My Struggles With Body Image

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  • čas přidán 14. 04. 2021
  • Abbie is finally opening up about her struggles with her body image and past. We hope her honesty and vulnerability helps just one person watching this video.
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Komentáře • 334

  • @ferwahasghar7677
    @ferwahasghar7677 Před 3 lety +503

    What I always tell myself is that we arent born with insecurities, we are told to have them

    • @sadiesnyyddd2718
      @sadiesnyyddd2718 Před 3 lety +25

      this just changed my whole mindset..... thank you

    • @bolivia.j
      @bolivia.j Před 3 lety +9

      Wow. I’ve never heard that before

    • @DeMariePulsipher
      @DeMariePulsipher Před 3 lety +7

      Yes!!! I didn’t start feeling body conscious until comments were made (positive and negative) about my body or others. It creates an expectation.

    • @ferwahasghar7677
      @ferwahasghar7677 Před 3 lety +4

      @@DeMariePulsipher i just think we all need to be careful with what we say to each other. It can create the worse negative impact on someones mental health and the stigma around mental health and eating disorders needs to be sorted out because we live in a society where we can get our “flaws” fixed or faked. Like we can get our tummys tightened, noses fixed, and we can get cellulite scars lazered away. But only because we are told to do that by society.

    • @DeMariePulsipher
      @DeMariePulsipher Před 3 lety +2

      @@ferwahasghar7677 perfectly said!

  • @anahimarquez7227
    @anahimarquez7227 Před 3 lety +527

    As a teenager, thank you for this. You just inspired so many girls to love themselves 🥺🤍🙌🏻 you’re glowing btw! ✨

    • @soaps_sister
      @soaps_sister Před 3 lety +6

      It made me cry because I know so many girls my age do this😭😭

    • @fried5546
      @fried5546 Před 3 lety +2

      hello there

  • @iifxv.i
    @iifxv.i Před 3 lety +143

    yk your love is strong when she leaves her addiction for you

  • @God_is_Good0803
    @God_is_Good0803 Před 3 lety +277

    Beauty isn’t from the outside, it’s from the inside. Whatever your doing to your body, do it for yourself and not for other’s approval. You are beautiful just the way you are and God made you in his own image. Nobody is perfect and nobody has a perfect body. Stay strong girls, you guys are amazing :) 💕

  • @gwennakruse
    @gwennakruse Před 3 lety +116

    I love how you said “I don’t care if I am an extra small or an extra large” that made me feel good bc I’m overweight for my height and age and I’m going to speak for the plus sized people it made us feel included!!

    • @ambreeshbedi3736
      @ambreeshbedi3736 Před 3 lety +3

      Yes! I am overweight as well and it feels very special to hear that. It feels so genuine coming from the Herberts! Love you guys!

  • @gracietemple7759
    @gracietemple7759 Před 3 lety +255

    Everyone should love themselves for who they are!

  • @natalieadkins6791
    @natalieadkins6791 Před 3 lety +76

    I was a figure skater for a long time and my coaches always pressure me that "skinny=better skater" and I spiraled into anorexia for almost a decade. I'm glad that you are speaking out!

    • @cordeliaellsworth4704
      @cordeliaellsworth4704 Před 3 lety +5

      I am so sorry you had to go through that and I hope you are recovering well even though it is hard. 💜

  • @deukies1359
    @deukies1359 Před 3 lety +20

    I can tell they are literally the kindest people

  • @lily5794
    @lily5794 Před 3 lety +28

    as a teenager with body dismorphia this makes me feel like i’m not alone. i love you ❤️

  • @someoneyoudontknow965
    @someoneyoudontknow965 Před 3 lety +34

    as a side note; i love the way she always turns to josh and goes "does that make sense?" 😂🥺

  • @katem331
    @katem331 Před 3 lety +79

    This is such a difficult and vulnerable topic to talk about, thank you for being honest with us all. A huge thank you for the warning at the beginning of the video too, I have an ED and I’m careful about when I watch videos around those topics and appreciate having the choice. Sending you SO much love 💗

  • @emmamariaolson
    @emmamariaolson Před 3 lety +17

    I'm litterally crying. I'm batteling an eating disorder right now and the last few weeks have been extremly hard and this gave me hope. Thank you for that!

  • @ceciliapistorius8321
    @ceciliapistorius8321 Před 3 lety +23

    I love this! It's so important to be mentally, and physically healthy, but when "health" translates in your mind to "skinny" or "thin" then it's no longer healthy! Eat well (which can include "junk food"), exercise (because it feels good), take care of your mind, sleep, all so important!!

  • @tommo9195
    @tommo9195 Před 3 lety +28

    you both are such a power couple😩 thats so cute how you both support eachother no matter what ans are together🥺. love you abbie stay strong

  • @hewas3363
    @hewas3363 Před 3 lety +13

    I love that you don’t care if you bounce back, your baby is the most important thing!!

  • @cyndi8598
    @cyndi8598 Před 3 lety +8

    Thank you so much for opening up, I have struggled with anorexia for 17 years and it’s hell. I wish you all the happiness in the world 💜

  • @queenwein16
    @queenwein16 Před 2 lety +1

    I love how real you guys are. Thank you for being you. Love you guys!

  • @hannahtolson02
    @hannahtolson02 Před 3 lety +7

    Thank you for being so honest Abby, love you so much 💙💙

  • @paulinatavarez8703
    @paulinatavarez8703 Před 3 lety +2

    im crying rn, thank you so freakin much for this, this is the only vid I've ever watched related to struggles that feels 100% honest and pure. this helped me SO MUCH since I badly struggle with being very insecure.

  • @KTY_06
    @KTY_06 Před 3 lety +12

    This got me into floods of tears. As long are you love your self now Abbie and you have your amazing josh that’s all that matters.

  • @anon3497
    @anon3497 Před 3 lety +4

    The way that you support each other is so inspiring 🥺❤️

  • @kaleyhobbs
    @kaleyhobbs Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks so much for sharing this, Abbie. You are helping so many others with your story.

  • @coralfeldman4778
    @coralfeldman4778 Před 3 lety +2

    I just want to say thank you for this. I’ve seen you say some of this on your stories but nothing hit me quite like this. I’m crying right now. There’s so many people you’re helping with this myself included.

  • @silverdollareyes1
    @silverdollareyes1 Před 3 lety +1

    Proud of you Abbie!! Thank you for sharing this!! So many people need it!!

  • @tommo9195
    @tommo9195 Před 3 lety +31

    that is so good how she likes her body like she’s pregnant also literally they are the rarest couples i have seen THEY ARE SO JDDHSUSJ FRKN EXCITED for the baby and that’s adorable i haven’t seen someone so excited like omg🥺

    • @zoyajohn
      @zoyajohn Před 3 lety +2

      Yeah, they seem so genuinely happy for the baby and not for views

  • @ryleighjester4320
    @ryleighjester4320 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for being so vulnerable with us!

  • @kimberlyowens3279
    @kimberlyowens3279 Před 2 lety +1

    Your sincerity, your vulnerability - beauty radiating outward
    Thank you!

  • @meganhenry5795
    @meganhenry5795 Před 2 lety +1

    You two are such beautiful human beings. Thank you for your vunerability

  • @JanicaRabbit
    @JanicaRabbit Před 2 lety +1

    Sharing so openly is amazing. Your light is shining bright!✨ it’ll truly help others ❤️

  • @madalyncancio1969
    @madalyncancio1969 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much for being open and honest. I literally cried when you said "It doesn't matter if I'm an extra-small or extra-large, if I'm happy that's all that matters.

  • @isabellemarie9170
    @isabellemarie9170 Před 3 lety +2

    Abbie, you are really so strong and empowering. Crazy proud of you

  • @kirashoemaker7938
    @kirashoemaker7938 Před 3 lety +1

    Literally balling my eyes out, thank you so much for sharing and being relatable.

  • @thecamelshow422
    @thecamelshow422 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you so much Abby!! This is so inspiring and amazing. I am 13 and have been body shamed by some people in my life. My parents got divorced when I was eight and I started using food to comfort me. It was a rough time. Some people tell me I am big for my age and it hurts. I used to see how long I could go before eating in the day, even if I started feeling sick. I tried starving myself but it was not healthy. Luckily I am doing okay. I do still carry weight but one thing I take pride in is being comfortable in my body. Thanks for sharing your story❤️❤️❤️

  • @aliyahjoseph8978
    @aliyahjoseph8978 Před 3 lety +4

    so happy that abbie decided to open up and talk about issues surrounding body image she’s so genuine and you can really see that i’m definitely that one person u wanted to help💕💕💕

  • @bolivia.j
    @bolivia.j Před 3 lety +11

    In 2019 I lost over 20 pounds due to stress, anxieties, and insecurities. A toxic family situation, toxic teachers with unrealistic expectations, and my own pressure I put on my self as a people pleasure and just genuinely not feeling “pretty” at all about myself caused all of that. Cheer was a major player in my insecurities. My mom would also imply that I was fat throughout my child hood or how I was only pretty when I wore make up. I was having anxiety attacks every day. When my boyfriend realized that something was seriously wrong we talked about everything that was going on and he pushed me, encouraged me, and loved me into being a much healthier person (physically, mentally and spiritually). He is the reason that I am healthy today. Im not totally there yet but we’re working towards it! I’m about to graduate and get out of some not good situations which will also help but my biggest advice to anyone struggling, is find someone who genuinely loves you. Find someone who is willing to tell you the hard truth and encourage you. It’s life changing.
    This video means so much to me and also Josh’s video about his anxiety. Stretch marks are beautiful! *louder for the people in the back*
    I hope this helps anyone who can relate 💕

  • @lihipolak
    @lihipolak Před 3 lety +2

    We have so much in common..from body image problem to pcos. It's comforting to know that you're not dealing with these things alone. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending you love❤❤

  • @michaelaneu4272
    @michaelaneu4272 Před 3 lety

    Love this message. Thank you Abbie and Josh for sharing! It takes an incredible amount of vulnerability to do so. From one Midwest model to another, I applaud you in your continued strength

  • @marsst9783
    @marsst9783 Před 3 lety +4

    This made me very emotional! I’m so happy for you and very very proud of the both of you for overcoming your fears. I love y’all 💓💓💓💓

  • @sophiegordes4734
    @sophiegordes4734 Před 3 lety +1

    I think you can be so proud of yourself 💪🏼 all of us struggle sometimes and I love it that you are so honest and open about your past struggles 👏🏻❤️

  • @kaylieperez1547
    @kaylieperez1547 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for sharing! It's so amazing to see how no matter how beautiful and perfect and person and family can look, everyone has their struggles and similar issues

  • @xXpEnCiLbOnErXx
    @xXpEnCiLbOnErXx Před 3 lety +14

    Abbie you are amazing. I'm so proud of you. You're such a bright role model for young women these days.
    Josh you are fantastic. Your love for each is other is so genuine and beautiful. The support you've given her is incredible.

  • @breannachavez3034
    @breannachavez3034 Před 3 lety +7

    This is such a beautiful story. it’s encouraging to know you have struggled as well. My sister has struggled with this- the pizza story really hit home. You are beautiful, and you’re baby is going to be amazing. Sending love and prayers!!

  • @jaideyates8953
    @jaideyates8953 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for this! As a mum of 2, who struggles with certains things, you have given me the courage and strength to to see myself as I am, thank you both ❤ xxx

  • @baniapena8714
    @baniapena8714 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. You are a glowing queen. As long you are happy physically and mentally nothing else matter. Sending lots of love all the way from Miami.

  • @Danny-lv4yd
    @Danny-lv4yd Před 3 lety +1

    “I hope this helps someone” this definitely helped me, I’ve been concerned about my weight so much wanting to lose weight and even though I’m normal for my age and height I still want to lose it. But after heating this I learned more that I need to stop thinking about what other people will say about me or comparing myself to others thank you 🥰

  • @alexsteele4339
    @alexsteele4339 Před 3 lety +3

    Abby, you have me crying!! I am so proud of the progress that you have made! I agree that it is all about how you think about yourself and your body, not your body itself. Thank you so much for the inspiration to love my body and love myself the way that I am. You and Josh are amazing, thank you for the content!

  • @glendyaneth
    @glendyaneth Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much Abbie

  • @amandaclark555
    @amandaclark555 Před 3 lety +5

    Abbie is so beautiful! She could not be ugly even if she tried 🙇🏻‍♀️

  • @dawnscraftyadventures4565

    I’m so PROUD of you and honoured to hear your story. It’s amazing on how people think they know what or how people of influence are going through and yet they don’t. I hope to hear more of your story. 💖 thank you for sharing 🥰

  • @deboraforgione8651
    @deboraforgione8651 Před 3 lety

    abby with this video, with all those things you've said.. you are changing the world. You are part of the change. THANKS SO MUCH. it fills me with joy and love. i wish you so much love and strength for everything that comes your way

  • @ellaanne5754
    @ellaanne5754 Před 3 lety

    This is such a difficult topic to talk about. You have helped me to feel stronger about my own body, and coming from a teenager, this helped me a lot. You are so strong. Thank you for opening up about this.🙌❤️❤️❤️

  • @ashlysarceno5951
    @ashlysarceno5951 Před 3 lety +18

    It’s so wonderful how God changes our lives
    He is the only one that can fill that empty ness in us and give us real happiness

  • @hallelils5978
    @hallelils5978 Před 3 lety +1

    So inspirational so glade your using you platform to talk about stuff like this such a ray of light

  • @smazur10
    @smazur10 Před 3 lety

    I’m so glad you shared your story and you look so happy and healthy!

  • @sashaanton5
    @sashaanton5 Před 3 lety

    This was an amazing story and thank you for bringing it forward and talking about it. Bless you all and wishing you a safe and speedy delivery of your baby xx

  • @dhillhowes
    @dhillhowes Před 3 lety

    Bravo for your happiness. SO proud of you both. You will make AMAZING parents

  • @emileysmith7798
    @emileysmith7798 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so so much for sharing. I have been struggling so much with my body image and working out. I went through years of bulimia and over exercising thinking I was healthy. I eventually starting eating 3 meals a day and gaining healthy weight but even now I worry about exercising and going back into the unhealthy mindset. You are my inspiration abbie and I thankyou you so much for sharing your story and helping me gain more confidence and love myself. You are literally an angel.

  • @veeea
    @veeea Před 3 lety +1

    thanks for sharing this abbie!
    we are all proud of you ❤️

  • @riley_mullr
    @riley_mullr Před 3 lety

    You helped more than one person Abbie!

  • @Se7enevil
    @Se7enevil Před rokem

    We need more people like you Abbie Thanks for sharing❤️

  • @elizabethtaylor267
    @elizabethtaylor267 Před 3 lety +2

    You are such an inspiration! I know how hard it is to open up sometimes, but thank you for sharing your experiences, you are beautiful on the inside and out❤️

  • @hanna-dorotheafreund8679

    Thank you so much for talking about such an important topic with us - I know its Not Only helping Me but so many people! Stay positive youre amazing! 🥰

  • @harrietmoss6638
    @harrietmoss6638 Před 3 lety +1

    Watched this whole thing without skipping, just loved hearing your story x

  • @ambervernon1833
    @ambervernon1833 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! I really appreciate it. I have always struggled with how I look and just to hear you talk about loving yourself makes me feel better about me being a little over weight.

  • @ellayeackley7064
    @ellayeackley7064 Před 3 lety +3

    This video helped me because I am a very small girl, and I workout to stay healty not to lose weight, but this video inspired me to love my body. Sometimes I do worry about being small. So thanks you Herberts! (no apostrophy)

  • @rebecca3946
    @rebecca3946 Před 3 lety

    Wow!! Abbie is so beautiful and I love how she is opening up!!

  • @amratalic6679
    @amratalic6679 Před 3 lety

    I’m so proud of you, you go girl 💕👑. You are so beautiful and you are glowing

  • @vlogfromv4478
    @vlogfromv4478 Před 3 lety

    So proud of you 🙏🏻 thank you for sharing your story it means a lot! 🤍

  • @courtneybautista3372
    @courtneybautista3372 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for sharing your story!! So inspiring!!! Beautiful inside & out!!

  • @frynikalli9026
    @frynikalli9026 Před 3 lety

    you have come a looong way and i am so proud of you!! i recovered from my disorders recently but not fully? its a constant struggle everyday to choose self love over the obsessions. love you guys! xo

  • @avalol4913
    @avalol4913 Před 3 lety +1

    This video had more influence on me than any other positive body image video I’ve ever seen. Thank you

  • @Ellen56445
    @Ellen56445 Před 3 lety +3

    I also struggled with an eating disorder when i was 13 for two years but since then i am 2 years recovered and feeling so much better!

  • @brockbates3610
    @brockbates3610 Před 3 lety +7

    love you abbie!

  • @natalier2331
    @natalier2331 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much for this. It was awesome to hear about as a young teen. You’re beautiful and I love you guys!

  • @stephaniegruenwald777
    @stephaniegruenwald777 Před 3 lety +3

    I have struggled with alcohol too, and I have an addictive personality. I totally empathize with you❤️

  • @janicedsilva2857
    @janicedsilva2857 Před 3 lety +1

    Abbie, you're super gorgeous either way! Always stay happy. Mental health is so important! ❤

  • @andrescampos4498
    @andrescampos4498 Před 3 lety

    I wish I could meet someone who’ll love me as they love each other! You guys are just amazing!

  • @ryleec1466
    @ryleec1466 Před 3 lety +1

    I’m sorry you went through that but, I’m glad you are better 🧡

  • @joanadalia3183
    @joanadalia3183 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for sharing! Love u both so much! ❤️

  • @mozekiedys730
    @mozekiedys730 Před 3 lety

    You are so down to earth, I love you guys

  • @tommo9195
    @tommo9195 Před 3 lety

    appreciate the way you both open up to is. your family😩 stay strong love you both. power couple♥️♥️✨

  • @Lala-yu3su
    @Lala-yu3su Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing this! I love you guys!!!

  • @rebeccaaguilar8663
    @rebeccaaguilar8663 Před 3 lety

    You’re beautiful just the way you are! Thank you for sharing your story. 💗

  • @hannahmiranda4517
    @hannahmiranda4517 Před 3 lety

    So sincere! I love this!! Sending hugs from Canada

  • @biandraaz-zahra6892
    @biandraaz-zahra6892 Před 3 lety +1

    How josh is so sweet showing his stretchmarks, gurl ur pretty and we should never forget to always support other women! 🥰

  • @sarac8284
    @sarac8284 Před 3 lety +2

    Wow thank you for sharing ur story I was so nice to get to know u deeper....I've been sober 3 yrs & I understand addictive behaviors...so it was great being able to relate & not feel so alone! Again ty & ur absolutely beautiful INSIDE & OUT!! GOOD LUCK W UR BABY GIRL! can't wait for u to have her!!! Pretty soon! Btw I love u & Josh. U guys r so cool!

  • @preciadopachecolearenata3608

    So inspired by your strength and confidence ❤️

  • @peachy_88
    @peachy_88 Před 3 lety

    Most relatable video for me. Thank you! ❤

  • @shraddhar2554
    @shraddhar2554 Před 3 lety +2

    Love y'all! Such a good initiative taken by you, even though you are going through a lot in your life rn. There is always someone who tries to put you down, whether you're skinny or gain some extra weight. You just gotta be comfortable with yourself ❤️

  • @kathycarter8167
    @kathycarter8167 Před 3 lety +1

    Loving yourself for who you are is a must!! Also people are always worried about outward beauty, I would rather people think I am more beautiful on the inside. Outward beauty is just a bonus!!!💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾💕👍🏾

  • @zoyajohn
    @zoyajohn Před 3 lety

    This video was so inspiring! I love you guys and this message was so sweet and genuine, and this makes me feel better about my body. Can't wait for baby Herbert, she's going to have such wonderful and genuine parents!💖

  • @anindithaveera8146
    @anindithaveera8146 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for sharing guys. That was a great inspiration for all people especially woman 😊❤️

  • @beccacurren6214
    @beccacurren6214 Před 3 lety

    Wow, you are so incredible Abbie! Thank you for sharing your story! It’s never an easy thing to do but God is totally using your story to touch others. You definitely touched my heart! Love y’all ❤️

  • @denisenavarrete8570
    @denisenavarrete8570 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for inspiring young girls my daughter is one of them!! Can't wait to show her this video and that she can start loving her body just as it is!! Btw I love how you already donated some of your pre-pregnancy clothes. I wish I did that!!! What a great way to take away that pressure of "bouncing back!" Love you guys and happy for you both!

  • @claudianappi887
    @claudianappi887 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for sharing all this... it helps me a lot! love u guys

  • @younglilyanna29
    @younglilyanna29 Před 3 lety

    love you abbie! i really appreciate this video.

  • @em238
    @em238 Před 3 lety

    Abbie you are a strong woman and I know that you can get through this. You are beautiful whether you think it or not. I know that you and josh are going to be amazing parents to your amazing daughter. Stay strong; I’m sending all my love to you guys ❤️

  • @andreagonzalez3178
    @andreagonzalez3178 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much for sharing 🙏 you guys are amazing for sharing this personal experience.

  • @gabigonzalez3222
    @gabigonzalez3222 Před 3 lety +1

    I just love you guys idk why but your word do help thanks for all

  • @Kelsey-Lilly-White
    @Kelsey-Lilly-White Před 3 lety

    Thank you Abbie ❤️