PAUL SHINGONGO| WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER MARRY A NON VIRGIN
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- čas přidán 18. 05. 2020
- There are reasons why you never consider a non-virgin for a spouse unless of course, you have no alternatives, I have explained how I don't recommend a person entering into marriage with a non-virgin. Let me know your thoughts.
So many dislikes from non virgins..if you aren’t one then you aren’t one it’s that simple..if the other person have standards then respect there choice
Funny how women that arent virgins expect a faithful man
Same for the opposite gender, its funny that men think that women will be faithful when they had a history.
@@WoodmanTiller i dont have a history and you can't shame me for wanting a virgin wife
@@WoodmanTiller Exactly everyone was once a virgin
@@xibateater9343 you don't make any sense, I don't shame a virgin lol, I am a virgin myself and if you then want a virgin wife go ahead.
@@WoodmanTiller okay i misunderstood your comment sorry for that
If you marry a non virgin, don't complain later when she misses someone else's body or when she compares you or your performance with somebody else's. She might never say that she misses his body or that he was better in bed than you or that he was bigger or whatever, but she will let you know somehow.
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@@jvolc exactly why I want a Virgin wife over a non virgin one
“If a person is a virgin, it speaks volumes of their character.” Well said.
Does it really though? Someone with a p0rn addiction could be a virgin. An alcoholic could be a virgin. A murderer could be a virgin. A liar could be a virgin. A thief could be a virgin. Being a virgin (on its own) isn’t really a testament to anyone’s character, though certainly it may be a *part* of someone’s good character.
@@jncon8013no body marry them from miles away 😂😂😂
@@jncon8013 porn addiction is bad but if It isn't abnormal porn I don't think It is as detrimental as a physical act of binding your body mind and soul with a other person's body mind and soul. If the person is willing to elimate the addiction of viewing that content then they can brought back to respectable character level
When referring to a virgin bride it does. It's the only standerd a woman can use to Arguably place herself in a higher category in comparison to her female counterpart. It is the most important quality a man seeks in a bride. So if a woman has this, she even if she is poor becomes instantly more valuable to her partner.
A man should never marry non virgin. No matter what. The second best is a woman that husband died. From her virginity. She only had one husband in her life.
Now, that is scripture
A widow
@@aroundtheworld4173 Leviticus 21:13 And he shall take a wife in her virginity. Leviticus 21:14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife. Deuteronomy 22:17 And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. Deuteronomy 22:28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
Deuteronomy 25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband's brother shall go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of an husband's brother unto her. Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. Romans 7:3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 1 Corinthians 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. Romans 7:3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 1 Corinthians 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Look he is right, from my experience as a man, I had a woman with a stable character who was not a virgin, we regularly had sex and were in a relationship, I wanted to marry but she refused, only to find out she was doing the same with many other people. So sexual immorality is bad, it's better to have sex after marriage and have a partner who has never had sex, because they will not come with problems in your marriage and if they can keep their virginity of course they can keep faithful.
That's not really a good thought process because you aren't a virgin so it isn't fair to put a standard on someone you will marry that you yourself haven't kept. If you aren't a virgin and you have good morals then there are other people out there that aren't virgins with strong moral character. Just food for thought.
Oh my goodness,people though🤦🏿♀️😂🤦🏿♀️!
@@JonathanTmusic Men cant be "virgins". Men don't have hymens that are broken upon penetration.
No lmfao he's not right. Virgin wives have the same potential of cheating as non virgin ones. This logic is idiotic
@@Davo32310 what?🤣🤣🤣🤣 Everyone who hasn't had sex yet is a virgin, who the hell told you that virginity is just about a hymen breaking? Many women are born withouy a hymen or their hymen doesnt even break until childbirt🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ok , he makes a very very compelling point , I don't get the 50 dislikes, must be non virgins
Yeah, unlike you 🤣
The dislikes come from smart, sensible people, who realize that the correlation he made between having sex before marriage and cheating in marriage is idiotic and nonsensical
It’s either bitter women or beta male, male feminists.
@@ashley_brown6106 This woman has been on every video regarding virginity projecting her insecurities about her past and trying to shame virgins. Why don't you just accept your past and move on? Stop trying to convince virgins to accept non virgins as a spouse.
@@ashley_brown6106can I ask why does it matter to you to change the mindset of the majority of men rather than change your mindset?
Godbless you sir, thank you for the truth and wisdom, love from the philippines, Im 32 and single because I cant find a virgin loyal and faithful girl.
Are you a virgin too?
Sir, I am also from the Ph. and for some reason we are of the same age and we have the same problem..I hope you have found your girl..I'm still looking for mine...
I'm 30 amd not Virgin and Vrigin would be my ideal partner but I'd otn feel worthy of it so either non vrigin or stay single forver
@@rommelbongcal5430 I think it's almost impossible, but let's just live our lives while focusing on our goals and help others rather than chasing a unicorn that does not exist or marry a slut turned into a housewife. Stay safe kabayan, Godbless
@@catalyticestus3152 Sir, thank you very much.. yeah right.. let's live our lives.. Hod bless you bro....
virginity speaks morality and discipline❤.
You are absolutely right, brother. Is it possible for me to reach out to you via email?
I don't care if she a non she out!
Thank you for being honest!!
Thank you ❤️
Thanks you so much and God bless you for speaking the truth
This is a good thought. However, some people lose their virginity in sad situations, how do you give advise in such a situation.
This reminds me of how we should define virginity, is it just about the breaking of the hymen or there is more. virginity is something that should be applicable to both gender I believe.
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In a world where immortality is normal we need men and women who will choose otherwise. Amen
#I follow you faithfully
And consider being born again. You never knew Christ n the virginity was lost. What happens.
Hi Caren, thank you for your comment, I believe if someone lost their virginity unwillingly through rape, defilement etc, I usually ask people to still regard them as innocent since it was not
their wish to lose it. Such circumstances like rape are so unfortunate hence it would be very unfair to blacklist them on that basis. Virginity is not just the breaking of the hymen Caren, a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse with the opposite sex (that's my definition). Trust me, this applies to both genders.
Thank you for your faithful following, I have actually noticed and I am very humbled. Please don't hesitate to call or email me incase you need any guidance on any matter relating to relationships or marriage.
@@carennyemba2224 on the issue of salvation, I am usually realistic. I am born again myself and have passed through Bible school with a diploma in church leadership. My knowledge about salvation is that what gets regenerated is your spirit man, your soul and body are the same. Thats why despite being born again, any mentally sound lady can still recall the day she lost her virginity, even the pleasures or pains she felt are still in her brain. If she had a child out of wedlock during that period, the child does not pass away because she is now born again, if she had the HIV virus, that too does not pass away unless of course she is healed. So this has to be determined based on the context. I usually guide based on the context for born again clients. Mind you, despite being Christians, we still have high rates of adultery and divorce in the church today, that should give you an idea that salvation does not silence your brain. Feel free to reach out to me via email or phone call for any guidance.
I have never known a man who can for ever satisfy woman's sexual desires after she has acquired the knowledge from various men through sexual intercourse. Those previous acrobatics she experienced from previous "bad boys" will always haunt her.
Marrying a virgin means that you take an empty vessel then you start filling it with whatever you want. Even the simple missionary position will be good enough to satisfy her desire.
All those unexplainable sexual positions are a total sum of the knowledge acquired as a result of fornication and they are meant TO TRY TO SATISFY A WOMAN ON BED!! You don't want to put yourself into a position where you will always be uncomfortable because you aren't sure whether or not you do satisfy your wife on bed!!
Most marriage problems are a result of past history of a wife, face the truth. Never marry a harlot, Jesus said it clearly in Mathew 19
@@aroundtheworld4173 Facts
They became 1 flesh with the person they slept with. 1 Corinthians 6:16
What of those non virgins who lost their virginity via for example rape?
What is your say?
Or maybe one only looses virginity by intentional sex?
You're disgusting for even asking that question
God bless you
From. Finland
Am 28 and still a virgin not because am clever or special than others but by God's grace.
I also respect non virgins coz I have a close childhood friend of mine who was a virgin untill when sh got raped😭. So at times not everyone who is a non virgin was sleepin around.
One could only lose their virginity by willingly having sexual intercourse
Only you can lose your virginity
You are beautiful
@@simpsbelongtothegulags3702 ֆƭʄʊ
Rape doesn't create SPIRITUAL BOND because one party isn't willing.
@@enlightened7354 lust?!? 😂
So if the guy is not a virgin why does this does not apply to him
It does
I respectfully disagree with you. The belief that God intended for women to bleed during their first sexual experience is a misconception. The emphasis on marrying a virgin in the Bible and other sources often reflects cultural values rather than divine intent. Unlike with women, it's harder to determine if a man is a virgin, but that doesn't make the experience or value any different. Again, God is not at fault for these societal perceptions.
You are wise me shigongo
Are virgins still values and it worries me that no one is nolonger interested in virginity
They are still valued
They'll always be valued.
Stop shaming
By society , nowadays we ain't esp to non virgins but we don't mind.
And the other thing is God is not a like a man,some non virgins are happy married too.
@@leahk.chanda4946 If you really believed in the Most High why are you putting stock into what this wicked society values? Point is so called Black people are not following the laws statutes and commandments and making excuses for it.
Sex before marriage is not fornication, actually there's no sex before marriage, sex is almost marriage itself.
Fornication is harlotry, what you see in corn.
Sex with a virgin makes her automatically your wife.
I see, to get viewers, you think you should be provocative.. I like your simple mindedness
".....never consider a non-virgin for a spouse unless of course, you have no alternatives...." I don't think the success of a Marriage should be based on this and Strongly believe that Virginity is not the ultimate prerequisite one must consider when choosing a life partner. I agree that it is important but i also believe that far beyond just a broken hymen or a sexual encounter a number of other valuable variables must be considered.
Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. Romans 7:3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 1 Corinthians 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
broken hymen? Dude, you know the first thing about female psychology
@@patoloco1000 Kindly read through my whole message and understand both text and context in response to the video.
Simply calling it “a sexual encounter” is, in my opinion, trying to minimize it. It is a deliberate choice to commit sexual immorality and it says a lot about the person, whether they want to admit it or not
God is the most forgiving
So forgiving 🙌
I respect his line of thought, he brings out strong points to defend his perspective.
I'll give an answer that for me counts as realistic.
Given an option to choose between a virgin without a strong character and a non-virgin with a strong character, I'd choose the latter. Here's why.
First and foremost, We need to first understand, we are living in a generation where sex before marriage is slowly being normalized or at least has been normalized so chances I'll find a virgin are quite slim if I'm being honest with myself 😅. But that's besides the point. A strong character encompasses so many attributes, e.g. Self control, restriction, discipline etc. I'm under the impression that for one to have a strong character, they must possess a number of key attributes such as those I've mentioned in my previous sentence. Getting married to a man with a strong character means he'll contain the marriage, he'll lead the marriage, he'll have control over his sexual emotions and that includes lust. To have a strong character, one is able to understand themselves, control themselves too otherwise, what would be the premise of their strong character?
On the other hand, marrying a virgin without strong character attributes doesn't justify their inability to stay in and within the marriage covenant because I'm not assured they have self control, or are sexually disciplined. Besides, I'll be their first sexual experience, what guarantee do I even have they're certain of their sexual orientation? 🤔
What if now that they've tasted the waters, they discover the waters are actually more amazing than they imagined, what guarantee do I have they'll have the character to contain their sexual desire(s)? He mentioned, character can be taught, I beg to differ. Character can and is developed willingly by an individual. Unless we are talking about toddlers but we're talking about a fully grown adult. Their character is something they develop, I can however, teach them how to have sex! Character is not an attribute I'd love to spend time teaching a spouse in marriage, it's something that should pre-exist for us to co-exist! How exactly am i even intertwined with an individual with an undefined character if my character is defined in the first place? 🤔
Sex is a very interesting topic! Marrying a virgin doesn't guarantee an adultery free marriage from them. Character contains the marriage.
That's about my two cents. For now.
This guy shouldn't be a marriage counselor to begin with.. not even the bible says this. Who are you talking judge a whole gender? Just for you tube likes? Pathetic. These are the kinda of men that degrade and shame women.
@Samson Strong just like your mother 😊 who am I to argue with someone born out of loose lips really.
Men cant be "virgins". Men don't have hymens that are broken upon penetration. The word virgin only applies to women. A man who never had sex is just a man who never had sex. Nothing is being broken, penetrated, and no dna is deposited in him.
but based on experience and observations, i think virgins tend to have stronger characters than non virgins
@@nawamwanza5710 nobody is shaming anyone just that respect my preference for virgin women
Wow, thank you for the video Sir but I disagree with you. I am a 24 year old virgin and will stay in this state until I get married. I believe ladies who aren’t virgins are good wife material too. We live in a world where we constantly victimize women, especially in Africa for not being virgins. Not all girls grew up with mothers to advise them, some girls were raped , some did not grow up in a Christian home. Others have not yet met their Lord , Jesus Christ. The only reason why I m a virgin is because I love God and I want to obey his word. I believe all women are worthy of marriage , whether virgins or not. It amazes me all the time that men who are not virgins are blaming women who aren’t virgins too. As a woman and a virgin, I believe if you are a man and want a virgin, then you should be a virgin too. Otherwise, pls open your heart and love people for who they are , for their heart.
Stop making excuses for bad decisions and lifestyles
Men cant be "virgins". Men don't have hymens that are broken upon penetration. The word virgin only applies to women. A man who never had sex is just a man who never had sex. Nothing is being broken, penetrated, and no dna is deposited in him.
@@Davo32310 CALM DOWN your comment are eveywhere and you're wrong
a man is called a virgin ( VIRGO ) if he didn't have any sex. it's not about hymen
Have fun in marriage with a unfaithful wife, that will have issues because of her past with other men and now will project it onto you, you will die inside and get angry because of her past. If you really can accept her past and not even think twice about someone fucking your wife then you must not really love her.
I agree men that have had a past too should stfu and not be cry babies, they legit went inside someone else already don't be mad if the wife did the same.
@@buckethead9549 Im not wrong idiot, the bible only defines a woman as a virgin. You dont know what youre talking about.
Did you ask him if he's a non virgin?
Men are not virgins biologically they are not virgins
Virgin is a feminine tense and word. Men can't be virgins but they can be men that never had sex.
@@nationofisrael12tribes81 why ? Men are also always asked for their virginity
Men cant be "virgins". Men don't have hymens that are broken upon penetration. The word virgin only applies to women. A man who never had sex is just a man who never had sex. Nothing is being broken, penetrated, and no dna is deposited in him.
@@fraukedefraeye6937 Because a hymen isnt broken and dna isnt shot inside of men. We not the same
What denomination are you🤣
Lol
I respect the line of thinking and motive behind it. But again there’s what is called been born again you become a new creation. People living an adulterous life till ages of 35 and becomes born again and marries would you discriminate them since they once lived the life of been adultery?
True that....God restores such people.
There is no discrimination
Just knowing for compatability reasons
Tell me, are born again christian angels? The spirit is quickened and hence a new battlefield created. The spirit will always be at constant war with the FLESH which has a massive advantage of harlot experience. If the first man who took away her virginity is alive, then you have a problem because he sealed the covenant by the blood. That's why most women find it hard to resist their first men even if they are married if saved.
What did Jesus say?
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
- Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
>> Simply put - when you sleep with your wife the first time expect blood, if no blood? Divorce her, for she was fornicating before marriage. Why divorce her while you have had sex already? Because you had only spiritual bond but THERE ISN'T THE SEAL OF TGE COVENANT, BLOOD!!
Why is everyone making excuses for this whoredom? If people simply weren't so whorish and fast their would be alot less complications and relationship issues today. A born again still has soul ties and the same body count.
@@aroundtheworld4173 this is the truth
But there is being born again.
Simp detected.
Lmao
Does being born again place the hymen back? Being born again cleanses of all the sins by the blood of Jesus, reviving the spirit. However, the BODY will always FIGHT the spirit, and that is where the problem begins. Paul always struggled with the flesh. Now imagine a wife who was an experienced fornicator trying to settle down. It isn't ease.
On the other hand, marriage is a covenant. I have never known a covenant that wasn't sealed by blood, and that is the purpose of the hymen, wife of your youth. That is the seal of the covenant. We are joined through spiritual bonding when one lusts for a woman (that is why lusting for a woman not your wife is a sin), then we seal the covenant on first sexual intercourse, NOT by the proclamation of the pastor!! Therefore if a woman is not a virgin at marriage because of FORNICATION not a widow remember, then you are likely to be struggling in your marriage if you marry her. It will depend with how deep rooted she is in the word of God. It is a gamble which in most cases fail, hence the modern day divorce rates.
Jesus Himself warned not to marry a non virgin, not me brother!!
@@aroundtheworld4173 Nice to see you here also. Where did he say marry a virgin? I'm not saying you're wrong I just want to know for reference.
@@Vincent-yp1gj “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
- Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
Virginity says nothing about character sir. Virginity does not mean they have no lust. I do not agree with you.
It says you can resist the Lust of your flesh 😌
Virginity says a lot about character, unless you don't know why Joseph wanted to leave Mary. The only difference between a woman and a wife is that power to resist the flesh. The first qualification for a wife is that. Save yourself for marriage lady.
Cry idc
Lust just means desire. Their is nothing inherently wrong with desire
Idk if it says about anything or no but what i do know is i ain't marrying a non virgin
Why should women's worth be measured by a broken hymen? What makes men better off be Rational when you make these statements,a man can be a non Virgin so does that stop him from sleeping around town when he marries? Mostly not women tend to settle more than we do Don't put women on the cross we are exploring life a day at a time.
simp
Because it shows that she can exercise a bit of self control and stay committed in a relationship
I get it your with a chick who's not a virgin but c'mon man stop the bs. You know damn well a woman is valued by her purity.
Down bad
@@Cub__ a woman is valued by who she is a person. Her character, her smartness, her heart, her values etc. Being a virgin says nothing about this. A woman can be a "virgin" and still giving blowjobs to strangers or giving them ass🤣🤣 I've heard of girls like that, who want to protect their hymen and yet they're kneeling in public bathrooms 3 times a week🤣
There's no condemnation to those who are in Christ. You're condemning because you are a Muslim.
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