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I have a girl and a boy. If I had a nickel for each time someone told me how different it is to raise a boy, I would have sooo many nickels. So many. My daughter is the one obsessed with dinosaurs, and getting dirty though. They're individuals. Not stereotypes.
Right? My mom says I was basically like raising a boy. I even mimicked “boy behavior” and only played with “boy toys.” My younger sister? Nope she wanted all the princess stuff. I know boys who love Cinderella and wear fairy wings. They’re literally just playing as kids should do there’s no deeper meaning
My baby brother’s the same. He loves dinosaurs obviously, but he also loves clothes and dancing and really enjoys painting his and other people’s nails. The amount of times I’ve visited and had to turn up to work the next day with brightly coloured nails because I don’t have any polish remover is honestly ridiculous! Sex and gender aren’t all that defines a child, and anybody who is actually decently good with kids doesn’t need to be told that. Young kids just want to have fun - they don’t care about being manly or girly unless you force them to care!
i have one of each too but oof they are so stereotypical. well, my boy is more of a gamer boy than a sportball boy. but whenever i find myself wishing i had 2 girls, i remember my friend who does have 2 girls and her younger daughter is every bit as rambunctious as my boy.
@@TheEnmineerJocasta complex? I never heard that term before. I think I already know what it means considering the context and the fact that Jocasta was Oedipus' mother, but can you explain it to me real quick anyways?
@@Gdr5928having a gender identity = being yourself Acting according to gender stereotypes (against your will) = being who others want you to be The only thing those 2 have in common is having the word gender in their name, they're very different things
@Gdr5928 As an example, my gender identity is male, but it doesn't mean that I go to fish on my boat and chop some trees down every day and eat raw meat with my own hands. Those are stereotypes. Just because I identify at this gender doesn't mean I act the same way as everyone of the same gender.
@@Gdr5928 gender identity is in part a social construct somewhat tied to gender roles, but it's mostly a matter of neural structure. Gender stereotypes are a more extreme and harmful version of gender roles
My partner went through this, it definitely didn't go well and now they are no contact. She was very abusive to her before anyways, and definitely incestuized their relationship. But that was the final straw
I hope the trans daughter breaks away and disowns her mother, too. If my dad treated me the way boy moms treat their sons(in some cases trans daughters) I would be the same way with him as I already am with my mom. Given that my mom’s side of the family are substance abusers and her father(the most horrible of my two grandfathers) is a child m*lester. I’m glad to say I have a loving father, though, and I might find someone who’s like a proper mother to me.
Also statistically, at least 2 of them have a son who brought home a boyfriend. And there's a chance at least one has a son who is asexual and so they are now even more toxic and controlling as 'the only girl in his life'
@@CorvusMoon22i think when they learn to speak they'll just take what they've been told they are as given, including what gender they're told they are. I don't know however when they get any idea on what gender actually means tho
@@CorvusMoon22Funnily enough, that apparently depends on the language they learn. I recall seeing a study that claimed that English-speaking children learn to differentiate genders a couple years sooner than Finnish children because Finnish has no gendered pronouns.
There was actually a study done to see which sex had an easier time crawling up a carpeted incline. The results showed that both sexes performed the same on average. However, while the mothers of the amab babies were able to accurately predict how their babies would do, the mothers of the afab babies *consistently* underestimated their babies' abilities. Basically, the discrimination starts from day one.
@@Totally_GlitchedIt's scary how much of stereotypical behavior and abilities (when it comes to gender at least) are actually socially encouraged when you think about it, if I'm being honest
Fun fact: when I started transitioning my daughters were 5 and 2 years old. My 5 year old (at the time) had my he/him pronouns down very quickly but it took a few months for her to get used to calling me "Daddy." And a few times, she called me, "Boy Mommy." See, that was funny and cute. This is not that. These women are...not okay.
Once saw a car sticker that said "I'm not gonna raise my boys to be liberals" or some such, had a bunch of Boy Mom stuff as well and I was just like: "Have fun raising another generation of abusers."
@@joshuanorman2I was raised homeschooled, bigotted, science-denying, anti-vax, conservative, fundamentalist Christian. Once I began questioning things, all of it came tumbling down. Now I'm a pansexual, trans NB, relationship anarchist, anarcho-communist, atheist who is also fully vaccinated. So you might be onto something. 😅
i genuinely don’t get why what sex your baby is changes what it’s like raising them ?? my bf asked me if i ever did have kids if i would prefer a boy or girl and i said “it doesn’t matter to me, it’ll be the same experience either way except for some medical needs” and he was surprised because he never thought of it that way. either way i’m going to teach them the same values and let them wear and play with whatever they want, plus the gender they’re assigned at birth isn’t set in stone anyway, so why does it matter?
I admit to having been somewhat concerned when I was pregnant that, if I had a daughter, I wouldn’t be able to help her much with makeup and fashion, because I’m not especially feminine and have always struggled with makeup and putting myself together style-wise. This was before CZcams, so I didn’t have access to tutorial videos and was too embarrassed to ask other makeup-wearing people what to do. Not so much a preference as a fear that I would be wholly inadequate to the challenge of raising another human, and fixating on the thing I was most insecure about at the time.
If I have kids it don’t matter what they are they’ll have all the categories of toys. Blocks, cars, cooking toys, dolls, sports toys, games, stuffed animals, art supplies, educational toys, dress-up… they’re getting all of it because it’s good for their development
Honestly all the cis men I’ve known outpace my cis women friends in terms of living for gossip and drama. I literally have no idea where the stereotype that stuff is a women problem came from. Me: “I had lunch with Diane today.” Ex (cis male): Sits down, chin on hands “Tell me EVERYTHING.”
They’re the type to make their 10 year old daughter clean up their 16 year old son’s mess. A lot of “boy moms” are very VERY evangelical Duggar type Christians. I say this as a Christian myself
boy mom feels very much in the same vein as "I'm the only man good enough for my daughter" dads. Edit: I'm a single parent and actively avoid women in online dating that use the boy mom term. It is often paired with references to conservative values.
I was 1000% less drama than my brother. His bad grades, fighting, law breaking, rude friends etc could never compare to my keeping my head down and starting a job at 14 to help out. It's not about gender, it's about behavior.
Ah, but moms like these don't consider getting into fights, breaking the law, and having friends that are rude "Drama," that is a specific word reserved for when their daughters get upset and cry about something. And yes, it's sexist and dumb.
The "drama" they attribute to raising girls is the idea that they have to protect their "purity" against boys, while they think it's cute when their boys threaten other people's daughters' "purity".
@@angel665bwell, in a boy, anger is to be expected because he "knows what he wants", while a boy's tantrums, they expect he'll grow out of, and for now it's just cute, he'll learn. When a girl behaves the same, she's acting like a brat, being overly emotional, like women are, essentially hormonal tho if they have any clue of what the word implies they'll likely stop themselves from phrasing it that way. Not because having hormones is a universal quality of the human experience, but because you obviously only develop hormones during puberty, that's science baby (it's not)
I remember one time I was dating a dude for a short while and his mom said that to me. I was with him and we met his parents at a restaurant. I just loudly, but simply, asked "So you're gonna suck your son's dick? That's weird." And then asked him what he was thinking of getting to eat and what he recommended for me as I had never eaten there before but he had. She got super mad when I proceeded to just ignore her as she fumbled then got mad. I felt bad for embarrassing him but I don't play power games very weel. I will turn into a pigeon playing chess, knock over all the pieces, crap on the board, and then be like "Oh look at that. My dick is bigger than all yalls. Now knock off the games and get back to work. Outta my way." Then move on like nothing happened.
I actually heard a parent yell at a small child for wanting a "girls toy" in a charity shop. I didn't get involved but I was thinking of just going to say something.
I tell this story all the time but I was in a claire's shop and saw to little boys play with a backpack made of throse reverseble sequins and imediatly thought, I hope they have some at home, sucks that kids may not get to enjoy things because of gender norms
Yesterday at the supermarket, I overheard a small kid (probably 4 or 5) and their mother, having a conversation like this: "But I'm not a girl, I'm a boy!" "Listen here, you are a girl." "But I don't like it!" It probably wasn't said it this way, but it's close enough
@@ilfoxyy it's crazy how young some kids know they're trans. My adopted sibling (afab) at 3 yrs old asked my step mom "when is my penis going to grow?" Thankfully my step mom has always seen kids as individuals not genders, so they have been able to grow up wearing what they want, having their hair how they want, and now as a teen they are on puberty blockers.
I can’t stand moms like this. I saw SOOOO MANY when I was pregnant and on pregnancy forums. I hadn’t yet realized I was non-binary, but even back then I had no use for the “I don’t know how to shop for boyyyyysssss” “my in laws bought clothes that look too neutral/girly/boyish what do I dooooooo?!?” “My son wants to play with a doll and my husband thinks he’s going to be gay HALP!” 🙄🙄🙄🙄 It’s such BS. Signed, a non-binary mom with a daughter who loves pink and glitter and throwing her body into dangerous situations, and two sweet sons who adore rainbows and snuggles and wear their big sister’s hand-me-downs, including dresses, and challenge her to twirling contests. Leave your gendered expectations at the door and just raise them like the tiny individuals they are. Both you and your kids will be much happier.
@@trevorchester4439 what I allow my kids to call me is up to my comfort alone. Ten years ago a comment like this would have instantly flooded me with guilt and made me question my own hard-earned identity. Happily, 39 years old, lifelong queer, and three kids deep I am fully comfortable in who I am, and that I am a non-binary person who assured their kids when I came out that “Mom” would always be my favorite pronoun. I have literally no obligation to share this, because it’s honestly none of your business. But I wanted to, because I’d like to invite you into another person’s experience and offer you the chance to do better. You have no idea what a casual comment online can do to people, especially in our community, where mental struggles are disproportionately prevalent. Don’t tear other people down, it gains you nothing and makes you the 🤡
I was thinking about how inaccurate those generalisations about boys can be, and then I saw the "... frog in it's pocket." one, and remembered the time my little brother fell head-first into a stinky pond in full formal wear because he was looking at frogs, then had to play a trombone solo sopping wet. In the middle of his solo, a frog jumped out of his hair. When he was done playing, his music teacher checked him over, and found two more frogs on his head. 😂
What a beautiful story. Your brother is truly a treasure. But yeah, those stereotypes are wild. As a cis girl, I definitely grew up hoping for a future with a frog in my pocket. If 6 year old me could look into the future and see my present day pet dog and snake, she would shit her pants from excitement.
l knew a woman that tried to make her nerdy 11yo that liked math cis male, into more of a man. lt was insane. She put up half dressed women posters in his room and made him play football where he would have multiple injuries every week. lt was really awful she couldnt let him evolve into what he really was.😭😭
Ah yes, emotional incest. These women (often stay at home mums) generally aren't getting their emotional and social needs met by their partners so they turn to their sons to meet them instead. As if they could raise them to always be as attentive and supportive to her as they wish their own spouse was. It either works and they grow into emotional stunted men who always put their mum ahead of their own relationships (making her the MIL from hell)... or they break free and go low or no contact for their own mental health (and that of their future family).
Rule to tell which gender kids can play with a toy: Ask yourself this: is this toy operated by a person’s genitals? No -> works for any gender Yes-> not a Kids’ toy
Yeah it's not odd when they donot for a few yrs (it actually used be super common to breats feed for until like 4 up until pretty recently, like really only the last century or two,) but 6 is certainly pushing it.
3:51 (ish): I (AFAB) was like that as a kid. Loud, raucous, energetic. The other parents and the teachers at my school gave my mother so much shit about it, and the way she reacted to it...really did our relationship no favors. The "Boys will be boys, but a girl could never act like that" mentality shown by these Boy's Mums caused my mother and me heartache and gave me some permanent psychological scars. It's such a toxic mentality that hurts so many people.
it's so weird, people will press AFAB children to be more calm and tidy then with AMAB children encourage phisical play and at times let then get away with doing whatever mess they want, only to then turn around and act like it's a hard-coded thing, instead of the result of encouraged behaviour
@@dark7859 Yes!! They'll tell you over and over again to act like a lady because you're female, even though you're only four, but little boys get to be little boys into their 30s and no one cares!
This really reminds me of all the studies on undiagnosed (or more properly, underdiagnosed) ADHD in girls, and the overdiagnosis in boys. Boys are encouraged to be more rambunctious- must be ADHD. Girls are loud and hyperactive and falling behind? "They're just not trying. They're just not listening. They just need to apply themselves. Couldn't be neurodivergence."
My theory: A lot of these are stay-at-home-Moms of 1 or 2 kids. Their kids are with them 100% of the time, thus all their friends are fellow Moms, all their hobbies are kid-friendly and all their life struggles are family-related. Being a Mom is their entire identity. The kids are still young, so they'll settle for being a boy/girl Mom instead of a soccer Mom or helicopter parent
The modern concept of motherhood is kind of weird if you think about it. Almost abusive. When we used to live more communally there were always other adult around to interact with and help out. Now everyone is sequestered away into their own homes. Mothers can spend hours alone in their homes with their children, isolated from any adults to have enriching interactions with. And this can go on for months or years. With minimal human interaction and all your time consumed keeping your child alive, no wonder some Mothers turn into karens
@@Migrane0I never thought about this, but you're so right. I once met a gigantic Chinese family who lived in a multi-generational mansion. They all lived together, paid rent and utilities, and took care of their kids communally. It seemed like so much less work and stress than single-family homes, where one parent losing a job can mean homelessness or going hungry.
@@Migrane0 I have a huge, sprawling, complicated family with lots of close family friends as well, and I grew up in a very "communal" environment. It's honestly pretty awesome. There were always tons of other kids around, as well as tons of adults to look up to or ask for help with stuff. My dad kind of sucks and has always been fairly absent, but a male family friend did a ton of "dad" stuff for me, like teaching me how to drive. I'm up to my ears in parental figures lol. When a whole group is together, all the adults just take responsibility for whatever kid is physically closest to them. Baby crying? Kid needs food, is getting into trouble, has hurt themselves, etc? Whoever is closest just deals with it. It allows all the parents to relax a little because there are so many eyes watching out for all the kids. I hope I can build a similar experience if I ever have kids.
@@suchnothingI grew up in a pretty isolated nuclear family without many strong connections. Now as an ace adult who wants to have kids one day, "it takes a village" is what I want both for raising kids and for living my life
I have two boys (and three girls) and have always been creeped out by the whole "boy mom" thing. So many times it turns into inappropriate relationships with their adult sons.
As a CIS ‘straight’-ARomantic woman in her 30s, I would find it concerning if a romantic partner couldn’t cook a meal several times a week … to be honest
Understandable! My mom actually „forced“ me to cook when I couldn’t find a job after I had to quit college, and stayed at home the whole week. She‘d provide me with the necessary goods and a rough recipe. And I‘m eternally grateful for it. I cook rarely though, because I prefer fresh food at lunch while working, and I can’t really be bothered with cooking for an hour for a meal that will be gone in 10min. But that’s being single for you. Things will change once my boyfriend and I move together. 😊
"Calls and texts will be monitored for quality assurance" = I refuse to give my son the privacy he needs as a human being. One thing to note about dressing baby boys is that some strangers get _weird_ about it - My mother kept getting "he's too pretty to be a boy," apparently, when she corrected 'isn't she beautiful' (I mean, to be fair, the strangers were right that I wasn't a boy, but that's besides the point) 12:40 - Oh my god can someone please teach allocishets the split attraction model so they'll stop conflating the romantic and sexual attractions their children might feel to their future partners if they have any with the familial love shared between parent and child. Your child is not going to love their future partner(s) more than you, they'll experience a different type of love towards those partners. Different is not More. ...Don't we all hope for a future with a frog in our pocket, Jamie?
Okay, the time stamped point: THISSSS^^^ I say Cardcaptor Sakura had a massive impact on my life, and one of the things I will forever thank the series for was exactly this. Knowing, and understanding there are different kinds of love. Partial spoilers for the series for those who care? There's a scene at the end of one of the early episodes (like 12 or 13 think?) Where Tomoyo tells Sakura she loves her and Sakura says "I love too." Iirc, theres supposed to be a thought dialogue where Tomoyo says "I think our definitions of love are different." (If its there, its only in the sub because EVERY dub is homophobic.) There's also the throughline of this later where Tomoyo is giving advice to Syaoran on how to manage his crush on Sakura. Something about how "even if the feelings arent returned, you want them to be happy." (He also kind of picks up that Tomoyo likes Sakura but isn’t going to fight him over it.) In the Sakura Card arc, almost half of an episode is about Sakura deciding to confess to Yukito how she feels. His first response is to ask her to relate her feelings for him to those of her dad or brother. She tells him they're pretty similar. Then he tells her that he has feelings for someone else. Later on she admits to Syaoran that she lied, but his rejection still hurt, but she wanted him to be happy. (In a seperate scene yukito also admits he could tell she was hurt.) Then close to the end of the series Eriol and Syaoran are moving away pretty close to each other, but Eriol leaves first. Sakura says she's sad to see him go, but she isn't tearful. Eriol tells her to remember that when someone else close to her tells her they're leaving. -- So Syaoran tells her he's leaving and she runs home in tears and says she doesn't know how to describe that pain.
"Less drama than girls but harder to keep alive." What the fuck are you doing with your kids to make that true? "I don't agree with my daughter, we have a lot of arguments, but I let my son do whatever he wants to the extent that he risks his life"?
Also, objectively untrue. I had to talk my daughter out of repeatedly jumping (head first) from chair to couch this morning. It's only a 2 ft gap, but she's 5, and she was insisting she just had to jump head first 🤦🏼♀️
1:54 & 7:06 My mom wanted a boy, had a girl (me) instead. She wanted a boy because she wanted someone to watch sports with & she thought a boy would be less worry. I ended up being a huge nerd & liking video games, reading, & D&D. She tried getting me to like sports & other "boy" stuff. Some of it I liked & still do to this day but I never got into sports. When my sister was pregnant with her first kid, my mom was so happy when she found out it was a boy because then she could finally have a boy to pass on her love of sports to. When my sister had a second boy a little over a year later, my mom was happy because it was another boy she could bond with over sports. Both my nephews are over 18 now, they were never interested in sports, & ended up liking the same things I do. I like to think of it as a bit of karmic justice that they ended up not liking sports because my mom tried so hard to push me, then my sister, then my nephews to like them.
As a young girl, I was always fidgety and loud and loved all the things my dad did, my mom always tried to make me be normal and like everything girls were supposed to, which is quite hypocritical when she always told me to be myself and was the handy person of the house herself
All those “teaching my son to cook…” ones, I’m just picturing: Mum: teaches son to cook so he won’t date a woman who can’t Son: loves to cook and dates a woman who can’t cook to save her life because he loves her and he enjoys cooking for her
Honestly? The 12:50 one is actually kinda sweet. Because I imagine when your kid grows up and stops needing you as much, it DOES hurt a little. So taking solace in the fact that he's found someone who makes him feel complete and accepting that partner because at the end of the day, you both want him to be happy? That's wholesome as heck
my thought too. Yes they are sad when the kid gets independent and moves on but that is ok, change can hurt. But in the same time, seeing your kid sucseeding in live, being able to live alone or with a partner tells you you done it right. And thats nice isnt it? the post is basicly saying its ok to be hurt and sad but that shouldnt stop you from letting him go.
Someone asked my mother if it was easier raising boys or girls (me and 4 brothers, she didn't really raise my sister who lived with her dad). She told them that she didn't know because I wasn't normal. 1. Rude. 2. She thought normal was sneaking out at night to go hang around with boys and doing poorly in school because idk boy crazy?
@elaexplorer: So, you failed to live up to your own mother’s low expectations! Good for you! Sorry your mother was a nightmare. Hope you are happy and content with your life. Stay well!
I imagine the appeal is the whole 'oh my baby won't judge me, they'll stay with me all the time and think the world of me because I'm their mom' Which isn't INACCURATE (if you're a good mom).... but only till like the age of like 5. Then you're dealing with an actual mini person who will grow up to be a big person with their own thoughts and emotions and priorities beyond them. I feel like people always forget that second part
My aunt has three sons. She once openly admitted to sneaking into their rooms to smell their socks and/or feet. She said it helped her feel closer to them. Worst bit? I seemed to be the only one disturbed by it.
The drama thing (turns head and spits). I define drama as emotional reactions people don't wish to deal with (and often cause). Girl emotions are not drama, they are valid. His emotions are also valid and should be allowed to happen. We should all be allowed to feel emotions without fear of shaming and taught to handle them safely.
My oldest discovered Dr. Who at the grand old age of 6, followed very quickly by classic Marple and Poirot. I have been Mum ever since. It would be weird if my kids called me mom now.
I saw a wholesome version of the "teaching my son to cook" which said "Teaching my son too cook, so he can share the load with his future partner." More of this, please!
The most concerning ones to me are the ones where they literally state their son is supposed to fulfil the emotional needs their husband doesn’t. I’m expecting a boy in the next few weeks and my wish for him is to take after his dad, because his dad is a great person and that’s why I married him and am having his child.
As a Mother of a boy I really don’t understand “boy mom” at all Watching him grow, learn, explore and become a empathetic person is incredible and has nothing to do with his gender
Reminds me of the disgusting "autism mom" trend. It's never about the child or their needs or desires, it's always about the mom and what they like and want
I dunno if there's a topic for it but I guess my mom was a girl mom She had 2 'daughters' my older sister (cis) and me (agender). I was raised to sit and act like a lady. Forced into dresses. Encouraged to wear heels, makeup, jewelry, hair accessories, nail polish, long fake nails, long hair, play with baby dolls, and easy bake oven and barbies. Watch shows tailored to girls like My Little Pony and Sailor Moon. I did all those things plus fake tattoos, wrestling, video games, getting dirty, being loud and wild, dinosaurs, and Power Rangers. I love snakes, mice, rats, etc. while girls at school freaked out over them. My sister had a pet snake too, so I could never understand girls freaking out over them. As I got older I wore dresses only to church or weddings etc. I was labeled a tomboy. My friends saw me as one of the boys. But I was still mostly labeled and treated as a girl. It made me uncomfortable at times, but I wasn't sure why. As I hit puberty, I didn't want to wear bras. I was uncomfortable undressing in front of girls in a girl's locker room. I started realizing I didn't fit in with other girls, and even though I fit in more with boys, I wasn't a boy. As I grew up exploring who I am, I kept some interests while others were phases from me trying to be like my mom and sister. I quit stuff that wasn't me and started enjoying stuff that was me. I quit seeing it as "This is for girls and this is for boys" and started seeing it as "If I like it I like it" I've lost people after coming out as agender, pan angled aroace ... but I'm happier
Of all the times I have watched Jamie dive into some strange reddit, this is the only time when I genuinely think "these people need Jesus" or at least need some kind of social services called on them.
@@suchnothing Yes I did get that feeling too and that's why I added the social services bit 🤣 On the subject of Jesus, isn't he the ultimate boymom son?
🤮 so many issues. One of the main things (and I see it alot as a mother of a girl too) is sexualising babies/kids. All the hide your daughters, don't want them to be impressed by your daughters, rules to treat my son, baby ladykiller (similar to the dad with shotgun trope) stuff is not only pushing heteronormativity, but sexualises littles. And I completely agree, I think we should focus on raising kids instead of boys and girls.
The weirdest thing I found when I got pregnant with my boy is how many people thought it was then okay to crap on girls and tell me how much better it is being a boy mum. These people know that I already have a girl and I find it really odd how even the ones who have girls seem to push for this extra special bond between their boy. I love my baby boy but I can’t say that my love is any different to my love for my daughter? Almost everyone has told me that having a boy is “just different” or “such a special bond”. I don’t know if it’s just be I don’t place a big weight on gender but it sounds icky and strange to me? Especially the way it seems to put the girls down 🤷♀️
All this stuff about presumed antagonism towards their sons' future partners... do they even see their kids and family as people? It just feels like they're placing themselves and their kids and potential future in-laws into roles based on outdated sitcom tropes. "Oh I have to be the Overbearing Mother which means this girl I've never met is my ENEMY." And it's like. You're basing your whole identity around your ability to parent your son but you still expect he's going to choose the worst person in the world to date? :/
You know, that intro just got me thinking about how I call my birth mother "mom" and my spouse's mother "mum" that way I can talk to others without having to say "my mother" and "their mother"
True. I'm agender AFAB and was never ladylike. And every lady I know is full of drama and gossip. It's why I'm attracted to tomboys (when it comes to dating women)
That's awesome. I'm single, but my best friend's MIL super loves her sons and loves her daughters in law just as much. I recently found out that because my friend loves Hallmark christmas movies, her MIL records all the new ones that come out in December and holds off watching them until they go visit for Christmas so she and my friend can watch them all together. It's so freaking adorable. I can't imagine being immediately hostile to your son's partner when you could be building a beautiful new friendship like that.
I find it weird that people seem to assume that boy will be rowdy, making a mess, ... and girls will be well behaved, tidy, ... My brother is 2 years older than me, my mum always told me I'm the one who taught him to disobey, I taught him how to climb trees (we weren't allowed, but it seemed like fun to me XD ), ... I also fought with my mum for equality (she had been raised by her grand mother, so she was pretty old fashioned: girls should do household chores, cook,... but never asked my brother to do so. So I fought and said I wouldn't do any of that until he has to do it too. How did it end? He's 40 and still brings his laundry to her and he eats at my parents every day. I live in another country XD ) Every child, every human is different, adapt!
😂same here my brother and I laugh because we both remember how I was disciplined a lot more than my brother because I was stubborn. My mom was so shocked and baffled that she had a harder time running after me and picking me out of the mud pit😂
This is just odd. I have sons, and I've never done this. My kids are individuals and have always been treated as the individuals they are. My kids are a joy and its been a privilege to see them grow into amazing humans ❤
The number one comment I got when I waited until birth to find out the sex of my babies was “oh I could NEVER! I’m too much of a planner!” A) what plans are you making that have to do with their genitals? Aside from whether or not you’ll circumcise, that’s literally the only one I could think of, and I planned for that. B) Bold of you to insinuate my type-A anxious ass isn’t planning. Do you want to see my stack of books, blog posts, medical articles? Do you want to hear my 7 year plan for handling car seats as recommended? Can I tell you about how I took birthing classes for FOUR MONTHS and hired a doula so I could have the best chance of success with the birth plan I researched and planned for? Do you want to know how I have researched absolutely every item sold for baby proofing and compared their ratings for effectiveness? Miss me with that “I’m too much of a planner” bs you just want to decorate and buy as much gendered stuff as possible.
Hi Jamie, I started watching you off and on about three years ago. I was 15, and I was starting to explore my gender. I found out I was a trans guy soon after, and watching your older videos of you journey and experiences have helped educate me so much on transitioning. I’m now almost 18, and I’m two years on testosterone, and I’m waiting for a call from the doctor to schedule my top surgery! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experience on these things, and also being entertaining while doing it, it’s helped a lot with dysphoria and feeling alone for me. So thank u ^^
how to make someone who says "whatever you do to them, i will do to you" go bankrupt within a day step 1: give your partner money step 2: parent gives you money step 3: partner gives you your money back step 4: repeat the previous three steps until the parent is broke C:
Me *joins one of these groups and talks about how my son is always pushing his sisters and falling off of stuff. Talks about his big eyes and adorable face. One day finally posts a picture of him...* My son is a hermit crab.
I actually thought that long text was quite wholesome. It applies to any parent letting go of a child, regardless of sex, but in this case it feels especially important with how many posessive boy moms we saw. This one was the complete opposite.
Except you dont actually have to "let go". They're dating not dying. Them having a partner doesn't mean they "love her more" than theor mom as those are two VERY DIFFERENT types of love. Not all love is romantic and it reeks of someone that can't understand that.
@@insertianameia2224FR, Its creepy, i dont want my parents to write something like that about me and my boyfriend, im glad they arnt possesive like that, i hope.. istg if it happens ill get upset
Boy Mom VS Overprotective Dad! I wanna see that fight, I don't care who wins as long as they hurt each other. Or learn the error of their ways, the outcome is allowed to be wholesome. I'm not a monster!!
My brother is the golden child of the family. Yet he bearly hold onto a job and drinks while driving. I am a trans man who is in college and looking for a good job, living on their own, function. Yet she wont see me as her son.🙄 she eother wants me to be a stay at home "mom" like her or thinks my tran means i cant have a family. One of my life goals is to be a seahorse dad and she Wont be involved. She admitted that she never wanted daughters and that boys are superior to girls.
Ugh, I'm sorry you've had to put up with nonsensical shite like that. I suppose at least you now have a sterling example of how not to parent. Hang in there, dude; I hope you get your wish.
That's so sad. I have 2 kids and them being still very young they often say that they want to live with me forever, or they want to marry me (because you get married to someone you love). I always say that one day they will love someone else, someone who isn't part of our family, so much they'd want to marry them. It's not "cute" or "fierce" to be so possessive of your child that you expect to be forever the most important person in their life. Ironically, people who are like that usually end up with adult children who are incapable of looking after themselves and always running back to mummy to fix life for them or they shut their inappropriate possessive parents out of their lives. The goal should be to raise well adjusted adults who can take responsibility for their actions and to have a good honest relationship with them. Is that asking too much?
Hate to break it to you, but women breastfeeding older kids is a REAL THING! I went to one La Leche League meeting & was SHOCKED! One kid, who was being breastfed, was so long his legs overshot his mom's by more than a foot. I totally believe in breastfeeding. I'm convinced my son's healthier because of it. BUT doing it with a kid that's learning to read is freaking weird!
...... but there is evidence that children put on puberty blockers are then on a "pathway" with Tavistock's own figures showing that 98% of children put on blockers go on to take cross sex hormones.
@@user-jf3lo6ss2i Yes, that's the point; possibly trans kids go on the puberty blockers, then when those run out, if they still think they're trans, they go on to do HRT. Also, some most definitely cis kids need puberty blockers for entirely unrelated reasons to possibly being trans, most often precocious puberty.
@@commscan314 ....but equally we know that the vast majority, about 98% of children, experiencing gender incongruence who take the talking therapy and "watchful waiting" approach will grow out of their gender dysphoria if they are allowed to go through puberty. It's not HRT, it is cross sex hormones, HRT is something given to women who naturally produce a hormone which becomes depleted due to either surgery or menopause. Children with precocious puberty will eventually go through their natural puberty, it is just delayed because for some medical reason they start puberty too young. Children who are given puberty blockers and then cross sex hormones never go through the natural puberty for their natal sex. You only need to see what happened to Jazz Jennings to realise that there is much more to going through your own puberty than just reaching sexual maturity, ironically something that Jazz Jennings will never reach.
I have two sons and they're amazing! They're adults now, but my youngest was obsessed with Dora the Explorer and I got him so much Dora stuff, then my little pony. They both had dolls and learned to cook early on. They had the toys they liked, trucks, dolls, played with my makeup, They weren't gender specific. They both identify a male still, but if that ever changes, I still love them. My youngest is bi and poly and I adore his partners. My eldest has no preferences at this time. Also, they both send their love.
I love Luxeria’s content! The only problem I have with her (and Roly) is the truly shocking amount of times I now just yell GOUT about anything and everything 😂
Growing up with “Boy Moms” has me terrified of having a boy. I thought this behavior was contagious and once I have a boy I would turn into these monsters lol. The way girls were treated has me permanently traumatized lol. I was living in maid for my younger years just because I was a girl.Even my stepbrothers got treated better than me..😅
Cooking is probably one of the most useful skills in life. I feel like parents should teach their kids to cook both regardless of gender, sexuality or some other weird thing that assumes someone will be less or whatever. I learned how to cook and bake basic things as a kid and really enjoyed it. When I grew up I got to experience experimenting with recipes, making recipes from scratch and finally combining ingredients I didn't know went well together when in a tough financial situation. Cooking should never be taught as a "this is to impress others" or "this should make the future partner feel less" Cooking should be taught as an important life/survival skill. I've gone to food banks and told people simple recipes I came up with from things I got. Even talked to a guy who didn't know how to use spices. I usually just feel bad for people who can't cook or don't know how. It doesn't make them less but can cause them to struggle more since, for one, pre prepared meals tend to be more expensive and less nutritious, and two, when in a difficult situation financially they'll struggle to find why they like.
My mother is a boy mom. She’s said she’s only wanted boys and has more than a few bits of merchandise that talk about raising boys. It’s a shame that I think I might be a transgirl, wonder how she’s gonna react.
My aunt has two boys. They’re ten and six. I’m an eighteen year old enby and my aunt calls me her “practice child”. She treats her kids the same way she treated me when I was their ages. They have the same rules as the girls in their neighborhood do. She’s a normal mom with boys
Mamma's boy women give off that same ick vibe as Daddy's little girl men do. Some people have no business becoming parents. Any psycho can have a child, but you have to pass tests and get a license to drive a car.
I remember coming out, and my mother and father were so quick to be like "yeah, we'll parent you differently! We'll parent you like a boy now!" Turns out, they just got meaner.
It is called a Jocasta Complex. basically the reverse of an Oedipus complex because the emotional in(zest) is strong with these kinds of mothers. Freud would have loved these kinds of women. I call them Boy Moms when the sons are still children then when the sons get into adulthood the women become what I call mom wives. And you can guess why.
Girl dad has been blowing up my Instagram lately. 🙄 I have so many stories about how other people treat my kids’ different cause of their sex but my kids don’t like that. Both of my kids like dresses, unicorns, monsters and super heroes. My own family didn’t recognize pictures I sent of my son because he had his hair styled in pigtails. I really hope my kids continue to feel like they have the freedom to be who they want, and like what they like.
One time when I was working at the library during summer reading club, I was manning the reference desk where we had a little set up people could come to to sign up for the club. For the kids, we had coloured pieces of paper with calendars on them to keep track of when they read. They were in a rainbow of colors, and when two kids and their mom came in, the son picked out a pink one. She scolded him for picking pink and told him he could only pick a boy’s color, blue or yellow. It was a paper calendar???
As a mum to boys. I was always worried about having girls because I not the best with makeup and things. It’s a weird thing to be worried about I know. All I care about is are they happy, that they are healthy, they treat others with respect and they surround themselves with people who respect them back. Which is really something I’d want if I had girls as well.
My mother spent so long trying to make me into a momma's boy, now I'm starting to realize I might be nobody's girl
you go queen! :)
@@laultimarebanadar/beatmetoit
You don’t belong to anyone, especially someone who would try to make you into a mommas boy
You belong to yourself ❤
Trans icon get is queen(you sed mama's boy then sed no one's girl so thats why i sed trans icon and if im wrong then im so so sorry but still your a queen)
I have a girl and a boy. If I had a nickel for each time someone told me how different it is to raise a boy, I would have sooo many nickels. So many.
My daughter is the one obsessed with dinosaurs, and getting dirty though.
They're individuals. Not stereotypes.
As she should dinosaurs are great. I think a large percentage of kids are obsessed with dinosaurs at some point.
Right? My mom says I was basically like raising a boy. I even mimicked “boy behavior” and only played with “boy toys.” My younger sister? Nope she wanted all the princess stuff. I know boys who love Cinderella and wear fairy wings. They’re literally just playing as kids should do there’s no deeper meaning
I loved dinosaurs, dragons _and_ princesses as a kid.
My baby brother’s the same. He loves dinosaurs obviously, but he also loves clothes and dancing and really enjoys painting his and other people’s nails. The amount of times I’ve visited and had to turn up to work the next day with brightly coloured nails because I don’t have any polish remover is honestly ridiculous!
Sex and gender aren’t all that defines a child, and anybody who is actually decently good with kids doesn’t need to be told that. Young kids just want to have fun - they don’t care about being manly or girly unless you force them to care!
i have one of each too but oof they are so stereotypical. well, my boy is more of a gamer boy than a sportball boy. but whenever i find myself wishing i had 2 girls, i remember my friend who does have 2 girls and her younger daughter is every bit as rambunctious as my boy.
Someone needs to educate these people on emotional incest.
Finally someone said it in this comment section, all of this shit is insanely creepy to me because of that styff.
So much Jocasta Complex in today's vid.... like wtf... It's your kid not your lover, be less clingy and creepy please...
@@TheEnmineerJocasta complex? I never heard that term before. I think I already know what it means considering the context and the fact that Jocasta was Oedipus' mother, but can you explain it to me real quick anyways?
Eesh I've never heard of emotional incest before but yeah it checks out ig-
@@wsads420 Exactly what you think it means. It's when mothers have attractions to their sons.
Masking bad parenting as "boys will be boys" or "girls will be girls" stereotypes will never stop being annoying
@@Gdr5928 bro can’t tell the difference between words
@@Gdr5928 Be yourself, not who people demand you to be. It's very simple really.
@@Gdr5928having a gender identity = being yourself
Acting according to gender stereotypes (against your will) = being who others want you to be
The only thing those 2 have in common is having the word gender in their name, they're very different things
@Gdr5928 As an example, my gender identity is male, but it doesn't mean that I go to fish on my boat and chop some trees down every day and eat raw meat with my own hands. Those are stereotypes. Just because I identify at this gender doesn't mean I act the same way as everyone of the same gender.
@@Gdr5928 gender identity is in part a social construct somewhat tied to gender roles, but it's mostly a matter of neural structure. Gender stereotypes are a more extreme and harmful version of gender roles
Statistically, at least one of these boymoms has a trans daughter. Can't imagine how well the mom would take it...
My partner went through this, it definitely didn't go well and now they are no contact. She was very abusive to her before anyways, and definitely incestuized their relationship. But that was the final straw
I hope the trans daughter breaks away and disowns her mother, too. If my dad treated me the way boy moms treat their sons(in some cases trans daughters) I would be the same way with him as I already am with my mom. Given that my mom’s side of the family are substance abusers and her father(the most horrible of my two grandfathers) is a child m*lester. I’m glad to say I have a loving father, though, and I might find someone who’s like a proper mother to me.
Also statistically, at least 2 of them have a son who brought home a boyfriend. And there's a chance at least one has a son who is asexual and so they are now even more toxic and controlling as 'the only girl in his life'
Hm unless they end up being a lesbian XD Or if they're transphobes, and they end up with a straight trans daughter@@Gdr5928
@@Gdr5928Except that some trans girls do turn out gay...
I feel like male and female babies are fairly similar. They all scream, eat, sleep and sh1t themselves.
They don’t even really understand theres difference in gender until they’re like 3 or something
@@CorvusMoon22i think when they learn to speak they'll just take what they've been told they are as given, including what gender they're told they are. I don't know however when they get any idea on what gender actually means tho
@@CorvusMoon22Funnily enough, that apparently depends on the language they learn. I recall seeing a study that claimed that English-speaking children learn to differentiate genders a couple years sooner than Finnish children because Finnish has no gendered pronouns.
There was actually a study done to see which sex had an easier time crawling up a carpeted incline.
The results showed that both sexes performed the same on average.
However, while the mothers of the amab babies were able to accurately predict how their babies would do, the mothers of the afab babies *consistently* underestimated their babies' abilities.
Basically, the discrimination starts from day one.
@@Totally_GlitchedIt's scary how much of stereotypical behavior and abilities (when it comes to gender at least) are actually socially encouraged when you think about it, if I'm being honest
Fun fact: when I started transitioning my daughters were 5 and 2 years old. My 5 year old (at the time) had my he/him pronouns down very quickly but it took a few months for her to get used to calling me "Daddy." And a few times, she called me, "Boy Mommy."
See, that was funny and cute.
This is not that. These women are...not okay.
That is *very* cute of your daughter, I hope you're doing well!!
awe thats adorable
That is so sweet omg!
Once saw a car sticker that said "I'm not gonna raise my boys to be liberals" or some such, had a bunch of Boy Mom stuff as well and I was just like: "Have fun raising another generation of abusers."
Either that or the most liberal boys ever
Those boys are either gonna be Andrew Tate d*ckriders or they’re gonna be the most progressive leftist dudes to ever exist no in between
@@joshuanorman2I was raised homeschooled, bigotted, science-denying, anti-vax, conservative, fundamentalist Christian. Once I began questioning things, all of it came tumbling down. Now I'm a pansexual, trans NB, relationship anarchist, anarcho-communist, atheist who is also fully vaccinated. So you might be onto something. 😅
@@nathanaelgazzard7989very similar background and result here! ✋😅❤️
@@nathanaelgazzard7989
It was the same for me! Once one domino crashed down, the rest of the line soon followed.
i genuinely don’t get why what sex your baby is changes what it’s like raising them ?? my bf asked me if i ever did have kids if i would prefer a boy or girl and i said “it doesn’t matter to me, it’ll be the same experience either way except for some medical needs” and he was surprised because he never thought of it that way.
either way i’m going to teach them the same values and let them wear and play with whatever they want, plus the gender they’re assigned at birth isn’t set in stone anyway, so why does it matter?
I admit to having been somewhat concerned when I was pregnant that, if I had a daughter, I wouldn’t be able to help her much with makeup and fashion, because I’m not especially feminine and have always struggled with makeup and putting myself together style-wise. This was before CZcams, so I didn’t have access to tutorial videos and was too embarrassed to ask other makeup-wearing people what to do. Not so much a preference as a fear that I would be wholly inadequate to the challenge of raising another human, and fixating on the thing I was most insecure about at the time.
If I have kids it don’t matter what they are they’ll have all the categories of toys. Blocks, cars, cooking toys, dolls, sports toys, games, stuffed animals, art supplies, educational toys, dress-up… they’re getting all of it because it’s good for their development
Child 👏 is 👏 child👏
When I was pregnant and asked what I wanted, I always said "a healthy baby." That's what I got.
Sounds like you'll be an awesome parent!
As someone who has observed other boys in all-boys surroundings, they can be divas and serve drama.
REAL. I was the only female mechanic in a shop for a while. I was the boss’s favorite. They acted like literal toddlers istg
Boys who lack emotional maturity are the biggest drama queens of all.
Honestly all the cis men I’ve known outpace my cis women friends in terms of living for gossip and drama. I literally have no idea where the stereotype that stuff is a women problem came from.
Me: “I had lunch with Diane today.”
Ex (cis male): Sits down, chin on hands “Tell me EVERYTHING.”
Me (Agender AFAB): *Goes out with my brothers*
Ex (cis man): Where did you go? What did you do? Were you talking about me?@@BiggerinRealLife
In my experience boys are more divas and care more about other people outfits and shit
I feel sorry for these people's daughters
They’re the type to make their 10 year old daughter clean up their 16 year old son’s mess. A lot of “boy moms” are very VERY evangelical Duggar type Christians. I say this as a Christian myself
I thought boy moms were just moms that had sons. No daughters.
@@maverickkerr I sure hope so
Or daughter in laws 😭😭
I feel sorry for anyone these boys end up dating.
boy mom feels very much in the same vein as "I'm the only man good enough for my daughter" dads.
Edit: I'm a single parent and actively avoid women in online dating that use the boy mom term. It is often paired with references to conservative values.
"Conservative values", as in "toxic ideas of masculinity" + "denigration of women" + "hatred of minorities" + "hatred of anyone LGBT+"…
aah..yes.. like father like daughter... mom n son.... what an overrated things in this world🙄
I was 1000% less drama than my brother. His bad grades, fighting, law breaking, rude friends etc could never compare to my keeping my head down and starting a job at 14 to help out. It's not about gender, it's about behavior.
Ah, but moms like these don't consider getting into fights, breaking the law, and having friends that are rude "Drama," that is a specific word reserved for when their daughters get upset and cry about something. And yes, it's sexist and dumb.
@@AliciaRainbow for what it's worth he had far more emotional tantrums and crying than I did as well.
The "drama" they attribute to raising girls is the idea that they have to protect their "purity" against boys, while they think it's cute when their boys threaten other people's daughters' "purity".
Same
@@angel665bwell, in a boy, anger is to be expected because he "knows what he wants", while a boy's tantrums, they expect he'll grow out of, and for now it's just cute, he'll learn.
When a girl behaves the same, she's acting like a brat, being overly emotional, like women are, essentially hormonal tho if they have any clue of what the word implies they'll likely stop themselves from phrasing it that way. Not because having hormones is a universal quality of the human experience, but because you obviously only develop hormones during puberty, that's science baby (it's not)
The “anything you do to him, I will do to you” is disturbing on so many levels.
I remember one time I was dating a dude for a short while and his mom said that to me. I was with him and we met his parents at a restaurant. I just loudly, but simply, asked "So you're gonna suck your son's dick? That's weird." And then asked him what he was thinking of getting to eat and what he recommended for me as I had never eaten there before but he had. She got super mad when I proceeded to just ignore her as she fumbled then got mad. I felt bad for embarrassing him but I don't play power games very weel. I will turn into a pigeon playing chess, knock over all the pieces, crap on the board, and then be like "Oh look at that. My dick is bigger than all yalls. Now knock off the games and get back to work. Outta my way." Then move on like nothing happened.
The girl letting the guy rail her:
The mom:
@@miraculous_lady_noir2179Freud: 😏
@@miraculous_lady_noir2179considering the amount of emotional incest in this video, i would not be surprised if they did actual incest
I actually heard a parent yell at a small child for wanting a "girls toy" in a charity shop. I didn't get involved but I was thinking of just going to say something.
That’s literally so stupid. My little cousin plays with trucks and dinosaurs but she also likes Minnie Mouse and Barbie. Toys are toys
I tell this story all the time but I was in a claire's shop and saw to little boys play with a backpack made of throse reverseble sequins and imediatly thought, I hope they have some at home, sucks that kids may not get to enjoy things because of gender norms
So sad. The first thing one of my boys bought with his own money was a little Elsa doll. Toys are toys.
Yesterday at the supermarket, I overheard a small kid (probably 4 or 5) and their mother, having a conversation like this:
"But I'm not a girl, I'm a boy!"
"Listen here, you are a girl."
"But I don't like it!"
It probably wasn't said it this way, but it's close enough
@@ilfoxyy it's crazy how young some kids know they're trans. My adopted sibling (afab) at 3 yrs old asked my step mom "when is my penis going to grow?" Thankfully my step mom has always seen kids as individuals not genders, so they have been able to grow up wearing what they want, having their hair how they want, and now as a teen they are on puberty blockers.
I love how random the whole “blue is for boys and pink is for girl” thing is and how it matters soooo much to the parents which sex their baby is
Some parents make it their whole personality what sex their baby is sometimes 💀
"Is it a boy or a girl?"
It's a child.
@@-themightymittens-yeah and it’s not as though it really matters at all it’s so unnecessary
@@LaGamerLia666_old"Are they a boy or girl?
It is a human
When I was pregnant with my first, my brother asked me, "Am I going to have a niece or a nephew?"
I said, "Yes." 😂
I can’t stand moms like this. I saw SOOOO MANY when I was pregnant and on pregnancy forums. I hadn’t yet realized I was non-binary, but even back then I had no use for the “I don’t know how to shop for boyyyyysssss” “my in laws bought clothes that look too neutral/girly/boyish what do I dooooooo?!?” “My son wants to play with a doll and my husband thinks he’s going to be gay HALP!” 🙄🙄🙄🙄 It’s such BS. Signed, a non-binary mom with a daughter who loves pink and glitter and throwing her body into dangerous situations, and two sweet sons who adore rainbows and snuggles and wear their big sister’s hand-me-downs, including dresses, and challenge her to twirling contests. Leave your gendered expectations at the door and just raise them like the tiny individuals they are. Both you and your kids will be much happier.
Reminds me of a webcomic I saw. It was a gender reveal party, but the twist was it was actually the mother coming out as non-binary.
@@trevorchester4439 labels are for people to be comfortable, keep the clown emoji to urself
@@ninjoshday omg I freaking love this.
@@trevorchester4439 what I allow my kids to call me is up to my comfort alone. Ten years ago a comment like this would have instantly flooded me with guilt and made me question my own hard-earned identity. Happily, 39 years old, lifelong queer, and three kids deep I am fully comfortable in who I am, and that I am a non-binary person who assured their kids when I came out that “Mom” would always be my favorite pronoun. I have literally no obligation to share this, because it’s honestly none of your business. But I wanted to, because I’d like to invite you into another person’s experience and offer you the chance to do better. You have no idea what a casual comment online can do to people, especially in our community, where mental struggles are disproportionately prevalent. Don’t tear other people down, it gains you nothing and makes you the 🤡
@@doodooo2372 sincerely, thank you. 💗
My sisters boyfriend has a BoyMum. She literally treats him as her husband more than her actual husband, it’s weird af.
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
06:00 - Embarrased to talk about it with her doctor, but not to post it in details on social media. What a world we live in. 🤣
I was thinking about how inaccurate those generalisations about boys can be, and then I saw the "... frog in it's pocket." one, and remembered the time my little brother fell head-first into a stinky pond in full formal wear because he was looking at frogs, then had to play a trombone solo sopping wet. In the middle of his solo, a frog jumped out of his hair. When he was done playing, his music teacher checked him over, and found two more frogs on his head. 😂
What a beautiful story. Your brother is truly a treasure. But yeah, those stereotypes are wild. As a cis girl, I definitely grew up hoping for a future with a frog in my pocket. If 6 year old me could look into the future and see my present day pet dog and snake, she would shit her pants from excitement.
l knew a woman that tried to make her nerdy 11yo that liked math cis male, into more of a man. lt was insane. She put up half dressed women posters in his room and made him play football where he would have multiple injuries every week. lt was really awful she couldnt let him evolve into what he really was.😭😭
That’s evil
Whoa - that's bleak.
That's just cruel
That's disgusting
That's just abusive.
That kid's gonna grow up with a ton of problems.
Ah yes, emotional incest. These women (often stay at home mums) generally aren't getting their emotional and social needs met by their partners so they turn to their sons to meet them instead. As if they could raise them to always be as attentive and supportive to her as they wish their own spouse was.
It either works and they grow into emotional stunted men who always put their mum ahead of their own relationships (making her the MIL from hell)... or they break free and go low or no contact for their own mental health (and that of their future family).
Rule to tell which gender kids can play with a toy:
Ask yourself this: is this toy operated by a person’s genitals?
No -> works for any gender
Yes-> not a Kids’ toy
The fact she's still breastfeeding her 6 year old was not made a big enough deal of tbh 😰😱😱😱
Yeah I thought that was a tad strange. That sounds like a mom that doesn't want to let go of the baby stage.
Yeah it's not odd when they donot for a few yrs (it actually used be super common to breats feed for until like 4 up until pretty recently, like really only the last century or two,) but 6 is certainly pushing it.
I'm glad someone else noticed
If they’re old enough to be in kindergarten it’s time to wean
@@insertianameia2224it is odd. milk is for babies. when they're not babies anymore, they don't need milk.
It's like the mother variant of being a pick me or "not like other girls" 😅
Literally! 😂 “girls are lame and cringe I only want boys.”
"Im not like other moms. I favor my sons over my daughters"
I'm not like other moms, I beat my son's partners😘
3:51 (ish): I (AFAB) was like that as a kid. Loud, raucous, energetic. The other parents and the teachers at my school gave my mother so much shit about it, and the way she reacted to it...really did our relationship no favors. The "Boys will be boys, but a girl could never act like that" mentality shown by these Boy's Mums caused my mother and me heartache and gave me some permanent psychological scars. It's such a toxic mentality that hurts so many people.
it's so weird, people will press AFAB children to be more calm and tidy then with AMAB children encourage phisical play and at times let then get away with doing whatever mess they want, only to then turn around and act like it's a hard-coded thing, instead of the result of encouraged behaviour
@@dark7859 Yes!! They'll tell you over and over again to act like a lady because you're female, even though you're only four, but little boys get to be little boys into their 30s and no one cares!
This really reminds me of all the studies on undiagnosed (or more properly, underdiagnosed) ADHD in girls, and the overdiagnosis in boys. Boys are encouraged to be more rambunctious- must be ADHD. Girls are loud and hyperactive and falling behind? "They're just not trying. They're just not listening. They just need to apply themselves. Couldn't be neurodivergence."
My theory: A lot of these are stay-at-home-Moms of 1 or 2 kids. Their kids are with them 100% of the time, thus all their friends are fellow Moms, all their hobbies are kid-friendly and all their life struggles are family-related. Being a Mom is their entire identity.
The kids are still young, so they'll settle for being a boy/girl Mom instead of a soccer Mom or helicopter parent
The modern concept of motherhood is kind of weird if you think about it. Almost abusive. When we used to live more communally there were always other adult around to interact with and help out. Now everyone is sequestered away into their own homes. Mothers can spend hours alone in their homes with their children, isolated from any adults to have enriching interactions with. And this can go on for months or years. With minimal human interaction and all your time consumed keeping your child alive, no wonder some Mothers turn into karens
@@Migrane0I never thought about this, but you're so right. I once met a gigantic Chinese family who lived in a multi-generational mansion. They all lived together, paid rent and utilities, and took care of their kids communally. It seemed like so much less work and stress than single-family homes, where one parent losing a job can mean homelessness or going hungry.
@@Migrane0 I have a huge, sprawling, complicated family with lots of close family friends as well, and I grew up in a very "communal" environment. It's honestly pretty awesome. There were always tons of other kids around, as well as tons of adults to look up to or ask for help with stuff. My dad kind of sucks and has always been fairly absent, but a male family friend did a ton of "dad" stuff for me, like teaching me how to drive. I'm up to my ears in parental figures lol. When a whole group is together, all the adults just take responsibility for whatever kid is physically closest to them. Baby crying? Kid needs food, is getting into trouble, has hurt themselves, etc? Whoever is closest just deals with it. It allows all the parents to relax a little because there are so many eyes watching out for all the kids. I hope I can build a similar experience if I ever have kids.
@@suchnothingI grew up in a pretty isolated nuclear family without many strong connections. Now as an ace adult who wants to have kids one day, "it takes a village" is what I want both for raising kids and for living my life
I have two boys (and three girls) and have always been creeped out by the whole "boy mom" thing. So many times it turns into inappropriate relationships with their adult sons.
Thank you for being a normal parent
As a CIS ‘straight’-ARomantic woman in her 30s, I would find it concerning if a romantic partner couldn’t cook a meal several times a week … to be honest
It sucks when sons aren't taught any home duty skills and you have to teach them the basics they should've been taught as kids.
Understandable! My mom actually „forced“ me to cook when I couldn’t find a job after I had to quit college, and stayed at home the whole week. She‘d provide me with the necessary goods and a rough recipe. And I‘m eternally grateful for it.
I cook rarely though, because I prefer fresh food at lunch while working, and I can’t really be bothered with cooking for an hour for a meal that will be gone in 10min. But that’s being single for you. Things will change once my boyfriend and I move together. 😊
Fun fact: the second aromantic people pirate a game, they evolve to a YARRomantic
As a woman in my 30s who can't cook a meal several times a week... your concerns are valid. I definitely do not have my shit together lmao.
@@ilfoxyy as someone on the aro spectrum I will now be calling myself YARRomantic thank you
"Calls and texts will be monitored for quality assurance" = I refuse to give my son the privacy he needs as a human being.
One thing to note about dressing baby boys is that some strangers get _weird_ about it - My mother kept getting "he's too pretty to be a boy," apparently, when she corrected 'isn't she beautiful' (I mean, to be fair, the strangers were right that I wasn't a boy, but that's besides the point)
12:40 - Oh my god can someone please teach allocishets the split attraction model so they'll stop conflating the romantic and sexual attractions their children might feel to their future partners if they have any with the familial love shared between parent and child. Your child is not going to love their future partner(s) more than you, they'll experience a different type of love towards those partners. Different is not More.
...Don't we all hope for a future with a frog in our pocket, Jamie?
Agreed
Okay, the time stamped point: THISSSS^^^
I say Cardcaptor Sakura had a massive impact on my life, and one of the things I will forever thank the series for was exactly this. Knowing, and understanding there are different kinds of love.
Partial spoilers for the series for those who care?
There's a scene at the end of one of the early episodes (like 12 or 13 think?) Where Tomoyo tells Sakura she loves her and Sakura says "I love too." Iirc, theres supposed to be a thought dialogue where Tomoyo says "I think our definitions of love are different." (If its there, its only in the sub because EVERY dub is homophobic.) There's also the throughline of this later where Tomoyo is giving advice to Syaoran on how to manage his crush on Sakura. Something about how "even if the feelings arent returned, you want them to be happy." (He also kind of picks up that Tomoyo likes Sakura but isn’t going to fight him over it.)
In the Sakura Card arc, almost half of an episode is about Sakura deciding to confess to Yukito how she feels. His first response is to ask her to relate her feelings for him to those of her dad or brother. She tells him they're pretty similar. Then he tells her that he has feelings for someone else. Later on she admits to Syaoran that she lied, but his rejection still hurt, but she wanted him to be happy. (In a seperate scene yukito also admits he could tell she was hurt.)
Then close to the end of the series Eriol and Syaoran are moving away pretty close to each other, but Eriol leaves first. Sakura says she's sad to see him go, but she isn't tearful. Eriol tells her to remember that when someone else close to her tells her they're leaving.
-- So Syaoran tells her he's leaving and she runs home in tears and says she doesn't know how to describe that pain.
"Less drama than girls but harder to keep alive."
What the fuck are you doing with your kids to make that true? "I don't agree with my daughter, we have a lot of arguments, but I let my son do whatever he wants to the extent that he risks his life"?
that's probably what they're doing, yes
Also, objectively untrue.
I had to talk my daughter out of repeatedly jumping (head first) from chair to couch this morning.
It's only a 2 ft gap, but she's 5, and she was insisting she just had to jump head first 🤦🏼♀️
ok, favouritsm shown. so sad to see that happens unfortunately
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My mom wanted a boy, had a girl (me) instead. She wanted a boy because she wanted someone to watch sports with & she thought a boy would be less worry. I ended up being a huge nerd & liking video games, reading, & D&D.
She tried getting me to like sports & other "boy" stuff. Some of it I liked & still do to this day but I never got into sports.
When my sister was pregnant with her first kid, my mom was so happy when she found out it was a boy because then she could finally have a boy to pass on her love of sports to. When my sister had a second boy a little over a year later, my mom was happy because it was another boy she could bond with over sports.
Both my nephews are over 18 now, they were never interested in sports, & ended up liking the same things I do.
I like to think of it as a bit of karmic justice that they ended up not liking sports because my mom tried so hard to push me, then my sister, then my nephews to like them.
As a young girl, I was always fidgety and loud and loved all the things my dad did, my mom always tried to make me be normal and like everything girls were supposed to, which is quite hypocritical when she always told me to be myself and was the handy person of the house herself
All those “teaching my son to cook…” ones, I’m just picturing:
Mum: teaches son to cook so he won’t date a woman who can’t
Son: loves to cook and dates a woman who can’t cook to save her life because he loves her and he enjoys cooking for her
Honestly? The 12:50 one is actually kinda sweet. Because I imagine when your kid grows up and stops needing you as much, it DOES hurt a little. So taking solace in the fact that he's found someone who makes him feel complete and accepting that partner because at the end of the day, you both want him to be happy? That's wholesome as heck
Also, not demanding your kid puts you above their partner avoids so much toxic MIL behavior.
my thought too. Yes they are sad when the kid gets independent and moves on but that is ok, change can hurt. But in the same time, seeing your kid sucseeding in live, being able to live alone or with a partner tells you you done it right. And thats nice isnt it?
the post is basicly saying its ok to be hurt and sad but that shouldnt stop you from letting him go.
Someone asked my mother if it was easier raising boys or girls (me and 4 brothers, she didn't really raise my sister who lived with her dad). She told them that she didn't know because I wasn't normal. 1. Rude. 2. She thought normal was sneaking out at night to go hang around with boys and doing poorly in school because idk boy crazy?
Plus she didn't have 4 girls so not even remotely able to compare & contrast
@elaexplorer: So, you failed to live up to your own mother’s low expectations! Good for you! Sorry your mother was a nightmare. Hope you are happy and content with your life. Stay well!
As the mother of a male child I laughed my butt off.
Those ladies are crazy 🤣
Some people deal with insecurities by having kids, evidently.
I imagine the appeal is the whole 'oh my baby won't judge me, they'll stay with me all the time and think the world of me because I'm their mom'
Which isn't INACCURATE (if you're a good mom).... but only till like the age of like 5. Then you're dealing with an actual mini person who will grow up to be a big person with their own thoughts and emotions and priorities beyond them.
I feel like people always forget that second part
yeah, that’s how my mom did it. i don’t talk to her anymore.
My aunt has three sons. She once openly admitted to sneaking into their rooms to smell their socks and/or feet. She said it helped her feel closer to them. Worst bit? I seemed to be the only one disturbed by it.
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Thats scary, wtf
Jamie being traumatised for 13 mins and 56 seconds
The drama thing (turns head and spits). I define drama as emotional reactions people don't wish to deal with (and often cause). Girl emotions are not drama, they are valid. His emotions are also valid and should be allowed to happen. We should all be allowed to feel emotions without fear of shaming and taught to handle them safely.
The one you read at 6:31💀
Herero rights- “The homosexuals are sexualizing our children!!”
*Proceeds to make this post*
When I got my dog I realized that I could say “don’t talk to me or my son ever again” and that’s all I have to add to this topic 😂
Waiting to see a documentary where it’s Jamie alternating between enunciating ‘Mom’ and ‘Mum’.
My oldest discovered Dr. Who at the grand old age of 6, followed very quickly by classic Marple and Poirot. I have been Mum ever since. It would be weird if my kids called me mom now.
I saw a wholesome version of the "teaching my son to cook" which said "Teaching my son too cook, so he can share the load with his future partner." More of this, please!
The most concerning ones to me are the ones where they literally state their son is supposed to fulfil the emotional needs their husband doesn’t. I’m expecting a boy in the next few weeks and my wish for him is to take after his dad, because his dad is a great person and that’s why I married him and am having his child.
EVERYONE HE HAS POSTED!!
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@@sashamacritchie2427agreed.
Yay also I love your username
As a Mother of a boy I really don’t understand “boy mom” at all
Watching him grow, learn, explore and become a empathetic person is incredible and has nothing to do with his gender
Reminds me of the disgusting "autism mom" trend. It's never about the child or their needs or desires, it's always about the mom and what they like and want
as someone with autism, I'm *_so_* glad my parents didn't raise me like that
Toxic Boy Mums have always existed but I’m intrigued by the discourse surrounding it.
I dunno if there's a topic for it but I guess my mom was a girl mom
She had 2 'daughters' my older sister (cis) and me (agender). I was raised to sit and act like a lady. Forced into dresses. Encouraged to wear heels, makeup, jewelry, hair accessories, nail polish, long fake nails, long hair, play with baby dolls, and easy bake oven and barbies. Watch shows tailored to girls like My Little Pony and Sailor Moon.
I did all those things plus fake tattoos, wrestling, video games, getting dirty, being loud and wild, dinosaurs, and Power Rangers. I love snakes, mice, rats, etc. while girls at school freaked out over them. My sister had a pet snake too, so I could never understand girls freaking out over them.
As I got older I wore dresses only to church or weddings etc. I was labeled a tomboy. My friends saw me as one of the boys. But I was still mostly labeled and treated as a girl. It made me uncomfortable at times, but I wasn't sure why. As I hit puberty, I didn't want to wear bras. I was uncomfortable undressing in front of girls in a girl's locker room. I started realizing I didn't fit in with other girls, and even though I fit in more with boys, I wasn't a boy.
As I grew up exploring who I am, I kept some interests while others were phases from me trying to be like my mom and sister. I quit stuff that wasn't me and started enjoying stuff that was me. I quit seeing it as "This is for girls and this is for boys" and started seeing it as "If I like it I like it"
I've lost people after coming out as agender, pan angled aroace ... but I'm happier
Of all the times I have watched Jamie dive into some strange reddit, this is the only time when I genuinely think "these people need Jesus" or at least need some kind of social services called on them.
I have a strange feeling most of these women have quite a lot of Jesus in their lives... what they really need is therapy.
@@suchnothing Yes I did get that feeling too and that's why I added the social services bit 🤣 On the subject of Jesus, isn't he the ultimate boymom son?
@@akym82810 💀🙏
🤮 so many issues. One of the main things (and I see it alot as a mother of a girl too) is sexualising babies/kids. All the hide your daughters, don't want them to be impressed by your daughters, rules to treat my son, baby ladykiller (similar to the dad with shotgun trope) stuff is not only pushing heteronormativity, but sexualises littles.
And I completely agree, I think we should focus on raising kids instead of boys and girls.
The weirdest thing I found when I got pregnant with my boy is how many people thought it was then okay to crap on girls and tell me how much better it is being a boy mum. These people know that I already have a girl and I find it really odd how even the ones who have girls seem to push for this extra special bond between their boy. I love my baby boy but I can’t say that my love is any different to my love for my daughter?
Almost everyone has told me that having a boy is “just different” or “such a special bond”.
I don’t know if it’s just be I don’t place a big weight on gender but it sounds icky and strange to me? Especially the way it seems to put the girls down 🤷♀️
girldad vs boymom is a crazy fight you gotta see it im telling you
and they're the worst things to exist.
All this stuff about presumed antagonism towards their sons' future partners... do they even see their kids and family as people? It just feels like they're placing themselves and their kids and potential future in-laws into roles based on outdated sitcom tropes. "Oh I have to be the Overbearing Mother which means this girl I've never met is my ENEMY." And it's like. You're basing your whole identity around your ability to parent your son but you still expect he's going to choose the worst person in the world to date? :/
You know, that intro just got me thinking about how I call my birth mother "mom" and my spouse's mother "mum" that way I can talk to others without having to say "my mother" and "their mother"
>no drama
>be a lady
I feel like most of "very ladylike" women will also be drama queens
True. I'm agender AFAB and was never ladylike. And every lady I know is full of drama and gossip. It's why I'm attracted to tomboys (when it comes to dating women)
Very thankful for my lovely mummy in law who was never horrible to me and taught her son well ❤
That's awesome. I'm single, but my best friend's MIL super loves her sons and loves her daughters in law just as much. I recently found out that because my friend loves Hallmark christmas movies, her MIL records all the new ones that come out in December and holds off watching them until they go visit for Christmas so she and my friend can watch them all together. It's so freaking adorable. I can't imagine being immediately hostile to your son's partner when you could be building a beautiful new friendship like that.
We cant keep proving freud right
I find it weird that people seem to assume that boy will be rowdy, making a mess, ... and girls will be well behaved, tidy, ...
My brother is 2 years older than me, my mum always told me I'm the one who taught him to disobey, I taught him how to climb trees (we weren't allowed, but it seemed like fun to me XD ), ... I also fought with my mum for equality (she had been raised by her grand mother, so she was pretty old fashioned: girls should do household chores, cook,... but never asked my brother to do so. So I fought and said I wouldn't do any of that until he has to do it too. How did it end? He's 40 and still brings his laundry to her and he eats at my parents every day. I live in another country XD )
Every child, every human is different, adapt!
😂same here my brother and I laugh because we both remember how I was disciplined a lot more than my brother because I was stubborn. My mom was so shocked and baffled that she had a harder time running after me and picking me out of the mud pit😂
This is just odd. I have sons, and I've never done this. My kids are individuals and have always been treated as the individuals they are. My kids are a joy and its been a privilege to see them grow into amazing humans ❤
Phobes: The GAyS aNd TrANS are OBSesSEd with gEniTals
Also phobes: 5:48
The number one comment I got when I waited until birth to find out the sex of my babies was “oh I could NEVER! I’m too much of a planner!” A) what plans are you making that have to do with their genitals? Aside from whether or not you’ll circumcise, that’s literally the only one I could think of, and I planned for that. B) Bold of you to insinuate my type-A anxious ass isn’t planning. Do you want to see my stack of books, blog posts, medical articles? Do you want to hear my 7 year plan for handling car seats as recommended? Can I tell you about how I took birthing classes for FOUR MONTHS and hired a doula so I could have the best chance of success with the birth plan I researched and planned for? Do you want to know how I have researched absolutely every item sold for baby proofing and compared their ratings for effectiveness? Miss me with that “I’m too much of a planner” bs you just want to decorate and buy as much gendered stuff as possible.
Hi Jamie, I started watching you off and on about three years ago. I was 15, and I was starting to explore my gender. I found out I was a trans guy soon after, and watching your older videos of you journey and experiences have helped educate me so much on transitioning. I’m now almost 18, and I’m two years on testosterone, and I’m waiting for a call from the doctor to schedule my top surgery! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experience on these things, and also being entertaining while doing it, it’s helped a lot with dysphoria and feeling alone for me. So thank u ^^
That is awesome! Congratulations and I hope your surgery goes well! 🩵🩷
how to make someone who says "whatever you do to them, i will do to you" go bankrupt within a day
step 1: give your partner money
step 2: parent gives you money
step 3: partner gives you your money back
step 4: repeat the previous three steps until the parent is broke
C:
Me *joins one of these groups and talks about how my son is always pushing his sisters and falling off of stuff. Talks about his big eyes and adorable face. One day finally posts a picture of him...*
My son is a hermit crab.
I actually thought that long text was quite wholesome. It applies to any parent letting go of a child, regardless of sex, but in this case it feels especially important with how many posessive boy moms we saw. This one was the complete opposite.
Except you dont actually have to "let go". They're dating not dying. Them having a partner doesn't mean they "love her more" than theor mom as those are two VERY DIFFERENT types of love. Not all love is romantic and it reeks of someone that can't understand that.
@@insertianameia2224FR, Its creepy, i dont want my parents to write something like that about me and my boyfriend, im glad they arnt possesive like that, i hope.. istg if it happens ill get upset
5:42 Oedipus just entered the chat
5:54 Freud ready with a notepad
Boymom - Girlmom either variant is hyperfocused on the extremes of the stereotypes. Scary, scary people.
Boy Mom VS Overprotective Dad! I wanna see that fight, I don't care who wins as long as they hurt each other. Or learn the error of their ways, the outcome is allowed to be wholesome. I'm not a monster!!
My brother is the golden child of the family. Yet he bearly hold onto a job and drinks while driving. I am a trans man who is in college and looking for a good job, living on their own, function. Yet she wont see me as her son.🙄 she eother wants me to be a stay at home "mom" like her or thinks my tran means i cant have a family. One of my life goals is to be a seahorse dad and she Wont be involved. She admitted that she never wanted daughters and that boys are superior to girls.
Ugh, I'm sorry you've had to put up with nonsensical shite like that. I suppose at least you now have a sterling example of how not to parent. Hang in there, dude; I hope you get your wish.
@@BlueTressym Thank you and absolutely I have learned how not to treat my kids.
How about we don't assign kids genders and just wait for them to decide which they want to be...
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Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are!
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oh boy, Freud whould've loved this subreddit
Jamie's vids never cease to make me smile
His disdain for some of these adages were a delight!
As a boy, I do hope for a future with a frog in my pocket
As a trans boy, I also do hope for a future with a frog in my pocket
Also, the internalised misogyny and "pick me" energy is... wow.
That's so sad. I have 2 kids and them being still very young they often say that they want to live with me forever, or they want to marry me (because you get married to someone you love). I always say that one day they will love someone else, someone who isn't part of our family, so much they'd want to marry them.
It's not "cute" or "fierce" to be so possessive of your child that you expect to be forever the most important person in their life. Ironically, people who are like that usually end up with adult children who are incapable of looking after themselves and always running back to mummy to fix life for them or they shut their inappropriate possessive parents out of their lives.
The goal should be to raise well adjusted adults who can take responsibility for their actions and to have a good honest relationship with them. Is that asking too much?
As the mum of a boy, I cannot distance myself far enough away from these weirdos.
I don't know what the reverse of an Oedipus complex is,but there's a lot of it about, apparently
Jocasta complex.... It's a Jocasta complex... I shouldn't have looked it up....
@@dark7859 your noble sacrifice for the cause has not gone unnoticed!
a frog in its pocket....
I am very confused
Hate to break it to you, but women breastfeeding older kids is a REAL THING! I went to one La Leche League meeting & was SHOCKED! One kid, who was being breastfed, was so long his legs overshot his mom's by more than a foot. I totally believe in breastfeeding. I'm convinced my son's healthier because of it. BUT doing it with a kid that's learning to read is freaking weird!
Daily reminder: Gender-affirming care does not involve surgeries for people in their early teens or younger.
...... but there is evidence that children put on puberty blockers are then on a "pathway" with Tavistock's own figures showing that 98% of children put on blockers go on to take cross sex hormones.
@@user-jf3lo6ss2i Yes, that's the point; possibly trans kids go on the puberty blockers, then when those run out, if they still think they're trans, they go on to do HRT. Also, some most definitely cis kids need puberty blockers for entirely unrelated reasons to possibly being trans, most often precocious puberty.
@@commscan314 ....but equally we know that the vast majority, about 98% of children, experiencing gender incongruence who take the talking therapy and "watchful waiting" approach will grow out of their gender dysphoria if they are allowed to go through puberty. It's not HRT, it is cross sex hormones, HRT is something given to women who naturally produce a hormone which becomes depleted due to either surgery or menopause. Children with precocious puberty will eventually go through their natural puberty, it is just delayed because for some medical reason they start puberty too young. Children who are given puberty blockers and then cross sex hormones never go through the natural puberty for their natal sex. You only need to see what happened to Jazz Jennings to realise that there is much more to going through your own puberty than just reaching sexual maturity, ironically something that Jazz Jennings will never reach.
@@user-jf3lo6ss2i Cite a source, on your purported desistance rates.
I have two sons and they're amazing! They're adults now, but my youngest was obsessed with Dora the Explorer and I got him so much Dora stuff, then my little pony. They both had dolls and learned to cook early on. They had the toys they liked, trucks, dolls, played with my makeup, They weren't gender specific. They both identify a male still, but if that ever changes, I still love them. My youngest is bi and poly and I adore his partners. My eldest has no preferences at this time. Also, they both send their love.
I love Luxeria’s content! The only problem I have with her (and Roly) is the truly shocking amount of times I now just yell GOUT about anything and everything 😂
Growing up with “Boy Moms” has me terrified of having a boy. I thought this behavior was contagious and once I have a boy I would turn into these monsters lol. The way girls were treated has me permanently traumatized lol. I was living in maid for my younger years just because I was a girl.Even my stepbrothers got treated better than me..😅
Cooking is probably one of the most useful skills in life. I feel like parents should teach their kids to cook both regardless of gender, sexuality or some other weird thing that assumes someone will be less or whatever.
I learned how to cook and bake basic things as a kid and really enjoyed it. When I grew up I got to experience experimenting with recipes, making recipes from scratch and finally combining ingredients I didn't know went well together when in a tough financial situation.
Cooking should never be taught as a "this is to impress others" or "this should make the future partner feel less"
Cooking should be taught as an important life/survival skill.
I've gone to food banks and told people simple recipes I came up with from things I got. Even talked to a guy who didn't know how to use spices.
I usually just feel bad for people who can't cook or don't know how. It doesn't make them less but can cause them to struggle more since, for one, pre prepared meals tend to be more expensive and less nutritious, and two, when in a difficult situation financially they'll struggle to find why they like.
Jamie video a day before my birthday? Hell yeah!
yoo happy early birthday!!
@@whitelilyswifeThanks
Happy early birthday!
@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378 Thank you!
Happy birthday
My mother is a boy mom. She’s said she’s only wanted boys and has more than a few bits of merchandise that talk about raising boys.
It’s a shame that I think I might be a transgirl, wonder how she’s gonna react.
@@trevorchester4439 why do you need to know?
@@trevorchester4439 I’m not a minor, and Jaime is a he
My aunt has two boys. They’re ten and six. I’m an eighteen year old enby and my aunt calls me her “practice child”. She treats her kids the same way she treated me when I was their ages. They have the same rules as the girls in their neighborhood do. She’s a normal mom with boys
Mamma's boy women give off that same ick vibe as Daddy's little girl men do. Some people have no business becoming parents. Any psycho can have a child, but you have to pass tests and get a license to drive a car.
Mother's, setting their sons up for failure in a relationship. That was very uncomfortable. Thanks, but I'd pass on part two.
I am the mother of 2 boys. I will never call myself a boymom because of these people
I remember coming out, and my mother and father were so quick to be like "yeah, we'll parent you differently! We'll parent you like a boy now!" Turns out, they just got meaner.
It is called a Jocasta Complex. basically the reverse of an Oedipus complex because the emotional in(zest) is strong with these kinds of mothers. Freud would have loved these kinds of women. I call them Boy Moms when the sons are still children then when the sons get into adulthood the women become what I call mom wives. And you can guess why.
I wanna see a fight between a boymom and a girldad, theyre directly in opposition and i wanna see what goes down XD
Girl dad has been blowing up my Instagram lately. 🙄 I have so many stories about how other people treat my kids’ different cause of their sex but my kids don’t like that. Both of my kids like dresses, unicorns, monsters and super heroes. My own family didn’t recognize pictures I sent of my son because he had his hair styled in pigtails. I really hope my kids continue to feel like they have the freedom to be who they want, and like what they like.
One time when I was working at the library during summer reading club, I was manning the reference desk where we had a little set up people could come to to sign up for the club. For the kids, we had coloured pieces of paper with calendars on them to keep track of when they read. They were in a rainbow of colors, and when two kids and their mom came in, the son picked out a pink one. She scolded him for picking pink and told him he could only pick a boy’s color, blue or yellow. It was a paper calendar???
13:30 I want a frog in my pocket
Me too
As a mum to boys. I was always worried about having girls because I not the best with makeup and things. It’s a weird thing to be worried about I know. All I care about is are they happy, that they are healthy, they treat others with respect and they surround themselves with people who respect them back. Which is really something I’d want if I had girls as well.
I legit started watching hair videos to figure out what to do with my son's long curls...