What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger-Christine

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  • čas přidán 21. 05. 2023
  • Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Christine, a woman from Bakersfield, California, who shares the story of the struggles in her life.
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  • @christinemcbride9527
    @christinemcbride9527 Před rokem +656

    Thank you Mark for allowing me to tell my story and to all who’ve taken the time to listen. Your kind words of encouragement are deeply touching and so appreciated! Very emotional right now ❤
    I’m glad you found some value in what I’ve shared.
    I encourage you to keep going. My favorite Winston Churchill quote
    “if you’re going through hell, keep going!” Has helped me push through difficult moments so I don’t get stuck in the worst part of a challenge. Keep pushing through! Don’t set up camp! Believe you can do it and don’t give up until you’re on the other side of your challenge. Find something within worth investing in, something redeemable about yourself. Give yourself permission to begin allowing something better into your life. Begin with a better story- one of possibilities rather than limitations.
    I need to add that much of what I talked about I learned from people who have walked down their own difficult paths, learning from their own experiences and have shared what they’ve learned along the way. I quoted a few people w/o giving them credit so I’d like to say thank you now to those whose words have helped me most. Dr Joe Dispenza, Dr Wayne Dyer, Dr Huberman, Ram Dass and Tolle are a few of the many I’ve learned from and continue to learn from (all available on CZcams)
    Thank you for helping me find my authentic self!

    • @ronniemead805
      @ronniemead805 Před rokem +26

      I would like to add One to your list: The Great Physician and your Creator, The Lord Jesus Christ. The One who loved us all more than Himself; and allowed Himself to be nailed to a cruel cross by LOVE FOR ALL HUMANITY.

    • @unitedstatesdale
      @unitedstatesdale Před rokem +15

      Your beautiful

    • @beatheratings
      @beatheratings Před rokem +12

      Hi Christine. How did you know my story? You were able to speak with such elegance! I'm always finding ways to help myself heal and hold other peoples hand thru healing! It's such an amazing gift! Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable!

    • @lindamon5101
      @lindamon5101 Před rokem +2

      @@unitedstatesdale you're* eng 101

    • @lovingkindnessyoga
      @lovingkindnessyoga Před rokem +8

      It’s incredible how much I can relate to so much of your story (childhood, chronic health issues, being super sensitive and it being tied to my childhood, and so much more..and I also now teach meditation and yoga to patients in sober living (just happened to work out that way) and I absolutely love what I do also. Thank you for making me feel better about everything. And you are absolutely radiant, and glowing. ❤

  • @joeadams-iv9yb
    @joeadams-iv9yb Před rokem +713

    I found that what doesn't kill you can still screw you up pretty bad.

  • @user-xz7in7ef5g
    @user-xz7in7ef5g Před 6 měsíci +15

    Christine, I have been on a healing journey for 71 years...thought I was healed, then something happens, one stumbles and you lose your confidence...i was thinking about giving up today & ending my life once and for all, believing it to be my fault...some how your story reached me & gave me the confidence to get up off of the floor & keep on keeping on....bless you...bless you...bless you! You are one amazing person, and i think that i might be too!

    • @selfesteem3447
      @selfesteem3447 Před měsícem +1

      Prayers ! Keep on keeping on🤍

    • @lilmamalove1623
      @lilmamalove1623 Před 28 dny +1

      Don’t give up before the miracle happens!

    • @JeffMTX
      @JeffMTX Před 19 dny +1

      We have to stick it out. I’m in the same hole. This is our only mortal life. We might as well see it through and keep trying. God will take us when it’s time.

    • @margaretwebb389
      @margaretwebb389 Před 6 dny

      Theses comments are very uplifting and inspiring!! We are not alone in our struggles! We are here for some reason/purpose. Blessings everyone

  • @lanctermann7261
    @lanctermann7261 Před 11 měsíci +103

    Her story was quite relatable. She is a survivor, and a very intelligent one. I love her facial expression. In her there was no trace of self-pity. I see great wisdom in her eyes. She ought to have a portrait painted of herself.

    • @holly0297
      @holly0297 Před 8 měsíci +8

      Christine's so beautiful inside and out. I know that's said a lot, but in her case it's not hyperbole! My mom was like her - and I was the luckiest daughter who ever lived until I lost her. I should have my mother painted! 🥰

    • @christinemcbride9527
      @christinemcbride9527 Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@holly0297 what a beautiful way to honor your mom and keep her presence with you always. Paint away! ❤️

  • @chyannehainstock7842
    @chyannehainstock7842 Před 5 měsíci +4

    Thank you showing these older women who went through trauma without support. ❤

  • @GoyedOUT
    @GoyedOUT Před rokem +131

    I’m a 70 year old man .And found her story incredibly inspirational …Physical pain is a constant at this point of my life.( Chronic back pain )….maybe I can apply some of her suggestions to raise above these challenges.Thanks Mark for having her on today!!

    • @TopSecretInformations
      @TopSecretInformations Před rokem +4

      Best to you, Stay inspired!

    • @sherryd.3425
      @sherryd.3425 Před rokem +4

      Love to you! Chronic pain can make us weary and bitter. However, it can also make us kind and loving. Children come into the world and experience the pain that we, as adults, believe is so debilitating. We are just gosh darn wimpy....but if asked, I'll swear to God you are in the worst pain that I have ever seen. I will declare to it, stand by it, and challenge anyone who believes you should endure. I just can't understand why a 70-year-old man doesn't qualify for high-grade, government-paid for pain medicine. I have worked for 40 years so that you can have legitimate comfort. Love to Mark, but I really want you to be okay too.

    • @powderandpaint14
      @powderandpaint14 Před rokem +5

      You may want to read "when the body says no" by Gabor Mate, and "The body keeps the score".

    • @froggy9191
      @froggy9191 Před rokem +2

      Ditto with the chronic back pain. How you can find some relief from it soon 💐

    • @ronniemead805
      @ronniemead805 Před rokem +3

      You may want to look into certain supplements like Magnesium, Boron, Tumeric and Bentofamine. Our foods are totally depleted of the minerals necessary for good health, so supplements is the way to go.

  • @kimmandley9356
    @kimmandley9356 Před rokem +52

    She is me. I also have the Power of Now book somewhere...sadly my education doesn't translate into a career, but, I just have to work with that. I am 56 years old & have truly been feeling useless. She is so inspiring & I needed to see this today. Thank you.

    • @derrick8224
      @derrick8224 Před rokem +3

      Thank you for sharing

    • @kimmandley9356
      @kimmandley9356 Před rokem +1

      @@derrick8224 thank you❤️

    • @sandraumney5516
      @sandraumney5516 Před rokem +2

      also, me. thank you, too.

    • @paularobinson5031
      @paularobinson5031 Před rokem +4

      Sending you lots of love from melbourne Australia Kim - you are valued and ur worth is beyond any gifts you feel you lack 💞

    • @kimmandley9356
      @kimmandley9356 Před rokem

      @@paularobinson5031 Thank you, Dear Paula. You touched my heart.❤️ blessings to you.

  • @outingsforoldladieswhoaren7664

    Oh my love... it was so helpful to hear your story. I too wasted so much potential because I did not believe in myself. At 63, I am just starting to develop boundaries and accepting myself. Sometimes I think it's part of our generational inheritance.

    • @auntylinda7640
      @auntylinda7640 Před 11 měsíci +2

      We are here to learn x

    • @jennytaylor3324
      @jennytaylor3324 Před 2 měsíci

      "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" is a very accurate old adage!

  • @xavierflorence9050
    @xavierflorence9050 Před rokem +44

    As a mental health counsellor and a man with a huge empathetic heart. This is without question. The greatest channel of any form of medium. I recommend it to every allied health professional to view. It will certainly teach you far more than any other text or source will ever do. To Mark Laita. You are an absolute saint and genius. Bless you man ❤️🙏

  • @jessicadavis2449
    @jessicadavis2449 Před 8 měsíci +6

    Her story was so beautiful. I just want to keep listening. I can tell she’s touched so many lives and has found purpose in her work. I’ll always think of Christine now.

  • @joannemates6367
    @joannemates6367 Před rokem +99

    I’ll be 50 in December and I have lots of similar stories and experiences. Minus the alcohol and marriages. I am also the product of severe childhood and generational trauma. I have spent the last 5 years working with a brilliant psychologist and have been on a healing journey too. It’s a work in progress. It’s not finite. I picked her as an artist before she even mentioned that. What a beautiful woman, she has obviously done lots of difficult soul searching and has been through so much. “Courage is being afraid and still doing the hard thing.” I wish her so much love, strength, healing and peace. Cheers, from Country Victoria. Australia 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺

    • @sherryd.3425
      @sherryd.3425 Před rokem +3

      Love to you also, Joanne. I'm 60 years old. Same effort, same story, same outcome, I hope.

  • @danettecherry5003
    @danettecherry5003 Před rokem +363

    Through your channel, we are gifted with all types of inspirational people coming into our lives. Normally, we would not be fortunate enough to be influenced by people and their stories, if it wasn't for you.

    • @tinasmith7630
      @tinasmith7630 Před rokem +7

      And the willin people 2 open n share their stories n hearts. No channel!!!

    • @leneo1731
      @leneo1731 Před rokem +10

      To be honest, a few days ago I actually felt like I needed a break from SWU.
      I've been watching every day for a long time, 1,5 year maybe.
      The addicts stories are very hard for me to watch. Some of them stick with me for days.
      I believe it was during the weekend when Mark released an interview with this 39 year old prostitute from Thailand. Watching that video broke my heart. I know I'll be thinking about her for a very, very long time.
      Maybe I'm different than you.
      Because to me not many of these interviews are inspirational.
      Yesterday's interview with Pretty who was a recovering Fentanyl addict, was inspirational!
      Also, I love Frenchie's interviews, she's so great. I love her mindset!
      And this woman's story gives me hope and I admire her.
      I'm not trying to be rude or argue. I ask because I find it interesting.
      Which interviews do you talk about?
      I just wonderer if I'm to pessimistic to see that there's inspiration in other interviews as well.
      I'm struggling with depression so that kind of are colouring everything.
      Or it takes away the colouring is actually more correct because most things become grey and that's sad. I'd love to see all the colours.
      Maybe you see more colours than me.
      Or it may be the definition of inspirational, maybe my interpretation is different than yours.
      I'm sorry for rambling on.
      I just find these things very interesting.

    • @jenniferharvey8696
      @jenniferharvey8696 Před rokem +7

      I’m with you! I understand what you’re saying. I’ve watched A LOT of SWU videos. Some break my heart and others inspire me. I think the juxtaposition of them helps me to appreciate both in their own right. Mark, I tell whoever will listen about your channel. I love hearing people’s stories.

    • @ginny8150
      @ginny8150 Před rokem +3

      @@leneo1731 I'm with you

    • @MC-fw5vt
      @MC-fw5vt Před rokem +4

      Unfortunately, I have a ton of these folks everywhere in my family, lol. Too close for comfort.

  • @rhyhunter8750
    @rhyhunter8750 Před rokem +28

    I'm having a very hard day, I'm free falling with things out of my control, my heart feels tight and my breath staggered. I'm really emotionally and physically low today. I'm spiralling down deeper. So much of this resonated. Thank you, I'm 41 and I'm feeling some hope after this turnaround story. I wanted it to be over and give up today... But we have to believe and carry on.

  • @3ZN357
    @3ZN357 Před rokem +247

    Her compassion and well spoken kindness was right on time. Her objectivity in retrospection ironically makes me feel so choked up right now. Thank you, Mark. Needed this one today.

  • @amandacurry3050
    @amandacurry3050 Před rokem +147

    What a beautiful, well spoken woman Christine is. Thank you for sharing you experience, strength and hope ❤

  • @gigiarmany4332
    @gigiarmany4332 Před rokem +6

    this sweet lady is the polar opposite of a narcissist, she gives so much & takes on ALL of the responsibility ...give yourself a hug & a break my dear, having a tough childhood as yours & no support is NOT your fault,wishing you all blessings on your healing journey..🙏🏽🖤❤️🥰

  • @andreaponce4006
    @andreaponce4006 Před rokem +63

    I cried watching this video bc I relate to her situations so much. I am 18 trying to find myself while still overcoming my trauma. It is almost like seeing an older version of myself. Thank you so much for sharing her story, I really needed to hear this.

    • @michaelp5518
      @michaelp5518 Před 10 měsíci +6

      Go into the military. Get on your own 2 feet. learn a computer trade or something useful. learn how to exist in the real world. I became a marine, then a medical tech. then a dentist. The military was the one major life changing aspect. I had my own developing issues growing up.

    • @holly0297
      @holly0297 Před 8 měsíci

      @@michaelp5518 I was soo close to joining the Army when young, then I met a few guys and got a bad vibe. Maybe should've gone Marines, eh? 😀But to your point, yes, military's often a great option! *Thanks* for your service, Michael!❤🤍💙

    • @mrpapakc
      @mrpapakc Před 7 měsíci

      or the medical field!!!

    • @StephieGsrEvolution
      @StephieGsrEvolution Před 7 měsíci

      Don't go into the military, pls! It will just lead yo more trauma, possibly worse.

    • @StephieGsrEvolution
      @StephieGsrEvolution Před 7 měsíci +1

      ​@@michaelp5518 why are you telling someone to go to military and eventually be a dentist? You have no clue about this person, their life, their talents, interests, etc.

  • @maddieaper719
    @maddieaper719 Před 11 měsíci +10

    Thank you again Mark. I am a healing arts practitioner and I have been hoping for you to interview those who have healed themselves. Beautiful

  • @katiecrull77
    @katiecrull77 Před rokem +91

    I'm sure I'm not the only one who identified personally with this story. Very enlightening. Her photo was brilliant! You can see the strength and confidence in her eyes. Thank you both!

  • @cleansetsandbaguettes5236
    @cleansetsandbaguettes5236 Před rokem +208

    I cannot explain how much I needed to see and hear this interview today. The timing is incredible, and I dont think it.s a coincidence. Thank you again Mark, and thank you Christine for enlightening me and giving me hope through your words. So incredibly inspiring. Thank you, thank you. Thank you, Mark for sharing thissory.

    • @moonchipper3087
      @moonchipper3087 Před rokem +5

      Ditto!

    • @amandabizarro
      @amandabizarro Před rokem +5

      I was just about to write this. This was beyond amazing and important to me right now

    • @LindaMcification
      @LindaMcification Před rokem +5

      You're in sync with everything and so am I....

    • @micheleherrera8070
      @micheleherrera8070 Před 11 měsíci +3

      Same!

    • @adarr23
      @adarr23 Před 9 měsíci +3

      I couldn't take my eyes off of your interview Christine. You are beautiful and wise and have a fascinating take on life. Your words and story came along when I needed them most. For this I thank you.

  • @Lilcrisy
    @Lilcrisy Před rokem +132

    I absolutely LOVE HER!!! I can relate to her on so many levels. What a beautiful woman! God bless 🙏🏼✨

    • @JulieM-ff9dq
      @JulieM-ff9dq Před rokem +4

      I feel the same way. I can relate to much of her story, minus the alcohol problem that her father had (or any substances). I am close to her age (probably older) and people didn't seek help like they do now, nor did they know as much about mental health. So now there's a lot of traumatized people and we're passing our trauma on to our kids. In my parents' case, they did the best they knew how and so did I. I just wish I knew then what I knew now.

    • @lisaaxe9062
      @lisaaxe9062 Před rokem +1

      Yes, her story is so relatable. I’ve been thru generational trauma and also my own. I’ve never had therapy, but am not against it. At 60, I just don’t know if it’s worthwhile to “ unpack” it all, at this time in my life. I’m always saying to myself, “what’s the point.”

    • @christinemcbride9527
      @christinemcbride9527 Před 5 měsíci

      @@lisaaxe9062 no matter your age, it’s Always worth the effort ❤

  • @KateElizabeth1013
    @KateElizabeth1013 Před rokem +27

    The way she explained her family’s generational trauma is incredible. So, so relatable.

  • @wendyh3297
    @wendyh3297 Před rokem +122

    The joy radiating off her is so palpable. I am so so grateful (for lack of a better word) that she not only found her own way out but is now teaching it to others. Her passion for leading the teenagers she is working with (you can see on her face how she lights up talking about them) out of the darkness and into light is going to save a lot of kids.

    • @ronniemead805
      @ronniemead805 Před rokem +4

      Yes, this is what redemption looks like.

  • @RetireandGo
    @RetireandGo Před rokem +36

    The challenges , the struggles, these things make us strong. Resilient.
    I wish her peace and good fortune in life.

  • @alimcally279
    @alimcally279 Před rokem +188

    She was so inspiring! I had to share it with my 50 yr old daughter who's going thru the same thing. Thank you!

  • @CassieBee88
    @CassieBee88 Před rokem +36

    Omg, her ability to step outside of herself and her situation, and grasp the full range of her emotions and all involved is genius emotional level. If this woman is not a motivational speaker, she should be.

  • @francinegeddis7947
    @francinegeddis7947 Před rokem +13

    This talk with Christine was a much needed gift in so many ways.

  • @An-mei
    @An-mei Před rokem +36

    My parents and grandparents were both traumatized and they left the city for northeast Michigan when I was nine. Giving up good jobs we struggled to make it every year. We did not have insurance so you didn't want to get sick. Generational trauma is important to understand. Thank you Christine. You just gave me an important nudge!

  • @mermaidofaloha
    @mermaidofaloha Před rokem +12

    Thanks 4 sharing. I'm 60, lots of childhood trauma, a near death experience in 2007 (different than yours)." The unconditional love I am made of" "go back & fill up the landscape", your story really helped me a lot. Thank you. God bless you.🙏

  • @kdm313
    @kdm313 Před rokem +9

    What I took away was. There’s always hope. Thank You Christine.

  • @prettyhtemachine
    @prettyhtemachine Před rokem +10

    Christine, you are my favorite guest! I, too, carried my moms trauma growing up, and I try so hard not to pass it on to my kids, but i see my daughter being fearful of men and everything around her just like me. It's a struggle. I lean on everyone, i became a stay at home mom, and my husband of 9 years wants a divorce and wants to be financially free of me because im a burden to him. Im trying so hard to find my wings, but it is not easy. Your words spoke to me today, and it makes so much sense. Thank you for that!! 💜

  • @boburuncle41
    @boburuncle41 Před rokem +8

    I was told, "The way out is the way through" and "You have to feel it to heal it" took a while to apply those terms, but has left me very free. very nice lady, thanks for being open.

  • @ofrapeters3952
    @ofrapeters3952 Před rokem +31

    Christine is such a beautiful woman inside and out … she is saying what so many of us experienced… I wish for her to continue to transform and heal and reconnect to the beautiful light that she is …

  • @mare6366
    @mare6366 Před rokem +47

    it's so great to hear someone talk about the "pain body"!!! I read about it yrs ago and can recognize it in so many ppl. everyone should hear her story 🙏

  • @brittany7662
    @brittany7662 Před rokem +36

    This video is one of my top favorite episodes, so inspiring and genuine. I ordered the book she mentioned and I can’t wait to read it. I’m in my early 30s and I want to experience enlightenment sooner than later and I am on the right track ♥️

    • @kaytsmudge4359
      @kaytsmudge4359 Před rokem +2

      I loved this book, also read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle as-well if it resonates with you 💕

    • @Ernest-vh1zm
      @Ernest-vh1zm Před 11 měsíci +1

      I'm gonna order it now, too!!!

  • @Catalinaobregon
    @Catalinaobregon Před rokem +18

    She has as a wonderful ability to articulate her troubled upbringing, feelings that ensue and recognition of the reasons behind choices she made in her life. Well done, Christine. I am sure your story resonates with a lot of people including me. The one thing about this channel is you realize you are not alone in your struggles or journey on this planet. It's all about love.

  • @ssfov
    @ssfov Před 11 měsíci +9

    She is so bubbly and brings a warm and welcoming feeling with her presence. Never would I have ever thought or expected seeing her and listening to her that she experienced all that in her life. Never judge a book by its cover

  • @adrianimee8665
    @adrianimee8665 Před rokem +53

    I love this woman!! Sooo smart and sophisticated and inspirational and so much intelligence and inquisitive!! And she went through a lot and is humble.

  • @donikatod460
    @donikatod460 Před rokem +10

    I love how she talks about the lessons and healing and conclusions rather than details about the traumatic experiences. Overcoming victimhood is such a major blessing and effort.

    • @ToolFan68
      @ToolFan68 Před rokem +1

      The reason she doesn’t talk about the details is because then we would find out the truth about her. She’s had how many marriages now? ALL the men are baddies. LOL! Typical modern American woman. Totally selfish, blames everybody for their problems (especially men) ends up living with a cat and taking in strangers to pretend they now can help others. Notice that she never is the victimizer in any of her stories. Women are just as, if not more, emotionally abusive than men, yet most of them have no clue that it’s even possible as they have been raised in a matriarchal western society and that they themselves are doing the very thing that they are accusing others of. Men are waking up, hopefully women will eventually do the same so we can improve society. It takes two to tango ladies.

    • @donikatod460
      @donikatod460 Před rokem +1

      @@ToolFan68 well, growing up in a family where a 6-year old is sipping cocktails, it's not surprising she'd have a series of bad relationships. It's not that all men are bad and she doesn't say that. But it's likely she attracts a certain type of men and she says that too. It happens all the time people go from one bad relationship to the next bad one. Seems she has discovered she is better off on her own because she is not able to be in a stable relationship. She can still help others. Many people who are in toxic relationships are not wise enough to leave them and perhaps consider no relationship is a better option.

    • @quinnhayes3046
      @quinnhayes3046 Před 11 měsíci

      @@ToolFan68she never said she wasn’t the problem…she indirectly says she’s apart of the problem. that’s the point of her half her story. 💀

  • @catgonzales9084
    @catgonzales9084 Před rokem +89

    Thank you Mark for presenting such a “bright light” and lovely soul as Christine! 🪷☺️

  • @jacobwiggers1973
    @jacobwiggers1973 Před rokem +26

    Great message. Finding the causes and solutions to the problems rather than drugs/bandaids.

  • @patriciamunro3060
    @patriciamunro3060 Před rokem +10

    She's experienced a lot throughout her life. She's very well spoken, knowledgeable and intelligent. Wish her all the best! ❤

  • @debrareeves1005
    @debrareeves1005 Před rokem +14

    It doesn't get any more real then this woman right here. Thank you for that uplift I needed right now. God Bless the both of you.

  • @sethmonroe
    @sethmonroe Před rokem +34

    Tim Fletchers videos on CZcams can help teach a lot of her knowledge about trauma if the therapist option isn't available. Awesome job Christine!!

    • @timmywitty1432
      @timmywitty1432 Před rokem +1

      I love Tim Fletcher’s work on trauma, he is an excellent resource for healing.

    • @sethmonroe
      @sethmonroe Před rokem +2

      @@timmywitty1432 definitely , i hope Mark checks him out and hopefully passes on Tim Fletchers to people he interviews. Trauma isn't rocket science , just need to learn the characteristics of it so one can recognize when triggered and how to handle life situations

    • @sethmonroe
      @sethmonroe Před rokem +1

      Addiction isn't the epidemic , trauma ( CPTSD) is

    • @timmywitty1432
      @timmywitty1432 Před rokem

      @@sethmonroe exactly.

  • @karenpappin4017
    @karenpappin4017 Před 11 měsíci +7

    I honestly can't begin to tell you how important and impactful this conversation was to me, thank you Mark and thanks you Christine for sharing your story... the difference this will make to so many is unquantifiable ... I'm so grateful

  • @tinam761
    @tinam761 Před rokem +24

    Thank you for you story !!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I am almost 55 and I’ve been in therapy for about a year. I’m FINALLY working through the trauma of childhood and adulthood.
    I have had counseling before, but most of it was just trying to manage the current chaos vs being able to actually make changes in myself.
    I sometimes feel shame when I realize how old I am and that I am just acknowledging so much…
    I also have several autoimmune diseases and had breast cancer. Physical pain management is what I do all day … every day within my limitations. It can be overwhelming at times if I’m unable to get small respites where it’s not dominating my thoughts. Recently it has improved a bit and I’m so grateful.
    Anyone else out there in our second half working to be healthier… You’re not alone. ❤

    • @tinasmith7630
      @tinasmith7630 Před rokem +2

      Courageous u r!!! Never 2 late 2 heal. 🙏

    • @christinaslate1865
      @christinaslate1865 Před rokem +7

      I’m 49 and have been in therapy for 2 years . Feeling very bitter and resentful it took me all this time to figure it out . Was dxed with MS last Oct …have had auto immune diseases since I was a teen . Raised in a Pentecostal home with a controlling narcissistic father and mother who was a child herself
      So glad I’m not the only one figuring things out at almost 50

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Před rokem +6

      I'm not autoimmune but I do have chronic pain diagnosis because of my spine. I have some issues with my family members for mistreating me growing up too (still mistreat me) but I'm sure many of you experience the same.
      I'm glad to hear you got the help you needed. Don't feel ashamed that you waited so long.

    • @JulieM-ff9dq
      @JulieM-ff9dq Před rokem +2

      Yes, me. I am a triple negative breast cancer survivor. Thankfully, I was otherwise very healthy, other than emotional trauma. I am so happy she got through the cancer and figured out her trauma. I hope you are doing well too, Tina. Good luck to you.

  • @BratLisa
    @BratLisa Před rokem +2

    I just ordered the book The Power of Now. As I am also in my 50's and need a new way of life. I pray you are healing and are enjoying life today. Thank you for your honesty.

  • @brendalancour9573
    @brendalancour9573 Před rokem +20

    She is a very Classy intelligent Lady...very well spoken...Very Lovely Lady..I pray she finds the Happiness and Healing she deserves. Its very difficult to open up about our TRAUMA that we may be going thru some people NEVER open up and thats why so many People turn to Drugs Alcohol Gambling ETC...whatever makes us feel better in the moment they cant look beyond " IN THE MOMENT" so to speak...there are the chosen few who do find solice in Therapy and they do heal its a long peocess but it can happen and go on to live Long happy Productive lives but so many cant get past NOT FEELING ANYTHING NOW!! so i pray whoever cannot see beyond THE MOMENT! and want to NOT FEEL anything i pray you find the inner Strength that you can FEEL AGAIN with Therapy and medicine if necessary i pray you find that and Heal inside and Out..Im sending Prayers and Healing Vibes To all who would like to receive them..GREAT INTERVIEW MARK!!..?❤❤❤🥰🤗

  • @bestkksser
    @bestkksser Před rokem +33

    If you are reading this there’s a reason……No matter how good or bad you have it,wake up each day thankful for your life.Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs ❤️🇧🇸

  • @Jameskenomis3
    @Jameskenomis3 Před rokem +40

    I needed this. She is awesome.

    • @xXisubscriberXx
      @xXisubscriberXx Před rokem

      @jimbofischa What does that matter?

    • @a_grayce
      @a_grayce Před rokem +4

      ​@jimbofischaboisays the guy who's leaving negative comments on every positive comment they come across on EVERY. Single. upload this channel produces. What makes a troll so miserable? Ah, positivity!

    • @No-cj9zx
      @No-cj9zx Před rokem +1

      @@a_grayce They're bored with their lives

    • @karenfryberger4260
      @karenfryberger4260 Před rokem

      @@a_grayce And what makes a troll happy? Responses. I recommend EVERYONE stop responding to this person. Don't give him what he's looking for: attention. It is truly pointless to engage with his relentlessly toxic comments.

  • @danielhiddleston1100
    @danielhiddleston1100 Před rokem +18

    I'm a 54 year old woman and this is absolutely eye opening thank you Mark ❣️

  • @austinjrb
    @austinjrb Před rokem +17

    I'm in awe at her ability to express herself and tell such an engaging story. Her level of introspection and self-awareness is crazy.
    Anyone know if she has a podcast or is online? I'd love to keep up with this woman (I'm halfway through the video so forgive me for asking if it's mentioned toward the end)

    • @christinemcbride9527
      @christinemcbride9527 Před rokem +1

      Thank you!

    • @austinjrb
      @austinjrb Před rokem +1

      @@christinemcbride9527 well that answers that question lol. Thank YOU for sharing your insights and your story. I'm wishing you the best 🙏🏾

  • @princesstakaloo
    @princesstakaloo Před rokem +8

    What a beautiful soul this lady has. She has such a powerfully positive perspective on the curse of generational trauma. Much love 😍

  • @staceyv4186
    @staceyv4186 Před rokem +18

    Pure gold!!! Christine you are a brave and capable woman. Thank you for sharing your story of hope and resiliency in spite of the trauma. Generational trauma does not have to continue if we are brave enough to face our fears and create our own story. We have agency as adults, but if we are stuck in the trauma our inner child is in charge. Our focus turns to comforting the traumatized child, loving them, and thanking them for protecting us at that time. The maladaptive coping mechanisms like dissociation and compartmentalization kept us safe, but as adults those tools are not sufficient. We need to show up as adults with appropriate tools to communicate and to love. You start by loving yourself first. Christine is a living example of this! All of the people you work with are so blessed to have your knowledge, experience, and candor. Be the change you want to see! 🎉🙏❤️‍🩹

  • @peterusso656
    @peterusso656 Před rokem +10

    People make millions of dollars conveying contrived stories disguised as self help seminars. This woman needs a podcast or larger public forum to share her insight and sincerity. Incredible and potentially influential woman.

    • @TopSecretInformations
      @TopSecretInformations Před rokem +2

      @@leadbelly1495 perhaps cynical, perhaps bias? I'm sure you can figure it out if you analyze it with an open mind.
      I'm only saying that because some commenters ASSume that a well spoken White woman could not have an ounce of trauma.
      Lol

    • @TopSecretInformations
      @TopSecretInformations Před rokem +1

      @@leadbelly1495 you totally *did not get* what I typed😄
      _Whhoooschhh!!_ 💨💨💨

    • @TopSecretInformations
      @TopSecretInformations Před rokem

      Do post again though.

  • @KatieDeluxe
    @KatieDeluxe Před rokem +21

    She will help so many people including myself with her story. Thank you for telling the near death experience too!

  • @myeyeswentdeaf6213
    @myeyeswentdeaf6213 Před rokem +87

    Good Morning Everybody!👋🤩 or whatever time-a-day it is in your corner of the world. Peace and Love from 6:00am Brooklyn NY🇺🇸 to you and and wherever in the world🌍 you are, my SWU fam.

    • @EmEm872
      @EmEm872 Před rokem +3

      Hiya :) Going to have dinner soon here in West Oz

    • @dayzofrust9985
      @dayzofrust9985 Před rokem +2

      GM from South Texas 361!!! Thanks 4 positive Mondayyyy vibes ..peace world ✌️🕊️

    • @myeyeswentdeaf6213
      @myeyeswentdeaf6213 Před rokem

      @Days OfRust99 😉👍

    • @kyliewarner8940
      @kyliewarner8940 Před rokem +4

      Hi Everyone, I love these video's, I really enjoy hearing people's stories, especially from people who normally don't have a voice. I am from Melbourne, Australia. I just want you all to remember that things might seem tough right now, but if you work on yourself and treat yourself kindly, things will get better. You may not be able to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnell, but I am here to tell you to keep going, because there is a light at the end of the tunnell You just have to keep taking one step at a time and you will get there. Wishing everyone a very happy and healthy life, just know that you are important and deserve the best that life has to offer.

    • @bayusetyawan9550
      @bayusetyawan9550 Před rokem +4

      Hello from Jakarta,Indonesia 🇲🇨 its 5:30 pm here

  • @loubock3238
    @loubock3238 Před rokem +6

    A survivor of many traumas, she had the will to not give into the evil around her. Wishing her all the very best, pretty lady.

    • @ToolFan68
      @ToolFan68 Před rokem

      She created just as much trauma for the men, trust me.

  • @JPalm36
    @JPalm36 Před rokem +9

    I am struggling with getting off of Suboxone and Xanax , it has been a decade and I always tell myself I’ll need it the rest of my life . I know that’s not true though . I just can’t find the motivation to change and the sickness scares me so bad . Thank you for your story , it makes me feel like things are possible

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Před rokem +4

      Cut back by the tiniest amount at a time. Don't let your doctor know until you're sure you can be on a lower dose. Even if it takes years. Those years will go by anyhow. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm now on half a tablet of suboxone and will be cutting that a bit soon. I don't care if it takes me two years. I'm not taking it for the rest of my life, not to mention it's so expensive. I don't have insurance and it's $180 for 28 tablets. Good luck 😊

    • @lunakat7020
      @lunakat7020 Před rokem +3

      I got off both just tapered the Xanax that was easy. The sub I went cold turkey it was the only way for me. That kind of sucked but I did it. It didn't take long at all please have hope you can definitely do this. Much luck to you💗

    • @christinaslate1865
      @christinaslate1865 Před rokem +5

      You got this !!! Taper off slowly , and you’ll be okay . I still take Xanax as needed but I was on several 1mg daily .
      You’ll be able to do this ! I wish you luck !

    • @lunakat7020
      @lunakat7020 Před rokem

      @@christinaslate1865 This is true Christina this does work.

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge Před rokem +3

      Things are definitely possible. The advice to taper ever so slowly is the way, even if it takes years. Those years will go by anyway, so why not make them easier in yourself for the long-term? Don't tell your doctor a thing. Just do you.

  • @texaslady1969
    @texaslady1969 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I have the”power of now “ audio book I have listened to it a couple of times . Really good book . I think everyone should listen or read it . Eye opening experience. Taught me how to enjoy the small things in life . Be grateful for what I have and how to be thankful for my mistakes and how to help others be patient with themselves.
    I’m not doing yoga , meditation or energy work any longer . I am on my next phase of life . God gives me peace than I thought possible and teaches me more than I ever thought possible how to love myself and not judge myself because it’s all in his timing . I have free will and choice is powerful. I choose to love others without judgment and know I can be a better human when I have God in my life 🫶 He has my back and always will . I am glad I heard Christines story . That’s my moms name ❤

  • @lauralaithwaite5539
    @lauralaithwaite5539 Před rokem +11

    This is my favorite soft white underbelly video. I resonated so much with what she said. I to an on my upward journey after 16 year battle within myself. Dmt was my “near death expierence” which brought me back to who I truly am and made me realize my part in my own suffering. She is a beautiful soul and I absolutely loved this episode. Would love to see more near death experience videos!!

    • @user-kh8ph3hf8r
      @user-kh8ph3hf8r Před 8 měsíci

      I'm really hoping for a dmt or ayawaaka opening

  • @ronniemead805
    @ronniemead805 Před rokem +6

    WOW! You knocked it out of the ballpark with this one Mark. Spellbinding and inspiring lady. WOW, just WOW!

  • @Aelin21
    @Aelin21 Před rokem +17

    What a lovely self-aware and wise lady ❤️

  • @olgabalakshina1410
    @olgabalakshina1410 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Another amazing human being. It was an honour and pleasure to hear your story^ Christine!

  • @mrsbiggs2848
    @mrsbiggs2848 Před rokem +14

    Refreshing to see a person who has found healing and her purpose. She found it and now she’s giving it away ❤️

  • @kimlee3158
    @kimlee3158 Před rokem +8

    Wow, she's so naturally beautiful ❤❤❤

  • @CaliGirl11-11
    @CaliGirl11-11 Před rokem +7

    Thank you for sharing your story, Christine. Sounds Just like mine and I'm Mexican American from California. You just confirmed everything. As soon as we all find "the Divine" in us, we can stop self sabotaging ourselves. Very well articulated. You are a very beautiful educated women. So glad you had a daughter. Sounds like she helped save your life?

  • @PaulWSmith-yn7ym
    @PaulWSmith-yn7ym Před rokem +3

    I may be uncertain. Insecure. Undeserving. Unworthy. Overly Sensitive. But I'm not confused that everyone is trying to escape what is. What a great person with a light unto herself.

  • @jhonsmith6614
    @jhonsmith6614 Před rokem +26

    Looks like a lovely lady I hope she finds the peace she deserves

    • @Mathteacher444
      @Mathteacher444 Před rokem +5

      How do you know she deserves peace?

    • @jhonsmith6614
      @jhonsmith6614 Před rokem +1

      @kjj_okthen that’s deep! Keep going stay strong be positive do good things every day see the good in people treat others like you would like to be treated stay away from hard drugs surround yourself with good people say no to people who put you down

    • @jhonsmith6614
      @jhonsmith6614 Před rokem +4

      @@Mathteacher444 everyone deserves peace and forgiveness if not by you or me god can only judge a man

    • @tinasmith7630
      @tinasmith7630 Před rokem +1

      @@standingvertical3048 But he still gives peace 2 our souls, if we seek him..

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Před rokem

      Why do you call yourself "Karen slayer" ? That sounds like you want to commit violence agaisnt white women. What if my profile name said Shawniqua slayer?

  • @patriciawilson6978
    @patriciawilson6978 Před rokem +18

    Thanks for sharing your story, Christine

  • @heatherpaulson8590
    @heatherpaulson8590 Před rokem +12

    Thank you so much Mark & Christine for doing this video, so inspiring. This is the second time I’ve heard someone reference the book “The Power of Now” on this channel. We’ve been listening to Eckhart Tolle for years and it has really made a positive difference in our lives. Christine, thanks for also sharing your NDE, these experiences can have a positive impact on the experiencer as well as others who hear about them. ❤

  • @andreaaldrich4046
    @andreaaldrich4046 Před rokem +3

    She's so introspective and interesting. She reminds me a lot of my therapist.

  • @melissasue3328
    @melissasue3328 Před 8 měsíci +3

    I am 40 minutes in and I have stopped myself from commenting multiple times bc I wanted to hear the whole story first but I can't hold back. Your story is so incredibly similar to mine. The underlying generational trauma, the subconscious beliefs, the passing down of the "story" to my children unintentionally, the accidents , autoimmune disease, even "the power of now" unread on the shelf in my home for a decade. God I hope this story has a happy ending for us both! 🙏

  • @jtabal100
    @jtabal100 Před měsícem +1

    She’s so self aware , thank you for sharing your story

  • @shirleygomez6257
    @shirleygomez6257 Před rokem +11

    You left me with a smile Christine 🌬️ My story is very similar to yours, thank you a lot for bringing a lot of direction to the younger generations, namaste 🪷

  • @shaylasmith2030
    @shaylasmith2030 Před rokem +7

    She's amazing. Life's a trip sounds a little like me..... no sexual abuse but a life line of bad relationships and no understanding.... im 35 and I'm learning still

  • @tanyabonnette1796
    @tanyabonnette1796 Před rokem +7

    I loved the nde she told about how she felt loved and everything was beautiful. And the words that she has a beautiful life.

  • @luisangelismylove
    @luisangelismylove Před rokem +10

    Through your channel I am learning to be more empathic towards all sorts of people, not only those that are “normal” We are all imperfect but we have the power to make changes. I cried when she was talking about the empty landscape. Thank you Mark ❤

  • @williammatlock1087
    @williammatlock1087 Před rokem +8

    She has an elegant way of speaking and great at captivating your attention! Seems like a beautiful old soul with a great heart. Thank you for this

  • @mamaw9634
    @mamaw9634 Před rokem +9

    One of the best phrases I have come across- but you have to work to understand it- your experiences shape you, but don’t have to define you. Blessings to Christine! Thank you Mark for letting her talk- ❤

  • @jwh8228
    @jwh8228 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Imagine a world where The Power of Now is required high school reading and comprehension….Thank you for your story. I am near the same age and similar story. I feel today that unconditional love is something we MUST give ourselves if we ever want to give it to others…

  • @caelesarcanum_
    @caelesarcanum_ Před rokem +7

    I am elated to hear other people talk about the negativity of pharma and chronic illness. I have dealt with something similar. Root cause approach is elite compared to bandaging symptoms. Happy you have found modalities that keep your symptoms at bay! Your story is inspiring and you can tell that all "bad" in your life was a catalyst for growth.

  • @msr305
    @msr305 Před rokem +4

    Christine - Holy Shit! In all the years I've watched Mark's interviews, I have found them facinating, but your story - in SO many ways- is my own. Thank you Christine for your bravery and ability to bring to words the experiences and mindset I know so well deep down. Love to you Christine. ((Thank YOU too Mark))

  • @carlaburgos12
    @carlaburgos12 Před rokem +7

    Holy, thank you!!
    I am speechless and lost for words for the impact this interview had in my life. She has reassured me what my purpose in life is. ❤

  • @dubaiedge
    @dubaiedge Před rokem +6

    That tunnel is real. Everything she says is true. If you make it up there, it's to be given a message. I was told to choose to go back or keep going. I went back. It's pure love, & everything there is completely nonjudgmental. It's an absolutely fine line between life & death, thinner than anyone realizes. We forget after being born the purpose of life, our original nature, is to make things better for everyone. Who knows why we have to go through all this misery, but I just wanted to comment someone else went thru the tunnel. Elementary school drowning, too long ago to recall much, but I'm convinced there's something out there waiting for us when we die.

  • @drenaejohnson2091
    @drenaejohnson2091 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I’m a 38 year old woman and can relate to some parts of her story. You can see the passion when she speaks I loved this interview so much and will definitely look up the information she shared. Thank you Mark I love your channel I’ve been a viewer for years and have learned so much about myself and a better understanding of others you’ve been a blessing to me and many others

  • @KarmicPatina
    @KarmicPatina Před rokem +11

    The insight gained from the open ended format, allows you to really step inside these people, even if only on a phone screen..doesn’t matter..it’s a special channel. This woman is so full of wisdom. Thank you.

  • @conniehanses
    @conniehanses Před rokem +15

    The most insightful interview I've ever heard. You are inspiring and so thought provoking for myself reflection. The brain is powerful. Just gotta be open, honest with urself and do the work. Can be very uncomfortable but worth it for my wellbeing. Thankyou

  • @shimsham9113
    @shimsham9113 Před měsícem +1

    this is one of my favorite interviews ever done on this channel.

  • @keithgabbard4816
    @keithgabbard4816 Před rokem +7

    What a remarkable , strong human being .

  • @dav220
    @dav220 Před rokem +12

    I relate so much to Christine. Gorgeous honesty and depth here, very inspirational! Thank u thank u thank u. LOVE

  • @jenniferharvey8696
    @jenniferharvey8696 Před rokem +8

    Very inspiring! At 55, after a year of retirement, I am “leaning into” a new teaching position in the fall. And you’re so right!! It really does fill up that void! Much love ❤️

    • @faustinreeder1075
      @faustinreeder1075 Před rokem +1

      Retiring at 55 is awesome.
      “Lean” into seeing the world or ?
      Working is overrated. I’m retiring in 1498 days and I’m never lifting a finger for any corporate stooge ever again.
      It’s five o’clock somewhere.
      Cheers

  • @selfesteem3447
    @selfesteem3447 Před měsícem +1

    Look how beautiful she is. Christine,you've been through so much and you're still absolutely gorgeous.
    I appreciate you teaching me so much. Thank you.

  • @fearElohim34
    @fearElohim34 Před 21 dnem +1

    About 8g of psilocybin brought me to that same conclusion that once we pass through the veil of "the living," when we breach our mother's wombs, we forget who and what we are.
    The world, societies, and cultures condition us into thinking we're Americans, Africans, Asians, etc., but that's all a lie-we're love. We're beings of divine love, all part of a singular divine energy. Each of us here is experiencing life from different perspectives, but we return to the Source and are one.
    Thanks, Christine.

  • @lisamurphy5663
    @lisamurphy5663 Před rokem +12

    What an amazing and strong woman! Thank you for sharing this story.💜

  • @thetrapdoor6194
    @thetrapdoor6194 Před rokem +21

    Thank you so much Christine. I related a lot to what you said. You are inspirational 💜🤟

  • @jessicamayer5060
    @jessicamayer5060 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Thank you, Christine. A lot of what you said resonates with me. I appreciate your vulnerability.

  • @vdubb4159
    @vdubb4159 Před rokem +11

    What a beautiful human ❤ so inspiring to hear her story

  • @m.r.e.5731
    @m.r.e.5731 Před rokem +4

    I can totally relate to being punished for thinking for yourself and growing up not knowing what you like, what you prefer, and how to not second-guess your own adult decisions. It takes years -decades -to undo the damage.

  • @freakydeakydorkable
    @freakydeakydorkable Před rokem +14

    What an absolutely amazing being ❤She is just a ray of light 😍