DEEP DOWN INSIDE a short film by Christin Hensel
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- čas přidán 5. 05. 2014
- DEEP DOWN INSIDE
A short film about emotional child abuse and neglect.
written and directed by Christin Hensel
Music by Purple Planet Music
www.purple-planet.com - Krátké a kreslené filmy
“Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.”
Well thanks for making me feel better. im not being rude it just feels so nice to be fussed over for once.
Scarbee *MY CHILDHOOD AINT ANYTHING LIKE THAT*
chloe casey SAME. I've never had that.... Never will.
true but we live in world full of satan and darkness
Ya it should be but sadly many people (me) didnt get that and its hard because you just wanna be happy and have someone care
Currently going through this now. Whoever says that this isn't realistic, consider yourself blessed.
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^^^ this video is better than most of my days
Good grief Ikr they must be so lucky to believe this is 'over the top' :|
all my friends said that but deep down i know
I really hate it when parents abuse you and then people tell you that you can't hate them because "she's still your mother" or "he's still your father"
Sky Raven i know,right?Like,yo...how can i not hate them?They are slowly killing me...this is not ok.
Story of my actual life
Whether your are blood-related or not, it shouldn't be accepted for anyone to treat a kid or another person that way.
YES if anyone else did what they did they wouldn't tell you to keep them in your life. So why is it different?
Lance Elliot Hill it’s because people assume parents love their children unconditionally so everything like this must be a story about a one off or rare time where the parent was an imperfect human and lost their patience due to extenuating circumstances when in reality it’s the narrative of the entire relationship. People don’t want to admit that some parents should not have been parents because it’s a part of society we feel should be left to nature. If you want to drive a car or open a business you need a license. But no one questions your suitability as a parent unless you are so blatantly abusive you leave physical signs on the body that force others to address the situation even though they don’t want to. It goes against nature to think a parent would harm their child even though we rationally know it happens more frequently than we think.
I wish you could choose your parents.
Ye so u don't have to go through stuff like this
ikr
My goal is to be the parent everyone is jealous of and wants to have.
ColorAmber same
or not choose and born at all, That is good for me
it's sad.. that I thought this was normal..
Kju D Bam same
literally same
Same
Same
apple_pie jpg • insta same bro
Emotional abuse is a horrible thing. It literally ruins someone. If someone puts up with that bullshit for so long, things like even dropping a pencil on accident can make them feel like a fuck up, and want to kill themselves. It can mentally ruin someone for life!
I've been dealing with emotional abuse and I can relate to everything you just mentioned
+SKAR Me too. Some people, when abused, get sad and dpressed. Fortunatelly or not I got cold hearted and full of hate. Only recently (1 year ago) I realized and now I'm trying to change
My parents emotionally abuse me so I can relate to that
Jaci madison Cheers Oh my god. So much has happened since I first commented here: I clarified with my parents being bi, I told my two best friends I'm bi (it went marvelously well ; I still have another close friend to tell) and I wrote a letter to my dad telling him all about being emotionally hurt. He told me he understood, he was going to change, because his dad was even worse he is... All I can tell you is to never give up being a happy person, ever. Be yourself, try to be the best version of yourself. Live! Good luck on all that is to come. Be happy!
+p. MENDES thx you😝
My mom used to talk to me like that when I was a teenager. And I never did anything that made me deserved to be talked to like that. It still hurts me sometimes, but I just don't talk about it and she'll never realize how many pieces she ripped me up in no matter how old I get...
Awww i feel for u
My mom and dad were verbally and emotionally abusive to my brother and I and it rubbed off on my brother; i.e., he, today, is verbally and emotionally abusive. I hope you can find somebody to talk to about it.
That’s how my life is rn and always been sadly and I’m just to scared to go tell my bff or a consular....
And some nights I can’t figure out if I want to run away and where I would go or not but I’m scared what she would do to me if I ran..... 😭
Tara H I’ve been through abuse and neglect. Still going through it. Both emotionally and physically. Started when I was little. Now I know that my childhood was off. I’m working on moving out and cutting my family off after I turn 18 ( which is in a week and a half, maybe).
Tara H thank you
This video reminds me of how my mother talked to me, calling me stupid, making fun of my weight, calling me a liar, I am still hurting from the emotional and physical abuse I suffered, and still suffer from, I don't think she loves me at all
What... Know one should be judged you hurt for weight we’re all human and we should not be judged for anything but if she judged you for your wait that means her parents did that to her and her parents did that to her and it keeps going on and on I hope you feel better by reading this and Remeber to love yourself you were put on this planet for a reason ok :)
Same, but I'm pretty sure that she does love me. I'm just not sure if the feeling is still mutual
Me too😥
I'm sorry
My parents treat me and my siblings like this everyday. I thought it was normal.
chloe faulds lol same..
chloe faulds That's the big problem if you grew up with people like this. If I see happy familys or just people who can talk to their parents about private stuff or just have fun with them, I cry from inside, because I can't have a happy family. I'm over 20 and just wish some love and appreciation. Still living with my mom and I hate it so much.
hey, I know you posted this a while ago but if you live in the UK you can always talk to or chat (online 1-2-1 messenger) childline 0800 1111or go to the website. I am a volunteer counsellor there and you might find it really helpful :)
hi, I meant the person who commented that her parents treat her and her siblings like that, sorry for the confusion. :)
lmao same- feels so strange to just see a parent scared to say the word fuck (or something) in front of their kid. but, y'know.
This was my life .... I thought it was normal. I'm so confused
+Peg Pish but at least we now know we're not alone :) people say "the truth hurts" and Jesus says "the truth sets you free" - I wasn't quite ready for this truth though!
+Peg Pish but at least we now know we're not alone :) people say "the truth hurts" and Jesus says "the truth sets you free" - I wasn't quite ready for this truth though!
+Peg Pish but at least we now know we're not alone :) people say "the truth hurts" and Jesus says "the truth sets you free" - I wasn't quite ready for this truth though!
+Peg Pish but at least we now know we're not alone :) people say "the truth hurts" and Jesus says "the truth sets you free" - I wasn't quite ready for this truth though!
+Peg Pish but at least we now know we're not alone :) people say "the truth hurts" and Jesus says "the truth sets you free" - I wasn't quite ready for this truth though!
it made me cry knowing she was planing on making her mother something even though she was mean to her.
And the things is, we really do that. We do something nice for people we know won't return the favor.
Frrrr
That sadly is what parental emotional abuse is. The canvass she made for her mother was a *clear* sign of the emotional damage she is suffering, in that she would do *anything* to gain some kind of love, encouragement, or positive attention for her mother, but *nothing* she does to her mother will be good enough. I beg to ask why Hayley's parents even wanted a child in the *very* first place, unless they themselves are caught in a never-ending generational cycle which would lead their daughter down the same path?
I think the reason she didn't tell anyone is because she was scared of the consequences. Speaking as someone who has been through this, abusive parents often try to scare their children into not telling anyone about the abuse: "You would fail without me! No one will take care of you in the real world" "Your friends don't actually love you, they won't help you" "They'll put you in a foster home [if anyone finds out] and that's much worse than this! It says on the news all the time that foster parents neglect children and poke their eyes out!" and they try to guilt-trip them: "You're a horrible person for wishing something so bad [getting arrested - even if the child doesn't specifically say this] on your own parent!" "You should be grateful for the privileged life you have!" She's probably scared of getting herself or her parents into trouble by telling. She may also be scared of what her parents will do to her if she does tell the teacher/police, but they don't believe/help her, and her parents find out she told.
Angelie M. That’s how I feel.
Fairy Lucy same...that’s why I’m suicidal🙂
Exactly
Angelie M. The last few sentences have happened to me. I’ve gotten punished for trying to reach out for help.
Well said. This is what happens to me.
Honestly this has ruined me. I can't do anything without second guessing myself. I have anxiety about the smallest things. I am an extreme people pleaser. This ruins you from the inside out.
This video was a huge trigger for me. I'm 26 and I still put up with my parents' emotional abuse
Shelly Faye Darling
I hope you're okay. I know I'm only 14 but I hate seeing people upset. I promise you it gets better, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. It may take a while to get there but, trust me, you'll make it! Stay strong
-Chloe xo
Same I'm 26 still dealing with it everyday
It was for me too. I understand.
I’m 26 and I was dealing with it until the extreme happened. Today, I don’t talk to one of my parents and I moved out. God blessed with an amazing spouse that understands and is loving. Trust me there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Why can't you just move out?
I grew up thinking it was normal for my dad to treat me this way but I realized it wasn't when my friends talked about their home life. He keeps on saying sorry then curses at me again a few minutes if not seconds later. I tried to do something about it today and he sent me to bed without the dinner I made for us. I'm waiting for when I can sneak some food right now. I am sick of this and tomorrow I will try and work up the courage to ask my ELA teacher for her contact for times when I'm really upset and need someone who will listen me.
I live with just my mom and she acts like this... a lot of the time, but not all of the time. She acts proud of me when I do well, she is nice and loving, but then she can switch so quickly to just like the parents in this video, and I don't know what happened, and I can't tell if she loves me or not, I just know it makes me feel horrible every day and I'm counting down the days until I move out
I know how you feel. I hope things turn out well for you.
Thank you
same 😳
Same.
Angelie M. I RELATE SO BAD
I grew in worst emotional abuse from my mother..I grew up believing it was ok for others to treat me poorly,I accepted bad behavior in all my last relationships,over doing myself for their love and approval always doubting my self worth and abilities,low self esteem and etc...I was damaged from my mother's treatment and still from time to time struggle with her emotional manipulating abuse.....I pray for all who are dealing with this from any one,it can either make you are break you......
Angie Sade at least you had a relationship.
Christian-E. Latte .....I rather be alone than say at least I had a relationship....Abuse isn't worth it
Angie Sade thats true. It's hard to make people really like you and not just abusing/using you if you're grown up in an abusive environment.
Christian-E. Latte ....With some people that is true,for me I had to let go and forgive for the hurt I carried from my childhood and past relationships in order to break a cycle that was consistently making a monster out of me,setting standards and morals,but first love-- thy self and know thy worth,set goals and focus on what I needed to do to better myself as a woman...When growing up in such environment people like myself was brainwashed to believe the worst or less of ourselves so it was hard to accept a normal healthy relationship with anyone,so many of us had to go through toxic engery detox in order to accept positive people and energy that makes me us likable and easy to love....
Angie Sade To me it feels like I have to relearn all the social stuff. Appreciating myself, developing own opinions, understanding that the most failures are not made by me is hard too. I try to gain some confidence but then my mom pushes me back down. Since I know she isn't always right and it's wrong how she is to me I try to ignore the bad things she says. But then the bad thoughts in my head keeps saying all the bad stuff. I try to filter it out but sometimes it hits me bad and I get very sad because I think no one wants me. Then I want to cry but because this bad state of emotion became normal to me I can't. It's like I want to find some color in a gray world.
this was me , when i was a child for years i was verbally abused and emotionally abused . i still sometimes cry at night i only knew this , and it was not until college that i feel out of place because the screaming and yelling stop, ive reached out to friends to help in my healing but it is extremly painfull to know that your parents treated you in this way
I thought this was normal. My parents treat me like this... Explains a lot
This honestly hit home so hard😭 My parents got a divorce not long ago. My mom would always tell us how terrible our dad was. She would say the most negative things about him, things I never would have believed a wife could ever say about her husband, let alone to their children. The worst part of it all is that we believed her. I had such a negative opinion about my father, I couldn't even speak to him. When the divorce was finalized, we chose to live with our mom. That decision was the worst thing I could've possibly done. We've been stuck with my mom for almost two years now, and every second of it is a living nightmare. It has just progressively, day by day, gotten worse. Me and my brother wake up every morning with my mom screaming at us to get up, and cussed us out for not getting ready on time, or for even crying or breaking down when she says those nasty things. Sometimes It's even more severe than in this short film. When we come home from school in the afternoon, it's horrible. Everyday, I go to my bedroom and shut the door. If I even tried to tell her how my day went, or if anything new happened in my life, I'd get yelled at, cussed out, and told to shut up and go back to my room. And all i said was hey... On worse days, it'll become a full on screaming match. She'll yell at me or my brother for something we didn't mean to, or didn't do at all. We'll try and tell her that we didn't mean to, or didn't do it. We're chased into our rooms and told to shut the *beep* up and were smacked for "talking back." I'm stuck in my bedroom all of the time, and I cry myself to sleep. It just gets to be too much to handle😭 For food, were fed leftovers, or whatever she could find on sale. It's usually fried food. Fried food everyday. For lunch, I get half of a sandwich and a couple strawberries, and it leaves me hungry. I'd really like to eat healthier and have a healthier lifestyle, but I'm prohibited from that. I'd like to be able to take care of my skin, my acne, my hair, but I rarely get to do that because she "can't afford it". She says she can't afford a lot of things. She doesn't have a job, she uses all of the child support to pay her bills and he habits, and she has us on food stamps. She's perfectly capable of working at least a part time job, but doesn't even try at that. I know attempting to find a job after being unemployed for a little while can be slightly difficult, but not impossible. She blames all of her issues with money, and even with more stuff, on my dad. I absolutely understand that if you can't afford something, that it's not the end of the world. But it gets hard when those things become your toilet paper, your shampoo, your conditioner, and even your toothpaste. It just gets so stressful.😭 Added onto this, she is an alchoholic and a drug addict. When these two things are absent from her body, she goes insane. And that insanity comes out against me and my brother most times. I excell in school. Im in the top of my class with a 4.0 GPA. Im in my school's band and am given the opportunites to got to colleges across the state for their honor band festivals, and I've made it to state levels. I've been invited to attend multiple summer medical programs across the country. She couldnt be proud of me for a minute before beginning to complain about how much of a neusance it was to her. I get so excited when i accomplish new things, but it becomes very depressing when my own mother doesnt feel the same excitement, much more, dismiss it. It feels like she holds me back from acheiving my goals and my dreams when she doesnt suport me, or allow me to do any of these things. It just gets to the point where I don't even want to live anymore... We go to our dad's every other weekend. It's such a nice escape from the negativity surrounding our home and our mom. There, I feel loved, wanted, and cared for. I feel like I mean something in life. I've realised overtime that my dad wasn't necessarily the "bad guy" in this situation. I've soon realized that my mother filled our heads with senseless lies in order to get child support money so she doesn't have to work, and so she'll have excess money to provide for her habits. I've learned that he was trying to do everything best for us. He's done the very best he can at providing for me and my brother, but it becomes hard when she uses what is meant for us, for herself. Since my dad has heard about what had been happening at back at home, he has begun to try everything he can to have full custody of us. It's only made situations 10X worse around here. My mother is going crazier than ever, and I just pray to the Lord every single night that things will get better. I know that everything will be okay in the end. I also believe that there is always a rainbow at the end of every rainstorm. I just pray to make it out of this alive. I play my flute to clear my mind of her, and all of the things she's done to us. That and school combined form my escape. School allows me to fill my brain with knowledge, and I love learning, especially about maths and sciences. When I play my flute, it's like entering another world. One that is peaceful and loving. One where troubles don't exist. One where imagination can soar. It's difficult sometimes to play my flute and practice at home, for my mother would yell at me to stop playing. I practice at night when she's fast asleep, and when I'm in solitude. I thank my grandparents endlessly for providing for me and my brother. They buy us clothes, play for school tuition, and take us to get our minds off of things and my mom from time to time when they can. In fact, my grandfather bought me the flute I play, and I'll forever be thankful for him and his loving heart. These people give me hope when my mother makes me want to die. I guess the point I'm trying to make with all of this is that mental abuse is absolutely a real thing. These experiences are going to haunt me the rest of my life. However, I know that I'll make it through it, and I know that if you're going through something similar, you will too. Just call on our God, and he'll help you through whatever it is you're going through. This is a very lengthy comment, but I guess you could say that this is me getting things off my mind. These are things I don't really talk about to anyone, but I figured if it would help anyone else in any way possible, it's be worth telling my story. God bless you all, and remember that you ARE loved❤
ive been dealing with this since my early teens.... now im 47 and im an emotional train wreck. I cant imagine the man i couldve been with nurturing instead of criticism and abuse....
tbh I can relate so much... I think its what caused my depressed. I just cant wait to be 18 so I can finally move out. I hate being around them my parents are such negative people to be around and they turn fake when people are over at my house. And everytime I mess up they put me down and everything and I promised myself not to selfharm ever again and ive been clen for over a year now but sometimes they push me to the edge where I almost do cut myself...
Kayla Marie hope everything is ok
Hey...@lani_murasakino is my ig. I would like to talk..
I can relate to this comment too much...
I didn't quite make it a year though 😓
It only took about 50 seconds for me to have a panic attack.
same
Sadly same here.
Her teacher legit looked younger than her they should've swapped actirs
Horsesloverforever12 that's not the point.
I feel so sorry for Hailey 😢😢😢😢 and for anyone else who is going through this. Just remember that you are loved. You may not know who by, but u are
My God, what horrible parents. I know this is fiction but it stil goes on in reality.
My mother is plenty like this. She also has bipolar disorder. After an argument, I usually want to be left alone and she tries to be affectionate and when I ask her nicely to please not touch me or to just leave me be, she threatens me several times. My parents are old fashioned, so when I explain to my father (I trust him very much) he doesn't consider it abuse and blames me for always having an attitude when I'm not. They both think I'm a liar when I know I only say the truth to my parents and I always admit to lies I never told just to end an argument. My mother has been abusing me for as long as I can remember. I'm going to be 16 now, I wish I was 18 so I didn't have to deal with this any longer.
Jacqueline M. My parents are the same way and I'm 16 wishing I was 18 so I could move out
This was so realistic. The acting was really good in portraying how teachers can sometimes miss what’s really happening and how some children can’t do anything right in the eyes of their parents. I felt really sad when Hayley gave her mother the canvas art and her mother said she doesn’t have any need for it. Children should be free from abuse and live in loving, safe, encouraging environments.
It feels odd relating to this...I don't think I'm abused but I feel some of the pain...
Both emotional abuse and physical is bad. But to me, emotional abuse can sometimes so much worse. Physical abuse, you can see very well. Emotional, its so hard to notice. People can't really see it. As where physical is obviously dangerous, emotional leaves scars beyond any bruise and its sad. Being screamed at, yelled out, made fun of, called names, blamed for everything, being teased by the ones that are supposed to love you unconditially and take care of you leaves a scar far worse than any kind of wound or bruise. It stays with you. Someone just siply calling you stupid, can make you beleive that until all those names are all that you are. And for anyone who does not understand this video, or thinks its stupid, or that its not realistic, then trust me, I'm very happy for you. If you can't understand this video, then you never had to endure what others did.
Thank you God for my great parents and also protect these abused children amen 😭
Thank you
Kukson thank you dear
Kukson thank you. ❤️
Thank you for trying to protect me...
some people say this isn't realistic. too overdramatic. sadly its not. and to have the same name.as the character, and to go through this. its not fun. not fun at all.
I only see my dad at weekends, but he knows what my mum is like, she'd treat him like this when they were together and now she has treated me exactly like this since I was a baby. My step mum was like a real mum to me. I'd tell her everything, she was my proper mum in my eyes. She was all I had. Until she got bored of me and my dad. She's found a new family to be with now.
poor sweet baby Hailey. I wanna hug the poor baby. She's never too late to call for help from her parents from their abuse. Please help poor children that emotional abused. Please make a sequel where Hailey finally had enough and report the abuse as she told Miss Green the truth involving the abuse as child services took Hailey away from her 'parents' and gets adopted by a loving family while the 'parents' got sent to prison for life.
This gave me flashbacks of my disturbing childhood...I can't believe I thought this was normal, only my Dad was there for me, but my mom kept that secret for years, and she's coming back from a bad country, just so she can enjoy my screams...Well, I'm not that weak anymore. Revenge is best served Cold.
if you're going through this please stay. People who've had good parents don't realise how difficult it is for other kids out there to feel basic stuff . We don't think we're worthy of love, our self esteem has hit the rock bottom, we hate ourselves to the point that it fills us with so much agony and hatred for the world not realising that it is all inside of us. We really don't have anything to look out for. I personally never felt loved. I felt responsible for my parents happiness. I tried to make them happy, I used to get good grades, make cards , show loved. But I was never appreciated. When people say "it's your family" they don't realise how much that triggers us. FAMILY DOESN'T MAKE YOU FEEL UNDESIRABLE. FAMILY DOESN'T MAKE YOU HATE YOURSELF. FAMILY DOESN'T MAKE YOU SEARCH FOR LOVE OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE. family gives you love not trauma. If you're going through this, I'm proud of you. You're really strong. I really appreciate your strength.❤️
thank you jesus christ for giving me good parents
Thank Allah, not Jesus.
+Fab xoxo why
+Fatima Well, I didn't disrespect her religion or insult it, I just said what I wanted to say tho.
thank you Jesus for giving abusive parent children (sarcastic)
So why did God give people bad parents but not you ???
im so grateful for having great parents...
you should be.. I'm glad you aren't treated like this... sadly I can't say the same...
Sooo lucky my mum acts like this all the time
Haley looks a bit like Anna from frozen.
She wants to come and play
Raquel Alvia My name is Hayle! It's just spelled differently😄
Raquel Alvia she does
Raquel Alvia is that the fucking Thing you only Care about?
Raquel Alvia I love Frozen and I'm not ashamed to say that.
I'm the 16 year old product of narcassistic emotional abuse, 6 suicide attempts resulting from that abuse and 1 attempt to murder my abuser. luckily, I'm getting out soon, but not before I got PTSD, artificially closed off my ability to feel empathy or grief, and developed a revenge complex as a result of the trauma. and not to mention social isolation and abandonment issues, depression, and crippling low self esteem.
Childhood emotional neglect, the most subtle, slowly growing crisis.
The root cause of almost all our mental and emotional problems.
When she was scared of the teacher calling the parents😭 I had an anxiety attack when the phone rang.
The glass scene really hit home. My mom would refuse to allow me the simplest things just because she knew I wanted them.
Felt this to the freaking core, or perhaps the deepest part of my soul. If you're going through this, just keep holding on.
I’m only 14 and my mums like this and I thought I was the only one, seeing other people talking about it and being able to relate to what they’re saying really helps me to feel better about hating her so much and confirms that it’s not normal and that I shouldn’t have to deal with it
My youngest sister has lived and still kind of lives through the same life as Hailey. She has ADHD and has been adopted at 2 and a half years old (which is old for a child to be adopted, from what my parents told me) after being in so many foster families. Before, she would often break things and never clean after herself. For the past few years, she still doesn't clean after herself and she does things she isn't supposed to (go play on the computer for hours, hiding food in her backpack or room, etc.).
Things like that would get my parents (way more my dad) mad at her. I don't really get to actually witness it, but I can confirm my dad already pushed her around, threw things at her and used emotional/verbal abuse on her. When my parents were separating, my mom just was really angry at my sister about her dirty bedroom.
To anyone dealing with this now, you are loved and God loves you. Do't give up... ever! Keep pushing to be your best self
The mother is how my mother is. Sometimes she's happy and nice, but there seems to be a switch in her head. She can go from appearing fine to being pissed off in seconds. Overtime, I've come to recognize when she is angry and when to avoid her, but sometimes she just switches from happy to mad in an instant, and it's usually when people leave the room. It's like she puts on a smile for everyone else, while I'm stuck being the verbal punching. It tears my heart to pieces...
Growing up with a mother and an older sister, I learned quickly to bite my tongue and not speak too much. "Children are seen, not heard," my mother told me. She meant it as a "joke" but I took it seriously. My mother yelled and my sister yelled back and got hit for it. I kept quiet so that my mother didn't fight with me like she fought with my defiant older sister. And even to this day, I am quiet as a mouse. Sometimes a whole day goes by and I don't speak a word. For a few years, it was really hard to say anything to my mother, because she'd quickly lash out and tell me to shut up. Then she'd make me stay in that room until she finished yelling a long rant at me to belittle all that I am and all that I'm not... She's called me a b*tch, jacka**, stupid, selfish and more, all while I stood there in silence trying to fight back the tears. She'd yell at me to stop crying then scream at me more when the tears poured down my face. And then the next day, she acted like it never happened. That switch was pulled.
Sometimes I wonder if she does this to have control over me. I am turning 18 next week, but she speaks to me as if I am a child and the worst daughter in the world. I'm silent for heaven's sake. I don't scream, don't fight, don't sneak out of the house... I sit in my bedroom all day in silence and I rot from the inside out. And deep down, I think she wants that. She doesn't want me to think for myself or grow up or move out. She starves me of attention and love and support, yet expects a mountain of it in return. All of this has made me heart so cold I can't bare it. So frozen I can't feel anything. So broken and shattered that I can never be whole again.
Thank you, mom. Thank you for the trauma and the pain and the tears. Thank you for all the nights that I stayed awake in an empty house just waiting for you to come home, only for you to be drunk or fighting with your boyfriend. Thank you for treating me like I'm a piece of trash that won't amount to anything. Thank you for not caring when I cried and not listening when things were happening to me. Thank you for the insults that ring in my head daily, as well as the threat to hit me and to bash my head into the wall if I told you the truth. Thank you for reducing me to a ball of dust in an instant, even on a great day. Thank you.
thank you for sharing this it really resonated with me. I think you are really strong and very self aware and its that self awareness that will be able to help you cope with whats happened to you in later life. I hope youre okay and keeping strong
@@TiaTalksTV Thank you
@@silentshadow2957 I'm very sorry to hear that you went throught this. I feel that way with my mom from time to time, because sometimes when I cry she often tells me to stop being overdramatic, to the point where I just want to punch her in the fucking face. I'M NOT JOKING. One time when we were in BC I started crying because she got mad at me when I asked her a question. So I started crying because I was getting tired of her always making me feel like I'm a burden so I went somewhere private you know to cool down. But, when I came back in she started getting mad at me and telling me to stop being dramatic, so I asked her if she liked me to see what she would say but all she said was, "Don't give me that attitude." Gosh, at that moment I just wanted to punch her in the fucking face and bash her head in. I mean, what kind of mother, doesn't even take the time to understand why her own daughter is crying in the first place? To be honest, there are times where I am just done with her and I'm NOT joking when I say that. But there are times where she does understand, because when I was having dinner with her the next day I explained to her why I wss crying and she understood and apologized. Like I get that she is stressed since she works a lot, but sometimes I just feel that she takes it out on me and it breaks my geart, because I feel like I'm her punching bag instead of something for her to love and cherish :(.
This is how my dad is, especially in the mornings.. Sometimes I'd go to school bawling my eyes out because of what happens, and whenever people raise their voice or come at me in a threatening way even if they don't mean to at school, I instinctively want to run away and cry.. My dad yells at me, threatens to hit me, puts me down with words, and we have no connection whatsoever. He does his thing, I do mine, and we hardly ever talk despite living in the same house.. Its like I'm living by myself everyday. I have a trusted teacher I confide in about what goes on at home, and he's become a second father to me. Its really comforting, and honestly I'd rather be at school than at home half the time.
I do that and I'm 11 it comes from my mom yelling at me when teachers yell at me I wanna cry and run out of the classroom I did it before in school it was in math
People that haven't mature past the age of twelve shouldn't have children
My mom threatens to beat my ass and cusses me out but then she apologizes and I know she didn't mean it. I always forgive her.
It used to happen the same thing to me when I was a kid/teen: I was scared of doing any kind of sound in my own room, bc of my father who wanted to me to silently go to sleep. He was violent and abusive..a nightmare. He still is, but I’m older and I can defend myself.
My heart exploded when the father came into her room at the end of the video..it was like a dejavù.
poorly represented. The parents are more manipulative, and hide the fact that they are breaking you down.
22GameSt the acting is shit, but not all abuse is subtle. I can tell you.
22GameSt not really I've met plenty of parents just like this. exactly and worse only a few subtle ones. Not very shit acting its pretty well represented with that level of emotional abuse.
22GameSt it is a bit forward but it gets the point across
I agree they are never that direct, and you only find out after the fact, find your girt in the trash, go go school and money in the account-and no food for lunchs, just showing up drunk at 1am...
I'm crying my eyes out right now and this is actually true. My best friend was abused his whole life and I didn't even notice. When child line told us that his parents had been sent away he lived with me and my mom. I felt horrible about it. Btw I've calmed down now.
NO LIES AT ALL I PROMISE
Damn :,( if I had kids i'd hug them so tight and make them feel so special after seeing this
this hits too close to home
This hit really hard I cop a lot of verbal abuse from my parents get told I never do anything right and that I’m not good enough and that I’m worthless.
Great film!! I used to think there was nothing wrong and being treated like I didn't deserve to exist was normal. Until one day I said "I don't feel respected" which was met with "well that's because you don't deserve to be respected." I finally realized it wasn't okay. Been living my own life and loving myself ever since. For anyone else going through this realize that you are important even if that's only on the basis that you think you're important. Don't let the anger manifest itself into your other relationships and keep asking for help until someone helps you.
My mom's second husband was kinda like this. He started out as just being strict but once he realized I wasn't going to be controlled by him, he picked at my flaws and every little mistake. He never called me names to my face or anything so I thought it was normal. But when he yelled at me in front of everyone at a restaurant over bad table manners when I was flipping 19 and then created humiliating rules like I couldn't shower past 3pm or crap like that...it showed he dispised me. I even got physical with him one time bc he pushed me too far. Even after they divorced I developed an explosive temper and have low self esteem followed by battling self harm and depression. The term "Words will never hurt me" is bullcrap on so many levels....
Her mum was the one who knocked over the coffee and spilled it every where. Also her mum put the canvas there not hayley.
Reach out to a counselor at school or a teacher you trust, don’t be afraid to vocalize how you are treated by people who should love you. Abusers need victims, victims do not need abusers. They want to lower your self esteem to have more control over you in ways that are unhealthy and so it can continue without consequence . Naming calling, threats, physical violence are all forms of abuse even if it’s not happening directly to you and you watching your parent or sibling have it happen to them, you are in an abusive environment. The fact you are questioning am I being abused is the only answer you need and is a serious red flag that you are not safe. They’ve taught you to depend on what others feel and think, not what you feel and think which makes you more powerless to overcoming the abuse.
I can't take anyone seriously when they all look the same age.
Ikr hahaha
Banana Kitty cat Lol at least I'm not alone in my feelings. xD
Dear Stranger reading this,
It's NOT your fault.
You're an awesome human being.
Love
Its honestly so sad how much I relate to this.
I always thought it was normal
I thought it was okay to call your children names and hit them when the parents are upset, because this has been my reality my whole life.
Even today, I don't really know what its like to have a 'normal' family. One where the child is wanted and not considered a burden to the family.
Like, today, I woke up with the world's worst stomach ache ever and thought I was going to throw up, my parents didnt care. I hadn't even eaten in nearly 24 hours because they wouldn't feed me. I had to wait to be home alone to get food myself.
I only realized this was not okay when my friend pointed it out a few days ago after I became depressed and started cutting mysef to punish myself furthmore, thinking I deserved every hit and every cut I gave myself. Because if my own family who have known me for so long say I'm useless and worthless, then it must be true, right?
Fortunately I'm now getting professional help.
I went through the same stuff. I also had a teacher who believed in me. Broke all contact with my parents and on the road to emotional recovery xx
God, this was sad. I had the best mom and Dad ever...i miss them so much. 😪
I wish I could give a long, tight hug to everyone going through this
I went through this until I was 15 and then I spent a month with my cousins while my parents were on a business trip and the way my aunt and uncle treated my cousin seemed like a dream. They were so nice and welcoming while I was stuck with stuff like this
I never realized how close this is to what I'm experiencing now with my parents. I get triggers just from this video alone.
Something similar I've felt is I've been heavily second guessing myself on all of this.
To those who are offended by this being commented on as unrealistic, it is only in the sense of obviously condensing what years of comments and treatment like this looks like. Conversations as portrayed in this short film are realistic, it's just that it's clearly a college project of some sort, but a very important one. No, it's not going to win awards but it's very well done as a short project and shows how parents treat their children, albeit overdramatized a bit to make an emphasis in a short amount of time.
This one hit too close to home. Wonderful production of a very sore subject. Thank you for the upload. 🙏🏻
When I grow up I want my children to know that I'm the last person to make them deal with emotional abuse, anxiety and depression because I don't want them to go through what I am right now.
Wow I could feel the emotion it made me sob
this is so heartbreaking. my mom is not this bad, but my stepfather is about like her dad, i think. i relate to so many things in this... being set impossible standards, then being made to feel like shit when you don't live up to them. eventually making these standards for yourself.
never feeling truly safe or happy at home, never being listened to fully...and the short scene where the mother said "make yourself breakfast" broke my heart. my stepfather would constantly do this, "do it yourself then!" and then stand and watch and my hands would start to tremble and i would eventually mess it up because i was so nervous, and he would find something to yell about anyway too.
and the whole situation is terrible, emotional abuse is so terrible. you start to try to make yourself smaller, get quieter, hope they don't notice you, but it doesn't matter how much space you take up, it's always too much. it breaks you.
This is so sad. I go through this with my dad sadly
All my life, I was convinced that parents could do or say whatever they want to their kids. Now I'm realizing what I've has to got through...
Couples usually meet through similar problems they’ve had in the past because they can relate and be there for each other. For example if they both got neglected as a child they will most likely bond or if they’ve both suffered from a house hold of domestic violence the same thing occurs. So most likely these two parents would have both been neglected as children and been through similar things and it’s payed off on them.
No one deserve to be treated like this,this girl is so beautiful and precious,but soooooo much loud people who doesn t have a peace inside them,only know to hurt,SO THIS MOVIE IS VERY GOOD TO SHOW US THAT NOBODY NEED TO BE TREATED THIS WAY,NEVER😔🙏
My mom is similar to the mom only a little but she doesn't mean to make me upset but apparently I'm over sensitive
Nea Bbyy you're probably not over sensitive if you're being treated like this, you're reacting normally
You know... me and my sister used to talk all the time about how scared we were of our parents. Like it was something to brag about.
This is powerful my mom and step father treated like this growing up. All of your comments make me not feel so alone
There are two types.
One is like this video, the parents are constantly emotionally abusing you.
Two is where they go from loving you to hating you and they constantly change making you confused and feel like every time they hate you it's your fault.
I'd just like to point out that Mother's Day is on a Sunday. Why is she a school on a Saturday?
This video hurt me and all the people commenting how their life is relatable to this hurts me even more...im so thankful for my parents especially my dad, I can't imagine how you guys grew up...
I couldn't watch when she got caught stealing the money and my heart almost stopped when they called her parents... I remember the reaction when my school called my parents for not even all that important reasons
My 'dad' verbally abuses me. He has since I was in middle school and I'm 21 now and he's never changed. He talks to me like I'm dumb, crazy, and like I'm lesser just because I'm a girl. It kills me because I used to be such a daddy's girl. I guess it's just too toxic for me to love him anymore.
I was on edge watching this video and I was scared for Hayley. I was constantly thinking about little things like the glass she left under the bed and I was scared about her parents finding it. Like my heart was racing most of the time and I felt anxious because I know what it's like going through this. Also, the beginning is kind of unrealistic because usually, abusive parents don't yell at their kids like that in front of guest. In front of guests they act fake and sweet most of the time and then yell when guests leave.
The way she tapped her head was so relatable I do that all the time. Dealing with abusive mom at the moment.
I feel this man like if you do something at school and then your parent gets mad at you I know it's not the teachers feel but it feels like the teacher knows what's going on and then tells your parents
I been abused so much in my life that im starting to hate my dad, i dont love him anymore like a daughter should, i want to move far away from him but im stuck with him until im 18...
Nothing has ever made me cry more! This seems so realistic and acted pretty well.
Wow!👍👍. To many children being abused in the world. Most are hidden.
I thought this was normal...
“But I gave birth to you so...”
“I fed you”
“After all I did for you”
“I gave you money to eat”
okay queen manipulator I forgive you🙄
I was searching for short films as inspiration and all the ones I started watching I closed half way through cause were too boring. This one actually is really good. Impressed. Great job!
Why some people have children is beyond me. Children are a blessing.
It makes me feel happy when I see videos like this because I know people are out there and know what I feel like. Thank you God for giving me a good family (other than my mother) thank you lord for helping me be able to calm down and know everything is okay 😢😔
Poor girl,her parents are real cruel and mad people.It seems to me that they don't love their only child.
My father throws me against the wall when he gets pissed and my mother is emotionally abusive, threatening me and calling me names. I really wish you could choose your parents so I don't have to go through this bullshit.
Congrats! A very successful short film!
Yeah it was really good 👍🏻