PART ONE : Fundamental Techniques in Handling People (0:14:42) Chapter 1: “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive” (0:44:33) Chapter 2: The Big Secret of Dealing with People (1:11:25) Chapter 3: “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Way” PART TWO : Six Ways to Make People Like You (1:45:52) Chapter 1: Do This and You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere (2:10:31) Chapter 2: A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression (2:25:26) Chapter 3: If You Don’t Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble (2:42:17) Chapter 4: An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist (3:00:28) Chapter 5: How to Interest People (3:08:37) Chapter 6: How to Make People Like You Instantly PART THREE : How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking (3:32:45) Chapter 1: You Can’t Win an Argument (3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It (4:08:43) Chapter 3: If You’re Wrong, Admit It (4:24:08) Chapter 4: A Drop of Honey (4:41:13) Chapter 5: The Secret of Socrates (4:52:20) Chapter 6: The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints (5:01:48) Chapter 7: How to Get Cooperation (5:12:19) Chapter 8: A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You (5:22:35) Chapter 9: What Everybody Wants (5:37:36) Chapter 10: An Appeal That Everybody Likes (5:47:22) Chapter 11: The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don’t You Do It? (5:55:20) Chapter 12: When Nothing Else Works, Try This PART FOUR : Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment (6:02:43) Chapter 1: If You Must Find Fault, This Is the Way to Begin (6:13:40) Chapter 2: How to Criticize and Not Be Hated for It (6:21:04) Chapter 3: Talk About Your Own Mistakes First (6:29:50) Chapter 4: No One Likes to Take Orders (6:33:57) Chapter 5: Let the Other Person Save Face (6:40:24) Chapter 6: How to Spur People On to Success (6:50:19) Chapter 7: Give a Dog a Good Name (6:58:28) Chapter 8: Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct (::) Chapter 9: Making People Glad to Do What You Want
*Principles* : 1. Don't criticize, condemn, or complain. 2. Give honest and sincere appreciation. 3. Arouse in the other person an eager want. 4. Become genuinely interested in other people. 5. Smile. 6. Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest sound in any language. 7. Be a good listener. 8. Talk in terms of the other person's interests. 9. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely. 10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. 11. Show respect for the other person's opinions. 12. Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs. 13. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. 14. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. 15. Appeal to the nobler motives. 16. Dramatize your ideas. 17. Throw down a challenge. 18. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. 19. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. 20. Talk about your mistakes before criticizing the other person.
Iv read this book over 20 times, Every time I do people love me but as time goes on I revert back to my normal selfish uncaring self, (by my standard) others think Im fine. You have to constantly refresh and practice these skills to be successful in human relations. Iv read hundreds of other self help books and this is the only one needed for success. This book will do wonders for you, keep learning.
I'm not even halfway listening to this audiobook and I've restored an old broken friendship, solved misunderstanding with other friends. I'm really convinced wisdom is truly profitable in all we do and say.
when I first read this book, I did exactly what Dale said not to do: I acted insincere, gave fake input, and flattered people. I thought I was being "genuine," but I didn't realize I was just desperate to improve my social life; I got short-sighted and ended up being a people-pleaser. I now realize that there is a huge difference between faking it and being genuine. and I also now realize I don't have to compliment everyone I see or be interested in every single person I meet. the stuff he said only worked for me after I started keeping it real with myself and the people around me.
Teachers, bosses, parents and everyone should have training in this book. I love how he mentioned that dogs are taught through reward yet some of us humans are taught by being traumatized. Excellent book!
🗣️WE GETTING OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY WITH THIS ONE 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Edit: 24 years old and its getting to the point im starting to hate myself for not being able to connect with others so i hit the gym and now ive found this book and its fucking heat oml😅
@@luistirado88 nah bruh I was told in school back when I was a kid but this is the first time I went and took the advice, Coming up on 2 weeks soon so far so good, I feel more lighter and energized in the mornings even without eating breakfast yet and just overall more clear and focused. When I was a *"viewer"* 😂 you wake up that next day all zombified and weak bro frfr. Also legit moved into a new apartment like less than 3 days now so the fact I don't have my PC and stuff rn where I'm at is an overall plus.
I read this book 20 some years ago and it changed my life...from an average guy became a better man. The art of this book is to re-read few times a year otherwise you will forget some of it.
I have fears.. came from being brave, strong, sometimes almost caused me a death and i Dont feel victorious, I feel overwhelmed by it all, my amygdala is fooked and I can't just take that out and put it down believe me I've asked for it be removed. And when people say forget it and move forward be brave it hurts me because I am brave strong and its that what hurt me amygdala.
Let me share what happened. Prior to diving into this audiobook, I struggled to convince my landlord to renew my lease without a rent increase, leading me to consider leaving. With just a month and a half to find a new place, I recalled some key advice from the book, particularly emphasizing sincere praise and appreciation for others. I took this to heart and penned an email to the management, expressing genuine gratitude for their efforts to enhance the apartment’s quality of life and my desire to remain involved. The outcome? I successfully renewed my lease at the same rate.
3:31 in a nutshell, six ways to make people like you 1: Become interested in other people 2: smile: 3: Remember other people's names 4 become a good listener 5: talk in terms of other people's interests. 6: Make the other person important and do it sincerely.
Remembering people names after youve just been introduced I find it such a difficult thing to do, Is there anyone else who has this problem and if so how to overcome it Thank you
@@ctf1537 What I do when I talk to someone is I save his or her name in my phone notes after the meeting. When I go home, I check my notes and I remember their face in my mind. This is how I do it
@@ctf1537 repeat the name in your head a couple times, then ask them how do you spell it and/or how to properly pronounce it even if you know how to do it. this will show them that you interested in them, and their name will get stuck in your head. hope it helps :)). sorry for the bad english lol
A wonderful book for those that want to not only be an effective communicator, but to overall be a better person to those around them. It's always a good thing to revisit often.
45:36 - desire to be important 46:00 - 46:47 - the deepest principle 54:41 - insane 56:07 - appreciation 56:55 - communication skill 57:58 - the greatest asset 1:01:08-1:02:07 - 6 things (Power Of Appreciation)
The synopsis to me is: Be cool. Let the customer keep the advantage. Learn it's not what you say, but how you say it. And when all else fails, calmer heads always prevail. Thank you for the upload.
I feel like if everyone in the world were to take this course, the world would be such a better place. I’m a fan of how he references the beauty and importance of Christs teachings as well. I feel so grateful and humbled to stumble upon this today.
Christ is a fictional character based partly on the Hindu story of Krishna which was invented around 1000 years earlier than the Christ story. There are some "beyond-coincidence" themes in the Bible which were clearly copied from the original Hindu story. To name a quick one.. Krishna had to hide from an evil ruler during his childhood who wanted to extinguish all new born males. 1000 years later the same theme is copied in the Christ story. It's very likely why their names are so similar too. Krishna/Christ. I could list some more connections but you may not be particularly interested so I'll pause there.
@@Gorguruga Christ is not a fictional character and I used to believe what you believed when I was a practicing Hindu. That is until I did very real, thorough research into Christ, when I tried to prove he was a fictional character. I learned the very embarrassing way, what I believed was wrong and based on flawed theories. Not only was he was very much a real person who walked the earth, he was one of the most well documented people of all time, by both his followers, Christians, Jews, Romans and non religious people who witnessed his sermons/miracles. As well as his death, and 500+ people who witnessed him after his death. There are even atheist scholars who can attest to his existence. He was even counted during the Roman Census the year he was born in Bethlehem. I encourage you to try and disprove his existence as well, with actual sound research, (not Wikipedia) you’ll be proven wrong as well. That’s one thing most historical scholars can agree on, the man actually existed and many people witnessed his miracles. They jury is out on whether he “actually” performed them (according to historians and scholars), but he was witnessed by thousands and the people that saw his miracles genuinely believed what they were seeing, but he is undeniable. As well as the movement he started which literally never would have existed if he was a fictional character. Christ was revealed to me when I tried to disprove him. Through all my years of mediation and prayer to source, Brahma, Vishnu, shiva, and the many other dirties that I felt a connection too, I never once experienced God. I experienced peace, sure, fleeting moments of ecstasy during meditation sure. I never experienced Gods presence until I experienced Christ. It was the greatest high and most tangible experience of my life. I converted immediately.
@@shannonm2005 Interesting thoughts . Over the years I've researched several religions including Christianity. I've come to conclusion that Christ is a fictional character. There is no record of him on the Roman census as those records do not exist from that time period. While you advised me to search sources other than Wikipedia, I'd advise you to search sources other than those with an inherent Christian bias at their core (like the Bible itself). Those sources will invariably reinforce the misinformation that Christ was a real person. You seemed to overlook my original point about a very specific theme in the Krishna story where an evil ruler wanted to extinguish all new born males in an attempt to get to Krishna. This was copied in the Christ story 1000 years later. Wouldn't you agree that it's beyond coincidence to have such a specific story in one religion replicated in this manner in a later religion? There are other themes too which I can share with you. As far as your experiencing a Christ's presence through prayer, I'd tend to think that this may have been due to certain social reinforcements which you experienced in your life. Although I don't know your background, from personal experience growing up in the Western world, I often saw many references to Christianity, whether it was in movies, on TV, even at school, and especially during Easter and Christmas. It was inescapable. Perhaps this was somewhat similar to your own experience and why you felt such an affinity with the religion and this particular god character, since you often saw societal reinforcements, there was a degree of subliminal mental programming.
I feel like my boss lives by this principle. I’ve always wondered how he’s so charming and liked despite doing mediocre, rushed work. But he really takes an interest in his patients and gives them genuine attention. He never gets mad and always listens.
He gets over with his personality. Yeah his work is 5/10 at best and sometimes may even be sloppy. So to bypass the the work performance reviews. His personality is 10/10
I first read this book in my 20s. I am now 58 years old. Having read this book and others, has had a great impact on my life and the life of others. It’s an awesome book and will make you a better you.
Reading it for the first time at 16. 1 hr in: the concepts are pretty good but some of the references are outdated and old fashioned. Other than that it’s good
As a 15year old from Austria 🇦🇹. This book really helps me level Up my social skills and learn English. My Life is pretty boring and lonely so i might aswell learn Things ! Bookmark 29:47
@@himanshuop8 and yeah agree it’s not for all, nor is it tbh necessary listening for all? I love Alan watts; actualized clips needs a warning as Alex already said yeah, tbh I didn’t love actualized clips too much they’re kinda not what I want right now. I think especially if you’re young, these are soo not the things you should be consuming rn at all. Rn is the time for growth and doing stuff 🤷♀️ So yeah I agree with you that they don’t necessarily have to be recommended
Thanks for writing this book DALE! I’m 27 and a newer mom I’ve been developing social anxiety recently and struggle to connect. Thanks to this book and understanding more how people tick and the fact that deep down we all have the same desires and fears is so comforting.
Grandma gave me this book when I was 15. Didn't even open it. I'm 29 and just listened to the whole thing in 1 sitting. I should have read this, my life would have been so much better. There were immediate results as I was hearing it and has definitely changed my perspective on things
My husband has been telling me I need to listen to this book. Finally started listening to it and I don't regret it! I'm only at 1 hour and 15 minutes, but I have already learned so much!
Notes - Part 4: Be a Leader 1. begin with praise and honest appreciation. 2. call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. 3. talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. 4. ask questions instead of giving direct orders. 5. let the other person save face. 6. praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. be hearty in your appreciation and lavish in your praise. 7. give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. 8. use encouragement. make the fault seem easy to correct. 9. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
I used to be a really shy kid when I read this book over 15 years ago. The first self-help book I read and changed my life completely! A timeless treasure!
I've hurt a lot of my friends in just a few years I've done a lot of dumb stuff too I asked my business teacher (one of my family's better friends) for any help He told me to split this book into 7 days of listening to it, so that's what I'm going to do, I'm always looking for self improvement and to be a better person, no matter how good I may be at the moment
@@oldboy1955 been quite a while… I’d say I’m in an alright position in life. Cant say it did too much mostly because of the work field I’m currently in. Life is good though.
My dad read this to me when I was 14. Then we discussed it and I'd practiced the suggestions for a while then as time went by I needed to read it again. I was in my late 30s, I remembered much of it for years, but on reading it today I realized how much I'd slipped into less effective methods.
Techniques in Handling People Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Arouse in the other person an eager want. Six ways to Make People Like You 1)Become genuinely interested in other people. 2)Smile. 3)Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. 4)Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 5)Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. 6)Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. Win People to Your Way of Thinking 1)The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. 2)Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.” 3)If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4)Begin in a friendly way. 5)Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately. 6)Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. 7)Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. 8)Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. 9)Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. 10)Appeal to the nobler motives. 11)Dramatize your ideas. 12Throw down a challenge. Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment 1)Begin with praise and honest appreciation. 2)Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. 3)Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. 4)Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. 5)Let the other person save face. 6)Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” 7)Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. 8)Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. 9)Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
1. Don't criticize 2. Do genuine and honest appreciation 3. Give them what they want/ make them eager to do what you want by giving them what they want ## How do make people like you? 1. become genuinely interested in people 2. Smile 3. remember people's names ( full name or first real name at least) { it's the most lovely thing to any person } 4. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves. 5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest. 6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely. ## How to win people in your way of thinking? 1. The only way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it. ( think about the reaction you are going to make and guess what impact will it have, will the person will come closer to will go far ) 2. Show respect for other person opinions and never say you are wrong! 3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically 4. Begin in a friendly way 5. Get the person saying yes, yes.. immediately 6. Let the other person have a great deal at the talking 7. Let the other person feel that the idea is their 8. Try honestly to see things from another person point of view 9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires 10. Appeal to the nobler motives. 11. Dramatize your ideas 12. Throwdown a challenge ( Make them like their work or enjoy it through a challenge) ## Be a leader 1. Begin with a phrase and honest appreciation 2. Call attention to peoples mistakes indirectly 3. talk about your own mistake before criticizing the other 4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders 5. Let the other person save face 6. phrase the slightest improvement and phrase every improvement ( be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your phrase) 7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to 8. Use encouragement, make the fault look easy to correct 9. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
This book made my life easier, my social skills are better. the author is giving us Gold! and I feel like people around me should read this book it's a pity otherwise really.
@@souelmokuel6755 not really because I'm quite satisfied with this one but if you're looking for a good book to read then try 'rich dad poor dad' or 'richest man in Babylon'
Try the subtle art of not giving a fxxx, although the name may seem crude, it is as good as this one and is also on CZcams. It focuses on yourself compared to this one.
I bought this book at a young age, read a third of it, and got distracted by life. Finally picking it up again for a thorough reading as an adult! Thank you!
Likewise it helped me early on. I’m returning to reapply these concepts and principles to my life. I’m not sure if I finished it. I still have it on my shelf.
The concepts of this book are priceless. As a door 2 door salesman, a brother, and a son. There is so much of this that I can apply in my life moving forward. Only 2 hours in and learned so much
In a culture that is thriving on toxicity in every manner possible by over exemplifying their out of control egos (their desperation to be right under & in all circumstances), this book teaches how to be the exact opposite - & how to deal with such people as they writhe for self-importance.
I dont read this book to make friends. At first i started i read becuse this is one of the most recommwnded book on must read. Now i read this book becuse i want to treat other People as i should treat them.. This book gives me insights on my own behavour and its makes me feel like i want to work on myself to be better. This book gives me good feela about my future, i feel like this is a mini start over and do it right, i also feel that i apreciate the ppl i love even more, also that life is to short for bad behavour. It fills my body with positivity and hope. I also feel very ashamed for things i have done and i feel so stupid about it. Even if its small stuff... becuse i can see now that negativity leads to mote negativity and vice versa. The smallest negative thought can cause a spiral and eventually it will lead me to bad temper, no patience and i see a bitter man.. so every negative thought should be dealt with.... Becuse this book isnt really about making friends, is it? Its about self development and self development makes u strong and strenght is attractive and attractivness leads to People liking u, and People liking you leads to more friends.. Making friends is just a consequence of good behavour.. Thats how i look at this book anyways.
This is amazing! There’s rich information in the internet, just be aware that not all of it is for you! But yes, this book will give useful information and parents do the best they with us but not necessarily what we need!
20 years old here from the US, and I am in college struggling to make friends because I am socially awkward and have social anxiety. I wish I knew about this book when I was your age. Good luck learning and improving your social skills. It will be the best asset you will ever have in your lifetime :)
This is a great book. 😃 If we unknowingly make the other person feel bad to show he is wrong, what do we really gain? The answer is nothing to me because we have made somebody feel bad.
5:20:00 to 5:23:00 “I would feel the same as you if I were in your shoes”. This statement gets ppl on your side (or they take down their walls and think you understand them better) and isn’t a lie given circumstances.
PART ONE Fundamental Techniques in Handling People (0:14:42) Principle 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain (0:44:33) Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation (1:11:25) Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want PART TWO Six Ways to Make People Like You (1:45:52) Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people (2:10:31) Principle 2: Smile (2:25:26) Principle 3: Remember names (2:42:17) Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves! (3:00:28) Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. (3:08:37) Principle 6: Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. PART THREE How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking (3:32:45) Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. (3:46:04) Principle 2: Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong.’ (4:08:43) Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. (4:24:08) Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way. (4:41:13) Principle 5: Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately. (4:52:20) Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. (5:01:48) Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. (5:12:19) Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. (5:22:35) Principle 9: Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. (5:37:36) Principle 10: Appeal to the nobler motives. (5:47:22) Principle 11: Dramatise your ideas (5:55:20) Principle 12: Throw down a challenge. PART FOUR Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment (6:02:43) Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation. (6:13:40) Principle 2: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. (6:21:04) Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person. (6:29:50) Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. (6:33:57) Principle 5: Let the other person save face. (6:40:24) Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be ‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.’ (6:50:19) Principle 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. (6:58:28) Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. (7:06:37) Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Fundamental techniques in handling people Principle 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain. (Criticism will only result in others trying to justify themselves and resentment.) Principle 2: Give honest and sincere (lavish) appreciation. (Praising people for what they do right is much more effective than critizing for what they do wrong.) Principle 3: Arouse in others eager want. (Understand, focus and talk about what they want, not what you want. People don't care about what you want, they are more focused on themselves. Try to see life from their point of view.) Ways to make people like you Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people. Principle 2: Smile. Principle 3: Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. (Make an effort to remember everyone's name and use it often. Do not be afraid to ask what their name if you don't understand it at first.) Bookmark 2:42:16
I really enjoy the voice of Andrew McMallin and how he reads this book. I have listened to the audiobook several times. The first time I listened was after a Rabbi suggested that I read the book when I was having trouble in my marriage. It was helpful bec the principles in this book really shift your thinking: it is not all about you, avoid criticism at all costs, pay exceeding attention to others....while I don’t apply these principles flawlessly, when I do, it is always a resounding success!
Hey screw you, you don't know me! Sorry I haven't listened to the book yet, so I'll get back to you when it's finished with hopefully a more refined and positive response
Was just about to get this on audible but then I said “nah there’s gotta be one on CZcams” and here I am now. Thank you very much for posting this friend. ❤
Storytelling format is easy to follow and not boring. Today I saw chicken George (Roots) using these skills to influence people during the conflicts of slavery.
If there is any one secret of success it lies in the ability to get the other persons point of view and see things from that persons angle as well as from your own.
I'm a people-lover, not a people-judger! I think the more you know, the stronger you become - and that's why I like to spread love and soak up knowledge about the world around me.
I've finished reading this book today! I hope I can live up to these principles and have better relationships with people around me. The most important thing I've learned from this book is to think things from the other's perspective. Thanks for uploading this audiobook.
Bookmark 4:22:36 2:59:00 3:15:00 little phrases 3:31:15 6 ways to make people like you summarized 1. Become genuinely interested 2. Smile 3. A persons name is the sweetest sound to them 4. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves 5. Talk in terms of the other persons interest 6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely Part 3 3:32:49 you can’t win an argument 3:43:00 tips for arguments 3:46:00 Ch2: a sure way of making enemies and how to avoid it
Omg “father forgets” 40:18 About criticizing your children made me cry like a baby with regret. Then I pray to God to help us be better parents and be patient not only with ourselves but with others and to teach this entire book with my children
To supplement Timothy's comment PART ONE : Fundamental Techniques in Handling People (0:14:42) Chapter 1: “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive” Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain (0:44:33) Chapter 2: The Big Secret of Dealing with People Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation (1:11:25) Chapter 3: “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Way” Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want PART TWO : Six Ways to Make People Like You (1:45:52) Chapter 1: Do This and You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people (2:10:31) Chapter 2: A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression Principle 2: Smile (2:25:26) Chapter 3: If You Don’t Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language (2:42:17) Chapter 4: An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist Principle 4: Be a good listener (3:00:28) Chapter 5: How to Interest People Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests (3:08:37) Chapter 6: How to Make People Like You Instantly Principle 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely PART THREE : How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking (3:32:45) Chapter 1: You Can’t Win an Argument Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it (3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It Principle 2: Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.” (4:08:43) Chapter 3: If You’re Wrong, Admit It Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically (4:24:08) Chapter 4: A Drop of Honey Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way (4:41:13) Chapter 5: The Secret of Socrates Principle 5: Get the other person saying, “yes, yes” immediately (4:52:20) Chapter 6: The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking (5:01:48) Chapter 7: How to Get Cooperation Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers (5:12:19) Chapter 8: A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view (5:22:35) Chapter 9: What Everybody Wants Principle 9: Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires (5:37:36) Chapter 10: An Appeal That Everybody Likes Principle 10: Appeal to the nobler motives (5:47:22) Chapter 11: The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don’t You Do It? Principle 11: Dramatize your ideas (5:55:20) Chapter 12: When Nothing Else Works, Try This Principle 12: Throw down a challenge PART FOUR : Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment (6:02:43) Chapter 1: If You Must Find Fault, This Is the Way to Begin Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation (6:13:40) Chapter 2: How to Criticize and Not Be Hated for It Principle 2: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly (6:21:04) Chapter 3: Talk About Your Own Mistakes First Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person (6:29:50) Chapter 4: No One Likes to Take Orders Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders (6:33:57) Chapter 5: Let the Other Person Save Face Principle 5: Let the other person save face (6:40:24) Chapter 6: How to Spur People On to Success Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” (6:50:19) Chapter 7: Give a Dog a Good Name Principle 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to (6:58:28) Chapter 8: Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct (::) Chapter 9: Making People Glad to Do What You Want Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
Thank you Bruno... Finally after two week of listening and going thought your comment made it possible to complete my 1sy audiobook. I would be thankful to you lifetime. Keep smiling and growing.
What a wonderful book! Using this to help others will be a treat. My hope is that you all get exactly what you need out of this book, and you are able to improve your lives as much as you need.
His voice makes it easier for me to want to know more about this book. Thank you! I have read so many good comments about this book so it’s exciting to start this book👀😂. Thank you once again for uploading this for free!
Part 2: How to get people to like you.: 1. Become genuinely interested in the person. Not fake. 2. Smile 3. Always remember their name. 4. Be a good listener. Encourage them to talk about themselves. 5. Talk about what they like and are interested in. 6. Make them feel important. But do it sincerely.
Animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. The same applies to humans.
Based on the disapproving comments I’ve read, people seem to think the book just advocates kissing up to people and being a pushover, proving they either didn’t finish it, didn’t listen to it, or are so attached to being right and wanting to dominate others that they can’t conceive of someone giving praise or being diplomatic without thinking of it as a weakness
Thank you for uploading it on CZcams. It gave priceless information about how to deal with people and how to deal with myself. I also love the music that's played occasionally in the right moments.
Thanks a lot for the unabridged version of this book! I was listening to it on Storytel two years ago, but now I decided to go back to it and realized that it was probably deleted from that service…. There are only summaries left.
Man, I’m 17 now this book been a bible to me for the last year and a half it make me feel confident enough to take on the world and meet amazing new people, Adults are really smart, Kids need to realize lol
1- dont criticize condemn or complain[if you critize someone they will be in a defensive stance and it would be foolish to scold them since they will not be open to change in most of the cases raising your voice in foolish it fill only cause him to become defensive and hold more tightly onto their beliefs ]
For those who are listening while reading from a book: 44:31 Chapter 2 Page 37 1:11:25 Chapter 3 Page 48 1:45:44 Part 2 Page 65 2:10:21 A simple way to make a good first impression page 75 2:25:28 If you don't do this you're headed for trouble Page 82 2:42:16 An easy way to become a good conversationalist page 89 3:00:28 How to Interest people page 97 3:08:37 How to make people like you instantly PAGE 101 3:32:05 Part 3 PAGE 112 (3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It Page 118 (4:08:42) Chapter 3 page 127 (4:24:08) Chapter 4 Page 134 (4:41:12) Chapter 5 Page 141 (4:52:20) Chapter 6 Page 146 (5:01:48) Chapter 7 Page 150 (5:12:19) Chapter 8 Page 213 (5:22:35) Chapter 9 Page 159 (5:37:36 Chapter 10 Page 166 (5:47:19) Chapter 11 Page 171 (5:55:20) Chapter 12 Page 175 (6:01:16) In a nutshell PAGE 177 (6:02:31) Part 4 - BE A LEADER page 179 (6:13:38) How to criticize and not be hated for it PAGE 184 (6:21:04) Talk about your own mistakes first PAGE 187 (6:29:49) No one likes to take orders PAGE 191 (6:33:56) Let the other person save face PAGE 193 (6:40:23) How to Spur People on to success PAGE 196 (6:50:18) Give a Dog a good name PAGE 200 (6:58:28) Make the fault seem easy to correct PAGE 204 (7:06:37) Making people glad to do what you want PAGE 208
I pray whoever see's this is blessed in abundance, and finds gratitude in whatever position your in. Be patient with God. Your imagination of what you think you deserve is a fraction of his limitless grace.
After seven days, ultimately finished, I'm benefiting more from knowledge and skill about the respect from my friends and the other society. I would like to appreciate this group for giving me this opportunity.
I found this book in a Charity shop, 16 years ago. I changed my life. It made me think twice how I saw people. I soften my atatude towards my fellow man, which brough me more happyness more friends. The first thing I done, was, to speak gently, smile more, not a silly smile. I can say, I'm a different person.
Fundamentals of handling people 22:00 1.Don't criticise, condemn or complain 44:32 2. Give honest sincere appreciation 1:11:24 3. Arouse in the other person an eager want 1:44:38 Principals 2:10:15 1 Be genuinely interested in other people 2:25:24 2 Smile 2:42:10 3 To a person, his/her name is the sweetest sound in any language 3:00:22 4. Be a good listener, encourage people to talk about themselves 3:08:31 5. Talk in terms of other people's interest
Only twenty minutes in but I like it already, the style of writing alone is very engaging. the narrator is great too. 35 minutes in: It's great, Carnegie knew what he was talking about on a deep level. "Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for." :`( I've been quite emotional lately anyway, since my father died, but that did really bring tears to my eyes
PART ONE :
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
(0:14:42) Chapter 1: “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive”
(0:44:33) Chapter 2: The Big Secret of Dealing with People
(1:11:25) Chapter 3: “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Way”
PART TWO :
Six Ways to Make People Like You
(1:45:52) Chapter 1: Do This and You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere
(2:10:31) Chapter 2: A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression
(2:25:26) Chapter 3: If You Don’t Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble
(2:42:17) Chapter 4: An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist
(3:00:28) Chapter 5: How to Interest People
(3:08:37) Chapter 6: How to Make People Like You Instantly
PART THREE :
How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
(3:32:45) Chapter 1: You Can’t Win an Argument
(3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It
(4:08:43) Chapter 3: If You’re Wrong, Admit It
(4:24:08) Chapter 4: A Drop of Honey
(4:41:13) Chapter 5: The Secret of Socrates
(4:52:20) Chapter 6: The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints
(5:01:48) Chapter 7: How to Get Cooperation
(5:12:19) Chapter 8: A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You
(5:22:35) Chapter 9: What Everybody Wants
(5:37:36) Chapter 10: An Appeal That Everybody Likes
(5:47:22) Chapter 11: The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don’t You Do It?
(5:55:20) Chapter 12: When Nothing Else Works, Try This
PART FOUR :
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
(6:02:43) Chapter 1: If You Must Find Fault, This Is the Way to Begin
(6:13:40) Chapter 2: How to Criticize and Not Be Hated for It
(6:21:04) Chapter 3: Talk About Your Own Mistakes First
(6:29:50) Chapter 4: No One Likes to Take Orders
(6:33:57) Chapter 5: Let the Other Person Save Face
(6:40:24) Chapter 6: How to Spur People On to Success
(6:50:19) Chapter 7: Give a Dog a Good Name
(6:58:28) Chapter 8: Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct
(::) Chapter 9: Making People Glad to Do What You Want
Bless your soul! 👼
Thank you for taking the time to do this
Thanks mate ♥️😍
Thanks 🙏🏾
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*Principles* :
1. Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener.
8. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
9. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
11. Show respect for the other person's opinions.
12. Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs.
13. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
14. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
15. Appeal to the nobler motives.
16. Dramatize your ideas.
17. Throw down a challenge.
18. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
19. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
20. Talk about your mistakes before criticizing the other person.
Can you use a spoiler next time?
Thanks for adding value
@@BobKenge huh?
@@joeybeannit takes .2 secs to process that he will summarize it. If your took all that time to read it through it’s ur fault
@IshratJahan-dh3ev what are you talking about man?
Iv read this book over 20 times, Every time I do people love me but as time goes on I revert back to my normal selfish uncaring self, (by my standard) others think Im fine. You have to constantly refresh and practice these skills to be successful in human relations. Iv read hundreds of other self help books and this is the only one needed for success. This book will do wonders for you, keep learning.
Amen
I second that!
Facts🔥🔥🤙
I have actually have meditation from the stoics philosophers the best way to stay a good person with kindness towards others
It is essential to keep returning to this book whenever possible. It’s so easy to forget to apply just a little bit of its wisdom…
I'm not even halfway listening to this audiobook and I've restored an old broken friendship, solved misunderstanding with other friends. I'm really convinced wisdom is truly profitable in all we do and say.
Yes used to a devout Catholic turned Buddhist and now this Is my bible. I read every day
Dont forgett, this books needs to be read regulary.
Warren buffett studied carnegie when he was younger
Pipe down. 😑
Timeless information, needed more today than when Dale lived
when I first read this book, I did exactly what Dale said not to do: I acted insincere, gave fake input, and flattered people. I thought I was being "genuine," but I didn't realize I was just desperate to improve my social life; I got short-sighted and ended up being a people-pleaser.
I now realize that there is a huge difference between faking it and being genuine. and I also now realize I don't have to compliment everyone I see or be interested in every single person I meet. the stuff he said only worked for me after I started keeping it real with myself and the people around me.
Thanks mate i will
remember this
True...
Literaly just smile at anything. It’ll be weird for about a year but the rest of your life will be permanently better.
Anything you do out your comfort zone is awkward. But that's the answer to growth.
Wow. What a voice. Seems like mr Carnige is narrating by himself.
This books is blowing my mind. Crushing many old beliefs.
Completely agree
pls send me book link im exicted
if u have pdf
It's the same voice that reads Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Can find it here on CZcams as well.
Teachers, bosses, parents and everyone should have training in this book. I love how he mentioned that dogs are taught through reward yet some of us humans are taught by being traumatized. Excellent book!
🗣️WE GETTING OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY WITH THIS ONE 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Edit: 24 years old and its getting to the point im starting to hate myself for not being able to connect with others so i hit the gym and now ive found this book and its fucking heat oml😅
Finding friends is hard enough. Finding virtuous friends 😱
Proud of you homie
Have you tried meditation? It's a game changer. Same with avoiding porn and sex.
I don't know.
I'm halfway through and I find it manipulative.
@@luistirado88 nah bruh I was told in school back when I was a kid but this is the first time I went and took the advice, Coming up on 2 weeks soon so far so good, I feel more lighter and energized in the mornings even without eating breakfast yet and just overall more clear and focused. When I was a *"viewer"* 😂 you wake up that next day all zombified and weak bro frfr. Also legit moved into a new apartment like less than 3 days now so the fact I don't have my PC and stuff rn where I'm at is an overall plus.
I read this book 20 some years ago and it changed my life...from an average guy became a better man.
The art of this book is to re-read few times a year otherwise you will forget some of it.
I’ve been taking a lot of notes as I read through it, so I can frequently look on them.
@@tebs682 Exactly!
I'll have to keep that in mind, both the notes and re-reading
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“All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward. Sometimes to death, but always to victory.”
I have fears.. came from being brave, strong, sometimes almost caused me a death and i Dont feel victorious, I feel overwhelmed by it all, my amygdala is fooked and I can't just take that out and put it down believe me I've asked for it be removed. And when people say forget it and move forward be brave it hurts me because I am brave strong and its that what hurt me amygdala.
I’m a woman tho
@@cowoverthemoo Perhaps brain rewiring would help.
@@cowoverthemoo I am sorry that has happened to you. I too am recovering from trauma and it's hard. I hope things are getting better.🤗
I think every parent, or anyone wanting to be a parent should read this book. ❤
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2:10:31
4:36:56
My mom especially 😂😂😂
I think every person in general should read it
Let me share what happened. Prior to diving into this audiobook, I struggled to convince my landlord to renew my lease without a rent increase, leading me to consider leaving. With just a month and a half to find a new place, I recalled some key advice from the book, particularly emphasizing sincere praise and appreciation for others. I took this to heart and penned an email to the management, expressing genuine gratitude for their efforts to enhance the apartment’s quality of life and my desire to remain involved. The outcome? I successfully renewed my lease at the same rate.
3:31 in a nutshell, six ways to make people like you
1: Become interested in other people
2: smile:
3: Remember other people's names
4 become a good listener
5: talk in terms of other people's interests.
6: Make the other person important and do it sincerely.
Remembering people names after youve just been introduced I find it such a difficult thing to do, Is there anyone else who has this problem and if so how to overcome it Thank you
@@ctf1537 What I do when I talk to someone is I save his or her name in my phone notes after the meeting. When I go home, I check my notes and I remember their face in my mind. This is how I do it
@@TheWheelchairGuy like a modern day Napoleon!
@@ctf1537 repeat the name in your head a couple times, then ask them how do you spell it and/or how to properly pronounce it even if you know how to do it. this will show them that you interested in them, and their name will get stuck in your head. hope it helps :)). sorry for the bad english lol
Thanks for this information. 👍🏽
I read this book about 10 years ago and it changed my life, especially as a parent.
Did u become a millionaire
@@ez5900 no, but a better person than before
Which one do we read? There’s a digital age one in 2011, one in 2009, & one in 1981
@@Brandon-sb3nw 1981… I still have the copy at home.
Shae having kid problems now,hid did it help?
i’m listening to this for the first time and i’m really excited because everyone who recommended this book to me said it changed their life :)
A great man shows greatness by the way he treats little men!
A wonderful book for those that want to not only be an effective communicator, but to overall be a better person to those around them. It's always a good thing to revisit often.
45:36 - desire to be important
46:00 -
46:47 - the deepest principle
54:41 - insane
56:07 - appreciation
56:55 - communication skill
57:58 - the greatest asset
1:01:08-1:02:07 - 6 things (Power Of Appreciation)
I’m 😂
Bro what the I just bought this on audible and now I see that it's here with the exact same audio 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Now you can listen to it for the 2nd time.
Lol no worries Khan CZcams is the free school
That sucks. I’ve done that before tho. It’s definitely a good book to own. You gotta read it a few times.
Haha rekt
The synopsis to me is:
Be cool.
Let the customer keep the advantage.
Learn it's not what you say,
but how you say it.
And when all else fails,
calmer heads always prevail.
Thank you for the upload.
Bars
@@wadihredwan4237 Respect .
I keep a little piece of sausage in my pocket incase I cone across an angry canine.
@@bmack7762 cone?
@@conradmbugua9098 come
I feel like if everyone in the world were to take this course, the world would be such a better place. I’m a fan of how he references the beauty and importance of Christs teachings as well.
I feel so grateful and humbled to stumble upon this today.
Christ is a fictional character based partly on the Hindu story of Krishna which was invented around 1000 years earlier than the Christ story. There are some "beyond-coincidence" themes in the Bible which were clearly copied from the original Hindu story. To name a quick one.. Krishna had to hide from an evil ruler during his childhood who wanted to extinguish all new born males. 1000 years later the same theme is copied in the Christ story. It's very likely why their names are so similar too. Krishna/Christ. I could list some more connections but you may not be particularly interested so I'll pause there.
@@Gorguruga Christ is not a fictional character and I used to believe what you believed when I was a practicing Hindu. That is until I did very real, thorough research into Christ, when I tried to prove he was a fictional character. I learned the very embarrassing way, what I believed was wrong and based on flawed theories.
Not only was he was very much a real person who walked the earth, he was one of the most well documented people of all time, by both his followers, Christians, Jews, Romans and non religious people who witnessed his sermons/miracles. As well as his death, and 500+ people who witnessed him after his death. There are even atheist scholars who can attest to his existence. He was even counted during the Roman Census the year he was born in Bethlehem.
I encourage you to try and disprove his existence as well, with actual sound research, (not Wikipedia) you’ll be proven wrong as well. That’s one thing most historical scholars can agree on, the man actually existed and many people witnessed his miracles. They jury is out on whether he “actually” performed them (according to historians and scholars), but he was witnessed by thousands and the people that saw his miracles genuinely believed what they were seeing, but he is undeniable. As well as the movement he started which literally never would have existed if he was a fictional character.
Christ was revealed to me when I tried to disprove him. Through all my years of mediation and prayer to source, Brahma, Vishnu, shiva, and the many other dirties that I felt a connection too, I never once experienced God. I experienced peace, sure, fleeting moments of ecstasy during meditation sure.
I never experienced Gods presence until I experienced Christ. It was the greatest high and most tangible experience of my life. I converted immediately.
@@shannonm2005 Interesting thoughts . Over the years I've researched several religions including Christianity. I've come to conclusion that Christ is a fictional character. There is no record of him on the Roman census as those records do not exist from that time period. While you advised me to search sources other than Wikipedia, I'd advise you to search sources other than those with an inherent Christian bias at their core (like the Bible itself). Those sources will invariably reinforce the misinformation that Christ was a real person.
You seemed to overlook my original point about a very specific theme in the Krishna story where an evil ruler wanted to extinguish all new born males in an attempt to get to Krishna. This was copied in the Christ story 1000 years later. Wouldn't you agree that it's beyond coincidence to have such a specific story in one religion replicated in this manner in a later religion? There are other themes too which I can share with you.
As far as your experiencing a Christ's presence through prayer, I'd tend to think that this may have been due to certain social reinforcements which you experienced in your life. Although I don't know your background, from personal experience growing up in the Western world, I often saw many references to Christianity, whether it was in movies, on TV, even at school, and especially during Easter and Christmas. It was inescapable. Perhaps this was somewhat similar to your own experience and why you felt such an affinity with the religion and this particular god character, since you often saw societal reinforcements, there was a degree of subliminal mental programming.
This is a course Charles Manson had in prison. Proof it really depends on the person, and thier intentions.
@ecllipsedeloach65 interesting.
It’s basically “be kind and thoughtful to people” the world needs more of that.
This should be listened to annually. Even though I've listened to it numerous times I still forget some of the great lessons it teaches
Amen
Have you tried following along in the book so you can visually reference the words? That’s what helps me
You can note some points so that you will memorize
I feel like my boss lives by this principle. I’ve always wondered how he’s so charming and liked despite doing mediocre, rushed work. But he really takes an interest in his patients and gives them genuine attention. He never gets mad and always listens.
He gets over with his personality. Yeah his work is 5/10 at best and sometimes may even be sloppy. So to bypass the the work performance reviews. His personality is 10/10
I must confess this man is a very good reader. He reads like Dale himself talking to us. The way he add signs to it as he go, I juxt love it❤
Read by Andrew McMillan.
I first read this book in my 20s. I am now 58 years old. Having read this book and others, has had a great impact on my life and the life of others. It’s an awesome book and will make you a better you.
Can you please recommend some book you read? 🤍
@@luckycharm0t7 This book of course I recommend.
The Power of Positive Thinking. Norman Vincent Peal.
Think and Grow Rich are also great reads.
@@Letsdothis21 Thank you so much 🤍
Reading it for the first time at 16. 1 hr in: the concepts are pretty good but some of the references are outdated and old fashioned. Other than that it’s good
As a 15year old from Austria 🇦🇹.
This book really helps me level Up my social skills and learn English. My Life is pretty boring and lonely so i might aswell learn Things !
Bookmark 29:47
If you wanna get really far ahead check out Alan Watts on youtube, and Actualized Clips but only if ur ready for a spiritual awakening
@@alexacacio8325 this is completely off topic, why are you promoting him here?
@@himanshuop8 and yeah agree it’s not for all, nor is it tbh necessary listening for all? I love Alan watts; actualized clips needs a warning as Alex already said yeah, tbh I didn’t love actualized clips too much they’re kinda not what I want right now.
I think especially if you’re young, these are soo not the things you should be consuming rn at all. Rn is the time for growth and doing stuff 🤷♀️
So yeah I agree with you that they don’t necessarily have to be recommended
Hello Akyro What language do you speak at home? German?
You are just 15?!? Wow! Congratulations! 🍾
Thanks for writing this book DALE! I’m 27 and a newer mom I’ve been developing social anxiety recently and struggle to connect. Thanks to this book and understanding more how people tick and the fact that deep down we all have the same desires and fears is so comforting.
Grandma gave me this book when I was 15. Didn't even open it. I'm 29 and just listened to the whole thing in 1 sitting. I should have read this, my life would have been so much better. There were immediate results as I was hearing it and has definitely changed my perspective on things
My husband has been telling me I need to listen to this book. Finally started listening to it and I don't regret it! I'm only at 1 hour and 15 minutes, but I have already learned so much!
Granny?
Notes - Part 4: Be a Leader
1. begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. let the other person save face.
6. praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. be hearty in your appreciation and lavish in your praise.
7. give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. use encouragement. make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Grace for writing this
Thank u
Thankkk you!!
10q
Appears more like perpetuation and fake
I used to be a really shy kid when I read this book over 15 years ago. The first self-help book I read and changed my life completely! A timeless treasure!
Just came across this video through a discord chat server. 7 Hours❗️, Ima listen to this every shift I work & improve myself even more💯💯🏁
I've hurt a lot of my friends in just a few years
I've done a lot of dumb stuff too
I asked my business teacher (one of my family's better friends) for any help
He told me to split this book into 7 days of listening to it, so that's what I'm going to do, I'm always looking for self improvement and to be a better person, no matter how good I may be at the moment
So… how did it go?? Did this do for you what you wanted it to do
@@steepdeejhow about you
@@oldboy1955 been quite a while… I’d say I’m in an alright position in life. Cant say it did too much mostly because of the work field I’m currently in. Life is good though.
1:44:25 Day 68
*Notes:* “He who can do this has the whole world with him, he who cannot walks a lonely way”
My dad read this to me when I was 14. Then we discussed it and I'd practiced the suggestions for a while then as time went by I needed to read it again. I was in my late 30s, I remembered much of it for years, but on reading it today I realized how much I'd slipped into less effective methods.
Techniques in Handling People
Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Give honest and sincere appreciation.
Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Six ways to Make People Like You
1)Become genuinely interested in other people.
2)Smile.
3)Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4)Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5)Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
6)Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Win People to Your Way of Thinking
1)The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2)Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
3)If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4)Begin in a friendly way.
5)Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
6)Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7)Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8)Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9)Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10)Appeal to the nobler motives.
11)Dramatize your ideas.
12Throw down a challenge.
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
1)Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2)Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3)Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4)Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5)Let the other person save face.
6)Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
7)Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8)Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9)Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Thank you for taking time to write these points.
1. Don't criticize
2. Do genuine and honest appreciation
3. Give them what they want/ make them eager to do what you want by giving them what they want
## How do make people like you?
1. become genuinely interested in people
2. Smile
3. remember people's names ( full name or first real name at least) { it's the most lovely thing to any person }
4. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.
## How to win people in your way of thinking?
1. The only way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it. ( think about the reaction you are going to make and guess what impact will it have, will the person will come closer to will go far )
2. Show respect for other person opinions and never say you are wrong!
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
4. Begin in a friendly way
5. Get the person saying yes, yes.. immediately
6. Let the other person have a great deal at the talking
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is their
8. Try honestly to see things from another person point of view
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas
12. Throwdown a challenge ( Make them like their work or enjoy it through a challenge)
## Be a leader
1. Begin with a phrase and honest appreciation
2. Call attention to peoples mistakes indirectly
3. talk about your own mistake before criticizing the other
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
5. Let the other person save face
6. phrase the slightest improvement and phrase every improvement ( be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your phrase)
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
8. Use encouragement, make the fault look easy to correct
9. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
Thank u
Thank you for saving my time
Thank you for making these points. Really helpful 😊
This book made my life easier, my social skills are better. the author is giving us Gold! and I feel like people around me should read this book it's a pity otherwise really.
Listening to this audiobook at least once per year to remember
Do you know any other books like this
@@souelmokuel6755 not really because I'm quite satisfied with this one but if you're looking for a good book to read then try 'rich dad poor dad' or 'richest man in Babylon'
Try the subtle art of not giving a fxxx, although the name may seem crude, it is as good as this one and is also on CZcams. It focuses on yourself compared to this one.
@@souelmokuel6755 atomic habits
I bought this book at a young age, read a third of it, and got distracted by life. Finally picking it up again for a thorough reading as an adult! Thank you!
Likewise it helped me early on. I’m returning to reapply these concepts and principles to my life. I’m not sure if I finished it. I still have it on my shelf.
chapter one 18:41 principle 1 dont criticize, condemn or complain
chapter 2 44:28 give honest and sincere appreciation
chapter 3 1:11:19
this book made me more open to talking randomly to strangers to help me talk to people better. it made me cherish my connections well and create more
The concepts of this book are priceless. As a door 2 door salesman, a brother, and a son. There is so much of this that I can apply in my life moving forward. Only 2 hours in and learned so much
Right? It feels like cheat codes.
*Top Three Audiobooks*
1) _How to win friends and influence people._
2) _The 48 laws of power._
3) _The way of the superior man._
Richest Man in Babylon
Thank you for suggesting these books!
Art of Seduction by Robert Greene is also very interesting one.
@@julijakeit I'm guessing it's about dating and romance?
Really enjoyed this one.
In a culture that is thriving on toxicity in every manner possible by over exemplifying their out of control egos (their desperation to be right under & in all circumstances), this book teaches how to be the exact opposite - & how to deal with such people as they writhe for self-importance.
I dont read this book to make friends. At first i started i read becuse this is one of the most recommwnded book on must read. Now i read this book becuse i want to treat other People as i should treat them.. This book gives me insights on my own behavour and its makes me feel like i want to work on myself to be better. This book gives me good feela about my future, i feel like this is a mini start over and do it right, i also feel that i apreciate the ppl i love even more, also that life is to short for bad behavour. It fills my body with positivity and hope. I also feel very ashamed for things i have done and i feel so stupid about it. Even if its small stuff... becuse i can see now that negativity leads to mote negativity and vice versa. The smallest negative thought can cause a spiral and eventually it will lead me to bad temper, no patience and i see a bitter man.. so every negative thought should be dealt with.... Becuse this book isnt really about making friends, is it? Its about self development and self development makes u strong and strenght is attractive and attractivness leads to People liking u, and People liking you leads to more friends.. Making friends is just a consequence of good behavour.. Thats how i look at this book anyways.
As a 13 year old teenager (from Finland 🇫🇮), this book has taught me more social skills than 13 years of my life
Pretty crazy that you read this book at 13, most people start reading this type of stuff at 40. Keep it up!
This is amazing! There’s rich information in the internet, just be aware that not all of it is for you! But yes, this book will give useful information and parents do the best they with us but not necessarily what we need!
read 12 rules for life, it's complicated, lots of new concepts but if you are reading this book at 13, I think you could manage.
20 years old here from the US, and I am in college struggling to make friends because I am socially awkward and have social anxiety. I wish I knew about this book when I was your age. Good luck learning and improving your social skills. It will be the best asset you will ever have in your lifetime :)
@@lucascamarasa2081 bro, ur still 20 .... shhhh just fkin go, believe in urself. ur young as fuck... plenty of life ahead.
Good God I needed this book when I was a kid….im not gunna be like my parents. I’m gunna break the cycle
This is a great book. 😃 If we unknowingly make the other person feel bad to show he is wrong, what do we really gain? The answer is nothing to me because we have made somebody feel bad.
I used to dismiss the thought of reading books but this has almost instantly improved my speech and the understanding of people.
Yes this audio book is life changing
Books provide unbelievable perspectives.
would you say even audio books improve speech ?
@@bhumelti636 something I wondered myself🤷🏼♂️
@@bhumelti636 yes ,from my experience they really do. The hard part is to stay focused, once you learn to listen and intereprete, it does wonders!,
This book just put my pride to the side.
Great great great!!!!!!!
5:20:00 to 5:23:00
“I would feel the same as you if I were in your shoes”.
This statement gets ppl on your side (or they take down their walls and think you understand them better) and isn’t a lie given circumstances.
PART ONE
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
(0:14:42) Principle 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain
(0:44:33) Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
(1:11:25) Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want
PART TWO
Six Ways to Make People Like You
(1:45:52) Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people
(2:10:31) Principle 2: Smile
(2:25:26) Principle 3: Remember names
(2:42:17) Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves!
(3:00:28) Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
(3:08:37) Principle 6: Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
PART THREE
How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
(3:32:45) Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
(3:46:04) Principle 2: Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re
wrong.’
(4:08:43) Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
(4:24:08) Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way.
(4:41:13) Principle 5: Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately.
(4:52:20) Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
(5:01:48) Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
(5:12:19) Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
(5:22:35) Principle 9: Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
(5:37:36) Principle 10: Appeal to the nobler motives.
(5:47:22) Principle 11: Dramatise your ideas
(5:55:20) Principle 12: Throw down a challenge.
PART FOUR
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
(6:02:43) Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
(6:13:40) Principle 2: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
(6:21:04) Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.
(6:29:50) Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
(6:33:57) Principle 5: Let the other person save face.
(6:40:24) Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be
‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.’
(6:50:19) Principle 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
(6:58:28) Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
(7:06:37) Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Great Job! Can you add time links like Trayamb Rathore did below?
@@foxman2091 Thanks for the comment, just added the time stamps!
Wow thank you!🤙🏽
@@YukFat034 thanks for the time stamps!!!
Thank you very much! 👍🏾
Could someone explain how this book, published in 1936, referenced Stevie Wonder who wasn't even born until ~20 years later??
can i just say just how good this man's voice is? I've never been so intrigued to listen to somebody speak for 7 hours in my life
Same here my fren 🤣😂
Fundamental techniques in handling people
Principle 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain. (Criticism will only result in others trying to justify themselves and resentment.)
Principle 2: Give honest and sincere (lavish) appreciation. (Praising people for what they do right is much more effective than critizing for what they do wrong.)
Principle 3: Arouse in others eager want. (Understand, focus and talk about what they want, not what you want. People don't care about what you want, they are more focused on themselves. Try to see life from their point of view.)
Ways to make people like you
Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
Principle 2: Smile.
Principle 3: Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. (Make an effort to remember everyone's name and use it often. Do not be afraid to ask what their name if you don't understand it at first.)
Bookmark 2:42:16
notifications…
My dad will always get on me about remembering people’s names; I guess I know where he got it from now.
this was my secret in high school. that's how I had managed to make friends, tbh. I'm stunned
I want to copy thisss😭😭😂
Time tested truths hidden in a book. 💯👌Only those seeking high superior knowledge would seek this.‼️
Be polite and give them a purpose. Make them believe that they are fighting for something that can help them. Pushing them towards their goals.
I really enjoy the voice of Andrew McMallin and how he reads this book. I have listened to the audiobook several times. The first time I listened was after a Rabbi suggested that I read the book when I was having trouble in my marriage. It was helpful bec the principles in this book really shift your thinking: it is not all about you, avoid criticism at all costs, pay exceeding attention to others....while I don’t apply these principles flawlessly, when I do, it is always a resounding success!
Hey screw you, you don't know me!
Sorry I haven't listened to the book yet, so I'll get back to you when it's finished with hopefully a more refined and positive response
@@krognak "How to Lose Friends While Under the Influence... " Lol! 😉
@@krognak Have you finished it yet? I'm waiting for your positive response 🙂
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Oy vey
Was just about to get this on audible but then I said “nah there’s gotta be one on CZcams” and here I am now. Thank you very much for posting this friend. ❤
Storytelling format is easy to follow and not boring. Today I saw chicken George (Roots) using these skills to influence people during the conflicts of slavery.
The title should be, "How to Manipulate People for Desired Results."😂
Manipulation and Persuasion are two different things.
Me: ignoring my friends reading how to make friends 😭😭
Danggggg the irony..same tho same
Lol!
Yeah frfr
Felt this 😂
ikr, but at least once you finish you actually find out which ones are real.
Hard to believe this was written 90 years ago and just as relevant today as when written
Thats insane i would love to live in 1930s
@@TheUnderPro you sure you want to live right before the war? 😂
Just realized Dale and I share the same Birthday! Nov 24th. 😭
If there is any one secret of success it lies in the ability to get the other persons point of view and see things from that persons angle as well as from your own.
The Best book that you are going to read in your life!!
I'm a people-lover, not a people-judger! I think the more you know, the stronger you become - and that's why I like to spread love and soak up knowledge about the world around me.
Father forgets is such a beautiful piece❤
I've finished reading this book today! I hope I can live up to these principles and have better relationships with people around me. The most important thing I've learned from this book is to think things from the other's perspective. Thanks for uploading this audiobook.
Did this book mention anything about proverbs or the amazing mets? Please let me know
Bookmark 4:22:36
2:59:00
3:15:00 little phrases
3:31:15 6 ways to make people like you summarized
1. Become genuinely interested
2. Smile
3. A persons name is the sweetest sound to them
4. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves
5. Talk in terms of the other persons interest
6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely
Part 3
3:32:49 you can’t win an argument
3:43:00 tips for arguments
3:46:00 Ch2: a sure way of making enemies and how to avoid it
Your comment is really helpful thanks
Are you still watching
Omg “father forgets” 40:18 About criticizing your children made me cry like a baby with regret. Then I pray to God to help us be better parents and be patient not only with ourselves but with others and to teach this entire book with my children
Same! That story made such an impact on me 😭🙏🏽
Yes!!! I don’t even have children but I was crying like a baby
I felt like the readers voice was shaking a little as well very emotional this part
I don't even have children and I was in tears!
As a father that one hit home. Brought tears to my eyes
40 mins in! Everyone needs to really tap into this part! Helps us all be better especially if we have children
To supplement Timothy's comment
PART ONE :
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
(0:14:42) Chapter 1: “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive”
Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
(0:44:33) Chapter 2: The Big Secret of Dealing with People
Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
(1:11:25) Chapter 3: “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Way”
Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want
PART TWO :
Six Ways to Make People Like You
(1:45:52) Chapter 1: Do This and You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere
Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people
(2:10:31) Chapter 2: A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression
Principle 2: Smile
(2:25:26) Chapter 3: If You Don’t Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble
Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
(2:42:17) Chapter 4: An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist
Principle 4: Be a good listener
(3:00:28) Chapter 5: How to Interest People
Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
(3:08:37) Chapter 6: How to Make People Like You Instantly
Principle 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely
PART THREE :
How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
(3:32:45) Chapter 1: You Can’t Win an Argument
Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
(3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It
Principle 2: Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
(4:08:43) Chapter 3: If You’re Wrong, Admit It
Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
(4:24:08) Chapter 4: A Drop of Honey
Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way
(4:41:13) Chapter 5: The Secret of Socrates
Principle 5: Get the other person saying, “yes, yes” immediately
(4:52:20) Chapter 6: The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints
Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking
(5:01:48) Chapter 7: How to Get Cooperation
Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
(5:12:19) Chapter 8: A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You
Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
(5:22:35) Chapter 9: What Everybody Wants
Principle 9: Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires
(5:37:36) Chapter 10: An Appeal That Everybody Likes
Principle 10: Appeal to the nobler motives
(5:47:22) Chapter 11: The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don’t You Do It?
Principle 11: Dramatize your ideas
(5:55:20) Chapter 12: When Nothing Else Works, Try This
Principle 12: Throw down a challenge
PART FOUR :
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
(6:02:43) Chapter 1: If You Must Find Fault, This Is the Way to Begin
Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation
(6:13:40) Chapter 2: How to Criticize and Not Be Hated for It
Principle 2: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly
(6:21:04) Chapter 3: Talk About Your Own Mistakes First
Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
(6:29:50) Chapter 4: No One Likes to Take Orders
Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
(6:33:57) Chapter 5: Let the Other Person Save Face
Principle 5: Let the other person save face
(6:40:24) Chapter 6: How to Spur People On to Success
Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
(6:50:19) Chapter 7: Give a Dog a Good Name
Principle 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
(6:58:28) Chapter 8: Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct
Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct
(::) Chapter 9: Making People Glad to Do What You Want
Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
Thank you
Thanks
Thank you so much
awesome
Thank you Bruno... Finally after two week of listening and going thought your comment made it possible to complete my 1sy audiobook. I would be thankful to you lifetime. Keep smiling and growing.
This is the first audiobook ive listened to fully...really appreciated it...thanks for sharing
What a wonderful book! Using this to help others will be a treat. My hope is that you all get exactly what you need out of this book, and you are able to improve your lives as much as you need.
His voice makes it easier for me to want to know more about this book. Thank you! I have read so many good comments about this book so it’s exciting to start this book👀😂. Thank you once again for uploading this for free!
Part 2: How to get people to like you.:
1. Become genuinely interested in the person. Not fake.
2. Smile
3. Always remember their name.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage them to talk about themselves.
5. Talk about what they like and are interested in.
6. Make them feel important. But do it sincerely.
Animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior.
The same applies to humans.
Just completed the book! and m very happy and thankful to you for making this job easy for me and thanks for providing such a good piece to us
I can't get my mind around thinking who in the earth dislikes this ?? And why? This is crucial for our existence! Thank you for posting ! Love to all!
Based on the disapproving comments I’ve read, people seem to think the book just advocates kissing up to people and being a pushover, proving they either didn’t finish it, didn’t listen to it, or are so attached to being right and wanting to dominate others that they can’t conceive of someone giving praise or being diplomatic without thinking of it as a weakness
Thank you for uploading it on CZcams. It gave priceless information about how to deal with people and how to deal with myself.
I also love the music that's played occasionally in the right moments.
Thanks a lot for the unabridged version of this book!
I was listening to it on Storytel two years ago, but now I decided to go back to it and realized that it was probably deleted from that service…. There are only summaries left.
I have read this book 30 years ago and is a true masterpiece!
Man, I’m 17 now this book been a bible to me for the last year and a half it make me feel confident enough to take on the world and meet amazing new people,
Adults are really smart,
Kids need to realize lol
Good for you bro. Im 25. You're way ahead 😊
@@NutJug69 hehe
As a fellow 17-year-old, I have to agree that this book is amazing.
Kids are really smart,
Adults really need to realize lol.
ps: sorry for anyone older than me who reads this!
1- dont criticize condemn or complain[if you critize someone they will be in a defensive stance and it would be foolish to scold them since they will not be open to change in most of the cases raising your voice in foolish it fill only cause him to become defensive and hold more tightly onto their beliefs ]
For those who are listening while reading from a book:
44:31 Chapter 2 Page 37
1:11:25 Chapter 3 Page 48
1:45:44 Part 2 Page 65
2:10:21 A simple way to make a good first impression page 75
2:25:28 If you don't do this you're headed for trouble Page 82
2:42:16 An easy way to become a good conversationalist page 89
3:00:28 How to Interest people page 97
3:08:37 How to make people like you instantly PAGE 101
3:32:05 Part 3 PAGE 112
(3:46:04) Chapter 2: A Sure Way of Making Enemies-and How to Avoid It Page 118
(4:08:42) Chapter 3 page 127
(4:24:08) Chapter 4 Page 134
(4:41:12) Chapter 5 Page 141
(4:52:20) Chapter 6 Page 146
(5:01:48) Chapter 7 Page 150
(5:12:19) Chapter 8 Page 213
(5:22:35) Chapter 9 Page 159
(5:37:36 Chapter 10 Page 166
(5:47:19) Chapter 11 Page 171
(5:55:20) Chapter 12 Page 175
(6:01:16) In a nutshell PAGE 177
(6:02:31) Part 4 - BE A LEADER page 179
(6:13:38) How to criticize and not be hated for it PAGE 184
(6:21:04) Talk about your own mistakes first PAGE 187
(6:29:49) No one likes to take orders PAGE 191
(6:33:56) Let the other person save face PAGE 193
(6:40:23) How to Spur People on to success PAGE 196
(6:50:18) Give a Dog a good name PAGE 200
(6:58:28) Make the fault seem easy to correct PAGE 204
(7:06:37) Making people glad to do what you want PAGE 208
Thank you
@@guranshsingh2258 I'm still reading the book myself I hope the whole index will be finished in a month. I hope you benefit!
@@MohammedAdil22 Thank you my muslim brother, May allah Bless you!❤
@@sadff96 Ameeen
This is one of the most enjoyable narrator/voice reading audiobooks I have heared.
For real!
I pray whoever see's this is blessed in abundance, and finds gratitude in whatever position your in. Be patient with God. Your imagination of what you think you deserve is a fraction of his limitless grace.
This audiobook has changed me completely thanks so much
This should be a mandatory class in all schools
After seven days, ultimately finished, I'm benefiting more from knowledge and skill about the respect from my friends and the other society. I would like to appreciate this group for giving me this opportunity.
This is a timeless classic masterpiece. Thanks for the upload, greatly appreciate it.
I found this book in a Charity shop, 16 years ago. I changed my life. It made me think twice how I saw people. I soften my atatude towards my fellow man, which brough me more happyness more friends. The first thing I done, was, to speak gently, smile more, not a silly smile. I can say, I'm a different person.
0:47 1:14
1:44
2:04
2:24
2: 2:3 2:31
One of the greatest book around.
Fundamentals of handling people
22:00
1.Don't criticise, condemn or complain
44:32
2. Give honest sincere appreciation
1:11:24
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want
1:44:38
Principals
2:10:15
1 Be genuinely interested in other people
2:25:24
2 Smile
2:42:10
3 To a person, his/her name is the sweetest sound in any language
3:00:22
4. Be a good listener, encourage people to talk about themselves
3:08:31
5. Talk in terms of other people's interest
Thank you!
Applying this to my life will definitely make me a better person with true friends.
Thank you for posting this!!! WONDERFUL!!!!
Only twenty minutes in but I like it already, the style of writing alone is very engaging. the narrator is great too.
35 minutes in: It's great, Carnegie knew what he was talking about on a deep level.
"Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for."
:`(
I've been quite emotional lately anyway, since my father died, but that did really bring tears to my eyes
I own this book for a long time but the audio book has given me very good insight deeper in to the principles.