for it!
We’re talking about:
- How relationships and love are a PRACTICE
- Why you MUST stop expecting society’s romanticized and idealistic beliefs to be true
- The difference between making a Sacred Sacrifice and self-betrayal
- How having the courage to be disliked by others leads to self-love
- Why you need to focus on making decisions where you can look in the mirror and feel frikin’ PROUD of yourself
So, if you've ever accepted blame that wasn’t yours, sacrificed yourself for the “greater good”, or felt like the cards were stacked against you, Jada’s wisdom in this episode will speak to YOU, homie!
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Chapter Markers:
💪 [00:00] Finding Inner Strength & Embracing Reality
👩❤️👨 [09:36] Relationships are a Practice
🧠 [17:39] Know Who You Are
👍🏼 [25:08] Choose Your Pain
🙌 [30:42] Going Against the Grain
📝 [39:20] Live by Your Own Code
🔥A-MAZING QUOTES FROM JADA:
"I'm really grateful for all of the adversity that I've had because it's really helped cure self judgment.”
“Once we really know who we are and are willing and have the courage to do the work, to really find out who and what we are, we start to realize that all the daggers that come from other people is their self judgment projected onto your self judgment."
"At the end of the day, we have all the control to change whatever we need within ourselves to have the lives that we want. So the moment that we're willing to stop worrying about what other people are doing, and we're focusing on what are those things within myself that I need to change to help me have the life that I want to have, help me be the person that I want to be - that's when things start clicking, that's when things start rolling."
"I feel like we're all addicts in one way or another. Every single person you'll ever meet, it's like, but what are we addicted to, right? And a lot of us are addicted to our psychological cycles, right?"
"I had to just start getting more real and start breaking down these romanticized, idealistic ideas of what I wanted my life to look like."
"...it doesn't matter how much money you make, how much success you have, how much fame you have, you're not exempt from being a human being. You're not exempt from the pain of human relating. You're still a human being. That's it."
"How somebody thinks about me honestly has nothing to do with me. If my kids were going out here and saying the things that other people are saying who don't know me, then I'd be concerned."
“Whatever is calling your soul, answer those calls and have the courage to be disliked. Have the courage to be disliked because if you don't have the courage to be disliked, you will never self actualize, specifically as a woman, because you're going to have to do some shit that people ain't going to like."
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If you’re judging Jada… look in the mirror. I have a very similar experience to some of Jadas experience especially in marriage and also see things the same she does… so few people understand where she’s coming from. It’s a meta view and if you are feeling challenged or triggered or disgusted by her… there is some work in you that needs some attention.
I was blamed for our marriage in how our marriage came apart but only because they didn’t know the behind the scenes of his part in it… and it goes deep. I wasn’t going to put his stuff out there to help people understand but I did encumber the blame and judgment for it and he knew. He even asked what can he do to move forward and start fresh and I told him “be honest”. People don’t like honest because it shatters their world and really turns it upside down. Instead they get nasty. I agree with the “betraying self” to be sacrificing bit and how that can really work against you. It can be the source of a lot of challenges and issues.
Thank you so much for this point of view. I wholeheartedly agree that we do not know what goes on behind close doors and so I felt her transparency with it actually is helpful to other women who are suffering in silence.
@@LisaBilyeu Thank you for this... "suffering in silence" is exactly what it is because of the stigma and judgment wives face when navigating marital issues unconventionally to resolve issues, especially during separation and/or divorce that is unannounced. It's a process marital couples work through even during the "uncoupling" phase and does not always result in a clean break apart. Thank you 🙏 for allowing some of us to have a voice through Jada.
Exactly. Thank you!
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Thank you for saying this. So many people are so quick to point the finger and misunderstand what’s going on because they don’t have all the facts or they only want to see things from their point of view.
When ppl are told to hate someone, they just do, no questions asked. Especially when it's a woman. Thank you for doing this interview Lisa.
Thank you! That really means a lot to me! I agree with your statement and it honestly breaks my heart! ONE of so many reasons why I do this show and think these kinds of discussions are imperative is so we can start supporting each other instead of coming at each other!
@@LisaBilyeu you do a great job at it too!
having the courage to be disliked by others is giving you the courage to like yourself-message received. Message received
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I feel like women learn love lessons too late because many of us are hyper-sexualized by our early teen years. Sometimes even younger. By people around that age as well as adults. But we’re expected to know what we’re doing in these situations, or told that we “asked for” things to happen. The only way we learn at that age is if we’re taught the truth, rather than the gaslighting many of us receive as teachings that we eventually need to unlearn.
oh yes. n the worst thing is observing how ur own daughter grwoing up under tht influence n seeing her adapting all what uve discribed. n i cant prevent it. only hoping tht she will unlearn it earlier than i did.
@@fannybindeki7686have faith in Jesus alone to be saved m❤
For everyone commenting “oh no I can’t watch this”: suspend the judgement created in your mind from the media. Jada is sharing some hard earned wisdom here.
Thank you! ❤
There is no judgment from the media when they just talk and you can make your own mind like in the red table. That woman is very self centered and I don't understand why she's here.
@@typical_snowflake Hopefully it's to see and hear and look at what a true female narcissist predator looks like.. The fact she even has her on is making me question the validity of past guests as well. It's like watching a serial killer on the 700 club tell us how to lead our lives...
I dunno. I haven't watched the show, I'm trying to watch some clips now to actually have something to say about this, but that's kind of tedious. So I'm not prepared to debate this entire topic, however, these clips just seem like people talking about very personal things that are likely to be judged and ripped apart by most audiences. That show looks like the airing of dirty laundry, which done by a celebrity seems like an experiment in the limits of entertainment/pop culture. Which is what? An experiment in what tracks with popular audiences and how much the general public can appreciate people being vulnerable? I don't see that as wildly controversial.
People don't do great things, people hurt people, and people are trying to get through this life. I don't see much else going on in those clips other than her/them being honest about deeply personal things. What I do see here is a public audience that is eager to tear a "misbehaving" woman down. Same thing with Yoko Ono, Roxane, Britney Spears (before it became cool to pity Britney), and others. Read the book "Trainwreck" there is a pattern here that is all about judging women for misbehaving, it's a power dynamic in our society and people feed off of it and gain a sense of superiority from it, and control women with it, and I think that's why Jada is a guest on this youtube channel, to say f*ck all that.@@typical_snowflake
You are so in point. ❤️@@Lea_and_Henry
I like Jada. I like Will. I like that they are able to come together and support each other when needed and yet still stand in their own truths. I think Jada is brilliant. I've been married (currently going through a cruel divorce), I know its hard. I don't know why everyone blames her for everything and then says nothing about how flawless her skin is glowing. From the outside looking in, to me, she is very savvy and much stronger than I could endure.
I loved Jada’s comment that society doesn’t like women having journeys
Yes a journey into infidelity and predatory entanglements like what is the issue here 😍😍
They really don't. And the fact that Jada is openly being a full human being, and unapologetically taking up space is why so many people dislike her
I'm no fan of Jada but Will isnt innocent either. Hes had "entanglements " as well. Theyve just kept it out of the media. Also August was an adult . We need to stop infantilazing young adults. We live & we learn @destinycantwait
Society likes journeys filled truth accountability and reflection. She sold us part reality and fantasy
@@AMonteiro4 (1) my comment was about Jada not will (2) August was Jaden's friend and age-range so she shouldve respected her son's relationships
Self accountability.. . we ALL need this.. man or woman.
Lol ... We all know the Snake on the room
Jada publicly sharing her journey to radical worthiness is incredibly honorable. I am in deep gratitude for bearing witness to her journey through her inner world.
- When you begin your inner work or shadow work, Jada’s wisdom will begin to make sense and you will know that she is dropping gems to help you on your path.
- To all the judgmental people - Ask yourself; in your world, have you done anything that you regret? or wish you did different? Has someone seen you in a negative light because of a choice you made? If so, how did it make you feel when you were judged about it? Ponder on those questions honestly….Because once you narrow it down to your own human experiences, you will see that Jada is also human and the only difference between you and her is her shadows are in the public eye.
Ask yourself how would you be if all your shadows were in the public eye?
Fame doesn't exempt you from being a human being.
I didn’t think I would like this interview as much as I did! She spoke truth and wisdom. “Have the courage to be disliked!” “As a woman don’t be afraid to journey” 😮💨
Thank you for being open and giving it a try!! I’m always going to work hard to show up for you guys and bring you as much empowerment as possible! I will always promise you that! 🥰
@@LisaBilyeu aw I got a response!!! You’re doing AMAZING! I’m so grateful to have found this channel 💕
Lisa really laid it so well in the beginning. This woman has gone through soooo much. Yet people are so unreasonably hateful towards her.
I challenge you to have a modicum of observance when it comes to Jada. Just watch her literally spend this entire interview sucking up narcissistic supply and loving it. Once you see it you won't be able to unsee it - but yes, go off.
@@zidesce7961 projecting
It says more about the person talking, then it does about Jada ❤
I agree. It’s very telling when people desperately demand that you feel the way they feel about people they don’t even know. Especially when it comes to Black women. I experience it often and I’m nobody, but I walk into rooms and I immediately see some people clench up, start whispering to their buddies while glaring at me. It’s very calculated behavior and speaks to their own perceptions of my phenotype as well as their insecurities. We’re all capable of discernment, we’re all capable of willful ignorance, and we’re all capable of being manipulated. It’s on each of us to make choices from there. 🤷🏾♀️
Jada is a malignant narcissist, plain and simple. I understand that some cannot not see it, but when you get educated on what it is it is clear to see.
Women - Don’t be afraid to journey - she’s so right! - u will have pain to move forward or pain to keep you stuck .. make a decision which one and be cool with it - this will help u find your shine - I love it
"Have the courage to be disliked". Exactly this I admire about Jada together with her self-awareness. Life is not a popularity contest and worrying about hateful randoms should never be something you care about. I love that she has the courage to go on her own journey and centering herself in her own life after years of centering others. Thank you Lisa ❤
I want the people who are using stigmatised medical labels for Jada and using bullying behaviour towards her to question why they are doing that. Do you think it's fair? Why does Jada trigger you?
They were bamboozled by media to perceive Jada negatively. They learned the term narcissist about two years ago, watched a few YT videos, listened to some self help/psych podcasts and now believe they are qualified to label someone they've never interacted with a narcissist.
@@carmencolita929 if you analyse anyone close enough, especially people in Hollywood, you can easily label them all as narcissists. its interesting that this stigmatising labels are mostly reserved for women though...
Shame powerful women are so threatening - she’s interesting intelligent and self aware - I enjoyed this interview
I love her honesty, read 📚 her book, loved her stories. Very brave woman with high level self-actualization❤ thanks Jada for sharing your story, raw, was inspired! Keep spreading the word of self love and self acceptance, Worthy! ❤❤❤❤
I’m not a fan of her, but I completely respect her for her raw unfiltered honesty. Very informative video🌟
Me too, love her point of view. It screams change for the better version of the women that hibernates inside all of us!❤❤❤
@@juliananielsen1646💯💯💯💛
If she were actually honest with herself she would be way way more embarrassed by her own actions and not her husband's.
@@Jay-iw4gg who made you THE FINAL JUDGE. WHEN I LOOK IN A MIRROR I SEE MYSELF. IT IS ENOUGH TO JUST LOOK AT MYSELF. NOONE AND I MEAN NONE WALKS IN MY SHOES, NO ONE CAN FEEL MY PAIN OR JOY AND VICE VERSA. MAY HER BOOK HELP AT LEAST ONE PERSON. 😊
22:00 this is an interesting statement. I’m a man yet I relate so much to this. Society teaches men you must burn yourself out and give before you are valued. And sadly women are taught a similar lesson.
It makes me think, why does society pressure people to pour into everyone else and create value for others before checking to see if you’re doing ok
Women need to support each other, be there for each other. Everyone has their reasons and that does not justify everything but do not judge! Love or accept, do not hurt! Lisa, you are a flagship!
I wouldn’t take a lesson on anything from Jada
"Sacred sacrifice vs self abandonement" hits home
Wow we need to learn to be Gleaners and not be hyperfocused on the messenger but get the aspects of her story that resonates. We also need to lead with compassion and not judgment. Thank You Lisa🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
It was a brilliant interview to be honest.
So well said my homie!!!
We also need to be discerning and not take life advice from hypocrites and liars. There’s only one reason people rally around her and it’s not her good character because she doesn’t have it!
Ahhh.... No watching this
I love you Lisa. Next please!
Jada Skin is absolutely FLAWLESS 🙌
Shes a lovely, authentic, strong woman.
Im gonna be honest, saw Jada and thought nope but Lisa made me stay, you all know why, my advice is dont skip, Jada is a woman who has a lot to say for women, not too many takeaways from this one , just a couple but my goodness me i needed them.
I dont judge anyone...you dont know what goes on behind closed doors...also I have been judged by others that never knew the full story so therefor I have wisdom and knowledge to never judge or assume, especially what the media puts out and gossip from people. ( life lessons and life is our teacher.)
You don't need to judge Jada to simply observe her narcissism in this interview. It's blatant once you recognize it.
Agreed. Manufactured outrage against agreed-upon social scapegoats is running rampant these days. But folks will gladly turn a blind eye to the myriad of injustices that have an actual impact on their own lives.
I mean I'm judging off the stories she put out in her own interviews 🤷🏾♀️
'Courage to be disliked' so true but hard
She is intelligent AF for sure. Im listening in order to not get into the cancellation culture.
I have zero respect for this woman. Just because you're going through stuff, doesn't mean you can shame & disrespect your husband & family like that. I've unfollowed every single channel & influencer that gave this narcissist a platform. Action speaks louder than words. She may be great at speaking & storytelling but her actions are the real truth & her real self.
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So happy for Jada. ❤ Not many find their path to healing. It’s such a freeing feeling.
The fact that you’ve given this narcissistic abusive woman a platform to speak on a women empowerments channel is vile. The amount of abuse she has publicly shown and she is still applauded is staggering and I’m honestly disappointed.
Genuinely curious about what you are talking about. Can you explain?
I’m even more curious now because I keep looking it up and it seems that people think she’s a narcissist for not telling the world she and her husband were separated.
I still don’t get it. I mean will smith has been banging young Hollywood actresses for a hot minute so why is she the narcissist?
I think it’s interesting because she’s out here speaking and he’s just being quiet and everyone is now calling her a narc. I don’t know I’m just wondering if you’ve got something other than what that one dude on CZcams said.
@@DaughterofDiogenes she’s publicly humiliated and embarrassed her husband on a regular basis for years. Called another man her soulmate - imagine the backlash a man would have doing this. She also made him publicly apologise to everyone for throwing her a birthday party (that he spent 3 years planning) and called him selfish for doing so. She’s known to go back and forth on their relationship status when it benefits her. She had s*x with her sons friend while married and blamed it on Will being immature and doubled down when he was visibly uncomfortable because she talked about it publicly. If you watch the entire clip of Will slapping Chris rock she laughs after. She allowed her daughter at 13 to have an intimate relationship with a 23 year old man and encouraged her son to move out at 14 because he was ‘ready’. Also encouraged her kids to take psychedelics like ayuhasca. There is a video online of Jada putting a camera into Wills face and asking him to speak on something to do with their private relationship and he says ‘don’t just start filming me without asking me’ and under her breath she says “oh my goodness” clearly annoyed and says she’s dealing with foolishness talking about him. It’s degrading and emasculating and he’s clearly uncomfortable and she just carries on.
There is so so much more and it’s all public information but considering she’s a nut case I’m going to say all of this was alleged.
@@Hannah-th2ib A great example of what NOT to do!
Jada is beautiful inside and out. Humans are not perfect and when you know better, you are happier. The vibes that you bring to life are palpable. It all starts with you and filling yourself up with gratitude and the generous gifts you have. Five senses, a brain that works and understands emotional intelligence, and humility. Not everyone gets this amount of gifts.
I hear you Jada 🫶
When she says "Don't be paralyzed, you can't avoid discomfort or pain" I felt that. i absolutely love Jada's honesty.
Lisa, keep doing what you are doing. More love and support, less hate. Not only for each other, but for ourselves. We have to be the change we want to see. Thank you for taking such care in who you invite as a guest and inviting Jada. Empowered women can’t be controlled. That scares a lot of people.
I like the fact that she is writing her own story and telling it the way she wants it told.. people are jst that people!!! And she doesn't care what anyone thinks of her .💪💪🇿🇲
Thank you both so much for this valuable conversation. I learned so much just from the initial first 5 minutes. Wow! Powerful!
“Have the courage to be disliked” ❤
Jada is a powerful woman. She breaks the norms. She is very self-aware and have worked a great deal on herself. I do have a great admiration for her. She is true and authentic. She has reached low; and contemplated all other avenues to elevate herself. I believe it’s the reason WILL loves her deeply. She has such wisdom that if we listen carefully, we will be blessed with her journey. A woman of great courage. She has yearned for a better self and have found it through betrayal of herself. She doesn’t blame anyone. She looked inward
However a real transformation it’s repentance to Self-acceptance/forgiveness. Of course society has lied, manipulated, alienated us about LOVE. Yes when we lost our ways, the only way to grow is to acknowledge that we got it wrong, so wrong that adultery it’s a cry for intervention…
If fundamentally the relationship was not base on True love, it will always crumble.
Jada is so intelligent and resilient to admit that.
It will be so inspiring to hear that from her
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Everyone’s story is different people need to stop blaming her for whatever happened in her marriage. Learn from people’s personal stories take the good and leave the bad…… I learned a few things from the interview. I respect her for speaking up!!!
Jada is so real and so strong. I understand her and I hope I can grow and face adversities like her.
Wow! I wasn’t expecting to watch this entire interview and be in awe. ❤
Please bring her back! She has somuch to share and wisdom to give 🔥
Ahhh yes. The true definition of a sociopath
So true!
Im so glad i wasnt judging and actually been listening to jadas wisdom: the bible talks about the world turning on truth speakers so much. But the words Jada spoke & openness Lisa gave Jada 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Lisa, I admire all your dedication, work, and attitude 💕
Jada is one of those women I wish I could talk to, in the atmosphere of absolute self awarness, openess and deep self love (which I am still looking for) I ❤ Jada.
Thank you for sharing. Jada is the gift that keeps on giving! ❤
I agree. She is the human equivalent of herpes.
wow you got her on here
Wow! Jada you are so beautiful. I see the beauty in your spirit, in the message your giving & the way you still smile. God bless you..
This is on another level! Priceless! Genuine! What a great conversation. Thank you both ❣️❣️❣️
love this episode!
we love you jada. so much wisdom. miss your red table talk! wish to have more people like you in my life! thank you for the talk
Great interview!
Ooo “sacred sacrifice” - this whole interview is so dang powerful!!
So happy you brought her on Lisa!! She´s so wise and self-aware!
When jada said were not exempt- !! Big major key
YESSS LOVE THIS SO MUCHO
Minute 33:00 "We can be the gatekeepers of... (Oppressing other women) ... Powerful!💥 By negatively judging Jada, are we making it easier for ourselves to be judged and blamed too?🤔 Great interview Lisa!💞😎
I absolutely love Jada. ❤️ She's a beautiful force of Nature & i admire her & thank her for all the wisdom she shares. 🙏☺️
I love this woman soo much! Knowledge is power and knowledge she shared ❤❤
This was awesome!
Just came here to have some popcorn and enjoy the show. lol
I’ll never understand the hate ppl have for this beautiful courageous woman. I think ppl are trying to protect their own self hate onto her, at this point.
I love her SOOO SO much!! Shes so raw and BEAUTIFUL human goddess!
I love Jada even when everyone bashed her I actually listened to her and saw and felt her pain. Such bravery.
Hmm… 🤨
The only person that will not let you down is God. Everyone is human and we all make mistakes. You are not perfect. The main thing in life is that you become better and learn from your mistakes. Please do not judge others before looking the mirrow yourself. You do not know what people have gone through.
Yes Jada ! Keep telling your truth !! 1:08 1:08
I love your podcast, so I'm open to hearing out from Jada perspective
Jada pinkett smith
❤ Personality is awesome, and her life
❤ worty ' ❤
Thank you for sharing
I came for the comments, and they ont disappoint. These alone were worth the price of admission. Learning a lot about personal perspectives based on whether you may be for or against Jada. Interesting...🤔
OMG, not her again! I've had enough malignant narcissists in my life. No thanks!!!
Close your eyes and open your minds ❤️
No one is perfect. We are all flawed.
First audible book I listened to. Love to you Jada… mainly because ure so damn pretty.
Jada is right us women take the blame for everything in so many situations! And so true about the eye roll I don’t think any man will make a bad decision over an eye roll. Love women of impact 😊
Yes, love Jada!! ❤
We'll she's definitely a survivor and I respect her for that
I agree with Jada
This woman is WISE❤
I hear you Jada!!❤
I find this interview interesting. It’s about the message. Not the messenger. Her flaws and mistakes don’t define her. You people are executers.
She never owned her mistakes …keep saying she did not want to be married how insulting to her husband ..over and over again…sadistic
@@cottagecornerAgree . Hes not so innocent .
@@cottagecorneryeah they're both toxic whack jobs
Gosh I miss her… please bring RTT back
I agree with her 100%.
I will always support jada.❤❤
I love Jada. Idc idc. She's a strong soul. And many women are dying under the same experiences daily only they don't get brave enough to speak up
Jada and Will Smith, a solid couple as a rock, it's very rare these days as divorce is not an option!
vulnerable narcissism at its peak.
Yep, I'm judgy... no thank you. I've been studying narcs for over a decade, and I can't stomach yet another one...
Can someone clarify what she means by sacred sacrifice?
I dont know why people have a bloody probmem with Jada. I really love this women ❤
Awesome Interview! Beautiful insight!
Oh nah you got Jada I’m outta here. I can’t take this channel seriously. I’m unfollowing. 🤣. I’m not even watching this mess. Jada about to lie and confuse you.
Bravo 👏🏻 ❤
Jada we love you....
Not a fan of Jada, but I hope booking her brings Lisa even more viewers because this channel is pretty great. 🥂
Jada is my favorite villain.
Amazing interwiev ! Such a strong woman and a huge inspiration ❤ Thank you Jada and Lisa ❤
The wise lessons here we can all learn from. Thank you Jada and Lisa !
I knew I loved me some Jada❤❤❤