Gen Z, This Term for Autism is NOT OKAY.
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00:00 Roger the cat
02:26 It's just a word?
04:20 But autistic people use it?
05:30 Other generations are not innocent
09:58 This makes me sad...
11:05 I can't believe people do this
12:08 Words don't matter?
15:45 If you use it...
16:17 More 'interesting' things said in TikTok
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Roger: www.tiktok.com/@svphoenixstud...
Reddit: / is_he_acoustic
Urban dictionary acoustic: www.urbandictionary.com/defin...
Know your meme acoustic: knowyourmeme.com/editorials/g...
Using gay as an insult: www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-2...
F word is Pain relief: www.sciencefocus.com/the-huma...
âwhat people say or write produces specific versions of the world, oneâs self, and others, and language conveys, shapes, and perpetuates ideologies: link.springer.com/article/10....
Wikipedia r word: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retard_...)
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Have you ever used it before? Do you think autistic people should? Do you think non-autistic people should?
Excited to hear your thoughts!
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I donât know why people would use it and I donât know how to feel about it, I mainly use it when someone is being stupid so thatâs that-
my personal take on it, as an autistic person is
allistic people saying it is bad and annoying because it is likely being used in a negative way
autistic people can choose whether they like it or not and either way itâs okay. if you do find the term funny, itâs best to use it around other autistic friends who you know find it funny too
Thankfully it's so rare for me to see things like this (especially giving I'm not even from an English speaking country), but in the few times I've seen it I've called the person using out... This is basically an ableist dog whistle imo, it's no different from the plethora of cases I've seen that are apparently "innocent" in the outside, but they are antisemitic/racist/misogynistic/transphobe etc dog whistles
If they use a common word to make you look as if you're "overreacting" when calling out, it's absolutely a dog whistle to me
I am 60 and autistic, I have used the term. One of the things I do is play with words. So I have said it as just thing to be funny like I am missing the term.
People are going to be what they are it's not about you. I have found peace with who I am. When you do it no longer matters what people say.
Im gen z and most likely autistic like 99% sure but haven't gotten diagnosed yet but i hate the acutiem-(idk how to spell it) thing it is so annoying i hate it (TT)
They use "acoustic", or even "restarted" and then say "would you prefer i used the r slur instead?" As if it made a difference at this point. The intention is all the same at the end.
Yeah, like... saying that is literally an admission that that's what they meant? What makes a slur a slur is the intent behind it, if you're using a word as synonymous for a slur, you are in fact using a slur. This is exactly how the euphemism treadmill works.
@@Missingno_Miner i completely agree!
Exactly
If someone was yelling at me that I'm a transie when they mean the same as t slur, I'm not gonna suddenly feel more chill about it like tf?
The meaning and history of the concepts is what makes them harmful, not them just being a specific jumble of letters or a word thar sounds bad or wtf ever.
I KNOW!!! It's so weird!!
Like at this point just call me a slur and stop pretending youâre supportive.
I am autistic myself and a lot of my humour is mispronouncing/misspelling words (like "burnger", or "chbinken nuggeds" or even "artistic" instead of autistic) so i loved the word "acoustic". It felt funny to laugh at it myself, like a personal relief from the way i stumble on pronouncing common words. It's so sad to see (mostly neurotypical) people twist it unto something derogatory.
yo same. why is pronouncing / spelling things in a silly way so fun? I like also switching up the vowel sounds but keeping all the consonants the same. like milk becomes mulk or cheese becomes chuz.
also "newt" should become a synonym for "neat"
Same, I can see why some people wouldn't like it though.
Literally. It was so funny before neurotypicals stole it as an insult. It literally started with autistic people. Ugh.
Same here!
Chimken nuggit is the funniest shit ever - an autistic person
Acoustic was funny the first couple of times, but then it genuinely started to hurt because people started using it as an insult
@pizzafication69it still is.
yep
@pizzafication69fr, Iâm scared to even say it about guitars now.
Livis, please dw about that, I'm sure 99% of people will understand you're talking about the guitar. Sorry to hear the term's caused that discomfort though
Yeah I didnât see the problem when we (my group of friends) used acoustic, we just saw it like a joke
But once I heard someone say acoustic to insult another person
From that point i realised the difference
The fact that they use âitâ when using those words as well tells you just how dehumanizing the terms are meant to be.
The âis it acousticâ trend is so fucking infuriating to me. Like A) just say autistic and B) it?! IT?! Way to dehumanize us, guys. Good job. I saw someone say âif youâre gonna say âis it acousticâ, just call me the R word at that point, we all know itâs what you wanna sayâ and.. I agree
literally. i would rather be called a slur than ââââacousticââââ. itâs bullshit.
Just so you know, "it" may be referring to the behavior, and not the person.
â@@Joe-ut2hg I've seen people use "it" to refer to the person explicitly, because they're using acoustic as a stand in for the r-slur. Almost never have I seen "it" used for behavior unless the phrasing is "It's giving acoustic," otherwise it's just to call the person in question an "it."
TOTALLY, like just say the r word and leave, you don't need to play pretend. like it is so weird, BUT I HAVE NOTICED TOO everyone everyowhere is just meaner all of a sudden, IDK WHY, is it gen alpha that learned to write or what?????
thats how ppl treat trans ppl sometimes to, like they treat it as if all of everyone thats different to the societal norm likes to be called by "it/it's" pronouns
I mean... we have big empty spaces in our heads and chest and vibrating membranes in our throat that resonate through those empty spaces. We are _all_ "acoustic."
Also, _technically,_ we're all electric.
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Th-thats AWSOME!!!
When someone says out loud something about a person being "acoustic", I think I would immediately point out that the very act of saying those words out loud makes them, by definition, acoustic. Then I suppose it's personal preference as to whether or not you mock them for not knowing what a common word means. Of course, me being so literal and caring that words actually have definitions would just give them something to point at to reinforce their insult that I'm being autistic.
I love this. It is really poetic.
Love this.
Vividly remembering my ex using "autistic" as a synonym for "irritating, boring person I don't want to spend any time with." (This was before the whole "acoustic" thing even started.) I hadn't told him I suspected I was autistic yet, I was in the midst of researching it. Since he had proclaimed that he was against all forms of discrimination, I tried to have a talk with him about maybe not using that word in that way especially since I thought I might be autistic myself. He apologized but pretty quickly started being really condescending and mean to me, picking fights and then blaming them on me because I had "this issue that never got addressed." So yeah, the true ableism behind the casual usage of a diagnosis as a slur became very apparent and the relationship was doomed.
Ugh what an ableistic asshole. Well that didn't take him long to show his true colours. On top of that he sounds abusive with his gaslighting and manipulation.
But yeah agreed on the usage of casual diagnosis of something as an insult/slur. It's why I cringe and side-eye so hard at everyone who uses the new popular "delulu" term that's everywhere now. Calling someone delusional isn't cure or quirky and actually being delusional for real is a very distressing disorder. Gawd I hate how rampant ableism is.
I'm sorry you had to go through that bullshit. I hope you find someone who isn't an absolute moron.
@@yurigagarin9765 Hey, I really appreciate that! I did eventually find a wonderful, understanding (also autistic) person who I recently married. :)
@@RoseThePhoenix That's great! :)
â@@RoseThePhoenix thats so lovely! :)
i personally think "acoustic" specifically is VERY funny (i am autistic myself) but only in appropriately autistic circles if that makes sense. i think it's silly and whimsical and that we should be allowed to say it especially because acoustic started within the younger autistic community.
however, i do agree that it's gross when the neurotypicals use it 𤢠if you are neurotypical and call someone that within a derogatory context, screw you and all who support you in spreading that type of hate < 3
My psychiatrist no longer mentions "Autism" on referrals after I was rejected for a PTSD support group because they didn't want to include autistic people in their program. No explainations. Maybe they had research that showed it wasn't effective for an Autistic brain, or maybe they were just assholes. No idea, but she was quite mad about it.
I was on the waiting list for autism assessment and I attended an appointment to get some counselling while I was waiting. As soon as I mentioned I was awaiting assessment the counsellor slammed her book shut and stood up and said I can't deal with you until you've been assessed. I argued with her and she stormed out to ask her supervisor if she could discharge me immediately. The supervisor said no but the counsellor was extremely aggressive and dismissive until the appointment finished. Then she didn't refer me anywhere. I saw the autism assessor 6 months later and he invited me in to say immediately 'you're not autistic'. No attempt to test me, just no, I don't think so, you don't look autistic.
â@@petadewar4720Such bullshit. You deserve better.
â@@petadewar4720 I'm so sorry they wasted your time, money & energy with their obtuseness like that, litreally fuck those guys fr
This is fucking awful.
I have Complex PTSD and am ND.
This makes me not want to get an official autism diagnosis!
Though I do want the ADHD one as the meds might really help.
I have heard (probably on Twitter) that most "autism" symptoms that people actually notice are in fact stress reactions. One would expect PTSD to be common for autistic people.
There is very little research on "autistic inertia" because that only directly affects autistic people themselves: not anybody else.
As far as I was aware before this video, people were using Acoustic as a replacement word to avoid any algorithmic issues, same as saying things like "Un-alive" or "Yahtzee". I didn't realize it was used in a negative connotation.
Honestly same, I'm glad I found out through this video though. I much rather learn from being told than learn from getting personally hurt.
what is yahtzee a stand in for?
@@mkgaca8721the big bad guys in world war 2
@@AnnieDHarpie ohhhh ok ty
Why would the word Autistic even need to be censored though?
This is the first time Iâve heard about these words and I almost started crying. My feelings were genuinely hurt. Itâs really depressing that the younger generations are using derogatory terms for autistic and neurodivergent people. I thought we grew out of that by the mid 2010s.
I was diagnosed as autistic when I was 12. Iâm 31 now and I still donât tell people about it. Iâm still ashamed of it. I donât like to think about it. I have a lot of internalized ableism and self hatred because of shit like this.
Iâm not brave enough to be open about myself when this kind of mean spirited behavior is the norm. When Iâm going to be made fun of.
I hope the kids realize how their language is harmful. I too used âgayâ and âthe r-wordâ when I was a teenager because I didnât fully understand the gravity of using those words for bad or negative things. So I hope a lot of this is ignorance rather than mal-intent. đ˘
Everyone has always done it and thats why the medical terms have changed.
Policing language doesnât work.
You. Canât prevent people from not using their braincells or disrespecting you.
Im pretty sure there are kids movies about just that;
People are gonna be mean to you no matter what you do and how popular you are and it doesnât matter. They re just pricks and everything is going to go all right if you keep close to people who care about you and love you for who you are (which can be tough to find for a lot of people)
People are always people. The generations we see as so separate really arenât that different when it comes down to it. Every generation thinks theyâre good, tries their best, and fails to be perfect. Itâs just human.
Me and my friends call eachother the worst things imaginable lol
â@@uhoh3955that has nothing to do with going out of your way to justify slurs and using them against people just because you don't know the difference between being raunchy/dark humor and just being an asshole
@crazylatingirl94 you do realize youâre being a hypocrite right?
Chastising someone for using a slur, but then you call them a rude word.
Seems rather a¢0ustic of you.
As a former English teacher who has made an autistic special interest out of real life Orwellian New Speak I understand whatâs going on with them. Itâs a far reaching problem at this point and includes basically every group that traditionally faces discrimination. They have similar words for every demographic they are bigoted against.
Itâs because they are the first generation that grew up communicating primarily through chat filters which arbitrarily chooses which words are banned. Theyâve grown up thinking this is okay because itâs like substituting âfudgeâ instead of THAT F word, or any of the other filler words but theyâve also been taught anything that bypasses the filters is acceptable.
Also when you canât have 88 in a sentence but you donât know why and canât find out why without writing something like (80+8) because the word âNAZIâ is also banned in an online area discussing 1940s history about WWII, or you canât use the word âbeaverâ in a comment about a wetland then people lose all respect for why anything is censored. Just change a couple of letters and itâs fine so long as itâs not the exact same word-symbol. Schools often back this the way judges used to back mob talk. âWe canât give a warrant for saying heâs going to ârub them out.â He didnât specifically say âIâm going to kill him.â Both then and now itâs just an excuse not to act. They knew whatârub them outâ meant back then the same way schools and workplaces know what âacousticâ as an insult means but itâs not the meaning that matters today. Just the specific words.
Many of them honestly donât understand itâs what the word represents that matters to others because concepts like suicide, murder, sexual assault, racism werenât outlawed. Only certain symbols for those concepts were outlawed when talking about them online. Usually the normal words that were fine when talking about these things for decades were banned, or actual body parts, and even some medical terms. So to them the concepts are fine and socially acceptable to keep no matter how hurtful to others so long as the symbols change because the older generations have formally taught them in school the appearance of the language is what matters more than the content. I believe one of the reasons all bigotries are experiencing a major resurgence is that bigotry as a concept wasnât demonized. Instead we banned naughty words without teaching what made them naughty to begin with.
Thatâs not a defense of these bigots. If you hear someone in the workplace or at school do this report them to the proper area. If you want results ask the person you report it to their full name and how long you should wait for a response from them in case it escalates to the point of you needing to contact a lawyer. In my experience that line works great for both corporate jobs and schools in stopping this kind of vulgar harassment, as well as stopping most other things that shouldnât be happening.
About the beaver thing specifically, I once saw a new hire with the last name Beaver get fired from a good paying corporate job because the email filter would not let anyone use his name, and nobody had the power to change any of the words the filter banned. Weâve allowed a technology no one respects or likes teach modern manners and language use to the newest batch of adults.
agreed. I also think we can pinpoint an excuse (even if flimsy) for not actually demonizing hatred; it's the same excuse that's been used for generations to shelter kids. "If we teach them what it is, they'll do it." Just demonstrably untrue, but it's wielded like a cudgel for everything from discussions on gender and orientation to drugs to underage pregnancy.
i would love to pick your brain about New Speak. i have noticed a strong correlation to digital communication too.
As a gen Z whoâs autistic my friends have started going âIS IT RESTARTEDâ and it makes my brain hurt like- can we not
Oof, I hope your friends are open to hearing why that's honestly fcked up, I'm so sorry that's the norm with your friends.
Iâve never heard the term used but god thatâs honestly even worse than acoustic. The context is still there, sure itâs not the same word but everyone and their mother can pick up on how itâs just a masked slur.
Dude people have been using the r word more casually I've noticed and it makes me want to crawl into a hole.
Yeah man, I'm not sure those are your friends
That is so rude.
As a person on the schizophrenic spectrum, I am used to it. If you're acting any kind of crazy, people will call you schizophrenic. It's a lonely experience because you can't tell people what you're going through because it's not based in reality. No one can truly understand you, but try to get people to conceptualize what people are going through. I have friends who are autistic and they are amazing. I never used this term once because I knew it was wrong, and I get made fun of all the time. Despite me being well-educated, disciplined, and motivated. Kinda suck people hate me for no reason just because I hear shit. Great video đ
Iâm autistic and schizophrenic. Stay strong and ignore the haters! đŞđťâ¤ď¸ Too many people donât understand psychosis but that will change in time.
@@gigahorse1475 Thank you man, I'm getting the right treatment now as I'm seeing a psychiatrist for my bipolar as I am schizoaffective disorder. Much love to you and your family đŠˇ
@@gigahorse1475 There is a genetic overlap between the 2. My grandma was schizophrenic, luckily she had a good sense of humor because we grilled her and she'd laugh like "hoo hoo" and try to cute her way out of it
Iâm on the autism spectrum and my husbandâs cousin is paranoid schizophrenic. heâs well adjusted now but almost the whole family treats it like the elephant in the room. it drives me nuts cause heâs a great guy! the way they treat him is why I did not disclose my diagnosis and full extent of my struggles to my in-laws - they have shown me repeatedly they can not be trusted to treat this with the care it deserves. (hubby is amazing though, so at home Iâm very safe đ)
There's a spectrum for schizophrenia? /gen
13:22 as someone whoâs learning Latin; itâs never been just a medical term either, and people didnât âstart using it negativelyâ itâs inherently negative. Ret*rd is the Latin verb for âto hinderâ or âto slow downâ. Iâd argue giving someone the medical diagnosis of âbeing a hinderanceâ isnât very professional, and if someone diagnosed you that way youâd leave for medical malpractice
The diagnosis wasn't "being a hindrance," it was "being hindered." It was ret*arded, not ret*rd.
I have a somewhat funny story with the term "acoustic"
I myself have AHDH (and most likely autism as well, I just have never been tested for that before, only for ADHD) and a lot of my friend have ADHD and/or Autism too (and all of us are traumatized and mentally ill which makes our humor soooooo random). I *also* have a guitar. we are all artsy people. We painted and drew on said 17 year old, beat-up and held together by duct-tape guitar and nicknamed it "The autistic artistic acousic guitar." and I love my guitar Dave very much.
I love it, sounds great! XD
Thats actually hilarious lmao
It's like people think it's okay to make fun of ND people just because they're not using the r-word. I've been seeing a huge increase in people using the term "learning disability" as the butt of jokes or as a substitute for "stupid." Like when someone does something ridiculous or doesn't know something obvious, people will say "learning disability" or "yeah that's called a learning disability" in a snarky way. It's always done in a mocking way that implies that learning disability = stupid. It's not okay. You don't get a cookie for not using the slur. The intention is still the same.
I feel this. I was often in groups where ableist slurs were not acceptable, and Iâm not as obviously autistic as people with higher needs, so I faced a ton exclusion and ableist bullying with just more abstract terms. To my face I got called an alien or a robot, and behind my back I was never invited places, and people called me a âfreakâ or âdifferent.â It was so upsetting and confusing, and I donât think using slurs or not really makes a difference, itâs about how itâs used and how people are treated. Which is why I donât really care about the words themselves, getting rid of words without social changes isnât really how language works, kids and cruel adults just find âacceptableâ workarounds.
yeah it's like.. how is it not occurring to them that the problem is not certain words, it's making fun of disabled people or making fun of other people by comparing them to disabled people.
edgy 13 year olds find ableism rly cool@@augustmericle6776
@@sv24m66 Iâm not exactly sure what youâre saying. What I was describing is that no change in language used will stop people from otherizing. A nebulous âthereâs something different about themâ is enough to reinforce bigotry. Again itâs not about the language, we need ways to describe people, itâs about what underlies that language, which is exclusion and ableism. The slurs are just the strongest and most clear distillation of these feelings and attitudes.
i see a LOT of insulting remarks against people that have opposing political views that are extremely ableist. i may loathe the person's opinions too but that doesn't mean we need to bring innocent disabled people into the mix like what đ
older gen Z here, "gay" and "the f slur" were very much insults i heard back in elementary school (not usually directed towards me iirc, but i don't remember a lot about that time) in the late 2000's/early 2010s.
it actually took me a while to understand that when people called someone "acoustic" or as if they were "acoustic" they were actually asking if they were autistic. i don't go on tiktok, and when i did, my feed consisted of b dylan hollis, amaury guichon, and a few other tiktokkers that seemed inoffensive to me. i wasn't very active there, and i left well before this became more commonly seen. i didn't even know it was used as a sort of insult until i casually mentioned that i had family members who were autistic to a coworker and he thought i was insulting them. at the time, i had just realized that i myself was autistic, and was even struggling to say or type the word at all. i didn't continue with the conversation.
i think it's quite offensive to ask if someone has a developmental disorder based on your own stereotypes, especially in a way that the person may be unable to understand. it really goes to show how autism isn't destigmatized at all.
edit: changed a word.
older millenial here, we used to call stuff we didnt like " gay "
like, sudden quiz " wow, thats GAY "
they were different times.
Many people still use "gay" as a way to say something is uncool or cringe, and one person from Midwest USA said something I had on was "galee." I asked him what he meant, and he only said "it sounds like another word you're being rn lol." Well, he's HALF right, but that's beside the point! đ
Unfortunately, from what I can gather from the younger people in my family, Gen Alpha also still use the term "gay" in the same way we did, along with the "R" word.
Ye my gen alpha almost z niece was and probably still is all about calling things gay just like everyone in my older millennial sphere was. The more things changeâŚ
@@user-xz6qc5ej2ri still find myself doing this a lot and I am gay (well more like half gay).
I think the difference with gay vs f*gg*t is the later is 100% a derogatory term, whereas gay isn't, which does kind of mean the word can have multiple meanings.
It's still not ideal though and I do try to avoid it a bit.
It definitely was different times though. Coming out as gay in the 90s or early 00s was a pretty hard thing to have to do.
My mum came across your channel and I followed as my son is autistic and honestly after watching your videos I feel both my mum and I probably need to be tested. I love your videos. I hope the good and positive comments outweigh the bad ones âĽď¸
my teenage sons who are NT and I have come up with the term burgers or cheeseburgers before we knew that Aspergers wasn't a term used any longer. We use it as a way to let me know that I am going on too long, saying too much or otherwise letting my mask slip they can say burgers so only we know what they are talking about.Since I am late diagnosed I have done things my whole life I never knew no one else does and in those cases they will let me know it is a burger thing, or a cheeseburger or a big ol double cheese burger. Like I had a meltdown because they wanted to put on clothes we just purchased before I washed them, it was really freaking me out and it was a huge thing. In calming me down my oldest sat with me to explain that it is totally okay and that it doesn't HAVE to be done that this is a cheeseburger, but if it means that much to me they will wash them. I am a single mom and my boys are very protective so we came up with this way to let me know so other people won't make fun of me or hurt my feelings as NT people often do at least to me.
That's so cute! You're lucky to have such a great support system at your back :)
@@kyokoyumi thanks i am very lucky they turned out to be such great guys
Hey, legitimate question; I like you have what used to be called asperger's and fully agree that the name should change as to not give credit to a fascist/national socialist but how do we square that with the dsm-v referring to our disability as simply high functioning autism and removing some of the diagnostic criteria that the DSM-IV had specifically for asperger's?
whenever i've been around someone who uses autistic as an insult, i always say something along the lines of "dude i'm literally autistic." it calls them out on their bs and makes them realize the harm they're perpetuating (andalsoitskindafunnyseeingthemtrytobacktrackbutthatsnotthemainpoint)
itisveryhardtoreadthewordswhenyoudonâtputspacesinbetweenthem,Icanbarelyunderstandwhatyouâresaying.
@@HungryWarden yesbutthatisprobablytheintention
@HungryWarden okbutwithmyautocorrectthisisapainintheasstotype
@@emireri2387 Igetit,butitstillinconveniencesmewhenItrytoreadit.
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I'm an autistic gen z who didn't realise it was an insult...Most of my friends are autistic and so is my partner, and we use that word to joke with each other but not as a put down. It was used as a synonym to autistic, I really didn't realise others outside of the community used it as an insult and now I'm furious!
IKR! And now I feel kinda silly for not realizing
Some people who are autistic have taken to using it the way some people of other marginalized groups will use an otherwise derogatory or slur term as almost to mock it, which if done between people who understand the term and who are themselves autistic in relation to this term, it seems ok, but if someone says they don't want to be referred to that way, or if the person using it means it as a genuine insult/isn't autistic, that changes up the situation greatly.
â@rosie678100 It's ok, I think every generation of people have dealt with not knowing certain things the whole time were mockery or derogatory, a shared experience across us all at this point, especially among generations of autistic people.
Before "acoustic" it was "special" and R slur
First time I saw the term was in a meme with hatsune miku saying "I think I'm acoustic" and I found it quite funny and relatable cause like, words are hard and mixing words is something that usually happens to me. I also was in that exact stage of figuring myself out and suspecting I was autistic. Months later I found out about all of this... and it sucks. It could've been a fun thing but they decided to use it for bullying.
I have to admit if I heard someone say acoustic rather than autistic I would assume that English was a foreign language to themâŚ.
It is a filter and censorship thing but its so much more then that. It isn't ONLY to censor the word autistic if people come up to me and say "haha you are so acoustic" to my face. I have also been straight up called the r slur (and f slur) so many times to my face. It isn't a joke anymore, it really is basically the same as saying the slur. It has the exact same intentions. It isn't a joke if its constant and genuinelly being used to hurt someone
I was actually introduced to this channel by the 9 signs you might not be autistic video. I was diagnosed with adhd in 8th grade and tend to be extremely introverted (as an infp) and was just diving into what autism really is at the time( due to hearing that you can have autism along with adhd). Although I do not have autism it breaks my heart to see with clearer eyes what had been mocked around me for years ... Most people do not understand the term autism at all.and mocking it the way they do is inexusable and has got to change . I was not taught what autism was and had just a general idea of what it entailed before coming to this channel. I hope that we may one day destigmatize neurodiversity and build a community, and eventually a society that respects ppl as ppl . đđ
I never could recognize when I was being bullied. I was 30 years old when I finally realized my school âfriendsâ bullied me.
Eeey, we should have a 30 somethings club bc dang yeah it was this year when I realized all the friends I had (usually one or two per year max) were also on the spectrum or downs or some other mental/physically disabled person đ anytime I made neurological friends I didn't have friends I had "friends" lol
Same. Not quite 30 yet but I was always blind to folks using or manipulating me. Now I'm the opposite, and am hypervigilant.
Me too. Both in high school and in college! Took me a lot of therapy to look back and go, ohhhhh wow yeah they weren't my friends, they were bullying me in a really subtle way
I still struggle to recognize when people are being hateful towards me. Iâm 35. đ
This could be a generational thing... It seems like a lot of "elder millennials" struggle with similar issues, & I wonder if part of it may have to do with our respective ages around the transition into the digital age. Trying to figure out how to interact with peers during puberty was tough enough, but going through that towards the end of the dial-up internet "era" & having to learn how to interact with others safely on the Internet, all at the same time, effectively doubled the skills necessary to learn to succeed (which may be why we seem to finally be realizing these things when we're about twice as old as when they happened).
I like the positivity in calling it "Artistic". My husband & I also like being silly with words. My favorite name for someone being a doofus or goofing something up is "Dumaflotchy". It's 100% a made up word (to my knowledge) that lets one point out others' mistakes without being mean.
Keep passing your positivity on to your daughter!
I would definitely be that person to say "I'm autistic" if anyone was making fun of autists or using inappropriate language about us. Then just stare at them and watch them squirm.
Normally, I'm pretty terrified of confrontations, but stuff like that I will not tolerate. I've always been pretty good at sticking up to bullies (attacks on me or others), which I'm thankful for. Doesn't mean it never got to me, but I would never let them see anything other than the absolute disdain and pity I felt for them.
sadly enough, in some spaces if you'd say that they'd make even more fun of you. saying things as 'of course you are' or 'lmaoo (slur)'
Yay for self advocating!!!
Amen to that! If people are annoying you with their ignorance, enlighten them. They may still be ignorant, but at least you've made them think.
@@justyana488and Iâd just stare them down at that point. Usually theyâre looking for a reaction and trying to break you down in some way and not giving in to it is a good response. Itâs sad but itâs true. People are annoying
ââ@@justyana488I doubt they'll do that to someone like me. I can pass as neurotypical really well as I wasn't diagnosed until I was 16. I act a bit funny and weird but I bet that if I confronted a bully (very unlikely of me though) they'd look at me, laugh and tell me to quit lying. Which is an advantage. Because I can make them uncomfortable by proving not all autistic people look like dumb idiots.
Itâs so sad because YEARS ago, I literally heard the word âacousticâ as a joke, but what was different was that the joke was that the person was misinformed and didnât know the right word for âautisticâ.
It was similar to jokes like:
âIâm a lesbian.â
âI thought you were American!â
(Not claiming that thatâs the true origin though. It could be that I just came across a one-off joke)
But itâs disgusting how people take genuinely harmless words (eg: acoustic guitar) and twist them into ways to mock and hurt people.
I've noticed the term "acoustic" in the comment sections on social media, and I find it insulting. I myself am not autistic, but I have ADHD.
BTW, I love your channel because you're intelligent, down to earth, and a cat lover! Your videos are always so informative. Keep up the great work!
I am now officially a hollow guitar lacking electromagnetic pickups.
Me too, lad. Me too.
@@dusk-amethyst Lad?
@@Wal-MartBag420 is just what popped into my head
I remember a time within the past 10 years, I told someone I'm autistic... and they thought I was making a joke.
No, not a joke. I'm not the one who twisted the word to be an insult/joke, awful abuse of an official Dx term.
I been called the R word, I dont like being bullied.
Bullies don't have parents who care about them
@@JohnSmithSeesYounah, some do, their just too expecting of everyone else being the same as them, or just hate differently abled people, hence called, Ableism
â@@JohnSmithSeesYou not every bully is a victim. Some people are just jerks.
Autistic used in Dutch as swear word as well. I've heard it used (against myself and others many many times growing up. I am convinced it has held people back from getting a diagnosis and the help they need and deserve.
Side note to Meg: it is indeed an awesome community and have been loving your videos since approximately day 1. Am hoping to join the discord in richer times. ⤠Keep up the good work! It's an awesome job and so many appreciate it so much! đ
Those earrings are perfect! Fit the context, but also, as a guitarist, I need them đ
I got bullied constantly and had absolutely no idea. In fact, I thought they were my friends. It took me so long to realise that they were actually using me and bullying me. Iâm a Gen Z and words such as the ârâ word and âacousticâ as well as all the autistic âjokesâ were always said. I didnât know they were using it as insults and honestly, I didnât even think that words such as âartisticâ and âacousticâ were words used to insult autistic people until now. So many people used that slur in front of my face. I now feel really offended. Also, my meltdowns as a kid could be really really bad. I have destroyed phones before but I wonât say anything more than that as I feel very ashamed about it and my brother used to record my meltdowns and stuff. I wish he didnât. I apologise if this comment it too long for some people.
I'm so sorry all those things happened, you certainly deserved much better.
I know breakdowns from both sides, they're hard to watch but so much harder to go through. To film that is horrible, as it can only cause harm.
As for the bullying, it can be really hard to figure out sometimes. Especially in hind sight. I had some friends who liked to say things wrong, they made jokes like "acoustic" or "asparagus" like a decade ago. But it was back and forth banter, calling the other or themselves that.
What I want to say with that, is that this single thing doesn't have to be a reason to completely change your views on all of those interactions. But if you're looking back now and noticing how mean or rude they were to you, that is perfectly valid and you can trust your feelings on that.
By not recognizing it at the time you might have helped yourself because, as twisted as it is, if you had known and told them to stop it then real bullies would probably just start acting even worse :(
Recording meltdowns would actually give you a very strong case to file a defamation lawsuit, particularly if it was posted on social media or shared in any capacity. I feel like itâs important for me to tell you this because autistic people like us will often get told âdonât bother reporting this, itâs not illegal and youâll get in troubleâ even though it often is
Same experience here, thought i was friends with this kid but she was just using me and insulted me, one day i lost it and got in a physical fight with her and also got my grandpa to threaten her to stop. End of the day I got a scar on my face and she was told by the teacher to apologise. Got the last laugh feels good man
Iâm sorry. I hope youâve been able to find a group who donât bully you.
Don't apologize for expressing yourself. There's nothing wrong in that. It doesn't matter how many words you need or how long your comments/posts gets. If people get offended specifically by its size, they don't deserve your attention at all. If they don't want to go through the trouble of reading and caring about your words, then why you should go through the trouble of reading and caring about theirs?
First time learning of this. It's clearly an attempt to get around filters -- you see the same thing with various slurs and other censored language. And given that it's generally used in an insulting/derogatory way, it's not okay. It is, essentially, a stand-in for r-slur and used typically in the same manner.
A lot of slurs and profanity have come into being in the same way. There's a thing you're not allowed to say, and so you just substitute another word for it. Eventually everyone picks up on the substituted word being the exact same as the one it's substituting, and so the new word _becomes_ the slur or profanity.
Granted, in our modern age these substitutions occur so quickly that there's often a whole chain of substituted words -- it changes as soon as the new word starts to become associated with the one it's filling in for.
But the point is, the _purpose_ is the same. The sounds used to get there aren't _as_ important as the intent.
I don't think it's an attempt to get around filters. I think it started as jokes among autistic people having fun with it and then people picked it up and used it in a derogatory manner. Like the whole bisexual/bicycle/bilingual joke, except that one was kept in its zone instead of being picked up and misused. It's the type of thing that starts as a joke, then becomes hurtful but isn't acknowledged as such because it was 'just a joke'.
So whatâs the lesson?? Donât police language, it doesnât fucking work.
@@midnight4685i think it kinda started with bad english memes.
This is why I absolutely _DESPISE_ social media censorship filters.
If you want to insult me to my face, you better be manly enough (or angry enough) to say the uncensored word to my face, in full view of the public.
Censorship only encourages the cowardly usage of filter-bypass euphemisms.
100% correct. It did start as a meme or something (if I recall it was about how a little kid confused 'autistic' and 'acoustic') but became a AI moderator bypass thing. Having naughty un-advertiser friendly words will get you reach shortened, eventually shadow banned and then just outright banned. Twitter was incredibly notorious for this pre-Musk.
oh this reminds me very much of how people just use the words "twink" or "fruity" etc as a stand in for "gay" when they make those exact same homophobic type of comments you mentioned. ive seen people making very aggressive bigoted comments but they genuinely dont believe they said anything wrong because they used the fairy emoji instead of the f slur. i feel like ppl are just picking up euphemisms from tiktok now &posting honest to god hate speech without understanding what they are even saying
the one that annoys me most is "sus", though maybe that's fallen out of usage by now
Iâm gen Z AND autistic. Iâve also always DESPISED TikTok for how brain-dead and ignorant it was, and this just made it even worse. Just because someone processes life a little different compared to others DOES NOT mean that you have the right to mock them for who they are, or reduce them to being only their disability. (Important PSA, though- some people actually prefer âit/itsâ pronouns! If youâre in a LGBTQ+ friendly place, always ask first!)
Gen-Xer and old enough that the N word got regular use in my house. I can still remember the last time I said it when I was nine years old. I saw the effect it had when I said it near a black kid in my school (using the old term for doorbell ditching). I also used the term âgayâ to mean âlameâ for far too long. Iâm sure I used the r-word a good chunk, too. But, guess what, Iâve learned. And I stopped using any out those kinds of terms because they do harm to other people. It doesnât matter if âI donât mean itâ, it is still harmful. Maybe we should start the âthatâs so HUMANâ campaign, where we use âhumanâ to mean âstupidâ. Seems very fitting.
Also, thank you for your videos. As a late, self-diagnosed autistic person, youâve videos have been incredibly helpful to me. Iâm sorry you also have to deal with the human comments that come from CZcams.
Oh my gosh, I said the n word once because my frickling brother tricked me! Then laughed. I guess I'm too gullible. He did the trick where you say finish my sentence salt and vin-.
@@aaausername I did once in my home when I was 9 without knowing what it meant letâs just say I know I hate the taste of soapâŚnever spoke it since
You used gay to mean lame? You know lame is ableist right?
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@@youareherediversity7321lol no way
"Words don't mean anything. Why do simple words bother you so much? You're just too sensitive. "-- Neurotypicals when they say something that offends someone else.
"You should be more careful with your wording! Words have power and can be hurtful! I'm owed an apology! No one understands empathy but me! I'm gonna go cry now! "-- Neurotypicals when someone says something that offends them.
And they say it's us autistic folks who lack empathy. I don't get it.
Fr. If we just mess up a single slight bit of communication they act like we're a dangerous threat while all we try to do is to just communicate and fit in. Heard so many times my tone sounds angry or demanding. I tried working on it but if you're tired chronically it is pretty hard to talk with a tone that doesn't sound like being tired or bored or angry apparently
Iâve been told so many times to just not care when people offend or trigger me, from well meaning people too, and itâs SO AGGRAVATING! I canât just NOT care when people call me the R word
I was taught that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. No one has the right to dictate what people may or may not say to them.
â@pemanilnoob587 The issue with that advice is that sometimes aggressive words lead to aggressive actions. Sometimes, insults and gossip turn away people who might otherwise help you. There is something to be said for being difficult to rile up, but that doesn't mean that words never matter.
I'm happy to see that you got into linguistics in this video because it's one of my special interests :D
And the first special interest I tell about when I meet new people because I'm scared that they won't talk to me if I talk about PokĂŠmon and the Binding of Isaac (the game, not the bible story)
a) thank you for your vulnerability. I can only imagine how hard some of your videos that you have shared would have been to post, but they are so so important.
b) language totally matters.
c) I have an autistic child and I could never imagine posting his meltdowns online let alone as a punishment. The utter betrayal those kids must feel when their parents do that đ˘
even though I know what they use this word for I am always like "wait acoustic??? LIKE A GUITAR????"
Same! đ
I wonder if making them explain the remark will force them to come to terms with how they're using it?
"You mean I sound amazing? Thanks!"
Yea, when I saw it for the first time (on this video, I live in a country that doesn't use autism as an insult very often, although it's not excluded) I was like "Excuse me, what am I(on my journey to finding out if I'm autistic, dealing with a HUGE impostor syndrome, but for the sake of the joke I'll use myself because it sounds funny)? A guitar? XD"
Thank you so much for addressing this whole "acoustic" thing!! It's been so upsetting to me hearing people use this word all over the internet and I have been hoping for a video just like this to send to people who use it (those without realizing or actually care to listen of course, some people are just trolls and want to watch people suffer). People use this to be overtly ableist without being as crucified by the internet as they would if they say used the r-slur and also to minimize autism. As well as to avoid saying "yeah, I'm autistic" and kind of separate themselves from the disorder as if it's this big bad thing and if you have it you're horrible and dumb.
Personally Iâm autistic, and I donât really see the trouble. Honestly itâs more nice than bad in my opinion, because I can pick out who is stupid.
What pisses me off more is that most autistic people used it as a joke within the community and nuerotypicals decided to run the joke into the dirt by using it
Thank you for this! I'm not on tiktok or wherever, and my reaction to "acoustic" was "huh, that's a neat word?" I'm glad to hear your take on it and how it's used. I often substitute or switch words around for fun or because I have forgotten a word, so it's definitely something I might have used.
As an autistic guitarist, this is very disturbing news to međ
I keep getting called acoustic at school but had no idea what it meant. Thank you for helping me understand, although now I do realise I am being made fun of much more than I realised. School is terrible, I wear ear defenders in order to block out loud noises but people think that it is hilarious to scream in my ears and get made fun of when I stim even though I am constantly trying to suppress my stims and mask. People in my classes don't seem to think that they are being mean though, just because I am autistic.
Please talk about this with a trusted adult if youâre being hurt by their actions. Hope things get better for you! No one deserves that.
nah dawg
people screaming in ur ear is legit harassment
they're not trolls they're literally almost criminals
u should just contact with ur trusted adult/person or just literally leave that school
I've seen a similar thing happen to me and a friend of mine. I can't even describe how much it frustrates me when we're constantly being put down and treated like everyone else is so much better than us for things we cannot control. I'm 12 and on the waiting list for my diagnosis. I have 2 brothers that are autistic as well. Hope things get better soon, school can be full of immature assholes
I've been called names at school as well. For a long time I did not realize what my classmates were trying to imply by this "nick name".
Try not to take it too seriously, because ultimately them calling you names, tells a lot about them and nothing about you.
You were better off, as long as you didn't know what acoustic meant. Unfortunately it is impossible to unlearn, what you just found out.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would always have rather than punched than to be around people yelling, so it's hard to not see that as an act of violence. School is hard enough without all of that. I hope you can find some people that are cool and helpful and kind to help you get through your school years. I DO feel like it's much easier after school in a lot of ways, so please hang in there. @@bushral.tasneem5464
Iâm getting to an age when Iâve noticed some people misusing certain words (often based around mispronunciation or misinterpretation) to misjudge/belittle or insult people. If you try to challenge their malicious behaviour, you often get responses like âdonât take it personallyâ or âyou take things too seriouslyâ, as if that justifies their behaviour. But say similar things to them, then they itâs totally different!
What they're doing is gaslighting.
âYou take things too seriouslyâ yea thatâs kinda what autistic people like me doâŚ
Iâve pointed out to people that saying itâs a joke is abusive gaslighting - it makes people even more defensive, but I hope it sticks with som people Iâve said it to so they rethink their behaviour to understand the issue instead of just being what everyone else their age says.
I know right
â@@AnggeaExactly. It's just an excuse to try to get away with doing something bad by making the other person feel guilty.
The picking on people or making fun of people because you know it will go over their heads was something that happened to me a lot in school. Im reasonably good at masking, though I've realized recently maybe not as good as I thought I was. I distinctly remember a situation in school where my favorite teacher unintentionally lead to me being made fun of by the entire class. A classmate had to explain to me why everyone was laughing because I didn't understand what was so funny. My teacher apologized after class because they hadn't realized that I wouldn't understand the joke, and they didn't intend for the result that happened. So the teacher told me in front of the class that gullible wasn't in the dictionary. So of course the first thing I did was grab a dictionary and find gullible. Not because I believed them(or was gullible), but so I could prove that it was in fact there. Of course it would be there. Why wouldn't it? Of course the more I insisted on proving it, and making sure everyone understood it was indeed in the dictionary like it should be, the more everyone laughed at me. When I asked why it was funny, my classmate explained that I was being gullible by believing it wasn't there and checking. Except I wasn't being gullible, because I knew that of course it was there. That was why I was looking it up, so that they would know! Which just made everyone laugh harder. I understand the joke, and I understood the intent of the joke. But it was humiliating and embarrassing for me. They weren't laughing at the joke, not really. They were laughing at the fact that I was so literal about it that the intent went over my head until it was explained. As well as laughing at me because I couldn't see the humour in it myself because I saw it as inaccurate. They were laughing AT me. My mother still jokes about it because she finds it funny(I told her when it happened). Mostly she finds it funny that it bothers me because I still find it inaccurate and unfunny. I can see the intent, I just don't find it funny.
The classmate who explained it to me went on to become a teacher(special needs I believe!). I spent a fair amount if time in school asking her to explain things to me. I think the most impactful thing she told me was that even though I incredibly was "book smart" , I was not "street smart" or socially intelligent, when I asked her why people bullied me. Up until then i had never considered different kinds of intelligence. Everyone had always just said i was very smart, gifted, etc, and I couldn't understand why so many people bullied me, when id always been told it was jealousy. Because super smart people picked on me too, and they had no reason to be jealous. So I didnt understand.
Its wierd thinking back now and realizing just how autistic I sound lol.
Recently in my grade at school people keep saying the r word and referring to people as straight up autistic or racist with no relation to the actual situation. Recently I have also been exploring if I am autistic (I don't do self diagnosis) and this has been really down grading for me, as well as the fact that I have been mentally struggling with hallucinations, delusions, depression, and mania a lot and the consequences that follow these.
Its also really annoying that when I talk to someone and build up the courage to tell them that I am exploring some things about, well, autism, that they don't believe me at all and say "you can't be autistic, you have full straight A's" or "you can't be autistic, you're the best artist in our grade" and I hate it because it's like they are implying that they know everything about my experiences (can't word it better, sorry) and such. It's just annoying that some reason they won't even act like they care. I mean, they don't have to care, but right after they'll call someone the r word or autistic. It makes me sad. :(
Also, give advice because last night my mom's foot and ankle broke or something and she's just been struggling to crawl around the house because she's my only family member and I am a kid đ plus our hospital is bad and the good hospital is like 1, 2, or 3 hours away-
That was a lot. â˘-â˘
hey is your mom doin okay??
sorry no one responded to you for four months, and I don't know how to help cause I'm not well-experienced, but have you tried calling the ambulance???
iâm autistic and it always makes me irritated. i mean, iâm not even offended exactly, but itâs just so weird that people think itâs funny to make fun of autistic people and call us âacousticâ. if anyone actually says that in front of me irl i will literally cuss them out. itâs so weird iâd rather them just say âyouâre so autisticâ and insult me than to say âacousticâ as if iâm dumb and wouldnât know what theyâre thinking. it seems a bit like mockery.
edit: i literally said i'm autistic so i obviously feel many different things at once. i know i said i'm both irritated and "not exactly offended"-- i'm not stupid. it's just hard to put my emotions and thoughts into the proper words sometimes. my emotions and opinions change quickly, and i literally catch this every day. stop trying to catch my contradictions as if this is a damn debate competition đ this topic is mostly emotional and personal, so obviously there will be conflicting emotions. and i can be irritated AND unoffended at the same time. my usage of "not offended" meant that i'm not constantly thinking or worrying about it-- but i do get irritated whenever i witness someone say/type it or wtv.
Most people are misinformed about autism. For example I just saw an Instagram post of a news coverage of a man destroying a store and some of the comments of the post said it had something to do with autism and many more went to call autistic people "slow" or the R word. So this is also a factor on how autistic people are generalized as slow (mostly because of the memes and people just believe the memes) Nice video on the subject tho!
I don't feel anger about that. I would just say something like "well my voice can resonate, I was a theater/choir kid in high school." and just look at them like they honestly meant a sound. let them awkwardly fumble and try to explain what they meant and congratulate them like a little kid when they finally say the real word.
they're probably going through a cringe phase where they think they're being funny but they are not. it can easily be fixed by making them look silly. worked on me.
and yes cats can be very acoustic especially when wet. they let out the most pitiful meyowl rival only by newborn humans.
@@jacksparrowismydaddy thatâs a good response!! i grew up around violence and arguing (at home and school) so i think my responses to conflict is a bit extreme to some people. â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
@@itsjustgege.__ exactly! autism is a broad spectrum, so not every autistic person is the same. i just find it weird that they love to say things like that but once someone tries to educate them on autism the replies are all ââď¸đ¤â as if being educated is a bad thing?
@@itsjustgege.__ that's why you educate them a little, and don't take their ignorance so personal. If a person is just genuinely hateful, move on, not worth your time.
This feels kind of similar to when i tell people im struggling with my eating disorder and they tell me theyâre jealous that Iâve lost weight. âOh I didnât mean it like that!â Is something Iâve heard a lot in relation to both my autism and my ED. Itâs a sign that whatever you said is very much something you shouldnât repeat. Iâve learnt to stop comforting people when they do that stuff. If theyâre gonna make things awkward then things are gonna be awkward. If youâre gonna use autistic as an insult than Iâm gonna make you confront that. Iâm aware people find that annoying but honestly thatâs the least annoying thing about me so
I really don't see the point in comforting an asshole.
As someone who naturally tries to avoid awkward situations, this made me smile. "If theyâre gonna make things awkward then things are gonna be awkward." I appreciate you holding them accountable.
I LOVE your content. So much of what you say resonates with me and it is so smart and seemingly incredibly well researched. I wish I had the spoons to do what you are doing. I will just continue to do my part and wear my autistic pride shirts and call people out on their ignorance. That said, these trends are starting to scare me. I'm late diagnosed autistic/ADHD. I was 38 when I was diagnosed and I am now 44. From day two (I took one day to think about it) I have been incredibly open about my autism in hopes of educating people. But I am starting to worry that as these trends progress things could get really bad for us and I am for the first time since my diagnosis six years ago considering closeting autism to most people. I recently entered burnout from extroverted masking and I am very sad right now. I didn't even know these things were happening but my recent sadness and loneliness has led me down a rabbit hole of toxicity. I almost wish I hadn't begun this journey but it is too late now. Please keep on doing what you are doing!
i think the worst thing about it is that most of the time the comments say is it acoustic not even are they
Your acoustic guitar earings are such a perfect choice for this video đ¤
Not me reading this as "autistic guitar earrings"..................
Genius!
I find it so stupid that people will know that they can't say 'autistic' as an insult or the r word without getting called out, so they have to find another word to make fun of us, like "acoustic" or "restarted" like this happens all the time with language (E.g the r word was used in the ICD-10, used for diagnoses in the UK before the ICD-11) and honestly it's so tiring.
What's the next word? Atlantic?
I don't know what that next word will be, but given human nature there will be a next word, it will happen.
Skill issue tbh.
Btw your restarted đ
@@Key-Knight87 Even coming from a Mother pfp...
She mentioned that near the end of the video 14:00 .
The heart of the issue is that it is not the specific word that is insulting: it is the intent behind using that word.
You can't just use another word to avoid offense: because the INTENT of the usage was to cause offense.
So in the 'R' word example: it is not enough to just find another way to say "stupid". If you want to avoid offending broad groups of people you need to stop and think of what the underlying issue actually is.
Is something novel/unusual?
Is a problem the result of a systemic problem that the people on the ground can do little about?
Is something a little too much/overstimulating?
Are they just blaming an identifiable group for problems in society (fascism)?
Honestly, the ICD-10 is so awful I'm afraid to even check what ICD-11 will bring
My classmates have said stuff like "[their friend] is the reason why autism is contagious", and always calling the same friend autistic ans aucoustic. The kid is goofy but only has ADHD symptoms. Even worse, i was in gym class with the special ed kids (I have asd but wasnt diagnosed yet and am not special ed). Anyways it was hockey day and the most popular kid in the class hit the puck near a higher-needs autistic girl and she freaks out and starts falling off the gym mat she was on, and the boy says "Guys dont hit her, she doesn't need more brain damage" and then all the kids nearby started laughing. The R slur is also used a lot in my school. Another thing is everyone loves to mention that someone's autistic when they have a bad experience with someone. It really urks me. Usually i dont mind acoustic when its not used as an insult, unless a non-autistic person uses it on themselves or another non-autistic person. Idk tho
I often like saying artism about myself because my special interest has been art for a long time. Almost all my friends are neodivergent and donât seem to mind it. Itâs never in a bad way, just to be silly.
Grew up with the r-slur and "gay" used all the time - this trend hasn't surprised me. These are the people who know they'll get clapback if they use the r-slur online, so they find workarounds to use in public. But imagine what they say when it's just them and their friends. :/ I've had a previous diagnosis of bipolar and the way people use the term flippantly is similar, always so derogatory and spiteful. "Oh my god, Helen was such a b--- today, I swear she's bipolar, I hate her!" Because yes, mental and neurodevelopmental differences make one either evil or stupid, are moral flaws, and render one nearly "subhuman." (/HEAVY sarcasm) I would like to put heavy emphasis on the fact that the most common iteration of the "acoustic" comment is, "Is IT acoustic?" It. Blatant dehumanization.
If non-acoustic people stopped using it as a personality trait and a qwerk to promote their videos. then it wouldnt be as bad. Everything is Autism, ADHD, ticks, whatever these days.
I grew up with a dad that told me he used to beat gay dudes in the 80's, although he was a wife beater and a drunk who beat my mom and lied and was all around a failure
damn this is spot onâŚ
Policing words isn't going to get you anywhere. As long as the intent is there, there will be a way to make others feel bad. People will also literally find almost anything to choose to be derogatory about (eg. The most neutral trait in existence: skin color).
Just don't be a bully. And if one decides to be a bully, then telling them something is offensive will only make them want say it more, since that is precisely the intention: to offend
Hahah... "subhuman"? Total projection on their part.
Yea itâs pretty sad that people will always find ways to ruin stuff. âWokeâ springs to mind as another word that has been stripped of itâs original meaning- to be aware of and question injustice. Now it just means bad I guess, probably cause people want us to just passively float through life and not rock the boat by questioning anything suspicious. As you said, language is constantly evolving and as the r-slur dies and new term will unfortunately have to take its place, because people have to find sneakier ways of being mean. Keep doing what youâre doing youâve helped educate so many, congrats on the 100k subs too đ! Youâre keeping us all woke đ
PLEASE look up the "euphemism treadmill."
Itâs sad that autistic people arenât taken seriously. I really donât want autistic to become slur because some people like insulting others who are different. Iâm autistic and I got bullied a lot when I was a kid. Iâm still insecure and have a hard time making friends.
The way they've also gone from saying "is he/she/are they acoustic" to "is IT acoustic"
Thereâs much to be said about intent. Saying âacousticâ gives bad actors plausible deniability. Because they are cowards and know theyâll be read for filth if they say what they mean flat out.
Poor Rodger, I hope the sweet bean got warm and cozy quickly after his misadventure âŁď¸
I was just diagnosed in the past 6 months. I don't tell people because I'm soooooo used to hearing "autism isn't real" ugh...
I call myself AND my daughter ARTISTIC as a way of saying Autistic but like, we like silly words. BUT!!! I don't do it around lots of people because they will PERCEIVE it as negative... even though I see my and my daughter's "Artism" is part of what makes us awesome!!!!
As an Autistic with a special Interest in art I think I have to start using âartismâ đ
"artism" is an awesome word, love it!!
being awesome makes you awesome, being autistic makes things hard for you that shouldn't be.
Sameeeee@@Robin-wb5nu
I used to always say I'm artistic as an automatic explanation before I knew i was autistic, so thanks for reminding me to use that again.. I've stopped telling people im autistic now that I've realised even the closest friends completely ignore me when I mention it yet in the past were happy to talk about my struggles with adulting.
Great video, thank you Meg!
Thank you so much for this video. I'm really enjoying your content. Tbh with you it makes me feel less alone. Keep doing what you're doing â¤
ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING. It's so hecking messed up people can be so openly mean towards us autistics, especially so bluntly. A neurodivergent(I'm pretty sure he's got autism with high support needs) guy literally got LAUGHED AT for getting injured(Falling in the stairs, i'm not totally sure how much he got injured, but the scream he let out makes me pretty sure the fall was pretty bad) just because it was him. If that was anybody else people would have asked if they were okay. This wasn't even the only time people made fun of him. Whenever he has meltdowns or gets triggered by loud noises, certain imagery or smells, he gets laughed at. People, especially neurotypical people, never seem to understand how this shit can be so traumatizing. Just because someone's neurodivergent doesn't mean it's okay to literally TRAUMATIZE and OUTCAST people. People are disgusting asf.
That's terrible! Poor kid :( I can't believe people would laugh at him getting badly hurt just because he's autistic, like that's literally so messed up
@@PeriluneStar yeah. He doesn't seem to understand why people laugh at him, im not sure if its better that he doesnt understand. People need to learn to treat others as human beings tbh, for now i'll just try to be better than all off the other kids and atleast treat him like a human being with feelings.
â@@hildaottosson8660did you curse them out?
@@AmazingAutist No, unfortunately not, since the teacher was there, but I will make sure to next time, and that's a promise.
I know this is actually so fucking acoustic itâs so restarted I hate it!
Non-autistic person here. I have a few learning disabilities one of which is dyslexia. This video reminds me of when people say, "what are you, Dyslexic?!" as an insult when someone made a mistake and stuff. Phrasing diagnoses and stuff like that made it hard for me to make friends in school. I know my solidarity with fellow neurodivergent people doesn't count for much, but I'll be more aware now. Thanks for explaining this as I hadn't seen the word used in that context before.
THANK YOU. great video. it reminds me of in the late 00s, i would go on this anonymous livejournal community where they very commonly used 'aspie' in the same way, and it took me awhile to realise what it stood for, and then i was horrified. how is that okay? same way that i often see 'get help' 'get therapy' 'you're delusional' thrown around on twitter whenever people disagree with someone, especially someone who says things that shake up their narrow worldview. it's so so horrible, it's become so casual and normalised. using neurodivergency or mental illness as an insult is never okay. and i feel like it's even worse that a lot of the time when i see it, it's about things that feel like they could have been written by autistic people (often based on pattern recognition and questioning societal systems). not saying they ARE but when you treat thinking like that like it's wrong, neurodivergent people are affected. i see so much 'this isn't normal' used in a way that literally just means 'this isn't neurotypical' to me. it's more subtle than acoustic/straight up using autistic as an insult but i think it's all the same thing, it all stems from the same idea: you're too different, you need to fall in line, behaving/thinking this way isn't acceptable.
and i was so pleased you talked about the way people used gay! i was a teenager in the 00s and it was RAMPANT. i don't think younger gen z can really understand how common it was unless they had millennials in their life who did it. i hated it so much, i remember being known in 2007 for always telling people 'gay is not a synonym for shitty' haha. i really thought it added to societal homophobia, it's part of why i didn't feel comfortable coming out until my 20s. and the euphemism treadmill thing made me think of the whole 'queer is a slur' discourse, which was basically younger people telling queer people not to identify as that or at least not to use it for other people. which i find personally offensive lol since queer is my favourite word for my identity, and it completely erases the way that when i was growing up, gay was the slur. the reason i thought of it here was because we mostly started using gay more because queer was the slur, and then gay was co-opted and redefined, and so a bunch of us went back to queer, and then it became the only slur again apparently. (tbf i think that's also because queer was considered way more inclusive of all sexualities/genders than gay, especially in the mid-'10s, and people didn't like it for that reason either, but.) ANYWAY. it's a very very similar thing, and i really do not want the same thing to happen to autistic.
it also really doesn't escape my attention that gay was redefined around the time that queer acceptance was rising. there was more queer media, more out queer celebrities. not much but it was more than before, and to my recollection i feel like gay as an insult really rose in popularity after brokeback mountain came out. i just can't not see the correlation there. and so what's happening now? autism acceptance is rising, people are realising they're autistic, we're very slowly decreasing stigmas. and people are doing this. i just think it's part of a backlash to acceptance/awareness, and it's worse that so many people who use it don't even realise that and would consider themselves accepting, as you said.
it's just fucking ridiculous. words matter. how the hell is anyone comfortable using something as an insult that is an identity/describes a group of people/is a part of a person that they can't change?
When I was in school (a looong time ago) it was "mencap" - "oh, you're mencap!" (you're mentral/you're stupid) "that's mencap!" (that's mental/stupid). After weeks of hearing this in every class I finally informed the folks saying it that it was offensive & was amazed to be met with confusion and incredulity. I explained that Mencap was an abbreviation of Mentally Handicapped, which I knew because my brother has downs syndrome... - & they didn't believe me! ... I seem to remember they stopped using the word around me anyway, but it really surprised me that they genuinely didn't seem to realise the meaning of what they were saying.. they just through it was funny/clever/whatever. - I don't even know why I'm sharing this story.. I'm not trying to imply that folks aren't aware of what they're saying when they're using Acoustic in this way, I'm sure most of them are... I guess it just felt very familiar .. same issue, different words (but with social media comments issues like this are much more pervasive) ....I guess that's why I very rarely ever dare dip in to the comments threads đ
I do a lot of theatre. Yesterday I was doing a show (all went smoothly up until this point). I had to help another actor get around the stage (her being blind and autistic- I am also autistic, but she has higher support needs (but a lot of that is because she canât see)). During the bows at the end of the show some random ass old guy in the front row yelled âsp45ticâ at her. I was going to react but I donât thing she heard it and I didnât want to bring it to her attention. People are gross.
Edit: (1. This blew up. Wow,
2. When I said âpeople are grossâ I never meant for people to infer that all people are gross, just that people have the capacity to be gross. No offence to anyone (except the guy at the show, all offence to him))
Forgive me, but I don't understand what "sp45tic" means. Are you censoring the word "spastic," or did he actually shout out a word with numbers in it?
@@aphotic_grae no they're censoring the word. its a cruel word so not everyone feels comfortable typing it.
People are just so hateful toward anything that makes them uncomfortable or, anything or anyone remotely different than them. People should really start to realize that not everyone is the same and, everyone is going to look, sound, behave, and be different. If we were all the same, that would be boring and wouldn't be good for the human race's evolution. I hope you were able to decompress after this. I would have been raging mad and, probably would have said something later on to this person if I could find them again.
Thatâs so unbelievably awful of him đ
My brothers called me spa$tic a lot as a kid and it really stuck. Hate that an adult used that word to insult your friend
It disappoints me to hear how often people I come across used the R-slur around me, even when Iâm very open and clear that Iâm autistic! Itâs sad to see people think that the R-slur isnât a slur but donât realize why itâs considered a slur and hurts disabled people in the first place! They also seem to think itâs ok to used as long as itâs not towards a disabled person, no matter whoâs itâs aimed at, itâs not ok! In fact, itâs even less than not ok! I so commonly hear it to the point where I have to put âno R-slurs or Iâm blocking you!â on my bios! Thank you so much for making a video about this topic! I often feel like I'm overreacting and being too sensitive when I feel very uncomfortable hearing the R-slur!đâ¨
If you feel as if you're overreacting then you probably are ngl. Most of the time people who say the word, myself included aren't trying to be abelist...
is the r-word even used by health professionals anymore? seems there are a million conditions that cause those symptoms... I'm asking because I literally don't know, not trying to be immature or anything.
â@@Key-Knight87 The intention doesn't matter in cases like these. And, I have heard there is no thing as an overreaction. Just because you think someone went overboard with their feelings, that doesn't make their experience less legit.
You have to remember, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions."
I had other definitions for words like "idiot" and whatnot when I was younger. Then I stopped using them because it wasn't right. There are so many other words we can use, or make up new ones with no eugenic and ableist history attached to it.
But people seem to enjoy repeating history until someone beats them up for real. Because saying the R-word is kinda like saying the N-word. Kinda hard to compare the two because of history, but I hope it makes enough sense.
I'm autistic and I've had people tell me not to refer to MYSELF with the word. People who are neurotypical. Like ugh it's so annoying both of these are a problem imo
â@@jacksparrowismydaddy It's really only used by docs who are much older or in "alternative medicine" as the term was phased out over the last 10-20 years. Ik that's a huge timespan but it's been slow progress. Modern medicine is way more detailed with diagnostic criteria though, so where people with any intellectual or neurodevelopmemtal disability in the past would have been placed under the umbrella term r-word-ed, now diagnoses are a lot more specific. Ie. if you have autism you're going to be told you have autism, and sometimes a level from 1-3.
I'm 17, people still use "gay" and "autistic" as insults in my class. :(
I hate being the thing people use as an insult, makes me feel like they look down on me as a defective freak.
no because acoustic is a musical term + the people who use it act like autism is a slur?? its not. i ranted to my brother about this and he went "well people don't like when you call them autistic" then maybe don't call people autistic blindly?? SOME (not all) neurotypicals are so dumb.
Why, accustic is literally a wildely used musical term for live not electric music and who would not be accustic, if we take music away?
As lover of accustic music, its offensive, and stupid, it mskes no sense and , accustic music doesnt deserve that .
And if people want to not be judged for using autistic as slur, dont use it, if, bear the consequences of being judged for it. Dont drag accustic music into it :(
Ok the wtf accustic as the term for not electric music, goddam, just in question, dont, or make up your own creative slurs, i guess, thats just lazy. If you slur, at least dont be lazy and abelist.
@@marocat4749
you are so right
Haha wow maybe don't "call people" Autistic then, kid đ Jee...
Acoustic now has two definitions. 1, a type of instrument; 2, an insult/mockery to autistic people. Itâs not okay to say in this context.
As an autistic person, I am livid that my identity is linked to stupidity.
duh right! Like don't use autistic or "autistic behavior" ie behavior you don't understand as a slur or put down!
The last time I was on TikTok it took a week to scrub the comments off my skin! Thanks for the video, Meg! I shall enjoy this with a cup of tea later :)
I feel this.
Comment section of TikTok sounds like a hard drug. Be careful Meg.
It's the same on instagram and facebook and youtube shorts. Like I really need to start practicing just not even looking at the comments. But it sucks because I really like to talk to people and see what they have to say, I just wish they were nicer...
@Autistic_AF love the name!
â@@himenyx153Has it gotten worse for you lately too? It's been bugging me more lately. I feel your pain.
I didn't even recognize what "restarted" was supposed to be til you pulled up the Urban Dictionary definition đ I thought it was about like, "my brain's restarting" or "hang on, I'm buffering", or what I recently said to a coworker, "it's too early, my words haven't loaded yet"
âAcousticâ started as a lighthearted joke around the community yk to lighted the load on actually being autistic
then the greater audience started to use it is when shit gets thrown out the window, co opting as an insult with shit like ârestartedâ
I feel like my ick with âacousticâ is actually that it makes it seem like autism is a dirty word. I already find ~tiktokifying~ words, like changing âdeadâ to âunaliveâ to be pretty annoying; I feel it diminishes the impact and seriousness of the subject, but at least you can make the argument that it helps protect people that might not want to hear about death. However, âacousticâ is literally just censoring a word completely unnecessarily, because âautisticâ isnât insulting or offensive in any way, itâs just what autistic people *are*. It also feels somewhat infantilizing, in a way, like we canât handle being called autistic and need some other dumbass word to replace it with.
It also definitely makes the âI feel like this person is trying to insult me but I canât tell if they are or notâ alarm sound off in my brain.
It's not 'tiktokifying', it's trying to avoid not getting money for your content. Advertisers don't want to put their coca cola ad on a video about dead people, or suicide, or sex, etcetera. The only consideration in the process is for their wallets. Autistic though is not part of that group of words so idk why they do that. I guess because they see the word as a forbidden insult, ie very negatively.
"Oh no my video got deleted because I called someone autistic as an insult! Better not learn from my mistakes and in essence do the same thing again!"
I always assumed it was like a bondulance thing where someone put a meme with delberately butchered SPAG somewhere and a bunch of people just referenced that.
How does it protect people who don't want to hear about death though? The sentences "he broke in and murdered them" and "he broke in and unalived them" convey the same exact meaning. Changing that one word doesn't make a difference besides seeming like a disrespectful way to talk about death
@@GloryofGore666 it "protects" only on the technicality that the word itself is not used and that's good enough for the flagging bots to declare it safe.
to my understanding it originally started on the autistic side of tiktok as a lighthearted joking term and then it was overtaken by non autistic people and used in a very ableist and demeaning way. it wasn't surprising that it happened to me as people on tiktok are awful but it still really sucks
Hey there.
I'm not autistic but I appreciate this channel.
I like to learn and hearing about it, what it means, how you interact with the world and the struggles you go through has been very informative.
I hope that I'll be informed if I have friend, partner or anything that is on the spectrum, that id be able to help them and be there for them. Understand their struggles and all
Thank you for discussing this, Meg. I'm an autistic person also on the cusp between Millennial and Gen Z, and I often overhear my (young Gen Z) brother using these sorts of euphemisms when he's speaking to friends online. It's hard to tell whether he's being wilfully ignorant, or whether he just doesn't understand the actual meaning behind what he's saying-although obviously I'd like to believe it's the latter. The insidious thing to me is that it essentially functions like a dogwhistle, and makes anyone who (rightfully) calls it out end up sounding ridiculous to the untrained ear. It's a very frustrating situation.
I remember rather shortly after my diagnosis there was a discussion in the government about what was most correct: to say you are autistic or to say you are a person with autism.
All I could think was 'wow, we must be doing pretty well if they have time to discuss such frivolities.'
But after seeing this video I do have a better understanding of where they are coming from. They also landed on person with autism... which I myself still don't use.
I've always found it such an interesting distinction because personally, I go back and forth using them for myself solely based on what sounds the best in the sentence. The only reason I'd have a problem with the phrase "person with autism" is if someone is making a conscious effort to try and separate someone from their autism. Otherwise, it's inconsequential to me.
I was trying to think of this in the context of queerness (to see if the language sounds off or offensive in different but similar contexts) - it would be really weird to say âa person with homosexuality"
@@Arwen_xx oh, you'd be surprised. It was used that way, and while being gay is no longer a medical disorder, other aspects of queerness are - I have a document saying I "have trans****ality", that was 2019 that I managed to get it. Same if I had an asd diagnosis, it'd say I "have autism". When things are overpathologized people just say you _have a thing._ As long as autism is something seen as potentially curable and extrinsic to the person, people will say you "have it"
I haven't used this, but I'm older and not around these things a lot. I had seen the meme with the baby on the guitar but missunderstood it as a typo (being dyslectic I misspell things in weird ways a lot). That being said I'm glad you talk about this to educate us who haven't heard or seen it much. Thank you for bringing up this topic.
Ah, thank you for explaining this term! I haven't used it, but I just thought it was an inside joke like a meme or something that was lighthearted.
I was also making this comment because you mentioned people not realizing for years they were being bullied and it somehow reminded me of one of my own experiences! I was in the car a few months ago with my mother talking and she mentioned how I was bullied a bit as a kid in school which... confused me? I had never realized I had moments where I was bullied but I guess that makes sense since I was constantly seen as the "weird smart kid" or something like that. I thought I had a fairly normal childhood, and didn't ever realize I'd been through bullying, despite being aware of its existence in schools. Life is interesting haha!
Iâm 15 autistic low support needs have ADHD I live in a
Rural area in a republican state and have an IEP to help me with studies, time management, sensory issues and social skills. I got to normal classes during the day, but my first hour I go to My schoolâs IEP resource teacherâs room for a reset hour to help me get ready to go to normal classes. (Thatâs what I call it) I always hear people asking someone if they are Rslured or autistic . My best friend often says that she is autistic whenever she does something stupid . âoh Iâm probably autistic I have an extra chromosome.â That is Down syndrome!!!! But the first time she said that she didnât know that I was autistic and I said â wait, you are too?â And she turned red . I also hear a lot of people say this is R Slurd and things like that. Or be like oh Johnny is autistic. Also our school has one more kid that I know of thatâs autistic. He is higher support needs and has a hard time reading and writing and all that but heâs doing really good. I hate saying that but heâs doing good heâs in band but he doesnât play an instrument,because he has a short attention span and so when the band plays for a concert, they just sit him up without an instrument and he just sits there while they play and I donât like that itâs just like theyâre trying to say that theyâre inclusive by highlighting the token autistic kid at least when heâs in the choir, itâs less obvious that he isnât singing and I donât know if this is just me or if this is actually bad. And we have this one boy at my school with down syndrome and he is older than everyone in our school now this is not a problem at all. Iâm not making fun of that. He just has a tendency to kinda be creepy to girls in my class, He will find one girl and obsess over her all week although this time one girl lasted two weeks I donât know weâll see next week but it kind of makes me crazy because they donât do anything about it, maybe the occasional talk but I donât even know if they do that, although makes me feel ablest to say that he should should understand by now but itâs just just not OK even if he doesnât understand you would think we should try to make him understand. Iâve only seen him get corrected on it once. I donât understand any of it. Itâs insane, insane insane insane insane insane I know we live in a rural area but
please, please, please use punctuation
Kids have always been pretty mean spirited and cruel, urban or rural. No excuse for them, just the sad reality. I think you have to use soft power on them to change their behavior. They started calling people names because they thought it was neat or cool to do it, just have to take the wind out of that sail. Straight up telling kids not to do something makes it more tempting because it's forbidden and a lot of them want to be edgy so they will lean on it. I think pretending they didn't even say the edgy (actually cringy) thing will make it less appealing. Fight bad behavior with a cool and collected mindset. Make them feel bad about what they say without being combatant. When they call someone the r word you just say something nice about the person in question. Don't be their safe place to gossip and be cruel/ otherize.
I'm autistic and this technique worked for me pretty well.
FYI an extra chromosome is not necessarily Down Syndrome. Anyone who has an extra chromosome has trisomy. Down Syndrome is a form of trisomy.
@@lexalot8337 I see punctuation. Might be few missing periods or misplaced ones. So saying please use punctuation sounds very odd seeing there is lots of punctuation.
@@ZhovtoBlakytniy Okay, I will have to try that.
The âa lot of people like picking on people who donât realize theyâre being picked on,â line, really hit me hard because advice I got a lot of the time when it came to people picking on me was to just ignore it because all they want is a reaction out of you, but like, clearly that isnât true!
People can want sevral things, they are not automatons.
@@reedy_9619 exactly! Thank you!
Yeah, it can be true but it can also not be true. And when it is true, ignoring them isn't always the solution- let alone even possible!
@@undefinederror40404 Right?! Itâs way easier said than done! It can be really stressful đĽş
@@reedy_9619 exactly, thank you!!!
You brought in one point of how people used the word gay as an insult, and I remember my first exposure to the word was in the book The Secret Garden (I remember that line that said "gay women talking about their husbands"), then with the song Deck The Halls (âDon we now our gay apparel") so for a long time gay = happy, content, bright, colourful (still that way in my head-canon). quite didn't get the memo that it was at all insulting.. (I might have been living more in my own head at the time). Then once someone ask me if I support gay marriage and all I could say "why? do people want sad and miserable marriages? What's bad about happy marriages?"; after they explain what they meant (same-sex marriage).. as an Aro-Ace, I thought everyone was pan or something similar (made sense to me), and took a while to wrap my head around how that was not the norm??? It was not until somewhere in high-school did I figure out what people meant..this world doesn't make sense sometimes. On the other hand, I've other neurodivergent friends who use the word retard to refer to themselves sometimes when they're being silly or struggling with something.. took little time for me to learn that others use it as an insult (quite sad? disappointing?..). I do hope acoustic doesn't become an insult, I very much adore the music genre. (^-^)
I myself only associate the word acoustic with music, but I grew up in a very musical family with evangelical religious parents, and my only brother was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome back around Y2K. My brother and I are in our early & mid 30s now. Even though I've never been diagnosed with autism, I WAS diagnosed with clinical depression at age 15 & have battled severe anxiety my whole life. I received an official diagnosis of ADHD at the age of 30, and have spent the past 4 years connecting the dots & working on my mental health. It was a comment my husband made about 2 or 3 years ago that made me realize that I was almost definitely "the weird kid" in class all throughout grade school. In 30 plus years, that possibility had never once crossed my mind. I had always felt that I was the only one in my class who bothered to make friends with those who didn't really fit in, to make sure nobody felt excluded or lonely. It was quite a shock, and a little unnerving to think that I can be completely oblivious to others looking down on me (I only look negatively at people who hurt others purposely, without remorse).
A lot of the things you say really resonate with me, and when I watched your video about 9 signs you may not have autism, I actually saw so many similarities between your personal examples of autism and my own life experiences, that it actually feels like it helps validate my suspicions that maybe my brother isn't my parents' only autistic child...
the way i knew exactly what this was about when i saw the title, i hate this trend. It started as a funny thing for autistic people to call themselves but then the neurotypical people stole it and now use it offensively >:(
NT people donât care, they feel like they can use it freely. Unless they would experience being autistic, they will never understand how we feel.
My daughter is autistic, and I learn a lot from your channel. I would have never known about the use of acoustic if I didnât watch your channel. So I subscribed. Also, sheâs 21 and didnât get an official diagnosis until she was 18. We are so happy to have a diagnosis. She is doing great⤠thank you for your videos.
Finally someone is talking about this! Thank you!!
This was quite eye opening. Thank you for posting this - I do think at the end of the day though that the choice of word doesn't matter if the intention is to be offensive
I'm autistic myself and call myself artistic and acoustic cause I find it funny. My autistic friends also do this and find it funny as well. Personally I don't mind especially since I'm using it in reference to my autism, like when I say "oh I didn't understand what you meant, I'm a little acoustic". Very clearly, if I'm outside of my friends, and around people I don't know, I'll use the word autistic to describe myself
i think its okay as long as its not used to comment on anyone else :) I do the same thing at home, i also have an autism diagnose. Jokingly at home, i say that i went "grand autismo" when i have a meltdown or when i hyperfocus to make things funny and light :) But i would never say it about anyone else.
Yeah, i agree,, if youre using it on yourself as an autistic person and with other autistic people, i think its okay, since given the circumstances, its clearly not being used as a thinly veiled slur,, its like saying im "too ace" to understand smth sexual attraction related, or saying smth is "probably the adhd",,, but if someone allo or neurotypical said that about me, or themselves, or whatever else as someone who does not fit the identity being talked about, it feels wrong,, like its appropriating the experience as a joke at the expense of the people who experience it or simply using in this case the terms artistic or acoustic as thinly veiled slurs to spee hateful bigotry or ablism under the guise and defense that it was simply a joke
It's the "Euphemism Treadmill" of traditionally used vocabulary becoming offensive because people bully each other, then get in trouble for it and they adopt a new word for the same thing to continue to bully people without getting in trouble.
I am autistic, but I use "sorry, I did not understood that autistically" and "sorry, my acoustic is really hard right now, can you please repeat?" as a little joke with my closest friends... I just switch both words...cause often, it just...makes still so much sense!
That video blow out because there are TONS of videos of signs of autism, but not to much if you want to know if you are not just being a part of a social media mess. Even people that does so much research (even reading papers) need to watch something that make them doubt. Everything you and a lot of content creators do is making people feel related with the content, doing the contrary thing is what everyone in doubt crave for.
I was just talking to someone on Twitter today who claimed it was fine for them to call people the R word as an insult cos they autistic so they're "reclaiming" it - I had to point out that reclaiming a word is when you use it in a positive way as part of your identity, like people have with things like queer and dyke, not when you just use it in the same way as the oppressors do
Another great video. Congrats on 100K+.
"Euphemism Treadmill." I call it the Insult Arms Race. A lot of psychological terms get coopted by society as insults/slurs to denigrate someone's intellect. Once the stigma grows significant enough, they have to replace it with something else to avoid patients feeling stigmatized when diagnosed. Just two days ago, I heard, "[Moron] used to be a medical term." Yes. It sprung out of eugenics.
I try to avoid replacing a word with something more "polite" because it too will soon become a taboo? But I also try to read the room first.
Side story: The word "she" always gets called out with the questions, "Who's 'she'? The cat's mother?" I don't know if that's a Northwest thing, an English thing, or the whole of the UK.
Thanks for this video. I wasn't aware of this before.
I absolutely LOVE your sparkly silver glitter guitar AND matching earrings!! They're amazing!
I think using the word 'acoustic' for autism is so silly honestly. Same with using the word 'artistic', which I've seen a few people say in the comments. Both words already have meanings, let them keep those meanings! Especially for me as a person who IS artistic, but is NOT (I don't think) autistic, I don't want people to be confused if I say I'm artistic, thinking I'm claiming to be autistic when I'm not. Not that there's ANYTHING wrong with being autistic, I am here to learn more about it, but it would just not be an accurate description of myself. So yeah, anyone using the word 'artistic' in place of 'autistic', please realise you are causing confusion and using a word that other people actually need to describe themselves.
I'm glad you drew the parallel with the use of the word 'gay' as a pejorative; that's just what it reminded me of. Anyone who claims it's a totally different word or whatever is just making an excuse; it's obvious what it's meant to sound like. People can't try to get out of the fact they're being offensive by being like 'bUt I'm NoT aCtuaLLy saYinG AuTisTIC!' - we all know what you mean.
Someone who had been a friend for years (who I considered my best friend even) said during a stressful situation that "of course they weren't r-word" when recounting what they did. I was giving the side eye but hoped maybe they would grow out of it or realize how wrong that was. Then the other day they saw my dog (male, 3 yrs old) with bandana on because I was sharing some pics. He then said my dog "looked so gay" like an insult. I literally wanted this person to be the maid(male) of honor at my wedding but to know this is how he operates with language and world views, I've started to cut ties with him. I might have an actual conversation with him one day but I'm terrible with conflict and keep avoiding it. I'm getting married and me and my fiance have started family planning. Now that I know how I want to raise my child, I will not tolerate hate in any form. P.s. I'm bisexual and I also suspect I may be autistic. :)
Hi, just wanted to jump in and give you permission to just fade out of that persons life. no one is owed the kind of effort it takes to confront people, especially since the critique often doesnât land with that kind of person anyway. if you feel like explaining yourself to them, thatâs cool, but you absolutely do not have to! they already showed you who they are with the language they use. I wish you all the best and hope you have an amazing wedding when the time comes đ
@@simoneholenstein6977 thank you so much for the kind words