My Sister-in-Law RENAMES my BABY... because she called DIBS on the Name - Entitled Reddit Podcast
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My mother actually got into the same situation as this, the way she handled it is hilarious, basically, all she did is "if you want to change my son's name, pay the entire hospital bills once I gave birth". after she said that, not a single soul voiced out any objections anymore in the family.
Lol good for her!
That's an amazing way to shut them.
woah
That the ultimate way to do that XD
Hospital bills for giving birth?
imagine pushing a whole baby out of your body and then you open social media and see that your sister in law decided to go and name your baby herself đ
oof
Wow my message got 221 likes, damn
bruh he/she sounds like a guy........
@@KhastudiosContent the only jerks are her family I feel bad can she get a redo button for her family
@Adamidk1227 wut?
Damn isn't it crazy how the sister in law suddenly wanted a child AFTER the op had revealed her child , and then acted like th op was jealous of her? Crazy
These people you just need to ignore and block them.
Just straight projection from the sister
I think she got jealous of the op and she forced her own husband to have babies after long talk maybe and if i a person like that in my life i would do one thing block out of my life or my babies
"Just because they're your family doesn't mean they're cool"
- Bill Burr
The amount of narcissism in this family is absolutely SHAMEFUL. Every time they apologize, it's only to regain your trust so that the moment you turn your back they can thrust another knife in.
Nice way of putting it. đ
@@Iliketrains444 Nope, that only applies to the sister n law.
"Narcissism" only applies to the sister n' law. The brother is a straight up simp, while it's quite obvious that the rest of the family either disapproves of the o.p.'s "situation", or 100,000% more likely only gives a shit about the boy in their family that is married to the sister n' law so that they carry on the family name for another generation. Even if the o.p. kept the same last name that's not how it works in some more traditional families where it's the sons that carry on the "legacy". What a shitty legacy that is though...
(Not the practice I mentioned, I mean the family in general is just shitty; very).
@@0001captainawesome ik. Sad.
This is how my older sister operates. I hate it. I have considered leaving everyone in my family, and I've done it for a year and a half but my abusive ex pushed me to be with my hurtful family (so he can fuel my family's behavior and gaslight me too). But, I see that my older sister influences everyone around her. I noticed this after she moved to another country and comes back every once in awhile. It's weird and I have seriously considered not allowing her near my future family when she is this way.
You cannot call dibs on a name, like how many names do you need to name a daughter that you don't even know if you will ever have?
Itâs like, what are you at this point, a child!?!
@raven I believe you mean singular, male kid
Actually, it sounds like the SIL was calling DIBS on multiple names so that whatever the OP named the girl, the SIL could pull this. She was looking for this drama
I actually believe in some ways DIBS can be called. I married into instant family. My husband is divorced with two boys. As much as I adore those boys, I wanted children of my own, and my husband is from a large family and wanted more. So we talked baby names before I was even pregnant.
We had a girl's name picked first; the middle name I had picked before I even knew my husband. But...when I do get pregnant, I find out it was the very name he and his ex-wife had planned for a girl. His ex was a little hurt that this name was discussed. I told her I would change the first name, but asked if it was ok to keep the middle since I had it picked before I knew my husband, and it turned out to be special to both our sides. She had no problem with that.
@@paulatreat2496 thats a beautiful story. ;-;
Same thing happened to my parents. My dad's sister in law tried to rename me. My first name was already hard for my parents to agree on. They picked Jocelyn, my aunt pick Rosalind. My mother was pissed. She threw her out of the hospital room and hasn't talked to her in nineteen years, minus a few occasions. In fact I didn't call her my aunt either. She was just Melissa to me and my parents. My grandmother on my maternal side also screamed at Melissa at my first birthday when she showed up with a gift addressed to a Rosalind. To this day if someone mentions her my parents moods almost immediately go down. The funny thing is she tried for years to have a child, specifically a girl whom she would name Rosalind. Turns out she only had a fifteen percent chance of conceiving, my uncle only had a ten percent chance of getting her pregnant. We found this out when I was twelve, my mom laughed her ass off for hours. Then she told her entire side of the family as an act of revenge. My uncle didn't give a damn about it either. The only reason we knew Melissa was pissed was because she drove all the way to Connecticut from Montana. Which is a thirty three hour drive. When she yelled at my parents in front of both of my parents' sides her husband told her to shut the fuck up and let it go. She then turned on him and said that if her wanted to be on my parents side they were getting divorced. He said this and I quote "I don't give a damn what you do. You need to learn that the world is not perfect. So please shut the fuck up or I will call a lawyer." Melissa shut up and left after he said that. From that day forward he was a legend on both sides for his bravery. He even got that divorce anyway. We threw a huge party. It was called The Banishment of the Family Bitch. My mom came up with that one herself. She still has the banner she made.
"The Banishment of the Family Bitch" has to be one of the funniest things i've ever heard.
If it makes you feel better - both names are terrible.
Oh please tell me you played âDing Dong the Witch is Deadâ at the party.
Banishment ,đ
why is it my oc's gf is the same name as your aunt.
This sister in law actually thinking she gonna have 20+girls is hilarious and the fact that the name wasn't even the top five witch crazy! Side note I totally picked out a girl name for a future daughter that my mom said she didn't like just to piss her off đ
lol
Bruhđ
These stories make me appreciate my own family more and more
Most of these stories are fake. There is a whole hidden industry on Reddit with writing fake stories
They do
@@TheBigExclusive I know
I know
At least with my family I was very lucky
I get it when everyone calls you the jerk when you did nothing wrong and how no one defends you when others are jerks to you.
It really is a powerless feeling.
It's moments like those that you need to do some self-reflection and ask yourself if everyone who called you a jerk is worth being around.
@@solidsnake5644 sometimes you have no choice, like when the people in question are your classmates and you are forced to be with them everyday
In the end tho I usually see those who take the side of the wrong doer come back after a long time and apologize or lose money do to said wrong doerđ€·ââïž
He's reading the reddit story's right? And he has no way of telling if they are real?
Im just happy she stood up for herself and her baby and disowned the family from themselves. Godspeed to the mother - daughter
Telling the family how you feel will not bring closure. They will use your feelings as ammunition. Just go no contact.
If this is true her sister-in-law has committed at the most three different felonies. As well as her family siding with her sister-in-law instead of her is the point you completely turn your back and cut them completely out of your life. If you canât trust them to take your side and take up a defense for you; you canât trust them to do anything for you
why is that a felony though, its not illegal to crash parties.
@@1mol831 No bu in this case it should thats why they called it a felony, just to help you understand
@@crypticaledits what weird laws you have
@@1mol831 the felonies are going on to the opâs account. and two miner ones that are at most misdemeanors but still felonies
@@1mol831 L + Ratio
I feel very sorry for the child of the sister-in-law. Sheâs just having a child to get attention. Getting that attention during the initial birth announcement that she sabotaged is what spurred her to decide she wanted to have children. That childâs life is going to be all about his mother and not about him.
Not only that but this person is so crazy that she may want to change this boy into a girl since she feels like she can control everything..so yes the child is the one who will have to pay for it for sure
The mother actually left her husband and the baby and OP parents are trying to have op raise him
@@jada531 How do you know that?
@@liaoanais3925 I remember this story from am I the asshole on Reddit
yeah then they tried to force the nephew onto op Jesus their family sucks
Good for her! She was 100% in the right. That was an abusive relationship. They had no respect for her at all.
I hate how her family members tried to justify their actions by gaslighting her, saying she was the selfish one when she was only defending herself
This story pissed me off beyond words and I canât even relate to this. They had no right to treat that mother and baby like that. Best wishes to the mother and babyâs future
You're right, however, I think those people will think they have all the right in the world to do whatever they want.
@@binhanh296 Thats the sad part, I just hope at some point the family realizes what they done. Talk about a Karen sister in law lol.
Karen sil shouldâve miscarried
Sad part is when she gets older It might decide to reach out to her mother's side the family I won't be surprised if they start insulting her mother and then of course even saying and calling her by the nickname sister-in-law and try the force to try to assert dominance and the girl decides f*** it now I know why mom wanted no contact with these people and leave out before telling them her actual name and not the name they want a force upon her because they have control issues Like the cowards they are
@@justinwan3173honestly... yeah
Seems to me the whole family was punishing her for being a single mom.
I was just thinking that
yup
Whats wrong with being a single mom its ok to be one she dont need no man
No they arenât insulting the person in the story, they are saying that the family in the story were yelling at her for being a single mom, as it seems.
@@nisha_jhabboe_njx_189 the jails are full with people who has single moms, so yeah, they do.... society does
9:53
The way you said âshut upâ feels like it was you going through that⊠nice story telling skills!
Also
"You're making me try to miscarry!"
That's not how it works Karen it has to be a stroke of bad luck for it to happen like stillbirth! (When the baby dies after it was born)
12:50
The bear with 'gilly' on it was too far, though. She's tryna make that child *THINK* it's name is really 'Gilly'
But thatâs not the right time frame? Also Iâm pretty sure thatâs a bot đ
I feel so sorry for the OP because she just had everything ruined from the start, didn't get to enjoy her pregnancy, her family pretty much betrayed her and sided with her very controlling sister-in-law, and pretty much had to knock everyone out of her life. But in the end she stood her ground the entire time. I hope she got that job and is living a peaceful life. đđ
I can't believe she had the nerves to ruin a pregnancy reveal I would slap her how heartless
sometimes violence isn't just acceptable but deserved
ikr
You better believe that teeth and blood would fly in the air
The sister in law is definitely a narcissist. There really is nothing you can do to change a narcissist other than keep yourself away. You did the right thing!
Lmao she should of called her sis in law by her brothers ex girls name đđ
That would be good
I feel so sad about the OP and canât even imagine how much she has suffered. I hope she has a good life and that she doesnât try to relate to her family again because, by experience, people donât change that much
When my SIL was pregnant with her daughter, she was waiting to tell everyone the name she chose. She did tell one of her close friends (that was also pregnant) what she was gonna name her daughter. Her friend ended up having her baby shower before my SIL, and during that party, she revealed the name of her baby, which happens to be the name that my SIL had chose for her daughter. You can say my SIL was furious, but didn't want to make a scene. She ended up letting it go, and come up with another name for her daughter. She wasn't close to that friend anymore.
Thanks
bro, iâd just name my baby my original name anyway, fuck they gonna do about it?
I would keep the same name and cut ties with that idiot.
The Sister-in-law was so cuckoo for control and an attention...floozy (censored for a better, inappropriate word) that she'd go to lengths to ruin OP. And that is just cruel and wrong on so many levels.
A person of reason appears out of the blue, thanks for being kind to humanity
@@MrSmile-ph4hr wait, are you talking about me? Because I'm just using common sense unlike the SIL and most of OP's family.
@@jamiegladwell8770 yes I am talking to you, common sense is really rare anymore and I congratulate anybody who uses it
@@MrSmile-ph4hr gotcha. And thanks
@@MrSmile-ph4hr ah more smort pepes
That amazon part of the story is absolutely insane. I agree that she should be ashamed of herself
Holy heck that whole family is full of narcissists! Going completely zero contact is the only safe choice for the poster and her kid to ever get a chance for a happy life.
I feel the most damaging part of This is if Op didnât cut off all contact, the daughter may start only responding to the name the family was calling her.
Sounds like the brother didnât want kids and thatâs what the fight after the announcement was about since op makes it clear he was never on her side about that incident. The sister in law probably didnât want kids until that moment when she felt that praise from the family.
@@mohammaddoesit true but that certainly does not sound like a great environment to raise a child
Yes, you are correct. The SIL had the baby and then left the husband and the baby. OP family isnât helping the brother but thinks OP should take care of him since sheâs on maternity leave. OP said that she would take in her nephew if she got full custody because she planning on moving to the other side of the country away from her family.
@@jada531 what story is this?
yup
I was think in the same way
The brother was clearly the favorite of the family, and he apparently married a control freak. Never go near crazy girls everyone
Holy crap. If any of my relatives pulled any of these stunts then they would NEVER have any relationship with my child
The sister in law didn't get enough attention as a kid
That, or too much.
@@augustwinterman6952 agreed
@@augustwinterman6952 agreed or they are afraid of her xD
Or, none of these people exist and this story isn't factual whatsoever...
@@augustwinterman6952 true
It's at times like these I think blasting family online is justified. Show the world what kind of disgusting people they are. Since OP is leaving them anyways might as well leave with a bang.
Haha yup! Go full on Scortched Earth, leave nothing behind.
I also had similar story my son Bryson was called Bryce and once my mom said that I literally kicked them out and blocked them also,congrats on your baby!
its been a year since this was posted, i hope the OP is doing awesome and her baby is doing amazing as well! that family is sooo fucking narcissistic and i hope they finally realize how rude they have been.
This was so frustrating and sad. OP was pregnant throughout this whole situation. That's just heartbreaking, this made me cry.
Her family is calling her controlling meanwhile the true controlling is really the sister-in-law the irony..
Man this story makes me thankful for my family and if I were in that situation I would've immediately cut ties after letting them see the baby and I would ghost their messages and even block them in social medias Holy crap the toxicity they had is so thick it practically is a nuclear wasted
Why does she have a male voice
@@alcoholmarker he is a male
He makes story like these and post in yt
@@alcoholmarker for the same reason is a 50y.o. male in a video and a 29y.o. female in another
@@alcoholmarker bruh that's not her. Its just the guy covering the story
Hi beluga
That story makes me so angry, the fact that all the family members attacked the mom for being upset that her sister in law stole her pregnancy reveal and claimed it was because sheâd never be pregnant and wanted the attention, Itâs just so pathetic
If I was that lady's older brother I would have stood up for her
The sad thing about this situation is, if you take all of OP's reactions out of context, *she* would definitely seem to be the crazy one. For example, giving a baby a nickname isn't really a bad thing, but doing so for the SOLE PURPOSE of getting back at the mother because she took 'your' baby name is. It sucks that the family is already incredibly biased in favor of the SIL. It would probably be impossible to convince them that she was in fact the selfish, controlling one in the situation. If OP decides to move, she'll probably end up being known as the crazy family member for the rest of her life.
Just let them talk their mouths sore. The family you create yourself is more important than the one you are born into, these people are horrible and she should protect her daughter from their influence. Obviously, they didn't value her in the first place, why should she give a damn about their opinion?
@@sirgroq8258 Right you are.
honestly no sane person would ever side with this family. Theya re absuive, selfish and crueland that's ALL they'll be known for.
I agree that nicknaming a child or baby something cute out of endearment is nothing bad, but even if it's not done out of malice like OP's SIL, if the parents of the child ask you not to call them that it should be respected and it's in no way a crazy reaction for a parent to ask that you call their kids by their proper given and nick-names, at least until the child is old enough to decide if they like or dislike a nickname for themselves. That's my opinion at least
There's no amount of context taken out that would make it seem like OP is crazy to me. But that's because I've dealt with gaslighting, manipulation, and controlling narcissists my entire life. They are so smart that they'll work the field before you even are aware of it. So, no. OP isn't ever crazy, and if they call her that it's purely because they like to feel superior over someone they see as inferior and like that control they have of her not being able to defend herself.
My heart goes out to this woman, toxic people will always be toxic unless something happens to really shake them to the core.
I have an ex-frenemy who was a few months further along than I was when we were both pregnant with girls and asked me what I was naming my daughter and when I told her she said "oh, I love that name I'm going to name my daughter that and because I'm having my daughter first there's nothing you can do about it" I named my daughter something else and it's the perfect name for her. And from what I've heard, my ex-friend stealing my baby name apparently started a whole theme for the rest of her kids đđđ
Well,I think that her sister-in-law went into depression and denial after seeing that she was not having a girl and that's why she was trying to control the life of Original Poster's Daughter
When you stood your ground, in front of your daughter, "There was a lot of name calling." -- Wow, imagine that! What a completely shocker, not predictable at all, since they already act as mature as 10-year olds. (Good riddance, tbh.)(Although I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. You are stronger and wiser because of it!) This whole story just hurts my heart, and stomach, for you.
I can relate, but instead of a sister in law. This story was my older sister incarnate. Hawaiâian Tradition says your sister or great aunt names your baby for you. We have Hawaiâian family, but itâs pretty much your own choice wether or not who chooses the name. In my situation when my wife was pregnant, my sister went around telling everyone in my family the name we would give our first born was stupid & kids would make fun of her. She then said she has a name picked for my daughter. She claims itâs her right, because her daughterâs full name was named by her husbandâs Great Aunt & she was following tradition. Thatâs Great for her, but my sister has been abandoning me, leaving her daughter at her friendâs night club alone growing up & dumping her responsibilities as a parent on the Uncle me to babysit her from 6 months to 7 yrs old. On top of thisâŠ. this is my sister who would sell my property in elem & high school so she could buy gifts for her self, boyfriends, and so called friends. Sheâs stolen $$ from my parents & shopping center stores. She only escaped juvy because our Godfather is a senator. I miss my handheld game & watch games & my t-shirts & toys I grew up with. She sold it at a local swap meet. I asked her how come she didnât want to sell her things & claimed I need to grow up. I cut her out of my life the second my daughter was born. She went as far as to try far as to try & steal my wife & iâs nintendo ds lite from us saying we donât need it. Youâll be to busy. She then tried to change my daughterâs name on paper at the hospital & the nurse then asked us. She claimed my wife & I told her to. After that day. Aunty is now Uncle. I tell my kids to call her that. Shes got a beer belly now & a mustache to match ROFL đ€Ł
wait...so she tried to steal your wife and the ds lite for saying you do not need them? XD
"ah yes, you already have your baby. Your wife is no longer important for you"
She wanted our 2 nintendo 2ds hers & mine. We used to play Bust a Move & Mario Kart
@@blue4639 ah, ok that makes more sense
@@blue4639 Honestly , the moment someone do that its the moment who lose the right to anything and you can enforce "equality", by kicking her ass out to the street.
God now iâm glad i dont have siblings
Tbh , that mother saved her daughter from being bullied nonstop in school.
I was sad when they threw the bear in the bin even tho it had the wrong name stitched on it I feel sorry for it itâs so innocent
Poor lady having a pregnancy by herself, yet she has to deal with toxic behavior by those sheâs supposed to be able to turn to the most during this time, I just feel incredibly bad for her and I wish the OP the best in life. You have every reason to be upset, especially with the name I mean thatâs just selfish. Reminded me of George Constanza with dibs on âSevenâ.
How did they have a child by herself?
Going no contact is the perfect thing in that situation. Her family is toxic, her sister in law stole her pregnancy announcement and her family supporter the SIL, not her. Her SIL revealed the gender of the baby in direct opposition to her wishes. The SILs behavior was horrible but what was even more horible is how her family went along with her SIL and defended her.
She did the right thing by going no contact, it is clear her family treats her SIL with more respect than her.
Fr, the family is sooo narcissistic
I think they all wanted a boy to âpass down the family nameâ they even said that in some families even cultures having a girl is kinda shamed apon as they want someone to pass down the family line which most girls take their husbands names. Itâs completely shocking tbh
she should have firmly scolded her sister the first time but she didn't do that so the sil thought she could do whatever she wanted and her sil got to do it over and over again. it's kind of strange that her brother and sil didn't want to have children but then suddenly decide to have one just because the sister of the brother was having one. I hope this is not a true story but if it is it's such a sad story.
I love your content it's soo good to hear entitled people get showed that they aren't special, aren't everything, and aren't in control of everything
I would have pressed charges against the sister-in-law for the felonies she committed against her. Hacking into a private account, stealing private personal information, and exposing via the internet the stolen personal information.
i dont know what to think the sister in law is controlling and the family is even more toxic for choosing the sister IN LAW over there own flesh and blood like who does that
EXACTLY!!!! đż
People who've been manipulated or brainwashed.
That is exactly what I was thinking! Along with that, the baby's name is after the mother's actual great grandmother. To the SIL, that name has no special meaning to her personally, whatsoever. It's psychotic to call "dibs" on names, especially since the SIL was having a boy. She was probably going through an entire baby name book and she was calling "dibs" on every single one, just out of spite.
Welcome to my world...
From the way the sister had the baby it almost sounds like she cheated wanted a baby girl and then just had all these issues along the way
Exactly OP could have said that
You know, that actually makes sense.
For the sister in law pretending to be pregnant at OP's pregnancy announcement, she LITERALLY took a once in a lifetime event (Announcing your first pregnancy) and made it about herself. Having a redo is literally just like the Disney live action remakes of the animated classics.
Exactly and they talking about you need to forgive them, so they can make it right. Now out of excitement my mom told my aunt I was pregnant before I was ready to tell people. But I canât forgive because it is only one person. Told auntie donât tell nobody and that was it.
This is a whole Nother story. SIL really let everybody praise her and congratulate her and said absolutely nothing. Op had every right to get mad and leave. and it was like the next day that sil finally told everybody she wasnât pregnant. Who the fuck does that?
*Story 1: Those Mama Bear Instincts Kicking In When Y'all Have That Baby*
OP should have punched the SIL when the SIL told the family about the gender. Itâs what I would have done
She probably would have cried and said something on the lines of how OP is making her have a miscarriage and made the family more distant with OP. I would have def slapped her though it's less powerful but still effective.
Me too 100%
That and she did it by hacking into one of her personal accounts without permission (unless the brother knew and didnât tell her she did this, which would also make him responsible) to gain data she likely knew she was keeping private. That is literally a crime.
Hell yeah! Square in the gut!
Crazy to me how many of these stories involve either a family member or the -PARTNER- of a family member, which is even worse, straight up bulling someone OUT OF THEIR OWN FAMILY
My aunt tried to get my name changed when I was born because she thought naming your child after an actress is "disgraceful" my family goes no contact and I don't even call her aunt anymore
Never tell anyone the name that you plan on using.
Sounds like an incredibly toxic family that has no business being around your child. And theyâll never grasp why. Not smart enough.
She should file charges on the sister-in-law for identity theft
What's with all these headers of screaming angry women?talk about women hatin
Oh stitch her mout shut or make some duct tape. Just needless visuals.
Your sister in law is so rude you get to name your daughter And I like that. You are the only 1 that has the right to name your daughter It is so rude that your sister involved did that
I'm proud you stood your ground good for you God bless you an grace
I have a compulsive lying, narcissist sister-n-law. She has torn our family to pieces. I feel for this poor woman. My husband and I have chosen to sever all communication with his family because it was the only way to get clear from her constant drama. Jealous women are toxic. Combine that with narcissism, and you have a family wrecking ball. I feel sorry for her kids, and I feel sorry for this crazy woman's son.
Yeah, and she abandoned the kid and hubby cause she wasn't the center of attention anymore and didn't want kids. Think the family ended up in a cult...
Good for her. Just because you share blood, does not make you family. Iâve had to cut my toxic family members out of my life including my own mother and Iâm much happier.
So kudos to that woman for putting herself first.
Imagine if that WAS the name...
"Alright, "Dibs" it is."
7:39"wins insane"
Am I the only one who feels a sudden slight murderous rage towards the actual jerks, and infinite empathy towards the OP?
oops I meant "enormous" and not "slight", silly me
Looks like my business in dealing arms will come in handy..
You underestimate my power!
my anger issue sure come in handy for this , I call DIBS on the Sister In law
@@raritycrystal2672 fine, guess Iâll take the mom
These stories run me so hot and itâs not good for my anxiety. đĄđ€Ź
Iâm proud of her for taking full charge of her life and protecting her child from any future bull crap đ© She will be mentally healthy for it đđđŒ
Duuuuuude!!! Iâve never loved my toxic family more than after I heard that last story. Proud of that 38 y/o for running away from that âfamilyâ.
Feels like those people should be humiliated, I feel like this story should be told on Facebook and have them deal with the words of others people and the world saying " what's wrong with you " to this family, it's through a humiliating event like that can wake them up and realize how horrible they've been
Iâve gone no contact with my family and it was an amazingly good choice. So much less stress. Itâs taken years to start to recover from their BS but barring blood related didnât mean you owe them anything and they donât sound like theyâve ever been family, they just liked having a punching bag
Itâs almost like the op is the middle child of the family
That is possible because she said her nephew is from her sister and she also has a brother and considering the treatment she is getting I wouldent be surprised
This is just straight up messed up!!
First, the sister-in-law decided to steal the spotlight and pretend to be the one pregnant.
Second, it's just so idiotic of the whole entire family ganging up on the OP and saying that she was "controlling" when they couldn't even use 1% of their brain to know the actual person is who is controlling.
Third, how come the sister-in-law gets treated better than the OP when it was obvious that she was ruining the OP's time of having a child for the first time... even with the clearly unreasonable excuses and having a meltdown for literally no reason.
Fourth, why does the sister-in-law get to name the baby and not the OP? It's literally the OP's CHILD. I don't know what gave the sister-in-law the idea to name a baby that isn't even her's. Plus, the name "Gilly" is just.... how is it cute!? "Grace" is better than "Gilly" in my opinion. I don't even think Gilly is suitable for the baby at all. I'm glad the OP left her family... they don't even know better and has lost a family member because of their stupidity.
There is something quite disturbing about the idea of someone trying to control what a mother is allowed to name her child
The name story: I understand. My granddaughter is light skinded. We're Mexican, she's mix Mexican/black. Her husband's family would call her white and pronounce her name in the non-Spanish way. Super condescending. It hurt her for years. I corrected them. They finally, stopped.
âShe began to rub her flat bellyâ
BRUH
Congratulationsđ I hope you and your baby will be happy together
Wait, let me get this straight. The OPâs sister-in-law ruined every major event in the OPâs pregnancy, acted proud because of it and when called out accused the OP of trying to get her to miscarry? Bro, what? đ
This hurts my heart đ
I have a toxic family as well. Very differently incidents, but similar in toxicity. Tried to force me to abort my first, wished death upon my second (who was high risk and premature), and they donât even remember the name of my third. Iâm happily married living on the opposite side of the country. No support, no contact. I wouldnât change a thing. Life can be hard especially as a young parent with no love or support from the people you would expect that from, but I can promise itâs much harder (and a 1000x more hurtful) to constantly beg for them to actually give a shit. I hope OP is ok and has actually cut the cord to these toxic people. They donât deserve access to her or her child.
but why did they try to abort your soon-to-be child?
@@jessetaube because I was 17 and the southern Baptist church they attended at the time offered to pay for it. So my mom told me we were going to the doctor for a âcheckupâ and next thing I know Iâm sitting in an abortion clinic with the procedure already paid for..
thankfully, when you go to a clinic like that they donât just sit you in a room and go ahead with any procedure. They had to bring me into a back room to speak to a counselor alone. My mom was pissed that she wasnât allowed to come back with me but they told her itâs not her body going through anything, it was mine, so they needed to speak to me to make sure this is my choice. Which of course it wasnât. And they knew that. I explained that I didnât want to go through with this but my mom wouldnât let me leave without âproofâ. The woman asked if I was safe to drive home with her. And I told her yes because my parents had already kicked me out and I was living on my own. So all I needed to do was pretend for the car ride home. She brought a nurse in to explain the situation and thatâs when we made a plan. They told my mom they were giving me the pills and you take one at the clinic and one the next day. They sent me home with a circular Tylenol in this envelope thing so they didnât break any laws giving me a prescription bottle with medication that didnât match the label. Then they refunded me half of the money that the church paid (they couldnât refund all but I wasnât expecting a penny so I wasnât mad at all), and they sent me home with a packet that apparently all patients get when they take the pills. So we literally pretended to go through with the procedure just so my mom would take me back home and thatâs when I completely cut her and my dad off. I didnât speak to them again till that same baby was 2 1/2.
The best part was that the nurses and counselor at the clinic got me in contact with a ton of resources to get everything I needed for my baby. One of the nurses actually gave me a ton of her baby stuff she no longer needed like a stroller, clothes, bottles, blankets, and she personally bought me two huge packs of diapersâŠwhen I tried to pay her for at least some of it she absolutely not.
The most hypocritical part about this entire situation was that the church who paid for the procedure would preach against abortion almost weekly and at the very least monthly. They were one of the churches that stand outside clinics and âprotestâ by screaming at patients walking in and trying to get license plate numbers so they can âexpose these demonsâ yet when it âaffected their opticsâ (their words not mine) abortion is suddenly a solution đ and believe it or not that doesnât even come close to what this church specifically did to me as a child. Theyâre the reason I no longer go to church and choose to work on my relationship with God privatelyâŠ
The only reason I spoke to my parents years later was due to the fact that I became pregnant with my second child. I didnât announced my pregnancy until we had 8 weeks left because the pregnancy was filled with scares. I almost miscarried at 4 months, labor started at 6 months, and my body started treating the pregnancy (according to the doctor) Kirk a virus and he was actually losing weight no matter much I ate, rested, or stayed hydrated. He came a little over a month early and the day before I had him I had an ultrasound where the tech and the doctor both explained that they needed to schedule me to be induced since baby wasnât doing goodâŠbut the stress from inducing him when thereâs already a lot of stress on him could kill him. So dad and I needed to prepare just in case. My parents ended up calling me that same day and I just broke down and explained what was going on. I swear to you that my dad said âwell, itâs not like you need another child anyways. This is for the best.â No âIâm sorryâ, no âhow can we helpâ, not even a âweâll pray for youâ. They were literally relieved when I told them my son is at risk of dying. My children didnât affect them in any way seeing as I cut off contact after what happened with my first son and to this day I still kick myself for answering my dads call that day. The fact that my son possibly dying brought them joy made me physically ill.
I was supposed to be induced 48 hours from my last ultrasound but thankfully my son decided he was coming on his own. I woke up that night having major contractions and within two hours of me waking up my son was here. But the best news is he didnât even need the NICU! He came out hungry as hell and spent the first 3 months of his life sleeping and eating lol. He is 8 years old now đ
Now my parents live on the opposite side of the country and i no longer speak to my dad. I will say he did apologize for everything he said and did to me all throughout my life and he said heâll never forgive himself for his actions (my dad is manic bipolar so he doesnât remember a lot of things he said and did). I told him of course I forgive him but I donât want contact like he wanted. Iâll say merry Christmas and check twice a year tops but I have to keep my distance. It sucks but I donât know if Iâll ever be able to have a normal relationship with himâŠthereâs too much trauma there. My mom never apologized for anything. She feels like since she wasnât the one abusing me or belittling me she has nothing to be sorry overâŠshe fails to acknowledge that as a mother she was supposed to protect me and actually be my parent. I donât âhateâ them but Iâll never be able to open up to them or form a bond children are supposed to have with their children. I will say that I genuinely believe my dad has changed though. A few years ago he asked me if I would be ok with him sharing our story publicly and I said yes. He goes to meetings similar to AA as well as advocating for better mental health treatment options.
@@hannahreed2451 Hooooly moly. What a terrible and scarring situation!
I am so happy for you and your children, that you managed to get out of that shithole and not only land on your feet, but it sounds like you managed to thrive through all the obstacles!!
And I am so so glad that those nurses at the clinic both helped you in your situation, made sure you were safe and even helped you get as good a start to motherhood as possible đ what lovely compassion đ
I wish you and your family all the bestđ
@@hannahreed2451 I wish all the best to you and your children. Thanks for sharing your story xxxx
Off topic but this is why fathers are needed.
The OP made the right choice shoving those bastards out of her life; that was no family, that was a bunch of petty, stupid people who had no right to do ANY of that.
Best wishes to the Mother and her little girl, and hope that theyâre living the best life possible
I've heard this story before, it always makes me mad that she stole her announcement then got her own in the end anyway.
I really don't understand how some of these people can even as themselves if they are the jerk. The OPs are never the jerk its always the other people and honestly, a lot of the offenders in these stories just need to be removed from the world.
Exactly in fact, they deserve a slow death to make them suffer
How a gender reveal should be done: Tell people who care that "It's a boy/girl, by the way" when you see them or talk to them and continue with whatever you were doing at that moment.
Bro, if that was my sister-in-law, I would have made a trip to the local gun store, and moved off the grid.
This is what happens when the pushover of the family finally grows a backbone and starts focusing on T their own lives. The rest of the family is always mad and calls you selfish because they are so used to you doing anything they want whenever they want.
They don't see that they're picking on you, and don't think it is a big deal and that you should get over it.
Exactly!! That happens to me.
Man that mom is tough. Sheâll raise an amazing child
The jerk isn't anybody there. It's the father for not being theređ
Am I the jerk? I have a litter cousin Michelle she is 10, she gets everything. I personally used to give her attitude when she gave me attitude when she was little but after a year she got (half.) mature for a 10 year old and we stopped fighting.I felt so happy that we worked stuff out, I started to only get mad at my grandparents now (keep that in mind) so when the family had a fight they came in play. I hardly fight with my grandparents but when I do I use tactics that they use against me so they canât say much. My little cousin got a budget for a huge renovation for a project we are both on. When I saw her screaming 100 dollars!!! I snapped I got so angry at my grandparents over and over even through the âsheâs ten!!â (And yet they praise her for being mature) my cousins plans were to paint a wall, I guess I said something about her scribling? My uncle said she felt hurt and I was a rude girl, to my mother his older sister.she flipped (this was told 4 months after the issue) I heard multiple phone fights from my mother and him, at first my grandparents sided with him(the golden child) but after rude remarks from me and my mother they sided with us. Next my uncle pulled Michelle out of things with my grandparents, I flipped! I got mad at him my mom got mad it him and so did Michelle she was hurt and so were my grandparents. Turns out because it was we fight, my cousin and I didnât fight for over 2 years, I cared for her and I protected her. She was my little sister now( thatâs how I treated her) she read the same book series I was obsessed with I tried to give her some books she needed but she said âmy dad wonât let us meet with the grandparents because we fightâ I flipped but at him this time. I am thinking of taking high school classes and math things (long story) so he asked me about math stuff and how forth graders are meant to be learning 4x4x4x4 I said thatâs multiplecation he also said sheâs learning division I said thatâs weird learning both at the same time? He said sheâs just smart like that right in front of my mom I struggled with academics so reading was all I had so when I aced math it was a big improvement so when my uncle commented on something about math in front of my mom I flipped my face turned to happy to a mean girls face (ifykyk) my mom took my aside and said I get he was rude but showing faces is rude also. But about two hours after getting home I heard âyou *****! Why would you comment on math in front of her you know sheâs working on it!â I know this sounds so bad and I probably sound like the jerk but I have more storyâs about what used to happen with my cousin and my grandparents.
This honestly made me so mad and upset and Iâm not even involved, girl really ruined most of the biggest moments a mother experiences, and for what?!
Unbelievable honestly
Something similar happened with me when I was expecting my forst child except it was my ex partner, it was so bad that when me, and my husband found out I was pregnant I was excited, but at the same time freaking out cause my ex had ruined an experience that was supposed to be wonderful. He complained about my constant nesting, and my constant need for wanting everything clean. He got mad at me when I had cravings, and instead of saying hey honey we don't have the money right we'd get halfway to the store ask me if I was paying, then yell at me cause I told him I didn't have any money, and he would get mad asking me if I expected for him to pay for everything, sad thing os out of everything that I had for her he bought 1 onside, the rest was what I could get, and what I got for her babysitter then when we broke up had the audacity to say everything at the baby shower should be split in half because it was a gift for us. Then when I tried packing my stuff up he yelled at me the whole time then stole all of the baby stuff I had for her which at this point I was on maternity leave so my parents had to help me rebuy everything for her when I moved back in with them. My whole experience with my first child was ruined by my ex that I feared my husband for a bit while I was pregnant with my second child my husband's first. If he got loud, and not necessarily towards me cause he rarely raises his voice at me or our kids but in general I would cry and ask him to leave me be I had multiple panic attacks when he got loud cause of PTSD from my ex. My husband started trying not to yell, or get loud around me, or our kids he's a gamer so he mostly gets loud with his games. I never nested with my son, because I was scared my husband would get mad, and basically my whole pregnant with my second I was to scared to ask for anything. But my husband's traits are what brought me out he would kiss me, and my belly before he left for work, he would talk to our son while I was still pregnant. If I randomly grabbed his hand and placed it on my belly to feel our so kick his face would light up and he'd start telling me how much he loved me, and that he couldn't wait to meet our son. And all his traits were the complete opposite of my ex but it saddened me that because my first pregnancy was ruined, I was to scared to enjoy my second one.
@@hummingbird6430 I'm so sorry that happened to you what an ass. I'm glad you have someone who loves you by your side now
@@hummingbird6430 such a horrible thing you went through :( the crazy cravings, the baby's kicks, getting to buy baby clothes all make the experience even more memorable and I'm sorry he ruined that for not just one but both pregnancies. Very glad you're in a better place with someone who loves you. Sometimes you have to relearn that not all people are bad
I love Am I the Jerk because they never are and its usually very cathartic to hear these people actually fighting back when someone tries to annoy or take advantage of them.
If I had someone do this to my child(which I don't). I would yell, scream, and make points so fast their brain melts. As a teen, I can assure you, I have done this to a teacher.
This story has made me legitimately angry every single time someone other than OP opened their mouths I swear to God.
11:14
âAs this is the hill I am willing to die on.â
Background footage is on a hill with Spider-Man about to probably have a fight to the death.
That is funnyđđđ
And on a hill
Perfect timing be like:
I canât understand why the rest of the family would try to make OP miserable like this. It just seems so.......weird
I love how âThis is the hill Iâm willing to die onâ is said while Spider-Man is on the hill
I think it is smart to remove yourself and your daughter from all that toxicity. You canât let them do what they did to you to your daughter and good for you to stand up for your daughter! The nerve!!!!!The fact that you feel so good about this also says something!!
he tells stories from the first-person perspective and no matter if he is telling it in a different gender or age he still does it.
0:33 fuck life
@@thebeautifulstarslikeu yea really