In Sickness As In Health: Helping Couples Cope with the Complexities of Illness

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  • čas přidán 21. 08. 2014
  • Part of the Healthy Strides Ernest Rosenbaum Cancer Survivorship Lecture Series. Presented by the Cancer Supportive Care Program.
    If you're part of a couple, cancer is never a solo flight. When illness and injury occur, the condition resides in one person's body but it is two lives that are dislocated. Barbara Kivowitz expands our sense of what happens to couples when illness becomes the unwanted third partner in the relationship and offers powerful strategies for helping couples live with illness. She discusses how couples can work as a team to best engage their own strengths and the resources of the system; and why, and how, providers should engage the partner in the treatment.
    Speaker: Barbara Kivowitz, MSW
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Komentáře • 21

  • @_MP004
    @_MP004 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you this was been a great help. God bless all the couples out there going thru this daily.

  • @grobennett5577
    @grobennett5577 Před 4 lety +2

    Very uplifting talk. So many people coping with devastating diagnoses. Thank you!

  • @yankeesfan4511
    @yankeesfan4511 Před 2 měsíci

    Really really good , great great episode , she did a really good job !!!

  • @annedarbyshire7634
    @annedarbyshire7634 Před 4 lety +2

    I just watched this and found it really helpful because I realised we are doing a lot of these things already so I was reassured and also, it gave me some new perspectives too.

  • @joeygirl_
    @joeygirl_ Před 2 lety +3

    There’s no way I could sleep with someone else .. step outside my marriage. No matter how many hard days my husband has. Otherwise I took allot from this. Thank you. There are so many feelings involved especially with long term illness. Sometimes it can be crippling.

  • @evakotackova3535
    @evakotackova3535 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much...Just what I needed. ❤️

  • @TheRichSolution
    @TheRichSolution Před 4 lety +2

    Thanks for this helpful video. Very helpful for those dealing with cancer.

  • @vachkiri2
    @vachkiri2 Před 4 lety +2

    Thanks for this very interesting video.

  • @darlenefrank7900
    @darlenefrank7900 Před 2 lety

    Excellent presentation!

  • @suew4609
    @suew4609 Před 2 lety +4

    A man basically abandons his crippled wife and says it’s to preserve his adult intimate life with his wife? I say bull crap! Most married couples take a vow to love their spouse during sickness and in health. This is not love, this is selfishness.

    • @jacobwoodring7285
      @jacobwoodring7285 Před rokem +1

      People have needs. If a partner is physically incapable of fulfilling those needs…what then?

    • @suew4609
      @suew4609 Před rokem +2

      @@jacobwoodring7285 It’s called adultery, it doesn’t matter about your “needs.” Learn to be celibate and offer it up!

    • @jacobwoodring7285
      @jacobwoodring7285 Před rokem

      @@suew4609 learn to be celibate!?! That is ridiculous! I didn’t say anything about cheating on your partner. I don’t think that is right either. But, denying basic human needs can make things much worse. Communication is key, and if you can’t do it on your own, go see a professional to help you and teach you how to have the communication.
      Why so judgmental?

    • @s.hicks7213
      @s.hicks7213 Před rokem +1

      @@jacobwoodring7285 I agree with you! I have MS and epilepsy. I explained to my husband that when the day comes and I'm in a wheel chair, and I have trouble taking care of my basic needs will be the day I move on to a nursing home. I will make sure it happens. You can love someone so much--they can be the love of your life to the point that you'll never love the same again. HOWEVER--when disease, illness, anger, terror, fear, worry etc etc etc etc begins to invade and erode the beauty of what once was--it can destroy what you once had. I want him to remember what we had-- the good and happy times--I want him to go on living life being happy without the burden and resentment. I want him to have the possibility to experience love again if he chooses. I think its selfish to expect your partner to go down the crapper with you. I don't care if your the most loving/caring/giving/amazing person to ever exist---eventually burnout comes, anger, resentment, you name it comes along and its a downward spiral. To each their own.

    • @s.hicks7213
      @s.hicks7213 Před rokem

      YAWN. Give me a break. 🙄

  • @alanwhite-zv5ii
    @alanwhite-zv5ii Před 10 měsíci

    Fighting with the Drs is the worst. Drs repeatedly saying it is all in your head for multiple years almost made me leave. Even after her genetic disorder diagnosis they are still gaslighting her