Dating as a single parent
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- čas přidán 24. 06. 2024
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What has become of our humanity? Have we evolved into emotionless animals? Have we entered into a place of no return? Our lack of empathy and love for one another is sickening. The most sacred thing on the planet should be our women and children yet we’ve managed to turn our backs on them. Men and women are feuding with the one another while our children are suffering from the consequences. Understanding the world has changed, possibly for the worse, it’s not so much the world that’s the problem but the people in it. We need to change tomorrow today before it’s too late!
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the man is correct and the woman is delusional. don't let them gaslight you bro
Facts!
They can’t help but gaslight just like a YT person
That's not a man ?
Dating
Single mothers? This is.
Simply a bad deal and a ill gotten gamble. What benefit does that play into a single man's life?Absolutely none
Shame Insults guilt and need to be right. She called his logical reasoning stupid
This man is a pure genius. Talk your shit
This guy is totally right. Why would you date a woman with kids when there are so many without. It doesn’t make sense
The brotha was preaching!
She can't answer the question of what she can offer a man that she has not given to another man.
She also belittled the man who offerring his name in marriage by saying, "That's it."
Women control access to sex and child birth. Men control access to relationships and marriage. Both are the highest HONOR that they can give each other
other than stress, a potential case and an 18th hand 🐱?! zilch!
Remember everyone Kevin Samuel told mostly BDubs the same thing but they hated him. Now they see more and more BM do not care, that ladies is very dangerous because ince your men give up on you. You will not have any protection, help, or anyone to be there for you.
You will be seeing more BM with non ADOS women than you be asking why BM does not want us. Remember how she treated him, saying his concerns did not matter.
All i heard was a very disrespectful BDub getting mad because the Step Dad market is closed. You will notice a BM will sleep with you, but be your kids' life, nope. Now, if you do not believe me, why over last year or two that so many Black women ask SBM to mentor.
Now you can see and hear the low lever contempt and hatred that most BW have for BM. That is why BM under 35 is SYSBM and / or Passport Bros. Old 35+ BM still believe in black love, but they are quietly just leaving to find other women.
To the 10 to 15 percent of BW who still like and care about BM. You can find one but you need to leave the communita behind.
He said no man wants to be the cleanup man and she said Why not? 😂🤣
🤣🤣🤣
StepDaddy Season is overrrrrrr🎯
The audacity😮
Pregnant at 18, “the village” takes care of her child, she’s a mother 2 days out the week, and when asked a direct question she changes the subject and shames the person asking the question. Dear heart, you just proved with your behavior and lack of discipline of your emotions why dating single mothers is not in the benefit of the man. 🚩
It's 2024 and I don't know why bm even bother. This woman is a prime example of what I don't deal with. #STAYKEISHAFREE & #SYSBM
Hallelujah. Take care.
Her and all her friends are still single
False. Don’t project
@@vicbadd She's admittedly single. What makes you think her friends' husbands would even allow their wives to be around this woman?
The men she want don’t tolerate disrespect from men let Alone a woman. They’ll just walk away cause that mouth is an automatic disqualification. She’s used to interrupting talking down on men like they’re children like most of the modern ones do.
@@mvm5439crickets
I guess 40% of women will be single never married 🤦🏿♂️
Already happening
I had to stop being friends with a girl about 18 years ago because she said that I was settling. But I always wanted to be married and I always wanted to have children and I felt like the guy that I was with, was that guy. We ended up having a huge fight and we're no longer friends. Today, she's still single and with a kid in her 40s.
Wisdom vs. Emotion was on full display in this convo; those with wisdom know who is a representative of emotion.
Baby mama and tattoos and bad attitude black woman I'm shocked 😮😮.
I have never encountered or seen one before this video. She is an outlier not the norm!😉
Ignorance at its finest.
Too much mouth but there someone for someone
BINGO
@proudtobeasimp7259 The streets is always available for those in the streets. That's true. Only those with no choice will deal with people like her.
Black man, you deserve better, walk away from this one, hail KS.
This video is more popular on Tiktok with 20 second to create a narrative around this conversation.
I am a father and i have dated single mothers and i made the greatest decision to create children with a childless woman.
Its sad that we have to be in community with people that think like her. She deflected and talked over and told the man how he shoukd think as a man.
Thank you
Her arrogant, self-entitled attitude is a major deal breaker. If a man even considered stepping to the likes of a woman like her, he'd be a straight-up *FOOL* to wife her up.
Dope video
She reserves the right to deny a man with a child, but you better not deny her. If that mentality doesn’t sum up the western dating experience, idk what does
That is NOT what I said nor what I believe.
@@vicbadd That is what you said. It's called a blindspot. It's hard to admit that there are things in life in which we lack objectivity.
And when exactly did I say a man could not choose if he wanted to date a single mom or not? I didn’t. Everyone has the right to preferences.
@@vicbadd Please do not straw man this discussion. You extended grace to yourself on your decision not to date single fathers, but were unwilling to do the same to the man's decision not to date single mothers.
Vick is delusional.
Nah she's manipulative. She doesn't answer questions directly, she bogs him down with babbling!
Most of them are. They're on TikTok eating this up rn. Had to see the full video. She did nothing but gaslight and babble.
😂😂😂 opinions are like assholes, everybody has one.
@@Im-your-huckleberryFacts 💯
Maybe that brother should consider dating interracially; he'll have better options perhaps.
Amen
Poor girl. She doesn’t understand that her kids are only special to her. I’m glad she makes good money because I don’t think competitive men are signing up for her type of situation in 2024. The lower tier men will pick up the slack as they have always done. These kind of conversations aren’t even necessary any more. Let it burn.
Protect your peace. Put a premium on your presence.
Respect yourself and others will respect you.
They’re really not even to her, she only want to see them two days out the week 😆
Dudes are always supposed to understand and not really vet females, but when they do bruh the claws come out fr fr.
The double standard coming from the woman is amazing!
Baby Mama's don't bring anything to the table at all.
They bring their baby daddy's child support check with them and they'll hand it over to you if your name is pookie! hehehe
🧢 they bring drama, bills, kids, adlibs while you're talking, stress, and used up Vurgina!🙂
@mgtowmonger2729 LOL! Man you guys are rough!
@@Im-your-huckleberry💯
They bring expenses
this brother is intelligent and knows how to articulate himself clearly and respectfully, that said i dont think he knows the amount of abuse and anger thats gonna be directed his way bw are incredibly sensitive and vindictive 😂
Yes, you're absolutely spot on. That's why we Black men need to support his channel when this bitter hyena storm rolls in. Salute.
The brother that said "if a woman has kids, it doesnt matter." It absolutely matters. It especially matters financially when forecasting future earnings and expenses.
"My father's outta prison now" that statement explains a lot.
Wait,
So until recently she only had her kid(s) Monday & Tuesday (The father had them Wednesday through Friday and her dad had them on the weekends) and she's stressing about a man not wanting to be in her children's life?
[Lady] were you in your children's life!?! 🤣
Incorrect. Let me help you, I was referring to a time years ago when my daughter was between 1-3. My daughter is now 14. You do the math.
Secondly my dislike was in the question presented. I am a firm believer in ppl should do what makes them happy. A man saying he doesn’t want to date a mom is not a problem.
Fair.
You never answered the question that caused the viral moment.
You want what you want- a man with no kids because baby mommas "bring drama"- fine. What does that man get in trade and how are another man's children an asset worthy of a single man pouring his time, attention, and provisions into them?
You stated that you have a village assisting you in rearing your child. Outside looking in it appears that you want another village hand to get on your program and assist in the rearing of another man's kids. The said hand won't be bringing and children of his own to the village due to "baby momma drama."
One can deduce that all of his efforts will be pouring into another man's legacy. A man that is still present tangentially.
Seems like a sh*tty deal.
Correct me if im wrong.
Great Conversation guy, this was a thoughtful, entertaining episode.
This video has gone viral on TikTok for a 20 sec clip where they make the man look like a lunatic. Mind you not one person that has used the clip to talk trash about the man has posted this entire video.
The outrage is based on the question that was asked in the clip. Simple.
4:00 you were a farher of two daughters. Most of the ladies didnt have fathers and they are pretty much jealous of your treatment and care for your daughter's. They never had what you gave to your daughters
He speaking facts
Indeed! This lady in here blocking comments left and right. I wanna see if she finds this one 😭
Hey. Nobody on the podcast is blocking any comments love. We want everyone to speak their truth.
Wow, Vic wat hot when AJ asked those 3 questions, but when he said what he brings to the table Vic stop talking lol, love it
I did because if all a man can say he brings is money I don’t want to argue about that. I have my own money.
@vicbadd like AJ said you wouldn't date a man if he doesn't have the funds to get in your lane. So your saying you would date a Male that worked hard at UPS and you guys went 50/50 on bills, has no kids (basically he could foot the bills buy himself). Would you be ok with that? Again, has no kids because that's a dale breaker for you lol.
Yes I would actually. And if he had children with no drama going on with their mom I’d accept his children as well.
@@vicbadd ummm, so you may or may not accept the kids according to you asking the questions and peeping the scene to see if it's drama or not got it!!!
Correct. But it will never be about what his kids can or can not do for me. At the end of the day they are kids not assets.
As a Blackman who is stepdad, i agree with the one brotha. That said , there are different types of men and women. We all have different transitional values that we want in are life. True some delusional than others. But that’s how they feel and live by!!! People need to respect, understand, and not to criticize other people’s opinion and choices. And when it comes to choices, we all not going to make the right choice in life, specially when we young adults. We have never got right the first time. You learn to get it right later on in life if you pay attention and correct your mistakes/wrongs.
Is it just me or does everyone online make six figures 🤨🤨🤨
Exactly! Every black female on social media makes 6 figures! 🤣
That was an insider 🤣 but that is a good question lol
It's not just you. They're all getting the bag!😂
🤣I know, right? I had *NO* idea so many ABW were earning six figures! My ex-wife makes that kind of money; however, she's an exception.
My head hurt listening to this 💆🏾♀️
*NOPE* i have no children and i don't want a ready made family. Listening to the back and forth let me get a woman with no children.
My mom always said “these are my kids” to my stepdad when she was mad
I feel like theirs not much accountability from the guy sitting in the middle towards the other dude. Cause he clearly doesn’t agree with the things he’s saying but all throughout the video he’s saying “I get what you’re saying” but personally wouldn’t do what he’s saying?
You’re so right, men have such a tuff time speaking up to other guys to disagree, but don’t ever mind to talk to a woman about what she’s saying
The manipulated male ♂️
What is he supposed to hold the other man accountable for? They just have a different opinion and don't agree. There's nothing to hold him accountable for. Do you think he's supposed to be shamed into agreeing with or being more aligned with the other guy and the woman? I can understand how some men wouldn't mind being step-dads or dealing with single mothers, but it's not what I would do. I'm not about to spend time trying to convince a man to see my viewpoint and agree with me when it comes to that. I'm just looking for more context on what he was supposed to hold him accountable for.
Dear Baby Jesus! Take the microphones away!
From the hyena kween who seems to be exposing more of the sisterhoods dysfunction?
Sorry, cat is already out of the bag
I agree.
That lady does not know what she's talking about.
Yeah because y'all aren't finding anymore stepdads
@@theezenriarinze9203 Who are you talking to?
@@amillun Those that it applies
4:43 As a Blackman I hold the same view🤷🏾♂ and why does the man on the panel have to bring stats and data 😲to backup his preference of not dating people with kids, but the lady doesn't🤦🏾♂
😂 17:53 ok im out... The host is an OG simp.
To my brother who looks like the legendary Derrick Fisher?
SALUTE 💪🏿😤
Super simp 🤣😭
He thinks dealing with a single mother is a rite of passage 😂😂😂 wtf? Rite of passage for what? Failure?
Bro not a stepdad himself and probably could’ve been many times but simply didn’t want to be one 💀💀
@@camdaboss1008 exactly, why he capping like that?
Great discussion 👍
Yo bro no disrespect…. but why did you gaslight him so much at the end? You could have just said “Aye i dont care if she got kids”.. That should’ve been the end of it. But you continued to try and shame him for not wanting to be a stepdad.
Cope.
She needs to be shamed. $ymp.
Shaming is needed.
As my grandma would say Bless her heart ♥
Brother is preaching to the deaf! The delusion of modem women is tooo real!!! She won’t date single fathers because it maybe drama but, wants a man to accept the drama that may occur on her end. Smh…
I said I’d rather not. I never said that I haven’t. & I clearly stated I do not have drama. Try again.
Sent by BGS.
Appreciate it.
The era of step daddies is cooked! Well done
I grew up with my biological mom and my biological dad so I will always disagree with the point of view of someone that grew up without both parents. Legacy is very important to my family and you cant build legacy in someone else's kids. Why would I pass on my legacy to someone else's child. It makes no sense. I think people should do the right things out the gate and we wouldn't have these conversations. We always bring up god when its convenient. If you waited for god to find your partner you wouldn't be having these discussions and thats just the truth. We have to stop trying to make wrongs ... right.
Because the Mad Professor cant do it:
#SYSBM
#BMI
#BMA
#BME
Support our brothers!
We need more men to keep talking like this brother, he was incredible. Everything is upside in black culture and women don't want to be accountable for any other of it
She couldnt answer the questin on money, time or what she brings to the table
Both of them have to walk you down the aisle but only one of them raised you 😂😂😂 and then he said I get to play dad oh I meant I get to be one 😂😂😂smh can’t make this up
I know a guy who was married for 15 years with a woman with kids already...He had a son during marriage. Most of the arguments are about her kids that's not his...he ended up getting a divorce...smh...15 years down the drain
Should’ve chose better, take accountability
@@lv2756 that's easy... get a passport, don't choose western or westernized women.... there fixed your life for ya.
@@mgtowmonger2729 got it Mgtow 👍
He is right. Why date a single mother when you can get a woman who is younger and no baggage? All she did was interrupt him and lie. She tried to argue that single step-dads aren't. Being disrespected in their home, but the facts say different, then she tried to act like his points are just examples that only happened to him and his friends. This dishonesty isn't going to fly anymore. Men do not want a ready-made-family. No amount of shaming language will trick us into accepting left-over, sloppy seconds.
Nah, not over time you mesh! You get that straight out the box. If i can't discipline and be the head of the home, we can't be together. Personally i wouldn't put hands on a step kid but, i would be the head of my house. If you can't deal, there is the door! You and your kids! I will not be disrespected in my home and i am keeping a roof over head, feeding the family and clothing them! Get in line, or get TF out!
She a single parent talking about she don't wanna date a single parent lnfaoooooo no wayyyyyyyy
Stepdaddy era is DOA
The lack of humility and respect by these modern single mothers is so off-putting and delusional
Shout out to Kevin Samuels. RIP 🕊️
Both of these people are delusional.
7:15 Thats not a man .... StepDaddy season is overerrrrrr🗣
Never forget she stated she prefers not to date a man with kids because allegedly it’s always some baby mama drama and he accepted that but look how upset she gets when he stated his reason why he prefers not to date single mothers. She’s mad because she doesn’t have any VIABLE options and the men she wants are there for a good time not a long time
Nah fam this ain't it ... The narrator wasn't even neutral and was biased as hell for the woman side.
Yet again everything that is pro-male gets brushed aside, down-played and looked down on ... no wonder we dropping like flies for decades now ...
That's why she does not listen. When she cut you all off you allow it. But you can't cut her off
She said you attract what you like. That's wrong. You attract what you are. I think what she said is something she would like to believe to be true.
No one said they hate kids because they not go raise another man's child
yoh yoh yoh this women is wicked she will lead women into a ditch
....grab ur passports guys go to madagascar or smthing
I like your conversations ! Nice Podcast 👍🏽
She doesn't need a man's money but wants him to have no children of his own? Why? Clearly, she isn't a drama free person herself. Seems like the real reason is because she wants 100% of his money to go to her and kids that are not his.
Video is almost 40 Minutes and it’s Sad that people have only watched the 20 second clip. You have people in TikTok with 100K views making money stitching.
She is a big hypocrite
How can you say you won't date a single father but you expect a man to date a single mother😂😂😂😂
Well Vic, it can go both ways when it comes to having kids. Would you be ok with a guy canceling you because you have kids?
Sure would. That just means I’m not his cup of tea and there’s nothing wrong with that.
@vicbadd ok ok, I feel it. I have a question for you. What will be 3 main qualities that would make you consider a male in the dating field besides dating a man without having kids. Also, besides the deal breaker the kids would be 3 deal breakers for you in a relationship?
@@vicbaddyou're about to get cooked virally!😬
@theworldwatcher1734 I live in the real world sweetie. I’m not worried about a bunch of Kevin Samuel Jrs.
@@vicbadd lol
Oh 💩 just noticed Vic in a lot of these comments arguing too!?…says a lot, hit dogs holla 😂
She is not being honest. She knows he is telling the truth. She is a headache and I cant see her in a Healthy relationship or marriage.
The guy in the middle scar of the girl mouth. She have a lil anger he wasn’t with it he trying to stay neutral but he know the guy right in someways
Hypocrisy at it's finest one can have standards and it could be wrong. The other basically have the same standards and its right. First thing she said I wouldn't want to date men with kids because of drama. He basically says I don't want to date single mothers because I wouldn't be honored and there is mess in other areas. He is wrong with what he said though, please inform me on this delusion today.
Either this is staged or someone in this room is a natural contrarian for controversial clicks. This is a example of a literal "STUPID Conversation".
So everyone in the comments are talking like this man is making shit up as he go. In fact he is speaking the truth on all levels. If you’re head in the clouds and you only see the sunshine cool, but the rest of us who are living in the USA know these things are true. Those points hit home and you can tell the lady was offended cause she wants a sucker/simp to pick up the slack. I think buddy with the gray shirt is making pure valid points. It has to make sense. IMO
Another grown man projecting. I don’t recall ever saying I wanted a “simp”. As stated in the video, I take care of myself and my children just fine. I was shocked considering I have a 14 year old daughter and I cannot fathom a man asking such a question.
I can't wait for the TikTok crew gets here! I'm awaiting their commentations. 🍿🙂
They didnt link to the original vid....so they wont Come
I no who wheres the pants in the relationship
Did he drop the mic on her 🎤🎤 😮
Brother in the middle you're very easy and laid back but unfortunately you already know there's levels to dudes and when a woman is choosing she wants a certain type of guy you will come in as the cleanup guy no offense to that but you will not get the same respect as the guy she really wants. Because you're the one that is available for her at that time
Combative, argumentative, masculine and entitled. It would be insufferable to have to deal with this everyday for the rest of your life. On top of that they're bringing liabilities to your life. Who's signing up for that? Where is the blessing in that?
Nobody said you had to date her…
A child isnt a liability and if you think that don’t date mothers, no one’s forcing you to
@@JK-sz1xydid he say a child is a liability? ( Even though it is) Are you a single mom?🤨
@@Im-your-huckleberry he did and so are you clearly. I’m a mother, but I’m not single.
This is another problem that we have in our community..the guy in the middle trying his best not to make it seem like he aint caping..he knows good and well that what this woman is sayin dont make any sense but yet and still he the playful and fun guy..i tell u what while he at home being playful and having fun with the step kids she gonna be out trying to find a real aggin ro replace the playful fun guy..one chose to be gaslighted and the other one didnt
If BGS IBMOR did do a reaction to the entire vid, we won't even know that the viral 17sec was a 40mins podcast.
Most of which this gynocrat was on some bs. And when it was reversed it was nothing but SIGN language that she had.
Pls make shorts of all she babble and his responses.
Let it flood your tiktok.
Don't bend the knee. And g check the host.
Cos his pandering isn't 'moderating'
Oh yeah we are going to make this video popular
Yes, we are!
She gonna stay a baby mama
She talks out of both sides of her mouth she was raised traditional had a baby at 18 out of wedlock and calls herself a modern woman and thinks that's appealing???
Lol how quickly it became "bullshit" when someone wouldnt date her
The only way things gone work if a new baby is born n try to do is start a family n building a bond
19:47 as a girl who grew up with an amazing step dad who raised me. You keep saying “oh they are gonna say I’m not their dad, or when I’m old they won’t take care of me” I will 100 percent take care of my mom and step dad when they are old! It all comes down to how YOU as a man raise that child they will show up for you and live you if you show up for them and love them (and not focus on what they can do for you as kids) my step-dad I don’t even call him that he is MY DAD! That man raised me and took care of me and helped me with my homework and taught me how to ride and bike and taught me how to drive. When a man (blood or not) treat you that of course I’m gonna love him. The only reason it would be the opposite reaction is if you treat the kids shitty which after listening to you talk I know you would. But the insane part about that is I know you expect a woman to come in and treat your kids with 100 percent love and respect ! It’s a shame! You honestly do t need to be dating or offering anyone advice on dating. And this is coming from a childless woman.
You need to watch more episodes. AL is coming from a good place. You need to understand why he posed some of the questions to Vic. She has said on several occasions that she doesn't want to date a man with kids but whomever dates her has to love her children unconditionally. That's a double standard correct?
Huge double standard in which I’ve acknowledged. I also said I don’t want to date someone with kids but that doesn’t mean I won’t. My reason is not because of the children but the adult parents.
Al is a good person and as a podcast we are open to discussing various topics.
No offense ma'am but you are speaking as a child an need to stay in a child's place.
This is not a conversation concerning children. It's a conversation concerning adults and mainly a discussion between men.
1. I am not going to invest in another man's legacy when I can have my own.
2. The woman in the podcast stated that she wants a single man to play village hand to her child being raise by her village. So all of his support is to go to another man's legacy with the possibility of him getting his own undefined.
Your stepfather was a blessing to you clearly by how you speak of him but before he came into your life he made an agreement with your mother and had an understanding with the idea of your father. I hope your step dad got a good deal.
What the lady in the podcast is presenting is a sh*tty deal on it's face.
Stay in a child's place.
Ignorance spewing once again. In all actuality we are allowed preferences. Any man that doesn’t prefer premade families should steer clear of single moms. It’s very simple. I’m not forcing anyone to do anything. Furthermore I’m a grown a** woman who knows how to speak for herself. Get over it.
@@kms4124 ummm I’m 31 I’m not a child don’t talk to me that EVER! And you need to stray in your place! Also my dad wasn’t trying to “get a good deal” that’s not what marriage and love is about! He married my mom because he loved her and after he met me loved me as well. Y’all do realize you can love children that are not biologically you own it’s kinda the whole point of adoption! You people are ignorant and think every this transactional and if you do this you have to expect something back. Some time people just do things and out of the kindness of there heart and don’t need to get something in return
Im a black woman can someone PLEASE tell me where and how to a 6 figure job
Plus she gotta make it make sense.. time and money is valuable something ppl can’t get back.. image spending a lot of money on another guys kid because you dealing with mother sending him to school n add n he gets big.. n then the mom leaves you.. what happens next.. you not the kid father so he business or remember you
I think this was too personalized on both sides.
I think she took what he said personally because the shoe fits and got offended
33:20 the ⛽💡 is real!😳😲
That was a sincere reaction to knowing the experience he’s had. Although we don’t agree on everything everybody deserves to be happy.
@@vicbadd I understand ma'am and I feel sorry for you, for having to be a single mom, and being forced to be masculine, I hate that for you.
No pity for me please. It’s not needed. And I am far from masculine, I just know how to speak up for myself and engage in conversation.
@@dannysan2441I see what u did there 🤣😏
@@vicbaddbut I believe he is speaking generally not off personal experience 35:46 he says multiple times “I’m speaking generally”
26:10 aww what optimistic simp☺️
@vicc girlllll I have so many comments on this topic. Mind Blowing !!!!!!
She's loud with tattoos.....VERY MASCULINE!!!
@@christophervarner6855 actually she's not!!! Its's a podcast which will contain different opinions. If they agreed on everything it would not bring viewers. (which we all can agree or disagree)
Another plethora of reasons why brothers are getting their passports. Now you see why 😁🇧🇷🇨🇻🇩🇴🇨🇴🇰🇪🇱🇨